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The first brick at Stonewall. The repeal of “Don't Ask, Don't Tell”. Obergefell v. Hodges. What better way to commemorate these extremely profound and meaningful moments in the history of the struggle for LGBTQ+ rights than by chaotically (but helpfully!) talking about… butt stuff. In this chaotically good June Pride Month episode, we revisit a classic podcast answer where Lina went deep, we're talking reaaaaallll deep, into all things anal. Come away educated, excited, enlivened, and relaxed. (In the butthole) Read Dan Savage's beautifully written and juicy Thirst Inventory here Get Lina's favorite anal sex memoir The Surrender here To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

How do we advocate for our desires the same way we advocate for our limits? How do we see ourselves as valid even if we're bedroom-only? How can a safe word be heard through a ball gag? Lina has practical answers to all of the above, including a (ASMR?) demonstration for one of them…. you'll never guess which!! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A caller wants to know what to do when a threesome fantasy about a friend becomes a sudden turn-off. Lina does some Ick Forensics™️ on what could be bothering them, and breaks down the realities of being your own Threesome BFF. Also a bonus pep talk for bi girls who are afraid of other girls — tl;dr if the world is burning you better be kissing someone about it so help me god. Read Unicorn Hunters On Trial on substack. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Today Lina answers one of life's age old questions, one that's debated frequently in a public forum much like the God question or origins of the universe — should Doms be subs before they Dom? Together we'll weigh the benefits of gaining that empathetic perspective while also balancing the hot take that nobody should do anything sexually they don't want to do. Also — a bonus discussion of Lina in a room with power advocating for sexuality creates online! Thanks to you! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Sydney Baloue is a writer, performer, event producer and advocate for racial, social, and gender justice, LGBTQ+ rights, and for trans-masculine visibility in voguing, boxing and in the film and television industry. He opened up with us about the gay male rumspringa he had after transitioning, and how he's found refuge in the wildest of places — gay male saunas and in the arms of various Daddies to name a few.  To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A long-married caller wants to know how to jumpstart a 24/7 dynamic with a partner who may have some reservations. Lina validates that your 24/7 dynamic is supposed to breathe with you, not suprise choke unwanted breath play on you. Something like that.  Use code FIRST50 for 50% off your first office hours booking. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, ad-free podcast feed, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Ok so I've brought you into my basement, tied you to a chair, fixed a single lightbulb on you, put my spiky boot between your legs, leaned in real close, and now I'm gonna scream “YOU'RE PERFECT AS YOU ARE!!!!!!” Ok with that out of the way let's get into some practical skills for doing kink while neurodivergent and some strategies you can implement today to ease the burden on yourself!! Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

In this new monthly series Lina is answering quick text-based q's from paid members and bringing them to the public feed! This month we're talking about vetting questions to identify inexperienced Doms and subs, what to do about Dom4Dom chaos, and how making prints out in the sun is a metaphor for growth (isn't everything around here??) Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Activist and writer Michelle Tea joined me this month to vulnerably discuss the places magic intersects with lineage, life, and sex. We transitioned into a bit of a slumber party tee-hee-ing about the archetypes of the tarot and how many of the famous figures of the major arcana could be Doms or subs. It's fun! Get in here! To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A caller wants to know how to repair their relationship with their mind and body after a breakup. Lina's take? Don't let your drive to be considerate and ethical override your humanity. Feel it, be messy, take your space. The filth will be there to hold you along the way

