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Welcome to episode 237 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to know the difference between your intuition and fear with Katy. You know by now that dating by your intuition is the name of the game here… but what if your intuition and fear kinda feel like… the same thing? The good news is they’re not. But it CAN be tricky to know if your gut is telling you to stay away. Or if fear is running the show, and ultimately holding you back. In my coaching conversation with Katy today, we dive into some important questions and techniques to use that’ll help her know the difference in no time. Once you apply these to your own life, you’ll have the clarity you need too. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:35 - Fear is not BAD! 3:56 - Katie asks how she should know the difference between intuition and fear  11:01 - I walk Katie through emptying the vessel to help figure out the answer to her question 16:00 - The difference between a real fear and an imagined fear 23:27 - Key takeaways from my call with Katy   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: To learn more about my mini course, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 236 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Over Your Anxiety of Dating Again Whether you’ve been in previous long term relationships, if you’ve haven’t been dating for a bit, and you’re ready to date again but have a paralyzing fear about it, you’ll love this episode. And I want you to take note of the coaching techniques I used with Natalie, because you’ll be able to do them yourself and hopefully get around your anxiety of dating again. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 8:24 - Natalie introduces herself and presents her question about having anxiety of dating again 14:30 - How to foster your relationship with your anxiety 16:10 - Natalie talks about the specific fears she has around dating 22:22 - I give Natalie a tool to use as her compass when she enters the dating world 30:17 - Natalie’s action steps 33:00 - The recap from my conversation with Natalie 45:11 - What to do if you’re feeling stuck in your dating life After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out Ash Cash Exantus on Instagram  Join me for the new on demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the deep work and create a thriving relationship in your life without changing who you are.  Sign up here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here!

Welcome to episode 235 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like If you’ve never been in a healthy relationship, it can be really easy to buy into the story that you don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like. You don’t know what to do, how to be, or what to say. For instance, for my caller, this created so much fear that a part of her just wanted to stay single. As a result, she didn’t have to deal with the constant fear and self-doubt that she’s screwing everything up. As I coach Joanne, you’ll see that her question isn’t just about how to be in a healthy relationship.  More importantly, the question goes much deeper than that. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me  with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 6:40 - Joanne explains her dilemma of not knowing what a healthy relationship looks like 9:02 - Joanne describes what her core issues were 15:30 - The big secret everyone knows, but no one is talking about 22:00 - How Joanne can learn to trust in her new relationship 26:14 - My advice to Joanne to learn to forgive herself 32:36 - The big takeaways from my coaching session with Joanne   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: To learn more about my mini course, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy, sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 234 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to do Inner Child Work When You Don't Remember Much of Your Childhood. Today my caller, Lori, knows she wants to change her love life pattern, but is uncertain about how to do that because childhood was a long time ago, and she doesn’t remember much of it. The nice thing about inner child work is that you don’t have to remember much, and  what you do remember doesn’t have to be what actually happened. What matters is how you FEEL about what happened, because that ultimately creates your view point, and that’s where your patterns come from. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 4:24 - Lori asks how she can heal something that she can’t remember 5:55 - Lori talks about patterns of alcoholism and narcissism in her relationships and  a deep longing to feel loved by a man 10:03 - I walk Lori through a visualization to dig in to why she doesn’t feel loved 14:00 - Lori talks about the connections she started to see as a result of her core wounds 22:49 - My advice to Lori on how to continue to do her inner child work to heal her core wounds 28:22 - A recap of my coaching session with Lori   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Episode mentioned in this show: Episode 111 - Three Kinds of Relationships You’re Confusing With Love  Join me for the new on demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the deep work and create a thriving relationship in your life without changing who you are.  Sign up here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 233 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Do You Have To Wait On A Man To Have Children? The society we live in tells us that our ability to have a family and kids is based on being able to find a man to procreate. And the truth is, that’s not the only way.  My guest, Dana, found herself at the age of 39 in a dead end relationship, with a strong desire to be a mom. So, she decided not to wait on a man to have children and went the donor route. We talk about the logistics of going the donor baby route, plus the emotions that come with it. And at the end, Dana shares how she met her now partner on the day she conceived her second baby… at a fertility clinic! I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 3:03 - A little background on Dana 6:58 - Dana introduces herself 8:57 - The story of how Dana came to the decision that she could have a baby on her own 14:32 - The first step Dana took in the journey to get pregnant 20:29 - What the process of looking for a donor looks like 26:56 - How much it costs to go through the insemination process 31:50 - What Dana’s conception and pregnancy looked like  35:50 - Dana describes what single motherhood was like 44:11 - How Dana met her current partner 50:49 - Dana’s advice for women considering becoming a single mother Dana’s Bio:  Dana Freedman is a critical care nurse who spends several nights a week in a helicopter flying over the greater San Francisco Bay Area saving lives. By day, she keeps busy as a choice-mama to a 5-year-old boy, an infant girl, and a back talking Siberian Husky. In 2017, in the aftermath of the presidential election, multiple pregnancy losses and a generalized feeling of despair, she discovered the work of Dr. Peter and Briana Borten, and their Dragontree Illuminator Program. There she embarked on training as a holistic guide and life coach with a foundation in ancient Chinese and Ayurvedic practices. She now caters her own coaching practice toward empowering women, mothers, and women interested in pursuing choice motherhood. In all of her spare time she is writing a memoir. The Kind of Woman who Would is a story of love and relationship, death and dying, and what to do if you should find yourself single at 39 with a desperate longing for motherhood. With any luck, and a few stolen moments, it should be finished in 2021. After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you would like to connect with Dana, visit her website at https://danafreedman.com/ Join me for the new on demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the deep work and create a thriving relationship in your life without changing who you are.  Sign up here. Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 232 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Feel Confident in Your Body as You Date AND Get Older In today’s episode, I’m talking with Beth who is worried about being rejected for her body.  She’s feeling self-conscious since she’s divorced, aged, fought breast cancer, including multiple surgeries leaving her body with scars.  No matter how old you are, if you struggle with your own body image or are worried about being rejected for the way you look, you’ll love this episode.  We’ll talk about exercises you can do to feel confident in your body. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:45 - The societal pressure on women to look a certain way 7:27 - Background on my caller, Beth, who is having a had time feeling confident in her body as she’s aged, divorced and fought  breast cancer 11:20 - How Beth’s relationship with her body transformed after her fight with breast cancer 13:44 - The first piece in putting yourself in the right mindset of NOT rejecting your body 15:13 - The second piece to learning how to feel confident in your body 23:21 - I walk Beth through exercises to appreciate the parts of her body that bring her stress 37:29 - How I have personally worked through my own body image issues  42:03 - The one thing I want you to take away from this episode After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Follow Danae Mercer on Instagram Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website. Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 231 of the Love Live Connection podcast, The Relationships You’re Confusing with Love I’ve worked with enough women to know that sometimes when someone is describing a current or past relationship, I know when they are describing it through rose colored glasses. Obviously things happen, but I’m very skeptical when I hear stories around being blindsided. Yes, that might have been your experience, but to the outside eye, there were probably a lot more signs. Knowing what love is and what it isn’t will help you to protect yourself from being in a relationship you're confusing with love and from being blindsided in the future. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 3:12 - Why I describe love and happiness as  states of being 4:52 - Why I’m skeptical about hearing stories about being blindsided by a breakup 6:38 - Why the scenario of filling a void can be confused with love 12:08 - The second type of relationship that can be confused with love is when two people’s issues dovetail each other. 19:39 - The third way you can get confused with love, idealizing your partner or the relationship After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Episodes mentioned in this show: Episode 94 - Get Out of the People Pleaser/Narcissistic Relationship Trap  Episode 104 - The Four Dating Energies Keeping you Out of Love - The Pleaser! Join me for the new on demand workshop, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. This is how to do the deep work and create a thriving relationship in your life without changing who you are.  Sign up here. Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 230 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Past a Big Breakup With Amber. Amber joins me today with a question about why dating was so hard after her 13-year marriage came to an end.  Getting over a big breakup is not as straight forward as you may think.  As is common in my coaching sessions, I help Amber to see that moving on from the relationship isn’t just about getting over the person.  It’s also about looking at the reasons the relationship came into your life, understanding the dynamics of it, the break-up, and what that relationship gave her that she wasn’t able to give herself. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 1:00 - A personal update 12:00 - Amber presents her struggle getting over her big break up 15:15 - Amber describes her relationship with her recent relationship 17:56 - Where Amber’s self-confidence is rooted 20:44 - My recommendation to Amber to take a break from dating 25:10 - I address Amber’s fear of being too old and time is running out  26:55 - I encourage Amber to move from edutaining to doing the work and healing 35:18 - A recap of my conversation with Amber 39:40 - What Amber and I talked about after we stopped recording about finding a therapist 42:20 - Why telling yourself time is running out is not helpful 43:44 - Action steps to help you get over a big breakup    After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website. Are you interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 229 of the Love Live Connection podcast, The Rest of 2020 Astrology:  Your Love Life, Coronavirus, and the US Election with Veronica Perretti. I’m super excited to welcome back to the show, my friend, Veronica Perretti.  Veronica is here to talk about the remainder of 2020 Astrology.  Specifically, how it might affect your love life, Coronavirus, and the US Election and the direction the world is going in general.  I think you’re really going to enjoy this one.   I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   5:27 - Venus is now out of retrograde, changing the game in our dating life 12:28 - Mars is in Aries for the rest of the year helping us find our motivation 18:30 - Saturn was in Capricorn and moved into Aquarius sparking humanitarian conversations 23:34 - The back and forth of Mars squaring Pluto three times before the end of the year is a war energy 30:55 - Jupiter comes into Aquarius and meets up with Saturn at the end of the year helping us focus on the future 41:58 - How the current astrology parallels the US Election 44:30 - Pluto is approaching its return to the very spot it was when our nation was founded - over 200 years later, making this election so important 50:41 - Joe Biden is a  Scorpio and what that tells us about him 1:00:26 - Veronica talks about why she loves Real Housewives After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Links to previous episodes with Veronica Perretti: EP198: 2020 Astrology:  Politics, Doing the Work, and Transformation EP213: Venus Retrograde and the Astrology of the Pandemic Check out Veronica Perretti’s  website to book a reading and connect with her  on Instagram Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 228 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Set Boundaries, manage anxiety, and not sabotage a finally healthy relationship This episode starts off with a common fear I hear from many women in the community: I finally met someone great, how do I not mess it up?  I discuss this very issue today with my caller, Abby. But like usual on the show, there’s a hindrance to her feeling more secure in the relationship. In this case with Abby, it’s rooted in her relationship with her mom.  It’s not that she needs to heal her relationship with her mom, but she needs to set boundaries because it’s bringing out her core wounds.  This is the equivalent of picking off scabs when you’re trying to heal a physical wound. Setting boundaries will give Abby the space she needs to have an even better relationship with her mom.  It will also help Abby do the inner child work she needs to do to feel less anxious in her romantic relationship. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 1:19 - An example of something I have been experiencing lately where I need to set a boundary 5:09 - An introduction to my caller today who’s in a healthy relationship, and is scared she’s sabotaging it 6:16 - Abby presents her fear 9:35 - Abby describes her childhood with her mother 16:30 - My advice to Abby on how to heal her core wound by setting some boundaries 21:05 - The one place Abby wants to set a boundary with her mother 26:18 - A tool Abby uses to help ease her anxiety  27:23 - My suggestion to help Abby curb her anxiety 33:10 - A recap of my call with Abby   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 227 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know If Your Expectations Are Too High I’m really excited about today’s topic.  This question comes up a lot with my new clients who ask me, “Veronica, are my expectations too high?  If they are, just tell me.”  They think by lowering their expectations, that will get them into a relationship.  I think a lot of this comes from the patriarchy in place in our society. It’s a really good example of how the political landscape is personal and shows up in our relationships and in the bedroom. So, I’m going to go through five ways that your expectations may be too high and five ways your expectations are definitely NOT too high. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 6:56 - The first way your expectations might be too high - You believe they should know what you want 9:30 - Reason #2 your expectations may be too high - You aren’t okay with any degree of arguments or fights 12:07 - The third reason your expectations may be too high - Your partner feels like nothing they do can make you happy or they feel they’re on eggshells 14:30 - The fourth reason your expectations might be too high - You possibly have too many dealbreakers 19:42 - The fifth way your expectations may be too high - You believe in fairytale love/unconditional love 24:12 - The first example of when your expectations are not too high - Consistent communication/spending time together 26:13 - The next way your expectations are not too high - Your partner doesn’t take any responsibility for growing the relationship or working through issues, gaslights you and puts it all on you 28:29 - The third way your expectations are not too high - The idea that “Love is supposed to be hard”  31:04 - The fourth example of when your expectations are not too high - You don’t feel excited by the relationship 34:04 - The last way your expectations are not too high - It’s wrong or mean or not nice to have boundaries or say no   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Previous Episodes mentioned in this podcast: Dating as a Feminist and Healing From Sexual Trauma Understand the Difference Between Being Triggered and Treated Poorly with Aila Standing Up for Yourself Without Being a D*** with Amy Smith Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 226 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Why You Can’t Emotionally Connect With Anyone With Pam I’m talking with Pam on the podcast today who has a question about why she can’t connect with anyone in the dating world and was wondering if she needs to put herself out there more.  As we began to dig into why she felt she couldn’t connect with anyone, it became clear that she has some core wounds around being a people pleaser as well as a generational pattern in her family around gender roles that she needs to break.  Once we identified these core wounds, I walk her through the best way to approach the healing process. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 6:31 - Pam asks why she doesn’t need to date more to meet the right person 9:16 - Why dating is not a numbers game 11:06 - Pam talks about why she has problems opening up during a date 16:58 - Pam describes the dynamic of her home growing up 18:55 - Pam expresses sadness around needing to reparent herself in spite of a beautiful childhood 23:19 - I explain what Pam’s parents missed that caused her core wound 27:50 - I explain how Pam can start to heal her core wound 30:42 - We talk about practicing discernment when being emotionally vulnerable 34:04 - A recap of  my call with Pam After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out the previous episode I did, “How to Let go of Fear That the Pickings are Slim and a New Look at the “Numbers Game” Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to the July Bonus Episode of the Love Live Connection podcast, Meditation for Less Anxiety and Better Sleep For the bonus episode this month, I am offering a Yoga Nidra meditation. Yoga Nidra translates to yogic sleep.  It is a very relaxed state of consciousness.  It has been used across the United States, as well as in the US Military as a way of supporting soldiers and veterans suffering from anxiety and PTSD.  I thought given all of the anxiety and fear revolving around the pandemic right now, this meditation could be really helpful. Enjoy and be well. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:20 - What Yoga Nidra is and how it’s used. 5:15 - Start of Meditation After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you would like a downloadable version of this meditation, you can find it here. To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 225 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Dating as a Feminist and Healing from Sexual Trauma In today’s episode, I’m joined by my new friend Kimberly Rose Pendleton.   In my conversation with Kim, we talk about how viewing your experience in dating and relationships as a feminist reveals patriarchal norms still around us.  We also discuss how to heal, especially sexual trauma, though pleasure. Kim has a Ph.D. in women’s studies AND, she coaches women around sexual trauma and empowerment. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 7:40 - Kim introduces herself 9:05 - How Kim’s Ph.D. intersects with the coaching she does 12:30 - Examples of patriarchal structures that exist and how one might experience them based on who they are 16:40 - How patriarchal norms show up in active and online dating  27:09 - What encompasses sexual trauma in Kim’s work 32:54 - How pleasure is the key part of the medicine to heal sexual trauma 37:05 - How the brain will cut off the memory or the feeling when there is trauma to the body 40:25 - Steps Kim walks her clients through who are ready to be more comfortable with sex After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out Kim’s website here.  To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 224 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Rediscover Who You Really Are With Rachel You know when you’re on a date, and you really want the other person to like you, but you can’t help but feel like that awkward teenage girl whose boobs were growing faster than the other girls and you just got a big zit on your nose?  On the Love Life Connection this week, my caller Rachel is wondering why on earth she’s pushing away potential partners, even the seemingly nice ones.  This actually is quite common among my clients and while there are quite a few reasons this can happen, in Rachel’s case, she still feels like that awkward teen with acne.  Over the years, Rachel has completely forgotten who she is, and has found herself pleasing, conforming, and going through the motions.  Per usual, I coach Rachel through some inner child work to heal this, but it’s with a bit of a twist.  You’ll see what I mean when you listen.  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   6:36 - Rachel presents her question 8:40 - What Rachel’s real question is 10:52 - Rachel describes her childhood 14:22 - I do some inner child work with Rachel 19:29 - I help Rachel re-discover who she really is 25:14 - Rachel’s take-aways from our conversation 30:36 - A re-cap of my discussion with Rachel 34:08 - Your actions steps from today’s call After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 223 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Four Reasons Why the Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work In the personal development world,  the Law of Attraction has become quite popularized, and I see an alarming amount of coaches teach as if it were as real as the Law of Gravity.  But in my opinion, the Law of Attraction is crap.  At best, it’ll hold you back from what you want to achieve.  At worst, it can cause further damage to your healing, and therefore to your goals of shifting your patterns and attracting a healthy partnership. So today, I’m going over four reasons why the Law of Attraction doesn’t work and why I want you to consider letting go of it or at least shifting your relationship with it. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   6:23 - The definition of The Law of Attraction 7:55 - What I believe about the Law of Attraction 8:44 - The first reason I want you to let go of the Law of Attraction 14:50 - The second reason I want you to reconsider this idea of the Law of Attraction 17:36 -  Reason #3 why I think you should let go of the idea of the Law of Attraction 21:41 - Finally, the last reason I want you to let go of this idea   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 222 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Dating an Addict I am addressing a topic that is often not talked about enough: addiction.  My caller today is in a relationship with someone who has an addiction and is unsure about how to move forward.  We dig into her inner child wounds and the parallels between her relationship with her mom and her boyfriend.  We also talk about the re-mothering she needs to do so she can heal the heartbreak and avoid falling into the pattern of attracting someone else she can try to heal her mom void with.  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:05 - Confronting the stigma around addiction   5:40 - Tiffani presents her question about her boyfriend’s addiction 7:50 - We dig into Tiffani’s family history of her mother’s addiction problem 13:07 - How Tiffani’s current relationship is like being in a relationship with her mom all over again 18:20 - Why Tiffani is holding on to the relationship 24:58 - My guidance and advice for Tiffani  26:57 - Tiffani talks about what she’s learned from our conversation 29:47 - I wrap up my conversation with Tiffani 35:14 - Two key takeaways from my call with Tiffani After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course, Crappy to Happy, to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here To learn more about quitting something and the sunken cost related to it, check out my episode Quit Happens To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 221 of the Love Live Connection podcast. It’s been a while since I’ve done a heart to heart episode, but with everything going on in the world right now, this is a good time because it absolutely impacts you.   I’ve been receiving some feedback from my audience about resistance to feeling your feelings around anger or sadness or not wanting to dwell on these feelings.  So, I want to address where this resistance is coming from.  And if you know me, you won’t be surprised to hear me say, it’s in a large part because of the patriarchy. I’m also addressing how patriarchy has a role in racism and how we contribute to racist structures in our society. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   1:50 - Why what’s going on in the world is related to the work I encourage you to do on the show 8:37 - How the patriarchy is keeping us from doing the deep uncomfortable, emotional work 13:24 - How patriarchy intersects with racism 16:40 - Announcing my new workshop opening up in 2 weeks!   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: To sign up to be on the waiting list for my brand new workshop, Your Conscious Online Dating Blueprint, where we work to align your inner work and the outer strategy, sign up here   Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 219 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Anger and forgiveness are important emotions that I think are widely misused and misunderstood.  In today’s episode, I’m addressing these misconceptions and explaining why they’re important to your growth.  I’ll also explain how to work through these emotions in a way that encourages healing rather than bypassing or gaslighting yourself.  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!   7:50 - Why I’m Addressing anger and forgiveness 9:25 -  What anger is and the misconceptions associated with it 11:49 - Definition of forgiveness 14:05 -  Why anger and forgiveness are so important to your growth 18:05 - How to work with both anger and forgiveness in a healthy way   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 218 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I think this is one of the more powerful episodes I’ve ever done.  I do some deep work with Baraba, revealing some pain and anger she’s been holding on to for most of her life.  Barbara was aware of her patterns and where they originated but wasn’t sure how to change them.   Facing the pain at the core of your issue and feeling it is uncomfortable but necessary to heal.  The discomfort you feel in the moment will result in a meaningful long term relationship. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 3:39 - My thought for the week about emotional processing work I still need to do 8:53 - Barba presents her question: She knows she has an anxious attachment style but wants to know how to change her mindset  13:45 - We dig into why Barabara stayed in a bad relationship for 12 years  19:10- I ask Barbara what she would say to her abuser, her step-father 25:08 - I encourage Barba to continue to feel her anger and work through it 28:38 - Why anger is a really important emotion 32:03 - I recap my call with Barbara After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 217 of the Love Live Connection podcast. In today’s episode, I’m going to go over three of the most common limiting beliefs I get from my clients about online dating.  I’ll break them down and then discuss how to move past each block. If you find yourself struggling with online dating, I’m also presenting an opportunity to sign up for a workshop that addresses this.  Online dating doesn’t have to drain your energy.  You can actually meet someone and not hate the process! I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 1:54 - My experience with online dating 3:45 - The number one limiting belief about online dating I hear from my clients 9:00 - The second limiting belief I hear all the time 13:47 - The third limiting belief I hear 17:18 - An opportunity to join a workshop I’m holding about conscious online dating.    After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like to join my Online Dating Workshop make sure you’re on my email list and look for an email from me coming out about this next week, or send me a DM on Instagram or send me an email, hello@veronicagrant.com and tell me you want info. There are only 30 spots available and only $99, so I expect this to fill up quickly. If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 216 of the Love Live Connection podcast. In this episode, we are talking with Bridgette who is struggling with a pattern of running from relationships when things get rocky.  But as you might have guessed, Bridgette’s pattern isn’t really the problem.  As the discussion progresses, we get to the core of the issue by digging deeper into her childhood.  In Bridgette’s case, an unstable childhood prompted her to create a very stable life where she has complete control.  This control plays into Bridgette’s pattern as wanting something to feel a certain way in her relationships so that she feels secure.  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 3:39 - Introduction to Bridgette who struggles with the pattern of running when things get rocky in a relationship  6:16 - Bridgette presents her struggle with her recurring pattern 9:10 - Bridgette describes her childhood 11:23 - We do some inner child work and discover Bridgette needs to re-mother herself 13:10 - The types of relationships Bridgette is attracting 20:48 - How to determine if what you’re feeling is intuition or fear 23:40 - Bridgette talks about her takeaways 26:27 - Bridgette describes her expectations in a relationship  and whether or not they are realistic 35:06 - I breakdown the coaching session with Bridgette   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program.   Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 215 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Believe it or not, this is actually a really exciting time to date.  It’s easy to feel like you are missing out on finding that special person during this quarantine.  But in today’s episode, I go over five tips to make dating during this pandemic easier.  This is an opportunity to try something different, so why not embrace it? I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 2:04 - An update on my life 5:55 - Why focusing on inner work is the first thing to focus on during this pandemic 10:48 - How to get excited about having fewer distractions 13:59 - Why this is a good opportunity to develop emotional attraction before physical attraction 17:12 - Why it is so important to use discernment when it comes to online dating 21:40 - How to make dating intentional, and nothing something to do to fill some time 25:39 - Why this is an opportunity After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program.   Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 214 of the Love Live Connection podcast. In this episode, I am coaching Sherry who has a pattern of always wanting to be somewhere she’s not.  Together, we do some inner child work to find out why she feels this way.  But knowing the why is just the start of working through her triggers and emotional blocks.  Learning to manage them as they come up is an ongoing process.  Tune in to find out what the four layers of sustainable transformation are and how to put them to practice.  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 4:40  - I introduce Sherry who has a pattern of always wanting to be somewhere she’s not  7:00 - Sherry joins us and presents her block  10:30 - Sherry digs deep and reveals where this all may be coming from 13:00 - Self-worthiness is not the root issue - we work through what IS 17:12 - Why it’s so important to have a good relationship with yourself and how to nurture that relationship 26:03 - Sherry asks how she can incorporate the practice of being at one with herself to help stop her destructive pattern 35:04 - I recap takeaways from today’s show After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you are interested in being coached by me to do some inner child work, sign up for The Inner Child Work Mini Coaching Program here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program.   Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to April’s bonus episode of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today, I’m sharing a special announcement with you:  Tomorrow, I am releasing a brand new course, Crappy to Happy.  In this two week course, you learn what your love blocks are, and how to clear them and find love.  I am really excited to share a sample of this course with you.  I hope you find this helpful and it turns on some light bulbs for you.  It will also give you an idea of my style of coaching and what you can expect from the course if you decide to sign up. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 1:28 - Special Announcement about my new course on inner child work, Crappy to Happy 5:41 - Start of Lesson 1, Part 1 of my new 2-week course 7:33 - What you will learn in Part one 8:16 - Why time does not heal all wounds 10:21 - Why we attract people or situations similar to our parents or experiences from childhood 15:01 - Why everyone has inner child wounds After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you are interested in my two-week course to help you quickly discover your love blocks so that you can clear them and find love, without having to spend years in therapy sign up here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program.   Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 213 of the Love Live Connection podcast. With so much going on in the world right now, it’s really interesting to note that Venus is getting ready to go into retrograde.  So today we are talking to Veronica Perretti from The Essential Astrocast about how this affects our love lives, relationships, and business partnerships.  I also couldn’t resist asking Veronica about how Pluto’s role in the COVID-19 pandemic is playing out. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 4:15 - Why Venus  going into retrograde ties in so well with this show 5:20 - Questions we should ask ourselves about what we want life to look like once the pandemic is over 13:30 - Veronica Perretti explains who Venus is, what she rules, and what parts of our lives she influences 19:30 - What it means for Venus to be in Gemini 23:22 - What happens once Venus goes retrograde 30:11 - How we can do inner child work while Venus is in retrograde 34:47 - How Venus in retrograde will affect people who have Venus, Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius in their chart 38:33 - Veronica Perretti talks about the astrology of the pandemic   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: If you’re interested in finding out more about astrology, head over to Veronica Perritti’s website, listen to her podcast and read her blog here, or connect with her on Instagram, and find out how to do yoga with her here If you would like more information on my free zoom calls, follow me on Instagram or sign up to my email list on my website Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program.   Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 212 of the Love Live Connection podcast. In this episode, I’m talking with Saskia.  Saskia recently went through my free workshop and has questions about what to do now that she’s started to connect the dots on her dating patterns.  We do some inner child work to find out why Saskia feels the way she does and I give her steps to take to work through those feelings. I also give her some inner child homework to do while she is on a dating break.   I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! 1:00 - How to work through WHATEVER you’re feeling during this pandemic 4:00 - Why this could be a great time to do some inner child work 6:16 - Once you have awareness, how do you change your pattern? 10:55 - Saskia presents her realization of her own patterns 13:56 - How Saskia’s pattern is played out by her relationship with her dad 15:55 - I guide Saskia through a meditation putting herself into her 13-year-old self’s shoes 19:47 - Why Saskia’s connection to her younger self is so important   20:20 - The first step to shift your pattern after gaining awareness 23:23 - The next most important thing you can do in the process 28:24 - I explain to Saskia the next step of developing a relationship with herself and how that can be grounding 30:45 - Saskia presents a question about how to navigate a situation when a guy rejects her but then attempts to remain friends 34:00 - I break down the 4 steps in the process of shifting your dating patterns After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program. Listen to the podcast where JoAnn and I talk about what a healthy relationship looks like here Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 211 of the Love Live Connection podcast. If you struggle with love, odds, are you are also struggling with money and or food.  In today’s episode I go over how these three things play off each other, affecting our well being.  I’m also giving you an inner work project to do help you dig into the root cause of your issues with money, love and food. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I can’t wait to hear from you! 2:00 - Corona Virus update and tips to help you get through the quarantine  6:56 - Why this could be a good time to do some inner child work 11:05 - How money, love and food play off each other in the way we feel about ourselves 11:57 - The effect money can have on how we value ourselves 13:22 - The tendency to judge ourselves based on our success with love 14:43 - How society’s view on body image can have an impact on our self-worth 18:20  - The big secret about the coaching service I provide, and the results seen after doing inner child work 20:27 - Inner work questions to consider on how you relate to money, food and love 22:41 - Practical things to do externally to work on your self-worth 24:09 - A word of caution surrounding people who may try to take advantage of you and your money 26:52 - The best way to shift the relationship with people you are romantically involved with 28:54 - Unexpected advice surrounding food After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program.   Check out my brand new free workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 210 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today, I’m excited to be sharing some big news of my own! Be sure to check out today’s episode to find out what it is and how it will affect the Love Incubator program. I am also following up with a client I started coaching around a year ago, Joann.  Four years ago, Joann decided to end a 10-year toxic relationship and dedicate herself to her own growth.  She explains how asking for help in the form of coaching and therapy aided her transformation giving her the confidence she needed to build a new meaningful, healthy relationship. I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I can’t wait to hear from you! 1:55 - Veronica shares some big news! 4:27 - How this news affects the format of the Love Incubator program 9:27 - Veronica introduces Joann 12:49 - Joann describes her toxic relationship and what she ultimately did about it 14:50 - Joann talks about what life was like between ending her relationship and starting her inner child work with Veronica 18:08 - How common it is for the rebound relationship to become the breaking point  20:49 - We talk about the biggest shifts Joann experienced in the way she approached relationships 24:15 - What happened after Joann moved to rural Australia to reinvent her life 28:54 - Joann shares some big news of her own 31:35 - The biggest shift Joann has experienced as she deepens her current relationship 35:06 - Joann’s advice on building the life you love 40:38 - Joann’s final piece of advice for anyone working on building a meaningful relationship After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program.   Listen to the podcast where JoAnn and I talk about what a healthy relationship looks like here Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 209 of the Love Live Connection podcast. When it comes to your dating life are you feeling exhausted, triggered constantly, or attracting the same kind of person over and over?  In today’s episode, I’m interviewing Kacie Main, author of I Gave Up Men For Lent - The Story Of A Jaded, Hopelessly Romantic, Health-conscious Party Girl's Search For Meaning. Kacie was struggling with these very issues and as a result, put herself on a dating break.  We discuss the issues leading up to the break, her inner child work during the break and life after those first 40 days.  I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode. Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I can’t wait to hear from you! 2:25 -Why a dating break may be a good idea 3:30 - A list of indicators that would suggest taking a break from dating is a good course of action 7:54 - Our guest, Kacie Main explains what lent is and why she decided to take on this challenge 12:07 - How Kacie’s inner child affected her need to have a relationship 14:03 - The incident that prompted Kacie to give men up for Lent 15:55 - What happened once Kacie made her decision to slow down and reconnect with herself internally 19:52 - Kacie explains how the questions she asked herself during Lent were the first steps of her self-awareness 23:00 -  Kacie explains what her journey has looked like beyond the first 40 days 27:56 - Why having compassion for yourself during the process of working through your inner child issues is so important 29:00 - How Kacie knew she was ready to get back into the dating scene 30:32 - Kacie talks about her book, what kind of stories she tells in it, and why she wrote it 32:36 - Kacie gives us a teaser about what vulnerabilities she reveals in her book  After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program.   Check out Kacie Main’s website here. You can find her book on Amazon, I Gave up Men for Lent- The Story Of A Jaded, Hopelessly Romantic, Health-conscious Party Girl's Search For Meaning Find Kacie on Instagram! Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 208 of the Love Live Connection podcast. In today’s episode, I speak with my client, Aila.  Our discussion touches on discerning the difference between being triggered or someone just being unkind,  how an unhealthy relationship with your parents as a child has long-term effects, and how learning to be vulnerable can help us heal.   I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode. Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I can’t wait to hear from you! 3:33 – Aila asks how to identify a reaction as a trigger. 6:15 – Is receiving unsolicited advice a trigger or a validated reason to be upset? 8:44 – Aila and I discuss her core wound origination and how that affects her life when she receives unsolicited advice. 15:38 – My advice to Aila on healing from her damaged relationship with her mother.  20:18 – Broaching the topic of independence and how it can be a hindrance to building meaningful relationships. 27:22 – How to discern when a reaction is a result of rudeness vs. being triggered. 29:21 – Lessons Aila learned from our discussion. 34:01 – Four big takeaways from my conversation with Aila. After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program.   Check out the episode I did with Kelsey all about the myth of Independence here Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 207 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today’s episode covers some topics that aren’t necessarily as fun as analyzing the latest Bachelor happenings (we still see you Pete!), but it’s vital for anyone seeking a truly fulfilling and healthy relationship. Sometimes love can make us accept things we really shouldn’t and I want to go over the red flags with you. Please pop over to Instagram or send me an email with your feedback about this podcast, I can’t wait to hear from you.    3:50 - Just because you haven’t seen a healthy relationship doesn’t mean you can’t have a healthy relationship.  10:00 - The first sign you may be in an unhealthy relationship, feeling uncomfortable speaking up.  14:05 - Another thing to watch out for, physical intimacy without emotional safety.  16:30 - Attraction to deprivation, a term coined by Ken Page, is another sign we want to be aware of.  19:55 - A few rapid-fire signs that are also important to notice and address, including a couple absolute dealbreakers.  24:05 - In case you need a refresher, I explain what gaslighting is and why I believe it’s a zero tolerance issue.  25:00 - If you find yourself in an abusive relationship I urge you to reach out and get help.    After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Are you ready for a love-life intensive? You could be a good fit for my Love Incubator program.   Join me for the #DateYourselfChallenge, the fun starts on March 16, 2020.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 206 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I am delighted to welcome my client Rachael to the show today. We talk about idealizing being in a relationship, being happy when we’re single, plus the difference between being okay alone and giving up on love. Have you ever felt like you were settling for singleness? I would love to know your experiences and what you think about this week’s conversation. Come on over to Instagram or drop me an email, I can’t wait to hear from you.    3:05 - Learn about Moon Tracking, I’m a big fan.  8:35 - Introducing the lovely Rachael, she’s wondering how to be content without a partner in her life.  11:30 - I ask Rachael to think back and tell me where some of her beliefs about being “forever single” may have originated.  16:25 - We take a moment to reconnect with Rachael’s 2nd grade self and offer her some comfort she didn’t receive back then.  19:10 - I pledge to give Rachael the support she deserves as she moves forward, not in giving up on love, but in identifying what she truly wants and needs.  21:05 - It’s time to assign a little homework: I want Rachael to identify 25 things she’s been told and internalized as truth then rip that up, because it’s not absolute truth.  26:30 - Want to come on the podcast and be coached by me? Reach out!  28:45 - Three big takeaways from my conversation with Rachael.  After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: When you join the Date Yourself Challenge, you’ll get five, daily dates for you to have with yourself so you can attract the relationship you dream of into your life. Join me here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 205 of the Love Live Connection podcast. This is a very special episode, I am so happy to introduce Lisa Hendrickson-Jack. We get down and dirty on the topic of birth control, your options, and the impact on your fertility. Enjoy this incredibly informative conversation then reach out to me! I would love it if you let me know what you thought about our discussion, what you learned, and what you would like to hear in the future.  2:35 - My experience with different forms of birth control and how I found the amazing Lisa Hendrickson-Jack.  10:10 - Welcome Lisa, author of The Fifth Vital Sign and fertility cycle educator.  13:35 - Going back to basics, Lisa talks about what your menstrual cycle is and identifies other parts of your cycle, beyond the period.  17:45 - The question almost everyone has asked at one point: How does birth control work?    19:45 - The societal impact of birth control, its history in the feminist movement, and our cultural feelings towards it.  25:20 - We talk about what we know about hormonal birth control as well as the gap in education between doctors and patients.  31:00 - What about a medicinal male birth control option?   33:10 - How hormonal birth control can impact your fertility, now and long term.  41:10 - We talk about non-hormonal birth control options, including barrier methods and the fertility awareness method.  48:20 - IVF, egg freezing, and other modern technology solutions for fertility struggles.  52:15 - To learn more about Lisa’s work connect with her directly through her website, her new online course, her podcast, and, of course, Instagram (where I first learned about her).   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for my workshop The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life - it’s completely FREE.   Learn more about how your past can impact your love life and how to break old patterns in my virtual retreat, Shift Your Dating Patterns In A Weekend, March 7-8, 2020.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 204 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I am so excited to welcome Cassie to the show. I hope you enjoy this episode, if you have ideas for future episodes or thoughts on what we talked about today, reach out to me and let me know what you think.  3:10 - I will randomly see flashes of my dad in my husband!  6:45 - Introducing today’s guest, Cassie.     8:20 - We start by identifying the dynamic between Cassie and her dad that she may be repeating in her romantic relationships.  11:50 - Having a narcissist parent can set us up for roller coaster relationships later in life.   16:30 - We go back into Cassie’s memories to find a situation that exemplifies her relationship with her dad.  21:00 - We discuss what we would want to say to that little girl from her memory if we could go back in time.  26:10 - Our urge to find partners like our parents comes from our subconscious, not our logical brains.  30:00 - Cassie’s tangible actions going forward include a “5 things” grounding exercise.  35:05 - The first step is always awareness, with awareness we can start to make changes.  38:15 - Just because we have never seen a perfect, or even “healthy”, relationship does not mean we can’t retrain ourselves to work towards one.  After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Be sure to check out my special series from last week, and don’t forget your workbook.  Learn more about how your past can impact your love life and how to break old patterns in my virtual retreat, Shift Your Dating Patterns In A Weekend, March 7-8, 2020.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Hello and welcome to the Love Life Connection podcast, a podcast for successful women who feel like they have it all except love. I'm your host of Veronica Grant, a love and life coach and my only goal with this podcast is to inspire you to believe in yourself and that real love is possible for you even in our swipe right, swipe left world. Hello and welcome to day five of the 2020 Love Vision podcast challenge and congratulations you made it! After you listen to today's episode and do the mini assignment, you have completed this challenge and I hope you have a lot more clarity and guidance as to what your next steps are going to be in your love life. So today is day five and it's all about taking one action step towards love and I'm going to walk you through how to do that. So not to worry. And again, as always, if you haven't listened to you days one, two, three, and four and don't really know what I'm talking about, I highly recommend you start with day one and go from there because everything builds on the step before it. And I think it's just going to make the most sense and you'll get the most out of it. Okay, so today we're going to finally take an action step towards love. Now I like to go real slow when it comes to creating new habits and actions in your love life and honestly just your life in general. That's because I believe that's how habits and things shift sustainably over the long term. I think that if you were to wake up tomorrow morning and just decide you're just going to change everything about all the habits that you do in your life, you might do it for a week, two weeks, maybe a month if you're super lucky and motivated. But at some point you're just going to get sick or you're going to get busy or you're going to get tired or whatever it is, and you're going to say, "Screw it." And you're going to go right back to whatever it was you were doing before. So I like to just add in one, maybe two, habits at a time. Really stick with those for 40 days because that's what research says, how long it takes for a habit to stick. And then once that feels more normal and natural, add a habit or another action that you're going to take on top of that. I know that can feel like a really slow, daunting process, but I like to start with the biggest things that are going to make the biggest difference because a lot of times if we do one big habit differently, then I think that a lot of other smaller things can kind of just ride on the coattails. So for example, let's say you really just want to get 10,000 steps every day. You know that if you moved your body, a lot of things would change for you. You would feel better, you'd be getting more oxytocin and oxygen and all of the feel good stuff into your body more so then your emotions would feel better. You wouldn't be as likely to go down as many rabbit holes, or shit talk yourself, and you'd probably also sleep better, then you'd feel more rested. So you could see how just picking one habit, I'm not saying 10,000 steps has to be the thing, but one habit can actually invite a lot of other things that you might want to shift in your life. And it will happen almost organically just because it's simply riding on the coattails of the big goal that you want to shift. Now, here's how I like to think. When I'm thinking either for myself or with a client on what needs to shift in their life first. So I've talked about this on the show before. I talk about with all my clients. I think of everything in four categories. So what I mean by everything is the things that we can do to change our life, to change our love life, whatever part of life we want to change. And the four categories are the physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual. So the physical are things that you say, the things that you do, the things that you don't do. So that can be things like exercising. It can be about eating in a different way. It could be about setting up a morning routine and having some quiet time before you go to work. It could be about deciding to date again. It could be about deciding to not date again. It could be about having a conversation with somebody or saying no or asking for something. All the things that you do in the physical world, that is a physical habit that can shift. Yes, the mental, emotional, spiritual, but we're really focusing on the physical changes in your life. The mental habits are going to be the habits that really focus on the thoughts going through your mind and thoughts are really important to look into because usually our thoughts just become the way we see and see the world and see ourselves. Our thoughts can often influence our emotions and our thoughts typically influence our habits too. And so the belief that your thoughts become your reality, that's not just like airy-fairy bullshit. It's actually really true. Your thoughts do become the things that you do and the things that you do ultimately will become your life. So things that can help shift the mental realm are things like affirmations. It can be self-talk, it can be journaling, depending on your style of journaling, like bullet journaling is definitely very, very mental. It can be things like EFT, or the emotional freedom technique, also known as tapping. It can also be rewriting the story that you tell yourself about you or about love or about relationships or the things that you have or it can't have in your life. The next realm is the emotional and the emotional realm is the emotions where we feel. And this really falls into the category... or I guess the things that fall into this category are things like inner child work. Healing deep core wounds. Feeling your feelings, not being a pity party or having a pity party, but actually feeling your feelings. So that can include meditation. Although meditation can also be included in the mental, just depending on how you approach it and how you look at it. It can also include visualizations, especially if you do the inner child visualizations that I do with my clients. It can also include release writing, which is just writing out how you feel. It's not even your journal, it could just be scribble-scrabble. It could be writing letters to exes or to parents, giving them back old emotional wounding that you don't want to carry around anymore. It can be cord cutting, which is a visualization that you can do to cut cords from past situations or people in your life. Any of that stuff is going to fall into the emotional world. The spiritual realm, that's really your relationship with yourself and your relationship with the universe or any kind of higher spiritual being that you might believe in. So it can be God, it can be a goddess, it can be lots of gods, lots of goddesses. It can be the divine. However you like to think of it. Spiritual realms, it's a little difficult to sometimes come up with tangible actions. But here's some ideas. I think that trust really falls into the spiritual realm. So trusting yourself, trusting the universe, trusting God. So that could include things like prayer every morning or every night. It can also include some mantras. Can be a little bit more spiritual in nature rather than just mental in nature. Just depending on what the mantra is. That can be very spiritual. I also think forgiveness in the way that I teach it, can be spiritual. So forgiveness in terms of having a conversation with someone and saying, “I forgive you for doing dah, dah, dah.” I'm going to say that's more on the physical realm, but forgiveness and the spiritual world is more about connecting with someone who has hurt you in the past. They may or may not be aware that they've hurt you in the past and it's just about giving that back to them. So that whatever beliefs you created about yourself or the world, men, love, women relationships, whatever it is, it's just back to them. You're not allowing whatever they did or said or didn't do or didn't say to affect how you feel about yourself. So that's more of a spiritual forgiveness and you're not actually having a conversation. You're really just connecting with them in your mind, through meditation, or through writing and journaling. So that would be an example of more of a spiritual form of forgiveness. Now, this list and the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual realms are definitely not exhaustive. But I do want you to come up with one action step that you can take based on what you discovered about yourself and your love life over the past four days. What is one thing that you can do physically that will help you to achieve your goals? What is one thing mentally, what does one thing emotionally, and what is one thing spiritually? Now, you don't necessarily have to apply all of these four action steps. All right now, again, that can be a lot. I definitely recommend to start with either the emotional or the physical because sometimes we need to initially begin with the emotional, that will begin to get us unblocked so that then we can more easily move into the physical and mental realms and sometimes the emotional just feels... we're so disconnected from it that it would just be impossible to connect with any of our old emotional wounding. In which case starting in the physical would probably be better because that might then help you to actually connect with the emotions because the emotions do live in the physical body. I recommend not starting with the mental first because that can often just sound a little pep talky. So if you decide for your mental thing that you want to start with some affirmations every day, affirmations are great, but when done alone, it can feel a little cheesy and honestly cause some cognitive dissonance because if you're saying, "I'm awesome," or "I love you," "I love myself," and you're just not there at all, then it can just feel a little forced, not really the best thing to start with. A couple of other things that I want you to keep in mind as you're developing your action steps you're going to take is I want you to think about trying to crowd out. So I want you to add an action rather than try to take an action away. It's actually a lot easier and the idea is to crowd out. So if you're doing all of these things, then you're going to have less time and energy and space to do the old things. And I also want you to be really specific on a specific action and not just an idea. So perhaps one of your action steps, maybe you originally said, I'm going to be nice to myself or I'm not going to talk shit to myself. And those are great things to do. I applaud that, I support that. Obviously I want everyone to be nice to themselves and to not talk shit to themselves. But the problem with that is it's just a little vague. It just, I don't know how you did it or you can't even really measure that you did it yourself. So instead maybe your action step is whenever I go down a rabbit hole of worry, I'm going to put one hand on my heart and one hand on my belly and take three deep breaths instead. Just to help you to relax and calm the mind or your emotions or whatever is running rampant. Or instead of talking shit to myself or whenever I find myself talking shit to myself, as soon as I realize it, I'm going to pull back and I'm going to say, "Veronica, you got this, you can do it. I believe in you and you were so loved." That's just an example. It can be whatever you want. Now I want you to get creative. Obviously everything I've listed here, it's not an exhaustive list. So I want you to do what feels really good and resonate for you. And of course, if you want some ideas, I encourage you to come over to Instagram. I'm at @veronicaegrant. Send me a message, or comment on my photos. I'd love to support you. And you can also send me an email over at veronicagrant.com/contact if you are not on Instagram. All right, that is a wrap for this podcast challenge. I really hope you loved it and you got a lot out of it and again, if you'd like a copy of the workbook that goes along with this podcast challenge, head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. And if you've been thinking that I might help you get out of your dating patterns and truly transform your relationships as I've done in my own life and the lives of oh so many of my clients and help you craft a life that serves you, I'd love to work with you. My clients have left toxic relationships, started to actually enjoy dating and meeting people, met their partners, gotten married and even had some babies. You can also expect to grow in your career, spirituality, sense of self, and more because guess what? You are the common denominator in your own life. So if you're ready for massive transformation and are no longer available to stay stuck, I'd love to help you get out of this pattern. Head over to veronicagrant.com/coaching to learn more and take the next step, which is to schedule an introductory call with me. During our call together, we'll get to know each other and see if working together is the next right step for you. Again, that's veronicagrant.com/coaching. All right, that is it for this challenge. I will see you next week where I am bringing back a brand new podcast coaching episode. So until then... Thanks for listening to the love life connection podcast. You can find the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/podcast and that's also the place you can sign up to be coached by me here on the show. And if you love this podcast, please leave a review over on Apple Podcasts. It helps more incredible women like you find this show and find real love. Until next time, remember. Wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Just because you've never had the relationship you want before, it doesn't mean you can't have it now.   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Don’t forget to download your workbook for this challenge.  Learn more about how your past can impact your love life and how to break old patterns in my virtual retreat, Shift Your Dating Patterns In A Weekend, March 7-8, 2020.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community! 

Hello and welcome to day four of the 2020 Love Vision Podcast Challenge. This week on the podcast, I'm doing something a little different in celebration of Valentine's Day. I want to help you get refocused on your love life so you get unstuck and can move forward. Each day this week on the podcast, I'm releasing a mini episode that will help you get clear on your goals and your love life, overcome blocks getting in your way, and you'll end the challenge with creating some tangible action steps that will change your love life. Today is day four and it's all about trusting love. So if you haven't listened to days one, two, and three yet, I highly recommend you start there first. It'll make today's topic much more understandable. So today is all about trusting love and trusting something new. Now, this might seem counterintuitive or it might even feel like it doesn't apply to you or you don't think you fall into this trap, but I think most of us do, and part of that is because of biology, which I'll explain in a minute. But sometimes what you actually want, so in this case, you want a healthy, happy, loving partnership with someone that ideally lasts for many years, if not your life, and a lot of times that can actually feel so scary that you might actually sabotage yourself. Sabotaging yourself can look like continuing to pick the "wrong" guys. It can look like continuing to stay single and not even try to date. It can look like just going on date after date like a freaking robot and not trying anything different. It can also look like putting off getting support in this area from a coach or a therapist who can actually help you do some of the work, so that your patterns and habits change. Now, the reason why we do this, I mean, for a lot of reasons, but the biggest thing is any kind of change, whether it's a change towards something that you don't know anything about or a change you don't want, or even if it's towards a change of something that you want, it can still feel really, really scary. Our brain is wired to operate on autopilot. Our brain just wants to use the littlest amount of energy it takes to perform a task. And this isn't a bad thing, right? This is a good thing. Imagine how exhausting life would be if you had to consciously think about every single little thing that you did each day. If you had to consciously think, "Okay, I'm going to put my sock on, and then I put my shoe on, and put my foot in my shoe, and then I'll tighten the laces," I mean, that would just be exhausting. That's what it's like when you're a two, or three, or four, or five year old, you're just learning the drills of day to day life, but eventually, all of these things that we do just become nature, becomes habit and we can do them on autopilot. And because we can do so many things on autopilot, that allows us to do a lot of other things like do our jobs and have deep intimate relationships, and it allows us to do things like rock climb, or run, or hike, or play an instrument, or write a book, or do all these other things that we get to do as humans. When it comes to your love life, it really is no different. You may not want to sit at home every night feeling sorry for yourself about your love life. You may not want to continue going on date after date after date that leads to nowhere. You may not want to continue attracting unhealthy relationships. But on some level, there's a comfort there. You know what to do. You know how to handle it. You know how to deal with the frustrations and the feelings around being upset or feeling lonely. You just know what to do. And there's definitely a familiarity in that, there's a comfort in that. And sometimes that comfort can sometimes feel like love, and that makes it really hard to: a) be attracted to someone who's actually exhibiting healthy, happy relationships. And also what it can do is it can just make it really scary to do something different. So today's assignment is a little bit different. I don't really have that many journaling questions for you because honestly, when it comes to trusting the unknown, which is basically what I'm asking you to do, it's really something you have to practice. It's an experience you have to have. You can't really intellectualize yourself through it. And while journaling can definitely be an emotional experience, for sure, I think it's more of a mental exercise, right? Because you're processing your thoughts, you're writing things down, and I think it really helps you to organize your thoughts, and to think about your thoughts, and to put them into certain ways and logic, and that can help you reframe and create different stories. Super important, super powerful, but also sometimes we just need to trust. We need to trust that even if we get into a relationship that makes us really nervous and you might get your heartbroken, you can survive and it's not going to mean anything about who you are or your worthiness or any of those things. And so I think the only way to really create that kind of trust is through doing. Evidence ultimately breeds confidence. And so you have to do it over and over again. One of my favorite ways to do it is actually to do it through meditation. And so if you download the workbook for this podcast challenge, then when you get to the day four page, there's actually going to be a link in there that will take you to a meditation that's all about just giving yourself tons and tons and tons of love. And for a lot of you, this might feel really, really uncomfortable because it's just not a state of being that you're used to having. Even if you feel like, "Well, yeah, I feel like I love myself or I can give myself love that feels normal and natural," well, remember this isn't just about doing pedicures or buying yourself flowers, which I love those things, don't get me wrong. This is really more work on the emotional and the spiritual level, which actually we'll talk about a little bit more tomorrow. So I want you to try this meditation, try the exercise that I give you in the workbook so that you can begin to build that self-trust and that self-love, which will ultimately help you to naturally be more vulnerable because you won't be feeling like you need to act a certain way or be a certain way in order to be good enough or in order to be loved. Okay, so to download the meditation, head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge, and there you can download the workbook for free. And remember, so far in this challenge, you know where you are now. You know where you want to go. You know where some of the blocks that are going to either slow you down or altogether prevent you from getting you to where you want to go. Now, think of this step as kind of just like a pep talk, like, okay, I can go this new route. I can do this new thing differently. I'm worth investing this time and energy into myself to do this, and I can do it and it's possible for me. That's what today is all about. So again, I would love to hear what you think and what comes up for you. You can come join me over on Instagram, I'm @veronicaegrant. Send me a DM or a comment on one of my photos and let me know. If you're not over on the ‘Gram, that's totally fine. Head over to veronicagrant.com/contact and send me your questions or what came up for you. I would love to hear from you. I really, really would and I responded to everything that comes my way. All right, that is a wrap for day four. Again, to grab the workbook, veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. And if you've been thinking that I might help you get out of your dating patterns and truly transform your relationships as I've done in my own life and the lives of oh-so many of my clients and help you craft a life that serves you, I'd love to work with you. My clients have left toxic relationships, started to actually enjoy dating and meeting people, met their partners, gotten married, and even had some babies. You can also expect to grow in your career, spirituality, sense of self and more because, guess what? You are the common denominator in your own life. So if you're ready for massive transformation and are no longer available to stay stuck, I'd love to help you get out of this pattern. Head over to veronicagrant.com/coaching to learn more and take the next step, which is to schedule an introductory call with me. During our call together, we'll get to know each other and see if working together is the next right step for you. Again, that's veronicagrant.com/coaching. All right, that's it. I will see you tomorrow where we're diving into day five, which is the last day of the podcast challenge, and we're going to dive into taking one action step towards love. See you then. Thanks for listening to the Love Life Connection podcast. You can find the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/podcast, and that's also the place you can sign up to be coached by me here on the show. And if you love this podcast, please leave a review over on Apple Podcasts. It helps more incredible women like you find the show and find real love. Until next time, remember, wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Just because you've never had the relationship you want before, doesn't mean you can't have it now.   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Don’t forget to download your workbook for this challenge.  Learn more about how your past can impact your love life and how to break old patterns in my virtual retreat, Shift Your Dating Patterns In A Weekend, March 7-8, 2020.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community! 

Hello and welcome to day three of the 2020 Love Vision Podcast Challenge. This week on the podcast, I'm doing something a little different in celebration of Valentine's Day. I want to help you get refocused on your love life so that you can get unstuck and move forward. Each day this week on the podcast, I'm releasing a mini episode that will help you get clear on your goals in your love life, overcome blocks getting in your way, and you'll end the challenge with creating some tangible action steps that will change your love life. Today is day three and it's all about your love blocks. Now, if you haven't listened to days one and two first, I highly recommend you do that before starting here. It will make a lot more sense when we get to the exercise for today. Okay, so today is all about love blocks and I'm thinking that this is what I'm becoming known for in the relationship and love world because a lot of women come to me specifically because of my work around inner child work. I do believe that as adults we are all playing out old, unresolved issues from our childhood. And this is true across the board. It does not matter your socioeconomic status. It does not matter your religious background, your racial/ethnic background. It does not matter if you've come from a family that looks idyllic and like our Sweet Pete on The Bachelor. It does not matter if you've come from a family of any kind of trauma or divorce. Everyone has stuff. Everyone is a human. Everyone at some point has lost that sense of love, safety, and belonging. And whenever you have lost that sense of love, safety, and belonging, then you have created some sort of habit, and that habit might turn into a pattern, over many years that will help you to compensate so that you don't feel that pain of not feeling the love, safety, and belonging. This is completely normal. It's completely natural. And it is completely human. So if you have noticed that you have some patterns or some blocks that aren't super helpful, and you're aware that they're not helpful, and maybe even at this point you know that they're harmful for you, I want you to know that that's normal and it's okay. It does not mean that there's anything wrong with you. It does not mean that you're broken or anything like that. I really don't buy into the belief that you are broken and you have to be whole and healed in order to find love, because that would mean that all people in a relationship are whole and healed. And that's just the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I think the better question is from where are you attracting your relationships? So today we're going to figure out where that place is. Is it a place of fear? Is it a place of not feeling good enough? Is it a place of trying to please, and compensate, and all of those things? Well, what kind of relationship do you think that's going to attract versus attracting from a place of feeling good enough, a feeling like you have so much to give and you want to share that love, or I guess you could say healed place would be? So again, if you want to have all of these journaling questions and exercises that I talk about here on the podcast in writing, then head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge, and there you can download the workbook for free. Okay, so to get started with figuring out what's blocking you, this is really a natural next step after days one and two. In day one we talked about where are you right now, where are you starting. In day two we talked about where are you going and now it's, what's getting in the way. So using this Google Map analogy again, it's like you put in your address of where you want to go in Google Maps and it has your location so it knows where you are now and Google Maps might give you a few different options. It might say, there's a big traffic jam if you go this route. And you go this route, it's a little bit longer, but the traffic seems to be moving faster. And if you go that route there seems to be a lot of speed traps. And you go this route, there are a bunch of tolls. And so then you have to figure out if you have cash on you to pay the tolls, or whatever it is, right? The point is that there's all these obstacles that are going to get in your way. They're going to either block you totally or slow you down from getting to where you need to go. In our love life world, the same thing is true. You have some blocks that are either totally preventing you or slowing you down from getting into the relationship that you want. And most of them come from childhood. And any blocks that were created when you were older, especially as an adult or a young adult, they might have started in that moment when you were an adult possibly because you experienced some form of trauma. That would certainly create some blocks because it would create some story about yourself, which will create some limiting beliefs. So of course that's going to create some less than ideal habits. However, I would say that even then, not all the time for sure, but a lot of the time, even some of those less than ideal relationships that happened when in your 20s and that were really traumatic and really created a lot of pain and you felt like were a turning point in your life, a lot of times those also can be a manifestation of childhood stuff. Not all the time, of course, things happen, but I would say... I don't know, I don't have a percentage, a lot of the time. Most of the time. I'm not really sure. But even if you think, well, I was totally fine until this relationship when I was 25 or 30 or whatever, I really invite you to dig back even a little deeper and say, well where did that relationship manifest from? Where did I attract that relationship from? So they can really down to the root of it. I do think that you need to get as close as you can to the root of your core wounding. We all have core wounds because that's where the wound was created, and so that's where it can best be healed. So what I want you to do now is, again, if you're journaling now, then go ahead and open your journal. You can pause me as I list all the questions, or you can just write the questions down now, journal later, or download the workbook. But what I want you to do is I want you to just feel into how you feel and your love life. So we did this on day one, and for some of you it might've felt really crappy. You might've felt really ashamed. You might've felt not good enough. All of these feelings might've come up for you as we excavated the current state of your love life. So I want you to drop into feeling that right now. Now, depending on where you are in your situation and your love life, you might be with a specific person and it's maybe not going the way you wanted it to go. So then you can drop into how you feel and the dynamic in that relationship. Or it might just be your love life isn't anyone specifically, and you're dating a lot or not dating at all. How do you feel? And the reason that I want you to jump into this is because this is how we're going to trace it back to where it came from. Now again, just like I said in day one, we're not solving anything. We're not fixing anything. We're not removing any blocks right now. All I want you to do is just get really clear on what the blocks actually are. So what I want you to do, again, you're thinking about how you feel, you're really feeling into it. You might notice that you feel it in your body somewhere. You might feel a tightening in your chest or your throat. You might feel something like in the pit of your stomach. You might feel something completely elsewhere in your body. Again, it's all normal. Wherever you feel it is totally fine. You can't mess this up. And what I want you to do as you're feeling into that, I want you to ask yourself, what does this reminds you of? Or what does feeling like this remind you of? Or another way to ask it is, if you're in a specific relationship with a person, who does that person remind you of? And if you're not in a relationship with someone right now, think about your previous relationships that you have been with and ask yourself, who do they remind you of? And when you feel into those relationships, when you feel into your love life, I want you to ask herself, how old do you feel? So the questions again are, who (or what) does that remind you of, and how old do you feel? And then I just want you to begin thinking about, well, what was going on in that time of your life when you felt five, when you felt eight? Or if it reminds you of a certain situation, what was going on in the situation? Or if it reminds you of a person, probably your mom or your dad, most likely, then how does it remind you of those people? What are the similarities? And this is going to begin to tell you, or show you, how you're playing out some of these old things. Maybe you didn't get the love that you wanted from dad, and so now as an adult, you're trying to fill that void with the men that you're dating. Or maybe you never felt good enough. Or maybe you felt like you were actually always the black sheep in the family. You just didn't really fit in. And maybe your parents even said stuff like that. And so maybe now you feel like, "Well, I'm too much for people. No one's going to like me." And so you find yourself watering yourself down in relationships. Now, these are just two very broad examples. Everyone's going to have a little bit of nuance, but there are infinite number of ways that you could be connecting the dots here and understanding where your blocks came from. Because your blocks come from your core wounds. Because you have a core wound you didn't feel that love, safety, and belonging, that created some feeling of not safety in your body and your emotions. And so you created some habit. You created some belief about yourself or a story about yourself. And then if it just happened once and you get over it, then fine. But typically those things ultimately become habits, which become patterns, which become blocks, and becomes a way in which we see the world. So I would love to know what you came up with. Come on over to Instagram. Let me know I'm @veronicaegrant, and if you're not Instagram, then head over to veronicagrant.com/contact and tell me what you realized. And if you have questions or if you're struggling to connect those dots, then I would love to know that too so I can maybe answer some questions. All right, so that is a wrap for day three of the podcast challenge and again, if you'd like a copy of the workbook that goes along with this challenge, head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. If you've been thinking that I might help you get out of your dating patterns and truly transform your relationships as I've done in my own life and the lives of so many of my clients and help you craft a life that serves you, I'd love to work with you. My clients have left toxic relationships, started to actually enjoy dating and meeting people, met their partners, gotten married, and even had some babies. You can also expect to grow in your career, spirituality, sense of self, and more, because guess what? You are the common denominator in your own life. So if you're ready for a massive transformation and are no longer available to stay stuck, I'd love to help you get out of this pattern. Head over to veronicagrant.com/coaching to learn more and take the next step, which is to schedule an introductory call with me. During our call together, we'll get to know each other and see if working together is the next right step for you. Again, that's veronicagrant.com/coaching. All right, that's it. I will see you tomorrow where we'll dive into trusting love. Thanks for listening to the Love Life Connection Podcast. You can find the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/podcast. And that's also the place you can sign up to be coached by me here on the show. And if you love this podcast, please leave a review over on Apple Podcasts. It helps more incredible women like you find this show and find real love. Until next time, remember wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Just because you've never had the relationship you want before, doesn't mean you can't have it now. After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Don’t forget to download your workbook for this challenge.  Learn more about how your past can impact your love life and how to break old patterns in my virtual retreat, Shift Your Dating Patterns In A Weekend, March 7-8, 2020.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Hello! Welcome to day two of the 2020 Love Vision Podcast Challenge. Today is all about your love vision and if you haven't already listened to day one, I highly recommend you start there, so just scroll up on your podcast player. It is the next episode and listen to that. It's pretty short. And then come back here. And in case you missed it, this week on the podcast, I'm doing something a little different. So in celebration of Valentine's Day, I want to help you get refocused on your love life so that you can get unstuck and move forward. Each day this week on the podcast, I'm releasing a mini episode that will help you get clear on your goals in love, overcome blocks getting in your way, and of course, you'll end the challenge with some tangible action steps that will change your love life. So let's go ahead and get started with your love vision. Now, just like yesterday's challenge was all about where are you right now, now we need to know where do you want to go. Again, bringing back the example of Google maps or the cat from Alice in Wonderland, we know where you are now. Now we need to know where you want to go so that we know if you need to turn right, and then left, and then go straight, and then go right again. So often, I work with women who desperately want a relationship, they know they want a relationship in their heart of hearts, and it is something that consumes a lot of their emotional bandwidth and just their energy throughout the day. But then when it comes to actually getting clear, well, what do you want your relationship to look and feel like? How does that fit into your life? Then, often they're a little confused and not sure of what they want. And it's not surprising that many of these same women will often continue to feel frustrated and unseen in relationships because they don't know what to ask for. They don't know what they want. And so how can you even ask for something if you don't know what you want? Think of a child screaming that can't talk, so they're like a year old or something and they're screaming because they're hungry, or they're cold, or they're tired. They don't have the words at that point to articulate it. And so as their mom or dad, you just kind of have to guess what you think they want, or what they need, and then you try those different things and hopefully one of those things will get the child to stop screaming. But once we're adults, we know our words. You know your words. And at some point, if you're feeling unseen, or unsatisfied, or unfulfilled in a relationship, it might be true that it's not the right relationship or the right person. But what also is probably true is that they may not know what you need or want, and so they don't know what to do. And that's going to create a lot of frustration on your end because you're going to feel unseen and unwanted and unloved, and that's not going to feel very good. But honestly, they're going to feel really frustrated too, because they're going to feel like no matter what they do, it's not enough. And it really just comes down to good communication. But again, I'm beating a dead horse here, but I just want you to get this across that there can be no communication on this topic if you don't know what to ask for. So again, I'm going to give you some journaling questions that I really want you to take some time with. And I know yesterday I was like, if you don't want to journal, that's fine. Just think about it, meditate on it. But I really, really want you to write this down because I think it's really important to have on a pen and paper, or a notes app on your phone, just so that you can be reminded of what it is that you want in a relationship so that when you're in a situation where you're like, "I don't know if this feels good, something feels off. I don't know if this is what I want." You have something that you can refer back to, to help remind you of whether or not this relationship could be the right thing or not. Because sometimes when we're actually in the relationship, it's very easy to get lost in it and lost in all the emotions, and the triggers, and all that kind of stuff. And sometimes we can get a little googly-eyed and really forget the core values that you might have. So definitely write these down and of course if you want some support, help with these journaling questions, then head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. And there you can download the workbook and the workbook has all of these questions and some more notes and just some thoughts about today's challenge there so that you can read through that and you don't have to take notes with what I'm teaching you in case you are out on a run, or a walk, or walking the dog, or doing the dishes or whatever. So the theme of today is, what do you want in love? And I just want to give you a few pointers before we get started with the journaling questions. The first thing is that I want you to understand that you might need to relearn what love feels like. A lot of times we have been in relationships that have had high-highs and low-lows and the high-highs feel fricking amazing. And the low-lows feel miserable. But we want that high-high again so bad. And so what happens is we begin to compare that high-high to what love is. And so then you go out with someone who seems like a nice person and you're like, "I don't know, I'm kind of bored. Why am I not into the nice guys? I'm only into the asshole guys." And that's because you've taught yourself that high-high is love, and that's not really what love is. If you want a little bit more information on this, I highly recommend you listen to my episode on this topic specifically, veronicagrant.com/episode111, and I'll put that link in the show notes so that you can go back and listen to it if you'd like. I do recommend if you can relate to this little conundrum that I know a lot of women find themselves in. So again, the high-high does not equal love. You might need to relearn what love feels like and in fact, that's going to be a challenge later on in this challenge series so we can work a little bit more on that. I believe it's day four so know that is coming. However, just know that this might be something on the horizon that you will have to work at. The other thing is that chemistry doesn't equal compatibility. Chemistry can be awesome. Chemistry can just mean great sex and it's nothing more. It's just great sex. But that does not mean that someone is actually going to be compatible with your lifestyle, with your values, with the things that you want out of life, with the things that you want out of a relationship, the things that you don't want a relationship, all of those things. So I want you to look beyond chemistry. And I know a lot of you, it's really important for you to have strong physical affection and a great sex life with your partner. And I strongly, strongly agree. I think that's important. That's really what makes a romantic partnership different than the other relationships that we have in our life. But I want you to know that chemistry doesn't equal compatibility, and often chemistry can come from compatibility. And so often if chemistry is there first and it's like you see the person across the room and you're like “Oh shit, gotta have that person!”, then that can actually be a trigger or it can be actually something related to your inner child. I've talked about this a little bit more on the podcast. I'm not going to go too much into it now. Maybe I'll do another podcast episode about this specifically if you're interested in learning more, but if you listened to Summer Love School when I had Ken Page on the program, he talked about this. Anyways, so just want to put that out there. So go ahead and grab your journal, or download the workbook, whatever you're going to do, and I want you to write down these questions so that you can either pause me and go through the questions now as you're listening or come back to them when you are going to do some journaling time in your day. Okay, so the first question is, I want you to think of someone in your life who you love or loves you. And ideally this relationship is not a triggered relationship, so it's likely not going to be a parent. It's likely not going to be a former lover. It might be a really good friend. It might be a pet. It might be an aunt, or it might be a child. It might be a sibling. It might be a really close friend or coworker, whoever. Just make sure that this relationship is trigger-free as possible. And then I want you to think about what is it about their love or that person that makes you feel safe and secure. And I want you to get really, really specific because those are going to give you some clues as to what's important to you in a loving, trusting relationship. Then the next question is how can that inform what you want in a relationship? Okay. So those questions all kind of cluster together. And then the next two questions cluster together. And that is how do you want to feel in your ideal relationship and what are your values? So what are your values in life? What are your values in love and relationships with men and women? With health? All of these things. Just what are your values? Because I don't think you necessarily need to have the same values as the person that you're calling into your life but I definitely think you need to have parallel values. They need to work together. And then the next three cluster of questions is a relationship envisioning exercise. And it's one of my favorites. The first question is who do you want to be in your ideal relationship? The next question is what do you want to do in your ideal relationship? So what does your relationship actually do? How does it fit into your life? Do you travel together? Do you go on walks every evening? What are the things that you do in your ideal relationship? And then what do you want to have in your ideal relationship? So think of the tangible and intangible. Do you want kids, do you want a family? Do you want a business together? Do you want a home together? Also do you want to feel like a team? Do you want to have trust? What kind of bond do you want to have? What kind of sex life do you want to have? What kind of communication do you want to have? So what do you want to have in your ideal relationship? And I just want you to really focus on the questions that I'm giving you rather than something along the lines of a “perfect man list”. I've talked a lot about a “perfect man list”. I really think they keep you stuck in single because it's just a way of taking our past experiences and projecting that onto the future as to what we think we want or what we think will make us happy. But ultimately why we want anything in life is because we think these things will make us feel a certain way. So I want to start with how you want to feel in your ideal relationship and work from there rather than saying, oh well if I have this kind of person and they've got this kind of job and they're this height and all these things, then we think we'll be happy. And ultimately more often than not, that is not true. So I can't wait to hear what you think about these questions, what comes up for you, what questions you have. Come on over to Instagram and let me know. I'm @veronicaegrant and if you're not on Instagram, that's totally fine. Head over to veronicagrant.com/contact and there you can submit any questions or insights or ahas. I'd really love to hear from you. Okay, so that is a wrap for day two of the podcast challenge and again, if you'd like a copy of the workbook that goes along with this podcast challenge, head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. And if you've been thinking that I might help you get out of your dating patterns and truly transform your relationships as I've done in my own life and the lives of oh so many of my clients and help you craft a life that serves you, I'd love to work with you. My clients have left toxic relationships, started to actually enjoy dating and meeting people, met their partners, gotten married, and even had some babies. You can also expect to grow in your career, spirituality, sense of self and more because guess what? You are the common denominator in your own life. So if you're ready for a massive transformation and are no longer available to stay stuck, I'd love to help you get out of this pattern. Head over to veronicagrant.com/coaching to learn more and take the next step, which is to schedule an introductory call with me. During our call together, we'll get to know each other and see if working together is the next right step for you. Again, that's veronicagrant.com/coaching. All right, that's it. I will see you tomorrow where we'll dive into your love blocks. Thanks for listening to the Love Life Connection Podcast. You can find the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/podcast and that's also the place you can sign up to be coached by me here on the show. And if you love this podcast, please leave a review over on Apple Podcast. It helps more incredible women like you find this show and find real love. Until next time, remember wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Just because you've never had the relationship you want before, doesn't mean you can't have it now.   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Don’t forget to download your workbook for this challenge.  Learn more about how your past can impact your love life and how to break old patterns in my virtual retreat, Shift Your Dating Patterns In A Weekend, March 7-8, 2020.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Surprise! I am here in your podcast feed on a Monday and you might be wondering why. Well, today is day one of the 2020 Love Vision Podcast Challenge. So this week on the podcast I'm doing something a little different in celebration of Valentine's day. I want to help you get refocused in your love life so that you can get unstuck and finally move forward. So each day on the podcast this week I'm releasing a mini episode that will help you get clear on your goals and your love life, overcome blocks getting in your way, and you'll end the challenge with creating some tangible action steps that will change your love life. So today is day one and it's all about taking a love inventory. Now, I will tell you that this is probably the step that most of you want to skip the most, and I'm telling you don't. It's actually super, super important that you don't skip out on your love inventory. When I mean love inventory, I mean assessing where you are in your love life right now. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Now, a lot of people want to skip this step because it's really uncomfortable. We don't really want to admit where we are or really see where we are. We'd rather just turn a blind eye to it or stick her head in the sand and just immediately start moving to something new or something different in your love life. I really, really believe though, as a coach, that to get to where you want to go, you have to be super clear on where you are right now. It kind of reminds me, it's not exactly a parallel, but it's still kind of reminds me of that scene from Alice in Wonderland where Alice is completely lost and she doesn't know where to go and so she tells the cat, "Hey, I'm lost. I don't know which way to go." And he's like, "Well, where do you want to go?" And she's like, "Wherever, I don't care." And he's like, "Well, you can go wherever you want then." So when you put your directions into Google Maps, Google Maps needs to know where you are now so it can tell you how to get to where you need to go, location B. And I think when it comes to our emotional state, our spiritual state, or mental state, or our physical state, wherever we want to change and our life, we need to know when to turn right and when to turn left. And we know that based on where you are now. So it's really important that you know what kind of people you're attracting. It's really important that you know what kind of boundaries you are or are not setting. It's really important for you to understand what you're putting up with, and maybe you need to ask for, or not ask for, or whatever it is. Okay. So, I am going to give you some questions that I want you to journal on. If nothing else, definitely think and meditate on them, but I really want you to be radically honest with yourself. Now, if you want to download the workbook that goes with this podcast challenge, I highly recommend you do, because I've included some extra notes in the workbook and I've also just got everything laid out so you can follow it really clearly and easily. You just head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. Again, the workbook is totally free, as is the challenge. But the workbook will just help you to stay focused and also all the journaling questions and all the other assignments that I give throughout this podcast challenge will be all there so that in case you're listening to this podcast as you're running, or driving, or cleaning, or whatever, you don't need to stop and take notes on all the questions, they're all right there for you. So again, veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge, and you can download the workbook there. Okay, I would love to see you actually write these questions down and the answers down and actually journal on them in your journal, on a piece of paper, in the workbook, wherever. If you're really not a journaler and you're really resistant to it, definitely at least think about it, meditate on it, and maybe go on a walk and think about a couple of the questions and just really see what comes up for you. And again, I want you to be radically honest.  So here's some questions that I want you to think about. #1: How does your love life feel right now? So does it feel exhausting? Does it feel like it's something you're just putting on the back burner over and over again? Does it feel like it's draining? Does it feel fun? Does it feel exciting? Does it feel passionate? Does it feel a number of these things altogether? Does it some days feel really good and exciting and some days really crappy and just really blah? There's no right or wrong here and I don't want you to be in fix it mode right now, not that you're broken, or not that you're ever broken. I never liked the idea of fixing ourselves or fixing things in our life, but I don't want you to be in a state right now like, "Okay, well, this is really bad, I need to change it." I just want you to assess where you are right now. It's kind of like if you've been really bad with money for many months, or many years, and then you finally want to start setting a budget, and setting some goals to save money, at some point you actually have to look at your bank account and see how much debt you have and see how much money is actually in your account. You have to be able to look at those numbers even if they're uncomfortable so that you can set some reasonable goals to budget for and reasonable goals to save for. And it's the same thing here.  So we're not trying to fix, or solve, or change anything now, I just want you to get super, super clear. Okay, so again, how does your love life feel right now? That's the big question that I really want you to journal on or think about. And then after that, I want you to think about what are some of the patterns that keep coming up over and over again. Sometimes patterns can be in the form of people. They can be that you're attracting the same kind of person over and over again, and sometimes it can be the same kind of situation over and over again. Sometimes the same thing can happen to you over and over again. Sometimes you can feel the same way in a relationship over and over again. All of these are patterns. You might be experiencing one or more patterns, but I want you just to write down any kind of patterns that you notice, no matter how big, or small, or insignificant they seem. Everything is important when it comes to connecting the dots, which we'll get to later on in this week. The next question I want you to consider is: What are you putting up with? What is some crappy behavior from other people, or even from yourself, that you're putting up with that? Maybe it's time to stop, but again, we're not there in fix it mode yet, we're just noticing what kind of behavior or situations or things or people that you're putting up with. And then the next question is: What are you not asking for? What are you not asking for? What are some things that you would like to have in your love life or that you need in your love life but you're not asking for them? And then finally, this is one of my favorite exercises, and it's actually an exercise that I used to do with clients a lot, I don't do it as much anymore, I don't know why, it's actually a great exercise. But basically, it comes in a lot of different forms. I've seen it in the form of the Wheel of Life where you have a circle that looks like a pie. So you've divided out in different sections of life and then you rank how good or bad that area of your life is, and you draw the circle and it's really jagged, then that can show you what areas of your life need work. You can do that. I also just like to list out the main categories of my life and then rank them on a scale of one to ten, 10 being, "This feels really awesome in my life right now," and 1 being, "This part of my life feels really hard, really draining, really heavy, want ignore to all of those things." So instead of looking at your entire life, though you can certainly do that, I've broken down some categories within your love life to look at because all of these things are ultimately the ingredients for a healthy relationship. And so if your boundaries are off or your communication's off, or whatever it is, then it's going to be really, really hard for you to create a healthy relationship when these skills and tools aren't where they need to be. So again, not trying to fix it and not trying to judge yourself. Let's just rank where each of these categories are in your love life. And again, I have all these categories written down in the workbook at veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge if you want to grab them there. But right now, or I can tell you right now, the categories are Boundaries, Communication, Worthiness, (how worthy do you feel of love? How worthy do you feel of someone's attention, love, adoration, things like that). Reciprocity, (how much does your love life feel it's reciprocal, or even, do you feel like you're putting more of the energy and effort into your love life?) Passion/Excitement, does it feel exciting and passionate? And then finally Trust. How much do you trust yourself? How much do you trust the process? How much do you trust others? So where would you rank trust? So I'll say those again quickly. Boundaries, Communication, Worthiness, Reciprocity, Excitement/Passion and Trust. And actually, you know what, I'm going to go ahead and add Vulnerability in there because I think that's also really important. And honestly, you can feel free to add any other categories that are important to you that I didn't mention within your love life. But I think these really cover the big pieces when it comes to creating a healthy, happy relationship, so we'll add vulnerability in there. All right, that is it for day one. Again, if you'd like a copy of the workbook that goes along with this podcast challenge, head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. And if you've been thinking that I might help you get out of your dating patterns and truly transform your relationships, as I've done in my own life and the lives of oh so many of my clients, and help you craft a life that serves you, I'd love to work with you. My clients have left toxic relationships, started to actually enjoy dating and meeting people, met their partners, gotten married, and even had some babies. You can also expect to grow in your career, spirituality, sense of self, and more because guess what? You are the common denominator in your own life. So if you're ready for a massive transformation and are no longer available to stay stuck, I'd love to help you get out of this pattern. Head over to veronicagrant.com/coaching to learn more and take the next step, which is to schedule an introductory call with me. During our call together, we'll get to know each other and see if working together is the next right step for you. Again, that's veronicagrant.com/coaching. All right, that's it. I will see you tomorrow when we dive into your love vision. Thanks for listening to the Love Life Connection podcast. You can find the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/podcast, and that's also the place you can sign up to be coached by me here on the show. And if you love this podcast, please leave a review over on Apple Podcasts. It helps more incredible women like you find this show and find real love. Until next time, remember wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Just because you've never had the relationship you want before, doesn't mean you can't have it now.   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Don’t forget to download your workbook for this challenge.  Learn more about how your past can impact your love life and how to break old patterns in my virtual retreat, Shift Your Dating Patterns In A Weekend, March 7-8, 2020.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 203 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today I have a great guest joining me, Katie, and we’re discussing coaching, how to get started as a life coach, and why authenticity is the real key to success. I hope you find this conversation inspiring, definitely reach out to me and let me know what you think.  3:00 - About my passion for working with coaches and why I love it.  6:55 - Ask yourself - why do you want to be a coach and what specialty do you have to offer?    7:35 - Welcome Katie to the show!  11:00 - Finding the path to becoming the coach you would want for yourself.   16:45 - Identify your potential clients and what their pain points are.  20:50 - We talk about the fear surrounding changing careers and starting a new business.  25:30 - It all comes back to our inner belief systems,  where do these feelings and worries originate?  31:50 - The best way to find clients is to be your own best client.  34:30 - My 7 steps for coaches to build a successful, profitable business.  46:10 - Next week - I have a super special Valentine’s Day surprise coming Monday, don’t miss it.  After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Other episodes about becoming a life coach and building your coaching business.  Learn more about how your past can impact your love life and how to break old patterns in my virtual retreat, Shift Your Dating Patterns In A Weekend, March 7-8, 2020.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 202 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today I am welcoming a very special guest, Alison Armstrong. Her book, The Queen’s Code, has had a huge impact on my life and relationship. She has taught me to ask, “What if men aren’t misbehaving?” Learn about Alison’s incredible research and the lessons that have come from it. She has been studying men, women, and their relationships with one another for almost 30 years!  2:15 - Let’s ask ourselves: What if men aren’t misbehaving? Is it men or is it me?  6:18 - Welcome Alison!   10:20 - We often confuse the men in our lives when we state a need but do not follow through with action.  15:07 - Why do we believe others are intentionally misbehaving? What if no one is actually misbehaving?   20:15 - The words masculine and feminine are loaded with baggage, men AND women should focus on being committed and goal oriented.   24:30 - All humans have a tendency to objectify ourselves by applying labels.  28:34 - Relationships are based on expectations, partnerships have shared power that flows.  31:10 - The importance of acknowledging men as human beings in everyday life.  34:00 - Criticism does not inspire men to be better.  39:02 - If given the chance, an emasculated man will step into powerful space you have created.  41:00 - Appreciation brings out the type of behavior criticism never could.  42:15 - Connect with Alison on her website, understandmen.com, and find more information on her YouTube channel.  After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 201 of the Love Live Connection podcast. If you are dating, or have ever dated, you are probably familiar with the feeling of rejection. My wonderful client, Hillary, jumps on a call with me to discuss how to deal with rejection, “ghosting”, and texting expectations. Hillary tells me about a recent date that faded into the ether and how it’s impacting her interaction with a new guy. Together we discover that old patterns can reappear in unexpected ways and I give her some tips on what to do when that happens.  2:18 - What is the “pullback”?  5:45 - Be sure to check out my totally free 60-minute workshop, “New Year, New Boo”.  7:30 - Welcome Hillary! She asks, “How should I deal with rejection?” and, “How do I know if it’s pullback or just busy-ness?”  12:00 - I explain that rejection hurts, whether it’s an ego sting or dashing our dreams of what could be.  15:50 - It’s important to sit with those negative feelings but don’t devolve into a pity party.  18:30 - Hard lesson: Stop getting advice from friends.   23:30 - We determine that Hillary is seeking validation through daily communication with her dates.  26:35 - Finding someone who texts as often as you want probably means they have other qualities you do not want.  29:20 - How doing inner-child work can help reduce our anxiety around fear from rejection.  37:35 - The coffee pot problem: My favorite analogy for real versus imagined issues.  39:40 - The symptom versus the cause. What triggers you isn’t always what’s really bothering you.  After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Register for the FREE workshop, “New Year, New Boo”, right here.  Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 200 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I am so thrilled for 200 episodes and this wouldn’t be possible without you, so thank you for being a part of this community. Your presence is seen and it is felt, and I am so deeply grateful.  To celebrate episode 200 I wanted to do something special, but I wasn’t sure what to do, but last year I pulled back the curtain to share what had happened in 2018, and today we’re going to do the same for 2019. Some of it is amazing, and some of it was anything but amazing. To celebrate 200 episodes, I’m also offering one-hour coaching sessions for $200. I don’t generally offer one-off sessions, but for the next four days these calls are available  In one hour we can look at why you’re feeling stuck in your life love, and I can help you create a plan to move forward. To follow-up, you’ll have 7 days of email coaching as well.  There will be no next time, so book your session now by clicking here. 3:30 - We kick off by flashing back to 2018, and living in Denver, CO and our move on January 1st to Northern California. 7:00 - As January turned into February the rain continues and followed me to Iceland.  9:15 - How a conversation with my mom impacted my relationship with my husband. 14:00 - In April we went back East for Passover and I ask about living in Philadelphia. 16:30 - By May I knew I wanted to move back to the East coast and we look at the next chapter of our adventure. 19:20 - On the business front, things were a lot less clear.  23:00 - June brings baby talk, but I have a limiting belief related to my business. 25:00 - Getting clear on business expenses, and how clients really want to work with me. 31:10 - My relationship with hormonal birth control and trusting what I put in my body. 35:50 - Connecting even more with my body as I evaluate how much I’m really moving and eating. 41:10 - October was beautiful, I hired a new podcast producer and simplified my business and it was beautiful. 45:00 - November comes around, and we get serious about baby and I’m reminded about divine timing. 50:50 - We are wrapping up in December with the winter solstice and my birthday. And we officially close the Love Action Tribe. After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 199 of the Love Live Connection podcast and welcome to a new decade. I want to talk a little about manifesting and the Law of Attraction, it can be misunderstood and mistaught and that’s why I’m excited to share this conversation with Jasmine today. As you listen today I want you to consider, are you afraid if you focus on another area of life you might miss out on a partner? Do you know why you want whatever you want in the first place? Are you trying to control everything or can you let things happen in divine timing? 4:20 - We welcome Jasmine to the show with her question. 7:20 - Looking at the fear around this question 10:15 - Talking about the reality behind manifesting and looking at the feeling behind it. 11:45 - Defining The Law of Attraction  14:35 - The power of focusing on your own core values 18:00 - Taking the pressure off is where the magic happens  19:40 - Shifting focus to the guy Jasmine is dating, but doesn’t see a long term relationship 25:40 - Jasmine’s takeaways from today’s conversation 26:45 - You are the one in power and more reminders from Veronica After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 198 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today I’m joined by my good friend Veronica Perretti. Veronica joined me on the show before to talk about the difference between your sun and moon signs and your astrological chart and compatibility. You can listen to that episode here.   About Veronica: Veronica is an astrologer by day, a yoga teacher by night, and a wellness advocate for doTERRA at all hours. After years of seeking outside experts and healers to fix her, she turned to her chart and her oils to heal herself. Veronica lives in NYC with her honey and her kitty kids, Rama and Zora. She’s an Aries with a Virgo moon, obsessed with KonMari and Bravo TV. You can learn more about working with her at veronicaperretti.com.      2:45 - My on-again-off-again relationship with astrology. 9:00 - Why I recommend Veronica when people ask me for a recommendation along with a few other recommendations for Hedi Rose Robbins and Jennifer Racioppi 11:15 - Veronica shares a couple of high-level pieces as we look at 2020 15:30 -What it means when Saturn and Pluto come together. 21:00 - How the eclipses will impact 2020 24:15 - The impact of the Capricorn energy in 2020  28:45 - Will the retrogrades make 2020 a tough year? 33:45 - What’s happening with Venus in 2020? 41:25 - Astrology and what’s happening politically right now 51:20 - Connect with Veronica on Instagram and on her podcast.   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!  

Welcome to episode 197 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I’m really excited about this conversation because we’re going to talk about how to actually shift your inner child. Before we get into that conversation I want to remind you that if you’re feeling off this holiday season or triggered as I was when I was single to reach out to someone. It could be a friend in your life or even DM me, I respond to every single one. There is someone in your life you can share how you’re feeling, and I want you to do that. 2:20 - A mantra I use to soften and let go of my desire to control all the things - What is for me cannot pass me.  7:30 - The childhood experiences that informed Julie’s pattern of doing things to fit in or please 10:40 - Looking at what Julie’s inner child actually needed 12:50 - How Julie is changing the pattern with herself (including dating herself) 15:30 - Looking at how Julie’s inner child impacted her previous relationship 17:50 - How to connect with your inner child  20:15 - Responding to triggers by connecting to your inner child 25:15 - How to connect with me and be coached on one of these calls 26:20 - Veronica shares a couple of caveats to inner child work 28:50 - A look at the steps to connecting with your inner child 27:15 - Spiritual bypassing After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!  

Today on the show I'm talking about three keys to growing or starting your life coaching business. Now, I know a lot of you aren't starting a life coaching business, that's not on the horizon, but if you have any kind of entrepreneurial bug or you have a business or you think you might want a business, this episode will apply to you and I know you'll learn a ton. Or if you're simply just curious about the behind the scenes of my business and kind of want to know what I did to be "successful," whatever the hell that even means, you're going to love this episode. And so I really wanted to do this episode for two main reasons. As I mentioned in last week's episode where I coached Renata, I've been doing a lot more work with aspiring and beginning life coaches. If this conversation resonates with you, be sure to learn more over at veronicagrant.com/episode196   After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 195 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I’ve been working with more women on building their coaching business, and I freaking love it. I love the coaching industry and supporting people in this way. I invited one of my clients, Renata, to join us on the show today for a coaching session.  When I work with coaches we focus on 3 core things, their own mindset and beliefs, building their own coaching toolbox, and of course the business building piece. As Renata sat down with her first client they were able to get to a point of awareness but now she’s looking at moving that client through to what’s next. This is a common question from all of my clients, so this is a great episode for anyone. 2:20 - The difference between therapy and coaching  8:30 - Renata shares her question about moving from awareness and through fear 10:50 - Sharing about how to navigate clients through making a change 12:00 - Using inner child work to connect dots and shift into action 16:30 - Working with a client through the process 18:40 - The importance of the right client 23:30 - Expectations around how long this work will take for a client  29:00 - Being your own best client 38:40 - Veronica shares action items to wrap up the episode After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Welcome to episode 193 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I am really excited that Stephanie brought this question to us, we haven’t talked a lot about friends with benefits and so that is what we’re talking about today. If this is something you are in, or you’re considering this is a great episode to listen in on.  I challenge you to listen to this (and any) episode without judgment. Listen in to see what you can learn and apply to your own situations regardless of how you feel about friends with benefits. 5:20 - Stephanie shares her question about moving from friendship to relationship  9:50 - Listen in to Three Relationships You’re Confusing with Real Love    10:40 - Seeing what we want to see with a person instead of seeing what is there 11:50 - Having the conversation about to define a relationship 15:30 - How to language what you want as you move from friends to a romantic relationship 17:50 - This is important - You have to believe what he says 20:15 - Setting boundaries after the conversation  22:30 - Stephanie shares how she feels as we wrap up our session 24:00 - Veronica shares action items to wrap up the episode 25:20 - Two reasons to avoid a friends with benefit relationship After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!