Podcasts about high conflict

Summary In this episode, Andy sits down with Dr. Jeremy Pollack, a social-organizational psychologist and founder of Pollack Peacebuilding Systems, author of Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts. Jeremy looks at conflict through the lens of the brain and nervous system, which helps explain why disagreements escalate so quickly and why the fixes we reach for often make things worse. Andy and Jeremy talk about why de-escalation has to come before problem-solving, since solutions and stress do not mix. Jeremy walks us through his Sapien Model of six basic psychological needs, giving us a far more useful lens than labeling a stakeholder difficult, defensive, or resistant. You will hear how memory and prediction shape the way we read the person in front of us, what a team learns when its leader consistently avoids conflict, and why changing our experience of conflict requires new experiences, not just new beliefs. Jeremy also shares how this shows up at home, in marriage and parenting. If you're looking for a practical, evidence-based way to handle the conflicts that come with leading, this episode is for you! Sound Bites "The most fruitful relationships from what I've seen at work, at home, et cetera, are those that can weather storms without the real fear of abandonment." "That was pretty interesting to me to see how much of the science is telling us that, like, our brain is mostly a predictive machine." "Anytime we're in an escalated or emotionally charged state, there's something going on in our brains, usually subconsciously, that's tracking a threat or an impediment to our basic needs." "It's de-escalate first because solutions and stress just don't mix." "What I'm feeling right now is not a result of what the person's saying. It's a result of the way my body is responding." "I call it an experiential thumbprint. It's completely unique to you and no one else has your nervous system, and you don't have anyone else's." "If we have a negative experience with someone and we go into a place of fear or pain or anger or something like that, the way that we see them going forward can change very, very quickly, and it's a lot harder to get us to unsee that." "We access memories in edit mode. And so after we retrieve it, and when we write it back, it's not always quite the same thing, and that's always made me question not is that memory correct as much as is it completely correct." "All conflict is an opportunity for learning." "The threat of abandonment is the big thing to really watch for when we're having arguments." Chapters 00:00 Introduction 02:27 Start of Interview 02:35 The Family Cultures That Shaped How Jeremy Sees Conflict 05:51 In Awe of How Much We Still Do Not Know About the Brain 07:49 The Brain as a Prediction Machine 09:55 The Salad Lady and What Sits Underneath Defensive Behavior 12:45 An Introduction to the Sapien Model 16:19 Why a Framework Beats a Label 16:58 De-escalate First: Catching Yourself Before It Is Too Late 20:54 When Our De-escalation Attempts Backfire 22:43 Empathy Without Having to Agree 25:03 How Memory Distorts the Person in Front of Us 27:46 We Do Not Access Memory as Read-Only 30:45 Joe, the Conflict-Avoidant CEO, and What a Team Learns 33:03 Taking Inventory When Nobody Pushes Back 34:53 New Experiences of Conflict, Not Just New Beliefs 38:08 Tell Me More: Creating a Gap Between Stimulus and Response 40:31 Peace Starts in Small Ways 42:49 Interrupting the Pavlovian Pattern 44:19 Bringing It Home: Marriage, Parenting, and Attachment 47:17 End of Interview 47:57 Andy Comments After the Interview 51:57 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Jeremy and his work at CoachJeremyPollack.com. For more learning on this topic, check out: Episode 371 with Amanda Ripley. Amanda is an amazing writer, and her book High Conflict is a great follow-up to today's discussion. Episode 148 with Dan Shapiro. The title of his book Negotiating the Nonnegotiable sounds like it's about negotiating, but it's really about navigating the conflicts that suck the life out of us. Episode 61 with Mike Roberto. That discussion was over 15 years ago, and there are ideas from it that Andy still uses to this day. Chat with PMeLa You can chat directly with PMeLa, the podcast's AI persona, to get episode recommendations and answers to your project management and leadership questions. Visit PeopleAndProjectsPodcast.com/PMeLa to chat with her. Join Us for LEAD52 I know you want to be a more confident leader–that's why you listen to this podcast. LEAD52 is a global community of people like you who are committed to transforming their ability to lead and deliver. It's 52 weeks of leadership learning, delivered right to your inbox, taking less than 5 minutes a week. And it's all for free. Learn more and sign up at GetLEAD52.com. Thanks! Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills Topics: Leadership, Project Management, Conflict Resolution, Neuroscience, De-escalation, Psychological Safety, Emotional Regulation, Memory, Stakeholder Management, Team Culture, Accountability, Parenting The following music was used for this episode: Music: On Point by Steven O'Brien License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: Energetic Drive Indie Rock by WinnieTheMoog License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

High-conflict divorce doesn't end when the papers are signed. It lives on in the next generation, and often in the very patterns adults bring into their own marriages. In this episode, Karen McMahon sits down with Dr. Sharon Martin to unpack how growing up in a dysfunctional or high-conflict home quietly shapes the adults those children become, showing up years later as codependency, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and conflict avoidance. Karen and Dr. Martin trace how a child's instinct to stay safe around unpredictable or explosive parents can calcify into lifelong habits of self-abandonment, and why so many adults find themselves recreating the very dynamics they swore they'd leave behind. The conversation moves into practical territory, too, exploring what healthy boundaries actually look like, how they differ for a difficult parent versus a difficult boss or friend, and why self-compassion is the starting point for breaking the cycle rather than the reward at the end of it. Karen shares personal stories from her own divorce and parenting journey, and listeners walk away with concrete ways to spot these patterns in themselves and in their children, and real tools to begin interrupting them now. Dr. Sharon Martin is a licensed psychotherapist with over 25 years of experience helping adult children of dysfunctional families untangle the long-term effects of their upbringing, and the author of several self-help books along with a free re-parenting guide available on her website. Connect with Dr. Sharon Website: https://livewellwithsharonmartin.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharonmartinlcsw/, Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_sharon_martin/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SharonMartin Free Gift: 12 Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism (one of over 30 self-help tools available in my free resource library): https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/free/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod  

Learn how to manage complex divorces, navigate custody disputes, and protect yourself from narcissistic spouses with seasoned legal insights.Ready to end a toxic marriage, but worried your spouse will turn the process into a nightmare? In this episode, Jim Hanneman, a specialist in domestic relations law, offers clear, experience-backed strategies for managing high-conflict divorces, especially when narcissistic personalities or mental health issues are involved.You'll get a front-row seat to the tough realities of family law, hearing why some cases drag on for years, how to spot classic narcissistic behaviors, and how the wrong lawyer can worsen the conflict. Jim Hanneman arms you with step-by-step advice for handling manipulative or unreasonable exes, safeguarding your children, and finding peace through the legal process.Key takeaways:How to spot narcissistic and manipulative traits in divorceWhy setting and holding legal and personal boundaries is crucialThe role of experienced attorneys, guardians ad litem, and the court systemWhy “bulldog” lawyers and litigating for the sake of vengeance often backfireHow to balance finality, finances, and emotional health in custody and asset negotiationsIf you're struggling through a difficult divorce or facing a toxic co-parent, this episode is a must-listen. Learn to protect your interests, advocate for your children, and avoid costly legal and emotional traps.5 Frequently Asked Questions about divorcing a narcissist1. How do I know if I'm divorcing a narcissist? According to Jim Hanneman, a specialist in domestic relations law, look for behaviors like always needing to be right, never apologizing, controlling or manipulative actions, gaslighting, and making unreasonable demands.2. What should I do before starting a divorce from a difficult or abusive spouse?Gather information, consult an experienced family law attorney, and consider seeking counseling for emotional support and practical coping strategies.3. How do courts handle unreasonable or narcissistic spouses in custody cases?Accorindint to Jim Hanneman, a specialist in domestic relations law, courts may appoint a guardian ad litem, use psychological evaluations, and can order attorney's fees against parties who act unreasonably or drag out litigation.4. Is getting a “bulldog” lawyer the best approach in high-conflict divorces?Not necessarily. Jim Hanneman, a specialist in domestic relations law, says aggressive lawyers often prolong conflict and increase costs. Instead, choose an experienced, reasonable attorney with a track record managing difficult personalities.5. Can a prenuptial agreement protect my assets in case of divorce?Yes, but it must be in writing, fully disclose assets, allow each party to consult counsel, and be executed without duress, preferably well before the wedding.Need more advice or representation?Contact Jim Hanneman at divorceanddissolution.com or call 614-932-5000 to get expert help with your family law case.Submit your questions to www.lawyertalkpodcast.com.Recorded at Channel 511.Stephen E. Palmer, Esq. has been practicing criminal defense almost exclusively since 1995. He has represented people in federal, state, and local courts in Ohio and elsewhere.Though he focuses on all areas of criminal defense, he particularly enjoys complex cases in state and federal courts.He has unique experience handling and assembling top defense teams of attorneys and experts in cases involving allegations of child abuse (false sexual allegations, false physical abuse allegations), complex scientific cases involving allegations of DUI and vehicular homicide cases with blood alcohol tests, and any other criminal cases that demand jury trial experience.Steve has unique experience handling numerous high publicity cases that have garnered national attention.For more information about Steve and his law firm, visit Palmer Legal Defense. Copyright 2026 Stephen E. Palmer - Attorney At LawMentioned in this episode:Circle 270 Media Podcast ConsultantsCircle 270 Media® is a podcast consulting firm based in Columbus, Ohio, specializing in helping businesses develop, launch, and optimize podcasts as part of their marketing strategy. The firm emphasizes the importance of storytelling through podcasting to differentiate businesses and engage with their audiences effectively. www.circle270media.com

Amy and Deanna recap The Valley reunion part two and a fiery Next Gen NYC episode. They discuss Jesse and Lacey's dynamic, Jesse's reaction to learning Lacey won't financially support him, and Andy pressing Jesse about a $300K loan and unpaid insurance, with Michelle calling him out using texts and sharing she felt abandoned after having a baby. They touch on Zach still lacking furniture and speculate about cast pay and representation costs, plus Lala and Randall co-parenting via a “high conflict” app. They break down Kristen and Luke's troubled relationship, Luke's desire to leave LA, and his reported message about doing Watch What Happens Live without Kristen. On Next Gen, they note heavy fourth-wall breaking around BravoCon, Deanna's background cameo at a restaurant, Ava/Rachel Roy, Georgia/Charlie/Amira fallout, and Ariana choosing to sit with Liam on a flight.This episode is sponsored by:TUMBLEMachine Washable Rugs, Made Better. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at tumbleliving.com/drama  #Tumble #adONE SKINGet 15% off OneSkin with code DRAMA at https://www.oneskin.co/drama#oneskinpodCode: DRAMAHONEYLOVEGet 20% OFF Honeylove by going tohttps://www.honeylove.com/DRAMAPromo Code: DRAMAHERS puts your health and goals first.forhers.com/dramaTo watch this recap on video, listen to bonus episodes, get ad free listening, and exclusive content, go to: http://Patreon.com/dramadarlingFollow Amy Phillips on Instagram: Instagram.com/meetamyphillipsFollow Drama, Darling on Instagram: Instagram.com/dramadarlingshowAmy on TikTok: tiktok.com/@realamyphillipsEmail Drama, Darling with YOUR comments, questions and drama: DramaDarlingz@gmail.comDrama Darling Shop: https://drama-darling-shop.printify.me/

Why do some disagreements become destructive, self-perpetuating feuds, even in leadership? This book summary of High Conflict reveals the surprising forces behind high conflict.

False allegations, an unmarried father with no custody rights, and a newborn taken across the country — this is a survival playbook for high-conflict custody battles. If you're searching for help with divorce, child custody, high-conflict co-parenting, or parental alienation, this conversation puts real language around what you're living and how to respond without self-destructing.A week after his son is born, Ajdin comes home to an empty apartment: furniture gone, kitchen stripped, and his newborn gone across the country. Then comes the gut-punch — under Dutch law, an unmarried father has no custody by default; the mother holds it alone. What follows is a long, high-conflict custody battle: supervised visits, relocations, financial pressure, and a steady drip of manufactured accusations built to paint him as dangerous and unstable.We unpack how fathers get trapped by the "keep it civil" instinct, why unreciprocated flexibility backfires, and the red flags that signal control instead of cooperation. Ajdin shares what it felt like to face false allegations — even "evidence" that involved coaching a small child — and the counterweight that actually moves the needle in family court: calm execution, a forensic paper trail, and a team that can translate chaos into strategy.Then we get into his most useful framework: a game-theory approach to boundaries he calls tit for tat. Start cooperative, enforce the limit the instant it's crossed, then return to cooperation the moment the other parent does — without reliving old battles. It's not about being nice or winning arguments. It's about building a stable operating system for parenting time and decision-making while you protect your nervous system through "practiced calm" — tactics like killing message notifications and never replying in the heat of the moment.In this episode: unmarried fathers' custody rights · how to respond to false allegations in family court · the "keep it civil" trap · red flags of a controlling co-parent · building a forensic paper trail · the tit-for-tat boundary system · practiced calm under high conflict. Support the showBeing unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com.Access your tactical tools:Weekend Visitor Risk Assessment (TheDivorceQuiz.com): Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Strategic Risk Consultation (TalkWithJude.com): Book a private triage to ensure your mistakes don't become your permanent reality.Your kids are counting on you.

Summary In this episode, Andy sits down with Gustavo Razzetti, culture consultant and author of Forward Talk. Gustavo makes a case that surprises a lot of leaders: fear is only part of why people stay quiet at work. The bigger driver is what he calls the pointlessness paradox, the belief that speaking up will not change anything. Andy and Gustavo talk about conversational debt and how it compounds over time, why silence is so often mistaken for alignment, and the subtle signs that a team is drifting into avoidance, blame, or groupthink. Gustavo unpacks the difference between backward talk and forward talk, offering practical ways to turn an objection into a question that opens possibilities. You'll also hear about conversational agency, why the second person who speaks up matters more than the first, and how the CPR approach of courage, perspective, and responsibility plays out under pressure. Along the way, Andy shares stories from Alfred Sloan at GM and Alan Mulally at Ford, and Gustavo shares a memorable one about his son and a crashed car. If you're looking for a more confident way to raise the issues your team keeps avoiding, this episode is for you! Sound Bites "However, fear only explains part of why people don't speak up. At some point, people feel nothing will change." "I like to say that agreement happens in the room, alignment happens after the meeting." "When you become the team leader, the number of people giving you feedback reduces, and when you become a senior executive, no one gives you feedback.  Or if they do, it's not honest." "But what you want is people to challenge your perspective, to show you what you're missing, to see the things you're not seeing or maybe you stop seeing." "The problem is when we put being accepted, being respected over the outcome." "So forward talk is when can we frame that objection into a question." "So you're not being difficult. You're being realistic, but trying to find a solution, and you're giving the other person options." "Most people don't regret the difficult conversations they had. What we regret are the ones that we never had." "There's research that shows that the person who speaks up first is not the most important person. The second person who reciprocates is actually the one that creates the change. That moment when two people are talking about the same issue, it gives permission to the other people to jump in and also participate." "Staying silent also backfires, not only because it hurts the company, but if you're seeing the problem and you're staying silent, you become part of the problem." "It's not the absence of conflict that makes us a good team. It's that we can do it and we can work through it." Chapters 00:00 Introduction 02:05 Start of Interview 02:17 Growing Up in a Family of Nine in Argentina 05:18 Learning New Ways Beyond Your Family Culture 06:16 Why Fear Is Not the Whole Story 09:06 Why Waiting for Perfect Psychological Safety Backfires 10:37 Explaining the Pointlessness Paradox 11:37 Mistaking Silence for Alignment 13:35 Alfred Sloan and the Value of Disagreement 15:32 Subtle Signs You Are Drifting Into Groupthink 17:58 Backward Talk vs. Forward Talk 19:43 The Way to the Sun Is Through the Storm 21:05 How Organizations Quietly Reward Avoidance 23:08 When Speaking Up Gets You Labeled 25:09 Alan Mulaly, Ford, and the Power of the Second Voice 27:39 Alignment Debt, Belonging Debt, and Collaboration Debt 29:11 Why Conversational Debt Compounds 30:05 Surrendering Conversational Agency 32:40 Complaining, and the CPR Approach 36:31 You Get What You Tolerate 37:42 Applying These Ideas at Home 40:06 Conflict Is Fuel When You Channel It 41:07 End of Interview 41:37 Andy Comments After the Interview 45:10 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Gustavo and his work at GustavoRazzetti.com. For more learning on this topic, check out: Episode 284 with Peter Boghossian. He wrote a book about how to have impossible conversations, and it's full of ideas Andy still uses almost every week. Episode 148 with Daniel Shapiro. Dan is the author of Negotiating the Nonnegotiable, an insightful guide to dealing with difficult conversations and influence situations. Episode 371 with Amanda Ripley. Her book High Conflict offers practical guidance on navigating even the most challenging of conflicts in an empowering way. Chat with PMeLa You can chat directly with PMeLa, the podcast's AI persona, to get episode recommendations and answers to your project management and leadership questions. Visit PeopleAndProjectsPodcast.com/PMeLa to chat with her. Join Us for LEAD52 I know you want to be a more confident leader–that's why you listen to this podcast. LEAD52 is a global community of people like you who are committed to transforming their ability to lead and deliver. It's 52 weeks of leadership learning, delivered right to your inbox, taking less than 5 minutes a week. And it's all for free. Learn more and sign up at GetLEAD52.com. Thanks! Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills Topics: Difficult Conversations, Conversational Debt, Psychological Safety, Groupthink, Team Culture, Leadership, Project Management, Conflict, Alignment, Accountability, Communication, Speaking Up The following music was used for this episode: Music: Summer Morning Full Version by MusicLFiles License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: Tropical Vibe by WinnieTheMoog License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

Is your ex simply emotional, or are you dealing with someone who thrives on conflict?In this episode, Jaime talks with attorney, therapist, mediator, and High Conflict Institute co-founder Bill Eddy to unpack one of the most important distinctions in divorce: the difference between a high drama person and a high conflict person. While both can make separation stressful, knowing which one you're dealing with can completely change your strategy.Bill explains the warning signs of a high conflict personality, why these individuals often blame everyone but themselves, and how they can keep families locked in conflict for years. He also shares tools for protecting yourself, communicating effectively, and keeping your children out of the crossfire, including his widely used BIFF communication method and insights from his newest book, SLIC Solutions for Conflict.Get your copy of SLIC Solutions for Conflict here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/195005747X?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Need help from Bill? Contact him by visiting www.highconflictinstitute.com.If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here! 

