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Join Pastor Jeff for our FRI-YAY Shoutout Episode! On this final day of our Faith Question, "How Can We Be Saved?", he explains why Jesus did everything necessary to secure our salvation through His substitutionary death on the cross. Learn what it means to place your faith in Christ and receive the gift of forgiveness and eternal life. John 5:24  "Truly I tell you, anyone who hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not come under judgment but has passed from death to life." 

Join Pastor Jeff as he answers the Faith Question, "How Can We Be Saved?" and explains how Jesus fully paid the debt of our sin through His substitutionary death on the cross. Discover why salvation is a gift of grace received only through faith in Christ. Isaiah 53:5  But he was pierced because of our rebellion, crushed because of our iniquities; punishment for our peace was on him, and we are healed by his wounds.   

Join Pastor Jeff as he explores what it means that Jesus atoned for our sins and why His sacrifice was necessary to restore our broken relationship with God. Discover how the greatest act of love in history provides forgiveness, hope, and salvation for all who believe. Galatians 1:3-4 3 Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ, 4 who gave himself for our sins to rescue us from the present evil age, according to the will of our God and Father.

Join Pastor Jeff as he explores the incredible truth that Jesus became our substitute, taking the punishment for our sins so we could be forgiven and restored to a relationship with God. Discover why the cross is the greatest act of love and the foundation of our salvation. 1 Peter 3:18  For Christ also suffered for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, that he might bring you to God. He was put to death in the flesh but made alive by the Spirit.

This week, Pastor Jeff tackles the Faith Question: How Can We Be Saved? Discover why salvation is not something we can earn, but a gift received only through faith in Jesus Christ and His substitutionary death on the cross. Ephesians 2:8-9  For you are saved by grace through faith, and this is not from yourselves; it is God's gift- not from works, so that no one can boast.

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Today is FRI-YAY and Shoutout Day, and Pastor Jeff reminds us that Jesus came so we would not have to be separated from God forever. Even though sin broke our relationship with God, Jesus came to redeem us and bring us back to Him. Matthew 25:46  And they will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life." 

Pastor Jeff teaches that sin separates us from God, even though we were created to know Him and live in His presence. This week's Faith Question reminds us that only through faith in Christ can we be restored to God forever. 2 Thessalonians 1:9  They will pay the penalty of eternal destruction from the Lord's presence and from his glorious strength.

Pastor Jeff teaches today that eternity lasts forever without end, far longer than anything we can imagine. Our Faith Question reminds us that the choice we make about Jesus on earth affects our forever. 1 John 1:17   The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever. 

Pastor Jeff reminds us today that every good thing comes from God, and being with Him is the greatest joy because He is perfectly good. Our Faith Question teaches that rejecting Jesus means being separated from God forever — apart from all goodness, peace, joy, and love. James 1:17  Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. 

This week, Pastor Jeff answers the Faith Question: What happens after death to those not united to Christ by faith? The Bible teaches that they will be separated from God forever. John 3:33 The one who believes in the Son has eternal life, but the one who rejects the Son will not see life; instead, the wrath of God remains on him. 

Today is FRIYAY and Shoutout Day with Pastor Jeff as we finish learning that only Jesus can save us from sin and bring us back to God. We'll discover that Jesus is the one and only Savior because He is the perfect Son of God who died and rose again for us. Acts 4:12   There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to people by which we must be saved. 

This week with Pastor Jeff, we're learning that even though everyone is born into sin, Jesus offers us the free gift of salvation. We'll discover that following Jesus means believing in Him with our hearts, trusting Him completely, and choosing to follow Him every day. Romans 10:10  One believes with the heart, resulting in righteousness, and one confesses with the mouth, resulting in salvation. 

Pastor Jeff reminds us today that Jesus is standing at the door of our hearts, waiting for us to invite Him into a forever friendship with Him. We'll learn that God loves us deeply and gives each person the choice to open their heart and follow Him. Revelations 3:20  See! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me. 

Pastor Jeff shares today that while sin affected everyone through Adam, Jesus came to offer forgiveness and salvation to all people. We'll learn that salvation is a gift we receive by believing in Jesus, confessing Him as Lord, and choosing to follow Him. Romans 10:9  If you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 

Join Pastor Jeff this week as we explore the important Faith Question: Are all people saved through Christ? We'll learn that while sin entered the world through Adam, God sent Jesus to rescue and save everyone who chooses to follow Him. Romans 5:17 If by the one man's trespass, death reigned through that one man, how much more will those who receive the overflow of grace and the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man, Jesus Christ. 

