Coffee + Crumbs Podcast

Today, we're talking all things foster care with Jessica Mathisen, a foster, adoptive, and bio mom. Jessica sheds light on the enormous need for vulnerable kids to have a safe place to call home, misconceptions about foster care, challenges for foster families, and how churches, neighbors—and essentially everyone—can help in some capacity. Good news: being a Super Christian is not a prerequisite for making a difference. If you're feeling convicted by this conversation (we sure are), she encourages us to take the next baby step because we'll never know all the good that God is doing with each “yes” along the way.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join us (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Jessica shares about foster care; listen to this episode to hear An Honest Conversation About Adoption. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

Today, we're doing things a little differently—our guest is a dad. Author and spoken word poet, Tanner Olson, shares his heart (and humor!) as we chat about his long journey to fatherhood and what God has taught him along the way. Tanner's words and vulnerability are profound as he reminds us to  s l o w  d o w n , notice the world around us, and that there's always hope in the midst of hardship. Oh, and he also tells us what dads actually want for Father's Day, so don't miss out.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join us (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Tanner shared his POV about fatherhood; listen to this bonus episode to hear POV: You're a Single Mom. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs. 

Whether it's a different job, or another church, or yet another military move, we've all been the new girl at some point in our lives. Today, author Lindsay Swoboda—who's moved seventeen times!—joins us to chat about how we can hold the unknowns of a Life Raft Season loosely, yet intentionally. Lindsay shares her best tips for creating a sense of home, encourages us to sit with our kids in their pain instead of trying to take it away, and challenges us to pursue new friendships, even if it feels awkward. We hope this conversation gives you the confidence to build a life of connection, no matter what city or life situation you land in.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join us (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Lindsay shares tips for being the new girl. Listen to this bonus episode to hear our tips on Taking Your Friendships Out of the Group Chat. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs. 

One of our all-time favorite guests and unofficial Mentor Mom of the C+C team, Krista Gilbert, is back to answer alllllll our questions about motherhood. A mom to four grown kids, Krista shares her best advice for marital disagreements (humility is underrated), tailoring parenting to kids' individual needs (one-on-one time is key), and navigating the conversations we'd rather avoid (like, changing bodies and sex). From sibling relationships to responding to our kids' choices, Krista graciously reminds us that it always starts with us and our modeling, but it doesn't end there: our identity is not tied to our kids' outcomes, and that may be the greatest encouragement of all.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join us (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Krista hasn't been our only mentor, listen to this Ask a Mentor Mom with Ruth Chou Simons.  For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

Today we're joined by author Greta Eskridge, who shines a light on how to approach a dark topic with our kids: pornography. The stats tell us it's not a matter of if our kids will be exposed to porn, but when. Luckily equipping our kids doesn't have to be as scary as we think. Greta shares practical language for age-appropriate, hope-filled conversations and makes a strong case for moms to lead the way. We hope this episode gives you the confidence to talk with your kids about porn so they can stay safe in our digital world and also grow into sexually whole adults. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join us (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more on how technology is affecting our kids, listen to our bonus episode Kids + Tech (Our Version). For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

One of our all-time favorite guests, Aundi Kolber—author, mother, and therapist—is back, and today she's encouraging us to take what we need. Aundi sheds light on how and why we end up disembodied, how to reclaim connection with our God-given needs (especially as moms), and how we can play the role of participant in our own healing. Whether you're struggling to notice what you're lacking or struggling to prioritize your own care, we adore Aundi's nudge to approach ourselves and circumstances with tenderness, but also a touch of fierceness that proclaims, “I matter.” This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join us (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Aundi helped us tune into our needs. Listen to this bonus episode, How to Ask Better Questions, for some ideas to learn what's important to others in your life.  For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

From rediscovering the art of thrifting to embracing breathwork, today we're sharing what's keeping us grounded in the midst of life's demands. While Ashlee's fueling her body with protein smoothies and filling her Little Free Library with hope-filled books, Katie's got Jackie Hill Perry in her earbuds and Half Baked Harvest meals on her plate. We hope this episode inspires you to find a workspace with loads of natural light (it doesn't have to be a coffee shop!) and a sliver of time to finally clean out that junk drawer.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join us (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Listen to the original What's Saving My Life Right Now bonus episode. Spoiler: We're still Rage Cleaning™ for mental health. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

Amanda spends two years of her impressionable adolescence under the care of Larry Nassar, former family medicine physician and team doctor of the US women's national gymnastics team. Having not fully understood that what she experienced was abuse, it's only later—when Amanda and her husband struggle to conceive—that the details of her painful story come to light. Then, just as the case against Larry begins to hit the media, Amanda becomes pregnant. She steps forward, along with 155 other women, to testify against Nassar in court. Amanda uses her voice for the daughter she's carrying, and in the process re-discovers her own. Content warning: sexual abuse.  At the close of this series, we want to extend a special thank you to each woman who bravely offered their story to the project. If this series impacted you, encouraged you, or opened your heart or mind in some way, please help us spread the word. We'd love for you to share this series with your friends and family, your colleagues, and even your online circles. If you've only got a minute to spare, please leave us a 5-star review wherever you listen to podcasts, which helps other women find our show. “Making a Mother” is a production of Coffee + Crumbs.  Executive Producer, Writer: Ashlee Gadd.  Producer, Writer, Host: Julie Vlahon.  Writer: Sonya Spillmann. Music, Sound Design, Mix Engineer: Scott Vlahon. Special thanks to WDIV in Detroit for permission to use their reporting on the Nassar case and trial. We also want to thank Stacy Kaiser and Dr. Lauren Bouchard for their expertise. To learn more about RAINN or M-Power or any of the information we shared in today's episode visit our show notes at coffeeandcrumbs.net/makingamother. This episode is brought to you by Needed—offering Radically Better Nutrition™. Use CC20 at checkout to get 20% off your first order. This series is also brought to you by the paid Substack Community of Coffee + Crumbs. To support our work in the future, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com. From all of us at Coffee + Crumbs, thank you for listening to Making a Mother. 

Jerrell's first baby is born six weeks premature, despite an otherwise typical and healthy pregnancy. At her postpartum appointment, she learns that Black women are 60% more likely to give birth prematurely than white women, and that Black maternal and infant mortality rates are more than double those of white women — regardless of socio-economic status or education. Experts weigh in on why these disparities exist and challenge all of us to ask: what are we doing about it? “Making a Mother” is a production of Coffee + Crumbs.  Executive Producer, Writer: Ashlee Gadd.  Producer, Writer, Host: Julie Vlahon.  Writer: Sonya Spillmann. Music, Sound Design, Mix Engineer: Scott Vlahon. Special thanks to Dr. Lauren Bouchard and Cecily Smith. To learn more about Abide Women's Health, the Cleveland Clinic or any of the information we shared in today's episode visit our show notes at coffeeandcrumbs.net/makingamother. If this story impacted you, please consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a 5-star review wherever you listen to podcasts.  This episode is brought to you by Needed—offering Radically Better Nutrition™. Use CC20 at checkout to get 20% off your first order. Thank you for supporting the brands that helped make this series possible.

From the time she is young, Faith has a desire to foster or adopt, and assumes it will happen after she gets married. But a life-changing conversation with a pastor challenges her to pursue foster care, even though she is a 29-year-old single woman. This one decision sets off a cascade of events that lead her to motherhood, love, and a fresh appreciation for how God's plan isn't constrained by our idealized timelines. “Making a Mother” is a production of Coffee + Crumbs.  Executive Producer, Writer: Ashlee Gadd.  Producer, Writer, Host: Julie Vlahon.  Writer: Sonya Spillmann Music, Sound Design, Mix Engineer: Scott Vlahon For more information on today's episode—including podcast club discussion guides—check out our show notes at coffeeandcrumbs.net/makingamother. If you'd like to support the show, please share this episode with a friend and consider leaving us a 5-star review wherever you listen to podcasts.  This episode is brought to you by Needed—offering Radically Better Nutrition™. Use CC20 at checkout to get 20% off your first order of a single product. If you're shopping between Jan 6th-20th, check out their New Year's deal, which offers 25% off your first subscription.  This episode is also brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/CC10 and get 10% off your first month. Thank you for supporting the brands that helped make this series possible. 

When Kate receives the call about a newborn boy in need of foster care and a forever home, her heart is ready to open wide. Assured that the baby's mother is unlikely to regain custody, she dreams of a future with this child. Meanwhile, Cindy begins to see glimmers of hope amidst all her struggles. Fueled by faith and a determination to turn her life around, she begins the hard work of creating a stable home. Through time and a mutual love for the same baby boy, Kate and Cindy form an unlikely friendship. Together, they navigate the complexities of love, sacrifice, and what it truly means to put the best interests first for the child they both cherish. “Making a Mother” is a production of Coffee + Crumbs.  Executive Producer, Writer: Ashlee Gadd.  Producer, Writer, Host: Julie Vlahon.  Music, Sound Design, Mix Engineer: Scott Vlahon Special thanks to Amanda Morales. To learn more about Serenity Foster and Adoption or other information shared in today's episode visit our show notes at coffeeandcrumbs.net/makingamother. If this story impacted you, please consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a 5-star review wherever you listen to podcasts. This episode is brought to you by Needed—offering Radically Better Nutrition™. Use CC20 at checkout to get 20% off your first order of a single product. If you're shopping between Jan 6th-20th, check out their New Year's deal, which offers 25% off your first subscription.  Thank you for supporting the brands that helped make this series possible.  

After struggling with infertility, IVF and multiple losses, Kate and her paraplegic husband choose to pursue adoption through the foster care system. Meanwhile, Cindy—battling homelessness and addiction—gives birth to her sixth child, a boy, who is immediately removed from her care. In the next episode, we learn how these two women's stories collide and intertwine in the most unexpected ways. Content warning: sexual assault and pregnancy loss. “Making a Mother” is a production of Coffee + Crumbs.  Executive Producer, Writer: Ashlee Gadd.  Producer, Writer, Host: Julie Vlahon.  Music, Sound Design, Mix Engineer: Scott Vlahon For more information on today's episode—including podcast club discussion guides—check out our show notes at coffeeandcrumbs.net/makingamother. If you'd like to support the show, please share this episode with a friend and consider leaving us a 5-star review wherever you listen to podcasts.  This episode is brought to you by Needed—offering Radically Better Nutrition™. Use CC20 at checkout to get 20% off your first order of a single product. If you're shopping between Jan 6th-20th, check out their New Year's deal, which offers 25% off your first subscription.  This episode is also brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/CC10 and get 10% off your first month. Thank you for supporting the brands that helped make this series possible.  

Making a Mother is a collection of raw, honest stories about some of the complex circumstances and unthinkable challenges women face in the pursuit of motherhood. These stories speak to the physical scars left on our bodies, as well as the emotional scars left on our hearts. Featuring universal themes of loss and redemption, broken dreams and resilience, deep heartache and unwavering love—each episode showcases one woman's unique story of courage, hope, and tenacity. Making a Mother will be released in January of 2025. If getting a peek into these stories moves you the way it moves us, we'd love for you to be part of our Making a Mother podcast launch team.

From deserted baby books to the tens of thousands of photos sitting on our phones, it's easy to feel perpetually behind in memory keeping. Today, as we talk about the challenges of commemorating all the milestones, we also share our imperfect wins and how our approach has drastically changed since becoming first-time moms. Katie has a revelation about redefining what is actually worth remembering, while Ashlee shares her desire to capture the “essence” of her kids instead of data. We've come to the conclusion that a) we need to lower our expectations, and b) the chaotic, silly, and in-between moments are the ones that actually make up our lives. We hope this episode inspires you to keep doing your best—via quick notes jotted in a journal or by leaving the camera on the counter—to make those everyday memories the ones you keep.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join us (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Listen to this bonus episode to see what else is saving our lives, besides taking the pressure off of memory keeping.  For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs. 

Today, we're taking a look at hospitality with a twist(!) and sharing intentional creative gatherings we've either hosted or been invited to. Ashlee raves about a good ol' fashioned book club (surprise, surprise), show-and-tell parties, and gives more gold stars and hearts for Galentine's Day, while Katie loves commemorating the change of seasons—think fall soup competitions and end-of-summer backyard movies—and also makes a point to honor special dates like friendaverseries in unique-to-you ways. We hope this episode inspires you to host your own creative get-together. And hey, if you only take one thing from this episode, let it be this: any party where you can wear pajamas is a good party.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join us (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. We'll be sure to celebrate this festive time of year with a creative gathering. Listen to this bonus episode to hear our Very Strong Opinions about other holiday happenings. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

Today we're talking with a board certified dermatologist, Dr. Cameron Chesnut, about how aging affects our skin. Dr. Chesnut gives us holistic insight on our most potent anti-aging defenses (exercise! sleep! nutrition!) and gives us the sought-after scoop on which products actually do make a difference (collagen! retinols! Vitamin C!). He also weighs in on the great sunscreen debate, gives the pros and cons of Botox, and takes our rapid-fire “worth it, or not?” quiz. Whether you're planning to age naturally or maximize modern technology to erase your wrinkles, we hope this conversation brings clarity to some of the most common skin care questions. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. We wish more people knew all the good stuff Dr. Chesnut shared about taking care of our skin. Listen to this bonus episode to see what else we wish more people knew about. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs. 

Just in time for the most divisive political week of the year, special guests Elizabeth and Chris McKinney—authors of Neighborhoods Reimagined—are here today to share the importance of finding common ground with those living near us. How do we go from pulling into the garage and shutting it behind us to actually befriending our neighbors? Using the Beatitudes as a launching point, the McKinneys offer encouragement and practical tips (simply wave! remember names! start a Facebook page! invite one or two families to gather with you!) to create neighborhood flourishing. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. The McKinneys are helping us make the most of our neighborhoods. Listen to Money Saving Hacks to see how we're making the most of our paychecks.    For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

Today, our girl Jill Atogwe is back (!) to chat about her new children's book: Left Out — a rhyming reminder that while God didn't give everyone the same bodies or abilities, everything God left out is something He can use for His glory. From pool party insecurities and complicated health issues to feeling “left behind” in certain stages of life, we confess that trusting God's limits and timing is not always easy—even though we know it's always for our good. We hope this conversation reminds you that you are not alone, and also encourages you to be on the lookout for other women who might be feeling left out. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. It's easy to feel left out of all the commitments for kids' activities these days. Listen to this bonus episode to see how we do extracurriculars without the guilt.    For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

We're kicking off Season 10 by asking a mentor mom we adore and admire—Ruth Chou Simons—all the things about motherhood. A mom of six boys, Ruth shares her best strategy for navigating sibling arguments, how to cultivate life-long friendships with your kids, and openly answers the mother lode question: what's your biggest regret in parenting? From small practical tips to big picture hope, this conversation ends with an encouraging line we're still thinking about. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Ruth shared about all seasons of motherhood. But if you're interested in hearing about how autumn is going for us, listen to this bonus episode: The Great Fall Reset. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

We've covered a lot of ground this season, so today—as a grand finale before we break for sabbatical—we're doing a quick refresher on our favorite episodes. As we rehash what stuck with us—like asking better questions, gathering around the table with our families, and how technology is affecting our kids—we also give a quick update on some previously mentioned intentions (gotta love public accountability!). If you're looking for some fun life-savers before the end of summer, Ashlee shares her go-to Costco “English Muffin Situation,” and Katie raves about the decaf cold brew she's drinking on tap. If you missed any of the episodes mentioned, there's plenty of time to play catchup over the summer while you try to remove sand from your kids' swimsuits.     This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. We'd love for you to join us! Our yearly subscriptions are on sale through July 31st. You can support us for a whole year for around $25.  For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Listen to one of our favorite episodes from the season: What's Saving My Life Right Now. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

Today we're going back—waaay back—and reliving the nostalgic moments, foods, songs, and smells of our younger years. Katie reminisces about the fresh scent of dewy grass on the soccer field and her Nona's simmering spaghetti, while Ashlee shares about her childhood days doused in chlorine and the love language of her youth: mixed CDs, featuring Dashboard and Death Cab. Of course, we couldn't chat about adolescence in the ‘90s without taking an intoxicating stroll through Bath & Body Works and remembering the anticipation of TGIF gracing our televisions. We hope this episode inspires you to crank up that old school jam and take a trip of your own down memory lane.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. You just heard what influenced our childhoods and adolescent years, listen to this bonus episode to see what's influencing us now. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

Open those library accounts and Amazon carts, because today we're sharing our latest favorite books, just in time for summer reading. We cover everything from non-fiction to novels, with a little bit of mystery, research, and personal essays sprinkled in between. And of course, Anne Lamott's most recent work is included (surprise, surprise). Whether you listen on Audible, read on your Kindle, or like to hold a good ol' fashioned paperback in your hands (it all counts!), we hope these stories inspire and entertain you while you sip refreshing bubbly water and lounge in the perfect chair. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more stories—this time written by the Coffee + Crumbs team—listen to this bonus episode: Story Slam. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs. 

Get the tissue box out, because today we're feeling ALL THE FEELS as we talk about launching kids into the world. Katie chats with C+C's mentor mom Krista Gilbert and C+C writer Sonya Spillmann, both of whom hate to admit the adage is true: the days are long but the years are short. You'll hear how these seasoned moms are leaning into the highs and lows of a long season of lasts, how they're marking this special time with tailored celebrations, and how they're caring for themselves along the way (spoiler alert: Sonya's answer involves horseback riding!). Whether your baby is finishing kindergarten or heading to college in the fall, we hope this episode encourages you to embrace whatever transitional season of motherhood you're in.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Happy summer! From rhythm charts to chasing down indoor activities strictly for the air conditioning, don't miss this bonus episode about our favorite tips and tricks for surviving the summer months. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

Forget the bounce houses and goody bags, today we're talking about OUR birthdays. From the simple gift of heartfelt cards to how we really feel about surprise parties, today we're diving into the art of celebrating. You'll also hear why Ashlee's recent birthday was a smashing success (spoiler alert: clear communication is key!), and why Katie is fully embracing a “go big or go home” mentality as she plans for her 40th next year. We hope this episode encourages you to commemorate your friends' birthdays, daydream a bit about your own, and get all those delightful plans on the calendar. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. We love celebrating our birthdays, but see what Rhythms + Routines Are Currently Working For Us in our everyday lives, too. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs. 

Friends, grab your notepad and pen before you hit play on this one. Licensed professional counselor, renowned author, and co-host of the Raising Boys and Girls podcast Sissy Goff (!) is with us today—and you're going to want to write down everything she says. Sissy is both a beacon of light and a wealth of tangible advice. We chat about fostering deep connections with our kids, guiding children toward self-confidence, and even some simple steps to change the trajectory of our families if we need a restart on the path toward healing. Sissy's encouragement is equal parts practical and profound, and she saves her best piece of advice for last. We hope this conversation gives you reassurance and hope for parenting the exact kid(s) God knew you needed. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. We wish more people knew about Sissy Goff! We Wish More People Knew About This bonus episode, too! For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

How do we guide our kids as they grow up in a world where the internet is infused in practically everything they touch? Today, renowned researcher Dr. Jean Twenge joins us for an eye-opening conversation about how smartphones are affecting kids—and also us. We chat about the link between social media and depression, how boys and girls are influenced differently, and how screen time affects younger children. While this topic can often feel overwhelming and/or doomsday-esque, Dr. Twenge offers us a good mix of tangible suggestions, practical tips, and the much-needed reminder that we need to model healthy relationships with our own smartphones first. Whether you're already navigating the phone situation with your older teens, or rocking babies and not thinking about any of this yet, we hope this episode informs and encourages you as you continue making decisions around technology in your home. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Speaking of bonus episodes—join us next week in Substack for Kids & Technology (Our Version), where Ashlee and Katie break down their biggest takeaways from this episode, and share more of their personal experiences navigating technology-related decisions with their kids. Need to set up more healthy habits for yourself and your family? Check out our bonus episode, Rhythms + Routines Working For Us. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

Does getting your entire family around the table feel impossible at times? Between long commutes and conflicting sports schedules, nursing babies and pure exhaustion, there are plenty of reasons why we struggle to get around the table—even though we know it matters. According to Katie's stellar research and our own at-home attempts, eating together can foster connection, protect mental health, reduce stress, and make room for intentional conversations. This episode is certainly not a how-to on proper meals and table manners (if you only knew!), but rather a new-ish practice in our homes we hope you can pull up a seat for. Remember, it doesn't matter what shade of beige you're feeding your family—quesadillas and Dino Nuggets count—as long as you're serving it with a side of grace. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. Need recipe ideas for family dinner? We've got you covered.  Need better talking points around the table? Check out our bonus episode, How To Ask Better Questions. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.   

Tap, tap. Is this thing on? We're officially back after a looooong (unplanned) break, which is why we're kicking this episode off with an official State of the Podcast address. Thank you for your grace and patience with us! Today we're diving into the annoyances that don't bother us (as much) as they once did. You'll hear how Ashlee's no longer rattled by crying babies, how Katie's proudly sporting tank tops (get it, girl!), and how Jill is learning to let go of what others think of her. Whether you're someone who's easily irked—like two-thirds of us—or you stroll through life unruffled, we hope this conversion encourages you to feel less flustered by, or maybe even fully free of, something that's been getting under your skin.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party (and get bonus episodes!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For a more in-depth conversation about what's been happening behind the scenes of the podcast, we share more in this bonus episode. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

From friendship gestures to body confidence to learning how to rest, in this episode we share a few small acts—done by us and others—that have left a big mark. Ashlee acknowledges the gift of putting down forks and being fully present, Katie gives us the lowdown on the five-minute phone call, and Jill shares her conviction to finally put on the swimsuit and jump in the lake. We hope this episode encourages you to take a quick inventory of the little things that are actually big things in your own life, too! This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party. For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.  

Is there anything better than reading a good book over summer vacation? Today, we're sharing our latest favorites—from easy-breezy reads to life-changing memoirs. Whether you gravitate toward practical non-fiction, or prefer the poetry of a well-written novel, we've got you covered. We hope these recs inspire you to head to the library (or fill up that ever-growing Amazon cart) ASAP in search of stories that move you. Happy summer. Happy reading. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party. For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

Today we're talking about the important–and sometimes misrepresented–topic of adoption. Katie chats with Becky (an adoptive mom) and Jamie (an adoptee) about the complexities and layers of this calling that most of the world never sees.  Becky shares the steep learning curve of being an adoptive parent, but also the undeniable gifts and joys God has shown her along the way. Jamie speaks honestly about the grief she's walked through, sheds light on some common misconceptions about adoption, and moves us deeply when she talks about embracing her belovedness. Although adoption plays a different role in each of these women's lives, both have come to the same conclusion: God's grace is abundant, and He is in the business of making things new.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party. For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.  

From soccer mom acquaintances to soul sisters, today we're talking about different kinds of friendships and all things friendship with author and podcaster, Laura Tremaine. We chat about making friends a priority, believing the best in each other, and the less fun (but necessary!) stuff like navigating DTRs, friendship reckonings, and even break-ups. Plus, Laura shares a few tips for meeting new friends on the internet. (Did you know your C+C hosts met each other online!?) We hope this conversation inspires you to take a few minutes to pursue and appreciate the beautiful friendships in your own life. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party. For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.  

From the nitty gritty logistics to the right heart posture, today we're talking all things hospitality. Sparkling floors and perfectly fluffed pillows: optional. Inviting people into our homes, as is, for real connection and real conversation: essential. Whether you enjoy cooking a beautiful three-course meal, or you'd rather serve store-bought cookies on a paper plate, we hope this episode encourages you to welcome old and new friends—and maybe that neighbor you keep meaning to talk to—into your life, mess and all. Plus, Katie gives a very convincing argument on why sheet pan nachos are the perfect food to serve any crowd.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party. For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

We vacuum crumbs only to have little hands drop more on the floor, and we try to figure out what's for dinner (again!). At times, the monotony of being a mom can leave us wondering: does this even matter? Today, Jill and Katie talk with Coffee + Crumbs writer and author of All Who Are Weary, Sarah Hauser, who reminds us that although so much of motherhood goes unseen, God notices ordinary faithfulness and can use the most mundane moments for his glory. If you're feeling weary, we hope this conversation refreshes your soul and reminds you that you're seen, you're deeply loved, and your work matters. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party. For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

After a loooong winter hiatus, we're back just in time to celebrate the launch of Ashlee's book, Create Anyway, which is now officially out in the wild (!). From infusing art into the most mundane tasks to reframing creativity as a posture, today we're chatting about how creativity has changed us (and our mothering!) for the better. Plus, Katie and Ashlee get a little teary-eyed talking about photography. We hope this episode reminds you that creativity is valuable and worth carving out space for—not in spite of motherhood, but because of motherhood. In other news at Coffee + Crumbs, our Spring Collection is here! Head over to coffeeandcrumbs.net/spring-collection to check it out. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Substack community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $3/month, head to coffeeandcrumbs.substack.com to join the party. For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

In our last episode of 2022, please queue up the dramatic music and prep the stage for an imaginary awards ceremony celebrating the best moments, products, and people that have brightened our year. From the natural deodorant that doesn't leave Jill smelling like greek salad (lol) to the bike shorts that made Katie finally realize she's not as insecure as she used to be—most of these awards are silly, but some of them are meaningful, too. We hope this lighthearted conversation inspires you to create your own Best of 2022 list for the year!  Be sure to listen to the end for a few announcements about some exciting new changes coming to Coffee + Crumbs in 2023. For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

What is it like to be sober in a society that glamorizes and makes light of drinking so often, especially in correlation with motherhood? Today we're chatting with Dana Bowman—a mother in recovery—who shares how she once found validation in “Wine Mom” culture, before hitting rock bottom in 2014. Through the honest lens of her own experience, Dana offers some alternative ways we can approach conversations, hospitality, and even social media posts more empathetically, to support those struggling with alcohol use.  If you think you or a loved one is struggling with alcohol use, we hope this episode meets you with grace and encourages you to take the next right step toward health and healing.    This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

From five-dollar simple pleasures to the splurges that were totally worth it, today we're sharing a few of our favorite things. While Jill teaches us how to level up our at-home spa game (hello, eucalyptus shower spray!), Katie is here to convince us that mushroom coffee is definitely worth trying. Plus, Ashlee's undying love for the weighted blanket continues, per her confession of hauling all fifteen pounds of it when she travels. Whatever you fill your cart with this week, we hope you have a cozy and happy Thanksgiving! This episode is not sponsored by Aquaphor (or anyone for that matter), but it probably could have been. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

Today we're talking with Aundi Kolber—a mother, professional counselor, and author—about motherhood and trauma. For many of us, trauma is a word we have reserved for people who have gone through life-altering, dangerous, or abusive experiences, and we have never given attention to the “little t traumas” that add up over a lifetime. No matter where you are, or what you've survived, Aundi compassionately walks us through this important conversation on honoring your story, learning how to be a mother even if you didn't have a great example, and taking care of yourself so you can, in turn, take care of others. You'll also learn a few ways to parent with empathy, so you can guide your children through their own pain. Whether you've endured a devastating circumstance, or many months of overwhelm, we hope this episode encourages you to make space for healing. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

In this honest and vulnerable episode, Katie talks with Sonya, Melanie, and Julie, three Coffee + Crumbs team members who were all diagnosed with breast cancer between 2020 and 2022. You'll hear how all of these women felt or discovered something abnormal on their own and advocated for themselves to follow up on their intuition. You'll listen in on the emotions that accompanied the agony of waiting for test results. They'll let us in on how they shared the news with their kids. And mostly, you'll hear from each of these women how cancer has forever changed them.  This episode takes us up close to women who have had a life-altering diagnosis, and our hope is that by listening, we can all learn empathy, compassion, or – if this diagnosis is yours – a way to walk forward with both courage and grace for yourself.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

Do you ever feel like you spend too much time on your phone? Today we're chatting with author Hannah Brencher about her 1,000 Unplugged Hours Challenge and how her creativity, marriage, and mothering have flourished since she's started putting down her phone more often. Unplugging isn't always easy (no more scrolling during date night arguments!), but as Hannah gently reminds us, there's plenty of life to enjoy, even when we're unavailable to the rest of the world. Whether you print Hannah's tracker sheet, or simply take a quick inventory of your own habits, we hope this conversation encourages you to reclaim more of the beautiful life in front of you.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

Today we're diving into the nuance of technology—acknowledging the good parts (access to information! efficiency! staying connected!) and the hard parts (overstimulation! addiction! lack of boundaries!). Plus, we take a sweet stroll down memory lane into some 90's nostalgia. Whether you're a tech guru or a digital minimalist, we hope this conversation encourages you as you continue navigating how to use the Internet wisely in 2022.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

It's the last episode of the season, and today we're chatting about what makes a Fun Mom™. Confession: two out of three of us struggle with this, but we're tapping into our younger selves and discovering what makes us feel light and free. Everything from riding scooters with our kids, to simply creating spaces that empower them to find the magic themselves. Whether you're the mom dancing around the house wearing a feather boa or the mom simply orchestrating opportunities for delight behind the scenes, we hope this episode helps you embrace whatever type of unique fun YOU bring to your family. After all, fun is the opposite of frivolous—it's rooted in joy, and we could all use an extra dose of that. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

It's the last episode of the season, and today we're chatting about what makes a Fun Mom™. Confession: two out of three of us struggle with this, but we're tapping into our younger selves and discovering what makes us feel light and free. Everything from riding scooters with our kids, to simply creating spaces that empower them to find the magic themselves. Whether you're the mom dancing around the house wearing a feather boa or the mom simply orchestrating opportunities for delight behind the scenes, we hope this episode helps you embrace whatever type of unique fun YOU bring to your family. After all, fun is the opposite of frivolous—it's rooted in joy, and we could all use an extra dose of that. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

Today's episode is a bit more vulnerable than our regularly scheduled programming. We're sharing a few honest stories about moments we wish we could take back, change, or at the very least, do over. While we don't want to live in a perpetual state of should've, could've, would've—these moments have refined us and taught us something, which is why we're sharing them with you today. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For show notes, go to coffeeandcrumbs.net/podcast. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

Disclaimer: You may fill up your Amazon cart by the end of this episode (we did). Today, we're talking about our favorite books of 2022 (so far) and what we're excited to read with our feet up in lounge chairs this summer. From novels, to classics, to non-fiction books that challenge us to live more peaceful and joyful lives, we're covering all sorts of categories—but we seem to be finding our groove in food memoirs?! Here's to stories that shape and change us in the best ways. Can't wait to hear what you've been reading, too. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

With summer around the corner, today we're sharing our best tips and tricks for traveling with kids. From packing an extra pacifier (in a different suitcase!) to always, always, always packing plastic bags—these travel hacks are, of course, inspired by personal experience. We also share our favorite mantras, lessons we learned the hard way, and the travel MVPs we've added to our bags of tricks over the years. Plus, you'll hear Ashlee and Katie gasp in disbelief at Jill's gross-but-heartwarming story about something a stranger did for her at an airport. This episode is sponsored by our favorite travel MVP of all time: SNACKS. (Just kidding. We have no sponsors. This episode is brought to you by our Patrons. As always.) Whether you're heading out for a long weekend or an international adventure this summer, we hope you have a memorable time! Don't forget: just say no to supersize Gatorade.    For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

We're honored to have Shekea Moreno on the show today, shining some light on the holy work of praying for our kids. We chat about why prayer is so important in the first place, some ideas for what to pray about (besides the one we all know a little too well: our kids' obedience

From less-than-perfect dental hygiene to hoarding half a dozen beverages on the nightstand, today we're dishing about the little quirks that make us who we are, inspired by the “I Can't Be The Only One” chapter of Amy Krause Rosenthal's Textbook. Join us for a number of (mostly shallow but occasionally deep) confessions, including but not limited to: throw up foods, the sheer satisfaction of carrying groceries in from the car in a single trip, and our complicated feelings around Botox and TikTok.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

Life can be, well, a lot. We all know we need to take care of ourselves, but sometimes we get stuck in toxic rhythms, and need a little help from our friends to turn things around. From practical habits to lessons we've learned the hard way—today we're having an honest conversation about the importance of nurturing our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Reminder: we aren't experts! We're simply three friends sharing notes as we go and hoping this episode encourages you as you fill your own cup this week.  This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!). For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs.

After a winter hiatus, we're easing back into our show today with a lighthearted conversation about some of our favorite “game changers.” From meal prep and cordless vacuum cleaners, to Costco delivery and professional counseling—today we're sharing a handful of hacks, products, and strategies that have made a difference in our daily lives. Plus, Katie and Ashlee get into a lively debate about cold exposure, and Jill explains why we're all obsessed with Voxer. For more encouragement in your motherhood journey, check out the stories at Coffee + Crumbs. This show is brought to you ad-free by our generous and loving Patreon community. If you'd like to support the work we do for as little as $1/month, head to Patreon.com/coffeeandcrumbs to join the party (where we host discussions after every episode, offer bonus content, and more!).