Break the Cycle with DSD

In this podcast, I tackle a powerful viewer question: “Do you know of anyone who, after divorcing a narcissistic spouse, went on to remarry, build a new family, and live a healthy life?” This is such an important topic, and the short answer is: YES, it's possible—but it takes work. I'll share key insights into what's required to break the cycle of toxic relationships, including: ✔️ Doing the inner work to heal and grow. ✔️ Setting and maintaining firm boundaries. ✔️ Learning to trust your gut and recognize red flags. ✔️ How healthy relationships can feel “off” at first due to past trauma. I also share inspiring stories, including insights from Eric Carroll (Dad Talk Today) and my own experiences, to show you that healthy love is attainable after narcissistic abuse.

Listener asks the question of do I take her to arbitration again on minor stuff or just save my money? Show Notes Duane discusses a question a listener asks about when to go to court and when to fight the battle? He covers the topics of what do you really hope to accomplish? Will this action “move the needle”. You have to take a hard look at the reality of the situation and what is the perception of other people involved. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

Father's always seem to be rejected by children, we discuss the reasons and how to cope. Show Notes A common problem people experience in high conflict narcissistic divorces and custody is being rejected by your children. This is a very painful thing to experience and it is very hurtful when you feel your own children “rejecting” you. In this episode Duane discusses the reason this occurs and ways to help you cope with the frustration and disappointment when your children are used as weapons. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Slower learner | Take your life back after narcissistic abuse Show Notes DSD discusses the reality of it taking time to learn how futile it can be struggling to make a different in your life with a narcissistic ex. Duane shares how he continues to see people struggling with this concept. You get stuck in the mode EXPECTING justice and accountability. He shares how he hates to see people only learn this lesson after losing in court and then questioning why they even fought for it. Ultimately you have to take things slow and give yourself time to accept and see the reality of your situation. In the end focusing on your children and the relationship you have, and are building with them, is the key! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents  00:00:00 - Start 00:01:49 - New Topic 00:01:58 - New Topic 00:18:46 - New Topic 00:25:18 - New Topic 00:31:19 - New Topic 00:36:13 - New Topic 00:46:15 - New Topic 00:50:19 - NEW CALLER 01:02:07 - CALLER END 01:03:39 - NEW CALLER 01:10:48 - NEW CALLER 01:12:16 - New Topic 01:19:05 - New Topic

Taking care of yourself | hobbies are important! Show Notes In this episode Duane talks about the importance of having a hobby or something that you enjoy doing. He also talks about the struggles when you are down, depressed, and beaten with ways to push yourself to break yourself out of that downward spiral. He then fields questions from others on silver bullets, narcissists seeking control, being forced to spend time with the ex, and finally an update on his current medical situation. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents  00:00 Start 02:55 - Welcome to the livestream 06:04 - Finding some positive to do hobbies 17:19 - Advice on handling message about school 21:20 - Narc fishing for control 29:57 - Supervised visits and lashing out 36:14 - Having to spend time with the ex 37:16 - When drop offs are late 39:54 - Silver bullet - supervised visits  47:02 - Don't respond immediately 52:49 - Worry about kids and narcissism 59:41 - Paranoia and narcissists 01:01:27 - Graduations with ex 01:08:03 - Realizing you have narc friends 01:12:03 - Getting to the other side! 01:13:03 - Our child as abusers? 01:21:48 - Ex should be normal around kids 01:25:31 - Narc mom blaming you? 01:31:32 - Medical update on me 01:35:21 - End of show wrap-up

Dealing with the pain is the only way to get through this Show Notes In this episode DSD starts with a clip from Brad Pitt talking about his experience of running from the pain and ultimately how he worked through it to take his like back! Duane has a discussion with the audience about their experiences and ways to approach things Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 00:00 Start 03:24 New Topic 11:46 New Topic 28:56 New Topic 38:06 New Topic 43:07 New Topic 01:04:26 New Topic 01:10:17 New Topic 01:14:23 New Topic 01:16:18 New Topic 01:22:34 New Topic

A deep dive discussion on the struggles of letting go with an update and review of the redacted Order Sustaining Demurrer on my civil case. Show Notes In this episode DSD talks about the struggles and importances of learning to “let go”. We discuss how difficult it is to actually do, being forced to learn the “lesson”, recognizing when you're being pulled back in, and notice when you are stuck in the rumination cycle. Duane then shares how things really start to change ONCE you accept the situation and allowing yourself to “move on”. He also shares that unfortunately this process takes a LONG time and for some even years. DSD shares that it took him about 2 to 3 years for it to really sink in. Duane then provides an update with a reading on the final Order Sustaining Demurrer that was finally sent and signed by the court. This leads into a discussion on various aspects of court. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents  00:00 Start 03:17 - The Struggles of Letting Go 27:20 - Review of comments 50:05 - Order Supporting Demurrer 2:01:25 - End of show wrap-up

A discussion on how difficult it is to let of the past Show Notes The Healing Path: Navigate the path to healing with practical tips and strategies. Discover effective coping mechanisms and self-care practices to nurture your mental and emotional well-being. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Alex on the news again & dealing with the stress of family court Show Notes Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Anxiety is a slow killer in narcissistic abuse Show Notes In this podcast DSD talks about the effectives of the constant anxiety and stress these situation put you under. He covers different techniques he has used to help him and other in dealing with this reality. Later in the podcast he takes a caller working through severe parental alienation and we discuss techniques on dealing with his minor and adult children. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Showing up is more important than you realize! Show Notes Although these situations are very complicated, stressful, and more frustrating then they really should be it is important to show up and be there for your children. In this podcast we discuss some examples of this with callers sharing their stories. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Handling when older kids are alienated Show Notes In this podcast DSD continues yesterday's topic discussing the ways to deal with older children who are in the throws of parental alienation. He also takes the same caller to deep dive in his situation and talk through scenarios and ways to help his children Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Don't fall for the narc daughter-in-law's trap! Show Notes Don't fall for the narc daughter-in-law's trap! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Can you “disarm” a narcissist? Show Notes In this podcast DSD tackles the question of HOW to disarm a narcissist or if it is even possible. He covers the blame shifting, understanding their “motivation”, no engaging and other techniques to minimize the effect of narcissistic attacks! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Starting 2024 strong when dealing with Narcissists! Show Notes Duane starts the new year with a BANG covering topics on perspective, getting them out of your mind, removing chaos in your life, using exercise to minimize stress, focusing on where you want to go and building your support network! We Also have a few callers talking about their experiences and perspectives! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Dodging the narc rocks & taking your life back! Show Notes In this podcast DSD talks about how toxic narcissist person will continue to find ways to throw “rocks” at you and drag you back into the drama. It is important to recognize what is going on and to find ways to minimize the damage. Ultimately the best course of action is taking your life back and protecting yourself from their drama and chaos! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Having an Un-Narc Christmas! Show Notes Hang out for a DSD Christmas livestream - take your life back and make the most of this difficult situation! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Don't play the narc “what if” game Show Notes In this show DSD covers a question/comment a listener had about ruminating about the past and asking “what if” thinking they could have done something “different” to have a better outcome or to not having this nightmare experience Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

When do you fight unilateral narc medical decisions? Show Notes When do you fight unilateral narc medical decisions? Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Picking your battles with a narcissist Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Do we attracted narcissist? Show Notes Duane discusses the reasons why we seem to have so many toxic people in our lives.  Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Supervised visitation and playing “the game” Show Notes The main topic of the show is dealing with supervised visitation and playing the game with the “professionals” to start to eek back time and success. This is a very trying time and emotionally draining but it is important that you jump through the flaming hoops and demonstrate that you are NOT the person your ex is claiming you are. We have a caller who talks about their struggles even after winning full custody of the children and how the ex still plays games and tries to damage the relationships and experiences. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Winning feels like losing with a narcissist Show Notes When you're dealing with a toxic, drama-filled person, it can feel like even when you win, you lose. It's important to realize that going through this mess puts a ton of stress on you. Sometimes, we want a big, impressive victory to feel like things are finally turning around, but the emotional and mental toll makes it hard to see the progress. These experiences mess with your head, making you compare your past to what you hope for in the future, and it seems like you're losing big time. To break free from this, you need to stop obsessing over what your ex is up to and give yourself time to heal and move on. It's okay to take a breather and process everything you've been through. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Dealing with the impossible dealing with a narcissist Show Notes In this podcast Duane discusses the reality of dealing with the impossible scenario when dealing with a high conflict narcissistic ex. DSD talks about how they push you to your breaking point, holding on to what you think should happen, trying to force the “system” to work the way you think it should, accepting the reality of your situation, and choosing to “respond” differently to these situations. Ultimately helping you to make the decision to TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

The stressors of dealing with toxic and narcissistic people Show Notes In this podcast we discuss the unique stressors of dealing with toxic people and the catastrophic thinking we can find ourselves in. We can also find ourselves getting advice on “letting things go” which is just almost impossible in our situations. Duane talks about techniques he has used to deal with his own personal struggles and way you can leverage that experience in your personal situation. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

You have to set boundaries! Show Notes In this podcast Duane talks about the importance of having and setting healthy boundaries for yourself with toxic people AND your own children. He discusses the issues on how toxic people, including your children, will push and poke at you to “test” your boundaries or to even see if you have any at all. He also talks bout where to draw the line when setting boundaries and the how critical it is that you are prepared to follow through with the “consequences” when they are broken. Finally he covers the important of giving yourself wiggle room when you are dealing wit h boundaries with your kids so that you do not back yourself into a concern. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing  You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

