Podcast appearances and mentions of kris godinez

Today on We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris talks with special guest Marcia Diane about spirituality, karma and answers listener questions! Have you ever wondered about the role of spirituality in your recovery from abuse? Marcia Diane, and Kris discuss spirituality, karma, and energy in the recovery from abuse. We discuss the nature of karma, what it is, what it isn't, and why waiting for someone to “Get theirs!” is a complete waste of time and energy. Marcia also discusses the 21 books she has written, the blogs she posts, and talks about her mastery program offered through her website, marciadiane.com. We also discuss art, creativity, and how to use those talents to heal from abuse. At the end, we answer listener questions on all of the above! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

In this episode of We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris talks about how we get pulled back into an abusive relationship, what a hoover is, and how not to fall for one! Have you ever wondered why a person who dumped you so brutally would ever try to contact you again? Or what type of abuser would try to pull you back into an abusive relationship? This episode explains what a Hoover is, who is likely to hoover and what you can do to make yourself bulletproof to said hoover. The second half of this and every episode is answering your questions. Questions on abuse, how to stay safe and anything you are curious about regarding narcissistic intimate partner violence. Questions range from the seemingly personal to what ends up being universally asked questions. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. 

In this week's episode of We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris talks about the similarities and differences between addiction and personality disorders. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

In this episode of We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris talks about healing from attachment wounds, and how the parents either actively abused or neglected you as an infant and child. And yes, you CAN heal attachments! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

This episode is about accepting narcissist for who they're ally are and letting go of who we wished they were. I recommend you watch Kris Godinez on YouTube. Please join my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1165736933586382/?ref=share_group_link. Please follow me on Instagram @escapingnarcissisticmothers #toxicfamily #toxicmother #narcissisticmother #narcissisticmothers #toxicfather #narcissists #narcissisticfamily #healingfromabuse My email address is escapingnarcissisticmothers@mail.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/milly-clark9/support

In this episode of We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris discusses ego defenses and magic thinking. The weird ways abusers think. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

In this episode of We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris discusses Healthy Parenting vs. Unhealthy Parenting and what you can do to be the parent to yourself that you never had! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.

Don't believe everything you see on social media. Below are some good, reliable resources. YouTube: Sam Vankin, Dr. Ramani, Kris Godinez, Books: Healing form Hidden Abuse by Shannon Thomas and Will I Ever Be Good Enough? By Karyl McBride. Please follow me on Instagram @escapingnarcissisticmothers #toxicfamily #toxicmother #narcissisticmother #narcissisticmothers #toxicfather #narcissists #narcissisticfamily #healingfromabuse My email address is escapingnarcissisticmothers@mail.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/milly-clark9/support

A narcissistic parent will give a last middle finger from the grave by using the Will. Thanks to Kris Godinez for inspiring this episode. @weneedtotalk Please follow me on Instagram @escapingnarcissisticmothers #toxicfamily #toxicmother #toxicfather #narcissists #narcissists #narcissisticmother #enabler #nocontact #narcissisticfamily #healingfromabuse #manipulation #lastwillandtestament #empath My email address is escapingnarcissisticmothers@mail.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/milly-clark9/support

In this episode of We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the definitions in the DSM 5 of the Cluster B personality disorder and goes into depth about how those behaviors present themselves.

This week on We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris discusses PTSD and CPTSD symptoms and basically what to expect once you leave the abuse.  

Kris Godinez comes back to the show to talk denial and how it can be dangerous to not accept the reality of your situation. Kris starts with a story bout how one of her clients finally “read the damn books” and realized how important it is to “do the work”. Kris and Duane discuss the reality that when you do not heal you are destine to repeat the toxic patterns. They also discuss the reality that disordered people will sabotage good relationships because their inner shelf doesn’t believe they deserve anything good. Duane talks about how he has tried to help his own children learn healthy boundaries and minimize toxic people in their lives. Kris brings up a scary, and deadly pattern, where people go back with their abusers for it to only get worse. We take a question from a listener who wants to know how to protect their children from a toxic parent and ensure they do not because toxic themselves. Kris cautious people to NOT give everything to a toxic ex to just “get away” and how it is important to fight for what everything you can. They also discuss false allegations of parental alienation and ways for a targeted parent to protect themselves. Support the ChannelDonate through PayPalDSD Channel MembershipsParticipate in the show!During the show you can call in live at1 (424) 373-54831 (424) DSD-LIVEWeb Interface - free dialing You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD websiteTable of Contents00:00 - Start of Show01:57 - Kris Godinez joins the show to talk about denial!08:22 - Getting healthy to repel toxic people13:38 - Repeating trauma when you don’t heal21:55 - Sabotaging relationships to stay in chaos27:01 - Teaching your children about healthy relationships32:25 - Going back to a toxic ex38:15 - How to protect our children from a toxic ex?44:47 - Don’t just give in to a toxic ex and give them everything47:10 - How to deal with false allegations of parental alienation52:14 - When do you protect yourself and having boundaries59:33 - End of show wrap-up

In this episode, Kris Godinez, licensed professional counselor, unwraps the mysteries of the most common personality disorders that can affect your divorce and what you should do about it. Host Billie Tarascio, attorney with Modern Law in Mesa, AZ,  talks with Kris about all of the different types of problem ex's: drama queens (and kings), covert, overt, and communal narcissists, and the emotional dysregulation of borderline personality disorder. Divorcing someone with any of these issues can mean big problems for the other party, but in this conversation you'll learn about how to deal with the big exit from a marriage and how to protect yourself.You can find Kris at AhaCounselingAZ.com, and  Billie at MyModernLaw.com.

Feeling our feelings is scary, man. I didn't feel my feelings for...most of my life to be honest. I am a boy, and boys don't cry. Not until you really bottle stuff up and it makes you lash out on everyone you love around you and almost ruin your life. Whoops. On today's episode of Counter Culture Media, I interview the very wonderful Kris Godinez about where our reservations about getting help for our mental health comes from. To hear more from this talented woman, you can find her podcast on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHk_36kn2zDnVL-d23tE6bg. She has also written two books on psychology, 'What's Wrong With Your Dad' and 'You Can Lead A Horse To Water But You Can't Make 'Em Cha Cha: Why Some People Stay in Abuse and Some Don't' which you can find on Amazon and wherever fine books are sold. The books recommended throughout the episode for self-help are: The Inner Child Workbook by Cathryn Taylor The Self-Esteem Workbook by Glenn Schiraldi From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker The Disease to Please by Harriet Braiker Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl Support Counter Culture Media by liking and subscribing on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Youtube, Facebook, and Instagram. Go to https://www.patreon.com/counterculturemedia and throw a couple bucks our way for more Counter Culture entertainment and get exclusive content! Intro: MUSICASYLUM - THERAPY https://soundcloud.com/musicasylum12 Outro: Le Gang - I Don't Need U 2 Say Anything https://soundcloud.com/thisislegang Licensed under Creative Commons BY Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/counterculturemedia/support

In this episode Kris returns to talk about the holidays and dealing with toxic narcissistic people. Duane and Kris first cover the difference between Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behavior Therapy and what they are used for. They then dive into the the issues surrounding narcissist and the holidays AND how they will sabotage these events. Duane then asks the question of how to deal with it when you’re married to the toxic person. Kris provides ideas and techniques on how to emotionally deal with the “first” year without the “family”. Kris then talks about how you must “honor your grief” and they deep dive into what that really means. Duane then discusses his personal childhood examples of how his experience effected him. Duane and Kris then discuss how to find a good therapist and techniques to use when that isn’t an option. This leads into a discussion of how family court is a significant part of the problem. They then discuss how Christmas and presents can turn into a HUGE problem with a toxic person. Finally Duane and Kris discuss dysfunction connections and the importance of boundaries.Participate in the show!During the show you can call in live at1 (424) 373-54831 (424) DSD-LIVEhttps://www.callinstudio.com/show/DSDLIVE (Web Interface - free dialing)You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD websiteTable of Contents00:00 - Start of show02:15 - Introduction Kris Godinez from We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez03:31 - Discussion - What is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy05:44 - Discussion - What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy06:32 - Discussion - Holidays with Narcissistic Toxic People13:26 - Discussion - When you’re married to the narcissist24:25 - Discussion - The first holidays separated/divorced26:16 - Discussion - Honor the grief and what that means30:16 - Discussion - This effects the kids & DSD’s personal example35:12 - Discussion - How do you know if a therapist is good36:05 - Discussion - What to do when therapy is not an option40:48 - Discussion - Problems with electronics and remote communication45:20 - Discussion - Family Courts as a problem49:01 - Discussion - Creating NEW memories and present problems52:12 - Discussion - Dysfunctional connection and boundaries58:11 - End of show wrap-up

In today’s episode Kris Godinez, licensed profession counselor and host of We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez, returns to discuss the topic of triggers. Triggers are very complicated and often misunderstood. They are a huge indicator of past trauma and help us realize there is more work to be done. They also cover the serious issue of not remembering your childhood and how that is an indicator of past repressed trauma. Duane then asks what can people do to help with the triggers and PTSD associated from going through the family court machine. Duane discusses the way he was able to deal with his PTSD and stop the emotional flashbacks. Kris discusses the importance of working through the trauma. Bottom line you can work through this but you can’t move forward until you are truly ready for a change.Participate in the show!During the show you can call in live at1 (424) 373-54831 (424) DSD-LIVEhttps://www.callinstudio.com/show/DSDLIVE (Web Interface - free dialing)You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD websiteKris Godinez YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHk_36kn2zDnVL-d23tE6bgKris Godinez Website - https://krisgodinez.com/Previous Podcast with Kris - https://youtu.be/xNDw7629C24Table of Contents00:00 - Start of show02:38 - Introduction of Kris Godinez03:31 - Discussion topic - Triggers07:52 - What is trauma and CPTSD10:13 - Not remembering your childhood13:16 - Deciding you want help and don’t want to live the same life17:23 - Triggered when a woman cried21:30 - Narcs bank on our CPTSD responses25:14 - Mirror work and how it helps28:42 - How do you recover from the trauma from family court36:12 - People need to question WHY a child suddenly “hates” a parent39:04 - Family court seems to only see the worst of people40:00 - Recovery from court PTSD43:31 - Techniques Duane used to recover47:16 - The benefits of a legal separation49:18 - Do yourself a favor - work through the trauma53:42 - No more F’s to give58:51 - End of show wrap-upShow SponsorThis episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosisLinks to find out more!YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/dadsurvivingdivorceWebsite - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.comHypnosis - http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosisNarcissist Test - [https://youtu.be/V40J6McST5g]

In today’s episode Kris Godinez from We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez joins Duane to take a listener question about estranged parents. They tackle the issues of deciding if it is even worth it to “fix”. Kris points out that until the toxic parent or person is willing to seek help you have to keep healthy boundaries. This leads to a discussion about seeking help. Duane talks about his own struggles and how his early career had a significant stigma toward mental health. They then discuss the stress of setting boundaries and the guilt with phasing out parents. Duane then shares his experience with his own mother “siding” with his ex when he started setting boundaries. Kris and Duane then discuss the difficulties of being able to “see” the reality of what is going on. Duane mentions how he wanted to stop normalizing toxic behavior for his children. Kris talks about how malignant narcissists operate at the age of a 2 to 6 year old child in an adult body. Duane then brings up how we need to re-evaluate our lives and break the cycle of abuse. Finally Kris discusses the critical importance of doing the inner child work to break this vicious cycle of generational emotional abuse.Books discussed during showThe Disease to Please by Harriet Braiker - https://amzn.to/35pLBqoCPTSD From Surviving To Thriving by Pete Walker - https://amzn.to/2Zr7K3zThe Inner Child Workbook by Catherine Taylor - https://amzn.to/3k5wrdIThe Self Esteem Workbook by Glen Schiraldi - https://amzn.to/2ZnZOjNParticipate in the show!During the show you can call in live at1 (424) 373-54831 (424) DSD-LIVEhttps://www.callinstudio.com/show/DSDLIVE (Web Interface - free dialing)You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD websiteTable of Contents00:00 - Start of show03:14 - Introduction of Kris Godinez04:16 - Estranged Relationships with parents10:48 - Decided if it is worth “fixing”14:30 - The person has to work on getting better15:51 - The struggle with seeking help20:54 - Boundaries and guilt25:37 - Parent sides with toxic ex spouse31:27 - Why can’t I see reality38:27 - Normalizing toxic behavior41:27 - They operate at the age of 444:45 - Re-evaluate and break the cycle50:12 - Inner child work56:55 - End of show wrap-upShow SponsorThis episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosisLinks to find out more!YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/dadsurvivingdivorceWebsite - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.comHypnosis - http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosisYou Get To Be You - https://yougettobeyou.com/duane

On today’s Labor Day show we start out with a call struggling with their ex ignoring and rejecting their child. Duane then rants about why these people just can’t even pretend to actually love their children. A listener then asks how Duane was able to prevent his ex from leaving the state with the kids. This rolls into a discussion on how family court is slow. Duane reminds everyone about the Thursday collaboration with Kris Godinez and another mystery guest that he is working on bringing on the show. We then have a question about will a custody evaluation recognize personality disorders. A listener asks Duane what hobbies he used to maintain his sanity through the dark parts of the divorce. Finally we have a return caller who is struggling with the stress and having difficulties finding support.Participate in the show!During the show you can call in live at1 (424) 373-54831 (424) DSD-LIVEhttps://www.callinstudio.com/show/DSDLIVE (Web Interface - free dialing)You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD websiteTable of Contents00:00 - Start of show06:16 - Caller - Ex ignoring child and they are lashing out22:03 - Discussion - Why can’t they just pretend to love their kids26:52 - Comment - How to prevent ex from moving out of state33:30 - Discussion - Family Court is slow38:13 - Discussion - Upcoming collaborations Kris Godinez and a mystery guest40:47 - Comment - Will a custody evaluation diagnose a disorder45:27 - Comment - What hobbies did I use to help myself50:27 - Caller - Struggling with the stress and finding support58:58 - End of show wrap-upShow SponsorThis episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosisLinks to find out more!YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/dadsurvivingdivorceWebsite - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.comHypnosis - http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosisYou Get To Be You - https://yougettobeyou.com/duane

Narcissists are experts at creating and exploiting double binds. In today’s episode we start by talking about a viewer who is worried their spouse has compromised their phone, computer, and emails. Duane then mentions a schedule collaboration with Kris Godinez on her channel. A listener shares that their ex broke into their emails and downloaded steps 1 and 2 from their Alcoholic Anonymous notes sent to their sponsor. We then discuss what to say to your children about what is going on. Duane then takes a caller from Ireland who although never married has kids with his ex and is struggling with custody issues. Duane then discusses the double binds and how it is tough to decide the best of the worst case solutions/decisions. We finish up with a return caller talking about how a toxic narcissistic ex will make you pay emotionally no matter what happens - even if you win in court.Participate in the show!During the show you can call in live at1 (424) 373-54831 (424) DSD-LIVEhttps://www.callinstudio.com/show/DSDLIVE (Web Interface - free dialing)You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD websiteTable of Contents00:00 - Start of show03:47 - Voicemail - worried that ex is tracking them11:33 - Locations of where people are watching from12:45 - Discussion - The new Bill and Ted Movie13:48 - Discussion - Kris Godinez and upcoming visit on her show16:12 - Comment - Ex logged into email step 1&2 of A.A. sent to sponsor16:54 - Comment - Talking to your kids about narcissists19:48 - Comment - Isn’t stealing computer data a crime?20:45 - Caller - Never married but kids and custody issues44:11 - Discussion - Double binds do I go to court?46:29 - Caller - You pay for any “victory” you get57:00 - End of show wrap-upShow SponsorThis episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosisLinks to find out more!YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/dadsurvivingdivorceWebsite - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.comHypnosis - http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosisYou Get To Be You - https://yougettobeyou.com/duane

In this show Duane is joined by Kris Godinez from We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez show. Kris is a licensed professional counselor in Arizona and has a thriving practice there. Duane and Kris talk about the importance of therapy and some of the key things to look for when interviewing a therapist. They dive into the importance of rapport and the markings of a good trauma therapist. Kris then discusses how there are narcissists in the profession and how important it is to trust your gut. They then talk about how in the education system they tend to no teach about personality disorders. Kris then talks bout the “process” and how the client has to take responsibility for their progress and setting clear goals. Duane and Kris then talk about the original wound and how it is the key to recovery. This leads into a discussion about how fear stops people from growing. They wrap up with the importance of “doing the work” and how a therapist is never going to work more than the client, basically the client sets the pace.Participate in the show!During the show you can call in live at1 (424) 373-54831 (424) DSD-LIVEhttps://www.callinstudio.com/show/DSDLIVE (Web Interface - free dialing)You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD websiteTable of Contents00:00 - Start of show02:56 - Introduction of Kris Godinez05:58 - The importance of therapy09:31 - How do you find a good therapist15:50 - Trauma Therapists19:41 - The importance of rapport23:05 - Narcissists who are professional therapists24:11 - You have to trust your gut25:50 - When the therapists does ALL the talking28:23 - Getting therapy for our kids29:17 - Professors refusing to teach about personality disorders35:12 - Importance of process - car comparison36:11 - How should you talk to your therapist39:12 - The original wound44:08 - Becoming “okay” with yourself45:50 - How fear stops people from growing51:16 - Finding therapists that have healed themselves53:42 - Doing the work - therapist isn’t going to do it for you57:26 - End of show wrap-upShow SponsorThis episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosisLinks to find out more!YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/dadsurvivingdivorceWebsite - https://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.comHypnosis - http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosisYou Get To Be You - https://yougettobeyou.com/duaneKris Godinez YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHk_36kn2zDnVL-d23tE6bgKris Godinez Website - https://krisgodinez.com/Previous Podcast with Kris - https://youtu.be/xNDw7629C24

I'm really excited about this podcast episode with Kris Godinez, one of the leading mental health counselors in the world today. Kris walks us through her story of becoming a counselor and helps us understand the various forms of emotional and psychological abuse. This episode is one of my favorites because Kris' insights can help you understand what a toxic relationship looks like. I hope you enjoy!

Matthew's guest is counselor, public speaker, author, and podcaster Kris Godinez, about her views and analyses of the American psychological landscape and how narcissism, borderline personality disorders, and toxic parenting are harming the collective American psyche. A Comfortably Zoned Network, production. Check out our website. http://comfortablyzonedradio.com/ If you enjoy our offerings, we ask that you get in the habit of accumulating lightly used children's books, and donating them to your local Head Start.

We sat down with Kris Godinez from We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez. Kris is a licensed practicing therapist in Arizona, an author of two books, active YouTube personality with a weekly VideoCast, a sough-after lecturer and presenter, and has a unique style and humor to help her clients and audience recover and understand what they are going through. Show SponsorThis episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting [http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosis]Links to find out more!Kriz Godinez’s website - [https://krisgodinez.com/]YouTube - [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHk_36kn2zDnVL-d23tE6bg]Facebook - [https://www.facebook.com/Weneedtotalkwithkrisgodinez]Show NotesIntroduction to Kris Godinez00:00:10 - We sat down with Kris Godinez from We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez. Kris is a licensed practicing therapist in Arizona, an author of two books, active YouTube personality with a weekly VideoCast, a sough-after lecturer and presenter, and has a unique style and humor to help her clients and audience recover and understand what they are going through. Going to therapy with a narcissist00:01:09 - Kris and Duane discuss the pitfalls of going to therapy with a narcissist. Kris talks about why you shouldn’t and Duane talks about why you might have too. Trying to “fix” the marriage00:07:20 - What you can do if you feel you need to try to fix the marriage and some very critical issues you need to remember!Options for free therapy to help00:08:26 - Employee Assistant Plan (EAP) that is available through most employers as a resource. If available you can get 6 counseling sessions for free00:08:54 - Another option is to use the university programs where therapist are training under a licensed master level therapists to get free counselingThe role of a therapist vs life coach00:09:22 - Kris and Duane talk about the differences of a licensed therapist and a life coach. Hiding from the issues and not doing the work00:14:15 - Hiding from the issue and not doing the work. This section covers dating too soon, when an ex lashes out because you are moving on, how being treated “good” can cause depression after abuse, working on “inner child work”, and sabotaging the “good stuff” when it doesn’t fit with our subconsciousHow to find a good therapist00:18:48 - How do you find a good therapist! Duane talks about his personal experience with therapist and how lucky he was to find one who specialized in trauma recovery. Kris goes over the best way to find a good therapist and recommends staying away from a “humanist” therapistGetting stuck in the validation stage00:23:22 - Duane and Kris discuss the importance of validation when trying to heal. Kris goes into how abuse manifest and the intermittent positive rewards they use to train their target which makes breaking free so difficult. You are NOT addicted to the abuse, but you’re addicting the intermittent positive rewards or the highTele-therapy and Better Help00:25:42 - They discuss the different methods of therapy and how important it is to work on yourself to heal. Kris talks bout the licensing requirement per state and how therapists can only treat clients/patients in the state they are licensed. Using a “diagnosis” when you do not have one00:29:47 - Kris and Duane talk about the concerns and problems if you walk in talking about medical terms when you DO NOT have a clinical diagnosis mental disorder. Kris talks about the diagnosing requirements and how you can not do that unless you are treating the person individually. There are legal and ethical requirements. Using the terms and change the focus of the treatment plan. Focus on behaviors and not the “narcissistic abuse recovery” termsFind a good attorney00:31:30 - Finding a good attorney that understand personality disorders and high conflict clients. Kris does into what you need to look for in an attorney. They both discuss the ways to communicate with a high conflict spouse/ex. Hybrid no contact and how we get provoked in to responding to their provocationsIt’s a Hoover!00:37:43 - Kris talks about the different types of hoovers and how even a provocation argument can be one. What happens when you ignore a narcissist - they need the responses to feed their supplyThe Dark Triad00:38:46 - Kris talks about The Dark Triad and what you need to do when you are dealing with one of these kind of toxic personalities. When you are being threatened seek an order of protection. They talk about how they will use information against you and how people will compartmentalizing and disassociate and survive. -Dating too soon00:42:28 - When is the right time to date and when will you know it is time. Duane talks about his problems with dating too soon and the problems that can come up.What do do when you have children00:45:32 - Duane and Kris talk about the issues of having children in this environment. They discuss the importance of validating the child’s experience to help them understand what is going on. Do not “bad mouth” the ex because the kids are half the other parent and they will internalize those comments. They discuss how to talk with your children about the issues to minimize the problems and recommend documenting EVERYTHING Having boundaries with children00:48:49 - Kris and Duane discus how to set boundaries with children. They also talk bout the pitfalls of falling for traps. Duane talks about his real-world experience with doing this with his own children. But I don’t have to at mommy/daddy’s house00:54:52 - Duane talks about his struggles with getting the kids to do things at his house that they didn’t have to do at mommy’s. One big issue was showering. He had to fight with his girls to get them to shower. During one of the physical appointments with the girls he even had to ask the doctor “how often should they shower”. The importance of structure01:01:43 - Providing structure for your children. Kids do respond positively to structure but they will push your buttons to test how serious you really are. Boundaries say that you care - the parent that is sane has to draw boundaries but you have too. You have to be the “good and bad” cop otherwise you’ll undermine yourself and alienate the your children. Make sure you keep an open door so you have something that you can still do with your children. You have to have personal accountability and help themThe “drama triangle”01:05:43 - Kris discusses the “drama triangle” where there is a hero, villain and victim and they drive in drama and chaos. Duane talks about how he lets his ex think she is winning and that he is a bitter angry ex. Duane talks about the struggles of how this can wear you down and get to the point that you are just looking forward to all of this being over. Kris and Duane talk about how toxic parents, when they no longer have a use for a child, will “write them off”.Emotional delayed children and young adults01:14:20 - Kris talks about how children of emotional abuse are emotionally delayed and do not possess the cognitive skills to function as a mature adult. They are going to need extra help and support to recover from these experiences. Most 18 year olds who are raised by narcissists are lost. It is important to get these children in therapy

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In this incredible new podcast, Kris Godinez and Rich from Success4.com talk in depth about how Fame, Politics and Narcissism collide and go hand in glove. Kris is a qualified liscenced counsellor in the state of Arizona and is the founder of AHA Counselling. Narcissism joins other Cluster B personality disorders such as Borderline Personality Disorder and Histrionic Personality Disorder and is a common trait of those in high levels of power, politics and fame. We also ask the question : IS FAME A MENTAL HEALTH ISSUE? We discuss people such as Donald Trump, Hillary Clinton and Tom Cruise and how they have common traits that maybe signs of Narcissism. http://www.ahacounselingaz.com/ https://success4.com/ Note: we are not diagnosing anyone with a personality disorder unless it has been publicly mentioned. We discuss common traits and a theory that Narcissism maybe a consistent contributing factor to those who chase fame for fame's sake.

HELP WITH NARCISSISTIC AND BORDERLINE ABUSE With the Holiday season in full swing, we will all have to deal with family members that we don't get on with. But what happens when there is that one person in the room that will go out of their way to manipulate the day, the situation and the other family members to do their maligant bidding. Kris Godinez from Aha Counselling talks to Rich about how you might be able to deal with a narcissist or malignant borderline over the holiday period at family gatherings. We look at how they might try to manipulate you, gas light you and use others around you to impliment their version of the truth.   http://www.ahacounselingaz.com/ www.brickinthewall.co.uk

In this weeks podcast, Rich from Success4 speaks with Kris Godniez about Toxic Families and how to protect yourself over the Christmas and Holiday period. Narcissistic and Borderline Abuse on the malignant end can be confusing and often hard to explain to others around you. This podcast series will help you understand the abuse, see the signs, protect yourself and share with those who still do not understand the dangers of the abuser you have been with. Success4.com Redesign Your Life

Rich from Success4 recently had the honour of interviewing Kris Godinez from "We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez" which has a huge following on her facebook and youtube channels as she helps people recover from narcissistic and borderline abuse. ABOUT KRIS I am Kris Godinez, a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in the state of Arizona. A graduate of the University of Phoenix Master of Counseling program in 2005. Prior to receiving my degree, I had extensive experience volunteering for grief recovery programs such as The Dougy Center and The New Song Center. Kris was raised in an emotional abusive household with her father having Borderline Personality Disorder (malignant) and her mother having strong BPD traits. In this podcast we cover the signs of abuse, the terminology, how to protect yourself and how to move on and recover. http://www.ahacounselingaz.com/

In this brand new episode of The Toll House, i get the absolute pleaser of interviewing Kris Godinez of "We need to chat with Kris Godniz". Kris has helped thousands overcome emotional abuse by Narcissitic partners. I speak with Kris about her life growing up with a father who was a malignant Borderline and a mother who had strong traits of BPD.  I relate some of my own stories of having a partner with Borderline Personality Disorder, some of the issues that came up and how these are ever so commen with a Cluster B partner. Emotional Abuse is sometimes hard to even recognise as abuse so we talk about how to spot the signs, how to gain the strength to protect yourself and how to find a good counselor when in recovery. We also talk about the ever increasing numbers of the people who are diagnosed with a cluster B personalty Disorder that are now trained psychologists and the scary thought of them practising and treating vunerable people. We stress that it is the Malignant end of the scale we are covering and talking about. Here is a link to Kris facebook page where she does a LIVE Video every Sunday. https://www.facebook.com/Weneedtotalkwithkrisgodinez/  

In this weeks Toll House podcast, I got the absolute pleasure of sitting down with one of the guys that have helped me through allot in the past few years, Richard Grannon The Spartan Life Coach. Richard helps individuals overcome and protect themselves from Narcissitic and Cluster B Abuse. I found Richards work when I was researching Borderline Personality Disorder due to an ex partner who was diagnosed (according the them) with BPD.  It was an incredibly confusing time with allot of manipulation, gas lighting and emotinal turmoil along the way, which I now know was abuse due to the advice and guidance from people such as Richard Grannon, Kris Godinez from "We need to talk with Kris Godinez" and Dana morningstar. Richard has helped well over 27,000 subscribers on his Youtube channel linked below, plus thousands in person and via other means such as his website and podcasts. This interview we chat about terms like Gas Lighting, Reframing, Flying monkeys and much much more.  If you feel you might be in an emotionally abusive relationship with a NPD , BPD or any other Cluster B personality Disorder then i would highly recommend Richards work. It was a turning point for me and many others in understanding covert abuse, fighting back and recovering. http://spartanlifecoach.com/ Richards Youtbe Channel https://www.youtube.com/user/SPARTANLIFECOACH   Brick In The Wall Media