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The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness. However, for many, it can also be a period of profound sorrow and reflection, especially for those who have experienced loss. So for this upcoming holidays, let's look back to a heartfelt conversation with Dushka Zapata, a prolific writer known for her impactful work on Quora and her books, including "Love Yourself and Other Insurgent Acts That Recast Everything." This episode delves into the complexities of grief, suffering, and the challenges some people face during the holiday season. You're listening to Christopher Lochhead: Follow Your Different. We are the real dialogue podcast for people with a different mind. So get your mind in a different place, and hey ho, let's go. The Complexity of the Holidays Christopher opens the conversation by acknowledging that while the holiday season is often seen as a time of joy and celebration, it can also be a period of profound sorrow for many. He candidly shares that this holiday season is particularly challenging for him due to personal losses he experienced in 2019. He emphasizes that this episode is for anyone feeling pain during the holidays, and he hopes it will foster empathy and understanding. Dushka responds by discussing the common questions she encounters on Quora regarding grief, such as whether it's normal to feel sad or how long grief should last. She asserts that there is no "normal" when it comes to grief; people should feel whatever emotions arise without worrying about societal expectations. Dushka points out that no one has the authority to dictate how long someone should grieve or how they should feel.   The Pressure to Cheer Up The conversation shifts to the well-meaning but often misguided attempts by others to help those who are grieving. Dushka likens the pressure to "cheer up" to sitting on someone's chest while they're trying to breathe, describing it as suffocating. She believes that the best way to support someone in grief is to give them the space to feel their emotions without judgment or pressure to conform to societal norms of happiness. “I think so many people want to help but I'm going to tell you, asking someone to cheer up when they're grieving is like sitting on someone's chest when they're trying to breathe.” – Dushka Zapata Christopher agrees, noting that if someone is perpetually happy, it may indicate they are avoiding deeper issues. Dushka adds that happiness can coexist with grief; one can be happy while still mourning. She shares her personal experience of grieving her father, who passed away in December, a month filled with reminders of loss amidst the holiday cheer.   The Freedom to Express Grief Dushka recounts how difficult it can be to navigate social interactions during the holidays when everyone expects happiness. She describes moments when people wish her a "happy holiday," and she feels an overwhelming urge to respond with honesty about her pain. She believes it's essential for people to feel free to express their true emotions, even if it catches others off guard. Dushka then shares her decision to opt out of traditional holiday celebrations. After her father's death, she found Christmas too painful and chose to set it aside for her well-being. She describes how she has created a holiday experience that feels right for her, which may not include the usual festivities. Dushka expresses that it's okay to prioritize one's emotional health over societal expectations. Christopher conveys his understanding and support for Dushka's choice, affirming that everyone has the right to navigate their grief in their own way. Dushka acknowledges that while she may eventually reintroduce holiday celebrations, she is currently focused on honoring her feelings and taking care of herself. To hear more from Dushka Zapata and Christopher Lochhead's conversation on grief and happiness during the holidays, download and listen to this episode.    Bio

James, Robyn, and Jay navigate reflective questions originally curated by Dushka Zapata, a writer known for her profound questioning and shared prominence with James on Quora. What unfolds is a contemplative discussion that offers a break from the routine; listeners should take the opportunity to ponder along and, perhaps, find resonance with their own experiences.The episode begins with a light-hearted inquiry into their Sunday afternoon routines, gradually moving on to more thought-provoking questions about past relationships, deep friendships, and trust. The spontaneous and honest responses from James, Robyn, and Jay, craft a narrative that's both engaging and reflective, providing a space for listeners to introspect on similar facets of their own lives.-----------What do YOU think of the show? Head to JamesAltucherShow.com/listeners and fill out a short survey that will help us better tailor the podcast to our audience!Are you interested in getting direct answers from James about your question on a podcast? Go to JamesAltucherShow.com/AskAltucher and send in your questions to be answered on the air!------------Visit Notepd.com to read our idea lists & sign up to create your own!My new book, Skip the Line, is out! Make sure you get a copy wherever books are sold!Join the You Should Run for President 2.0 Facebook Group, where we discuss why you should run for President.I write about all my podcasts! Check out the full post and learn what I learned at jamesaltucher.com/podcast.------------Thank you so much for listening! If you like this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe  to “The James Altucher Show” wherever you get your podcasts: Apple PodcastsStitcheriHeart RadioSpotifyFollow me on Social Media:YouTubeTwitterFacebook

James, Robyn, and Jay navigate reflective questions originally curated by Dushka Zapata, a writer known for her profound questioning and shared prominence with James on Quora. What unfolds is a contemplative discussion that offers a break from the routine; listeners should take the opportunity to ponder along and, perhaps, find resonance with their own experiences.The episode begins with a light-hearted inquiry into their Sunday afternoon routines, gradually moving on to more thought-provoking questions about past relationships, deep friendships, and trust. The spontaneous and honest responses from James, Robyn, and Jay, craft a narrative that's both engaging and reflective, providing a space for listeners to introspect on similar facets of their own lives.-----------What do YOU think of the show? Head to JamesAltucherShow.com/listeners and fill out a short survey that will help us better tailor the podcast to our audience!Are you interested in getting direct answers from James about your question on a podcast? Go to JamesAltucherShow.com/AskAltucher and send in your questions to be answered on the air!------------Visit Notepd.com to read our idea lists & sign up to create your own!My new book, Skip the Line, is out! Make sure you get a copy wherever books are sold!Join the You Should Run for President 2.0 Facebook Group, where we discuss why you should run for President.I write about all my podcasts! Check out the full post and learn what I learned at jamesaltucher.com/podcast.------------Thank you so much for listening! If you like this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe  to "The James Altucher Show" wherever you get your podcasts: Apple PodcastsStitcheriHeart RadioSpotifyFollow me on Social Media:YouTubeTwitterFacebook ------------What do YOU think of the show? Head to JamesAltucherShow.com/listeners and fill out a short survey that will help us better tailor the podcast to our audience!Are you interested in getting direct answers from James about your question on a podcast? Go to JamesAltucherShow.com/AskAltucher and send in your questions to be answered on the air!------------Visit Notepd.com to read our idea lists & sign up to create your own!My new book, Skip the Line, is out! Make sure you get a copy wherever books are sold!Join the You Should Run for President 2.0 Facebook Group, where we discuss why you should run for President.I write about all my podcasts! Check out the full post and learn what I learned at jamesaltuchershow.com------------Thank you so much for listening! If you like this episode, please rate, review, and subscribe to "The James Altucher Show" wherever you get your podcasts: Apple PodcastsiHeart RadioSpotifyFollow me on social media:YouTubeTwitterFacebookLinkedIn

Dushka is a renowned communication expert with over 20 years of experience in the industry. Dushka's work revolves around helping companies and individuals develop their personal brand. She helps people and businesses find their unique voice. Her work has been consumed on Q&A site Quora over 265 million times, and she has written over 10 bestsellers, including most recently “For All I Know - A Shebang of Checklists for life” and “Please Don't Blame Love - A Relationship Handbook”.Enjoy!

Dushka Zapata is a long-time Silicon Valley Communications Executive who has evolved into a passionate and poignant writer, with 15 books including “Please Don't Blame Love” and “For All I Know”, which are discussed in this podcast. Dushka's ability to write about the Human Experience is sweeping over Quora with over 263 million content views. Her unique approach to productivity, creativity, and well-being is based on her own life experiences, and she shares her discoveries in the hopes of helping others suffer less and live better lives. What Dushka offers the world is truly life-changing, and today we bring you a distinctive conversation about relationships. For the complete show notes and access to all episodes, visit ChangingLivesPodcast.com

Today marks the 300th episode of Christopher Lochhead: Follow Your Different. And who better to have a dialogue with on this episode than one of our very first guests in the podcast, the amazing Dushka Zapata. Dushka Zapata is a regular here on the podcast, and is one of my absolute favorite people in the world. She's the author of many legendary books. Her most recent is called How to Write a Book: or tackle anything you find daunting, whichis part of the How to be Ferociously Happy series. When she's not writing, she has had an extraordinary career as a PR communications executive and coach. A Period of Creativity The dialogue starts off with a bit of reversal of roles, as Dushka asks Christopher about how he has been, and congratulating him on his most recent works. Christopher attributes it to having partners in the craft in Eddie Yoon and Nicolas Cole. He feels grateful that he has been able to work with both in what he refers to as his “business writing band”. “I think in my case, on the writing side with Cole and with Eddie, when you have partners, we sort of feel like a band. We call ourselves a business writing band, in so far as we've committed to do work together for years, and do meaningful work over a meaningful amount of time. And while the three of us have other interests and do other things, we do the vast majority of our writing together. So what being in a creative band means is the quality of the work changes radically.” – Christopher Lochhead Christopher adds that while they have overlapping interests, they also each have expertise in other areas, which allows for a multiple perspective on what they write, and can reach out and connect to different audiences. Creativity as a Way to Connect with Yourself On the topic of connecting to people, Dushka shares that creativity in a way has a purpose of connecting you more with yourself. She also finds it wonderful that while you are doing so, other people can join you on that path of self-connection. “I feel like being connected to the part of me that creates, which in my case is mostly writing. But it can be anything. Creativity can be baking, or raising a child or anything that creates something from nothing. But I think it's us at our most us.” – Dushka Zapata Writing as a Superpower It usually is the case for people who create is that the more they get older, the less they create. Though it does not seem like it for Dushka, as she continues to write and share new things enthusiastically as time goes on. For Duskha, she feels like she has even become more creative as she grew older. Because for her, it's something that she genuinely enjoys doing. “My relationship with writing is idyllic. I have heard great writers like Hemmingway say that you have to bleed at the keyboard. And I have never associated writing with anything that hurts. I have never felt frustrated with it. Or I've never experienced writer's block. I've never felt that I have to suffer at the keyboard or with my pencil. It's just pure joy. It always has been.” – Dushka Zapata To hear more from this amazing dialogue with Dushka Zapata, download and listen to this episode. Bio After working for more than 20 years in the communications industry, Dushka noticed a theme. People find it very difficult to articulate who they are and what they do. This holds true for both companies and for individuals. For companies, this is an impediment to the development of an identity, a reputation, a brand. It makes it hard for customers to see how companies are different from their competitors. For individuals, in a new world order of personal brands, it makes it hard to develop one that feels real. This is the focus of Dushka's work: she helps companies and people put into simple terms who they are, what they do, and where to go next. Her work comes to life through message development, presentation training, media training and personal brand development.

Dushka Zapata is one of the most popular and influential writers in the world. Her brilliant essays have been viewed over 200 million times on Quora and through her social media, and have been compiled into 14 amazing books, including her newest work releasing May 2022. Dushka was born in Mexico and has lived in multiple countries, through which she has developed an appreciation for, and deep understanding of, other people. She has an incredible knack for taking complex subjects and perpetual life dilemmas and breaking them down into simple, easy-to-understand and grasp ideas and concepts. What she offers the world is truly life-changing. In this conversation, we talk about the subject of “boundaries” and we dive into essays from Dushka's book “How To Set Your Boundaries And Why No One Else Can Save You.” To get access to all episodes and free resources, visit ChangingLivesPodcast.com.

If you're a regular listener, you know that we have very few guests on this podcast. That is because I believe that 90% of what we get taught about marketing and entrepreneurship is either wrong or not very helpful. So I want to make sure that whoever we have is legendary, and also very helpful. Well, today at Lochhead on Marketing, you not only get one, but two legendary guests, Dushka Zapata and Dan Roam. Dushka Zapata has been on Follow Your Different, and is one of my absolute favorite people in the world. She's the author of many legendary books. Her most recent is called The Love of Your Life is You: A step by step workbook to loving yourself. When she's not writing, she has had an extraordinary career as a PR communications executive and coach. Dan Roam is a multi-time bestselling author as well. His most recent book is called The Back of a Napkin: Solving problems and selling ideas with pitchers. In this episode of Lochhead on Marketing, we talk about presentations, and what the template and architecture of a legendary presentation is. Pay special attention to Dushka and Dan's thoughts on the real reason most people suck at presentations, and what they think you can do about it. The Principle Behind The Back of the Napkin The conversation starts of with a brief introduction of what Dushka and Dan do, besides writing bestselling books. Dushka describes her work as drawing a connection between what executives say and the company's brand. In essence, she helps people say what they want to say in the simplest terms possible. Dan shares that his work is pretty much the same, in which he draws clarity out of these executive's ideas. Except that he literally draws them out on whiteboards, paper, and if nothing is in reach, napkins. Dushka then brings up the principle of The Back of the Napkin, and Dan explains it in detail. “Why it's called the back of the napkin is (because) some of the very, very best ideas, whether they're related to business, or organizations, or leadership or anything else come from a simple sketch, (gets) invariably drawn on a bar somewhere between a couple of people who are sitting there talking about their idea. One of them pulls out a pen, and on that napkin on the bar says, “Wait a minute, wait a minute, if it could draw it out, what would it look like?” They draw a triangle or an arrow or a circle. And that becomes the basis of the idea.” – Dan Roam Dan Roam on Thinking Differently Dan was then asked if there were people who told him as a child to stop drawing and start paying attention to the “normal” stuff. He replies that he had a teacher that said exactly that, to stop drawing and pay attention to reading books and whatnot. What these people did not know was that this was Dan's own way of paying attention and expressing his thoughts on paper. So just because it was a little different, doesn't make it any less important or valuable. “My teacher said that I drew too much, and I talked too much. And I need to sit down and listen and pay better attention. What that teacher didn't realize is that I was really struggling to learn to read. And the way I made up for it was by talking a lot, and being kind of boisterous. And drawing was not a challenge. I think maybe if we dug just a little bit deeper into what your I think you might be talking about, is a lot of us maybe didn't do so well in school or in formal situations as we might have, because we thought a little differently than we were supposed to. And now we're finding thankfully that the people who think different, kind of people from the island of lost toys, are the ones who actually are the most needed right now.” – Dan Roam Legendary Doodler Dan shares the story of where it all began, and it was a place that we had a shared history together, Scient. During those brainstorming meetings at Scient, Dan would often draw out his interpretations of what others were saying, which in turn gave others a visual representation of that spea...

Dushka Zapata is one of the most popular and influential writers in the world. Her brilliant essays have been viewed over 178 million times on Quora and through her social media, and have been compiled into 11 amazing books. Dushka was born in Mexico and has lived in multiple countries, through which she has developed an appreciation for, and deep understanding of, other people. She has an incredible knack for taking complex subjects and perpetual life dilemmas and breaking them down into simple, easy-to-understand and grasp ideas and concepts. What she offers the world is truly life-changing. To get access to all episodes and free resources, visit  ChangingLivesPodcast.com

In today’s episode of Follow Your Different, we are joined yet again by the breathtaking Dushka Zapata. Dushka is one of our regular guests in the podcast and one of the most important and prolific writers this world has to offer. The world truly needs more of Dushka. Additionally, in an act of radical generosity, Dushka has decided to make all e-versions of her published books available on Amazon, for free, starting March 17, 2021. Everything she has published will be available in ebook form for free within a 24-hour period. We highly recommend to go and check out the link and read her astounding books. The Prioritization of Well-Being The pandemic has changed everyone’s relationship landscape, and the glue that has held those relationships has modified its fundamental composition. Dushka discusses that the difficulty in prioritizing one’s well-being is due to the fact that oftentimes it is impossible to tell what exactly is the best for one’s well-being. She shares that the only way to find the answer is to spend time alone, compassionately and gently, giving thought to what is genuinely best for oneself. “Taking care of yourself is the most responsible thing that you can do to literally take care of yourself and your well-being. We are all like boats and we all carry other people who take care of the maintenance of the boat. If the boat sinks, you are useless to others. So what is it that you need to do for the boat, which is you? You need to be functional for others. The most responsible thing that we can do, the best thing that we can do, is to think about the best ways we can take care of ourselves.” - Dushka Zapata The Pursuit of Happiness Dushka discusses that her definition for the pursuit of happiness is less about being happy and more about the feeling whether her actions have a sense of purpose. Most people are trapped in a constant state of sabotaging their own happiness because they feel like it’s too much. When in reality, there is no logical limit to how happy one can become.  She encourages people to never believe mediocrity, low-grade despair, and to devise small steps to interests that bring one closer to happiness. “There isn't a higher being monitoring your amount of happiness. So I think that if there were a first step. It would be to remove your own tendency to sabotage your own happiness. If there were a second step, it would be about identifying the wants that are real. And if there were a third step, it would be about truly understanding what the difference is between the superficial want and the deeper wants. If there was a step before that, it would be related to, what does it mean to make yourself a priority? And I think that requires a multi layered and peeling back of what is actually happening. What exactly is hurting? What exactly are we feeling responsible for when we're not?.” - Dushka Zapata The Architecture of One’s Fabrication Dushka and Christopher discuss how life is just the story that people tell themselves about the facts, people live in the architecture of their own fabrication. Dushka shares how it is worthwhile to perceive oneself as the person who thinks their thoughts rather than being one’s thoughts. This guarantees a life not filled with suffering over things that are uncontrollable and non-existent.  “To me, a really central part about learning how to love myself has to do with making a distinction between the things I believe that are not true. I have to look at the enormous amount of energy and effort that I expend taking care of things that were never my responsibility. These include all of the beliefs that I can just drop and nothing in my life would change. Basically maximum effort compared to minimum effort would not change the result of whatever I'm efforting over. And that's why I think it's so important to look at things and it's also so hard because if I fabricated the architecture, how can I question it. It's a very very difficult thing to do.

In today’s episode of Follow Your Different, we are joined yet again by the breathtaking Dushka Zapata. Dushka is one of our regular guests in the podcast and one of the most important and prolific writers this world has to offer. The world truly needs more of Dushka. Additionally, in an act of radical generosity, Dushka has decided to make all e-versions of her published books available on Amazon, for free, starting March 17, 2021. Everything she has published will be available in ebook form for free within a 24-hour period. We highly recommend to go and check out the link and read her astounding books. The Prioritization of Well-Being The pandemic has changed everyone’s relationship landscape, and the glue that has held those relationships has modified its fundamental composition. Dushka discusses that the difficulty in prioritizing one’s well-being is due to the fact that oftentimes it is impossible to tell what exactly is the best for one’s well-being. She shares that the only way to find the answer is to spend time alone, compassionately and gently, giving thought to what is genuinely best for oneself. “Taking care of yourself is the most responsible thing that you can do to literally take care of yourself and your well-being. We are all like boats and we all carry other people who take care of the maintenance of the boat. If the boat sinks, you are useless to others. So what is it that you need to do for the boat, which is you? You need to be functional for others. The most responsible thing that we can do, the best thing that we can do, is to think about the best ways we can take care of ourselves.” - Dushka Zapata The Pursuit of Happiness Dushka discusses that her definition for the pursuit of happiness is less about being happy and more about the feeling whether her actions have a sense of purpose. Most people are trapped in a constant state of sabotaging their own happiness because they feel like it’s too much. When in reality, there is no logical limit to how happy one can become.  She encourages people to never believe mediocrity, low-grade despair, and to devise small steps to interests that bring one closer to happiness. “There isn't a higher being monitoring your amount of happiness. So I think that if there were a first step. It would be to remove your own tendency to sabotage your own happiness. If there were a second step, it would be about identifying the wants that are real. And if there were a third step, it would be about truly understanding what the difference is between the superficial want and the deeper wants. If there was a step before that, it would be related to, what does it mean to make yourself a priority? And I think that requires a multi layered and peeling back of what is actually happening. What exactly is hurting? What exactly are we feeling responsible for when we're not?.” - Dushka Zapata The Architecture of One’s Fabrication Dushka and Christopher discuss how life is just the story that people tell themselves about the facts, people live in the architecture of their own fabrication. Dushka shares how it is worthwhile to perceive oneself as the person who thinks their thoughts rather than being one’s thoughts. This guarantees a life not filled with suffering over things that are uncontrollable and non-existent.  “To me, a really central part about learning how to love myself has to do with making a distinction between the things I believe that are not true. I have to look at the enormous amount of energy and effort that I expend taking care of things that were never my responsibility. These include all of the beliefs that I can just drop and nothing in my life would change. Basically maximum effort compared to minimum effort would not change the result of whatever I'm efforting over. And that's why I think it's so important to look at things and it's also so hard because if I fabricated the architecture, how can I question it. It's a very very difficult thing to do.

On this episode Steve has a conversation with Dushka Zapata, a communications professional and author about the importance of self care, empathy, rest and recovery in the COVID-19 era.

Today, we have one of our regular guest Dushka Zapata, one of the most prolific and important writers on planet Earth. Her work has been viewed on the Question and Answer site Quora, 165 million times. She's got a brand new book out called Feelings are Fickle, and Other Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me. We have a great conversation and she will definitely help you make sense of all that is happening in the world today. How Are You? Christopher and Dushka discuss how this question has been asked a lot of time during this time of Covid19. They shared how you can respond to this question or how to ask other the same question. Dushka shares the importance of intently asking since most people are suffering during this time.  “I think that anyone that you encounter today, anyone is isolated, scared, overwhelmed, maybe unemployed, stressed. It's just like a really, really a moment of reckoning.” - Dushka Zapata Writing During Covid19 Dushka also shares about how she stopped posting online and started listening. She shares her process now as compared to pre-Covid19. The themes of her writing are more about shared experiences and now more than ever, everybody is experiencing the same thing. She finds it universal that everybody can relate now to her writing. “I have friends everywhere. I've lived in many places in the world throughout my life, and I have friends in Italy and friends in Switzerland and friends across Asia. We're all going through the same thing, through similar concerns and similar fears. It's horrible and fascinating.” - Dushka Zapata Cocoon Time and Optimism Christopher asks Dushka about her thoughts about the world being in a cocoon time, where there is pre-Covid19 and then there’s the future. Dushka describes it beautifully as she says this metaphor is full of optimism, as it relates to a caterpillar turning into a colorful and iridescent butterfly.  “I think I would want to make a distinction between optimism and toxic optimism. Toxic optimism is: ‘I believe that things will work out in a good way.’ That is optimism. Toxic optimism is ‘me believing that things will work out in a good way’ is a wall between me and understanding the possibilities. So am I putting up other possibilities that people have not considered or am I blind to what's actually happening today?” - Dushka Zapata To hear more about Dushka and why feelings are fickle, download and listen to this episode, Bio: Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today.  On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 165 million times. She’s the author of ten best-selling books. Dushka has over 20 years experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley.  When she’s not writing, she works as a communications executive in San Fransciso. Links: Quora: Dushka Zapata Feelings Are Fickle Twitter: @dushkaamateur Linkedin: Dushka Zapata We hope you enjoyed this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and subscribe on iTunes!

Today, we have one of our regular guest Dushka Zapata, one of the most prolific and important writers on planet Earth. Her work has been viewed on the Question and Answer site Quora, 165 million times. She's got a brand new book out called Feelings are Fickle, and Other Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me. We have a great conversation and she will definitely help you make sense of all that is happening in the world today. How Are You? Christopher and Dushka discuss how this question has been asked a lot of time during this time of Covid19. They shared how you can respond to this question or how to ask other the same question. Dushka shares the importance of intently asking since most people are suffering during this time.  “I think that anyone that you encounter today, anyone is isolated, scared, overwhelmed, maybe unemployed, stressed. It's just like a really, really a moment of reckoning.” - Dushka Zapata Writing During Covid19 Dushka also shares about how she stopped posting online and started listening. She shares her process now as compared to pre-Covid19. The themes of her writing are more about shared experiences and now more than ever, everybody is experiencing the same thing. She finds it universal that everybody can relate now to her writing. “I have friends everywhere. I've lived in many places in the world throughout my life, and I have friends in Italy and friends in Switzerland and friends across Asia. We're all going through the same thing, through similar concerns and similar fears. It's horrible and fascinating.” - Dushka Zapata Cocoon Time and Optimism Christopher asks Dushka about her thoughts about the world being in a cocoon time, where there is pre-Covid19 and then there’s the future. Dushka describes it beautifully as she says this metaphor is full of optimism, as it relates to a caterpillar turning into a colorful and iridescent butterfly.  “I think I would want to make a distinction between optimism and toxic optimism. Toxic optimism is: ‘I believe that things will work out in a good way.’ That is optimism. Toxic optimism is ‘me believing that things will work out in a good way’ is a wall between me and understanding the possibilities. So am I putting up other possibilities that people have not considered or am I blind to what's actually happening today?” - Dushka Zapata To hear more about Dushka and why feelings are fickle, download and listen to this episode, Bio: Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today.  On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 165 million times. She’s the author of ten best-selling books. Dushka has over 20 years experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley.  When she’s not writing, she works as a communications executive in San Fransciso. Links: Quora: Dushka Zapata Feelings Are Fickle Twitter: @dushkaamateur Linkedin: Dushka Zapata We hope you enjoyed this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and subscribe on iTunes!

A celebrated author of nine books, Dushka Zapata has been the Quora Top Writer consecutively for 2016, 2017 and 2018. Her unique style of writing has been published in Huffington Post, Time, BBC, Apple News, HuffPost UK, The Ladders, Inc, The Independent, Mamamia and Thought Catalog. In this candid conversion, Dushka would be sharing her thoughts on how to utilize this time in lockdown by efficiently putting your energy to use and maintaining a positive environment.

We continue our run of legendary authors. Today, one of the most prolific and important writers in the world, Dushka Zapata. Her work has been viewed over 157 million times on question & answer site Quora.  In this episode, we get right into how she’s dealing with the coronavirus. Dushka has a powerful point of view on Social Distancing and why we should be conducting our selves as if we already had it. She also touches on why we need to learn to become “elastic” and how we’re all connected. Living in Uncertainty Dushka is exactly what we all need right now! She shares how to deal with uncertainty, especially in the present time. People have been looking outwardly too much and she says this is not helping them. “We are looking for answers in other people and the fact is, no one has the answers. I think that’s really interesting because you forget that you can look within for certain things. Like managing your anxiety and managing the fear of scarcity, which is one of the things that, we are wired to be fearful of.” - Dushka Zapata Acts of Kindness Dushka reads to us something that she wrote on Quora about acts of kindness in times of coronavirus.  “In my first supermarket visit, the shelves that carried cans, crackers, toilet paper, were completely empty People around me were clearly on edge. Stressed, anxious, haphazardly grabbing things from shelves and throwing them into their carts. I wanted to buy dishwasher detergent and there was one left but I couldn’t reach it. I suddenly felt a sense of powerlessness rise inside of me. That’s when I saw that the box I had been reaching for was right in front of my eyes. I took it, then realized a very tall person was handing it to me. “It looks like you wanted this, yes?” he says this to me very gently. I turn and we just stand there looking at each other, a pause in the middle of a frenzy spinning around us. He smiles at me. His smile feels like someone just dropped a sturdy anchor in the middle of a turbulent ocean. The times we are living in are surreal. Please, stop and be nice to someone.” - Dushka Zapata Kindness and Elasticity Dushka thinks the current pandemic has enabled people to show their best and worst. She cites how people have frenzied over grocery stocks while some other people have also been extra careful and friendly to others.  “One of the things that fascinate me about these kinds of times: one is kindness, that I want to talk about and just like thinking of other people and the other is, the ability to be elastic, flexible. How are you adapting what you’re doing to survive.” - Dushka Zapata To hear more about kindness and elasticity and Dushka’s point of view on social distancing, download and listen to this episode.  Bio: Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today.  On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 157 million times. She’s the author of eight best-selling books. Dushka has over 20 years experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley.  When she’s not writing, she works as a serves as communications executive in San Fransciso. Links: Quora: Duskha Zapata Amazon: Dushka Zapata Love Yourself: and Other Insurgent Acts That Recast Everything You Belong Everywhere: and Other Things You'll Have to See for Yourself  Twitter: @dushkaamateur Linkedin: Dushka We hope you enjoyed this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!

We continue our run of legendary authors. Today, one of the most prolific and important writers in the world, Dushka Zapata. Her work has been viewed over 157 million times on question & answer site Quora.  In this episode, we get right into how she’s dealing with the coronavirus. Dushka has a powerful point of view on Social Distancing and why we should be conducting our selves as if we already had it. She also touches on why we need to learn to become “elastic” and how we’re all connected. Living in Uncertainty Dushka is exactly what we all need right now! She shares how to deal with uncertainty, especially in the present time. People have been looking outwardly too much and she says this is not helping them. “We are looking for answers in other people and the fact is, no one has the answers. I think that’s really interesting because you forget that you can look within for certain things. Like managing your anxiety and managing the fear of scarcity, which is one of the things that, we are wired to be fearful of.” - Dushka Zapata Acts of Kindness Dushka reads to us something that she wrote on Quora about acts of kindness in times of coronavirus.  “In my first supermarket visit, the shelves that carried cans, crackers, toilet paper, were completely empty People around me were clearly on edge. Stressed, anxious, haphazardly grabbing things from shelves and throwing them into their carts. I wanted to buy dishwasher detergent and there was one left but I couldn’t reach it. I suddenly felt a sense of powerlessness rise inside of me. That’s when I saw that the box I had been reaching for was right in front of my eyes. I took it, then realized a very tall person was handing it to me. “It looks like you wanted this, yes?” he says this to me very gently. I turn and we just stand there looking at each other, a pause in the middle of a frenzy spinning around us. He smiles at me. His smile feels like someone just dropped a sturdy anchor in the middle of a turbulent ocean. The times we are living in are surreal. Please, stop and be nice to someone.” - Dushka Zapata Kindness and Elasticity Dushka thinks the current pandemic has enabled people to show their best and worst. She cites how people have frenzied over grocery stocks while some other people have also been extra careful and friendly to others.  “One of the things that fascinate me about these kinds of times: one is kindness, that I want to talk about and just like thinking of other people and the other is, the ability to be elastic, flexible. How are you adapting what you’re doing to survive.” - Dushka Zapata To hear more about kindness and elasticity and Dushka’s point of view on social distancing, download and listen to this episode.  Bio: Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today.  On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 157 million times. She’s the author of eight best-selling books. Dushka has over 20 years experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley.  When she’s not writing, she works as a serves as communications executive in San Fransciso. Links: Quora: Duskha Zapata Amazon: Dushka Zapata Love Yourself: and Other Insurgent Acts That Recast Everything You Belong Everywhere: and Other Things You'll Have to See for Yourself  Twitter: @dushkaamateur Linkedin: Dushka We hope you enjoyed this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!

Today, one of the most prolific and important writers in the world, Dushka Zapata, joins us for a very unusual but moving discussion. They talk about grief, happiness and why its okay to opt-out for the holidays. Her work has been viewed over 150 million times on Q & A site Quora.  This might be the most different conversation you’ve ever heard about the holidays! Remembering Those We Have Lost The holidays are wonderful celebratory times for us to focus on our friends, family and for many of us, our faith. For many of us, the holiday season can be a happy season. However, there are quite a number who have moments of some sorrow. The holidays, intentionally or unintentionally, reminds us of the people we have lost. “As you know, I write a lot at Quora. A lot of questions I answer are about people who are asking permission.’Is it normal for me to be sad? How long should grief last? i lost my dog four years ago and I’m still mourning, is that normal?’ To me, my answer is always, ‘who cares?’ Who cares if it’s normal? You should feel whatever it is that you’re feeling. Who is it that is an authority on regulating what other people should or shouldn’t be feeling?” - Dushka Zapata The 7 Steps To Overcome Grief Christopher shares that there are no 7 steps to overcome grief. Some people advise those who are grieving with tips on how to cope but the reality is, there are no stages to grief and Dushka says its totally acceptable. “I think so many people want to help but I’m going to tell you, asking someone to cheer up when they’re grieving is like sitting on someone's chest when they’re trying to breathe.” - Dushka Zapata A Happy Person Who Grieves Dushka shares some personal stories on how she considers herself as a happy person who grieves. The primary reason she grieves during December was her father passed away that month. Ever since, she has not celebrated the holiday.  “I just feel like we should all be making that space for others. It’s okay to grieve, it’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to hate the holidays, its okay to not want other people to have a happy holiday because you just can’t do that to another person, to be happy, forceful happiness, its okay.” - Dushka Zapata To hear more information about Dushka Zapata and to listen to why its okay to feel grief over the holidays, download and listen to the episode. Bio: Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today.  On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 150 million times. She’s the author of eight best-selling books. Dushka has over 20 years experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley.  When she’s not writing, she serves as a communications executive at tech juggernaut Zendesk. Links: Quora - Dushka Zapata Amazon - Dushka Zapata Love Yourself: and Other Insurgent Acts That Recast Everything You Belong Everywhere: and Other Things You'll Have to See for Yourself  Twitter - @dushkaamateur Linkedin - Dushka We hope you enjoyed this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes! Get amazing, different stories on business, marketing, and life. Subscribe to our newsletter The Difference.

Today, one of the most prolific and important writers in the world, Dushka Zapata, joins us for a very unusual but moving discussion. They talk about grief, happiness and why its okay to opt-out for the holidays. Her work has been viewed over 150 million times on Q & A site Quora.  This might be the most different conversation you’ve ever heard about the holidays! Remembering Those We Have Lost The holidays are wonderful celebratory times for us to focus on our friends, family and for many of us, our faith. For many of us, the holiday season can be a happy season. However, there are quite a number who have moments of some sorrow. The holidays, intentionally or unintentionally, reminds us of the people we have lost. “As you know, I write a lot at Quora. A lot of questions I answer are about people who are asking permission.’Is it normal for me to be sad? How long should grief last? i lost my dog four years ago and I’m still mourning, is that normal?’ To me, my answer is always, ‘who cares?’ Who cares if it’s normal? You should feel whatever it is that you’re feeling. Who is it that is an authority on regulating what other people should or shouldn’t be feeling?” - Dushka Zapata The 7 Steps To Overcome Grief Christopher shares that there are no 7 steps to overcome grief. Some people advise those who are grieving with tips on how to cope but the reality is, there are no stages to grief and Dushka says its totally acceptable. “I think so many people want to help but I’m going to tell you, asking someone to cheer up when they’re grieving is like sitting on someone's chest when they’re trying to breathe.” - Dushka Zapata A Happy Person Who Grieves Dushka shares some personal stories on how she considers herself as a happy person who grieves. The primary reason she grieves during December was her father passed away that month. Ever since, she has not celebrated the holiday.  “I just feel like we should all be making that space for others. It’s okay to grieve, it’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to hate the holidays, its okay to not want other people to have a happy holiday because you just can’t do that to another person, to be happy, forceful happiness, its okay.” - Dushka Zapata To hear more information about Dushka Zapata and to listen to why its okay to feel grief over the holidays, download and listen to the episode. Bio: Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today.  On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 150 million times. She’s the author of eight best-selling books. Dushka has over 20 years experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley.  When she’s not writing, she serves as a communications executive at tech juggernaut Zendesk. Links: Quora - Dushka Zapata Amazon - Dushka Zapata Love Yourself: and Other Insurgent Acts That Recast Everything You Belong Everywhere: and Other Things You'll Have to See for Yourself  Twitter - @dushkaamateur Linkedin - Dushka We hope you enjoyed this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes! Get amazing, different stories on business, marketing, and life. Subscribe to our newsletter The Difference.

One of the most prolific and important writers in the world and our most regular guest Dushka Zapata, joins us today. We had a heartfelt conversation about mending broken-hearts, why grief is worst when you’re young, why discipline is better than inspiration and many more! Writing Beautiful Answers at Quora You may find Dushka lounging in Question and Answer site Quora, where her writings receive 140 million views. Her life-affirming, fun and powerful answers have garnered her quite a following, including Christopher himself. During this conversation, she shared a wonderful passage where we can learn a thing or to about mending a broken heart. She shares a story about a big, crowded yoga class she attended. The intention was to heal the physical and non-physical aspects of the person ⁠— whether a sprain, a wound or even sorrow, anxiety and loneliness. “At this point, I sneaked a peek. I opened my eyes and slowly panned the room. I would say that 97% of the people on the room had placed both their hands over the left side of their chest." - Dushka Zapata She left a powerful message to readers, reminding everyone to tread very carefully in this world because, in reality, almost everyone is desperately trying to mend a broken heart. Grief is Worse When You’re Young Dushka shares another question lifted from Quora about a young 16-year old who wanted to marry her girlfriend. She crafted a very creative and wholehearted response: she affirmed what the young lad was feeling and then informed him that this feeling is temporary. "Feelings  ⁠— real and deep  ⁠— change. Feelings change and the fact that they do is what breaks me. The fact that it changes, saves me and it will save you too." - Dushka Zapata She concludes that the younger you are, the more confusing things are because you don't know you can survive them. Discipline Matters More Than Being Inspired Dushka shares to Christopher about some days in her career, where she counts on being disciplined, rather than inspired., which she believes is the secret to anything. “I don’t think there is such a thing as motivation. I think that you just do it because, you said you are gonna do it every day.” - Dushka Zapata More on this Oddcast, Christopher, and Dushka discuss the importance of being an amateur. She also conversed about her new book, You Belong Everywhere and Other Things You'll Have to See for Yourself. To hear more about Legendary Writer Dushka Zapata, download and listen to the episode. Bio: Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today. On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 140 million times. She’s the author of eight best-selling books. Dushka has over 20 years experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley. When she’s not writing, she serves as a communications executive at tech juggernaut Zendesk. Links: Quora: Dushka Zapata New Book: You Belong Everywhere and Other Things You'll Have to See for Yourself  Twitter: @dushkaamateur LinkedIn: Dushka We hope you enjoyed this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!

One of the most prolific and important writers in the world and our most regular guest Dushka Zapata, joins us today. We had a heartfelt conversation about mending broken-hearts, why grief is worst when you’re young, why discipline is better than inspiration and many more! Writing Beautiful Answers at Quora You may find Dushka lounging in Question and Answer site Quora, where her writings receive 140 million views. Her life-affirming, fun and powerful answers have garnered her quite a following, including Christopher himself. During this conversation, she shared a wonderful passage where we can learn a thing or to about mending a broken heart. She shares a story about a big, crowded yoga class she attended. The intention was to heal the physical and non-physical aspects of the person ⁠— whether a sprain, a wound or even sorrow, anxiety and loneliness. “At this point, I sneaked a peek. I opened my eyes and slowly panned the room. I would say that 97% of the people on the room had placed both their hands over the left side of their chest." - Dushka Zapata She left a powerful message to readers, reminding everyone to tread very carefully in this world because, in reality, almost everyone is desperately trying to mend a broken heart. Grief is Worse When You’re Young Dushka shares another question lifted from Quora about a young 16-year old who wanted to marry her girlfriend. She crafted a very creative and wholehearted response: she affirmed what the young lad was feeling and then informed him that this feeling is temporary. "Feelings  ⁠— real and deep  ⁠— change. Feelings change and the fact that they do is what breaks me. The fact that it changes, saves me and it will save you too." - Dushka Zapata She concludes that the younger you are, the more confusing things are because you don't know you can survive them. Discipline Matters More Than Being Inspired Dushka shares to Christopher about some days in her career, where she counts on being disciplined, rather than inspired., which she believes is the secret to anything. “I don’t think there is such a thing as motivation. I think that you just do it because, you said you are gonna do it every day.” - Dushka Zapata More on this Oddcast, Christopher, and Dushka discuss the importance of being an amateur. She also conversed about her new book, You Belong Everywhere and Other Things You'll Have to See for Yourself. To hear more about Legendary Writer Dushka Zapata, download and listen to the episode. Bio: Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today. On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 140 million times. She’s the author of eight best-selling books. Dushka has over 20 years experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley. When she’s not writing, she serves as a communications executive at tech juggernaut Zendesk. Links: Quora: Dushka Zapata New Book: You Belong Everywhere and Other Things You'll Have to See for Yourself  Twitter: @dushkaamateur LinkedIn: Dushka We hope you enjoyed this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!

In this episode, I spoke with Dushka Zapata, Executive Communications at Zendesk, writer, and author of seven books. We spoke about writing as a part of her life and how she captures ideas to do so, her work at Zendesk, Quora and her seven books, the process she goes through to write a book, and […] The post Thriving as an Introvert: Dushka Zapata, Writer and Executive Communications @ Zendesk appeared first on Latinos Who Tech.