A narcissist is always “performing” Show Notes In this show Duane discusses the realities of performances and how they can quickly adapt to changing responses to continue their narrative and illusion. We discuss the underestimated ability to “fake it”, how when corned in a lie they are able to “get out of it”, their abilities to manipulator and control narratives and how important it is to NOT REACT to their drama and not feed into their continued delusions Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

Trust your gut when you feel things just aren't right! Show Notes Oftentimes we ignore the signs and red flags of toxic situations and relationships. When we “look back” you can start to see those signs and “remember” when your gut was telling you something was wrong. In this podcast we discuss the signs and ways to approach “listening to your gut” and your body! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

Reaching the point where you have no more F's and energy to give! Show Notes In this podcast DSD talks about reaching that point when you change your perspective and shift your energy and focus toward yourself AND making your life better. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

Toxic narcissistic people thrive off of generating pain, misery, and controlling their target. Show Notes In this podcast we discuss how a toxic narcissistic relationship will push you to your breaking point. Even before the relationship ends the stress and torment can be too much to endure. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

A high conflict narcissistic divorce can make you start to question your sanity and in this show we discuss the realities of this and ways around it. Show Notes Duane discusses the hardships of going through a high conflict narcissistic divorce and ways to deal with it while focusing on maintaining your sanity. He then takes viewer questions about the topic with advice on how to deal with it. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

A narcissist will always be looking for wedge issues to exploit. Parental alienation is always a concern Show Notes In this show Duane talks about the reality of how high conflict narcissistic ex's will always be looking for wedge issues to exploit and use for parental alienation. Even when you feel like your relationship is strong with your children you must keep your guard up. Kids, even older ones, are susceptible to narcissistic manipulation and parental alienation. You also need to understand that you have to choose your battles wisely - a toxic high conflict ex will generally respond with chaos and direct negative attention to your children. Keep focused on winning the war, you don't need to win a battle and end up losing the war! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

A discussion about the voluntary manslaughter conviction of James Brashear in the killing of John Mast. Show Notes In this discussion Duane discusses the jury verdict for Jame Brashear in the killing of John Mast during a scheduled custody exchange in February 6th 2021 in Lewiston Idaho. The discussion covers the charge for murder 1, murder 2, and voluntary manslaughter. The trial started on Tuesday, August 22nd 20223 and completed on Friday, August 25th 2023. There were what appeared to be “missed opportunities” that prosecution didn't not cover during the trial. Duane talks about his thoughts when the defendant and his family appeared on the stand. False allegations are very difficult to fight and even if you exonerate yourself there are still residual effects. Ultimately Duane talks about ways forward and how to try and take your life back! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

We discuss the live changing experience validation provides when we learn about the reality of personality disorders and their patterns of behaviors. Show Notes Validation is a very important part of the healing process after a high conflict narcissistic divorce with a person who shows all the patterns of behavior of a personality disorder. You go from feeling like you are living a one man nightmare or in a never ending twilight zone episode. Although validation is important you have to be careful to not stay in that phase and start putting in the work to take your life back. Ultimately you have to start asking yourself, “Ok now what do I do”? Moving past validation and into questioning (and action) is how you ultimately take your life back! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

Discussion of the importance in watching for narcissistic traps in their search for narcissistic supply and control! Show Notes High conflict narcissistic people unfortunately. This is recurring issue that you will probably experience from personal relationships, ex spouses, family members, children, and work situations. In this video we talk about the importance of being vigilant in watching for traps. How you have to be extremely careful with how you react to their provocation and traps. The importance of slowing yourself down BEFORE you respond and the reality of how they will ultimately change tactics to try and get you to respond in a certain way. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

A discussion on defining “victory” while going through a toxic narcissistic divorce. Show Notes This discussion starts with a look at perspective and how we look at things when we are going through a toxic narcissistic divorce. It really is a means of “how you look at it” and how you compare your current situation with your previous expectations. This covers the key points of perspective, how the kids are with you, what happens if/when they do not chose “you”, do the kids engage and love you, and summarizing on even if alienation is complete how you still have to take your life back no matter what! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

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Catastrophic emotions can send you on a dark path! Show Notes Oftentimes when going through a narcissistic divorce you can fall into the trap of thinking and feeling everything is catastrophic. This is a dangerous place to be in and oftentimes things are not as bad as we see them. This discussion cover the importance of recognizing the “positive” information you're getting and not falling into a defeatist attitude. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Duane talks about almost being “done” with family court and how life is going to be afterward. Show Notes In this improtu episode Duane discusses being “almost done” with family court, custody, and child support. The decade long experience is coming to an end in a few months and everything is going to change. All of his kids will be adults living their own lives. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 