Craving a broad introduction to fear play? I bet you are you sick freak!! In this lesson, I mean episode, Lina talks about the classics of fear play: knives, cages, trampling, and even really really sick and perverted edge play like tickling and, god forbid, forced compliments. Fear 101 (Substack) | Letter Writing Ideas from Audrey Gidman Join Lina's Patreon for access to allllll the perks! http://www.patreon.com/askasub  Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Sex therapist and author Yana Tallon-Hicks dropped by to share some practical sex advice, thoughts on neurodivergence and kink, and lay down some beautiful reflections on consent-forward parenting. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Introducing my campaign slogan — let's get a fire under every would-be Dom's butt! You can't light the fire, but you can toss some kindling on the sucker and warm yourself by its flame. Maybe roast a marshmallow. Is this becoming gross?   Sadly, the short-lived Sub Space membership is now deceased. Please support us on Patreon or Substack to get extra goodies! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Communication is hard! Ever wanted to do it non-verbally with your butt? Enter: the hanky code. Today we're talking about its origins in queer cruising culture and discussing how to plan your Hot Hanky Summer. ASK A SUB MEMBERSHIP HAS CHANGED! To get all the benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune, join Sub Space today. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Erica Smith helps Purity Culture dropouts rebuild their sexual ethic after escaping restrictive religions, and this week she's helping all of us deal with the cult of America. On the way we talk about how porn addiction isn't real, how to keep yourself sane through the news, and how the revolution demands fuckin' and suckin'. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Sub space membership sign-ups are currently paused. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A listener calls in wondering how in god's name to deal with having a CRUSH on a CIS MAN?!? (Valid). Lina gives an answer about trusting your body and not letting weird Christian plagiarists from the year 100 run your life in 2025. ASK A SUB MEMBERSHIP HAS CHANGED! To get all the benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune, join Sub Space today. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

This week we've got a HUGE announcement and a call from a sub who sounds frickin' exhausted. Who isn't?? Lina reminds everybody about how submission begins at home, and how the call of self-discovery is coming from inside the house (we have self-actualization at home). Calling all sub space cadets!! You'[re needed at basic training!! Get into my all new, totally independent membership service over at askasub.com/subspace. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Lina shares a million thoughts on anal sex from a sub's perspective including sweet meditations on the butt's position as a metaphor for the liminal space between our conscious and subconscious minds, as well as meditations on what to do if your butt plug is about to fall out at a public wine tasting. Happy Valentine's, sluts!!!! Get Lina's favorite anal sex memoir The Surrender here To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad  

A sub in an M/s dynamic calls in wondering how to integrate more long distance service into their dynamic and Lina nerds out on protocol in great detail. A brain dump if you will. (I'm NOT going to make a scat play joke. I would NEVER.) To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Calling all rubber buggy baby kinksters… let's take a hard 180 away from the doomscroll and talk about the surprising history of the latex kink. From fashion runways to kiddie pools of piss, this versatile fabric has a lot to offer the freaks of the world. Lina's book recommendations (I get 10% of your order!) Life, Leather, and the Pursuit of Happiness (Steve Lenius) From Fetish to Fashion: The Rise Of Latex (BBC) Rubber Ball USA To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A listener calls in feeling big feelings about a new Dom, and Lina talks about making the most of the safe havens we find along the road to our dream situation. And maybe covering those safe havens in saliva a bit, idk!! Sign up to hear about upcoming offerings here. Snag your office hours appointment here. Mr. Dune Deep Dive info. Daddy Issues series on Patreon or Substack. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Hey!! Hey you!! Stop worrying about upsetting people with your very reasonable needs and requests! In today's episode, a caller worries that their Dom is upset by their needs/wants/suggestions, and Lina goes Big Sister Mode to set them straight. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

No family?! Community kitchens?! Mandatory orgies?! Less social isolation?! This is the future the left wants, and Lina is forcing it down your throat this week alongside brilliant guest Sophie Lewis who wrote the book on family abolition. Join us for a discussion about tentacle porn, muppet theory, and liberatory queer futures. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

This Christmas, fear isn't just for the ballot box. That's right, a caller wants to know how to negotiate with fear around kinks, edges, and, the scariest monster of all, the terrifying ordeal of being Known by another human being. Also in the intro Lina sets expectations for Babygirl (medium) and encourages all of you to get to work on your kinky screenplays in 2025. Kinky Movies That Don't Suck To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A caller wants to know if straight people are ruining kink, and Lina gets into the history of gentrification in the kink world and how well-meaning straights can use their kink for good. Also a diatribe on how Fake Doms have class-traitor vibes. Sorry it had to be said!! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Ever wondered how to drop the news of some of your less mainstream kinks in a relationship? You know… the really head-turning ones that would shock polite company? The ones that keep you up at night googling really specific gear? The ones that pop up in your head even as you're trying to write the description of your podcast?? Well this week Lina is sharing an actionable formula for introducing your new partner to what you want, and also laying down a new Ask A Sub commandment — no dragging Doms into Dominance. Now back to those kinks… To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Gather ‘round to hear the debauched tales of connection, mutual support, and hot sex contained in the ever problematic social media boogeyman… the Age Gap Relationship!! These crowdsourced stories come from our very own AAS community and will warm your freezing cold heart, ever so briefly slake your unquenchable thirst, and perhaps expand your dating app age filters. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast at memo.fm/askasub Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Looootttttaaaaaa feelings about gender this week, huh folks? We're discussing the “gender wars,” how you can assist in the political apocalypse, and how to embrace one's identity as a male submissive. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Come one, come all, to the wholesome dumpster we raccoons cluster in also known as the Ask A Sub discord community. The community is a benefit of patreon and the reason it's so many people's favorite place on the internet is the absolutely top tier moderation and vibes-curation brought to you by our mod team. Hear the voices of the people behind the server in this exclusive interview! You know you wanna join us… To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A caller wants to know how to use their kinky toolkit to address a recently resurfaced memory of past trauma, and Lina gets into how kink, while not a panacea, can be supportive as we transform triggers into memories. Send in your q's at memo.fm/askasub To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

C'mon guys, a tale as old as time. We've all been there - your Dom is seeing other subs, and your jealousy and the Social Media Demon have twisted the situation to be unbearable. How can we break jealousy down into more manageable components, and negotiate whether we want to deal in the first place? Lina shares from her own experience and has some ideas to tend to your tender feels. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to memo.fm/askasub. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A sub calls in wondering what to do when you've been in multiple relationships where the kink slowly vanishes over time. Are you going crazy?? No, this is a disappointingly common thing, and Lina's going to help you spin an annoying part of dating into a helpful learning experience. Send in your questions for the pod at memo.fm/askasub. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

You guys — we did it — we trapped a true switch for switch poly couple with our big butterfly net and dove deep into their deeply respectful and inspiring relationship. Join us for a convo with charismatic Aussies Abbey and Liam for a tour through their individual love lives, and the love they have for fostering connections in their broader ENM community. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Get your spot in the Conscious Kink 2 Incubator and learn more about it here. Registration ends 9/27 at 11:59pm pacific.  Get more Folsom info from this pamphlet. Special thanks to Cactus Cult Leather, BunnyLeather.com, Sylvan and Milton, SF K9 Unit, Bay Area Open Minds, The Satanic Temple and everyone who spoke to me at Folsom last year! Get my full discussion with Alex Kacha on Patreon or Substack. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

We've all been there — an on again, off again dynamic that keeps us trapped in a cycle where we feel that person is the one who can unlock the sex life we really want, if only they'd switch back to “on again.” In this episode we talk about the paradox of longing and how to get yourself licking new coffee cups before you know it. Get your spot in the Conscious Kink 2 Incubator and learn more about it here. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

More and more D/s couples are having to put their dynamics on pause lately, and we want to give you the tools to find your way back to each other. This week, Lina's talking about the integral role of play in building trust and putting your whole (figurative) p*ssy into your vulnerability. ***Get your spot in the Conscious Kink 2 Incubator and learn more about it here.*** To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

We talk a lot on this podcast about feeling “queer enough,” and a straight passing queer couple wonders how to feel more at home in queer spaces. Lina affirms that they're allowed to be there, and anyone whose opinion is worth considering is probably just thinking they're hot. Fewer queer cops, more queer fucking!!! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Writer, educatrix, and all around kink community badass Tina Horn joined us to talk all about hardcore kinks and fetishes and how we sort kinks into this category. Her new book Why Are People Into That?! is out now wherever books are sold. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

GENDER!! Ever hear of it?! Lina's popping off on the presidential election, right-wing weird shit, and the subtle leak of conspirituality-adjacent terms like ‘divine masculine & feminine' into sex education spaces. She also goes into why her submission doesn't feel feminine, but an intense space to reckon with the masculine. Controversial? Probably!  To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Find the excellent Conspirituality Podcast here. Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

In a transmission from God's hot car, Lina discusses the relationship between kink and chronic pain, and advises a Spoonie who's playing with a doctor to enjoy the free medical care without shame. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

We all know about Fake Doms, people on dating apps who co-opt the language of BDSM to push a misogynistic agenda, but what about when the messaging of manipulation is more subtle, and even uses sex positive language to confuse subs? Enter: Fake Dom 2.0. In this episode, Lina shares signs you may be dealing with a Fake Dom 2.0, vetting questions to try to weed them out, and solace for those who have been victimized by these creeps. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Why are subs and kinky people so prone to tripping out on what the future could be? Well, as the saying goes, subs plan and Doms laugh at our anticipatory anxiety. Lina also discusses how marriage and society are a weird mindf*%k combo to navigate (and not always in the nice way), and how we all need more space to increase our capacity for change and ability to accept more things into our orifices. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Dogs and cats, living together, mass hysteria! When can a sub be a Dom? A caller wants to know when their Dommy tendencies qualify them to start switchin', and how their neurodivergent brain can deal with the ambiguity. Answer? BDSM loves getting all up in your cracks to make you stretch all the parts of yourself. Just don't forget the lube. The lube is you loving yourself. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

In this preview of Deep Dive, Lina chats with Casey Tanner, @queersextherapy, about their new book Feel It All. Topics covered include defining secure sexuality and the origins of insecure sexuality (aka why are we so messed up about sex?!). In the full Deep Dive, available to paid members, hear them discuss how to support queer people in straight passing relationships, whether sexual preferences or attraction can be problematic, how to negotiate accommodation for neurodivergent and disabled people, and other ways of being sexual secure, filthy (if that's what you want!), and thoughtful freaks. “Well, hi!” Cat  To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

What happens when you're criss crossing all your red string a la Charlie Day while researching D/s to broaden the scope of your dynamic, but your Dom just won't click the links you send? Lina talks the three-legged race of a longterm relationship, how the patriarchy doesn't support men in self improvement, and what to do when you suspect you're a koi fish in a goldfish bowl. Get in on the new Ask A Sub Office Hours offering! To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

This month for pride, join your very own fave bisexual goblin for a wide ranging AMA! That's right, I answered your q's in real time just like the old days. Get info about Ask A Sub Office Hours on Patreon or Substack. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

This week, a married couple struggles with the ways D/s sometimes outwardly looks like the oppressive gender roles they were raised with, and have been fighting their whole relationship. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Lina gives some tender yet protective advice to a 20-year-old sub looking to start their kink journey. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

R.O. Kwon stopped by the pod this week to talk about her new book Exhibit, a tale about kink, queerness, and what happens when people pursue that which they truly desire.  Catch R.O.'s Thirst Inventory here. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

Our Deep Dive guest this month is many things — a kink/rope organizer, an amazing friend, a top-tier emoji-reactor, and a Ask A Sub discord moderator that has been with us since the beginning of the server. Dollie and Lina talk community building and maintenance, and how they curate the best (dare we say??) kink space on the internet. Listen on Patreon or upgrade in the Substack player. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

A sub calls in wondering how to “do” submission right, and Lina shares some wisdom about how to avoid submissive doing and embrace submissive being. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $6/month! Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad