This podcast is about achieving a quality life and quality relationships. Your friend abroad encourages you to dig deeper and identify the root cause of your relationship problems, prioritise your self-relationship before you focus on a difficult romantic relationship. Concepts applied include : Emotional intelligence. The root cause analysis. Virtue. Self-love. Childhood trauma and healing the inner child. The dichotomy of control.
Friends Abroad Relationship School
10 reflections to address progression red flags in relationships
cutting people off is not a one size fits or approach. it is necessary but can also be temporary or permanent full stop and it also depends on who what and when.
How to use emotions to make best interest decisions A system of living A self-care habit Objective evaluation of triggers A Stoic`s approach to trauma healing and relationship management : Self-parenting Magazine with a Stoic co-parent -- August 2022 https://amzn.eu/d/9XDRqgz The Stoic Monthly Self-Parenting and Self-Care Journal : For a safe home within. Issue 09/2022 (Friends Abroad Relationship : Self-healer series -Quality life before relationship!) https://amzn.eu/d/7Mti0v3 Self-care practice to prepare for inner child work: Self-parenting tools for self-healers https://amzn.eu/d/fMOeZHI
Why we need to teach people to detect, avoid and leave unhealthy relationship
Communication breakdown in relationships
5 Areas to assess if you wish to reconnect with an ex
Why does your ex detach and go elsewhere for emotional support?
Are you working with or against your partner?
9 habits that interfere with healthy relationships outcomes
3 Requirements for successful reconnection with an ex
Focus on yourself. Not what they are doing but what are you thinking and feeling?
3 behaviours that make your ex think they made the right decision by leaving you
Contact from ex dont mean they want relationship, same relationship or relationship will be healthy
Self-awareness for effective communication
4 Steps to change your relationship outcomes
Step into your power and avoid learned helplessness
Your mindset determines your relationship outcomes
Identify Unmet needs for your triggers or life situations
Before you progress a relationship have important conversations
How an anxious attached person can detach from being clingy
If you want to live well treat people like the weather
Do the results you hope to get match the work you are doing?
Episode 48 Trauma on the Screen - At first sight
The benefit or implication of doing inner work for men
Of instant connections and what's next
Learn to live well Assess Plan Intervene Evaluate Adjust
The excellence is in the focus and commitment
If you want to be viewed as a good person behave like one
Do not avoid the pain. Go through it and move through it and find a way to move forward
Leverage your strengths & skills to improve your relationships & quality of life
Are you ready for relationship if you avoid conflict?
It's not what the other person is doing
Do you need to be in relationship or therapy?
Don't set a partner to be your parent
You can't make anyone do anything Dichotomy of control If you find yourself repeating your boundaries to a partner, it's called, trying to make something happen It's subconsciously a scare tactic, a form of manipulation and control. This is about trying to change someone Instead of pushing for changes, the strike system might work Detach Give them opportunity to make changes You may express yourself 2-3 times If no change, let it go or let go When people get into a relationship, they know their responsibility to feed relationship container. They know what they set out for. A partner in a relationship is impacted by you, just as you are impacted by them. That is how they feel prompted to meet or address your needs. They do this without self-betrayal also. They honour themselves. Yet, they do not disregard your needs. If a partner is not making an effort to meet your needs or communicate why they cannot, they are making a choice to exclude you. You cannot make anyone do anything Consider how much of what your are communicating means to you If you have given them opportunity and there are no changes, it is up to you to either lay the issue to rest or let them go. If you lay an issue to rest, parent yourself to avoid resentment. If you cannot let go of resentment, let go of the relationship. You cannot keep repeating yourself to someone, otherwise the relationship can turn abusive. What can I do while my partner isn't doing what I want them to do? Focus on yourself Get into a routine that benefits you Create Hobbies Be in the moment Meet friends Help others When your partner is coming towards you, sort out whatever needs sorting out You only have now!
Conditioned anxiety and the absent parent Absence of a parent leads to conditioned anxiety and inability to self-regulate. Even for a child who is resilient, the initial loss is debilitating. Child feels let down when parents are absent, even when they pass away. Kids can not understand or process the reasons for their parent leaving or passing on. Children are naturally entitled, because their brains have not developed to process such data. And naturally, they need nurturing from their caregivers. They developed separation anxiety, and might become insecure attached Some children become overly independent and grow up quickly These children suppress their needs and wants for fear nobody cares. They fear attaching to another person due to fear of being abandoned again. Others become overly clingy on existing or replacement caregivers to avoid rejection. They might hold on despite abuse or poor treatment. Some children have a mix of these characteristics due to how they were looked after by their caregivers, or how they might be looked after by replacement or existing caregivers. Without support or healing, these children may exhibit these qualities in adult relationships. Consequently relationships will be dysfunctional and unhealthy. Heal the inner child to connect with yourself and for healthy relationships. Heal abandonment wounds Be the parent you needed when you were a child Invest in a support group Create boundaries and say no to wean yourself off unhealthy relationships
Choose your options between healthy and unhealthy coping strategies
Your self-relationship affects your parenting
5 self-assessment questions to prevent habitually reacting in life 1. Is there anything bothering me that might cause me to bleed on others 2. Is anything bothering me that I might bring into interactions & bleed on others? 3. Am I equipped to deal with this situation right now? 4. Does this situation warrant my response? 5. What if I do nothing?
Find out how you ended up in the present situation
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