Podcasts about high conflict

Morgan brings in Dr. Marina Rosenthal, a couples therapist specializing in high-conflict couples. Dr. Marina Rosenthal breaks down what makes “high-conflict” couples different from other couples, why standard tips sometimes fail, and how trauma or neurodivergence can disguise itself as intentional hurt. She explains how to spot destructive communication patterns, why “zero conflict” isn’t the goal, and the radical, but doable, acts both partners can take to repair after a fight. We also cover realistic expectations (including whether major life decisions like having children are dealbreakers), sex and body-image issues in long-term relationships, and how to reframe differences as strengths instead of threats. Whether you’re dating or deep into a long partnership, you’ll get clear tactics and mindset shifts to try right away. Follow Dr. Marina: @drmarinarosenthal Follow Morgan: @webgirlmorgan Follow Take This Personally: @takethispersonallySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this our next listener's questions episode, High Conflict Institute co-founders Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy address three complex scenarios involving challenging relationship dynamics, boundary setting, and family conflicts.Mike seeks advice about an ex-girlfriend who refuses to leave his home despite receiving money to do so, using suicide threats as leverage. The hosts discuss implementing their new SLIC method (Setting Limits, Imposing Consequences) and the importance of following through with consequences while having appropriate support systems in place. They emphasize that enabling behavior rarely leads to positive change.Leonard from Sweden asks about common response patterns when high-conflict people face criticism. Bill explains typical reactions including denial, blame-shifting, playing victim, and counter-accusations. The hosts emphasize avoiding criticism in favor of future-focused communication and setting clear boundaries with consequences.A couple dealing with high-conflict aging parents seeks strategies for managing necessary family relationships. The hosts discuss balancing caregiving responsibilities with boundary setting, offering practical approaches for limiting problematic behaviors while maintaining connections. They emphasize matter-of-fact communication and consistent enforcement of stated consequences.Throughout these scenarios, common themes emerge: the importance of preparing for predictable reactions, maintaining firm but respectful boundaries, and avoiding the trap of criticism. The episode demonstrates how similar principles can help navigate different types of high-conflict situations, whether with ex-partners, aging parents, or other family members who exhibit challenging behaviors.Additional ResourcesPersonal GrowthNew Ways for Families ® Online ClassConflict Influencer® Class (6 weeks on Zoom)BooksSLIC Solutions for Conflict (pre-order)It's All Your FaultOur New World of Adult BulliesConsultationsBook us for a consultation about your high-conflict situation or legal caseTrainingInquire about having us train your organizationConnect With UsVisit High Conflict Institute: highconflictinstitute.comSubmit questions for Bill and MeganBrowse our complete collection of books and resources in our online store—available in print and e-book formatsFind these show notes and all past episode notes on our websiteWatch this episode on YouTube!Important NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:46) - Listener Question #1 (12:49) - Listener Question #2 (24:12) - Listener Question #3 (33:48) - Wrap Up

Let us hear from you!Watch the video for this episode on YouTube. Does it feel like your coparent is always making you the "bad guy" when it comes to extracurriculars? Getting your child excited about an expensive travel team or a demanding activity before you've even had a chance to discuss it is a common high-conflict tactic.In this video, we expose the manipulative strategies some parents use—from creating false urgency to undermining your authority. More importantly, we'll give you a calm, actionable plan to respond effectively, protect your child from the conflict, and restore a cooperative decision-making process.Learn more at coparentingacademy.com and subscribe for more practical advice.Chapters: 00:00 Introduction00:38 Tactic 1: The Curated Experience02:30 Tactic 2: Social Pressure02:51 Tactic 3: A Special Bond04:07 Tactic 4: Undermining the Other Parent05:45 Tactic 5: Creating False Urgency07:12 Tactic 6: Toe in the Water08:25 How this Sabotage Hurts Your Child11:41 Not Always A Master Plan13:02 How to Respond

Morgan brings in Dr. Marina Rosenthal, a couples therapist specializing in high-conflict couples. Dr. Marina Rosenthal breaks down what makes “high-conflict” couples different from other couples, why standard tips sometimes fail, and how trauma or neurodivergence can disguise itself as intentional hurt. She explains how to spot destructive communication patterns, why “zero conflict” isn’t the goal, and the radical, but doable, acts both partners can take to repair after a fight. We also cover realistic expectations (including whether major life decisions like having children are dealbreakers), sex and body-image issues in long-term relationships, and how to reframe differences as strengths instead of threats. Whether you’re dating or deep into a long partnership, you’ll get clear tactics and mindset shifts to try right away. Follow Dr. Marina: @drmarinarosenthal Follow Morgan: @webgirlmorgan Follow Take This Personally: @takethispersonallySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Send us a textIn this episode, Billie sits down with Nathan Williams, a professional counselor at Arizona Counseling Collective who specializes in forensically informed therapy and high-conflict co-parenting situations. Nathan brings years of experience working with families navigating the complex intersection of therapy and family court, including therapeutic intervention (TI) appointments, court testimony, and helping parents transition from dysfunctional spousal dynamics to effective co-parenting relationships.This conversation tackles the challenging questions that attorneys and their clients face daily: When should therapists maintain confidentiality versus reporting to parents? How can parents move from adversarial dynamics to neutral co-parenting? What's the real success rate of therapeutic intervention, and why do so many therapists avoid this work entirely? Nathan provides practical insights on everything from parental alienation concerns to the reality of 50-50 custody arrangements, offering both legal professionals and parents a clearer understanding of how mental health intervention actually works in family court cases.What You'll Learn✔ The key differences between court-appointed therapeutic intervention and private therapy, including confidentiality boundaries and reporting requirements✔ Why the "neutral co-parent" approach is essential for moving beyond dysfunctional spousal dynamics into effective business-like co-parenting relationships✔ How to properly communicate with your co-parent about children's concerns using the BIFF method (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) without creating additional conflict✔ The realistic success rates of therapeutic intervention (approximately 50%) and what factors determine whether families will benefit from court-ordered counseling✔ Practical strategies for helping children maintain relationships with both parents while teaching them healthy conflict resolution skills rather than withdrawal patternsWhere to Find Nathan Williamswilliams-coach.com

When High Conflict Personalities InteractIn this listener-driven episode, High Conflict Institute co-founders Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy tackle three complex scenarios from listeners, exploring relationship dynamics between different personality patterns, protecting children from parental alienation, and repairing family bonds damaged by forced estrangement.Listener Jay asks about common personality pattern pairings in relationships. Bill Eddy shares that about half of high conflict relationships involve two people with challenging personality traits. Common combinations include individuals with borderline and narcissistic traits, as well as those with antisocial and histrionic characteristics. These pairings often occur because the traits fulfill complementary emotional needs - for instance, one partner's need to dominate matching another's tendency to seek attention.Sarah seeks advice about protecting her boyfriend's five-year-old daughter from the negative influence of a high-conflict co-parent. The hosts emphasize teaching children the "four big skills for life" (flexible thinking, managed emotions, moderate behavior, checking accuracy) early, ideally before age 8-9 when children become more susceptible to parental alienation. They stress the importance of focusing on positive interactions rather than defending against accusations.Joel describes a challenging situation where his wife demands he cut ties with their oldest child and has influenced their younger children, including an 11-year-old, to reject both the oldest sibling and Joel himself. The hosts recommend seeking court-ordered family counseling, especially for younger children, and maintaining a consistent message of refusing to take sides while expressing love for all family members. They emphasize the importance of early intervention to prevent long-term alienation.Throughout these varied scenarios, a common thread emerges: the importance of maintaining boundaries while avoiding extreme responses, teaching resilience skills rather than engaging in conflict, and seeking professional help when needed. The episode demonstrates how similar principles can help navigate different types of high conflict situations, whether in intimate relationships, co-parenting, or extended family dynamics.Additional ResourcesPersonal GrowthNew Ways for Couples & FamiliesBooksDating RadarBIFF for Co-parent CommunicationDon't Alienate the KidsConsultationsBook us for a consultation about your high-conflict situation or legal caseArticleThe Parental Alienation Story: When Kids Resist Parental Contact, Check Each Parent's Story About the OtherTrainingInquire about having us train your organizationConnect With UsVisit High Conflict Institute: highconflictinstitute.comSubmit questions for Bill and MeganBrowse our complete collection of books and resources in our online store—available in print and e-book formatsFind these show notes and all past episode notes on our websiteWatch this episode on YouTube!Important NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:42) - Listener Question #1 (10:57) - Listener Question #2 (16:35) - Listener Question #3 (23:02) - Wrap Up

Dealing with difficult personalities isn't just a challenge in family law—it's an art form. What if you could master communication strategies that turn chaos into progress, even in the most high-conflict cases? Unlock powerful tools to transform your approach, your client relationships, and your peace of mind.In this episode, Christina Hollwarth, founding attorney at Hollwarth Law Firm, dives deep into the realities of handling high-conflict personalities in family law—from red flags at intake to courtroom communication tactics and everything in between.You'll discover…The “red flag” behaviors you should never ignore during the very first client call.Why some people derail their own family law cases—and how lawyers can respond.The communication techniques proven to work with high-conflict clients, co-parents, and even other attorneys.How not to become your client's unpaid therapist—while still giving them the support they need.The ethical landmines and boundaries every family lawyer needs to navigate to safeguard their sanity and their practice.

Do you ever wonder what really defines narcissism and high-conflict behavior — and how you can protect yourself when faced with it? In this episode, I sit down with Rebecca Zung to break it down in a way that's clear, empowering, and practical. Rebecca's journey is remarkable: once a college dropout and single mom, she went on to become one of the nation's most powerful attorneys and a bestselling author. She's now dedicated to helping people recognize toxic dynamics and learn how to negotiate with confidence. Her latest book, SLAY the Bully: How to Negotiate with a Narcissist and Win, offers proven strategies that have reached millions through her podcast, YouTube channel, and writing. Together, we explore the key traits of narcissism, what makes someone high-conflict, and most importantly, what you can do to reclaim your power in the face of manipulation. Whether you're navigating a difficult relationship, workplace conflict, or just want to better understand human behavior, this conversation will give you tools to feel stronger, clearer, and more free

In this week's episode of The Good Fight Club, Yascha Mounk, Ivan Krastev, Amanda Ripley, and Mike Pesca discuss what the Russian drones shot down in Poland mean for NATO, the impact of the Supreme Court's recent decision on immigration, how the Democrats can hold Donald Trump to account, and declining reading rates in U.S. schools. Ivan Krastev is the chairman of the Centre for Liberal Strategies and Albert Hirschman Permanent Fellow at the Institute for Human Sciences, IWM Vienna. Amanda Ripley is the co-founder of Good Conflict, a media and training company that helps people reimagine conflict, and the author of High Conflict, The Smartest Kids in the World, and The Unthinkable. Mike is the host of The Gist, the longest-running daily news and analysis podcast in existence.  Email: leonora.barclay@persuasion.community Podcast production by Mickey Freeland. Connect with us! Spotify | Apple | Google X: @Yascha_Mounk & @JoinPersuasion YouTube: Yascha Mounk, Persuasion LinkedIn: Persuasion Community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mastering High-Stakes Legal Testimony: Confronting High Conflict Behavior in the CourtroomBill Eddy and Megan Hunter analyze a compelling murder trial where a defendant who demonstrated high conflict behavior attempted to control courtroom dynamics through charm, intelligence, and confrontation. Drawing from this case study, they explore how legal professionals can maintain composure and authority when facing witnesses who exhibit traits common to high conflict personalities, including extreme confidence, bullying tactics, and sophisticated manipulation techniques.The episode then addresses two listener questions: a therapist's observation about clients who show limited empathy in human relationships yet demonstrate intense care for animals, and a co-parent seeking strategies for responding quickly to seemingly rehearsed demands from challenging individuals. The hosts provide practical insights for handling both scenarios while maintaining healthy boundaries.Questions Answered in This Episode:How can attorneys maintain control with high conflict witnesses?Why do some individuals show more empathy toward animals than people?What strategies help maintain composure during hostile interactions?How can someone respond effectively to rehearsed demands?Key Takeaways:Thorough preparation is essential when dealing with challenging witnessesMaintaining calm and redirecting focus are crucial strategiesApproximately 3-4% of adults demonstrate antisocial personality traitsCharm and confidence often mask high conflict behaviorsSetting clear boundaries requires both preparation and consistent implementationThis episode offers valuable insights for legal professionals, mental health practitioners, and anyone navigating interactions with high conflict individuals. The discussion highlights the importance of understanding behavioral patterns while maintaining professional composure in challenging situations.Additional ResourcesExpert PublicationsThe Archaeology of Mind: Neuroevolutionary Origins of Human EmotionsVisit our bookstorePersonal GrowthConflict Influencer® Class (6 weeks on Zoom)Professional DevelopmentInquire about training for your organizationDomestic Violence Video: Conversations About Domestic Violence with 16 ExpertsConnect With UsVisit High Conflict Institute: highconflictinstitute.comSubmit questions for Bill and MeganBrowse our complete collection of books and resources in our online store—available in print and e-book formatsFind these show notes and all past episode notes on our websiteWatch this episode on YouTube! Important NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:43) - Back from Hiatus (01:26) - High Conflict in Trials (10:08) - Prepare Some Phrases (13:34) - Personality Types (19:11) - Listener Question: Empathy and Pets (31:15) - Listener Question: Asserting Ourselves Quickly (35:17) - Wrap Up

David Pisarra and Matthew Brickman discuss the Top 30% of High-Conflict Family Law Cases involving people with borderline personality disorders and the mental manipulation they utilize in the family court system.David Pisarra is the founder of Union of Dads, with over 25 years in Family Law, focusing on helping fathers in custody and divorce cases. He's developed a supportive community with a social media reach of 125,000 dads aged 24-50, aiming to empower them in being active participants in their children's lives.At Dad's Law School, he lends practical skills for dads to succeed in Family Court, offering comprehensive online guidance and in-person trainings like his Dad's Badass Bootcamp.https://mensfamilylaw.comhttps://www.unionofdads.com-------------------------------------------------------------------------- 

Discover the transformative power of mediation in high-conflict divorce cases with Joe Dillon, founder of Equitable Mediation Services. Ever wondered if mediation can work even when tensions are running high? Explore how Joe's background in finance and negotiation informs his belief that mediation, when approached with good faith and optimism, can be an effective alternative to the courtroom for the majority of cases, even those involving domestic violence or financial abuse. Joe shares personal experiences and professional insights, highlighting the potential for mediation to heal emotional wounds and foster a healthier co-parenting relationship.Unravel the complexities of navigating divorce mediation as we tackle misconceptions head-on. Mediation isn't just a one-and-done solution—it's a process that requires patience, preparation, and commitment. Joe contrasts mediation with therapy while acknowledging its therapeutic benefits. He makes a compelling case for viewing life forward, not backward, and emphasizes why attorney involvement is crucial in complex scenarios. Two-hour sessions are ideal, allowing mediators to stay effective and clients to feel supported without being overwhelmed. Realize the necessity of removing emotions from negotiations and treating divorce mediation similar to a business transaction to minimize conflict and focus on data-driven decisions.Prepare to be empowered with practical steps and advice on making mediation a first choice rather than a last resort. Learn how to prepare for mediation by creating budgets, lists of assets, and keeping children's needs at the forefront. Joe Dillon also explores the challenges when one spouse is reluctant to divorce and how to communicate needs proactively. Find out why mediation agreements often hold weight in court and how they can streamline the divorce process, especially in overburdened judicial systems. We wrap up by offering guidance on whether mediation is suitable for you, accompanied by a heartfelt reminder that, with the right support and mindset, a better life awaits beyond the turbulence of divorce.

351. How to Have *Healthy* Conflict with Amanda Ripley  Conflict expert and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is back to give us a conflict resolution 101 guide and delve into some real-life examples from Abby and Glennon's relationship.  Discover:  -The best way to diffuse a high-conflict person from going further; -The binary thinking that makes fighting with a spouse feel so painful–plus, the antidote; -How to disagree while still holding someone else's perspective; and -Why it's important to know your shame responses in order to have better conflicts. For the first part of our conversation, check out ⁠Episode 330 Handling Conflict Right with Amanda Ripley⁠. About Amanda:  Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and author. Her most recent book is ⁠High Conflict⁠, which chronicles how people get trapped by conflicts of all kinds—and how they get out. Her previous books include The Unthinkable, and The Smartest Kids in the World, a New York Times bestseller which was also turned into a documentary film. IG: ⁠@ripleywriter⁠ ⁠@thegoodconflict To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

REBROADCASTIn this essential encore episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter delve deep into understanding high conflict borderline personalities, often called the "Love You Hate You" types. They explore the complex world of these challenging relationships, where charm can rapidly transform into rage. The discussion illuminates the defining characteristics of high conflict borderline personalities, including their emotional regulation struggles and tendency toward all-or-nothing thinking. Bill and Megan examine the prevalence of borderline personality disorder, the overlap with high conflict personalities, and offer practical strategies for managing these challenging dynamics while maintaining hope for recovery.Additional ResourcesExpert PublicationsSplitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with BPD/NPDCalming Upset People with EARDating RadarHigh Conflict People in Legal DisputesProfessional DevelopmentStrategies for Helping Clients with Borderline Personalities in DivorceConflict Influencer™ ClassConnect With UsVisit High Conflict Institute: highconflictinstitute.com Submit questions for Bill and MeganBrowse our complete collection of books and resources in our online storeFind these show notes and all past episode notes on our websiteImportant NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:37) - 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life Part 3 (01:10) - Borderline Personality (07:39) - What does the term mean? (08:50) - Looking for Connection (10:42) - Statistics (14:03) - High Sensitivity (16:26) - Splitting (18:22) - Lying (22:01) - Apologizing (24:47) - Why Vindictive? (27:44) - Finding Success (31:50) - Empathy (34:06) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Domestic Violence

Navigating life as a single mum can feel overwhelming, especially when dealing with the added complexities of a high-conflict relationship. Whether it's managing co-parenting with a difficult ex or processing the emotional toll of separation, it's easy to feel stuck. In this episode, we explore how therapy and coaching can empower single mums to reclaim control, build resilience, and create a more peaceful environment for themselves and their children. If you're curious about whether professional guidance could help you, this episode breaks down the transformative benefits it can offer. Links mentioned in the episode:  Feeling stuck in a high-conflict co-parenting relationship? Click HERE to download our free resource guide to discover how therapy and coaching can help you regain control, build resilience, and create a more peaceful life for you and your children.  Download the E-book, I'm A Single Mum... Now What? - HERE Click HERE to learn more about the Trauma coaching and support group program.  Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.  Click HERE to join the free Facebook Group, The Single Mother Survival Guide Support Forum.  Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE. To contact Julia, email: julia@singlemothersurvivalguide.com. Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too. Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

When Divorce Feels Overwhelming: How to Navigate Boundaries, Fear & High-Conflict Splits with Karen McMahon “Judging yourself never does anything valuable.” — Karen McMahon When you hear the word divorce, what happens in your body? Do you feel fear? Relief? Confusion? In this powerful conversation, divorce and relationship coach Karen McMahon of Journey Beyond Divorce joins me to talk candidly about the emotional, legal, and practical realities of divorce—especially if your split involves high conflict. Karen shares her personal story of a 3½-year divorce that tested every part of her, and the lessons she's now taught hundreds of clients: how to set and uphold boundaries, separate facts from fear, navigate high-conflict personalities, and choose the right professional support for your situation. We cover why boundaries aren't steel walls but garden gates, how to know if you're staying out of love or fear, and why divorce can be the catalyst for breaking generational cycles. Whether you're contemplating divorce, in the middle of one, or supporting someone who is, this episode will leave you feeling informed, grounded, and empowered to take your next step. Top 3 Takeaways: Boundaries Are Yours to Hold – Setting them isn't enough; the power comes from upholding them, even when the other person pushes back. Fear vs. Fact – Learn to identify whether your hesitation is rooted in legitimate concerns or catastrophic “what ifs.” Be the CEO of Your Divorce – From choosing the right attorney to keeping your financial focus, no one will protect your interests better than you. Favorite Quote: "Boundaries invite incredible freedom in relationships. When I trust myself to hold them, I don't have to worry about trusting anyone else." — Karen McMahon Join the Sacred Rage Release Workshop – August 16th A somatic healing ritual to process and release stored rage—so you can reclaim your power, honor your lineage, and rise. Only $47.

At CCL's 2025 Summer Conference and Lobby Day in D.C. last month, we were privileged to hear from Amanda Ripley in a keynote conversation with CCL's Illinois State Coordinator Alex Marianyi. We want every CCLer to have a chance to hear Amanda's powerful message and Alex's takeaways, so this month's meeting features recorded highlights from their keynote session. Amanda Ripley is a New York Times bestselling author, a Washington Post contributing columnist, and the co-founder of Good Conflict, a media and training company that helps people reimagine conflict. She has written three award-winning, nonfiction books about three very different subjects: High Conflict, The Smartest Kids in the World, and The Unthinkable. Previously, Ripley spent a decade writing about human behavior for Time magazine in New York, Washington, and Paris.

Can fathers truly advocate for equal custody without feeling like they're attacking the child's mother? Join us for an insightful conversation with David Pisarra, a seasoned divorce and family lawyer, as we discuss strategies that challenge common misconceptions in child custody battles. David reveals the critical importance of fathers actively demonstrating their involvement and understanding of their children, rather than simply expressing love. With societal shifts moving towards equal custody, David shares practical advice from his book, "Dad's Child Custody Action Plan," including the creation of a "kid inventory" to help fathers articulate their knowledge of their children.The emotional toll of false allegations in custody battles is profound, and David sheds light on the frustrating scenario of being labeled a "Disneyland dad." We dive into how temporary restraining orders can be misused to gain custody advantages, often leaving the accused feeling defeated. Through real-life examples, we highlight the emotional exhaustion these battles can cause and their detrimental effects on both the accused parent and the child. Navigating accusations from individuals with personality disorders demands a strategic and objective approach, and David shares insights on maintaining composure in emotionally charged courtroom settings.Biases in family court systems and the mental health challenges fathers face during custody battles are pervasive issues we address in our conversation. David emphasizes the importance of rebuilding self-esteem and confidence for fathers, drawing on tools like the "Kid Inventory" to foster positive memories. As fathers navigate this complex legal landscape, maintaining social connections and support systems is crucial to prevent isolation and depression. Resources like "Dad's Law School" and "Dad's Badass Bootcamp" empower fathers to recognize their unique strengths, ensuring they can advocate effectively for themselves and their children in court.

On the surface, 50/50 parenting sounds fair and balanced — but what happens when you're dealing with a high-conflict co-parent who refuses to cooperate? In this episode, we're breaking down the real struggles of sharing equal time when the other parent thrives on drama and control.We'll unpack how frequent exchanges turn kids into messengers, why constant transitions rob them of stability, and how so-called “fairness” can be weaponized against you. If you're exhausted from the battles at every pickup, feeling like the court's schedule is adding fuel to the fire, or worrying about what this conflict is doing to your kids, you are not alone.Tune in to hear:✨ The five biggest red flags with 50/50 in a high-conflict dynamic ✨ Why co-parenting assumptions can completely fall apart ✨ What to watch for so you can protect your peace — and theirsIf you've ever wondered why 50/50 feels so impossible, this conversation will help you see the bigger picture and feel less alone in the chaos.

Co-parenting isn't always smooth sailing — but how do you know if what you're experiencing has crossed the line into high-conflict territory? In this episode, we break down exactly what high-conflict co-parenting is, why it's so emotionally draining, and the top 10 red flags to help you spot it. From constant boundary violations to manipulative games with parenting time, you'll learn what to look for so you can protect your peace and focus on what really matters: your kids.If you've ever wondered, Is it really this hard, or is my co-parent actually high-conflict? — this conversation is for you.www.samandleah.com

Psychologist Madelaine Weiss joins us to shed light on the complex world of co-parenting with challenging ex-partners. Through her vast experience in dealing with difficult family dynamics, Madelaine offers insights into how divorce can affect our sense of self and how to manage personal triggers in emotionally charged situations. Together, we explore the psychological struggles that arise from negative portrayals by ex-partners and provide listeners with tools to preserve self-worth and maintain effective parenting amidst adversity.We tackle the trauma of emotional and legal abuse, acknowledging the pressures of striving for perfection. In the face of fear and anxiety, Madelaine introduces calming techniques like polyvagal breathing to help regain composure and protect one's self-image and legal standing. The discussion focuses on responding thoughtfully to emotional triggers to break the cycle of trauma and redefine personal narratives, empowering listeners to navigate their challenges with empathy and resilience.We also share valuable parenting and self-improvement strategies, inspired by Madelaine's own journey through divorce and parenting. From setting realistic goals with the Goldilocks principle to managing children's emotional outbursts, we emphasize the importance of creating a supportive environment. Throughout the episode, listeners will find stories of hope, encouragement, and practical advice, all aimed at fostering personal growth and ensuring brighter days ahead for both parents and children.

Destroying Your Ex Does Not Win Your Case - Episode 341 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Family Court hearings are typically full of all kinds of mudslinging in both directions. Since we are in an adversary system and most people experience the law as “guilty vs innocent”, this may seem like a logical approach. But a Family Law Judge doesn't think in terms of “guilty vs innocent” so trying to destroy your ex in court doesn't necessarily solve your problems. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!

Sandra Killebrew is a high-conflict couple therapist with a boutique private practice in Tacoma, WA. She offers therapy intensives for couples in addition to weekly therapy. She likes to get on her soapbox about excellence in therapy, boundaries, telling the truth, even when it hurts, and is not afraid to say fuck. She hosts networking groups in Tacoma & Seattle and is on the board of the International Experiential Dynamic Therapy Association.Guest intro: Sandra's unique style—therapy intensives, strong boundaries, focus on truth-telling, and comfort with conflict.Silence in therapy: Why awkward pauses can disarm clients and reveal vulnerability.Public scandal discussion: Reflections on power, privilege, and societal judgment (cancel culture parallels).Therapist self-disclosure & marketing: Debate over labeling as a “Christian therapist” and how identity marketing affects client expectations.Client boundary issues: Stories of invasive consultation questions (“Are you married?” / “Do you believe in God?”) and how they reflect couple dynamics.High-acuity training: How early experience with high-crisis clients shapes private practice work.Couples therapy dynamics: Why consultations often feel like stepping into a “war zone” and how to hold boundaries.Toxic industry norms: Discussion of underqualified providers and the importance of skilled clinical work. Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube.Are your coparenting conversations endless, draining, and unproductive? You're not alone. In this video, discover the "FACTS Only" communication tool – a simple, efficient way to streamline your discussions and focus on what truly matters: your child's needs. Learn how this powerful strategy, focusing on Feedback, Activities, Concerns, Transportation, and Supplies, can transform high-conflict exchanges into clear, actionable updates. We'll also cover essential tips for implementation, including the best communication methods (hint: ditch the texts!) and how to maintain your sanity even when your coparent doesn't cooperate. Take control of your coparenting narrative and build a strong foundation for your child's well-being.

Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore the crucial distinction between temporary high conflict behaviors and established patterns of high conflict conduct. As co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, we address common misconceptions about conflict dynamics while introducing our new platform, Conflict Influencer, designed to support individuals navigating challenging relationships.Understanding High Conflict PatternsWe examine how situational stress differs from persistent high conflict behavior patterns through an insightful analogy comparing one-time excessive drinking versus chronic alcohol dependence. While anyone may demonstrate high conflict behaviors temporarily during intense stress, persistent patterns typically manifest in:Preoccupation with blaming othersAll-or-nothing thinkingUnmanaged emotionsExtreme behaviorsThe episode clarifies that high conflict patterns often emerge in close relationships but may remain dormant until triggered by significant life changes like divorce or job loss. We emphasize that effective responses avoid giving insight, emotional engagement, or labels, instead focusing on future solutions rather than past conflicts.Questions We Answer in This EpisodeIs high conflict behavior always situational?Does conflict always require two participants?How can professionals identify pattern-based versus situational conflict?What approaches work best with individuals demonstrating high conflict patterns?What resources are available through the new Conflict Influencer platform?We also introduce ConflictInfluencer.com, our new online community and learning platform offering individual coaching, consultation services, and comprehensive support for personal conflict challenges. This platform provides both self-directed and guided learning options, making conflict management resources more accessible to individuals seeking ongoing skill development.Special emphasis is placed on the importance of practice and support in building confidence when managing difficult interactions. We demonstrate how the same conflict management skills work effectively for both situational and pattern-based conflicts, while providing practical frameworks for understanding and navigating challenging relationships more effectively.Additional ResourcesConflict Influencer: Enter our Conflict Influencer World—a place for anyone and everyone who needs help, support and skills for conflict along the spectrum, especially high-conflict.Check out Sierralin Design!Connect With UsVisit High Conflict Institute: highconflictinstitute.comSubmit questions for Bill and MeganBrowse our complete collection of books and resources in our online store—available in print and e-book formatsFind these show notes and all past episode notes on our websiteImportant NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:42) - Updates (03:00) - Today's Topics (03:48) - Is High Conflict Situational? (12:44) - Things to Avoid with an HCP (13:04) - Four Things to Know to Avoid (13:33) - Don't Focus on Emotions (14:10) - Avoid the Past (14:29) - Don't Tell Them They're an HCP (15:19) - Non-HCPs (17:00) - Watch for Patterns (18:09) - One HCP or Two People in Conflict? (22:36) - Conflict Influencer (32:05) - Questions (42:24) - Wrap Up (43:02) - Reminders & See You in September! Learn more about our New Ways for Work Coaching sessions. Get started today!

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If you've ever felt like you're speaking a different language than your co-parent — you're not alone. In this episode, Sam and Leah break down 10 hidden reasons why communication between high-conflict co-parents is so challenging, even when it's supposed to be about the kids.From deep-seated mistrust and emotional triggers to power struggles and legal landmines, we're unpacking the real reasons it feels impossible to just have a simple conversation. You'll learn how these communication crashes happen, why they're more common than you think, and what you can start doing differently to protect your peace and your children's well-being.Whether you're in the thick of a high-conflict custody battle or just trying to navigate tense transitions, this episode is packed with insight, validation, and practical takeaways.✨ Tune in and take your power back — one boundary at a time.

How to Handle High-Conflict People // Kelly Evans Kelly Evans and Mel Hiett explore strategies for managing relationships with individuals who thrive on conflict. Whether it's a difficult coworker, a challenging family member, or a contentious ex-partner, we provide practical advice on navigating these turbulent interactions. Tune in to learn how to protect your well-being as a single mom and find peace amidst the chaos of high-conflict relationships. 

Can childhood aggression be an unexpected plea for help rather than a precursor to a violent future? Join us as we welcome Davina Hehn, a respected behavioral analyst, to shed light on the nuances of child aggression, particularly in the tumultuous waters of high-conflict separations. Together, we unravel the complex web of emotions that children might express as aggression due to their struggle for communication and emotional regulation. Listen in as Davina shares her expertise on why this behavior is more about a cry for understanding than a predictor of future violence, and how recognizing problematic adolescent aggression can serve as a crucial step in offering the right support.Family dynamics play a pivotal role in addressing aggression, and this episode uncovers the importance of involving the entire family in the therapeutic journey. We discuss how aggression often stems from feelings of isolation and how taking away a child's communication tools can exacerbate these feelings. We offer practical strategies to help families create a cohesive support network that includes trusted mentors and adults, emphasizing open communication to prevent escalation and foster mutual growth. Delve into the discussion on how transparent conversations about significant decisions, like sending a child away, can maintain a child's sense of agency and security.In times of crisis, finding the right response can make all the difference. Here, we highlight the benefits of mobile mental health crisis centers and creating a supportive care team over traditional police involvement, which can sometimes intensify conflicts. Our conversation touches on the power of community support and the impact of parental narratives on child behavior, encouraging proactive crisis planning and engaging children in discussions about trust. As we wrap up, Davina, also known as Aady Space, shares her mission of helping others find balance, inviting listeners to explore her compelling online presence for more guidance in navigating life's challenges.

Beyond Trauma-Informed: Finding Balance Between Compassion and ConsequencesBill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore the complex relationship between trauma-informed approaches and setting appropriate boundaries when dealing with high conflict situations. This timely discussion examines how professionals and individuals can balance empathy with necessary limits.Understanding Trauma and EntitlementThe episode delves into how trauma experiences and entitled behavior can sometimes overlap, yet require different responses. Bill Eddy shares insights from his article "Are We Being Too Nice in High Conflict Situations?" highlighting the importance of maintaining appropriate boundaries while acknowledging genuine trauma.The discussion explores how some individuals may use past trauma as justification for problematic behavior, while others may demonstrate entitled behavior without trauma history. The hosts emphasize the need for a balanced approach that combines trauma-informed methods with clear limit-setting.Questions We Answer in This EpisodeHow do we distinguish between trauma response and entitled behavior?When should we set limits with someone who has experienced trauma?How can professionals balance empathy with boundary-setting?What role does DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) play in addressing these issues?How can families handle situations involving threats of self-harm?Key TakeawaysTrauma history doesn't excuse harmful behavior toward othersSetting limits can be an act of respect and careProfessional help is crucial when dealing with serious threatsThe SLIC method (Setting Limits and Imposing Consequences) offers practical guidanceInterventions work best when conducted as coordinated group effortsThe episode provides valuable insights for professionals and individuals navigating complex relationships where trauma and entitled behavior intersect. Rather than choosing between empathy and boundaries, listeners learn how to implement both approaches effectively.Additional ResourcesExpert PublicationsArticle: SLIC Solutions: Setting Limits and Imposing Consequences in 2 ½ StepsArticle: Are We Being too Nice with High Conflict Behavior?Book: The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in The Healing of Trauma - Paperback by Bessel Van der Kolk M.D.Book alert: email info@unhookedmedia.com to be notified when SLIC Solutions book by Bill Eddy is releasedProfessional DevelopmentConflictInfluencer.comNew Ways Training types and dates: For professionals (HR; Workplace leaders; divorce counselors and coaches; mediators) to learn how to work with high-conflict cases, clients or situationsResourcesEMDRIA.com: EMDR International Association (trauma treatment training/resources)DialecticalBehaviorTherapy.com: A free course for taking control of your thoughts, emotions, and relationships. 40+ lessons with guides, videos, and worksheets.Connect With UsVisit High Conflict Institute: highconflictinstitute.comSubmit questions for Bill and MeganBrowse our complete collection of books and resources in our online store—available in print and e-book formatsFind these show notes and all past episode notes on our websiteImportant NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:34) - Trauma and Entitlement (01:51) - You're Being Too Nice (07:09) - Setting Limits (08:23) - Possibilities (12:32) - Broader Context or Narrower? (16:51) - Empathy at a Distance (21:10) - Pointing to Where Limits Need to Be Set (22:35) - Example (25:47) - If Threats Continue (31:29) - Wrap Up (32:00) - Reminders Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

When High Conflict Takes You By SurpriseLife can change dramatically when you unexpectedly encounter a person who demonstrates high conflict behavior. Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter from the High Conflict Institute in Scottsdale, Arizona, explore the unsettling experience of being blindsided by high conflict situations—whether in a new job, relationship, or family dynamic.Understanding the Impact of Unexpected High ConflictWhen high conflict behavior emerges unexpectedly, it often creates a destabilizing ripple effect. The initial confusion and self-doubt can leave anyone questioning their capabilities and judgment. This episode examines how these situations develop, from the early stages of confusion through the progression of mounting tension and isolation.Recognizing High Conflict PatternsThe most challenging aspect of surprise high conflict situations is their ability to create self-doubt in even the most confident individuals. What begins as an attempt to improve communication or performance often escalates into a pattern of increasing criticism and isolation. Understanding these patterns helps identify when you're dealing with high conflict behavior rather than typical workplace or relationship challenges.Questions We Answer in This EpisodeHow do you recognize when self-doubt stems from high conflict behavior?What makes group high conflict situations especially challenging?Why do attempts to "try harder" often backfire with high conflict people?How can you protect yourself from high conflict surprises?Key TakeawaysRemember "It's not about me" when facing unexpected criticism90% of people don't engage in high conflict behaviorPhysical distance can help manage high conflict situationsTrust your experience with non-high conflict relationshipsSetting clear limits with consequences can be effectiveHigh conflict surprises can happen to anyone, anywhere. This episode provides practical insights for recognizing, understanding, and managing these challenging situations while maintaining your confidence and perspective.Additional ResourcesExpert PublicationsIt's All Your Fault at Work! Dealing with Narcissists and Other High-Conflict People - Managing High Conflict Workplace Dynamics5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life - Understanding High Conflict BehaviorProfessional DevelopmentNew Ways for Couples & Families: Online relationship strengthening courseConflictInfluencer.com: Advanced conflict management training (Coming Soon)Connect With UsVisit High Conflict Institute: highconflictinstitute.comSubmit questions for Bill and MeganBrowse our complete collection of books and resources in our online store—available in print and e-book formatsFind these show notes and all past episode notes on our websiteImportant NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:32) - High Conflict Surprises (02:37) - Updates (03:32) - Bill's Example (09:07) - What Happens In Our Minds (11:03) - Progression and Impact (13:02) - CARS Method (20:23) - Recentering Yourself (23:59) - New on the Job (26:08) - High Conflict Traps (27:19) - Target of Blame (29:00) - Larger Groups (31:42) - Wrap Up (32:44) - Reminders Learn more about our New Ways for Work Coaching sessions. Get started today!

Relationship Reddit Stories, OP's ex-husband is accusing her of being high conflict regarding their children when she disagrees with the way he treats them.00:00 Intro00:18 Story u/EnterGingerbreadman09:40 Comments13:09 Update19:43 Comments24:54 Outro#redditupdate #redditrelationship #redditstoriesreddit Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. In this powerful episode of the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Drs. Ryan Reyna and James Hawkins dive deep into the critical challenge therapists face when entering couples sessions without a strategic approach. They explore the pitfalls of entering therapy unprepared and provide practical insights for maintaining therapeutic effectiveness. Conversation Outline: The Therapist's Challenge Emotional complexity of couples therapy Sacrifices therapists make in helping distressed relationships Importance of professional preparedness Risks of Entering Sessions Without a Plan Potential for therapist triangulation Tendency to mediate instead of facilitating healing Danger of getting caught in reactive cycles Strategic Therapeutic Approach Understanding the couple's emotional "muscle" Developing a flexible, adaptive therapeutic plan Focusing on attachment patterns rather than surface conflicts Emotional Regulation Strategies Preparing therapist's nervous system Recognizing and interrupting destructive interaction patterns Creating safety through structured intervention Closing Summary: Your preparedness, empathy, and commitment create a transformative space where healing becomes possible—one vulnerable moment at a time. Remember: In the landscape of human relationships, you are not just a therapist, but a skilled navigator helping couples rediscover their fundamental connection. Upcoming events, if you would like to train with James or Ryan… You can do a joint Core Skills (Colorado) with Lisa J. Palmer-Olsen & Dr. James Hawkins. Core Skills Modules 1 and 2 will be held October 8-10, 2025, and Core Skills Modules 3 and 4 will be held January 7-9, 2026. You can register at https://courses.efft.org/courses/2025-core-skills-colorado. October 15-18, 2025, you can do an Externship with James in beautiful Bend, Oregon. You can register at https://www.counseloregon.com. You can train with Ryan, as well as George Faller, doing a live and some time with James, at the annual Arkansas EFT Center externship. July 29-August 1, 2025, in person, in Fayetteville, Arkansas. https://www.arkansaseft.com/events/externship We would like to invite everyone to come hang out and learn with the SV team at the first-ever SV Focus Lab. This is an advanced, EFCT training intending to push the edge with a focus on nuance in application, illuminating EFT and Sue's incredible model.” You can learn more and register by going to https://www.svfocuslab.com. Leading edge listeners who register before July 1 with the code svfocuslab.com/leadingedge get a 10% discount. To support our mission and help us continue producing impactful content, your financial contributions via Venmo (@leftpodcast) are greatly appreciated. They play a significant role in keeping this valuable resource available and are a testament to your commitment to our cause. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

In this episode, I talk about why I prefer having 50/50 with a high-conflict coparenting as opposed to having full custody or primary custody. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.

While we're on our hiatus, we're playing some of our popular episodes again from our ‘5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life' series. Enjoy!REBROADCASTIntroducing the 5 Types of High Conflict Personalities: Who Can Ruin Your Life? (Part 1)In this thought-provoking first episode of a new series on It's All Your Fault, Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, embark on an exploration of the five types of high conflict personalities who can wreak havoc in your life. Drawing from Bill's book "5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life," they provide a broad overview of these challenging personalities, setting the stage for a deeper dive into each type in upcoming episodes.Understanding High Conflict PersonalitiesBill and Megan illuminate the perplexing nature of high conflict personalities, emphasizing that these individuals often lack self-awareness and may not even realize the impact of their behavior on others. They stress the importance of recognizing patterns of behavior rather than focusing on isolated incidents, as high conflict personalities tend to exhibit consistent patterns of blame-shifting, all-or-nothing thinking, unmanaged emotions, and extreme behaviors.Navigating Relationships with High Conflict IndividualsThroughout the episode, Bill and Megan offer practical strategies for navigating relationships with high conflict personalities. They caution against common pitfalls, such as attempting to provide insight into the person's behavior or engaging in emotional arguments. Instead, they recommend focusing on the present, offering choices, and using the CARS method (Connect, Analyze, Respond, Set Limits) to de-escalate conflicts and maintain healthy boundaries.Questions we answer in this episode:Who are the five types of high conflict personalities that can ruin your life?What are the defining characteristics of a high conflict personality?How can I recognize patterns of high conflict behavior?What are the common mistakes to avoid when dealing with high conflict individuals?What can I expect from the upcoming episodes in this series?Key Takeaways:The five types of high conflict personalities can have a profound negative impact on your life if left unchecked.High conflict personalities often lack self-awareness and may not realize the impact of their behavior on others.Recognizing patterns of behavior is crucial when dealing with high conflict individuals.Avoid trying to provide insight, engaging in emotional arguments, focusing on the past, or labeling the person.Stay tuned for upcoming episodes that will explore each of the five types in greater depth, providing targeted strategies for managing these specific personalities.Whether you're dealing with a high conflict partner, family member, coworker, or friend, this episode sets the foundation for understanding and managing these challenging relationships. By introducing the five types of high conflict personalities and providing a broad overview of strategies for dealing with them, Bill and Megan offer listeners a roadmap for the upcoming series, which promises to deliver invaluable insights and tools for navigating life's most difficult interpersonal dynamics.Links & Other NotesBOOKS5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeARTICLESWho Are High-Conflict People?The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeFive Types of High-Conflict Personalities And their targets of blame—and sometimes violence.Anybody You Know? Predictable Characteristics of High Conflict PeopleCOURSESCourses for professional trainingCourses for individualsConflict Influencer Class (live virtual)OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:35) - 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (01:14) - Creating Awareness (05:54) - Starting to See It Differently (12:09) - Key Characteristics (21:35) - Options (22:40) - Four Forget-About-Its (26:03) - Four Things to Do (29:02) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Narcissistic High Conflict People Learn more about our Conflict Influencer Class. Get started today!

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Dr. Cocchiola sits down with Sybil Cummin, licensed therapist, play therapy expert, and founder of Rising Beyond, to discuss the hidden world of child therapy and coercive control.Sybil shares her front-line experience working with children who have been weaponized, silenced, and fractured by narcissistic or coercively controlling parents—especially in the context of family court and custody battles. She reveals how kids show their trauma in play, how therapists can (and often don't) catch the signs, and why protective parents are often the best therapists their kids have.

In this powerful episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia Krasko is joined by Nika Chadwick, an expert in navigating high-conflict co-parenting situations. They dive deep into understanding what high-conflict actually means, how to recognize it, and how to protect your peace and sanity while managing it. Whether you're facing constant drama, navigating court battles, or just trying to keep your home a safe and stable space for your family, this episode has you covered.Key Topics Covered:What High-Conflict Really Means: Understanding the difference between typical disagreements and true high-conflict situations.The Role of Personality Disorders: How traits like black-and-white thinking and an obsession with conflict can signal a high-conflict personality.Effective Documentation for Court: Tips for documenting incidents that actually matter in court and making your case stronger.The BIFF Communication Strategy: How to communicate with a high-conflict co-parent using messages that are brief, informative, friendly, and firm.Mental Health Protection: Why having a support system outside of family is crucial for your well-being.Real-Life Strategies and Tools: Practical methods like using a color-coded binder, leveraging apps for secure communication, and setting boundaries.Who This Episode Is For:Stepmoms dealing with a high-conflict ex.Anyone navigating a challenging co-parenting relationship.Parents preparing for a custody or court case.Those wanting to protect their mental and emotional health while co-parenting.Connect with Nika Chadwick:Instagram: @nikachadwickcoachingWebsite: NikaChadwick.comTikTok: @nikachadwickcoachingWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

✨ Ready to transform your mindset, reclaim your worth, and rise above toxic relationships? Join renowned therapist and empowerment coach Hilary Silver and top negotiation expert Rebecca Zung as they dive deep into reclaiming your identity, building self-trust, and healing from narcissistic abuse. This is your roadmap to personal power and emotional freedom!

In this conversation, Bill Eddy discusses the BIFF method for responding to hostile communications, the importance of self-restraint in high-conflict situations, and strategies for protecting oneself in court. He emphasizes the need to keep communication simple and repetitive, and the significance of telling one's own story in legal contexts. The discussion also touches on the impact of family systems on emotional responses and the role of AI in communication strategies.Key TakeawaysBIFF responses help manage hostile communications effectively.Self-restraint is crucial when dealing with high-conflict personalities.Keeping communication simple and repetitive aids in clarity.Understanding family systems can help in managing emotional responses.Telling your own story is vital in legal situations.Protecting oneself from false allegations is essential in court.The BIFF method can be adapted for various communication scenarios.AI tools can mimic BIFF responses, but may not be effective for learning.Emotional stability is key in high-conflict situations.Resources and support are available for those dealing with high-conflict personalities.Chapters00:00 - Introduction to BIFF Responses and AI03:10 - Understanding Family Systems and Emotional Responses05:52 - The BIFF Method Explained09:04 - Self-Restraint in Communication12:13 - Protecting Yourself in High-Conflict Situations14:50 - Strategies for Court and High-Conflict Personalities17:50 - The Importance of Storytelling in Court20:47 - Final Thoughts and ResourcesIf you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:Email-      familydisappeared@gmail.comLinktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)Please donate to support PAA programs:https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSThis podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-hostGlaze Gonzales- Podcast ManagerConnect with Lawrence Joss:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

What if the parenting plan you're handed is the very thing that's keeping you stuck?   In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm joined by Samantha Boss, high-conflict divorce coach, mediator, and founder of The Ugly Truth of Divorce. Samantha shares how her own eight-year legal battle, toxic co-parenting dynamic, and expensive missteps led her to create a business helping women avoid the same fate. From diapers to diplomas, she now helps moms draft rock-solid parenting plans that reduce stress, prevent courtroom chaos, and give them their power back.   Resources Mentioned: Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche Higher Infrared Sauna Blanket use code AMBER 15: https://higherdose.com/products/infrared-sauna-blanket   What We Discuss: Red flags, parallel parenting, and recognizing high-conflict dynamics Radical acceptance and letting go of courtroom warfare  Why parenting plans should be created before hiring an attorney  What every plan should include (but usually doesn't)  Getting the most value out of your attorney relationship  Financial inequality, extracurriculars, and when to go back to court  When to let go of toxic money and create your own abundance  How starting her business changed her life (and income) Using your story to build something that matters  Why pivoting is normal and necessary    Key Takeaways: “Your parenting plan is a business contract. It's not about feelings, it's about clarity.” – Samantha Boss “The courtroom is not the place to heal your emotional wounds.” – Samantha Boss “You don't have to win in court to win in life after divorce.” – Samantha Boss   Find more from Samantha Boss: Website: www.samanthaboss.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theuglytruthofdivorce/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theuglytruthofdivorce YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TUTODwithsamboss   Find more from Amber: Instagram: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Inside the Lori Vallow Daybell Case: A Deep Dive into Criminal PsychologyBill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, dive deep into one of the most disturbing true crime cases in recent history—the Lori Vallow Daybell murders. The hosts explore the psychological aspects behind what led to multiple murders, including those of Vallow's own children, and examine potential personality patterns that may help explain such extreme behavior.The Complex Web of Personality and CrimeBill and Megan discuss how individuals who commit horrific acts often display patterns of behavior long before their crimes. They explore how Vallow's case may demonstrate characteristics associated with antisocial personality traits—combined with possible narcissistic tendencies. The hosts emphasize that these patterns often have genetic components rather than being solely the result of upbringing or environment.Understanding Family ImpactThe episode provides valuable insights into how family members process and heal from such traumatic events. Through examining Vallow's surviving son Colby's experience, Bill and Megan highlight the importance of understanding that what seems typical in childhood may later be recognized as problematic—leading to crucial healing opportunities.Questions we answer in this episode:What personality patterns might explain seemingly inexplicable criminal behavior?How do genetic factors influence personality development?Can early intervention help prevent antisocial behavior patterns?What role does narcissism play in high conflict cases?How do family members begin healing after discovering disturbing truths?Key Takeaways:Antisocial personality traits often emerge before age 12Early intervention is crucial for addressing concerning behaviorsGenetic factors play a significant role in personality developmentComplex cases often involve multiple personality patternsHealing requires understanding it wasn't family members' faultThis episode offers valuable insights for mental health professionals, law enforcement, and anyone seeking to understand complex criminal behavior. Through careful analysis of the Vallow case, listeners gain practical knowledge about personality patterns, family dynamics, and the importance of early intervention in preventing tragic outcomes.Links & Other NotesARTICLELori Vallow Daybell / Chad Daybell articleBOOKS5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict PersonalitiesSplitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Second Edition)ARTICLESViolence and Mental HealthSociopaths and their DeceptionsOUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal or therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:34) - Lori Vallow/Chad Daybell Murder (02:51) - Setting the Stage (06:36) - Thoughts on First Case (11:58) - Colby (13:50) - Anti-Social Personality Behavior (21:06) - Treating Younger Children (23:18) - Warning Signs (24:27) - Chad's Story (31:47) - Making Up ‘Truths' (34:16) - Narcissism (37:10) - Wrapping Up (38:48) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Shehrina Rooney and BPD Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

If you're stuck in endless loops with a high-conflict ex, Brook Olsen wants you to stop expecting them to change, and start changing how you respond. Brook is a Certified Parenting Educator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict. In this conversation, we get real about what happens when you stop feeding the conflict, why parallel parenting is often the only way forward, and how choosing not to engage isn't weakness, it's clarity.  Plus, Brook offers a framework that isn't just theory, it's deeply practical and actionable, especially when the legal system or co-parenting landscape isn't exactly on your side. Here's what else we get into, in this episode: Why disengagement is a laddered process, and how to stay in it (8:50) The nervous system's role in conflict and how to regulate your response (10:27) What conscious competence looks like in high-stress situations (28:57) The difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting (32:52) How to stop pushing back and start reclaiming your energy (36:10) Learn more about Brook Olsen: Brook Olsen is a Certified Parenting Educator with the International Network for Children and Families, a Certified Divorce Mediator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict, which offers perspectives and strategies for navigating a high conflict divorce. Brook's knowledge of how the nervous system works and understanding of the role it plays in psychological and physiological reactions to trauma, conflict and anxiety brings a holistic approach to his work with families caught in the High Conflict cycle. Brook teaches classes in the High Conflict Diversion Program and trains instructors to teach the Program throughout the U.S. and Canada. He also leads workshops in communication for couples and is a peer consultant for fellow professionals. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Our Family Wizard Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate  Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Brook's websiteBrook's podcastThe Black Hole of High ConflictBrook on InstagramBrook on Facebook Brook's Facebook Group for High Conflict Divorce Support  =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-320-the-black-hole-of-high-conflict-with-brook-olsen/  

Listener Questions: Managing Self-Awareness and High Conflict RelationshipsIn this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, tackle pressing listener questions about managing difficult relationships and developing self-awareness. The episode focuses particularly on handling interactions with individuals who display challenging personality traits and navigating complex relationship dynamics.Understanding Self-Awareness and Conflict ManagementBill and Megan explore the crucial role of self-awareness in managing high conflict tendencies. They emphasize that approximately 10% of people exhibit high conflict personality traits, with self-awareness being a key differentiator in relationship success. The hosts discuss practical tools like the BIFF (Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm) method and EAR statements for better communication.Navigating Complex RelationshipsThe discussion delves into strategies for dealing with challenging personalities in various contexts, including co-parenting situations and mediation. Bill and Megan stress the importance of setting realistic expectations and knowing when to try alternative approaches if initial strategies aren't working.Personal Change and External InfluencesAn important segment addresses how manipulative relationships can impact otherwise healthy individuals, potentially causing them to display uncharacteristic behaviors. The hosts explore the importance of maintaining personal boundaries and recognizing when to seek professional help.Questions we answer in this episode:How can someone who recognizes their own high conflict tendencies improve their relationships?What strategies work best when mediating with challenging personalities?Can manipulative relationships cause someone to display high conflict behaviors?How should one approach personality changes in relationships?What role do organizational structures play in conflict resolution?Key Takeaways:Self-awareness is crucial for managing high conflict tendenciesSet clear boundaries and know when to stop trying certain approachesSudden personality changes should prompt medical evaluationManipulative relationships can affect anyone's behaviorSupport systems and professional help are valuable resourcesThis episode provides valuable insights for anyone dealing with challenging relationships or working to improve their own conflict management skills. Bill and Megan offer practical tools and compassionate guidance while maintaining professional boundaries and emphasizing the importance of seeking appropriate medical and mental health support when needed.Links & Other NotesPROFESSIONAL TRAININGNew Ways for Mediation training for professionalsCOURSES & CLASSESNew Ways for Life (training to help young people learn 4 Big Skills)Conflict Influencer Group ClassBOOKS5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeOUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal or therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:40) - Listener Questions (02:02) - Question One (06:03) - Question Two (11:28) - Question Three (13:38) - Question Four (18:59) - Question Five (22:40) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Bully Bosses Learn more about our New Ways for Work Coaching sessions. Get started today!

In this episode, I'm joined by Bill Eddy—founder of the High Conflict Institute and a leader in the fields of mediation and conflict resolution. We talk about the complexities of high conflict personalities and the emotional dynamics that make certain discussions difficult to manage. Drawing from his background as both a therapist and a lawyer, Bill shares practical strategies for mediators, therapists, and anyone navigating emotionally charged conversations.We talk about the EAR method (Empathy, Attention, Respect), the BIFF approach (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm), and how social media fuels conflict dynamics. Whether you're dealing with legal disputes, family disagreements, or tough workplace conversations, this episode is packed with insights on how to manage conflict more effectively—without losing your cool.00:00 – Introduction to High Conflict Dynamics02:59 – Bill's Journey from Therapy to Law05:53 – What Defines a High Conflict Personality09:13 – Mediation Techniques & Emotional Insight11:08 – The Role of Emotion in Conflict15:34 – The EAR Method: Empathy, Attention, Respect22:52 – BIFF Responses: Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm33:07 – How Social Media Escalates Conflict44:12 – Practical Tips for Handling High Conflict SituationsFind Bill Eddy:High Conflict Institute Connect with Evelyn Marley:Instagram: @evelynmarleyWebsite: www.evelynmarleycoaching.comDownload the Free Guide:10 Ways to Say What You Mean (Without Starting a Fight)If you enjoyed this episode, leave a quick ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ rating or review—it really helps others find the show. And if someone you now is navigating difficult conversations please send it their way.high conflict, mediation, personality disorders, emotional management, conflict resolution, communication strategies, empathy, emotional intelligence, legal disputes, therapy, interpersonal relationships, social media, conflict management

In this powerful episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, Karen McMahon sits down with Craig Perra, a global leader in sex and porn addiction recovery. Craig explores the deep-rooted causes of compulsive sexual behavior, especially in high-achieving men and women navigating high-conflict divorce. He shares how lack of self-love, shame, and isolation fuel addiction—and how accountability and community drive healing. For partners of sex addicts, Craig offers empowering insights and guidance on separating their self-worth from their partner's behavior. Learn how to break toxic cycles, protect your children with healthy conversations about sexuality, and take real steps toward recovery. Connect with Craig: Website: https://mindfulhabithelp.com/ Book a call with Craig: https://mindfulhabithelp.com/book-a-call9273 Course Library: https://www.themindfulhabitonline.com/ Listen to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-afflictions-porn-addictions-with-craig-perra-sex/id556373664 Resources Mentioned in this episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg

Navigating Complex Family Dynamics: Your Questions AnsweredIn this listener-focused episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter address pressing questions about dealing with high conflict personalities in family relationships. The episode dives deep into managing challenging family dynamics, setting healthy boundaries, and understanding different conflict management styles.Family Relationships and High Conflict PersonalitiesBill and Megan explore a complex situation involving an adopted son who shows signs of high conflict behavior patterns. They discuss how early childhood experiences can shape adult relationships and offer insights into managing these challenging family dynamics while maintaining hope for positive change.Setting Boundaries with SiblingsThe episode examines the delicate balance of maintaining relationships with high conflict siblings while protecting personal boundaries. Bill and Megan provide practical strategies for managing distance in relationships without completely severing ties, emphasizing the importance of scheduled communication and clear expectations.Understanding Conflict AvoidanceThe hosts explore an interesting perspective on highly conflict-averse individuals and their relationship to high conflict situations. They discuss how different personality types interact with conflict and provide insights into professional approaches to managing high conflict situations.Questions we answer in this episode:How can parents maintain relationships with adult children who show high conflict behaviors?What strategies work best when a sibling with a high conflict personality wants more contact than you're comfortable giving?How should you respond to family members who sense your intentional distance?Is there such thing as a "highly conflict-averse personality"?How do different personality types handle conflict differently?Key Takeaways:Personality patterns typically stabilize by age 25Early childhood experiences significantly impact adult relationship patternsSetting boundaries doesn't mean cutting ties completelyRegular scheduled contact can help manage high conflict relationshipsProfessional help can provide valuable tools for managing family dynamicsThis episode offers valuable insights for anyone dealing with high conflict personalities in their family relationships. Through real-world examples and expert analysis, listeners gain practical tools for managing challenging relationships while maintaining their own emotional well-being.Links & Other NotesBOOKS5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeIt's All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for EverythingARTICLESLiving with High-Conflict People Series: Do's and Don'ts for living with a Histrionic High-Conflict PersonCOURSES & CLASSESNew Ways for Life (training to help young people learn 4 Big Skills)Conflict Influencer Group ClassOUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal or therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:36) - Listener Questions (01:50) - Catching Up (07:20) - Question One (18:31) - Question Two (26:24) - Question Three (37:39) - Wrap Up (37:57) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: More Listener Questions Learn more about our New Ways for Work Coaching sessions. Get started today!

Summary In this episode, Andy interviews Juliana Tafur, the inaugural director of the Bridging Differences Program at UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center. The conversation explores practical strategies for bridging divides in a polarized world, both in personal and professional contexts. Juliana shares insights from her experiences growing up in a divided Colombia, her work in the U.S. post-9/11, and research on bridging differences. The episode also covers the psychological roots of 'othering' and offers practical advice for fostering connections despite differences. Additionally, resources like the seven-day Campaign for Connection Challenge and the Bridging Differences Playbook are highlighted to help you apply these concepts in your daily life. What if you could get better at bridging divides in these polarized times? This episode will help you do that! Sound Bites "Disconnection is one of the evils of our time." "Our brains will always go to labeling. That is just how our brains function." "No one is a single label… we are so multi-dimensional." "Listening is truly like a hidden superpower." "Just by us listening, we are perceived as more trustworthy." "You can affirm their feelings while still disagreeing." "The value of humility, openness, curiosity, empathy—are not really front and center in our society." Chapters 00:00 Introduction 02:11 Start of Interview 02:24 Juliana's Background and Influences 04:29 Understanding 'Othering' and Tribalism 08:42 The Power of Listening with Compassion 10:33 Practical Steps for Deep Listening 16:40 Real-Life Examples of Bridging Divides 24:54 The Problem with Labels 27:10 The Seven Day Campaign for Connection Challenge 29:54 Resources for Bridging Differences 31:47 Teaching Kids to Bridge Differences 35:29 End of Interview 35:55 Andy's Comments After the Interview 39:23 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Juliana and her Bridging Differences program at GGSC.Berkeley.edu/What_we_do/Major_Initiatives/Bridging_Differences. You can download the Bridging Differences Playbook and access the Bridging Differences Videos from that page. For more learning on this topic, check out: Episode 380 with Monica Guzman about her book on a similar topic. Episode 371 with Amanda Ripley about her book High Conflict. Episode 276 with Buster Benson about his book Episode 284 with Peter Boghossian about having what seem like impossible conversations. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills Topics: Listening, Empathy, Connection, Polarization, Leadership, Communication, Conflict, Project Management The following music was used for this episode: Music: Ignotus by Agnese Valmaggia License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: Tropical Vibe by WinnieTheMoog License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company In this episode of Negotiate Anything, host Kwame Christian is joined by negotiation expert and attorney Rebecca Zung. Rebecca shares her insights on dealing with narcissists and bullies in negotiation settings, empowering listeners with strategies to shift from being victims to victors. She introduces her SLAY methodology, which stands for strategy, leverage, anticipate, and you, to help individuals confidently navigate high-conflict situations. This conversation is particularly relevant for anyone looking to refine their negotiation skills and effectively handle difficult personalities. What will be covered: Definition and identification of narcissistic behaviors in negotiation settings Rebecca Zung's SLAY methodology for negotiating with high-conflict individuals Strategies for setting boundaries and breaking free from toxic relationships Connect with Rebecca Rebecca's Website Follow Rebecca on LinkedIn Contact ANI Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn The Ultimate Negotiation Guide Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race! Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!