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It's very confusing to hear a partner say that they need space, what's really going on? Most of the time the person asking for space is needing space because they feel overwhelmed by so many things needing their time and attention all the time, or sometimes it's depression, menopause or some other struggles with mental and physical health. Yes sometimes it's because there is another male interest in her life too.So it's essential to get to the root of what's causing the request for space.In this episode I talk about this in more detail - what's happening, why it's happening, what you should think about it and about you and your future and how to respond to it with confidence as a strong, masculine man.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Non Physical Betrayal!You're not having an affair. You've never cheated. And somehow your marriage is still falling apart. Here's what nobody's telling you: there are forms of betrayal that don't involve physical contact — and they're just as destructive.In Ep451 of The 'NEW' Marriage, Cass and Kathryn Morrow go deep on every type of non-physical betrayal — some obvious, some that will make you defensive, and some that will change how you think about the word entirely."Betrayal isn't about whether you slept with someone. Betrayal is about putting anything above your spouse that shouldn't be above your spouse."

Are you worried that your anxiety is ruining your marriage? Does just being around your wife make your heart beat faster and your palms sweat? What about when you want to initiate some kind of conversation or intimacy? In this episode I talk about why we get anxious around her, what causes it, why it's happening now and what to think and do differently to move past this unsettling time.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

Are you feeling lost and confused in your relationship? Are you overwhelmed with people telling you what to do, what not to do, why you're wrong or why you're right to be upset...? In this episode I discuss what causes us to lose direction, confidence and the ability to feel like we have agency and a creative approach to changing our current reality into the reality we really want.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Recreating The Spark!Lost the spark? Feel like roommates? Want to “get back to how it used to be”?Cass and Kathryn's reframe: chasing the spark is usually the wrong goal—because it's often just a mask for coasting, quitting, and emotional decision-making.In Ep447 of The ‘NEW' Marriage, they break down what “recreating the spark” actually means, why “settling” is downstream of coasting, and how to rebuild passion through growth—not nostalgia.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Why Therapy Does Not Work?We ran the comparison—therapy, major marriage programs, and coaching competitors.Here's the headline: for most couples, therapy doesn't meaningfully change outcomes—and the structure of therapy explains why.In Ep446 of The ‘NEW' Marriage, Cass and Kathryn Morrow break down the biggest reasons marriage therapy fails in the real world—and what actually works when one partner is “in” and the other is coasting.What we cover:• Why therapy often doesn't move the needle on outcomes (and what the stats suggest)• Therapists learn from textbooks; results require lived pattern-breaking + execution• Kathryn's story: “my therapist told me to leave and pack a go bag”• The “hokey pokey”: one foot in, one foot out (performed participation)• Why individual therapy can become validation + exit strategy instead of repair• Outdated recommendations they've seen clients get (space, porn, swinging)• Why most competitors don't give you the expert—you get a trainee• What Morrow Marriage built: $860K invested, Kathryn's master's track, 1.36M downloads in 2.5 years⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT last call-in Q&A episode + what replaces itFree live Zoom training: June 10th, 7–9pm Eastern / 6–8pm CentralTopic: How to move your marriage past symptoms to the root issues

Is your life lacking connection, fun & passion? Do you know how to create connection with other people - I mean real connection where they actually care about you and want to spend time with you and know how you're really doing...?In this episode I talk about some ways people have created connection with me recently, how good it made me feel to know I was important to those people and how to have more of it in YOUR life too.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

Want a more sexual marriage? It will require that you learn how to create more emotional connection first and also how you sabotage the emotional connection so you can stop doing that too.In this episode I talk about a really common factor that breaks the intimate emotional connection that women need to feel safe and attracted to us men before they can be sexually intimate with us again.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.You're Nicer To Everyone Else Than You Are To Your Spouse!You're nice to your boss. Nice to strangers. Nice to friends.Then you come home… and your spouse gets the worst of you.Cass was the life of the party—charismatic, funny, “confident.”Then they'd get in the cab… and he'd lay into Kathryn.He was the life of the party. Charismatic. Funny. Everybody loved him. Then they'd get in the cab — and he'd lay into her. "You're nicer to everyone else than you are to your spouse" has been Cass's most viral content for years — the post, the reel, and now the song ("She Deserves Your Best"). This episode is the full teaching behind why it hits so hard. Because it's not that you know better and choose not to. It's that you're performing for approval you're not getting at home. And when the approval doesn't come from your partner — you take it out on them.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.You always have too much to say. Too much to defend. Too much to justify. Too much to correct. And it never works. Here's why: the urgency to speak isn't coming from your power. It's coming from your insecurity. And the more you speak from that place, the more you lose ground. In Ep444 of The 'NEW' Marriage, Cass and Kathryn break down the art of silence as strength — what it actually means, why it's not erasure, and how it becomes the most powerful thing you can do in a marriage that feels out of control.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Everyone asks about the affair.Almost nobody asks what led to it.Cass Morrow is done being polite about this: the affair is a symptom, not the issue.If you keep asking “what do I do about the affair?” you're chasing the loudest symptom instead of doing the surgery that would actually change your marriage—and your life.In Ep443 of The ‘NEW' Marriage, Cass breaks down what happens before an affair: safety, peace, empathy, apology, insecurity, and the daily turning-away moments that stack up until betrayal becomes possible.What we coverWhy the affair is a symptom (not the root cause)The layers before an affair: safety, peace, empathy, apology, insecurityWhy “affair forensics” keeps you stuck in pain“You're choosing. You're choosing. You're choosing.” (how people stay stuck)“Insecurity is a bridge” (and how to cross it)Turning toward vs turning away (what it looks like daily)The question you should be asking: why did it happen?The hard line: you want more? be less selective—or leave

Would you like more fun and laughter in your marriage again? Are you dealing with arguments, coldness, judgement and criticism? Does it feel like you try to make her happy but she only sees negatives all the time? In this episode I discuss a key component of being able to create more of the moments you enjoy with your wife and less of the disconnection that's been happening lately.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

You love your partner. You're committed. But the sex has slowed to a trickle — once a month, once every six months, maybe not in years — and you're starting to wonder: "Is this just what long-term partnership is?"No -- it doesn't have to be. Unfortunately, if this is happening and you're feeling lonely in your marriage, you're not alone. And it can be hard to know what to do; millions of men feel ill-equipped to address the issue because either a) whenever they do, it becomes a fight; or b) they're scared of coming off as demanding or a jerk.Here, Jason and I count down the 5 root causes we see most often behind sexless relationships, ranked from least to most common, drawing on our work with hundreds of men.We cover how much changes when you have kids (including the partner that just can't relax when the kids are in the house); resentment and quiet breaches of trust; mental load; what kind of sex actually feels good for women; and how to engage on the topic skillfully. As Jason says: “Neither men nor women do well when sex is connected to pressure.”We also share story after story of men whose "spines got straighter," who stopped using sex to discharge stress, and whose wives initiated for the first time in a decade!If you've been the higher-desire partner wondering, "Is this just how it is now?" -- this one's for you. It can come back online, and when it does, it's often even more glorious than ever.—Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I will help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)—Mentioned on this episode:The Love Field -- our new co-gendered course www.violetlange.com/thelovefieldDM 222: Are you using your woman for sex?DM 103: Reverse polarity can kill your sex life as a couple -- unless you do thisMy streaming course Please Her In Bed — which includes how a man can lead sexual communication (www.pleaseherinbed.com)DM 172: Revealing my sex research, one stat at a time (ft. Robbie Kramer)DM 1: Pain in Pleasure, Pleasure in Pain -- episode with my friend Z, who took a Tantra course and went on her own journey of sexual healing within her marriage—Memorable quotes from this episode:“Instead of being on the same team, suddenly we're against each other.”“This is the challenge most couples aren't prepared for.”"'I enjoyed that he enjoyed it.' ... That's not the same thing as, 'I enjoyed it.'"“How do we actually create desire in the relationship? That's polarity.”"If there are unresolved tensions between the two of you, there's no room for erotic tension.""'My wife initiated with me for the first time in, I swear to God, a decade.'"“After retreat these guys are CHARGED UP with masculine energy.”“Spending deep, quality time with other men is a big part of this.”“‘I want you to take me!'”"It can change.""Good sex is like lubricant for the relationship itself."

A guy sent me an email that starts off like a lot of others…Sexless marriage. No intimacy. Growing distance.But then something changed.His wife started going out more.Dressing up.Staying out late.Acting like a completely different person.And he's sitting at home wondering what the hell is going on.In this episode, I break down what it really means when a woman checks out of the relationship… and starts finding her energy somewhere else.We talk about:• Why behavioral shifts matter more than words• The difference between independence and emotional exit• How attraction gets redirected outside the relationship• Why men often ignore the early signs• What you should (and should NOT) do when this starts happeningIf you feel like your wife is slowly building a life that doesn't include you… this one will hit.Start here:https://deadbedroomfix.comCheck out my Dead Bedroom Fix App! https://studio.com/ralph/deadbedroomfix?c=bGibj96r

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.He gets anxious every time his wife goes out on Saturdays. She had an affair. He's 2 months into the program. He brushes off her "are you OK?" with "I'm fine." And he wants to know: do I bring it up now, wait, or just push through? Cass's answer: first, stop calling it being triggered. You're insecure. Name it for what it is. In Ep442 of the Morrow Marriage Q&A, Cass coaches Chris through one of the most common patterns men get stuck in after betrayal — and breaks down the exact tools to stop it. 

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Most people think becoming a high value man is about money, status, discipline, or confidence at work.Cass and Kathryn Morrow say it starts at home—with self-worth.In Ep441 of The ‘NEW' Marriage, they break down the real root behind most marriage symptoms (sex, communication, respect, resentment), why validation from your partner isn't self-worth, and the two skills Kathryn learned that changed everything.What we coverThe real root of most marriage problems: self-worth (not the symptoms)Why being valuable at home first makes you valuable everywhere elseThe validation trap: when your worth depends on your partner's approvalWhy tearing your partner down is always an identity crisisKathryn's 2 skills that changed everything:Engage while regulated (without co-regulating their dysregulation)Undo enabling consistently (“same team, same jersey” — not 1 and done)Silence vs shutting down vs stonewalling (they're not the same)How to stay grounded when your partner is angry, cold, or disrespectfulThe proof you're learning: your questions stop being about symptomsIf a Short/Reel brought you here: watch the full episode—this is the foundation behind respect, intimacy, and leadership at home.

Do you want to know how to get the affection back in your marriage? Do you feel unfulfilled and unloved and like you're living with a roommate? In this episode I give you a challenge that if you use it correctly will completely change the quality of the connection, intimacy and passion in your relationship.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.How To Break Patterns!Six months of therapy. Trigger lists. Boundaries. The same conversations on repeat… and the pattern is still there.Kerry called in about her husband Alex: not a physical affair, but emotional affairs and fantasy at work—the “friendly guy” pattern that keeps turning into connection, validation, and a double life.Cass's answer: breaking patterns isn't willpower. It's identity.If a man is “finding himself in another woman's eyes,” it's because he doesn't know who he is—so he keeps outsourcing self-worth to external validation.What we coverWhy patterns don't break through willpower or trigger management“He's finding himself in another woman's eyes” (what that actually means)Why therapy can feel repetitive when identity work is missingWhy labels can trap you (“stop defining yourself by the wound”)The “fill your cup” shift: build something better and the pattern starvesThe double-life dynamic at work (identity collapse + validation seeking)What a wife can do: gratitude for the right moments, support without enablingWhy the Morrow app/community helps this specific work

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.She's carrying all the loads.The appointments. The lunches. The pickups. The groceries. The schedules. The bedtimes.And she feels lonely in marriage—even when he's home.Cass and Kathryn Morrow validate the mental load… but they also say the part most marriage content won't:if she's been carrying it for 13 years, she's also enabled it for 13 years.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage, you'll learn why wives feel alone, how resentment builds invisibly, and how to rebuild partnership without contempt, blame, or “babysitter language.”What we coverThe mental load is real (and it starts before she opens her eyes)Why offside comments (“I'm tired, I need help”) aren't a real conversationThe difference between asking a babysitter vs building a partnerThe enabling loop: redoing it when he does it wrong teaches him he's off the hookSaying “it's OK” when it isn't (how resentment stacks silently)Why contempt can't create change (especially with a man who already feels worthless)Kathryn's influence framework: “I love you—and I'm doing this whether you do it or not”The close: if you could influence negative, you can influence positive

Your relationship is falling apart and it feels like the bottom is dropping out of your whole world, how can you recenter and find your calm, masculine confidence and clarity again? In this episode from one of our men's group coaching calls around relationships, we discuss what's happening and why it feels to hard to deal with, as well as some stories, hints and tips to help you get clear, calm and re-find your own sense of direction, confidence and self worth.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.I Want My Family Together But My Wife Has Another Partner!Multiple affairs. Wife left. Now she's with someone new. And you want your family back.Joel called in with exactly that situation — and Cass had a counterintuitive truth most men can't hear: her having a new partner might be the best thing that could've happened for you.In this Q&A, Cass breaks down why stopping cheating isn't the same as changing, what Joel's wife's “confusing” text message actually reveals, why the other guy is almost certainly not investing in himself, and how co-parenting becomes the most powerful arena Joel has to show up as a new man.

This question "what if you already have exactly what you need?" is a classic coaching question because it makes you think a little deeper about the perspective that you are choosing to adopt about your current circumstances. You always have a choice about how you want to proceed with the situation you find yourself facing and coaching helps you to get clear about what that response will be. In this episode I talk about this question in more detail and how we men can lose the belief that we can change our circumstances - hint: it's fear and a lack of self worth. But we do have a tried and tested process that we take you through to refind that manly mojo and clarity about what you will and won't put up with and how to create what you really want.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.“She's outgrowing you.” You've heard it. Maybe you shared it. Maybe you used it to justify your decision.Cass and Kathryn Morrow are here to tell you: you've been misreading it.In this episode, they confront how one of Cass's most viral messages is being used as permission to quit — and they lay out what real growth in a marriage actually looks like. The truth is uncomfortable: if you're truly growing, you don't outgrow your partner. Real growth makes you more integral, more aligned with your values, and more committed to the life you said you believed in.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.How To Save My Marriage After Trying Everything?18 years married. 3 rounds of marriage counseling. Both working 60+ hours a week. Days away from divorce.If you feel like you've tried everything and nothing has changed, Cass Morrow has a hard truth: you haven't tried everything — you've tried the same category of things.In this Q&A, Cass walks Jennifer through why counseling and therapy often fail to save marriages, what identity-level change actually looks like, and the two-path framework for what to do next when you're exhausted and ready to quit.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Emotional affair. Rage when questioned. Hidden purchases. Friends covering lies.If you're dealing with more than one kind of betrayal, rebuilding trust feels impossible — because you don't even know what you're rebuilding from.In this Q&A, Cass Morrow coaches Laurie through the real root: this is an identity crisis, not just a trust problem.

What does that even mean "Be a grown ass man?" And why would you want to be that? What benefits are there to becoming a mature, confident, secure man? And how does it help with whatever struggles you are facing right now in your life? In this episode I talk about why men are often criticized for not "making women happy", how the focus should be on taking care of your own emotional well-being first, how it's ridiculous to think you can have a happy, affectionate, sexual, connected marriage if you yourself are not a happy, sexual, connected man.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

If you're frustrated by your low sex or sexless marriage you may wonder what causes a wife to lose interest in sex with you? In this episode I explain how this happens to a large percentage of men, as well as a lack of sex happening at certain times in all relationships. I also explain how to think about this and what to do to change it.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

In this powerful Part 1 conversation, Eve sits down with Dr. Nic and Professor Mike Sebastian from the Trust Your Gut Save Your Ass Podcast to unpack what it really means to be blindsided in a relationship—and how to find your way back to yourself. Through a deeply personal story, Eve shares her experience of financial manipulation within her marriage and the long-term impact it had on her life, credit, and sense of self. What begins as a reflection on a Netflix show quickly unfolds into a much larger conversation about red flags, intuition, trauma responses, and the patterns that keep people stuck in unhealthy relationships. Together, they explore how financial dynamics can quietly erode a partnership, why so many people overlook early warning signs, and how societal pressure—especially for women—can lead to compromising your truth. This episode dives into the importance of emotional awareness, recognizing misalignment early, and understanding the role both partners play in relationship dynamics. Dr. Nic and Professor Mike introduce the concept of “resonance” in relationships—how shared values, habits, and everyday preferences matter more than we often realize—and why ignoring small incompatibilities can lead to major fractures down the line. They also break down one of the most powerful and confronting questions you can ask in any relationship: “Are you willing to work on this?” This episode is an honest, nuanced look at love, accountability, and the journey of rebuilding trust—not just with others, but within yourself. Stay tuned for Part 2, where things get even deeper with a live relationship role-play and communication breakdown. Key Topics Covered Financial manipulation and financial infidelity in relationships Recognizing relationship red flags early How trauma impacts communication and decision-making The psychology of staying in unhealthy relationships Sexless marriage and emotional disconnection Rebuilding self-trust after divorce Dating app culture and dishonesty statistics The myth of “opposites attract” vs. relationship compatibility Understanding “resonance” and alignment in partnerships The role of intuition, gut feelings, and emotional awareness One question that can determine the future of your relationship Connect With the Guests Dr. Nic & Prof Mike | Divine GuidanceExplore their work on relationship alignment, intuition, and consciousness: Divine Guidance Institute Love Vibe® 30-Day Relationship Reset | Consciousness State ShiftA guided program to reset relationship patterns and elevate connection:Love Vibe® 30-Day Relationship Reset | Consciousness State Shift Connect With Eve Website: https://pleaseme.online Substack (Articles + Deeper Insights): https://pleaseme.substack.com Patreon (Ad-Free Episodes + Exclusive Content): https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Be a Guest on the Please Me Podcast Share your story or expertise on relationships, sexual health, and personal growth: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/beaguestonpleasemepodcast Offers & Resources The Sexual Longevity ProtocolOptimize performance, function, and long-term sexual health: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol-course/ 30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection PracticesReconnect with your body, pleasure, and confidence: https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/ Affiliate Partners & Exclusive Deals Explore trusted sexual wellness brands and special listener offers: https://pleaseme.online/sexual-wellness-deals/ Featured Partners:• Shameless Care• Parlor Games• SDC.com• Lady Pump Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.My Husband Says It's Too Big a Risk to Come Back HomeHe said it's too big of a risk.18 years of marriage. 10 months of separation. And the answer you keep getting is:“I don't know if I can come back.”Erica called in carrying exactly that — and Cass breaks down what's actually happening underneath “risk”… and the small shifts that rebuild trust when a husband can't even explain what he needs.In this episode:Why “dismissive avoidant” and “anxious attachment” labels keep you stuck (and what to say instead)The question to stop asking your separated husband — and the one question that actually worksWhy he can't answer “what do you need to feel safe?” — and what to ask insteadWhy he says you don't listen even when you heard every wordThe Paraphrasing Technique: the shift that makes him finally feel heardHow to rebuild connection during separation (dating framework + invitations + rejection reps)Why focusing on him coming home is the wrong goalNobody cares about who you're going to be.They only care about who you are right now — and that's defined by how you make them feel.

I know what it feels like to be in an intimate, romantic, monogamous relationship and yet to feel totally alone. Especially hard at time of celebration or "happy holidays!" In this episode, I talk about how we men get into this kind of situation and no matter what you're going through at this moment, how to find the strength, faith and clarity to know...above anything else...that your happiness is within you - it's not defined by someone else.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Two miscarriages. A porn addiction. A husband who wasn't there.How do you even start to heal when everything is broken at the same time?Shirley called in carrying exactly that — grief from two pregnancy losses, betrayal trauma from her husband's porn use, and a marriage that's been slowly disconnecting through all of it.Cass and Kathryn answer the question nobody else does: what do you do when multiple bleeds are stacking at once?In this episode:Why grief and betrayal trauma are two separate issues that amplify each other — and why you can't fix them at the same timeWhy your husband couldn't show up for your miscarriage (it's not what you think)Why waiting for an apology won't heal betrayal traumaThe one thing that determines whether a husband changes his behavior — and it's not consequencesHow transparency about porn reduces secrecy (and why confrontation often creates more lying)What Kathryn did that became a turning point — and how Shirley can do the sameIf you're in this — you're not alone. And there is a way through.

Well why did you stop trusting yourself in your relationship? Was is feedback from her or a lack of interest in you that knocked you on your heels? We get knocked back in many areas of our lives yet you can pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move forward confidently the very next day....how come? In this episode I talk about two traits that you can cultivate that turn things you're currently allowing to stop you having the life and relationship you want into things you enjoy engaging with again.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roun

On this week of And That's Why We're not Together........ We learn how to be a Christian from "esteemed" spiritual guru Russel Brand, we ponder the question of whether crocodiles are more resilient than humans, the possibility of an interplanetery society where we're all sexless amphibians, The Vape Wars continue between Daniel and David with no resolution in sight, David discusses his new t.v and finally should Daniel a cat or a dog? Thank you and like, subscribe and comment plssssss. Classic Horror 1 - Dark World by Kevin MacLeod is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 licence. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.My Marriage Just Ended And I Need Advice!If you're here because your wife woke up one morning and said she doesn't love you anymore… and now she's moved out… you're not alone.In this Q&A episode, Cass takes Hobby's call live — a man two weeks out from his wife moving out, insecurity in overdrive, trying to figure out what to say next while she sends contradictory signals like: “I always want to be with you… but right now I can't.”What Cass covers:“Emergency leadership time” — she can be confused, you can'tKill the Monster: why insecurity is the first thing to kill (no more fear decisions)The 3-men problem: loving → coping/withdrawal → angry/defensive (and why cycling is manipulation)How to handle her anger without making it about you (curiosity > defense)Buckle up for anger, rain boots for sadness — let her feel without fixingHow to connect her shifting complaints to the underlying betrayalBoundaries that are real (not ultimatums): “still got room in the bed…”Don't text — send a voice note, smile when you record it, and connect on her terms“Nobody wants a divorce on their resume.”

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.He woke up one morning and told her he's leaving. No warning. No fight.That silence is the clue: he's not even mad enough to talk to you.In this Q&A episode, Cass takes Deidra's call live. Her husband planned his exit with his mom, started packing while she was at the store, and even called the police to escort him out. Now he's an hour and a half away at his mom's house and she's trying to figure out what to do next.What Cass covers:What it means when he leaves in silence (checked out vs “just mad”)Why “give him space” often turns separation into permanenceWhat it can mean when a husband calls the police to leave (two possibilities)The mother-in-law triangle and the boundary Deidra should've set“It doesn't take two” — how change starts when only one person is willingGray Divorce + identity crisis: why leaving can trigger “I feel like nobody”Homework: the journal exercise — his reality vs your reality in moments of rejection

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.How Do I Create A Safe Space For Us To Communicate Better?Kayla called in with one question: how do I create a safe space in my marriage so we can communicate better without him blowing up?Cass flips the frame immediately: a safe space starts with you—with identity and self-worth—not with managing your partner's emotions.What we cover:The safe space formula: when you stop depending on your partner for your worth, you become steadyThe “fat purple cow” test: is it true? (and why some words hurt even when they're unfair)How to own what's true without absorbing what isn'tWhy saying “it's going to be OK” often isn't support—it's discomfort managementEmpathy as regulation: how to not get pulled onto the “crazy train”Communicating when a partner has a clinical diagnosis (and why it can require a different level of love)If you or your partner are dealing with schizophrenia or any mental health condition: this episode is not medical advice. Please work with qualified professionals for diagnosis, medication, and treatment support.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.How To Handle It When She has Already Filed For Divorce!She already filed for divorce. Or she's checked out. Or you're living on eggshells and you don't know how to move forward. This Q&A is for you.Cass and Kathryn Morrow take live callers through urgent situations in struggling marriages — including a 32-year marriage on the edge and a husband facing divorce after years of emotional betrayal.What we cover:What to do when she has already filed for divorce (the first moves)Why defending yourself to a spouse who hates you right now makes everything worse“It doesn't matter if you get divorced” — why fear-based decisions guarantee you loseHow to slow down panic and start building real changeThe scorekeeping trap: why “she cheated too” never helps youWhat you're teaching your kids every time you get defensiveHow to respond when your spouse won't talk to you (STAT response + Count to 2)Why gratitude with strings attached is an invisible contract“Stop victimizing yourself or you'll be a victim forever”Sneak peek: upcoming songs — “The Affair Is Your Fault” + “Don't Respect Your Boundaries”The bottom line: you became someone you hate. She's divorcing that person. Stop defending him — and become someone worth staying for.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.How Do We Move Away From Anger Into Joy?She already filed for divorce. Or she's checked out. Or you're living on eggshells and you don't know how to move forward. This Q&A is for you.Cass and Kathryn Morrow take live callers through urgent situations in struggling marriages — including a woman married 32 years who's been walking on eggshells with an angry husband and years of reactive conflict.What we cover:What to do when she has already filed for divorceHow to respond when your spouse shuts you down immediatelyThe Count to 2 technique (break the reactive loop)The STAT response: validate → pivot → create connectionWhy gratitude with strings attached creates “invisible contracts”Why his anger isn't about you — and what it usually is aboutThe song “Eggshells” and why it's landing with men everywhere“Stop victimizing yourself or you'll be a victim forever” — the hardest truth in this episodeThe bottom line: you can't wait for them to change first. You have to act like the life you want — not because it's fair, but because it's what works.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.How To Move Forward After Physical Abuse?When a man gets physical, it's serious. The first priority is safety — and then truth, accountability, and real change.In this Q&A episode (Ep425), Courtney shares a first-ever physical incident (pushing/dragging), a police call, and a court-imposed no-contact order. Cass breaks down a distinction most people never hear: characterological violence (pattern-based, predatory, controlling) vs. situational violence (escalation inside a volatile conflict). The path forward depends on which one you're dealing with.What we cover:What to do after a first physical incident (and what NOT to do)Situational vs. characterological abuse — how to tell the differenceWhy “anger management” alone doesn't fix this (identity work does)How shame keeps people stuck in the same cycleWhat repair can look like after the no-contact order lifts (if it's safe)How both partners take responsibility for their side without excusing violenceIf you are in danger: contact local emergency services or a domestic violence hotline in your country. Do not use a podcast episode as a safety plan.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.How to Deal With Guilt After Cheating!Guilt after cheating doesn't go away by feeling bad — it goes away by becoming someone who doesn't do it anymore. In this Q&A, Cass coaches Rafael through what to do after you cheated on your wife and you genuinely want to rebuild trust.This is the episode if you cheated, you feel the weight of it, and you're serious about changing — not performing.What we cover:Why your language matters (“I basically cheated” keeps you stuck)Why guilt and shame can be a good sign (it means your character is still alive)What to do when you suspect your spouse is cheating back (deleted texts, assumptions, spirals)Why suspicion creates disconnection — and disconnection is how betrayal growsThe “cascade of betrayal” (44 breakdowns before an affair happens)What foundation-level change looks like (values, integrity, consistency, connection)How to rebuild trust without begging for relief from the consequencesIf you cheated and you want real change — this one will hit.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Abuse is hard to ignore.It should be.In this episode, Cass and Kathryn draw a hard line:if you are in physical danger, this message is not for you.Get safe. Work with a domestic violence specialist. Don't twist marriage advice into permission to stay in harm's way.But for the people dealing with emotional abuse, verbal abuse, financial control, spiritual manipulation, sexual disconnection, and chronic relationship sabotage — this conversation goes straight at the real issue:you can't rebuild your life by obsessing over your partner while ignoring yourself.Inside this episode:The difference between physical danger and destructive relationship patternsWhy Cass and Kathryn do not tell physically unsafe women to “just leave” without a planWhy abuse should never be ignored or toleratedHow focusing only on your partner keeps you powerlessWhy identity and personal responsibility matter even inside painful marriagesFinancial abuse, dependence, and the hard truth about building your own optionsHow shutting down, reacting badly, and losing yourself deepens the cycleWhy second, third, and fourth divorces happen when people never address themselvesThe brutal truth: if your partner left today, would you still know who you are?Key line from this episode:“If you're not safe, this message is not for you.”

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Your husband had an affair.Your feelings are wrecked.And now somebody tells you to “compartmentalize it.”But what does that actually mean?In this episode, Cass and Kathryn break down compartmentalizing in plain language:not denial, not excusing betrayal, and not pretending your pain doesn't matter.They explain how to separate your partner's behavior from your identity…how to tell whether the affair was characterological or built through disconnection…and why trying to control, track, monitor, and force trust back into the marriage only makes healing harder.Inside this episode:What compartmentalizing actually means after emotional or physical betrayalWhy your hurt is valid — and why valid hurt still needs directionThe difference between “this had nothing to do with me” and “I need to own my part in the disconnect”The cascade toward betrayal and how disconnection builds before the affairWhy disrespect, overwork, absence, and invisible contracts break connectionWhy tracking phones, checking messages, and demanding trust keeps you stuckHow to create opportunities for joy instead of building your marriage around painWhy shame keeps both people trapped in the old storyHow empathy, responsibility, and supervised boundaries actually move healing forwardKey idea from this episode:You don't compartmentalize betrayal by pretending it didn't matter.You compartmentalize it by seeing clearly what is yours, what is theirs, and what has to heal next.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.She's been finding messages for 13 years.She's tried forgiving. Boundaries. Counseling.And she's still here — because she loves her husband and she hasn't quit.In this live Q&A, Jessica from Edmonton calls in with one of the most common—and most misunderstood—problems in marriage: a husband who keeps having emotional affairs, not because of anything she's done, but because he has no idea who he is without external validation.Cass and Kathryn break it down:Why emotional affairs that start from the beginning have nothing to do with youThe difference between emotional affairs and pornography — and why you can't treat them the sameWhy boundaries backfire when you're disconnected — and what to do insteadHow to inspire change in a man who doesn't think he's worthy of youWhy respecting someone has nothing to do with what they deserveThe “nice guy” pattern: why men with no self-worth sabotage the best relationshipsHow to become the woman you were created to be — independent of what he's doingWhy teaching him doesn't work — and what actually doesKey line from this episode:“Respecting someone is less about what they deserve and more about who you are.”If you've been trying to fix a man who keeps doing this — this episode is your roadmap.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Your wife is pushing you to sign. She's pressuring you.Maybe she's moved on. Maybe there's another man. Maybe everyone around you is telling you it's over.Cass says: don't sign. Don't defend yourself. Don't equalize.Own your story — all of it — without the defensiveness that keeps you stuck.In this live Q&A, Cass coaches John through one of the hardest situations a man can face: a wife demanding divorce papers, a pregnancy with another man involved, and a “deadline” window to become a completely different man.What Cass covers in this episode:Why signing the papers isn't the answer — even when she's threatening youThe mindset shift that separates men who flip their marriage from men who lose itWhy defending yourself destroys your ability to actually changeHow to own physical, emotional, and sexual betrayal without excusesWhy your wife probably doesn't need another apology — she needs to see you changeIdentity loss in marriage and how to find yourself againWhy men must process with men — not with their wivesWhat “death to the old self” looks like in real lifeKey line from this episode:“Don't ever bring up the sh*t that your wife has done. Don't equalize it. Own your story. Every time you defend yourself, you lose the ability to move forward.”If this is you — if she's done and you're not — this episode is your roadmap.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.If your wife has sex because she's afraid the day will be “garbage” if she doesn't… that's not intimacy.That's fear sex.In this Q&A, David calls in after 18 years together. He bought Disrupting Divorce, downloaded the MORROW app, and admits the truth: sex has become a habit—something she does to prevent conflict, not because she feels safe, connected, or desired.Cass and Kathryn break down the real path:Fear sex happens when pressure becomes assumed (even if you're not “pushing” anymore)Intimacy ≠ sex — sex is a byproduct of safety + connectionHow guilt/shame language turns into lecturing and invisible contractsWhy both of you feel like crap afterward (and why tears show up)The first goal: make her safe enough to say NOHow to climb down the “rejection ladder” and rebuild connection from the bottomPractical “static response” examples: playful affection without escalationStop expecting sex as payment for dates (invisible contract)The real win: she doesn't do it to be a “good wife”… she wants you because she desires the desireIf she's saying “I don't feel safe with you anymore,” this is your wake-up call.Get out of the padded box. Lead differently.

Something is off… and I can't ignore it anymore

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.If you've struggled with porn, infidelity, or “old habits”… the scariest part isn't changing.It's the fear you'll go backwards the moment life gets hard again.In this Q&A, Chad calls in—his wife is in White Picket Fence and he's seen real change in her. He and his wife have been in counseling for 2.5 years, and he's made progress… but his biggest fear is relapse.Cass breaks down why most men “go backwards”:Change is easy when the marriage feels goodThe real test is when insecurity hits, you feel worthless, or you have a bad dayPorn/infidelity isn't the core issue—it's a self-worth + validation issueYou don't quit by “white-knuckling progress”… you quit when you genuinely don't want itPractical trust-building boundaries (ex: never bring your phone to the bathroom)“Bridge the gap with insecurity” (stop triggering betrayal reminders)The roller coaster / crazy train cycle: high highs, low lows“Violence isn't just physical” — you don't get to decide what hurts your partnerIdentity work: stop looking for validation in your wife's eyes (or anyone else's)This episode is for the man who's done with the cycle and wants to become consistent—at home, in his marriage, and in his own head.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.How To Rediscover Your Identity While Repairing Your Marriage?Most couples think “identity” means roles: husband, wife, parent, provider, business owner.But roles aren't identity… they're responsibilities.In this Q&A, Matt calls in after 19 years of marriage, kids, business, and a full life—he and his wife Naomi are both all-in on repairing their marriage, but they're asking the deeper question:How do we rediscover who we are while we rebuild us?Cass breaks identity into a simple progression:Strip away the labels (ex: “I am insecure” vs “I feel insecure”)Release shame + guilt by telling the truth about who you were and who you're becomingTurn what you overcame into purpose by giving it away (helping others)Upgrade your environment: who you surround yourself with shapes who you becomeThis episode hits hard if you've:Lost yourself in marriage, parenting, or survival modeBeen labeled by your past (anger, insecurity, alcohol, “narcissist,” “cheater,” etc.)Been doing the “marriage work” but still feel empty or stuckWant to rebuild connection without losing your individualityBecause the truth is:If you don't reclaim identity, you'll keep trying to fix marriage from a hollow place.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.How Do I Trust Again After Being Cheated On?If you've been cheated on, “trust again” isn't a mindset trick. It's a standard problem.In this Q&A, Carrie calls in after 3 years of disrespect and infidelity—and she's stuck in the loop a lot of people live in:trying to “move on” while the relationship is still unsafe… and rationalizing his behavior because she thinks something is wrong with her.Cass and Kathryn break down:Why “he wants me to move on” is not a planHow codependency + identity loss keeps you attached to disrespectWhy your “calm conversation” can still land as an attack (guilt/shame language)How defensiveness kills connection (and how to actually listen)The truth: if you can't name your patterns, you can't change themWhy “it's never for no reason” when someone blows upWhat it looks like to lead yourself first—whether you stay or walk awayIf you're trying to rebuild trust after cheating, the real question is:Is this relationship becoming safer… or are you just getting better at tolerating pain?00:00 Caller in the queue (Carrie)00:28 “How do I deal with 3 years of disrespect + cheating?”01:08 “Why are you with him?” (reality check)02:19 Stop rationalizing his behavior because of your “flaws”03:03 Identify what you think he's “tolerating”06:20 Naming the real patterns (listening, neediness, clinging)07:01 Codependency + identity work: “Who is Carrie?”08:27 Every criticism has a longing (what he wants/needs)09:20 Guilt/shame language triggers defensiveness10:39 Disrespect isn't only “blatant”—absence of adoration matters11:43 “It's never for no reason” (the 3-year-old meltdown analogy)13:40 Learn silence + paraphrasing (real listening)15:01 No connection = walls + defensiveness cycle16:23 King/queen dynamic: someone has to lead differently18:30 Focus inward: grow or repeat this with anyone20:36 DM for next steps + program direction21:20 Encouragement: growth is addictive (grow or die)Want the next step?Men's training/audit: https://www.morrowmarriage.com/videotrainingoptin?en=dmMORROW app: https://go.morrowmarriage.com/Book “Disrupting Divorce”: https://a.co/d/31vm4bV

What exactly is considered "sexless"? What are we counting as sex? What would cause someone to not want to have sex all of a sudden? These are all questions I unpacked with Xanet Pailet. She was a successful healthcare lawyer married to an attorney with two children. She lived in a beautiful home in NYC as well as a sexless marriage. At age 45 and no sex for over 15 years, she considered sex as something she was just done with.  Now she is a full time intimacy educator with a fulfilling sex life. You'll hear about resentment caused pain, the stuck place of indifference, what men are afraid of, medical procedures that can cause painful sex & listener Q & A from my Facebook group. This episode originally aired March 11, 2024. If you liked this episode, you'll also like episode 214: WHAT ARE THE RULES OF MONOGAMY? THE PSYCHOLOGIST SWINGER Guest:https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com/https://www.powerofpleasure.com/ https://www.instagram.com/xanetpop/https://twitter.com/powerofpleasurehttps://www.facebook.com/xanetpop Sponsors: https://www.jordanharbinger.com/starterpacks/ https://www.historicpensacola.org/about-us/  01:00 — What actually counts as “sexless”03:00 — The “charcuterie board” of intimacy06:00 — Separate bedrooms, separate lives07:00 — Never masturbated… until 4809:00 — When pleasure and anxiety get wired together10:00 — Medical trauma no one talks about13:00 — Circumcision, sensation, and what we lose14:00 — Are some sexual issues permanent?16:00 — The emotional root of physical pain17:00 — Why resentment can make sex hurt18:00 — When your partner feels like your child20:00 — Masculine vs feminine energy in relationships22:00 — Why men stop initiating (and don't say why)24:00 — Consent confusion and modern dating fears26:00 — When no sex is… totally fine27:00 — The menopause “I don't care anymore” myth28:00 — When bad sex kills desire completely31:00 — The surprise return of desire after divorce33:00 — The real answer: can it survive?36:00 — Rebuilding intimacy from zero40:00 — The hidden reality of sex in Japan41:00 — Should you open the relationship?43:00 — Sexless dynamics in same-sex couples45:00 — Porn, gaming, and disconnection48:00 — Rethinking sex after physical limitations53:00 — Outercourse, body mapping, and new pathways55:00 — Menopause, pain, and what actually helps57:00 — Why “working on it” feels overwhelming59:00 — The missing piece: non-sexual intimacyRequest to join my private Facebook Group, MFR Curious Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1BAt3bpwJC/Follow me in all the places:https://www.meredithforreal.com/  https://www.instagram.com/the_curiousintrovert/ meredith@meredithforreal.comhttps://www.youtube.com/meredithforreal https://www.facebook.com/curiousintrovert