The Uplift Effect Podcast

This episode is a bit of a break from the raising athletes episodes I've done lately--this one starts off a bit different...Email:falling.jill@gmail.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This episode was a bit tough... what to say, what not to say.And why have I been MIA the past few weeks? I've been navigating our own life, one of which has been a bit bumpy as of late. And honestly, it's been exhausting. The concept  today is not new but it's clearly one that's dismissed. When coaches particularly lose sight of their purpose and fail to accept personal responsibilty, there's a domino effect that has long lasting implications. I hope it serves as a great reminder for us all.You can email me at falling.jill@gmail.com and find me on most all social media avenues.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This may go down as one of my favorites- I interview my second son, Ramiro.We talk about coaches who have made a difference in his life, how discipline stands out on game day and what it's been like to grow up in a family who has been his biggest fans.Don't forget, I know write and release parenting video support through Patreon. Here's the link to go check it out, thank you for supporting this work.https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffectAlso, you can contact me through FB/IG (Jill Falling) or email at falling.jill@gmail.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

Thanks to Joe Martin from the Huntsville Bootcamp for sharing parts of his story with us today... he is funny, insightful, and has an incredible perspective to share!Ladies, he has generously given you ONE FREE MONTH  (no credit card required) to his bootcamp, so if you live in the Huntsville, AL area... go claim a GOLDEN TICKET at:https://www.huntsvillebootcamp.com/Listen to his Relentless Positivity Podcast- all links to your favorite podcasts sites  here:https://anchor.fm/relentlesspositivityAnd his book, Relentless Positivity here:https://www.amazon.com/Relentless-Positivity-Inspiration-strategies-weight-ebook/dp/B08TW48WZCAlso, follow Joe on:FB https://www.facebook.com/HuntsvilleBootCampIG https://www.instagram.com/huntsvillebootcamp/You can always contact me on FB/IG or email me at:falling.jill@gmail.comAlso, don't forget I've moved to Patreon as I write (and share) contents of my upcoming book, video's for parents and ongoing support and encouragement for parents. Thank you for supporting this project:https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffectSupport the show

If you are roughly in your 40's, you may remember how reports cards looked- far different than today. They had a personal touch involved that made a big difference in how I saw myself and what I believed about those who I looked up to. It motivated change because their words mattered. My Mom did some digging and guess what she found,- the very words I had been carrying in my mind all these years, written in their handwriting, in cursive, and proving that though I couldn't remember the exact comments, I remembered how they made me feel. Parents, teachers, coaches, grandparents… don't miss this episode. Your words matter and they can and will change the lives of the children you touch! Come listen to the words of Mrs. Redding (K) and Mrs. Jacobson (3rd grade)… we need to practice what they did so well!And as mentioned, I'd love for you to be a part of my Patreon...here's the link to check it out- https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffectTHANK YOU!Support the show

If you are a parent who has children playing sports...there are many episodes coming that will be important for you as you help your kids on and off the field! I love sports and I have found it to be an incredible tool to help address very specific things with my kids as I've parented 4 kids over the years...all with very different personalities and needed sports for a variety of different things. Today I address an issue many of us see these days and it's teaching our children a way of thinking/acting that will not serve them well. Just listen and see if you haven't seen some of the same. But most importantly-- how are we going to address this with our children? We talk about it in today's episode!And for those coaches who are modeling integrity, honesty and character as they work with our kids...thank you! We couldn't do this without your example of what REAL MEN should act like! Your influence goes so much father than the 100 yards on a football field or to the fence behind centerfield. So, thank you!If you would like to contact me, do so at:falling.jill@gmail.comSupport the show

Today's episode is all about how you can answer the "So how are you doing?" with a "I'm doing well, and how are you?" and do so honestly. Thank goodness most don't ask "How are you really doing?" because that's a tough question for so many of us right now. Here are some thoughts and ideas that have helped me and those I've counseled/coached as we are on this journey of remaining resilient for the long haul. These are ways to keep ourselves calm{ish} in the midst of chaos. You may contact me at falling.jill@gmail.comhttps://www.facebook.com/jillfalling/https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This is not a political conversation, this is a leaderships conversation. Regardless of your position on any of the current (and multiple) issues we face right now...one thing is true... Leadership skills are needed now more than ever and our children need us to rise to the occasion and teach them what leadership is, and isn't. The field is plentiful right now for many examples of what happens when people lose sight of what leadership truly is.These skills are needed in our homes, on ball fields, in the schools, the work place and in our government- Do not shy away from these discussions with your kids! I give some suggestions on places to start the conversation and how I'm choosing to address it here with my tribe!And never forget, we must be the change we want to see!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

That's not a misprint, there is such a thing as "good grieving"... Michele Benyo and I talk through some really important ways we can walk through grief and how to parent our children through grief and loss in a way that validates their experiences and allows them to grieve well. This is so important bc loss is a guarantee and we can help prepare our children for WHEN, not if,  it happens... this episode is packed full of incredibly helpful ideas as we parent our kids.Find Michele Benyo's 7 week course and also her free resource for adults at Good Grief Parenting: https://www.goodgriefparenting.com/aboutIG: https://www.instagram.com/michelebenyo_goodgrief/FB: https://www.facebook.com/michele.benyoAnd you can contact me through:falling.jill@gmail.com or through both IG/FB Info on Patreon coming soon!!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

Today's episode is inspired by a chapter in Pat Combs book, "More Than The Score- How Parents And Coaches Can Cultivate Virtue In Youth Athletes." Farming and parenting have so much in common and I think there are some super helpful analogies here that feel practical and can help us stay focused on where we are headed as we parent these rascals we call our kids!Please don't forget to subscribe to The Uplift Effect Podcast so you don't miss an episode...some neat things are just around the corner!You can contact me through most all social media sites (Jill Falling) or email at:falling.jill@gmail.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

In this episode you will hear my opinion on what I have found, and has been proven in parent/child research, to be a fundamental part of building a strong relationship  with your child. I share today how I've discovered sports (mine and theirs) to be a fantastic common denominator, but I address other area's by which your child may be gifted and passionate about and how to use the same concepts.If your relationship with your child is important to you, start early! If you are wanting more from the relationship you currently have with your child, it's never too late! This WILL WORK!Please join my weekly newsletter, THE WEEKLY FLYERAnd join me for daily encouragement through:FB- https://www.facebook.com/jillfallingIG- https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

Karen Yates:FB- https://www.facebook.com/Karen.InspireMyMoneyThis couple candidly shares their story of a marriage barely holding on-- to now having a relationship that is thriving and helping other couples do the same. They have some solid advice on pivotal decisions they made and how they turned things around so their communication was open and traction could be made. There's nothing worse than feeling like your spinning your wheels and making no headway...this couple has a unique story that I truly love! It will make you laugh, give you hope and reminds us all there are things that work and go right. We just may need to be willing to take the "one-way ticket"! I can be reached via:email- falling.jill@gmail.comFB- https://www.facebook.com/jillfallingIG- https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

The Chaos To Calm Parenting AcademyRegister for free -- https://www.thechaostocalm.comIf you missed some of the interviews, no worries I got you- sign up for the VIP ALL ACCESS PASS and at the end of the summit, I will send them all to you (video and audio for easy listening).Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

Before you decide all parents use sports inappropriately with their kids...listen to these 15 life lessons I believe are critical for a child's maturity and have found great success in using real time experiences on the field to develop who they grow to be when off the field. Where I hang out:falling.jill@gmail.comFB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersIG: https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

Parents,This will be the most important episode you may ever hear on this podcast...from the first word to the last. Do not skip it!Where to find me:falling.jill@gmail.comFB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

If you are struggling with your children's behavior, this is a DO NOT MISS EPISODE!I play back a previous session I did in my Mom's group so you will hear a live (with all the things that come with that, ugh) coaching session I did at the beginning of the year. There is hope here. Ideas and suggestions. And I role play a few scenarios! Here's where to find me:falling.jill@gmail.comWeekly FLYer Email Link: https://bit.ly/TheUpliftEffectEmails FB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

We as parents can get so wrapped up in our own experiences/emotions/circumstances and fail to recognize how events are perceived so differently from the perspective of our children. Separation and divorce are a breeding ground for these vulnerable moments that if not handled with care and attention can leave children traumatized. This episode addresses those specific moments, or milestones, and I offer a perspective that's often overlooked or dismissed; the child's. I expand on content from "Trauma-Proofing Your Kids" by Peter Levine and Maggie Kline. This is a fantastic resource! Where I hang out:Join my weekly email- The Uplift Effect Weekly FLYer here:https://bit.ly/TheUpliftEffectEmailsFB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersIG: https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

Mom's, particularly working Mom's, can struggle with many things...guilt, exhaustion, fear, being spread so thin, etc. And when you have a career that takes you away from home, it's particularly tough to juggle all the balls. Nicky Espinosa has an incredible story for you today; it's a tough one to share but she's willing because of her passion to encourage working women and Mom's. She's also a career coach and owner of Espinosa Coaching. If you are a working woman, she will be a huge resource for you!Trigger Warning: This episode discusses a suicide attempt and may be triggering and/or difficult for some to hear. Here's how to contact Nicky:https://www.espinosacoaching.com/FB: https://www.facebook.com/espinosacoachingSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This one is important to me... have you ever thought you'd like to parent differently than you were parented? Have you wondered why you aren't truly enjoying parenting like you thought you would? Have you felt triggered by things happening as you raise children and aren't sure what that's all about? Or...are you worried you are passing things down to your kids that you really want to change?I take you through a coaching exercise today that I often use with clients...I walk you through a common scenario to get to the bottom of what's often happening emotionally as you parent. I really believe this episode will bring you clarity and hit at the heart of what we truly want as parents.Where I hang out:FB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersFB Mom's Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/716385165943130/IG: https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/**The Uplift Effect Weekly FLYer** (this is where you really want to be!!): https://bit.ly/TheUpliftEffectEmailsSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This was a blast!Johnna Grimes allows me to dig deep and ask some of the hard questions about her past, how it influences her life day to day and everything in between. We are silly and yet get down to a point of an "ah ha" moment for her as we talk through her past and find a common denominator that threads itself into where she is today.Absolutely go listen to HER podcast this week, we flip spots and she interviews me...and basically do the same! You will hear more of my story that I don't typically share here-- we all have a journey and this week (her's will be Tuesday I believe) we both release our podcasts together so you can listen to them full circle! You will laugh and yet I feel sure you will find pieces of your story in ours as well!Happy Listening...Here's Johnna Grimes:Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/babbles-nonsense/id1550450743Website: https://www.babblesnonsense.com/?fbclid=IwAR2BMVb8tIxN6NsgvJWv8Detp1cuIzLSIE9kl7l57ucnEcMJHahhM2Bzhxc(Her podcast and nutritional coaching is all here!)FB: https://www.facebook.com/johnna.grimes.1IG: https://www.instagram.com/macrosby_j/Here's where I hang out:FB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersIG: https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Email: falling.jill@gmail.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This one's a bit different folks...you will rarely hear me make reference to my dating life (wink), but for this one time, I take you on a first date I went on years ago and what I learned about first impressions, red flags, and what "safe people" look like, or not. This is a slight deviation from our typical parenting conversation, however for you single parents (or just single adults who are dating) out there...this is HUGE as you date again!I explain several concepts from the book from Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, Safe People; How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't. This book is one you want if you A) find yourself often in unhealthy relationships and/or B) want to teach your children how to find and recognize safe/unsafe people.Contact me:falling.jill@gmail.comJoin my exlusive content weekly newsletter here:  https://bit.ly/TheUpliftEffectEmailsWhere I hang out:FB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersMy Mom's FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/716385165943130IG: https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

Struggling with your preteen/teen in the silence war? Wondering what happened to that chatty, bubbly kid that once loved watching your favorite shows together at night...now to barely get acknowledged with a nod when you ask if their homework is done? And forget conversations at dinner or the Saturday tailgating fun before football games. They're no longer interested. Say it with me....we are over it!!Here's what I learned from working with kids and teens who most certainly didn't want to talk about their background of sex abuse. This episode gives you my tips and tricks for how I got teens to talk about the some of the worst topics ever....surely it's easier than that, right? It is.DON'T MISS THIS...Get my FREE PDF, "How To Chill the Crap Out, So You Don't Lose Your Crap On Your Kids" here: https://bit.ly/TheUpliftEffectEmailsWhere I hang out:falling.jill@gmail.comFB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersIG: https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

Have you ever struggled with perfectionism?Was there ever a time where you wouldn't attempt something unless you were sure it could be done perfectly?I'll go first....it's all in this episode.You'll laugh and think I'm a nut and you'll be right but you might potentially see some of your own story there too.There are two words you need to adapt ASAP...My guaranteed to work "How To Chill the Crap Out So You Don't Lose Your Crap On Your Kids" FREE PDF guide...link here:https://bit.ly/TheUpliftEffectEmailsWhere I hang out:falling.jill@gmail.comFB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersMom's FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/716385165943130IG: https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This episode is my chronicle from a weeks worth of watching the coastline at the beach this past week.It gives--It takes away.There's a dance that offers hope for the hurting and broken.But there is also a powerful thing happening below the ocean waves and it affects us all in one way or another.Just listen...you'll need this eventually, if not already.Contact me:falling.jill@gmail.comFB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersIG: https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

I feel like the topic of this episode is one in which will be a frequent here on this podcast. I took a little field trip to the local bookstore and left with a sadness I can't shake. Furthermore, the numbers don't lie. Listen to this episode, I suspect the numbers affect your life too in some way. Parent's, our children need us to do get this figured out. Coparenting and Step-Parenting is the hardest of the hard...if this is your story, this is for you!I give 3 quick things to remember if this is your journey; more to come!Contact me: falling.jill@gmail.comhttps://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersMom's of The Uplift Effect FB Group... https://www.facebook.com/groups/716385165943130https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This episode is my conversation with author, Julie Igel. She has not only a wealth of real life knowledge and practical advice to any and all Mom's, but for those who have children who feel and sense the world differently, she is a gold mine! We talk in depth about Sensory Integration Dysfunctions...how they played a role in her daughter as well as my son. There's a ton of practical advice as to how we both managed the many day to day struggles, yet the blessings of having a child with this condition. Her book, My Socks, is very well done, funny and the illustration is amazing (Illustration by Pearly L). Any parent, school teacher, grandparent or therapist should add this children's book to their collection. Order her book on Amazon here:https://www.amazon.com/My-Socks-Julie-Igel-CCH/dp/1735589500Where to find Julie Igel:https://www.homeopathicsoulutions.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/julie_igel_homeopath/FB: https://www.facebook.com/julie.igelWhere to find me, Jill Falling:falling.jill@gmail.comFB: https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersIG: https://www.instagram.com/jillfalling/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This Part 2 may just be some of my favorite parts of our conversation!YOU MUST GO LISTEN TO LAST WEEKS PART 1 FOR CONTEXT...but for this episode, we each start off with telling a story of a finer Mothering moment, you will relate and probably giggle with us...you will see your own self, your own split second moment of having lost all sense of reality!Ways to connect to Sarah:http://www.facebook.com/MamaYourWorthhttp://www.instagram.com/MamaYourWorthBook:Order on Amazon (book or Kindle)https://www.amazon.com/Mama-Your-Worth-Measured-Ounces/dp/1736220802/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=Ways to connect to me:https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersFB Mom's group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/716385165943130/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

I'm so excited to bring you this episode/conversation with author, Sarah Johnson!Her brand new book is one every Mother needs in her life...but here's the deal, this is not a book on breastfeeding (and every man just took a sigh of relief!).Sarah is a life coach (as well as many other things) and her book is written as a tool that anyone, particularly Mothers, can use to help move themselves towards change. Mama, your worth is not measured in ounces-- or in other peoples opinions, or on how happy your baby seems at any given moment, etc. You have what you need to be exactly what your baby needs and Sarah shows you how and why!Our conversation is "book review" style with lots of solid life coaching fundamentals that anyone (you too men) can use to gain better control over your mental health. Ways to connect to Sarah:http://www.facebook.com/MamaYourWorthhttp://www.instagram.com/MamaYourWorthBook:Order on Amazon (book or Kindle)https://www.amazon.com/Mama-Your-Worth-Measured-Ounces/dp/1736220802/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

You can't miss this one!! The story in this episode will stay with you and change your perspective on that situation you think just might be the end of you!! Story borrowed from “Why Do I Love These People?” —Po BronsonWanna stay connected? Here's how!Special Email Invites:  http://bit.ly/C2CEMAILhttps://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersIG: @jillfallingSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

So what is “Transformation from Chaos to Calm” anyway? Who is if for? How do you know if YOU need it? How does it work?And if you dont hear “Transformation from Chaos to Calm” alteast 50 times in this episode, your volume needs adjusting!!

The story of the famined wolf, it's pack, and how we mirror their excessive behavior when we have also been famined and soul-starved, is crucial. If you are in a place of emptiness, loneliness, or significant loss—you need this story! Your decisions and a famine are more related than you may think. Note: creative liberties for this episode have been taken with the content from the book “Women Who Run With the Wolves” by Clarissa Estes, Ph.D. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This episode takes you into my home on a few particular days, when  our crazy life was happening. This episode gives 4 ways to keep raising kids even in the midst of the crazy, and with 4... we had alot of crazy!!https://www.facebook.com/jill.f.towersSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

You know those life changing moments? The one's that no matter what ails you, you'll never forget? This is one of those. A moment personally when my family heritage suddenly shifted from what felt like an old black and white movie—to living color.  But also an unexpected moment that wove together a thread of how we heal; from Navajo's hundreds of years ago, to my graduate school therapeutic models, and eventually through to my professional career even yet today. There is a Healing Hand, just listen....Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This weeks episode is a call to action! It's done in two parts, pre-inauguration and post-inauguration. While there is not political discussions here— there is attention brought to why our national/state governments, our local executive teams, and our families are in desperate need for reevaluating what true and effective leadership really looks like. Our parenting skills and leadership skills are reflective of each other in ways we may not realize. This episode calls us to action— our families need our leadership, our country does too! Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

What do you do when your life feels charred?  When it seems like everything has gone up in flames? 2020, anyone? Some of us are still burning from the past months and we see more just ahead. This episode is what I discovered from our hayfield burning; it wasnt about destruction!!If this episodes resonates and you would like to work with me directly, you can contact me through FB/IG—jillfalling or through my website: https://theuplifteffect.constantcontactsites.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This episode could end up being one of the most important episodes you listen to. This subject matter has the potential to greatly impact and possibly be the catalyst of healing in your life, how you parent your children, and the generations ahead that will benefit from your healing. Warning: this conversation makes mention of factors involved with generational sexual abuse and its ramifications on parenting and future generations within the family. Please keep this in mind if your children are listening along with you. https://theuplifteffect.constantcontactsites.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

You might be tempted to skip this one after the intro... dont! If you do, you prove the point I'm actually making in this conversation. Most people are not willing to sit with this topic and consider how they may need to adjust living their life; it's uncomfortable. However, I am deeply convicted that “living with the end in mind” is a life well lived! Give this a listen and take an honest look— you're on center stage!!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

Here is my introduction to the life-long membership club of Motherhood and how I realized I was in over my head. If you didnt have that fairytale introduction to becoming a Mom, this will make you laugh and encourage you! Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)

This episode is an introduction to this podcast and the online coaching/counseling services of The Uplift Effect. We discuss everything from why geese migrate in this formation and how we as Mothers are desperate for the same. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/theuplifteffect)