Boldly Becoming You Podcast

What do I want???? Whether you're deep in burnout, running on autopilot, or just feeling disconnected from yourself after years of being useful to everyone else… I get it. This episode walks you through the 5 mistakes that keep so many of us stuck in survival mode, waiting for clarity that doesn't come and the first 3 steps to figuring out what you actually want. Where you gently unhook from urgency, listen to your nervous system, and stop trying to solve your life like a math problem. Here's what we get into: The biggest lie about “clarity” that keeps high-achievers spinning Why your body needs to access that truth And why desire isn't a luxury, it's a survival skill If you've been trying to “figure it out” but everything just feels heavy, uncertain, or like too much work, it's not you. You're not broken. You just haven't been taught how to do this in a way that actually works for your life. Boldly Becoming You Workshop June  28 & 29 Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert Watch the 22 min Livestream with https://www.instagram.com/teresabernadetteart  Join us in

In this episode, we unpack what's actually going on when you “can't stay consistent,” and why burnout, chronic stress, and your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) keep you stuck in a loop that discipline alone will never solve. We dig into: Why discipline only works after you've built capacity The sneaky ways internalized capitalism, ableism, and childhood conditioning show up in your day What your body, your flare-ups, your freeze response, and your avoidance are really trying to tell you Why being “too tired to function” or “constantly behind” is not a personal failure and what it really means How to tell if you're living from survival mode (even if everything looks fine from the outside) You'll hear real examples from our own lives, from our clients, and from people just like you who thought they had a discipline problem, but were actually overdue for a total capacity recalibration. By the end of this conversation, we're asking better questions: What do I want and what do I need ... today? What's actually mine to carry? How can I build a life and business that supports my reality, not just my ambition? If you've been forcing, pushing, and blaming yourself for not “doing it right” - this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start restoring. Here's our free Burnout Recovery 101 Masterclass Grab the Momentum Map here  The Reel that started this conversation Are you ready to work together? Schedule a call to figure out which path is right for you.

In this episode we dig into: What actually happens when you stop living in survival mode and your nervous system finally chills the fuck out? Spoiler: it's weirder than you think. Having time doesn't mean you magically know how to enjoy it. Sometimes the pause feels like a loss you didn't see coming. The very real tension between finally having space to create and just wanting to nap, zone out, or do absolutely nothing. Your brain isn't reacting to the moment, it's predicting based on old chaos and current circumstances which means sometimes you kinda short-circuit. Being regulated doesn't mean life is easier right away. Sometimes it just means you're awake enough to see what's really going on. Navigating art, chronic illness, parenting, and business in a house where everyone's got complex life stuff... it's not cute, it's logistics and emotion every damn day. Some of what feels "true" is actually just what you've been surrounded by your whole life. When you question it, a whole new world opens up. The hardest part of starting something isn't always the work, it's believing you'll be able to keep going, especially when you have a pile of complex life circumstances If your environment feels like too much, it's not because you're weak. It's because your body is telling the truth about what's happening around you. A behind-the-scenes look at how Brandon and I have restructured our life and business to actually feel like us, without making each other fit into someone else's idea of partnership. Two very different relationships to work, rest, and passion, and how we're finally letting both be valid and valuable. Make sure to share this episode with your friend or partner if you found it valuable and if you share this episode on social media, tag us @rulesandrebellion so we can thank you You can join The Village, our Perfectionism and Burnout Healing Membership: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@rulesrebellion9965 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rulesandrebellion  

If you've ever wonder what it's like for 2 coaches to live and work together, pursuing their own goals and holding each other accountable - this episode is the most transparent we've been I believe. We have a real conversation about each others goals, boundaries around them and the ways we will and will NOT be holding each other accountable. We get really granular so below I gave you some time stamps to help figure out where you want to jump to or go back to if something resonates while you are multitasking while listening.  Timestamps: Intro, catching up on 2025 until 37 min 37min: B talks through T's goals, boundaries and plan 1 hr, 45 min: T talks through B's goals, boundaries and plan 2 hour 42 min: Sharing some recent client wins we're excited for   If you haven't watched our newest masterclass, Burnout Recovery 101: Rewire Your Nervous System, you can snag that here Want to join The Village to have lifetime access to bi-monthly group coaching calls while you heal from perfectionism and recover from burnout? Join us here If you want to work with us in a private program, book a clarity call here to see if we mesh and to hear about the current private program openings.

2024 goals, patterns of addiction and learning about what each other has figured out in these first few weeks of 2025  Parenting, codependency, eating disorder, caffeine, plans and healing - we cover a lot in this first-ever unedited 2+ hour conversation.  Join our email list here Grab our Burnout Recovery Starter Kit here Join Tasha at the Boldly Becoming You Workshop on Feb 22 & 23 here

If you've ever felt like you were carrying the weight of the world alone, this episode is a reminder that none of us gets through life—or big movements—on our own. I shared raw insights into my journey, showing how leaning into community and prioritizing self-care made it possible to heal, rebuild and thrive. In this episode I dig into The inner tug-of-war between feeling powerless and the drive to contribute to something bigger The exhaustion of navigating chronic illness and burnout while maintaining responsibilities. The bravery it takes to reimagine life and purpose when everything you've known shifts unexpectedly. The moments where I've relied on others to carry me forward and how those connections have shaped your path. Make sure to follow on Instagram and Facebook

I woke up Monday morning AGAIN feeling very clear that my last 20 years of professional experience and personal healing led me to this season of humaning. Like all of us, our family has been processing the results of last week's election while holding space for all the emotions and thoughts flooding in. One thing I know for sure is that the leaders guiding humanity through these next 4 years will need massive support to meet the demands of communities and their own families. I know this is part of my purpose, my calling and although it feels a little clumsy in how I can describe the vision and the path to it, I FEEL its truth deeply.  And as a result of Brandon's encouragement that opened the floodgates to this episode, I also recorded a 4ish minute free audio to activate the leader inside of you. DM LEADERSHIP on Instagram or Facebook to receive it...and potential future audios to add to it. It's going to take all of us leaning into our strengths and gifts to carry our fellow humans through this next administration.  As always, we want to hear your feedback and if this episode resonates with you, share it your fellow badasses.  Thanks for being here

What are you avoiding right now? What are the rules about doing it “right” that are keeping you stuck? Get unstuck, move out of perfectionism, avoidance procrastination and into action that feels good again. Build evidence in your skills and your ability to follow through with the things you care about by using Draft Mode in all your goals and intentions. Grab Draft Mode for $9 here Make sure to share this episode with your friend or partner if you found it valuable and if you share this episode on social media, tag us @rulesandrebellion so we can thank you Sign up for our next Free Group Coaching Call (the first Monday of every month): https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching You can join The Village, our Perfectionism and Burnout Healing Membership: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village Or if you're new here, check out our Burnout and Perfectionism Starter Kit:  https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/starter-kit Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@rulesrebellion9965 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rulesandrebellion

You were taught to abandon yourself in small and discreet ways through your whole life and now, as an adult, you feel like garbage because you don't do the things you say you're going to or you don't "follow through" (go back to ep 223 to listen). In this episode, we give you the first 3 steps to stop abandoning yourself so make sure you grab paper and pen to take notes. Let us know what you discover as you put these into motion - we LOVE hearing from you. Make sure to share this episode with your friend or partner if you found it valuable and if you share this episode on social media, tag us @rulesandrebellion so we can thank you Sign up for our next Free Group Coaching Call (the first Monday of every month): https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching You can join The Village, our Perfectionism and Burnout Healing Membership: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village Or if you're new here, check out our Burnout and Perfectionism Starter Kit:  https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/starter-kit Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@rulesrebellion9965 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rulesandrebellion

What if you aren't actually bad at follow through? There are some sneaky rules about "follow through" that are making it impossible for your goals and dreams to become a reality. If you don't real about your complex life and the reality of living in survival mode the last 2-3 decades, you will never see or feel a difference. When you redefine follow through, consistency, success, etc. you get to live more fully AND you inevitably see more progress.  If you like actionable steps, this episode has 2 homework assignments for you and we want to hear how they go so DM us when you do them. Make sure to share this episode with your friend or partner if you found it valuable and if you share this episode on social media, tag us @rulesandrebellion so we can thank you Sign up for our next Free Group Coaching Call (the first Monday of every month): https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching We are bringing back one of our most popular free masterclasses on July 15. Register Regulate to Elevate here: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/elevate You can join The Village, our Perfectionism and Burnout Healing Membership: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village Or if you're new here, check out our Burnout and Perfectionism Starter Kit:  https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/starter-kit Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@rulesrebellion9965 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rulesandrebellion

I don't understand how this is something more people aren't talking about but there is a mountain of evidence showing this is a non-negotiable piece to a healing burnout and cPTSD. Humans are not meant to do life solo - we are co-creators, we rely on one another for feedback, encouragement, challenges and passing on wisdom. In this episode, Brandon and I talk about the impact of relationships and how they will make or break your healing journey. Share this episode on social media and tag us @rulesandrebellion  Sign up for our next Free Group Coaching Call (the first Monday of every month): https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching We are bringing back one of our most popular free masterclasses on July 15. Register Regulate to Elevate here: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/elevate You can join The Village, our Perfectionism and Burnout Healing Membership for $200 through July 10: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village Or if you're new here, check out our Burnout and Perfectionism Starter Kit:  https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/starter-kit Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@rulesrebellion9965 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rulesandrebellion

Working the hardest and the longest has NOT brought you the results you've been looking for. In this episode, we break down the S.H.E. Method and give you homework so you can move out of the hustle and grind pattern and finally focus your energy and attention on what matters. And there is a great question at the end that might resonate with you a lot. You'll see the progress and momentum you crave when you implement these 3 factors. The Boldly Becoming You Workshop is June 22 & 23 - grab your spot here I also promised the Instagram link for this episode - that's here Schedule a clarity call to see which of our programs could be a fit if you're ready to make some changes. Very beginning of your journey of burnout recovery? Here's our free starter kit Follow us on IG, FB and YouTube: https://instagram.com/rulesandrebellion https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion/ https://www.youtube.com/@rulesrebellion9965

In this episode, I share from my heart about why I am so passionate about the work I do. I have been doing intense healing over the last year and something clicked in the last week making it feel easy breezy to share from my heart vs the overthinking, research based, data oriented place I forced myself to work from for years. If you want a shot of mojo, this episode is one to save. Join us June 22 & 23 at the Boldly Becoming You Workshop If you want to explore working together for a deeply transformational experience, snag a clarity call to see if one of our programs fits what you're looking for. Connect with us: Instagram: https://instagram.com/rulesandrebellion Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@rulesrebellion9965 New to us? Check out our Burnout and Perfectionism Healing Starter Kit  

In this episode, we talk about why your day has become about other people's goals and dreams, the questions Brandon and I habitually ask ourselves, and how Brandon's phone countdown timer has helped him ask himself: What can I do right now? What new choice can I make right now that is aligned with any of my goals? We dig into the difference between reacting and responding to the demands from the outside world vs proactively deciding how you're going to start your day and prioritizing YOU. And what to do if you don't know how to make your dreams and goals the first thing on your to do list. The Boldly Becoming You Workshop is June 22 & 23 and I'd love to guide you through my signature process of making yourself the main character in your life without losing what you already love about it. DM us on Instragram or Facebook to let us know what came up for you.

How does burnout REALLY happen? What is happening in your body? What is happening in your everyday life that could be fast tracking you to burnout?  In this episode, Tasha gets a little nerdy with some of the science of allostatic load, stress vs stressors and 4 specific actions you can start doing today to decrease the impact of stress on your mind, body and soul while also moving away from burnout. Ep 193: How to do the "I'm Proud of Myself" Daily Practice Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Amelia Nagoski  Grab our FREE Burnout Recovery Starter Kit to understand where and how you can start making some of these changes. 

I wish I knew that part of healing and actually creating the life you want to experience - with joy, attunement, connection, authenticity and feeling safe in the space you exist in - wasn't all gamor and ease. There is a period of adjustment that I wasn't expecting and in this episode my intention is to pass along this lesson to you, to enable you to move through it with less overwhelm and more ease. When your perspective filter has been set to "what is the worst possible scenario? and what do I need to do to prevent it or at the least, prepare for it?" ...it's really hard to see and receive the goodness that accumulates as you do the work of boldly becoming you. It takes practice, knowing what to do in the transition period and genuine safe support. This is part of the healing journey humans cannot do alone - it's simply not how we're all wired.  But knowing what's ahead and how you can navigate the swamp of accumulating the new evidence to see how safe, and lovely, your life has become can make it a shorter journey, I believe. I would love to hear if this episode resonated with you. Do you have a hard time experiencing the joy and seeing the goodness, despite it being right there in front of you? Do you find yourself constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop? You're not broken, and it's not that something is wrong with you. You just need some practice clocking the safety in the new reality you've been creating.  Tag @rulesandrebellion if you share this on social, it means a lot to me, and it helps get these ideas to other people, which helps our community grow with more support and attunement. If you want help in navigating this swampy healing journey, you can schedule a clarity call to chat to see if we're a good fit. 

In this episode of The Boldly Becoming You podcast we travel back in time to the dark ages of our relationship.  A time without communication. A time…without boundaries

This one might hit you right in the trauma. You are sacrificing your time, energy and your future far too often for far too little.  The reality is…you're a problem, you're a real problem. But so were we.  In this episode, we talk about: Tasha and Brandon talk about the silent fight in sharing Instagram posts with each other  How I kept telling myself, I just don't have enough time to do all the things I want to do How Brandon's title as the “perfect husband” was BAD for both of us   You want to follow through, you want to show up for the people you love and you want your life to feel…more better more of the time. The answer is definitely in this episode. (the answer is definitely Nervous System Regulation + Boundaries

What started out as a fun, lighthearted exploratory adventure has turned into a journey to trust myself and my body after years of feeling untethered from it.  One of the biggest disappointments in getting sick in 2014 and being officially diagnosed in 2017 with myalgic encephalomyelitis, ME/CFS, was that Brandon and I were told, "It's unlikely you'll get better. And you'll be lucky, you'll be lucky to not get worse." In this episode, I share some of that journey and the bigness of one of my 2024 goals to see 10 waterfalls in 1 day by hiking 8 miles, or 18291 steps.  I have used vision boards every step of the way over the last 6 years to keep me focused and believing in myself. And this next goal is not different. I would love to show you how to create these same beacons of light and inspiration for you in your goals. Register for the Boldly Becoming You Workshop here and join me for a life changing, inspiring and energizing weekend. DM me to let me know what you thought about this episode! Learn more about working together and grab our free resources here: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/links  

If you're a list maker, note taker, or a to-do guru then you KNOW that if it's not on a list, it ain't happ'nin.  So then why oh why does everyone get all weird when we bring up the topic of Vision Boards? …is it maybe because they have been turned into this big scary expectation of happily ever after or else? Or maybe it's because no one ever told you how you are actually supposed to use the damn thing.  In this episode we talk about how to unlock the magic of your vision boards so you can fully unlock them as the powerful tool they are (hint: you just move ‘em around)  Ps. it's not “magic,” it's nueroscience that makes so much sense. Grab your seat at the Boldly Becoming You Workshop here. If you loved this episode, or have questions, DM us to let us know. Also, copy the share link and send it to your bestie! Thank you for helping us get the word out about Boldly Becoming You!

In this episode, we get into the weirdly challenging concept of Visualization - what it really is, why it feels hard and what to do to make it easier AND more effective. As we battle our self-imposed timer we dig into our respective relationships with visualizing and goal setting…And we talked about goats, and to a lesser extent, chicken. Seats to The Boldly Becoming You Workshop are currently $97. If you're fed up with trying to figure out a system to make your goals actually happen, this is where you want to be February 24 & 25. Grab your seat here. Visualization mentioned: https://insig.ht/9oLmGUYULGb Make sure you're following us on Instagram @Rulesandrebellion 

In this episode we talk about a concept that is overlooked by almost everyone. Capacity.  Where does it all go? Why do we think we have more of it than we do, and a few ideas that will get you thinking…”oh yeah, that does make me tired”. AND we give you a few tips to navigate this whole “capacity” issue. This is a big deal, because without understanding the capacity you have, setting and achieving your goals is going to be impossible. You wouldn't go on a 5 hour drive without looking to see if you had enough gas to get there, don't start on a journey towards your goals without knowing how much energy, time, and ability you actually have available to you. And just in case you missed it, here is the replay link to Tasha's live masterclass The SHE Method - where you learn the 3 factors responsible for making your goals a reality. DM us on Instagram and let us know what you think about today's episode.  

Earlier this week we asked the question: “What do YOU think is stopping you or standing in the way of you having what you want” In this episode, we dig into your responses and our own relationship with goals, success and how we completely shifted our focus to out of burnout and off the neverending treadmill of letdown and disappointment in ourselves and our results. Specifically: Being too tired and overwhelmed to even think about setting goals past sleep Wanting to want to have the energy to set goals That frustrating feeling of getting started but not having the energy to keep things going This one's a good one for all of you go-getters out there.  Oh and…we did a new thing on the podcast to keep us “on time”...and it sort of worked…ish DM us what came up for you in this episode! Grab your seat for the Boldly Becoming You Workshop on February 24 & 25 with $100 off And make sure you register for the free S.H.E. Method Masterclass on Jan 31, 2024. Make sure you're following us on Instagram and Facebook so you don't miss a thing!

I don't know if you've noticed, but almost all of the 2024 new year content on social media is basically gone. That's because all of that “New Year, New You” crap is all based on the idea of having everything PERFECTLY mapped out all before January 1st. At R & R, we know that expecting yourself to have your entire year perfectly planned and ready to go by the end of December is based on a bunch of arbitrary rules that throws perfectionists into anxiety fueled fight/flight survival mode.  You've got a real life and rarely, if ever, does it line up with a calendar.  Today's episode is all about picking a word/intention for the year. It came out mid-month because you deserve the time and grace to join the party when you are ready and able.  The intention behind picking a word of the year is to have a mental filter to align yourself and your actions with. With that chosen word, you create a guiding principle to keep coming back to, and make decisions with, no matter what kind of weird shit happens between now and 12 months from now. Picking a word for the year isn't a brand new concept, but…do you actually know how to use your word of the year so that it's not just some woowoo exercise you forget about in a week? In this episode we talk about what our words are and why we chose them, but also what the hell to do with them next.  DM us on IG with your word so we can celebrate with you! And if you want to use this word as a spring board to create a year that you become the boldest, truest version of you, book your clarity call here today.

2023 was a BIG year for my personal growth and healing. It was a lot of inner work and in this episode I share the big lessons I learned including the new non-negotiable I made a vow to do before I touched anything I care about. As a result of the commitment I made last year to keep facing my fears, and having the support I needed to stick with it, I grew my capacity and am dreaming bigger, attracting more abundance than I ever have as a result. My ability to see a more expansive future for myself feels surreal. I've never felt this calm and confident about such enormous goals for my future. I can't wait to hear what comes up for you from this reflection and what resonates with you. Shoot me a DM on Instagram and let me know which parts stuck out for you. Ready to make 2024 the year you boldly become the YOUEST YOU? Schedule a free clarity call if you 100% committed

If you're like I was, a successful business owner making 6 figures for multiple years, but thinking that one more hour, one more call, one more post was going to be the thing that makes or breaks your business, you need to listen to this episode. I share a very personal story about a distressing couples' therapy session that had me REELING, raging and angry sobbing the rest of the day. But ultimately, was the catalyst for so much growth, healing and expansion into a life I am grateful to live now. Since then, I've learned to stop beating myself up for making the "wrong" decisions, have gotten crystal clear on what, and who, the non-negotiables are in my daily life and allowed myself to explore fun and what play looks like in my life without guilt. If this episode resonates with you, schedule your clarity call to see if our 5 Essential Pivots program is the right fit for you. We can answer your questions and see if we all mesh. And if so, you'll be well on your way to breaking free from that toxic hustle culture to find your joy and inspiration, while still making bank.  

Doom scrolling IG and binge-ing New Girl and Schitt's Creek are not hobbies or special interests

In this episode, Brandon shares part of his journey to create his first 2 originals in his clothing line. You'll hear the story behind the Introvert Hoodie and the power of having art you can wear that speaks to your needs and desires. Plus, how mean girls on the internet started a ripple of love and authenticity to Brandon's self-expression this year adding more validation and affirmation for the genderqueer layer of their identity. "The BB Pullover is a love letter to Tasha" and in this episode, you'll hear why. You can still pre-order your Introvert Hoodies and the BB Pullover here  Check out The Trevor Project And Brandon's viral reel that launched the BB Pullover   Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

Being seen, listened to, understood, and validated is a CRUCIAL missing piece from our respective childhoods. And it continues into our adult lives, for many reasons, deteriorating your ability to see how truly brilliant and meaningful you are. In this episode, I share a story about a birthday cookie that made me feel invisible and one of the MAJOR differences between how we coach our clients...based on a lifetime of being treated like just everyone else and one of the super powers we use with every one. Book your complimentary clarity call  to chat about your next season of transformation. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Check out Habit Magic and the Boldly Becoming You Workshop Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

How a hard conversation led to one small habit and the massive ripple effect a year later. Brandon shares his experience including the adventures and creativity he's been inspired by, as well as the Introvert Hoodie and BB Sweatshirt he launched last month. (you can pre-order yours here) Check out Habit Magic and the new flex pay option through Wednesday, November 15.   Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

Nell was fed up with her business being so hard, waking up with her heart racing, pressure in her chest and flushed with anxiety and panic as she launched into action to get her business WORKING. Her confidence was on a roller coaster, depending on how her social media content was performing, and she was angry, flooded with emotion and was close to throwing in the towel despite having a solid foundation of engaged and aligned followers AND having had genuine success in selling her courses and programs in thepast. Nell's post-concussion syndrome, ADHD, fluctuating hormones from her monthly cycle and chronic dysregulation had her stressed and anxious, operating in full-on masculine energy, draining her and leaving no room for inspiration. But Nell joins us in today's episode to talk about her transformational experience in our 5 Essential Pivots program. She talks about how she found her footing, the new relationship that has her glowing, how she feels about her business today and her exciting next season of expansion.

If you're like me, for most of your life, you've been told to not make excuses for "bad behavior" or when you didn't get something done that you were supposed to. And as a result, you haven't been able to actually give yourself the grace and compassion you deserve for all the times, and all the ways, your good intentions and thoughtful planning didn't turn out the way you had hoped.  In this episode, Brandon and I cover the difference between an excuse and an explanation, specific aspects of your life that are NOT excuses but DO need to be acknowledged if you want things to not be so hard and some challenging things to expect if you've been operating under this "no excuses" gaslighting doctrine for most of your adult life. Habit Magic is open for enrollment and you can join here for early bird pricing still! $297 or 2 payments of $149 for a little while longer. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

TWO HUNDRED episodes and it's been a full evolution. In this episode I share some of the things I have learned, let go of and what's coming up next in this season of expansion, releasing MORE perfectionism to make room for BIG Bold worthiness and joy. Thank you for being on this journey with me and I love how we keep showing up to do this together. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode! Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Check out Habit Magic and the Boldly Becoming You Workshop Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

We've all heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. But the tricky thing with Perfectionism and trauma response patterns in general is that it often doesn't feel like you have much choice.  And until you understand how your micro-decisions send a ripple into your daily life, you can feel powerless. In this episode, Brandon shares an experience from last night where he made a decision that was breaking his own rule - a rule that he made that was in alignment with his goals and that breaking it opened the floodgates to a slew of other, also powerful, inspired decisions. We also talk about the experiment we did earlier this year of 90 days of new decisions with our relationship with money. This is a jam packed episode - I know you'll love it. Thanks for listening and sharing this with your people! Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion Follow on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

In this episode, I share some recent thoughts on ...thoughts. And I invite you to challenge yours - are they true? How do you know? What would happen if they aren't yours? What's available to you if you don't keep believing them? Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

In this teary episode, we talk about:  - our biggest lessons, takeaways, and gratitudes from our 15 years of choosing each other. - Brandon shares his journey with a recent art project that is PERFECT for the introvert in the fall and winter season. - Brandon secretly created a thoughtful and surprise love note as an anniversary gift.   Links for the Hoodie and Sweatshirt Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion Follow on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

Our environments heavily influence us in daily life and in long-term achievements, satisfaction and creativity. If you aren't actively and intentionally choosing the people, places and things that influence you, it's likely you have some undetected resistance happening in daily life, adding to your frustrations, disappointments and false starts. Great news, although we can't change the governement overnight or the social systems we live among, we do have a lot more choice in our daily life than you realize or were given permission to explore.  The homework in this episode is simple and powerful so make sure you give yourself permission to take the few minutes to DO it.

Another fabulous LIVE session on IG and FB turned into a podcast episode

A 'skill' is the ability to do something well.

This life-changing SUPER simple daily practice has been a game changer for myself, Brandon, (our kids, but ssshh, they don't know that I'm building their belief in themselves) and all of our private coaching clients. This is the audio of a Instagram/Facebook Live we did on 9.27.23 and we had a lot of great responses and engagement with this topic so I wanted to make sure you had it too. The Boldly Becoming You Workshop is coming up on October 7 & 8, 2023. You can snag the Early Bird price here if you want to save $100 when you register before Monday, Oct 2. DM us with any questions: IG or FB Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion Follow on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

Do you have days where you are super optimistic and hopeful, feel confident and walk with an extra little pep in your step, and then the next 2 weeks you wonder where she went? Why can't you access that incredible magnetic super charged version of yourself? This is was a lifelong challenge and it's a huge factor in not only how you show up in your work, in your relationships, and your creativity/passion projects - it's also done a number on your confidence long term. This is another layer of women's health being ignored for the sake of "ease" for the society built to serve the male biology, and it's wreaking havoc on everything. You deserve kindness and compassion no matter what day or phase you're in, but it's especially crucial to shift your expectations and activities in the Luteal phase. I share a few shifts I've made to create a different experience for me, and all the things I do and the people I love. And if you like productive homework, I give you some at the 6 minute mark. You can catch the episode here I reference when I interviewed Jac, the Menstrual Mogul, about syncing your cycle. You can schedule a complimentary clarity call here to learn more about how we can work together. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode and tag us @rulesandrebellion Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion Follow on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

If you struggle with intrusive thoughts or a racing mind, that often doesn't take you anywhere you would voluntarily go, this episode is for you. I know you're going to have BIG relief in separating yourself from your thoughts and practicing this awareness. Here's the link for Regulated AF  - 10+ brief videos to start using nervous system regulation when those thoughts aren't productive.  And if you know you want personalized help and are ready to commit to more permanent shifts, you can book a clarity call here. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode and tag us @rulesandrebellion Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion Follow on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

In this episode, we get personal, again. I share a bit about the last 8 months, a big shift in March and some milestones I made it through while building more confidence in myself than ever before. This is one of my messy shares and I know you're going to relate to a lot of it, even if the circumstances aren't exactly the same. I mentioned how often I used the practices from the Regulated AF 10 Day Anti-Challenge, so here is that link.   Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode, tag us @rulesandrebellion so we can thank you. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion Follow on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

EVERYONE gets overwhelmed occasionally. The difference of getting overwhelmed and STAYING in overwhelm is in these 4 tips. During a recent clubhouse conversation, I offered an artist 4 tips to move through the overwhelm of her new project, including some common misconceptions in the pop-psychology and coaching rhetoric.  Would love to hear what you think and what resonated with you. I mentioned the Regulated AF 10 Day Anti-Challenge at the beginning of this episode and promised I'd link it here.  Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. The Village is open for enrollment through Thurs, July 20. You can join us here. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion Follow on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com   

Fatigue is the number 1 symptom fo burnout and many chronic health issues that our clients navigate. In this episode, Brandon and I dug into Fatigue on a livestream on FB and IG and it was so well received and we had so many questions and follow up messages, I wanted to share this here with you. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. The Village is open for enrollment through Thurs, July 20. You can join us here. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion Follow on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

Whew, do I wish I had been more open to hearing this truth SO much earlier in my journey. I spent decades wanting to be seen but never wanting to admit I had those needs. I would pour into people, into projects and work longer than anyone - just so I could feel like I'd done enough to rest, relax and maybe even have some fun. It wasn't until I was deep in burnout that I learned how crucial this one thing is to the human condition, in particular for healing from perfectionism burnout. If this episode resonates with you, please share it with the people you love and tag us at @rulesandrebellion on IG. Grab the 5 Pivots out of Perfectionism free video series here! Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Follow us on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rulesandrebellion And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com   

In this short episode, I share a couple stories of how I struggled to take up space and the practice I use to continue to expand in small ways throughout each day. I hope you love this quickie episode and share it with your friends who are also learning to take up all the space their are meant to. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Check out Habit Magic and the Boldly Becoming You Workshop Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

In this episode, Brandon joins me as we reflect on the adventures, lessons and updates from our 1 year anniversary of traveling full time as a family of four, as business owners and other unique life circumstances. We also answer some questions from you! about what was hard, did we argue, what needs became easier, did we wish we brought things we had sold or donated and more. I know you'll love this fully transparent episode and can't wait for you to listen!  Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode. Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Check out Habit Magic and the Boldly Becoming You Workshop Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com

How you start your morning is often how you feel throughout your whole day. And most people are muddling through their morning hours reacting and responding to the world around them, feeling defeated and unsatisfied with their productivity by the time they go to sleep. I used to feel like I was failing when I didn't do all 5 things on my morning routine list. And that meant that I was starting the day with this dread of "I couldn't even do that right." In today's episode, I share some observations, my morning practice currently, and some tips on how to shift your relationship with a morning routine so that it inspires you and sets your mental filter for the day. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode, make sure to tag @rulesandrebellion when you do! Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Check out Habit Magic and the next Boldly Becoming You Workshop Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

Whether you've made a vision board and loved it, made one and felt like it fell short or you thought about making one and never got around to it - this episode is going to shed light on why you feel that way. Brandon joins me on this episode to talk about our mistakes 16 years ago and how things have shifted for us and our whole family as a result of this pivot from conventional vision boarding. Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode and tag us at @rulesandrebellion  Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Check out Habit Magic and the next is happening this weekend, April 22 & 23 - you can snag your seat here  ➡️ Boldly Becoming You Workshop with the Podcast listener coupon code here: BBYWPOD Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out the 2 Hour Intensive and all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com 

When you have these Unique Life Circumstances - ADHD, menstrual cycle, cPTSD and you own a business - you need to include these 3 goals or you are 100% going to end up in burnout.  But more than just avoiding burnout, you need them in your life because you are not here to PRODUCE. You are here to LIVE. You deserve them. Your future self will thank you for them. Your inner child will heal as a result of them. Referenced: Elizabeth Gilbert's book Big Magic Share this with people you love and on your social media if you found value in this episode and tag us at @rulesandrebellion  Check out our links page for free resources and on events, as it is updated regularly. Check out Habit Magic and the next is happening this weekend, April 22 & 23 - you can snag your seat here  ➡️ Boldly Becoming You Workshop with the Podcast listener coupon code here: BBYWPOD Follow me on Instagram: @rulesandrebellion Follow me on Tiktok: @coachtashaskillin And check out the 2 Hour Intensive and all the ways to work with us here: www.rulesandrebellion.com