Podcasts about pure desire ministries

Most Christian men wouldn't call it an addiction. “It's just something I struggle with…”But what if that struggle is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode, Nick Stumbo—Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries—shares his powerful story of addiction, shame, and the deeper healing Jesus offers.We talk about:Why confession isn't the finish lineThe 3 questions that revealed Nick's addictionWhat white-knuckling recovery really looks likeHow trauma, performance, and shame feed the cycleThis isn't just about porn. It's about what your soul is really craving.Learn more about Pure Desire Ministries: https://www.puredesire.orgGet Nick's book Setting Us Free: https://amzn.to/3EtfY2PStart your healing journey with Dad Tired: [https://www.dadtired.com]Subscribe to the Dad Tired podcast for more episodes that help men lead their families wellA special thanks to today's sponsor: www.dwellbible.com/dadtired

What do you do when trust is shattered, but no one around you seems to take your pain seriously? In today's deeply honest and hope-filled episode, Leslie sits down with Nick Stumbo, former pastor and Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, who opens up about his personal battle with pornography—and the profound impact it had on his wife, his marriage, and his ministry. Nick's story isn't just one of addiction—it's about healing, honesty, and hope when everything seems lost. Together, Leslie and Nick dismantle toxic messaging that pressures wives to “just forgive” or “have more sex,” and instead offer a biblical and brain-based path toward real recovery—one that honors both the betrayed and the struggler. If you or someone you love is silently suffering in a marriage affected by pornography, this episode will remind you: You're not alone, and your healing matters.  

In this unflinchingly honest conversation, Nick Stumbo shares his journey from serving as a senior pastor while secretly battling pornography addiction to finding freedom and now helping others as Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries. Nick reveals how his early exposure to sexual content created patterns of shame and secrecy that followed him into adulthood, marriage, and ministry—despite his sincere faith and leadership position. What makes this episode particularly powerful is the exploration of why churches and seminaries continue to avoid addressing sexual brokenness effectively, despite statistics showing 75% of men and 44% of women in congregations struggle with pornography. Nick explains how the taboo nature of sexuality in Christian contexts creates perfect conditions for shame to flourish while healing stagnates.For full show note details, go to the episode webpage:

Pornography addiction is a deeply personal and often unspoken struggle, especially for leaders and professionals who fear the consequences of being honest about their struggles. In this episode, Dr. Mike Chupp and Pastor Bert Jones are joined by Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, to discuss the realities of addiction, the path to healing, and the importance of a strong support system.

Learn More About Arise for Women: https://cvnteyes.co/3ZvW65UIn this powerful episode of The Covenant Eyes Podcast, host Karen Potter is joined by Heidi Cooper, Covenant Eyes' recovery specialist, and Ashley Jameson from Pure Desire Ministries. Together, they dive deep into the struggles women face in dealing with sexual brokenness, including addiction, shame, and the devastating impact of pornography. They explore the difficult conversations around healing from sexual trauma, the challenges of discussing these topics in the church, and the vital role of community and support groups in recovery.Ashley shares insights from her own experience, discussing the growing issue of pornography use among Christian women and how resources like Pure Desire's groups are helping to provide healing and recovery. They also explore the importance of addressing these issues openly in our churches and families, encouraging women to break free from the shame and find freedom in their identity as new creations in Christ.Topics covered include:• Sexual addiction recovery and healing• The stigma and shame surrounding women's struggles with pornography• Pure Desire's resources for individuals and families• Supporting children in a "pornified" culture• How to lead and protect our communities and families from sexual brokennessIf you or someone you know is struggling with sexual brokenness, betrayal, or addiction, this episode offers valuable resources, support, and encouragement. Listen to real-life stories and gain tools for walking out your healing journey.Resources mentioned in the episode:Pure Desire Ministries: https://puredesire.org/Covenant Eyes: https://cvnteyes.co/3ZvW65UCHAPTERS:0:00 - Introduction to the Episode3:30 - Ashley Jameson's Background and Role at Pure Desire7:00 - The Church's Struggle to Address Sexual Addiction10:15 - The Impact of Pornography on Women14:00 - The Role of Women in Supporting Each Other18:30 - Sexual Brokenness: A Personal and Collective Issue22:00 - Navigating Trauma and Healing Through Groups26:30 - Parenting and Technology: Protecting Children in a "Pornified" Culture31:00 - Pure Desire's Resources for Healing34:00 - How to Get Involved and Find Help36:30 - The Power of Community in Addiction Recovery39:00 - Closing Thoughts and EncouragementSubscribe to the Covenant Eyes Podcast for more insights on healing, addiction recovery, and faith.#SexualBrokenness #overcomingpornography #christianwomenpornaddiction #covenanteyespodcast Try Covenant Eyes for FREE today!Use Promo Code: FreePodcast © 2024 Covenant Eyes, All Rights Reserved

Porn is doing real damage to too many Christians today. This issue is affecting a huge percentage of our brothers and sisters in Christ, and the shame that often prevents us from talking about it leads to secrecy and hinders healing.  We're thankful that Nick Stumbo is on the podcast today. Nick is a pastor and the director of Pure Desire Ministries. Along with Barna, Pure Desire recently conducted a study on the impact porn is currently having on the Church in America. Their findings demonstrate how crucial it is to open the conversation about porn among Christians to help them find healing from its destructive impact.     We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  What the stats tell us about how many Christians are viewing porn regularly Why talking openly is ESSENTIAL for healing  Exposing the progressive nature of porn addiction  How to make church a place where openness is possible  What to do if your church is not a safe place to confess  How to prepare your kids to handle porn exposure safely  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: The enemy would love for you to stay stuck in secrecy and shame. Jesus wants to bring freedom and healing. Take a step toward freedom today.  Questions to Discuss:  Do you have a safe friend you can be honest with? Are you practicing confession and accountability in your life? What can you do to help cultivate an honest, godly friendship today?  What is God prompting you need to take responsibility for so that you can grow closer to Him and your spouse today?    QUOTES  “Most people won't be surprised to know that the numbers are continuing to grow.” - Nick Stumbo  “To my knowledge, it's the first time in history that the majority of practicing Christians say they are doing pornography.” - Nick Stumbo  “84% of people said there is NO ONE helping them avoid pornography.” - Nick Stumbo  “If shame and secrecy are the sickness, then openness, community and love are what healing is all about.” - Nick Stumbo  “By the time it blows up a marriage, the help was needed 5-10 years ago.” - Nick Stumbo “You're not alone. There is help and hope for you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “True accountability is about me learning to be responsible for my own actions and behaviors.” - Nick Stumbo  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Pure Desire offers healing groups and great resources to help you find freedom from porn. Check them out here.  Get the stats: Read the research by Barna and Pure Desire HERE  If porn has impacted your marriage, take Dr. Kim's 5 Steps to Healing After Porn Betrayal webinar to kickstart your marriage healing. We recommend the book Good Pictures / Bad Pictures to help equip your kids against porn exposure.

Today's podcast is part III of a series of episodes of a real story of a couple who shares authentically about their journey of sexual brokenness, addiction, betrayal, and ultimately healing. To do justice work well, we have to wrestle together through the hard things. And if we want to fight s*x trafficking, we have to talk about the demand for it. Our stance is that porn is a huge precursor towards perpetuating trafficking and an addiction that is often brushed under the rug, leading to deep shame for those in addiction, or in other cases defensive minimization. We also believe in the worth, value, and dignity of each individual and so we offer this story to give you as the listener a new perspective and perhaps a reminder that even for the most seemingly broken of circumstances, there is above all hope that healing is possible and that quite possibly, the light can shine beautifully through our cracks. If you or a spouse are struggling with betrayal trauma, p*rn or s*xual addiction, there's help for you. Check out one of our highlighted podcast guests like Justin with Beyond the Line Ministries, or Ashley with Pure Desire Ministries - both are compassionate individuals who are here to help you. You are not alone.

Porn is doing real damage to too many Christians today. This issue is affecting a huge percentage of our brothers and sisters in Christ, and the shame that often prevents us from talking about it leads to secrecy and hinders healing.  We're thankful that Nick Stumbo is on the podcast today. Nick is a pastor and the director of Pure Desire Ministries. Along with Barna, Pure Desire recently conducted a study on the impact porn is currently having on the Church in America. Their findings demonstrate how crucial it is to open the conversation about porn among Christians to help them find healing from its destructive impact.     We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  What the stats tell us about how many Christians are viewing porn regularly Why talking openly is ESSENTIAL for healing  Exposing the progressive nature of porn addiction  How to make church a place where openness is possible  What to do if your church is not a safe place to confess  How to prepare your kids to handle porn exposure safely  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: The enemy would love for you to stay stuck in secrecy and shame. Jesus wants to bring freedom and healing. Take a step toward freedom today.  Questions to Discuss:  Do you have a safe friend you can be honest with? Are you practicing confession and accountability in your life? What can you do to help cultivate an honest, godly friendship today?  What is God prompting you need to take responsibility for so that you can grow closer to Him and your spouse today?    QUOTES  “Most people won't be surprised to know that the numbers are continuing to grow.” - Nick Stumbo  “To my knowledge, it's the first time in history that the majority of practicing Christians say they are doing pornography.” - Nick Stumbo  “84% of people said there is NO ONE helping them avoid pornography.” - Nick Stumbo  “If shame and secrecy are the sickness, then openness, community and love are what healing is all about.” - Nick Stumbo  “By the time it blows up a marriage, the help was needed 5-10 years ago.” - Nick Stumbo “You're not alone. There is help and hope for you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “True accountability is about me learning to be responsible for my own actions and behaviors.” - Nick Stumbo  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Pure Desire offers healing groups and great resources to help you find freedom from porn. Check them out here.  Get the stats: Read the research by Barna and Pure Desire HERE  If porn has impacted your marriage, take Dr. Kim's 5 Steps to Healing After Porn Betrayal webinar to kickstart your marriage healing. We recommend the book Good Pictures / Bad Pictures to help equip your kids against porn exposure.

Today's podcast is part II of a series of episodes of a real story of a couple who shares authentically about their journey of sexual brokenness, addiction, betrayal, and ultimately healing. To do justice work well, we have to wrestle together through the hard things. And if we want to fight s*x trafficking, we have to talk about the demand for it. Our stance is that porn is a huge precursor towards perpetuating trafficking and an addiction that is often brushed under the rug, leading to deep shame for those in addiction, or in other cases defensive minimization. We also believe in the worth, value, and dignity of each individual and so we offer this story to give you as the listener a new perspective and perhaps a reminder that even for the most seemingly broken of circumstances, there is above all hope that healing is possible and that quite possibly, the light can shine beautifully through our cracks. If you or a spouse are struggling with betrayal trauma, p*rn or s*xual addiction, there's help for you. Check out one of our highlighted podcast guests like Justin with Beyond the Line Ministries, or Ashley with Pure Desire Ministries - both are compassionate individuals who are here to help you. You are not alone.

In a new study, researchers found that pornography use is prevalent among all demographics, and Christian men and women surveyed, sadly, feel ok about their habit. Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, joins us to review the study results. Pure Desire Ministries – A safe place for men, women, and young adults to find hope and healing from the effects of sexual brokenness. (https://puredesire.org/)

Guys, are you ready to take back control of the sex education your kids receive? It's been an ever growing trend to let outside influences shape our children's understanding of sexuality.  In this week's interview, Jim Ramos talks to Rodney Wright, author of ‘How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex'. Rodney is a seasoned veteran with Pure Desire Ministries and shares his wisdom on how to guide your kids through these sensitive topics with confidence and clarity. Men, this isn't just a conversation, it's a call to action to break the silence in our faith communities - it's more important than ever! Check out Rodney's Book (Using our link to check out the book helps support our ministry - thanks!) Get Jim Ramos' USA TODAY Bestselling book, Dialed In: Reaching Your Full Capacity as a Man of God   Get your tickets now for The Unbreakable Boy movie: This episode is sponsored by MTNTOUGH Fitness Lab, a Christian-owned fitness app. Get 6 weeks free with the code ARENA30!  Want access to an ad-free, early-release version of the podcast? Get it with Arena Access on Patreon. Have questions you wish you could ask Jim about life, marriage, men's ministry, or manhood? Join his monthly live Zoom Q&A by joining The Locker Room on Patreon.   

On today's PoM Podcast episode I sat down with Nick Stumbo of Pure Desire Ministries. Nick, the executive director of Pure Desire, confronted his own porn addiction 15 years ago. He and his wife found healing through Pure Desire's counseling and group ministries. Nick believes parents should create a safe place to have an ongoing, open-ended conversation with their kids about healthy sexuality rather than focusing on having a one-time conversation about sex. Even though fathers have one of the earliest and most trusted roles in a young person's life, the data shows that they play a much less significant role in the sexual education of their children — this is often because they are also dealing with their own sexual struggles and history. To learn more: https://puredesire.org/Register for our next 90 Days of Discipline: https://www.thepursuitofmanliness.com/gear/p/90-days-may-julyRegister for our 2025 Fall Men's Retreat: https://www.thepursuitofmanliness.com/gear/p/2025-mens-retreatRegister for Tribe XVI starting June 1st: https://www.thepursuitofmanliness.com/gear/p/tribe-xviThis podcast is sponsored by Dark Water Woodwork. Dark Water Woodwork is offering a discount code exclusively for the podcast listeners. Use the discount code "PSALM824" to save 15% off of your next beard oil purchase. https://www.darkwaterkc.comSupport the show

Today's podcast is part I of a series of episodes of a real story of a couple who shares authentically about their journey of sexual brokenness, addiction, betrayal, and ultimately healing. To do justice work well, we have to wrestle together through the hard things. And if we want to fight s*x trafficking, we have to talk about the demand for it. Our stance is that porn is a huge precursor towards perpetuating trafficking and an addiction that is often brushed under the rug, leading to deep shame for those in addiction, or in other cases defensive minimization. We also believe in the worth, value, and dignity of each individual and so we offer this story to give you as the listener a new perspective and perhaps a reminder that even for the most seemingly broken of circumstances, there is above all hope that healing is possible and that quite possibly, the light can shine beautifully through our cracks. If you or a spouse are struggling with betrayal trauma, p*rn or s*xual addiction, there's help for you. Check out one of our highlighted podcast guests like Justin with Beyond the Line Ministries, or Ashley with Pure Desire Ministries - both are compassionate individuals who are here to help you. You are not alone.

Nick Stumbo is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, a ministry that helps people find hope and healing from the effects of sexual brokenness. Nick knows firsthand how a pornography addiction can destroy a person and marriage. In this conversation, Lori and Nick talk about current statistics surrounding porn use in the church from a study they did in partnership with the Barna Group. You will also learn:   The challenges a person may face in overcoming the shame associated with their sexual addiction and how to break free The importance of transparency with those around you, especially your spouse How to support loved ones who are struggling with addiction Why the data from their recent study is important and how we can use these findings to bring about healing and change There is freedom from bringing this often secret struggle to light. Nick will encourage you to seek help through God's power and other resources to be set free from this destructive addiction.   We appreciate your feedback. If this episode touches you, please leave us a five-star rating and review, helping us reach new listeners with hope for their marriage. You can also subscribe to our show on YouTube, Spotify, or iTunes.   Pure Desire Ministries  

Today's guest Ashley Jameson works as a Certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional and is passionate about partnering with churches to help individuals break free from addiction and shame, build healthy intimacy, and embrace the life God has for them through her work with Pure Desire Ministries. She shares with listeners about how her personal experiences with teen pregnancy, s*x and love addiction, and betrayal trauma have inspired her work now. Above all, she wants listeners to know that there is hope and healing with this kind of addiction is possible whoever you are and wherever you've been. If you'd like to learn more, Ashley is also a contributing author to Unraveled, Betrayal & Beyond, and Authentically You and co-hosts the podcast UnFiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love where she and co-host Heather have candid, no-judgment conversations about sex, relationships, and healing. You can also email groups@puredesire.com to get started on your own journey towards healing today.

Guest: Nick StumboMinistry: Pure Desire MinistriesPosition: Executive DirectorTopic: a discussion about the operation of pornography, its pervasiveness, and resources available to parents to help their children in this topic areaWebsite: puredesire.org

Welcome back to the unSeminary podcast. We're talking with Nick Stumbo, the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries. According to a Barna study, 75% of Christian men and 40% of Christian women view pornography at least occasionally, with 67% of pastors having a personal history of porn use. How can churches effectively address pervasive issues […]

It's Tuesday, January 28th, A.D. 2025. This is The Worldview in 5 Minutes heard on 125 radio stations and at www.TheWorldview.com.  I'm Adam McManus. (Adam@TheWorldview.com) By Kevin Swanson Brazil's Leftist president a liability Brazil's Left-wing president is not doing well in the polls. Luiz Inácio da Silva's ratings have dipped to 47%. Lula's deficits are running 9.5% of the Brazilian Gross Domestic Product which is the measure of the total value of goods and services produced in a country over a year. The Brazil Real, which is worth 16 cents in America, has dropped 16% in reference to the U.S. dollar since he took office. The Real took the dubious award for the worst-performing major currency in 2024, reports The Economist.  Brazil's debt to GDP also increased from 71% to 78% in 2024 Milei's conservative policies boosted Argentina's economy Meanwhile, just south of Brazil, Argentina's government under President Javier Milei has successfully reduced the nation's Debt to GDP ratio in 2024 from 155% to 112%. Milei's fiscally conservative policies also improved the nation's Gross Domestic Product slightly, year over year. South Africa seizing private property without compensation And, last week, South African President Cyril Ramaphosa signed a bill into law that would allow the national government to seize private property without having to pay compensation. The confiscations will be allowed where it is “just and equitable and in the public interest.” The radical measure has fired up disunity among parties in the new South African government. Power shifted a bit in South African government after last year's election. The African National Congress and the South African Communist Party dropped from 68% to 49.7% control over the nation's government. Redistribution of the land has not yielded good results thus far for the South African people.  Business Day reported that “On-farm beneficiaries earn little-to-no income, and the majority of beneficiaries seek employment on surrounding commercial farms instead of actively farming their own land. Where land reform farms are in operation, they operate below their full commercial potential and have a strong bias towards subsistence agriculture. Across sampled sites, crop production had decreased by 79% since conversion to land reform.” God's law states plainly, “Thou shalt not steal.” (Exodus 20:15) Trump's administration arrested 2,500 illegals since Thursday The U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement agency has already arrested 2,500 illegal immigrants since last Thursday, 956 on Sunday, reports One America News. This isn't the first time the United States has deported illegal immigrants. The previous administration averaged about 311 deportations per day, according to ICE reports.  About one-third of deportations in 2023 were individuals facing serious charges or convictions of crime as well as 237 known terrorists.  Democrats oppose protecting baby survivors of botched abortions The U.S. Congress still has proven itself incapable of taking the most basic pro-life position against the greatest evil in American society today. Republican Senator James Lankford's  Born-Alive Abortion Survivors Protection Act failed again last Thursday, as 47  Democrats voted against allowing the bill to proceed in the Senate. Listen to what Republican Majority Leader John Thune of South Dakota said about the Democrat opposition. THUNE: “We should all be able to agree that a baby born alive after an attempted abortion must be protected. And yet, I fully expect that later today, my Democrat colleagues will vote no on this legislation. “They will vote against protection for a living, breathing newborn baby simply because that child has been born alive after an attempted abortion. Why are they going to vote like that, Mr. President?  After all, I think most Democrats would still claim to oppose infanticide, even if the moral line at times appears to be slipping. And yet, Democrats are going to vote against legislation to provide appropriate medical care to living, breathing, newborn children.” Be sure of this: “Though they join forces, the wicked will not go unpunished; But the posterity of the righteous will be delivered.” (Proverbs 11:21) Rubio halts all foreign spending except for Israel, Egypt, & emergency food assistance Politico reports that Secretary of State Marco Rubio has halted all foreign aid spending for 90 days, including distributions to Ukraine. However, the order exempts foreign military financing for Egypt and Israel, and allows for emergency food assistance and “legitimate expenses incurred prior to the date of this” guidance “under existing awards.” 11% now delinquent on mortgage Commercial Mortgage-Backed Security reports the highest delinquency rate on mortgages in recorded history going back into the 1990s — now at 11%. That's up from 2% in 2023. Coresight, which tracks store closures, recorded a total of 7,325 retail stores shuttered up last year — a 67% increase over 2023. Family Dollar and CVS were the big losers. Amazon, Walmart, and Costco had big years. Coresight estimates 15,000 closures this year to include Party City, Big Lots, and Walgreens, reports CNBC. 75% of Christian men & 40% of Christian women use porn Barna Group and Pure Desire Ministries issued their 2024 “Beyond the Porn Phenomenon” report  concluding that pornography use has increased 11% over the last eight years. Seventy-five percent of Christian men and 40 percent of Christian women report that they are viewing pornography at least occasionally, and 60% are addicted. About half of practicing Christians say they are comfortable with the habit. Also, the younger generation (or Gen Zers) were the least likely to express comfort with how much porn they use. Gen Zers were almost twice as likely to say they wished they didn't use pornography at all, as compared to older generations. John Piper cites 2 Biblical motivations not to use porn Pastor John Piper addressed the porn problem in his recent “Ask Pastor John” podcast.   PIPER: “The biblical principle of motivation for purity, for not pursuing or indulging in sexual pleasure where it ought not to be found, is that the Bible uses fear and hope to draw us away from impurity. You hear both of these, for example, in Romans 8:13. “‘If you live according to the flesh, you will die. But if, by the Spirit, you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.'  So, if you spend your life giving into lust, the lust of the flesh, you perish. Now, that's meant to make us afraid. It's meant to strike fear into our hearts so that we turn away, flee from temptations of the flesh. “But then he says, ‘If by the Spirit, you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.' And that's meant to awaken hope. In the power of the hope, pursue this purity and not sin. So, the Bible uses both fear and hope, threat and promise.” He points to the Gospel motive from 1 Peter 2:24. It says, “He Himself bore our sins in His own body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live for righteousness—by whose stripes you were healed.”   Pastor Piper emphasized that “Christ purchased the power not to sin.” Pray for Pastor John MacArthur's recovery after heart surgery And finally, Pastor John MacArthur, the host of the radio program Grace to You, remains in the hospital following heart valve surgery, dealing with ongoing issues with his heart, lungs and kidney. Grace Community Church Elder Phil Johnson took to X to correct rumors that the pastor was dying. Johnson is urging fellow believers to “keep him in your prayers.”  Please pray for his recovery and send a get well card to Pastor John MacArthur, Grace Community Church, 13248 Roscoe Blvd, Sun Valley, CA 91352. I hope you will be one of hundreds of Worldview listeners to take the time to do so. Close And that's The Worldview on this Tuesday, January 28th, in the year of our Lord 2025. Subscribe by Amazon Music or by iTunes or email to our unique Christian newscast at www.TheWorldview.com. Or get the Generations app through Google Play or The App Store. I'm Adam McManus (Adam@TheWorldview.com). Seize the day for Jesus Christ.

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek and Scott interview Nick Stumbo, the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, about pornography and its impact on the brain and how it affects marriages. This episode is Part 1 in a 2-part series about pornography and marriage.Scriptures:James 5:161 Cor 6:18Resources:Website - Pure Desire MinistriesFree Downloads - 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma and 5 Steps to Freedom From PornPodcast – Pure Desire Ministries PodcastQuestions to Discuss:What'd the goal and purpose of our sexuality? How does pornography work against God's purposes?How has pornography impacted your marriage?What stood out to you from our interview with Nick?

How many men and women consume porn on a regular basis? How common is porn use within the church? How is porn affecting us?   Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, unpacks the surprising results of a recent study conducted by Barna on pornography use, and shares potential solutions.     Guest: Nick Stumbo, Pure Desire Ministries     Website: puredesire.org Instagram: @puredesirepdmi   Beyond the Porn Phenomenon Report   Java with Juli: #542 A Pastor, His Porn Problem, and How His Church Restored Him Missed last week's episode? Click here to listen to it! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Stacy Echeverria has always had a passion for helping people heal their emotional wounds. She was called to counseling before she ever knew that it was a calling in her life, and before she ever had an awareness of the Lord. Her life took her on a long and winding journey over 40+ years that finally led her back to her true passion: to help hurting people find hope, healing, and freedom in Jesus. For 12 years Stacy facilitated The Genesis Process groups for women at her church as well as taking individuals through the process. She is a licensed pastoral counselor; trained in T-JTA Temperament Assessment; a Genesis Process Relapse Specialist; as well as holding an MA in Clinical Christian Counseling from Colorado Theological Seminary, and is a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional through IITAP (International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals). Stacy is in private practice in Southern California and also provides clinical services at Pure Desire Ministries serving individuals struggling with sex addiction and betrayal trauma. Contact Stacy Echevierria: Website: https://www.trueyouministries.com/ Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-you-ministries/id1689945250 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/c-2924086 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TrueYou2023 Dr. Kimberley Linert Speaker, Author, Broadcaster, Mentor, Trainer, Behavioral Optometrist Event Planners- I am available to speak at your event. Here is my media kit: https://brucemerrinscelebrityspeakers.com/portfolio/dr-kimberley-linert/ To book Dr. Linert on your podcast, television show, conference, corporate training or as an expert guest please email her at incrediblelifepodcast@gmail.com or Contact Bruce Merrin at Bruce Merrin's Celebrity Speakers at merrinpr@gmail.com 702.256.9199 Host of the Podcast Series: Incredible Life Creator Podcast Available on... Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/incredible-life-creator-with-dr-kimberley-linert/id1472641267 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6DZE3EoHfhgcmSkxY1CvKf?si=ebe71549e7474663 and on 9 other podcast platforms Author of Book: "Visualizing Happiness in Every Area of Your Life" Get on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3srh6tZ Website: https://www.DrKimberleyLinert.com Please subscribe, share & LISTEN! Thanks. incrediblelifepodcast@gmail.com Social Media Links LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-kimberley-linert-incredible-life-creator/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kimberley.linert/ The Great Discovery eLearning Platform: https://thegreatdiscovery.com/kimberley

75% of Christian men and 40% of Christian women watch porn on a regular basis, but only 21% wish they didn't. Nick Stumbo shares these stats and other major findings of Beyond The Porn Phenomenon, a new research report produced by Barna and Pure Desire Ministries.Nick Stumbo is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and host of the Pure Desire Podcast. He's also the author of Setting Us Free: An Unexpected Journey Of Grace and Safe: Creating A Culture Of Grace In A Climate Of Shame. Learn more at puredesire.orgOrder Beyond The Porn PhenomenonGet the Church Toolkit (free bonus)~~~You're invited to The Porn Free Man Online Conference!When: Friday, January 10 and Saturday, January 11, 2025Get your free ticket now at thepornfreeman.com~~~Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

How do you rebuild trust in your marriage after pornography addiction? This week, join Greg & Erin as they sit down with Nick & Michelle Stumbo of Pure Desires Ministries to talk about their journey through Nick's addiction and the healing process that followed. Later, we hear a devotional from Bill Arbuckle. Later, we answer a question from a listener who wants to know if she and her fiance should place boundaries on their wedding night.   Click here to receive Nick's book, "Setting Us Free," for a gift of any amount!   Click here to listen to Greg & Erin's No Porn Marriage podcast   Click here for Pure Desire Ministries to find freedom and support from addiction   Click here for Pure Desire's F.A.S.T.E.R. scale to create healthy guardrails.   Call Focus on the Family at 1(855) 771-4357, or click here, to receive free counseling consultation   Donate Now!   We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Tune into our final pornography series episode with Nick Stumbo, Executive Director at Pure Desire Ministries. Nick shares how porn impacted him as a pastor and how he decided to find healing! Special shout out to Coventant Eyes for sponsoring this pornography seriers! Use our code KS30 to get your first month FREE! Find healing TODAY!!! Links from today's episode: Covenant Eyes (KS30 for your first 30 days free!!) Pure Desire Parent Resource: use code  PARENTS29 for a discount! Puredesire.org Pure Desire podcast ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In a new study, researchers found that pornography use is prevalent among all demographics, and the gap in use among Christians and non-Christians, as well as men and women, has sadly grown narrower over the last eight years. Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, joins us to review the study results. Pure Desire Ministries – A safe place for men, women, and young adults to find hope and healing from the effects of sexual brokenness.

My guest this week is the amazing Ashley Jameson. She is the Associate Director of Pure Desire Ministries- a ministry dedicated to equipping individuals and churches with the tools to heal from the impacts of sexual brokenness, addiction, and betrayal. She and her husband, John, discovered Pure Desire during one of the most challenging seasons of their marriage, battling the devastation caused by a pornography addiction. It's tools and resources provided them with the support necessary to heal their marriage and family. Four years later, Ashley now leads leadership training for Pure Desire's regional group advisors nationwide, helping spread the message of recovery and healing in communities and churches across the country. I truly believe this conversation is one that can bring hope, healing, and freedom to so many. Let's dive in! 3:23 – Ashley 101 •    Discovering her husband's addiction •    How Purse Desire's resources helped her family •    Joining the Pure Desire team 6:22 – The Realities Of Addiction •    The latest stats on Christian pornography use •    The lack of churches addressing this issue •    The unique challenges women face with pornography addiction 12:42 – Breaking The Silence •    The importance of normalizing these conversations  •    Impactful resources you can offer your congregation •    How compulsive sexual behavior rewires the brain •    The need for churches to become educated and equipped to handle these challenges 21:41 – The Neurological Impact Of Pornography  •    Having open conversations as a family •    Early exposure to harmful content  •    How repeated exposure rewires the brain 32:23 – Taking Steps Toward Healing •    The steps churches can take to become supportive environments •    Resources available through Pure Desire •    Getting help for betrayal trauma •    Practical first steps for women struggling with pornography FEATURED QUOTES “The newest numbers are showing that 75% of Christian men are looking at pornography, 40% of Christian women, and it's also saying that 82% of Christians are saying that nobody is helping them avoid pornography.” “We don't have to be afraid to talk about these things in a church or as leaders or as parents, because this stuff is already happening. What we're doing is just bringing it to light so we can start sifting through it and figuring out how to be part of the solution.” “My number one recommendation would be, do not go another day without having a plan of at least sharing it with one safe person who you can say, ‘will you walk with me as I try to figure out what my next step is?'”   Learn more about Ashley: Pure Desire Ministries  https://puredesire.org/ Pure Desire's Resources https://puredesire.org/resources/ Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unfiltered-real-talk-about-sex-love/id1749351656 Get in touch with Pure Desire (503) 489-0230 groups@puredesire.org  

The beginnings of an affair are often innocent and hardly noticeable, which is why you should take steps to safeguard your marriage. This week, join Greg & Erin as they sit down with author and counselor Dave Carder to talk about building trust, setting boundaries, and nurturing intimacy to keep your marriage strong and secure. Later, we share our favorite date night ideas. Then, we answer a question from a listener who wants to know how she should handle confronting her husbands addiction to pornography.   Click here to receive Dave's book, "Anatomy of an Affair," for a gift of any amount!   Read Erin's article, "Make Date Night With Your Spouse A Weekly Habit."   Read Erin's article, "Why and How to Pursue a Healing Separation."   Read Joann Condie's book about how to deal with a spouse's porn addiction, "Aftershock."   If you or your spouse struggle with porn, click here for Pure Desire Ministries   Donate Now!   We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

According to a new study a majority of practicing Christians, including pastors, admit to viewing pornography and a large share say they are comfortable with the habit. In Barna's recently released researched report, Beyond the Porn Phenomenon, produced in partnership with Pure Desire Ministries, researchers found that pornography use is so prevalent among all demographics and the gap in use among Christians and non-Christians, as well as men and women, has grown narrower over the last eight years! https://www.christianpost.com/news/majority-of-practicing-christians-admit-to-viewing-porn-study.html See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Micah and Tori join Matt for a conversation about gospel transformation and sexuality. How does the freedom that gospel transformation provides apply to our sexual lives? How do we navigate this in our lives in order to prevent the destructive realities that can occur? Check out the book: How to Talk with Your Kids About Sex by Rodney and Tracie Wright. You can find it on the Pure Desire Ministries website.

On this episode of BRT, we have a special guest, Pastor Nick Stumbo. Nick is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and has an extensive background in pastoral ministry. He began his ministry career at East Hills Alliance Church in Kelso, Washington, where he served as lead pastor for over a decade. Confronted with his own pornography addiction, Nick and his wife, Michelle, found hope and healing through Pure Desire's counseling and group ministries. His public disclosure led to a revival of forgiveness and healing within his church, and he continues to lead the way in helping churches become places of healing. Episode Description: In this episode, Kris, Jenn, and Nick share a powerful message for pastors and clergy on effectively supporting women going through betrayal trauma. Using the analogy of how a paramedic would treat a severe wound, they provide six key steps for clergy and support personnel to follow:Key Highlights:Assess the Severity of the Wound - Listen to Her: Nick emphasizes the importance of actively listening to the betrayed spouse, believing her reality, and displaying genuine sympathy. Show kindness and care to provide solace during her crisis.Stop the Bleeding - Focus on the immediate need, not the marriage. Avoid cause-and-effect thinking and allow her to express her emotions and needs at her own pace. Asking "permission questions" will help the clergy better understand her urgent concerns and priorities.Bandage the Wound & Stabilize the Patient - Educate Her About the Healing Process. Inform her there is a healing process, and she will not be alone. Don't Rush Forgiveness: Understand forgiveness and avoid minimizing the situation. Guide Her in the Present: Help her focus on the "now" and provide comfort and hope. Teach the Keys to Rebuilding Trust: Discuss sincerity, ability, and durability as crucial elements of rebuilding trust.Treat for Shock - Normalize the Experience: Minimize isolation, emotional flooding, and embarrassment by providing community and helping her deal with emotions. Provide Community: Connect her with others who understand her situation and can offer support.Support the Injury - Offer Support: Provide resources, encourage her to grieve, help her establish a circle of trust, and teach the importance of healthy boundaries.If the Wound is Too Severe, Call 911 - Ask for Help: Refer her to trained professionals like CSATs, PSAPs, CCPSs, and C-SASIs for specialized support. "When in doubt, refer out!"Connect with Us:Visit our website: Watermark CoachFollow us on Instagram: @WatermarkCoachingPure Desire Ministries: https://puredesire.orgThank you for listening! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review our podcast to stay updated on future episodes.

Welcome to the 20th episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! This is a significant milestone for us, and we're thrilled to celebrate it with a special guest, Debby Flanagan. Debby is a clinician with Pure Desire Ministries, where she serves as a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional. She holds a Bachelor's degree from Corban University and has an Advanced Certification through the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP). Debby is dedicated to helping individuals who are struggling with sexual and emotional issues, guiding them through their healing journey with compassion and expertise.Episode Description: In this milestone episode, we dive deep into the topic of trauma with Debby Flanagan. Debby shares her profound knowledge of trauma, how it affects our brain and body, and its impacts on our relationships. She also discusses common signs and symptoms of trauma, how to recognize it within ourselves, practical strategies for recovery, and ways to support someone who is dealing with trauma.Key Highlights:Understanding Trauma:Debby explains what trauma is and the different forms it can take. She provides insights into how trauma can stem from various sources and how it manifests in our lives.Effects on Brain and Body:Learn about the physiological and psychological impacts of trauma. Debby discusses how trauma affects brain function, the nervous system, and overall physical health.Impacts on Relationships:Discover how trauma can influence our interactions and relationships. Debby highlights the challenges and dynamics that trauma introduces into personal and interpersonal connections.Common Signs and Symptoms:Debby outlines the typical signs and symptoms of trauma, helping listeners to identify these in themselves or others. Understanding these indicators is crucial for initiating the healing process.Recognizing Trauma Within Ourselves:Debby shares strategies for self-awareness and self-reflection to recognize trauma within ourselves. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and validating our experiences.Practical Strategies for Recovery:Gain practical advice and tools for trauma recovery. Debby discusses therapeutic approaches, self-care practices, and coping mechanisms that can aid in the healing journey.Supporting Someone with Trauma:Learn how to support someone who is dealing with trauma effectively. Debby guides by offering empathy, creating a safe space, and encouraging professional help.Connect with Us:Visit our website: Watermark CoachFollow us on Instagram: @WatermarkCoachingLearn more about Tammy's work: Betrayal HealingThank you for listening! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review our podcast to stay updated on future episodes.

We started with the internet and a question about how to best prepare our kids to navigate the online world. Now, we talk about pornography. Central to all of our concerns about our kids is the very present reality that kids get hurt, exploited, disconnected, and overwhelmed by digital and online content every day. It's not just about pornography...but we recognize that porn and sexual content has a particular prominence amongst the dangers to our kids found on the internet. So then, we who are dads, and counselors, and most of us specifically trained to address porn addiction and compulsive sexual behaviors offer up our perspectives. We talk about what we do it our particular families to protect our particular kids. The Outer Circle Inner Stillness is made possible by support from listeners, patrons, likes, and shares. To learn more about how to support the podcast, visit www.patreon.com/outercircle.  Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and through New Pattern Counseling at www.newpatterncounseling.com, and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions! Stephen Black can be found through Fircrest Behavioral Health in Vancouver, WA at stephen@fircrestbh.com Trevor Winsor can be found through Pure Desire Ministries in Gresham, OR, www.puredesire.org and trevor@puredesire.org. Ben Poling can be found through A New Day Counseling Center in Portland, OR at www.anewdaycounseling.org  Keaton Kleiner can be found through City Care Counseling, serving all over Nebraska, at www.citycarecounseling.com.  Other Resources Mentioned https://fightthenewdrug.org/ #counseling #therapy #mentalhealth #addiction #sobriety #porn #pornography #pornaddiction #sexaddiction #kids #children #family #fatherhood #parenting #internet #technology #devices #safeguards #filteringsoftware #christianity #christian #faith #spirituality #church #religion #orthodoxy #orthodoxchristianity #protestant #evangelical #brain  Family Shepherds: Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes, by Voddie BauchamDopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence, by Anna Lembke

It was a privilege to have Kyle Moore join us for this episode of The Stories Collective! Kyle was born and raised in Arizona and he and his family began attending Desert Springs last summer. You may have even seen Kyle baptized back in May! In today's conversation Kyle really takes us on a journey through his life. Shortly before he was born his parents had come to know the Lord. Their family began attending church and incorporating God into their lives. Kyle describes definitely feeling that spiritual influence but struggling to fully commit, feeling like he was one foot in and one foot out. At around age 11 he was exposed to pornography, and this started a struggle that plagued him for many, many years. He never opened up with anyone about this struggle and felt like he couldn't even bring it to the Lord. Like many Christians Kyle desired to be married and thought that marriage would help to solve this problem. He met and married his wife Meagan but unfortunately it became apparent how deep this struggle was. Kyle still suffered from this addiction alone, not revealing to anyone around him what was truly going on. After years and years of this secret sin Kyle attended a Men's Retreat where the Lord worked in his heart in an incredible way. Being surrounded by community he finally spoke out loud about his addiction and began to feel this weight lifted. He was joined together with other men and began a yearlong road to recovery. Kyle even shared with his wife and though it was hard his marriage was transformed for the better. This is a testimony of transformation through the healing found in God's grace. Be encouraged as you listen and share with someone who might be in the same place. For other stories about recovery from pornography addiction, check out our episodes featuring Randy Donithan (Ep. 104), Trevor Schalow (Ep. 106) + Bradley Chaddick (Ep. 120).If you find yourself struggling with a sexual addiction you are not alone. We want to help. Email Pastor Trevor at trevor@dscchurch.com to get started. Pure Desire Ministries - https://puredesire.orgWould you please subscribe and leave us a review? This will help our podcast reach more people! We'd love it if you'd share this podcast with your friends on social media and beyond. Join us next Wednesday to hear another story of God's faithfulness!

How will you talk to your kids about the internet and devices? What kind of parameters will you set and why? What do you see are the benefits and risks of giving developing humans access to the maelstrom that is the online world? In particular, how will you equip your kids in preparation for inevitable exposure to pornography? I asked these questions of a group of dads who are also counselors, most of whom also specialize in sex and porn addiction. And thus, this conversation was born! The Outer Circle Inner Stillness is made possible by support from listeners, patrons, likes, and shares. To learn more about how to support the podcast, visit www.patreon.com/outercircle.  Rhys Pasimio can be found through www.patreon.com/outercircle and on instagram at @newpattrencounseling and through New Pattern Counseling at www.newpatterncounseling.com, and is always happy to dialogue with listeners bringing honest questions! Stephen Black can be found through Fircrest Behavioral Health in Vancouver, WA at stephen@fircrestbh.com Trevor Winsor can be found through Pure Desire Ministries in Gresham, OR, www.puredesire.org and trevor@puredesire.org. Ben Poling can be found through A New Day Counseling Center in Portland, OR at www.anewdaycounseling.org  Keaton Kleiner can be found through City Care Counseling, serving all over Nebraska, at www.citycarecounseling.com.  Other Resources Mentioned https://fightthenewdrug.org/ #counseling #therapy #mentalhealth #addiction #sobriety #porn #pornography #pornaddiction #sexaddiction #kids #children #family #fatherhood #parenting #internet #technology #devices #safeguards #filteringsoftware #christianity #christian #faith #spirituality #church #religion #orthodoxy #orthodoxchristianity #protestant #evangelical #brain Family Shepherds: Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes, by Voddie BauchamDopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence, by Anna Lembke

Like many young people who've grown up in physically and emotionally abusive households, Ben Bennett turned to self-destructive methods to find the acceptance and fulfillment he'd never received from his parents—from overconsumption of food and alcohol to pornography. After trying unsuccessfully to shake his porn addiction on his own, Ben connected with Dr. Ted Roberts and Pure Desire Ministries, who taught him about the neuroscience of his sinful behaviors. For the past 10 years, Ben has worked with ministry leaders and therapists alike to help others kick their destructive behaviors by digging into the “unmet longings” behind them. Ben talks with Nate Dewberry this week about his struggles as a young man and how he finally broke free of them, and offers encouragement to other struggling men who believe—wrongly, as he once did—that their sins have caused God to turn His back.Visit The Redeemed's website for downloadable discussion question sets, show notes, inspirational articles, more resources, or to share your testimony.Join our Exclusive Newsletter: Signup today and be the first to get notified on upcoming podcasts and new resources!The Redeemed is an organization giving men from all backgrounds a supportive, judgment-free environment, grounded in Christian love without demanding participation in any faith tradition, where they can open up about their challenges, worries, and failures—and celebrate their triumphs over those struggles. Have a redemption story? Share your redemption story here. Interested in being a guest on our podcast? Email Nate@theredeemed.com Follow The Redeemed on Social Media: Podcast YouTube Facebook Instagram LinkedIn Twitter

Hey men, this week we have Nick Stumbo on from Pure Desire Ministries. Nick and his ministry work with men struggling with pornography and supports churches with support / recovery groups and recourses, all avaliable at their links below. Don't forget to leave a review and follow us everywhere @noregretsmen!    https://puredesire.org/   https://puredesire.org/podcasts/   https://puredesire.org/tools/

In this episode, we welcome back Ashley Jameson from Pure Desire Ministries. She helps us understand trauma, addiction, and women's struggles with sex and relationships, shining a light on the importance of transforming our worldly views on sexuality.Ashley candidly highlights the different ways women grapple with their sexuality. Ranging from matters of toxic relationships to fears of intimacy, her insights and personal journey resonate deeply.Ashley also explores the negative impact of violent sexual acts in fantasies and media content. She emphasizes the urgent need to redefine our perspective of sexuality as a beautiful and valuable gift from God.As a wrap-up, Ashley speaks on the far-reaching positive impacts of breaking free from sexual shame on all aspects of life, notably parenting and personal relationships. This powerful conversation will invite women dealing with love, sex, and relationship issues to boldly embark on their individual healing journeys.To learn more about Ashley and the resources mentioned in this episode, visit PureDesire.org. More Resources:Unraveled KitCounseling HelpFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:God's Grace for Women Struggling with Sexual ShameGoing Deeper for Women: How Your Inner Child Affects Your Love and Sex AddictionFreedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

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In this powerful episode of The Covenant Eyes Podcast, join host Karen Potter and special guest Ashley Jameson from Pure Desire Ministries as they dive deep into the crucial conversation surrounding women's struggles with sexual brokenness. Ashley, an associate director of women's groups at Pure Desire, shares her own journey of overcoming sexual addiction and betrayal, providing invaluable insights and wisdom along the way.Discover how technology, social media, and societal pressures are impacting women's sexual identities and relationships, and learn practical strategies for navigating these challenges. From the importance of transparency and support within the Church to empowering young women to break free from shame and secrecy, Ashley offers actionable advice for both individuals and church communities.Don't miss this enlightening discussion filled with hope, encouragement, and practical guidance for anyone struggling with sexual brokenness or seeking to support others on their journey to healing. Tune in now and join the conversation!https://puredesire.orghttps://covenanteyes.com#sexualbrokenness #covenanteyes #puredesire #sexualaddiction #sexualityTry Covenant Eyes for FREE today!Use Promo Code: FreePodcast

Why is pornography such a big deal? This is a common question in the culture, but not necessarily one of alarm, but rather questioning why ministries like ours and many others even exist. Is there any real harm to pornography?To help us answer these questions we have Nick Stumbo back on the program. Nick is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and an author and speaker on sexual issues from a Christian worldview. In our conversation, Nick shares many of the negative effects of porn: biological, mental, emotional, and relational. We look at the many unhealthy patterns porn promotes, the natural trajectory of tolerance (both individually and culturally), the linkage between human trafficking and porn, and then how to live free from the negative effects of porn. Finally, Nick shares a new video series resource called Living Undefiled that takes an in-depth look at the topics surrounding pornography and human trafficking. To learn more about Nick and Pure Desire, visit PureDesire.org. To get access to the Living Undefiled course, visit LivingUndefiled.com. More Resources:Help for MenHelp for Women*NCOSERelated Podcasts:New Research on Why Women View PornExposing the True Impact of PornKeeping Kids Safe in a Digital World*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

It destroys marriages and families but hides in silence and secrecy. It traps men and women in shame and guilt, usually for their lifetimes. Almost everybody acknowledges it exists but nobody wants to talk about it. Chris, Greg, and Ken welcome guest Nick Stumbo to the virtual bar for an open, honest discussion about what could be the most destructive sin in our society and its prevalence even in Jesus' church.Pure Desire Ministries

Stephanie Broersma joins us today to share her story with infidelity and how she navigated the devastation within her marriage. She shares how her and her husband have walked the journey of healing and how they protect their marriage today.Find Stephanie Broersma, here: https://reclaimedministry.com/Grab Reclaimed: Finding Your Identity after Marriage Betrayal, here: https://reclaimedministry.com/product/reclaimed-book/Find help through Pure Desire Ministries, here: https://puredesire.org/who-we-are/Partner with us through donating (A Wife Like Me is a 501(c)3 noprofit), here: https://awifelikeme.com/giveGrab our book, Dear Wife, here: https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Wife-Invitations-Practice-Connection/dp/0578470594Listen to the A Wife Like Me Podcast, here: https://awifelikeme.com/podcast/Grab our planner, Design My Day, here: https://awifelikeme.com/design-my-dayFind out your Wife Type in less than 3 minutes, here: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/63b9c12b3108f50016d71ba7Grab our FREE marriage resources, here: https://awifelikeme.com/subscribe-to-a-wife-like-meSupport the show

Many survivors suffer unspeakable abuse in their childhood and never tell another soul about it. It is very common to not have the words to even describe what happened to their bodies, their minds, and emotions. My guest Mark McNear is here to talk about his book Finding My Words: A Ruthless Commitment to Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark candidly talks about his painful childhood, the long term fallout from the abuse, what was it like going through rehab, and finding the words and the courage to tell his story. Join us for a powerful testimony of freedom in Christ! Buy Mark's Book here on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-My-Words-Ruthless-Commitment-ebook/dp/B0BGMGH6C2/ref=sr_1_1?crid=36AYSHZ273U84&keywords=finding+my+words+mark+mcnear+book&qid=1694993908&sprefix=finding+my+words%2Caps%2C214&sr=8-1 DR. MARK M. MCNEAR BIO Dr. Mark M. McNear is a Licensed Psychotherapist who has over thirty years of experience in clinical work through his private practice in New Jersey. He is a graduate of Northeastern Bible College, New York University, and Oxford Graduate School. Dr. McNear specializes in helping people who have experienced trauma in their life, as well as the maladaptive behaviors that spring forth from their woundedness. Yet, Dr. McNear doesn't approach his clientele purely from a clinical perspective but as someone who also has experienced severe trauma in his life and the healing power found in Christ. In his recent memoir, Finding My Words: A Ruthless Commitment to Healing Gently after Trauma, Dr. McNear reveals he suffered a traumatic and abusive childhood. He suffered sexual abuse and physical abuse starting at the age of four and was repeatedly told he was stupid, a fool, and trash. Dr. McNear hid these abuses deep in his heart for many years – until they caught up with him. Today, Dr. McNear seeks to help others find the freedom and healing in Christ that he himself received once he faced his own traumatic past. In addition to his private practice, Dr. McNear has been a speaker to audiences nationwide. He has also been a frequent guest on nationally syndicated radio broadcasts, podcasts, authored articles, and Op-eds, and been a co-host panelist for a video series dealing with Christianity and Mental Health. “Mark's experience is my experience. Though my childhood trauma and abuse left me with a lifetime of scars, it also did something else. It brought me to the God who loves me. And that changed my life and brought healing beyond measure. Whatever you're going through, God has seen others, like Mark and I, through similar trauma to show you that if God can do it for them, he can do it now, for you.” -- Josh McDowell “It has been said that if we don't transform our pain, we will certainly transmit it. Mark McNear shows us in this wonderful book that the opposite is also true: if we do transform our pain, we can pass on healing, wisdom, and grace to others. McNear, a professional helper, turns his pen on the pain, complexity, and beauty of his own story in a way that will capture your heart. He speaks with deep honesty about his trauma, but also about his recovery by the grace of God. Whether you are attempting to face your own trauma story or help someone around you do the same, I believe Mark's story will be a gift and an encouragement to you.” — Nick Stumbo, Executive Director, Pure Desire Ministries, Troutdale, OR Podcast Links Website: https://dswministries.org Email: diana@dswministries.org Social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DSW-Ministries-230135337033879 Twitter: https://twitter.com/DswMinistries YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxgIpWVQCmjqog0PMK4khDw/playlists Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dswministries/ https://dswministries.org/subscribe-to-podcast/ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Stitcher, Listen Notes Keep in touch with me!

How can we take action after relapse for growth and healingwithout using shame or punishment? After a porn relapse, what do appropriate consequences look like?Nick Stumbo and Trevor Winsor are members of the Executive Team at Pure Desire Ministries. Together, they host the popular Pure Desire Podcast.Free tools mentioned in this episode:Recovery Action Plan (for when a relapse has occurred)Escape Plan (for when we are triggered or tempted)Relapse Prevention Plan (for day-to-day life)The F.A.S.T.E.R. Scale (for self-awareness)Register for the Pure Desire Summit at puredesire.org/summit!Nick Stumbo is the Executive Director for Pure Desire. He has been in ministry leadership for over two decades. He was in pastoral ministry at East Hills Alliance Church in Kelso, Washington for 14 years. Nick has a Bachelor's in Pastoral Studies from Crown College, an MDiv from Bethel Seminary, and is a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). He has authored two books, Setting Us Free and Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame.Trevor Winsor is the Marketing Director for Pure Desire. He has been in ministry leadership for 10 years. Trevor is a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). He has a Bachelor's in Psychology from Corban University, a Master's in Ministry & Leadership from Western Seminary, and is a licensed pastor. Trevor is passionate about integrating trauma and addiction healing with spiritual disciplines to produce holistic healing.Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Welcome to the inaugural episode of the Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast with your hosts Kris Rocha and Jenn Howie. In this episode, we're diving deep into the tumultuous journey that begins when you've just discovered your partner's betrayal. Whether you're just starting on this path or need a reminder along the way, this episode acts as a survival guide to help you navigate the trauma you're experiencing and help you find your way to healing quickly.Episode Overview:D-Day and Betrayal Trauma (01:04)Where Do I Go When D-Day Happens? (05:55)Understanding Pain Shopping (10:00)Nurturing Your Soul Through Soul Care (13:51)Discovering Additional Resources (20:58)LINKS:Coaching with Jenn & Kris:Watermark Coaching with Kris Rocha: https://www.watermarkcoach.com/homeHealing with the Howies, Jenn Howie: https://healingwiththehowies.com/Betrayal Recovery Organizations:Pure Life Alliance: https://www.purelifealliance.com/Be Broken: https://www.bebroken.org/Daring Adventures: https://go.drjakeporter.com/?r_done=1Bethesda Workshops: https://www.bethesdaworkshops.org/423 Communities: https://www.423communities.org/Pure Desire Ministries: https://puredesire.org/Green Shoe Foundation: https://www.greenshoe.org/Recommended Podcasts:The Living Truth: https://living-truth.org/podcast/Pure Sex Radio: https://bebroken.podbean.com/Therapy & Theology: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-and-theology/id1641587501Books:The Betrayal Bind: https://michellemays.com/books/the-betrayal-bind/Good Boundaries & Goodbyes: https://www.p31bookstore.com/products/good-boundaries-and-goodbyesSeeing Beautiful Again: https://lysaterkeurst.com/category/seeing-beautiful-again/The "Am I Not Enough?" Question (24:29)Will It Always Be This Way? (30:16)Learning to Trust Again (34:39)

Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org Show Notes: Earlier this season, Nicole Breining spoke about her husband's pornography addiction that resulted in betrayal trauma and a serious strain on their relationship. But what impact does pornography addiction have on the rest of the family? Do kids experience a similar type of trauma when they learn parents struggle with a problematic sexual behavior? How should parents respond if and when they discover their children are viewing pornography? In this episode of Crosspoint, Dr. John Thorington addresses these questions. John is a licensed professional counselor and certified sexual recovery therapist, and he has a private practice in Huntsville, Alabama, called Restoring Hearts Counseling. If you haven't already, listen to his first episode with Crosspoint from its first season, titled “The Theological Implications of Addiction.” John talks about how parents might navigate a conversation with kids when a parent is struggling with problematic sexual behaviors, how to set boundaries in recovery, and what resources to use in next steps. We then flip the script to talk about how parents can move forward when they learn their child is the one struggling with problematic sexual behaviors, turning to God's design rather than the world's during ongoing conversations. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode:  Restoring Hearts Counseling, John's practice that offers competent counseling and treats teen pornography addiction and other compulsive online behaviors with a Christian perspective Pure Desire Ministries, which seeks to provide hope, freedom, and healing from sexual brokenness through Jesus Christ Be Broken Ministries, which helps men, women, and families move from sexual brokenness to wholeness in Christ and equips others to do the same Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents by Daniel Weiss and Joshua Glaser, written to help parents navigate conversations with their kids about pornography Honest Talk: A New Perspective on Talking to Your Kids About Sex by John Fort, a guide that provides parents a new approach to help children safely navigate today's hypersexual culture The Porn Phenomenon: The Impact of Pornography in the Digital Age, a Barna Report published in partnership with Josh McDowell Ministries Focus on the Family, a global Christian ministry dedicated to helping families thrive Covenant Eyes: Screen Accountability™ Sexpectations: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Healthy Relationships by Barb Winters Pure Teens: Honoring God, Relationships, and Sex by Dr. John Thorington As you listen to this conversation with John, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  What is the value of backing up promises with action when navigating recovery from addiction with your family? If you're a parent finding out that your child is viewing pornography, how can you make sure you respond well so that your relationship is not damaged? What can we learn from Jesus' example as He interacts with the woman at the well in John 4:1-26? How can you be proactive in educating your kids about God's design for sex and sexuality in a world where we often see a rebellion against that design? John talks about the potential harm we can do by framing conversations about sex in a negative light. How ought God's design and His positive view of it shape how we talk about sex? 

Show Notes:  CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), return to the podcast today to continue our series on pornography and sexuality. If you haven't listened to the first three episodes in this series, I encourage you to check out those episodes first and then return to hear today's episode as we discuss the three parts of the healing process, resources for recovery, and more.  The Breinings break down the three parts of addiction recovery—breaking denial structures, understanding the addictive cycle, and accessing the wound. We then address why we can feel so discouraged by the time and effort required to heal, the value of understanding the nature of addiction regardless of personal experience, and the importance of addressing these sin struggles for the purpose of restoration rather than rejection.  Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode:  Pure Desire Ministries, through which Brent and Nicole help men and women heal from unwanted sexual behaviors and their repercussions  Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships, a resource for women  Sexual Integrity 101, an eight-week study for men, women, and churches  Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, a book that explores the “why” behind self-destructive sexual choices  Covenant Eyes: Screen Accountability™  If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email topodcast@ocfusa.org As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:  Brent says, “Sexual bondage is not about sex, but medicating the pain in your life.” No matter what addictions you might struggle with, what pain might you trying to be medicate?  Who can you trust and talk to about your traumatic experiences and addictive behaviors? How can you be someone others can talk to about their struggles as well?  How does our quick-fix culture present challenges in recovering from addiction?  In what ways can you help the church adopt a culture of grace when it comes to ministering to broken people in this context?  What tools can you utilize to overcome unwanted sexual behaviors and/or keep in mind to recommend to others struggling with such behaviors?

Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.   Show Notes: CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), return to the podcast today to continue our series on pornography and sexuality. If you haven't listened to the first episode in this series, I encourage you to check out that episode first, get to know Brent and Nicole's story, then return to hear today's episode as we dive into the nature of addiction.  We discuss statistics and real-world case studies regarding the pornography industry that reveal the magnitude of its harmful effects on society and on individuals alike. Brent and Nicole then unpack terms and concepts such as the cyclone of addiction, the shame cycle, and neurochemistry of the brain that all point to God's intricate design for His creation. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode: ·      Restoring the Soul podcast: Part 1 with Tony Anderson, and Part 2 with Tony Anderson ·      Fight the New Drug ·      The Social Dilemma ·      Pure Desire Ministries, through which Brent and Nicole help men and women heal from unwanted sexual behaviors and their repercussions   As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: We refer to the statistic that 49% of rescued sex trafficking victims were forced to participate in the production of pornographic material. How ought that knowledge affect decisions to consume that pornographic material?   How does the pornography industry harm our perceptions of others as individuals made in the image of God? Why might “rigid, disengaged homes,” per Brent's description, often become an environment in which many individuals become sex addicts? What habits can you establish to “live in this world of technology… but do it in a healthy manner,” as Brent says? What sin struggles have prompted you to feel shame and hide from God and from fellow believers?   Loads of Additional Resources on this topic Problematic Sexual Behavior (Men): Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man's triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Roberts, T. (2021). Seven Pillars of Freedom (5th ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-betrayed-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/how-to-help-your-spouse-heal-from-your-sexual-betrayal/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-impact-of-sexual-addiction-w-adrian-hickmon/ Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International. Ward, G., Wiles, J., & Wiles, T. [Executive Producers]. (2013). Conqueror Series: The battle plan for purity [Video series]. KingdomWorks Studios.   Problematic Sexual Behavior (Women): Books: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2019). Unraveled: Managing love, sex, and relationships. Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 20). The Female Addict and Unraveled (No. 172) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-female-addict-unraveled/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-betrayed-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/how-to-help-your-spouse-heal-from-your-sexual-betrayal/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-impact-of-sexual-addiction-w-adrian-hickmon/ Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International.   Betrayal Trauma: Books: Kolb, H., Jameson, A., & Roberts, D. (2022). Betrayal & Beyond: Healing the trauma of sexual betrayal (3rd ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Pure Desire Ministries. 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (ebook). https://puredesire.org/free-ebook-7-keys-to-understanding-betrayal-trauma/ Steffens, B. & Means, M. (2021). Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (2nd ed.). Armin Lear Press Inc. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, November 3). Boundaries in Recovery (No. 174) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/boundaries-in-recovery/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, May 11). What If My Struggling Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 201) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-struggling-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 13). Hope for Betrayed Men (No. 210) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/hope-for-betrayed-men/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 27). 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (No. 212) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/7-keys-to-understanding-betrayal-trauma/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, February 1). Women's Takeover #1: Healing From Betrayal w/ Dr. Barbara Steffens (No. 239) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/womens-takeover-1-healing-from-betrayal-w-dr-barbara-steffens/   Healthy Sexuality: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K.  (2022). The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Roberts, T. & Roberts, D. (2010). Sexy Christians: The Purpose, Power and Passion of Biblical Intimacy. Baker Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 9). Soul Ties (No. 105) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/soul-ties/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 30). Sexual Discipleship w/ Juli Slattery (No. 108) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/sexual-discipleship-w-juli-slattery/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, April 26). The Good Guide to Great Sex w/ Dr. Keith and Sheila Wray Gregoire (No. 251) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-good-guide-to-great-sex-w-dr-keith-sheil-wray-gregoire/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 1). The Four Pillars of Sexual Love w/ Dr. Juli Slattery (No. 278) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-four-pillars-of-sexual-love-w-dr-juli-slattery/   Young Adults/College Age: Books (Young Men): Bennett, B., Butcher, B., & Roberts, T. (2016). Living Free. Pure Desire Ministries International. Books (Young Women): Bradley R. & Roberts, D. (2012). Behind the Mask: Authentic living for young women. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/  Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2018, January 30). Living Free w/Ben Bennett (No. 30) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcast/living-free/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/love-sex-and-dating/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/getting-healthy-before-marriage-w-drew-boa/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 12). Groups for Young Women (No. 184) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcast/groups-for-young-women/   Parents: Books: Roberts, B. & Kolb, H. (2018). Digital Natives: Raising an Online Generation. Pure Desire Ministries International. Wright, R. & Wright, T. (2020). How to Talk with Your Kids About Sex. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, August 13). What Parents Need to Know about Porn (No. 110) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-parents-need-to-know-about-porn/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-effects-of-pornography-w-josh-mcdowell/   Pastors/Chaplains/Churches: Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man's triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Stumbo, N. (2017). Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-effects-of-pornography-w-josh-mcdowell/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 27). No Shame Churches (No. 173) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/no-shame-churches/   Singles: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K.  (2022). The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/love-sex-and-dating/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/getting-healthy-before-marriage-w-drew-boa/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, July 26). Unmet Longings & Unhealthy Behaviors w/ Ben Bennett (No. 264) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/unmet-longings-unhealthy-behaviors-w-ben-bennett/   Miscellaneous: Books on Trauma: Falk, K. & Goldberg, J. (2018). Struggle Well: Thriving in the Aftermath of Trauma. Lioncrest. Van Der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Penguin Books.   Websites: Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists: https://www.apsats.org/ Authentic Intimacy: https://www.authenticintimacy.com/ Pure Desire Ministries International: https://puredesire.org.

Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF's “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to podcast@ocfusa.org.   Show Notes: In January 2023, Pensacola OCF hosted a one-day workshop to discuss sexual brokenness and unwanted sexual behaviors like pornography addiction and to introduce solutions for healing and wholeness. CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), led sessions throughout that one-day workshop, and they join me today on the podcast as we begin a series of episodes focusing on similar topics. Brent and Nicole share their story and the impact that porn had on their marriage in this episode, and their remaining three Crosspoint episodes will cover topics such as the nature of addiction, the shame cycle, and the neurochemistry of the brain. Having reached a breaking point in their marriage in 2012 and recovered since then by God's grace, Brent and Nicole talk about why that addiction placed such a strain on their marriage, how God worked through accountability partners in their healing process, and more. Above all, their desire is for listeners to understand there is hope and that God can restore anyone struggling with problematic sexual behaviors. Brent retired from the Navy in 2017 after a distinguished 27-year career, and he currently serves as a Foursquare Institutional Chaplain with Pure Desire Ministries, through which he helps men walk in sexual purity and break free from unwanted sexual behaviors. Nicole received a Bachelor of Science in biochemistry from the University of Illinois and a Doctor of Pharmacy from the University of Illinois at Chicago, going on to work as a hospital pharmacist for 25 years. Nicole also has been working with Pure Desire Ministries, leading their betrayal and beyond groups for spouses for about three years. Both Brent and Nicole are accredited pastoral professionals. As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: How can the church establish a culture of grace, especially as applies to this topic of addiction? Brent refers to Ephesians 5:25, which says “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” How does this verse shape your view of emotional intimacy in marriage? Brent talks about the iPhone's contribution to an increased accessibility to pornography in recent years. What steps can you take to ensure your own devices aren't contributing to addictive behaviors? How does our freedom in Christ set us free from the shame of our secrets? Nicole talks about realizing her husband's struggles with pornography prompted her to react in sin as well. If you've been hurt by someone else's sin, what's the value of not using their sin as license to sin in response? If you're struggling with addictive behaviors, sexual or otherwise, what positive habits can you establish to replace those behaviors? Why is assessing your heart posture in all things so critical?   Loads of Resources on this topic Problematic Sexual Behavior (Men): Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man's triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Roberts, T. (2021). Seven Pillars of Freedom (5th ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-betrayed-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/how-to-help-your-spouse-heal-from-your-sexual-betrayal/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-impact-of-sexual-addiction-w-adrian-hickmon/ Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International. Ward, G., Wiles, J., & Wiles, T. [Executive Producers]. (2013). Conqueror Series: The battle plan for purity [Video series]. KingdomWorks Studios.   Problematic Sexual Behavior (Women): Books: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2019). Unraveled: Managing love, sex, and relationships. Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 20). The Female Addict and Unraveled (No. 172) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-female-addict-unraveled/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-betrayed-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/how-to-help-your-spouse-heal-from-your-sexual-betrayal/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-impact-of-sexual-addiction-w-adrian-hickmon/ Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International.   Betrayal Trauma: Books: Kolb, H., Jameson, A., & Roberts, D. (2022). Betrayal & Beyond: Healing the trauma of sexual betrayal (3rd ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Pure Desire Ministries. 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (ebook). https://puredesire.org/free-ebook-7-keys-to-understanding-betrayal-trauma/ Steffens, B. & Means, M. (2021). Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (2nd ed.). Armin Lear Press Inc. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, November 3). Boundaries in Recovery (No. 174) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/boundaries-in-recovery/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, May 11). What If My Struggling Spouse Doesn't Want Healing? (No. 201) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-if-my-struggling-spouse-doesnt-want-healing/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 13). Hope for Betrayed Men (No. 210) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/hope-for-betrayed-men/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 27). 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (No. 212) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/7-keys-to-understanding-betrayal-trauma/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, February 1). Women's Takeover #1: Healing From Betrayal w/ Dr. Barbara Steffens (No. 239) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/womens-takeover-1-healing-from-betrayal-w-dr-barbara-steffens/   Healthy Sexuality: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K.  (2022). The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Roberts, T. & Roberts, D. (2010). Sexy Christians: The Purpose, Power and Passion of Biblical Intimacy. Baker Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 9). Soul Ties (No. 105) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/soul-ties/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 30). Sexual Discipleship w/ Juli Slattery (No. 108) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/sexual-discipleship-w-juli-slattery/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, April 26). The Good Guide to Great Sex w/ Dr. Keith and Sheila Wray Gregoire (No. 251) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-good-guide-to-great-sex-w-dr-keith-sheil-wray-gregoire/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 1). The Four Pillars of Sexual Love w/ Dr. Juli Slattery (No. 278) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-four-pillars-of-sexual-love-w-dr-juli-slattery/   Young Adults/College Age: Books (Young Men): Bennett, B., Butcher, B., & Roberts, T. (2016). Living Free. Pure Desire Ministries International. Books (Young Women): Bradley R. & Roberts, D. (2012). Behind the Mask: Authentic living for young women. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/  Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2018, January 30). Living Free w/Ben Bennett (No. 30) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcast/living-free/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/love-sex-and-dating/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/getting-healthy-before-marriage-w-drew-boa/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 12). Groups for Young Women (No. 184) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcast/groups-for-young-women/   Parents: Books: Roberts, B. & Kolb, H. (2018). Digital Natives: Raising an Online Generation. Pure Desire Ministries International. Wright, R. & Wright, T. (2020). How to Talk with Your Kids About Sex. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, August 13). What Parents Need to Know about Porn (No. 110) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/what-parents-need-to-know-about-porn/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-effects-of-pornography-w-josh-mcdowell/   Pastors/Chaplains/Churches: Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man's triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Stumbo, N. (2017). Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/the-effects-of-pornography-w-josh-mcdowell/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 27). No Shame Churches (No. 173) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/no-shame-churches/   Singles: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K.  (2022). The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: https://puredesire.org/podcasts/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/love-sex-and-dating/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/getting-healthy-before-marriage-w-drew-boa/ Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, July 26). Unmet Longings & Unhealthy Behaviors w/ Ben Bennett (No. 264) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. https://puredesire.org/podcasts/unmet-longings-unhealthy-behaviors-w-ben-bennett/   Miscellaneous: Books on Trauma: Falk, K. & Goldberg, J. (2018). Struggle Well: Thriving in the Aftermath of Trauma. Lioncrest. Van Der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Penguin Books.   Websites: Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists: https://www.apsats.org/ Authentic Intimacy: https://www.authenticintimacy.com/ Pure Desire Ministries International: https://puredesire.org.

In recent years women and girls have become increasingly active users of pornography websites. Not only that, but young women are increasingly viewing violent porn. Pornography should not be considered a man's issue, but a human issue. More women and girls are addicted every day and unsure of where to find help.To shine a light on this weighty topic, I invited Ashley Jameson of Pure Desire Ministries onto today's episode. Ashley says she spent years in a pattern of finding freedom from one addiction only to find herself in another. She has overcome betrayal and her own love and sex addiction.She knows firsthand the power of walking with others through recovery and she wants women who feel alone and stuck in their struggles to know they are not alone and there is hope. Ashley Jameson is a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP) through the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) and has been trained in the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM) through The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). She has been instrumental in training new leaders to advance the message of hope and healing throughout the church. Ashley's transparency is refreshing; her love for Jesus is contagious. You don't want to miss her story and expertise. Resources:Cultural Counterfeits - by Jen Oshman Pure Desire MinistriesPornhub Stats Reveal Women Search for More Hardcore Genres Than You Might ExpectHow Many Women Watch Porn?