Domestic Abuse Recovery Journal

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A show dedicated to those who think they may be living in or are recovering from domestic abuse /narcissistic/ antisocial abuse. A soft approach that teaches the importance of self worth. Domestic abuse is defined as any pattern of behavior in a relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is psychological, physical, sexual, and sometimes financial. Behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, or wound are abusive. More supportive content @rn_jenm on Instagram.

Jennifer Mixon


    • Apr 27, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
    • monthly NEW EPISODES
    • 29m AVG DURATION
    • 59 EPISODES


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    Latest episodes from Domestic Abuse Recovery Journal

    Feeling Uncomfortable During Growth: Misery turns into Glimmer

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2025 22:03


    This episode focuses on feelings of uncomfortably because you are in a situation that's no longer meant for you. Why this happens, how to transition from misery into a glimmer moment using radical acceptance. How to feel better in a dysfunctional situation and how to leave. episode dedicated to SE.

    Maternal Factors in Loving Abusers

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2025 16:10


    this episode discusses possible debunk of why we stay with someone who's mean to us. maybe it's not them we're staying for? Maybe it's our maternal love system staying for their scared inner child? how to separate this out and find safety within yourself.

    To Build a Home: Boundary by Boundary

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2025 18:11


    this episode covers creating inner safety for your self and inner child in adulthood, and sorting out where lack of boundaries come from. When we no longe me subconsciously seek out fear, that may just appear as excitement, big feelings, or butterflies…..what that feels like, why it's confusing, and where to go next. How to prioritize yourself, and recognize when you're seeking a dopamine hit from triangulation or ring chosen.

    Grey Sky Mornings: But it's not so bad.

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2025 12:13


    this episode discusses rewiring the brain to disconnect from inconsistency feeling like love. What a shift feels like when your brain may be re-wiring itself to choose you, and the feelings that come with it. How to ground when feeling lost in letting go of a space you've been in for decades.

    Welcome to the Panic Room: How to trust your gut

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2025 39:32


    This episode discusses the amygdala, gut feelings/ intuition, and how to handle feeling lied to with no proof. Nervous system symptoms around gas lighting in relationships also discussed.

    Trust the Universe: finding inner peace

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2025 26:23


    this episode discusses body image, negative inner voice triggers, and how to pull yourself out of a dark space back into peace, balance, and tranquility. the universe takes care of you naturally when you begin to love yourself and choose yourself. ❤️ for dc

    “I need you.”

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2024 40:57


    This episode discusses codependency and how it takes place in abusive relationships. What it means to struggle with self worth and how being needed by a partner gives false security. Advice on how to grow out of codependent behavior and relationships, and how to navigate a healthier relationship are also covered. Part 1 of 2. For KD

    The Toxic Love Potion: Trauma Bonding & Getting Clean

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2024 51:06


    This episode covers how trauma bonds form psychologically and chemically in the brain. Explanation of why our abusers cannot be on a healing journey with us due to differing treatment needs and their psychological make up- discussion inspired by Dr. David Puter's lecture on NPD. Inside your partners mind and yours, and ways to initiate breaking the bond are also covered.

    What's Happening to Me?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2024 36:01


    This episode covers things we go through physically due to chronic stress and fatigue even when there is no physical abuse. Neuro chemistry and information on hormones and neurotransmitter dysregulation are discussed. How to take steps forward to help ourselves start feeling better physically and mentally. This is not medical advice.

    I got you❤️

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2024 31:31


    This episode covers the topics and discussions that will be covered in season 6. Brief descriptions of why these relationships are addictive, brain chemistry, trauma bonding, gas lighting, no contact strategies, boundaries, and Stockholm syndrome are covered. How to cultivate hope to leave or stay gone, and how to help your support system better understand your needs at this time are also discussed. Hopefully this episode helps you feel like you can survive this, I got you! ❤️ Xo Nurse Jen

    Stress & Anxiety Management with Dr. Michele Vecchione Finneran

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2024 30:13


    This episode features Dr. Vecchione Finneran giving tips and a better understanding of what chronic toxic stress is. Ways to help yourself when burnt out.

    Listen when feeling unworthy. Love Jen.

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2023 18:20


    This episode covers finding courage deep within and how to over come feeling defeated in the face of rejection and maltreatment. Ambivalence with feeling scared and loved and safe all at the same time from care takers and partners is also covered.

    To Build a Home: It won't be like this forever.

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2023 25:40


    This episode focuses on unknowingly using the abuse cycle and being attracted to emotionally unavailable people as a soothing mechanism for our nervous system. When safe still doesn't feel safe and absent betrayal confirmation still feels scary. Goals of being patient with our process and becoming more securely attached are also covered. For R.

    Part 2: What Was I Made For

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 11, 2023 39:33


    This episode covers the damaging effects of chronic gaslighting, manipulation, blame shifting, and how to overcome them in arguments. Identity crisis and being psychologically programmed to believe jealousy and obsession equate to security are also covered. For KRS❤️

    The Narcissistic Ideal Self Part 1: A Grandiose Portrayal

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2023 37:13


    This episode covers development of grandiosity within a narcissistic personality. Signs of someone living in an “ideal” version of reality and why it's impossible to have a healthy/ functional relationship with them. Education on NPD pathology helping partners to release responsibility for the painful dynamic they are experiencing.

    Tips for getting through holidays after abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2023 13:33


    This episode covers helpful ways to reframe distorted versions of holidays and memories we remember while we are sad and struggling. How to snap out of it and come back to your inner peace. Happy Fourth of July! ❤️

    Idealization Trauma: Pressure to be perfect

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2023 36:11


    This episode discusses the 3 phases of the narcissistic abuse cycle in depth. The psychological effects of being idealized by a partner suffering from NPD. The lasting self blame patterns we develop following idealization are explained.

    Heightened Response After Prolonged Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2023 19:48


    This episode discusses the neurobiological changes that happen in the brain after/ during trauma. How heightened emotional response develops over time and why. Feeling numb and under responsiveness is also covered.

    I'm Proud of Me: 1 year clean

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2023 4:02


    365 days abuse free. An open letter to his past and future victims. This is not the ending the the happiest version of your life. You are a survivor. XO Jen

    Attachment: “you need to be alone for a long time”

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2023 27:15


    This episode covers attachment and it's connection to safety. Thoughts on the amount of time needed before dating again after abuse, and what we're really looking for are discussed. The grieving process & triggers while in a new relationship are also covered.

    Fragmentation: treating triggers with compassion

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2023 29:05


    This episode focuses on literature explaining how the brain specializes and creates different defense mechanisms for survival. Treating our triggers and traumatized nervous system with compassion- thanking the parts of ourselves that once kept us alive, and recognizing the need to soothe those alarms in non-threatening moments. Author and title included in episode.

    If this wasn't real, then what is?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 9, 2022 44:00


    This episode focuses on healing after betrayal trauma and the neurobiological consequences our brains deal with in the aftermath. Interventions for feeling emotionally safe again in a relationship are discussed. How to sort out if you are feeling old pain or if new pain is legitimate.

    “Okay, Ted.” (Re-release)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2022 63:42


    Trigger warning, intimate partner violence is discussed. I'm not ashamed- I'm a survivor. Psychopathy is defined as a mental (antisocial) disorder in which an individual manifests amoral and antisocial behavior, shows a lack of ability to love or establish meaningful personal relationships, expresses extreme egocentricity, and demonstrates a failure to learn from experience and other behaviors associated with the condition. Source: C.S. Neumann, ... H. Lasslett, in Encyclopedia of Mental Health (Second Edition), 2016

    Cycle Breaking Super Powers

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 24, 2022 41:46


    This episode features Dr. Michelle Finneran discussing why abusive patterns are repeated through generational trauma and how the mother/ daughter dynamic effects us when our mom suffers from abuse in front of us growing up. Individualization from family origin and being the cycle breaker is also discussed. For K & M❤️

    Life After Lecter

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2022 50:09


    This episode covers abandonment wounds and learning how to cope with the uncomfortable experience during attachment developing. Leaning into healthy even though it's scary. Learning to heal intrusive feelings and thoughts around a parent dying being your fault.

    Alice, out of Wonderland

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2022 16:30


    “There's no use in going back to yesterday, I was a different person then”10,000 listens later….now what?

    Flowers on the front porch❤️

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 18, 2022 52:50


    This episode discusses re-activation of negative inner dialogue, working through emotions and hurt feelings with a new partner after abuse, and self worth being a constant work in progress that needs upkeep. Staying present during panic and anxiety is also covered.

    Raw Footage of Womanhood part 2: Self wound care

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 28, 2022 9:17


    This is a part two to the previous episode I released that discusses painful wounds that can happen when trust is broken. How to pick yourself back up, and why it's important not to give up on love. Emotional wound care for a broken heart. For D❤️

    Raw Footage of Womanhood: I'm over it.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2022 7:02


    I recorded this and almost didn't release it. But I think it's relatable and I feel woman going through this need someone to be vulnerable enough to speak for all of us suffering in silence. I won't always feel this bad, I've climbed my way out of dark places before, but I've had to a lot and I'm tired of women being told we're too sensitive, we are over reacting, or we need to get over it. So I decided to be raw for one night of my life and just say it the way it is. Somebody needs to. I refuse to accept this treatment as normal, I'm done putting up with treatment from partners that make me feel toxic towards myself. I will not blame myself anymore. I hope you don't either❤️

    Love Smart: Trust is earned not given

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2022 42:49


    Dr. Finneran, psychotherapist drops in as guest speaker to talk about Stockholm Syndrome, trauma bonding, getting proper support, and healing after abuse. Avoiding re-engaging in another abusive dynamic is also discussed.

    Chronic Heartbreak: I'm Tired of Loving

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 16, 2022 25:27


    This episode covers idealization and devaluation stages narcissistic partners put us through. Recovering from it and fearfulness that comes after. Pros and cons of feeling numb versus embracing sensitivity is discussed. Using a soft heart for the better instead of feeling resentful of feeling a lot is also covered. For A❤️

    Your Ideal Is Not My Worth: I'm tired of living like this.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 25, 2022 41:02


    This episode covers the state of mind we get stuck in after idealization and devaluation stages of narcissistic abuse. The effects on a woman's mind after being subjected to constantly trying to keep up with unrealistic standards. Tips on over coming challenges in recovery related to body image, fear of intimacy, and somatic symptoms during flash backs are also discussed. For A❤️

    Silent Threats & Hyper Vigilance

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2022 42:10


    This episode focuses on how gaslighting works, what it does psychologically to victims, and the hyper vigilance we develop as a skill to protect ourselves through abuse. Self sabotage and impulsiveness is also discussed. Ideas on how to work through this and stay grounded are included.

    I have a problem: are you ready to be done?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2022 28:41


    This episode focuses on the different stages of leaving an abuser. How to grow strength to get through withdrawals, things you'll need within your support system, and learning how to love yourself again are discussed.

    Sleeping Safely

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2022 14:54


    This episode focuses on security versus unhealthy intensity. Feeling emotionally regulated after a life of adrenaline chasing and sleep being correlated to fearfulness after abuse. What sleeping safely feels like in recovery after fighting so hard to feel like you again, and feeling secure attachment.

    It's not me. It's you.

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2022 23:20


    This episode focuses on gaining insight into how abusers use pity, guilt, and blame shifting to distract us from their hurtful behavior. Description of how we get to a point where we feel like we are the abusive partner, and chronically believe we are the cause and are responsible for the pain we experience with an abusive partner. How to trust yourself again, and the self forgiveness felt when you finally know for sure….It's not me. It's you.

    Self Love at Lunch

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2022 21:25


    This episode covers being aware of one's feelings and needs within a relationship. Early signs that someone may not be a person who will provide you emotional safety. Creating a road map before taking the trip with someone new. Dating after abuse is discussed. Dedicated to my person ❤️

    Dear nervous system: I am worth experiencing happiness.

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2022 25:32


    This episode discusses shifts in mind set during dating after an abusive relationship has ended. Being triggered, fight or flight response, and how to talk your self down and decide if you're upset with new guy, or if it's left overs from Voldemort. Should I really be putting my nikes on right now to run? Being transparent with new partners is also discussed.

    Triangulation: But look how hard he's fighting to keep me

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 29, 2022 11:02


    This episode focuses on the trauma bond formed from triangulation. How continuous cheating creates intermittent wounding and the effects of the “reuniting” stage. Abuser's tactics to keep the victim in the relationship, blame shifting, and gas lighting are also discussed.

    I'm the Project. You're not that special.

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2022 30:07


    This episode discusses what it feels like to leave psychologically when you've left an abuser physically. What it feels like to be completely done. What it feels like to be free. What it feels like to be me again.

    Sorry My Empowerment Irritates You

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2022 15:45


    This episode focuses on the long standing issue of abuse not being addressed in the world. Thoughts on how to respond to someone who doesn't think you'll be able to do anything about the silent issue that causes so many people to not fully live their life to full capacity. Contemplating pros and cons of taking legal action is also discussed.

    Restraining Orders & Real Men

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2022 12:49


    This episode isn't really about anything other than me providing explanation of how it feels to have to make a police report and ask for help. And the kind of people in the world who make things like this more bearable. For Tim and Jimmy.

    Enough

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2022 33:20


    This episode discusses codependency recovery, psychological make up of character, personal boundaries, coping skills for going no contact, and why courage in the face of fear prevails.

    Romanticizing & Psychology of Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 31:54


    Why do I miss someone who hurts me so much? Why we romanticize our abusive relationship. Effects of childhood trauma, attachment style, and why we associate love with unhealthy things.

    Being Human: Not perfect, but it gets better.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 37:01


    This episode focuses on taking ownership of one's struggles and actions in the recovery process. Trying to stuff things down inside and drown out traumatic memories and feelings does not work. Being in the “I don't know what else to try” stage.

    The Power of Me: Small, But Mighty

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 46:17


    This episode focuses on the progression of developing healthy self confidence, setting goals in healing, lowering anxiety and depression, and the 4 stages of healing from abuse: recognize, accept, rise above, model. How to reframe blame and navigate forgiveness safely. A crash course in how to feel better.

    Don't Go Backwards: A new happy ending

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 24:43


    This episode covers what to do with the hope survivors carry that their abuser will change or “get better”. Getting back together is never an option in recovery, but a new chapter in forgiveness and being at peace can be. Where to place your hope and what the new version of a happy ending may look like. What to say when reconciliation is brought up.

    No Filter, No Fear: Being Me Around You

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 44:04


    This episode discusses the power of self validation, not needing outside validation from friends or partners, self worth, insight, and education on crazy making. How to take life inventory and make positive changes for yourself. Dating to learn and grow versus dating to fill a void is also discussed.

    Now that I know it's not you.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 15:55


    This episode focuses on transitioning back into optimism around falling in love again, and trusting yourself enough to find the right life partner. The shift you feel after completely letting go of the fear and pain you associate with love after being abused.

    I Know Who I Am

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 51:09


    This episode is focused on knowing who you are and being free of self doubt during interaction with toxic behavior and environments. Focusing on the difference between living in a state of confusion and fear from experiencing gaslighting and manipulation, compared to a state of inner peace and being grounded. How to not let anyone take away your inner light again. Being in the acceptance stage of grief.

    Growing a new inner voice: Being re-triggered during recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2022 20:22


    Dealing with anxiety, a mean negative inner voice, and overcoming attacking ourselves. How to look at mental health symptoms in a new way without feeling less than or labeled. Leaving unhealthy coping behind.

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