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Romantic relationships are sacred, powerful, and life-giving. But I don't have to tell you how difficult it is to love and let yourself be loved.Marriage and family therapist Dr. Terry Hargrave has been helping couples in crisis restore broken relationships for decades, teaching them how to get unstuck, improve communication, and move beyond destructive coping mechanisms—to find reciprocity, self-affirming confidence, emotional regulation, and a joyful, lasting love.In a world marked by loneliness, disconnection, and emotional dysregulation, Hargrave offers powerful insights on the human need for identity, safety, and belonging—and how we can heal the wounds that keep us stuck. Drawing on decades of therapeutic experience and deep personal reflection, Hargrave explains how coping mechanisms like blame, shame, control, and escape can damage relationships—and how the peace cycle of nurture, self-valuing, balanced give-and-take, and connection can restore wholeness. He discusses his unique approach to the healing and restorative power of relationships, which lifts us up to our potential, encouraging us toward a nurturing, self-valuing, non-controlling reciprocity, and true connection.In this conversation with Terry Hargrave, we discuss:How to turn around a relationship in crisis and get off the emotional rollercoasterHow to build security and trust in order to improve or repair a marriage or long-term relationshipCoping mechanisms of blame, shame, control, and escapePractical steps to learn emotional self-regulationWhat to do when only one partner is working on a relationshipThe role of the brain and neuroplasticity in relational repairAnd the spiritual underpinnings of Terry's approach to restoration therapyEpisode Highlights"It don't mean a thing if you ain't got that swing—until you claim your belovedness for yourself, nothing will change.""Relationships are a mirror—we discover who we are through how others see us.""Blame, shame, control, and escape—nothing good comes from these coping mechanisms.""Understanding doesn't produce change. Doing produces change.""When we nurture, self-value, connect, and cooperate, unleashed joy happens.""Thriving is doing more of your best self, not learning something new."Helpful Links and ResourcesRestoration Therapy Training ResourcesThe Mindful Marriage by Ron Deal and Nan Deal (with Terry and Sharon Hargrave)Five Days to a New Self by Terry HargraveEmotionally Focused Therapy and Sue Johnson's LegacyShow NotesIntroduction to Terry Hargrave and the importance of Restoration Therapy today"We are still the same humans, but with a bigger pipe of problems and fewer emotional connections."Emotional dysregulation linked to identity and safety threatsRelationships as a mirror to the self and necessary for human thriving"For there to be a me, there has to be a thou."Why relationships are difficult: imperfection, wounding, and unmet needsHow family of origin wounds influence coping styles"Families don't mean to screw each other up, but somehow they manage to."Introduction of the four major unhealthy coping mechanisms: blame, shame, control, and escapeHow overachievement, perfectionism, and withdrawal are survival strategies from early wounding"Your greatest strength might actually be an old coping habit getting in the way of intimacy."The relational signs that coping mechanisms are damaging relationshipsHealing through self-regulation: speaking truth to yourself with love"Put your hand on your heart and remind yourself of who you really are."The difference between co-regulation and self-regulation in emotional healingRestoration Therapy's peace cycle: nurture, self-value, balance, connection"Nothing good comes from blame, shame, control, or escape."The role of practice and neuroplasticity in forming new relational habits"Doing, not just understanding, is what rewires the brain."How thriving relationships move from neediness to adventurous partnershipIntimacy as knowing yourself more fully through connection, not just need satisfactionCooperative growth and mutual flourishing as hallmarks of thrivingApplication of restoration principles to broader societal healing and reconciliation"Unleashed joy happens when we choose nurture and connection, even with adversaries."The critical role of faith in affirming belovedness and ultimate identity"Everyone else and even God can tell you you're beloved—but you have to claim it for yourself."Practical advice for knowing when to seek therapyWhere to find Restoration Therapy-trained therapistsResources for learning more: Mindful Marriage and other Restoration Therapy booksThe key takeaways that I will carry with me from this conversation are the following:You can change. Your relationship can change. But it takes a daily practice of hard work to create lasting change.And though you might fail, there is hope that you can begin again.Our coping mechanisms are not superpowers. They hurt us and the people we love.Understanding is not enough. Action and behavior has to follow for change to occur.[Any others?] It takes two to tango, but that doesn't get you off the hook from doing the work on yourself.And finally, a thriving relationship creates joy all around it, within a family, in a community, and it shows how personal relationships can change society.About Terry HargraveDr. Terry Hargrave. Until he retired recently, he was the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Seminary, and a nationally recognized therapist known for his pioneering work with intergenerational families.He's most well known as the founder of Restoration Therapy, which combines advantages of Attachment Theory, Emotional Regulation, and Mindfulness—all in an efficient and organized format that allows both the therapist and client to understand old habits and destructive patterns of behavior and promote change in both individual mental and spiritual health, in order to transform our most intimate relationships.Terry has authored or co-authored over 35 professional articles and fifteen books including Restoration Therapy: Understanding and Guiding Healing in Marriage and Family Therapy and Families and Forgiveness: Healing Wounds in the Intergenerational Family.In his latest book project, he worked with his wife Sharon, also a licensed marriage and family therapist. It's called The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself, and it's a practical manual co-written with Ron and Nan Deal about how they healed their relationship after almost losing it.He's presented internationally on relationship dynamics, family and marriage restoration, the complexities of intergenerational families, healing and reconciliation, and the process of aging.His work has been featured on ABC News, 20/20, Good Morning America, and CBS This Morning as well as several national magazines and newspapers.You can learn more about Terry Hargrave and his work—and find books, practical resources, and professional training materials at: restorationtherapytraining.com. About the Thrive CenterLearn more at thethrivecenter.org.Follow us on Instagram @thrivecenterFollow us on X @thrivecenterFollow us on LinkedIn @thethrivecenter About Dr. Pam KingDr. Pam King is Executive Director the Thrive Center and is Peter L. Benson Professor of Applied Developmental Science at Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy. Follow her @drpamking. About With & ForHost: Pam KingSenior Director and Producer: Jill WestbrookOperations Manager: Lauren KimSocial Media Graphic Designer: Wren JuergensenConsulting Producer: Evan RosaSpecial thanks to the team at Fuller Studio and the Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy.

This week on Be Afraid, we walk through the various sub-genres of horror and consider the ways in which different kinds of horror films not only reflect our wide-ranging fears, but also provide us with models for responding to the undeniable horrors of real life. More from Kutter Callaway on theology and culture: https://www.kuttercallaway.com/ More from Uncommon Voices Collective: https://www.uncommonvoices.faith/ More from Qoholeth: https://qohelethnoise.bandcamp.com Joining us this week: Wes Craven is a well known American filmmaker who is considered by many to be the master of horror. Although Craven passed away in 2015, his influence lives on through interviews like the one we conducted at the Reel Spirituality Conference in 2001. Scott Derrickson is a filmmaker whose projects include, among others, The Exorcism of Emily Rose, Dr. Strange, and The Black Phone. Dr. Coltan Scrivner is a behavioral scientist and is the author of a forthcoming book exploring our Morbid sense of Curiosity. Dr. Brad Strawn, Chief of Spiritual Formation and Integration at Fuller Theological Seminary, Dean of the Chapel, Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology and Theology, and Chair of Integration, Clinical Psychology Department. Resources Referenced: “A Witch's Invitation” by Carmen A Very Nervous Person's Guide to Horror” by Mathias Clasen A Recent study conducted at the beginning of the COVID pandemic indicating that horror fans were more psychologically resilient toward the radical disruptions of lockdowns and isolation. “Be Afraid” is a production of Christianity Today, Fuller Seminary, and Uncommon Voices Collective Executive Producer: Erik Petrik Producer, Writer, and Editor: Kutter Callaway Producer, Editor, Graphic Design: Stephen Scheidler Producer: TJ Hester Music: Jeremy Hunt and Qoholeth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Brad Strawn reflects on a psalm of lament and on how disorientation—in community and with God—is a crucial part of our journeys of faith and of our time in seminary in particular. Recorded at Fuller's All-Seminary Chapel on October 4, 2023. Brad Strawn is Fuller's chief of spiritual formation and integration, dean of the chapel, and Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology and Theology.

This week on Be Afraid, we take a hard look at the origin of our fears and consider whether films in the horror genre might actually help us face those fears rather than be held captive by them. Everybody's story is unique, but the one thing we all hold in common is that all of our fears–whatever they may be–start somewhere. They have an origin… which means that our ability to understand how horror films not only tap into our deepest fears but also give us an opportunity to wrestle with what terrorizes us depends upon our willingness to identify and explore the moments in our lives when we first learned to fear.  Joining us this week: Scott Derrickson is a filmmaker whose projects include, among others, The Exorcism of Emily Rose, Dr. Strange, and The Black Phone.  Pete Docter is a filmmaker, animator, and voice actor. He is the chief creative officer of Pixar Animation Studios. Josh Larsen, host of Filmspotting and author of Fear Not!  Elijah Davdison, co-director of Brehm Film and author of Come & See: A Christian Guide to the Greatest Films of All Time  Dr. Craig Detweiler, filmmaker, Dean, College of Arts and Media, Grand Canyon University. Author of several books, including Deep Focus: Film and Theology in Dialogue. Dr. Tim Basselin, Director of Student life and Associate Professor of Ministry, Theology, and Culture at Western Seminary this past year. Author of Flannery O'Connor: Writing a Theology of Disabled Humanity.  Dr. Russell Moore, Christianity Today's editor in chief and the director of the Public Theology Project. Dr. Brad Strawn, Chief of Spiritual Formation and Integration at Fuller Theological Seminary, Dean of the Chapel, Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology and Theology, and Chair of Integration, Clinical Psychology Department. Resources Referenced: The Universe is Not a Horror Show by Dr. Russell Moore “Be Afraid” is a production of Christianity Today, Fuller Seminary, and Uncommon Voices Collective Executive Producer: Erik Petrik Producer, Writer, and Editor: Kutter Callaway Producer and Editor: Stephen Scheidler Associate Producer: TJ Hester Music: Jeremy Hunt and Qoheleth Graphic Design: Stephen Scheidler More from Kutter Callaway on theology and culture: https://www.kuttercallaway.com/ More from Uncommon Voices Collective: https://www.uncommonvoices.faith/ More from Qoholeth: https://qohelethnoise.bandcamp.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Brad Strawn challenges us to reframe a common reading of Jesus' parables on the lost: to think of ourselves not as the lost but those who have a responsibility to find the lost. Brad Strawn is chief of spiritual formation and integration, dean of the chapel, and Evenlyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology and Theology. This was recorded at Fuller's All-Seminary Chapel on January 4, 2023.

Brad D. Strawn preaches on the story of the daughters of Zelophehad, a story of bold women speaking against injustice and inequity and of a God who enables and empowers. Brad D. Strawn is Fuller's chief of spiritual formation and integration, dean of the chapel, and Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology and Theology. Recorded at Fuller's All-Seminary Chapel on January 26, 2022.

In a conversation moderated by Amos Yong, Warren Brown and Brad Strawn discuss the dynamics of extended cognition in embodied religious experiences, practices, and communities. Warren S. Brown is director of Fuller's Lee Edward Travis Research Institute and professor of Psychology; Brad Strawn is Fuller's chief of spiritual formation and integration and Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology and Theology; and Amos Yong is Fuller's dean of the School of Mission and Theology.

Brad is the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology and Theology, and the Chair of Integration, in the Clinical Psychology Department at Fuller Theological Seminary. He has written extensively on the integration and intersection of theology and psychology, in our conversation we focus primarily on two books he co-authored with Dr. Warren Brown entitled: The Physical Nature of the Christian Life: Neuroscience, Psychology, and the Church, and the recently published follow-up book entitled Enhancing Christian Life: How Extended Cognition Augments Religious Community.

In this Ash Wednesday message, Brad Strawn reminds us of our ultimate identity in Christ, despite the many ways society might mark us. He is the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology and Theology and the chair of integration in Fuller’s clinical psychology department. This was recorded at Fuller’s virtual All-Seminary Chapel on February 17, 2021.

Dr. Brad Strawn is the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor for the Integration of Psychology and Theology at the Fuller Graduate School of Psychology, Fuller Seminary. He holds degrees in theology and psychology and has advanced training in psychoanalytic psychotherapy. Along with maintaining a private practice as a licensed psychologist, he also serves on the pastoral staff at Pasadena First Church of the Nazarene. Join us as we ask questions about how we push the boundaries of our understanding and what role our cognitive capacities play in our spiritual growth. We explore themes of turning theory into practice, Christian community, and embodied spirituality.

In the wake of Election Day, Brad Strawn, Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology and Theology, discusses navigating our anxiety and fear while moving toward emotional regulation and empathy. For more resources for a deeply formed spiritual life, visit Fuller.edu/Studio

Brad Strawn, Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology and Theology, talks about mental health, psychological stress, self-differentiation, and emotional regulation in the context of a divisive political climate. For more resources for a deeply formed spiritual life, visit Fuller.edu/Studio.

In their lectures delivered at the 2015 Fuller Forum, Walter Brueggemann, renowned author and Old Testament scholar, presented the idea of two kinds of justices—predatory justice from above and transformative justice from below—and contended that the Bible depicts a contestation between both; and Brad Strawn, Everlyn and Frank Freed Professor of the Integration of Psychology, spoke to how the acts of confession and truth-telling bring healing not only to individuals but to the world. The 2015 Fuller Forum explored the themes of justice, grace, and law and how each shapes our understanding of the church’s relationship with God and the church’s ministry in the world. Joined by Fuller scholars and other guests, renowned Old Testament scholar Walter Brueggemann, featured as the conference’s keynote speaker. Author of over a hundred books, he is the William Marcellus McPheeters Professor Emeritus of Old Testament at Columbia Theological Seminary.

In this episode I spend some time in conversation with Terry and Sharon Hargrave. Terry is the founder of Restoration Therapy and is the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Theological Seminary and Sharon is the Executive Director of the Boone Center for the Family at Pepperdine University, as well as the founder and director of Relate Strong.   I have known this couple for about 8 years, and not only do I consider them close friends, but I am a huge fan of them. Restoration Therapy has changed my life and practice, and my wife and I have also trained together in Relate Strong.   I can not say enough nice things about Terry and Sharon, and the impact they are making upon the world. In this episode we explore some of the early roots of Restoration Therapy and Relate Strong, and why we are bringing this work to ministry leaders in our workshops that we do several times a year.   Mentioned in the Episode Download your free copy of Vital Tools for Relevant Church Leaders Restoration Therapy by Terry Hargrave and Franz Pfitzer Relate Strong

Brad D. Strawn (M.A. Theology, PhD Clinical Psychology) is the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor for the Integration of Psychology and Theology at Fuller Theological Seminary, Graduate School of Psychology. He has edited or co-authored three books including The Physical Nature of Christian Life: Neuroscience, Psychology & the Church (Cambridge: with Warren Brown) and Christianity and Psychoanalysis: A New Conversation (IVP: with Earl Bland). He also regularly publishes in integrative journals focusing on the dialogue between Christianity and Psychology. Brad’s research interests include embodied cognition, clinical psychology, psychoanalysis, the integration of psychology and theology, and psychology and ecclesiology. Brad is an ordained Elder in the Church of the Nazarene and a licensed psychologist who maintains a private practice in Pasadena, California where he works with individuals, couples and families.Twitter: @Bdstrawn