Today is FRI-YAY and Shoutout Day with Pastor Jeff as we finish learning that Jesus is God's Promised Son! We'll discover that God helps us know the truth about Jesus and that we can grow closer to Him by reading the Bible, praying, and listening to His voice. Matthew 16:17  Jesus responded, "Blessed are you, Simon son of Jonah, because flesh and blood did not reveal this to you, but my Father in heaven.  

Community, community, community. The most certain path to happiness is to give back to your community. Stories from volunteering at the Boston Marathon, and random serendipitous running meet-ups, and being a known presence in the neighborhood because walking Nova means I am out and about.

Today with Pastor Jeff, we learn about Peter's powerful answer when he declared that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of the living God. We'll discover that the most important decision we can ever make is deciding who we believe Jesus is. Matthew 16:16  Simon Peter answered, "You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God." 

Join Pastor Jeff today as we discover why people had many different ideas about who Jesus was. We'll learn that while many thought Jesus was a prophet or teacher, only Jesus is God's Promised Son and the true Savior of the world. Matthew 16:14  They replied, "Some say John the Baptist; others, Elijah; still others, Jeremiah or one of the prophets." 

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Today, Pastor Jeff helps us explore an important question Jesus asked His disciples: "Who do you say I am?" We'll discover that Jesus is far more than just a good teacher — He is God's Promised Son who came to rescue us from sin and restore our relationship with God. Matthew 16:13  When Jesus came to the region of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, "Who do people say that the Son of Man is?" 

This week at VBS, we're learning with Pastor Jeff that Jesus is God's Promised Son! From the very beginning, God had a rescue plan to save people from sin, and Jesus is the Savior God promised to defeat sin and evil forever. Genesis 3:15  I will put hostility between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring. He will strike your head, and you will strike his heel.

What if the first 10 minutes of your morning completely changed the rest of your day?This episode is not like my usual ones. I made this one for you to save on your phone and come back to every single morning.In just 10 minutes we are going to take a breath together, step into gratitude, reconnect with your body mind and soul, and choose the energy you want to bring into your day, before the world gets loud.By the end you will feel grounded, grateful and genuinely excited about the day ahead.

It's FRIYAY and Shout Out Day with Pastor Jeff as we wrap up our Faith Question: What Else Does Christ's Death Redeem? Jesus came to fix what sin broke and restore our relationship with God—now that's the best news ever! Psalm 150:6  Let everything that breathes praise the LORD. Hallelujah! 

Today Pastor Jeff reminds us that creation is like a giant mirror reflecting God's power, beauty, and greatness. From oceans and sunsets to stars and tiny bugs, everything points back to our amazing Creator! Romans 1:20  For his invisible attributes, that is, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen since the creation of the world, being understood through what he has made. As a result, people are without excuse.

Pastor Jeff shares from Revelation 5 about the incredible day when all creation will praise God together. Imagine the biggest worship service ever—every creature in heaven, on earth, and in the sea worshiping our amazing Creator! Revelation 5:13  I heard every creature in heaven, on earth, under the earth, on the sea, and everything in them say, Blessing and honor and glory and power be to the one seated on the throne, and to the Lamb, forever and ever!

Join Pastor Jeff for today's Faith Question: What else does Christ's death redeem? Today's Truth Bomb reminds us that Jesus came to redeem every part of fallen creation. From the tiniest details in nature to the stars in the sky, all creation was designed by God to praise Him! Psalm 148:3-5  Praise him, sun and moon;  praise him, all you shining stars. Praise him, highest heavens, and you waters above the heavens. Let them praise the name of the LORD, for he commanded, and they were created.

Join Pastor Jeff this week as we answer the Faith Question: What else does Christ's death redeem? and discover the Truth Bomb that Jesus came to restore every part of fallen creation. Kids will learn how God is making all things new through the peace and hope found in Jesus' death on the cross. Colossians 1:19-20  For God was pleased to have all his fullness dwell in him, and through him to reconcile everything to himself, whether things on earth or things in heaven, by making peace through his blood, shed on the cross.

Join Pastor Jeff today for our FRI-YAY episode, as we wrap up our Faith Question and celebrate the truth that Jesus fully paid for our sins, so they are completely forgiven and remembered no more. When we trust in Him, we are clothed in Christ—covered by His goodness so that God sees Jesus in us instead of our sin. Galatians 3:27  For those of you who were baptized into Christ have been clothed with Christ. 

Join Pastor Jeff today as we explore what legacy means and why it matters. Because of Jesus' death on the cross, our sins are not only fully forgiven, but God chooses to remember them no more. Hebrews 8:12  For I will forgive their wrongdoing, and I will never again remember their sins. 

This week's Faith Question reminds us that because of Jesus' death on the cross, every one of our sins can be completely forgiven and remembered no more. Just like east and west never meet, God removes our sins from us forever—an endless, complete forgiveness we can fully trust. Psalm 103:12 "As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us." 

Join Pastor Jeff as we explore how some things—like sneezing or being born—just can't happen halfway, and how that helps us understand something powerful about Jesus. His death on the cross didn't partly forgive our sins—it fully paid for them, so every sin is completely forgiven and remembered no more. Ephesians 1:7 " In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of His grace."

Pastor Jeff's  shares the Faith Question this week, "Does Christ's death mean all our sins can be forgiven?" and the Truth Bomb says yes, because Jesus fully paid the penalty for our sin on the cross. Jesus took our place and carried our sins away forever, so even though He never sinned, God can forgive us completely and remember our sins no more. 2 Corinthians 5:21 "God made the one who did not know sin to be sin for us, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God." 

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit andrewsullivan.substack.comTom is a journalist and author. A former staff writer at GQ and Esquire, the film A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood was based on his Esquire article on Fred Rogers. He's currently a senior writer at ESPN, and his new memoir is called In the Days of My Youth I Was Told What It Means to Be a Man. It was an intense conversation — about dads, sex, Catholicism, and growing older.For two clips of the episode — on being your dad's wingman as a kid, and the dark secrets that Catholic families often carry — head to our YouTube page.Other topics: his dad's serious injury at Normandy; emulating leading men in Hollywood; selling women's handbags; his extreme vanity and obsession with scents; “the first metrosexual”; women flocking to him; making Tom complicit in his countless affairs; how men benefitted from the early Sexual Revolution more than women; Vatican II; Tom's close relationship with his Catholic mom; Tom fearing his dad; the friends who worshipped him like a celebrity; hiding his Brooklyn accent; hiding extreme porn and dildos in his briefcase that Tom found; sadomasochism and bondage; dad's sleeping with both Zsa Zsa and Ava Gabor; a mystery mistress who spoke at his dad's funeral; Tom's grandmother who was a notorious adulteress in the press who pimped out Tom's dad and his aunt; and the challenge of writing my own memoir.Browse the Dishcast archive for an episode you might enjoy. We have some real stars coming up: Tiffany Jenkins on privacy in a liberal democracy, Adrian Wooldridge on “the lost genius of liberalism,” Jerusalem Demsas on the state of the left, Ben Rhodes on Iran and speech-writing, Harvey Mansfield on modernity, Daniel McCarthy on conservatism, HW Brands on the life of George Washington, John Gray on Trump's new world, Bob Wright on the evolutionary force of AI, Stephen Grosz on the struggles of love, and Robby George on pretty much everything. Please send any guest recs, dissents, and other comments to dish@andrewsullivan.com.

Today is FRI-YAY! And shout out day! Pastor Jeff explains that Jesus came on the greatest rescue mission ever, stepping into our broken world to save us from the danger of sin. Through His death on the cross, Jesus made a way to bring us out of darkness and back to God. Ephesians 2:13  But now in Christ Jesus, you who were far away have been brought near by the blood of Christ.   

Today, Pastor Jeff shares how Jesus' death did something amazing—He took the penalty of our sin and broke its power over our lives. Because of Him, we can be forgiven, set free, and live a new life close to God. Revelations 1:5  "...and from Jesus Christ, the faithful witness, the firstborn from the dead and the ruler of the kings of the earth. To him who loves us and has set us free from our sins by his blood..."

What does it mean to be a man? Our guest on the program this week has published a book that examines that very question. It is part memoir, part meditation on masculinity, and part detective story — as he unearths the secret life of his charismatic alpha male father and forges a new version of manhood, putting himself and his family back together on the page.Tom Junod is an award-winning American journalist and a senior writer for ESPN. The film A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood is based on an article that he wrote for Esquire. Tom's new memoir is In the Days of My Youth I Was Told What It Means to Be a Man.You can find Tara Henley on Twitter at @TaraRHenley, and on Substack at tarahenley.substack.com

Today, Pastor Jeff reminds us how we like recognition for doing good but want to hide when we do wrong. He explains that Jesus stepped in to take the blame and the punishment for our sin, offering us incredible grace and relief. 1 Peter 2:24 "He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree; so that, having died to sins, we might live for righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed."

Pastor Jeff invites us to think about heroes and how they bravely help others, then shows how Jesus is far greater than any hero we know. Jesus willingly gave His life in perfect obedience to God, coming to earth with a clear mission—to rescue us. Philippians 2:8 "He humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death—even to death on a cross."

Join Pastor Jeff this week as we explore why it was necessary for Christ, our Redeemer, to die. Jesus lived a perfect life yet willingly took our place, dying for our sins so He could rescue us from their penalty and bring us back to God. Colossians 1:21–22 "Once you were alienated and hostile in your minds as expressed in your evil actions. But now he has reconciled you by his physical body through his death, to present you holy, faultless, and blameless before him."

It is FRI-YAY! And shout out day! Today with Pastor Jeff, we see that Jesus is perfect in every way—His life, His obedience, and His sacrifice are completely sufficient for our redemption. Because He is truly God, nothing needs to be added to what He has already perfectly accomplished. Hebrews 10:14 For by one offering he has perfected forever those who are sanctified.

My GOD the twists and turns of this episode with our beloved Peru! Now, before you hit play, a few things to note: Some serious topics are discussed, including TherapyJeff (barf) and his suggestions of a hotline for those considering sexual assault, and a deep dive on the latest viral The Cut article where a friend cuts another friend off for discovering WEGOVY in her fridge. (Eating disorders are a topic here, in case that is upsetting to you.) But there are also a lot of uplifting stories, like Michelle's Cheesecake Factory/Bloomingdales saga that has the happiest ending of all (oh God, thinking about TherapyJeff again.) Plus, thievery is back!! One woman tracks her stolen bag down on Instagram, but not before doxxing a child, and Madonna's corset... whomst amongst you has it?! Buckle up bc controversy abounds today. (Dog sits upright on counter)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On America at Night with McGraw Milhaven, Mick West, founder of Metabunk.org and ContrailScience.com, joined the program to discuss the rise of online conspiracy theories and misinformation. West explained how his work focuses on investigating viral claims—from UFO sightings to contrails and internet hoaxes—and why critical thinking and evidence-based analysis are more important than ever in the digital age. Later, Tom Junod, acclaimed journalist and longtime magazine writer, joined the show to discuss his book “In the Days of My Youth I Was Told What It Means to Be a Man.” The memoir reflects on Junod's relationship with his father, exploring themes of masculinity, family expectations, and personal identity. Junod is also widely known for writing the famous Esquire profile of Fred Rogers, which later inspired the film A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today with Pastor Jeff, we learn that Jesus' sacrifice is not only complete but eternal, because He is outside of time and His work never fades. Unlike repeated sacrifices in the past, Jesus redeemed us once and for all, forever. Hebrews 9:12 He entered the most holy place once for all time, not by the blood of goats and calves, but by his own blood, having obtained eternal redemption.

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Akon pulled up to The Cruz Show and kept it all the way real. From AI and the future of music to ownership, touring with Ne‑Yo, and why he doesn’t believe in struggling just to prove a point, this conversation goes everywhere — and it feels like game the whole time. He talks about his new album Beautiful Day, the idea behind his “Ringtone” record, staying young by choosing peace, and why business has to come before feelings. Akon also breaks down how artists should think about AI, gives major insight on Jay‑Z’s impact on the Super Bowl, and weighs in on Kanye, cancellation, and consequences in today’s climate. Plus, there are classic laugh‑out‑loud moments about hair, touring, legacy, and why retirement didn’t stick. Real talk, gems, and energy — this one’s worth the full watch.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today with Pastor Jeff, we learn that because Jesus is God, His sacrifice is greater than all others and fully takes away sin. Unlike repeated sacrifices in the past, Jesus' sacrifice was perfect and complete once and for all. Hebrews 7:27 He doesn't need to offer sacrifices every day, as high priests do—first for their own sins, then for those of the people. He did this once for all time when he offered himself.

Order my new book, The Price of Becoming... www.LearningLeader.com/Becoming This is brought to you by Insight Global. If you need to hire one person, hire a team of people, or transform your business through Talent or Technical Services, Insight Global's team of 30,000 people around the world has the hustle and grit to deliver. My Guest: Nir Eyal is a Stanford lecturer, behavioral designer, and bestselling author who has spent his career at the intersection of psychology, technology, and human behavior. He's one of the most rigorous thinkers alive on why people do what they do, and what it actually takes to change. Notes Julie introduced Nir to the Turnaround technique. Nir and Julie met the first week of college in 1997 and have been married since 2001. A big part of the genesis of Beyond Belief came from Julie introducing Nir to this technique called The Turnaround, which comes out of the work from Byron Katie, that she used with her mother to repair the relationship she had with her mom. A limiting belief is a belief that saps motivation and increases suffering. It does that by creating short-term relief from discomfort. "I hate public speaking, I'm no good at public speaking, so I'm going to avoid public speaking." You reduce your motivation to go on stage, providing yourself temporary relief, but long-term suffering. The Turnaround helps you collect a portfolio of perspectives. The problem is that our minds hate changing beliefs. We use these beliefs to justify passivity. A turnaround helps you identify many different kinds of beliefs, and then you can choose the ones that serve you versus the ones that hurt you. Your conscious mind can only process 50 bits of information per second. Your brain is processing 11 million bits of information (the sound of a voice, light hitting your retinas, the ambient temperature of the room). Your conscious mind is not aware of all this. Your brain has to filter out and leaves you with 0.00045% of the information that's coming in. The brain sees reality through a tiny pinhole of attention. It's the difference between reading a simple sentence or War and Peace twice every second. In order to make sense of all this data coming in, the brain has to see reality through a tiny pinhole of attention, just a tiny fraction of reality you're actually consciously aware of. The brain makes predictions based on our beliefs. How does the brain make sense of all this information? It has to make predictions, and those predictions are based on our beliefs. We call this predictive processing. Everything you experience, everything you see, everything you feel, and everything you're inspired to do is determined by the three powers of belief. The three powers of belief: The power of attention changes what you see The power of anticipation changes how you feel The power of agency changes what you do Limiting beliefs hide themselves. A limiting belief, by definition, is hidden because we think that what we see is accurate. We all think that what we experience is a fact. "I saw it for myself. I'm stating my truth. This is the way things are." But that's not true at all. The way the brain processes information is woefully inadequate to put that burden of truth on it. The Turnaround uses four questions to challenge limiting beliefs.  Is it true? Is it 100% absolutely true? Who am I when I hold onto this belief? Who would I be without this belief? Nir's story: "My mother is too judgmental and hard to please." Nir sent his mom flowers for her 74th birthday. She said, "Thank you very much. But just so you know, the flowers were half dead. Don't order from that florist again." Nir instantly became his 13-year-old self and blurted out, "Well, that's the last time I order you flowers again." Venting is terrible. It does nothing but reinforce your beliefs about people because not only do we not see reality clearly, we certainly don't see other people clearly. We see our beliefs about people. We don't see reality as it is. We see reality as we are. The Turnaround opened up new possibilities for Nir. In 30 seconds, he determined: (1) that belief may not be true, (2) it doesn't really serve him, and (3) there might be a better way to be. He could actually be happier without that belief. The brain hates changing its mind. The turnaround asks you to look at the diametric opposite of your belief. We have a psychological immune system. Just like if you get a splinter in your finger, your body will mount an immune defense. The same happens in our minds. The more you feel "that's crazy, I don't wanna think that way, that can't be true," the more you need to explore it. Nir found four beliefs instead of one: My mother is too judgmental and hard to please My mother is NOT too judgmental and hard to please (maybe she was just conveying information) I am too judgmental and hard to please (I had rehearsed a script of effusive praise I wanted) I am too judgmental and hard to please towards myself (I felt incompetent that the flowers didn't work out) "Beliefs are tools, not truths." This is the most important thing Nir can convey. Which one of those four beliefs is true? All of them. None of them. Who cares? Beliefs are tools, not truths. Facts, faith, and beliefs are three different things.  A fact is an objective truth about reality. It is so whether you believe it or not. The world is more like a sphere than it is flat. That is an objective fact.  Faith is a conviction that does not require evidence.  A belief is a conviction that is open to revision based on new evidence. Most problems come from thinking faith is a fact. Too many people think that their faith is a fact, and the things they think are facts are nothing more than beliefs, which are changeable. That's where most of our problems come from: interpersonal problems, personal problems, geopolitical problems. The original belief left Nir powerless. "My mom is too judgmental and hard to please" only has one way out: she has to change so I could be happy. Good luck. The other three beliefs, Nir could do something about. They were in his control. That enabled him. It freed him. It was liberating. Misattribution of emotion: hurt people hurt people. When we feel bad inside, if you've ever been bullied or been a bully yourself, this is always what happens. When you feel crappy on the inside, the first person you can find, you're going to punch him in the face, either physically or verbally, because you feel crappy. That's what Nir did to his mom because he felt bad. So now she should feel bad. How to handle narcissists: acknowledge they're operating with the best tools they have. That person is a narcissist? Awesome, because you don't have to be around them. But narcissists are operating from the best tools they have. It doesn't mean you have to include them in your life, but how do you stop suffering because of them? Acknowledge they are, and reduce your suffering around them. Nir called his mom and apologized. He said, "I'm so sorry for my behavior. I realize that you were trying to help me. You were conveying information about the flowers, so I wouldn't order from that florist. Thank you for that." That call completely changed their relationship. We expect people to change, but we can't even change ourselves. We can't do the simplest habits like eating better, exercising more, and managing our time. Why are we expecting other people to change? "Love is measured by the benefit of the doubt." When Nir's daughter was born, and he held her for the first time, he felt overwhelming adoration. Five minutes ago, she didn't exist, and now he loved her more than anything. He gave her complete, total benefit of the doubt. Why? She didn't do anything. She never sent him flowers. Babies poop, they need food all the time, they cry. But he never said, "she's crying to annoy me." We give babies the ultimate benefit of the doubt. Why don't we give adults the benefit of the doubt? When those babies grow up and become adults, we don't give them the benefit of the doubt. The narcissist in your life, the person who offends you, the person that hurts you, those are the best tools they have. It doesn't mean you have to be with them or include them in your life. The requirement is: how do you figure out how to stop suffering, to be at peace? We're constantly judging everything. Somebody cuts you off in traffic. Jerk. There's a line at the burrito place. The business thing didn't work out. The stock market goes down. Judging, judging, judging all day long. Good, bad, good, bad, good, bad. Expecting things to be different than they are. These are all limiting beliefs, and all they do is make us suffer. "We don't have relationship problems. We have belief problems." The problem is your belief that something should be different from what it is. It's like asking Nir's daughter to speak Russian. She can't speak Russian. What am I expecting? She doesn't have that ability. Why should I have expectations that people should meet my expectations? Nir and Julie now collaborate instead of argue. Since they started using the Turnaround technique, they used to have disagreements. Now they collaborate. If there's a very smart person, much smarter than Nir, who has an opinion, who he respects deeply and loves and admires, why would he fight with that person? He would collaborate with that person. Different perspectives are an asset to collect. If Nir sees things one way and Julie sees them differently, that's amazing. A new perspective. It's like collecting Pokémon cards. You've gotta get 'em all. Now with more perspectives, he can pick the best one. Writing sessions with Tim Urban, Shane Snow, and Mark Manson. Nir would work on his own and get distracted. But when he had other authors around him, they would sit down, write for 45 minutes, take a 15-minute break, write for 45 minutes, take a 15-minute break. They'd do that for three hours every morning. Not only is it inspiring, it keeps you on track. Find a focus friend. Somebody you can go to a coffee shop with and say, "I really need to focus. Let's keep each other accountable. Let's just work next to each other." Just like working side by side and seeing that other person also working on the stuff they should be working on keeps you accountable. Comparison is the thief of joy. Sometimes it can be tricky to be in a room with people who are super successful. Nir was the least successful author there at the time. You have to put it in perspective and know it's not about the outcome, it's about the journey. The best thing you can do is do the work. Time boxing is better than to-do lists. To-do lists are one of the worst things you can do for personal productivity because there's no constraint. You can always add more things to a to-do list. You come home from work every day and say, "I still have all these things I haven't done on my to-do list."  A time box calendar is the most well-researched time management technique. What's much more effective than a to-do list is planning out what you're going to do and when you're going to do it. This is called an implementation intention. The goal now becomes not to finish anything. The goal is to work on that task for as long as you said you would without distraction. Make time to do the work, to turn your values into time. That's the secret to avoiding comparison. You put in the time to do the work. When you have it on your calendar, the goal is doing the work, not finishing the work. Lucky people literally see reality differently. They did a study where they asked people who were self-described lucky or unlucky to count the number of photographs in a newspaper. The unlucky people took on average two and a half minutes. The lucky people took 11 seconds. Why? On page two, one of the images said in big, bold text, "There are 43 images in this paper. Collect your prize." The unlucky people never saw it. Their brains took in the information, but it never became part of their conscious awareness. Entrepreneurs see $100 bills on the ground when everybody's walking over them. That is driven by beliefs. You believe you can will things to change. Walter Isaacson, in his biography of Steve Jobs, talked about his reality distortion field. That's exactly what this is. Entrepreneurs tend to be way more optimistic. They believe that lucky things happen to them, and so they see opportunities. "With our luck, it's going to be a bright, beautiful, sunny day." So many people say "with my luck" and follow it with something bad or negative. This belief and mindset of saying "with our luck" followed by something extremely positive is contagious and enjoyable. "Everything good happens to us." Nir's family says this whenever something good happens. There's no line at the TSA. "Everything good happens to us." The food was good. "Everything good happens to us." Little things, big things. Do more good things happen to them than bad things? Maybe, maybe not. Who cares? Beliefs are tools, not truths. When you believe those things, you notice them more. Your life actually does seem magical, blessed, like you're always lucky. 60% of opportunities are provoked luck. They studied super successful entrepreneurs and VCs and found that 60% of their opportunities provoked luck. They provoked the lucky thing that happened. How? Something as simple as sending a note of gratitude. Never hold back on a compliment. They're free. You get so much back from them. Thank you notes create provoked luck. Tina Seelig writes thank you notes compulsively. She wrote a thank you note to somebody. The thank-you note landed on someone's desk. You're sitting at your desk with things to do, and here's a thank you note, and to the right is your laptop with an email about a new opportunity. Who is going to get the call about that opportunity? You're top of mind. "Ryan's such a nice guy. He sent me that note. I'm going to call Ryan about that opportunity." Changing Nir's relationship with his mom changed his relationship with his daughter. Love is measured by the benefit of the doubt. When Nir started giving his daughter the benefit of the doubt, it pushed him to figure it out with his mom because he needed to give her the benefit of the doubt as he would want his daughter to give him the same. He's doing his best. He's not perfect. He makes mistakes. Those are the tools he's got.  You go from loving your kid to liking them. Nir and his daughter went skiing together for his birthday. The entire three hour car ride up, the entire three-hour car ride back, they were chatting. They wrote an article together in the car. You always love your kid. As soon as your kid's born, you love them. But if you do your job right and things fall into place and you're very lucky, you like them. And that's a game changer. Reflection Questions What limiting belief are you holding onto where someone else has to change? What are three other ways to look at that same situation that would put the control back in your hands? Are you treating your beliefs like facts or like tools? Which beliefs are you holding because they're true, and which ones are you holding because they serve you? Who in your life are you not giving the benefit of the doubt? What would change if you gave them some grace? More Learning: #554 - Tim Urban: Become a High Rung Thinker #342 - Shane Snow: The #1 Leadership Skill is Intellectual Humility #596 - Arthur Brooks: The Art & Science of Happiness  Podcast Chapters 02:19 Julie Introduced Nir to The Turnaround  04:28 Limiting Beliefs: How They Sap Motivation  07:51 Your Brain Filters 99.99% of Reality  10:17 The Flower Story: When Nir Became His 13-Year-Old Self  12:41 The Four Questions That Change Everything  15:25 Finding Four Beliefs Instead of One  19:08 Beliefs Are Tools, Not Truths  22:52 Narcissists Are Using Their Best Tools  27:53 Focus Friends: Writing with Tim Urban, Shane Snow, and Mark Manson  31:09 Comparison Is the Thief of Joy  32:04 Time Boxing Beats To-Do Lists  35:04 We Don't Have Relationship Problems, We Have Belief Problems  35:59 Why Nir and Julie Don't Fight Anymore  38:25 Explaining Worlds vs Changing People  42:03 You Can't Write Clearly If You Can't Think Clearly  43:23 Lucky People See $100 Bills on the Ground  46:29 "With Our Luck, It's Gonna Be a Beautiful Day"  49:38 Thank You Notes Create Provoked Luck  52:42 From Loving Your Kid to Liking Them  56:16 EOPC

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