THE COGNAC ROOM

In this thought-provoking episode, J and Petra dive deep into the topic of irrevocable damage in relationships—what it looks like, how it manifests, and why some wounds feel impossible to heal. They explore the different types of damage that can leave lasting scars, from betrayal and broken trust to emotional neglect and repeated patterns of harm. Most importantly, they unpack how couples can begin the difficult journey of repair when it seems all hope is lost—and how to recognize and avoid the behaviors that lead to such damage in the first place. Whether you're in the middle of rebuilding or want to safeguard your relationship for the future, this episode offers powerful insights and practical tools for moving forward with honesty, empathy, and accountability.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelpCognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this episode, Jay and Petra kick things off with the Question of the Day: “Why do men with multiple women struggle with the thought of those women sleeping with someone else?” It's a juicy one, and the duo doesn't hold back.Then, they jump into the main topic, inspired by a listener's write-in. He shares that the woman he's seeing only wants sex when she's in the mood — leaving him feeling confused and disconnected. Jay and Petra break it all down, offering practical advice all while keeping things light, honest, and hilariously real.Sponsored by BetterHelp — because mental health matters, especially when relationships get complicated.Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra get deep into the difference between true celibacy and surface-level abstinence, revealing how the intention behind abstaining from sex can either fuel personal growth or create emotional walls. They unpack the psychological and relational impact of celibacy, challenging popular narratives and exploring how motives—whether rooted in fear, healing, or control—ultimately shape one's ability to experience authentic connection and intimacy.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this episode, Jay and Petra dive into some hilariously cringeworthy and downright disastrous first date stories shared by listeners. From awkward encounters to total deal-breakers, they break down what went wrong and why. Plus, they offer practical tips and insights on how to avoid making (or repeating) the same mistakes—helping you navigate first dates with confidence and ease. Don't miss this entertaining and eye-opening conversation that just might save your next date!This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this episode, Jay and Petra start with the Question of the Day: “What is something you had in a past relationship that you didn't appreciate at the time, but now recognize as valuable?” Their answers might surprise you!Next, they dive into a listener's letter about betrayal and broken trust—her cousin slept with her ex after lying about getting her blessing. The listener never actually gave her approval, but her cousin went ahead and did it anyway. Now she's struggling with feelings of hurt and frustration. Did the cousin break the ultimate girl code, or is this a harsh lesson in setting boundaries?For the main topic, Jay and Petra tackle a relationship dynamic that happens far too often—women switching up on their child's father when they enter a new relationship. Why does this happen? What problems does it create for co-parenting? And how can both men and women navigate these tricky situations with maturity and respect?Tune in for real talk, unfiltered opinions, and expert relationship insights!This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom#Relationships #Dating #CoParenting #ParentingStruggles #LoveAndLife #Podcast

In this episode, Jay and Petra kick things off with the Question of the Day: Should women have to teach men how to please them, or should he already know? They dive into why some women say they don't have time to teach a man and whether that mindset helps or hurts relationships.Then, they tackle the main topic—Why do people feel a way when an ex doesn't fight for them, even when they were the ones who ended the relationship? Should an ex still chase after you, or is moving on the best choice? Jay and Petra break down the emotions behind this, the role of ego, and what it really means when an ex doesn't try to win you back.Tune in for a deep, unfiltered discussion on love, expectations, and self-worth!This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroomKeywords: relationships, dating advice, breakups, exes, love and self-worth, relationship dynamics, dating coach, men and women in relationships, emotional intelligence in dating

In this insightful episode, Jay Christian and Petra dive deep into the transformative power of self-forgiveness and why it's a critical step before entering any relationship. They explore how unresolved guilt, shame, and past mistakes can create emotional baggage that often sabotages intimacy and trust.Jay and Petra share actionable advice on how to identify the need for self-forgiveness, let go of self-judgment, and create a foundation of emotional clarity. They also discuss the ripple effects of unresolved self-blame on communication, vulnerability, and overall relationship health.Whether you're single, dating, or already in a relationship, this episode offers powerful tools to heal from the past, foster self-compassion, and build healthier, more fulfilling connections.Key Takeaways:* Why self-forgiveness is essential for personal growth and relational success.* How unresolved guilt can manifest as fear, resentment, or mistrust in relationships.* Practical strategies to forgive yourself and move forward with confidence and clarity.Tune in to discover how prioritizing self-healing can transform your love life and empower you to attract and sustain meaningful relationships.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this episode, Jay and Petra tackle the controversial topic: Do women struggle with accountability? They dive into the popular opinion that women often avoid taking responsibility for their actions and explore the deeper reasons behind this perception. Is it rooted in societal norms, communication differences, or just a stereotype? Tune in as they share real-life examples, break down the psychology of accountability, and offer insights into how this dynamic plays out in relationships and everyday life.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelpCognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Join Jay Christian and Petra in this engaging episode as they dive into the importance of managing expectations in the dating world. Discover how to approach dating with an open mind, embrace new experiences, and focus on having fun rather than chasing perfection. Whether you're navigating the dating scene or looking for tips to build stronger connections, this conversation is packed with practical advice and fresh insights. Tune in for a lively discussion that will transform how you view dating! This episode is sponsored by better help Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this episode, Jay and Petra kick things off with the question of the day: “After your significant other passes away, how long should someone wait before declaring their romantic intentions?” The duo dives deep into this sensitive topic, exploring societal expectations, personal readiness, and emotional well-being. They then read and respond to a letter from a listener grappling with a complex issue: balancing the desire for deeper intimacy outside their marriage while preserving the happiness and stability of their current household. Jay and Petra offer compassionate, insightful advice on navigating the delicate boundaries of relationships and understanding unmet needs. This episode is proudly sponsored by BetterHelp—helping you prioritize your mental health and navigate life's challenges with professional support. Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom Tune in for honest conversations and perspectives on handling love, loss, and longing. #relationshipadvice #datingtips #griefandlove #relationshipboundaries #BetterHelp

Jay and Petra kick off with the Question of the Day: “What would you do if you and your partner agreed not to have social media, but you found out they secretly had an account?”Then, they dive into the main topic: navigating the growing pains that come with relationships. From changes in priorities to the challenges of personal growth, they explore how to stay connected as individuals and as a couple.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this weeks episode, Jay and Petra get into a hot topic: Why do women dislike it when men are nonchalant? Are these feelings valid, or could they be overreactions? They tackle the complexities behind this dynamic, exploring the emotional needs and communication challenges that often arise in relationships. The episode kicks off with the question of the day: "Is it cheating to let someone think they have a chance with you?" Jay and Petra discuss different perspectives and offer insights on where to draw the line. Then, they read a listener's letter from a man whose girlfriend accuses him of being too nonchalant about a recent incident, causing tension between them. Join the conversation as they unpack the balance between indifference and sensitivity in romantic relationships. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp —get the support you need for a happier, healthier relationship. Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra dive into the question: Is it appropriate for a woman to ask a man for money after just a few intimate encounters? They explore the complexities of this real-life scenario, discussing the timing and dynamics of financial support in new relationships. Tune in to uncover the hidden factors at play and gain insights into navigating money and intimacy. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

 Jay and Petra discuss the challenges that couples face after the children leave the nest and ways to overcome them. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Are extramarital love affairs often deeper than we realize? In this episode, Jay and Petra delve into the complexities of these relationships, exploring them from the perspectives of those directly involved.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelpCognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this episode Jay, Petra, and Styles get into some complex relationship dynamics. They discuss situations where women might engage in sexual relationships with their children's fathers to ensure they stay involved in their kids' lives. Additionally, they analyze the mindset of individuals who make broad, negative statements about the opposite sex, often claiming that there are no good relationship candidates available. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra kick off this episode with the question of the day: “Would you tell your partner if their best friend tried to make a move on you?” Next, they dive into a scenario involving a couple with children, where the mother doesn't want any maternal responsibilities. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this episode, Jay and Petra discuss the complexities of how a persons fear of being used can sabotage potentially great and healthy relationships. They explore the roots of these fears and offer insights on how to overcome them to build trust and genuine connections. Tune in to learn how to navigate these challenges and foster stronger, more fulfilling romantic relationships. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this episode, Jay and Petra tackle the topic of jealousy in relationships. They explore the root causes of jealousy, effective ways to handle it, and share practical tips on overcoming these feelings. Additionally, they discuss strategies for dealing with a jealous partner to maintain a healthy relationship. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Cognac Room listeners get 10% off their first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra go over a list that has been going around that states that black women have the lowest marriage rates and gives 9 reasons why. Is this list absurd or are these valid points? Don't miss this very interesting conversation. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this episode of The Cognac Room, hosts Jay and Petra get into the negative stigma surrounding women who use online dating platforms, and give their opinions on the matter. **This episode is proudly sponsored by BetterHelp.** Cognac Room listeners get 10% off their first month at [BetterHelp](https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom).

Join Jay and Petra as they dig into the complexities of cheating during the talking stage. Then later in the episode, they share their candid opinions on a controversial clip where a woman claims that if a woman isn't sleeping with her man, he has the right to cheat. Don't miss this thought-provoking discussion on relationship boundaries and expectations. **Sponsored by BetterHelp** Our listeners get 10% off their first month at [BetterHelp](https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom). Tune in to The Cognac Room for more relationship insights and advice!

Join hosts Jay and Petra as they tackle the provocative question, “Do the weakest men become stepfathers?” In this insightful episode, they delve into societal perceptions, personal stories, and expert opinions to explore the complexities of stepfatherhood. This episode is proudly sponsored by BetterHelp. Cognac Room listeners get 10% off their first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom Listen now to gain a deeper understanding of what it truly means to step into the role of a stepfather. Subscribe to the Cognac Room Podcast for more thought-provoking discussions and share your thoughts with us!

Join Jay, Petra, and Kee as they dive into today's hot topics! The episode kicks off with the question of the day: “Should you and your partner change your numbers when you start a new relationship?” Next, they tackle, “If you and your partner went on a date and their ex was there, would you want them to tell you?” The main topic sparks a heated debate: “Is men having standards a problem?” Tune in for an intense discussion about responsibility, pregnancy, and birth control in the second half of this episode. **This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.** Cognac Room listeners get 10% off their first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

In this episode of “The Cognac Room,” Jay and Petra dig into the controversial topic of work wives and work husbands. Explore the evolution of these unique workplace relationships and their impact on romantic partnerships. Join the discussion to understand the dynamics, benefits, and challenges of having a work spouse. This episode is proudly sponsored by BetterHelp. Cognac Room listeners can enjoy 10% off their first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Join Jay and Petra in the final segment of this eye opening episode as they welcome surprise guest Riddle to delve deeper into the crucial topic of trust and its profound impact on relationships. Discover actionable strategies to restore trust once it has been broken and strengthen your connection with your partner. This episode is proudly sponsored by BetterHelp. Cognac Room listeners enjoy an exclusive 10% discount on your first month at [BetterHelp](https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom). Don't miss this essential conversation on rebuilding trust and enhancing your relationships!

In the first installment of this two-part episode, Jay and Petra dive into the dynamics of trust, exploring its fragility and the ramifications of betrayal. Join them as they lay the groundwork for rebuilding trust while featuring insights from fellow Podcasters on their encounters with trust breaches in relationships. This episode is proudly sponsored by BetterHelp, where Cognac Room listeners receive an exclusive 10% discount on their first month. Take the first step towards healing at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom.

Join Jay and Petra as they dive into the intricacies of love and its intersection with sacrifice in this insightful podcast episode. Sponsored by betterHelp, the Cognac Room offers listeners an exclusive 10% discount on their first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom. Tune in for a deep dive into the complexities of love and relationships.

Join Jay and Petra as they talk about the intriguing motives driving relentless pursuit in dating. From the desire to conquer challenges to the illusion of love, they explore the complex dynamics at play. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp, where Cognac Room listeners receive an exclusive 10% off their first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom. Tune in for insights on navigating the pursuit of love. #Relationships #Love #BetterHelp #CognacRoom #Podcast

Join Jay and Petra as they explore the intricate dynamics of infidelity, discussing perspectives from both genders and uncovering the myriad reasons behind cheating behavior. From motivations to methods, they leave no stone unturned in this candid discussion. This episode is proudly sponsored by BetterHelp, where Cognac Room listeners can enjoy an exclusive 10% discount on their first month. Visit https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom to start your journey towards healing today.

Join Jay and Petra as they delve into the nuances of initiating sex, exploring the questions of right and wrong approaches, the dynamics of who should take the lead, and the complexities surrounding this intimate topic. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Cognac Room listeners receive an exclusive 10% discount on their first month by visiting https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom.

In this intriguing episode segment, Jay and Petra delve into the dynamics of age gaps in relationships, shedding light on the societal perceptions surrounding older men dating younger women and vice versa. From dissecting societal norms to exploring the genuine love between partners, they tackle whether age discrepancies truly matter in matters of the heart. Tune in as they unravel the pros and cons, offering insightful perspectives on navigating age disparity in relationships. This thought-provoking discussion is brought to you by BetterHelp, where Cognac Room listeners can enjoy an exclusive 10% off their first month by visiting https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom.

The episode starts off with Jay and Petra addressing the question, “should men hold their friends accountable when it comes to women?” And then they get into the first part of this two part episode discussing age gaps in relationships. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra address the issue of women pushing men away for fear of being hurt vs simply playing games. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and DJ LaBonita discuss the problems with dating and relationships today and explore some very practical solutions. Dj LaBonita has some refreshing views on the topic so you definitely don't want to miss this one. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra start by talking about a woman whose husband likes to pray during bedroom time and whether or not it's inappropriate. They also talk about Valentine's Day and its importance of lack of importance in a relationship. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra discuss a clip of a woman talking about how she needs to be with her man all the time and what he needs to do to keep her happy. Is it extreme or are her expectations normal? This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra talk about the common mistake that many people make of granting too many people access to them too early in the dating pool and the problems that almost always come along with it. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay, Petra, and Kee cover a woman's need to feel loved and a man's need to feel respected. In a relationship. Things get heated! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay, Petra, and Kee open up about their thoughts on exes getting back together and why it's happening so much right now. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra start with the question of the day, “Why do men hold on to women they don't really want?” And then get into the topic of, “Can any 2 ppl have a successful relationship regardless of compatibility?” This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay, and Petra sit down to discuss how some people seem to always find themselves in bad relationships or dating situations, and the part they may play in it. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

This one is packed with topics! Jay, Petra, Lyric, and Kee discuss everything from what people from what occupation and lifestyles are most likely to cheat to reevaluating relationships. Grab your favorite drink and enjoy! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra are joined by Sincere to cover a few topics such as, Is it offensive to be asked to be tested before being intimate with someone you're dating? What role does a persons body count play in your decision to date them? And finally the crew talks about women being fed up and men being discouraged when it comes to relationships. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay, Petra, and Kee answer the question “does jealousy and arguments have a place in a healthy relationship?” And then they discuss whether or not a man was ungrateful after his lady did a kind deed for him but not quite to his specifications. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay, Petra, and Kee continue to talk about power dynamics in relationships and address it from more angles.

Jay, Petra and Kee discuss power dynamics in a relationship and how things play out based on them, as well as how power is shifted in a relationship. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay and Petra discuss how porn may sometimes help as well as hurt a relationship based on usage and a partners views on it. Some women don't like the idea of their men watching porn and vice versa while others don't have an issue, and some even explore it together for a more fulfilling sexual experience. Tune in as they explore the pros and cons of porn in a relationship. This Episode is Sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay, Petra, and Kee are joined by Salid Sims to discuss why we crave what hurts us as well as a few other topics. This is one you don't want to miss! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Petra gets her feet wet as an interviewer as she gets a very up close and personal interview with the Cognac Room founder and host, Jay Christian. Nothing is off the table. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom

Jay, and Petra are joined by Rene and L Boogey to discuss obligations beyond child support and whether or not loss of attraction means the end of the relationship is near. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp Cognac Room listeners get 10% off of your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/cognacroom