Podcasts about high conflict

When High Conflict Takes You By SurpriseLife can change dramatically when you unexpectedly encounter a person who demonstrates high conflict behavior. Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter from the High Conflict Institute in Scottsdale, Arizona, explore the unsettling experience of being blindsided by high conflict situations—whether in a new job, relationship, or family dynamic.Understanding the Impact of Unexpected High ConflictWhen high conflict behavior emerges unexpectedly, it often creates a destabilizing ripple effect. The initial confusion and self-doubt can leave anyone questioning their capabilities and judgment. This episode examines how these situations develop, from the early stages of confusion through the progression of mounting tension and isolation.Recognizing High Conflict PatternsThe most challenging aspect of surprise high conflict situations is their ability to create self-doubt in even the most confident individuals. What begins as an attempt to improve communication or performance often escalates into a pattern of increasing criticism and isolation. Understanding these patterns helps identify when you're dealing with high conflict behavior rather than typical workplace or relationship challenges.Questions We Answer in This EpisodeHow do you recognize when self-doubt stems from high conflict behavior?What makes group high conflict situations especially challenging?Why do attempts to "try harder" often backfire with high conflict people?How can you protect yourself from high conflict surprises?Key TakeawaysRemember "It's not about me" when facing unexpected criticism90% of people don't engage in high conflict behaviorPhysical distance can help manage high conflict situationsTrust your experience with non-high conflict relationshipsSetting clear limits with consequences can be effectiveHigh conflict surprises can happen to anyone, anywhere. This episode provides practical insights for recognizing, understanding, and managing these challenging situations while maintaining your confidence and perspective.Additional ResourcesExpert PublicationsIt's All Your Fault at Work! Dealing with Narcissists and Other High-Conflict People - Managing High Conflict Workplace Dynamics5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life - Understanding High Conflict BehaviorProfessional DevelopmentNew Ways for Couples & Families: Online relationship strengthening courseConflictInfluencer.com: Advanced conflict management training (Coming Soon)Connect With UsVisit High Conflict Institute: highconflictinstitute.comSubmit questions for Bill and MeganBrowse our complete collection of books and resources in our online store—available in print and e-book formatsFind these show notes and all past episode notes on our websiteImportant NoticeOur discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:32) - High Conflict Surprises (02:37) - Updates (03:32) - Bill's Example (09:07) - What Happens In Our Minds (11:03) - Progression and Impact (13:02) - CARS Method (20:23) - Recentering Yourself (23:59) - New on the Job (26:08) - High Conflict Traps (27:19) - Target of Blame (29:00) - Larger Groups (31:42) - Wrap Up (32:44) - Reminders Learn more about our New Ways for Work Coaching sessions. Get started today!

Relationship Reddit Stories, OP's ex-husband is accusing her of being high conflict regarding their children when she disagrees with the way he treats them.00:00 Intro00:18 Story u/EnterGingerbreadman09:40 Comments13:09 Update19:43 Comments24:54 Outro#redditupdate #redditrelationship #redditstoriesreddit Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. In this powerful episode of the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Drs. Ryan Reyna and James Hawkins dive deep into the critical challenge therapists face when entering couples sessions without a strategic approach. They explore the pitfalls of entering therapy unprepared and provide practical insights for maintaining therapeutic effectiveness. Conversation Outline: The Therapist's Challenge Emotional complexity of couples therapy Sacrifices therapists make in helping distressed relationships Importance of professional preparedness Risks of Entering Sessions Without a Plan Potential for therapist triangulation Tendency to mediate instead of facilitating healing Danger of getting caught in reactive cycles Strategic Therapeutic Approach Understanding the couple's emotional "muscle" Developing a flexible, adaptive therapeutic plan Focusing on attachment patterns rather than surface conflicts Emotional Regulation Strategies Preparing therapist's nervous system Recognizing and interrupting destructive interaction patterns Creating safety through structured intervention Closing Summary: Your preparedness, empathy, and commitment create a transformative space where healing becomes possible—one vulnerable moment at a time. Remember: In the landscape of human relationships, you are not just a therapist, but a skilled navigator helping couples rediscover their fundamental connection. Upcoming events, if you would like to train with James or Ryan… You can do a joint Core Skills (Colorado) with Lisa J. Palmer-Olsen & Dr. James Hawkins. Core Skills Modules 1 and 2 will be held October 8-10, 2025, and Core Skills Modules 3 and 4 will be held January 7-9, 2026. You can register at https://courses.efft.org/courses/2025-core-skills-colorado. October 15-18, 2025, you can do an Externship with James in beautiful Bend, Oregon. You can register at https://www.counseloregon.com. You can train with Ryan, as well as George Faller, doing a live and some time with James, at the annual Arkansas EFT Center externship. July 29-August 1, 2025, in person, in Fayetteville, Arkansas. https://www.arkansaseft.com/events/externship We would like to invite everyone to come hang out and learn with the SV team at the first-ever SV Focus Lab. This is an advanced, EFCT training intending to push the edge with a focus on nuance in application, illuminating EFT and Sue's incredible model.” You can learn more and register by going to https://www.svfocuslab.com. Leading edge listeners who register before July 1 with the code svfocuslab.com/leadingedge get a 10% discount. To support our mission and help us continue producing impactful content, your financial contributions via Venmo (@leftpodcast) are greatly appreciated. They play a significant role in keeping this valuable resource available and are a testament to your commitment to our cause. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

In this episode, I talk about why I prefer having 50/50 with a high-conflict coparenting as opposed to having full custody or primary custody. Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.

While we're on our hiatus, we're playing some of our popular episodes again from our ‘5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life' series. Enjoy!REBROADCASTIntroducing the 5 Types of High Conflict Personalities: Who Can Ruin Your Life? (Part 1)In this thought-provoking first episode of a new series on It's All Your Fault, Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, embark on an exploration of the five types of high conflict personalities who can wreak havoc in your life. Drawing from Bill's book "5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life," they provide a broad overview of these challenging personalities, setting the stage for a deeper dive into each type in upcoming episodes.Understanding High Conflict PersonalitiesBill and Megan illuminate the perplexing nature of high conflict personalities, emphasizing that these individuals often lack self-awareness and may not even realize the impact of their behavior on others. They stress the importance of recognizing patterns of behavior rather than focusing on isolated incidents, as high conflict personalities tend to exhibit consistent patterns of blame-shifting, all-or-nothing thinking, unmanaged emotions, and extreme behaviors.Navigating Relationships with High Conflict IndividualsThroughout the episode, Bill and Megan offer practical strategies for navigating relationships with high conflict personalities. They caution against common pitfalls, such as attempting to provide insight into the person's behavior or engaging in emotional arguments. Instead, they recommend focusing on the present, offering choices, and using the CARS method (Connect, Analyze, Respond, Set Limits) to de-escalate conflicts and maintain healthy boundaries.Questions we answer in this episode:Who are the five types of high conflict personalities that can ruin your life?What are the defining characteristics of a high conflict personality?How can I recognize patterns of high conflict behavior?What are the common mistakes to avoid when dealing with high conflict individuals?What can I expect from the upcoming episodes in this series?Key Takeaways:The five types of high conflict personalities can have a profound negative impact on your life if left unchecked.High conflict personalities often lack self-awareness and may not realize the impact of their behavior on others.Recognizing patterns of behavior is crucial when dealing with high conflict individuals.Avoid trying to provide insight, engaging in emotional arguments, focusing on the past, or labeling the person.Stay tuned for upcoming episodes that will explore each of the five types in greater depth, providing targeted strategies for managing these specific personalities.Whether you're dealing with a high conflict partner, family member, coworker, or friend, this episode sets the foundation for understanding and managing these challenging relationships. By introducing the five types of high conflict personalities and providing a broad overview of strategies for dealing with them, Bill and Megan offer listeners a roadmap for the upcoming series, which promises to deliver invaluable insights and tools for navigating life's most difficult interpersonal dynamics.Links & Other NotesBOOKS5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeARTICLESWho Are High-Conflict People?The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeFive Types of High-Conflict Personalities And their targets of blame—and sometimes violence.Anybody You Know? Predictable Characteristics of High Conflict PeopleCOURSESCourses for professional trainingCourses for individualsConflict Influencer Class (live virtual)OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:35) - 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (01:14) - Creating Awareness (05:54) - Starting to See It Differently (12:09) - Key Characteristics (21:35) - Options (22:40) - Four Forget-About-Its (26:03) - Four Things to Do (29:02) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Narcissistic High Conflict People Learn more about our Conflict Influencer Class. Get started today!

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Dr. Cocchiola sits down with Sybil Cummin, licensed therapist, play therapy expert, and founder of Rising Beyond, to discuss the hidden world of child therapy and coercive control.Sybil shares her front-line experience working with children who have been weaponized, silenced, and fractured by narcissistic or coercively controlling parents—especially in the context of family court and custody battles. She reveals how kids show their trauma in play, how therapists can (and often don't) catch the signs, and why protective parents are often the best therapists their kids have.

In this powerful episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia Krasko is joined by Nika Chadwick, an expert in navigating high-conflict co-parenting situations. They dive deep into understanding what high-conflict actually means, how to recognize it, and how to protect your peace and sanity while managing it. Whether you're facing constant drama, navigating court battles, or just trying to keep your home a safe and stable space for your family, this episode has you covered.Key Topics Covered:What High-Conflict Really Means: Understanding the difference between typical disagreements and true high-conflict situations.The Role of Personality Disorders: How traits like black-and-white thinking and an obsession with conflict can signal a high-conflict personality.Effective Documentation for Court: Tips for documenting incidents that actually matter in court and making your case stronger.The BIFF Communication Strategy: How to communicate with a high-conflict co-parent using messages that are brief, informative, friendly, and firm.Mental Health Protection: Why having a support system outside of family is crucial for your well-being.Real-Life Strategies and Tools: Practical methods like using a color-coded binder, leveraging apps for secure communication, and setting boundaries.Who This Episode Is For:Stepmoms dealing with a high-conflict ex.Anyone navigating a challenging co-parenting relationship.Parents preparing for a custody or court case.Those wanting to protect their mental and emotional health while co-parenting.Connect with Nika Chadwick:Instagram: @nikachadwickcoachingWebsite: NikaChadwick.comTikTok: @nikachadwickcoachingWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

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In this conversation, Bill Eddy discusses the BIFF method for responding to hostile communications, the importance of self-restraint in high-conflict situations, and strategies for protecting oneself in court. He emphasizes the need to keep communication simple and repetitive, and the significance of telling one's own story in legal contexts. The discussion also touches on the impact of family systems on emotional responses and the role of AI in communication strategies.Key TakeawaysBIFF responses help manage hostile communications effectively.Self-restraint is crucial when dealing with high-conflict personalities.Keeping communication simple and repetitive aids in clarity.Understanding family systems can help in managing emotional responses.Telling your own story is vital in legal situations.Protecting oneself from false allegations is essential in court.The BIFF method can be adapted for various communication scenarios.AI tools can mimic BIFF responses, but may not be effective for learning.Emotional stability is key in high-conflict situations.Resources and support are available for those dealing with high-conflict personalities.Chapters00:00 - Introduction to BIFF Responses and AI03:10 - Understanding Family Systems and Emotional Responses05:52 - The BIFF Method Explained09:04 - Self-Restraint in Communication12:13 - Protecting Yourself in High-Conflict Situations14:50 - Strategies for Court and High-Conflict Personalities17:50 - The Importance of Storytelling in Court20:47 - Final Thoughts and ResourcesIf you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:Email-      familydisappeared@gmail.comLinktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)Please donate to support PAA programs:https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSThis podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-hostGlaze Gonzales- Podcast ManagerConnect with Lawrence Joss:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

What if the parenting plan you're handed is the very thing that's keeping you stuck?   In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I'm joined by Samantha Boss, high-conflict divorce coach, mediator, and founder of The Ugly Truth of Divorce. Samantha shares how her own eight-year legal battle, toxic co-parenting dynamic, and expensive missteps led her to create a business helping women avoid the same fate. From diapers to diplomas, she now helps moms draft rock-solid parenting plans that reduce stress, prevent courtroom chaos, and give them their power back.   Resources Mentioned: Sign up for ReNewU waitlist to get early access: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche Higher Infrared Sauna Blanket use code AMBER 15: https://higherdose.com/products/infrared-sauna-blanket   What We Discuss: Red flags, parallel parenting, and recognizing high-conflict dynamics Radical acceptance and letting go of courtroom warfare  Why parenting plans should be created before hiring an attorney  What every plan should include (but usually doesn't)  Getting the most value out of your attorney relationship  Financial inequality, extracurriculars, and when to go back to court  When to let go of toxic money and create your own abundance  How starting her business changed her life (and income) Using your story to build something that matters  Why pivoting is normal and necessary    Key Takeaways: “Your parenting plan is a business contract. It's not about feelings, it's about clarity.” – Samantha Boss “The courtroom is not the place to heal your emotional wounds.” – Samantha Boss “You don't have to win in court to win in life after divorce.” – Samantha Boss   Find more from Samantha Boss: Website: www.samanthaboss.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theuglytruthofdivorce/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theuglytruthofdivorce YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TUTODwithsamboss   Find more from Amber: Instagram: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw

Inside the Lori Vallow Daybell Case: A Deep Dive into Criminal PsychologyBill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, dive deep into one of the most disturbing true crime cases in recent history—the Lori Vallow Daybell murders. The hosts explore the psychological aspects behind what led to multiple murders, including those of Vallow's own children, and examine potential personality patterns that may help explain such extreme behavior.The Complex Web of Personality and CrimeBill and Megan discuss how individuals who commit horrific acts often display patterns of behavior long before their crimes. They explore how Vallow's case may demonstrate characteristics associated with antisocial personality traits—combined with possible narcissistic tendencies. The hosts emphasize that these patterns often have genetic components rather than being solely the result of upbringing or environment.Understanding Family ImpactThe episode provides valuable insights into how family members process and heal from such traumatic events. Through examining Vallow's surviving son Colby's experience, Bill and Megan highlight the importance of understanding that what seems typical in childhood may later be recognized as problematic—leading to crucial healing opportunities.Questions we answer in this episode:What personality patterns might explain seemingly inexplicable criminal behavior?How do genetic factors influence personality development?Can early intervention help prevent antisocial behavior patterns?What role does narcissism play in high conflict cases?How do family members begin healing after discovering disturbing truths?Key Takeaways:Antisocial personality traits often emerge before age 12Early intervention is crucial for addressing concerning behaviorsGenetic factors play a significant role in personality developmentComplex cases often involve multiple personality patternsHealing requires understanding it wasn't family members' faultThis episode offers valuable insights for mental health professionals, law enforcement, and anyone seeking to understand complex criminal behavior. Through careful analysis of the Vallow case, listeners gain practical knowledge about personality patterns, family dynamics, and the importance of early intervention in preventing tragic outcomes.Links & Other NotesARTICLELori Vallow Daybell / Chad Daybell articleBOOKS5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict PersonalitiesSplitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Second Edition)ARTICLESViolence and Mental HealthSociopaths and their DeceptionsOUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal or therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:34) - Lori Vallow/Chad Daybell Murder (02:51) - Setting the Stage (06:36) - Thoughts on First Case (11:58) - Colby (13:50) - Anti-Social Personality Behavior (21:06) - Treating Younger Children (23:18) - Warning Signs (24:27) - Chad's Story (31:47) - Making Up ‘Truths' (34:16) - Narcissism (37:10) - Wrapping Up (38:48) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Shehrina Rooney and BPD Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

If you're stuck in endless loops with a high-conflict ex, Brook Olsen wants you to stop expecting them to change, and start changing how you respond. Brook is a Certified Parenting Educator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict. In this conversation, we get real about what happens when you stop feeding the conflict, why parallel parenting is often the only way forward, and how choosing not to engage isn't weakness, it's clarity.  Plus, Brook offers a framework that isn't just theory, it's deeply practical and actionable, especially when the legal system or co-parenting landscape isn't exactly on your side. Here's what else we get into, in this episode: Why disengagement is a laddered process, and how to stay in it (8:50) The nervous system's role in conflict and how to regulate your response (10:27) What conscious competence looks like in high-stress situations (28:57) The difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting (32:52) How to stop pushing back and start reclaiming your energy (36:10) Learn more about Brook Olsen: Brook Olsen is a Certified Parenting Educator with the International Network for Children and Families, a Certified Divorce Mediator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict, which offers perspectives and strategies for navigating a high conflict divorce. Brook's knowledge of how the nervous system works and understanding of the role it plays in psychological and physiological reactions to trauma, conflict and anxiety brings a holistic approach to his work with families caught in the High Conflict cycle. Brook teaches classes in the High Conflict Diversion Program and trains instructors to teach the Program throughout the U.S. and Canada. He also leads workshops in communication for couples and is a peer consultant for fellow professionals. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Our Family Wizard Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate  Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Brook's websiteBrook's podcastThe Black Hole of High ConflictBrook on InstagramBrook on Facebook Brook's Facebook Group for High Conflict Divorce Support  =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-320-the-black-hole-of-high-conflict-with-brook-olsen/  

Listener Questions: Managing Self-Awareness and High Conflict RelationshipsIn this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, tackle pressing listener questions about managing difficult relationships and developing self-awareness. The episode focuses particularly on handling interactions with individuals who display challenging personality traits and navigating complex relationship dynamics.Understanding Self-Awareness and Conflict ManagementBill and Megan explore the crucial role of self-awareness in managing high conflict tendencies. They emphasize that approximately 10% of people exhibit high conflict personality traits, with self-awareness being a key differentiator in relationship success. The hosts discuss practical tools like the BIFF (Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm) method and EAR statements for better communication.Navigating Complex RelationshipsThe discussion delves into strategies for dealing with challenging personalities in various contexts, including co-parenting situations and mediation. Bill and Megan stress the importance of setting realistic expectations and knowing when to try alternative approaches if initial strategies aren't working.Personal Change and External InfluencesAn important segment addresses how manipulative relationships can impact otherwise healthy individuals, potentially causing them to display uncharacteristic behaviors. The hosts explore the importance of maintaining personal boundaries and recognizing when to seek professional help.Questions we answer in this episode:How can someone who recognizes their own high conflict tendencies improve their relationships?What strategies work best when mediating with challenging personalities?Can manipulative relationships cause someone to display high conflict behaviors?How should one approach personality changes in relationships?What role do organizational structures play in conflict resolution?Key Takeaways:Self-awareness is crucial for managing high conflict tendenciesSet clear boundaries and know when to stop trying certain approachesSudden personality changes should prompt medical evaluationManipulative relationships can affect anyone's behaviorSupport systems and professional help are valuable resourcesThis episode provides valuable insights for anyone dealing with challenging relationships or working to improve their own conflict management skills. Bill and Megan offer practical tools and compassionate guidance while maintaining professional boundaries and emphasizing the importance of seeking appropriate medical and mental health support when needed.Links & Other NotesPROFESSIONAL TRAININGNew Ways for Mediation training for professionalsCOURSES & CLASSESNew Ways for Life (training to help young people learn 4 Big Skills)Conflict Influencer Group ClassBOOKS5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeOUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal or therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:40) - Listener Questions (02:02) - Question One (06:03) - Question Two (11:28) - Question Three (13:38) - Question Four (18:59) - Question Five (22:40) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Bully Bosses Learn more about our New Ways for Work Coaching sessions. Get started today!

Discover the transformative power of understanding family dynamics during high-conflict divorces in our latest episode, featuring insights from Adam Barta, a seasoned licensed clinical social worker. We promise you'll gain a new perspective on the importance of examining the entire family's environment rather than singling out a child's behavior in therapy. Adam takes us on a journey through the crucial elements of a trauma-informed approach, emphasizing the need to validate children's experiences as normal reactions to their circumstances, and shares his dedication to making mental health services accessible to everyone.Our conversation delves into the intricate world of co-parenting amid high-conflict separations, shedding light on the hurdles of fostering genuine collaboration between divorced parents for the benefit of their children. Together with Adam, we highlight the significance of legal accountability and the role of court systems in ensuring compliance with therapeutic recommendations. The episode also examines the utility of co-parenting plans and the profound impact of self-awareness as parents navigate their roles in ongoing conflicts. This discussion calls for a blend of resources, personal accountability, and legal frameworks to achieve effective co-parenting.Finally, we tackle the sensitive issue of parental behavior's impact on children, exploring the long-term consequences of one parent demonizing the other. The importance of allowing children to form unbiased, healthy relationships with both parents is underscored, along with the need to humanize the other parent despite personal grievances. We also introduce a ""Roadmap to Understanding Family Dynamics and Service Interventions,"" aimed at guiding parents, attorneys, and therapists through the tumultuous terrain of divorce. By the end of the episode, you'll have gained valuable insights into the complexities of custody, co-parenting challenges, and the pivotal role of teaching children resilience and adaptability as they grow into adulthood.

In this episode, I'm joined by Bill Eddy—founder of the High Conflict Institute and a leader in the fields of mediation and conflict resolution. We talk about the complexities of high conflict personalities and the emotional dynamics that make certain discussions difficult to manage. Drawing from his background as both a therapist and a lawyer, Bill shares practical strategies for mediators, therapists, and anyone navigating emotionally charged conversations.We talk about the EAR method (Empathy, Attention, Respect), the BIFF approach (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm), and how social media fuels conflict dynamics. Whether you're dealing with legal disputes, family disagreements, or tough workplace conversations, this episode is packed with insights on how to manage conflict more effectively—without losing your cool.00:00 – Introduction to High Conflict Dynamics02:59 – Bill's Journey from Therapy to Law05:53 – What Defines a High Conflict Personality09:13 – Mediation Techniques & Emotional Insight11:08 – The Role of Emotion in Conflict15:34 – The EAR Method: Empathy, Attention, Respect22:52 – BIFF Responses: Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm33:07 – How Social Media Escalates Conflict44:12 – Practical Tips for Handling High Conflict SituationsFind Bill Eddy:High Conflict Institute Connect with Evelyn Marley:Instagram: @evelynmarleyWebsite: www.evelynmarleycoaching.comDownload the Free Guide:10 Ways to Say What You Mean (Without Starting a Fight)If you enjoyed this episode, leave a quick ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ rating or review—it really helps others find the show. And if someone you now is navigating difficult conversations please send it their way.high conflict, mediation, personality disorders, emotional management, conflict resolution, communication strategies, empathy, emotional intelligence, legal disputes, therapy, interpersonal relationships, social media, conflict management

In this powerful episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, Karen McMahon sits down with Craig Perra, a global leader in sex and porn addiction recovery. Craig explores the deep-rooted causes of compulsive sexual behavior, especially in high-achieving men and women navigating high-conflict divorce. He shares how lack of self-love, shame, and isolation fuel addiction—and how accountability and community drive healing. For partners of sex addicts, Craig offers empowering insights and guidance on separating their self-worth from their partner's behavior. Learn how to break toxic cycles, protect your children with healthy conversations about sexuality, and take real steps toward recovery. Connect with Craig: Website: https://mindfulhabithelp.com/ Book a call with Craig: https://mindfulhabithelp.com/book-a-call9273 Course Library: https://www.themindfulhabitonline.com/ Listen to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-afflictions-porn-addictions-with-craig-perra-sex/id556373664 Resources Mentioned in this episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg

Navigating Complex Family Dynamics: Your Questions AnsweredIn this listener-focused episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter address pressing questions about dealing with high conflict personalities in family relationships. The episode dives deep into managing challenging family dynamics, setting healthy boundaries, and understanding different conflict management styles.Family Relationships and High Conflict PersonalitiesBill and Megan explore a complex situation involving an adopted son who shows signs of high conflict behavior patterns. They discuss how early childhood experiences can shape adult relationships and offer insights into managing these challenging family dynamics while maintaining hope for positive change.Setting Boundaries with SiblingsThe episode examines the delicate balance of maintaining relationships with high conflict siblings while protecting personal boundaries. Bill and Megan provide practical strategies for managing distance in relationships without completely severing ties, emphasizing the importance of scheduled communication and clear expectations.Understanding Conflict AvoidanceThe hosts explore an interesting perspective on highly conflict-averse individuals and their relationship to high conflict situations. They discuss how different personality types interact with conflict and provide insights into professional approaches to managing high conflict situations.Questions we answer in this episode:How can parents maintain relationships with adult children who show high conflict behaviors?What strategies work best when a sibling with a high conflict personality wants more contact than you're comfortable giving?How should you respond to family members who sense your intentional distance?Is there such thing as a "highly conflict-averse personality"?How do different personality types handle conflict differently?Key Takeaways:Personality patterns typically stabilize by age 25Early childhood experiences significantly impact adult relationship patternsSetting boundaries doesn't mean cutting ties completelyRegular scheduled contact can help manage high conflict relationshipsProfessional help can provide valuable tools for managing family dynamicsThis episode offers valuable insights for anyone dealing with high conflict personalities in their family relationships. Through real-world examples and expert analysis, listeners gain practical tools for managing challenging relationships while maintaining their own emotional well-being.Links & Other NotesBOOKS5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeIt's All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for EverythingARTICLESLiving with High-Conflict People Series: Do's and Don'ts for living with a Histrionic High-Conflict PersonCOURSES & CLASSESNew Ways for Life (training to help young people learn 4 Big Skills)Conflict Influencer Group ClassOUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal or therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:36) - Listener Questions (01:50) - Catching Up (07:20) - Question One (18:31) - Question Two (26:24) - Question Three (37:39) - Wrap Up (37:57) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: More Listener Questions Learn more about our New Ways for Work Coaching sessions. Get started today!

In this episode, Karen and Catherine discuss the financial impact of starting divorce from the courtroom versus the kitchen table — and why preparation is everything, especially in high-conflict and high net worth cases. They break down costly mistakes, emotional traps, and the importance of data-driven decisions over emotional reactions. Mentioned in the Episode: AMG National Trust article on financial planning in divorce - https://www.amgnational.com/navigating-the-complex-terrain-of-a-high-net-worth-divorce/  The Divorce Financial Portrait™ by My Divorce Solution - https://mydivorcesolution.com/  Have questions? Email us at WeChat@CK11.NET – we'd love to hear from you! Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered financial or legal advice. Please consult with professionals in the relevant fields for personalized guidance. The WeChat Divorce podcast (hereinafter referred to as the “WCD”) represents the opinions of Catherine Shanahan, Karen Chellew, and their guests to the show. WCD should not be considered professional or legal advice. The content here is for informational purposes only. Views and opinions expressed on WCD are our own and do not represent that of our places of work. WCD should not be used in any legal capacity whatsoever. Listeners should contact their attorney to obtain advice with respect to any particular legal matter. No listener should act or refrain from acting on the basis of information on WCD without first seeking legal advice from counsel in the relevant jurisdiction. No guarantee is given regarding the accuracy of any statements or opinions made on WCD. Unless specifically stated otherwise, Catherine Shanahan and Karen Chellew do not endorse, approve, recommend, or certify any information, product, process, service, or organization presented or mentioned on WCD, and information from this podcast should not be referenced in any way to imply such approval or endorsement. The third-party materials or content of any third-party site referenced on WCD do not necessarily reflect the opinions, standards or policies of Catherine Shanahan or Karen Chellew. WCD, CATHERINE SHANAHAN, AND KAREN CHELLEW EXPRESSLY DISCLAIM ANY AND ALL LIABILITY OR RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANY DIRECT, INDIRECT, INCIDENTAL, SPECIAL, CONSEQUENTIAL, OR OTHER DAMAGES ARISING OUT OF ANY INDIVIDUAL'S USE OF, REFERENCE TO, RELIANCE ON, OR INABILITY TO USE, THIS PODCAST OR THE INFORMATION PRESENTED IN THIS PODCAST. If you would like to obtain a typed transcript of this podcast episode, please email us at hello@mydivorcesolution.com. Please be sure to include the episode name in the transcript email request. Thank you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summary In this episode, Andy interviews Juliana Tafur, the inaugural director of the Bridging Differences Program at UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center. The conversation explores practical strategies for bridging divides in a polarized world, both in personal and professional contexts. Juliana shares insights from her experiences growing up in a divided Colombia, her work in the U.S. post-9/11, and research on bridging differences. The episode also covers the psychological roots of 'othering' and offers practical advice for fostering connections despite differences. Additionally, resources like the seven-day Campaign for Connection Challenge and the Bridging Differences Playbook are highlighted to help you apply these concepts in your daily life. What if you could get better at bridging divides in these polarized times? This episode will help you do that! Sound Bites "Disconnection is one of the evils of our time." "Our brains will always go to labeling. That is just how our brains function." "No one is a single label… we are so multi-dimensional." "Listening is truly like a hidden superpower." "Just by us listening, we are perceived as more trustworthy." "You can affirm their feelings while still disagreeing." "The value of humility, openness, curiosity, empathy—are not really front and center in our society." Chapters 00:00 Introduction 02:11 Start of Interview 02:24 Juliana's Background and Influences 04:29 Understanding 'Othering' and Tribalism 08:42 The Power of Listening with Compassion 10:33 Practical Steps for Deep Listening 16:40 Real-Life Examples of Bridging Divides 24:54 The Problem with Labels 27:10 The Seven Day Campaign for Connection Challenge 29:54 Resources for Bridging Differences 31:47 Teaching Kids to Bridge Differences 35:29 End of Interview 35:55 Andy's Comments After the Interview 39:23 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Juliana and her Bridging Differences program at GGSC.Berkeley.edu/What_we_do/Major_Initiatives/Bridging_Differences. You can download the Bridging Differences Playbook and access the Bridging Differences Videos from that page. For more learning on this topic, check out: Episode 380 with Monica Guzman about her book on a similar topic. Episode 371 with Amanda Ripley about her book High Conflict. Episode 276 with Buster Benson about his book Episode 284 with Peter Boghossian about having what seem like impossible conversations. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills Topics: Listening, Empathy, Connection, Polarization, Leadership, Communication, Conflict, Project Management The following music was used for this episode: Music: Ignotus by Agnese Valmaggia License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: Tropical Vibe by WinnieTheMoog License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

Negotiating with High Conflict Personalities: A Transformative ApproachIn this enlightening episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy from the High Conflict Institute welcome Michèle Huff, author of "The Transformative Negotiator: Changing the Way We Come to Agreement." Through her experience as a transactional lawyer and current executive director at UC Berkeley's Office of Business Contracts and Brand Protection, Huff shares insights that align perfectly with managing high conflict situations while maintaining humanity and connection.The conversation explores how Huff's unique approach to negotiation - emphasizing internal transformation and human connection - can be particularly effective when dealing with high conflict personalities. Drawing from Buddhist principles and years of experience in Silicon Valley, Huff explains how understanding oneself becomes crucial when facing challenging behaviors in negotiations. Bill and Megan connect these concepts to their extensive work with high conflict personalities, showing how transformative negotiation techniques can help manage difficult situations.The discussion delves into practical strategies for maintaining composure when faced with high conflict behaviors, including the use of "anchoring" techniques and mindful breathing. Particularly valuable is the exploration of how these methods can work even in high-stakes business environments where traditional aggressive negotiation tactics are common. The episode also addresses cultural differences in negotiation styles, offering insights into managing high conflict situations across cultural boundaries.Questions we answer in this episode:How do you maintain effectiveness when dealing with high conflict personalities?What techniques help keep negotiations productive when emotions run high?How can you recognize early warning signs of high conflict behavior in negotiations?When should you walk away from a negotiation?What role does self-awareness play in managing difficult negotiations?Key Takeaways:Understanding your own triggers helps manage high conflict situationsHuman connection can defuse potentially volatile negotiationsPhysical and emotional well-being directly impacts negotiation successSetting appropriate boundaries is crucial in high conflict situationsTransformative negotiation techniques work in both personal and professional contextsThis episode provides essential insights for anyone who deals with high conflict personalities in negotiations, from business professionals to mediators to individuals managing personal relationships. Huff's approach to transformative negotiation, combined with Bill and Megan's expertise in high conflict personalities, offers practical strategies for achieving better outcomes while maintaining professional boundaries and personal well-being.Links & Other NotesBOOKSThe Transformative Negotiator: Changing the Way We Come to Agreement (Revised & Updated Edition)Purchase on our website: https://www.unhookedmedia.com/stock/p/transformative-negotiator-fcgdxPurchase on AmazonGUEST MICHELE HUFF WEBSITEhttps://michelehuff.com/2nd-edition-book/ARTICLESRead Michele's blogOUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal of therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:43) - Michèle Huff (05:27) - Her Background (11:28) - Book's Title (13:15) - Soft Skills in Negotiations (17:37) - Transferring Skills (20:55) - Mistakes in Negotiating (25:51) - Negotiating with HCPs (34:28) - Caring and Authenticity (40:38) - Finding Your Anchors and Keeping Deadlines at Bay (45:53) - Resistance (50:27) - Dedication (54:13) - Wrap Up (55:00) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Kara Rubenstein on DNA Surprises Learn more about our Conflict Influencer Class. Get started today!

Send us a textThis week Amanda and Alex sat down with Samantha Boss, better known as The Ugly Side of Divorce, and chatted about the realities of co-parenting with a high-conflict ex.  Learn about specifics you must include as non-negotiables if you plan on successfully co-parenting, or, more than likely, parallel parent.Samantha works with clients one-on-one, hosts a master class and creates personalized parenting plans, all found at samanthaboss.com.Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed by our podcast guest are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or the podcast. We value diverse perspectives and aim to provide a platform for thoughtful discussion and exploration of different ideas.Got any comments, suggestions or queries? We'd love to hear from you! DM us on Instagram @dirty.laundry.podcast to be featured on one of our upcoming episodes. Also, don't forget to rate and review our show on your favourite podcast player.

On today's “Extra” podcast, we discuss Amanda Ripley's excellent 2021 book High Conflict, and I share some principles for becoming a discerning consumer of news in this partisan and polarized media environment. Today's podcast episode is based on my “Editor's Notebook” from last Friday, which you can read here. The producer of today's program is Jeff McIntosh. Until next time, may God bless you.

Summary In this episode, Andy interviews Christian van Nieuwerburgh and Robert Biswas-Diener, authors of the book Radical Listening: The Art of True Connection. The discussion explores the concept of radical listening, distinguishing it from active listening and emphasizing the importance of creating genuine connections through intent, curiosity, and acknowledgment. Christian and Robert share personal anecdotes and practical applications of their listening framework, both in professional settings and personal relationships. They also address the impact of cultural differences on listening practices and provide tips for parents to improve communication with their children. The conversation culminates in an insightful look at the barriers to effective listening and strategies to overcome them. Whether to help you with your teams at work or loved ones at home, this is a must-listen! Sound Bites "Your intention will guide your attention." "I started questioning active listening when I started thinking about how much I summarize when I'm with my friends, which is to say I never do it!" "If I just go in thinking, ‘What can I learn from the conversation?' that is going to completely direct what I'm paying attention to." "Acknowledgement can't just be, ‘I have goodwill towards you.' It actually has to be demonstrated." "So one day I thought, ‘Look, I've been shouting, I've grounded the kid, I've taken away his computer, I've done everything… maybe I just need to understand what's going on.'" "Not a small portion of my friends, colleagues, and family members were surprised to hear that I was writing a book on listening" Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:59 Start of Interview 02:17 What Does Radical Listening NOT Mean? 04:54 Distinguishing Radical Listening from Active Listening 07:14 When Were You Recently in Listening Mode? 11:30 Handling Difficult Conversations with a Team Member 16:12 Difficult Conversation with a Relative With Different Political Views 20:22 Acknowledging and Interjecting in Conversations 28:22 Cultural Considerations in Radical Listening 28:53 Understanding Cultural Scripts in Conversations 33:21 The Importance of Respectful Listening 35:51 Personal Challenges in Listening 37:31 Applying Listening Skills in Parenting 42:06 End Of Interview 42:30 Andy Comments After The Interview 47:42 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Christian at CoachOnAMotorcycle.com. Also, learn more about Robert at RobertDiener.com. For more learning on this topic, check out: Episode 371 with Amanda Ripley about her book High Conflict. Episode 195 with Celeste Headlee about her book on communication. Episode 108 with Doug Stone about his book on receiving feedback. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills Topics: Listening, Communication, Active Listening, Leadership, Relationships, Engagement, Cultural Sensitivity, Communication Skills, Project Management The following music was used for this episode: Music: Brooklyn Nights by Tim Kulig License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: Synthiemania by Frank Schroeter License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

Have a quick question to be explored on the show? Send us a text message! Include your email address if you would like a personal response. Click HEREToday, we are replaying one of our most popular episodes entitled “Narcissists in Co-Parenting.” We also want you to know that starting this week, we are taking a podcast pause for a little while to re-evaluate where we go from here. There is a lot of content for you to listen to while we're on pause. If you are a new listener, this will give you time to catch up. You might want to start with episode one and work through all of them at your own pace. If you're one of our many faithful followers, we thank you for your weekly participation with us on our journey, and encourage you to go back and re-listen to some episodes. We know that as co-parents grow in their journey, they are more prepared to hear certain things after some growth than they were when they initially heard them. For our Patreon listeners, we will be communicating directly with you about your subscription and about the Hump Day Help Group, so look for messages about that this week. Thanks for listening and please continue to message us through the website if you have questions or feedback. Much love to you all. Support the show >>>>CONTACT US >>>>RATE THE SHOW >>>>VISIT OUR WEBSITE CO-PARENT RESOURCES: Subscribe to Diane's DAILY DEVOTIONAL FOR FRUSTRATED CO-PARENTS and get a 7-day FREE trial OR give it as a gift If you want to learn more about Diane & Rick's D.R.A.G.O.N. method for finding co-parenting peace, purchase their book, I AM NON-IMPOSSIBLE THE CO-PARENT TOOLBOX , is Diane Dierks' guide for co-parents CLICK HERE for FREE communication resources for co-parents For valuable co-parent workshop videos and products, visit our Non-Impossible STORE! To get a special discount on therapy visit BetterHelp FOR DIVORCE PROFESSIONAL...

Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company In this episode of Negotiate Anything, host Kwame Christian is joined by negotiation expert and attorney Rebecca Zung. Rebecca shares her insights on dealing with narcissists and bullies in negotiation settings, empowering listeners with strategies to shift from being victims to victors. She introduces her SLAY methodology, which stands for strategy, leverage, anticipate, and you, to help individuals confidently navigate high-conflict situations. This conversation is particularly relevant for anyone looking to refine their negotiation skills and effectively handle difficult personalities. What will be covered: Definition and identification of narcissistic behaviors in negotiation settings Rebecca Zung's SLAY methodology for negotiating with high-conflict individuals Strategies for setting boundaries and breaking free from toxic relationships Connect with Rebecca Rebecca's Website Follow Rebecca on LinkedIn Contact ANI Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn The Ultimate Negotiation Guide Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race! Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!

Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company In this episode of Negotiate Anything, host Kwame Christian is joined by negotiation expert and attorney Rebecca Zung. Rebecca shares her insights on dealing with narcissists and bullies in negotiation settings, empowering listeners with strategies to shift from being victims to victors. She introduces her SLAY methodology, which stands for strategy, leverage, anticipate, and you, to help individuals confidently navigate high-conflict situations. This conversation is particularly relevant for anyone looking to refine their negotiation skills and effectively handle difficult personalities. What will be covered: Definition and identification of narcissistic behaviors in negotiation settings Rebecca Zung's SLAY methodology for negotiating with high-conflict individuals Strategies for setting boundaries and breaking free from toxic relationships Connect with Rebecca Rebecca's Website Follow Rebecca on LinkedIn Contact ANI Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn The Ultimate Negotiation Guide Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race! Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!

In this no-holds-barred solo episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, Erica dives into one of the most overused (and misunderstood) labels in modern relationships—narcissism. She breaks down why calling your ex a narcissist might be doing more harm than good, how to tell the difference between a true narcissist and someone who's just acting like an asshole, and what to do if you're stuck co-parenting with one.If you're navigating post-divorce chaos, dealing with a difficult ex, or wondering if you're co-parenting with a manipulative mastermind, this episode will give you a fresh (and probably unexpected) perspective.

Send us a text“Am I a horrible parent?” “Why does my child have constant meltdowns?” “How can I rebuild my relationship with my child?” – Everyday, parents worldwide ask themselves these questions as they struggle to navigate their childrens' behavioral challenges. Today, Sophia Mills sits down with Lisa Chan, a Pediatric Occupational Therapist and parent coach. Ms. Chan shares invaluable expertise on sailing the rough seas of high-conflict family dynamics and how we can address difficult behavior in our children. She presents effective strategies for parents, explains how important it is to change from a mindset of fixing to a mindset of supporting, and gives tips on building authentic connections with your children that allow you to empower emotional regulation and resilience. This episode is truly invaluable for each and every parent, whether your children have behavioral challenges or you just have teenagers who love to ignore authority. Click play to receive practical tools and resources to strengthen your family's bond in the most challenging times you will face.

Have a quick question to be explored on the show? Send us a text message! Include your email address if you would like a personal response. Click HEREDiane & Rick answer listener Rachel's question about how to respond to her kids when their dad has asked them to keep a secret from her.  They explore different ways kids are put in the middle with secret-keeping and the risks associated with it.FIRST TWO WEDNESDAYS IN MARCH: Attend the weekly Hump Day Wednesdays via Zoom for FREE by coming a FREE Patreon member. This is a great way to get your questions answered personally by Diane or Rick! OUR SHOW HAS GONE VIDEO!VIEW THE VIDEO OF THIS  EPISODE ON YOUTUBE!This week's GOOD NEWS STORYWHAT'S HAPPENING LINKS:Diane's new DAILY DEVOTIONAL FOR FRUSTRATED CO-PARENTS has been released. To get a free 7-day trial,  CLICK HERE!IMPACT Training for Professionals - do you want to build a thriving team practice to help high conflict co-parents? Consider our IMPACT training for your practice groupFaith That Challenges. Conversations that Matter. Laughs included. Subscribe Now!Breaking down faith, culture & big questions - a mix of humor with real spiritual growth. Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showWant to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook groupFind us on X (Twitter) and Instagram @CPDilemmasIf you are a professional working with high-conflict co-parents, join our LinkedIn group.Have a co-parent dilemma? Email Diane@CPDilemmas.com Become a Non-Impossible VIP Listener for some really cool perks!To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit https://www.BetterHelp.com/DilemmaRATE THE SHOW!CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics

When High Conflict at Home Impacts the WorkplaceIn this powerful episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore how personal conflicts and challenging situations at home can significantly affect workplace performance and mental wellbeing. The hosts dive deep into understanding the impact of home-based stress on professional life, while offering practical solutions for both employees and employers dealing with these situations.The episode examines how criticism, verbal abuse, and high conflict situations at home can deplete an individual's emotional resources before they even arrive at work. Bill and Megan discuss the neuroscience behind stress responses, particularly focusing on how the amygdala's fight-or-flight response can impact professional performance. They explore how encouraging self-statements can act as a protective shield against negative emotions and criticism.A significant portion of the discussion centers on workplace dynamics and communication strategies. Bill and Megan provide valuable insights into when and how to communicate with employers about personal situations, emphasizing the importance of maintaining appropriate boundaries while seeking support. They also address the employer's perspective, offering guidance on creating supportive workplace environments without compromising professional standards.Questions we answer in this episode:How does high conflict at home affect workplace performance?What strategies can employees use to manage personal stress at work?When should an employee disclose personal conflicts to their employer?How can employers support staff dealing with high conflict situations?What role do encouraging self-statements play in managing conflict?Key Takeaways:Encouraging self-statements can help block negative emotionsPersonal conflicts can significantly impact workplace performanceThe BIF method (Brief, Informative, Friendly and firm) helps manage difficult communicationsConsider consulting EAP resources before discussing issues with employersEmployers should lead with empathy while maintaining appropriate boundariesThis episode provides essential insights for anyone navigating the challenging intersection between personal conflicts and professional life. Whether you're an employee dealing with high conflict situations at home or an employer seeking to support your team members effectively, this discussion offers practical, actionable strategies for maintaining workplace productivity while supporting mental health and wellbeing.Links & Other NotesNEWSLETTERSign upBOOKS5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeBIFF at WorkIt's All Your Fault at Work!ARTICLESNew Ways for Work®: A New Coaching MethodCOURSESNew Ways for Work®: Training for Leaders (for managers, supervisors, etc. to learn how to handle high-conflict at work)New Ways for Work®: Training for Coaches (for workplace coaches to learn this method to use with clients/coachees)CLASSES: Conflict Influencer™ Class (to learn how to deal with high-conflict) OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal of therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:37) - Impact Inside the Workplace when High Conflict's Happening Outside of It (02:06) - Catching Up (05:52) - What High Conflict Feels Like When You're Involved In It (08:17) - Criticism and Beyond (11:23) - Stress and the Brain (14:01) - Conflict Tolerance (17:34) - When You Have to Go to Work (21:01) - Encouraging Statements (23:49) - High Conflict Interruptions (27:56) - Talking to Your Employer (32:24) - If You're the Employer (36:07) - Wrap Up (37:05) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: TBD Learn more about our New Ways for Work Coaching sessions. Get started today!

Ross Rosenberg, a psychotherapist with 38 years of experience, discusses high-conflict divorces with Brook Olsen, a Certified Parenting Educator, Divorce Mediator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict. Although Ross and Brook have different backgrounds, their understanding and solutions for achieving positive results in high-conflict divorces with narcissists are similar and complementary. The Self-Love Recovery Institute's Self-Love Mailbag is mentioned in the podcast. To be considered for the question answered at the end of the podcast, email us at help@ selfloverecovery.com  In addition, an exclusive discount of a FREE seminar when you purchase two other seminars at  https://www.selfloverecovery.com/collections/video-seminars. Use code: B2G125Consider subscribing to Ross Rosenberg's/Self-Love Recovery Institute's new Patreon Subscription where you can have access to exclusive content, insights, and services. https://www.patreon.com/RossRosenbergSLRIatreon Support the showABOUT ROSS ROSENBERGRoss Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure)Instagram (@rosSupport the showABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure) Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri) Twitter (@RossRosenberg1) and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

Co-parenting after divorce is hard enough—but when every decision turns into a battle, it can feel impossible. Are you stuck in a cycle of never-ending arguments over schedules, school decisions, or medical choices? Do your attempts at communication seem to fuel more conflict rather than resolve it? If you're navigating a high-conflict co-parenting dynamic, you may be wondering if there's a way to break free from the chaos. In this episode, we explore an underutilized yet powerful resource: Parenting Coordinators—who they are, what they do, and how they can help you move from constant tension to a more peaceful co-parenting arrangement. We'll dive into the complexities of parenting coordination, exploring how these professionals act as neutral facilitators to help parents make decisions, reduce conflict, and create a more stable environment for their children. What does a Parenting Coordinator actually do? When should you consider working with one? And how can they help enforce or modify a parenting plan without dragging you back into court? If you're feeling exhausted by the emotional toll of co-parenting disputes, this episode will give you insights into how a Parenting Coordinator might be the missing piece in your post-divorce journey. Joining us is Carolyn Kalos, a seasoned family lawyer, mediator, and parenting coordinator with over 25 years of experience in family law. Carolyn has seen firsthand the toll that ongoing conflict takes on parents and children, and she specializes in helping families find practical, sustainable solutions outside of court. From her work as a trial attorney to her extensive mediation and training experience, Carolyn brings a wealth of knowledge on navigating high-conflict parenting situations. Whether you're considering a Parenting Coordinator or simply want to understand your options, this conversation will offer valuable insights into making co-parenting smoother and less stressful. Tune in! Connect with Carolyn: Website: https://www.dfkfamilylaw.com/ More about Parent Coodinating: https://www.dfkfamilylaw.com/services/parenting-coordination/ Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  A word from our sponsor: TalkingParents provides a comprehensive platform designed to simplify co-parenting and enhance communication between parents. With secure messaging, a shared calendar, and features for tracking parenting time, TalkingParents ensures that all important details and agreements are documented and accessible.  We're grateful for TalkingParents' support in simplifying co-parenting and enhancing communication for our listeners. Discover how TalkingParents can bring clarity and organization to your co-parenting journey at www.talkingparents.com/jbd  

Mike “C-Roc” welcomes renowned attorney, bestselling author, and high-conflict negotiation expert Rebecca Zung. The conversation kicks off with C-Roc sharing a personal experience of being deposed, setting the stage for a deep dive into Rebecca's expertise in conflict resolution and negotiation. Rebecca shares her journey, emphasizing the power of love and self-awareness as the foundation of her success. She discusses the importance of mindset, surrounding oneself with the right people, and daily practices such as journaling and meditation to stay grounded.Rebecca also reflects on the role of fear versus love in decision-making, noting that leading from the heart fosters growth and impact. The discussion expands to personal development, with both "C-Roc" and Rebecca highlighting the importance of recognizing one's own power and not placing others on a pedestal. They explore the idea of shifting from a "trauma self" to a "soul self" and maintaining a mindset of abundance rather than scarcity. Throughout the episode, Rebecca shares wisdom on overcoming obstacles, achieving success, and living with intention. Tune in for an insightful conversation that will inspire you to embrace your true potential and take control of your narrative.Website- https://www.rebeccazung.com/Social Media Links/Handles-https://www.facebook.com/rebeccazung/https://www.instagram.com/rebeccazung/https://x.com/rebeccazunghttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnhT4fBE1OWOn7c0Quxdf4w

Amanda Ripley has extensively studied anti-fragility and resilience. She is an investigative Journalist of three books, including High Conflict, The Smartest Kids In The World and a her latest, The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes, and Why. She has reported for The Atlantic, Politico, the Washington Post, Time Magazine and other outlets, and her work has helped Time win two National Magazine Awards. Amanda joined host Robert Glazer on the Elevate Podcast to discuss reforming the education system, building resilience, and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

School events, parent-teacher conferences, and sports games should be about your child—but when you're co-parenting with a difficult ex, they can feel like an emotional minefield. If you've ever felt anxious, frustrated, or downright uncomfortable being in the same room as your ex at school functions, this episode is for you.Today, we're diving into the real challenges moms face when co-parenting with a high-conflict ex at school events—awkward encounters, passive-aggressive comments, the silent treatment, or even outright tension. I'll share why avoiding these events isn't the answer, how your presence impacts your child, and the mindset shifts you need to show up with confidence.Want the exact strategies to handle these moments with grace, set boundaries without saying a word, and leave the event feeling empowered—not drained? Join us inside The Next Chapter membership for the full School Events Survival Guide workshop, where I break it all down step by step.

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a conflict that seems impossible to resolve? What if there was a way to break these cycles of intense conflict? Amanda Ripley joins Today's Conversation to explore why some conflicts spiral out of control — and how we can shift the outcome.As our country grapples with such high levels of conflict, NAE President Walter Kim and Amanda Ripley, author of “High Conflict” and co-founder of Good Conflict, dive into how conflicts escalate, the psychology behind heated disagreements, and practical steps to transform high conflict into good conflict.You'll also hear them discuss:The factors that fuel high conflict in relationships and society;Actionable steps to take in high-conflict moments, such as on an airplane or polling station;Biblical examples of navigating high-conflict situations; andHow to enter into productive conflict through vulnerability and humility.Find the Show Notes Here: https://www.nae.org/aripleypodcast/ ‎

Co-parenting is already tough—but when your ex constantly plays the victim and paints you as the villain, it can feel impossible. Whether they're twisting the story to friends, family, teachers, or even your child, the emotional toll is real. In this episode, we're diving into:

Have a quick question to be explored on the show? Send us a text message! Include your email address if you would like a personal response. Click HEREDiane & Rick bring together a group of pediatricians and moms who have difficult co-parents to discuss innovative ways to work together. Kids of divorce often get stuck in the middle when a high-conflict co-parent weaponizes the medical community, leaving the other parent feeling marginalized and misunderstood. They discuss various ways parents use medical professionals to their legal advantage and what professionals might do to minimize the conflict instead of unwittingly making it worse.  WHAT'S HAPPENING LINKS:Diane's new DAILY DEVOTIONAL FOR FRUSTRATED CO-PARENTS has been released. To get a free 7-day trial,  CLICK HERE!Attend the weekly Hump Day Wednesdays via Zoom for only $10/month (exclusively for Patreon VIPs). This is a great way to get your questions answered personally by Diane or Rick! Purchase a one-year Patreon VIP subscription and receive the I Am Non-Impossible journal. To purchase the journal, CLICK HERE.IMPACT Training for Professionals - do you want to build a thriving team practice to help high conflict co-parents? Consider our IMPACT training for your practice groupSupport the showWant to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook groupFind us on X (Twitter) and Instagram @CPDilemmasIf you are a professional working with high-conflict co-parents, join our LinkedIn group.Have a co-parent dilemma? Email Dilemma@CPDilemmas.com Become a Non-Impossible VIP Listener for some really cool perks!To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/DilemmaRATE THE SHOW!CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics

Christina welcomes back Courtney and introduces Courtney's husband, Mark. Courtney and Mark have been through a lot together and share their experience in dealing with high conflict, endless court battles, false allegations and how they managed to preserve their marriage in the process. Courtney speaks about her newly published book, “Uncaged” and gives her words of support and wisdom to other women feeling the weight of expectations. Has your health ever been impacted by the stress of stepmotherhood? Do you ever feel consumed by drama and conflict? Listen in as Courtney shares about her journey through health and healing.  About My Guest:  Courtney is a fiercely loving momma, wife, and stepmom who lives on the East Coast with her family and furbaby, Dexter. She finds that her perfectly imperfect soul is most at peace when she is closest to a body of water. Drawing inspiration from life's waves—both calm and stormy—she channels her passion for happily ever after into all facets of her life. Dr. Courtney is a seasoned divorce recovery specialist, mindset mentor, and co-parenting coach who also holds a DNP, a doctorate degree in Nursing. Her first life career, coupled with a traumatic family court journey, transitioned her into her second life career where she has dedicated her life to turning pain into purpose. When she's not coaching, you can find her soaking up the coastal breeze looking for sea glass, writing in a quiet corner, or creating memories with her family. Check out Courtney's book, "Uncaged" Find her on IG - @drcourt_everafter Or her website So much more than a podcast!!! Instagram: @radicalstepmomspodcast Schedule with a 1:1 with Christina Become a Member and meet other radical stepmoms! www.radicalstepmomspodcast.com

Have a quick question to be explored on the show? Send us a text message! Include your email address if you would like a personal response. Click HEREUtah listener Heather wonders what more she can do to protect her two sons from their verbally abusive father. The 14-year-old explodes with dad, while the 13-year-old son witnesses the drama and tries to keep things from getting worse. Diane& Rick discuss the different roles children play in the family system and what Heather can do to help each child feel emotionally safe (while also complying with the court-ordered custody arrangement).WHAT'S HAPPENING LINKS:This Week's GOOD NEWS STORYIf you'd like to be part of our Pediatrician/Co-Parent brainstorming session on January 28th (on Zoom) at 2:00 pm (EST), sign up HERE!Diane's new DAILY DEVOTIONAL FOR FRUSTRATED CO-PARENTS has been released. To get a free 7-day trial,  CLICK HERE!Attend the weekly Hump Day Wednesdays via Zoom for only $10/month (exclusively for Patreon VIPs). This is a great way to get your questions answered personally by Diane or Rick! Purchase a one-year Patreon VIP subscription and receive the I Am Non-Impossible journal. To purchase the journal, CLICK HERE. IMPACT Training for Professionals - do you want to build a thriving team practice to help high conflict co-parents? Consider our IMPACT training for your practice groupSupport the showWant to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook groupFind us on X (Twitter) and Instagram @CPDilemmasIf you are a professional working with high-conflict co-parents, join our LinkedIn group.Have a co-parent dilemma? Email Dilemma@CPDilemmas.com Become a Non-Impossible VIP Listener for some really cool perks!To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/DilemmaRATE THE SHOW!CLICK HERE to subscribe to our monthly podcast email to get a sneak peak into upcoming topics

Mike "C-Roc" Ciorrocco is a performance coach, author, dynamic public speaker, tech visionary, and thought leader. He co-founded the innovative tech platform Blooprinted, hosts the "What Are You Made Of?" podcast, and authored the best-selling book ROCKET FUEL: Convert Setbacks. Become Unstoppable. Recognized by Yahoo! Finance as one of the Top Business Leaders to Follow in 2020, Mike is on a mission to build unstoppable people by helping them break free from complacency and achieve untapped levels of success. Instagram: @mikeycroc Website: https://that1agency.com/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-are-you-made-of/id1710968531 Book: ROCKET FUEL: Convert Setbacks. Become Unstoppable __________________________________________________________________ Check out my FREE Live webinar, the EXPOSE THE NARCISSIST IN COURT: INSIDER SECRETS TO WIN YOUR CASE RIGHT HERE Learn more about the SLAY Your Negotiation with Narcissists program right here:  https://slay.rebeccazung.com/slay-it-now-a ___________________________________ _________________________________ For more information on REBECCA ZUNG, ESQ. visit her website www.rebeccazung.com and follow her on Instagram: @rebeccazung and YouTube!  GRAB YOUR FREE CRUSH MY NEGOTIATION PREP WORKSHEET RIGHT HERE!  SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL RIGHT HERE. THIS WEEK'S SPONSOR INFORMATION:   ❤️ Shopify : Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/bestlife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are. But you're also filled with tiny organisms that fart. Links: Burnout (our book) Starling murmuration 2020 (youtube video) High Conflict by Amanda Ripley My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem Coca-Cola's 'Hilltop' Ad ("I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing") (youtube) Brandon Sanderson's "The Stormlight Archive" series (Amelia's excerpt is from book 5.) The Bubble of Love (FSP2020 episode 11)

In this episode Brook and his guests Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from the podcast Been There Got Out discuss the notion of High Conflict Detox. This is where a person/parent is stuck deeply in the habitual cycle of conflict and the nervous system maintains a high level of chronic activation. In order to break the cycle one must endure the discomfort of disengagement, develop a self awareness of the cycle in order to break free of the strong impulse to engage in and continue the conflict. This conflict pattern is very much physiological and can be mastered. Enjoy!!! You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and Facebook. Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails And join our membership site at Disengage.highconflict.net   

In this episode Brook has esteemed guest, researcher, professor and author of the Polyvagal Theory, Dr. Steven Porges. Brook and Dr. Porges have a robust and educational conversation about how the vagus nerve influences the fear response, social connections and emotional regulations. It is important to understand the functional brain response in order to cognitively intervene for self regulation. This is an amazing conversation for anyone caught in high conflict or navigating life in general. Listen, Learn and Enjoy!!! Learn more about Dr. Porges at his  website https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: “When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work.” https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

Bill Eddy is a lawyer, licensed therapist and professional mediator. He's also the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute, pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory to help explain the behaviors of the most "difficult" difficult people and ways to manage relationships with them.  Today on the show we discuss: The best way to spot someone who will be a problem in your life, the truth definition of someone who is considered high conflict or has a personality disorder, how to communicate with someone that won't take responsibility for their problems, what a healthy level of conflict looks like in a relationship, when is it time to walk away from a relationship, how to work on growing a relationship and much more. Thanks to this episode's sponsor: MitoLux Head to www.mitolux.com and enter promo code DOUG at checkout for 10% off your first order. ⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠ Please be advised; the topics related to health and mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your health or mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you've consumed. If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately. If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help: Emergency Medical Services—911 If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.  SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are there people in your life who are conflict connoisseurs? People who really love stirring the pot, who are addicted to drama? In response to you being upset, these types of people might rile you up or suggest you should be angrier rather than talking you off a ledge. I know many of you are not into stirring the pot but find yourselves with high conflict lovers in your life, which can be stressful. That's why I'm talking about high conflict versus healthy conflict, how to identify high-conflict people and protect yourself from them, and steps for more constructive ways to manage conflict. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/658

In this episode, my guest is Bill Eddy, a lawyer, licensed therapist, professional mediator, and faculty member at the Pepperdine University School of Law. He specializes in identifying, reducing friction with, and disentangling from high-conflict individuals. We explain how high-conflict personalities differ from personality disorders and examine the cycles of blame and drama that cause persistent conflict in their relationships. We discuss how to quickly recognize high-conflict individuals based on specific criteria and behaviors, helping listeners learn to spot their less obvious tactics. You'll also learn how to disengage from them with minimal friction and understand the methods they use to draw people back in or keep conflict alive. Additionally, we cover effective communication strategies for mediating situations involving high-conflict individuals, emphasizing empathy and problem-solving approaches. This episode equips listeners with tools to navigate conflict in various contexts, promoting resolutions that benefit all parties involved. Access the full show notes for this episode at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Maui Nui Venison: https://mauinuivenison.com/huberman ExpressVPN: https://expressvpn.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman David Protein: https://davidprotein.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Bill Eddy 00:02:58 Sponsors: Maui Nui & ExpressVPN 00:06:41 High-Conflict Families, High-Conflict Individuals & Patterns 00:10:48 Personality Disorders, Prevalence & Overlap 00:18:28 High-Conflict Personality vs. Personality Disorders, Blame 00:24:33 High-Conflict Individuals, Tool: First-Year Rule & Commitment 00:30:53 Sponsor: AG1 00:32:05 Relationship Stability, Tool: Vetting Potential Partners 00:38:54 Heightened Emotions, Negative Advocates, Divorce 00:47:50 Brain, Plasticity & Fear; Bullies, Polarization 00:54:51 Sponsors: Function & David 00:58:00 Emotions, Media, Politics 01:04:57 Tool: WEB Method, Identify High-Conflict Individuals 01:12:20 Body Cues, Identify High-Conflict Individuals 01:18:40 Tool: Don't Label & Empathy; Adapting Your Behavior 01:23:12 High Conflict Personalities & Occupations 01:28:18 Big Personalities: Evidence vs Assumptions 01:37:27 Tool: Leaving a Combative High-Conflict Individual, Blame, Gradual Exit 01:45:41 Exiting a High Conflict Relationship & Timing 01:49:27 Tool: Disentangling from a Victim High-Conflict Individual, “Hoovering” 01:52:32 High Conflict Divorce, Small Families & Parental Estrangement 01:57:01 Tool: Managing Emotions & Relationships, EAR Statements 01:59:52 Large Families & Conflict Resolution 02:04:11 Bullies & Online Social Groups 02:09:18 Personality Disorders, Causes, Culture 02:13:09 Tool: 4 “Fuhgeddaboudits”, Topics to Avoid in High Conflict Resolution 02:19:50 Tool: CARS Method, Connecting & EAR Statements, Analyzing 02:27:03 Tool: CARS Method, Responding & BIFF Response, Setting Limits & SLIC 02:36:40 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures

Amanda Ripley is a New York Times bestselling author, a Washington Post contributing columnist, and the co-founder of Good Conflict, a media and training company that helps people reimagine conflict. She has written three award-winning, nonfiction books about three very different subjects: High Conflict, The Smartest Kids in the World, and The Unthinkable. In this episode we talk about:The key differences between healthy conflict and high conflictFive key steps for getting out of or avoiding high conflictWhy it's a golden age for so-called conflict entrepreneurs; and how to spot them in your orbit‘Looping' – a key technique that changed Amanda's life (and Dan's)How to set good boundaries while not giving up on peopleOne of the most reliable antidotes to all forms of bias, something called contact theoryThoughts on how to interact with the news and social media during a presidential electionThe very good reasons to avoid humiliating your opponent. She calls humiliation the nuclear bomb of emotionsAnd much moreRelated Episodes:Fight Right: The Science of Healthy Conflict | Drs. John and Julie GottmanHow to Repair the Damage After a Fight | Dr. Becky KennedySign up for Dan's weekly newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://happierapp.com/podcast/tph/amanda-ripley-843Additional Resources:thegoodconflict.comDownload the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://app.tenpercent.com/link/downloadSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

351. How to Have *Healthy* Conflict with Amanda Ripley  Conflict expert and investigative journalist, Amanda Ripley, is back to give us a conflict resolution 101 guide and delve into some real-life examples from Abby and Glennon's relationship.  Discover:  -The best way to diffuse a high-conflict person from going further; -The binary thinking that makes fighting with a spouse feel so painful–plus, the antidote; -How to disagree while still holding someone else's perspective; and -Why it's important to know your shame responses in order to have better conflicts. For the first part of our conversation, check out Episode 330 Handling Conflict Right with Amanda Ripley. About Amanda:  Amanda Ripley is an investigative journalist and author. Her most recent book is High Conflict, which chronicles how people get trapped by conflicts of all kinds—and how they get out. Her previous books include The Unthinkable, and The Smartest Kids in the World, a New York Times bestseller which was also turned into a documentary film. IG: @ripleywriter @thegoodconflict To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices