How To Be Queer!

Kim and Alex go through the Executive Orders and of course adding in their QUEER perspective on them.Source: Transgender_together (Instagram)https://www.instagram.com/transgender_together/Email Kim and Alex your comments and questions: howtobequeerpodcast@gmail.comwww.coachalexvaughan.com

We're BACK! It's been a HOT MINUTE since we've been able to connect with you all through the podcast and we're so excited!! Kim and Alex are back and dishing the QUEER DIRT on what's been going on, why and how...and where we go from here.... Sponsored by OFM: Out Front Magazine Interested in sponsoring us? Contact OFM. Interested in being on the podcast? Contact Alex at howtobequeerpodcast@gmail.com Links as mentioned in the Podcast: Coach Alex Vaughan Loving Beyond Understanding Trans Continental Pipeline Trans Legislation The Drop 303 Fit Club Colorado: Dance Magic classes Town Hall Collaborative with Debbie Scheer and Steven Haden, sponsored by Rocky Mountain PBS. January 16th Town Hall Collaborative 6:00pm-9:00pm As our LGBTQ+ community navigates mounting political uncertainties, a unique and empowering event will take place on January 16, 2025, 6:00pm at Town Hall Collaborative. We hope you can join us as this event offers: Practical insights, valuable resources, and uplifting moments of joy and laughter, all aimed at supporting and empowering our community. Of course no event is complete without some drag and comedy and we are thrilled to offer a wee bit of both. We are thrilled to have expert panelists who will engage in conversation moderated by Steven Haden Key focus areas include: Navigating transgender rights and legal protections amid political changes Accessing mental and physical health resources, including coping strategies Promoting family wellness and understanding protection frameworks Exploring partnership rights and co-parenting guidance Building connections with community support networks. We recognize the real fears and concerns within our community and this event will provide attendees with practical tools and emotional support while celebrating the strength found in joy and laughter. Link for tickets in the comments. This event is 21+ and over. Thank you to Rocky Mountain PBS for their financial support in sponsoring a portion of this event. And thank you to the following organizations for their community partnership. Bread and Roses Legal Center Queer Asterisk The Center on Colfax Envision:You One Colorado

Kim and Alex discuss new language, acknowledge Transgender Awareness Month in November, and the energetic state of the world in queerness. Sponsored by Out Front Magazine. Contact for sponsorship. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howtobequeer/message

Join Kim (she/her) and Alex (they/them) for a conversation about pronouns, the future of workforces and the energetic realness of allyship. Just showing up, being willing to risk what you think you know...do you dare?! I mean, it is almost Halloween. ;) If you are interested in sponsoring, please reach out to Maggie or Addison at Out Front Magazine for details! Link below. Sponsored by Out Front Magazine Don't forget to GIVE US A RATING where ever you listen to podcasts!!! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howtobequeer/message

Welcome back everyone! We're back with partnered with Out Front Magazine, a Denver-based queer publication available nationwide! Tune in with Kim (she/her) and Alex (they/them) as they share about queer magic, coming out stories, LGTBQ history and some Top Gun tickles. Someone please help them understand what is happening with Tom Cruise. #lgbtqpodcast Out Front Magazine www.outfrontmagazine.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex get to interview Cristina Michaels (she/her/hers)! from Healing Roots Acupuncture, founder of Queer Dance Project and author of The Adventures of Vaginoplasty: A Trans Woman's Guide to Healing (link below). Cristina has a comprehensive 25 years experience in the rehabilitation of dancers, sports injuries, veterans and the psycho-emotional care of patient's. Some of her many specialties is in queer and transgender care, traumatic brain injuries, and psycho- emotional care. Pain management and sports injuries are all too familiar, since specializing in Sports Injury and dry needling while in her graduate program. Cristina identifies as a transgender female, she loves teaching dance and Qigong in the evening at her dance studio Queer Dance Project. If you have questions contact Cristina at 720-443-2966 or cristinahealingroots@gmail.com Healing Roots Acupuncture: https://healingrootsacupuncture.com Queer Dance Project: www.queerdanceproject.com Purchase Cristina's book!  The Adventures of Vaginoplasty: A Trans Woman's Guide to Healing Email Kim and Alex at: howtobequeerpodcast@gmail.com How To Be Queer is partnered with Out Front Magazine-- visit them at www.outfrontmagazine.com For inquiries, email: howtobequeerpodcast@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howtobequeer/message

Welcome to June!! We're a little on the tail end of it but we're here and queer. Tune in for a longer episode while Kim and Alex catch you up on life and how LOVE WINS whichever way you look at it when you are committed to yourself and those you love to make the world kinder. Discussing Pride to court proceedings to the harm of the patriarchy... Alex was invited by the Denver Dyke March to speak at the Capitol on June 24, 2023. They read their speech here but you can also catch it on YouTube on the channel, Queer Family in Family Court. Books Kim talks about in this episode: 1. Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women by Kate Manne 2. Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne 3. The End of Men (fiction) by Christina Sweeney-Baird 4. Everything You Already Know About Your Own Racism and How To Do Better White Women by Regina Jackson and Saira Rao --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howtobequeer/message

We're in collaboration with Out Front Magazine- OFM (OUT FRONT Magazine) was founded in 1976 by Phil Price. Since then, no other queer media has served the LGBTQ community with such dedication. Check us out on Facebook and Instagram- How To Be Queer. We love to hear your stories, questions and comments. Email us at howtobequeerpodcast@gmail.com Go to Spotify and Apple and leave us a REVIEW! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex have the pleasure of speaking with Melissa Giberson, author of Late Bloomer: Finding My Authentic Self at Midlife (Releasing on August 8, available for pre-order through Amazon!) ORDER NOW!!!! Melissa Giberson is a middle-aged suburban wife and mother of two kids, solidly planted in the life she's always wanted. Yet she longs for something more—something she can't quite put her finger on until, one day at the Y, she finds herself mesmerized by the sight of a naked woman and asks herself for the first time: Am I gay? This revelation sends Melissa on a head-spinning journey of self-discovery, one that challenges everything she thinks she knows about herself, forces her to decide exactly how much she's willing to risk for authenticity, and shakes the foundations of the family she's fiercely determined to shield from the kinds of wounds she sustained during her own childhood. Torn between her desire to be true to herself and her desire to protect her children, she is consumed by fear and conflicting emotions—and when her husband unexpectedly serves her divorce papers, her confusion only deepens. Adrift in uncharted waters, Melissa finds fragments of understanding and peace in unexpected places—in a conference room in Israel, a small fishing village in Cape Cod, and at a yoga retreat center—that help her deconstruct her preconceptions about faith and identity and begin to construct a new framework for her life. Over the course of her ten-year journey, she finds hope, love, and more courage than she ever knew she was capable of, and she gradually assembles the puzzle that is her—the real her. Tune in to the interview and join the fun. Find Melissa Giberson at www.melissagiberson.com In collaboration with Out Front Magazine https://www.outfrontmagazine.com Amplifying queer voices since 1976 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howtobequeer/message

We're in collaboration with Out Front Magazine- https://www.outfrontmagazine.com/about-us/ OFM (OUT FRONT Magazine) was founded in 1976 by Phil Price. Since then, no other queer media has served the LGBTQ community with such dedication. It's April and Kim and Alex are discussing the state of the states....travel bans, queerness on their favorite TV shows, books and news. Check us out on Facebook and Instagram- How To Be Queer Love you Balls of Magic! Go to Spotify and Apple and leave us a REVIEW!!!!!! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howtobequeer/message

It's been 2 years since Kim and Alex first did their podcast. They're taking some time to recap, review, reflect and reshare why they do the podcast, who they are and what they stand for. Tune in to get the deets! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex are back after a bit of a pause...intentional...healthy...in the name of deeper alignment and connection. They are back, in smirking and snarking shape....ready to share the places they've been and what's been happening lately in their queer world. Sponsored by YouthSeen The books Kim talks about: Home Going by Yaa Gyasi House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune Olga Dies Dreaming by Xochitl Gonzalez --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

It's 2023 and we're here for another year! Catch up with Kim and Alex...Kim met someone with no pronouns, talks about why we do this podcast, names some important issues that need change, and what we're looking forward to. Alex and Kim discuss 10 things that you're REALLY saying when you ignore or dismiss someone's pronouns. Tune in...contact us for inquiries! Sponsor: www.youthseen.org Instagram: @youthseen Facebook: Youth Seen Email: howtobequeerpodcast@gmail.com Website: www.howtobequeer.com Instagram: @how_to_be_queer Instagram: @howtobequeercoaching Facebook: How To Be Queer Facebook: How To Be Queer Coaching --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Congress passed the "Respect for Marriage Act" which includes acknowledgement for same-sex and interracial couples. (Shouldn't this just be a basic right?) One would think...! True to themselves, Kim and Alex go full on snark and love talking about the impact of this...the light, the dark and everything in between. Tune in, Balls of Magic, for some FUN!!! How To Be Queer is sponsored by YouthSeen Show them how much you care and appreciate them by heading to their website here to DONATE Check out Colorado Gives and donate there. For LGBTQ training, coaching, and speaking inquiries, check out our website for more information: www.howtobequeer.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Well, it's been a hot second and Kim and Alex have cocooned a bit in the latest events. They are back, ready to bring you some snark, humor, love, care and call-ins for all things queer and joyful. Tune in for an uplifting episode on joy, feelings and how awesome being queer is! How To Be Queer is sponsored by YouthSeen Show them how much you care and appreciate them by heading to their website here to DONATE Check out Colorado Gives and donate there. For LGBTQ training, coaching, speaking inquiries, check out our website for more information: www.howtobequeer.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Well, it's midlife and you're coming out...or trying to. You're faced with a body that looks different and feels different. Sex is something you want to do but also it feels scary...different body parts? New sexuality? You want to connect with someone but you also are unsure what to do, scared of what could happen, how you might feel or not feel and it's generally just....overwhelming. Tune in and Alex and Kim start a multi-part episode on the emotional part of sexual and connection to our bodies. Email us your comments, questions or stories: howtobequeerpodcast@gmail.com Thankyou Balls of Magic! Love, Alex and Kim --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

"Power is neither good nor evil; its user makes it so." Power isn't a pizza or a piece of pie. There is plenty for all if we can remind ourselves and equip ourselves with the capacity to listen and respect all perspectives. The world would be a better place! Kim and Alex discuss dynamics of power; stepping into ours, yours, collectively together to make the world a more just, safer place to live. How To Be Queer Blog --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex detail how being able to hold both love and anger creates balance. Following up since the trial they detailed in the 3 parts series, "It Was Never About Queerness: Abuse", they share how life has been, what is happening and where things are going now navigating these systems in place that were put in place to protect only a certain type of person who has certain access to resources and holds a certain amount of privilege. We titled that series, "It was never about queerness" because though this is a podcast about being queer in a heteronormative world, we wanted to bring the focus back the heart of this story: a little girl whose life as a transgender child, obtaining access to health care and being provided with the option to medically transition was constantly being threatened, doubted, gate-keeped and ignored by her own abusive father while he cloaked his actions and behavior in "safety" and "care" calling out the legal system that makes domestic abuse recovery and safety only accessible for victims with money who can pay to fight and who have the privilege of knowing how to navigate the broken system a Colorado court system that allows a known domestic abuser be appointed as the Child Family Investigator. Dr Mark Kilmer, the "expert", a CFI/PRE/Psychologist whose grandiosity and arrogance is on full display places vulnerable children back into the care of abusive caretakers. And who when questioned, responds with complete disregard to the nuances of being a victim of domestic abuse therefore siding with the abuser How deeply archaic our system is that dismisses queerness and cannot keep up with real life time, staying ignorant to the signs of more covert types of abuse, forcing victims and abusers to co-parent "in the best interest of the children" The infuriating reality that everyone involved in the system, designed to "protect"was not actually equipped to call out the abuse happening and acknowledge that LGBTQ+ people and children whose identities are being targeted Dr. Mark Kilmer: the CFI that was appointed to our case... A Custody Evaluator Who Disbelieves 90% of Abuse Allegations Recommended a Teen Stay Under Her Abusive Father's Control https://www.propublica.org/article/parental-responsibility-evaluators-colorado?fbclid=IwAR3TdgvpPFMojSBYnd2L4FZ-cjFB23VQjHnd9oar-lYRP4q17n-lnI93nHg #podcast #applepodcasts #spotifypodcast #howtobequeer #systemsofoppression #lgbtq #nonbinary #transformers #transgender #abusesurvivor #believe #ibelieveyou #domesticabuseawareness #queer www.howtobequeer.com Instagram: @ballsofmagic Facebook: @How To Be Queer podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex bring you Part 3 of their personal story wrapping up this series. *Warning: Discussion of domestic abuse; emotional, psychological, financial, verbal and written abuse, control and power through the legal system. * Reminder to take care of your mind and body if you listen to navigate emotions that come up for you. They share the details about the Child and Family Investigator's report leading up to the trial...tune in, get ready for some dark humor, gritty details and a bunch of F bombs. (Because how else do you get through shit like this!?) Brought to you by our sponsor, YouthSeen.org, providing mental wellness to the LBGTQ/QTBIPOC community youth and their families. If you need support, you can reach out to us and we can help get you connected. We love you, Balls of Magic. SPAN [Safehouse Progressive Alliance for Nonviolence]: https://www.safehousealliance.org/contact-span/ The National Domestic Abuse Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/ www.howtobequeer.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

We're here and very queer...sharing part 2 of the three part series on It Was Never About Queerness: Abuse series. In this episode we invite a couple of our dear framily (friends but family) to join and help us get through, Andrea S (she/her), Executive Producer for How To Be Queer, and Dr. tara jae (they/them), Executive Director of YouthSeen, our sponsor. If you need support, you can reach out to us and we can help get you connected to resources. Listed below are also some resources to support. We love you, Balls of Magic... SPAN [Safehouse Progressive Alliance for Nonviolence]: https://www.safehousealliance.org/contact-span/ The National Domestic Abuse Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/ www.howtobequeer.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Alex and Kim have been going through something really big. So many people find it hard to talk about queerness (I mean, not us) and so many people find it hard to talk about abuse (here we are doing it). Alex shares their story; coupling, marrying, having kids, divorcing and navigating the legal system. Together, Kim and Alex stand tall to protect their identity, their family and their children. Join us in Part 1 of a multi-part series... --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex share what they've learned recently and the connection to living in a heteronormative world. They have quite a TikTok following where people ask all sorts of questions about life, queerness and learning. They answer some of those questions!! FUN! Come visit us! Want us to come have a discussion with your organization? Provide entertaining support? Maybe some funny and true stories? CHECK OUT OUR WEBSITE! www.howtobequeer.com CONNECT with How To Be Queer Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/howtobequeer Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ballsofmagic/ TikTok: @alexthehumanhuman @kimsalvaggio101 CONNECT with YouthSeen Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YouthSeen Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/youth_seen/ #health #queer #youthseen #howtobequeer #lesbian #gay #nonbinary #transgender #ballsofmagic #sexuality #orientation #lgbtq --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex briefly recap the last episode with Addison and Maggie from Out Front Magazine and share their thoughts on learning more about the gender and sexuality spectrum, using HealthLine's article written by Mere Abrams 47 Terms That Describe Sexual Attraction, Behavior and Orientation: CONNECT with How To Be Queer Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/howtobequeer Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ballsofmagic/ TikTok: @alexthehumanhuman @kimsalvaggio101 CONNECT with YouthSeen Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YouthSeen Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/youth_seen/ #LGBTQ #QTBIPOC #queer #youthseen #howtobequeer #lesbian #gay #nonbinary #transgender #sexuality #identity --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex get the chance to sit down with Out Front Magazine's Maggie Phillips and Addison Herron-Wheeler. They share their incredible stories about discovering their queerness. They share their truths and the nitty gritty about what love and authenticity is for them. Grab a cup of love, or put on your walking shoes and spend time with us. After six years directing OFM operations, Maggie Phillips obtained co-ownership along with her fearless business partner, Addison. Maggie took over as CEO (we learn means Chief Everything Officer!) and co-publisher to carry on the 45-year legacy that Phil Price founded, and continues to amplify queer voices. Maggie considers hiking to be the best therapy and intends to conquer as many mountains as possible until her legs can no longer carry her up. Addison Herron-Wheeler is OFM's co-owner, co-publisher, and editor-in-chief, and friend to dogs everywhere. She enjoys long walks in the darkness away from any sources of sunlight, rainy days, and painfully dry comedy. She also covers cannabis and heavy metal, and is author of Wicked Woman: Women in Metal from the 1960s to Now, and Respirator, a short story collection. CONNECT with OUT FRONT MAGAZINE CONNECT with How To Be Queer You Tube Facebook Instagram TikTok: @alexthehumanhuman @kimsalvaggio101 CONNECT with YouthSeen --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

A discussion about a bit of life after the roe vs. wade overturn. Kim shares a personal story and discuss issues with women who support the overturn, what it means and not seeing. Alex and Kim discuss implications of non affirming parents for their queer kiddos topped with a healthy dose of empathy and a message that says, "no more". --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

SCOTUS decision- Roe V Wade, anarchy, anger, what this means for the LGBTQ community...and lots of F bombs. LOVE YOU BALLS OF MAGIC! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Pride is joy...and also the mixed-bag-ness of being in the queer community. Transphobia, performative businesses and how doing the work helps you understand yourself....isn't that what it's all about? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

All our favorite lgbtq-ness this month! Billy Porter, movies, and clothing…join the rest of the month as well to hear more queer things Kim and Alex love! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

It's been a minute! Alex and Kim share what's going on and share the incredible life of Stormé DeLarverie, an LGBTQ activist and the one to be believed who threw the first punch at the Stonewall Riots. Tune in! We've got a colorful series to come! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Mothers. Parents. People with a uterus. What makes a family? Why are we having rights taken away? Kim and Alex talk about Roe v Wade, LGBTQ families, children with two moms and simply....love. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Hey balls of magic! Kim and Alex talk "DEI" work...diversity, equity and inclusion...how we dismantle these harmful systems we are born into, organizational equity, and shame culture. Links below are the podcasts and books to start your own journey of acknowledgment: Equity: How to Design Organizations Where Everyone Thrives by Minal Bopaiah Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Kaid-Menon '1619' a podcast about the shadow of American slavery Seeing White from Scene on Radio (Season 2) The Anti-Trans Hate Machine: A Plot Against Equality --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex dive into dysphoria and dysmorphia, name some aspects of healing trans/nonbinary bodies through sex and intimacy. ForThem.Com is a resource :) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex "interview", Peg, aka Kim's mom, the Gramster, The Grammy, on all things being a boomer. Open your hearts and minds moving from allyship to being an accomplice....listen up this is our ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY Episode! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

We dive into a bit of everything going on in the world today...energy and gender...Texas, drag perfoming and more...tune in! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex have some VERY special guests: Felony Misdemeanor and Zarah Misdemeanor, two well-known drag queens. Strap on for a ride, Balls of Magic, we talk about it ALL. Sex positive, drag scene culture, Jesus, going to jail and Felony and Zarah's new podcast they are launching! Coming soon, sponsored by YouthSeen. www.youthseen.org DONATE to YouthSeen: https://youthseen.org/donations/donation/ Felony Misdemeanor: Find her on Facebook, Instagram, Venmo: @Felonymisdemeanor Zarah Misdemeanor: Find her on Facebook, Instagram, Venmo: @Tip-Zarah --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

This is one NOT TO MISS! Kim and Alex dive into this week's episode on what is "compulsory heterosexuality". The what, the why, the history, how it affects us, and what you can do about it... --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex discuss the history and Valentine's situation these days… --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex grab their jumbo marshmallows and roast Joe Harding, some dude in Florida who thinks he's entitled to make decisions for queer youth in Florida. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex unpack lesbian death bed, sex and intimacy in the queer community, taking any chance they can at dismantling the heteronormative, patriarchal society we're taught to buy into...We will give you an update on last week's episode of our perspective of what happened during AND JUST LIKE THAT. Also, head on over to YouthSeen.org and click connect to support the organization that powers us! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex's friend, Kim D, joins them again for a discussion about collective grief, healing and processing...showing up as an ally in marginalized spaces. Why do we need to grieve? What is it? What does it look like and feel like? When does it come and what does it do....? And why do we dismiss certain spaces who need it the most...Happy Friday, Balls of Magic... --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex discuss current events in Colorado, connecting for support and resources, questions they get on their TikTok pages, the things people say, ask, want to know... --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Alex and Kim talk about "And just like that" storylines and characters within the LGBTQ community, their favorite podcasts and what has brought joy. Grab your walking shoes and hit the trail with this one...90 minutes of Ball of Magic love coming at you! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Alex shares an experience related to their coming out and both Kim and Alex talk about the body, the work, the breath and sex... --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex recap a very special day; queer joy, family and true love... --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Transgender Day of Remembrance in November 20th...it is an observance that honors the memory of the transgender people whose lives we've lost in acts of anti-transgender violence. Kim and Alex sit down and have a conversation with their dear friend, Kim Dillon, whose daughter left us too soon. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

True friends stay connected over the years...listen with Kim and Alex as they chat with their good friends, Deidre and Molly. Coming out, leaning into joy and hope and happiness as queer people working and raising families. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Texas recently passed House Bill 25, also called the "Anti-Trans Youth Sports Bill". Kim and Alex discuss this bill, how it affects trans kids and their families, where it's coming from and what is really going on. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

What's a pronoun? How do I use them? Is it okay to ask someone theirs? Can I introduce myself with my pronouns? And why would I do that? Kim and Alex answer all these questions and more...covering gender identity, sexuality and being a better ally at work and in the world. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex dive into the vulnerability of parenting while you come out and how showing up for ourselves changes the world in beautiful ways. Sponsored by Youth Seen www.youthseen.org --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex go dark and light...the history of coming out day, pronouns day, James Byrd Jr, Matthew Shepard, and finally but not least....JOY...the joy of being queer, how to find it, where it comes from, why what how. Brofriend joins us and it's a triangle of joyness... --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message

Kim and Alex get the privilege to have a conversation with Jeremy and Jo Ivester. Book description: "Jeremy Ivester is a transgender man. Thirty years ago, his parents welcomed him into the world as what they thought was their daughter. As a child, he preferred the toys and games our society views as masculine. He kept his hair short and wore boys' clothing. They called him a tomboy. That's what he called himself. By high school, when he showed no interest in flirting, his parents thought he might be lesbian. At twenty, he wondered if he was asexual. At twenty-three, he surgically removed his breasts. A year later, he began taking the hormones that would lower his voice and give him a beard―and he announced his new name and pronouns. Once a Girl, Always a Boy is Jeremy's journey from childhood through coming out as transgender and eventually emerging as an advocate for the transgender community. This is not only Jeremy's story but also that of his family, told from multiple perspectives―those of the siblings who struggled to understand the brother they once saw as a sister, and of the parents who ultimately joined him in the battle against discrimination. This is a story of acceptance in a world not quite ready to accept." --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/howtobequeer/message