Getting unSTUCK

In this special return episode, I share why I took a 3-month pause from the podcast—after nearly 8 years of showing up weekly—and what that deliberate break revealed. We explore the power of stopping as the first essential step toward real change, and why most of us skip it without realizing. I open up about how this pause helped me gain clarity, make meaningful updates to my work, and align more deeply with how I want to serve you. Tune in to hear what's new, what's coming, and why learning to pause might be the most powerful thing you can do for yourself. www.shiragura.com

I've been "stuck" wondering what to do to celebrate the 400th episode of this podcast. I'm glad I got unstuck. Enjoy.

In this week's episode, hear an inspiring story from one of my students about the power of pausing—and how it can create real change. Plus, I have an exciting update! I'll be taking a short break from the podcast for a few weeks, but something special is coming your way. Make sure you're on my newsletter so you don't miss the invite! www.shiragura.com

Ever notice how you react differently to the same behavior depending on who's doing it? Through a simple morning wake-up call, I discovered why I was ready to blame my husband for something my kid did—and what that reveals about our triggers. Learn how to pause before reacting and transform your response patterns, especially with those closest to you. A powerful episode about self-awareness, relationships, and breaking free from automatic reactions. www.shiragura.com

In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful story from a student who lost a significant amount of money in a scam. The guilt consumed her, but during a live coaching session, something shifted. Through The unSTUCK Method® and the power of pausing, she found self-forgiveness and a sense of peace. Tune in to hear her inspiring journey—and how you, too, can release guilt and move forward. www.shiragura.com

This month on the You Can Handle Anything podcast, we're diving into the emotion of guilt—where it shows up, how it impacts us, and how to get unstuck from it. In this week's episode, I share two personal stories where guilt showed up in different ways: one self-imposed and the other triggered by someone else's comment. You'll hear how I used The unS.T.U.C.K. Method® to shift my perspective and move forward with clarity and confidence. Tune in to explore how guilt doesn't have to control your life and discover practical takeaways to live with more ease. www.shiragura.com

Have you ever reacted in the heat of the moment, only to be left with a mix of resentment and guilt afterward, unsure of how to move forward? In this week's episode, hear how my student, Lena, faced a similar situation and found a way to turn it around. Her story is a powerful reminder that change is possible, even in those tough emotional moments. Tune in for inspiration and practical insights! www.shiragura.com

This week's episode kicks off 2025 with a timely discussion about letting go of guilt. After taking a short break from the podcast in December, I share my personal experience with guilt and reflect on how it can weigh us down when we let it linger. Guilt isn't about what happened but what we think about what happened, and shifting our perspective can help us release it. Tune in to explore how to approach guilt with kindness and set the tone for a lighter, more intentional year ahead. www.shiragura.com

How comfortable are you with silence in your conversations? In this episode, discover two fascinating stories about the power of silence—one from a mother navigating phone conversations with her adult daughter, and another from a professional handling a challenging work conversation. Learn why silence often makes us uncomfortable and how learning to sit with it can transform your life and relationships. Click here to join my free workshop on letting go of stuck emotions.

Have you ever avoided an event because you knew THAT person would be there—someone you had a falling out with, someone who rejected you? In this episode, hear how one of my newest students faced her fears of attending an event where she might encounter someone who had completely cut her off. Discover what happened when she chose to go anyway, armed with new tools and perspectives, and learn the surprising insight she gained about assuming what others think. This powerful story demonstrates how transformational moments can happen when we're willing to face our uncomfortable feelings head-on. Join our supportive community to learn how to navigate your own challenging relationships with confidence. Click here to get started: www.shiragura.com

Have you ever worried about what others might think of you? Whether it's showing up underdressed to an event, making an unconventional choice, or standing out in a crowd—these moments can feel incredibly uncomfortable. In this week's episode, tune in to hear how one of my students navigated an awkward moment like that and discover what's possible when you choose growth over comfort. Plus, I'm sharing some exciting changes coming to the podcast as we approach episode #400! Tune in now. Click here to join our supportive community to share your own journey and get personal guidance on handling life's uncomfortable moments.

Are you feeling anxious about tomorrow's election and how it might impact your relationships with family and friends who view things differently? In this timely episode, I share insights on preparing yourself emotionally for the election results—whatever they may be. Learn how to stay true to yourself while maintaining important relationships, and discover the powerful question most people forget to ask themselves during challenging times. Plus, find out how our community can support you through any post-election difficulties you might face. www.shiragura.com

Ever catch yourself overthinking what others might think of your choices? In this episode, I open up about my own struggles with external validation, from skipping my first podcast episode in 5 years to making authentic decisions while writing my book "Getting unSTUCK." I'll explore why we often give too much weight to others' opinions and how it can hold us back from living our most authentic lives. Plus, I'll share practical strategies to help you trust your own judgment and make decisions that truly align with your values. Join me for this honest conversation about breaking free from the approval-seeking cycle – because you deserve to live life on your own terms. Ready to dig deeper? Come work through these challenges with me in our live weekly coaching calls inside The unSTUCK Method program!  www.shiragura.com

Do you ever get frustrated when things don't go as planned, especially when you're hoping for something simple, like having a meal together with your family? I recently had one of those moments. After fasting for Yom Kippur, I had this picture-perfect idea of breaking the fast with my family around the dinner table. But as I walked home from prayer services, I started to fume, convinced that they'd already started eating without me. Instead of letting the frustration boil over, I used a tool I created called The CLEAR Way, which helped me prepare for whatever I might walk into. And I'm so glad I did, because when I got home, my boys were sitting at the kitchen island, already eating!

Do you ever get annoyed by those little things people do that just grate on your nerves?

I wanted to share something unexpected that happened just a few hours ago while recording this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. The theme of today's episode was drama, and life certainly delivered. As I was recording, Iran began launching ballistic missiles at Israel, triggering sirens that sent us rushing to our safe rooms. In the rush, I dropped the mic but forgot to pause the recording. When it was safe to return, I discovered the recording was still running. I've decided to keep this part in the episode to keep things authentic and real. Please be aware that you'll hear this interruption around minute 7 or 8 of the episode. I share this not only to prepare you but to reflect on how crucial it is for us to manage our responses, especially in unexpected and challenging times. Wishing us all peace and safety, and the strength to get unstuck, even in the toughest moments. Love, Shira P.S. Imagine how much better our world could be if everyone knew how to use the tools to handle anything life throws our way. www.shiragura.com

Ever wished you could hit a "reset" button on a conversation gone wrong?

This week on the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, we're exploring the transformative power of self-reflection. I've been emphasizing how taking a moment to pause and consider our actions and thoughts can significantly impact our personal growth and awareness.

Ever find yourself on the brink of a kitchen squabble over something as simple as boiling eggs? That happened to me recently, and it turned into an unexpected lesson in managing frustrations and choosing my battles. In the midst of me boiling some eggs, my husband came in out of nowhere and decided to switch pots to save energy—a small action that unexpectedly sparked a big internal reaction from me. I'm curious - would this have annoyed you? How do you think you would have reacted? Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to hear how I handle this very irritating situation with the help of The unSTUCK Method. www.shiragura.com

This week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast will be different. After the heart-wrenching news of the execution of six hostages in Israel, including Hersh Goldberg-Polin, a friend of friends, I found myself deeply affected. In light of this, I invite you to join me in taking a moment to pause—a stop that feels necessary right now, not just for me but perhaps for many of us.

In this episode, I talk about living from possibility. Living from possibility means envisioning a better reality and actively shaping interactions to be more positive. It's about seeing past the cycle of negative experiences and using proactive communication to transform relationships. Embracing this approach can lead to more fulfilling connections, helping you move from conflict to harmony with confidence and ease. www.shiragura.com

In this podcast episode, I explore the common yet often unspoken issue of shame that many people feel when confronting negative emotions, getting emotionally stuck, or facing relationship problems. It's incredibly normal to feel embarrassed about needing tools to manage one's emotional health, but this shame is truly unnecessary. Once individuals join a supportive community, they quickly realize that everyone faces similar challenges, and there is great power and relief in shared experiences. By acknowledging and accepting these feelings openly, members can move past shame and work towards genuine improvement and empowerment together. This collective journey highlights the universality of emotional struggles and the benefits of facing them head-on. Learn more: www.shiragura.com

Have you ever signed up for a gym membership full of enthusiasm, only to see it go unused? That's exactly what sometimes happens when it comes to using The unSTUCK Method. We know it's there, we know it can help us, we know it's within our reach and yet, we sometimes forget to use it. In this week's "You Can Handle Anything!" podcast, I explain why embracing The unSTUCK Method in your daily life is essential for making real changes in how you respond to life's emotional challenges. It's not just about knowing the steps, it's about actually applying them to your life. Every emotional situation is unique, and using the method consistently helps you navigate these effectively. This is a short episode in a 5-week series I created this month that came out of a recent conversation I had with a woman named Lisa. www.shiragura.com

In this podcast episode, I discuss the significant role of language in managing emotions and enhancing well-being. The term "stuck" is pivotal in my approach; recognizing when you're "stuck" on an emotion is crucial because it signals that there's a method to help you move forward. I encourage rephrasing emotional states, such as changing "I'm angry" to "I'm stuck on anger," to remind ourselves that emotions are temporary states we can navigate through. The ability to articulate feelings accurately not only helps in identifying emotions but also in adopting new perspectives to shift them. This mastery of language and its application in everyday life, as shared through personal and family experiences, underscores how powerful and transformative clear communication can be in resolving emotional challenges. www.shiragura.com

This podcast focuses on the importance of taking personal responsibility, especially when feeling emotionally stuck. Often, the instinct is to blame others for our feelings, but this approach means we're not fully owning our part. Taking personal responsibility involves acknowledging, owning, and processing our own thoughts and emotions. By doing so, we reduce blame and better understand the true sources of our suffering, rather than projecting responsibility onto others. If more people embraced this mindset, it could lead to significant improvements in personal well-being and interpersonal relationships across the globe. Click here to learn more about The Unstuck Online Program and Community

This week's "You Can Handle Anything" is going to be slightly different than usual. Instead of sharing one of my stories, I'm going to share with you someone else's. And that "someone else" is the actor, Andrew McCarthy. I'm going to dive into the intriguing story of Andrew McCarthy and the infamous "Brat Pack" label that shaped his career. The film captures his journey as he revisits old friends and questions whether the label or his reaction to it caused more harm. It's a powerful example of how external labels can trap us, and what it takes to break free and reclaim our identity. Click here to tune in and perhaps consider labels in your own life and the impact they've had on you. If you're in the Unstuck Revolution and have thoughts on the documentary, I'd love to hear them! Let's discuss how we can apply these insights to our own paths to becoming unstuck. https://courses.shiragura.com/the-unstuck-revolution/

In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I explore the heavy and often sneaky nature of guilt, sharing a personal story from a recent family dinner. After deciding not to partake in desserts my mom made, I was unexpectedly overwhelmed by guilt, despite making a simple, healthy choice for myself. Guilt is a complex emotion that can quickly transform into self-resentment, reminding us that we're often our own harshest critics. During the podcast, I discuss how emotions are essentially energy in motion and how they can change, sometimes needing guidance to move in a constructive direction. I'll walk you through the specific steps of The unSTUCK Method that I used to navigate and transform my feelings of guilt. This method not only helped me understand my emotions but also taught me how to handle them effectively without letting them control me. Tune in to learn how to manage and transform guilt, and discover that you can handle anything life throws your way. www.shiragura.com

Have you ever felt incredibly strongly about something, only to find yourself talking to someone who sees things the exact opposite way? Or maybe they just can't see your side at all? It's beyond frustrating. You might argue back and forth, but no matter what you say, they don't budge. It feels like you're the only one suffering, but it's likely tough for them, too. This is what unfolded for me last week with one of my kids, following up on last week's podcast episode where we clashed over something I found quite unethical. I turned to The unSTUCK Method to escape that frustrating deadlock because clinging to being right was getting us nowhere. In this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I dive into exactly what I did and the new perspectives I embraced to resolve this conflict. Because ultimately, we may not control the obstacles in our lives, but we can master our responses to them. www.shiragura.com ​

Ever felt stuck on how to respond when someone close does something you disagree with? Reacting impulsively can damage relationships and make you regret your actions, while staying silent might leave you feeling like a doormat. Here's a tip: try asking for permission to share your feelings. It's a respectful way to communicate without overstepping, and if they're not open to it, you need to respect their choice. I faced a similar dilemma with my son recently. He sent a video from California that I found disappointing and unethical. Conflicted about how to respond, I used the unSTUCK Method. Want to know how it went? Click below to tune in and find out how to handle similar situations effectively. www.shiragura.com

Ever wake up feeling weighed down by regret over something you did yesterday?

In this episode, I discuss the importance of morning routines and how they transform my day. I share how my morning starts with peace and quiet, using practices like breathwork, yoga, and my essential "Getting Unstuck" worksheet. This routine isn't just about starting the day; it's about clearing out leftover emotions and setting a positive tone. Listen to learn how these practices can help manage daily disruptions and why they're as crucial as brushing your teeth. Interested in creating a transformative morning routine? Tune in for tips on setting up a morning that starts your day right. www.shiragura.com Order the Morning Practice Workbook on Amazon by clicking here.

Big news—I'm about to hop on a jet plane and head to the United States for the summer! ✈️ Every year, I cherish this chance to reconnect with family and friends, but this summer, I'm hoping to do something special: an "Unstuck Summer." From my base in New Jersey to as far as California (or even Canada!), I'm looking to bring the power of The unSTUCK Method to religious institutions, workplaces, and even right in people's homes.

In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I delve into one of the most common but overlooked issues in relationships: the "rulebooks" we create for others. These are the expectations we set about how people should act, speak, and behave—like putting away shoes or doing dishes. Often, the other person is unaware of these rules, leading to frustration and resentment when they don't comply. Discover how recognizing and potentially letting go of these rulebooks can transform your relationships, preventing unnecessary conflict and fostering better understanding. Tune in to learn strategies for managing your expectations and improving your interactions with others. www.shiragura.com  

Ever catch yourself thinking, "I wish I could..." or "I wish I had..."?

Ever felt totally swamped by all the work on your plate, whether it's a project, daily chores, or even just tidying up the house?

Ever been called a terrible parent by your own child? Yup, that's exactly what happened to me recently.

In this week's episode, I share with you a new project I'm working on, as I drop a fresh "Consideration" daily inside The Unstuck Revolution, inspiring members to rethink their responses and simplify their lives. Tune in to hear my plan to craft 365 Considerations, one per day, eventually bundling them into my next book.  Join The Unstuck Revolution now as a founding member for just $7/month. Click here:  courses.shiragura.com/the-unstuck-revolution/ www.shiragura.com

In this episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I discuss a personal dilemma between two appealing options and how I used The unSTUCK Method to find clarity. Faced with a decision that stirred mixed emotions at home, I turned to this structured process to guide my choice, ensuring it aligned with my values. This brief 10-minute episode explores the power of The unSTUCK Method in resolving everyday challenges and guiding thoughtful decision-making. Tune in to discover how you can apply these principles to your own life, helping you to make decisions with confidence and clarity. For Unstuck Revolution members, I look forward to diving deeper into this discussion in our community! Click below to tune in. Click here to enroll in The Unstuck Revolution: https://courses.shiragura.com/the-unstuck-revolution/

In this exciting episode, I'm thrilled to launch The Unstuck Revolution, a comprehensive platform designed to help you handle life's emotional challenges with more ease. Developed from The unSTUCK Method I created a decade ago, this platform offers training, community support, daily teachings, and ongoing Challenges to empower you to manage your reactions and enhance your relationships for just $7/month. Additionally, I introduce the Living Deliberately Journey, an advanced tier that includes all the benefits of The Unstuck Revolution plus exclusive live interactions on Zoom, an exclusive Facebook group, monthly raffles for a 1:1 complimentary coaching session with me, additional Challenges and more, for just $47/month. Join us today at shiragura.com to start transforming your life. Dive into a community committed to growth and emotional well-being. Your journey to a more deliberate and fulfilling life starts here. Click below to get started. www.shiragura.com https://courses.shiragura.com/the-unstuck-revolution/

Have you ever had a day where your simple plans just don't pan out? Not the life-changing ones, but the daily stuff: a walk, cooking a specific meal, finishing a task. Out of the blue, things happen, and what you wanted to do just can't be done. When that happens, you face a choice: stick with the frustration or move past it. Every moment gives you the power to either react on autopilot or respond with intention. In every moment, you have the power to choose. Just yesterday, I had this all planned out - an email blast to my Living Deliberately Circle about all the new videos I created for them, ready after months of hard work. Then, bam! A computer glitch. Out of nowhere, out of my control, and there went my email plan. My first thought? Power through the night until it's fixed. But then, I paused. Took a step back. Went through The unSTUCK Method. And, oh, what a difference it made. Click below to dive into the full story and learn what you can do the next time life throws a wrench in your plans. P.S. The Living Deliberately Circle is now open! If you've been waiting for this, now's your chance. Join us before May 1st to lock in the current price. Can't wait to welcome you! (Email me for more details and the link to join!) www.shiragura.com

In this episode, I share a personal challenge from my son's Bar Mitzvah day when everything was set up wrong. Faced with frustration and the dilemma of speaking up without causing conflict, I turned to The unSTUCK Method. Discover how I navigated this tricky situation, ensuring a joyful day. This 14-minute story could change how you handle your next difficult conversation. Remember, you can handle anything.

Have you ever caught yourself worrying too much about what other people think? This happened to me last week while I was getting ready for my youngest son's Bar Mitzvah. I was busy making plans and found myself stuck on worrying about what my friends would think of my decisions. This worry made me super anxious and I just couldn't shake it off. It's something we all go through, but it's definitely something to keep an eye on. Trying to make everyone happy might seem like a good idea, but really, it ends up doing more harm than good. Instead of trying to please everyone, it's important to remember that their opinions aren't what matters most. What really counts is how you feel about yourself, your choices, and taking charge of your own thoughts and feelings. That's where The unSTUCK Method comes in. One of the many things it does is that it helps you let go of that need to please everyone else so you can focus on what you really want to do. Check out this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to hear the story and how you can start to embrace this consideration in your life, too. www.shiragura.com

Ever been called out and it hurts? It feels mean and makes you want to fight back. Everything goes so quick, and you feel like all you can do is get mad. But there's a way to deal with it. If you notice you're getting upset, you can work through those feelings. This is what learning to "get unstuck" with The unSTUCK Method is all about. Doing this, you can calm down in no time, stay in charge, and think before you respond. This is what I did when my kid said something that made me really want to snap at them. But I didn't. Curious about what I did do? Click below to find out the whole story and see what you can do next time you're in a similar tough spot. www.shiragura.com

In this episode, I explore the pitfalls of disappointment and unsolicited advice. Discover why managing others often leads to neglecting our own needs and how The unSTUCK Method can help. Join me for a personal story about trying to "teach" my husband a lesson, and learn why letting go is key. It's an 8-minute listen with insights that could transform your day. Tune in now for strategies to improve your relationships and enjoy life more. www.shiragura.com

Have you ever had the experience where someone asks you to do a favor for them - and you gladly help out - only to realize you didn't succeed exactly the way the request was intended? I just hate it when that happens. It's like no good deed ever goes unpunished, right? When that happens, it's so easy to get stuck on self-judgment, self-criticism, and guilt. But the truth of the matter is, you can't always know everything all of the time. Things happen. And instead of staying stuck and feeling bad, you can choose to make a shift and feel better, no matter what the situation. This is what happened to me earlier in the week when I kind of messed things up with a friend. Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to hear that story. And as a bonus, I share a second similar story with you in this episode as well. Click below to tune in. I welcome your feedback and thoughts with me after you do. www.shiragura.com

Have you ever wanted to jump in and help when you see something happening to someone else? It's totally normal! But sometimes, it's not our place to fix everything. I recently saw something happening between my husband and my son the other night at dinner. At first, I wanted to step in, but I caught myself. Instead took myself through The unSTUCK Method. It helped me realize that it wasn't my problem to solve. By staying out of it, I let my son handle it on his own. And you know what? Dinner just continued like nothing happened. This week on the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I share this story and how choosing how to respond can make all the difference. Tune in! Take a moment to consider trying the same approach in your own life this week. www.shiragura.com

Over a decade ago, I created The unSTUCK Method to help me manage my emotions in real time. This tool has transformed my life. Now, I coach others using this method to break free from the emotional triggers they face. Supporting someone this way can profoundly impact their life. This week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast features an excerpt of "unstuck coaching." Yet, the coach isn't me—it's a character from a book! Listen to an interview with my friend and author, Esther Goldenberg. She shares a story from her new book, "The Scrolls of Deborah," where one friend helps another become unstuck. Click below to tune in. Afterward, consider grabbing a copy of Esther's book, available on Amazon. I look forward to hearing your reflections! Shira

Have you ever found yourself caught between the excitement of working toward a goal or a new project and the anxiety of awaiting results? You're not alone. In our fast-paced world, patience often feels like a forgotten virtue. But what if I told you that embracing patience could be the secret ingredient to not only achieving your goals but also enjoying the journey along the way? Reflecting on my own experiences, from the anticipation of childbirth to the development of significant projects, I've seen firsthand how patience can transform challenges into opportunities for growth. It's about more than just waiting; It's about actively engaging in the present, staying grounded, and moving forward with purpose. I share more about the process I am going through in this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. Join in tuning in to hear my story and where you may want to consider practicing more patience in your life, just like me.

In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I delve into a less talked-about phenomenon: getting stuck on positive emotions like excitement. It's common to find ourselves overwhelmed by excitement, impacting our daily routines and priorities. I share my personal experience of navigating this excitement trap, and how I used The unSTUCK Method and The CLEAR Way to ground myself and prevent emotions from taking the reins. Tune in to discover how you can recognize when you're stuck in a whirlwind of excitement and learn actionable tips to keep your emotions in check.  Join me in understanding that while being stuck is part of the human experience, awareness and the right tools can set you free. www.shiragura.com

When someone triggers you with rude or insensitive words or actions, it's natural to wish it hadn't occurred. The challenge lies in acknowledging that it DID happen. Refusing to accept reality leads to unnecessary suffering. While you may dislike the event or find it perplexing, embracing trust in the present reality facilitates a smoother journey. Practicing being trusting is something the members of my community, The Living Deliberately Circle, and I explored together this month. Discover more insights about what it can mean in your life if you were to consider being trusting in this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. Click below to tune in now. Join my newsletter to stay posted about upcoming workshops, challenges, courses and more!

Ever wondered why managing emotions "in the moment" in tough situations is crucial?  When you don't, you can get hijacked by them, leading to behavior you later regret. And that can lead you to get trapped in a stuck cycle, holding onto negative emotions and feeling like you just can't let go. And, of course, over time that doesn't only impact how you feel about yourself, it impacts your relationships and how others feel about you. This is exactly why having a reliable tool for those "off" moments is invaluable. The unSTUCK Method is my go-to solution, used multiple times a day, guiding me towards living my best life. Here's a recent example: Last week, amidst facilitating a 4-Day "Move Past Grudges" Challenge, I found myself torn about whether to keep my commitment to broadcasting my weekly podcast, "You Can Handle Anything." Stuck between promises and time constraints, I turned to The unSTUCK Method. Discover what I considered in this situation and how this tool empowered me to get unstuck, make a rational decision, and move forward. Click below to tune in now. To save your spot at the next "Getting Unstuck" workshop, click here.