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Would you like to learn how to release pain by creating more peace and calm?  Download my free guided meditation audio bundle here: https://thewellnessengineer.com/audiobundle Did you know that health and wellness are attainable as we age and that chronic conditions can be reversed? Education is the first step to transformation. Join me and my guest, Dr. Elena Villanueva, to learn more about simple steps to reclaim your health and get your life back.  In this episode you'll learn: ⏰ 5:29 Chronic disease diagnoses and deaths are rising ⏰ 9:53 The body responds to our thoughts and belief systems  ⏰ 11:54 Getting started with reversing chronic conditions ⏰ 15:25 How to find the RIGHT information to help you heal  ⏰ 21:27 The most common root causes of chronic conditions: toxins, toxic mold, food, long term medications, thoughts and beliefs, and unresolved trauma ⏰ 29:23 Foods as a root cause of chronic conditions: we're all different ⏰ 32:48 The most common inflammatory ‘real' foods ⏰ 34:53 Upcoming live masterclass Beyond the Pill starting June 4th ⏰ 37:30 The ONE thing you can do today to help your body heal Listen to Wellness By Design on the go with these apps: Apple Podcasts Spotify iHeart Radio Subscribe, rate and review! Check out Dr. Elena Villanueva's Bio: Dr. Elena Villanueva is an international speaker, health influencer, the producer and host of several ground-breaking health-based educational series, the co-author of The Longevity Code, and has been featured on FOX news, MSN, Healthline, Houston Chronicle, & many other media outlets as well several documentaries.  Dr. Elena Villanueva and her team teach evidence-based approaches for finding & treating the underlying causes of chronic illness and mental health conditions, and they have a multifaceted trauma and emotional release program that also addresses chronic diseases and mental health conditions that are rooted in unresolved trauma and unprocessed emotions. Dr. Elena Villanueva's unique approach incorporates the merging of Newtonian and quantum science, evidence-based approaches, & the integration of the mind/body/spirit. Dr. Elena Villanueva's gift and link: https://pw646.isrefer.com/go/inflammation/janehogan/ Beyond the Pill, Masterclass goes live on Sunday, June 4th. It's a Live 5 part series where Dr. Elena Villanueva and her team will reveal the truth about chronic disease and autoimmune disease and show real stories of clients who healed using Dr. Elena Villanueva's comprehensive and data-driven approaches that address all facets of the human condition. Connect with Dr. Elena Villanueva: Website: https://www.modernholistichealth.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ModernHolisticHealth  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/modern_holistic_health/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/modern-holistic-health/about/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@modernholistichealth  ***** Hi there! I am Jane Hogan, the Wellness Engineer, and the host of Wellness By Design. I spent 30 years designing foundations for buildings until the pain and inflammation of rheumatoid arthritis led me to hang up my hard hat and follow my heart. Now I blend my backgrounds in science and spirituality to teach people how to tap into the power of their mind, body and soul. I help them release pain naturally so they can become the most wonderful fine version of themselves.  Wellness By Design is a show dedicated to helping people achieve wellness not by reacting to the world around them but by intentionally designing a life based on what their own body needs. In this show we explore practices, methods and science that contribute to releasing pain and inflammation naturally. Learn more at https://thewellnessengineer.com  Would you like to learn how to release pain by creating more peace and calm?  Download my free guided meditation audio bundle here: https://thewellnessengineer.com/audiobundle  Connect with Jane:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JaneHoganHealth/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janehoganhealth DISCLAIMER: The information contained in this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose, cure or prevent any disease. You should always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified healthcare provider with any questions you have regarding a medical condition before undertaking any diet, exercise, supplement, health program, or other procedure discussed in this podcast.

Did you know that cereal, a beloved breakfast item, has a strange history that includes religious mania, mind control, food guns, and the realization that kids have immense marketing power?    When you remove those factors, do you have a healthy product? Tony the Tiger might stop telling children that cereal is “Grrreat” if he knew they were full of refined grains, GMOs, pesticides, herbicides, and sugar that are causing all kinds of health problems for the millions of people who start their day with a bowl of this stuff.    But are granola and organic cereals any better? Is this food children and adults should be eating first thing in the morning?   That's what we will explore in this episode of Fatal Convenience™.     What we discuss:   05:15: What is the history of cereal? 10:02: Why is cereal a fatal convenience? 13:59: What can you eat instead of sugary cereals?     Reliable Sources where you can learn more:   A fun read from the NY Times on the history of cereal here  A study on added sugar consumption and chronic disease risk factors here HealthLine article on 12 healthy breakfast choices here EWG analysis on children's cereals here EWG article on Cereal Offenders here A Harvard doctor's recipe for a healthy breakfast here 30 Nutritionist-Approved Healthy Breakfast Ideas here Is Granola Healthy? here     Thank you to our sponsors:   Order the Fatal Conveniences book TODAY: https://darinolien.com/fatal-conveniences-book/   Shop Therasage and use code DARIN to save 15% on your purchase: https://therasage.com/pages/shop   Find more from Darin:   Website: https://darinolien.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Darinolien/ Book: https://darinolien.com/fatal-conveniences-book/ Down to Earth: https://darinolien.com/down-to-earth/

Bestselling author Monisha Bhanote, MD, FCAP, ABOIM, is one of the few quintuple board-certified physicians in the nation. She combines ancient wisdom with mind-body science to naturally bio-hack the human body through her expertise as a cytopathologist, functional culinary medicine specialist, and integrative medicine doctor. Known as the Wellbeing Doctor, Dr. Bhanote has diagnosed over one million cancer cases, provides health programs at DrBhanote.com, and leads wellness workshops and retreats worldwide. Featured in Shape, Reader's Digest, and Martha Stewart Living, Dr. Bhanote serves on several clinical advisory boards and is a go-to health and wellness expert for Healthline, Psych Central, and Medical News Today. As the founder of the WELLKULÅ, she continues to practice, write, and teach with an evidence informed approach to improve the health and wellbeing of individuals through practice, education and research. Her interests include nutrition and the microbiome, the role of stress and inflammation in disease manifestation, applying mindfulness as a lifestyle practice, and disease prevention. Dr. Bhanote's mission is to support an integrative approach to evidence-based holistic wellbeing.

Kris Gunnars with Healthline shares 5 natural sweeteners that are good for your health Episode 2147: 5 Natural Sweeteners That Are Good for Your Health by Kris Gunnars How you feel affects every precious day of your life. Healthline understands that, which is why they're committed to being your most trusted ally in your pursuit of health and well-being. You can depend on Healthline to provide expert content along with genuine caring--both of which will support, guide, and inspire you toward the best possible health outcomes for you and your family. The original post is located here: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/healthy-natural-sweeteners Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you found yourself struggling to explain your AiArthritis disease to others?    In this episode, our co-hosts Leila, Charis, and Patrice put a new topic on the table: how to explain your AiArthritis disease in a 30-60 second elevator pitch. From your workplace to your personal life, our co-hosts will provide practical tips on how to tailor your elevator pitch to different audiences such as co-workers, family, friends or strangers to help you confidently communicate your AiArthritis and advocate for yourself. Join us in this episode to listen to varying elevator pitches as well as have the opportunity to share your own and continue to help us build patient resources!    Share your AiArthritis disease elevator pitch here! info@aiarthritis.org Subject: Elevator Pitch Episode Highlights:  What is an AiArthritis disease elevator pitch? Leila, Charis, and Patrice share their own elevator pitches for their varying AiArthritis diseases  Learn how to tailor your own 30-60 second elevator pitch to help explain your disease to others and advocate for your needs.  Why an elevator pitch is important for anyone living with an AiArthritis disease  Importance of creating varying elevator pitches for different audiences such as your work, family, friends, or even strangers Understand how to handle workplace conversations regarding your AiArthritis disease and what accommodations you need  How you can use humor to help describe your diseases  Our Co-Hosts:   Leila is the Health Education and Engagement Manager at the International Foundation for AiArthritis. She is a person living with Lupus Nephritis and Sjögren's Syndrome. She is passionate about inclusion and diversity in health education and meeting individuals where they are at in order to learn in a way that resonates with them. Leila is on social media as @LupusLifestyle.Lei sharing bits and pieces about her life with lupus and connecting with others. Connect with her on Instagram or TikTok. Connect with Leila:     Instagram: @lupuslifestyle.lei      LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/leila-lagandaon       Facebook: @leilaaiarthritis      YouTube: LupusLifestyle.Lei      TikTok: @lupuslifestyle.lei   Charis Hill, who uses they/them pronouns, is a disability activist, writer, speaker and model living with many conditions including Axial Spondyloarthritis (axSpA), Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (EDS), Major Depressive Disorder, Anxiety and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Charis' multi-tiered work uses narrative engagement to advance social justice for multiply-marginalized disabled people. Charis' story is regularly featured internationally in media outlets and in the documentary: "Becoming Incurable." In addition to Charis' leadership on patient advocacy organization committees and regular speaking engagements about health and disability, they boast bylines in HealthCentral, Healthline, and Business Insider; including cover stories for Arthritis Today and Spondylitis Plus magazine; and they have been awarded by the Arthritis Foundation and Spondylitis Association of America for their work on legislative advocacy for state and federal policy efforts.   Connect with Charis: Twitter: @beingcharisblog  Tikok : @beingcharisblog Facebook: @beingcharisblog Patrice was diagnosed with Polymyalgia Rheumatica. Patrice has been in remission off and on during these last 11 years. Patrice also has had several comorbidities: severe hearing loss which resulted in her now wearing hearing aids, a Baker's Cyst, a vein ablation, plantar fasciitis, pseudo gout, and she also has osteopenia. Patrice has been a volunteer with AiArthritis for over 2 years and has been co-host and a host for the podcast several times. Patrice went to EULAR virtually with AiArthritis in 2020 and 2021 and attended the virtual ACR conference in 2021 with AiArthritis. Connect with Patrice: Facebook : @PatriceJohnson   Donate to Support the Show: https://www.aiarthritis.org/donate    Sign up for our Monthly AiArthritis Voices 360 Talk Show newsletter! HERE   AiArthritis Voices 360 is produced by the International Foundation for Autoimmune and Autoinflammatory Arthritis. Visit us on the web at www.aiarthritis.org/talkshow. Find us on Twitter, Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook (@IFAiArthritis) or email us (podcast@aiarthritis.org).  Be sure to check out our top-rated show on Feedspot! 

A client with chronic pelvic pain has been through the wringer, trying to get a solid diagnosis and effective treatment for what has—for lack of a better option—been diagnosed as levator ani syndrome. Is there anything massage can do for this person? And is there a connection between levator ani syndrome and this client's extreme flexibility? We explore these questions and more on this episode of “I Have a Client Who . . .” Sponsors:     Books of Discovery: www.booksofdiscovery.com     Advanced-Trainings: www.advanced-trainings.com   Host Bio:                    Ruth Werner is a former massage therapist, a writer, and an NCBTMB-approved continuing education provider. She wrote A Massage Therapist's Guide to Pathology, now in its seventh edition, which is used in massage schools worldwide. Werner is also a long-time Massage & Bodywork columnist, most notably of the Pathology Perspectives column. Werner is also ABMP's partner on Pocket Pathology, a web-based app and quick reference program that puts key information for nearly 200 common pathologies at your fingertips. Werner's books are available at www.booksofdiscovery.com. And more information about her is available at www.ruthwerner.com.                                      Recent Articles by Ruth:          “Working with Invisible Pain,” Massage & Bodywork magazine, November/December 2022, page 36, http://www.massageandbodyworkdigital.com/i/1481961-november-december-2022/38   “Unpacking the Long Haul,” Massage & Bodywork magazine, January/February 2022, page 35, www.massageandbodyworkdigital.com/i/1439667-january-february-2022/36. “Chemotherapy-Induced Peripheral Neuropathy and Massage Therapy,” Massage & Bodywork magazine, September/October 2021, page 33, http://www.massageandbodyworkdigital.com/i/1402696-september-october-2021/34.           “Pharmacology Basics for Massage Therapists,” Massage & Bodywork magazine, July/August 2021, page 32, www.massageandbodyworkdigital.com/i/1384577-july-august-2021/34.           Resources:    Pocket Pathology: https://www.abmp.com/abmp-pocket-pathology-app   Chronic Pelvic Pain in Women (no date). Available at: https://www.abmp.com/textonlymags/article.php?article=1550 (Accessed: 2 May 2023).   Gilliam, E., Hoffman, J.D. and Yeh, G. (2020) ‘Urogenital and pelvic complications in the Ehlers-Danlos syndromes and associated hypermobility spectrum disorders: A scoping review', Clinical genetics, 97(1), pp. 168–178. Available at: https://doi.org/10.1111/cge.13624.   https://www.physiotherapyroom.com/Self-Care-for-Pelvic-Pain-A-Sensory-Integration-Toolkit   Knowles, C.H. and Cohen, R.C. (2022) ‘Chronic anal pain: A review of causes, diagnosis, and treatment', Cleveland Clinic Journal of Medicine, 89(6), pp. 336–343. Available at: https://doi.org/10.3949/ccjm.89a.21102.   Levator Ani Syndrome: Symptoms, Causes, and Treatment (2017) Healthline. Available at: https://www.healthline.com/health/levator-ani-syndrome (Accessed: 28 April 2023).   Massage & Bodywork - JULY | AUGUST 2016 (no date). Available at: http://www.massageandbodyworkdigital.com/i/694071-july-august-2016/44? (Accessed: 2 May 2023).   Myofascial Pelvic Pain (no date) Physiopedia. Available at: https://www.physio-pedia.com/Myofascial_Pelvic_Pain (Accessed: 2 May 2023). Self-Care for Pelvic Pain—a Sensory Integration Toolkit by Sandy Hilton, PT, DPT, MS

Date: April 26, 2023 Reference: Han et al. The effect of telemental versus in-person mental health consults in the emergency department on 30-day utilization and processes of care. AEM April 2023 Guest Skeptic: Dr. Corey Heitz is an emergency physician in Roanoke, Virginia. He is also the CME editor for Academic Emergency Medicine. Case: You are moonlighting at the Veterans […] The post SGEM#402: Call Me – On the Telemental Health Line first appeared on The Skeptics Guide to Emergency Medicine.

Today, Debbie re-runs the single most popular of 100+ episodes of [B]OLDER. Exactly two years ago, in the spring of 2021, she asked plague expert Nicholas Christakis, a distinguished Yale professor and author,  the burning question: when will the COVID-19 pandemic end? His answer: 2024. It startled her and burst her bubble of optimism. Vaccines were widely available by then and it seemed like the beginning of the end. Surely he was exaggerating how long it would take for the COVID pandemic to wind down? No, it was only the end of the beginning, he told her.Today that makes sense. And of course, it was prescient.Tune into a re-run of one of the most fascinating episodes of [B]OLDER. (Note that Debbie refers to it as The Gap Year Podcast, the name she gave the podcast during the height of the pandemic. It's now the [B]OLDER podcast. Same podcast; different name.) SHOW NOTES from the original interview with Nicholas Christakis (May 7, 2021)Nicholas Christakis, MD, PhD, MPH, and a Sterling Professor at Yale, has been named to TIME magazine's list of the 100 Most Influential People in the World. His fluency in explaining the intertwined science, epidemiology, psychology, sociology and history of pandemics - and his sense of humor - make this a compelling episode. You'll hear why he chose to publish his latest book, Apollo's Arrow, in the fall of 2020, before we knew the end of the story of COVID-19How his childhood experiences with illness and death affected his career choicesWhat the predictable three phases of a pandemic are (in 2021 we were still in the immediate phase)Why he thinks this pandemic won't be over until 2024They also talked about separating the biological vs. the psychological impacts of the pandemicWhat herd immunity actually means and whether we'll get thereAnd what the public health messaging around the pandemic should beDebbie asks him point blank: when is the next pandemic? The answer is unnerving – sooner than you might think. About Nicholas ChristakisWikipediaTwitterYale UniversityTed TalksHuman Nature Lab at Yale Books by Nicholas ChristakisApollo's Arrow: The Profound and Enduring Impact of Coronavirus on the Way We Live by Nicholas Christakis (Little, Brown Spark 2020)Blueprint: The Evolutionary Origins of a Good Society by Nicholas Christakis (Little, Brown Spark 2019)Connected: The Surprising Power of Our Social Networks and How They Shape Our Lives by Nicholas Christakis (Little, Brown Spark 2009)Death Foretold: Prophecy and Prognosis in Medical Care by Nicholas Christakis (University of Chicago Press, 2001) Articles and interviewsThe New York Times Book Review: The Pandemic's Future — and Ours (NYT Book Review of Apollo's Arrow, November 3, 2020)A year of COVID: Making sense of an ‘alien and unnatural' time (Yale News, March 4, 2021)Epidemiologist looks to the past to predict second post-pandemic ‘roaring 20s' (The Guardian, December 21, 2020)Denial And Lies Are ‘Almost An Intrinsic Part Of An Epidemic,' Doctor Says (NPR, October 29, 2020)The pandemic is as much about society, leaders, and values as it is about a pathogen (Science Mag, November 17, 2020)The Importance of Being Little: What Young Children Really Need from Grownups by Erika Christakis (Penguin Books 2016)Remote Learning Isn't the Only Problem With School (The Atlantic, December 2020)The COVID-19 Pandemic and the $16 Trillion Virus by Larry H. Summers, PhD and David M. Cutler, PhD (October 12, 2020) Mentioned or usefulThe Plague by Albert Camus (1947)What Is R-naught? Gauging Contagious Infections (Healthline, April 20, 2020)What is Epidemiology?What is Sociology? PHOTO CREDIT: Evan Mann Get the inside skinny on every episode of [B]OLDER:Subscribe to Debbie's newsletter for the inside story about every episode. You will also get her 34-page writing guide: https://bitly.com/debbie-free-guide.   Request from Debbie:If you've been enjoying the podcast, please take a moment to leave a short review on Apple Podcasts. It really makes a difference in attracting new listeners. Connect with Debbie:debbieweil.com[B]OLDER podcastEmail: thebolderpodcast@gmail.comBlog: Gap Year After SixtyFacebook: @debbieweilInstagram: @debbieweilLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/debbieweilTwitter: @debbieweil Our Media Partners:CoGenerate (formerly Encore.org)MEA and with thanks to Chip ConleyNext For Me (former media partner and in memory of Jeff Tidwell) How to Support this podcast:Leave a review on Apple PodcastsSubscribe via Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Stitcher or Spotify Credits:Host: Debbie WeilProducer: Far Out MediaMusic: Lakeside Path by Duck Lake   

Do you suffer from the impact of migraines? Can incorporating yoga into your daily routine alleviate your migraine symptoms?MEET Adriane DellorcoAdriane Dellorco (RYT200) is one of the world's leading experts on yoga for migraine. She is the founder of Yoga for Migraine, an online community that offers transformational yoga and coaching programs to people living with migraine and headache disorders.She is a lifelong dancer and yoga practitioner who has been living with migraines since 2007. Adriane has been featured in the 2021 Migraine World Summit, Migraine.com, the National Headache Foundations For Head's Sake Podcast, HealthCentral, and Healthline.Her certifications in Pain Reprocessing Therapy and Pain Care Aware Yoga have given her cutting-edge skills to help clients with chronic migraine reduce their chronic pain symptoms and feel more empowered in their daily lives.In addition to offering migraine-friendly yoga practices in her online classes and group coaching programs, Adriane makes yoga accessible to the wider migraine community in collaboration with organizations like Miles for Migraine and RetreatMigraine. She is proud to advocate Congress every year in Headache on the Hill and to be a finalist in Wego Health's 2022 Social Health Awards in the Creative Contributor category.Adriane is a member of the Education Council for Headache Online, an Accessible Yoga Ambassador, and is pursuing her IAYT yoga therapist certification.As a mother of two and a former public school teacher, she brings her life experience living with migraine into her healing yoga practices.Adriane's mission is to help others decrease their own migraine pain and increase their quality of life with yoga.Find out more at Yoga Migraine and connect with Adriane on Facebook & InstagramIN THIS PODCAST:What are the negative impacts of migraines? 3:56Making lifestyle changes when dealing with migraines 9:01Overcoming fear when experiencing migraines 15:53What Are The Negative Impact Of Migraines?Understanding that migraines affect everyone differentlyTaking a holistic approach to dealing with migrainesThe importance of finding the right combination of care to deal with your specific needsSeeking community when dealing with migraine symptomsMaking Lifestyle Changes When Dealing With MigrainesWhat is SEEDS?Incorporating gentle yoga moves into your daily routine Learning to adjust the intensity of your daily movementFinding tools to calm our nervous systemOvercoming Fear When Experiencing MigrainesFinding your migraine triggersHow to integrate breathwork with gentle movementWhat is Restorative Yoga?How to be more proactive and ask yourself the right questions about your self-careConnect With MeInstagram @holisticcounselingpodcastFacebookJoin the private Facebook groupSign up for my free email course: www.holisticcounselingpodcast.comRate, review, and subscribe to...

On this episode of RNT Fitness Radio I'm joined by Amanda Thebe, a Fitness and Women's Health Expert. She is the author of the Amazon best-selling book, Menopocalypse: How I Learned to Thrive During Menopause and How You Can Too! With nearly 30 years of experience in the fitness industry, Amanda is a highly-regarded expert on women's fitness and health. She is Canada's first menopause workplace educator. Through menopause advocacy and education, Amanda provides on-site or virtual presentations in the workplace to improve productivity, retention and attendance for female employees. Helping companies to normalise the conversation around menopause and provide support which impacts 100% of their female employees. Amanda has lived in the UK, Canada and the USA, has been exposed to all the healthcare systems, and her book is a best-seller in these countries. She is a popular guest on podcasts, radio, TV and online summits, and she brings a refreshing humour and no-nonsense approach to subjects usually shrouded in shame. Through her frank articles, hilarious social media posts and inspirational and entertaining talks, Amanda continually inspires the loyal readers of her website, AmandaThebe.com http://amandathebe.com. Her exercise workouts, health and fitness tips have been featured in Oprah, Shape, Prevention, Health Line, CBC Radio, Global News Canada, The Doctors and many more. She is married with two boys and lives in Toronto, Ontario. Amanda is an affiliated member of the North American Menopause Society, and in this episode, we dive into all things menopause. And for the guys listening, I'm telling you, this is just as important for you to be aware of as for the women!   Support Akash & icanyoucantoo Justgiving Page   Book A Call To Start Your Journey!   Thanks so much for listening! If you like this episode, please subscribe to “RNT Fitness Radio” and rate and review wherever you get your podcasts:     Apple Podcasts   Stitcher iHeart Radio Spotify   For any podcast suggestions, or if you'd like to get in touch, please do so on podcast@rntfitness.com here. We'd love to hear from you!    I'm very excited and proud to announce we've developed a brand new partnership with one of the world's leading premium supplement brands, Optimum Nutrition, where they'll be helping support our RNT members, and listeners of this podcast, on their journey of health, fitness and total transformation. With the world's #1 best-selling protein powder in their range, and a growing plant-based range, you can now use the code RNT20 to get 20% off in their US and UK stores. My personal favourite are their plant-based protein bars. I've literally done a 180 on protein bars since discovering these, and these were a game changer during my recent long stints in Bali and the US!   Resources:   Are You Ready To Transform Scorecard Who Are You? Maxer, Buster or Seeker? Our Book: Transform Your Body, Transform Your Life   Follow RNT Fitness:    Website Facebook Instagram YouTube Email   Follow Akash:   Facebook Instagram LinkedIn   Follow Amanda:  Instagram  Facebook   Twitter  LinkedIn   YouTube   Podcast   Book

If you've ever had white spots on your nails before, you may have been dismissively told that it's down to a lack of calcium or zinc. Basically, some mineral-deficiency. But this popular belief doesn't really have any basis in fact. According to Healthline, nails grow an average of 3 millimeters per month. Their composition is made up of keratin, a protein, and just 0.03% calcium. So white spots are certainly not just a calcium problem. What is the color of a healthy nail? What other colours can my nails turn? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions ! To listen to the latest episodes, click here: Are protein bars really worthwhile? How can I recognise an AI-generated image? Which foods and drinks stain teeth? A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. In partnership with upday UK. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Grace Gallagher with Healthline talks about whether or not sunbathing is good for you Episode 2113: Is Sunbathing Good for You? Benefits, Side Effects, and Precautions by Grace Gallagher How you feel affects every precious day of your life. Healthline understands that, which is why they're committed to being your most trusted ally in your pursuit of health and well-being. You can depend on Healthline to provide expert content along with genuine caring--both of which will support, guide, and inspire you toward the best possible health outcomes for you and your family. The original post is located here: https://www.healthline.com/health/sunbathing Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Grace Gallagher with Healthline talks about whether or not sunbathing is good for you Episode 2113: Is Sunbathing Good for You? Benefits, Side Effects, and Precautions by Grace Gallagher How you feel affects every precious day of your life. Healthline understands that, which is why they're committed to being your most trusted ally in your pursuit of health and well-being. You can depend on Healthline to provide expert content along with genuine caring--both of which will support, guide, and inspire you toward the best possible health outcomes for you and your family. The original post is located here: https://www.healthline.com/health/sunbathing Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In episode 402, Megan chats to Maren Epstein about how she reached 85k page views from 5k page views in 7 months after 7 years of failing. Maren Epstein is a health supportive chef with a degree from the Natural Gourmet Institute which is a part of the Institute of Culinary Education and a bachelor's Degree from Drew University. She specializes in developing diets and recipes for gut health that are Gluten Free, which is the focus of her blog, Eating Works. She has published food pieces in The New York Daily News and The Independent along with many recipes for Mashed, Healthline, Tasting Table and more. In this episode, you'll find out that it's normal not to be an expert from the start and how to stay resilient and search for the right strategy to help you succeed in your blogging journey long-term. - Slow success is normal for bloggers. - It's natural that bloggers learn more about website hosts and SEO with time. - Do you feel frustrated at not knowing whether a strategy you're using is effective? - Consider adding articles in your field of expertise to increase page views. - Consult resources like podcasts and join masterminds. - Embrace your story. - Create supporting content for your recipes. - How to use web stories and other strategies effectively. - Be honest with yourself in terms of how much work you're willing to put in. Connect with Maren Epstein Website | Instagram

As we continue our seeking journey with the intention to share the extraordinary people and practices that are transforming lives around the world, it never ceases to amaze us how many special souls exist and have been called to help all of us live to our fullest potential.Meet this week's podcast guest, Erin Doppelt. She brings together Eastern Ritual with Western Psychology. Erin is a spiritual psychology teacher, meditation expert, business coach, writer, podcast host, and is the CEO and Founder of Spiritual Intelligence, which hosts certification trainings, as well as business and spiritual courses to support those who desire to live their most joyful and soul authentic life. Erin left her corporate job and spent most of her twenties living in Israel, India, Italy, and throughout Asia, where she lived off the land, deepened her relationship with her spirituality, and even became a functional medicine nutritionist and yoga teacher.Erin is a manifestation magnet and an activator. She believes that the world is a better place when more people are living as their true aligned selves. She's walked the walk and lives to activate what is within you.You can find out more about working with Erin, her courses and certification programs at erinracheldoppelt.com.Erin is also sharing practices and meditations on Talk Show at Erin on Youtube.Which meditation is right for you? Take Erin's quiz.Take Erin's free Manifestation Masterclass.Erin on Social@erinrdoppelt on Instagram@erinrdoppelt on Facebook@erindoppelt on TikTokErin's BioErin Rachel Doppelt is a spiritual psychology & meditation teacher with her Master's in Psychology from Columbia University. She spent her 20's living in Israel, India and across Asia & Europe studying with diverse Guru's and yogic educators. She is CEO and Founder of the international brand Spiritual Intelligence LLC which hosts certification trainings, business and spiritual courses to support those who desire to live their most unedited, nourished and soul-authentic life. Erin is the creator of UpLevel Meditation™ which is a specific active meditation framework supporting those in healing anxiety, depression, ADD/ADHD & shifting negative thoughts towards the light. Erin is also the founder of The Align Coaching Certification™ where you become a certified meditation teacher & spiritual psychology coach. Erin's work has been featured in Healthline, SXSW,  NIKE, NBC and Google. She is from Chicago, just moved to Austin, TX with her husband and is writing her first book. Connect with her on Instagram & TikTok @erinrdoppelt.For more from Robyn + Karen, and to sign up for Weekly Inspo visit seekingcenter.appYou can also follow Seeking Center on Instagram at @seekingcenterrobyn

On this episode, we talked about: Follow your soul calling All of us are unique and different Learn, takes what resonates and then leave what doesn't Giving yourself space to think Our hips are the second energetic wheel Be in a state as close to flow   "There's a version of yourself that already has the answers to your questions"   "If you teach someone to trust their inner guru, they're going to know how to navigate life"   "Once my hips are open, I can then move throughout the day and connect with my creativity"     About Erin: Erin Rachel Doppelt is a spiritual psychology & meditation teacher with her Master's in Psychology from Columbia University. She spent her 20's living in Israel, India and across Asia & Europe studying with diverse Guru's and yogic educators. She is CEO and Founder of the international brand Spiritual Intelligence LLC which hosts certification trainings, business and spiritual courses to support those who desire to live their most unedited, nourished and soul-authentic life. Erin is the creator of UpLevel Meditation™ which is a specific active meditation framework supporting those in healing anxiety, depression, ADD/ADHD & shifting negative thoughts towards the light. Erin is also the founder of The Align Coaching Certification™ where you become a certified meditation teacher & spiritual psychology coach. Erin's work has been featured in Healthline, SXSW,  NIKE, NBC and Google. She is from Chicago, just moved to Austin, TX with her husband and is writing her first book. Connect with her on Instagram & TikTok @erinrdoppelt   Website / Social Media Handles: Erinracheldoppelt.com

Dr. Margaret Cochran is a transpersonal psychotherapist and licensed clinical social worker, educator, and author with more than 25 years of clinical experience. A seasoned professional dedicated to the health and well-being of all her patients, Dr. Cochran takes a whole person approach to mental health and wellness. A respected resource and passionate advocate for mental wellness, Dr. Cochran has been featured in a range of media outlets throughout the country including BBC, ABC, CBS, NBC and FOX affiliates, CBS Radio, Yahoo Life, Huffington Post, Healthline, Mercury News, Authority, Thrive Global, Total Beauty, and many additional outlets. Dr. Cochran has also been featured regularly on FOX San Francisco as well as NBC Sacramento's morning show and hosted radio programs such as, “Wisdom, Love and Magic” and “A Mental Health Moment.” Dr. Cochran is also author of a number of books including Nayogi and the Secrets of the Universe and “What Are You Afraid Of?” Listen & Subscribe on: iTunes / Stitcher / Podbean / Overcast / Spotify Contact Info Website: https://www.drcochran.com Book: Nayogi and the Secrets of the Universe By  Dr. Margaret Cochran Book: What Are You Afraid Of By  Dr. Margaret Cochran Most Influential Person Carl Jung Effect on Emotions Mindfulness has allowed me to step back from the 3d temporal world and understand that each being, no matter what their species might be, is here on their own journey. It's above my paygrade to understand why they choose particular challenges like Johnny Appleseed in his schizophrenia. My mindfulness has allowed me to believe wholeheartedly, that only good things will come to me. Always. And sometimes the most incredible gifts come wrapped in the worst paper. But the trick is to keep your eye on the gift. Thoughts on Breathing One of the things that often happens to us is we get overwhelmed to the point where we just can't process anything else and we kind of shut down. And I have a little 478 I am enough exercise that I think is very helpful. So the first thing you need to do is take both hands and cross them. And then place them over your heart, in the center of your chest. Then close your eyes. And we're going to breathe, we're going to inhale for a count of 4x, hold for a count of seven, and then exhale down for a count of eight. And we're going to do that three times. While we're doing it, I'm going to be talking with you. And all you have to do is repeat what I'm saying inside your head. Inhale for four. I am enough. Hold for seven. I am enough. And exhale down for eight. I am enough. One more time. Inhale for four. I am enough. Hold for seven. I am enough. And exhale down for eight. And one last time, inhale for four, I am enough. Hold for seven. I am enough. And exhale down for eight I am enough. And then, when you're ready, open your eyes. Suggested Resources Book: Nayogi and the Secrets of the Universe By  Dr. Margaret Cochran Book: What Are You Afraid Of By  Dr. Margaret Cochran Book: What Dreams May Come: A Novel By Richard Matheson App: Binaural Beats Bullying Story I had a little boy who came to me and he was in the third grade. And he was being picked on something fierce by some older boys, fourth graders and fifth graders. They would take his money and push him down and all this kind of stuff and he didn't want to go back to school. And he was feeling really bad. So I taught him how to meditate. Little third grade meditation. He was a great kid. And I taught him about how people who are bullies aren't scared themselves and don't feel good about who they are, and what they're looking for from you is a reaction. That's what fuels them and gives them power. So if you don't give them that, then they'll leave you alone. Related Episodes Breathe In The Universe To Cope With Mental Illness Says Speaker Michael Weinberger Be A Go-Giver and Recognize Ego, Advises Author and Speaker Bob Burg Leave A Legacy By Being Mindful Says Speaker/Author Thom Singer Special Offer Are you experiencing anxiety & stress? Peace is within your grasp. I'm Bruce Langford, a practicing coach, and hypnotist helping fast-track people just like you to shed their inner bully and move forward with confidence. Book a Free Coaching Session to get you on the road to a more satisfying life, feeling grounded and focused. Send me an email at bruce@mindfulnessmode.com with ‘Coaching Session' in the subject line. We'll set up a zoom call and talk about how you can move forward to a better life.

This epsiode of Finding Refuge is pure fire! I had the honor and privilege of interviewing Cara Page and Erica Woodland, co-editors of Healing Justice Lineages: Dreaming at the Crossroads of Liberation. Read more below about the themes we weaved together during the interview and about Cara and Erica. Cara Page is a Black Queer Feminist cultural memory worker & organizer. For the past 30+ years, she has organized with LGBTQI+/Black, Indigenous & People of Color liberation movements in the US & Global South at the intersections of racial, gender & economic justice, healing justice and transformative justice. She is founder of Changing Frequencies, an abolitionist organizing project that designs cultural memory work to disrupt harms and violence from the Medical Industrial Complex (MIC). She is also co-founder of the Healing Histories Project; a network of abolitionist healers/health practitioners, community organizers, researchers/historians & cultural workers building solidarity to interrupt the medical industrial complex and harmful systems of care. We generate change through research, action and building collaborative strategies & stories with BIPOC-led communities, institutions and movements organizing for dignified collective care.As one of the architects of the healing justice political strategy, envisioned by many in the South and deeply rooted in Black Feminist traditions and Southern Black Radical Traditions, she is co-founder and core leadership team member of the Kindred Southern Healing Justice Collective. She was the Executive Director of the Audre Lorde Project in New York City and is a former recipient of the OSF Soros Equality Fellowship (2019-2020) and ‘Activist in Residence' at the Barnard Center for Research on Women. She was also chosen as Yerba Buena Cultural Center's ‘YBCA100'in 2020. Cara has organized and co-created with many political and cultural institutions & organizations nationally & internationally including Center for Documentary Studies, Third World Newsreel, Sins Invalid, Southerners on New Ground (SONG), Project South, INCITE! Women & Trans People of Color Against Violence, Bettys Daughter Arts Collaborative, and most recently the EqualHealth Campaign Against Racism, the National Queer & Trans Therapist of Color Network, Disability Project of Transgender Law Center, Astraea Lesbians for Justice Foundation and the Anti-Eugenics Project; toward building & resourcing racial, gender & healing justice strategies for our liberation, collective care & safety. Her forthcoming book, co-edited by Erica Woodland, entitled “Healing Justice Lineages: Dreaming at the Crossroads of Liberation, Collective Care & Safety” (North Atlantic Books) will be out in February 2023.Erica Woodland, LCSW is a Black queer, trans masculine/genderqueer facilitator, consultant, psychotherapist and healing justice practitioner who was born, raised, and is currently based in Baltimore, MD. He has worked at the intersections of movements for racial, gender, economic, trans and queer justice and liberation for more than 20 years. He has extensive experience working with young people, Black, Indigenous and People of Color, LGBTQ people, and people with disabilities across the country, from Baltimore to the San Francisco Bay Area. Erica is the Founding Director of the National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network (NQTTCN), a healing justice organization that actively works to transform mental health for Queer and Trans Black, Indigenous and People of Color. Under his leadership, NQTTCN has trained and mobilized hundreds of mental health practitioners committed to intervening on the legacy of harm and violence of the medical industrial complex while building liberatory models of care rooted in abolition. Erica came into liberation and healing work in the early 2000s by way of harm reduction and abolitionist organizing with survivors of state, community and interpersonal violence. Working at the nexus of collective care and political liberation has been central to his practice as a clinician, facilitator, and healer. Erica has done extensive work in carceral environments including prisons, jails, and psychiatric detention centers as well as in grassroots community based organizations, giving him a wide range of experience to draw from in his liberation work. From 2012-2016, Erica served as the Field Building Director for the Brown Boi Project, a national gender justice organization, where he lead movement building work to transform masculinity and confront sexism, misogyny, and queer/transphobia.Erica is co-editor of Healing Justice Lineages: Dreaming at the Crossroads of Liberation, Collective Care and Safety, with Cara Page (North Atlantic Books, 2023). In 2017, he was awarded the Ford Public Voices Fellowship and the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation Culture of Health Leaders Fellowship. Erica's op-eds have been featured in Role Reboot, Yoga International and Truthout and his healing justice work has also been highlighted in Time magazine, CNN, Healthline, Complex, and the New York Times. He is also a principal author of Freeing Ourselves: A Guide to Health and Self Love for Brown Bois (Brown Boi Project, 2011).In this episode, we discuss:The Need for Healing Back, Now and Into the FutureThe Ecosystem of Healing Justice Work and PracticeAccountabilityWhat we Need to Listen to NowAncestorsHonoring Our LineagesRelationship to PlaceDestinyHarriet TubmanCollective CareMovement Work The Disorienting Nature of This TimeThe Process of Being Led to Write a BookCollective LiberationDreamingA Collective Dream for Our Future And More!You can connect with Cara on her website and Erica on his website.Purchase their book, Healing Justice Lineages, here.Podcast music by Charles Kurtz+ Read transcript

Hellllo and welcome to another episode of These Little Moments Podcast. In today's episode, I had the pleasure of interivewing, Amanda Thebe. Amanda is a Fitness and Women's Health Expert with nearly thirty years of experience in the fitness industry, she is the author of the Amazon best-selling book, Menopocalypse: How I Learned to Thrive During Menopause and How You Can Too!.  As Canada's first menopause workplace educator, Amanda provides on-site or virtual educational presentations in the workplace to improve productivity, retention and attendance for female employees through menopause.  Amanda is a popular guest on podcasts, radio, tv and online summits, and her health and fitness tips have been featured in media outlets like Oprah, Shape, Prevention, Health Line, CBC Radio, Global News Canada, The Doctors, and many more. Hope this helps :) Love you super much, Your Coach, Ry Ry WEBSITE: AmandaThebe.com SOCIAL: Instagram | www.instagram.com/amanda.thebe  45k followers Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/amandathebex  32k followers Twitter | https://twitter.com/amandathebex LinkedIn |  https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-thebe/ YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/c/AmandaThebex Podcast | www.amandathebe.com/podcast 35k downloads FREEBIE:  Grab my 12 Week Core Program, ABS ON FIRE https://www.amandathebe.com/abs-on-fire/ Menopause Resources https://amandathebe.com/meno-resource/ BOOK: Menopocalypse: How I Learned to Thrive During Menopause and How You Can Too!www.amandathebe.com/books - all buying options listed here. Podcast Links Please leave a 5 star review wherever you listen to this podcast :) If you are interested in 1:1 online coaching, you can apply here: https://bodybyryan.com/coaching/ Use my FREE Calorie Calculator: bodybyryan.com/calculator Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bodybyryanfitness/ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ryankassim?lang=eng BodyByYOU- Fat Loss Made Easy FaceBook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1701659280174513/ Follow me on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Ryan_Kassim Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ryankassimlifeisgood 20% off Legion Supplements - Use code: BodyByRyan https://legionathletics.rfrl.co/542mp

Dr. Leada Malek is a licensed physical therapist and board-certified sports specialist located in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is one of the 9% of therapists in the US who are specialized in sports therapy. She received her doctorate degree from Samuel Merritt University and completed her bachelors degree from the University of San Francisco in Exercise & Sport Science. She completed her graduate internship with Stanford University's varsity athletics and has since continued to work in the outpatient setting treating a variety of patients. Dr. Malek uses a combined approach of manual therapy and specific therapeutic exercise to help her patients move better, perform better, and compete again. She is passionate about using a variety of modalities including cup therapy and the TRX system to get creative with her care. She believes in retraining the body as a whole, and not just the area of discomfort. She has worked with patients of all ages and has treated professional dancers, athletes, weekend warriors, and young athletes. She is a volunteer physical therapist for triathlons and local semi-professional soccer and basketball teams. Her professional insight has been featured in numerous media outlets including Popsugar, Healthline, SELF, Livestrong, and Thrive Global. Contrary to popular misconceptions, physical medicine & rehabilitation (PM&R) doctors are different from physical therapists (PT). I (a PM&R doctor) loved having this conversation with Leada (a PT) because we often work together to treat patients. This type of teamwork is what first drew me to this field of medicine.In this episode we discuss:A typical physical therapy appointment or visitWorking through pain with physical therapyWhy mindset mattersTiming of physical therapyTranslating physical therapy to a virtual platformCost concerns related to therapyThe podcast episodes drop weekly on Mondays in seasonal chunks. Subscribe to stay up to date, and tune in when you can! Be sure to rate, review, and follow on your favorite podcast app and let me know what other brain & body things you'd like to hear about.For more information about me, check out my website, www.natashamehtamd.com.Follow me on Instagram, Twitter, or Tik Tok @drnatashamehta. Follow Dr. Malek on Instagram, Tik Tok, and YouTube @drmalekpt. You can check out her favorite products on her Amazon storefront.  If you'd like to learn more about her business & how to work with her, check out her website.This episode is not sponsored.

Rachel Nall with Healthline talks about the differences between micronutrients and macronutrients Episode 2085: What's the Difference Between Micronutrients and Macronutrients? by Rachel Nall How you feel affects every precious day of your life. Healthline understands that, which is why they're committed to being your most trusted ally in your pursuit of health and well-being. You can depend on Healthline to provide expert content along with genuine caring--both of which will support, guide, and inspire you toward the best possible health outcomes for you and your family. The original post is located here: https://www.healthline.com/health/food-nutrition/micros-vs-macros#how-it-works Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rachel Nall with Healthline talks about the differences between micronutrients and macronutrients Episode 2085: What's the Difference Between Micronutrients and Macronutrients? by Rachel Nall How you feel affects every precious day of your life. Healthline understands that, which is why they're committed to being your most trusted ally in your pursuit of health and well-being. You can depend on Healthline to provide expert content along with genuine caring--both of which will support, guide, and inspire you toward the best possible health outcomes for you and your family. The original post is located here: https://www.healthline.com/health/food-nutrition/micros-vs-macros#how-it-works Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

INTRODUCTION: Lluvia Peveto, 37, is a native Texan, former journalist and currently a marketing and public relations specialist. She is a senior account manager for a Baton Rouge-based creative agency, where she offers proactive counsel for the agency's client roster. Lluvia has worked extensively in both corporate and nonprofit environments throughout her career, earning hundreds of thousands of dollars in sponsorships, membership commitments, and local and state grants. Her copywriting work has received numerous local awards in Louisiana and Texas garnering international media recognition for her diverse clients.  Lluvia enjoys openly relating her experiences as a bisexual and polyamorous woman, and has practiced polyamory for over three years. She is an advocate for living openly without fear and enjoys expanding her experiences and knowledge of ethical nonmonogamy. In her spare time, she enjoys riding her motorcycle, running, updating her Kindle reads list and connecting with friends.    INCLUDED IN THIS EPISODE (But not limited to): ·      A Glimpse Into The Polyamorous Life·      Open Relationships Vs. Polyamory ·      The Importance Of Alone Time·      The Necessity Of Therapy ·      Hierarchy Vs. Non-Hierarchy ·      Expressing What You Really Want·      Dating App Options·      Coming Out Poly·      Mental Health Cost Cutting Hacks·      Code Switching  CONNECT WITH LLUVIA: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tacobellissimaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tacobellissima/?hl=en  LLUVIA'S RECOMMENDATIONS: Recommended Resources:●    https://www.audible.com/pd?asin=1952125081&source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=pdp●    https://www.audible.com/pd?asin=B09X2828PD&source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=pdp●    https://www.audible.com/pd?asin=B005P1FP7W&source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=pdp●    https://www.audible.com/pd?asin=1952125030&source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=pdp Blogs:●    https://www.polyphilia.blog●    https://youtube.com/@polyamfam●    https://www.chillpolyamory.com/about Social Media:●    https://instagram.com/polyamoryinpractice?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=●    https://instagram.com/polyphiliablog?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=●    https://instagram.com/polyamproud?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=●    https://instagram.com/nonmonogamyhelp?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=●    https://instagram.com/chillpolyamory?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=●    https://instagram.com/remodeledlove?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=●    https://instagram.com/polyamorousblackgirl?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=●    https://instagram.com/polyamfam?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=   CONNECT WITH DE'VANNON: Website: https://www.SexDrugsAndJesus.comWebsite: https://www.DownUnderApparel.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexdrugsandjesusYouTube: https://bit.ly/3daTqCMFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/SexDrugsAndJesus/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexdrugsandjesuspodcast/Twitter: https://twitter.com/TabooTopixLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/devannonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.es/SexDrugsAndJesus/_saved/Email: DeVannon@SDJPodcast.com   DE'VANNON'S RECOMMENDATIONS: ·      Pray Away Documentary (NETFLIX)o  https://www.netflix.com/title/81040370o  TRAILER: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tk_CqGVfxEs ·      OverviewBible (Jeffrey Kranz)o  https://overviewbible.como  https://www.youtube.com/c/OverviewBible ·      Hillsong: A Megachurch Exposed (Documentary)o  https://press.discoveryplus.com/lifestyle/discovery-announces-key-participants-featured-in-upcoming-expose-of-the-hillsong-church-controversy-hillsong-a-megachurch-exposed/ ·      Leaving Hillsong Podcast With Tanya Levino  https://leavinghillsong.podbean.com  ·      Upwork: https://www.upwork.com·      FreeUp: https://freeup.net VETERAN'S SERVICE ORGANIZATIONS ·      Disabled American Veterans (DAV): https://www.dav.org·      American Legion: https://www.legion.org ·      What The World Needs Now (Dionne Warwick): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FfHAs9cdTqg  INTERESTED IN PODCASTING OR BEING A GUEST?: ·      PodMatch is awesome! This application streamlines the process of finding guests for your show and also helps you find shows to be a guest on. The PodMatch Community is a part of this and that is where you can ask questions and get help from an entire network of people so that you save both money and time on your podcasting journey.https://podmatch.com/signup/devannon  TRANSCRIPT: Lluvia Polyamory[00:00:00]You're listening to the sex drugs and Jesus podcast, where we discuss whatever the fuck we want to! And yes, we can put sex and drugs and Jesus all in the same bed and still be all right at the end of the day. My name is De'Vannon and I'll be interviewing guests from every corner of this world as we dig into topics that are too risqué for the morning show, as we strive to help you understand what's really going on in your life.There is nothing off the table and we've got a lot to talk about. So let's dive right into this episode.De'Vannon: Hello, all my children out there. Hope everyone is feeling super fabulous as we get ready to get into yet another episode. Today I'm talking with a dear friend of mine who I've known for years and years and years. Her name is Lluvia Peveto, and she is someone who is all about that polyamorous life, y'all. She has lived it. She has learned from it. She has grown from it, and she is here to share [00:01:00] some of her delicious delectable tips with you, baby. Now in this episode, we're gonna be talking about everything polyamory. We're gonna talk about polyamory versus open relationships and being ahoe.Yes, darling. They're not the same. Take a listen to this episode and please share it with somebody who could use a little bit of love. Hello, are you wonderful souls out there? And welcome to the Sex drugs in Jesus podcast. I'm your host Devana and I am here with my homegirl, the lovely and talented Ms. Uzel, also known as TacoHello. Hello. Now, don't usually read from people's bios and stuff like that. I usually have some slick ass shit to say or whatever the case may be, but your bio is so well written. [00:02:00] I'm actually going to read just like a, a snip letter or two of it since you did such a damn good job on it. Now this bitch here is 37 very young years.I know she looks 12. I carded. And everything to be sure that she was of age on this show, she is stuck in time in the best way. She is a native Texan, a former journalist, and currently a marketing and public relations specialist. Apart from all this, she enjoys openly relating her experiences as a bisexual and polyamorous woman and she has practiced polyamory for over three years.How are you doing today? Lluvia: I'm doing lovely. Thank you so much for inviting me on your show. I'm excited. De'Vannon: Hell fucks. Yeah. So how did this all come about? So, you know, I've been going through relationship changes and, and shit like that, and I was trolling TikTok the other week and I saw U on there giving this whole like read on polyamory and she was [00:03:00] like, you know what, not everybody's poly.And she was just trying to like conceptualize this and so, According to Healthline, about 45% of the US population is poly. And I was taken with your passion about it, and as I have been considering this lifestyle, and so I wanted to bring you on so we can have a conversation about polyamory, not necessarily from some like high level coach in the, in the, in the lifestyle, but just somebody who's going through it.And so how, how do you feel like being poly has benefited you? Lluvia: Well I feel like it's a long story because when I first started out being poly, I think I was kind of [00:04:00] in my hope phase, as we all do when we get out of long-term relationships. And you think. There's a lot more efficiency, and I just wanna see what there is out there for me.And I think I, at the, at that point in time was I was a little disillusioned with long-term monogamous relationships because I had previously been married and almost all of the relationships that I had were long-term, so lasting more than three years. So I think I went into it. I think, well, at first I didn't know what polyamory was.I, I knew what open was. I had never heard of ethical non monogamy at that point in time. I had engaged in previously open relationships, but they weren't very, they weren't born out of a place of education [00:05:00] for that kind of lifestyle. , it was just like, Hey, let's just be open. So I wasn't really familiar with it.And at the time I thought, well, it's better to be single and just date around and do whatever I want and not have to answer to anybody, and I'll focus on my friends and family and career. And then I met my nesting partner who kind of introduced me to the idea. And so from that point in time, I was like, well, you know, I am gonna educate myself about what this is and see if it's right for me before I make any decisions about whether or not this is something that I want to pursue.I think we all kind of fall into monogamy kind of naturally because it's a, it's, you know, something that [00:06:00] is very normal within our culture. . And to me,I was a little scared about it. I didn't know what polyamory meant or how it would affect me or, you know, who was involved. Is it just like cheating? You know? Is it, is it just like one big Sodom and Gamora? Because I was raised like in a, in a very like, religious background, so I didn't want to necessarily do Sodom and Gamora 24 7.I did, I was intrigued by some of the more physicality and the openness that you were able to do without like punishment, I guess. So I guess the, the first to answer your question very, like succinctly I liked it because there was a lot more to offer. I wasn't [00:07:00] restricted. necessarily from anything.It was a lot more open. On the journey to polyamory. I found out that there's a lot more involved than just sleeping with people. You have to think about the ethics and what are your boundaries and what past trauma will affect your life. And I think what I came away with over the three years of time that I've been polyamorous is how to truly communicate, how to express myself, how to identify what I need personally first and then be able to express it, right?How to face conflict how important therapy is, and how important it is to spend alone time. in addition to the, all of the other regular benefits that you get from it. So like hanging out with a lot of people, getting a [00:08:00] lot of emotional support and being able to, you know, just rely on people and have a bigger family than you originally thought you could.So all of those are benefits, but they come with responsibilities as well. De'Vannon: And with great power comes great responsibility. Little spider girl andSo you, you said nesting partner. What's the nesting partner? Lluvia: So in polyamory there's the certain structures and certain terminologies in which you can describe your relationships to other people. It's always good to really detail out what those definitions mean to you because they may not mean the same thing to other people.So even if you hear me say definitions like nesting partner. , it's, even if somebody else talks to you about it, you should always say, well, what does nesting partner mean to you? Because again, we all have [00:09:00] our own perceptions of terminologies. But in my case, my nesting partner is my long-term partner that I live with.So usually when somebody says nesting partner, they mean somebody that they live with. In some cases, some people can use nesting partner to mean main partner, but I practice non hierarchy which means that everybody is equal to me and everybody's needs are the same and legitimate. De'Vannon: Hmm. Non hierarchy.I I've never heard that, but I like it. You like all y'all the same. When I was a drug dealer, one of my fellow drug dealers, this cute little blonde boy in, in my memoir that I sent you, I referred him as golden boy in there and I believe in the book, his name is Hawkin. And so but in real life, this dude had like five different females that he was fucking, I don't believe they were [00:10:00] allowed to fucking anybody else, that he had them ranked number, like one through five, and number one had authority over two through four.So like, if number two through four came in with, I don't know, some fucking badass, you know, glasses on some frames or whatever, the number one, it just goes to natural fucking. Pr us off of her face. And then that would be thatLluvia: Yeah, that in my, in my structure would be described as toxic and also patriarchal. I would say. Of course, everybody has their own definitions of what works for them and what doesn't work for them. So there's a lot of actual couples who still practice hierarchy because, for instance if you live together, you're gonna have more privileges than, or take advantage of more privileges, for [00:11:00]instance, than somebody who's in solo poly, which means that they live by themselves or they practice polyamory more individual.So like if somebody who practices poly more individually doesn't have a partner and they live alone or something, they're not gonna get the benefits as some, as much of a couple living together and sharing responsibility. So there's still an innate sense of privilege that we all have when they're, when we're in relationships with somebody.Like somebody might spend more time with another partner because they live close by to you or, so there's still privilege, right? But the hierarchy means like, for instance, if I have two partners and I live with one, if they have a birthday party or if we have funds, time to tied together, like I'm gonna have to make decisions based on, you know, what the household need is or [00:12:00] something because I live with them if I don't live with another partner.and I'm trying to make sure that I prioritize them and that they're not in a hierarchal not affected by a hierarchy negatively. We have discussions about, you know, what is important to you? When do you want me to show up for things? Do you want me to show up for things? And make sure to put them first emotionally as well.So like, you're, you're not, you're trying to make sure that everybody has their needs met as much as they can. I would say. De'Vannon: And at the center of that, it's something that you mentioned earlier where you're saying like, you have to learn who, identify what you want and then be able to express what you want.One of the great sayings from within the spiritual circles is, who am I and what do I want, you know, that we must ask ourselves in order for this to work. Everybody's gotta [00:13:00] be clear on who the fuck they are. And what the fuck they want, because nobody should be having to play a guessing game. Like it's not going to work.But from my experience is I have asked many adults this sort of question, you know, in the course of, you know, my life. And more often than not, people cannot tell me exactly what they believe in who they are and what they want, you know? So did you find it was difficult to to either come to this point yourself, where you can clearly know yourself enough to know who you are and be able to express it?Have you had struggles getting this from people? Lluvia: Yes. It is all very hard. I'm not gonna lie. This lifestyle requires a lot of knowing yourself facing the darker sides of you and being honest about, you know, I don't know how to do this right now. And, but I'm still gonna [00:14:00] try. I've found that a lot of people, well, well, let's just talk about me first.I have found personally that it's very difficult to identify feelings and the root causes of feelings. So for instance, one of the main things that people ask me as a polyamorous person is, oh my gosh, I could never do that. Like, how don't, why don't you get jealous? And, yeah. You know, here's the thing.You are gonna get jealous and you are gonna get jealous sometimes. Just the same way that you get jealous as a monogamous person, because you're, you, you can't cut feelings out. You're, you're still a human being. You're surly to express your feelings or feel them. But when I experienced feelings of jealousy, I have to ask myself, where does this come from?Why am I jealous? , am I jealous because I feel [00:15:00] like I am not getting the same thing that somebody else is getting? Am I jealous because I think my partner is gonna leave me? Am I jealous because I want something, but I don't know how to express it? Do I have a boundary that I that I haven't expressed that I feel resentful even though I haven't towards my partner, even though I haven't expressed it?So I think you have to like really work through your feelings and identify why do I feel the way I feel? You can't just say, I just feel this way, which of course, you know, you will, you will just feel a certain way. But yeah, I feel like, I feel like that's been one of the major breakthroughs in polyamory is like really knowing yourself because you think you know yourself and then you get into something like this, which is a more complex.Relationship structure and then you're just blown away. [00:16:00] But how much you continue to learn about yourself and other people. De'Vannon: Right. And you mentioned also how this is different from like, just like being a hoe because some people might, I wanna dwell on that for a moment. And they're, look, we not here to shame honey.No, no, no. Out on a road more dick in this lifetime than what is what, what really one individual should be allowed to, you know, it's a good thing. My booty hole always goes back to being as taught as ever. And you know, then I go for my yearly AAL rejuvenation surgery anyway. And so , so. So I want, so I want you to talk about this because , you know, cause I, I had a partner in my life at one point who thought that anything that he did was sex positive.It didn't matter how many different people he slept with or whatever the case may be. As long as it wasn't rape then it was sex positive. And I just wanna, [00:17:00] you know, I want you to talk about what sex positivity is to you. And I want you to get a little bit more granular with the concept of just going on Grindr, whatever app the fuck around.Like that doesn't make you poly. You know, poly involves like giving a fuck about the people you're dealingLluvia: Yes. That is very, yes. Okay. So here's the thing.I feel like most people, unless you're asexual or have a low sex drive, at some point in time are gonna want to express themselves physically in a consistent way like we all, and that is to say that at some point in time we've all been hod or we continue to be hod. You know, I I find [00:18:00] that personally myself, like I, I go through cycles. For me, the reason why I went into Poly is not because I wanted to sleep around with a lot of people, cuz I could already do that without becoming poly. The idea that you are capable of vast amounts of love and are able to share that with people in different kinds of ways and they can share with you, and it doesn't have to all be the same like you are.Capable of designing your own relationships and meeting different needs with different people. One of the concepts that I really thought about in becoming poly wasthe idea that, can someone really give you everything that you need as one individual? So [00:19:00]like, let's say if you had your significant other, can they give you everything? Like, is that possible? And then you think about it and you think someone can't be everything to you. Like, this is why we have friends.This is why we have mentors. This is why we have, you know family. All of these people are important to us in different kinds of way, and they meet different needs. I believe that some people are naturally monogamous. , and I'm not trying to evangelize and trying to convert people over to the way of being poly cuz it's a lifestyle.It takes commitment, it takes responsibility. And so like, I wouldn't recommend this lifestyle to everybody. I personally enjoy it and I think a lot more people would, because I think a lot of people are not naturally monogamous. They just [00:20:00] don't know what options are available to them. But but yeah, like I, I think it's, I think polyamory is the ability to love multiple people and to be fed in different ways.And that doesn't mean necessarily sex. So there's a lot of asexual people and people who have significant relationships or emotional relationships with others that never delve into sex. Like for some people, Being in a polyamorous relationship means that you might live with one partner, you might sleep with another, and they don't provide you emotional support.They just provide you with physical support, right? Like cuddling or sex or whatever. And then there's, there might be somebody that you have a relationship with that's very emotionally significant where y'all don't ever sleep together. Like all of those [00:21:00] possibilities exist within the realm of poly and you don't.The beautiful thing is, is that all of those relationships don't have to look the same way. So you are able to have as many relationships as you want, as it you could properly care for and make your own needs up as long as that other person is being fed responsibly as well De'Vannon: too. Holy shit sticks, Batman.I never would've thought about . I never would've thought about that. You know, the whole, like, gosh, it's like, you know, just like an emotional relationship with somebody doesn't have anything physical to do with it. Wow.Lluvia: And you don't even have to spend, there's some people that like a lot of alone time. So your traditional relationships usually have you living with somebody spending a lot of time with them. But there are partners within polyamory that are called, [00:22:00] for instance, comment partners. And those are partners that aren't with you all the time.You may only see them what, maybe like twice a year, year, once a year. And that yet they're very, very significant, a very significant relationship in your life. And that can still be a partner. They're just not the traditional partner. So I think. Breaking. The first thing you have to do is break any ideas of what a relationship is supposed to look like and think what do, who am I and what do I actually need?And is there somebody who wants to meet that need? And how can we make this work forDe'Vannon: now this, now this comment partner who you might only see once or twice a year. Are you physically see them once or twice a year? Are you in communicating with them over you know, in some way being by phone or whatever, or Lluvia: [00:23:00] if you want to, cuz you're the one making the relationship. I actually have never had a comment partner, but it's it's not within with, it's not outside of the realm of possibility, right?It's still just like, who are you at this point in time and what do you need? And then everything else kind of falls into place. I. Reconstructing my ideas about re relationships look like and what I want has continuously evolved over my experience with Poly De'Vannon: Well Spoken now within the Poly community.You, you you say you consider yourself to be more of a connector rather than a coach, and I think the connector sounds like a badass movie, , you know, maybe the follow up to Columbiana or some shit like that. I'm still waiting for him to give us that, cuz that movie was totally kick ass and you [00:24:00] could have totally played Columbiana.And so, and so tell people what, you know, just about the existence of coaches in, in, in the poly world and what they could provide. Lluvia: So when I first started out, I didn't know anything. you know, as you do, and I went online and tried to find a lot of people that were very experienced in Poly that had blogs and that wrote books.And so I started following them and they provided there's a lot of information out there, just so you know as an aside, and you should always be careful and do your own reading yourself to compare what you know and which you are aligned with, with whoever you're following. Right? But I found several people, like there's an account on TikTok that's called Chill Polyamory, and they're also [00:25:00] on Instagram too.So like I follow them, they have a blog and everything, so I make sure to follow 'em because they have really good advice for people who follow non non-hierarchical poly and who are also within the kink community, which I think. , you'll often find that there's a lot of like other different like sub-communities linked to polyamory.Because a lot of alternative people like alternative rel relationships. And so you'll often find kink and sci-fi people and gamer people and d and d people, like all wrapped up within this major like polyamorous De'Vannon: ecosystem. Ooh, that sounds so hot and yummy. Or, you know, I love me, so love me a good nerd, baby.Yes. . Lluvia: I mean, you'll find them there if there's anything. I know it's that [00:26:00] I've found more people who are like me, who are like, I'll, I'll like swipe on them on Tinder and I'll be like, Hey, what's up? I love your shirt. I'm a big, you know star Trek person myself, and they'll be like, original. Or first genAnd then we'll get into, we'll get into talks about Star Trek and stuff and debate about which season was the best. And like that's how, that's one of the really good things that I love about polyamory is cuz when you date too, that person might not be from you. You might not sleep with them like once you swipe on them.But the great thing is about polyamory is that you're not just like, okay, next if, if you vibe with somebody but they're not for you, you oftentimes will stay friends. I've made more friends off of dating apps than I've actually made lovers because we just have a lot of the shit, same shared interests.[00:27:00]De'Vannon: See, and we're, and we're, this is a great segue into the apps and exactly how somebody can immerse themselves into finding poly people if they want to do this lifestyle. So, so what you say in home Girl is that the poly mindset isn't quite as deterministic as say, like the grinder mindset because, you know, you know, people go on Grindr and act like that.Just the fuck. And if, if you and I fucking, then they swipe and get the hell out, nobody leave a damn vote. Anything about you. and so, so, so, so let's talk to people who, who might be hearing what you're saying and like, Ooh, that monogamy shit didn't work. I can't keep my dick in my pants anyway. Maybe there's a way that I can actually have all the sex that I want and still be a respectable human being.Don't have to resort the cheating, chicon, lies, scandals, deception, none of those things. You can have all the ass you want and do it in such a way that you're not hurting people's [00:28:00] feelings. . So so I know one of the apps is Fe Life. Another one is field, F e e l B. So I know if you live in a huge ass city like Los Angeles and Miami or something like that in New York, cause it'll be easier to find groups.You got people who are gonna hear this, who live in, but fuck Egypt out in the damn country and shit like that. And so the apps really come in handy. . And so talk to us about, you know, the apps and, you know, they're a good way to start. Yeah. Lluvia: I, I actually do most of my looking for relationships on apps.I wouldn't be opposed to in-person stuff, but it's just so hard. Like, how do you walk up to somebody and say, hi, I think you're cute also, I'm bisexual and polyamorous, you wanna go out with me? And then they're like, whoa, whoa, whoa. What does that mean? Even mean it's so weird. Like, so I can't, it's, you know [00:29:00] it's easier to do it on the apps.So I get on I'm most, I'm on all of the apps all of the time. I usually have my dating cycles where I get off of the apps. If I, if my energy is low and then I get on the apps again. So I'll just call it my dating cycles. But I'll be on Tinder, Bumble hinge Field. And there is like her I don't really use some as much as I use the others, like, cuz I find that some app formats are just easier to stay in the know or up to date with [00:30:00] versus I feel like some layouts are just not as easy as others.So like, for instance, her, I don't really get on that as much because I just don't like the layout as much. Like, I don't like the way that the app structure exists. I do like Tinder because it's very easy. But what I don't like about it is that it's a lot of people looking for unicorns. Which, you know, I'm bisexual, but that doesn't mean that I'm gonna be a unit unicorn.So I like, I do like Tinder because of its ease of use. I like Bumble because it's very female and friendly oriented. So like, there's not gonna be somebody acting off, Hey babes wanna get laid tonight. Like, I, you know, maybe I do wanna get laid, but I don't wanna get laid like that. So yeah, I'm more of a slow burn kind of [00:31:00] person now, or at least in the cycle of my life.So yeah, so I like Bumble cause it's very sweet. Hinge every now and then let's see, field, I am on field consistently. . Because I find that it's easier to find like-minded people upfront because it'll let you put your options out, like interested in, and then you can put whatever you can put, like friends picking flowers, B D S M, beating somebody mercilessly over a cupcake.You can know, you can, you put whatever your, whatever your likes and dislikes are. And a lot of people are very open about it. A lot of people put like, you know, I'm interested in I'm a rope bunny and I do this and I'm looking for couples, or I'm looking for only an individual person. So it allows a lot of like [00:32:00] tailoring and getting your message very clear about what you need and what you don't need as opposed to tender, right, where you just put like a small bio and maybe link your Instagram.So that's the difference is. , you know, you're able to really be very detailed about what you're looking for or what kind of physical exchange you're, you're looking for, which,because sometimes people are looking more for somebody to sleep with, and let's say you're in poly, but you want more of a person who meets to your physical needs, you're able to write that up right away. And then you're able to link with your partner's profile if you have a partner. So then the other person can like see who your partner is and check y'all out and just kinda like be very, it's very transparent, which is really good for people who practice poly.De'Vannon: I like how you said you take the apps and cycles. One of my [00:33:00] great frustrations with people in this day and time is that they're on their goddamn phones everywhere They go all the fucking time and they won't put the fuckers down. And then these apps have a way of like draining your energy and just pulling you in because you're always wondering who hit you up and who's, who's next, the next message.And then, then you get this twisted sense of validation coming from the fact that people are contacting you on there. And it's not really true love or anything, it's just potential. And so I like the fact that you, you go at it hard, but then you know how to turn the shit off when it's getting to be too much and it's becoming toxic.And I'm happy that you identify that, that go, that does come a point in time where you need to chill with the shed . So do you have any advice that people can put in terms of how they, any information they can put in their profiles to help them? Lluvia: Yeah, I would say. To be very transparent and [00:34:00] open and honest about who you are and what you're looking for.So, like in my bio on apps where it's not so usual to see polyamorous people, I'll put my name and so people can look me up because I want them to know that I'm not just some weird person who's gonna like hit their head over in an alley and leave them there for dead. Like, it's nice to know that you exist online and that people can trust you to a certain extent.So I put my name, I put that what I'm looking for, so like, Hey, this is Uve and I like to read books and I like to, you know, garden and ride my motorcycle, blah, blah, blah. I'm looking for somebody who. would like to hang out and go to the [00:35:00] farmer's market or, you know, hold hands or something like that.And I'll put that I practice non-hierarchical poly, that I'm open about my poly status. Cause I think that's important. Like, I've dated people who are both open and not open about being poly. And I think that that is I think a key point in your poly journey. You might not wanna come out right away.And I, I understand why like I myself didn't come out right away to family or friends. But then I did it kind of like little by little. Like I came out first to my siblings and then I came out first to my friends, and then I came out to my. Work. And then I came out to my parents directly because even though it was all on social media and stuff, they don't pay [00:36:00] attention.So like I came out in doses as being polyamorous until I was out completely like public. And surprisingly everybody was super supportive. People within the business community, a lot of friends, people, church people sometimes from Facebook, like people are very open and they're curious and not everybody's out to like get you and not everything is gonna hurt you.And I think we're all brought up to fear a lot and to fear being different. And I think that one of the main things that I took away is that it's okay to be yourself and it's okay to be open. It might just take a little bit of time to get there. So I think putting whether or not you're open practicing poly, I think is an important thing.[00:37:00]I don't know. I don't know how explicit people would wanna get about that. I think that's a personal choice. So I'm not gonna say, I think that that's something like they should talk, they should decide for themselves and talk about with their therapists about whether or not they wanna discuss that with people.But for me it just helps a lot to be, to say, I am open about poly. I'm not ashamed to show you to my friends. I'm not afraid to be seen out in public with you because I think that's important. I put that I have a nesting partner. I put how long I've been together with them, and I put what I'm expecting from a relationship.Like I wanna be in an actual loving relationship with somebody. And I would like. To share time, like time is one of the ways that I like to express myself.Hmm. De'Vannon: This is all sounded so great. [00:38:00] I'm curious, have you had any sort of like negative experience maybe someone you had to dismiss, cut ties with or anything like that? Lluvia: Yes. It is very complicated. Everything is not gonna be easy. You're, the more people you love, the more you expose yourself to heartache.I will say that because you're dealing with people and emotions and different needs, it's just the same as a monogamous relationship where you work through challenges together. And whether or not you want to do that, you know, is, is the key. I have broken up with two women in the past. within polyamory while I have my nesting partner.And it was hard, you know, I love them and [00:39:00] it, we just, just like anything else is like, if you're not right for somebody, even if you can sleep within it, and even if you do meet some of their needs, sometimes somebody just isn't right for you. And sometimes if they pass your boundaries and they have different boundaries and they don't want to change for that, or you don't wanna change, then you're not right for each other.Like even if, even if you, even if you can, not all things are beneficial to you. So I think that that was an interesting learning point for me is like, is this person, even if I can sleep with them, even if I do have fun, am I supposed to be with them? Even if this is. Something that's open to me, or is this negative to, is this negative to my life in some way?And I think just like everything else is, like if something is negative to you in your life and it consistently is negative, then you shouldn't have it in your life. [00:40:00] Like, however, if they're just like every other relationship, some benefits and some cons, are you willing to work through those cons? And is that person willing to work through your cons?And then it's just like a, a happy relationship where you continuously give and take, give and take in a, in a positive way. , De'Vannon: let me reiterate. UVI mentioned the, the T word therapist a couple of times there. We do encourage you all to get you some type of mental health tele, p v, you, single poly, a ho, whatever the fuck you might be, because, you know, sometimes we have traumas and we think we've dealt with 'em and we haven't really dealt with 'em, and we find ourselves reacting and overreacting or underreacting, you know, the people that we are in relationships with.You need somebody who's trained in the mind field, okay, to help you. Hypnotherapy neurolinguistic pro [00:41:00] programming, n o p, whatever. There's all kinds of things out there now, but you need to, you need help to search through yourself to be sure that you're your best possible self. Anything you care to say about therapists in particular Lluvia: therapists are lifesavers.Do not think that. . Oh my problems aren't big enough for therapy cuz I promised you they are . I think therapy is one of the best things that I've ever done for myself. And even if it seems like a lot of money sometimes I think it's an investment that's well worth having because you have somebody who's trained to help you and trained to support you as opposed to, you know, people in your life who might be giving you bad advice cause they might be enabling you or you might be in bar wrong, you know?So I think it's always important to have an unbiased viewpoint who is there to equip you with the resources that you De'Vannon: need. , [00:42:00] right. And so I'm not a fan of like venting for instance, you know, in my previous relationship, you know, you know, my boyfriend, he liked to go and vent to his friends and I would be like, but they can't give you no damn relationship advice.They don't have relationships of their own or anything like that. Well, I think, I think he just wanted to kind of like be heard. And I was like, well that's cute, but that doesn't solve the problem and that didn't help you. You know, any sort of like practical way to evolve to just keep talking about it.But to me that was just a transfer of negative energy from one person to another with a no resolution. So I'm not a big fan of venting. And I was also gonna say, you mentioned the cost. We can get creative with that. You know, we found down at Louisiana State University, the grad students working on their psych degrees, we were able to go be seen for couples therapy there and it was like 10 or 15 bucks each session.Absolutely. The hypnotherapy class school that I went to [00:43:00] out in California, the Hypnosis MO Motivation Institute, they have an intern program and you can see the interns for a fraction of the cost, you know, or for however much or less it is, as opposed to seeing a regular therapist. So I would look into the intern programs at different schools and things like that and see if they run a clinic or something like that.And I found the therapy to be just as good, if not better, coming from the grad students at lsu. Right. Lluvia: I think it's important to know what all of the resources are and get in touch with somebody. I don't think you should rule out. any type of service that would benefit you or your friends or your family.De'Vannon: And now we gotta get humble enough people to understand that there is no shame in going to see a mental health therapist. In the black community, and especially here in the south, there's a lot of stigma surrounding mental health services. You're not weak, you are more weak trying to [00:44:00] act like that you are more powerful than what you are as opposed to owning up to your humanity.And weaknesses. Your true weakness is, is is the delusion of strength that you don't really possess. Right. Lluvia: I think I think within minority families there's always a sense of shame or very commonly a sense of shame associated with mental health. I remember the first time that I told my parents that I was seeing a therapist consistently and taking medication.because I was, had genetic depression and generalized anxiety. And I remember saying like, this is something that is cyclical that affects my life significant significantly at certain periods of time to where I'm high functioning. But [00:45:00] there's gonna be certain peers in my life where, you know, I might not be able to get out of bed or I might not be able to go to work or, and I've learned how to combat that because of therapy.And I've learned how to regulate self-regulate my emotions when I am having a hard time. And I think I used to lean too much on people sometimes that were not equipped with that. Like I used to lean on my friends, which is great to lean on your friends, which is great. It's fine to vent. but not to the point where you like need physical help from a professional that they can't supply.Right. So I think that that was a significant moment in my life and I remember my telling my parents that and the first time they heard it, cause I was fairly young, I was, I think I was still in college at the time. The first time they heard it, they were like, why do you need to go to therapy for? [00:46:00]And cuz they had never gone to therapy and they just were like pick yourself up by your bootstraps kind of people.And I was like, because I have genetic depression and generalized anxiety and sometimes I can't function. And they said, that's just ridic, that's all in your head. And I'm like, exactly. , that's De'Vannon: all. Cause it's Lluvia: genetic. And then they started seeing how well I was responding to therapy. and like evading.I used to fight with them a lot and some of that just like got into being able to resolve the f some of the family issues. Cause you know, we all have a lot of them resolved some of the family issues that had caused our fighting and once they saw the benefits of me being less reactionary and being [00:47:00]proactive about mending some aspects of our relationship, they were like, that therapy is working out for you.And I'm like, yeah guys. Yeah, it's, I'm glad y'all noticed. De'Vannon: Cool. Hell yeah. Well, I'm having, you're able to find a sense of peace and resolution within your family. I look at my mental health therapist. I have a hypnotherapist, I have a licensed clinical social worker, you know, and I just, okay. I have a bitch who does my nails, have a bitch who does my facials on crying, and I have a bitch who helps me with the psychia.It is just another one of my luxurious treatments that I'm pampering myself with. The way I see it, it is just, you know, you got a gardener, a cook, a therapist, honey, they're all people who come to give you a personal service. So I just think it's luxe. Absolutely. So you mentioned a word in our pre-talk that you were talking about and you called it code switching and, and we were talking , and I thought it was just the coolest fucking you know coining of the terms.And [00:48:00] I want you to talk to us about what code switching means to you and how it's beneficial in this situation. Ah.Lluvia: I, I I'm a person who travels in a lot of different circles. So right now we're discussing like my more alternative side, right? We're discussing like polyamory and alts and kink and stuff like that, which is a side of my life, like a part of my life. Then we have business, right? I, I'm a very front facing person.Like I work with a lot of clients, I work with teams. I'm in a leadership role. Like this is something that is very important to me as well. [00:49:00] There are people who. identify themselves a certain way, but I feel like I'm more of a chameleon. Like I like to travel in a lot of different circles and I like to engage with a lot of different people.And I like to express myself physically in different ways. So like, that means like dressing like a goth one day, dressing like a Barbie doll, the other dressing like a, a, you know, ice cold business queen. Like, I can, I can do that. And that's what I like, I like to do that. And that doesn't mean that everybody has to do that.It's just who I am. So one of the things that I do is I called it, call it code switching because I was brought up in a very poor way. Like we were poor. We didn't, sometimes we didn't have a lot to eat. We [00:50:00] were in an old house that was like infested and stuff like that. Like I remember like hearing rats, chewing at wallpaper when I was little in inside the walls of the house.Like I, so I know what it is to grow up and be poor, but I also know what it is to grow up and be an adult and be a leader and have money. So like I go between, I know what life is like in not having enough to eat and stuff like that. So like, this is what I call code switching. Sometimes it's like, on one hand I used to be poor and now I am comfortable on one hand I am Hispanic.On the other, I can travel within any circles, which is like white, black, Hispanic, min, other minority [00:51:00] cultures. Like I can travel within those and feel comfortable. I can. Be within the business world or I can be, you know, cutting up at a party. Like I can, I can be anyone and I can be anything and I'm very comfortable that way.So whenever you're in different social circles, you tend to code switch as to whatever the language there or appearance there will be best understood by the people that are within that social circle. So for instance, if I am in a meeting, I'm like gonna be like, what's up bitch? You look great. I love that.Look at, look girl, I love those shoes on. You really are fucking shoes girl. Yeah, absolutely. You are. You are working it, you are a dime. Like I'm not gonna go up in a meeting and say that to somebody, but I will say that to one of my best friends. . [00:52:00] If we're at a party, I'd be like, you are so hot. Punch me in the face right now.Like, I can be like that to her and nobody's gonna think anything. So like the way you engage with people, the way you present yourself differently amongst different social groups is often co called code switching. So I feel like I do that a lot too, because I enjoy being an educator and I enjoy having other people see me in a way that they can understand me.So like even if I present as alt sometimes, there's always an aspect of myself that is going to be safe, that is gonna feel safe to other people or other social. De'Vannon: And see, I never had enough class to act right at the meeting at work. That's why I had to stop trying to work for other people cuz I was the fool up in the board meeting.So I was like, oh bitch, nice tits. And whatever the case, I had no class, no demeanor and you know, so [00:53:00] I always got in trouble, whatever job I ever had. So I just stopped fucking working for people cuz I wasn't trying to tone it down. The sed, the sedentary over here only knew one way and that was turned all the way to, of course Lluvia: you are Sam, of courseBut like, here's the thing. Not everybody should do that. Not everybody needs to do that. I think the beauty of people is that they are, are who they are. You know, like I, one of the favorite things that I like to describe, like, I was trying to describe my si you two, my sister and I was like, well what is this Devana like?And I was like, listen, hilarious, spontaneous. The life of the party, like generous to a fault. Like these are all things that describe, that, describe him and I, you know, I'll, I describe people differently. It's just, it's, it's who you are. It's who people should love you De'Vannon: for. [00:54:00] Right. Well, thank you for those kind words.And I just wanna add that you can code switch and shift in as it, as it was explained to me by my mentor growing up. It's adjusting. You know, as you go out into the world now, you're doing this changing, but you're not being fake. You're not betraying who you are. It's understanding that when you go out into the world, it is your responsibility to make the world understand you.It is not the world's responsibility to just get on your level. You know, if you want people's attention, you want them to take you seriously. You have got to learn to read the, read the dynamics in the room. Read the culture in the room, read the energy in the room, and still be yourself and be true to yourself.But express yourself in the way that group A is gonna understand you. And group B is gonna understand you in group C all the way through Z and back around again. And just tweak yourself a little bit and not feel like, you know, not feel [00:55:00] like that that's a bad thing, that you gotta change a little bit when you're in front of different people, but figure out how to do that without abandoning who you are.Right? So I say this to like the introverted people out there, cuz this was an issue I had with my previous boyfriend, super introverted. And you know, he found trouble expressing himself in different situations or to me, you know? And I was like, well, you know, you gotta learn how to, you know, how to still be you, but be a little bit different and not be mad about it and embrace the diversity.And in the poly world, you know, you're gonna be dealing with a lot of different people and you're gonna have to be able to code switch and you know, , I would take it as a challenge. You know, if I was an introverted person, this is a way for you to grow and to get out there and to work on those people skills.Now on the time management side of it, what I was curious about spiritually speaking, and I know that people have varying degrees of spirituality. How do you find time to be poly and give all this attention to these people and [00:56:00] still spend, spend time with your higher power? Lluvia: That is a very good question.I have not always been very good at balancing that. But I am spiritual. I am still religious, so I am a Christian and I follow Buddhist philosophies. I also like to, I know this sounds like an oxymoron, but I also practice witchcraft and so I try to find time. To connect with all of this, like I try to find time to meditate.I try to find maybe like 10, 15 minutes to read a little bit to keep up my understanding of different philosophies and scriptures and stuff like that. I find that it is [00:57:00] very important to be true to myself and what I am drawn to and be outside more because everything that I do is connected to the internet.And so, like sometimes I get overloaded with electronic devices, even though I really don't wanna be on my phone. Sometimes I'll still be on my phone because it's an a. . So sometimes I have to break away from that. Sometimes I'm gonna say like, ah, throw the phone down. It's, it's over. I'm not doing this anymore.I'm going outside. I think you make time. I have a coach who coached me with marathon training and he said, and I was complaining about, I don't know, running five miles every morning. I was like, I don't have time to do this. And he said, you make time for the things you love or the things you wanna do.[00:58:00]And if you're not making time for that, it means that you don't wanna do it as much. Which is true, like if you really wanna do something, you are going to find a way to make time for it or make it possible, or, you know, change a little bit to be more fluid in the way that you present yourself or the way that you achieve that.So I think. being realistic, setting like 10 to 15 minutes of time to be by yourself to connect, I think is important. I really love people, so I tend to give myself a lot to other people, whether it's friends or like family or partners. So I have to be very conscious of making my own time because it's not them pushing time on me.It's me giving time to [00:59:00] them and then depleting myself. And so it's my responsibility because this is my problem, to have a loan to time, to have spiritual time, which are different and then have time with other people. So I think that that's the thing that I've learned the most. Is learning how to balance all that.And one of the things that I would recommend for that is asking people how much time they need to feel supported and loved by you or feel like they need to get to know you. And so scheduling that time consciously ahead of time, cuz everybody has their own plans. The older you get, the more people are gonna have their own plans and responsibility.So I think it's very responsible to, when you're talking to somebody, say, how much time would you like to spend a week? How much time do you have? [01:00:00] Are there any important days that I should be aware of? Would you like? And then when you get more serious, you say, would you like to share a calendar so you know what I have going on in my day and you know where I'll be?And like, that's just, it's, it's a. . Some people might not do that, but I find that it's very helpful because there is transparency there and you're giving somebody a space in your life. So even if they know that you're busy, they know that you care about them and they are brought up to date as to like what you're doing and you know what you like and stuff like that.De'Vannon: Oh, sweet. Transparency. Transparency and trust. I want you to talk about trust and then that'll be kind of like how we wrap it up because I feel like a lot of trust is needed in this, in this world, in this poly world. If you're gonna do it. [01:01:00] Okay. Lluvia: Well, well, first of all, we start off every relationship the same.Like there is no trust there, right? Every relationship is the same. You have no trust. You have to build it. . So the more time you spend with somebody, the more you share your life with them, the more you know their likes and dislikes the more trust is gonna be built up because you're spending quality time and you're getting to know them in an intimate way and intimate, not just physical, but intimate as to who they are and what they think and what they find important.So I think that that is very necessary to build. I think it's important to know not just like, oh, you can not just say to somebody, oh, you can trust me cuz they're not gonna trust you. Nobody's gonna trust anybody in the beginning. You take [01:02:00] time to know what matters to them. And I think building trust for me would be more like texting them, like saying hi in the morning, saying like, Hey, how was your day?What were you worried about? What's something interesting that you like and just like being there? Being there and being vulnerable I think are the two hardest things. Especially in the beginning when you're starting to date somebody. Cuz they don't, sometimes you don't know if they like you back right away and you're like all nervous like, oh, I shouldn't have said that.Or you know, should I tell them that? I was thinking about them the other day. Yes bitch, you should tell them, be vulnerable. It's hard as fuck, but it's gonna pay off. Like, do the thing that you're scared to do because everybody is scared. Everybody's scared. And yeah. So that's what I would recommend. I would say practice vulnerability.Don't be, you know, don't be stupid and [01:03:00] give somebody your, you know, social security number. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about like being vulnerable bu about where you stand with somebody. That's how much you want to be with them and stuff like that. Like I think that's really sweet and like as long as you're not, like, I'm not a big proponent, proponent, blah.I'm not a big proponent of you hauling because yes, there's a lot of vulnerability involved, but I think a slow build is really, the lesbians are gonna kill me. The slow build is like really healthy for people. And I'm not saying it doesn't work out for some people. I'm just saying like there's more, the more you spend time you spend with somebody, the more you know them.The more trust is built, the more y'all are invested, and the less easy it will be to break a video1953292028-1: relat.De'Vannon: Oh, that's very high wisdom if I've ever heard it. [01:04:00] Thank you so much for your time today. Her on Instagram, y'all, she is Taco Blic, ma, also known as your cool aunt. And then on TikTok, she's also at Taco Bima and that's t a c o b e double l i double s i m a, the one happy taco right there. And so , if you have any last words of wisdom or encouragement, you may spin them right now or whatever you wanna say.Lluvia: Well, I think the most important thing is, is to have fun and to not take things too seriously and to just kind of like discover and allow yourself to make mistakes and recover from them. And I think that's the most important part cuz I didn't get too caught up in being, doing the right thing all the time and reading the right books and.Being appropriate to people all the time. And I got too caught up in the should and should [01:05:00]not, and I forgot to have fun. So I think it's very important that while yes, you learn and educate yourself, go out and have fun and have a good time and get to know people and, and then you'll, you'll find what works for you.De'Vannon: Oh, so sweet. Thank you so much for being our guide on the path to polyamory and y'all look forward to hearing from Ms. Taima in the future. Thank you so much for coming on the show today.Lluvia: Thank you so much for having me.De'Vannon: Thank you all so much for taking time to listen to the Sex Drugs in Jesus podcast. It really means everything to me. Look, if you love the show, you can find more information and resources at Sex Drugs in jesus.com or wherever you listen to your podcast. Feel free to reach out to me [01:06:00] directly at Davanon Sex Drugs and jesus.com and on Twitter and Facebook as well.My name is Davanon, and it's been wonderful being your host today. And just remember that everything is gonna be all right. 

Have you made any dietary changes since being diagnosed with Hashimoto's? Do you feel like your diet has had an impact on your Hashimoto's symptoms? Have you discussed a Hashimoto's diet with your healthcare provider? In today's episode, we'll be discussing the best foods to include and avoid in a Hashimoto's diet. As a Hashimoto's patient, diet can play a significant role in managing symptoms and supporting thyroid health. We'll explore which foods to include and which ones to avoid in a Hashimoto's diet and share some practical tips for incorporating these foods into your diet. To Schedule a FREE consult with me: Click HERE. To enroll in my self paced SIMPLE SIX AIP course: Click HERE. Sources: "The Hashimoto's Food Pharmacology: Nutrition Protocols and Healing Recipes to Take Charge of Your Thyroid Health" by Dr. Izabella Wentz, PharmD, FASCP "The Connection Between Nutrition and Thyroid Health" by the American Thyroid Association "The Autoimmune Protocol Diet: An Evidence-Based Guide" by Healthline

Links from the show:* Walk through Fire: The Train Disaster that Changed America* Connect with Dr. Ali* Follow Ryan on Twitter* Leave a 5-Star rating for the showAbout my guest:Dr. Ali is a board-certified cardiologist, bestselling author, and award-winning medical writer who has published across genres and formats, including medical writing, blogging, prescriptive nonfiction, creative nonfiction, and poetry. Her current book, Walk through Fire: The Train Disaster that Changed America, a narrative history of the Waverly Train Disaster of 1978 and the creation of FEMA, is now available wherever books are sold. It is a riveting, minute-by-minute account of one of the worst train explosions of the 20th century, which occurred in her own hometown of Waverly, Tennessee.As a medical writer and editor, Dr. Ali has more than 25 years of experience serving in various capacities and with multiple media. She has held the position of Chief Editor of the Atherosclerosis section of Medscape Reference Drugs and Diseases (from WebMD) for 13 years, and has been the Chief Editor of Medscape's Congenital Heart Disease section for 6 years. She served as a member of Medscape's Slideshow Advisory Board for 2 years. Dr. Ali also served as Physician Editor for MCG Health, LLC, for nearly 10 years, aiding in the creation and revision of evidence-based clinical care guidelines. She was a medical editor, writer, and CME speaker for MedStudy, specializing in the creation and revision of board review materials in the fields of internal medicine and pediatrics.In the area of health blogging, Dr. Ali served as Obesity Expert for Verywell Health for 3 years, creating the Obesity site from scratch, writing and updating hundreds of pieces of evergreen article content as well as late-breaking health news, and maintaining a weekly e-newsletter. She continues to be a medical reviewer for Verywell Health and Health.com.She has published extensively in peer-reviewed medical journals, and has been featured in Real Simple magazine, Brit + Co, WebMD, Reader's Digest, Healthline, and more. In 2015, her essay, “How a Patient Renewed My Faith in Medicine,” was a winner of Real Simple magazine's “Life Lessons” essay contest.As a medical consultant, Dr. Ali has contributed her expertise and research skills in cardiovascular medicine, clinical lipidology, and healthcare to international investment firms, medical device manufacturers, CME companies, international food and nutrition companies, law firms, medical communications firms, national disability and workers compensation insurance providers, health and wellness organizations, employee wellness programs, and clinical research ventures.She has appeared on multiple podcasts and on television, and is available for speaking engagements.Dr. Ali is also the author of the Speak for the Heart (TM) newsletter and blog, providing insights on heart health and living well.She continues to write creatively, and is currently working on a series of quotes collections, known as Quintessential Quotes Collections (TM), from LastSky Writing, LLC. Her debut novel, a medical drama entitled The View from the Cliffs, is anticipated to be released in 2024.Dr. Ali is a member of the Authors Guild, the Women's National Book Association, and the American Medical Writers Association. She is a Fellow of the American College of Cardiology (FACC) and of the American College of Physicians (FACP). She is also a member of the American Heart Association, the American Medical Association, and the Tennessee Medical Association. She holds MD and MSCI (Master of Science in Clinical Investigation) degrees from Vanderbilt University School of Medicine, where she is now an Assistant Clinical Professor of Medicine.You can keep up with her author news and events by subscribing to her author newsletter, and you can receive heart-health news and insights by subscribing to her Speak for the Heart newsletter. Get full access to Dispatches from the War Room at dispatchesfromthewarroom.substack.com/subscribe

Hi friends! I'm SO thrilled have Nicole Jardim on the podcast today. I've followed her on IG forever and love the information she shares on IG. This episode is packed with helpful tips and info, especially if you're curious about improving your cycle and hormonal health.  129: Fix Your Period with Nicole Jardim Here's what we talk about in today's episode: - What does it mean to have a healthy period? How would you describe a healthy cycle and signs you know something is awry? - What's a good starting point to work on improving your period? - Signs of low progesterone and what to do about it - Super heavy cycles; what does this mean + tips - her favorite period products and fertility resources  and so.much.more!   Here's more about Nicole and her background:  Nicole Jardim is a Certified Women's Health Coach, writer, speaker, mentor and author of Fix Your Period: 6 Weeks to Banish Bloating, Conquer Cramps, Manage Moodiness, and Ignite Lasting Hormone Balance, a life-changing step-by-step natural protocol to ignite lasting hormone balance and improve everything from PMS, period pain, and heavy periods to irregular and missing periods. She has developed education and offerings that empower women and people who menstruate to reclaim their hormone health using a method that combines evidence-based information with simplicity and sass. Her work has impacted the lives of tens of thousands of people around the world by addressing the root cause of what's really going on in their bodies and minds rather than treating just their symptoms. She passionately believes that the fundamentals to healing any hormone imbalance lie in an approach that addresses the unique physiology of every woman. This is essential to reclaiming and maintaining optimal health and vitality at any age. Nicole is the founder of the Institute for Menstrual Health, which offers training programs, mentorship and resources for an international community of women's health practitioners and coaches. Through its signature program the Women's Hormone Health Certification, Nicole teaches other health practitioners and coaches the fundamentals of hormones, menstrual cycles and fertility. Finally, Nicole is the host of The Period Party, a top-rated podcast on Apple Podcasts, the co-author of The Happy Balance, a recipe book filled with over 80 hormone balancing recipes, and has been called on as a women's health expert for sites such as The Guardian, Well+Good, mindbodygreen and Healthline. Check out her website here and follow her on Instagram here. Resources from this episode: Try Queen of Thrones castor oil packs. I have a full blog post coming soon but this is the castor oil pack that Nicole and I both love. Use this link for $40 off your Oura ring! The weather is cooling down, and I'm still obsessed with my sauna blanket. It feels even BETTER when it's chilly outside and you can use the code FITNESSISTA15 for 15% off! This is one of my favorite ways to relax and sweat it out. I find that it energizes me, helps with aches and pains, I sleep better on the days I use this, and it makes my skin glow. Link to check it out here. You can also use my discount for the PEMF Go Mat, which I use every day! I love love love the meals from Sakara Life! Use this link and the code XOGINAH for 20% off their meal delivery and clean boutique items. This is something I do once a month as a lil treat to myself and the meals are always showstoppers. I'm enjoying a shipment this week; the lavender parfait has been my favorite so far.  Get 15% off Organifi with the code FITNESSISTA. I drink the green juice, red juice, gold, and Harmony! (Each day I might have something different, or have two different things. Everything I've tried is amazing.) If any of my fellow health professional friends are looking for another way to help their clients, I highly recommend IHP. You can also use this information to heal yourself and then go one to heal others, which I think is a beautiful mission. You can absolutely join if you don't currently work in the health or fitness industry; many IHPs don't begin on this path. They're friends who are passionate to learn more about health and wellness, and want to share this information with those they love. You can do this as a passion, or start an entirely new career.  You can use my referral link here and the code FITNESSISTA for up to $250 off the Integrative Health Practitioner program. I finished Level 1 and am working my way through Level 2. I highly recommend it! You can check out my review IHP here! Thank you so much for listening and for all of your support with the podcast! Please be sure to subscribe, and leave a rating or review if you enjoyed this episode. If you leave a rating, head to this page and you'll get a little “thank you” gift from me to you. 

Even as a pediatrician, I was completely overwhelmed when my daughter was born. I struggled with both the everyday chaos of being an exhausted new parent and some of the deeper pains of physical recovery and postpartum depression and anxiety. At each turn, with each new challenge, I found myself unable to find a source of guidance and support that didn't seem to make things more complicated or give me more anxiety. The official rules from my own pediatric organizations were scientific but often rigid and unrealistic. The online, unofficial guidance was easier to follow and designed to lessen new mom guilt, but as a pediatrician, I knew there was unsafe advice being doled out with the healthy dose of big-picture perspective. I needed a one-stop-shop source to give me realistic, scientific, safe, and pediatrician-approved information, and it didn't exist. So I decided to write it! IN HER WORDS: Dr. Rebekah Diamond is a pediatric hospitalist in New York City and an Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at Columbia University. She received her undergraduate degree from Yale University, and then her M.D. from the Mount Sinai School of Medicine. Her medical expertise has been featured in dozens of websites including Scary Mommy, Parents, Forbes, Time, ABC News, Little Spoon, The Boston Globe, Giddy, Healthline, and USA Today. Dr. Diamond is also a working mother and the founder of the website, ParentLikeAPediatrician.com, which gives realistic, safe guidance that pediatrician parents follow themselves. FIND HER HERE: www.Parentlikeapediatrician.com IG https://www.instagram.com/parentlikeapediatrician The book is available through all bookstores and online retailers! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-parents/message

INTRODUCTION: This marks the first episode of me speaking candidly about my recent breakup with my partner of half a decade. This was messy but it is the reality that I am currently living in and trying my best to overcome. All I can say is that you are not alone if you have been damaged by any type of narcissist. Let us ban together, heal and move forward. HEALTHLINE:  https://www.healthline.com/health/covert-narcissist  INCLUDED IN THIS EPISODE (But not limited to): ·      A Look Into Covert Narcissism·      Sex Addiction·      It's Easier To Tell The Truth·      Woman's Intuition·      43 Sexts Sent In 30 Minutes From My Ex To His Hoe·      Truth Mixed With Lies·      Broken Vows·      A Grindr Warning: Variable Ratio Reinforcement ·      There Are Too Many Options·      Options Are The Illusion Of Freedom   CONNECT WITH DE'VANNON: Website: https://www.SexDrugsAndJesus.comWebsite: https://www.DownUnderApparel.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexdrugsandjesusYouTube: https://bit.ly/3daTqCMFacebook:   https://www.facebook.com/SexDrugsAndJesus/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexdrugsandjesuspodcast/Twitter: https://twitter.com/TabooTopixLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/devannonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.es/SexDrugsAndJesus/_saved/Email: DeVannon@SDJPodcast.com   DE'VANNON'S RECOMMENDATIONS: ·      Pray Away Documentary (NETFLIX)o  https://www.netflix.com/title/81040370o  TRAILER: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tk_CqGVfxEs ·      OverviewBible (Jeffrey Kranz)o  https://overviewbible.como  https://www.youtube.com/c/OverviewBible ·      Hillsong: A Megachurch Exposed (Documentary)o  https://press.discoveryplus.com/lifestyle/discovery-announces-key-participants-featured-in-upcoming-expose-of-the-hillsong-church-controversy-hillsong-a-megachurch-exposed/ ·      Leaving Hillsong Podcast With Tanya Levino  https://leavinghillsong.podbean.com  ·      Upwork: https://www.upwork.com·      FreeUp: https://freeup.net VETERAN'S SERVICE ORGANIZATIONS ·      Disabled American Veterans (DAV): https://www.dav.org·      American Legion: https://www.legion.org ·      What The World Needs Now (Dionne Warwick): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FfHAs9cdTqg  INTERESTED IN PODCASTING OR BEING A GUEST?: ·      PodMatch is awesome! This application streamlines the process of finding guests for your show and also helps you find shows to be a guest on. The PodMatch Community is a part of this and that is where you can ask questions and get help from an entire network of people so that you save both money and time on your podcasting journey.https://podmatch.com/signup/devannon  TRANSCRIPT: Covert Narcissism Breakup Part 1[00:00:00]De'Vannon: on December 24th. In the year 2022, I discovered text messages in my then boyfriend's phone. My boyfriend's of almost half a decade where he hadn't gone out in, had an affair back in October of 2022. A few days later, I discovered, well, within the text, within his phone, I found a few days after he had the first affair.He tried to go and have a second affair. It was about 1:00 AM. I can tell you it was not cute.Now, for those of you who followed the show and have been listening, you may have noticed fluctuations in my energy over the shows that have been released over the last two [00:01:00] months. That's because I've been really, really trying to process this and deal with it. It has not been cute. In February, almost sent myself to the hospital due to the way that I was self-harming myself.I, I found that it wasn't so easy for me to listen to a lot of the advice that I give to people. However, this breakup here is something that I've never been through before. This is my first official serious breakup, and this is the longest relationship that I've ever had. And so I'm not whining, I'm not complaining.I'm thankful for the experience and the lessons that this has taught me. I'm just letting you know. What's been going on. And at first I had said I wasn't going to, you know, do a show or go online and talk about this, but the further I get away from him and the more I reflect over what's happened, and I've talked to friends and different people who have dealt with the narcissistic people, and it's just, it's just absolutely [00:02:00] outrageous and it's just too much.And it seems like the more I write about this and the more I talk about it, it's like I'm taking that trauma that has been very, very deep rooted inside of me and lifting it up all out of me. And it's like when I put it down on paper or when I speak about it, it's like I'm letting that much more of it go.It's like I'm letting that much more of it go permanently. I'm not about to be,you know, a year from now, still hung up on this. I'm not about to be. still traumatized. It's time to let this go and move forward. And while I'm moving forward, I'm gonna see whatever I can do to help those of you move forward who are also healing from having been in a relationship or impacted in some type of way by narcissist.Now, whatever [00:03:00] I say in this episode or in episodes to come, you know, or my, my opinion and my research, I'm not a medical doctor. I didn't have no training in this, but I don't need a doctor to tell me what I already know and what I've lived through. I'm gonna be reading the definition for, for a Narcissist Soon from a Healthline article that I will put in the show notes for those of you who want to do some research on your own.Michelle, being in a relationship with these people can make you feel crazy. You're not crazy. They are crazy. And what they're trying to do is project their, their, their psychosis onto you and break you down. But baby, I'm here to build you back up today because we gonna have to come up higher than this.Soin the spirit of Taylor Swift, let the shade [00:04:00] begin. Honey, my name is Devan and Hubert. I'm the host of the Sex Drugs in Jesus podcast. And thank you for joining me today in Second Timothy in the in the Bible verse three through nine, it says this also no, that in the last days, perilous time shall come for men, shall be lovers of them.For men shall be lovers of their own. Coves. Boasters, proud blasphemers, disobedient. The parents unthankful and holy without natural affection. Truce breakers, false accusers in incontinent, fierce despisers of those who are good. Traitors. Heady, high-minded lovers of pleasure more than lovers of God having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof from such.Turn away for this sort are they wish creep into houses and lead captive silly women laden with [00:05:00] sins, led away with divers, lust, ever learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. Now, as Jonas and Johns withstood, Moses, so do these also resist the truth. Men of corrupted minds, rerate concerning the faith, but they shall proceed.No further for their father shall be manifest unto all men as theirs also was. from within this passage here. This is what stood out concerning my ex. You know, you know, lovers of themselves, you know, with, within narcissistic people, that's a signature trade. Narcissism is esp, apparently broken down in the covert narcissism, and overt narcissism is like a whole thing.And I intend to do a whole different show on that or include some of the information in the book that I'm gonna write because, you know, I gotta write a book about this baby. And so [00:06:00] it, it, it is a very self selfish way to live. You know, lovers of pleasure more than lovers of God. . You know, I, I asked my partner years ago if he thought he had a sex addiction or anything like that, and he was like, Nope, not me.It's those other people on Grindr. There's nothing wrong with me. When we went to couples counseling for the first time, we went twice, and by the time this all blew up, we both had hypnotherapist individually. We both were seeing the couple's counselor, you know, I have also a licensed clinical social worker that I see.We were in front of a lot of different therapists, but the first time we went to the couple's counselor, what they do, and we went over there in Louisiana State University in their grad school program. It was like super cheap to go, like maybe 15 bucks a week or something like that. [00:07:00] So for those of you who need mental health treatment, check your local, you know, colleges and universities.They might have a, like a, like a, you know, like a, a special program like that. , you can get in on the cheap. The first thing they do over there, and I thought this was super thorough and very unusual, was they take both members of the couples or every, many people and they put them in separate rooms and they give them separate counseling for many weeks, months, or whatever it takes because to sort through each individual person's issues before you bring the, the, the couple together in the room.I took like, I dunno how many weeks to go through it all. Cause they, they, what they asked you is tell us all the trauma, anything you think bad is happening to you from the time you were born up till now. I know I took my good sweet time. I'm in there crying about like my grandmother's death and stuff and I thought I was over, you know, et cetera, et cetera.My ex child, , [00:08:00] he did like one whole session, told them people, was there, nothing wrong with him. And then that was that. I thought that was strange. I did not have the knowledge that I know now. If I ever meet somebody who looks me in the eye and be like, I don't have any problems. I'm going turn and runOkay. Like the road runner trying to get away from Wild E Coyote or no? Mm-hmm. . I didn't un, I did not know what a serious like red flag that that was.Let me see. Verse seven says, ever learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. Like I mentioned, we had so, so much therapy over the years. There's so much in, in, in home Bible studies, in in education, you know, that I was trying to, to, to, to, to guide us through is like no matter what information I put in front of this child, you know, this boy, he never [00:09:00] evolved.He never grew. It is like, When we would sit in front of the co the couple's counselors, they would echo this and be like, and for the purposes of this broadcast, we'll refer to my ex as Ethan. And you know, they'd be, they'd be telling Ethan you know, doesn't seem like you're really getting too much out of this.You know, he would just sit there in counseling, be quiet, not say too much. And the little he did say was some sort of defensive foolishness, you know, that that really wasn't productive or anything. I thought some of this was like immaturity. I hoped he would like grow out of it. I was like 36 when I met him, and I think he was like 21.I don't, you know, age does not, does not mean anything to me. I had, you know, issues trying to date people my age trying to date men my age because the men my age, I mean like clockwork. Every date that I would go out on, all they wanted to do was sit there and talk about their ex. . [00:10:00] I'm like, well, why don't you go back to him then we here now.But literally, this happened so much so the people my age came with all this baggage. I thought to myself, now it's like, self, why don't we, you know, go down here and find someone younger. They, they probably won't have an ex to sit there and talk about. In this case, it was true. Ethan didn't have an ex to talk about what, well, our problems begin because he had like a litany of fuck boys, you know, you know, no exes, but a thousand people he slept with in, in, in an, in inability to disentangle himself from, from his oversexualized nature where you live and learn, bitch, you live and learn,but you know, You know, the warning I want to give the narcissist out [00:11:00] there is like how in verse nine, here it says, but, but you know, but, but you shall proceed no further, but your father shall be made manifests unto all men. As these people who had the nerve to, to, to withstand Moses, was. Now look, everything that's done in the dark is gonna come to the light.There is no hiding anything from God. And whether you believe in God or not does not change the fact that he has power over all things. And the error of a narcissist is to put themselves in the place of God. They wanna manipulate and lie, control the narrative, rearrange things. But you see, you can't worship God in yourself at the same time.And I guarantee you, you going to lose because God has power over these things because God has power over all things and is a terrible and dangerous thing to fall into the hands of of the Lord.[00:12:00]Now from that Healthline article that I had mentioned,It says A, A covert narcissist has a narcissistic personality disorder, also known as N P D, but does not display a sense of of self importance. Often associated with the condition. They may deal with insecurity and low self-esteem. These people might seem self-centered or so focused on their own importance that they've lost touch with reality, or maybe they don't appear to care about others and rely on manipulation to get what they want.Some of the traits are shyness and introversion, self-consciousness, insecurity, defensiveness, sensitivity to what others think of them. Bitch. If I had read these traits when I first met my ex-boyfriend, I would not have stayed with him as long [00:13:00] as I did. However, at the same time in my head, I was considering that I did not want to be found to be a hypocrite before God because those of you who follow the show in read my books and writings and things like that and heard me on other people's shows, that I'm very grateful to have had the opportunity to go on.You know, you know that I've been through, you know, a lot of like, a lot of self-inflicted things that I did to myself, you know, from being homeless and getting hepatitis and H I v and you know, all the felonies and being in and outta jail. It took a long time and a lot of people. They helped to bring me back to life.I didn't think that it would be befitting for me to leave at the first, second, third, fourth, fifth sign of trouble. You know, I received a lot of mercy. I received a lot of grace, you know, and as the Lord tell us freely, you have received, freely give. Maybe I ticket it too far. Maybe, you know, it's certainly I'll let myself be taken advantage of.But you know, that's okay [00:14:00] when, when the time truly came to stop, you know, the time truly came to stop and you know, everybody's gonna look at this and go, you know, damn, I wouldn't have stayed with him that long. You probably wouldn't have. But I've perceived extreme amounts of grace in this life and it falls to me to give other people extreme amounts of grace more than enough space and time to get it right.The beautiful thing, you know, in January, as I was struggling with this, I mean, I was. And I was fasting in January. I didn't have any alcohol, no mind altering substance or anything. Not because it's sober January, but because I was seeking a special thing from the Lord. And you know, when you really, really want something deep from God, you gotta get quiet before him and you know, and deny yourself things that you would ordinarily have until that sacrifice to see if you can get God to move.I had already set my heart to do this before [00:15:00] I found out about this, you know, about Ethan on you know, almost at, you know, at New Year. And I was so like disoriented. I don't it, I don't think it was because of the fasting. It's not like I was fasting all day. It was just the emotional mind fuck of having found this out.I was like, I was walking around my house, walking into the walls and shit. I'm missing appointments. You know, get my interviews, my podcast interviews, all crisscrossing, screwed up. You know, disorganized, can't sleep, not eating right. You know, it's like I didn't recognize who I was and over what some, some shit a human than, than to mechild. We, you know, I thought I, I would've thought that I would've been stronger than that. You know, I would've thought that I would've had more, you [00:16:00] know, you know, infrastructure, internal strength built up within me than that. I didn't realize that being this close to a person, you know, and they devastate you can throw you off like this.But we've been throwing off, but we can get back on track. I'm thankful to be talking to you today with more life coming back into my voice. I was deflated for a minute, but you know, Yeah, boys, I'm coming back to life now. I'm coming back to life. Now.The fucked up part about this is that Ethan already knew about like, my history with like my dad's cheating. Cuz you know, my dad had a couple of affairs on my mom, one of which, when he, when she was pregnant with me. Yeah. So that's how I came into the world. And I'm not complaining, it just was what it was.He already knew about the guy from when I was in high school when I was 15 and the other guy was 22. I mean, trying to give [00:17:00] me AIDS and things like that, you know, I thought I was dating him or whatever. I know I was 15 child first man the, show me any serious attention. I, you know, I thought I was doing something.Though, he also, this dude in my book, I call him Nico in my sex drugs in Jesus book. I call him Nico. Well, he had this whole like fiance, you know, , you know, living in another state the whole time, who just suddenly moved to Louisiana and showed up at church one day. I, you know, I like, okay, where did, where did this person come into the picture?It's like, I get, humans are going to do like, fucked up shit. We all do. I've done fucked up shit. I'm not trying to paint myself out to have had been perfect here. You know, Ethan stood by me with my drug addiction. You know, going out there and sleeping around and stuff like that. I am not perfect, but what I always did with [00:18:00] these three men didn't do Ethan, my dad and Nico is come back and tell the truth so that everybody affected, can make decisions.Okay? I think that that's about all you can ask from many human, cuz you're not gonna get perfection out of anybody. You know, just come back to the table and tell the truth. No matter what I went out and did, I always came back and told him that he can decide if he wants to stay, go. We're gonna go to counseling, you know, whatever.I expected that in return, you know what you've done is what you've done. But how in the hell can you look in somebody's face from one day to the next, lay down in them and lay down with them in bed at night in the case of cheating, potentially expose them to STDs and things like that, and not give them a say in it with no conscious, no remorse.You can go cheat, fuck whoever, tell nobody and then lay down and [00:19:00] sleep and see sweet dreams as though you've done nothing wrong. I look, I look at my ex like he's a devoid of a soul, devoid of humanity, you know? Who the fuck does shit like this? Let's get more into it. Like I said, for the purpose of this pro broadcast, my ex's name will be referred to as Ethan.There's gonna be three fuck boys of his that we mentioned. And like I said, he has many, he has many, I couldn't even get, it was so hard to enjoy the fucking relationship with him. Everywhere we go, he's like, I fucking, everything that moves through the room, constantly getting messages from social media, not even like Grindr and Jack, just like social media, you know, people trying to, to have to fuck him again, who he's fucked before.You know, and then, I mean, grinder and Jack couldn't even much, [00:20:00] barely got on dates with him trying to be on there, trying to see who he could fucking ex, you know? And I, you know, I didn't realize what, like a serious problem this was, but I was trying not to judge. Cause I was like, you know what, when I was in my twenties, I was the same way.But when I was in my twenties, I did not have a serious boyfriend. You know, because as soon as I met, met a guy who, who gave me a little bit of attention, I stopped, you know, any kind of like being on apps or anything like that, because I'm the type to be too clingy too fast. You know? I would let stop talking to all the other boys, you know, just for one.And although my ex claimed that he wanted like a serious relationship, he didn't act like he wanted a serious relationship. That's another thing about these narcissistic, manipulative people. They say one thing, , but then their actions in the, in the, in the way they speak. Don't, it don't line up. [00:21:00]You know?And that's a part of what rips our minds apart because it, we want to trust them and we wanna believe, and we wanna make it make sense. But they constantly live in on two different planes. They live in one reality. You live in another reality, you know? And that's why it's so easy for them to lie, manipulate, because they have never really been down to earth in the first fucking place.Fuck boy. One will be Jared, fuck boy. Two will be Nick. Fuck boy. Three will be Nate.Now this is December 24th when I find this text. You can't tell me women's intuition ain't real, baby. You know? And I believe women's intuition and the Holy Ghost, the spirit, whatever you want to call him, running tandem. It was like a comb. Calm, calm, calm [00:22:00] sense of knowing that came over me. It wasn't anxiety, it wasn't insecurity.It was like, Hmm, something. Don't feel right. Something ain't right. Something ain't right. Something ain't right. You know? Unlock his phone because we have access to each other's phone, you know, and go and scroll through and find all that. The Lord gave e Ethan space and time. Like the Lord gives us all space and time to come and tell me this.He beside it. When I woke him up at one in the morning, he just started lying, lying, lying, lying, lying, lying. In in, in my book that I'm gonna be writing, I'm gonna, I'm gonna have this, this, these text spelled out so you can see exactly what he said and, and things like that. This fool sent [00:23:00]43 text messages, text messages to this fuckboy, to who was he?This was Nick. He was, he was texting Nick 43 text messages in 30 minutes. This is just Ethan talking to Nick, not counting Nick talking back to, to Ethan. So you probably over a hundred text messages between the two of them in a half an hour. During our relationship. Ethan never asked me for sex. He's a part of this, this, this, this fucking pandemic epidemic where men cannot ask for sex unless this's through an app or through some sort of technological device.And in the relationship, you know, I was primarily the bottom. He was primarily the top. You would think that, you know, most Thompson would be able to get out there and get after a piece of ass if they wanted. Mm-hmm. , not these little boys running around [00:24:00] here, . They cannot, they absolutely cannot. , you know, so he was able to go on, you know, find some fuckboy on an app and get very heavily, aggressively sexual with them, seeking them out, initiating conversation.And all I got was complaints from him throughout a relationship. And I had to do the initiating of the sex, but he could go and, and give this side of him to a stranger where we've been together for half a decade. That cuts. It really, really does. So on. But before, but before December 24th, I had found out about Jared.Jared, who is fucking boy one Ethan and I had gone to New Orleans. Huge argument. I'm so thankful I will never [00:25:00] have another argument on the streets of New Orleans again. Only two people in my life have I ever had this unfortunate experience with. Both of them are narcissistic as people. Both of them have unresolved issues that come out in angry fits at 2:00 AM when they're drunk.I've been in New Orleans a thousand times twice. Told is the, that's the only thing we come. You know, everything's all, you know, everyone's like arguing. This fool was so drunk. He took an Uber back from New Orleans to Baton Rouge, tried to blame the Uber driver for taking him to the wrong address and everything.And it was like a whole thing. He comes back to my house, he's all fucked up. I offer him to let me back his car out of my garage. He's like, no fighting hits my car and everything like that. I check my I check his location just to be sure he got home safe, hoping we could talk through it. I look on [00:26:00] his location to find him at some man's house child.I'm all like, okay, and who is this ? This is somebody he claims he's not fucking, and it's like a, you know, like a whole thing, you know? And we'll, we'll get more back on Jared later. I did not believe him. Something just didn't feel right. Now this is 7:00 AM and he's over at Jared's house and I go, this don't make sense.Ethan's trying to say he was just talking to him over, over some apps or social media, whatever. He just met him and I said, oh, Uhuh, ain't nobody gonna let you at their house at 7:00 AM unless y'all fucking, I got people I've known for 20 years. I can't just go rap, tap, tap, tapping on they door at no 7:00 AM I'm gonna get cussed the fuck out.Uhuh, nobody's dead dying or going to jail yet. Don't disturb people at 7:00 AM At least not physically in person. You can call some shit and see if they're up. But [00:27:00] I said this is unusual. On this day, he lied. This was October 30th. He lied and said it was his first time meeting him the next day. He said they had hung out twice by the time the full truth came out.come to find out. They, they, they, they had long history together, honey, long history together. Th that's how, this is how Ethan did. He would, he would present me truth mixed with lies and then sell it as though it was a whole truth. So, on the 21st of November, because I never could get peace with this, I said, something still don't feel right, something still don't feel right.Are you telling me the whole truth? And I said, you know what? We gonna do a vowel, you know, to God from my research, some, some, some poor women out there have been so, so, so degraded and [00:28:00] so de deconstructed by these trilon ass men that they've gone to get lie detector tests done on these men. Look, I'm gonna tell like this, if you come to a point, and it, and I, it's when you've got children and all of this to consider, , their situation's different.If you have things that tie you into people, but my God, being with this person is gonna run your mind and you it is gonna wear it out, you'll have a brain left. So I, I find a way to leave. If we've come to a point where we, where we have to have our men or women or what, or everything in between, whatever sort of per person you with, if they have to take a vow to God before you believe them, or a lie detector test bitch, it's time to go.We all deserve to be with somebody who, who we know is gonna look us in the eye, tell us the fucking truth we about where they've been, who they've been with, or what they have and haven't been doing, and what their plans, hopes and dreams are. We should not have any fabricators around us. [00:29:00]Mm-hmm. like the Lord said, from such Turn away.From such turn away. So I wrote, so I wrote out this vow. . Ethan and I, you know, touched hands and, you know, did a special prayer and really, really signified This. Vowels are real, real vowels are very, very real. And God hears you. You can't, you know, God sees everything and he hears everything, okay? It is not, it is unwise to lie before the throne of God.But let me read to you this vowel. This is how deep, deeply entrenched in deception narcissists are and how just detached from reality. Now this is, this is, this is what Ethan vocalized on the 21st of November. By now, he had already had the affair, was planning to have more was planning to keep Jared in his life.[00:30:00]You know, he was not planning to get rid of these people. So not only did he go out and do what he did, he was planning on keeping them around. Personally, I feel like our relationship was over. , you know, back in October when he did all of this, he just didn't have the balls to come to me and say, so when I go to break up with him, he's acting like why?He really couldn't understand why I was leaving him. . You know, this vow is a promise made from Ethan to Devan and Hubert, and before the most high God, the father of Jesus Christ, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, the God of Jacob, and the God of the Israelites. This vow is in direct relation to the secret relationship between Ethan and Jared.Ethan Vows. The following is true without exception, and Ethan vials this to his hurt, pain, and retribution [00:31:00] in all areas of his life. Should he state and attest to anything that is not true and accurate? Ethan Vials the following. There was nothing in the chat stream. You did not want Devan in to see me pause here.There was a an in Instagram was, was how Ethan was communicating with, with Jared. And one thing that I need to heal whenever stuff like this has happened is I need to see what, what, what, what he said to them. First of all, cause I don't believe, I didn't believe my ex. And what, what Ethan did was, while we were on the phone that night of the 30th, he and I asked him to save that, that that chat stream.So that, and he's of course arguing, well, why do you need it? Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. He intentionally deleted it, [00:32:00] lied and said he didn't know how Instagram worked when he just, he's always on social media. Could never get him off his damn phone. He knows how it worked and then cuz I did like a test of it myself and went to go delete a message and the whole big red screen pops up and says, are you sure you want to delete this?He's trying to act like it was an accident. You know, later on he would confess, he intentionally deleted it. But the thing was, I told you I needed this to help me. He intentionally deleted it. Okay? So that's the chat stream. A part of this vow was trying to, for me, trying to get peace about that because there was a whole ga gaping space there, a whole block that was missing.So I continue. There was nothing in the chat stream. You did not want to van and the sea. There was nothing sexual and you did not delete the chat stream on purpose. This is what Ethan is vowing to, to, to Christ. [00:33:00] Now you and Jared. Never had sex or did anything even remotely sexual. You know, Ethan, in this guy's conversation never was sexual in person or over Instagram.The two of you never watched pornography or anything sexual in nature. You never flirted with Jared in person over Instagram or in any other way at all. The nature of your conversation was completely friendly. There was no kissing, touching, rubbing, or physical contact between the two of you besides a possible handshake or other greeting goodbye gesture.You never spent the night at this place and you never stayed past dark. You attest. There are no secret people you are visiting have visited in the past that you have not told me about, and there are no more guys you are in communication with in any way [00:34:00] whatsoever. This is November 21st. I'm sorry. Yeah.2022. On the day that Ethan took this vow, I did not know about Nick and Nate . So on the day that Ethan took this vow, he had not yet divulged to me that him and Jared had a sexual history. They've been fucking back in college, off and on. All the things that he vowed to God were not true, were true.This whole thing. And how, you know, how did I find out about this? Because I will confess to y'all, cuz I don't mind letting my reputation be shredded. Hell it already is. Shit. . I mean, you, you read my book, I listen to my shows, bitch. I've done what I've done. I've did what I've did. So it's too late to try to keep it too fucking classy over here, girl.And so , [00:35:00] I allowed myself to become so pathetic and so insecure and so stripped of my identity and my fierceness that I went, and I, I, I used my own phone to, to secretly message Nick and Nate to try to verify what, what, what, what Ethan was telling me. Whether it was true or not.One of them never responded.And the other one Nick never responded and Nate caught on to that. It was like, You know, a ploy of mine to try to get truth out of him. And he basically told me what I'm telling you. He was like, okay, you don't need to be with somebody who makes you feel the need to go around and skip trace and find truth.And, and you know what? I, [00:36:00] I, I texted Nate back. I was like, you know what? You right. This is so sad. This is so pathetic of me. Look at what I've become . Look at what I've become. You know, you would think it would be easier, you know, to, to, to walk away from somebody who's hurt. You like this, but it, it's fucking hard to do.You know? It is really, really fucking hard to do. When I did start to break away from Ethan, it's like I had to wean myself off of him. I took like 24 hours and we used to text all throughout the day. We spent so much time together. I took 24 hours to just like not communicate with him at all. And it was fucking hard.And I think I fell short of that slightly. And then, then I took like seven days. It was after that seven day period that I realized that I didn't miss him. It was peace without him. And then that's when I broke up with him. But it was fucking difficult. Even after that, it was still hard, is that I was trying to see can there be a friend she could, trying to [00:37:00] negotiate, trying to negotiate with, with, with the person who devastated me is not healthy.All of my counselors and everything are like, girl run . They like you, they're like, you almost put yourself in the hospital and everything like that. You can't be worrying about Ethan right now. You know, you, you need, you need to be worrying about you.And so the, the, the fu I don't know if it's funny or fucked up, you can be the judge of that, but in, in my conversation, talking, texting, Nate. One of the people Ethan had, had been slept with before. It's like, it's like Nate was trying to get me to leave Ethan for him. He , you know, he was like, you know what, I've been through this too.And he, he, he and he, and he began to be a, a comforter to me. And I was like, well, this and shit. One of the people now, Ethan did not, well, as far as I [00:38:00] know, you know, cheat on me with, with Nate. There's somebody like away from his past or something that he slept with. He, and she did try to go sleep with Nate a few days after.He did go and fuck Nick, but Nate didn't answer the phone. And that's probably to Nate's benefit because Ethan was running around here covid positive while he was cheating. And that's a whole other thing there. But um, And so I, I thought that that was most interesting. But I was like, we're not about to have us a trauma bond and go live a life because Ethan did fucked up shit. But, but Nate was like, I don't wanna talk to Ethan no more. He can go eat shit and die cuz that's just wrong. And so this whole thing is just dumb because all throughout last year Ethan and I were trying to work on having actually an open [00:39:00] polyamorous relationship.Ethan was on this thing. He was like, he wants more variety. He feels like people in their twenties should just be ho. And I would tell him, no, that's just you. Not everybody in their twenties fucks around like that. And so, but I didn't hold it against him. I was trying to not be judgmental for my part. I was glad to have broken free of the church's influence over me, making me feel like everyone had to be monogamous.And if they're not monogamous and they're evil and sinful and. The devil's gonna drag them down the hill, you know? And I did my own research and everything and I was beginning to break free of that. And and I never dealt with people like that. That was just something that I was struggling with in my own head.Half the damn Bible is, is, is polygamous. So people who think that everyone should be monogamous and just, just fucking go to hell and be done with it. Cause I'm tired of dealing with the way they try to control humanity. And so well, I'm not tired of dealing with it. I will strive with those bastards, you know, you know, for [00:40:00] as long as I possibly can, but I am tired of hearing their fucking rhetoric.But the whole thing was dumb because by the time Ethan decided to go do this, we were having orgies with people. We had tried having sex separately from people. He had this fixation where he was gonna have him a certain amount of fuck boys and or whatever. And I'm like, okay, I don't see why you have to have a number but me.It was more like having the freedom to not deny a connection should I happen to come across somebody For him, he wanted a set this many people he sees every month. Okay, well, he has all kinds of insecurities and validation issues, and really, he, he is leeching off of men to feel better about himself because of his own internal struggles and know all this.Again, this is the person who sat there in counseling, like a damn silence, like it was a silent disco or some shit. Didn't say too much. Okay. Hmm. Thinking I'm gonna stay with him. They [00:41:00] had the motherfucker had the nerves to ask me to still stay with him, to help him work through his issues. I'm like, you've had damn near half a decade of counseling to do that the fuck, have you been doing this whole timeSo I'm like, no, you had your chance. It's never, so that's why the whole thing was dumb. I'm like, we already fucking other people. We had paused it because we, I had made some mistakes. He had made some mistakes, so we needed to regroup. We paused. And so he can start a job that I fucking help him get. And and so, so we had, we, so he couldn't make it to the counseling sessions, you know, he had to reschedule and shit, you know.But I'm like, dude, this is stupid. We're already fucking other people and talking about it. Why in the hell would you wait till now to go and retaliate against me for whatever you think I've done? You know, from years ago, we can't even remember the last time I've done anything in the way of [00:42:00] disrespecting him with another male.I had outgrown that and evolved, and evolution is a word that my ex does not know. And and I'm like, it's just stupid. We're already literally doing this. Why in the fuck would you go and do this? And it wasn't until January again, he took that vow on November 21st. It was January. I, I used Ethan's Instagram. To message Jared to ask them if they'd ever been sexual because it just did not add up to me by now. Ethan was trying to say, remember at first, Ethan said he had only met Jared that first time on October 30th when I discovered him through the phone locator.Then he changed it to [00:43:00] two, three times. Eventually, he moved it back to really, they hung out. They started hanging out in September long before October, and they hung out four times and that they didn't necessarily message every day. And I, and I told E Ethan, I said, all right, I messaged Jared, are you sure that you, there's nothing you want to tell me now By now, Ethan's parents had had to come to town because he had drunk himself into this stupor, shaking and dribbling and shit.And I wasn't sure if he was gonna have a fucking stroke, you know? He, you know, it's just so, so crazy. These narcissistic people, especially these covert ones, will go and do all of this dumb shit. Then when the hammer starts to fall on them, can't face the judgment. And then when, in his case could crawl into cheap bottles of vodka and I mean cheap, you know, I would walk into his house, these huge plastic bo leaders, plastic whatever's down there on the bottom shelf [00:44:00] beneath Skol.That's the ch, that's the gasoline that he's up there drinking because he can't deal with the fact that our relationship is crumbling because of some shit that he's done. His parents doesn't have to come to town that to check on him. And everything. His mom and I are trying to talk through this with Ethan, and I'm still trying to find out a way to help Ethan.You know, I'm like, let me get the mic. Let me get the lens off of me and put it on him. You know, I'm at my best when I'm helping someone else, and so I said, maybe if I can just stop worrying about myself and see what he needs here, you know that that's what I started to do when I first discovered all of this treachery back in October, but all Ethan did was take it for granted and lie to my face the whole time.Now we're in Ethan's house and his mom is asking him for the truth. Ethan's lions to his mom too. His dad, you don't give a fuck. At least the fuck boy had enough integrity to tell the damn truth. [00:45:00]Granted the fuck, boy didn't necessarily know that he was talking to a whole family of people, so maybe he would've lied too.I don't know. But I asked Ethan, I said, Jared is about to respond to this. Are you sure? There's nothing you want to tell us? Is this the truth? Ethan is sticking to his lie. He's like, no, I never had sex with Jared. Never, never, never, never, never. Rubbish all of it. And that's when Jared responds. Yeah, we fucked around in college.Couple of times, . Okay? And the, the, the, the hurricane and the storm ensued from there. Hmm.I don't think Ethan had seen that movie as the thin line between Love and Hate.All, all I'm gonna tell y'all for right now is that it is, and that I did what I did.So[00:46:00]oh, thank God. I can laugh about this now. Ooh, Jesus. What a deliver. further insulting, not to me, but to Ethan, is just how tragic and trifling these fuck boys are. You know, when I was out there trolling social media, I found, you know, Jared he, you know, his other fuck boy of Ethan's, you know, they'd be like, on unlike Facebook begging people from money and shit, you know,you know, begging people for money,And I'm like, okay. I had Ethan on first class flights to places, you know, that I paid for. I had him a whole wardrobe and shit that I paid for. You know, I furnished his, his house mostly, you know, we had [00:47:00] plans to go on, on cruises to go to the Orient. He has a passport. He's never fucking used. I had plans to change that, you know, you know, to take him, you know, more places.Once I found out about, you know, Jared, I canceled every fucking trip. Every fucking trip. You know, that was devastating enough when I, when I looked on there and saw that he was over at that boy's house, it's like my heart fell through the core of the earth. And I called Ethan and I told him like, you're hurting me.Didn't give a fuck. He stayed over there at least good an hour and a half, just smoking weed and doing whatever. So I said, okay, you just going. Chill. You just gonna like Netflix and chill with some, with some dude that I, that I don't know exists. And this is totally okay with you, so, okay. Okay. Okay. [00:48:00] I, I, I, I, I, I, I did some things.I did some things. I did some things. But this is, this is like the low quality of people. How in the hell are you going to run around behind the back of one such as myself? I don't usually toot my own horn, but I'm gonna say I did a hell of ala for this boy. It was my priority in life to enhance him, to do what I can, to uplift him and elevate him and to bring him up.It doesn't matter if it's a plant that I'm growing a chicken, I'm raising a cat or whatever, whoever and whatever I have some sort of influence on, I need to see that they can do better. I need them to evolve. I need them to grow. And but all Ethan did was interpret that as control. He called me controlling so much, said I didn't want him to have friends.I mean, he, he, he, he, he kept talking to me like I was his enemy. And I kept asking him like, please don't [00:49:00] make me your enemy. Oh, well, he made me his enemy. Well, if he wants to take any trips now, perhaps he can go back on Grindr and get a one-way ticket to someone's bedroom because that's about all the fuck he's going to get.And speaking of Grindr and shit, y'all, let me warn you in my research of all of this, the, these apps use, I believe that they use this thing that I discover that's called a, a variable ratio. Reinforcement is something like what casinos use, where you where every now and then you'll win or you'll hear.You hear a sound that is, you know, a special tune or a special note tailored a certain way to inspire excitement from your, or anticipation. You don't know when it's gonna happen, but you know, if you keep at it, eventually something will happen. This is why people sit in front of the slot machines are saying, the casino for hours, hell, I've done it.Wouldn't that bitch eight [00:50:00] o'clock at night come out at noon the next day? Be like, where the fuck did the time go? How long we been in this motherfucker? ? Okay. Okay. You know, all them apps are no damn different. I, I don't think most of you would care to actually tally how much time you spend on Grindr, , you know, or jacked or scruff, or whatever the fuck the case may be.I've done it. But this variable ratio reinforcement is like an algorithm or a way that those apps are designed to create addiction and to make you be addicted to them. In my research, myself included, many people have reached out to Grindr and these apps to try to get them to ban us from them so that we stop using them.I'm here to let you know that they, they're, they are, I'm gonna say they're less than transparent about whether they can do that or not, or whether they want to. I mean, I don't really think, I mean, they have to, the [00:51:00] billions that have been made are not enough. They still need more , so they're not really trying to let us go, you know, it would seem, but be careful of that, and I encourage y'all to research that variable ratio reinforcement because that shit is real.And don't let these apps and, and all of this shit like destroy your life. You know, I, I was reading an article that guy who created grinders after he got, came out of hiding or whatever, he hasn't started a fucking breakdown, has, has creators, areas working on creating some sort of healthy, alt alternative to Grindr.That's because he knows what his creation done, done to people. , okay? This is a serious thing. It's a very, very serious, but this episode is not about grinder. God knows I'm gonna do a whole episode about that. But suffice it to say, bitch, don't nothing take the place of meeting someone in person. Nothing takes the quality out of meeting someone in person.[00:52:00]I was mentioning earlier how these men, especially tops, because, you know, I'm usually submissive and I, I like a man to be able to look me in his eye and say, what the fuck he wants . Okay. You know, I speak that language when I was in a relationship, I would just be like, can I get me some dick tonight? Let, let's get to the point.I mean, I, I could, I could be flirty and more like sensual with it, but you know, I like it rough. I like it . I like it aggressive and that shit turns me on. And so I get that's not everybody's personality, but you still should be able to like state what you want my nephew, you know? Okay. Yeah. Both of my siblings have sons now, so it's impossible you to tell which ones I'm talking about, but, but one of my nephews, and they were younger instead of coming to me when they would be hungry and just be like, uncle Dev, I'm hungry.Can you please fix me some food? Hand me the box of cereal or whatever the fuck [00:53:00] you know. They would come and be like rubbing their stomach and shit and be like, my tummy hurts. Hmm. Okay. You old enough to talk? , you could just tell me you're hungry. You don't have to like beat around the bush or drop subtle hints and shit.So I saw this bitch assness creeping up in my nephew and I told him, look, your ass gonna starve unless you can just tell me what you want. Cause I didn't want him growing up to be one of these HOAs dudes who think people just supposed to follow them and do shit for them. And you know, they don't have to just tell the world what they want.Like the world is supposed to interpret their signals. No, it is our responsibility to make people understand us and to make people believe us and then make people get what we're trying to say. And just like that I broke him that he never did that shit again. The next [00:54:00] time he was hungry he just said, uncle Def, could I please have some food?Absolutely. . Glad we had this conversation kiddo. Good talk. So, but these damn tops can't ask me for ass. They my, my, my, my boy, my ex-boyfriend couldn't I, but I was so, I was so willing to work with him. I was like, do we need, do you need to send me a text? I wasn't being sarcastic or mean. I was like, okay, if this is where we have to start, this is where we have to start.Do you need to send me a text to get this started? , this is after a half a decade. He still couldn't ask me for sex. Now you ask him, he gonna have all his reasons because he gonna say, because he tried years ago and I shot him down. What? He came at me wrong. But what he would do is internalize one or two or three negative things.Act like that's gonna be the standard, and use that to justify his inactivity today. You know, because it gave him something to [00:55:00] argue with me over. I'm like, it's been years since that shit has happened. Okay. You, you, you can just drop that or let it go. And I told him, when somebody first do you something true, it's on them.But if it's been all this time that has passed and you still talking about that? No. It's just you being a bitter bitch, you don't wanna let it go. Uhuh . Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. . And so, so I was in like port of era till like, back in December and over there being the good boyfriend and not getting no dick, although they was trying hard to throw it at me.Well, they was trying to be tricky about it and shit. So the club was getting ready to close and I was hanging out with these two dudes I had ran into and, and sh I was feeling myself. The shirt was off, I was twirling about, but I have always been one who loved the dance floor. , when I'm on a dance floor, I'm not really trying to talk to men.Y'all sasses need the weight . [00:56:00] Okay. Because I'm all about getting dipped down, but not while I'm twirling Uhuh. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. No. And so I'm dancing and the club's getting ready to close. And these two guys I ran into and we had just, I guess, just started hanging out. I'm not, I wasn't trying to fuck because I was trying to like, you know, be faithful and you know, and communicating.And my partner and I had not worked out how we were gonna be open. And I was pausing that, you know, and I just said no. I could have reached out to my ex to ask him for an exception, but I wanted to demonstrate that I was putting him first, even though I had many options in front of me. And I communicated that to him while I was yen in Mexico.But these dudes who wanted to fuck, couldn't ask me. They were like, what they did was like, they took out their phones and they were on Grinder, and they made it a point so that I could see that they were on grinder. And I guess the whole way that this is supposed to go is if everybody takes their phone out, [00:57:00] I'm, I'm standing right next to them.If, if everyone takes their phone out and everyone's on Grindr, then I guess somebody's supposed to say, well, hey, we're all on Grindr, so maybe we can all go fuck or whatever.You're tapping me on the shoulder and being like, the show, the, the, the club's closing. So we're leaving now. Wink, wink and Grindr on my phone is not going to make it so that you can cut these cakes, honey, you to come out better. Just being like, bitch, let's fuck. Like, that's, that's, that's, that's more like to the point, , you know, than.Then acting like my little nephew did, dropping hints and shit like that. I don't respect it. It turns me the fuck off. And it does not communicate to me that once you get me, wherever it is you're trying to get me, that you can actually dominate me. Like, I'm gonna want you to . So, because if you, you can't [00:58:00] even like say what you want, how the hell you going to do what I want?Okay. . So , so I think about Madonna's song Love Profusion. I don't care how weak people try to say, I think that was on the American Life album. That, that, that, that, that every song on that album, Ray of Light American, American Life, all of that gave me absolute life. My, my, my quote from Love Perfusion was when Madonna was talking about there are too many options.There is no consolation. Okay? We don't need every man in the square on Grindr. We don't need to be sleeping with, you know, all of those different people a week. You know, if you have to have that much sex with that many different people, and [00:59:00] I've been there before when I was in the military, two to five different men a week was no, was, no was nothing.You know, I could easily do that. You know? What was I 18 living in Tucson, Arizona. I wasn't old enough to go anywhere with no gay bars. There was one club I could go to on Thursday nights, which was deviate. Other than that, it was Desert Rays I'm serving during Don't asks. Don't tell 'em. These are not excuses.I'm just telling you. I had issues that I should have been in front of a counselor dealing with, rather than on gay.com trying to fuck. I had, I was sleeping with that many men on on gate.com when you had to print out directions and go, can you imagine what ahoe? I would've been at the age of 18 in the military, in a college town with, with apps at my disposal.Sweet JesusI'd have no asshole left. God, [01:00:00] there are people now with the same, you know, dad issue that I had. You know, whatever their version of that is, who do have all of these apps at their disposal, and we live in a world that it seems like no matter what the hell you do sexually, they just call it sex positive.And just go on with that. No bitch. Sex positivity is balanced, respectful, respectful to yourself and to others' approach to exploring your sexual nature. That doesn't mean as much as you want to do, however much of it you wanna do in whatever way you wanna do it. It's all good as long as you're not raping somebody.No, . I need y'all to mature beyond that thinking and but Madonna hit it on the head. There are too many options and it seems like no matter how many fucking options people get, the more unhappy they become. I have never met so many people who are like in between 20 and 40 who have cars, houses, fuck [01:01:00] boys fuck girls, drugs, alcohol trips and travel who are depressed have anxiety.I'm like, what the fuck do y'all want? Is like one thing that's fucking you up is that damn social media. I believe that social media promotes low self-esteem, and I thank God that I'm really only on there for my businesses to tell people whatever I, you know, I've written or whatever show, whatever the hell.You know, my ex used to just flip through Instagram, flip through Instagram, flip through Instagram. He's full of in insecurity issues, super need for validation. I would tell him like watching hot men on Instagram and shit ain't gonna help you listening to whatever the fuck they're saying on Instagram's not gonna help you.The attention span is already short, so going from real to real is not going to help you. There's a damn 80 fucking Riri Adderall shortage now, and I didn't [01:02:00] know this many damn people needed this just to remember to like pay bills and shit. I'm not judging you for your mental health issues or for needing the drugs or none of that.What I am saying is social media is not your friend . Okay? You are never gonna get far in life if you're watching other people live their own life, okay? It's okay to pop in every now and then and be entertained, but I couldn't, we'd be hanging out and I would be trying to tell my ex, Hey, can we talk about something?He'd very angrily put his phone down and be like, talk about what? Okay. We watched that documentary on Netflix about that. Can't remember what the fuck it's called, but they did it D about that social media shit, which is a warning. And there were people in there being angry. That damn movie that came out, Megan, about that crazy ass fucking doll.I didn't think that movie was bloody enough. Way more people should have got their sasses slaughtered. But that dog could dance though. I would [01:03:00] give Megan this, that bitch can pick me up and go to the club bitch. But Same thing. That little girl in the movie was strung out on that doll. It's like God is speaking to us through movies and shows and television.It's not just entertainment. These things are inspired by real life to reflect real life back to us. I really couldn't get ever get my ex on board with this cuz I would like to have deep conversations about the meaning of the things that we would watch and how it relates to us. It was all too deep for him.He felt personally attacked and it was like, you know what? Because he wants to live on the surface. He didn't wanna look deep cause he didn't have to face himself. He'd rather alternate realities. But I'm just summing up to say this, be careful with that damn social media. That shit was still your life.It's a, it can fuck up your mind. It can make you feel more insecure than what you already do. You know, my quote on this is that options are the illusion of freedom [01:04:00] to be careful with that. Again, options, baby. are the illusion of freedom.I, like I said earlier, I had warned my ex about his oversexualized nature years ago. He deflected it, of course it was everyone else but him. You know, and he was on that same tangent of sleeping with, you know, multiple people a week. When I met him, I didn't judge him for it. I was like, you know what, how can I tell you?I didn't tell him to stop when we were still first dating and all, and, and just sorting out whatever I just said, respect me with it. I don't need to know about it. I'll never do that shit again. Never. Because I found some people do not know how to have a, a sexual life over here and respect people over there without it crossing over.They, they just don't and so,Let me see. So Luke, I'm going back to the Bible. Luke chapter 21 in [01:05:00] verse 34 says, and take heed to your cells, at least at any time. Your hearts be overcharged with overeating and drunkenness and cares of this life, and so that they come upon you unawares.When I think about this,I think about a, a scene from Percy Jackson's, Olympians and the Lightning Thief when they were in that casino thing, and then people were giving them those sweet treats or whatever in order to keep them locked in there so that they wouldn't make it. On their journey. I think that's the one where they were trying to take that lightning bolt back to Olympus to, to prevent the war.It might have been the second one. I think that's from the first one. At any rate, basically they were using something that they liked. It was like a sweet drug thing to distract them to run out the clock on them. Cause I'm gonna take this like super spiritual right now, like getting caught up [01:06:00] with pleasures in this life, overdoing it.Kinda like on Grindr, like sometimes you'll be on there and fuck, before you know it, your whole day is gone. The shit you meant to do, you didn't get done. There's all kinds of thing. It's like a microcosm for living. Like we can't spend all of our time try to find someone to sleep with, looking for someone to sleep with or sleeping with someone.You know? We have to have variety in life. You know? We have to have more to show for or show for life than what whatever it is that we love on this earth the most now. God didn't say don't have pleasures. He just said, you know, balance it out. He wants you to love him more than you love your pleasures.ButI don't, I don't what, what I see a lot of is a lot of people mainly mentioning God, like during times [01:07:00] of emergency or crisis or being very like, casual towards him. Now you not gonna have like eight hours of prayer a day or nothing like that. But it's about like the intensity, you know, it's about how much you mean it, you know, you're alone time with God is the most important time.But, you know, I don't, you know, the, you know, the people, I'm the closest way. We, we, we, we talk spiritual talk, we speak of judgment to come and things like that. We talk about Dick too. Then we talk about drugs too, but we also talk about Jesus too. You know, my whole thing is like, Balance. You know, in this world everybody talks about experiences.That's a word that gets tossed around a lot. What experience do you wanna have? Experience, experience, experience. And that's all great, but do you love your pleasures and experiences more than you love God? Are you more intense about the pursuit and enjoyment of these pleasures and pleasures of, and experiences more than you were intense about your pursuit of God?[01:08:00]You know, do, do your pleasures cause pain and devastation to other people? You know, I mentioned earlier about Ethan fucking people when he had covid. It, it was October the 16th where he had this affair with shit. Nick, look, I, look, I've be getting all these fuck boys of, of Ethan's confused child. . I had taken him Pax livid because he was, was covid positive with symptoms. And I'm sitting there concerned that he's gonna, you know, maybe die or some shit, you know.So I stopped my whole day to go bring him this medicine. Now mind you, we had just got back from Oregon the week before, went up there so that I could do some medically guided psilocybin and M D M A therapy to help me get over some trauma, some of which Ethan had [01:09:00] caused. But you know, and he held me in my arm through the session.I did not know that while we were yet in Oregon, he was already in communi, he was already hanging out with, with, with, with, with Jared. Jared. And then he was he had already started to see him and he was, he was already in communication with the people he was planning to cheat on me with while we were up there.And I flew, paid for the flight, the, the place we lived, and every fucking thing. And we come back here. He, he, he gets covid. I'm like, where in the fuck did you have gotten covid from? We saw the same people. We were around the same people, you know, tell, you know, you know, I mean, who knows who in the hell he didn't go out and see and get this from, but on October the 16th, I go over there, bring him this pax livid around like 4:00 PM by 6:00 [01:10:00] PM I think I may have left there at 2:00 PM at 6:00 PM He wakes up from a nap.The first person he texts is Nick, you know, or whoever the fuck I tell, I'm getting their fucking names confused now. Whoever he had the damn affair with, that's who he, that's who he went over the, you know, he, he did not, he did not tell him that he was covid positive, you know? I went through the messages.There's no talk. I went through the phone logs. There is no call, like you did not communicate this. Nobody in their right fucking mind would have somebody up to their house who's in the middle of a covid infection. You could wait those 10 days bitch for the medicine to kick in, can't you? Well, apparently not.And so it just hurt more because I'm like, damn, you couldn't have cheated on me like the day before , the day after. Why [01:11:00] did it have to be the same day that you literally saw me a few hours before I bought you medicine to keep your ass alive and a little bun bunt cake thing from nothing. Bunt cakes too, you know, to make it like cute.I was headed to the Middle East of my 40th birthday gift to myself, and I was gonna be. in you know, in the Middle East. I did not know if I was going to show up covid positive while I was over there. I was testing myself every day, you know, enough to meet the minimum standards to be able to travel. I should have taken that Paxlovid myself, cuz that was the only prescription I could get my hands on.I made the decision to give it to my ex to give it to Ethan, you know, cuz it would've, because I just didn't wanna lose him, you know, to that disease. And I have known people who have died from Covid and he knows this. I could have gotten my ass stranded [01:12:00] in the Middle East, cuz if you take those tours and trips and you test positive they leave your ass in the hotel, you're, you're towards canceled in TataSo I risk being stranded and abandoned in the Middle East to give him my medicine that I should have taken with me or began taken, and I gave it to him instead. . And on that same night, a few hours later, he goes to cheat on me and then comes home and texts me basically good night. Like he's done nothing wrong and didn't nothing say anything, ever, you know, until I discover it.Then when I do discover it, he lies. When I discovered those texts, he didn't tell me the truth. He lied, and then I just didn't have peace about it. Look, God not gonna leave his children in the dark forever, but the Lord gave him space to repent and to tell the truth, and he chose lies [01:13:00] instead. I got into them phone logs into those text streams, a

This week on Look Forward, Jay and Brad return to discuss media mogul Rupert Murdoch and his media empire, Fox News, which are being investigated by the Federal Election Commission for possible violations related to the airing of Joe Biden's campaign ads. The investigation is focused on whether Jared Kushner leaked information about the ads to Fox News, which then aired the ads before they were supposed to. If found guilty, Murdoch and Fox News could face massive fines. In other news, pharmaceutical company Eli Lilly has announced that they will cap the price of insulin at $35 per month for people with diabetes. According to Healthline, this move could potentially pressure other companies to follow suit and address rising healthcare costs. This news comes amid growing outrage over the high cost of healthcare in America and the role that pharmaceutical companies play in driving up costs. However, critics argue that more needs to be done to address the root causes of healthcare costs, including systemic issues like insurance and prescription drug pricing. In politics, a controversial bill in Florida is sparking concerns about free speech and government interference. According to Ars Technica, the bill seeks to force bloggers to register with the state if they write about the governor or other state officials. Critics argue that this move is a blatant attempt to suppress free speech and intimidate journalists. Similarly, a GOP bill could allow Christians to sue people who accuse them of being homophobic or discriminatory, a move that critics say is an attack on LGBTQ rights. These developments have led to growing concerns about the erosion of civil liberties and the potential for government overreach.

Nicole Davis with Healthline shares fat-burning exercises that won't hurt your knees Episode 2056: 5 Fat-Burning Low-Impact Exercises That Won't Kill Your Knees by Nicole Davis How you feel affects every precious day of your life. Healthline understands that, which is why they're committed to being your most trusted ally in your pursuit of health and well-being. You can depend on Healthline to provide expert content along with genuine caring--both of which will support, guide, and inspire you toward the best possible health outcomes for you and your family. The original post is located here: https://www.healthline.com/health/fitness-exercise/low-impact-exercises Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nicole Davis with Healthline shares fat-burning exercises that won't hurt your knees Episode 2056: 5 Fat-Burning Low-Impact Exercises That Won't Kill Your Knees by Nicole Davis How you feel affects every precious day of your life. Healthline understands that, which is why they're committed to being your most trusted ally in your pursuit of health and well-being. You can depend on Healthline to provide expert content along with genuine caring--both of which will support, guide, and inspire you toward the best possible health outcomes for you and your family. The original post is located here: https://www.healthline.com/health/fitness-exercise/low-impact-exercises Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A client is an adult man with spastic cerebral palsy. He has a Baclofen pump and is preparing for Botox injections. He's also found a massage therapist who has the experience and expertise to help him—that's amazing! Understandably, the MT has questions about the Botox—what are the guidelines for manual therapy when this is used to treat spasticity? Well, that assumes that such guidelines exist, which is not a safe assumption. Listen to this episode of “I Have a Client Who . . .” for some thoughts about what to do next.   Sponsors:     Books of Discovery: www.booksofdiscovery.com       The Massage Mentor Institute: www.themassagementorinstitute.com     Host Bio:                    Ruth Werner is a former massage therapist, a writer, and an NCBTMB-approved continuing education provider. She wrote A Massage Therapist's Guide to Pathology, now in its seventh edition, which is used in massage schools worldwide. Werner is also a long-time Massage & Bodywork columnist, most notably of the Pathology Perspectives column. Werner is also ABMP's partner on Pocket Pathology, a web-based app and quick reference program that puts key information for nearly 200 common pathologies at your fingertips. Werner's books are available at www.booksofdiscovery.com. And more information about her is available at www.ruthwerner.com.                                      Recent Articles by Ruth:          “Working with Invisible Pain,” Massage & Bodywork magazine, November/December 2022, page 36, http://www.massageandbodyworkdigital.com/i/1481961-november-december-2022/38   “Unpacking the Long Haul,” Massage & Bodywork magazine, January/February 2022, page 35, www.massageandbodyworkdigital.com/i/1439667-january-february-2022/36.   “Chemotherapy-Induced Peripheral Neuropathy and Massage Therapy,” Massage & Bodywork magazine, September/October 2021, page 33, http://www.massageandbodyworkdigital.com/i/1402696-september-october-2021/34.           “Pharmacology Basics for Massage Therapists,” Massage & Bodywork magazine, July/August 2021, page 32, www.massageandbodyworkdigital.com/i/1384577-july-august-2021/34.           Resources:    Pocket Pathology: https://www.abmp.com/abmp-pocket-pathology-app   Adult Cerebral Palsy: Symptoms, New Challenges, Progression (2018) Healthline. Available at: https://www.healthline.com/health/adult-cerebral-palsy (Accessed: 22 February 2023).   Adults with Cerebral Palsy (no date). Available at: https://www.abmp.com/textonlymags/article.php?article=558 (Accessed: 22 February 2023).   Botox, Orthopedic Surgery, Posterior Rhizotomy and/or a Baclofen Pump? – KAREN PAPE, MD (no date). Available at: http://karenpapemd.com/Botox-orthopedic-surgery-posterior-rhizotomy-andor-a-baclofen-pump/?fbclid=IwAR0ymMxOR26gR2lg3ndskBbQgU5KQBKUU9d_cQHQqGmOox2-4II_9mS2TQg (Accessed: 21 February 2023).   Cerebral Palsy Massage Therapy (no date) Cerebral Palsy Guidance. Available at: https://www.cerebralpalsyguidance.com/cerebral-palsy/treatment/massage-therapy/ (Accessed: 21 February 2023).   Prevalence of Cerebral Palsy (no date) cerebralpalsy.org. Available at: https://www.cerebralpalsy.org/about-cerebral-palsy/prevalence-and-incidence (Accessed: 22 February 2023).   The Many Faces of Botox (no date). Available at: https://www.abmp.com/textonlymags/article.php?article=151 (Accessed: 22 February 2023).   ‘What is Cerebral Palsy?' (no date) Cerebral Palsy Research Network. Available at: https://cprn.org/what-is-cerebral-palsy-cp/ (Accessed: 22 February 2023).   About our Sponsor:   Massage Mentor Institute   In 2019, Diane Matkowski, aka the Massage Mentor, began a closed Facebook page for hosting discussions with industry leaders. These interviews gave her an idea for The Massage Mentor Institute and Jam Series workshops. The goal was to create various continuing education classes offered in one spot. The Institute is a space for massage therapists to learn different approaches and philosophies of bodywork and business classes. It's also home to the Shoulder, Hip, Neck, and Back Jam workshops. We believe that no one technique works for every human being. Our goal is to help you find your path. We have selected teachers we trust, admire, and believe will help you grow as a licensed massage therapist.   Website: themassagementorinstitute.com   Facebook Group: facebook.com/themassagementor   Instagram: @massagementorinstitute