Show Summary In this episode Duane discusses the difficulties of seeing a way through a high conflict divorce with a toxic narcissist person. Part of the problem Show Notes A discussion on how to get to the other side of a toxic relationship and finding a path to take your life back! In the early stages of this it can be almost impossible to see a pathway to getting to the other side of this. It often feels like there is no way through and that no one truly understands what you are going through. The key to moving forward is acceptance, re-baselining your life, and realizing when you are beating your head against the wall. You have to learn to re-focus your time and energy to creating (and maintaining) your own peace, building on the relationship with your children (if you have any), and ultimately removing the chaos from your life. This last part can be extremely difficult because you can become “comfortable” with chaos and in some ways might even seek it out. This is a normal part of the process Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

A discussion about how being present in the moment can be a catalyst to getting your life back Show Notes In this episode Duane discusses the topic of being present in the moment and how that can be a critical shift your perspective that gets your life back. This came up in a recent coaching session with a client. When you are stuck in the chaos you are not able to “enjoy the moment” or to be present. Although this may sound like a simple concept it can take decades for you to understand and realize how important this is. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

Toxic narcissistic abusive people will use the children's medical bills to continue abuse Show Notes Duane receives a question about how I dealt with the continued finical abuse through medical billing. In this podcast Duane talks about the importances of understanding your emotions, what you can do, and how our perspective MUST change over time. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

YouTuber and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach Angie Atkinson passed away Sunday, November 27th Show Notes In this show Duane takes a moment to recognize the loss of Angie Atkinson and the impact she has had on the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Duane and Angie have previous guested on each other's shows. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

Show Summary A response to a listener who wants to know the timelines of recovery from toxic narcissistic abuse/divorce Show Notes In this discussion Duane answers a listener question who asks how long the divorce process was, the length of anxiety, how long it took to turn things around with the kids, and the overall timelines before you start to get your life back. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

A discussion about the steps Duane when through to go from the anger, bitterness, and despair of a high conflict narcissistic divorce to where he is now. Show Notes The hardest part of recovering from a high conflict narcissistic divorce is finding your way through. We start this process looking for answers and thinking something has to change before anything can get better. At the beginning of this journey we think and believe the change has to be accountability, justice, vindication. As we progress through this we realize the change comes from within us. In this episode Duane discusses his journey, struggles, and the dark days before finding his peace, and his way through this experience. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

A viewer shares their story of breaking “no contact” with their ex and how it stalled their healing! Show Notes A listener shares their story of breaking 3 months of No Contact to meet up with their ex. They thought they had healed and this would be a good idea but it was definitely not. Immediately after the meeting they felt as though they were back at day one. Duane talks about the dangers of breaking no contact and what it means when you have one of these setbacks. Duane then reads another comment where a person is struggling with the fact the ex has a new “man” and is “living the good life”. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents

A listener posts a story about how they are fighting through parental alienation in Kazakhstan Show Notes In this episode a listening from Kazakhstan posts their story of parental alienation in Kazakhstan. Duane go through the story and offers thoughts and ideas on how to go forward. The listener is original from Brazil and is also trying to get “approval” to take his daughter to see her grandparents for the first time, but mom is blocking him every step of the way. He is also dealing with the mother convincing the child to “decide” NOT to see dad and refusing to go. Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 00:00 - Start of show 17:36 - End of show wrap up

Learning to trust again after a toxic narcissistic divorce where you feel like you were conned and tricked! Show Notes In this episode DSD talks about the struggles of learning to trust yourself again after a high conflict narcissistic relationship. Often times people feel they can no longer trust themselves to see “red flags” with personal, professional, and romantic relationships. Duane deep dives into this issues with reasons why it happened and techniques to help yourself get your life and trust back! We quickly talk about the risks of going back to a toxic ex. Duane comments on how emotional flashbacks and post traumatic stress discord responses can be use as an indicator that more work is required. A listener comments on how frustrating it is when people say, “Give it time, things will get better” without context. We then dive into the question of “who discarded who” and how your intention is really the indicator of what you are doing. A listener then asks the question of if they will EVER get a 2nd date and we talk about the struggles of dating and some of the realities in this day and age. This leads into the story of how Duane and Debby first met! Support the Channel Donate through PayPal DSD Channel Memberships Participate in the show! During the show you can call in live at 1 (424) 373-5483 1 (424) DSD-LIVE Web Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website Table of Contents 00:00:00 - Start of show 00:03:48 - Morning show not working out 00:05:37 - How do I trust myself again? 00:31:50 - Patterns of behavior repeat 00:42:55 - Going back to a toxic ex 00:47:04 - Sometimes emotional flashbacks are helpful 00:49:54 - When they say things will get better 00:55:50 - They convince you YOU are the crazy one 00:57:46 - Who “discarded” who? 01:00:39 - Will I ever find a 2nd date? 01:04:16 - How I met Debby 01:17:36 - End of show wrap up