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Blending a family takes grace—and so does blending your finances.When couples merge families, they're also merging priorities, habits, and sometimes, financial baggage. Ron Deal joins us today to show us that with honesty and a shared vision, what begins as a challenge can become a source of strength for blended families navigating both money and marriage.Ron Deal is a bestselling author, licensed marriage & family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker who specializes in marriage enrichment and stepfamily education and is the co-author of The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family. Why Honest Money Conversations MatterThere once was a man who, when his girlfriend thought he was about to propose, surprised her by asking for her credit report instead. It's a funny story—but one that reveals a serious truth. Beneath money conversations are usually heart conversations.For couples forming blended families, this truth runs even deeper. Life has already taught them that marriage isn't guaranteed, whether because of death or a divorce. That experience creates an understandable sense of caution: How deeply do I invest again? Can I trust this new relationship?Money becomes the testing ground for those questions. That's why avoiding financial conversations doesn't protect your relationship—it weakens it. Only about one in four dating or engaged couples forming a blended family ever have a serious talk about finances before they marry. The rest often underestimate what needs to be uncovered.Finances are never just about dollars and cents. They're about values, power, and security. Beneath a discussion about budgets might be an unspoken fear: Will your children be treated equally with mine? Beneath a talk about wills might be a hidden worry: Will you care for my kids if I'm gone?There was once a woman who had been remarried for 25 years—two and a half decades of life together—and she still wondered whether her husband would provide equally for her children after she passed away. The question had never been resolved. It lingered from the past, quietly shaping their relationship.When those unspoken fears remain unaddressed, they create invisible walls. Healthy couples have the courage to name them and work through them together.The Challenge of Inheritance and TrustConsider the story of Sandra and Dave, a couple who married later in life. Sandra, a divorced mother of two adult children, was asked by her new husband, Dave, to change her will and make him her sole beneficiary. To Dave, who had no children of his own, the request seemed simple and loving: We're one now—just leave everything to me, and I'll take care of your family.But Sandra hesitated. Her adult children hadn't had time to form a close bond with Dave. For her, the request stirred deep questions: How do I know that what she's set aside for her children will be honored after she's gone?This is where trust, loyalty, and belonging intersect. Financial peace in a blended family isn't achieved through documents—it's achieved through relational clarity. You can't solve financial questions until you've addressed the relational ones.Moving from Prenuptial to TogethernessSo what's the alternative? In the book, The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family, Ron Deal, Greg Pettis, and David Edwards, introduce what they call a “Togetherness Agreement.”Think of it as a redeemed version of a prenuptial agreement. A traditional prenup is something you do to your spouse—it outlines what they won't receive if the marriage fails. But a Togetherness Agreement is something you do for your spouse. It outlines how you will lovingly and intentionally provide for one another and your families.In a Togetherness Agreement, couples prayerfully decide together:How do they care for children from prior relationshipsHow inherited or premarital assets will be handledHow responsibilities to other households or parents will be honoredAnd how they'll support one another financially in love and unityIt's not about dividing assets—it's about uniting hearts. This process builds emotional safety, which in turn builds trust. When couples feel safe, they can finally exhale, knowing they are truly invested in each other.Taking Inventory—Emotionally and FinanciallyBefore crafting any agreement, couples need to take inventory. That means both emotional and financial reflection.Ask questions like:What financial baggage or debts are we bringing in?What past wounds or fears still shape the way we view money?What are our goals—for our family, our faith, and our future?Blended families are always born out of loss—whether death, divorce, or something else. That history doesn't have to define the new relationship, but it does need to be acknowledged. Honest reflection helps couples avoid repeating old patterns and build a healthier foundation together.Every couple's situation is different, but here are key topics that should be covered in a Togetherness Agreement:Joint and separate accountsDebt and financial obligations from prior marriagesChild or spousal support payments to other householdsRetirement, insurance, and investmentsCollege, cars, and other child-related expensesCovering these topics doesn't weaken love—it strengthens it. It replaces assumptions with clarity and fear with peace.If all of this feels overwhelming, take heart. You don't have to figure it out alone. Seek wise counsel—a trusted financial planner, pastor, or Certified Kingdom Advisor (CKA) can help you find creative and God-honoring ways to care for your family.And above all, remember this: God's grace is sufficient for your blended family. Submit your plans to Him. Let Him guide the process. As you do, He will grow you—not only in financial wisdom, but in love, unity, and faith.When couples move from mine and yours to ours, they begin to reflect the very heart of God, who makes two one, and who calls us to love generously, even in the way we handle money.On Today's Program, Rob Answers Listener Questions:I've been struggling with $26,000 in credit card debt that I recently disclosed to my husband. A credit consolidation company says they can negotiate it down, so I'd pay $400 every two weeks and be debt-free in four years. It sounds good, but is this a trustworthy option—or are there drawbacks I should watch out for?I have UTMA accounts for my two sons, but I am considering switching to 529 plans. I'm mainly concerned that with the UTMA, they'll gain full control of the money once they come of age. Would a 529 plan be a wiser choice?Resources Mentioned:Faithful Steward: FaithFi's New Quarterly Magazine (Become a FaithFi Partner)The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family by Ron L. Deal. Greg S. Pettys and David O. EdwardsChristian Credit CounselorsWisdom Over Wealth: 12 Lessons from Ecclesiastes on MoneyLook At The Sparrows: A 21-Day Devotional on Financial Fear and AnxietyRich Toward God: A Study on the Parable of the Rich FoolFind a Certified Kingdom Advisor (CKA)FaithFi App Remember, you can call in to ask your questions every workday at (800) 525-7000. Faith & Finance is also available on Moody Radio Network and American Family Radio. 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Blending a family takes grace—and so does blending your finances. When couples merge families, they also fuse priorities, habits, and sometimes, financial baggage. On the next Faith & Finance Live, Rob West and Ron Deal show that, with honesty, patience, and a shared vision, what begins as a challenge can become a source of strength. Then, it’s your calls. That’s Faith & Finance Live, biblical wisdom for your financial journey. That’s weekdays at 4pm Eastern/3pm Central on Moody Radio. Faith & Finance Live is a listener supported program on Moody Radio. To join our team of supporters, click here.To support the ministry of FaithFi, click here.To learn more about Rob West, click here.To learn more about Faith & Finance Live, click here.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cuando hay una raíz de orgullo presente en uno o dos cónyuges, la paz no puede florecer. Ron Deal explica que, cuando usted afronta primero su propio temor y su orgullo, eso abre la puerta para el amor y la paz en su matrimonio. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

In this episode, Dr. Kim sits down with Ron Deal to talk about what it really means to build a mindful marriage. Ron shares lessons from his new book, Mindful Marriage, and how restoration therapy helped him and his wife Nan find healing and deeper connection. Together, they explore how faith, self-awareness, and emotional regulation can transform your relationship from the inside out.   Episode Insights: Authenticity is the foundation of lasting happiness. Emotional dysregulation is normal.  Our brains respond to threat, not fairness. Pain cycles drive repeated conflict. Growth and redemption matter more than blame. Quotes from Today's Episode: 'Happy wife, happy life' sounds catchy, but in reality, it's an empty promise. Lasting happiness in marriage comes from authenticity, not performance or pretending everything is okay. Every single one of us gets thrown off-balance emotionally. Some stay there longer, others move through it quickly, but emotional dysregulation is part of the human experience. There's nothing wrong about you because you get dysregulated. The brain can't tell the difference between a rattlesnake, a near-miss in traffic, or your spouse's criticism. Threat is threat. Our brains are wired for survival, not perfect communication. You don't have fifty different fights in marriage. You just have one ongoing pain cycle. Once you identify and understand your pain cycle, you can finally move beyond it together. Ignoring your pain doesn't make it go away—if anything, it makes your pain stronger, more insistent, and harder to escape. It's easy to point out the flaw in someone else, but it's vital to focus on your own growth. You may not forget your pain, but you can redeem what it does in your life. Choosing redemption over resentment is liberating. Couples Conversation Guide: Are there areas in our marriage where we tend to “perform” or pretend things are okay instead of being real with each other?    When conflict or hurt arises between you, how aware are you of what's really going on beneath the surface—your emotions, triggers, or past experiences? What's one practical step you can take this week to be more mindful in your marriage—whether that's pausing before reacting, praying together, or choosing to listen with empathy?   Mentioned in this episode: #1 Amazon Bestseller is available! The Mindful Marriage (designed for every marriage).   Ron Deal What's your reactive coping style? We all have one. Take our free assessment (15 minutes).  Find Awesome Marriage on Instagram Need help starting the practice of prayer in your marriage? Here's a great resource: 21 Prayers for Building an Awesome Marriage Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. We even have a plan for praying as a couple! Check out 7 Prayers to Grow Your Marriage. Buy 1 get 1 free on the Elevate Your Marriage Communication Course & L.O.V.E Your Way Through Conflict Course. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our Fix Communication Breakdowns Bundle  

Do you ever feel hijacked by your emotions? Why do the same patterns of anger, shame, or withdrawal keep showing up in your relationships? In this week's 10-minute equipping episode, Pastor Jim Ramos unpacks what it means to experience emotional dysregulation—and how to regain peace through the four powerful steps of Restoration Therapy. By the end of this episode, you'll learn why identifying your reactive cycle is key to healing and how to rewrite the story your pain has been telling you. Check our Ron Deal's book! The Mindful Marriage (https://tinyurl.com/Mindful115) This episode is sponsored by MTNTOUGH Fitness Lab, a Christian-owned fitness app. Get 6 weeks free with the code ARENA30 at MTNTOUGH.com. Every man needs a locker room. Join a brotherhood of like-minded men in The Locker Room, our bi-monthly live Zoom Q&A call! We meet in the Locker Room twice a month for community, fellowship, laughter, and to help each other find biblical answers to life's difficult questions. Sharing community with t hese amazing men is one of the most enjoyable things I do. - Jim Ramos https://patreon.com/themeninthearena Get Jim Ramos' USA TODAY Bestselling book, Dialed In: Reaching Your Full Capacity as a Man of God (https://tinyurl.com/dialedinbook)

Cuando hay una raíz de orgullo presente en uno o dos cónyuges, la paz no puede florecer. Ron Deal explica que, cuando usted afronta primero su propio temor y su orgullo, eso abre la puerta para el amor y la paz en su matrimonio. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

In this episode, Dr. Kim sits down with Ron Deal to talk about what it really means to build a mindful marriage. Ron shares lessons from his new book, Mindful Marriage, and how restoration therapy helped him and his wife Nan find healing and deeper connection. Together, they explore how faith, self-awareness, and emotional regulation can transform your relationship from the inside out.   Episode Insights: Authenticity is the foundation of lasting happiness. Emotional dysregulation is normal.  Our brains respond to threat, not fairness. Pain cycles drive repeated conflict. Growth and redemption matter more than blame. Quotes from Today's Episode: 'Happy wife, happy life' sounds catchy, but in reality, it's an empty promise. Lasting happiness in marriage comes from authenticity, not performance or pretending everything is okay. Every single one of us gets thrown off-balance emotionally. Some stay there longer, others move through it quickly, but emotional dysregulation is part of the human experience. There's nothing wrong about you because you get dysregulated. The brain can't tell the difference between a rattlesnake, a near-miss in traffic, or your spouse's criticism. Threat is threat. Our brains are wired for survival, not perfect communication. You don't have fifty different fights in marriage. You just have one ongoing pain cycle. Once you identify and understand your pain cycle, you can finally move beyond it together. Ignoring your pain doesn't make it go away—if anything, it makes your pain stronger, more insistent, and harder to escape. It's easy to point out the flaw in someone else, but it's vital to focus on your own growth. You may not forget your pain, but you can redeem what it does in your life. Choosing redemption over resentment is liberating. Couples Conversation Guide: Are there areas in our marriage where we tend to "perform" or pretend things are okay instead of being real with each other?    When conflict or hurt arises between you, how aware are you of what's really going on beneath the surface—your emotions, triggers, or past experiences? What's one practical step you can take this week to be more mindful in your marriage—whether that's pausing before reacting, praying together, or choosing to listen with empathy?   Mentioned in this episode: #1 Amazon Bestseller is available! The Mindful Marriage (designed for every marriage).   Ron Deal What's your reactive coping style? We all have one. Take our free assessment (15 minutes).  Find Awesome Marriage on Instagram Need help starting the practice of prayer in your marriage? Here's a great resource: 21 Prayers for Building an Awesome Marriage Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. We even have a plan for praying as a couple! Check out 7 Prayers to Grow Your Marriage. Buy 1 get 1 free on the Elevate Your Marriage Communication Course & L.O.V.E Your Way Through Conflict Course. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our Fix Communication Breakdowns Bundle  

El miedo es una de las principales razones por las que las familias se quedan estancadas. Ron Deal instruye a las parejas cómo pueden romper el ciclo del temor y descansar en la soberanía y el poder de Dios. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

El miedo es una de las principales razones por las que las familias se quedan estancadas. Ron Deal instruye a las parejas cómo pueden romper el ciclo del temor y descansar en la soberanía y el poder de Dios. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

Blending a family isn't just about making schedules work or learning each other's habits. It's about entering into an already-formed culture — one that existed before you. For the stepparent, that often means grieving what you imagined family life would look like, while choosing to restrain yourself from immediately reshaping the environment into “yours.”In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton talk candidly about:Why grief is a normal and healthy part of the step-parenting journeyThe tension between honoring the existing family culture and slowly helping build a new oneThe unspoken expectations that every stepparent carries — and what to do with themWhy building a new “normal” takes years (Ron Deal says seven, and it often feels true!)Encouragement for couples to stay connected in the long process of blendingIf you're in the thick of a blended family dynamic, you are not crazy and you are not alone. Healing, belonging, and love can grow in the middle of the mess — but it takes time, patience, and a lot of grace.PatreonIf you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and small, helps the Vallottons continue to prioritize making this content for you. Click this link to support! Thank you!For information on the Marriage Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay's InstagramJay's FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org

PART TWO  In this episode of Men’s Divorce Recovery, Dale and Chris sit down with Ron Deal, director of FamilyLife Blended®, to talk about the challenges and blessings of life after divorce. Together they unpack the realities of step-parenting, the pitfalls that can lead to re-divorce, and the biblical principles that offer hope for men navigating blended families. With wisdom drawn from Scripture and years of ministry experience, Ron shares practical tools and encouragement for fathers, stepfathers, and husbands who want to lead with faith, patience, and grace. Inspiration Verse: “If anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” — 2 Corinthians 5:17 Resources: https://www.rondeal.org/  

In this episode of Men’s Divorce Recovery, Dale and Chris sit down with Ron Deal, director of FamilyLife Blended®, to talk about the challenges and blessings of life after divorce. Together they unpack the realities of step-parenting, the pitfalls that can lead to re-divorce, and the biblical principles that offer hope for men navigating blended families. With wisdom drawn from Scripture and years of ministry experience, Ron shares practical tools and encouragement for fathers, stepfathers, and husbands who want to lead with faith, patience, and grace. Inspiration Verse: “If anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” — 2 Corinthians 5:17 Resources: https://rondeal.org/  

If you've ever felt like the values you're trying to instill in your kids get undone the moment they step into the other home, you're not alone. We've been there—and we know how discouraging it can feel.In this episode, we share a powerful tool we first learned from Ron Deal called the Inoculation Strategy. It's a simple, practical way to prepare your kids to recognize and resist negative influences—without badmouthing or creating loyalty binds. We'll walk you through real-life examples from our own blended family journey, explain how to stay in the “neutral zone” while teaching important lessons, and encourage you to keep planting seeds of character even when it seems like they aren't taking root. Over time, your kids will internalize what you've instilled—and those intentional lessons will matter more than you think.You'll Discover:The “wild card factor” that often fuels conflict between householdsTwo key realities you must accept before using the Inoculation StrategyPractical ways to engage your kids by using movies, books, current events, and personal stories as teaching moments that countHow to avoid loyalty binds and protect your child's wellbeing while guiding them toward positive values, character traits, and life skillsResources from this Episode:The Smart Stepfamily by Ron DealEpisode 207. Four Myths About Parenting When Your Ex Has Different RulesReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

You and your spouse are pretty much on the same page, except when it comes to the kids you each brought into the family. Blended family expert Ron Deal joins Randy, and they're gonna help you have peace, cooperation, and love in that blended family of yours. Sign up for Dr. Randy’s INTENTIONAL ONE THING […]

You and your spouse are pretty much on the same page, except when it comes to the kids you each brought into the family. Blended family expert Ron Deal joins Randy, and they're gonna help you have peace, cooperation, and love in that blended family of yours. Sign up for Dr. Randy’s INTENTIONAL ONE THING […]

About Stepfamilies of the Bible: Timeless Wisdom for Blended FamiliesBlending families isn't easy—but hope and guidance can be found in scripture. In Stepfamilies of the Bible blended family expert and stepmom, Laura Petherbridge offers heartfelt insights and solutions for navigating the complex emotions, relationships, and challenges of today's blended families. Through inspiring true stories of God's heroes from stepfamilies, discover practical tools to build unity, overcome complexities, foster love, and rely on faith during every step of the journey.This powerful healing resource is the entire blended family, not merely couples. It's designed for anyone currently in—or related to—a blended family. Laura provides encouragement, wisdom, and God's grace. Begin your journey today!Purchase a copy of Stepfamilies of the Bible: Timeless Wisdom for Blended Families here.Connect with Laura Petherbridgewebsite | Facebook | InstagramLaura Petherbridge serves couples and single adults with topics on spiritual growth, relationships, stepfamilies, co-parenting, single parenting, divorce prevention, and divorce recovery.She is an international speaker and author of four books including, When “I Do” Becomes “I Don't”—Practical Steps for Healing During Separation and Divorce, and The Smart Stepmom, co-authored with stepfamily expert Ron Deal and endorsed by Gary Chapman (Five Love Languages), 101Tips for The Smart Stepmom—Expert Advice from One Stepmom to Another and Quiet Moments for the Stepmom Soul-a devotional.Laura has spoken at the Billy Graham Training Center, and for Lifeway, Family Life, Hearts at Home, and Iron Sharpens Iron conferences.

You and your spouse are pretty much on the same page, except when it comes to the kids you each brought into the family. Blended family expert Ron Deal joins Randy, and they're gonna help you have peace, cooperation, and love in that blended family of yours. Sign up for Dr. Randy’s INTENTIONAL ONE THING […]

You and your spouse are pretty much on the same page, except when it comes to the kids you each brought into the family. Blended family expert Ron Deal joins Randy, and they're gonna help you have peace, cooperation, and love in that blended family of yours. Sign up for Dr. Randy’s INTENTIONAL ONE THING […]

When Ron and Nan Deal suffered the devastating loss of their child, their marriage was nearly shattered by destructive cycles. On this summer best-of Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, you’ll hear how a different approach to their conflict patterns helped break those cycles and bring them together. Hear about their “mindful marriage” and how it could help yours on Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman. Featured resource: The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing YourselfDonate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/buildingrelationshipsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, we're getting real about something that so many blended family parents struggle with: permissive parenting driven by guilt, fear, or insecurity.Kim opens up about her personal journey as a single mom, how her guilt and fear led her to parent from a place of pity, and how that impacted her daughter, Annika. We're also diving into the difference between pity and empathy and how embracing authoritative parenting—rooted in love and limits—can shift everything for your family. Whether you're a parent stuck in emotional reactivity or a stepparent struggling to support your spouse, this episode is packed with encouragement, practical insight, and next steps to help you move forward with clarity and confidence.You'll Discover:The surprising ways guilt, fear, and insecurity can lead to permissive parenting and the negative impact on kidsHow pity and empathy differ and why it matters for your child's developmentWhat authoritative parenting looks like and why it's the most healthy and effective styleReal-life examples of how blended family dynamics impact parenting decisions and often create stressHow to begin shifting your mindset and reclaiming your parental authority so that you can be the kind of leader your kids really needResources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to continue learning and growing in your parenting journeyParenting Style Quiz:  What's Your Parenting Style?Episode 99. 3 Tips to Help You Move Beyond Painful Guilt and RegretEpisode 179. Conquer Fear and Embrace Your Blend with Confidence and ClarityEpisode 180. Break Free from Guilt and Blend with Authenticity and SecurityEpisode 209. Breaking Free from Self-Doubt:  5 Habits to Build Confidence and Trust in YourselfEpisode 189.  Bring Hope to the Realities of Grief: A Path to Understanding and Healing [with Krista St-Germain] Building Love Together in Blended Families by Ron Deal & Gary ChapmanReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyAre you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Did you know that over 35% of Americans today have a step-relationship? Blended families are more common than ever—and with them come unique dynamics that can be both beautiful and complex.In this episode, Amy and Sara sit down with Ron Deal, one of the nation's leading experts on stepfamilies, to talk about how parents can lead with grace, patience, and understanding in blended family dynamics. Ron shares powerful metaphors, like his famous "crock-pot" analogy, to explain why these families need time—not pressure—to thrive. He also unpacks common challenges, offers practical tools for step-parents, and gives hopeful encouragement to those in the thick of it.Whether you're parenting in a blended family, supporting one, or simply want to better understand how to love the people in your community, this conversation is full of wisdom, empathy, and next steps.Website: Family Life BlendedBlended Family Resources: The Smart StepfamilyThe Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy FamilyPDF: A Guide to Building Love with the 5 P's of Step-Parenting--Question of the Week: For those in Step-families: What are some benefits of us having a blended family? For those not in Step-families: Who do you know that might be in a blended family and what kind of questions do you have about blended families?--Hosts: Amy Lowe & Sara JonesGuests: Ron DealProducers: Emily Alters & Cody Braun--Learn more about WinShape Camps at WinShapeCamps.org!Instagram: @WinShapeCampsTikTok: @WinShapeCampsFacebook: @WinShapeCamps

If you're dealing with grief and loss right now, don't miss Chris Fabry Live. Author and blended family expert Ron Deal believes the loss you’re going through runs on two, parallel rails. One is deep sadness. The other is hope. They travel side-by-side but never cancel each other. So how do you lean into "good grief?" Find out on Chris Fabry Live. June thank you gift:Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John Commentaries (from Moody Bible Commentary) For more information about the work of Care Net, click here. Chris Fabry Live is listener-supported. To support the program, click here.Become a Back Fence Partner: https://moodyradio.org/donateto/chrisfabrylive/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme of Fathers in the Bible as we flipped to Exodus 18 to analyze Moses and his father-in-law, Jethro, as father-figures. We saw how Jethro provided counsel to Moses regarding his leadership, and because of the context of their relationship and who Jethro was, Moses was humble and receptive to it. Often, God places father-figures in our lives to help guide and counsel us because they may have experience or wisdom in areas we may not. We turned to the phone lines to hear about the father-figures in the lives of our listeners and how they impacted their lives. We also had Ron Deal join us to discuss the role and significance of a non-biological father figure, the step-dad. Ron is a best-selling author, licensed marriage and family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker. He is also the Founder and President of Smart Stepfamilies and Director of Blended, a division of Family Life. Ron has authored several books, including “The Smart Stepdad.” Janet Parshall also joined us in analyzing the worldview of the modern woman with that of a godly woman. Janet hosts the national program, In the Market with Janet Parshall, which airs weekdays from 4-6 pm CT. She has been broadcasting from the nation’s capital for over three decades and has spoken internationally. You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme of Fathers in the Bible as we flipped to Exodus 18 to analyze Moses and his father-in-law, Jethro, as father-figures. We saw how Jethro provided counsel to Moses regarding his leadership, and because of the context of their relationship and who Jethro was, Moses was humble and receptive to it. Often, God places father-figures in our lives to help guide and counsel us because they may have experience or wisdom in areas we may not. We turned to the phone lines to hear about the father-figures in the lives of our listeners and how they impacted their lives. We also had Ron Deal join us to discuss the role and significance of a non-biological father figure, the step-dad. Ron is a best-selling author, licensed marriage and family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker. He is also the Founder and President of Smart Stepfamilies and Director of Blended, a division of Family Life. Ron has authored several books, including “The Smart Stepdad.” Janet Parshall also joined us in analyzing the worldview of the modern woman with that of a godly woman. Janet hosts the national program, In the Market with Janet Parshall, which airs weekdays from 4-6 pm CT. She has been broadcasting from the nation’s capital for over three decades and has spoken internationally. You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme of Fathers in the Bible as we flipped to Exodus 18 to analyze Moses and his father-in-law, Jethro, as father-figures. We saw how Jethro provided counsel to Moses regarding his leadership, and because of the context of their relationship and who Jethro was, Moses was humble and receptive to it. Often, God places father-figures in our lives to help guide and counsel us because they may have experience or wisdom in areas we may not. We turned to the phone lines to hear about the father-figures in the lives of our listeners and how they impacted their lives. We also had Ron Deal join us to discuss the role and significance of a non-biological father figure, the step-dad. Ron is a best-selling author, licensed marriage and family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker. He is also the Founder and President of Smart Stepfamilies and Director of Blended, a division of Family Life. Ron has authored several books, including “The Smart Stepdad.” Janet Parshall also joined us in analyzing the worldview of the modern woman with that of a godly woman. Janet hosts the national program, In the Market with Janet Parshall, which airs weekdays from 4-6 pm CT. She has been broadcasting from the nation’s capital for over three decades and has spoken internationally. You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme of Fathers in the Bible as we flipped to Exodus 18 to analyze Moses and his father-in-law, Jethro, as father-figures. We saw how Jethro provided counsel to Moses regarding his leadership, and because of the context of their relationship and who Jethro was, Moses was humble and receptive to it. Often, God places father-figures in our lives to help guide and counsel us because they may have experience or wisdom in areas we may not. We turned to the phone lines to hear about the father-figures in the lives of our listeners and how they impacted their lives. We also had Ron Deal join us to discuss the role and significance of a non-biological father figure, the step-dad. Ron is a best-selling author, licensed marriage and family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker. He is also the Founder and President of Smart Stepfamilies and Director of Blended, a division of Family Life. Ron has authored several books, including “The Smart Stepdad.” Janet Parshall also joined us in analyzing the worldview of the modern woman with that of a godly woman. Janet hosts the national program, In the Market with Janet Parshall, which airs weekdays from 4-6 pm CT. She has been broadcasting from the nation’s capital for over three decades and has spoken internationally. You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme of Fathers in the Bible as we flipped to Exodus 18 to analyze Moses and his father-in-law, Jethro, as father-figures. We saw how Jethro provided counsel to Moses regarding his leadership, and because of the context of their relationship and who Jethro was, Moses was humble and receptive to it. Often, God places father-figures in our lives to help guide and counsel us because they may have experience or wisdom in areas we may not. We turned to the phone lines to hear about the father-figures in the lives of our listeners and how they impacted their lives. We also had Ron Deal join us to discuss the role and significance of a non-biological father figure, the step-dad. Ron is a best-selling author, licensed marriage and family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker. He is also the Founder and President of Smart Stepfamilies and Director of Blended, a division of Family Life. Ron has authored several books, including “The Smart Stepdad.” Janet Parshall also joined us in analyzing the worldview of the modern woman with that of a godly woman. Janet hosts the national program, In the Market with Janet Parshall, which airs weekdays from 4-6 pm CT. She has been broadcasting from the nation’s capital for over three decades and has spoken internationally. You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme of Fathers in the Bible as we flipped to Exodus 18 to analyze Moses and his father-in-law, Jethro, as father-figures. We saw how Jethro provided counsel to Moses regarding his leadership, and because of the context of their relationship and who Jethro was, Moses was humble and receptive to it. Often, God places father-figures in our lives to help guide and counsel us because they may have experience or wisdom in areas we may not. We turned to the phone lines to hear about the father-figures in the lives of our listeners and how they impacted their lives. We also had Ron Deal join us to discuss the role and significance of a non-biological father figure, the step-dad. Ron is a best-selling author, licensed marriage and family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker. He is also the Founder and President of Smart Stepfamilies and Director of Blended, a division of Family Life. Ron has authored several books, including “The Smart Stepdad.” Janet Parshall also joined us in analyzing the worldview of the modern woman with that of a godly woman. Janet hosts the national program, In the Market with Janet Parshall, which airs weekdays from 4-6 pm CT. She has been broadcasting from the nation’s capital for over three decades and has spoken internationally. You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme of Fathers in the Bible as we flipped to Exodus 18 to analyze Moses and his father-in-law, Jethro, as father-figures. We saw how Jethro provided counsel to Moses regarding his leadership, and because of the context of their relationship and who Jethro was, Moses was humble and receptive to it. Often, God places father-figures in our lives to help guide and counsel us because they may have experience or wisdom in areas we may not. We turned to the phone lines to hear about the father-figures in the lives of our listeners and how they impacted their lives. We also had Ron Deal join us to discuss the role and significance of a non-biological father figure, the step-dad. Ron is a best-selling author, licensed marriage and family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker. He is also the Founder and President of Smart Stepfamilies and Director of Blended, a division of Family Life. Ron has authored several books, including “The Smart Stepdad.” Janet Parshall also joined us in analyzing the worldview of the modern woman with that of a godly woman. Janet hosts the national program, In the Market with Janet Parshall, which airs weekdays from 4-6 pm CT. She has been broadcasting from the nation’s capital for over three decades and has spoken internationally. You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this FamilyLife Today episode, hosted by Dave and Ann Wilson, we feature a segment from the FamilyLife Blended podcast with Ron Deal and guest Dr. Adrian Hickmon, founder of Capstone Treatment Center in Arkansas. The discussion focuses on parenting children with addictive behaviors, such as drugs, alcohol, or pornography. Dr. Hickmon explains the underlying causes of these behaviors, including trauma, isolation, and disconnection, likening them to a "magma pool" beneath a volcano. He advises parents to find facts, triage the situation, and avoid detaching emotionally, instead emphasizing attachment and healthy boundaries. Ron shares a personal story about his son's near-fatal alcohol incident, illustrating the balance of moving toward a child with love while setting boundaries. The episode underscores the gospel's rupture-repair-masterpiece model as a framework for family restoration. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/84/29

We know how heartbreaking it can be when your child starts pulling away from you.  It can leave you wondering if your ex is negatively influencing them behind the scenes. We've lived it. In this deeply personal episode, we open up about the painful season we went through with Kim's daughter, Annika. We talk through how to recognize the signs of manipulation, avoid common parenting missteps, and respond in ways that protect your child's emotional well-being.  All while preserving your connection. Plus, we share the powerful strategy we call “the pebble in the shoe” and how it can shift distorted narratives over time and help your child embrace the truth. If it seems like you're living under a black cloud, and you're feeling discouraged or defeated, there is hope. You're not alone, and your story isn't over.You'll Discover:How to identify subtle signs that your co-parent may be manipulating your child — and how you can respond effectivelyHelpful ways to communicate with a hurt, angry, rejecting, distant child.A powerful strategy (“the pebble in the shoe”) to gently counter misinformation without escalating conflictThe importance of remaining steady and staying connected even when your child is distancing themselves from youResources from this Episode:Episode 210. Is Your Child Pulling Away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveArticle by Dr. Bob Evans:  17 Primary Alienation StrategiesEpisode 194. Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [ with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker]Book by Amy J.L. Baker:  Parenting Under Fire - How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant ChildEpisode 195. Connecting with Kim's HARD Child - Facing the Challenges of Parental AlienationEpisode 161. How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the KidsEpisode 113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former SpouseEpisode 175. 8 Tips to Protect Kids From Stress and Tension When Moving Between HomesEpisode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your Kids Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession Leave a Review in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts. Your review will help others find our podcast. Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Romantic relationships are sacred, powerful, and life-giving. But I don't have to tell you how difficult it is to love and let yourself be loved.Marriage and family therapist Dr. Terry Hargrave has been helping couples in crisis restore broken relationships for decades, teaching them how to get unstuck, improve communication, and move beyond destructive coping mechanisms—to find reciprocity, self-affirming confidence, emotional regulation, and a joyful, lasting love.In a world marked by loneliness, disconnection, and emotional dysregulation, Hargrave offers powerful insights on the human need for identity, safety, and belonging—and how we can heal the wounds that keep us stuck. Drawing on decades of therapeutic experience and deep personal reflection, Hargrave explains how coping mechanisms like blame, shame, control, and escape can damage relationships—and how the peace cycle of nurture, self-valuing, balanced give-and-take, and connection can restore wholeness. He discusses his unique approach to the healing and restorative power of relationships, which lifts us up to our potential, encouraging us toward a nurturing, self-valuing, non-controlling reciprocity, and true connection.In this conversation with Terry Hargrave, we discuss:How to turn around a relationship in crisis and get off the emotional rollercoasterHow to build security and trust in order to improve or repair a marriage or long-term relationshipCoping mechanisms of blame, shame, control, and escapePractical steps to learn emotional self-regulationWhat to do when only one partner is working on a relationshipThe role of the brain and neuroplasticity in relational repairAnd the spiritual underpinnings of Terry's approach to restoration therapyEpisode Highlights"It don't mean a thing if you ain't got that swing—until you claim your belovedness for yourself, nothing will change.""Relationships are a mirror—we discover who we are through how others see us.""Blame, shame, control, and escape—nothing good comes from these coping mechanisms.""Understanding doesn't produce change. Doing produces change.""When we nurture, self-value, connect, and cooperate, unleashed joy happens.""Thriving is doing more of your best self, not learning something new."Helpful Links and ResourcesRestoration Therapy Training ResourcesThe Mindful Marriage by Ron Deal and Nan Deal (with Terry and Sharon Hargrave)Five Days to a New Self by Terry HargraveEmotionally Focused Therapy and Sue Johnson's LegacyShow NotesIntroduction to Terry Hargrave and the importance of Restoration Therapy today"We are still the same humans, but with a bigger pipe of problems and fewer emotional connections."Emotional dysregulation linked to identity and safety threatsRelationships as a mirror to the self and necessary for human thriving"For there to be a me, there has to be a thou."Why relationships are difficult: imperfection, wounding, and unmet needsHow family of origin wounds influence coping styles"Families don't mean to screw each other up, but somehow they manage to."Introduction of the four major unhealthy coping mechanisms: blame, shame, control, and escapeHow overachievement, perfectionism, and withdrawal are survival strategies from early wounding"Your greatest strength might actually be an old coping habit getting in the way of intimacy."The relational signs that coping mechanisms are damaging relationshipsHealing through self-regulation: speaking truth to yourself with love"Put your hand on your heart and remind yourself of who you really are."The difference between co-regulation and self-regulation in emotional healingRestoration Therapy's peace cycle: nurture, self-value, balance, connection"Nothing good comes from blame, shame, control, or escape."The role of practice and neuroplasticity in forming new relational habits"Doing, not just understanding, is what rewires the brain."How thriving relationships move from neediness to adventurous partnershipIntimacy as knowing yourself more fully through connection, not just need satisfactionCooperative growth and mutual flourishing as hallmarks of thrivingApplication of restoration principles to broader societal healing and reconciliation"Unleashed joy happens when we choose nurture and connection, even with adversaries."The critical role of faith in affirming belovedness and ultimate identity"Everyone else and even God can tell you you're beloved—but you have to claim it for yourself."Practical advice for knowing when to seek therapyWhere to find Restoration Therapy-trained therapistsResources for learning more: Mindful Marriage and other Restoration Therapy booksThe key takeaways that I will carry with me from this conversation are the following:You can change. Your relationship can change. But it takes a daily practice of hard work to create lasting change.And though you might fail, there is hope that you can begin again.Our coping mechanisms are not superpowers. They hurt us and the people we love.Understanding is not enough. Action and behavior has to follow for change to occur.[Any others?] It takes two to tango, but that doesn't get you off the hook from doing the work on yourself.And finally, a thriving relationship creates joy all around it, within a family, in a community, and it shows how personal relationships can change society.About Terry HargraveDr. Terry Hargrave. Until he retired recently, he was the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Seminary, and a nationally recognized therapist known for his pioneering work with intergenerational families.He's most well known as the founder of Restoration Therapy, which combines advantages of Attachment Theory, Emotional Regulation, and Mindfulness—all in an efficient and organized format that allows both the therapist and client to understand old habits and destructive patterns of behavior and promote change in both individual mental and spiritual health, in order to transform our most intimate relationships.Terry has authored or co-authored over 35 professional articles and fifteen books including Restoration Therapy: Understanding and Guiding Healing in Marriage and Family Therapy and Families and Forgiveness: Healing Wounds in the Intergenerational Family.In his latest book project, he worked with his wife Sharon, also a licensed marriage and family therapist. It's called The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself, and it's a practical manual co-written with Ron and Nan Deal about how they healed their relationship after almost losing it.He's presented internationally on relationship dynamics, family and marriage restoration, the complexities of intergenerational families, healing and reconciliation, and the process of aging.His work has been featured on ABC News, 20/20, Good Morning America, and CBS This Morning as well as several national magazines and newspapers.You can learn more about Terry Hargrave and his work—and find books, practical resources, and professional training materials at: restorationtherapytraining.com. About the Thrive CenterLearn more at thethrivecenter.org.Follow us on Instagram @thrivecenterFollow us on X @thrivecenterFollow us on LinkedIn @thethrivecenter About Dr. Pam KingDr. Pam King is Executive Director the Thrive Center and is Peter L. Benson Professor of Applied Developmental Science at Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy. Follow her @drpamking. About With & ForHost: Pam KingSenior Director and Producer: Jill WestbrookOperations Manager: Lauren KimSocial Media Graphic Designer: Wren JuergensenConsulting Producer: Evan RosaSpecial thanks to the team at Fuller Studio and the Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy.

In this bonus episode, Jim Jackson and Ron Deal discuss the unique challenges and opportunities of blended families through the lens of the Connected Families Framework. Ron, a bestselling author and host of the Family Life Blended podcast, shares his 30+ years of expertise in step-family dynamics. The conversation explores how step-parents can build emotional […]

In this episode of Family Life Blended, Ron Deal and Gayla Grace explore the myths surrounding stepfamilies and the myths that often cause harm to blended family dynamics. The conversation is framed around common misconceptions, historical folklore, and personal experiences with step-parenting. They begin by discussing how negative stereotypes have been perpetuated, particularly the myth that all stepmothers are wicked and all stepfathers are abusive. This stereotype has roots in fairy tales, notably the Brothers Grimm stories, where stepmothers were often depicted as evil characters. The hosts note that while there is a small grain of truth to some of these stories (as abusive step-parents exist), they don't represent the reality for most stepparents, who are often loving, hardworking, and deeply committed to their stepchildren. They stress that stepping into a parental role in a blended family requires time and patience, and stepparents should avoid rushing or forcing relationships to develop.Another myth discussed is the idea that stepparents are instantly accepted and integrated into the family. While some young children may quickly bond with a stepparent, the process of blending families typically takes time and doesn't happen overnight. The hosts explain that trying to assume an immediate parental role, especially in cases where stepchildren have strong loyalties to their biological parents, can be detrimental. They caution against the idea of erasing or replacing the biological parent in the child's life.Ron and Gala also dive into the myth that calling stepchildren "my children" will create a mutual, instant bond. While it's important to express care and make the child feel included, they emphasize the need for communication and co-creation between stepparent and child about their relationship. They also tackle the belief that stepparents should love their stepchildren the same as their biological children. The reality is that the connection may not be as strong initially, but that doesn't mean it can't grow over time. The key is to be equitable in how stepparents treat both biological and stepchildren, with fairness being the priority.Through these discussions, the episode provides valuable insights and practical advice for families navigating the complexities of blended family life. The hosts encourage listeners to embrace the process of building relationships gradually, be patient, and avoid the harmful myths that can cause unrealistic expectations. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/84/29

There are so many new and complicated family dynamics in remarriage. Ron Deal describes how parents and stepparents can build a healthy foundation for their kids and their relationship!

There are so many new and complicated family dynamics in remarriage. Ron Deal describes how parents and stepparents can build a healthy foundation for their kids and their relationship!

On this episode of FamilyLife Today, Ron Deal, along with hosts Dave and Ann Wilson, introduces Devon and Asha Still as they share their personal journey of overcoming the challenges that come with a blended family. This conversation dives deep into how they navigated both blended family struggles and personal battles, focusing on communication, faith, and intentional effort.Devon and Asha came together under difficult circumstances. Devon, a former NFL player, had to make life-changing decisions when his daughter, Leah, was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. He decided to retire from football to care for his daughter. After Leah went into remission, Devon and Asha married, but they soon realized they had not fully prepared for the challenges of blending their families. Both came from divorced homes, which made it difficult to establish a clear understanding of what a healthy marriage and blended family should look like.Their relationship struggled in the early years, as they didn't have tough conversations about roles and expectations within their marriage and blended family. This lack of communication led to unnecessary chaos and hurt. However, they learned to lean into their faith and make intentional efforts to course-correct. They discovered the importance of creating an environment of empathy, understanding, and trust. This enabled them to navigate challenges together, and over time, their relationship started to grow stronger.Devon and Asha also discussed how critical it is to take accountability and seek resources to help them through difficult seasons. The couple admitted to feeling tired at times, but they emphasized that the key to making it through tough situations is not to give up, but to stay intentional. Their journey shows that when couples prioritize communication, faith, and intentional effort, they can overcome the challenges that come with blended families. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/84/29

Martin Luther once said, “There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage.”A strong marriage is a blessing but requires intentional effort, especially in a blended family. Today, Ron Deal and Greg Pettys join the show to discuss a valuable resource for second marriages.Ron Deal is a bestselling author, licensed marriage & family therapist, podcaster, and popular conference speaker who specializes in marriage enrichment and stepfamily education and is the co-author of The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family. Greg Pettys, CLU, ChFC, CFP, has thirty-four years of specialized experience in securities and life insurance sales and services. He is the co-author of The Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family.Understanding the Financial Challenges of Blended FamiliesWhen two people enter a marriage with previous financial histories, children, and life experiences, their financial situation becomes more complex than that of a first-time marriage. They may bring:Separate bank accounts and investmentsExisting debts and financial obligationsDifferent parenting and financial philosophiesThe need to provide for children from previous relationshipsConcerns over inheritance and estate planningMerging finances in a blended family isn't just about money—it's about trust, provision, and love. Without clear communication and planning, financial disagreements can create tension, causing stress in the relationship.What Is a Togetherness Agreement?A Togetherness Agreement is a structured approach for blended couples to clarify their financial decisions, ensuring transparency and unity. More than just a financial plan, it is a tool for fostering trust and eliminating fear. It's not just about bank accounts and investments—it's about love, respect, and providing well for one another. It brings clarity to emotionally charged financial topics, ensuring that both partners are aligned in their vision for the future.Why Is a Togetherness Agreement Important?1. It Provides Financial TransparencyMany couples enter marriage with financial baggage—whether it's debt, differing views on money management, or past experiences that have led to distrust. A Togetherness Agreement creates a safe space for full financial disclosure.2. It Helps Prevent Conflict Over MoneyMoney is one of the top stressors in any marriage, but in blended families, the stakes are even higher. The agreement ensures both spouses are on the same page regarding financial expectations and responsibilities.3. It Protects Children and Future GenerationsWithout a clear plan, assets and inheritance can unintentionally drift away from children from previous marriages. The agreement helps ensure that financial resources are distributed according to the couple's wishes, not just default legal systems.4. It Strengthens Marital Trust and UnityA Togetherness Agreement fosters open communication, allowing couples to plan their future confidently rather than fearfully. It shifts financial discussions from potential sources of conflict to proactive, loving conversations.What Should a Togetherness Agreement Include?A Togetherness Agreement can be as formal or informal as a couple chooses. While some opt for a legally binding contract, even a simple written plan can be valuable. Key components may include:Bank Account Structure—Should finances be merged, kept separate, or a combination of both?Debt and Credit Considerations—How will existing debts be managed, and how will future credit decisions be made?Business Ownership—If one spouse owns a business, what will happen to it in the event of death or divorce?Financial Responsibilities—Who is responsible for household expenses, savings, and long-term care for aging parents?Inheritance and Estate Planning—How will assets be distributed to biological and stepchildren?Contingency Plans—What provisions are in place for special needs children, elderly parents, or unexpected life changes?When Should Couples Create a Togetherness Agreement?Ideally, discussions about financial planning should begin before marriage. However, it's never too late to start if you're already married and haven't had these conversations.If you're dating, start the conversation now. If you're already married, don't wait—begin today. The Smart Step Family Guide to Financial Planning provides a step-by-step guide to help you navigate these important discussions.A Togetherness Agreement is an essential tool for blended families to navigate finances with wisdom, clarity, and love. By fostering open communication and financial unity, couples can build a secure foundation for their marriage and their future.If you're in a blended family, consider creating your own Togetherness Agreement today—it might be the most valuable financial decision you ever make.For more insights, pick up a copy of The Smart Step Family Guide to Financial Planning and start building a financial roadmap that aligns with your family's unique needs.On Today's Program, Rob Answers Listener Questions:My question has two parts. First, what is the best way to protect myself from identity theft? And second, our home is paid off - what's the best way to protect ourselves so someone can't come in and put a mortgage or lien on our house without us knowing about it?I'm calling regarding my estate planning. I remember somewhere in the Bible saying we are required or should leave something for our children and grandchildren. How much should we leave for our grandchildren?Resources Mentioned:Faithful Steward: FaithFi's New Quarterly MagazineThe Smart Stepfamily Guide to Financial Planning: Money Management Before and After You Blend a Family by Ron L. Deal, Greg S. Pettys, and David O. EdwardsSplitting Heirs: Giving Your Money and Things to Your Children Without Ruining Their Lives by Ron BlueWisdom Over Wealth: 12 Lessons from Ecclesiastes on Money (Pre-Order)Look At The Sparrows: A 21-Day Devotional on Financial Fear and AnxietyRich Toward God: A Study on the Parable of the Rich FoolFind a Certified Kingdom Advisor (CKA) or Certified Christian Financial Counselor (CertCFC)FaithFi App Remember, you can call in to ask your questions most days at (800) 525-7000. Faith & Finance is also available on the Moody Radio Network and American Family Radio. Visit our website at FaithFi.com where you can join the FaithFi Community and give as we expand our outreach.

A strong marriage is a blessing—but it also takes intentional effort, especially in a blended family. On today's Faith & Finance Live, Rob West will talk with Ron Deal and Greg Pettys about a valuable resource for those in second marriages who are seeking to handle their combined finances in a way that honors God. Then Rob will tackle some financial questions. Faith & Finance Live is a listener supported program on Moody Radio. To join our team of supporters, click here.To support the ministry of FaithFi, click here.To learn more about Rob West, click here.To learn more about Faith & Finance Live, click here.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stepparenting raises many questions: What's my role? How involved should I be? What if my stepkids don't accept me? It's easy to make wrong turns without even realizing it.In this episode, we're delving into four key facets of parenting: meeting practical needs, providing support, teaching life lessons, and delivering discipline. We'll uncover the unique roles and responsibilities of a stepparent regarding each facet and define what's appropriate and inappropriate.If you're feeling frustrated, disconnected, or unsure how to navigate parenting in your blended family, this conversation is for you! We'll share best practices, real-life examples (yes, including our own!), and strategies to help you stay in your lane while building healthy bonds with your stepkids and strengthening your parenting partnership.You'll Discover:Why stepparents should focus on connection before correction How to support your stepkids and meet practical needs without overstepping or experiencing resentment The best approach for building genuine connection, trust, and respect with your stepkids Why delivering discipline too soon can backfire—and what to do insteadA simple but powerful strategy to create a strong parenting partnership with your spouse and reduce tension in your homeResources from this Episode:Episode 47. How to Like Your Stepchild Even When You're Feeling Frustrated and AnnoyedEpisode 39. How to Create Strong Bonds with Resistant StepkidsEpisode 9. A Surprisingly Simple Strategy for Bonding with Step-KidsEpisode 29. What is a Loyalty Bind and What Can You Do About It?Episode 102. 4 Revealing Myths About 1 on 1 Time Between Parents and their Bio-Kids (Part 1 of 2)Episode 192. A Simple Process to Navigate Sensitive Conversations About Each Other's KidsEpisode 25. How to Survive Time Alone with Your Step-Kids (Transfer of Power Strategy)Building Love Together in Blended Families by Ron Deal & Gary ChapmanStepparenting: Keeping it Sane by Charles Fay, Ph.D.In Their Shoes by Lauren ReitsemaPreparing to Blend by Ron DealReady for some extra support?Connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

When Ron and Nan Deal suffered the devastating loss of their child, their marriage was nearly shattered by destructive cycles. On this Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, you’ll hear how a different approach to their conflict patterns helped break those cycles and bring them together. Hear about their “mindful marriage” and how it could help yours on Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman. Featured resource: The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing YourselfDonate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/buildingrelationshipsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Unlock a harmonious life by exploring the power of a gentle response and the profound impact it can have on your relationships.  Join us as we recap the previous episode with marriage expert Ron Deal, who sheds light on mindful marriage practices and the transformative potential of restoration therapy. We tackle essential themes such as blame, shame, control, and trust, while offering practical advice on health, wealth, and self-improvement for Christian men striving to lead as God intended. Discover the importance of managing stress, pausing before reacting, and fostering open financial communication with your spouse to align goals and reduce conflict, all in the spirit of glorifying God through enhanced stewardship and relationships.For full show note details, go to the episode webpage:

Discover the transformative power of a "Mindful Marriage" in our enlightening conversation with Ron Deal, a leading expert in the field of marriage and blended families. Ron shares the profound impact of restoration therapy on his own relationship and introduces practical steps anyone can apply to foster peace and unity in their marriage. Alongside insights from his latest book, Ron also opens up about the newfound joy of becoming a grandfather, adding a personal and heartfelt touch to our discussion.For full show note details, go to the episode webpage:

Continuing the conversation on blended families, Ron Deal joins Rob Rienow to address complex topics, including favoritism, step-parenting roles, and co-parenting with a non-believer. With biblical wisdom and practical advice, this episode equips families to tackle challenges like unjust courts, strained relationships, and creating a culture of belonging. Learn how to deepen connections within your stepfamily while growing in Christ. Featured Resource: Preparing to Blend: A comprehensive premarital book for couples forming blended families. Perfect for individual use or group counseling. Learn more: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09GD14T22 Dating and the Single Parent: Guidance for navigating dating and blending families. Learn more: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09S1DKZ36 Family Life: To explore these tools and learn more, visit https://www.familylife.com/blended 

Blended families and stepfamilies face unique challenges on their journey of faith. In this episode of Family Vision, Rob Rienow welcomes Ron Deal, founder of FamilyLife Blended, to share insights, resources, and encouragement for stepfamilies seeking to grow in unity and Christ-centered love. Topics include essential steps for thriving as a blended family, how to approach remarriage conversations with children, and creating emotional safety in the home. This heartfelt conversation will equip you with wisdom and practical tools for navigating the complexities of stepfamily life. Featured Resource: Preparing to Blend: A comprehensive premarital book for couples forming blended families. Perfect for individual use or group counseling. Learn more: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09GD14T22 Dating and the Single Parent: Guidance for navigating dating and blending families. Learn more: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09S1DKZ36 Family Life: To explore these tools and learn more, visit https://www.familylife.com/blended 

Dave and Ann Wilson welcome Scott Kedersha, author and marriage pastor, and Ron Deal to the show. They explore how Scott's early experiences of grief and family disruption shaped his approach to marriage and parenting. Show Notes and Resources Learn more about the Summit on Stepfamily Ministry: SummitOnStepfamilies.com Connect with Scott Kedersha and hear more of his thoughts at scottkedersha.com. And you can find his book, Ready or Knot?, at scottkedersha.com/ready-or-knot. Enjoyed this episode? Listen to more with Scott here! Ron Deal leads FamilyLife Blended and hosts the FamilyLife Blended Podcast. Find more resources for Blended Families: https://shop.familylife.com/product/the-smart-stepfamily/. Listen to the full episode: https://www.familylife.com/podcast/familylife-blended-podcast/132-growing-up-blended-navigating-loss/ Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com. See resources from our past podcasts. Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app! Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify. Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the FamilyLife Podcast Network

Who comes first in a marriage? And how to communicate it well? Hear from Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Bob Lepine, and Ron Deal and Gayla Grace as they discuss how to prioritize marriage in a blended family and how to implement family meetings towards that end. Show Notes and Resources Help make YOUR mark: Your donation supports crucial resources for families and includes a special FamilyLife Pen and Brant Hansen's book, "Unoffendable"—join us today! Learn More About The Summit on Stepfamily Ministry Listen to the full episode here Discover more resources for blended families and listen to more on the FamilyLife Blended podcast Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com. See resources from our past podcasts. Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app! Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify. Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the FamilyLife Podcast Network

Should your partner be your first priority in a blended family? What if your biological kids are still reeling from transition? Hear what Ron Deal and Gayla Grace, of FamilyLife Blended have to say on this important question! Show Notes and Resources Help make YOUR mark: Your donation supports crucial resources for families and includes a special FamilyLife Pen and Brant Hansen's book, "Unoffendable"—join us today! Learn More About The Summit on Stepfamily Ministry Listen to the full episode here Discover more resources for blended families and listen to more on the FamilyLife Blended podcast Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com. See resources from our past podcasts. Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app! Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify. Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the FamilyLife Podcast Network

What's it like for a child when their parent remarries? Explore the unique losses and needs of children in blended families in this important conversation with Ron Deal and Rod and Rachel Faulkner Brown. Show Notes and Resources Help make YOUR mark: Your donation supports crucial resources for families and includes a special FamilyLife Pen and Brant Hansen's book, ""Unoffendable""—join us today! Connect with Rachel and catch more of their ideas at rachelfaulknerbrown.com and find her on Insta at @rachelfaulknerbrown. Listen to the full episode here Discover more resources and listen to more on the FamilyLife Blended podcast. And think deeper about ministering to blended families at the Blended Summit -- coming up in October. Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com. See resources from our past podcasts. Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app! Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify. Check out all the FamilyLife's podcasts on the FamilyLife Podcast Network