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"That's so gay!" So said a 10 year-old boy and got himself punished by the teacher who overheard him. The boy's father is calling for advice on how to explain why saying "That's so gay" as a pejorative is hurtful. A man with a big ole wiener sees his long distance girlfriend once per month. When they see each other they go at it, with a frequency and intensity that will make many of you blush. The problem? It's causing her a lot of pain. Is there a way to make love, not lacerations? Speaking of pain, Dan brings on Leigh Cowart, science journalist and author of "Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose" They talk about masochism, how the experience of pain can be transmogrified into pleasure, how every masochist has a sadist's imagination, and finally- how to safely kick a man in the nuts. Cowart is such a superb thinker, and a delight to listen to. A little is on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum. And, in one of our all time weirdest calls, a married man with kids thinks he's having a psychic connection with someone he's met. The synchronicities are off the charts! Is he having some kind of profound spiritual flowering, or is it just garden variety mid-life crisis? You decide. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off all mattress orders + 2 FREE Dream Pillows! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $80 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com/Savage, and use the offer code Space80.
This episode we're giving our book pitches for our Battle of the Books 2023! Each of us has picked one title that we think we should all read and discuss and you get to vote for which one it is! Will we read Trust Kids!: Stories on Youth Autonomy and Confronting Adult Supremacy edited by carla joy bergman, The Seep by Chana Porter, A Wizard's Guide to Defensive Baking by T Kingfisher, or Inheritance: a Pick-the-path Experience by Daniel Arnold, Darrell Dennis, and Medina Hahn? You decide! You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through Apple Podcasts or your favourite podcast delivery system. In this episode Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray
You know when you call a customer service number and you hear, “Your call is very important to us…”? What that usually says to me is – “Get comfortable, this is going to take a while.” Wouldn't it be nice if there was a way to make your customer service experience shorter and less frustrating? Listen as I begin this episode with some solid advice. frustrating experience. So, this episode begins by discussing how to make that experience a little bit smoother. https://www.wired.com/story/how-to-call-customer-service/ Can you ever really know pleasure if you don't experience pain? Do humans actually want and need pain? Pain is a fascinating topic, as you will hear from my guest Leigh Cowart. She has purposely put herself through some very painful experiences such as, being a ballerina to eating the world's hottest chili pepper. Listen as she discusses her research on pain and explains why some of us actually seek out pain. And yes, it turns out we all likely need some pain in our lives. Leigh is a journalist and author of the book, Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose (https://amzn.to/3lHYF0F) While humans can be selfish, we also have to cooperate with each other because we simply can't do everything for ourselves. The ways in which humans cooperate turn out to be very complicated because while we cooperative we also compete with each other. We can be very compassionate and cooperative with some people but not others. Evolutionary biologist Nichola Raihani has examined how our ability and desire to cooperate with each other (or not) has helped guide the development of modern civilization. Listen as she explains this fascinating topic. Nichola is a professor of evolution and behavior at University College in London and author of the book The Social Instinct: How Cooperation Shaped the World (https://amzn.to/2XwTKr8). Do women apologize more than men? Actually, yes but why is that? Listen as I explore some interesting findings on why men and women tend to apologize differently. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/46381418_Why_Women_Apologize_More_Than_Men_Gender_Differences_in_Thresholds_for_Perceiving_Offensive_Behavior PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! PrizePicks is a skill-based, real-money Daily Fantasy Sports game. Go to https://PrizePicks.com/SYSK and use code SYSK for a first deposit match up to $100 Try HelloFresh. Go to https://HelloFresh.com/50something and use code 50something for 50% off plus free shipping! Zocdoc is the only FREE app that lets you find AND book doctors who are patient-reviewed, take your insurance, are available when you need them! Go to https://Zocdoc.com/SYSK and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Anxious thoughts? Give BetterHelp a try. It's entirely online, so it's convenient, flexible, and suited to your schedule. Just fill out a brief questionnaire to get matched with a licensed therapist. Get a break from your negative thoughts with BetterHelp Visit https://BetterHelp.com/SOMETHING today to get 10% off your first month! Dell Technologies and Intel are pushing what technology can do, so great ideas can happen! Find out how to bring your ideas to life at https://Dell.com/WelcomeToNow U.S. Cellular knows how important your kid's relationship with technology is. That's why they've partnered with Screen Sanity, a non-profit dedicated to helping kids navigate the digital landscape. For a smarter start to the school year, U.S. Cellular is offering a free basic phone on new eligible lines, providing an alternative to a smartphone for children. Visit https://USCellular.com/BuiltForUS ! Listen to Planet Money https://npr.org/podcasts/510289/planet-money wherever you get your podcasts! With GOLO you will safely and effectively control sugar cravings, hunger, and minimize muscle loss allowing you to feel good and inspired to reach your goal weight. Go to: https://golo.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Have you noticed online is just getting worse and worse? This week, kink celebrity and YouTuber Evie Lupine joins me to talk about how kinky people have seen this coming for miles, and what internet censorship means for newbies searching for their identities in the online kink world. Get the full version of this episode on Patreon or Substack. Get more info about the upcoming Deep Dive with Leigh Cowart on 8/2 at 5 PT here. Leigh previously visited us to discuss their book Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain On Purpose. Get my first interview with Leigh here. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack here. Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
This episode we're giving our book pitches for our Battle of the Books 2023! Each of us has picked one title that we think we should all read and discuss and you get to vote for which one it is! Will we read Spear by Nicola Griffith, Upright Women Wanted by Sarah Gailey, Free: A Child and a Country at the End of History by Lea Ypi, or The Mushroom at the End of the World by Anna Lowenhaupt Tsing? You decide! You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, or your favourite podcast delivery system. In this episode Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray | Jam Edwards Books We Pitched Meghan - Spear by Nicola Griffith Jam - Upright Women Wanted by Sarah Gailey Matthew - Free: A Child and a Country at the End of History by Lea Ypi Anna - The Mushroom at the End of the World by Anna Lowenhaupt Tsing Vote for which we should read! Our “Long List” of Titles Meghan Women of the Fur Trade by Frances Koncan (Wikipedia) The Daughter of Doctor Moreau by Silvia Moreno-Garcia When Women Were Dragons by Kelly Barnhill Jam How Far the Light Reaches: A Life in Ten Sea Creatures by Sabrina Imbler Trust Kids!: Stories on Youth Autonomy and Confronting Adult Supremacy edited by carla joy bergman Legends and Lattes by Travis Baldree Anna Friday Black by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah The Best Simpsons Intro Is About Losing Everything You Love (Jacob Geller video in which he recommended this book in the outro.) A Mind Spread Out on the Ground by Alicia Elliott Matthew Entangled Life: How Fungi Make Our Worlds, Change Our Minds & Shape Our Futures by Merlin Sheldrake The New Teen Titans, vol. 1 by Marv Wolfman, George Pérez, and Romeo Tanghal Podcast Episodes Episode 178 - Aliens, Extraterrestrials, and UFOs (listen to the end of this episode!) Episode 058 - The Girl Who Circumnavigated Fairyland in a Ship of Her Own Making Episode 079 - Which Book Should We Read? Episode 083 - The Fifth Season Episode 103 - Battle of the Books 2020 Episode 107 - Pet by Akwaeke Emezi Episode 130 - Battle of the Books 2021 Episode 134 - Piranesi by Susanna Clarke Episode 154 - Book pitches Episode 159 - Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose by Leigh Cowart Links, Articles, Books, and Things The Coode Street Podcast Episode 576: Nicola Griffith and Spear French Makes No Sense: Pronouns by Loic Suberville Gender Reveal: Episode 136 with Sabrina Imbler River of Teeth by Sarah Gailey Cursed Princess Club, vol. 1 by LambCat Read on Webtoon Jacob Geller - Who's Afraid of Modern Art: Vandalism, Video Games, and Fascism Shady Characters: The Secret Life of Punctuation, Symbols & Other Typographical Marks by Keith Houston Teen Titans Go! (Wikipedia) 15 Comedic Science Fiction & Fantasy by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) Authors Every month Book Club for Masochists: A Readers' Advisory Podcasts chooses a genre at random and we read and discuss books from that genre. We also put together book lists for each episode/genre that feature works by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) authors - to help readers to diversify their reading and library professionals to diversify their readers' advisory. All of the lists can be found here. Undead Girl Gang by Lily Anderson One for the Morning Glory by John Barnes Waypoint Kangaroo by Curtis C. Chen The Law of Love by Laura Esquivel The Coyote Kings of the Space-Age Bachelor Pad by Minister Faust From the Notebooks of Dr. Brain by Minister Faust Tears of the Trufflepig by Fernando A. Flores The Regional Office is Under Attack! by Manuel Gonzales Severance by Ling Ma Popisho by Leone Ross Motorcycles & Sweetgrass by Drew Hayden Taylor Chilling Effect by Valerie Valdes Bang Bang Bodhisattva by Aubrey Wood Super Extra Grande by Yoss How to Live Safely in a Science Fictional Universe by Charles Yu Give us feedback! Fill out the form to ask for a recommendation or suggest a genre or title for us to read! Vote for which book we should read! Check out our Tumblr, follow us on Instagram, join our Facebook Group, or send us an email! Join us again on Tuesday, August 1st we'll be discussing the fiction genre of Pulp! Then on Tuesday, August 15th we'll be talking about books and other media we've recently enjoyed in our Summer 2023 Media Update!
A tour through the literary origins of masochism, as well as some modern mythbusting for the masochistically inclined. Get my full interview with Leigh Cowart, author of Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain On Purpose, here. Join our Deep Dive interview with Luna Matatas all about Diversity in Kink on 4/11 at 5 pacific / 8 eastern. To support the pod and join our thriving ask a sub community of kinky pocket friends, Join Patreon starting at $5/month! Miss the Instagram Friday Q&As? They live on here & are totally free and public. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Subscribe to the subby substack Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad
What is masochism and why do people engage in it? What is the difference between consenting to pain as a means to an end/ byproduct of an activity (e.g., ballerinas and competitive eaters) vs. pain on purpose? What are the benefits and the costs to pain as pleasure? What does masochism have to say about the human experience?In this week's episode, Effy and Jacqueline take a deep dive into pain for pleasure with science reporter, noted masochist and the author of Hurts So Good, Leigh Cowart. Leigh broadens our understanding of masochism by drawing parallels between the experience of people who pursue pain for sexual pleasure and those who endure pain for sense of satisfaction, achievement or self expression, such as competitive eaters, ultramarathon runners and ballet dancers. They normalize our desire for pleasure by offering an open and honest commentary of their own experiences. More about Leigh CowartLeigh Cowart is a researcher and journalist whose work has appeared in the Washington Post, New York Magazine, Popular Science, Buzzfeed News, Wired, and other outlets. Their book, "Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose" has been featured in the New York Times, The New Yorker, NPR, the Wall Street Journal, and The New York Review of Books. Before becoming a journalist, Cowart was immersed in academia, doing research on subjects like sexual dimorphism in leaf-nosed bats, and resource allocation in flowers.Instagram: voraciousbrainTwitter: voraciousbrainTheir book: Hurts So GoodSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comLeave us a voicemail: 646-450-9079 Join the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes
This episode we're talking about Non-Fiction Sports books! We discuss how to define sports, live sports, weird rules, and more! You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, or your favourite podcast delivery system. In this episode Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray | RJ Edwards Things We Read (or tried to…) The Comic Book Story of Basketball: A Fast-Break History of Hops, Hoops, and Alley-OOPS Canadian Heritage Minutes: Basketball (YouTube) (lots more below in “Links, Articles, and Things”) Walking: One Step at a Time by Erling Kagge, translated by Becky L. Crook, narrated by Atli Gunnarsson Revolutions: How Women Changed the World on Two Wheels by Hannah Ross One Game at a Time: Why Sports Matter by Matt Hern Strong Like a Woman: 100 Game-Changing Female Athletes by Laken Litman A Most Beautiful Thing: The True Story of America's First All-Black High School Rowing Team by Arshay Cooper, narrated by Adam Lazarre-White Other Media We Mentioned Football in Sun and Shadow by Eduardo Galeano, translated by Mark Fried Soccer vs. the State: Tackling Football and Radical Politics by Gabriel Kuhn Links, Articles, and Things Which Pokémon are the most goth? (featuring Matthew and Jam) Lumberjack World Championship (Wikipedia) Sports Book Awards Mascot Mischief (Jam's mascot RPG) Pawtucket Red Sox (Wikipedia) It's possible the burlesque wrestling event that Anna and Matthew went to was Glam Slam, which still exists! Heritage Minutes (Wikipedia) Wilder Penfield (YouTube) Sam Steele (YouTube) Halifax Explosion (YouTube) Jackie Shane (YouTube) (most recent one!) The 10 Best Canadian Heritage Minutes of All Time A Part of Our Heritage (YouTube) AK Press (Wikipedia) Green Bay Packers (Wikipedia) List of fan-owned sports teams (Wikipedia) Sex verification in sports (Wikipedia) Testosterone regulations in women's athletics (Wikipedia) Zhang Shan: The only female shooter to win gold in a mixed competition “After the Barcelona Games, the International Shooting Union barred women from shooting against men. For the next years, the skeet event remained on the Olympic Games programme, but only for male athletes.” The Bob Emergency: a study of athletes named Bob, Part I by Jon Bois Barbados intentionally scored an own goal to help them win by two thanks to a weird golden goal rule Weird Rules on Secret Base (YouTube) Twenty20 (Wikipedia) “Twenty20 (T20) is a shortened game format of cricket.” Episode 159 - Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose by Leigh Cowart 15 Sports (Non-Fiction)books by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) Authors Every month Book Club for Masochists: A Readers' Advisory Podcasts chooses a genre at random and we read and discuss books from that genre. We also put together book lists for each episode/genre that feature works by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) authors. All of the lists can be found here. Life in Motion: An Unlikely Ballerina by Misty Copeland Indigenous Feminist Gikendaasowin (Knowledge): Decolonization through Physical Activity by Tricia McGuire-Adams Rebound: Sports, Community, and the Inclusive City by Perry King A Beautiful Work in Progress by Mirna Valerio Basketball (and Other Things): a Collection of Questions Asked, Answered, Illustrated by Shea Serrano Black Gods of the Asphalt: Religion, Hip-hop, and Street Basketball by Onaje X. O. Woodbine Forty Million Dollar Slaves: The Rise, Fall, and Redemption of the Black Athlete by William C. Rhoden In My Skin: My Life on and Off the Basketball Court by Brittney Griner Blood in the Garden: The Flagrant History of the 1990s New York Knicks by Chris Herring A Team of Their Own: How an International Sisterhood Made Olympic History by Seth Berkman Tigerbelle: The Wyomia Tyus Story by Wyomia Tyus, Elizabeth Terzakis Rise of the Black Quarterback: What It Means for America by Jason Reid Courage to Soar: A Body in Motion, a Life in Balance by Simone Biles with Michelle Burford My Olympic Life by Anita L. DeFrantz and Josh Young Back in the Frame: How to get back on your bike, whatever life throws at you by Jools Walker Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable by Tim S. Grover Give us feedback! Fill out the form to ask for a recommendation or suggest a genre or title for us to read! Check out our Tumblr, follow us on Twitter or Instagram, join our Facebook Group, or send us an email! Join us again on Tuesday, January 17th we'll be discussing reading resolutions!! Then on Tuesday, February 7th it'll be our annual Valentine's Day episode and we'll be talking about the genre of Holiday Romance!
This episode we're talking about Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose by Leigh Cowart! We discuss how much science a book needs to be to count as “pop science,” content warnings for books, BDSM, MRIs, and other acronyms! Plus: How many hot sauces we own! You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, or your favourite podcast delivery system. In this episode Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray | Jam Edwards Books We Talked About Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose by Leigh Cowart Other Media We Mentioned Nerve - Adventures in the Science of Fear by Eva Holland Secretary (2002 film) (Wikipedia) Turning by Jessica J. Lee Valley Girl by Moon Unit and Frank Zappa The Body in Pain: The Making and Unmaking of the World by Elaine Scarry Links, Articles, and Things Episode 154 - Battle of the Books 2022 Don't Be Afraid Of The Clowns Mary Roach (Wikipedia) Frank's RedHot (Wikipedia) Gochujang (Wikipedia) South Asian pickle (Wikipedia) Carolina Reaper (Wikipedia) Ultramarathon (Wikipedia) Play piercing (Wikipedia) Polar bear plunge (Wikipedia) Wim Hof (Wikipedia) Camino de Santiago (Wikipedia) Pain scale (Wikipedia) Temperature play (Wikipedia) Ocu-less || CheckPoint 407 K/DA (Wikipedia) More (YouTube) Hate-watching (Wikipedia) Erotic humiliation (Wikipedia) Leather Archives & Museum on Instagram 15 Gardening & Plants Non-fiction Books by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) Authors Every month Book Club for Masochists: A Readers' Advisory Podcasts chooses a genre at random and we read and discuss books from that genre. We also put together book lists for each episode/genre that feature works by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) authors. All of the lists can be found here. The Sakura Obsession: The Incredible Story of the Plant Hunter Who Saved Japan's Cherry Blossoms by Naoko Abe The Good Food Revolution: Growing Healthy Food, People, and Communities by Will Allen Medicines to Help Us: Traditional Metis Plant Use by Christi Belcourt The Color of Food: Stories of Race, Resilience and Farming by Natasha Bowens Wild at Home: How to Style and Care for Beautiful Plants by Hilton Carter Luschiim's Plants: A Hul′q′umi′num′ (Cowichan) Ethnobotany by Luschiim Arvid Charlie The New Plant Parent: Develop Your Green Thumb and Care for Your House-Plant Family by Darryl Cheng The Medicine Wheel Garden: Creating Sacred Space for Healing, Celebration, and Tranquillity by E. Barrie Kavasch Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge, and the Teachings of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer The Home Place: Memoirs of a Colored Man's Love Affair with Nature by J. Drew Lanham Lessons from Plants by Beronda L Montgomery American Grown: The Story of the White House Kitchen Garden and Gardens Across America by Michelle Obama Farming While Black: Soul Fire Farm's Practical Guide to Liberation on the Land by Leah Penniman Grow: A Family Guide to Plants and How to Grow Them by Riz Reyes Freedom Farmers: Agricultural Resistance and the Black Freedom Movement by Monica M. White Give us feedback! Fill out the form to ask for a recommendation or suggest a genre or title for us to read! Check out our Tumblr, follow us on Twitter or Instagram, join our Facebook Group, or send us an email! Join us again on Tuesday, October 4th we'll be talking about the genre of Fictional Biographies/Biographical Fiction! Then on Tuesday, October 18th we'll be talking about the concept of Hate Reads.
This episode we're talking about Audiobook Fiction! We discuss narrators vs casts, sound effects, music, adaptations, footnotes, and more! Plus: How do you picture the hosts in your mind when you listen to us? You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, or your favourite podcast delivery system. In this episode Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray | Jam Edwards Things We Read (or tried to…) Gemina by Amie Kaufman and Jay Kristoff, narrated by a full cast Coasting Trade by Robin McGrath, narrated by Robert Joy, Rick Boland, and Anita Best Things We Lost in the Fire by Mariana Enríquez, translated by Megan McDowell, narrated by Tanya Eby The Sentence by Louise Erdrich Convenience Store Woman by Sayaka Murata, translated by Ginny Tapley Takemori, narrated by Nancy Wu What Are You Going Through by Sigrid Nunez, narrated by Hillary Huber Other Media We Mentioned The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy Tertiary to Hexagonal Phases (Wikipedia) The War of the Worlds (1938 radio drama) (Wikipedia) What We See When We Read by Peter Mendelsund Welcome to Nightvale (podcast) Mostly Void, Partially Stars: Welcome to Night Vale Episodes #1 by Joseph Fink and Jeffrey Cranor 99% Invisible (podcast) The 99% Invisible City: A Field Guide to the Hidden World of Everyday Design by Roman Mars and Kurt Kohlstedt The Anthropocene Reviewed (podcast) The Anthropocene Reviewed by John Green The Princess Bride by William Goldman Control (video game) Control || Talking Simulator Nimona by N.D. Stevenson Nimona by N.D. Stevenson, narrated by Rebecca Soler, Jonathan Davis, and Marc Thompson The Stanley Parable (Wikipedia) (it's not quite as narrated as Matthew and Jam implied) Official website Gadsby (novel) by Ernest Vincent Wright (Wikipedia) “does not include any words that contain the letter E” A Void by Georges Perec (Wikipedia) “entirely without using the letter e” War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy, translated by Richard Pevear and Larissa Volokhonsky Illuminae by Amie Kaufman and Jay Kristoff My Brain is Different: Histoires of ADHD and Other Developmental Disorders by MONNZUSU Project X: Challengers - Seven Eleven by Tadashi Ikuta and Namoi Kimura Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir, narrated by Ray Porter The Sandman (audiobook version) Leave the World Behind by Rumaan Alam, narrated by Marin Ireland House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski Links, Articles, and Things Episode 133 - Flash Fiction Episode 108 - Visual Novels Serre - Kinda bilingual anglos play French-language Visual Novel Episode 027 - Non-Fiction Audiobooks Audie Awards Turns Out Not Everyone Can Picture Things In Their Mind And Sorry, What? Lowly Worm (Wikipedia) Let's Play (Wikipedia) Oulipo (Wikipedia) 24-hour comic Episode 047b - Terrible Stories by Matthew (you have been warned) Episode 142 - Sequels and 2022: The Year of Book Two ISO 8601 (Wikipedia) (date standard) June Is #audiomonth: Narrator Trading Cards Giveaway Two-Fisted Library Stories (Twitter bot) Digital Accessible Information System (Wikipedia) 20 Fiction Audiobooks written & read by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) Authors and Narrators Every month Book Club for Masochists: A Readers' Advisory Podcasts chooses a genre at random and we read and discuss books from that genre. We also put together book lists for each episode/genre that feature works by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) authors. All of the lists can be found here. Counterfeit by Kirstin Chen, narrated by Catherine Ho Firekeeper's Daughter by Angeline Boulley, narrated by Isabella Star LaBlanc The Night Watchman by Louise Erdrich, narrated by the author Brown Girl in the Ring by Nalo Hopkinson, narrated by Peter Jay Fernandez Ninefox Gambit by Yoon Ha Lee, narrated by Emily Woo Zeller The Memory Librarian and Other Stories of Dirty Computer by Janelle Monáe, Yohanca Delgado, Eve L. Ewing, Alaya Dawn Johnson, Danny Lore, Sheree Renée Thomas; narrated by Janelle Monae and Bahni Turpin Nightcrawling by Leila Mottley, narrated by Joniece Abbott-Pratt Convenience Store Woman by Sayaka Murata, translated by Ginny Tapley Takemori, narrated by Nancy Wu Binti by Nnedi Okorafor, narrated by Robin Miles War Girls by Tochi Onyebuchi, narrated by Adepero Oduye The Swimmers by Julie Otsuka, narrated by Traci Kato-Kiriyama The Beadworkers by Beth Piatote narrated by the author, Christian Nagler, Fantasia Painter, Drew Woodson, Phillip Cash Cash and Keevin Hesuse Dating Dr. Dil by Nisha Sharma, narrated by Soneela Nankani, Sunil Malhotra and Vikas Adam An Unkindness of Ghosts by Rivers Solomon, narrated by Cherise Boothe Four Aunties and a Wedding by Jesse Q. Sutanto, narrated by Risa Mei The Strangers by Katherena Vermette, narrated by Michaela Washburn On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong, narrated by the author Zone One by Colson Whitehead, narrated by Beresford Bennett The Seed Keeper by Diane Wilson, narrated by Kyla Garcia Interior Chinatown by Charles Yu, narrated by Joel de la Fuente Give us feedback! Fill out the form to ask for a recommendation or suggest a genre or title for us to read! Check out our Tumblr, follow us on Twitter or Instagram, join our Facebook Group, or send us an email! Join us again on Tuesday, September 20th when we'll be discussing the winner of our “we all read the same book” poll and discussing Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose by Leigh Cowart! Then on Tuesday, October 4th we'll be talking about the genre of Fictional Biographies!
You asked for it, so in this special bonus episode we're talking about Public Domain Superheroes! We discuss the Golden Age of Comics, masked adventurers, copyright, crossovers, and more! Plus: Time Eggs! You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, or your favourite podcast delivery system. In this episode Matthew Murray | Carol Borden Things We Read (or tried to…) Project Superpowers (Wikipedia) by Jim Krueger, Alex Ross, Doug Klauba, Stephen Sadowsk, and Carlos Paul Masks, vol. 1 by Chris Roberson, Alex Ross (Artist), Dennis Calero (Artist) jae lee See all the covers Miss Fury: The Minor Key by Corinna Sara Bechko and Jonathan Lau Swords of Sorrow (Women in Comics Wiki) by Gail Simone and so many others Superheroes and Masked Adventurers (all links are to Wikipedia) Plastic Man Captain Marvel (DC Comics) Captain Marvel (Marvel Comics) The Shadow The Spider Miss Fury Miss Fury and Miss Mills (article by Carol Borden on the Cultural Gutter) Miss Fury Cut Outs Miss Masque/Masquerade Kato Green Hornet Red Sonja Thor (Marvel Comics) Thor in comics - DC Comics Hercules (DC Comics) Hercules (Marvel Comics) Zeus (DC Comics) Zeus (Marvel Comics) Beowulf (DC Comics) Beowulf (Earth-616) (Marvel Fandom Wiki) Bucky Barnes Black Terror (and Tim!) Daredevil (Lev Gleason Publications) (The Death Defying 'Devil) Jonah Hex The Invaders All-Star Squadron The Twelve Airboy Fighting Yank Dynamic Man Ghost (Public Domain Super Heroes Wiki) Cat-Man and Kitten Irene Adler Dejah Thoris Green Lama Zorro Black Bat Purgatori Chastity Lady Zorro (ComicVine) Vampirella Jane Porter/ Lady Greystoke Pantha (ComicVine) Eva, Daughter of Dracula (ComicVine) Other Media We Mentioned Wide Sargasso Sea by Jean Rhys Winnie-the-Pooh by A. A. Milne and E. H. Shepard (Wikipedia) Night of the Living Dead (Wikipedia) Superman (1940s animated film series) (Wikipedia) The Great Comic Book Heroes by Jules Feiffer The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay by Michael Chabon Spicy Library Stories Sherlock Holmes & Kolchak the Night Stalker: Cry of Thunder by Joe Gentile, Andy Bennett, and Carlos Magno The Incredible Hercules (Wikipedia) Aliens vs. Predator (comics) (Wikipedia) Freddy vs. Jason (Wikipedia) X-Men 2099 (Wikipedia) Justice League Unlimited (Wikipedia) Justice League Action - Jonah Hex's Space Rodeo! (YouTube) Archie vs. Predator (Wikipedia) FemForce (Wikipedia) Tom Strong (Wikipedia) Public domain characters show up staring in issue #11, there's also some Terra Obscura miniseries that focus on these characters. Savage Dragon (Wikipedia) Next Issue Project (Wikipedia) Miss Fury: Sensational Sundays by Tarpe Mills Call of Cthulhu (role-playing game) (Wikipedia) Achtung! Cthulhu (Role-Playing Game) (H.P. Lovecraft Wiki) Links, Articles, and Things The Cultural Gutter Monstrous Industry Fox Spirit Books Episode 155 - Literary Fan Fiction Public Domain (Wikipedia) Public Domain Day 2022 Public Domain Comic Books (TVTropes) Public Domain Super Heroes Wiki Creative Commons (Wikipedia) 5 Great Public Domain Superheroes (& 5 Worst) Superman (ice cream flavor) (Wikipedia) National Comics Publications, Inc. v. Fawcett Publications, Inc. Golden Age of Comic Books Canadian Whites (Wikipedia) (Canadian WWII-era comics) The Canadian Captain Marvel Comics #10 Fox Feature Syndicate (Wikipedia) Crestwood Publications (Wikipedia) Standard Comics (Wikipedia (Nedor Publishing) Quality Comics (Wikipedia) Fawcett Comics (Wikipedia) Charlton Comics (Wikipedia) WildStorm (Wikipedia) The 10 Best Crossovers in Archie Comics From KISS to 'The Addams Family': The Best 'Scooby-Doo!' Crossovers You Just Have to See 12 Strangest Scooby-Doo Crossovers, Ranked Eclipse Comics (Wikipedia) America's Best Comics (Wikipedia) Dynamite Entertainment (Wikipedia) Alex Ross (Wikipedia) Afraid Of Cock The printed cover to Justice Society of America #7 ‘Zorro' Licensor, in Role Reversal, Faces Trial for Copyright Infringement Black Legion (political movement) (Wikipedia) Chaos! Comics (Wikipedia) Give us feedback! Fill out the form to ask for a recommendation or suggest a genre or title for us to read! Check out our Tumblr, follow us on Twitter or Instagram, join our Facebook Group, or send us an email! Join us again on Tuesday, September 6th we'll be discussing the format of Audio Book Fiction! (This episode will probably become “What is a book? Part 2” Then on Tuesday, September 20th we'll be discussing the winner of our “we all read the same book” poll and discussing Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose by Leigh Cowart!
This week it's time for our Summer 2022 Media Update episode as we talk about media we've recently enjoyed including video games, comics, books, podcasts, and interior decorating! Plus: Obsolete customary measuring units! You can download the podcast directly, find it on Libsyn, or get it through Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, or your favourite podcast delivery system. In this episode Anna Ferri | Meghan Whyte | Matthew Murray | Jam Edwards Media We've Been Enjoying Matthew Monthly Girls' Nozaki-kun by Izumi Tsubaki, translated by Leighann Harvey The anime no longer on Netflix, but can be found on Hidive Beetle & the Hollowbones by Aliza Layne Meghan Graphic Novels Snapdragon by Kat Leyh Memento Mori by Tiitu Takalo Are You Listening? by Tillie Walden Murder The Chestnut Man by Søren Sveistrup, translated by Caroline Waigh I'll Be Gone in the Dark: One Woman's Obsessive Search for the Golden State Killer by Michelle McNamara Episode 080 - True Crime Interior decorating The Perfectly Imperfect Home: How to Decorate & Live Well by Deborah Needleman with Virginia Johnson (Illustrator) Jam Indie games Wytchwood from Whitethorn Games Garden Story from Rose City Games Miracle Merchant from Tinytouchtales Gender Reveal (podcast) Gender Reveal Starter Packs Anna Crashlands from Butterscotch Shenanigans Tasting History with Max Miller Four Lost Cities: A Secret History of the Urban Age by Annalee Newitz Other Media We Mentioned Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose by Leigh Cowart Thirsty Mermaids by Kat Leyh Clementine, Book One by Tillie Walden Just Plain Wrong - Zombies, Sharkfarmers, and Beavis & Butthead: Discussing Comics and Graphic Novels with Amish Characters Overwatch (Wikipedia) The Quest for the Rest by Amanita Design The other point-and-click games Jam was thinking of were the Samorost games, also by Amanita Design! Stardew Valley (Wikipedia) Animal Crossing: New Horizons (Wikipedia) The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild (Wikipedia) Steven Universe (Wikipedia) Napkin by Carta Monir Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe Grease Bats by Archie Bongiovanni Mimosa by Archie Bongiovanni Links, Articles, and Things Bifauxnen (TV Tropes) (princely girls) Sailor Uranus (Wikipedia) Yonkoma (Wikipedia) - “four cell manga” Peter Piper (Wikipedia) Peck (Wikipedia) 18 Legal Thrillers by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) Authors Every month Book Club for Masochists: A Readers' Advisory Podcasts chooses a genre at random and we read and discuss books from that genre. We also put together book lists for each episode/genre that feature works by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) authors. All of the lists can be found here. While Justice Sleeps by Stacey Abrams The Emperor of Ocean Park by Stephen L. Carter A Spy in the Struggle by Aya de León Hanging Devils by He Jiahong They Can't Take Your Name by Robert Justice The Unquiet Dead by Ausma Zehanat Khan Miracle Creek by Angie Kim Pleasantville by Attica Locke You Don't Know Me by Imran Mahmood Most Wanted by Michele Martinez All Her Little Secrets by Wanda M. Morris The Widows of Malabar Hill by Sujata Massey The Little Death by Michael Nava With Prejudice by Robin Peguero Every Reasonable Doubt by Pamela Samuels Young Blood on the Leaves by Jeff Stetson Winter Counts by David Heska Wanbli Weiden The Indian Lawyer by James Welch Give us feedback! Fill out the form to ask for a recommendation or suggest a genre or title for us to read! Check out our Tumblr, follow us on Twitter or Instagram, join our Facebook Group, or send us an email! Join us again on Tuesday, September 6th we'll be discussing the format of Audio Book Fiction! (This episode will probably become “What is a book? Part 2” Then on Tuesday, September 20th we'll be discussing the winner of our “we all read the same book” poll and discussing Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose by Leigh Cowart!
A masochist is someone who derives pleasure from the experience of pain. While we often think of masochism as being a purely sexual thing, it's actually a pervasive part of everyday life. From the long-distance marathon runner to the person who covers their entire body in tattoos to the person who douses all of their food in hot sauce, there are countless examples of people intentionally inflicting pain on themselves—and getting some pleasure out of it at the same time. So why is that? We're going to do a deep dive into the psychology of masochism today. I am joined today by Leigh Cowart, a researcher and journalist whose work has appeared in The Washington Post, New York Magazine, Popular Science, and more. Leigh's latest book is titled Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include: Why do so many of us choose to suffer? Are we all masochists to some degree? Why do humans experience pain anyway? What is the adaptive value of it? Why is pain sometimes sexually arousing? How can pain enhance sex? Why do some people seek out more intense pain than others? Where does all of the shame and stigma around masochism (particularly sexual masochism) come from? When can pain-seeking behavior be healthy, and when can it become a problem? To learn more about Leigh, follow her on the socials @voraciousbrain and be sure to get a copy of her book Hurts So Good Thanks to FirmTech (myfirmtech.com) and the Kinsey Institute (kinseyinstitute.org) for sponsoring this episode! FirmTech's Performance Ring is designed to boost your sexual stamina and give you harder, longer-lasting erections, while also enhancing pleasure. Their Tech Ring has the added benefit of tracking your erectile health. Visit myfirmtech.com and be sure to use my exclusive discount code Justin20 to save 20% off your purchase. The Kinsey Institute's (kinseyinstitute.org) 75th anniversary is underway and you are invited to join in the celebration! Follow @kinseyinstitute on social media to learn more about upcoming events. Also, please consider a gift or donation to the Institute to support sex research and education. Click here to donate. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Chris Sowa (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.
What is masochism and why can pain feel so good? How do you differentiate between safe indulgences and pain versus self-harm? How can you begin to explore masochism for your own pleasure? How do you ensure consent while playing with pain and pleasure? Researcher and journalist, Leigh Cowart, joins Jess & Brandon to discuss the interface of revulsion and arousal. Their latest book, "Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose" is about all the ways humans consent to feeling bad, to feel better. And be sure to follow Leigh Cowart on Twitter at @voraciousbrain. Don't forget that we're offering 25% off our Mind-Blowing oral courses at HappierCouples.com with code PODCAST. Learn tips, strategies and techniques to ignite the spark & blow your lover's mind with these 5-part video workshops for the clitoris and the penis. If you have questions, please send them our way, right here. We love hearing from you. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Masochism and The Pleasure of Pain Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. I'm Your cohost, Brad Brandon Ware. And today we are going to be talking pleasure and pain and why pain can be so hot and how to explore pain consensually for maximum pleasure and excitement. I like that. And we have some industry news before we dive into pleasure and pain. And I want to shout out a company who isn't a sponsor, but I'm just really excited for them. This is Laurels, and this is a brand who just had their underwear approved by the FDA for safer oral sex. And I always get questions about oral sex and protection and going to play parties or swing clubs. And of course, you can use condoms on a penis, you can use dental dams on a vulva or a butt. But this is really a game changer because Laurels makes these kind of really sexy, ultra thin, latex undies that are they're silky to the touch and they're stretchy. And honestly, they're adorable. And you use them one time for oral play and FDA approval for I think a product like this is obviously so important, but also a bit revolutionary because everything has been so focused on just one type of kind of penetrative sex, especially in sex education and safer sex. Of course, those of us working in the field have moved beyond that. But now the FDA is finally jumping on board. And oral sex is really one of the most direct routes to pleasure and orgasm for those of us with Vulvas. So this is really cool. And you can use it, of course, on a Volvo or a butt. And yeah, when you have oral sex, of course, there is risk. There is a risk of STIs. And I think people are now more aware of the link between oral sex and STIs and STIs, like HSB and the potential for throat cancer. And of course, I'm not here to scare people off. Like, when you have sex, there's going to be risk. Just like when you get into a car, there's always risk. But if you can reduce your risk, sex is just going to be so much more relaxed and pleasurable and hot. And I have to say, I really a lot of us like the sensation of touch and oral through a really thin barrier, like, you know, how it can feel so good to be touched through the clothes as opposed to just straight on the skin. Do they make them in larger sizes for people like me who want to wear a pair? They do. They do. They come in multiple sizes. So, yeah, big. Congrats to Laurels on the FDA approval. Very cool for folks who are wondering, Laurels is get Laurels on IG LORALS.
What is masochism and why can pain feel so good? How do you differentiate between safe indulgences and pain versus self-harm? How can you begin to explore masochism for your own pleasure? How do you ensure consent while playing with pain and pleasure? Researcher and journalist, Leigh Cowart, joins Jess & Brandon to discuss the interface of revulsion and arousal. Their latest book, "Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose" is about all the ways humans consent to feeling bad, to feel better. And be sure to follow Leigh Cowart on Twitter at @voraciousbrain. Don't forget that we're offering 25% off our Mind-Blowing oral courses at HappierCouples.com with code PODCAST. Learn tips, strategies and techniques to ignite the spark & blow your lover's mind with these 5-part video workshops for the clitoris and the penis. If you have questions, please send them our way, right here. We love hearing from you. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Masochism and The Pleasure of Pain Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. I'm Your cohost, Brad Brandon Ware. And today we are going to be talking pleasure and pain and why pain can be so hot and how to explore pain consensually for maximum pleasure and excitement. I like that. And we have some industry news before we dive into pleasure and pain. And I want to shout out a company who isn't a sponsor, but I'm just really excited for them. This is Laurels, and this is a brand who just had their underwear approved by the FDA for safer oral sex. And I always get questions about oral sex and protection and going to play parties or swing clubs. And of course, you can use condoms on a penis, you can use dental dams on a vulva or a butt. But this is really a game changer because Laurels makes these kind of really sexy, ultra thin, latex undies that are they're silky to the touch and they're stretchy. And honestly, they're adorable. And you use them one time for oral play and FDA approval for I think a product like this is obviously so important, but also a bit revolutionary because everything has been so focused on just one type of kind of penetrative sex, especially in sex education and safer sex. Of course, those of us working in the field have moved beyond that. But now the FDA is finally jumping on board. And oral sex is really one of the most direct routes to pleasure and orgasm for those of us with Vulvas. So this is really cool. And you can use it, of course, on a Volvo or a butt. And yeah, when you have oral sex, of course, there is risk. There is a risk of STIs. And I think people are now more aware of the link between oral sex and STIs and STIs, like HSB and the potential for throat cancer. And of course, I'm not here to scare people off. Like, when you have sex, there's going to be risk. Just like when you get into a car, there's always risk. But if you can reduce your risk, sex is just going to be so much more relaxed and pleasurable and hot. And I have to say, I really a lot of us like the sensation of touch and oral through a really thin barrier, like, you know, how it can feel so good to be touched through the clothes as opposed to just straight on the skin. Do they make them in larger sizes for people like me who want to wear a pair? They do. They do. They come in multiple sizes. So, yeah, big. Congrats to Laurels on the FDA approval. Very cool for folks who are wondering, Laurels is get Laurels on IG LORALS.
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Physical pain is a common feature of BDSM. Many seek out pain through impact, knives, needles and more. But the question of why looms over masochists. Why would someone seek out pain? Why do they enjoy pain? Why does it turn them on? We were very fortunate to talk with Leigh Cowart, author of "Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose, to find out the answers to these questions and many more. We discuss emotional masochism, physical masochism and when is it too much. It is a fascinating conversation with lots of information for anyone who identifies as a masochist and those who wonder about them. Hurts So Good is available at Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Hurts-So-Good-Science-Culture/dp/154179804X/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1644456381&sr=8-1 Follow Leigh on Instagram, Twitter and TikTok @voraciousbrain Visit us at pinkkinkpodcast.com Affiliates - SireDonLeather.com (use code PINKKINK to save 10% on your order) Leatheretc.com (use code PINKKINK to save 10% on your order and free shipping on orders over $50) BDSMandPolyOutlet (use code PINK to save 10% on your order) Check us out on Instagram, Twitter and FetLife at pinkkinkpodcast Check us out on Tik Tok at thepinkkinkpodcast Join our Facebook group - Pink Kink Podcast Help support us at Patreon.com/Pinkkinkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/pinkkink/message
From marathon runners, to chilli lovers and kinksters, we all have things that bring us joy and pain simultaneously. Why and how does it happen? Join us to find out. Expert guest: Leigh Cowart is a researcher, science communicator and author. Their work has appeared in New York Magazine's The Cut, the Washington Post, Buzzfeed News, Hazlitt, The Verge, Deadspin, MIT Technology Review, and The Daily Beast, among others. Leigh's first book 'Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose' is the subject of today's episode and is a beautifully in-depth, personal and deeply scientific look into masochism. You can (and should) learn more about the book here. And follow them on Twitter. Comedy guest:Vix Leyton is a hilariously natural storyteller. It's easy to see why she's one of comedy's rising stars. In 2021 Vix was a Funny Women awards semi finalist, her panel show podcast 'The Comedy Arcade' was nominated for best podcast at Leicester Comedy Festival and had a sell out run at Edinburgh Fringe. You can follow Vix on Twitter or Instagram to learn more.
Pleasure from pain might be something we initially associate with sex but it is actually a part of all of our lives. We see it the world over, not just in BDSM halls but in religious fasters, ultra marathoners, and hot chili addicts who revel in the burning sensation it provides. But is this desire in all of us, or is it consigned to a select few? And why is it there at all? Leigh Cowart, science journalist and author of ‘Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose' joined Jonathan to discuss. Listen and subscribe to Futureproof with Jonathan McCrea on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Download, listen and subscribe on the Newstalk App. You can also listen to Newstalk live on newstalk.com or on Alexa, by adding the Newstalk skill and asking: 'Alexa, play Newstalk'.
“You're call is very important to us…” Don't you just hate hearing that? Having to call customer service can be a long and frustrating experience. So, this episode begins by discussing how to make that experience a little bit smoother. https://www.realsimple.com/work-life/life-strategies/customer-service-tips If you didn't experience pain, would you appreciate pleasure as much? Do humans actually want and need pain? It's a fascinating topic that Leigh Cowart has explored. She has put herself through several painful experiences on purpose, from being a ballerina to eating the world's hottest chili pepper. She joins me to discuss her research on the topic of pain and explain why some of us actually seek out pain and why we all likely need some pain in our lives. Leigh is a journalist and author of the book, , Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose (https://amzn.to/3lHYF0F) Do women apologize more than men? Why should that be? Listen as I reveal some interesting findings on why men and women tend to apologize differently. https://web.stanford.edu/~omidf/KarinaSchumann/KarinaSchumann_Home/Publications_files/Schumann.PsychScience.2010.pdf Humans can be selfish but we also have to cooperate with each other because we can't do everything ourselves. How humans cooperate turns out to be very rather complicated because while we can be very cooperative we also compete. We can be very compassionate and giving to some people but not others. Evolutionary biologist Nichola Raihani has examined how our ability and desire to cooperate with each other (or not) has helped steer the development of civilization. Listen to what she has to say on the topic. Nichola is a professor of evolution and behavior at University College in London and author of the book Social Instinct: How Cooperation Shaped the World (https://amzn.to/2XwTKr8). PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really enjoy The Jordan Harbinger Show and we think you will as well! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for The Jordan Harbinger Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts. You can grow thicker, healthier hair AND get $15 off at https://nutrafol.com Promo code: SOMETHING Get 10% off on the purchase of Magnesium Breakthrough from BiOptimizers by visiting https://magbreakthrough.com/something Go to https://Backcountry.com/SYSK and enter promo code SYSK to get 15% OFF your first full-priced purchase. Listen to Build For Tomorrow with Jason Feifer, our favorite new podcast, right here! https://apple.co/3rPM8La or visit https://www.jasonfeifer.com/build-for-tomorrow/ T-Mobile for Business the leader in 5G, #1 in customer satisfaction, and a partner who includes benefits like 5G in every plan. Visit https://T-Mobile.com/business Omaha Steaks is the best! Get awesome pricing at https://OmahaSteaks.com/BMT For more information on fire safety products, safety tips and educational activities you can do at home with your family visit https://firstalert.com/firepreventionmonth Discover matches all the cash back you earn on your credit card at the end of your first year automatically and is accepted at 99% of places in the U.S. that take credit cards! Learn more at https://discover.com/yes Visit https://www.remymartin.com/en-us/ to learn more about their exceptional spirits! Never try to beat a train across the tracks. Stop. Trains can't. Paid for by NHTSA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It's the sight that strikes fear in everyone's hearts: WHITE DREADS. One of his lovers has them, and just doesn't wanna cut them off. His other partners are offended. Should he keep seeing this woman? Is she oblivious to the connotations, or a bit of a troll? A gay man's boyfriend is a very kinky lad. He loves to be denigrated and roughly used. But the tender-hearted caller loves him so much that he feels uncomfortable treating him that way. On both the Micro and the Magnum, Dan chats with Leigh Cowart about their book Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose. They talk about how the pleasure derived from pain is as old as the hills, isn't always sexual and is often unfairly misunderstood. If you just don't understand what all this S&M business is about, this is the show for you. And, a couple are "butting" heads over toilet paper. When he gets a prostate massage, he wants the softest toilet paper, like the kind he has at his house. She stocks her home with eco-friendly bamboo-based toilet paper that he finds too rough. Listen in as fearless Dan Savage wades in to this seemingly intractable problem. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com and use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to OMGYES.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.
It's the sight that strikes fear in everyone's hearts: WHITE DREADS. One of his lovers has them, and just doesn't wanna cut them off. His other partners are offended. Should he keep seeing this woman? Is she oblivious to the connotations, or a bit of a troll? A gay man's boyfriend is a very kinky lad. He loves to be denigrated and roughly used. But the tender-hearted caller loves him so much that he feels uncomfortable treating him that way. On both the Micro and the Magnum, Dan chats with Leigh Cowart about their book Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose. They talk about how the pleasure derived from pain is as old as the hills, isn't always sexual and is often unfairly misunderstood. If you just don't understand what all this S&M business is about, this is the show for you. And, a couple are "butting" heads over toilet paper. When he gets a prostate massage, he wants the softest toilet paper, like the kind he has at his house. She stocks her home with eco-friendly bamboo-based toilet paper that he finds too rough. Listen in as fearless Dan Savage wades in to this seemingly intractable problem. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com and use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to OMGYES.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.
It's the sight that strikes fear in everyone's hearts: WHITE DREADS. One of his lovers has them, and just doesn't wanna cut them off. His other partners are offended. Should he keep seeing this woman? Is she oblivious to the connotations, or a bit of a troll? A gay man's boyfriend is a very kinky lad. He loves to be denigrated and roughly used. But the tender-hearted caller loves him so much that he feels uncomfortable treating him that way. On both the Micro and the Magnum, Dan chats with Leigh Cowart about their book Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose. They talk about how the pleasure derived from pain is as old as the hills, isn't always sexual and is often unfairly misunderstood. If you just don't understand what all this S&M business is about, this is the show for you. And, a couple are "butting" heads over toilet paper. When he gets a prostate massage, he wants the softest toilet paper, like the kind he has at his house. She stocks her home with eco-friendly bamboo-based toilet paper that he finds too rough. Listen in as fearless Dan Savage wades in to this seemingly intractable problem. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer code Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.
Welcome to episode 345 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Leigh Cowart. In this episode, we discuss the fascinating world of temperature play and its role in enhancing sensation and pleasure during erotic encounters. Temperature play involves using heat and cold as sensory and emotional intensifiers, ranging from ice cubes, hot wax, fire play, to getting in and out of a hot tub or experiencing cold rain. Leigh Cowart is a researcher and journalist with more than ten years of experience. They have been writing for Popular Science since 2021. They cover bodies, brains, and what science can teach us about our inner lives. Cowart's work has appeared in The Washington Post, New York Magazine, Buzzfeed News, Hazlitt, Wired, and other outlets. Their book, Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose, has been featured in The New York Times, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, and others. Before becoming a journalist, Cowart was immersed academia, doing research on subjects like sexual dimorphism in leaf-nosed bats and resource allocation in flowers. Currently, their principal area of interest involves the intersection of inner life and the practical existence of being a body. Cowart's recent book is an exploration of all the ways humans engage in pain on purpose, why we do it, and what we get out of it. According to The Wall Street Journal, “[t]here's possibly no one alive more qualified to write about pain than Leigh Cowart.” In this episode, you will hear: How temperature play involves using heat and cold as a sensory intensifier It can include using ice cubes, hot wax, fire play Entry-level practices for temperature play Why safety and trust with a partner are important for exploring temperature play Looking at various products and materials can be used for temperature play Why communication and consent are crucial in temperature play How Ice play, in particular, can be intense and erotic Why education is essential for safe and enjoyable temperature play Looking at Leigh's book "Hurt So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose" Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list Listeners Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy