Podcasts about unmet expectations

When Jesus Disappoints Matthew 11:1-6 by Mike Deguzman Luke 24:25-27 2 Timothy 3:12 1. The Problem of Unmet Expectations     a. Doubt Due to Suffering Job 3:11-16 Job 13:3      b. Doubt Due to Seclusion 1 Kings 19:3-4 1 Kings 19:14      c. Doubt Due to Seduction Jeremiah 20:7-8 Jeremiah 20:18 Romans 5:3-5 Matthew 5:10-12 Philippians 1:12-14 2. The Reminders to Move Out of Doubt Psalm 77:7-15 3. The Blessing of Standing Firm Jeremiah 15:19-21 Job 38:1-3 Job 42:1-6 Application 1. Elevate Your Doubts to Jesus 2. Evaluate Your Doubts by Jesus 3. Examine Your Expectations of Jesus Romans 8:16-18 4. Enjoy Your Relationship with Jesus

Background - Ah, the age-old issue of nagging! It's a common portrayal in media and often the subject of jokes, but beneath the surface lies a dynamic in a marriage that can cause real frustration. From a biblical perspective, the ideal for a husband and wife is one of mutual respect, love, and effective communication. When nagging becomes a pattern, it often signals a breakdown in this ideal. Let's explore how a husband might unintentionally contribute to his wife's nagging and how he can take positive steps toward a more harmonious relationship, grounded in biblical principles.Scripture calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). This is a love characterized by sacrifice, patience, and a desire for the other's well-being. Similarly, wives are called to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:33). When these foundational principles are not consistently practiced, misunderstandings and frustrations can arise, sometimes manifesting as what we call "nagging."It's easy to see nagging as solely the wife's behavior, but often, a husband's actions (or inactions) can inadvertently fuel it. Here are five ways a husband might contribute:Unmet Expectations and Follow-Through: When a husband makes promises or agrees to tasks and then doesn't follow through, it can lead to his wife feeling unheard and responsible for constantly reminding him. Lack of Proactive Initiative: If a husband consistently waits to be told what needs to be done around the house or with family responsibilities, his wife might feel like the sole manager of the household. This can lead to her constantly directing and reminding, which can feel like nagging. Poor Communication and Listening Skills: When a wife feels her concerns are not being heard or acknowledged, she may resort to repeating herself or raising her voice to get her point across. Inconsistency and Selective Hearing: Sometimes, a husband might respond to his wife's requests only after she has mentioned them multiple times. This inconsistency teaches her that persistence is the only way to get his attention or action. Taking Her for Granted: When a husband doesn't acknowledge or appreciate the efforts his wife makes, she might feel unseen and unvalued. This can lead to her feeling the need to constantly remind him of her contributions or the things that need attention. Advice -Now, how can a husband, guided by biblical principles of love and respect, help to slow or even stop the nagging without being oppressive or demeaning? Here are five ways:Practice Active Listening and Empathy: When your wife brings up a concern, truly listen to understand her perspective. Acknowledge her feelings and validate her concerns, even if you don't fully agree. Take Ownership and Follow Through: When you agree to something, make it a priority to follow through in a timely manner. Initiate and Share Responsibilities: Don't wait to be asked. Look for ways to proactively contribute to the household and family responsibilities. Establish Clear Communication Systems: Have open and honest conversations about expectations and how you will communicate about them.Express Appreciation Regularly: Acknowledge and appreciate your wife's efforts, both big and small. https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies,#familytherapy,#marriagecounseling,#parenting,#faithbasedcounseling,#counseling,#Strongdads,#coaching,#lifecoach,#lifecoaching,#marriagecoaching,#marriageandfamily,#control,#security,#respect,#affection,#love,#purpose,#faith,#mastersofdisaster,#storms,#disasterrelief,#tornados,#hurricanes,#floods

IntroductionIn this episode Merrill and Linda Hutchinson discuss the theme of unmet expectations in life and how to process disappointment. They reflect on personal experiences, share insights from their family and work, and provide faith-based guidance on navigating life's challenges.Segment 1: Personal Reflections and Introduction to Unmet Expectations•Theme Introduction: The hosts emphasize that everyone encounters unmet expectations, whether in relationships, careers, or personal goals. They highlight that chasing happiness is often futile; instead, cultivating a spirit of joy and contentment is essential.Segment 2: The Reality of Disappointment•Merrill shares his struggles with launching a fitness product, the kettlebar, which has not yet succeeded despite positive feedback. This illustrates the frustration of unmet expectations after significant effort.•He also recounts his initial disappointment at not gaining admission to physical therapy school, framing it as a redirection that led to meaningful opportunities in education.Segment 3: Defining Disappointment•Understanding Disappointment: They explain that disappointment arises from the gap between hopes and reality, supporting this with biblical references (e.g., the story of Lazarus' death and Paul's struggles).•Faith and Perseverance: Merrill discusses the balance between persevering through challenges and recognizing when to surrender to God's will, mentioning the importance of laying burdens at God's feet.Segment 4: The Grieving Process•Grieving Unmet Expectations: The hosts outline the typical stages of grief in response to disappointment, which include denial, anger, and acceptance. They stress the importance of not getting stuck in complicated grief, which can hinder healing.•Biblical Support: They reference Romans 8:28, emphasizing that God can work through all circumstances for the good of those who love Him, even when individuals feel hopeless.Segment 5: Moving Beyond Disappointment•Expectation Reassessment: Merrill encourages listeners to evaluate whether their expectations align with God's plans and to remain open to new possibilities.•Encouraging Others: They discuss how sharing personal experiences of disappointment can help others, creating a cycle of empathy and support that strengthens community.Segment 6: Fostering Hope•Seeking Gratitude: The hosts recommend practicing gratitude as a means to combat feelings of hopelessness. They suggest keeping a gratitude journal to refocus on the positive aspects of life, no matter how small.•Redefining Expectations: They advise listeners to reassess their expectations, questioning whether they are motivated by personal desires or by a desire to honor God.Segment 7: Final Reflections and Prayer•Perspective on Life's Challenges: Merrill emphasizes that disappointment should not define one's life; individuals are more than their failures. •Encouragement through Faith: Linda shares her thoughts on the importance of maintaining joy and perspective, invoking the lyrics of a song that speaks of new mercies every morning.•Concluding Prayer: Find peace amidst disappointment and to trust in God's higher plans, encouraging them to seek guidance and find new paths forward.https://rocksolidfamilies.orgSupport the show#Rocksolidfamilies, #familytherapy, #marriagecounseling, #parenting, #faithbasedcounseling, #counseling, #Strongdads, #coaching, #lifecoach, #lifecoaching, #marriagecoaching, #marriageandfamily, #control, #security, #respect, #affection, #love, #purpose, #faith, #affairs, #infidelity

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Kankelfritz & Friends chat about what could be self driving itself on the roads soon. Also, when our prayer expectations to God don't feel met, why He may be asking us to wait.

Jesus' entry to Jerusalem was indeed triumphal, but not in the political way the crowds wanted or expected. His actions over the coming days would reveal what true greatness looks like—and they set several patterns for us to follow today.

Jesus' entry to Jerusalem was indeed triumphal, but not in the political way the crowds wanted or expected. His actions over the coming days would reveal what true greatness looks like—and they set several patterns for us to follow today.

This week Pastor Elwin finishes our series, "A Better Way". To finish our series, Pastor Elwin reminds us that our plans are not God's plans; and when Jesus entered Jerusalem on Palm Sunday, He had a plan that was far greater than those of the people of Jerusalem.Support the show

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A Tale of Unmet Expectations" tells a story that resonates with many who have faced situations where reality fell short of their hopes. Imagine eagerly anticipating an event, like a concert of your favorite band, only to find the sound system falters, the performance lacks energy, and the crowd is less enthusiastic than you expected. Similarly, in the world of consumer products, a study by Salesforce found that 57% of consumers stopped buying from a company because a competitor provided a better experience. These experiences often serve as a reminder of the disparity between expectations and reality. Whether it’s a highly anticipated movie that didn’t live up to its trailer or a new restaurant that fell short of rave reviews, the feeling of being let down is universal. It’s a lesson in tempering our expectations and perhaps finding joy in the unexpected.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this deeply personal and faith-filled episode, Ellen Radcliffe is joined by a very special guest—her mom—to talk through the quiet grief many Christian parents carry: unmet expectations. What do you do when the dreams you had for your child don't come true? When the path you prayed they'd walk takes a turn you never expected? From small hopes like frilly Easter dresses to big heartbreaks over spiritual decisions, this episode explores how fear, shame, guilt, and even anger often hide a deeper pain we rarely talk about—grief. Together, Ellen and her mom open up about their own parenting journeys, how they've learned to pray through pain, and how to stay rooted in peace and truth even when life looks nothing like you imagined.If you've ever asked, “What did I do wrong?” or felt overwhelmed by fear for your children's futures, this conversation is for you. You are not alone—and this isn't the end of the story.Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro & surprise guest: Ellen's mom!2:00 – The grief of lost expectations in parenting10:30 – Small disappointments that still hurt17:00 – What's really underneath fear-based parenting24:00 – “What is true here?” – Ellen's mom's life mantra32:00 – Prayer as the anchor in the storm39:00 – Finding joy, even in the wait44:30 – Should Christian parents even have expectations?

What is the secret to navigating life's trials, decisions and unmet expectations? How do we get clarity in the midst of lifes chaos and complexities? If you got everything exactly the way you wanted it, would you be happy? Or, would you immediately want more? Your suffering is not caused by things not going your way. Are we holding on to expectations of how we think things should always go? How do we break that? We can often be haunted by the deicsions we regret that keep paralyzed by fear and worry for the decisons in the now. 

Managing Expectations in Hospice Care with Jamie Haberman, RN In this episode of Hospice Explained, host Marie Betcher, RN, interviews returning guest Jamie Haberman, RN, about the challenges and realities of hospice care. They discuss common misconceptions about hospice, the role of family and caregivers, emergency respite care, and options for patients who are not satisfied with their hospice provider. Jamie also talks about her work with Hospice Buddy, a support service for those navigating end-of-life care.   00:00 Introduction to Hospice Explained 00:36 Meet Jamie Haberman: A Multifaceted Hospice Professional 02:49 Unmet Expectations in Hospice Care 04:57 Understanding Hospice Caregiving 07:17 Respite Care and Its Limitations 09:59 Choosing the Right Hospice 13:04 Addressing Conflicts and Changing Hospices 17:06 Revoking Hospice and Patient Rights 18:49 Conclusion and Next Steps https://hospicebuddy.com Finding a Hospice Agency 1. You can use Medicare.gov to help find a hospice agency, 2. choose Find provider 3. Choose Hospice 4. then add your zip code This should be a list of Hospice Agencies local to you or your loved one.  Hospice Explained Affiliates & Contact Information Buying from these Affilite links will help support this Podcast.   In addition you can donate to help support Hospice Explained at the Buy me a Coffee link  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Hospice Kacie Gikonyo's Death Doula School https://hospiceexplained--deathdoulaschool.thrivecart.com/death-doula-school/ Affilitate for the Caregiving Years Training Academy:  https://www.careyearsacademy.com/ref/1096/  Affiliate for DNA is Love listeners also get a 5% discount!! https://dnaislove.com/?coupon=hospiceexplained5  The Death Deck and the E*O*L deck:  https://thedeathdeck.goaffpro.com/  Marie's Contact Marie@HospiceExplained.com www.HospiceExplained.com

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Do you feel a little frustrated, disappointed or let down by some of the people in your life right now?Maybe you had expectations of how certain relatives or loved ones would behave over Christmas, and they didn't quite hit the mark...It's easy for us to slip into victim mode in these moments, and mentally give all power over our emotions to the imperfect humans in our lives.But in this episode - I'm going to teach you how to take back control, think intentionally, and handle unmet expectations.Ready?Mentioned in this episode:12 week group coaching programme details and waitlistEmail Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Send us a textWe have a special December series for you. Each day a short mind renewal meditation will be released, lasting about five minutes. We hope these encourage you to press-in closer to Jesus this year. Join us as we share a mind renewal prayer and meditation using verses from Philippians 3. This one focuses on what to think after a mess-up and the blessing and joy that comes from learning from the failure (look and learn) rather than allowing the failure to define me and just quitting. The discussion emphasizes turning to God's unwavering love and mercy, finding solace in His presence instead of temporary solutions. Listeners are invited to meet their emotional and spiritual needs through Him, leaving behind shame and embracing His abundant grace. This episode serves as a reminder of the joy and blessings found in learning from failure and trusting God for future victories.  Support the showLearn more about our Revelation Within Community: https://www.revelationwithin.org

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In this episode, we talk unmet expectations in a relationship, what is really happening and how to heal. Need to talk?

Pastor Erik continues our series on the Song of Solomon as we dive into chapter 3. We learn that an fulfilled EXPECTATION can lead to a feeling of ISOLATION which can lead to a feeling of DESPERATION which will often lead to a moment of TEMPTATION. So what do we do when facing temptation?

How To Free Yourself From Unmet Expectations - In this episode we're diving into a topic that I'm really excited about -- the concept of the "manual." You know, those instructions we carry around in our heads about how other people should behave in order for us to feel happy and at peace. As a Christian Life Coach, this is something that's been coming up over and over with coaching clients lately so I knew I needed to share it with you all. Here's a peak at what we'll cover: The surprising ways these "manuals" could be sabotaging your relationships (and your happiness!) A simple mindset that can instantly give you back control over your own emotional wellbeing and help you be a more balanced mom. Real-life examples of how letting go of my own manuals has transformed my closest connections. If you're someone who finds yourself constantly frustrated or disappointed by the people around you, you won't want to miss this episode. I promise, realizing we have these manuals can be life-changing and the payoff is so worth it! I can't wait for you to experience it. For more help from Danielle Thienel Coaching: To explore an opportunity to work with me as a one-to-one Christian Life Coaching client or to see if my group life coaching program, Busy to Balanced, is right for you, Schedule a call with me HERE. Get a copy of my latest book, The Cyclone Mom Method HERE for only $4.99 Get more peace and productivity around your time with my new Divine Time Course. Find out more HERE Visit my website: www.daniellethienel.com to learn more about the life changes possible for you through having a spiritual life coach. Connect with me on Facebook and Instagram: @daniellethienelcoaching

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!In this episode of the Marriage and Motherhood Podcast, I share a behind the scenes moment and how I handled frustration and conflict within my marriage and what tools I used to allow us to grow stronger together from the situation.Tune in to hear:02:37 Learning to Ask for Support06:38 Handling Unexpected Changes08:46 Shifting Perspectives and Finding Solutions10:40 Understanding the Root of Anger12:48 Reflecting on Personal Growth14:50 Handling Future Conflicts15:35 Effective Communication Strategies18:54 Teamwork in MarriageTo help you leverage conflict to create more connection, download this free guide!Thanks for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ep. 137 - Fix Your Marriage Using This MindsetEp. 122 - Prioritizing Your Marriage Over Your PrideEp. 120 - Start Having Less Misunderstandings and More Calm ConversationsAdditional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Join the Marriage & Motherhood communityWant to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna stop feeling like roommates and bring back the romance and excitement in your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Do you ever get frustrated when things don't go as planned, especially when you're hoping for something simple, like having a meal together with your family? I recently had one of those moments. After fasting for Yom Kippur, I had this picture-perfect idea of breaking the fast with my family around the dinner table. But as I walked home from prayer services, I started to fume, convinced that they'd already started eating without me. Instead of letting the frustration boil over, I used a tool I created called The CLEAR Way, which helped me prepare for whatever I might walk into. And I'm so glad I did, because when I got home, my boys were sitting at the kitchen island, already eating!

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Finding God in Unmet Expectations: A Conversation with Lisa HughesIn this episode of the Shepherd Press Podcast, host Anthony Russo talks with author Lisa Hughes about her book 'Unmet Expectations' and how to deal with disappointment and trials in a godly manner. Lisa shares insights on reframing unwanted circumstances as God's lovingkindness. They also discuss how unmet expectations can be tools for sanctification and provide practical advice on trusting in God through these circumstances. 00:23 Meet Lisa Hughes: Author of 'Unmet Expectations'02:13 The Inspiration Behind 'Unmet Expectations'03:51 Exploring Unmet Expectations Through Scripture05:44 Common Unmet Expectations Among Women07:27 Handling Unmet Expectations: Sinful vs. Godly Responses12:26 Thinking Biblically About Unmet Expectations16:27 Avoiding Grumbling and Complaining18:20 Sanctification Through Unmet Expectations20:22 Finding Contentment in God's Presence22:31 Resources and Final ThoughtsGrab a copy of "Unmet Expectations:" https://a.co/d/6HWHTSN Follow Shepherd Press on social media for more insights:Facebook: @shepherdpressInstagram: @shepherdpressinc.

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Wednesday, October 9, 2024 Kerby's other guests are Lauren Green McAfee and Michael McAfee. They bring us their new book, Beyond Our Control: Let Go of Unmet Expectations, Overcome Anxiety, and Discover Intimacy with God. Connect with us on Facebook at facebook.com/pointofviewradio and on Twitter @PointofViewRTS with your opinions or comments. Looking for just the Highlights? Follow […]

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How many of you have the exact life that you mapped out when you were younger? The perfect spouse, perfect children, perfect life, where everyone does exactly what you want them to? It's pretty fair to say that how life plays out is vastly different than what we picture in our heads, especially considering that the people in our lives get to choose for themselves how they will live their lives. In this episode we discuss the challenges of unmet expectations in families, specifically as children grow and take different life paths than anticipated. Join us as we share insights on accepting these deviations, the importance of honoring individual journeys, and dealing with societal or familial judgments. We also explore how to manage unmet expectations in marital relationships and how to handle disappointment and maintain personal integrity amid life's unpredictable nature. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!  Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”  Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:  Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

Have you ever felt like you're not where you should be in your business journey? Or maybe that your big plans just aren't coming together as quickly as you'd hoped? In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain and sharing some of my own behind-the-scenes challenges.  Let's face it, we all have setbacks and moments of doubt. But it's how we navigate those moments that truly matters.  We'll explore the power of trust, embracing imperfection, and finding balance in the pursuit of our goals. Key Points: ✔️ Unmet Expectations: We'll talk about those frustrating times when things don't go according to plan, and how to shift our perspective to see the hidden blessings. ✔️ The Illusion of 100% Focus: Discover how the belief that success requires singular focus can actually hold us back. I'll share my own aha moment and how I learned to embrace balance. ✔️ God's Got You: Sometimes the path to our dreams takes unexpected twists and turns. Learn how to trust in divine timing and embrace the "this or something better" mindset. This episode is a reminder that even the most successful entrepreneurs face struggles and setbacks. It's okay to not have it all figured out, and it's okay to feel frustrated at times. But through it all, we can find strength in our faith, learn valuable lessons, and continue to move forward. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Don't forget to leave a review, drop a comment and join us in The Better Club! (link below) CONNECT WITH LACHELLE! LaChelle's Better Club Facebook Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/thebetterclub Watch Full Episodes on Apple, Spotify or Your Favorite Podcast Platform Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-spiral-up-podcast-with-lachelle-wieme/id1496832937 Spotify: www.bit.ly/spiraluppodcast You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/@SPIRALUPpodcastwithlachelle Follow LaChelle on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lachellewieme/ Grab Your Copy of Get Out of God's Way https://iam-lifebydesign.com/book Ready to discover your business blindspots?  Take the Quiz & Find Out! https://iam-lifebydesign.com/successpredictor i-AM Life by Design Website https://iam-lifebydesign.com Learn About Spiral Up Program Options  https://iam-lifebydesign.com/spiralupstart

In this episode of the Stay Forth Leadership Podcast, Jonathan Collier and Alan Briggs discuss the importance of clarifying expectations to avoid disappointment. They explore the concept of the expectation gap and how unmet expectations can lead to disappointment. They emphasize the need to name and clarify expectations in order to protect relationships and move beyond disappointment.    takeaways The Right Side Up Journal is a helpful tool for grounding oneself and clarifying priorities Disappointment often arises from unmet expectations, both internally and externally Naming and clarifying expectations is crucial for protecting relationships and avoiding disappointment Taking action and course correcting are key to moving beyond disappointment Sound Bites "We wanted to spend just a few minutes to talk about this guy and why we believe it is the standard." "We often don't even realize what we expected until we experience this awful thing called disappointment." "When you experience disappointment, it's always about unmet expectations." Chapters 00:00Introduction to the Right Side Up Journal 04:05Disappointment and Naming Things 09:07Clarifying Expectations 12:39Taking Action and Course Correcting

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This topic has definitely come up on the podcast before, but I thought it was important to dig into this one a little more! Let's talk about coping with unmet expectations. There can be grief around having certain expectations on things both in and out of our grieving experience. Because of that, I wanted to address unmet expectations and talk about some tools and mindset shifts that we can use to be realistic with our expectations. And, how to cope with unmet expectations so you can process your loss(es) in a healthy way and mitigate any disappointment or hurt from those around you. Episodes referenced: Episode 6: 4 Tips on Where to Start Healing Episode 9: Grief, Loss, and Strain on Relationships (feat. my husband!) Episode 44: Understanding and Coping with Emotions as we Grieve Episode 58: Raising Frequency and Vibrational Levels During Grief Work with me: 14-Day Relief in Your Grief Challenge: https://lossesbecomegains.com/relief-in-grief Explore my Intentional Life After Loss membership: https://lossesbecomegains.com/membership Work with me one-on-one: https://lossesbecomegains.com/work-with-tara Connect with me! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lossesbecomegains/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithgriefpodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/losses.become.gains Website: https://lossesbecomegains.com/ Shop the LBG Daily Journal: https://lossesbecomegains.com/journal By accessing this Podcast, I acknowledge that the entire contents are the property of Tara Accardo, or used by Tara Accardo with permission. Except as otherwise provided herein, users of this Podcast may save and use information contained in the Podcast only for personal or other non-commercial, educational purposes. No other use, including—without limitation—reproduction, retransmission or editing of this Podcast may be made without the prior written permission of Tara Accardo, which may be requested by contacting hello@lossesbecomegains.com. This podcast is for educational purposes only. This podcast is not intended to be a substitute for any necessary therapy or counseling to address deeper, past-focused traumas. We don't attempt to give answers, fix, diagnose, or treat grief. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein.

Yes!  You are in!  Once upon a time, we did an episode called 'Expectation - Reality = Disillusionment'.  Odds you are disillusioned somewhere in life right now.  Or you know someone that is, so this 'Play of the Day' is for you.  Whether you are married or not, this applies.  You went into something thinking one thing.  And now it is quite another.  Here you go...Wow!  He's baaaaaaack!  Pastor Warren works his way.  We only share mic drops on this podcast and this is definitely one of them.  You can hear the rest of that one and the entire series for that matter at DailyHope.com.  As for that Play of the Day, check out 'Learning to Trust God, Part 1', published on the 12th of July 2024.  Wisdom is perspective.  This message doesn't have to apply if you are married.  Maybe it is a broken relationship.  Maybe it is your job.  Maybe it is a trip.  Maybe it is your church.  Your pastor.  This podcast, haha!  This is a test.Live on this broken planet long enough and you will be disappointed.  How do you handle it?  Are you content in all circumstances?  When I have my A game I am.  Problem is that I don't always have my A game.  Phil 4: 11-13Philippians 4:11-13New International Version11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.Easier said than done, I must confess.  You think you have this locked down...oh perfect one!  Have you been fully tested?  Raped?  Lost a child?  Then you haven't been fully tested.  You are not done until you are done with this broken planet.  Best check yourself before you wreck yourself.  You are not perfect.  Rom 3:23.  That's why you do need Jesus Christ, Rom 8:1.  And since we know that nobody is perfect then why on earth are you expecting perfection during events and human relationships?  Nobody in their right mind wants to be betrayed.  And nobody likes being let down.  Yet it happens.  To all of us to a degree.  So wouldn't we be wise to keep expectations in check.  Lord, I want Italy yet if you want me in Bangladesh.  So be it.  Lord, show me Rom 8:28 out of this unmet expecation.  That's ultimate Faith.  It's easy to declare Fatih if everything is perfect.  Show me someone that has endured hardship and still shines Faith and I say there is Power.  There is Light.  Matt 5:16.  Ending on a prayer note,

This summer I have re-opened the podcast for a short season of sharing sessions from F2F LIVE 2024, themed Keep Thy Heart! I pray that these lessons will strengthen your relationship with God and His Word, creating a fervor to, "Keep thy heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life." Proverbs 4:23  In today's episode, Mindy Tingson teaches session 6, Guarding Our Hearts: Where to Turn with Unmet Expectations. Happy listening, friends! Connect with us! srbcnewnan.com Instagram Facebook *Special  thanks to our former media director, Jennifer Beil and social media coordinator, Mindy Tingson for their help in preparing this season's episodes. Make sure to check out their new ministries!: Help Me Abide Podcast hosted by Jennifer Beil Abide + Adore email subscription by Mindy Tingson Logo Design: Jamie Hurst

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To be human is to live in the space between our expectations and reality. Katherine Wolf   This is the second part of our time around Mary and Martha. I finished the last one and felt like I'd left some things unsaid. I thought I'd just re-reocrd it, but decided on a part 2 instead. So here we are! In this episode we're taking note of some things around the story of the loss of Mary and Martha's brother Lazarus—-their grief and their disappointment in God and his timing.    But not only must we entrust all of ourselves to Him, but I think you'll see, with me, that He welcomes our thoughts around our confusion and even frustration around what we can't see. I hope you'll see with me that our God is not far off and in fact, He sees all of your circumstances, especially those that are troubling you, and enters into it with you!   Join me for a listen and as always, feel free to leave a review with your thoughts about how the Spacious Place impacts you!

The Yummy Mummy Experience is a movement, and this movement is about freeing the moms (and ALL the women) from the societal traps we unknowingly fall into.The trap of diet culture. The trap of expectations.I mean, Mother's Day could basically have a second title as The Day of Unmet Expectations. SO MANY moms I know and coach kept their fingers crossed all day that this would be the year their family finally “got it right” only to reach the end of Mother's Day and just feel meh. “That's it?”And like, how do those expectations make you feel, really? My own high expectations caused so many negative unintentional emotions that I didn't like. I had so many unmet expectations of people and situations that I was constantly disappointed. It really did NOT serve me.For a lot of us, feeling really crappy triggers us to do some emotional overeating, right? Nothing soothes disappointment quite like comfort food. We can keep our resentment tamped down (or so we think) by distracting ourselves from that awful feeling with something delicious.If Mother's Day felt like an utter failure, you might feel like you deserve some (ahem, a lot of) leftover Reese's eggs as a reward for putting up with it all. Want to finally break that yearly cycle?Listen in and you'll hear more about: Practical steps to handle unmet expectationsWriting a letter of appreciation to yourselfWhat it means to hold space for disappointment and how to do itAnd listen, mama: my calendar is still open for free 30-minute coffee chats! Get your booty on a call with me here and you can ask me all your weight loss questions, plus get some tools you can start implementing to lose weight right away. I'll also answer anything you've been wondering about Yummy Mummy Experience to help you figure out if you're a good match for the program. I can't wait to connect! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join us on episode 333 in the 11th season of the Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast. Our mission, as always, is to equip you with actionable, scientifically supported methods to hone social-emotional learning skills, boost productivity and promote overall well-being. This episode continues our 18-week self-leadership series informed by Grant Bosnick's proven strategies. In this installment, we turn our attention to the crucial role of expectations in our lives. Starting off the discussion in the engaging world of Grant Bosnick's book, we dissect the meaning and importance of expectations. We then explore the crucial aspects of emotion regulation, persuasive traits, effective time management, and the vast concept of change. This episode revisits key moments from our previous chapters, ranging from the neuroscience of goals to the significance of hydration on brain performance, AHA moments, creative insights, and more. The highlight of the episode is an in-depth exploration of the science of expectations, underpinned by Grant Bosnick and David Robson's book, 'The Expectation Effect.' Here, we probe the profound influence of positive and negative expectations on our daily life, mindset, goal achievement, and even health. Inspired by teachings from luminary mentors like Bob Proctor, this illuminating exploration of expectations is designed to leave you with a fresh perspective. Stories from an unforgettable seminar 20 years ago bring to life the immense power of expectations. Understanding the neuroscience connections, we further explore dopamine and its correlation with our level of expectations. Practical tips to apply these psychological insights in day-to-day life are provided as we take you on an intellectual journey from theory to practice. Throughout the episode, you will discover how to better regulate your expectations to boost your happiness, productivity, and confidence. This intellectual journey will equip you with the tools to tap into the power of expectation and unlock a better version of yourself. Expect the best and join us to uncover the enormous potential within you. Stay tuned for our next episode, 'The Neuroscience of Emotion Regulation', as we continue our intellectual journey. Welcome back to SEASON 11 of The Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast, where we connect the science-based evidence behind social and emotional learning and emotional intelligence training for improved well-being, achievement, productivity and results—using what I saw as the missing link (since we weren't taught this when we were growing up in school), the application of practical neuroscience. I'm Andrea Samadi, an author, and an educator with a passion for learning and launched this podcast 5 years ago with the goal of bringing ALL the leading experts together (in one place) to help us to APPLY this research in our daily lives. On today's episode #333 we continue with our 18-Week Self-Leadership Series based on Grant Bosnick's “Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership: A Bite Size Approach Using Psychology and Neuroscience” that we first dove into with our interview on EP #321[i] the end of January.  The goal was that each week, we focused on learning something new, (from Grant's book) that builds off the prior week, to help take us to greater heights in 2024. Today we cover Chapter 8, “The Neuroscience of Expectations” and l look at what Grant Bosnick covers on this topic, as well as a deeper dive into David Robson's book, The Expectation Effect.   We will cover:  ✔  What is the meaning and importance of expectations? ✔  An unforgettable moment when Andrea first encountered the power behind our expectations.  ✔  We will explore the science of expectations to boost your happiness, productivity, and confidence. ✔  3 TIPS for applying The Neuroscience of Expectation to your daily life. ✔  Ideas to trouble-shoot applying this concept, along with belief, to achieve your goals and dreams.  I did need to take a short break from writing and recording since we last covered this book, the end of March, with new responsibilities in my work world. I've got my footing now, and missed researching, recording, and producing these episodes. The benefits that I personally receive from gathering this information, and sharing with it you, the listener, wherever you might be tuning in around the world, helps me in many different ways, but mostly, this work keeps me thinking, and making connections, neural connections, which we all know is important for cognition and learning. I did appreciate the notes from listeners of past episodes they have found helpful, and will continue to provide my best work here. We will resume the final 5 chapters of Grant's book, based on Self-Leadership strategies, covering the topic of expectations today, then emotion regulation, persuade and influence, time management and ending the series with change. Just a reminder that we left off with Chapter 7 on “AHA Moments and Creative Insight.[ii]” There is great power and immense self-awareness that comes along with mapping out a plan designed specifically for YOU and I do encourage everyone to take Grant Bosnick's Leadership Self-Assessment[iii] so you can see the areas for you that score a high, medium or low level of importance for you to focus on this year. REVIEW Chapters 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 and 7 Before we cover Chapter 8 today on Expectations, let's review where we left off, since this is a good reminder for me, to make the connections from these prior episodes. It's here I'm hoping we will take the information we are learning, (from Grant Bosnick's book) connect the dots to form knowledge and then apply this knowledge to our daily life. This is where we go from theory to practice with this podcast and it's the application of what we are learning that contains the magic. REFLECT Back to Chapter 2 on The Neuroscience of Goals (and Kurt Lewin's Force Field Theory): What are we doing to gain the momentum needed to reach NEW and HEIGHTENED levels of performance this year? How are we improving our mental and physical health to gain the momentum we talked about in this chapter? Just the fact that you are here listening to this episode, and I'm writing it, is a good indication we are all building this skill. What have you noticed with the momentum you've built with your goals this year? Are you on track? How can you narrow your focus more? REFLECT Back to Chapter 3 on The Neuroscience of Inspiration: How are we using people or places that inspire us, to take our results to greater heights? Think about this as it relates to our physical and mental health. What else can we all do to take more action in this area? I recently connected with someone who caught my attention over 20 years ago, when I worked with athletes at ASU. I remember sitting in front of this one athlete, and just knew he was going somewhere. We are working on the details to have him on the podcast right now, but stay tuned for a future episode on “Diving into the Mindset of a D1 College Athlete, Turned Pro” with Nigerian-American professional basketball player, Ike Diogu. Who are what is inspiring you these days? REFLECT Back to Chapter 4 on The Neuroscience of Mindfulness: Think about where we are in our Mindfulness Journey? Mindfulness, and breathing was listed often in Chapter 4 of Grant Bosnick's book.  How is mindfulness helping us with our physical health? What's interesting to me with this topic, is that the more I continue to study, and look to improve my own areas of weakness (right now I'm looking at how to optimize sleep which is currently my weakest link) and am diving deep into this topic with Dr. Matthew Walker's most recent 6 PART podcast series with Dr. Andrew Huberman.[iv] Mindfulness is a topic that Dr. Walker lists as integral for improving sleep. I'm curious how you are implementing this skill to improve daily results. REFLECT Back to Chapter 5 on The Neuroscience Behind Peak Performance: How are we practicing “getting into our flow?” When do we notice we are in flow the most?  Is it during physical exercise, or meditation? Are we practicing this state to gain 5x more productivity this year? This is a hard one, as getting into this flow state requires practice for me. A month and a half away from this podcast, really did take me out of my flow state here. After recording an interview, and editing, I made many mistakes, or flat out forgot what to do next on the production side. I was rusty, and not in flow. I'd been producing episodes for 5 years, without taking a break, and this break revealed that the skills I'd developed need to be practiced. Use them, or lose them type of idea. This is exactly how my daughters explain what happens to them when they take time away from their sport with an injury. I learned that when we lose this flow, the best way to get it back is to get back to work, as best as we can. One step at a time. What about you? How are you using flow in your daily life? REFLECT BACK to Chapter 6 on The Science Behind our Physical Health: Where we narrowed our focus from a wide and complex field, to something we can implement immediately with “The Hydrated Brain for Improving Our Cognitive Performance.” Midway through the year, I'm thinking “How am I keeping my brain hydrated?” Do I know how much water I'm drinking every day? This is something I've put more emphasis on recently, as we have now introduced an Infrared Sauna to our daily routine, and this requires more water to help eliminate toxins. They recommend drinking 20 ounces of water before using the sauna, since sweating can cause dehydration, and drinking at least a liter (or four 8 ounce glasses of water) afterwards. I did think it was interesting that one of the products I've also been wearing since our interview last year with Dmitri Leonov, who taught us about the Taopatch[v] nanotechnology that also requires an increase in water intake to eliminate toxins. Do you know about how much water you are drinking every day? REFLECT BACK to Chapter 7 on “AHA Moments, Creative Insight and The Brain” where we looked at the book, The Eureka Factor: AHA Moments, Creative Insight and the Brain by John Kounios and Mark Beeman. They wrote this book to “explain how these Eureka experiences happen—and how to have more of them to enrich our lives and empower personal and professional success.” (The Eureka Factor).  We also went back to PART 4 of The Silva Method[vi] on “Improving Creativity and Innovation in our Schools, Sports and Modern Workplaces” where we tapped into (once again) to Dr. Andrew Huberman's research on creativity here, thinking about how we can have more insight to solve problems in our personal and work lives. It's definitely a balancing act, working on implementing ALL of these strategies for an improved 2024. Some of these I've got the hang of, and others (like sleep) are continual works of progress for me. For Today, EPISODE #333, we are moving on to Chapter 8, covering “The Neuroscience Behind Expectations” where we will dive into a topic that I mark as high importance in my life, right up with breathing. When I took my self-assessment, the topic of expectations showed up as low priority for me to focus on this year. Not because it's not important to me, but because I've already made this topic of high importance. Expectations came out for me in the RED category, with a low score of 8% along with goals and time management, that I also put high importance with on a daily basis.  If you've taken the self-assessment, look to see if Expectations are of a low, medium or high priority for you to focus on this year. Before looking at Grant Bosnick's thoughts about the topic of expectations, where he begins chapter 8 by asking us “what did you expect?” I had to do some research first, to see what is already out in the world, and there was a lot out there, on the science behind expectations. I first looked at the definition. What does it mean when someone has expectations? Collins Dictionary defined this term to mean “your strong hopes or beliefs that something will happen or that you will get something that you want.”[vii] When I typed “expectations” into Pubmed.gov (a free database of more than 37 million research articles) I saw over 95,000 entries for how expectations can help a person to improve their health and behavioral outcomes, and noticed topics like “unmet expectations[viii]” or even “how expectations modulate pain.”[ix] Before going down the rabbit hole looking to understand the science behind expectations, I found a book called The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World[x] by David Robson that I highly recommend. He covers a “journey through cutting-edge science of how our mindset shapes every facet of our lives, revealing how your brain holds the keys to unlocking a better version of you.” It was in the first few pages of Robson's Expectation Effect where I began to piece together past podcast episodes where we've talked about how “expectation hooks us up to what we want.” I saw the word “expectation” then BOOM, I could hear my mentor, Bob Proctor talking about this exact topic, back in the late 1990s. Who knew there was a science to this! We will get there, but here's what I remembered learning on this topic, 20 years ago. When Proctor talked about the importance of “expecting” what it is that we want, I remember highlighting it at the top of my notebook with an ORANGE highlighter, and never thought I would years later share these notes with anyone, (sorry they aren't neater) but look what I wrote. “Expectation hooks you up to what you want, and brings it to you.” Then further down the page, wrote “you can be hooked up to what you want (you've read Think and Grow Rich a billion times, and even listened to our 6 PART Series Think and Grow Rich Series,[xi] and you know EXACTLY what you want) but you DON'T EXPECT to ever get it, for some reason, that only you would be aware of. If you don't expect it, you won't bring it to you. I remember Proctor explaining this concept with goals, and he said it could also work with something we expect that we don't want, like a winter cold when we say something like, “Oh, I usually get a cold right before Thanksgiving, so let's not meet up until after this time.” Have you ever had someone tell you they were expecting to become ill? My mind goes straight back to the orange highlighter, and how I knew it was important to highlight that what we “expect” to happen, is brought right to us. Robson writes in his book that: Now I really did believe in these concepts I learned back in those seminar days, (because I saw first-hand how many people achieved results from this way of thinking) but I'm sure many others thought these ideas were superstitious or something. Fast forward 20 years, and now, I see this exact concept written in the 2022 book by David Robson, called The Expectation Effect, illustrating that what scientists are learning about the connections between the human brain and performance, are nothing short of amazing! Many of us have heard of these concepts, we might have even written them down, and highlighted them in orange, but now, science reveals something new about how our brain responds to the things we “expect” to happen. David Robson shows us in his book exactly “how those beliefs, in themselves, shape your health and well-being in profound ways, and that learning to reset our expectations (about these issues) can have truly remarkable effects on our health, happiness and productivity.” (David Robson, The Expectation Effect). So, I'm reading David Robson's book, excited to make a scientific connection to the word I highlighted in ORANGE in those seminar days, and here I come across the author warning us about New Age self-help books, like Rhonda Byrne's The Secret, that Bob Proctor starred in, saying these concepts to be pseudoscience. I will say that many people misunderstand The Secret and Proctor[xii] himself said “You can't just THINK and GROW RICH, you've got to DO SOMETHING with those thoughts.” So with an open mind, let's see what Grant Bosnick has to say about The Neuroscience of Expectations. I did mention that Grant opens up chapter 8 by saying “What did you expect?” and he gives examples in the beginning of this chapter ways that expectations are created in our minds whether it's with an expensive glass of wine we taste, that we “expect” to taste good based on its price, or even the credibility that we “expect” from doctors verses the doctor's assistant. What Grant Bosnich Says About The Science of Expectations: Grants explains that “in neuroscience, dopamine is the neurochemical in our brain that makes us feel good and is associated with feelings of euphoria, bliss, motivation, concentration and reward. If we meet our expectations, then it generates a slight increase in dopamine, and a slight reward response. If we exceed our expectations, it generates a strong increase in dopamine, and a strong reward response. And if our expectations are unmet, it generates a large drop in dopamine, and a strong threat response.” (Chapter 8, Grant Bosnick, Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, Page 84/85). Grant explains that when our expectations are met or exceeded, this “increases our dopamine levels, which leads to increased happiness and well-being, which helps maximize our performance by setting up the conditions of flow and insight, which leads to more productivity and increased confidence.” (Chapter 8, Grant Bosnick, Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, Page 84/85). But here's the kicker! Grant shares that “if our expectations are not met, (however) that it dramatically decreases our dopamine levels, we feel disappointment and stress, resulting in poor performance and decreased confidence.” (Chapter 8, Grant Bosnick, Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, Page 84/85). Grant asks us some questions around what we expect of ourselves and others, and it's here that I thought about how I have high expectations for myself, and the goals I'm working on, but I've noticed that in order to avoid disappointment, I work on not having expectations of others. Except of when I go to the doctor for something important, I except that he will look after whatever it is that I'm there for to the best of their ability. There is this one doctor that I drive over an hour to see him, because his services exceeded my expectations. His office experience was not the best, but when I get to see him, I have a high level of care, that I expect, and I'll look past the poor experience in his offices, to get to the high level of care when I reach him. Grant addresses this by saying that we can influence our own, and other people's expectations by “delivering higher than expected” (Chapter 8, Grant Bosnick, Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, Page 87) which is exactly what happened to me with that doctor. Grant explains the importance of “setting the expectation low, then delivering high” to avoid disappointment. REVIEW AND CONCLUSION To review and conclude this week's episode #333 on Chapter 8 on “The Neuroscience of Expectations” DID YOU KNOW: That when our expectations are met or exceeded, this “increases our dopamine levels, which leads to increased happiness and well-being, which helps maximize our performance by setting up the conditions of flow and insight, which leads to more productivity and increased confidence?” (Chapter 8, Grant Bosnick) Conversely, did you know that “if our expectations are not met, that it dramatically decreases our dopamine levels, we feel disappointment and stress, resulting in poor performance and decreased confidence?” (Chapter 8, Grant Bosnick, Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, Page 84/85). I go right back to Grant's opening statement “What did you expect” and then my ORANGE highlighted notes from 20 years ago where I learned that “expectation hooks us up to what we want.” HOW TO USE THE NEUROSCIENCE OF EXPECTATIONS IN OUR DAILY LIFE: KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I'M EXPECTING (of myself and others): Understanding the science, helps me to keep my expectations tied to myself, and not others, to avoid disappointment and stress.  I expect to achieve my goals, (by putting in the necessary work) keep myself in good health (physical and mental) and will not just THINK about these expectations, but will do the hard work, take the action necessary to achieve them. This way, I'm not just “thinking” of what I expect to occur, I'm actually doing something with those thoughts, like the quote from Bob Proctor from the beginning of this episode. If I'm ever feeling “disappointed” with something in my life, a good question to ask is “what did you expect?” and see if I can backtrack to my thoughts. Was I using the science to flood my brain with dopamine, (with something within my control-that I could take action towards) or not. USE A POSITIVE EXPECTATION TO BUILD RESILIENCE FOR A HEALTHIER VERSION OF ME: Understanding the science behind our expectations, and especially David Robson's work, where I learned that “people with a more positive attitude towards their later years are less likely to develop hearing loss, frailty, and illness—and even Alzheimer's disease—than people who associate aging with senility and disability” (David Robson, The Expectation Effect) marks a strong case for expecting exceptional mental and physical health in the future. Again, it goes without saying that we can't just “think” ourselves into good health. We need to do the work here in order to expect results to occur. CONTINUE TO EXPECT GOOD THINGS (for myself and others) AND DON'T WORRY ABOUT SUPERSTITIONS LIKE CREATING MY OWN LUCKY CHARM. Knowing that “expectations and beliefs can influence—indeed are already influencing your life in many other surprising and powerful ways. (David Robson, The Expectation Effect) makes me believe in some of the rituals I've heard of over the years, like lucky charms. I learned from David Robson's The Expectation Effect, that “superstitions and rituals can boost perseverance and performance across a whole range of cognitive tasks, and (that) the advantages are often considerable.” (Page 198, The Expectation Effect). Whether you are a professional athlete, singer, public speaker, or someone like me who just wants improved results in your life, there is a science to having a lucky charm, or something that brings you the promise of success, to help you to create a feeling of control during high stress. Don't dismiss the power of a lucky rock with a goal written on it, or whatever it is that holds significance to you with your future goals, or something that has meaning to you, that you expect to occur in your future. FINAL THOUGHTS ON OUR EXPECTATIONS: Some final thoughts, before closing out this episode, when we are working on our expectations, it's highly important to be honest with whether you believe them to be possible, or not. This is an important part of this. David Robson mentioned in his book, The Expectation Effect that: THINK ABOUT HOW YOU RESPOND TO DIFFICULT LIFE CHALLENGES: Imagine yourself going for a new position at work, and you are talking to your close family members about where you are in the interview process. They say to you “this sounds good, it looks like you are in the lead for this new position” and you reply “I'll let know IF I get the job.” How you speak about your expectations (or as Robson said “our responses to difficult situations” (internally in your mind), or out loud to others, is extremely important. Keeping brain science in mind, the best way to talk about your expectations is with certainty and our reply with this brain science in mind could be along the lines of “I'll let you know WHEN I get the new position” to keep the dopamine flowing to your brain. This response will help you to “feel good (and is associated) with feelings of euphoria, bliss, motivation, concentration and reward.” (Grant Bosnick). If for some reason, you don't believe what you are expecting, or that the leap might be too far of a jump for you, you will feel what's called cognitive dissonance, and you'll need to do more internal work to get yourself to the place where you can think “truth rather than appearances”[xiii] and speak what you expect out loud, (or think it internally) and feel the alignment of this expectation in your life. Only then will we get to this place where our expectations and beliefs can influence our life in many astonishing and powerful ways, leaving us mind-blown by our own potential for personal change. We'll see you next episode for The Neuroscience of Emotion Regulation.  REVIEW In this 18-week Series that we began in the beginning of February, (after I was inspired to cover Grant's book after our interview the end of January) we are covering: ✔ Powerful tactics from this Grant Bosnick's award-winning book that illustrates how change and achievement are truly achievable both from internal ('inside out') and external ('outside in') perspectives. ✔Listeners will grasp the immense power of self-leadership and its transformative effect on personal growth and success by applying the neuroscience Grant has uncovered in each chapter. ✔Explore practical strategies for habit formation and the impact of a self-assessment system. ✔Gain insights from Grant's expert advice on maintaining a balance between strengths and weaknesses while chasing after your goals. ✔Embark on an intellectual journey that has the power to elevate personal achievement and self-awareness to uncharted levels while we map out our journey over this 18-week course. REFERENCES: [i]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #321 with Grant ‘Upbeat' Bosnick  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/insights-from-grant-upbeat-bosnick/   [ii]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #330 “Aha Moments and Creative Insight”   https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/understanding-self-leadership-and-the-neuroscience-of-goals/   [iii] Self-Assessment for Grant Bosnick's book https://www.selfleadershipassessment.com/   [iv] 6 PART Series on Improving Sleep with Dr. Walker and Dr. Huberman https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/guest-series-dr-matthew-walker-the-biology-of-sleep-your-unique-sleep-needs   [v]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #318 with Dmitri Leonov on “Understanding Nanotechnology for Health and Wellness of the Future”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/dmitri-leonov-on-taopatch-understanding-nanotechnology-for-health-and-wellness-of-the-future/   [vi]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE 264 “The Neuroscience Behind The Silva Method: Improving Creativity and Innovation in our Schools, Sports and Modern Workplaces”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/the-neuroscience-behind-the-silva-method-improving-creativity-and-innovation-in-our-schools-sports-and-modern-workplaces/   [vii] Expectations Definition https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/expectation#:~:text=Your%20expectations%20are%20your%20strong,get%20something%20that%20you%20want.   [viii] Unmet Expectations at Work at Age 62 and Depressive Symptioms https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34173825/   [ix] How Do Expectations Modulate Pain? https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37369088/   [x]The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World by David Robson Feb. 15, 2022  https://www.amazon.com/Expectation-Effect-Mindset-Change-World-ebook [xi] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #190 PART 1 “Making 2022 Your Best Year Ever”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/think-and-grow-rich-book-review-part-1-how-to-make-2022-your-best-year-ever/   [xii]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #196 PART 6 of our Think and Grow Rich Book Series https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/the-neuroscience-behind-the-15-success-principles-of-napoleon-hill-s-classic-boo-think-and-grow-rich/   [xiii]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #315 and PART 2 of our REVIEW of Wallace D. Wattles The Science of Getting Rich  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/part-2-review-of-wallace-d-wattles-the-science-of-getting-rich-on-chapter-4-thinking-and-acting-in-a-certain-way/        

Wednesday, May 8, 2024 In the second hour, Kerby's guests are Lauren Green McAfee and Michael McAfee. They bring us their new book, Beyond Our Control: Let Go of Unmet Expectations, Overcome Anxiety, and Discover Intimacy with God. Connect with us on Facebook at facebook.com/pointofviewradio and on Twitter @PointofViewRTS with your opinions or comments. Looking for just […]

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This episode discusses the role of unmet expectations and communication breakdowns in causing disappointments in relationships. It highlights the importance of setting realistic expectations based on the other person's behavior and clearly communicating needs. The concept of radical acceptance for people with antagonistic personalities is also introduced. Strategies for minimizing disappointment through self-reflection, communication, and boundary-setting are explored. https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/