Cybersecurity expert Rick Jordan joins Rebecca Zung to reveal the biggest digital threats putting your personal and financial information at risk—and the simple steps you can take to protect yourself. From public Wi-Fi scams and password security to AI, cyberattacks, identity protection, and online privacy, this conversation uncovers how hackers exploit everyday habits and how to minimize your exposure in an increasingly connected world. Whether you're safeguarding your business, your family, or your legal case, these practical cybersecurity strategies will help you stay one step ahead. #RebeccaZung #RickJordan #CyberSecurity #OnlineSafety #AI #ArtificialIntelligence #IdentityTheft #DataPrivacy #PublicWiFi #PasswordSecurity #DigitalSecurity #CyberCrime #Technology #Privacy #PersonalSecurity

https://www.mcnairpetroff.com/ 614-222-4288 Family law involves much more than ending marriages—it often requires helping people navigate some of the most emotionally and financially difficult moments of their lives. During this episode of The Attorney Post, Ohio attorney Ronald Petroff shares how his boutique family law practice approaches high-asset divorce, business ownership disputes, and high-conflict custody cases while emphasizing the importance of communication and client service. Ronald Petroff founded Petroff Law Offices in 2007 with a clear vision of creating a premier family law firm dedicated exclusively to divorce and custody matters. Serving clients throughout much of Ohio, the firm concentrates on complex financial divorces and contentious parenting disputes rather than offering a broad range of legal services. One of Ronald's defining philosophies is responsiveness. Recognizing that many clients become frustrated when attorneys fail to return calls or emails promptly, he built his practice around timely communication and a white-glove client experience. Every interaction is designed to help clients feel supported throughout an otherwise stressful legal process. Business ownership presents another major challenge in divorce litigation. Ronald explains that tax returns alone rarely reveal a company's true value. Instead, attorneys often analyze general ledgers, balance sheets, and profit-and-loss statements while working closely with forensic accountants and business valuation experts. Although these professionals increase upfront costs, they often protect clients' long-term financial interests. Beyond legal work, Ronald discusses the business side of running a successful law firm. Recruiting and retaining talented associates remains one of his greatest challenges as younger professionals increasingly prioritize flexibility and different career paths. Creating a positive workplace culture has become just as important as attracting new clients. Although Ronald has built a successful career representing divorce clients, his final advice is surprisingly simple: whenever possible, couples should make every reasonable effort to preserve their relationships before turning to litigation. For him, family law is ultimately about helping people achieve the best possible outcomes during life's most difficult transitions—not simply winning legal battles. Sponsors: RankWith.NewsThe Attorney PostNational ERCAndropology

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High conflict behavior at work rarely stays contained to one person or one incident — it spreads across teams, drains HR's time, and quietly drives turnover and burnout long before anyone names it as a pattern. The real question for most organizations isn't how to handle the next individual case. It's whether the organization itself is actually ready to prevent, assess, and respond to conflict at all.Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, close out this four-part workplace series — and the show's current season — with returning High Conflict Institute trainer Michael Lomax, JD. Together, they walk through the policies, training, and leadership role modeling it takes to move from case-by-case conflict response to a truly conflict-ready, conflict-smart, or even conflict-proof culture, including the real financial cost of leaving conflict unaddressed.It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM. A new season starts in two weeks.Full Show Notes & ResourcesSubmit Questions | Bookstore | WebsiteWatch this episode on YouTubeImportant Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:02) - Becoming Conflict-Proof (03:14) - Becoming an Organizational Problem (12:38) - Developing New Practices (17:29) - Role Modeling (20:34) - Training (25:05) - Helping Organizations (26:19) - Is It Possible? (31:32) - Wrap Up

If you've ever wondered why some high-conflict people seem to respect others but constantly disrespect, manipulate, or steamroll you, this episode reveals the psychology behind their behavior. Rebecca Zung, renowned trial attorney and the Leverage Lawyer, explains the four powerful signals that high-conflict personalities read within seconds to determine whether they can control you or should respect your boundaries. Learn how to stop chasing approval, project confidence, establish leverage, set firm boundaries, and shift the power dynamic with narcissists, toxic exes, difficult coworkers, manipulative family members, and other high-conflict personalities. If you're navigating divorce, custody battles, workplace conflict, or toxic relationships, these proven strategies will help you communicate with authority, command respect, and protect your peace.

High conflict behavior doesn't just disrupt your team—it follows leaders home, costs organizations hundreds of thousands of dollars, and gets worse when managers react without a plan. The question Part 3 of this four-part workplace series answers is the one every leader eventually faces: once you know conflict is in the room, what do you actually do?Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute in Scottsdale, Arizona, are joined again by Michael Lomax, JD, lawyer, mediator, and HCI speaker and trainer. Together they walk through the BIFF response for hostile emails and verbal exchanges, EAR statements for de-escalating in the moment, the CARS method—Connect, Analyze, Respond, Set Limits—for structuring any high conflict conversation, and New Ways for Work® coaching as a measurable alternative to suspension. Whether you're managing a difficult employee, caught between HR and your team, or working under a difficult boss, these are the tools that shift the dynamic without making things worse.It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM.Full Show Notes & ResourcesSubmit Questions | Bookstore | WebsiteWatch this episode on YouTubeImportant Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:02) - Why Smart People Get Drawn Into These Conflicts (08:00) - BIFF Method (12:46) - Other Ways It's Applied (17:20) - CARS Method (25:50) - What If It's the Boss? (29:11) - Solutions and Methods of Application (39:37) - Wrap Up

High conflict at work rarely announces itself. By the time it becomes a formal HR complaint or a leadership crisis, the patterns were visible much earlier—and the tools most organizations rely on to stay fair often make things worse, not better.Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute in Scottsdale, Arizona, are joined by Michael Lomax, JD, HCI speaker, trainer, and attorney, for Part 2 of a four-part workplace series. They break down the WEB method for early conflict assessment—Words, Emotions, Behavior—and explain why HR's focus on neutrality and incident-by-incident handling can inadvertently protect the person driving the conflict while penalizing the target.It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM.Full Show Notes & ResourcesSubmit Questions | Bookstore | WebsiteWatch this episode on YouTubeImportant Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:48) - Assessing Workplace Conflict Early and Accurately (04:53) - Potential Costs of Getting It Wrong (09:13) - Patterns of Behavior (18:56) - Documenting Impact (20:38) - Personality Disorders (21:57) - Reactivity Drives Response (25:29) - Managing Difficult HCPs (31:02) - What to Assess First (35:30) - Wrap Up

Workplace conflict is costing US businesses $359 billion a year—and behind a disproportionate share of that damage is high conflict behavior: the kind that ignores limits, escalates faster than most leaders expect, and doesn't respond to the usual playbook. This is part one of a four-part series on high conflict in the workplace, with Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, Megan Hunter, MBA, and Michael Lomax, JD—lawyer, mediator, and senior speaker and trainer with the High Conflict Institute since 2011.Bill, Megan, and Michael unpack why conflict is surging right now—generational shifts, pandemic fallout, social media polarization, and AI giving people who demonstrate high conflict behavior entirely new tools—and make the case for why prevention has to come before the crisis, not after. If your organization is still treating conflict as something HR handles case by case, this episode is the place to start.It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM.Full Show Notes & ResourcesSubmit a Question | Bookstore | WebsiteWatch this episode on YouTubeImportant Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:29) - Why Workplace Conflict Is Rising (02:57) - Trends Driving Workplace Conflict (04:50) - Employees Changing Job Expectations (07:15) - Affects of Social Media (08:59) - Organizational Design and Friction (11:57) - Make Work About Work (14:32) - Divisive vs. Unifying Issues (17:16) - When an HCP Is Involved (20:29) - When the Organization Isn't Aware (23:55) - Leaders Avoid Conflict (27:42) - Role Playing (29:00) - Growing Comfortable (31:25) - One Thing to Say (32:55) - Wrap Up

High conflict relationships can leave you grieving something most people don't recognize as a real loss — not just the person, but the relationship you always hoped you could have. When someone in your life consistently cannot offer the empathy, accountability, or closeness you need, the question stops being "how do I fix this?" and starts being "how do I accept what this actually is?"Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute in Scottsdale, Arizona, walk through the five stages of grief as they apply to high conflict relationships, why high conflict people get stuck in anger while those around them keep cycling, and how to make the practical decision between limited contact and no contact. They cover what to do with guilt and shame when pulling back, why sharing your feelings with a high conflict person usually backfires, and the self-affirmation strategies that interrupt the shame spiral.It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM.Full Show Notes & ResourcesSubmit Questions | Bookstore | WebsiteWatch this episode on YouTubeImportant Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:48) - Accepting It Won't Become What You'd Hoped (02:13) - Why Do People Stay? (07:59) - Five Stages of Grieving Process (09:52) - Criteria for Choosing No-Contact Path (13:36) - Watch Your Expectations (18:45) - Getting Through It (24:43) - Wrap Up

One of the greatest challenges after divorce is communication, especially when co-parenting with a high-conflict ex. Every text message, email, or notification can trigger anxiety, frustration, and emotional exhaustion.In this episode of The D Shift, Mardi Winder welcomes Sol Kennedy, founder of BestInterest, an innovative AI-powered co-parenting app designed to reduce conflict and help parents focus on what matters most: their children.After experiencing his own difficult divorce, Sol set out to create a tool that shields parents from toxic communication while preserving the information they actually need to effectively co-parent. The result is a unique platform that is changing the way divorced parents communicate.If you struggle with difficult co-parenting conversations, emotional triggers, or constant conflict, this episode offers practical insights and a glimpse into how technology may help reduce stress during one of life's most challenging transitions.Sol shares:• Why communication becomes so difficult after divorce• The emotional toll of high-conflict co-parenting• How toxic messages impact mental health and decision making• The story behind the creation of the BestInterest app• How AI can help filter conflict and reduce emotional triggers• Protecting your peace while still effectively co-parenting• Why self-love and healing remain essential after divorceAbout the Guest:Sol Kennedy is a former Google product manager, a devoted dad, and the founder of BestInterest—the AI co-parenting app endorsed by Dr. Ramani. After navigating his own high-conflict divorce, Sol built the tool he wished he'd had: an app that acts as an emotional shield, filtering out toxic messages and leaving only what matters: the kids. WIRED calls BestInterest "life saving" for coparents experiencing conflict. Through his app and his podcast, Coparenting Beyond Conflict, Sol helps parents set boundaries, reduce daily anxiety, and build a future where they can proudly sit at their child's graduation without a lifetime of resentment.For Sol's gift: Use when purchasing BestInterest on any app platform: DSHIFT10 - $10 off BestInterest for CoparentsTo connect with Sol: Website: https://bestinterest.app Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bestinterest.app/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/bestinterestapp/About the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi's gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinderadams/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. You can also subscribe in your favorite podcast app.Leave an Apple Podcast ReviewRatings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.

Fear of retaliation keeps many people trapped in high conflict relationships long after they know they need to leave. Emotional explosions, smear campaigns, threats involving children, financial punishment, legal warfare — the threat of what might happen when you finally say the words can feel more paralyzing than staying. The Betty Broderick case is an extreme example, but the dynamic it illustrates — unmanaged emotions, all-or-nothing thinking, and escalating revenge — shows up in milder forms in relationships every day.Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, walk through what a safer, stepwise exit actually looks like — and why an abrupt in-person announcement is the most dangerous approach. They cover the biggest mistakes people make when leaving, how to document behavior and prepare for false allegations before they happen, and what courts and police actually respond to when you present your situation.It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM.Full Show Notes & ResourcesSubmit Questions | Bookstore | WebsiteWatch this episode on YouTubeImportant Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:26) - Betty Broderick Case (11:01) - Why People Are Afraid to Leave Relationships with HCPs (14:04) - Mistakes When Trying to Leave (17:06) - Creating Escalations (20:11) - When It's Not a Marriage (21:48) - Getting Prepared (28:04) - Giving Warning (28:47) - If on the Fence (30:17) - Wrap Up

This episode talks about setting healthy boundaries in high-conflict relationships with people who have intense, dysregulated emotions.If you're in an emotionally charged or high-conflict relationship, you struggle to say "no" or assert yourself. If you've ever felt blindsided, criticized, or powerless in high-conflict moments with loved ones, this episode reveals the proven framework that transforms chaos into clarity. Dr. Kibby talks about common mistakes with setting boundaries that make things even worse. Because boundaries are essential for healthy relationships, she shares the secret sauce from Dialectical Behavior Therapy and clinical science to set boundaries that stick without escalating fights. You'll learn how to communicate precisely, protect your autonomy, and foster genuine connection even when emotions run high. Plus, she shares real-life examples (like managing rage outbursts from loved ones with trauma or mental health challenges) and how to respond without losing your mind or your heart. Whether you're navigating family drama, a difficult partner, or teen conflicts, mastering these boundary skills can prevent burnout and create healthier, more resilient relationships. Tune in and learn how to turn high-conflict moments into opportunities for growth and mutual understanding.Resources:If you need more hands-on help with setting boundaries in your high-conflict relationships, check out KulaMind

You can grab this amazing gift from Amy here:podcast.thecenterforfamilyresolution.com/confidenceHow do you build confidence and self-esteem when you're trapped in high-conflict relationships, difficult co-parenting, or family chaos? In this essential episode of The Self Esteem and Confidence Mindset, we sit down with Amy Armstrong, LISW-S, nationally recognized leader in conflict resolution, coach education, and program design, to explore how transforming the way we approach conflict rebuilds our confidence, self-worth, and family relationships.With fifteen years building two thriving organizations—the Center for Family Resolution (CFR) and the Center for Coach Development (CCD)—Amy is skilled in mediation, parenting coordination, and parent coaching, collaborating with judges, attorneys, and professionals nationwide. She shares how high-conflict situations destroy confidence and self-esteem, and reveals the communication strategies and conflict resolution tools that help families and individuals reclaim their peace, power, and sense of self.You can grab this amazing gift from Amy here:⁠podcast.thecenterforfamilyresolution.com/confidence⁠

In this episode, I talk about high-conflict co-parenting and why it can feel so overwhelming and difficult to navigate. If you're dealing with a high-conflict ex, I want you to know, you're not crazy, and this isn't just about two people who don't get along. I explore how these dynamics are often linked to the nervous system, and how understanding this can shift the way you respond and protect your emotional wellbeing. If co-parenting has been affecting your mood and energy, this conversation will help you make sense of it and feel more grounded in how you handle it. Links mentioned in the episode:  Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

High conflict cases have a well-documented credibility problem: the person with high conflict personality traits walks into the lawyer's office, the HR department, or the courtroom looking calm and composed. The person who has been responding to years of escalation walks in looking emotional, reactive, and hard to follow. Without a framework for recognizing this pattern, systems can unintentionally reward the behavior driving the conflict—and penalize the person trying to respond to it.Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, walk through the biggest mistakes people make when presenting high conflict concerns to lawyers, HR, courts, and adult protective services—and offer a concrete strategy for making those concerns land. They cover why chronological storytelling buries the most critical information, how to work with professionals who don't yet see what's happening, and what to do if you've already vented or lost your cool.It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM.Full Show Notes & ResourcesSubmit Questions | Full Show Notes | Bookstore | WebsiteWatch this episode on YouTubeImportant Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:50) - When No One Else Sees It (03:19) - Why Do HCPs Come Across Credible? (07:55) - Biggest Mistakes (13:43) - Connecting Behaviors to Laws (19:28) - Repairing After Venting (23:52) - Takeaways (24:36) - In Legal Case (27:00) - Wrap Up

Ask Rachel anything“My husband is highly critical of the teenagers, gets angry over little things and yells, so I'm having to make up for his behavior, and I often avoid involving him in parenting decisions."This message came into my Substack. It was a plaintiff request for support and a plea to know how others deal with the problem. When I posted it (with her permission), a flood of parents said, “This is my life too.”If you're dealing with high conflict in your home, whether with your teens or your partner, then this is the episode for you. Conflict navigation specialist, mediator, and divorce coach Masha Rusanov helps us to unpack what really sits behind high‑conflict dynamics at home—especially when one parent is emotionally dysregulated, highly critical, or reactive.She says: 'We don't choose our conflicts.We repeat them.Until we change the pattern."Link to my write-up on the topicIn our conversation we explore:Why we repeat the same painful conflict patterns (and how to start changing them)Masha's simple but powerful Exhale–Explore–Engage framework you can use in the heat of the momentPractical scripts and tools (EAR and BIFF) for navigating a high‑conflict partnerHow to protect your children emotionally, set boundaries, and avoid parentifying themWays to talk to your kids honestly about what's happening—without overburdening themIf you've ever found yourself “making up” for a partner's behaviour, or trying to keep things calm so your teens feel safe, this conversation is for you.Masha RusanovRepatterned BookREMINDER: Please don't stay in a situation that is potentially dangerous. This is the national domestic abuse helpline for the UK, but you will likely have one in your country if you're listening somewhere else.Spotting the signsIs your partner jealous and possessive?Is he charming one minute and abusive the next?Does he tell you what to wear, where to go, who to see?Does he constantly put you down?Does he play mind games and make you doubt your judgment?Does he control your money, or make sure you are dependent on him for everyday things?Does he pressure you to have sex when you don't want to?Are you starting to walk on eggshells to avoid making him angry?Does he control your access to medicine, devicSupport the showPlease hit the follow button if you like the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit. You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message. Please don't hesitate to seek the advice of a specialist if you're not coping. There's no shame in reaching out for support. When you look after yourself your entire family benefits.My email is teenagersuntangled@gmail.com My website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact me:www.teenagersuntangled.comFind me on Substack: https://teenagersuntangled.substack.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/teenagersuntangled/Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/teenagersuntangled/You can reach Susie at www.amindful-life.co.uk

If you feel like you're always losing in high-conflict situations, it's not because you lack strength, it's because you haven't identified your leverage. In this masterclass, Rebecca Zung reveals the 7 powerful leverage triggers that top negotiators use to shift control, gain advantage, and win even the toughest disputes.

In this episode of The D Shift, Mardi Winder is joined by Keri Gwynne and Ryan Finley for a direct, practical conversation on what it actually takes to prepare for divorce mediation the right way.This is not about “getting through” mediation. This is about protecting your outcomes.Too many people walk into mediation unprepared. They are emotionally overwhelmed, unclear about their financial reality, and making real-time decisions that will impact them for years. This is where costly mistakes happen. This conversation breaks down how to approach mediation strategically across three critical areas: your children, your finances, and your long-term stability. Keri shares how detailed, well-structured parenting plans reduce conflict and protect children from being pulled into the middle. Ryan explains how to understand your full financial picture, when forensic accounting is worth the investment, and how to ensure nothing is being overlooked or hidden. Together, they highlight what real preparation looks like. Emotional regulation so you can think clearly under pressure, financial clarity so you know what you are agreeing to, and a defined strategy so you are not reacting in the moment.If you are heading into mediation or even thinking about it, this episode will challenge you to stop hoping it works out and start preparing so it does.Key Takeaways• Why mediation outcomes are directly tied to preparation, not luck• How detailed parenting plans prevent future conflict and protect children• The biggest financial mistakes people make before and during mediation• When it makes sense to investigate hidden assets and when it does not• How to walk into mediation with clarity on what you need and what you will accept• Why emotional regulation is critical to making sound decisions under pressure• The role of the right professionals in protecting your long-term outcomesAbout the Guests:Keri Gwynne is a Certified Divorce Coach and CEO of Starting Point by Freedom, a comprehensive divorce service offering coaching, mediation, and family-focused guidance. With certifications in both High Conflict and Transitional Divorce, she has helped guide more than 550 families across the nation through the divorce process with clarity and confidence. Through her own lived experience as a high-conflict divorce survivor, Keri blends empathy, compassion, and resilience with deep professional expertise to help individuals rebuild and reclaim their lives after divorce. Ryan Finley is the Founder of Freedom Financial Services Group, a divorce finance advisory firm helping families, attorneys, and courts navigate the financial complexities of divorce. With more than twenty years of executive leadership in finance and forensic accounting, Ryan has guided hundreds of families nationwide toward financial clarity and confidence. As a CPA, CDFA, CVA, and court-approved mediator, Ryan brings both technical precision and empathy to the table—bridging the gap between financial analysis and human understanding. His ability to simplify complex financial issues and foster productive dialogue makes him a trusted resource for attorneys and clients alike.To connect with Keri and Ryan: Website: https://www.startingpointfreedom.com/ Website: https://www.freedomfsg.com/Ryan's phone: 941-945-2846About the HostMardi Winder is a Strategic Divorce Consultant and High-Conflict Divorce Coach who helps high-achieving individuals navigate divorce with clarity, confidence, and control. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in mediation, divorce coaching and conflict resolution, she supports clients in making smart decisions while reducing emotional and financial fallout, particularly in high-conflict, high-asset and complex divorces. Mardi is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and the Strategic Divorce Directory, LLC.For Mardi's gift: The Resilience Building Blueprint: A 28-Day Journey To A Stronger You https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/rbbConnect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinderadams/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. You can also subscribe on your favorite podcast app.Leave an Apple Podcast ReviewRatings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.

Discover the hidden mechanics of high-conflict legal cases and why the court system often fails reasonable people. This episode breaks down the three critical stages—intake, attrition, and decision window—and reveals how strategic positioning and documented leverage, not truth alone, determine who wins.

Being absolutely sure you're right should settle an argument, but somehow, it often does the opposite. Instead, things escalate, tensions rise, and before you know it, the conflict has taken on a life of its own. For this episode, Yael welcomes New York Times bestselling author, trained mediator, and Good Conflict co-founder Amanda Ripley to unpack her book  High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped, and How We Get Out, and the difference between “good conflict” that strengthens us and “high conflict” that feeds on contempt, disgust, and rigid us-versus-them thinking. You'll hear why high conflict makes us more error-prone while feeling more righteous, how group belonging and media incentives can keep the cycle going, and practical ways to interrupt the pattern like Gary Freeman's three-question pause before speaking. Listen to learn how to stay in the fight without losing nuance, curiosity, or yourself.Listen and Learn:The distinction between healthy conflict that helps you grow and the kind that quietly turns destructive in ways you may not notice Why conflicts can quietly take over our thinking, shifting us into an us-versus-them mindset Why do we get pulled into conflicts that drain us even when we know the cost, and what keeps us hooked?How can even people deeply engaged with information find themselves pulling away from conflict, and what does that reveal about the hidden dynamics of high conflictHow you can recognize the early signs of high conflict and shift toward more productive, healthier conversations before things escalateResources: High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped, and How We Get Out: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982128579 Amanda's Website: https://www.amandaripley.com/Good Conflict Website: https://www.thegoodconflict.comConnect with Amanda on Social Media: https://www.facebook.com/amanda.ripley.35/https://www.instagram.com/ripleywriter/Amada's Substack: https://amandaripley.substack.com/ Amanda's article about high-conflict journalism, I stopped reading the news. Is the problem me–or the product?Yael's Substack post about how journalists quickly build connectionBuilders Movement: an Instagram feed and website that offers “inspiration, tools, and ways to take action to rise above us vs. them and solve our toughest problems together.”About Amanda Ripley: Amanda Ripley is a New York Times bestselling author, magazine journalist, and co-founder of Good Conflict, a media and training company helping people reimagine how we fight. She has written three award-winning nonfiction books — The Unthinkable, The Smartest Kids in the World, and High Conflict — each following people through transformations to uncover what the rest of us can learn. Her most recent book, High Conflict, chronicles how good conflict metastasizes into something that consumes everything in its path — and, crucially, how people find their way out. A trained mediator herself, Amanda's work reveals that escape from high conflict isn't about being nicer; it's about learning to genuinely comprehend what you still disagree with. Her writing has appeared in the Atlantic, the Washington Post, and Politico Magazine, among others.Related Episodes:234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer371. Uniting Toward a Better Future with Diana McLain Smith392. Outraged with Kurt Gray408. Connecting Like a Hostage Negotiator with Gary Noesner452. How to Disagree Better with Julia MinsonSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you know someone who claims it is never their fault or blames somebody else for all their woes, or the person who uses bullying tactics to push people into doing what they want? Research shows that ten percent of the people you come into contact with have high-conflict personalities. These chaotic character types don't just experience occasional friction; they operate through a rigid pattern of all-or-nothing thinking and intense emotional outbursts that can exhaust even the most patient allies. Understanding these toxic relationship patterns is the first step in protecting your own mental well-being. To better understand the 5 types of people who can ruin your life, Harvesting Happiness Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen continues her conversation with Billy Eddy, a licensed clinical social worker, attorney, and author. Bill details the toxic relationship patterns of high-conflict personalities. Drawing on his professional experience, he highlights strategies for navigating your way through conflict and uncomfortable situations from his book, SLIC Solutions for Conflict: Setting Limits and Imposing Consequences in 2½ Steps. Like what you're hearing? WANT MORE SOUND IDEAS FOR DEEPER THINKING? Check out More Mental Fitness by Harvesting Happiness bonus content available exclusively on https://harvestinghappiness.substack.com/ and https://medium.com/@HarvestingHappiness.

This week on The Women in the Arena Podcast, we sit down with journalist and bestselling author Amanda Ripley to explore the powerful ideas behind her book High Conflict. Amanda has spent her career studying how people get pulled into deeply entrenched conflict—and more importantly, how they find their way out.In this conversation, she breaks down the psychology of conflict, why it can become addictive, and how it shows up in our workplaces, relationships, and communities. We also dive into her work with Good Conflict, and how we can shift from destructive patterns to more productive, human-centered engagement.Amanda's insights challenge us to stay curious, listen deeply, and build meaningful connections with those who see the world differently. This episode is a powerful reminder that while conflict is inevitable, how we navigate it can change everything.Amanda's work focuses on how people and groups transform, and what we can learn from those moments of change. She is the author of High Conflict, The Unthinkable, and The Smartest Kids in the World, and her writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and The New York Times. A former Time Magazine journalist and Slate podcast host, she now co-leads Good Conflict, a media and training company focused on repairing political polarization. She lives in Washington, D.C., where she works as both a writer and conflict mediator.

Do you ever feel like you're waiting for the "other shoe to drop," even when things are going well? If you grew up in a high-conflict environment, your nervous system may have been wired to view chaos as "home."In this episode, host Gretta welcomes trauma therapist and author Dr. Tracy Hutchinson to explore the deep-seated impact of being raised in unpredictable, high-stress family systems. The habits we formed to survive these environments often follow us into adulthood, showing up as anxiety, self-blame, and a pattern of choosing unstable relationships. In this episode, we cover the following:How to know if you have high-conflict family members.Why over-apologizing, "people-pleasing," and fawn responses can show up as a result of trauma.Understanding how unhealthy family patterns affect adult professional and romantic lives.Cognitive dissonance: what it is and how to detect it.How ghosting and estrangement are different, when estrangement may be necessary, and when to repair a relationship.How to heal & make meaning.Dr. Tracy Hutchinson is a psychotherapist, professor, and author specializing in recovery from sociopathic abuse, narcissistic abuse, and family trauma. Her latest book, Adult Children of High-Conflict Parents: Find Freedom from Your Past, Heal the Pain of Toxic Relational Trauma, and Cultivate Lasting Self-Love, is a roadmap for anyone looking to heal. Connect with Dr. Tracy Hutchinson:Website | Facebook | Get the BookConnect with Gretta:Free Guide: What to Say To A GhostFree and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.comHost Gretta Perlmutter, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies to turn personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo ZaiahDisclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals.Support the showNote to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Co-parenting after divorce can be challenging, but when conflict never seems to end, it can feel overwhelming. In this episode, Jenn Zingmark discusses the reality of high-conflict co-parenting and how to stay emotionally grounded when dealing with ongoing custody disputes, communication breakdowns, financial disagreements, and court battles. Jenn shares practical strategies for navigating difficult co-parenting situations such as schedule manipulation, missed communication, refusing extracurricular expenses, medical decision conflicts, and situations where children are caught in the middle of adult disagreements. She also offers a faith-centered perspective on maintaining peace, setting healthy boundaries, and protecting your relationship with your children during challenging seasons. If you are navigating divorce and struggling with a difficult co-parent, this episode will help you gain clarity, confidence, and practical tools to move forward with strength and integrity. In this episode, you'll learn: • How to handle high-conflict co-parenting situations • What to do when your ex refuses to cooperate • Healthy ways to communicate with a difficult co-parent • How to protect your children from adult conflict • Practical strategies for custody disputes and court challenges • How faith can help you stay grounded through divorce Divorce may change your family structure, but it does not have to define your future. With the right mindset and support, it is possible to move forward with hope and create stability for your children. Want More Support? Download the NEW Find the Joy App through my website: findthejoywithjenn.com Inside the app you'll find: • Daily inspirational messages • Exclusive content and resources • Discounts on programs and courses • The ability to submit a question and receive personal guidance from Jenn Learn more about Jenn's Faith Filled Divorce program, designed to help men and women rebuild their lives with clarity, healing, and hope. And if you're looking for faith-centered support through divorce, you can learn more about my Faith Filled Divorce program here:

Passive aggressive behavior is one of the most common—and most maddening—dynamics in high conflict situations. In this episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter of the High Conflict Institute reframe passive aggression as what it really is: aggression with built-in deniability. They walk through how to recognize it at home and at work, how to set limits on behavior that's designed to evade accountability, and how the “it's not about me” mindset gives you the emotional footing to respond effectively. Whether you're dealing with a co-worker who “forgets” every commitment or a relationship where nothing is ever directly addressed, this episode gives you a practical framework for protecting your peace.Resources from this episode:5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeDating RadarConflict Influencer ClassManaging High-Conflict Behaviour in the Workplace Training (April 23, 2026)Submit Questions | Full Show Notes | Bookstore | WebsiteWatch this episode on YouTube!Important Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:07) - Passive Aggressive Behavior (03:59) - Is It High Conflict Behavior? (08:43) - Confronting Them (09:36) - When They Don't Stop (13:43) - Conflict Avoidance Behavior? (17:17) - A Pre-Cursor to More Overt Conflict? (18:24) - In the Workplace (19:42) - Examples (21:54) - Antisocial Behavior (23:57) - Following Through (26:09) - Staying Confident (27:22) - Wrap Up

Andy provides a comprehensive update on his landscaping business and the ongoing development of his new company shop. He details technical construction choices, such as the benefits of using open-cell spray foam and his decision to install epoxy flooring in the office spaces. Despite facing recent weather delays and logistical hurdles with utility companies, he remains optimistic about the regional economic growth and a strong pipeline of work. The episode also explores equipment preferences, where Andy evaluates the performance of various machinery and explains his strategy of growing at the speed of cash. Finally, he reflects on the importance of client relationships, sharing personal stories about navigating difficult customer interactions while striving to maintain a high-end brand reputation.

Divorce mediation can feel intimidating, especially if you are unsure how negotiations work or what preparation is required. In this episode of The D Shift, Strategic Divorce Consultant Mardi Winder is joined by certified divorce coach Keri Gwynne and mediator and financial expert and mediator Ryan Finley to discuss how individuals can prepare for divorce mediation with clarity, confidence, and strategy.Keri Gwynne shares how her own difficult divorce experience led her to create Starting Point by Freedom, an advocacy service designed to help individuals navigate divorce with the guidance and support they often struggle to find. Ryan Finley explains how his background in financial analysis and mediation allows him to bring structure and clarity to complex divorce negotiations.Together, they explore how thoughtful preparation, emotional support, and financial understanding can make the mediation process less overwhelming and far more productive.In this conversation, you will learn:• How to prepare effectively for divorce mediation• Why financial clarity is essential before entering negotiations• The role divorce coaches and financial professionals can play in mediation• How preparation can reduce conflict and stress during the divorce process• Why co-parenting planning should be part of mediation discussionsThe discussion also highlights how building a strong team of advisors can help individuals approach mediation with greater confidence and realistic expectations. Divorce is often one of life's most difficult transitions, but with the right preparation and support, mediation can become an opportunity to move forward toward a more stable and positive future.About the Guests:Keri Gwynne is a Certified Divorce Coach and CEO of Starting Point by Freedom, a comprehensive divorce service offering coaching, mediation and family-focused guidance. With certifications in both High Conflict and Transitional Divorce, she has helped guide more than 550 families across the nation through the divorce process with clarity and confidence. Through her own lived experience as a high-conflict divorce survivor, Keri blends empathy, compassion, and resilience with deep professional expertise to help individuals rebuild and reclaim their lives after divorce. Ryan Finley is the Founder of Freedom Financial Services Group, a divorce finance advisory firm helping families, attorneys, and courts navigate the financial complexities of divorce. With more than twenty years of executive leadership in finance and forensic accounting, Ryan has guided hundreds of families nationwide toward financial clarity and confidence. As a CPA, CDFA, CVA, and court-approved mediator, Ryan brings both technical precision and empathy to the table—bridging the gap between financial analysis and human understanding. His ability to simplify complex financial issues and foster productive dialogue makes him a trusted resource for attorneys and clients alike.To connect with Keri and Ryan: Website: https://www.startingpointfreedom.com/ Website: https://www.freedomfsg.com/Ryan's phone: 941-945-2846About the HostMardi Winder is an ICF and BCC Executive and Leadership Coach, Certified Divorce Transition Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS®) and a Credentialed Distinguished Mediator in Texas. She has worked with women in executive, entrepreneur, and leadership roles, navigating personal, life, and professional transitions. She is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and host of Real Divorce Talks, a quarterly series designed to provide education and inspiration to women at all stages of divorce. Are you interested in learning more about your divorce priorities? Take the quiz "The Divorce Stress Test".Connect with Mardi on Social Media:Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4womenLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinderadams/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4womenThanks for Listening!Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.Do you have feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!Subscribe to the PodcastIf you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts. You can also subscribe in your favorite podcast app.Leave an Apple Podcast ReviewRatings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.

Michael Lomax joins Megan Hunter to share practical tools leaders can use right away when high conflict behavior is derailing their team. They cover BIFF responses for written communication, how to redirect disruptive meeting participants, handling chronic complainers with EAR statements, and what it actually takes to build a conflict-competent culture. Plus—details on two upcoming trainings from the High Conflict Institute.Resources from this episode:New Ways for Work Coaches Training — March 3 & 5, 2026Leaders Training: Managing High Conflict Behavior at Work — April 23, 2026BIFF at Work by Bill Eddy and Megan HunterMediating High Conflict Disputes by Bill Eddy and Michael LomaxIt's All Your Fault at Work by Bill Eddy and L. Georgi DiStefanoSubmit Questions | Full Show Notes | Bookstore | High Conflict InstituteWatch this episode on YouTube!Important Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:54) - Guest Michael Lomax (04:19) - Workplace Tools for Leaders (05:41) - BIFF Responses (15:47) - High Conflict in Meetings (21:02) - Chronic Complaining (23:37) - Example (26:26) - Healthy Conflict (31:56) - The Training (35:28) - Mindset Shift (38:09) - Wrap Up

The Real Test of Your Character Is Not in Calm Moments, It Is in Conflict. In this mashup episode, I bring together three of the most powerful voices on communication and human behavior I have ever had on the show: Jefferson Fisher, Chuck Wisner, and Charles Duhigg. What we unpack in this conversation can literally change your marriage, your leadership, your parenting, and your business. Because the truth is this: most people do not lose opportunities because they lack talent. They lose them because they lose control in crucial conversations. Jefferson breaks down why trying to win an argument often means losing something far more valuable. He shares practical language you can use in heated moments to de-escalate tension and maintain your authority without overpowering someone else. Chuck goes deeper into the emotional layers of conflict and explains how most disagreements are not about the surface issue at all. They are about identity, safety, and being heard. When you understand that, you stop reacting and start leading. Charles Duhigg takes us into the science of conversations. He explains how high conflict exchanges are often driven by unseen scripts running in the background of our minds. When you learn to identify those patterns, you gain leverage. You stop being hijacked by emotion and start asking better questions. And when you ask better questions, you get better outcomes. What I love about this mashup is that it is not theory. It is tactical. You are going to hear exact phrases, exact strategies, and exact mindset shifts that allow you to stay calm when someone else is not. If you want to become more influential, more respected, and more effective in every area of your life, you must master the ability to handle high conflict conversations without losing yourself in the process. This is about control. Not controlling other people. Controlling you. Key Takeaways: Why trying to win an argument usually costs you influence The power of saying less and listening more in heated moments How to respond without escalating tension The hidden emotional drivers underneath most conflicts Practical phrases that instantly lower defensiveness How to maintain authority without overpowering someone Why calm energy is the ultimate competitive advantage in communication If you can stay composed when others lose control, you separate yourself instantly. The world is full of loud voices. The leaders are the ones who remain steady. Also don't miss out on MAXOUT2026: Once a year, I open my home for an intimate one-day experience unlike anything else I do. This year, I'm making it even smaller, just 15 to 18 people. Together, we'll dive deep into the exact strategies I use to plan, visualize, and design the best year of my life and yours. If you're ready to Max Out your future, join me at ⁠Maxout2026.com⁠ for a life-changing day you'll never forget. ⁠

HCI senior trainer Michael Lomax joins Megan Hunter to unpack why high conflict behavior is escalating in today's workplaces—and what leaders can actually do about it. Drawing on twenty-five years in workplace dispute resolution, Michael explains why global stress and unresolved trauma are showing up at work, what happens in a leader's brain when they get emotionally hooked, and how to regulate yourself before you respond. You'll learn the "calm before think" strategy for de-escalating upset employees, how to handle a team-wide crisis triggered by one inflammatory email, and when a single conversation with a difficult senior leader simply isn't enough. Whether you're a leader, in HR, or anyone trying to navigate a workplace that feels harder than it used to—this one's for you.Resources from this episode:New Ways for Work Training for Workplace Coaches — March 3 & 5, 2026Leaders Training: Managing High Conflict Behavior at Work — April 23, 2026BIFF at Work by Bill Eddy and Megan HunterMediating High Conflict Disputes by Bill Eddy and Michael LomaxIt's All Your Fault at Work by Bill Eddy and L. Georgi DiStefanoSubmit Questions | Full Show Notes | Bookstore | High Conflict InstituteWatch this episode on YouTube!Important Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:19) - Michael's Background (02:35) - High Conflict at Work (08:24) - An Increase (11:33) - How It's Showing Up (14:11) - Getting Emotionally Hooked (18:32) - What You Can Do and Regulating (23:12) - Shifting into Problem-Solving (29:13) - Email Conflict (35:40) - Options List (37:14) - Wrap Up

    Slam the Gavel host Maryann Petri discusses Michael "Thunder" Phillips article, written 2-22-2026, "Father Ambushed and Stabbed During Custody Swap: When "Routine Exchanges Turn Violent. News4 San Antonio reported this article that Michael is referring to.     The host also questioned why main media is not carrying these articles related to violence perpetuated through the Family Court system. Also in these articles that are mentioned by small news stations such as News4 San Antonio, why aren't the judges, attorneys and Guardian Ad Litems (3rd Party Parasites) mentioned?To Reach Maryann Petri:  dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)Maryann Petri: dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@maryannpetriFacebook:  https://youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcast?si=INW9XaTyprKsaDklhttps://substack.com/@maryannpetri?r=kd7n6&utm_medium=iosInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/guitarpeace/Pinterest: Slam The Gavel Podcast/@guitarpeaceLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryann-petri-62a46b1ab/  Twitter https://x.com/PetriMaryannEzlegalsuit.com   https://ko-fi.com/maryannpetrihttps://www.zazzle.com/store/slam_the_gavel/aboout*DISCLAIMER* The use of this information is at the viewer/user's own risk. Content on this podcast does not constitute legal, financial, medical or any other professional advice. Viewer/user/guest should consult with the relevant professionals. IRS CIRCULAR 230 DISCLOSURE: To ensure compliance with requirements imposed by the Internal Revenue Service, we inform you that any U.S. federal tax advice contained in this communication (including any attachments) is not intended or written to be used, and cannot be used, for the purpose of (1) avoiding penalties under the Internal Revenue Code or (2) promoting, marketing or recommending to another party any transaction or matter addressed herein. Reproduction, distribution, performing, publicly displaying and making a derivative of the work is explicitly prohibited without permission from content creator. The content creator maintains the exclusive copyright and any unauthorized copyright usage is strictly prohibited.  Podcast is protected by owner from duplication, reproduction, distribution, making a derivative of the work or by owner displaying the podcast. Owner shall be held harmless and indemnified from any and all legal liability.Support the showSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)http://www.dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com/

We answer five listener questions about setting boundaries with intrusive neighbors, hostile co-parents, difficult coworkers, and adult children who demonstrate high conflict behaviors. Learn when to use empathy versus firmness, how to document hostile messages for court, and strategies for protecting your emotional well-being in toxic situations.Resources from this episode:SLIC Solutions for ConflictBIFF for CoParent CommunicationThe Big Book on Borderline Personality DisorderNew Ways for Work® Coaches Training (March 3 & 5, 2026)Conflict Influencer ClassTraining for OrganizationsNational Domestic Violence Information or call 800.799.SAFE (7233)Submit Questions | Full Show Notes | Bookstore | WebsiteWatch this episode on YouTube!Important Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:47) - Listener Questions (01:22) - Question 1 (09:29) - Question 2 (12:35) - Question 3 (20:42) - Question 4 (23:46) - Question 5 (31:59) - Wrap Up

High-conflict divorce isn't just emotionally exhausting. It's legally strategic. In this episode, I sit down with seasoned family law attorney John Schorsch to unpack a hard truth: many people unintentionally damage their own case without realizing it. We talk about the common ways parents sabotage themselves in custody battles, why overexplaining and reacting emotionally backfires, and what courts actually care about versus what clients think matters. We also dig into why labels like “narcissist” rarely help, how communication mistakes resurface later, and what “controlling the narrative” truly means in practice. If you're navigating a high-conflict ex, legal threats, or long custody battles, this episode will help you shift from reactive behavior to strategic decision-making. Because in family court, winning isn't loud. It's disciplined. And sometimes, the smartest move is saying less. John Schorsch Website **DISCLAIMER:**   THE INFORMATION PROVIDED IN THIS PODCAST IS FOR INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND SHOULD NOT BE CONSIDERED LEGAL ADVICE OR A SUBSTITUTE FOR THE GUIDANCE OF A LICENSED MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL. EACH INDIVIDUAL'S CIRCUMSTANCES ARE UNIQUE, AND ANYONE SEEKING LEGAL ADVICE SHOULD CONSULT A QUALIFIED ATTORNEY. IF YOU ARE IN NEED OF MENTAL HEALTH SUPPORT, PLEASE REACH OUT TO A LICENSED THERAPIST OR COUNSELOR.  

Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore one of the most challenging questions faced by people in relationships with partners who demonstrate high conflict behaviors: Is it possible to develop a genuinely mutual and healthy relationship through proper communication techniques and boundary setting, or is managed stability the best achievable outcome?Understanding Relationship Dynamics with High Conflict PartnersThe episode examines the reality that while using specialized communication techniques can help reduce conflict and create more stability, these relationships often remain fundamentally one-sided. The hosts address the emotional toll of being the only partner actively working on relationship improvement and discuss realistic expectations for long-term outcomes.Research indicates that people who exhibit cluster B personality traits commonly demonstrate patterns of domineeringness, vindictiveness, and intrusiveness in relationships. Understanding these patterns helps inform decisions about relationship investment and maintenance.Questions Answered in This EpisodeCan proper communication techniques lead to a truly mutual relationship?What role does counseling play in improving high conflict relationships?How do you approach suggesting counseling to a resistant partner?What are realistic expectations for relationship improvement?When should someone consider leaving versus staying in the relationship?Key TakeawaysSuccess often looks like better containment rather than achieving full mutualityIndividual or couples counseling can help, but finding the right approach is crucialSetting clear limits while maintaining safety is essentialBuilding external support systems helps maintain stabilityPersonal decisions about staying or leaving should be based on realistic expectationsThe episode provides valuable insights for anyone wrestling with difficult relationship decisions, offering both practical tools and a framework for evaluating relationship potential without promising unrealistic outcomes.Additional ResourcesNew Resource for Those Considering Divorce/Separation/Relationship Termination Should I Stay Stay Married or Get Divorced? 1:1 Coaching through an online courseGive your marriage a chance to survive and succeed.Expert PublicationsStop Walking on Eggshells for Partners by Randi Kreger and Bill Eddy, LCSW, JDDating Radar: Why Your Brain Says Yes to "The One" Who Will Make Your Life Hell By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., and Megan Hunter, MBASLIC Solutions for Conflict: Setting Limits & Imposing Consequences in 2 1/2 Steps by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Ekaterina Ricci, MDR, MLSPersonal DevelopmentNew Ways for Couples Online Course + Coaching (give your relationship a chance to survive)TrainingContact us for training for your organizationConnect With UsVisit High Conflict Institute: highconflictinstitute.comSubmit questions for Bill and MeganBrowse our complete collection of books and resources in our online store—available in print and e-book formatsFind these show notes and all past episode notes on our websiteWatch this episode on YouTube!Important NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:42) - Healthy Relationships? (04:54) - Two-Way Relationship Potential (08:29) - Counseling (10:30) - Couples Therapy (14:17) - Trying Harder? (15:55) - Personality Disorders (17:28) - Domineeringness, Vindictiveness, Intrusiveness (19:19) - Staying for Stability (25:34) - SLIC Solutions (32:02) - Back to Original Question (35:10) - Wrap Up

In this episode, Leverage Lawyer Rebecca Zung explains what even good lawyers often get wrong in high-conflict cases and why relying solely on legal strategy can cause clients to lose control, leverage, and outcomes. Learn how high-conflict personalities operate, why facts alone don't protect you, and what actually works to win strategically instead of emotionally.

When love and relationships turn into constant conflict, the problem isn't that you're bad at communicating; it's that you're negotiating without a strategy. In this episode, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby sits down with negotiation expert Rebecca Zung to unpack how communication breaks down in narcissistic relationships and what it really takes to negotiate effectively in a marriage or partnership marked by high conflict. If you've ever found yourself explaining, accommodating, or giving more and more in the hope that things will finally calm down, only to feel resentful or powerless later, this conversation is for you. Rebecca shares why negotiation is not just a legal skill, but a relationship skill and a self-worth skill, especially when you're dealing with someone who is unpredictable, manipulative, or unwilling to meet you halfway. We talk about how to negotiate with a narcissist without losing yourself, including why mindset and preparation matter more than saying the “right” thing in the moment. Rebecca explains how common negotiation tactics like over-giving, people-pleasing, and JADE-ing (justify, argue, defend, explain) quietly undermine your position, and how clarity around your values, boundaries, and walk-away points can change the entire dynamic. You'll also hear practical strategies for staying grounded and strategic in high-conflict relationships, setting boundaries without escalating conflict, and using leverage in ways that protect your energy, your self-respect, and what matters most to you. As you listen, I invite you to reflect on this: Where have you been negotiating against yourself just to keep the peace? And what might shift if you approached these conversations with more clarity, intention, and respect for your own needs? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Negotiation Is a Relationship Skill 01:38 Rebecca Zung's Personal Path to Negotiation Expertise 09:31 The First Negotiation Is With Yourself 13:26 Why Mindset Determines Negotiation Outcomes 18:24 Over-Giving, People-Pleasing, and Resentment 28:18 The Five I's of Negotiation Leverage 43:30 Never JADE: How to Stop Giving Away Your Power 46:43 Setting Boundaries in High-Conflict Relationships If this episode resonated, and you're realizing that navigating a high-conflict relationship requires more than just trying harder or explaining yourself better, I want you to know that support is available. I'd love to invite you to schedule a free consultation with my team at Growing Self. This is a private, secure space where you can share what's been happening in your relationship and where you're feeling stuck or drained. You'll answer a few quick questions so we can thoughtfully connect you with the right counselor or coach, someone who understands high-conflict dynamics and can help you move forward with greater clarity, confidence, and self-trust. You don't have to keep negotiating without a strategy, and you don't have to do this alone. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Sel

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Why do some people seem addicted to conflict — and what can we actually do about it? In this powerful episode, conflict resolution expert Bill Eddy breaks down the four key traits of high-conflict personalities and teaches us how to deal with them — without losing our minds. -Learn Bill Eddy's “BIFF” Response Formula-Discover the 4 types of high-conflict people-Understand why society is becoming more divided — and what to do about it Connect with Bill www.highconflictinstitute.com Bill Eddy's Bookstore Contact ANI ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠negotiateanything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!

In this week's episode of The Good Fight Club, Yascha Mounk, Amanda Ripley, and George Packer examine the Trump administration's capture of Nicolás Maduro and the chaotic aftermath in Venezuela, whether Trump's foreign policy represents a coherent “shock and awe” strategy or a dangerous overreach, and the political outlook for 2026. Amanda Ripley is the co-founder of Good Conflict and author of High Conflict. George Packer is a staff writer at The Atlantic and author of The Unwinding. Note: This episode was recorded on January 7, 2026. If you have not yet signed up for our podcast, please do so now by following this link on your phone. Email: leonora.barclay@persuasion.community Podcast production by Mickey Freeland and Leonora Barclay. Connect with us! Spotify | Apple | Google X: @Yascha_Mounk & @JoinPersuasion YouTube: Yascha Mounk, Persuasion LinkedIn: Persuasion Community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

CC340: Kail and Lindsie start off strong by diving into a post about a woman giving up her baby for adoption after infidelity, discussions on school safety and sex education, the humorous and sometimes challenging aspects of school pictures, and the complexities of co-parenting and navigating high-conflict situations. Today's Foul Play involves ingrown hair in a very sensitive place.Thank you to our sponsors!Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/coffee today to get 10% off your first month.Boulevard: Visit joinBLVD.com to get 20% off your first year subscriptionBranch Basics: Get 15% off Branch Basics with the code Coffee at https://branchbasics.com/Coffee #branchbasicspodGoPure Beauty: Get 25% Off @goPure with code Coffee at https://www.gopurebeauty.com/Coffee #goPurepodHoney Love: Start summer off right with Honeylove. Get 20% OFF by going to honeylove.com/CoffeeProgressive: Visit Progressive.com to learn more!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Morgan brings in Dr. Marina Rosenthal, a couples therapist specializing in high-conflict couples. Dr. Marina Rosenthal breaks down what makes “high-conflict” couples different from other couples, why standard tips sometimes fail, and how trauma or neurodivergence can disguise itself as intentional hurt. She explains how to spot destructive communication patterns, why “zero conflict” isn’t the goal, and the radical, but doable, acts both partners can take to repair after a fight. We also cover realistic expectations (including whether major life decisions like having children are dealbreakers), sex and body-image issues in long-term relationships, and how to reframe differences as strengths instead of threats. Whether you’re dating or deep into a long partnership, you’ll get clear tactics and mindset shifts to try right away. Follow Dr. Marina: @drmarinarosenthal Follow Morgan: @webgirlmorgan Follow Take This Personally: @takethispersonallySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

351. How to Have *Healthy* Conflict with Amanda Ripley  Conflict expert and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is back to give us a conflict resolution 101 guide and delve into some real-life examples from Abby and Glennon's relationship.  Discover:  -The best way to diffuse a high-conflict person from going further; -The binary thinking that makes fighting with a spouse feel so painful–plus, the antidote; -How to disagree while still holding someone else's perspective; and -Why it's important to know your shame responses in order to have better conflicts. For the first part of our conversation, check out ⁠Episode 330 Handling Conflict Right with Amanda Ripley⁠. About Amanda:  Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and author. Her most recent book is ⁠High Conflict⁠, which chronicles how people get trapped by conflicts of all kinds—and how they get out. Her previous books include The Unthinkable, and The Smartest Kids in the World, a New York Times bestseller which was also turned into a documentary film. IG: ⁠@ripleywriter⁠ ⁠@thegoodconflict To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices