Confessions of a Recovering Micromanaging Perfectionist Martyr

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After over eighteen years of parenting four children, these are the 12 most important things I've come to learn from our kids…

That nagging voice that tells me I should break my own rules—what if it isn't evil, but the echo of a deep-rooted need trying to get my attention.

If I feel uncomfortable or unsafe because people aren't being treated with kindness and respect—I've simply gotta do this…

Generation after generation, it's just lesson after lesson getting cut and pasted into new families. But, maybe it's time for this…

Abuse in a relationship, anxiety, depression, addiction, poor self-care—they can creep in over time and become very settled into everyday life. This is what I can do about it…

Fear is going to show up, but instead of inviting it in, I can do this…

It turns out, taking time to do THIS is the perfect antidote to combat the negative scrutiny of both myself and others.

I struggle when I think advocating for myself might hurt someone else's feelings, but after years of avoiding conflict and being gaslighted, it's time for a little of this…

I'm constantly getting messages that I should do things differently from the people in my life, but am I really wrong? Not even close…

There's a difference between getting what I deserve in a relationship, and always demanding more. Just like someTHING else, someONE else is simply never going to heal the emptiness inside of me. But this can…

There were many years there when I forced my will on the entire family without even realizing it. Then, I learned how to do this…

Sometimes I assume someone needs my help before waiting for them to ask for it. When I do this, three issues pop up…

I spent many hours helping people I never really wanted to assist in the first place. When it came to having to look at my attitude around giving, there were questions I had to ask myself…

If I make someone's assertiveness about their tone, or how they go about getting their needs met, THIS can happen…

It turns out, I don't have an issue with peace and quiet, my real issue is feeling like I need THIS before I can do what I want to do…

Those tears were welling up due to a vulnerability that I hold deep within me. Friends, this is what was making me to cry…

It used to be my understanding that if someone was a routined-person, you best not mess with their routine. Boy, did I need this lesson in my life…!

What if, instead of going in with hard intensity, I went in soft? What if I was gentle right from the beginning? Would that yield different results? Click to read more…

This little negative voice pops in my brain and tries to convince me that I'm not strong enough, fast enough, or going hard enough. Really? I didn't wake up at 5:30 am for this crap.

A lot of people give with strings attached. So many strings, I've choked on all those strings. But, I don't have to live my life like that…

Pointing out someone's mistakes makes people feel bad. My being right is never more important than this…

I've been compromising my pace in this relationship for this long simply because I didn't understand what was going on.

Since I don't have a clue, these women model what it looks like to take care of myself. They set an example of what it looks like to do this...

A Thanksgiving reminder that inauthentic questions are a form of manipulation.

As I try to get honest about the chaos I create in my life, it's becoming clear that all these bright ideas complicate the you-know-what out of my life.

In a world where I almost always feel like I can't go fast enough, maybe I just needed someone to tell me that it's ok for me to be slow. And now, I have a new lease on life.

What if the opposite were true? What if our kids are only as happy as their least happy parent? Then what happens?

Children and adults are constantly crumbling beneath the demands of life in 2021. This is what I can do to help everyone around me...

How to make life simpler by doing less. You don't know how to do less? Neither did I, until I heard about this...

Tire of no one listening? Stop investing your energy into proving yourself and instead try this...

How to, “Tap into the infinite organizing power of the universe to do less and accomplish everything.”

If it weren't for my husband and some other wise folks, I'd be a bonafide, full-fledged dream crusher. But instead, I can do this...

Years ago I used to take whatever was going on in my day out on other people. Now, when I'm extra ragey with my family, I can do this… 

When it's difficult for me to stick to something, if I want to feel better about myself and have self-confidence, I have to this...

When I feel myself creating chaos in an attempt to simplify our lives, I can just do this...

It's never too late to de-monster a friend or family member, you just have to do this...

If your 'to-do' list is causing you stress, try this quick 5 Step process so you can get back in control the projects, rather than the projects controlling you.

A sense of urgency might be a sign that I feel trapped, and this is something I can do about it.

It's nice to get approval from the people I love, but it's not at all necessary.

When a tree falls in the forest it DOES make a sound, but am I listening?

If I stuff my emotions I can get to where I'm shoving them down so much that tears just leak out of my face—or worse, they spill out as anger, or even rage.

Everyone in the family knows exactly what to do when we're in Survival Mode—lower the crap out of your expectations of Mom and Dad

What's an Empathy Keeper? I'll give you a hint, it's exhausting work that involves celebrating and comforting everyone around you.

No one in this house is made to feel guilty, or called “selfish” when they care for their own needs.

In my codependent relationship with technology, experts say I need to just admit I'm looking to my computer for my self-worth.

Whether it's my day, my vacation, my life—it doesn't matter, if I focus on the bad, I'm going to feel bad. And sometimes the only way to shake it is to do this...

Why is it that whenever one of my children is particularly kind and loving to me, I immediately assume they're up to something?

If I'm an adult with reading issues, knowing and understanding my limitations is one clear step towards not pretending like I can handle all of this.

What I can do about being in a perpetual state of overwhelm due to the fact that I simply cannot grasp and execute the technique of Good Enough.

Why running late flips all my foibles and what I can do about it.