Dushka Zapata joins us for another fun and life-affirming conversation. Dushka and Christopher talk about the origins of her soon-to-be-released book, how recounting something differently is valid, and how stories differ from facts. Recounting Things Uniquely Dushka is very aware of her unique thought process that translates into her writing. Oftentimes, her recollection of shared experiences differs from that of other people. She finds this fascinating. Regardless of what other people say, these instances remind her that she has the license to say things in a different way in order to tell a story. She knows it is not some conscious effort but her recounting of things as exactly as she can. “I've known for a long time that I look at things differently than other people. I think that's what makes me worth reading—because it's less about what happened but more of my perspective about it.” - Dushka Zapata Different is Valid She will soon be releasing a book about stories from her childhood and her family. She shared some of these stories to her siblings and as expected, they were surprised with the way she saw things. And for such a book, what title can be more fitting other than, This is How I Remember It? Her book not only celebrates the uniqueness of each individual's perspective but also nullifies the notion that one point of view is superior to another. The memory of a loved one's passing is generally painful, but for some people like Dushka, it can also be beautiful. “I feel really strongly about the way I remember things. It matters to me about how other people claim that I'm not recounting something right… I think that's a gift. I'm so happy that the way I remember things is like that.” - Dushka Zapata A Thin Line Between Facts and Stories Dushka puts simply the difference between facts and stories through an answer to a Quora question. We often make assumptions about people's behaviors that seem out of the ordinary. And these assumptions, those add-ons, are usually the stories that embellish facts. Failure to see the difference between the two results in struggles for most people. “It's a wonder we understand each other at all because we look at the world through our assumptions and our insecurities, but I also think that we look at the world through a lot of things that never actually take place.” - Dushka Zapata To hear more about Dushka's powerful answers to Quora questions, her deeper take on stories and facts, download and listen to the episode. Bio: Dushka Zapata is one of the most prolific and popular writers working today. On question and answer site Quora her work has been viewed over 135 million times. She's the author of eight best-selling books. Dushka has over 20 years of experience as a senior communications executive in Silicon Valley. When she's not writing, she serves as a communications executive at tech juggernaut Zendesk. Links: Quora Profile Books on Amazon New Book -  You Belong Everywhere: and Other Things You'll Have to See for Yourself Twitter LinkedIn Quora Answers: Is there an age where it no longer makes any sense to take ballet lessons? My boyfriend doesn't text me first. I have to text him first, and after that, he often doesn't text me back. Why? We hope you enjoyed Dushka Zapata on this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!

Why is Niche Down, a book meant to be shared with everyone, so personal to its authors? On this episode, Dushka Zapata and Heather Clancy join Christopher to talk niching down, why being different is a superpower, and so much more. Starting Out Differently While Young Christopher, half the dynamic duo behind Niche Down, had to deal with what makes him different quite early. He knew he was smart in certain areas and not so much in some. Reconciling his weaknesses and strengths proved very difficult. “My life has been one giant dichotomy, one giant bipolar adventure.” - Christopher Lochhead He was highly talented in music and drama but got 4 out a 100 in math. It wasn't until he was enrolled to a fine arts school that he finally gained his footing. Around the same time, he began to realize, in waves over time, that being himself was the way out of everything. Looking at Different Things Then there is Heather, the kid who was brought up to be a well-rounded student. She was amazing at math, in fact taking advanced classes on pre-calculus and physics. While she was programmed in different ways, she knew that she wanted to pursue the creative field. Heather could have gone in so many directions she was shoved into. Her parents encouraged her to look at different things. But she was never one to jump off a cliff on her own accord. A Natural Intersection Heather and Christopher have known each other for 25 years. In their many interviews, Heather realized that Christopher did a lot of the pushing. Their friendship bloomed from Heather's penchant for asking questions that helped Christopher change his thesis on a lot of things. Other times, she helped him form a messaging of things that he wasn't ready for just yet. Coupled with her fascination with entrepreneurship, they eventually became a team. “I was always so interested in helping those people tell their stories... What makes you different? What did you choose to do that? So when he (Christopher) thought about this book, it just sort of was a natural intersection, I think.” - Heather Clancy To hear more about the conception of Niche Down and Duska's microscopic examination of Heather and Christopher's team-up, download and listen to the episode. Bio: Heather Clancy Heather is a long-time celebrated journalist and co-author of Niche Down. HeatherClancy.com LinkedIn Twitter Dushka Zapata Dushka is one of the famous writers in the Q&A platform, Quora. Amazon Quora LinkedIn Twitter Links: NicheDownBook.com Niche Down on Amazon We hope you enjoyed Dushka Zapata and Heather Clancy on this episode of Follow Your Different™! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!

How does creativity bloom and do we really need a soulmate? Dushka Zapata is a talented writer and a communications executive at Silicon Valley. Today, she joins us to talk about writing, soulmates, the difference between blame and responsibility, and a whole lot more. “The greatest lie ever told is that there is someone out there that can make you peaceful, happy and full.” - Dushka Zapata Three Things We Learned Creativity blooms from unpredictability and solitude Dushka thinks that her fast-paced workplace along with everything else that happens to her on the regular enable her writing. In truth, being in one's comfort zone can be gray and may kill the stories that one has to write. Striking the perfect balance between unpredictability and solitude to allow oneself to breathe helps in maintaining creativity. Boredom and distraction are not a dichotomy The inability to feel pleasure or anhedonia stems from both boredom and perpetual distraction. But distraction does not mean the complete opposite of boredom, and oftentimes unhealthy distractions take on the form of false entertainment fed to the brain. Perpetual distraction may also lead to burnout, especially if boredom still lingers even after giving in to one distraction after another. Finding one's soulmate will not fix you Dushka actively answers questions on Quora and one of the many things that she has been asked is whether or not we need a soulmate. But this is just one of the many lies that we from every other person. We don't need to find someone to end our suffering from dissatisfaction and despair or being disheartened and lonely, as this belief oftentimes enhances a permanent sense of restlessness. Humans are already whole and our secret sense of dissatisfaction and loneliness is actually inherent to the human condition. In fact, no one out there has the ability to bail you out. Eventually, you can pick out someone to walk beside you through everything, but the antidote to your loneliness does not exist in anyone outside of yourself but you. Bio: Dushka Zapata is a best-selling author and her work has been viewed over 120 million times on Quora. She serves as the VP of Communications at public technology company Zendesk. Links: Amazon Quora Twitter LinkedIn We hope you enjoyed Dushka Zapata on this episode of Legends and Losers! Christopher loves hearing from his listeners. Feel free to email him, connect on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and subscribe on iTunes!

Dushka Zapata, VP Comms @Zendesk and Top Writer on Quora (>100M views on her Quora answers), shares more detail on one of her recent answers to the question "What are things you wish someone had told you when you were in your twenties?" We delve into further discussion on the following points from Dushka's answer: 1. "Networking events = waste of time. No, I will not “work a room”. " 2. "Things will bounce back at you so fast you’ll get whiplash. Your intern will be your boss soon. So soon. Act accordingly." 3. "Travel. Read. Develop a point of view. Curiosity is where it’s at." 4. "Don’t regard peers as competitors; don’t concoct rivalries. We are in this together." 5. "It’s possible to make all the right decisions and end up with an undesired outcome. Ergo, the outcome cannot possibly be the measure of your decisions." 6. "Examine the reason — the real reason — behind the decisions you make. Your ego will get you every. Single. Time." Thank you for listening!! Follow the show on Twitter @LED_Curator Website www.learneducatediscover.com/ Like us on FaceBook at www.facebook.com/learneducatediscover/ Email us at hello@learneducatediscover. We will reply!! Subscribe to the show on iTunes itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/learn…ver/id1049159321

Welcome to the Yogi Misfit Sessions. Today we welcome back Dushka Zapata on the show. She's funny, real and some insight on boundaries. You guys loved her last time so here we go again. Special thanks to our friends over at SF Yoga Magazine. Listen in and enjoy.Learn more about Dushka:Books: How to be Ferociously Happy Amateur: An inexpert, inexperienced, unauthoritative, enamored view of life Quora: Dushka Zapata LinkedIn: Dushka ZapataDon’t forget to subscribe via: iTunes | Google Play | RSS.MUSIC Get Up by Ryan LittleWRITE A REVIEW If you like the podcast, please leave a review or rating on iTunes! Want to listen to a specific topic? Let me know by sending ideas on social media!See you on the mat. Much love and good vibes. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Should I ask my crush why she stares at me all the time?Dushka Zapata, Crushes make me happy.Written Sep 25I'm going to tell you a secret I discovered some time ago that is so simple and basic and obvious that I missed it for years.A lot of what we get in life rests on our ability to ask the right question.A precise, targeted question is more likely to deliver what I really want to know.If my crush was staring at me, why he was staring would be a secondary question.What is it that I'd really want to know?What I would want to know is if he had a crush on me too.Once I identified the right question, I would definitely walk over to him and say “I like you. Do you like me too?”

Should I ask my crush why she stares at me all the time? Dushka Zapata, Crushes make me happy. Written Sep 25 I’m going to tell you a secret I discovered some time ago that is so simple and basic and obvious that I missed it for years. A lot of what we get in life rests on our ability to ask the right question. A precise, targeted question is more likely to deliver what I really want to know. If my crush was staring at me, why he was staring would be a secondary question. What is it that I’d really want to know? What I would want to know is if he had a crush on me too. Once I identified the right question, I would definitely walk over to him and say “I like you. Do you like me too?”

How do I respond when someone gives me a compliment?Dushka Zapata, Social introvert: let's hang out. Go away.Written Mar 7, 2016Have you noticed how people don't know how to take a compliment?Try saying "That is a beautiful sweater!" or "that presentation was really good!" or“you look gorgeous!”I see so frequently people who don't let the compliment in. "What, this old thing?" "Oh, nonsense. That was nothing". “Oh, shut up!”But, what about criticism?We believe that immediately.It brings us down.We open the door wide for the bad. Shut the door for the good. This is preposterous.Consider that words, thoughts, intentions become reality, and they add up. And what they add up to is our perception of who we are.I propose that we all resolve to take compliments in. Don't shun them. Don't bat them back. Don't lessen them. Don't shake your head.Stand there and take it.And then say "thank you".

How do I respond when someone gives me a compliment? Dushka Zapata, Social introvert: let's hang out. Go away. Written Mar 7, 2016 Have you noticed how people don’t know how to take a com...

How can I improve my public speaking skills?Dushka Zapata, Avid learner.Written May 28, 2016 · Featured in IncI do presentation training for a living.In the years that I have done this I have noticed a theme.People feel they are not presenting well because they are not good presenters.Instead, people are not presenting well because the content of their presentation is disconnected from who they are.The presentation, for example, has been done over and over so their brain is on automatic.If your brain is on automatic you are going through the motions but are not really there.How can you demand from yourself that you be a good presenter for something you are not present for?Another common example to this same point: the slides were copied and pasted from other presentations, so there is a lack of cohesion and order.If I was in front of a large group of people and my slides were barely hanging together I would not feel comfortable either.Another example: the presenter is making claims or promises on behalf of their company and they are not in full agreement or don't feel like they are telling the truth.Or, they are using “marketing-speak” and don't feel like what they are saying makes sense or is accurate.How can you connect with a presentation if you don't believe in the words that are coming out of your mouth?How can you “connect with your audience” if you yourself are unplugged?For me, the best part about presentation training is that it is a metaphor for life.The way you present will change if you, instead of being on automatic, wake up.If you take responsibility for what you say.If you, rather than forcing yourself to be like someone else, step fully into the person you already are.

How can I improve my public speaking skills? Dushka Zapata, Avid learner. Written May 28, 2016 · Featured in Inc I do presentation training...

Should I work harder or enjoy life more?I am a 23 year old guy and lately l am stuck with this question in my mind, wondering if I should spend more time foucing on building my skills and studying to become successful. Or Should I spend more time with friends, go to parties and spend money on vaccations, in short I live the momoent.Dushka Zapata, Things don't go as planned. That's the best part.Written 5 Sep 2016I had the same question.Here is what I did to answer it.I asked myself what my superpower was (we all have one, you know.)What was it that I loved doing the most?That thing that I could do all day without getting bored or tired?What gives me the "where does the time go" Feeling?To answer these questions, I took my time.Today, I do that for a living.It never feels like work, so I don't have to choose.

Dushka Zapata, a seasoned Public Relations exec, Top Writer on Quora (~59K followers), and author of two books, shares her thoughts on how introverts should leverage their strengths to build their network, as opposed to try and do things such as attending networking events, that might make a lot of introverts uncomfortable. Thank you for listening! You can check out Dushka's books here: How to be ferociously happy: https://www.amazon.com/How-ferociously-happy-other-essays/dp/1533052441 Amateur: https://www.amazon.com/Amateur-inexpert-inexperienced-unauthoritative-Ferociously/dp/1539880575 Follow the show on Twitter @LED_Curator Website www.learneducatediscover.com/ Subscribe on iTunes geo.itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/jus…180382202?mt=2 Like us on FaceBook at www.facebook.com/learneducatediscover/ Email us at hello@learneducatediscover. We will reply!!

Welcome to the Yogi Misfit Sessions. Today my guest Dushka Zapata and I talk about getting out of your own way and negative self-talk.In her own words: "After more than 20 years in the communications industry, I noticed a theme. It is very difficult to articulate who you are and what you do. This holds true for both companies and for individuals. For companies, this is an impediment to the development of an identity, a reputation, a brand. It makes it hard for your customers to see how you are different from your competitors. For individuals, in a new world order of personal brands, it makes it hard to develop one that feels real. This is what I do. I help companies and people put into simple terms who they are, what they do, and where to go next. My work comes to life through message development, presentation training, media training and personal brand development. It comes to life through executive coaching, workshops and public speaking. It comes to life through what I write. I published a book in May called How to be Ferociously Happy. My next book will be available on November 4th".Listen in and enjoy.Learn more about Dushka:Books: How to be Ferociously HappyAmateur: An inexpert, inexperienced, unauthoritative, enamored view of lifeQuora: Dushka ZapataLinkedIn: Dushka ZapataDon't forget to subscribe via: iTunes | Google Play | RSS.WRITE A REVIEW If you like the podcast, please leave a review or rating on iTunes! Want to listen to a specific topic? Let me know by sending ideas on social media!See you on the mat. Much love and good vibes. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What are the things that peoplemost often don't notice about themselves?Dushka Zapata, Theinsides of my brain are noisy and architectural.We all - every one of us -exhibit patterns of behavior that are obvious to everyone but that we ourselvescannot see.We will deny that they exist.These are our "blindspots". Carl Jung calls them our "shadow".Have you ever noticed how you areoften involved in situations that are similar across different aspects of yourlife?Why does everyone leave me?Or how you have the exact samefight with different people in different relationships?Have you ever said - or heard afriend say - things like "why does every person I date end upcheating on me?" or "why does everyone betrayme?" or "why doesn't anyone understand me?" or "whydo I always end up in long distance relationships?"These are all the consequence ofour blind spots."Untilyou make the unconscious conscious" saidJung "it will direct your life, and you will call it fate".