The Ace Couple

As avid players of Dungeons and Dragons, Co-DMs, and players previously scorned, we know all too well the immense joy and devastating pain that asexual players can sometimes face at the gaming table. Due to popular demand, our love of the game, and desire for DnD to be a safer hobby for our community, we're back to analyze another round of TTRPG horror stories.

Trump's VP pick has weird pronatalist policy opinions and close ties to The Heritage Foundation.

And we're so glad we did! Not only does Bury Your Gays have FANTASTIC Ace rep, but it is just outright one of the best books we've read together in a long time.

Are these people assholes about asexuality? You all know the drill, so let's get to it!

New logo, who dis? Plus, we got silenced during Pride month and Courtney's boobs broke PodBean.

We've spent a lot of time covering articles that range from completely ignoring to downright hating Asexual people, so today we are thrilled to be covering an actually good article by Kera Bolonik about an asexual wedding.

Sexless marriages are often stigmatized as failures, but is the absence of sex truly a sign of a loveless relationship? Today we critique an article by Kate Lister, which fails to genuinely include asexual perspectives, and explore how understanding asexual experiences can benefit all individuals, regardless of their orientation.

Outside of the few explicitly Ace characters in media, there's a wide variety of Ace vibes and headcannons. Today, we'll talk about long running action adventure manga series like Dragon Ball and One Piece and how we can look at character depictions through all the adaptations, translations, and filler content.

How has our relationship dynamic changed over the span of a decade? Do we feel pressure to conform to traditional gender norms? How do people react to us being vegan vs being asexual? We answer all these and more!

We recently celebrated ten whole years of Asexual marital bliss! To celebrate we're answering listener questions about exploring new labels and identities after getting married, how people perceive our relationship, what "date nights" and intimacy looks like for us, and more!

We honestly had no intention of talking about Ashly Madison again, but a new documentary came out and we just couldn't resist watching!

We're rejoined today by Yilin Wang to give an update on the British Museum stolen translations debacle and to discuss their absolutely stunning new book The Lantern and the Night Moths.

What is cheating? Is "emotional cheating" a thing? Have we ever been cheated on? Plus a very silly article review about Ashley Madison users who cheat on their spouses but for some reason are adamant about their nauseatingly high brand loyalty.

Ca$h's Asexual journey continues into season 2. How does it develop... and is it getting better?

Last year we spotted some errors in the GLAAD Where We Are on TV report, so we thought we'd dig in this year's report to see if the numbers seem more accurate and analyze what it means for Asexual representation as whole.

An NYU professor thinks the Pro-Palestinian college protests are due to a lack of sex which is yet another example of sex being used as a tool of control to induce complacency and sexlessness being used as a scare tactic. This episode is NOT a comprehensive educational tool on the crisis in Gaza, but it IS a call to action...

Wow, has it really been 10 months since our last r/AmITheAsshole episode? Prepare for another round of judgement!

The New York Times Magazine asks, "Can a Sexless Marriage Be a Happy One?" in their recent Modern Love Issue, but they made a GLARING omission...

Let's talk about Asexual comedy! Starting with the Asexual computer repair episode of Nathan for You and following up with several standup sets, we have a variety of examples. Some is good, some is bad, some is written by us and for us, while some is downright cruel to us.

The Heritage Foundation is at it again. Their "Mandate for Leadership" tells a terrifying story of what the country will look like under the next conservative president and EVERY queer person needs to be aware.

It's time for round two of weird allo reality shows! Today we discuss Love is Blind Sweden, Perfect Match, Twenty Somethings Austin, and Dated & Related.

Sensational headlines and hateful comments online have informed us that Kourtney Kardashian came out as Autosexual. We investigate these claims and ponder whether she's even the first in the family to identify with an Ace-spec label.

Although not explicitly stated to be Asexual representation, the South Korean Netflix film Love and Leashes shows a fascinatingly sexless BDSM relationship that resonates with many Aces.

Forbes released a survey on "The State of Dating in America" and some of these results seem downright bizarre!

TTRPGs can be a sacred space for queer people exploring their identities...unfortunately, if you get the wrong GM, it can also be a space riddled with acephobia.

Is Alastor the Radio Demon good Aromantic and/or Asexual representation? And, for that matter, is his orientation even canon and obvious to the average viewer? We have THOUGHTS.

We got Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week recognized by Governor Laura Kelly in the state of Kansas, so now we're celebrating by playing AroAce Bingo!

Today we discuss the adorable Jewish magician who served as a surprisingly early and surprisingly good example of Asexual representation on the web-turned-TV-series High Maintenance.

According to Business Insider, LinkedIn is now a dating app, but....SHOULD it be???

Thanks to a combination of trailers and press tours, the internet was abuzz with musings of a possible Asexual Barbie long before the 2023 movie ever premiered. Now that Barbie is available to stream, it's time to watch it in full and give our honest opinions.

Today Royce shares a journey of self-discovery related to various aspects of asexuality, gender (or lack thereof), and neurodivergence by recounting their dating history and things that have been learned in hindsight.

We're back for round two of suffering through Big Mouth (so you don't have to)! Today we examine Elijah's character development, his relationship dynamics with Missy post-'Asexual Healing', and how the show treats him overall.

We watched ALL of seasons 1-7 of Big Mouth in order to analyze and give our opinions on the Asexual Representation in the famously sexual show. We had enough to say about the ups and downs that this episode is only part one of two.

Hello, welcome, and thank you to our THOUSANDS of brand new subscribers! Many of you are Allosexual and have expressed that you're brand new to learning about Asexuality, so today we're answering commonly Googled questions from our perspective just for you!

The response to our James Somerton episode has been overwhelming and we want to take a minute to talk about the response, answer some questions, and refocus on community before returning to our regularly scheduled programming.

You all asked for more Dead Bedrooms, so Happy Holidays! You get more Dead Bedrooms.

You've heard of Cake Ace, maybe even Space Ace! Now get ready....for RAGE ACE! Because we were personally victimized by James Somerton, and we're finally ready to share our story.

We all know that a particular demographic of Christians hate Asexuals, but did you know that they also hate GNOMES!? A Baby Ace Courtney story time.

One of our favorite little unexpected nuggets of Ace Rep we've happened upon recently comes from the YouTube miniseries Rabbit by Kyle Prue. In only 5 short episodes, we fell in love! THIS is the kind of Ace story we want to see in mainstream media.

We had so many questions from our Disabled Ace Day panel this year that we didn't have time to get to, so today we're doing a Q&A (that is almost as long as the panel itself was) for Courtney to try to answer them all!

Today, for the very first time, we're diving into the deep, dark Reddit depths of r/deadbedrooms. Pray for us.

We're back for another round of Ace representation in manga discussing Is Love the Answer? & Catch These Hands! also known as Accept my Fist of Love!

Today we have a special treat! A recording of the Disabled BIPOC Aces Panel featuring Justin Ancheta, Dal Cecil Runo, Johnnie Jae, Charlie the Prophet, and Courtney Lane which was streamed live on Disabled Ace Day 2023 during Ace Week. Tune in for a fascinating, intersectional discussion!

We're joined by Asexual Goddess to discuss adoption, mental health, feeling like “The Token Black Asexual”, and the new webcomic Trauma Episodes. We discuss racism in the foster care system, how adoption is disabling, being an asexual artist, and SO much more!

Today we delve into Courtney's complex gender history, the limitations of language, the continuous evolution of terminology within queer communities, and the power and pitfalls of labels.

Kevin Can F**k Himself was a masterpiece in subversion. Not only subverting the sitcom genre, but amatonormativity in media and greater society's preconceived notion of what life partnership must look like. It was iconic and queerplatonic to the very end.

Remember the infamous Kansas “roommate ban” that we discussed last year? Well, today we have an update after a federal lawsuit was brought against the city of Shawnee and we discuss why housing is an A-spec issue that deserves more of our community's attention.

We famously disliked the less than 5 minutes of screen time that Florence's Ace plot line got, but Sex Education season 4 introduced an entirely new Asexual character by the name of O, so it's time to ask the question: Did the show redeem itself!?

Today we explore the intersections of science, sexuality, and identity with science communicator, Sarah Cosgriff. Learn about the complexities of being mixed race, the intricacies of the ace community, the importance of LGBTQ+ inclusion in STEM, and SO much more!

Today we've got an Ace rep 3-for-1! Royce walks us through the Asexual representation in Mine-kun is Asexual, I Want to be a Wall, & Doughnuts Under a Crescent Moon.

Promise this was a relevant topic when we recorded it ages ago. Although the conversation may be fashionably late, we hope you will enjoy it all the same!