Podcasts about Sue Johnson

Parenting doesn't need to swing between being overly strict and overly permissive. When you understand what's driving your child's behaviour, everything becomes clearer, calmer, and more manageable. I am talking to psychotherapist and parenting coach Todd Sarner about transformative parenting and how to raise resilient, emotionally secure children. We cover attachment, boundaries, emotional regulation, and how small shifts in your approach can reduce daily struggles and create more connection at home. Todd and I talk about: • Why behaviour is often a symptom of unmet emotional needs, not defiance• How to move away from reactive parenting and become more proactive• What “attachment-first parenting” actually looks like in everyday life• How to set firm, calm boundaries without yelling or being harsh• What to do when your child is pushing limits, melting down, or acting out• Why emotional outbursts are a sign your child needs support, not control• How to support your child through big emotions without escalating the situation• Practical strategies to help your child build resilience and emotional regulation• Simple self-care tools to help you stay calm and respond instead of react Todd Sarner is a licensed psychotherapist, a parenting coach and the director of Transformative Parenting. Mentored by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and trained by leading relationship experts Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Stan Tatkin, Todd helps parents strengthen connection, improve emotional regulation, and address behaviour challenges using practical, attachment-based strategies. His signature Transformative Parenting Process Intensive (TPPI) has become a lifeline for thoughtful parents who've “tried everything” but still find themselves stuck in daily battles. Todd is the author of The Calm & Connected Parent: An Attachment-First Guide to Raising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AI. Episode Links Follow Todd on Instagram Learn more about Todd's work and book at Transformative Parenting Come say hi to me on Instagram Books to Thrive in Motherhood: Dive into The Motherhood Reset, Nourished Mama, and Mama Let It Go to overcome burnout and become a healthy, energized mom. Picky Eating Guide: Learn about common but lesser-known reasons kids are picky eaters and practical strategies to help children enjoy healthy foods. Resources I Am Loving The Brain Health Movement – Whole Child Healing Roadmap is a science-backed courses that decode the root causes of your child's struggles. Get £200 off with code WILDANDWELL MamaZen App – Become a happier and calmer mom through cognitive hypnotherapy, CBT, and mindfulness. Use code 9c Fertility & Beyond – Natural solutions for your fertility struggles I would never recommend anything I don't regularly use myself or trust completely. Some of the links are affiliate links, and others are special discount codes. Either way, all of these are products and resources I genuinely love and recommend. Wild and Well with Dr Hilary Claire is a podcast dedicated to holistic health for moms, postpartum recovery, and children's wellness. We explore everything from functional health for women and gut health to pregnancy and postpartum wellness to nervous system regulation and motherhood burnout. Each episode offers practical tips for self-care for new moms, guidance on picky eating and parenting, and strategies to support your family's natural kids' health, so you can feel healthy, strong, and vital in motherhood.

Fighting about dishes is rarely about dishes. This book summary reveals the surprising real reason for relationship conflict.

In this powerful EFT training discussion, We Heart Therapy host (Anabelle Bugatti) Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT/EFT Supervisor/Therapist sits down with Emotionally Focused Therapy trainer Dr. Ting Liu and explores how therapists can effectively work with ambivalence in couples therapy and attachment-based healing. Ambivalence is one of the most common challenges therapists encounter in EFT sessions, especially when partners feel stuck between connection and protection, longing and fear, or closeness and withdrawal, staying or leaving. In this conversation, Dr. Ting Liu shares clinical insight into: • Working with emotional ambivalence in EFT • Helping couples navigate uncertainty and emotional disconnection • EFT interventions for pursuer-withdrawer dynamics • Clinical applications of Emotionally Focused Therapy with Ambivalence Whether you are an EFT therapist, LMFT, psychologist, counseling student, or simply interested in attachment science and relationship healing, this video offers valuable insights into the EFT process and how to work with complex relational dynamics.  

In today's episode of The Worth Loving Podcast, Keana explores one of the most confusing and emotionally loaded questions people face after heartbreak or betrayal: How do you know if you're truly ready to date again?Using insights from leading psychologists like Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Judith Herman, Dr. Gary Lewandowski, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, and Dr. Peter Levine, Keana breaks down what emotional readiness really looks like — and what it doesn't.This episode helps listeners understand the difference between wanting connection and wanting distraction, how the body signals readiness, and why healing must come before new relationships. Keana also shares practical questions to help listeners evaluate their emotional capacity and readiness with honesty and compassion.This Episode Covers:✨ Recap of Last Week's EpisodeA brief review of last week's conversation on How to Heal From an Affair, including the emotional stages of healing, rebuilding trust within yourself, and reclaiming your identity after betrayal.✨ What “Readiness” Actually MeansKeana explains emotional readiness through the lens of relationship psychology and trauma research — including emotional regulation, secure attachment behaviors, and reclaiming personal agency.✨ Signs You Are Ready to Date AgainLearn the key indicators of readiness, such as emotional stability, clarity about your needs, groundedness, and the ability to communicate boundaries.✨ Signs You're Not Ready YetKeana outlines the red flags that signal you need more healing time — including emotional entanglement with an ex, avoidance behaviors, numbness, survival mode, and lack of clarity.✨ How Long Should You Wait? (Research‑Backed)A breakdown of what relationship science says about timelines for healing after breakups, betrayal, and emotional trauma.✨ How Your Body Tells You the TruthSomatic cues from Dr. Peter Levine's work that reveal whether your nervous system feels safe enough for dating — or not.✨ The Healing Work That Must Come FirstEmotional clarity, nervous system regulation, identity rebuilding, boundary strengthening, and relearning trust.✨ Practical Self‑Reflection QuestionsA set of grounding questions to help listeners assess their emotional readiness with honesty and compassion.Key TakeawaysReadiness is not about time — it's about emotional capacity.Your body often knows the truth before your mind does.Healing is not linear, and there's no shame in needing more time.You deserve to date from a place of clarity, not loneliness.Trusting yourself is the foundation of choosing healthy relationships.

In today's episode of The Worth Loving Podcast, we explore what it truly means to date with confidence after experiencing emotional abuse. Healing from emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or chronic invalidation changes the way you see yourself, your relationships, and your ability to trust. Dating again can feel overwhelming, but it can also be a powerful opportunity to reconnect with your intuition, your boundaries, and your worth.Drawing from the work of leading trauma and attachment researchers like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Judith Herman, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. Kristin Neff, this episode breaks down why dating feels different after emotional abuse and how to rebuild the internal safety you need to choose healthy love.We'll talk about rebuilding self‑trust, recognizing red and green flags, moving at your own pace, and honoring your emotional needs without guilt. You'll also receive reflective questions to help you deepen your healing and approach dating with clarity and confidence.And don't forget be on the lookout for a special mini‑drop from our podcast artist Emory Rose, coming soon to all streaming platforms.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why dating after emotional abuse feels overwhelming — and why that's normalHow trauma impacts your nervous system, intuition, and sense of safetyWhat rebuilding self‑trust looks like in practical, everyday waysHow to date at a pace that honors your healingThe difference between healthy attention and love bombingRed flags to watch for in early datingGreen flags that signal emotional safety and maturityHow to listen to your body and intuition while datingReflective questions to help you date with confidenceReflective Questions from Today's Episode:What does emotional safety feel like in my body?What are my non‑negotiables in dating?What red flags have I ignored in the past, and why?What green flags do I want to pay more attention to?How can I honor my pace in dating?What boundaries do I want to set early?How can I practice self‑trust this week?Coaching Program MentionedIf you're ready to go deeper in your healing journey, my 12‑week trauma‑informed coaching program You Are Worth Loving™ is designed to help you rebuild self‑trust, break unhealthy patterns, and choose relationships that feel safe and aligned. Enrollment opens soon — stay tuned.Submit Your Questions for Thursday's Q&A EpisodeEvery Thursday, we release a Q&A episode shaped entirely by your questions. If you'd like your question featured, email me at:

Worüber streiten Paare eigentlich? Oft geht es vordergründig um Alltagsdinge: Wer hat vergessen, die Spülmaschine auszuräumen? Wer gibt zu viel Geld aus? Doch darunter liegt meistens etwas anderes – die Frage nach Bindung. Nach Tiedemann und Heduschak gibt es vier Ebenen im Streit: Sachebene, Beziehungsebene, Selbstwertebene und Bindungsebene. Das Problem: Wir streiten auf unterschiedlichen Ebenen. Virginia Woolf, eine der klugsten Schriftstellerinnen ihrer Zeit, schaffte es im Streit nicht, ihre Angst vor dem Verlassenwerden auszudrücken – sie brauchte einen Brief dafür. Sue Johnson zeigt in der emotionsfokussierten Paartherapie: Streit ist oft ein unerfülltes Bindungsbedürfnis. Wut oder Rückzug wie bei Virginia Woolf ist die sekundäre Emotion, darunter liegen Angst und Einsamkeit. Wer das versteht, kann Konflikte als Chance begreifen.

FOREPLAY welcomes Emotionally Focused Therapy, founder Dr. Sue Johnson to talk with us about George's driving and the sexual cycle. We laughed together about their early relationship and more seriously about George asking for help after 9/11 with the couples he was seeing and Sue's generous response.  Sue gives us a keen example of a uber sexual pursuer and how his needs for attachment drive him even thought his behavior pushes his partner away. Listen up to our discussing with someone who has changed the world with her theory and life's work! For an EFT Therapist or to purchase her bestselling books LoveSense or Hold Me Tight - contact Sue's organization: ICEEFT.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode SummaryIn this deeply honest and compassionate episode, we explore one of the most misunderstood relationship experiences: why people stay with a partner who cheats. Instead of judgment or oversimplified advice, this conversation offers a grounded, trauma‑informed look at the emotional, psychological, and practical reasons that make this decision so complex.We also revisit last week's episode on Why Closure Isn't Always Necessary, and how the search for closure often influences the choices people make after betrayal. Throughout the episode, we draw on insights from leading psychologists to help listeners understand the deeper layers behind staying, leaving, and healing.Whether you've experienced infidelity yourself, supported someone through it, or simply want to understand the emotional dynamics behind it, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and validation.

Send us Fan Mail- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreTools for repairing The Sex Addiction impacted couples relationshipCouples get into a conflict dance of words and emotions, mostly because of their Attachment Fears - fears of being Abandoned. The conflict of words is rarely about the actual subject matter in dispute.  There is an under current of despair. It is rarely about the top left off the tooth paste or leaving the toilet seat up. Have a read of the Book “Hold me Tight” by Dr Sue Johnson.What goes wrong when love goes wrong. The clue is often in the childhood development years. Insecure Attachment is often at the root of the issues. Depleted Core Emotional Needs is a common feature. What are those 'Loves' which go wrong? Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service & Physical Touch.What is 'the childhood Development years: From birth to just after puberty. Templates get set up, which we practice and then take with us into adulthood, to form our pattern of responses; but they may have worked in childhood, in family, up were not exportable into the new couples relationship.What are those Insecure Attachments? Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment & Dismissive/Fearful Attachment. The ideal outcome from childhood Development should have been 'Secure Attachment'.What are those Core Emotional Needs? The top 10 of them are Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security & Support.Everyone of these issues have been looked at by me in past episodes. Go search them out.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Help someone: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreHelp is here for you: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpGary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior, psychology, codependency, sex life, neuroscience, sex ed, sober, sobriety, sexual dysfunction, relationship issues, sex coach, sexual, trauma, ptsd, sex science, The sex porn love Addiction Podcast, The Singles Partners Marrieds and Long Time Marrieds Podcast, Gary McFarlane, porn addiction, what neuroscience says, neuroscience, young adults, sex, sex addict, porn, recovery, porn addiction issue, porn addiction in teens, sex addiction in teens, sex hormonesSupport the show

Most couples have their story memorised. When they met, what went wrong, why things aren't what they used to be. They've told it so many times it feels like a fact.And that's the problem.Dr. Dan Sneider is a couples therapist and the founder of IntimacyShift.com. He works with two distinct groups of older people: couples who've been together for decades, and people starting over in their 50s and 60s but carrying years of history with them. Both tend to arrive stuck in the same way, often telling a story about their relationship that stopped being accurate a long time ago.One of Dan's favourite tools comes from researchers John and Julie Gottman. He calls it the Story of Us. He asks couples to tell the story of their relationship and he says, that most have it memorised. That, he says, is where the work begins because if part of that story is “the passion faded,” that belief is now embedded, and better communication alone won't shift it.We also talked about something I personally found frightening in my marriage : disclosing my desires. Not the everyday stuff but the wants you've kept quiet about for years, maybe decades. The ones that feel genuinely risky to say out loud.Dan's approach isn't to say everything at once. He talks about volume knobs. Turning down the fear a little, not eliminating it and scheduling regular time to talk about intimacy the same way you'd schedule the gym. Building safety in small stages rather than waiting for a perfect moment that never comes.We got into conflict too. Specifically, why couples who live for big dramatic ups and downs are actually hardwiring themselves for pain. You know, the stuff of which movie romances are made. The repair is harder and the dopamine hit of drama becomes part of what they expect from love. Dan's antidote sounds deceptively simple: I-language. “I feel unseen” instead of “you never.” It changes everything about how the repair goes.Dan uses emotionally focused therapy, a model developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. He recommended her book Hold Me Tight to anyone who wants to understand it. The model runs 12 to 20 sessions, and Dan is refreshingly transparent about this: if you're not seeing progress within that window, more sessions won't fix it.He also runs a 12-week online programme through IntimacyShift.com for couples who can't access therapy locally or want to do the work on their own schedule. Yes, it's expensive and that's the point. Couples who invest are the ones who show up and do the work.There's a free tool on his website as well: a six-step framework for unlocking intimate conversations. A good place to start if everything else feels like too much right now.What Matters* The story you tell about your relationship shapes how you feel about it. It can be rewritten.* Disclosing desires doesn't require going all in at once. Build safety in stages.* Schedule intimacy conversations like any other practice that matters to you.* Fight with I-language, not you-language. The repair is easier, and so is the making up.* Rebuilding after infidelity or betrayal is possible. Dan has seen it happen.* Emotionally focused therapy runs 12 to 20 sessions. That's the research-backed window for lasting change.Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber.You'll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life.If you're ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year.More than ever, I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you are able at https://sexadviceforseniors.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In today's episode of The Worth Loving Podcast, we explore what it truly means to date with confidence after experiencing emotional abuse. Healing from emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or chronic invalidation changes the way you see yourself, your relationships, and your ability to trust. Dating again can feel overwhelming, but it can also be a powerful opportunity to reconnect with your intuition, your boundaries, and your worth.Drawing from the work of leading trauma and attachment researchers like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Judith Herman, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. Kristin Neff, this episode breaks down why dating feels different after emotional abuse and how to rebuild the internal safety you need to choose healthy love.We'll talk about rebuilding self‑trust, recognizing red and green flags, moving at your own pace, and honoring your emotional needs without guilt. You'll also receive reflective questions to help you deepen your healing and approach dating with clarity and confidence.And don't forget be on the lookout for a special mini‑drop from our podcast artist Emory Rose, coming soon to all streaming platforms.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why dating after emotional abuse feels overwhelming — and why that's normalHow trauma impacts your nervous system, intuition, and sense of safetyWhat rebuilding self‑trust looks like in practical, everyday waysHow to date at a pace that honors your healingThe difference between healthy attention and love bombingRed flags to watch for in early datingGreen flags that signal emotional safety and maturityHow to listen to your body and intuition while datingReflective questions to help you date with confidenceReflective Questions from Today's Episode:What does emotional safety feel like in my body?What are my non‑negotiables in dating?What red flags have I ignored in the past, and why?What green flags do I want to pay more attention to?How can I honor my pace in dating?What boundaries do I want to set early?How can I practice self‑trust this week?Coaching Program MentionedIf you're ready to go deeper in your healing journey, my 12‑week trauma‑informed coaching program You Are Worth Loving™ is designed to help you rebuild self‑trust, break unhealthy patterns, and choose relationships that feel safe and aligned. Enrollment opens soon — stay tuned.Submit Your Questions for Thursday's Q&A EpisodeEvery Thursday, we release a Q&A episode shaped entirely by your questions. If you'd like your question featured, email me at:

Send a textIn this episode, Shane shares how emotional intimacy grows through the attachment lens of accessibility, reliability, and emotional engagement, inspired by Sue Johnson's ARE model. He explores the powerful idea that intimacy means “In-To-Me-I-See,” inviting couples, friends, and family members to move beyond surface conversations and courageously share their inner emotional world. Listeners will learn practical ways to deepen connection through slowing down conversations, speaking from personal experience, regulating emotions before engaging, and practicing small moments of turning toward one another. Shane also offers thoughtful guidance on when vulnerability builds closeness — and when emotional safety may be lacking — helping listeners pursue deeper relationships with wisdom, courage, and compassion.

Warum sagen wir im Streit Dinge, die wir gar nicht meinen? Warum fühlen wir uns gerade in engen Beziehungen so oft verletzt – und was steckt wirklich hinter Rückzug, Wut oder Vorwürfen? In dieser Folge sprechen wir mit Christine Weiß, Emotionsfokussierte Paarberaterin, über Bindungsbotschaften in Konflikten. Du erfährst, wie du hinter die Schutzreaktionen deines Partners schauen kannst – und wie echte Verbindung im Streit möglich wird. Christine Weiß Christine Weiß ist zertifizierte EFT-Trainerin, -Supervisorin und -Therapeutin (ICEEFT) für die bindungsbasierte Emotionsfokussierte Therapie (EFT) nach Dr. Sue Johnson. Gemeinsam mit ihrem Mann leitet sie das EFT-Ausbildungszentrum Hannover und bildet im internationalen EFT-Zertifizierungsweg aus. Als Gründungsmitglied und langjährige Vorsitzende (bis 2025) der EFT Community Deutschland e.V. engagiert sie sich für ein kollegiales, inklusives Netzwerk und die Verbreitung der EFT im deutschsprachigen Raum. Seit 2007 arbeitet sie als Heilpraktikerin für Psychotherapie mit Einzelpersonen, Paaren, Gruppen und Teams. Erfahrungsorientierte Ansätze wie Somatic Experiencing® (SE) und EmotionAid® ergänzen ihre EFT-Arbeit auf tiefgehende Weise. Ein besonderer Schwerpunkt ihrer Arbeit liegt in der trauma- und polyvagal-informierten Begleitung von Paaren und Einzelklient*innen sowie in der Selbsterfahrungs- und Supervisionsarbeit mit Kolleg*innen. Für Christine ist Bindungsarbeit Friedensarbeit. Mit Herzenswärme, professioneller Klarheit und ihrer Feinfühligkeit für Bindungskontexte und emotionale Prozesse schafft sie Räume, in denen emotionale Tiefe, echte Begegnung und Verbundenheit mit sich selbst und anderen möglich werden. Privat liebt sie das Landleben und lange Hundespaziergänge, sowie das Tangotanzen – am liebsten mit ihrem Mann. Kontakt: https://eft-ausbildungszentrum.de/ info@eft-ausbildungszentrum.de 1. EFT-Basistraining 30. April bis 3. Mai 2026 2. EFT-Paartherapie-Ausbildung Start im September 2026 https://www.eftcd.de/fuer-paare/ **Mehr von inBindung:**

Meet Olivia Lauren, a girl who never thought sports were her thing until she decided to give swimming a try! At first, she was nervous, but something wonderful happened: Olivia discovered a brand-new passion. Dive into this inspiring story about trying new things, building confidence, and finding joy in unexpected places.

 This week on The Worth Loving Podcast, we're diving into a topic that so many people struggle with but rarely talk about honestly: the difference between emotional intimacy and physical intimacy, and which one actually creates deeper, healthier, more secure bonds.In this warm, trauma‑informed episode, Keana breaks down how emotional intimacy develops, why physical intimacy can feel bonding even when the relationship isn't emotionally safe, and how your past experiences shape the way you connect. We explore what real intimacy looks like, why pacing matters, and how to build relationships that feel steady instead of chaotic.This episode is grounded in research from leading psychologists like Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. John Gottman, and attachment theory scholars all woven into a relatable, compassionate conversation that helps you understand your patterns without shame.✨ What You'll Learn in This Episode1. What Emotional Intimacy Really IsHow emotional intimacy develops slowly through trust, safety, and vulnerabilityWhy emotional responsiveness is the strongest predictor of long‑term relationship successHow trauma histories impact your ability to open up2. What Physical Intimacy Actually DoesWhy physical closeness can feel bonding even when the relationship isn't healthyHow oxytocin and nervous system responses create emotional confusionWhy physical intimacy can become a shortcut to closeness3. Which One Builds Stronger BondsWhy emotional intimacy is the foundation of secure relationshipsHow physical intimacy enhances connection only when emotional intimacy is presentWhat research reveals about long‑term relationship stability4. Why We Often Prioritize Physical Intimacy FirstCultural conditioningFear of vulnerabilityTrauma responses and attachment patternsWhy physical intimacy can feel easier than emotional intimacy5. How to Build Emotional Intimacy FirstPractical, trauma‑informed steps for creating emotional safetyHow to pace connection in a way that honors your nervous systemWhat mutual emotional intimacy looks like in real time6. Red Flags & Green FlagsSigns that emotional intimacy is missingSigns that emotional safety is presentHow to recognize when a relationship is grounded vs. unstable

Welcome to We Heart Therapy – The EFT Talk Series, where we explore the heart of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) through meaningful conversations with leaders in the field. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Senem Zeytinoğlu, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer and Founder of the Turkey Center for EFT in Istanbul, for a rich and thoughtful discussion on Self of the Therapist (SOT) issues in EFT Supervision—and why this work is essential for ethical, effective, and emotionally present EFT practice. Self of the Therapist work helps EFT therapists understand how their own attachment histories, emotional triggers, and nervous system responses show up in clinical work and supervision. Dr. Zeytinoğlu shares how attending to SOT deepens therapist resilience, strengthens the therapeutic alliance, and ultimately leads to better outcomes for couples and individuals.

An in-depth dive into the 4000 Footers Club of New Hampshire, what it takes to accomplish and some amazing women that have (pardon the pun) rocked it!!             Guest Links- 48 Peaks on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/48-Peaks-Hiking-Healing-Mountains-ebook/dp/B078G25465/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0 4000 Footers Site - https://4000footers.com/nh.shtml 4000 Footers AMD Site – https://www.outdoors.org/resources/bucket-list-trips/4000-footers/ White Mountain Guide - https://amcstore.outdoors.org/products/white-mountain-guide-amcs-comprehensive-guide-to-hiking-trails-in-the-white-mountain-national-forest-31st-edtion?_gl=1dkfeer_gcl_auNjE1NDU0NjQ2LjE3NjgxNzQ1ODc._gaMTg3NzUwNTU2OS4xNzY4MTc0NTg4_ga_NDC0EQDH7W*czE3NjgxNzQ1ODckbzEkZzAkdDE3NjgxNzQ1ODckajYwJGwwJGgw FKT: Alyssa Godesky - New Hampshire 4000 Footers (NH) - 2022-07-09 - https://fastestknowntime.com/fkt/alyssa-godesky-new-hampshire-4000-footers-nh-2022-07-09?utm_source=chatgpt.com Sue Johnson, First Woman to Complete the Grid in one year - https://www.concordmonitor.com/2017/01/09/sue-johnston-becomes-first-person-to-completed-grid-hikes-in-a-year-7292850/ Madison Brooks hikes the 4000 Footers  - https://www.wmur.com/article/new-hampshire-woman-dog-48-4000-foot-mountains/60990371?utm_source=chatgpt.com Whitney and Lydia Pearson, Mother and Daughter Hike the 48x4 (page 17) -  https://www.greenmountainclub.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Summer-2025-Long-Trail-News_GMC.pdf?utm_source=chatgpt.com Connect with Anna, aka Mud Butt, at info@traildames.com You can find the Trail Dames at: Our website: https://www.traildames.com The Summit: https://www.traildamessummit.com The Trail Dames Foundation: https://www.tdcharitablefoundation.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traildames/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/traildames/ Hiking Radio Network: https://hikingradionetwork.com/ Hiking Radio Network on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hikingradionetwork/ Music provided for this Podcast by The Burns Sisters "Dance Upon This Earth" https://www.theburnssisters.com

We invite you into a thoughtful reflection about what is happening in YOUR sex life. Bring your spirit of curiosity and stay with us in the discovery mode as our “client” played by the brave volunteer - George - answers this first set of questions. Pull back the curtain and hear what Laurie thinks about his answers as a sex therapist. Think about these beginning questions, (not easy questions) like… What would you want your partner to know about you sexually? Laurie reflects on how important vulnerability is when communication with your lover the deeper aspects of these questions. Our patient acknowledges his anxiety and how most of the time he communicates in frustration with his partner instead of coming from his heart's longing. We ask: What is going on in your sex life now? Can you describe the problems? When did things change between you or when did the problems start? What have you tried to resolve these issues. Do you and your partner have desire for each other? What turns you on the most? When do you feel most erotic with your partner? What are your 3 most important expectations in bed? We gratefully acknowledge the work of EFT founder Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT Supervisor Mike Moran in the development of this sexual questionnaire as well as the work of Dr. Zoya Simakhodskaya, Ph.D for pioneering the understanding of the integration of the sexual cycle into the couple emotional cycle in emotionally focused therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. In this episode of “Push the Leading Edge”, James Hawkins and Ryan Rana dive into one of the most anxiety‑provoking parts of EFT: when the caregiving system red-lights right in the middle of beautiful vulnerability. Drawing on attachment theory and years of EFT training experience, they explore “caregiving nightmares”—those predictable moments when a partner can't respond with comfort, even when their loved one is wide open and reaching. They unpack how pursuers and withdrawers each bring their attachment strategies into the caregiving role: withdrawers often “loan out their avoidance” as a form of love, and pursuers “up the ante” as their way of fighting for the bond. Rather than shaming these moves or bypassing them to “get to the heart,” James and Ryan show how to move toward the blocks themselves as emotional material, validating the attachment logic inside them and using structured, attuned interventions to help partners reclaim their caregiving systems. With rich clinical examples, regulation strategies for therapists, and practical language you can use tomorrow, this episode helps you trust the process, trust the caregiving system, and stay with the red lights long enough for new attachment experiences to emerge. Main Points from the Episode Framing: “Caregiving Nightmares” & Red Lights  - Focus on stage 2 / step 6 caregiving positions, and the “back half” of vulnerable enactments.    - The “red light” is the blocked caregiving system: the partner can't offer simple comfort even when they want to. Predictable Attachment Patterns in Caregiving  - Withdrawers as caregivers:    - “Loan out their avoidance” or self-reliance: advice, positivity, “be comfortable in your own skin.”      - This is a form of love and responsiveness, but often misattuned.    - Pursuers as caregivers:      - “Up the ante”: test, push, or kick the tires on vulnerability (“it's just words,” “you only do this in here”).      - Driven by hope and fear of being dropped again. Therapist Regulation & Preparation  - Pre‑regulate before couples sessions; expect blocks as part of the process, not a failure.  - If the therapist dysregulates, you now have three protection systems in the room. Working with Withdrawer Red Lights  - Steps:    1. Regulate yourself.        2. Offer an attuned, assertive interruption (contain the cycle).        3. Give 3–5 concrete validations of the withdrawer's strategy as attachment‑driven care.        4. Reframe the strategy's attachment function (“this is how you love/protect”).        5. Then gently move toward the part that wants to reach.      - Don't bypass the strategy; work with it as emotional material. Working with Pursuer Red Lights  - Normalize that pursuers often lash out or test the first vulnerabilities they've begged for.    - Validate their vision, hope, and fight for the relationship (3–5 validations).      - Help them notice their somatic/empathic response to the partner's pain (1% of reach or comfort).      - Avoid shaming language like “you're going to your head.” Use of Numbers & Repetition  - “Magic” 3–5 validations to regulate a nervous system.    - Sue Johnson's idea: clients often don't really hear you until about the 5th repetition. Tourniquets & Sender Protection  - After a strong send + strong red light, layer tourniquets on the sender so they:    - Feel caught and not blamed.        - Are reinforced to risk again.      - Never make the sender give up their experience just to soothe the blocked caregiver. Trusting the Caregiving System  - Leanne Campbell's idea: trusting the process = trusting the caregiving system.    - People do know how to care; the cycle paralyzes access.      - Our job is to create conditions for that caregiving instinct to re‑emerge experientially. Hope, Respect, and Attachment Change  - Both pursuer protest and withdrawer avoidance are hopeful, survival strategies.    - Change often comes through “begrudging respect”: seeing a partner fight their old pattern for the relationship. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. In this powerful conversation, Dr. James Hawkins sits down with Dr. Leanne Campbell to explore the heart of EFT and trauma and to honor the legacy of Dr. Sue Johnson. Leanne pulls back the curtain on writing the new EFT and Trauma text with Sue—sharing what it was like to co-create Sue's final formal publication, how their moment‑by‑moment clinical commentary came to life, and why clarity in the model matters now more than ever.  Together, James and Leanne dive into the caregiving system, window of tolerance, and how EFT therapists can help clients move through trauma without retraumatizing, using themselves as temporary attachment figures. You'll hear vivid clinical language and examples around: trusting the caregiving system, working with highly reactive couples, tracking your own nervous system as a therapist, and using transparency to give traumatized clients back their agency and hope.  This episode is a blend of theory, practical process, and deep emotion—a tribute to Sue's legacy and an inspiring guide for any therapist working at the leading edge of EFT and trauma.  Main Points / Episode Highlights Leanne's “Leading Edge” in EFT    - Getting radically clear about the model: moment‑by‑moment commentary on what therapists are doing and why.     - Making EFT more accessible and teachable through precision and process clarity. Trusting the Caregiving System    - “Trust the process” = “trust the caregiving system” when emotion and connection are alive in the room.     - Importance of responding in the same channel as the emotional bid (emotion with emotion, not facts or data).  Working on the EFT and Trauma Text with Sue Johnson    - The process was inspiring, clarifying, exhilarating, and at times sidelined by other EFiT projects.     - The book was well underway before Sue's death and now stands as her last formal publication—a “parting gift” of stories of hope and resilience. Using the Therapist as a Temporary Attachment Figure    - Central answer to “How do I help clients move through trauma without retraumatizing them?”     - Therapist “sings the song and dances the dance of attunement,” keeping clients at their leading edge without overshooting the window of tolerance. “It Begins With Us” – The Therapist's Nervous System    - Leanne tracks her own felt sense—especially with reactive couples—and uses it to guide interventions.     - She slows things down, names process elements (tone, eyes, posture) to:       - Validate the receiving partner.       - Grow awareness in the reactive partner whose nervous system is firing outside awareness. Window of Tolerance: Respect and Stretch    - Respecting the window of tolerance while stretching it—within sessions and in the client's broader socio‑cultural context.     - Normalizing that trauma work often happens in cycles (do a piece, step back, integrate). Validation as Psychoeducation    - Validation reframes trauma responses as survival strategies, not character flaws.     - Helps the traumatized partner feel understood and the other partner release blame and grow compassion. Transparency Gives Agency    - Being explicit about what the therapist is doing and why (“the best surgeon explains the procedure”).     - Therapist's transparency and emotional honesty give traumatized clients predictability and agency, reversing their history of non‑transparent harm. Parts / Versions and Rewriting Identity    - Leanne's language of “versions” of self helps distinguish old survival strategies from the current, wiser self.     - Core EFT aim: “You are not your trauma.” Clients move from “This is who I am” to “This is a fear and a history I carry.” Hope and Resilience as the Core Message    - If listeners remember one thing: hope and belief in the power of human connection and healing.     - The book is intentionally a story of hope and resilience for clinicians and clients, continuing Sue's attachment legacy. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

EPISODE 22: DYING LAUGHING'S HOLIDAY SURVIVAL — THANKSGIVING EDITION Dying Laughing with Jessimae In this special Thanksgiving episode, Jessimae Peluso returns to her hometown of Syracuse, NY to share a comedic and heartfelt Holiday Survival Guide. From family dynamics and childhood nostalgia to managing grief during the holidays, this episode blends humor, honesty, and practical emotional tools. Jessimae covers micro-joys, boundary-setting, holiday triggers, and the surprising science behind gratitude, drawing from researchers like Dr. Robert Emmons (UC Davis), Sue Johnson, and Amir Levine. She also offers coping strategies for political conversations, unsolicited questions, and the chaotic energy of Thanksgiving Eve - the biggest bar night of the year. A warm, relatable, and laugh-out-loud guide for anyone navigating the complexity of the holidays.

In this heartfelt episode of the Music and Therapy Podcast, relationship coach Keana W. Mitchell explores the essential role of emotional intimacy in healthy relationships. Building on last week's episode, The Power of Apology and Forgiveness in Love, Keana explains how emotional safety, vulnerability, and trust are the foundation of lasting connection and how the absence of emotional intimacy can lead to loneliness, conflict, and emotional withdrawal.You'll learn what emotional intimacy truly means, why it's not a luxury but a necessity, and how to recognize when it's missing. Keana shares research by Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. John Gottman, highlighting how emotional intimacy erodes when couples stop turning toward each other and ignore bids for connection.This episode also includes five Gottman-inspired healing exercises and two homework assignments designed to help you stop conflict and start connecting whether you're in a relationship or doing the inner work solo.

Send us a textDo you ever wonder why the same arguments keep surfacing in your relationship—or why it's so hard to feel truly heard and understood? In this episode, we explore the Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, a powerful, science-backed experience based on Dr. Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).You'll hear how couples learn to slow down conflict, express deeper needs, and rebuild trust through forgiveness and compassion. Whether you're struggling with communication, distance, or resentment, this conversation offers hope—and tools—to reconnect and rediscover the love that first brought you together.Our next HMT couples workshop will be Feb 27-28 from Friday 2-8; Sat 10-5pmTo learn more contact: Shane Adamson 214-250-7808email: shaneadamsonlcsw@gmail.com. Website: https://cmfcdallas.com/

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3190: Ellen Boeder explores how emotional safety is essential for deep, lasting connection in romantic relationships. She outlines how nervous system regulation, authentic expression, and trust-building practices create the conditions for vulnerability and intimacy to thrive. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-safety-is-necessary-for-emotional-connection/ Quotes to ponder: "Emotional safety is what allows us to let our guard down and be authentic with our partners." "When we feel safe, our nervous system is regulated enough to access the higher brain functions necessary for connection." "Without emotional safety, the parts of ourselves that are scared, ashamed, or hurt stay hidden." Episode references: Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges: https://www.amazon.com/Polyvagal-Theory-Neurophysiological-Emotion-Communication/dp/0393707008 Healing Developmental Trauma by Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre: https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Developmental-Trauma-Resolution-Nervous/dp/1583944893 Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3190: Ellen Boeder explores how emotional safety is essential for deep, lasting connection in romantic relationships. She outlines how nervous system regulation, authentic expression, and trust-building practices create the conditions for vulnerability and intimacy to thrive. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-safety-is-necessary-for-emotional-connection/ Quotes to ponder: "Emotional safety is what allows us to let our guard down and be authentic with our partners." "When we feel safe, our nervous system is regulated enough to access the higher brain functions necessary for connection." "Without emotional safety, the parts of ourselves that are scared, ashamed, or hurt stay hidden." Episode references: Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges: https://www.amazon.com/Polyvagal-Theory-Neurophysiological-Emotion-Communication/dp/0393707008 Healing Developmental Trauma by Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre: https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Developmental-Trauma-Resolution-Nervous/dp/1583944893 Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Married for over 48 years, Michael and Vivienne Aronowitz transformed their own journey into Marriage Aces—a playful, research-based game designed to help couples strengthen emotional safety, gratitude, kindness, and a solid foundation. Each trip around the board and every card drawn from the four decks creates new opportunities for closeness and better communication. In this lively episode, they share their story, the influences that shaped the game (Gottman, Sue Johnson, Coach Tony Dungy), and why humor, lychees, and even peeled grapes belong in the recipe for a happy marriage.Link to Marriage Aces: https://www.drmichaelaronowitz.com/marriage-acesCredits:River is High, Ticketless TravelerCarl Reisman, guitar, singer, and songwriterJenny Goodwine, vocalsJames Singleton, bassJohnny Vidocovich, drumsDave Easley, steel guitarProduced by Morgan Orion Reismanfor more information, carlreisman@gmail.comCopyright 2025WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here

Bu bölümde Zeynep Aksoy, utanç duygusunun kökenlerini, ilişkilerimizi nasıl şekillendirdiğini ve hem bir yük hem de büyüme kaynağı olabileceğini derinlemesine inceliyor. Kişisel deneyimlerden, terapötik yaklaşımlardan ve Sue Johnson ile Peter Levine gibi uzmanların görüşlerinden yola çıkarak, aile dinamikleri, nesiller arası duygusal mesafeler ve kendini kabullenme yolculuğu üzerine etkileyici hikâyeler paylaşıyor. Bölümün sonunda ise, iyileşme ve öz-şefkat için pratik araçlar sunan rehberli bir mindfulness meditasyonu yer alıyor. Kendi duygularınızı anlamak ya da başkalarına destek olmak istiyorsanız, bu bölüm utançla başa çıkmak ve daha derin bağlar kurmak için şefkatli ve içgörülü bir rehber sunuyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Her Şey Dahil Üyelik ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için 200 saatlik Yoga Uzmanlık Eğitimi ve yenilikçi Fasya Eğitimi programlarını yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak veya katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

This conversation will change how you handle your relationship starting tonight. The late Dr. Sue Johnson basically gave me a cheat code for relationships that not only last but amplify. She breaks down the real signals to look for in a partner.  Why people actually cheat (not what you think) and how to spot it coming a mile away. Plus she offers a simple framework that can turn fights from something that pushes you away to something that brings you closer than ever.  We dig into how to keep the spark alive (even after kids), how to survive the empty-nest phase, and three simple things you can do to strengthen your relationship.  Doesn't matter if you're single, dating, married, or divorced. You need to hear this. ------ Approximate Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (07:11) The Life Cycles Of Relationships (08:13) How Do We Choose A Mate? (17:42) Emotional Responsiveness (24:18) Attachment Panic (32:31) How To Deepen Romantic Relationships (43:53) Isolation In Parenthood (59:50) Sexual Problems Unresolved Lead To Poor Intimacy (1:04:07) Ad Break (1:09:10) Affairs and Infidelity (1:36:58) The Stages Of Emotional Connection In A Relationship (1:39:27) Warning Signs Of Relationship Detachment (1:44:48) Predictors Of Success In Couples Therapy (1:51:29) When Relationships Become Transactional (1:55:09) Raising Kids And Creating A Safe Parental Alliance (1:58:51) Retirement Phase ------ Upgrade: Get a hand edited transcripts and ad free experiences along with my thoughts and reflections at the end of every conversation. Learn more @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fs.blog/membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ------ Newsletter: The Brain Food newsletter delivers actionable insights and thoughtful ideas every Sunday. It takes 5 minutes to read, and it's completely free. Learn more and sign up at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fs.blog/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ------ Follow Shane Parrish X ⁠⁠⁠@ShaneAParrish⁠⁠⁠ Insta ⁠⁠⁠@farnamstreet⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With Traci Zajdel and Dr. Aurélia BicklerHealthy romantic relationships require a sense of harmony between our expressions of autonomy and closeness. When we have experienced threats to security and trust in previous relationships, both in our early years and in adulthood, we often find that the anxiety that comes with fear of loss or abandonment disrupts that balance and can create conflict as we negotiate life with our partners. This podcast explores the process of active self-awareness of attachment styles to facilitate productive communication of needs and anxieties, thereby achieving compromises that nurture rather than stifle the relationships themselves.Resources:"Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love" by Dr. Sue Johnson"Love Understood: The Science of Who, How, and Why We Love" by Laura Mucha

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes joins me in our brand-new studio to discuss how couples get stuck in emotional cycles of conflict, drawing on Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy. We explore how triggers, core fears, and attachment styles—like the classic pursuer and withdrawer dynamic—shape our reactions and create distance in marriage. Together, we talk about the importance of self-awareness, grace, and integrating emotional and spiritual growth to break these patterns and build deeper connections. We also highlight the 5 stages that happen in conflict, which are: TriggerBody symptomEmotional responseBelief responseActionThis is an insightful, practical conversation for anyone wanting healthier, more loving relationships.For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Discussion of relationship conflict and emotional loops based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).Exploration of emotional responses and core fears that contribute to conflict in marriages.Explanation of the cycle of triggering events, body responses, emotional reactions, beliefs, and final actions in relationships.The impact of attachment theory on adult relationships and the dynamics of pursuer and withdrawer roles.Importance of self-awareness and understanding personal emotional patterns to break cycles of conflict.The connection between emotional understanding and spiritual growth, emphasizing grace in relationships.Encouragement for couples to create new patterns of connection and support each other.Closing thoughts on the significance of building a strong, loving attachment in relationships.More Resources:Hold Me Tight* by Dr. Sue JohnsonFind a CounselorUnderstanding Emotionally Focused TherapyRelated Podcasts:Conflict Management for Marriages Healing from BetrayalThe Harms of Negative TalkingAssumptions vs. Communication: The Battle for Relational Harmony*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

In this episode, I speak with Sam about his career and what lead him to become an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy trainer, teaching EFT in The United States and throughout Latin America, S​pain and the Caribbean. Sam discussed how his clients lead him to EFT when, although he had trained in multiple models of couples therapy, his clients were saying they felt like the therapy wasn't going deep enough for them. He shared that he had been reading about attachment theory and John Bowlby's work, and then took a workshop in EFT from Sue Johnson, Ph.D. He said he fell in love with the model and explained how it helped him see the struggles of couples he was working within a different light, and through the lens of attachment, he could see beyond their conflicts and struggles and see their protests at disconnection as longing for connection. We discussed how Sue asked him to become a trainer in EFT, and asked him to bring EFT to Spanish-speaking countries, as he was originally from Mexico City and spoke Spanish fluently. Sam shares about the countries he has provided trainings in and we discussed cultural nuances that he has found in Latin American cultures and with other cultures. He discussed how the expression of love and the expectations of closeness are influenced by culture, and also how all human beings, regardless of culture, have the fundamental need for connection and safety. We discussed dynamics in Latin American culture that relate to gender, socioeconomic status, relation to family, collectivism and individualism, and how these may appear in couples therapy. In addition to Sam's cross cultural work, we also discussed his work on Forgiveness, and a training he had first done with Dr. Michelle Gannon on apologies and how important they are to healing Attachment Injuries. Sam now teaches Master Classes on Attachment Injuries and Forgiveness with fellow Argentinean Trainer Natalia Gilabert. We left off commenting on the book Sam coauthored for the APA called Deliberate Practice in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, and trainings he is offering in-person this September in San Diego with Dr. Lisa Palmer Olsen, and online in 2026. Sam Jinich, Ph.D. is a Clinical Psychologist in private practice, licensed in California since 1995, and currently based in Buenos Aires, Argentina. He is an internationally recognized Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Trainer, Supervisor, and Certified Couple Therapist, endorsed by the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT). Sam teaches EFT to therapists across the globe in English and Spanish. In North America, his trainings feature English-language didactic presentations with the option of bilingual experiential role plays—reflecting his belief that Latinx bilingual therapists should learn in the language they are most comfortable with, while deliberately practicing in the language they use clinically. A respected leader in the EFT community, Sam co-founded the Northern California Community for EFT (NCCEFT) and served as its EFT Trainer until 2025. He is also a past president of the San Francisco Psychological Association. Over nearly three decades, he has trained thousands of therapists, taught at multiple universities, published scientific research on trauma and family dynamics, and coauthored the APA book Deliberate Practice in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Sam is the Clinical Director of the San Francisco Consultancy in Emotionally Focused Therapy (SFCEFT). Sam will be co-leading an EFT Externship in San Diego in September 2025, and an online EFT Externship in May 2026. Learn more at www.drsamjinich.com or on the ICEEFT website.

In this episode of Judaism with Altitude, Rabbi Danny Wolfe sits down with therapist Adina Krausz, who specializes in helping singles and couples navigate the complex world of dating.Adina shares powerful insights into the modern dating experience, including:Common Red Flags to watch out forDeal Breakers vs. Personal Growth OpportunitiesUnderstanding Commitment Issues—why so many people get stuck, and how to break through those barriersThe Role of Therapy in Dating—how it can help you identify what's holding you back from moving forward in a promising relationshipAdina also recommends several valuable resources for those who want to dive deeper:The River, The Kettle, and The Bird by Rabbi Aharon FeldmanHold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson (on attachment theory)The works of Brené Brown on vulnerability and emotional connectionAdina is currently accepting new patients and works with many insurances.Reach out to her here: Adina Krausz at HelloAlmaDon't miss future episodes of Judaism with Altitude!Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen to podcasts.Subscribe & Follow

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2642: Eddie Corbano breaks down ten critical red flags that signal a relationship may be deteriorating, urging readers to recognize subtle shifts before it's too late. His insights help listeners build awareness, foster honest communication, and make empowered choices when love starts to fade. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://lovesagame.com/10-big-red-flags-your-relationship-is-going-downhill/ Quotes to ponder: "Trust is not only the foundation of a healthy relationship, it is also the glue that holds everything together." "Distance can be physical or emotional, and both are dangerous." "When two people don't talk anymore, their connection dies a slow and silent death." Episode references: Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2642: Eddie Corbano breaks down ten critical red flags that signal a relationship may be deteriorating, urging readers to recognize subtle shifts before it's too late. His insights help listeners build awareness, foster honest communication, and make empowered choices when love starts to fade. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://lovesagame.com/10-big-red-flags-your-relationship-is-going-downhill/ Quotes to ponder: "Trust is not only the foundation of a healthy relationship, it is also the glue that holds everything together." "Distance can be physical or emotional, and both are dangerous." "When two people don't talk anymore, their connection dies a slow and silent death." Episode references: Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Your Partner Won't Engage (Part 1): Breaking the Cycle of Disconnection In Part 1 of this two-part series on The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into one of the most common yet painful relationship challenges: emotional disengagement. Whether it's a partner who won't talk, shuts down, or avoids hard conversations, this episode unpacks the underlying reasons—like past criticism, emotional wounding, and lack of safety—and offers a compassionate and practical path forward. Drawing from Dr. Sue Johnson's work on attachment patterns, John Gottman's research on emotional flooding, and the Zeigarnik effect, this episode helps listeners recognize the “dance” of disconnection and how to begin stepping out of it. You'll learn why defensiveness and shame can derail conversations, why some questions get asked again and again, and how slowing down and checking in with yourself can begin to change the entire communication dynamic. This foundational conversation sets the stage for Part 2, where Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn will explore what to do after a timeout—how to mentally and emotionally prepare to re-enter a difficult conversation with clarity, empathy, and effectiveness. Key Topics Discussed: Emotional disengagement and communication breakdown Why safety is essential for vulnerability Attachment cycles and the “emotional dance” (Sue Johnson) The Zeigarnik effect and why unresolved issues stay active Defensiveness, shame spirals, and emotional flooding (John Gottman) The role of belief systems (“You don't listen to me,” “I don't matter”) The importance of timing, tone, and non-reactivity Suggested Resources Mentioned: Free Mini-Course: Seven Essential Skills for Healthy Communication – humanintimacy.com – Tools for reflective listening, validating emotions, and clear expression. Mini-Course: How to Communicate When You Don't Know What to Say – Practical guidance for emotionally charged conversations. YouTube Channel: – Dr. Kevin Skinner on YouTube – Watch, comment, and engage with this and future episodes. Email Questions: – Reach out with thoughts or questions: questions@humanintimacy.com Researchers & Models Referenced: Dr. Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focused Therapy) Dr. John Gottman (Emotional flooding and timeouts) Zeigarnik Effect (Unfinished emotional business) Next Episode (Part 2) Preview: Title: When Your Partner Won't Engage (Part 2): How to Reconnect After Taking a Timeout In the follow-up episode, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn continue the conversation by exploring how to effectively return to a difficult discussion after stepping away. You'll learn what to do during a timeout, how to calm your nervous system, and how to re-enter with empathy, clarity, and emotional regulation. Would you like a short version for show notes or a version formatted specifically for YouTube?

Learn about the transformative power of Hold Me Tight Workshops based on Sue Johnson's work and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) from licensed counselor and couples therapist, Mark Beck. Mark dives into attachment science in nurturing healthy relationships and addressing conflict. 04:12 The Power of Couples Workshops07:48 Understanding Attachment Science and EFT11:07 The Impact of Safe Connections in Relationships and Navigating Relationship Conflicts14:14 The Hold Me Tight Workshops: A Deeper Dive17:21 Experiential Learning in Couples Workshops24:09 Therapy vs. Workshops31:14 Transformative Conversations37:40 Boosting Therapy with WorkshopsMark Beck has been a licensed counselor since 2001 and is also an ordained Protestant minister. Mark's private practice is based in Inverness, FL and his passion lies in working with couples. He also co-facilitate couples weekend workshops four times a year in Orlando with his colleague and fellow counselor, Vicki Kennedy.Connect with Mark Beckwww.PairsCare.comHMT workshops: www.couplesworkshopsofflorida.com Connect with Paige BondInstagram: @paigebondcoachingFacebook: @paigebondcoachingTikTok: @paigebondcoachingWebsite: https://paigebond.comPaige Bond is an open relationship coach who specializes in helping individuals, couples, and intentionally non-monogamous relationships with feeling insecure in their relationships. She is also the founder of ⁠Sweet Love Counseling⁠ providing therapy in CO, FL, SC, and VT. Paige loves educating people about relationships through being the host of ⁠the Stubborn Love podcast, ⁠hosting workshops, and speaking at conferences.Free Jealousy Workbook: ⁠⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠⁠ Free People Pleasing Workbook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠⁠ Attachment Dynamics Workshop:⁠https://www.paigebond.com/attachment-dynamics-workshop-sign-up⁠Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA's National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.Intro music by Coma-Media on ⁠⁠pixabay.com⁠

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Romantic relationships are sacred, powerful, and life-giving. But I don't have to tell you how difficult it is to love and let yourself be loved.Marriage and family therapist Dr. Terry Hargrave has been helping couples in crisis restore broken relationships for decades, teaching them how to get unstuck, improve communication, and move beyond destructive coping mechanisms—to find reciprocity, self-affirming confidence, emotional regulation, and a joyful, lasting love.In a world marked by loneliness, disconnection, and emotional dysregulation, Hargrave offers powerful insights on the human need for identity, safety, and belonging—and how we can heal the wounds that keep us stuck. Drawing on decades of therapeutic experience and deep personal reflection, Hargrave explains how coping mechanisms like blame, shame, control, and escape can damage relationships—and how the peace cycle of nurture, self-valuing, balanced give-and-take, and connection can restore wholeness. He discusses his unique approach to the healing and restorative power of relationships, which lifts us up to our potential, encouraging us toward a nurturing, self-valuing, non-controlling reciprocity, and true connection.In this conversation with Terry Hargrave, we discuss:How to turn around a relationship in crisis and get off the emotional rollercoasterHow to build security and trust in order to improve or repair a marriage or long-term relationshipCoping mechanisms of blame, shame, control, and escapePractical steps to learn emotional self-regulationWhat to do when only one partner is working on a relationshipThe role of the brain and neuroplasticity in relational repairAnd the spiritual underpinnings of Terry's approach to restoration therapyEpisode Highlights"It don't mean a thing if you ain't got that swing—until you claim your belovedness for yourself, nothing will change.""Relationships are a mirror—we discover who we are through how others see us.""Blame, shame, control, and escape—nothing good comes from these coping mechanisms.""Understanding doesn't produce change. Doing produces change.""When we nurture, self-value, connect, and cooperate, unleashed joy happens.""Thriving is doing more of your best self, not learning something new."Helpful Links and ResourcesRestoration Therapy Training ResourcesThe Mindful Marriage by Ron Deal and Nan Deal (with Terry and Sharon Hargrave)Five Days to a New Self by Terry HargraveEmotionally Focused Therapy and Sue Johnson's LegacyShow NotesIntroduction to Terry Hargrave and the importance of Restoration Therapy today"We are still the same humans, but with a bigger pipe of problems and fewer emotional connections."Emotional dysregulation linked to identity and safety threatsRelationships as a mirror to the self and necessary for human thriving"For there to be a me, there has to be a thou."Why relationships are difficult: imperfection, wounding, and unmet needsHow family of origin wounds influence coping styles"Families don't mean to screw each other up, but somehow they manage to."Introduction of the four major unhealthy coping mechanisms: blame, shame, control, and escapeHow overachievement, perfectionism, and withdrawal are survival strategies from early wounding"Your greatest strength might actually be an old coping habit getting in the way of intimacy."The relational signs that coping mechanisms are damaging relationshipsHealing through self-regulation: speaking truth to yourself with love"Put your hand on your heart and remind yourself of who you really are."The difference between co-regulation and self-regulation in emotional healingRestoration Therapy's peace cycle: nurture, self-value, balance, connection"Nothing good comes from blame, shame, control, or escape."The role of practice and neuroplasticity in forming new relational habits"Doing, not just understanding, is what rewires the brain."How thriving relationships move from neediness to adventurous partnershipIntimacy as knowing yourself more fully through connection, not just need satisfactionCooperative growth and mutual flourishing as hallmarks of thrivingApplication of restoration principles to broader societal healing and reconciliation"Unleashed joy happens when we choose nurture and connection, even with adversaries."The critical role of faith in affirming belovedness and ultimate identity"Everyone else and even God can tell you you're beloved—but you have to claim it for yourself."Practical advice for knowing when to seek therapyWhere to find Restoration Therapy-trained therapistsResources for learning more: Mindful Marriage and other Restoration Therapy booksThe key takeaways that I will carry with me from this conversation are the following:You can change. Your relationship can change. But it takes a daily practice of hard work to create lasting change.And though you might fail, there is hope that you can begin again.Our coping mechanisms are not superpowers. They hurt us and the people we love.Understanding is not enough. Action and behavior has to follow for change to occur.[Any others?] It takes two to tango, but that doesn't get you off the hook from doing the work on yourself.And finally, a thriving relationship creates joy all around it, within a family, in a community, and it shows how personal relationships can change society.About Terry HargraveDr. Terry Hargrave. Until he retired recently, he was the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Seminary, and a nationally recognized therapist known for his pioneering work with intergenerational families.He's most well known as the founder of Restoration Therapy, which combines advantages of Attachment Theory, Emotional Regulation, and Mindfulness—all in an efficient and organized format that allows both the therapist and client to understand old habits and destructive patterns of behavior and promote change in both individual mental and spiritual health, in order to transform our most intimate relationships.Terry has authored or co-authored over 35 professional articles and fifteen books including Restoration Therapy: Understanding and Guiding Healing in Marriage and Family Therapy and Families and Forgiveness: Healing Wounds in the Intergenerational Family.In his latest book project, he worked with his wife Sharon, also a licensed marriage and family therapist. It's called The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself, and it's a practical manual co-written with Ron and Nan Deal about how they healed their relationship after almost losing it.He's presented internationally on relationship dynamics, family and marriage restoration, the complexities of intergenerational families, healing and reconciliation, and the process of aging.His work has been featured on ABC News, 20/20, Good Morning America, and CBS This Morning as well as several national magazines and newspapers.You can learn more about Terry Hargrave and his work—and find books, practical resources, and professional training materials at: restorationtherapytraining.com. About the Thrive CenterLearn more at thethrivecenter.org.Follow us on Instagram @thrivecenterFollow us on X @thrivecenterFollow us on LinkedIn @thethrivecenter About Dr. Pam KingDr. Pam King is Executive Director the Thrive Center and is Peter L. Benson Professor of Applied Developmental Science at Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy. Follow her @drpamking. About With & ForHost: Pam KingSenior Director and Producer: Jill WestbrookOperations Manager: Lauren KimSocial Media Graphic Designer: Wren JuergensenConsulting Producer: Evan RosaSpecial thanks to the team at Fuller Studio and the Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy.

Feeling disconnected in relationships is a theme that's been surfacing a lot lately in my coaching sessions, and I think it's something that many of us can relate to. In this episode, I dive into the common struggles women face in long-term partnerships, particularly the sense of not being heard or satisfied. We explore the importance of owning our part in relationship dynamics while also recognising when our emotional needs aren't being met. I share insights on how to navigate those tough conversations that can feel daunting but are essential for connection. Ultimately, we discuss the deeper emotional issues behind surface-level complaints and how reconnecting with a shared vision for the future can reignite the spark in a relationship. So, if you're feeling a bit lost or disconnected, this episode just might offer some helpful perspectives.Takeaways:Feeling disconnected in relationships is a common theme that many women experience, especially in long-term partnerships, and it's important to address this. To improve your relationship, it's crucial to understand your own emotional patterns and responsibilities without self-judgement or blame. Effective communication requires clarity about what you want to achieve from difficult conversations, focusing on positive intentions rather than complaints. Deep emotional needs often underlie surface complaints about behaviour; recognising and expressing these needs is essential for resolving relationship issues. You might also want to check out these episodes:Cracking the Code on Relationships with Dr Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Coupleshttps://www.crappytohappypod.com/cracking-the-code-on-relationships-with-dr-sue-johnson/The Key to Successful Relationships with Dr Ann Kelleyhttps://www.crappytohappypod.com/the-key-to-successful-relationships-with-dr-ann-kelley/Connect with CassEmail: hello@crappytohappypod.comwww.crappytohappypod.comwww.instagram.com/crappytohappypodwww.tiktok.com/@crappytohappypodSubscribe to Cass's Newsletterhttps://cassdunn.substack.comYour feedback is important!To receive a FREE subscription to Beyond Happy, the subscriber only podcast and community, please take a minute to fill in our listener survey so we can keep making the show the best it can be. Note: Updated link (this is a Google form where your email address is optional).https://forms.gle/tmmuaKgn82c8TKjZA

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. In this episode, we address resistant client presentations, emphasizing capturing moments and containing reactivity. Techniques discussed included understanding the zone of resistance, organizing reactivity within the relational frame, and the metaphor of a combination lock to illustrate the process of unlocking client resistance. We highlighted the need for therapists to be assertive and attuned to clients' emotional states. Outline Upcoming Training Events and Externships Ryan announces three core skill series training sessions in Huntington, West Virginia, from August 21 to 23, 2025, and January 15 to 17, 2026. Ryan mentions two externships: one in Indianapolis, Indiana, from July 9 to 12, 2025, and another in Northwest Arkansas from July 29 to August 1, 2025. James discusses an externship in Bend, Oregon, from October 15 to 18, 2025, and the SV Focus Lab in Northwest Arkansas from September 11 to 13, 2025. James highlights the hybrid nature of the SV Focus Lab, allowing both in-person and online attendance. Introduction to Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Ryan shares a positive experience with the Minnesota EFT center, praising their leadership and intentionality in learning the model. James reflects on the vibrant learning environment at the Minnesota EFT center, mentioning various leaders and their contributions. To the resistant client series topic, focusing on containing space and getting in front of the resistant client dynamic. Understanding the Zone of Resistance The concept of finding the zone of resistance, where clients are stuck between hope and longing, and the importance of leaning into vulnerability. There is a need to contain reactivity within the relational frame to prevent it from taking over the session. An episode from the past (episode 64) about getting out ahead of resistance and shares a story to illustrate the point. A session where George Fowler intervenes to prevent a pursuer's reactivity from escalating, emphasizing the importance of capturing the moment. Capturing the Moment in EFT The importance of capturing the moment in EFT, noting that missing key moments can lead to more escalation. A personal anecdote about his early EFT training and the importance of creating a safe place for clients to process. The concept of "78 harm," where seeing the same harmful move in the cycle multiple times indicates a need for a treatment plan. The metaphor of a combination lock to describe the process of unlocking the client's resistance and creating a shift. Strategies for Managing Resistance A Rubric for managing resistance, including capturing the moment, unlocking the block, and repetitively mirroring the client's behavior. The importance of not overdoing the lock metaphor and the need for attunement and assertiveness in EFT. A story about a consultation with an experienced EFT therapist who was feeling demoralized due to a lack of progress with a resistant client. The importance of capturing moments and creating a mental treatment plan to address the client's resistance. The Role of Reflection in EFT The importance of reflection in EFT, using Sue Johnson's phrase, "Can I try on what I think I'm seeing?" A personal anecdote about the need for external validation to see one's reactivity. The importance of not letting reactivity take over the session and the need for therapists to step in and address it. The importance of capturing the moment and organizing reactivity within the relational frame. Addressing Resistance in Therapy The importance of addressing resistance in therapy, noting that ignoring it can lead to ineffective treatment. A story about a consultation with a therapist who was struggling with a resistant client and the importance of capturing moments. The need for therapists to be attuned to the client's resistance and to address it in a humanistic and compassionate way. The importance of not skipping over reactivity and the need to privilege it to access underlying emotions. The Importance of Clarity and Kindness The importance of clarity and kindness in therapy, noting that it is better to take the chance of a rupture to help the client see their resistance. There is a need for therapists to be assertive and to capture moments lovingly but unapologetically. A story about a consultation with a therapist who was feeling demoralized due to a lack of progress with a resistant client. The importance of capturing moments and creating a mental treatment plan to address the client's resistance. The Role of Assertiveness in EFT The importance of assertiveness in EFT, using the metaphor of a road trip to illustrate the need to address resistance. The importance of not giving up on the model and the need to work with resistance instead of avoiding it. On the importance of capturing the moment and organizing reactivity within the relational frame. The importance of addressing resistance in a humanistic and compassionate way to help clients make progress. Series Overview We are excited to announce the beginning of a new series focused on practical help when a client's nervous system becomes entrenched and cannot open to their experience, their partner's experience, or the clinical process. We want to help you with a clear frame of nuance and intentionality in this clinical experience. General Outline of How We Plan to Cover This Presentation Notice it and Asses It Accurately: Establishing Focus Get in Front of it and Contain it Realize it is Dysregulation: Track, Reflect, and Validate Spend A Whole Session of Curiosity About the Experience Show Impact and Cost- V:OUS Cost to Self, Cost to Partner(s), Cost to the Relationship Here & Now: Bring it Forward Make it Experiential: Get it Replaced. To support our mission and help us continue producing impactful content, your financial contributions via Venmo (@leftpodcast) are greatly appreciated. They play a significant role in keeping this valuable resource available and are a testament to your commitment to our cause. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

Welcome to a special installment of the Lectern Q&A! This month's theme is Love as a Virtue and Existential Stance. This session dives into the nature of love—not just as a feeling, but as a participatory, person-making virtue that binds us to reality and each other. Joining John and Ethan is Ellie, who brings both a deeply reflective presence and insightful contributions to this exploration. Lectern Q&As are a monthly gathering where John and Ethan take questions from The Lectern's members, threading through important themes that are most pertinent and perplexing to the collective. Pre-submitted questions form the bulk of the discussion with a Live Q&A segment toward the end. These conversations are particularly important for generating knowledge that is relevant both to John and The Lectern's broader audience. To participate in these discussions live, submit questions ahead of time and gain access to previous Q&As by signing up at the Alpha Tier (and above) on The Lectern: https://lectern.teachable.com/p/lectern-lounge If you would like to donate purely out of goodwill to support John's work, please consider joining our Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/johnvervaeke The Vervaeke Foundation is committed to advancing the scientific pursuit of wisdom and creating a significant impact on the world. https://vervaekefoundation.org/ If you would like to learn and engage regularly in practices that are informed, developed, and endorsed by John and his work, visit Awaken to Meaning's calendar to explore practices that enhance your virtues and foster deeper connections with reality and relationships. https://awakentomeaning.com/join-practice/ Chapter Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and Opening Reflections on Love 02:45 Love as an Existential Stance 05:00 Love, Participatory Knowing, and Binding Identity 08:45 Eros, Philia, and Agape: The Three Movements of Love 13:00 The Person-Making Nature of Love 17:00 Love as a Doorway to the Sacred 20:30 The Transformation of Self Through Love 23:45 Somatic and Embodied Knowing of Love 28:00 Trauma, Attachment, and the Challenge of Loving Well 32:10 Secure Attachment and Love as Practice 37:40 Circling, Dialectic, and Learning to Love Wisely 40:15 The Role of Worldview in Love and Meaning 46:50 A GI, the Sacred, and What We Truly Love About Humanity 54:20 The Ecology of Religions and Participatory Pluralism 59:30 Final Reflections from John, Ethan, and Ellie Biographical Sentences John Vervaeke is a cognitive scientist, philosopher, and the creator of the YouTube series Awakening from the Meaning Crisis. His work focuses on wisdom cultivation, consciousness, and the scientific pursuit of meaning. Ethan is a co-host and facilitator of the Lectern Q&A sessions. He curates conversations that illuminate existential, psychological, and philosophical insights emerging from the community and John's teachings. Ellie is a scholar and practitioner deeply engaged in environmental science, interpersonal growth, and attachment theory. She brings a reflective, embodied perspective to the conversation on love. Ideas, People, and Works Mentioned in this Episode Søren Kierkegaard John Bowlby, Attachment Theory Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight, Attachment Theory in Practice Eric Fromm, The Art of Loving Thomas Kuhn, Paradigms and Worldview Albert Camus, The Stranger Martin Buber, I and Thou Taoism and the concept of the Dao as Mother Mahayana Buddhism, Bodhisattva path Sufism and Divine Love Socratic Knowledge and Dialogos Circling & Dialectic into Dialogos Lauren Barrett, Emotionally Focused Therapy Halcyon Guild Pluralism in religion and spiritual practice Connect with John Vervaeke Website: https://johnvervaeke.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/vervaeke_john YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@johnvervaeke Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/johnvervaeke Thank you for Listening!

APPLE | SPOTIFY In this insightful episode of Psychotherapy Central, host Jennifer Nurick interviews Dr. Clare Rosoman, clinical psychologist, international Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) trainer, and author of three powerful books on attachment and relationship healing. With over 25 years of clinical experience, Clare brings profound wisdom and practical insights into healing attachment injuries—those painful breaches of trust, betrayal, or abandonment in relationships. In this conversation, Clare and Jennifer explore: Clare's personal and professional journey into Emotionally Focused Therapy. Why vulnerability is the "magic juice" of relationship healing and attachment security. The hidden personal benefits therapists experience when working deeply with EFT. The wide-ranging impact of attachment injuries, beyond just infidelity. How attachment injuries disrupt fundamental questions of emotional safety and trust. The Attachment Injury Resolution Model—an evidence-based framework to repair relational ruptures. Why creating safety and stability is essential before healing attachment wounds. Key Resources Mentioned: Clare's Books: Repairing Attachment Injuries in Close Relationships: An Emotionally Focused Guide to Moving Beyond Betrayal An Emotionally Focused Guide to Relationship Loss: Life After Love An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Relationship Loss: Healing Heartbreak Session by Session Dr. Sue Johnson's foundational EFT book: Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson Related Episodes: Episode 43: What Avoidants Really Need (But Struggle to Ask For) Episode 40: Why We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective Episode 2: Avoidant Attachment Explained Connect with Dr. Clare Rosoman: Dr. Clare Rosoman's Website Instagram: @clarerosoman Connect with Jennifer Nurick and Psychotherapy Central: Website: psychotherapycentral.health Instagram: @psychotherapy.central Facebook: Psychotherapy Central YouTube: Psychotherapy Central Explore more resources, insights, and support for secure and fulfilling relationships at Psychotherapy Central. #AttachmentInjuries #EmotionallyFocusedTherapy #EFTtherapy #RelationshipHealing #AttachmentTheory #TrustRepair #CouplesTherapy #SecureAttachment #AttachmentHealing #TherapyInsights #DrClareRosoman #PsychotherapyCentral #HealYourRelationships #AttachmentTrauma #MentalHealthPodcast #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipAdvice #HealingFromBetrayal

Overcoming Resentment: A Barrier to Connection and Healing   In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, hosts Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into the profound impact of resentment in relationships, particularly in the context of betrayal, trust, and healing. They explore how resentment stems from unmet expectations, unresolved hurts, and past wounds, and how it influences behavior and intimacy. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss the importance of self-reflection, emotional regulation, and honest communication in addressing resentment constructively. They also emphasize the role of attachment wounds in triggering resentment and how awareness of these wounds can help individuals process their emotions more effectively.   The episode concludes with practical steps for recognizing and working through resentment, including self-reflection exercises, journaling, body awareness techniques, and healthy communication strategies. The hosts also announce a special discount for accessing the Human Intimacy Conference recordings, providing an opportunity to learn from top experts in the field.   Key Resources Discussed:   1. 12-Step Support Groups (Step 10) – A daily practice for recognizing and addressing fear, anger, disappointment, and resentment.   2. Self-Reflection Questions for Processing Resentment:     - Do I find myself feeling angry, upset, or irritated toward someone?      - What specific event or experience triggered this resentment?      - What belief or core wound is attached to this resentment?      - Have I felt this way before in past relationships or childhood?      - How can I communicate my feelings in a way that fosters healing rather than blame?   3. EMDR Emotional Float-Back Technique – A guided method to trace current emotional reactions to earlier life experiences, identifying core wounds.   4. Dr. Sue Johnson's Attachment Theory – Understanding how unmet attachment needs create resentment and relational disconnection.   5. Pia Mellody's Work on Trauma & Codependency – Exploring how resentment can keep individuals stuck in a victim mindset and how to shift to an empowered stance.   6. Healthy Communication Strategies – Differentiating between blame-driven resentment and honest, healing dialogue to create deeper understanding and emotional safety.   8. Human Intimacy Conference Recordings —Access to expert-led sessions on intimacy, betrayal healing, and relational repair, available at humanintimacy.com with the discount code: HIConference50 for 50% off—Available April 1st, 2025 This episode provides valuable insights and actionable tools to help listeners acknowledge, process, and communicate their resentment in a way that fosters growth and deeper intimacy.

In this episode, Jillian Turecki delves into relationships, the hidden relationship trap, and how negative narratives sabotage love. Jillian emphasizes the internal battle we face between positive and negative thoughts, likening our minds to battlefields. She highlights the importance of not believing every thought that crosses our minds and instead tuning into our hearts and instincts for a more fulfilling life. Key Takeaways: [00:05:20] Relationship dynamics and interpretations. [00:12:17] Relationship resistance and patterns. [00:15:14] Responsibility in toxic relationships. [00:18:04] Taking responsibility for love life. [00:22:14] Relationship patterns and personal growth. [00:29:01] Accountability in relationships. [00:30:27] Truth as medicine in relationships. [00:39:08] Making peace with unhealthy habits. [00:44:26] Relationship accountability and needs. [00:50:22] Importance of genuine appreciation. [00:52:56] Relationship positivity ratio. [00:57:12] Emotional patterns in relationships. [01:04:38] Fear driving relationship behaviors. [01:05:58] Effective communication strategies. [01:10:56] Positive intent in relationships. [01:16:36] Healing from heartbreak. For full show notes, click here! If you enjoyed this conversation, check out these other episodes: How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson Dr. Sue Johnson on Navigating Romantic Relationships Cindy Stulberg on Relationships Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is a republishing of an archived episode with Dr. Sue Johnson, who sadly passed in April 2024.Dr. Sue Johnson was a leading innovator in the fields of couple therapy and adult attachment. She was the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. Sue was the author of numerous books including, Hold Me Tight, the Hold Me Tight Workbook, and Love Sense.Sue received numerous awards acknowledging her development of EFT, including the APA's “Family Psychologist of the Year” in 2016 and the Order of Canada in 2017.In This EpisodeDr. Sue Johnson's WebsiteThe International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)---What's new with The Trauma Therapist Project!The Trauma 5: gold nuggets from my 700+ interviewsThe Trauma Therapist Newsletter: a monthly resource of information and inspiration dedicated to trauma therapists.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.

Why do some people navigate the social world with such ease while others feel like they're swimming upstream? In this special episode of Being Well, Forrest is joined by four leading experts for a masterclass on the science of attachment. Featuring conversations with Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Rick Hanson, Julie Mennano, and Elizabeth Ferreira, this carefully curated episode gives you a map to becoming more socially confident, emotionally intelligent, and authentically connected.  Topics include: The four fundamental patterns that influence how we show up in every social interaction. Dr. Sue Johnson's guide to having deeper, more meaningful "hold me tight" conversations. Dr. Rick Hanson's approach to working with self-abandonment. Julie Mennano on working with the anxious-avoidant dance that brings so many couples to therapy. Elizabeth Ferreira's somatic and trauma-informed perspective on healing attachment wounds. Rick's Yearly Program: Rick's Foundations of Well-Being 2.0 is a year-long, science-backed journey through developing 12 key inner strengths like mindfulness, motivation, and confidence. It's currently on sale, and if you like Being Well we think you'll love it. Follow the link here and use coupon code beingwell20 for an additional 20% off: RickHanson.com/FWB You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 3:35: Rick Hanson: How to become securely attached 31:20: Working with common attachment wounds 47:35: Sue Johnson: How to have a bonding conversation 1:09:35: Julie Mennano: The attachment mistakes that bring people to therapy, and how secure couples relate differently 1:22:25: Rick Hanson: Self-abandonment, anxious attachment, and how to build up a greater sense of self-worth and self-trust 1:40:30: Elizabeth Ferreira: Creating a secure relationship 1:56:50: Recap and outro About our Guests: Dr. Sue Johnson is a clinical psychologist, researcher, professor, and the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a widely used and respected approach to couples therapy. She is considered one of the foremost experts in the field of attachment, and has received numerous awards for her contributions to the field of psychotherapy. Dr. Johnson is also the author of seven books, including the best-selling Hold Me Tight. Elizabeth Ferreira is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist working in California. She specializes in somatic approaches to trauma work.  Julie Menanno a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, and Relationship Coach. She is the founder of The Secure Relationship coaching method, and maintains an instagram of the same name with over 1M followers. She is also the author of Secure Love. I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Use promo code hanson at the link below to get an exclusive 60% off an annual plan at incogni.com/hanson. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Get 15% off OneSkin with the code BEINGWELL at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod  Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're all marked souls, living on borrowed time. Let's not waste what time we have left. Memento Mori.

This episode is a two-for-one, and that's because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I've curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #138 "How Seth Godin Manages His Life — Rules, Principles, and Obsessions" and episode #529 "Iconic Therapist Dr. Sue Johnson — How to Improve Sex and Crack the Code of Love."Please enjoy!Sponsors:AG1 all-in-one nutritional supplement: https://drinkag1.com/tim (1-year supply of Vitamin D (and 5 free AG1 travel packs) with your first subscription purchase.)Eight Sleep's Pod 4 Ultra sleeping solution for dynamic cooling and heating: https://eightsleep.com/tim (save $350 on the Pod 4 Ultra)LinkedIn Jobs recruitment platform with 1B+ users: https://linkedin.com/tim (post your job for free)Timestamps:Tk*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, Margaret Atwood, Mark Zuckerberg, Peter Thiel, Dr. Gabor Maté, Anne Lamott, Sarah Silverman, Dr. Andrew Huberman, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this special episode, we pay tribute to the late Dr. Sue Johnson, a beloved relational teacher, therapist, author, and the pioneering innovator behind Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Her work has been instrumental in shaping my understanding of relationships and I recently had the privilege of hosting her on the podcast. To honor Dr. Sue and her significant contributions to relationship therapy and education, we've put together some of the most impactful moments from that episode. I am profoundly grateful for Dr. Sue's work and her lasting influence. Thank you for the gift of your voice, your presence, and your loving heart in this life, Dr. Sue. You are deeply missed. —Dr. Sue's Full Episode: https://markgroves.com/episode/unlocking-the-world-of-attachment-emotional-isolation-and-eft —Dr. Sue's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsuejohnson/  —Dr. Sue's Website: https://drsuejohnson.com/ —Dr. Sue's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drsuejohnson/ —Dr. Sue's Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dr_SueJohnson —Dr. Sue's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DoctorSueJohnson?themeRefresh=1  —Dr. Sue's Website for International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): www.iceeft.com — Dr. Sue's Books: https://drsuejohnson.com/books/  If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Health, Codependency, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict, Mental Health, Grief, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Emotions, Honoring Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Sue Johnson, Legacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices