Love, Growth, and Freedom

After letting go of what no longer serves us, we're often left in an in-between space—unsure, ungrounded, and asking, Who am I now? In this episode, I'm joined by my partner Liam as we explore what it means to reconnect with ourselves after major life shifts. Together, we reflect on our own journeys through change, identity, and rediscovery—both individually and within our relationship.We talk about rediscovering old passions, trying new things, embracing solitude, and rebuilding trust in our own voices. This episode is an invitation to slow down, reflect, and begin the journey back—not to your past self, but to the version of you that's unfolding now.Because sometimes, finding your way back to yourself isn't about going backward—it's about meeting yourself right where you are, with a little more honesty, grace, and love.

Letting go is never easy—whether it's an old habit, a fading friendship, or even a past version of ourselves. In this episode, we dive into the emotional weight of releasing what no longer aligns with us, from outgrowing relationships to grieving the parts of ourselves that once felt fearless and full of life.This episode will be an honest, heartfelt conversation about embracing change—not as loss, but as an opportunity to make space for something new. And maybe, just maybe, we're not losing parts of ourselves, but transforming into something we've yet to understand.Join me as I reflect, share personal stories, and explore how to let go with grace, self-compassion, and a little bit of hope.

Life is a constant journey of growth, transformation, and self-discovery. In this episode, we explore the ever-changing phases of our lives and the unending versions of who we are. From childhood dreams to unexpected life shifts, we discuss how experiences shape us, why we outgrow certain identities, and how to embrace the uncertainty of becoming.We dive into the challenges of change, the emotional weight of leaving old versions of ourselves behind, and the beauty of evolving into someone new. Through personal reflections and thought-provoking insights, we encourage you to embrace your own transformation and trust the process of becoming who you're meant to be.Tune in for a deep, honest conversation about growth, reinvention, and the power of embracing change. Let me know your thoughts, share some of them through IG or Tiktok @Adrian_drte or my email adrianlimduarte@gmail.com

“As Life Happens”Welcome back to Love, Growth, and Freedom! After two years of navigating major life changes, I'm finally back with a fresh perspective. Life happened—I moved overseas, started a new career in Melbourne, and have been on a journey to create a life that feels authentic to me.In this episode, I reflect on the biggest lessons I've learned: • You don't need one grand dream—sometimes, you build it as you go. • Moving abroad means shedding old versions of yourself to grow into something new. • Stop worrying about what others think—it's your life to live, not theirs. • The love you cultivate within yourself radiates into all your relationships. • Reflection and gratitude help shape both your past and future.Life moves fast when you start making choices for yourself. Through all the change, never lose sight of your core self. Shift your perspective, embrace the lessons, and step boldly into your next chapter.If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs a reminder that change is part of the journey. Subscribe for more reflections on personal growth, and stay tuned for our next episode, where we explore the ever-evolving versions of who we are. See you next time!

It's easy to get caught up in negativity—focusing on what went wrong, what didn't happen, or the worst-case scenarios our minds instinctively create. But what about the good? In this episode, we explore the power of shifting perspectives and practicing gratitude for the successes, joys, and meaningful experiences we've achieved throughout the year. We'll dive into why we often overlook the positives, how to combat the guilt of catastrophizing, and practical ways to embrace a more balanced mindset. Tune in to reclaim your joy and celebrate your journey, no matter how imperfect it may seem!

We live in a society that celebrates being busy, from jumping from one goal to another. But to live our lives fully is up to us. With every moment we have, we are allowed to stop and enjoy the life we have created for ourselves while acknowledging all the things and people that helped us to be this version of ourselves.

Life's challenges come in waves and so do our growth. As we encounter different scenarios in our lives that encourage us to view things differently and make us go through growing pains; these are crucial parts of building and rediscovering who we are. With the tides, we change. A new era for this podcast and a new and reinvigorated version of me to share with you.

In this episode, we dive deep into the rollercoaster of emotions that come with moving to a new place. From the thrilling anticipation of something new to the tough emotional hurdles during the transition, we explore it all. We'll talk about the ups and downs of making connections, trying to create a cozy home in unfamiliar surroundings, and dealing with those pangs of loneliness and homesickness. I'll share some strategies to cope and highlight how this journey can transform you, nudging personal and emotional growth.

In the spirit of acknowledging a new phase in my life, I have decided to discuss the struggles of being away from home. Dealing with the pressures of adult life, and the realities of being far away from the life I have always known. In this episode, I discuss my thought process and reasons for leaving. The perfect quote that encompasses this feeling and reasoning is from the book "101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think" by Brianna WiestShe said: " Make plans to build the life you want, not because you hate the one you have, but because you're in love with the person you know you want to become."Which hit me hard and made me realize that it is because I am becoming the person I've always wanted to be growing up. In this series, I'll take you through my journey and realisations as someone living my life away from home. Navigating through creating a home away from home.

Living life as an adult has been exhausting. Going through the motions, making sure everything is in line. Paying the bills, managing your social life and finding time to take care of yourself, is a tedious task. And sometimes you feel like you want to do more, or be more. That's all part of it, and it's all right, sometimes all we have to do is keep taking the day head on and work on what we can and build around it when we can. Be compassionate toward yourself, you're doing great sweetie.

Sometimes we forget that negative emotions are part of the human experience, regardless of your circumstances. You can feel sad even when things are going great. And sometimes It's hard to admit you're unhappy in parts of your life because it makes you feel guilty and then you gaslight yourself instead of facing it. Allow yourself to feel your emotions and remember you live and experience your life for you. Lots of love everyone!

As life gets hectic and as we have to fulfill our responsibilities to ourselves and the people around us. We struggle to live up to people's expectations and even our own. We strive to live life as much as we can juggling one thing after the other thinking that slowing down will stunt our growth and progress. The truth is, slowing down gives us the opportunity to take a step back and look at how far we've come, and also just plainly exist in a world that tells you to keep going until you break. Appreciate the time you have to slow down and just have the moment to enjoy your time.

It's clichè but life happens and life gets in the way. There are multiple instances in our lives that occur when we least expect it and it's just not what we're expecting and hoping for. And those experiences may cause us heartache and pain and holds up a mirror to our face that fills us with doubt and forces us to judge ourselves harshly. But maybe things happen to us because of a myriad reasons, we don't get what we want, but receive what we need and things that made us today all the hardships we had to withstand are not what it seems.

In a fast paced world and social media connecting all of us through the screens on our phone, it's easy for us to forget about the reality we're in. The life we live through our own lenses and how we perceive our reality is grounded when you watch people around you. To wonder about the different lives each person leads and redirects you to the mundane and how this is what life is, not what we show and watch through social media.

This episode talks about how you can learn to acknowledge all aspects of yourself in order for you to understand that you have so much love within you that you become courageous enough to allow yourself to love and beloved by people around you.

In this episode we talk about how unique our timelines are and how we can fully grasp the intricate details of our lives and align what's within to the things around us. We tackle about dancing to the beat of your own dreams and to genuinely live a life that is perfectly designed for you and you alone.

We were taught and really influenced that working hard is the only thing important in this world, to work hard against all odds and abandon the inner voices. We were told not to listen to our inner voices and to just follow blindly the society and what they tell us what is important that we overlook the peace within ourselves and our resolve. In this episode we talk about how can we be ready to receive what is meant for us and how can we meet the universe halfway by aligning ourselves and influencing the energies around us.

Somehow when life hits hard and things start to become blurry it gets harder to face the music and deal with the things that haunt us. Fear is a part of life that keeps us alive but it also is the one that breeds doubt into our lives and what we can do. This episode hopes to unravel that fears are okay and doubts will come and shame will take over but just like the good things this is not forever. Please take the time to reflect on how far you've come.

Sometimes we have to allow good things to happen despite the fear we have of it. I think it's natural for us to look into the worst case scenario as a way to protect ourselves when the things we want don't actually happen the way we want to. So as a defense we nip it in the bud before it causes us much more pain and sorrow. But then I realized that by doing so, we stop so many good things from happening because of this fear. I learned to allow myself to revel in the good and have a wonderful moments of life whether I'm certain of it or not. The moment I did that, I found much more joy and love for the inevitable highs and lows of life. That's when. I took the risk to love someone else other than myself, to let myself get to know and see Guil for all that he is. I hope you enjoy this episode just as much as I did, a big leap for me for sure.

Things always change and that when it does we have to be ready to change with it as well. We learn and adapt to survive, to be better and to do better. Working to understand and make sense of the world around us will never stop so we have to continue the process of learning as we live because we owe to ourselves to live mindfully and with intention. I missed doing this so much and I hope you enjoy this as much as I do.`

An episode with Karina Dayrit that tackles about how we could deal with the idea of bad things that happen to us and into learning how to understand that blaming other people and circumstance rarely help us find peace in these situations. A little sprinkle also on Karina's new music Mercury Retrograde out in spotify now! Perfect tie up with this episode! A fun play on words and dealing with the things we end up blaming.

In this special episode, we'll be talking about how we could use the fear of the uncertain to our advantage. How to deal with the fears that we have of the future, and how to be brave enough to handle all this. I know it's been a while since our last episode but I hope this one gives you the strength and courage to brave all the things you want for the coming year! Much love to you!

I called in a friend of mine to talk with me about loneliness because I was interested in how it looks and feels like for other people. We tackled on how loneliness is and what makes us lonely and how we deal with it. Hopefully this episode helps in its own way to understand what loneliness is for you.

A raw and vulnerable discussion on what loneliness could be like for one person. Taking in different perspectives of what loneliness feels like and how to deal with this feeling. So sit back and grab a cup of whatever while listening to this. A conversation between friends, confidantes and thyself.

Take it a day at a time.  This episode stands as a reminder for each one of us to ground ourselves back into our now and allow things to flow. That instead of looking too far ahead and worrying about things that hasn't happened yet we deal with what we can each day. Not going too hard on ourselves and allowing space to grow.  It's always rushed  With everything that's going on, with social media on blast day after day we can't help but put ourselves in a position of much stress and pressure. We aim for the skies and we want them to happen overnight, we plan for the future expecting big changes to happen in a blink of an eye. Everything seems like it's easy to gain because of what we see but that isn't the truth. A lot of these things you see took time, effort and a whole lot of work in shadows. Mostly these people you see took it a day at a time.  We have to stop glorifying of much of the things we see in social media and aim for it even without putting in the work. What we can do to change this is find out how we could live “OUR” lives, our paths a day at a time. I know it's great to dream, it's amazing to want grand things for yourself but you have to work for it, and sometimes thinking too far ahead paralyzes you in both fear and excitement that you don't get to do the things that you should be doing now in order to reach those goals. That you worry too much of how it will all happen without even figuring out what is it you need to do now.   I'm an overthinker  I use this line, a day at a time or a step at a time whenever I spiral into overthinking. I usually have moments when I'm alone and just with my thoughts that I start to ruminate. Ruminating is a process of thinking about the past and the future too much. Overanalyzing what was and all the what ifs. This usually starts when I get so overwhelmed with what's happening with my life which happens a lot, and sometimes when nothing's happening I start thinking maybe I'm not doing enough. So whenever this gets to me I have to pull away, take a walk and revisit my tasks for the day, my immediate goals and where I choose to go. From there I get to really take it one day at a time.  Your thoughts have power  I also realized that whenever I let myself go deep into my thoughts I start Catastrophizing everything, a process in which you  create negative outcomes about things that have already happened and is about to happen. You start to instill so much fear that it may actually cause things to be a disaster.  When I say your thoughts have power, it has such power to affect your perception, communication and situations in ways you couldn't imagine. It becomes a magnet of what you thought and it can turn it into reality. So with taking it a day at a time you also get to realize that it wasn't so bad after all, that it could also go so many different directions that could be good for you.    Even when I don't know what to do yet I have faith that I will somehow, with each day that passes where I show up for myself and stay in my present I will find my way. I understand how scary things are and how it all could be so bad and cruel but the truth about all this is we don't have control of what has already happened. We can't change the past but only learn from it, yet we also can't be certain of the future and what it brings, we only can hope. The only thing we have control of is how we live each day of our lives. Building the little puzzle pieces as we move forward, checking which piece fits the puzzle and which works for us. And focusing your energy on the things that you could do today, changes so much of what the future holds for you. Do good now, reap what you sow.   But be reminded that even if everything seems so out of reach, put in the work and your big break will come through. You are the one that lives your life each and every day so don't ever compare your life to other's life. They have their own things to worry about and so do you. Focus on getting better, focus on living each day aligned to your calling and purpose.   How can you live a day at a time: 1. Look after yourself -      Selfcare is a must, tending to yourself is a must. 2.  Be mindful-      Live with intentions, and practice being present avoid the autopilot3. Keep a journal-      Write down the good and the bad of your days to keep track and practice to be present.4. Let go of the what ifs-      Try not to worry too much of the future, let's cross the bridge when we get there. 5. Set achievable daily goals-      Set daily goals to build up morale and feel that each day brings about new things. 6.  Celebrate small wins-      Big or small these are still wins, the fact you do something to change and grow each day is a huge thing. 7. Remember you can never take a day back. ★ Support this podcast ★

It's okay to not have it all figured outLife is very erratic, unexpected and unpredictable we can't hold on to something forever and things won't always go exactly the way we planned it.Growing up I thought that everything just goes smoothly and one way up. You go to school, you do great in school You get a good job that pays and swoosh You're going to live your happily ever after working every day of your life just to sustain what you thought is life.As I went into adulthood I thought I tailed myself and my family because I wasn't the typical gitted child who graduated with honors and got a nice corporate job that will pay for everything I need or even overflow.Then that's when I got pressured and I went on about how come I don't have it all figured out. I pushed myself hard. chasing the dreams of other people like it was mine. I banked on other people's idea of success other than my own. But it was all relative, success, money and everything else. I got jobs that paid oway, some that didn't and most of the time I felt demotivated and lost doing these jobs. I felt like a robot just getting by each and every day with no hope and zest for life. But no one ever told me that I would long for meaning and purpose. That most of my adult life I'd be spending most of my time figuring things out.Now that I've been open to a lot more experiences and other things there is more to life than actually having it all figured out, because life in it's essence is all about navigating through various streams of emotions, work, and figuring but your place in this world.And as the world go round things continue to change, people collectively continue to grow.★ Support this podcast ★

How to cope with ghosting? Objective: A lot of the struggles about ghosting is now to cope and deal with it. How to feel the necessary emotions and regroup after this devastating phenomenon. Here are some of the ways we could bring ourselves to try and do to cope with this tragic phenomenon. Stop blaming yourselfGhosting often leads us to blame ourselves. we always resort to thinking maybe we could have done things differently so they wouldn't leave us. → Reflect and remember it may have to do more about them than you  → It's not your fault that the person can't handleThe relationship and maturely give you the truth. → They didn't leave just because of you they left without a word because they can't deal with the pressures of the relationship and their own resolve on this.   Face the reality Being ghosted brings about shame and unearths all the trauma from past rejections. And being ghosted makes us feel unseen, unheard and even unworthy.That's why it's important for us to face the music and see it for what it is. Ghosting is more about the ghost rather than the victim. → Start with self-compassion be kinder to yourself while this feels like it's all on you remember it takes two to tango. It's much as their fault than it is yours, but mostly on them and their personal issues that most of the time doesn't have much to do with us. → Recenter and ask the questions do they even match up with you?→ Grieve and feel the pain allow yourself to go through the experience. Choose yourself and build yourself up. It's not easy moving forward from an open ended ending but what you have to do to move forward is continue caring for yourself, invest in the things you love, become a person so far away from the past that you won't even recognize that person anymore. → Start investing on the people you love, and yourself. Reframe your mind about how you think of the ghost. They are the ones who violated the contract of maturity, that in turn tells you that they weren't right for you either.  → Find your resolve, get back on track focusing on self-care and compassion. → Build a healthier lifestyle and increase mindfulness to be able to create an atmosphere of accepting things for what they areWhen you focus on you, you attract the same people who practice the same values as you do.★ Support this podcast ★

Why do people ghost? ObjectiveIt's so obvious that ghosting has been prevalent in modern times and has caused a lot of hearts to silently ache with no resolutions in sight. This episode seeks to discuss what ghosting is and what it means to be ghosted to fully grasp its purpose and have a little glimpse of how we could handle it. What is ghosting?The act of completely vanishing from a person's life without saying goodbye after efforts of building a relationship. Ways of breaking up. ·    Self-blame·    Open Confrontation·    Avoidance·    Cost escalation·    Mediated communication ·    Ghosting   Ghosting is more about the ghost rather than the victim.Ghosts usually have unresolved issues or have trouble expressing themselves that they couldn't be honest with you or themselves It speaks more about their character than you.   Why it hurts it causes so much confusion and begins to take a toll on the haunted. If they aren't mentally in a good place they can spiral out. Lastly the lack of closure leaves so much questions.  Effects of ghosting·    Causes the ghostee (haunted) to self-doubt·    Will impact how they look at relationships·    To some extent emotional trauma ★ Support this podcast ★

 Building my habits and my dream life.   Objective:  Life will always be unpredictable and a lot of the time we'll be faced with different situations that would require us to adjust and recenter ourselves frequently. In this episode we'd talk about how building habits help us to be resilient and adjust to change easier than we used to!    I'm a believer of the small habits you build, make your life. That if you are to be trusted and responsible for the little things you are capable of the bigger things.   Why are habits important?   Habits is directly related to longevity. Running the marathon of life rather than sprinting it and losing the will to live half way. Your habits will help recenter you.  Why did I start changing my habits? Was I bad? Was I someone who wasn't doing what I'm meant to be? I love my life, I make sure I live the most out of it but I knew I could do and be more. There things that I was literally choosing over and I had to think if my will power to improve and grow is stronger than me enjoying my comfort. I wanted to live up to how my life is beautiful by making myself worthy of the life I'm living and choose to create for me.   How to change your habits?  Notes: ·       Identify all your goals both personal and work. ·       See what habits you have to change in order for you to achieve those goals of yours. (SMART) ·       Take control over your habits: Your brain can't tell the difference between bad and good habits. ·       Use The Golden Rule to produce the right changes: 1: Use the same cue 2: CHANGE THE ROUTINE! 3: Provide the same reward. How to stick to your habits  Start small – build your confidence in doing little tasks and changes that you can attain first. Don't forget to celebrate that small win. Identify your weaknesses and excuses – What are the usual things that hinder your from making this habit stick? What do you usually do or say to let you get off the hook for accountability this time?   Activate your new habits – make sure you set yourself up to succeed. Prepare all you need, even mentally reminding yourself of the things and habits you need to try and keep. Hype yourself up, prepare days ahead or really push yourself pass that breaking point of doing it and standing up by your word.   Expect failure – Expect that the first few tries the habit you're trying to keep won't stick, your excuses will become stronger and will tell you to stop because you're failing. Keep going, you failing just means you haven't found what works for you yet, and use it to your advantage.   Keep track – List down the habits you're trying to keep and have a checklist of it daily so that you have a tangible record and proof of your success and failures and even can help you track why there were days you couldn't keep that habit.  ★ Support this podcast ★

Living my life as if I'm already living the dream Objective:  As we prepare and get ourselves ready how should you live up to your life? What are the things you could do to embody and visualize the life you're dreaming of and wanting for yourself? In this episode we'll talk about the ways to envision and embody the life we aim to have!  Once you're prepared in your off season, already grounded and centered also fully understanding of what you could achieve and be. This is the time for your to manifest your life!  Why do we do this?  To align our spirits and energies for what we ask for. When you're ready and already living within your means and still really trying to reach the top, it gets easier for you to reframe your perspective about life. You become more present, you enjoy more of your life and you realize you're dream life isn't too far away after all.  We get caught up with reaching the tops of our mountain that we miss on the opportunity of enjoying every bit of the journey that makes life worth living. We forget to enjoy that success in taking the first step, we forget the mundane because we're so used to it and have our focus set elsewhere.   How can you work on this?  I tap into the universe by living each day of my life as if I'd already achieved all my dreams. ·    With gratefulness·    With grit and passion of pursuing growth ·    Understanding that we're lifelong learners and life's curve balls will never end.   I live as if my dreams are already fulfilled because You don't have to get ready when you stay ready. -Chichi DevayneMeaning you're always prepared to take a shot at the opportunities that go your way that contributes to your dream.  This kind of energy also attracts likeminded people in your life and also good energies and opportunities. Because you constantly seek growth it will come to you. When the student is ready the teacher appears.   What I learned from doing this?   Is that there were so many things in my life that weren't really aligned to who I wanted to be.  I had habits I need to develop and skills I need to learn to be that person in my future.  That I had more than I was thinking and it gave me peace and faith in the process I'm going through.  That the energy I put out there comes back to me, the more that I look into the bad, that's more of what I'll see.  That it may be difficult for all of us but living with intention and mindfully will help us be present and also with our sights in traveling to the path we wish to take. ★ Support this podcast ★

off-sea·sonnoun1.     a time of year when a particular activity, typically a sport, is not engaged in."during baseball's winter off-season"   Objective:  The wait is the most frustrating moment for most of us. We aim high and we do our best to reach our goals but sometimes we're faced with a not yet. That waiting season for our turn to get a seat at the table, to get the opportunity of our lifetime that will greatly affect how our future is going to be. Now what do should we do in this off season is what this episode will be about!  Flow: What is off season for me? Is that time of waiting or that time of conditioning and preparing for game day in most sports. When I use it in the general sense of life it's that waiting season, that process that “We should trust”. It looks different for everyone, it could be you waiting for your results from a school you applied for, you waiting for your visa or just you waiting to graduate. It's that waiting period before you go on and get grinding.  The thing is I think when people think about this, they just ultimately wait for their time to come. While that is encouraged and patience indeed is a virtue, there are so many things we have yet to learn. We need to keep ourselves ready.  Just like any sports and anything we do in our lives we have to prepare we have to get ourselves ready for what is to come. Instead of just waiting patiently there are areas of our lives that need transforming or tending to.  So on my off season, in the moment of waiting I seek growth in various directions. It may bring me to realizations and opportunities I have yet to uncover and unravel.   How I work on myself on my off season.  ·    I recenter and dig deep to understand what do I want. o  Since there isn't much that I can do to rush things I want to understand what is it that I really want, is the person I am today aligned to the goals and dreams of my future. o  Am I missing out on some signs about the lessons I should be learning? Am I missing out on my present life with the anticipation of what is to come.  ·    I condition myself to the life I choose. Looking for the things that I need to learn and grow during this off season o  What are the things that the future me should have as I work my way up to the life I've been dreaming to live.o  What habits should I try to have, how can I live a life aligned to my dreams. o  What do I imagine my future life would look like, what does a day in that future life look like. (As a form of manifestation)  ·    I tend to my relationships and celebrate the growth of people around me. o  I know that the anticipation of the future may take my time away from the people I have with me now. Sometimes I look forward to what I want neglecting and taking for granted the people I have with me now .o  While I wait I make sure to strengthen the relationships I have to keep the fire burning so that when I move on to the next chapter of my life, those who wish to stay through the journey will feel the love you have for them. o  We also have to understand that we live on borrowed time and we don't know when our lives will end so this is an important time to ground yourself in the now while holding out for your future.  ·    Constantly making an effort to be happy about the little things to prepare myself to be happy for the greater things to come. o  Now one of things I live by is that if you can be trusted with a little thing or happy with the simple stuff you can be trusted and enjoy the grander stuff that life has to offer. o  Now these detours, the wait may be uncomfortable but it is essential. o  So while we wait, we are taught to make a constant effort to find happiness in the spot we're in, while we anticipate of the happiness that is to come we don't forget to live in our present. o  To say that we truly lived every moment, we often forget so many things so quickly with the amount of things that could happen in a day. Can you even say that you were present and consciously happy throughout the most of it? Did you make the most of that day in your life? That present the universe has provided you.  ★ Support this podcast ★

 de·tour/ˈdēto͝or/Verb  detour; a deviation from a direct course or the usual procedure especially : a roundabout way temporarily replacing part of a route. detour. verb.  Objective:  One thing is true till the end of our lifetime is that life will always be uncertain. That whatever we set out or plan to do will not go exactly the way we planned. So this episode hopes to calm our minds amidst the storms of our lives and all the detours we take to get to the point of where we believe that we have reached our destination.  Flow: The destination isn't the end goal, because when you reach your destination you'd want more. ·    We often hear people say that no one will ever be satisfied. That we would always want more unless we effortfully seek contentment. ·    That when you reach the top of the mountain, you'll enjoy the view but you'll want to fly next, or you'll look for your next adventure, the never ending pursuit of happiness.  It's the process that we could enjoy and fully immerse ourselves in our lives. ·    It's the journey that matters most in our way to our dream life and the final stages of our life. ·    The process and journey is what makes us and what got us to the top. The people we meet the memories we make. And really being able to be present in our lives is one of the biggest flex.  Detours doesn't mean no, it could mean not yet and there is something better for you out there.  ·    Sometimes these detours lead us to our greater purposes in life. It could reveal a truth about ourselves we never really had a chance to work on because of being so focused on what we think we want. ·    Sometimes detours reveal the opportunities that we missed out on because of our hyperfocus on doing the things we do the way we want it.  It shifts our perspective, it shows us how much little we control in the lives we're living.  ·    When we're dead set on achieving something it we don't get it the way we intend to, it causes us too much stress and the more we resist it the harder it is for us to see the good that detours bring. ·    Detours opens our minds to new possibilities and that we should see these detours as a blessing. ·    Means we have so much more to learn in this chapter of our lives before moving forward. ·    Detours prepare us for better things. Last message: It's okay, you are where you're meant to be. ★ Support this podcast ★

After going through so many struggles, from thoughts of giving up, feeling lost and afraid, self-doubt and reaching the tipping point of things. It all takes a toll and sometimes we're left with a tough choice whether to save ourselves of the people we love. In this episode we'd hope to clarify why saving ourselves can end up saving more people in the long run.   I don't know about you but there's been so much talk about self-love lately that almost everywhere in social media we are reminded to put our needs first. I for one am also one of those who preach self-love and why being secure about yourself and the love for yourself saves you from so much heartache and pain.  How self-love is an act of saving yourself from future troubles and high expectations of people who'd end up disappointing you. Self-love really goes beyond just doing things alone, or buying things for the self. That's one aspect of it but what it really is, it is choosing to love yourself even when you don't feel like it, it's knowing your boundaries and walking away from things that destroy you, it's taking the time off when everything else get overwhelming. It's maintaining yourself in order for you to keep going and fighting through this tough world.   Let me tell you this, I wasn't the epitome of self-love back then, nor am I the perfect example now, but I am trying. Self-love is a process that never ends because each day you'd completely feel different about yourself and as you grow you'd have to learn how to love each and every part of yourself as you go.  There was a time in my life where I wanted to please everyone around me. I wanted to be that perfect son that got good grades and who does extracurriculars, who always has their shit together. I put out plans and shared it with other people with the hopes that I could fill the void inside me longing for the validation of others. I wanted everyone to love me, to like who I am. I had to say yes to things I didn't want in my life just so I could be “in”. To the point that I stay in relationships where the other person does not even seek to try and understand me and be with me. I begged for people to stay, I chased love and acceptance from everyone but me. Everything that I knew about me was more about the people around me than myself. I wanted everyone to be proud of every single decision in my life and unknowingly I became a passenger in my own life. Waiting on people, hoping on people to fill me with love, to exceed all my expectations of who they are only to be disappointed in the end. Then a point in my life came where so many changes had happened and what I used to know about myself, love, and the people around me was completely shattered. I was outed, I got cheated on and I lost people in my life who I thought would be with me for this lifetime. When these things were taken away from me, I never knew how broken I was, how much saving I needed because I was too busy saving them, living my life for them. When this happened I had to wander to different places to find pieces of me in the most unexpected places. It wasn't easy to shed the old parts of me and let them wither and die. I had to go through phases of a new life to be reborn. I started to sit down with myself and ask the questions, WHO AM I? WHAT AM I WORTH? AM I ALWAYS GOING TO BE HURT LIKE THIS?  I acted like I was the victim, of my own doings and the choices I made because that's what it seems. Then I realized that I have been giving so much of me than I am left empty and left for dead when all these people chose to walk away. I was never there for myself the way I was there for other people. I had to reclaim my life. I had to rediscover the things I dream of, the things I want for myself and all that I am capable of. I started doing things for me, going out to new places, joining events and seminars that spark my interest and even started to create contents, poetry and many more. I did all this while being afraid of what my future holds. Then it hit me my life will only unravel if I decided to take the wheel of my life. To save myself this time. At first I thought it was selfish but then again, I was told love  and over again that you can't give what you don't have, that in order to be someone that can love again I must first be filled with my own love. In order to save someone else I too must not need saving. So day by day I started saving myself, picking me up, telling myself how much I have survived and all the other things I can take power over.  So if you're here in this situation thinking of who should you be saving? This is the sign to choose you this time. That in order for you to live your life, to love freely and continue nurturing your growth and your relationships you have to care for YOU.  YOU DESERVE LOVE. ESPECIALLY THE LOVE YOU HAVE TO OFFER. Think of saving yourself from the heartaches, from people that seeks to crush your spirits and devour your soul. From situations that lead you to despair and find your way if you ever feel lost.  You have to dig deep within to find your center, then when you do, it's time for you to shine your light and let your north star guide you.  This is all easier said than done, but if this message resonates with you and gives you hope to find your way, please do. I believe that you already know how to save yourself, because you've been doing it for others for the longest time.  This is it, start asking the tough questions, start taking the steps to save you, to see how you could conquer the world by storm because you can. Now it may be tough and it seems like all the odds are stacked against you, just remember you being here today just means you got through most of your bad days, and what is to come is something you have yet to overcome!   You can do this, you are loved, and you are worthy to be here in this world. ★ Support this podcast ★

When enough is enough.   Objective:  In life we would be faced with the question when is enough, enough? There would be people and circumstances in our lives that would force us to be more patient, forgiving and sometimes even be taken advantage of just because we don't know when to walk away from the things that bring us more harm than good. This episode seeks to guide you and ask the difficult questions about the things in your life and help shed a light and empower you to drop the things that causes you pain.  Flow: When is it enough?  ·    You find yourself always drained in all aspects of your life. You feel like you're carrying the weight of the world and no one can truly understand what's going on with you. Not even the person you “Love”. When you feel more alone spending time doing the things you usually enjoy and even being with the people that says they love you. ·    You feel like you're the one carrying the whole relationship and if you stopped trying too hard you're anxious that it will all crumble to pieces. ·    When you don't even recognize the person in the mirror, when you've changed significantly and don't even know who you are and where you're going. ·    When you keep making excuses for other people and their inaction and faults. You think it's being understanding but we all have needs and all relationships are a two way street that both parties need to tend to. When you try to make reasons for the actions of other people thinking it's okay when it's not, leaving you to take yourself for granted too. ·    Listen to your heart and the universe if this is what you want, or what was meant for you. Is there a reason for why you're experiencing.  Why don't we walk away from the things and people that hurt us?  ·    Sometimes even if we know the reality already we choose to look the other way because of fear. We're afraid if we do, we'd lose the people we love, and we would have to undergo change that maybe we're not ready for. ·    That we hope at the end of the day they would change the truth is but you can't change people, that doesn't want to change. You can't help people who doesn't want your help. ·    And that the moment you stop doing the things you do to keep these people in orbit and they drift away, it shows that they aren't meant to stay in your life. That they're time in your life has passed. ·    Also that change is good because it forces you to grow and growth is uncomfortable but in all the ways worth it.    We have to see it for what it is.  ·    The questions we have to ask to ourselves is that are we seeing things for what it is? Are we in a situation where we take for granted ourselves and our needs just to take care of the things that's around us. ·    Are we happy about who we've become and who we're becoming. Do you know who you are amidst all this chaos? ·    Sometimes we really have to be hit with reality first and reflect on our own reality, meeting reality on reality's terms. Not in our fantasies and what we wish things to be. ·    If you realize that this isn't something that the past, present and future you would want for yourself it's time to ask yourself the harder questions about your current relationships and things in your life.     How do we free ourselves and walk away?   ·    When you have taken the time to answer all those tough questions it's time for you to start your path to walking away and letting go of things that does not serve you anymore. ·    To keep your inner peace and continue with personal growth you have to know where you want yourself to go and who and what you want to keep in your life. ·    Just like Marie Kondo's philosophy, walking away requires you to go through all your things, relationships, circumstances and ask does it spark joy still if not you have to find a way to let it go. ·    These are things I always try to remember whenever I am deciding when I should walk away. ·    Is it aligned with my values and who I am? ·    Do they choose to stay in my life even if I can't tend to it all the time? ·    Is this where I wanted to be? Is this the person I really wanted to spend my life with? ·    Do these people add value to my life, do they make me feel better? Do they support me? ·    Is this something that I could keep doing for the rest of my life? ·    Once you've understood that somethings aren't always meant for us we get to let go. ·    We don't own anything in this world and we can't hold on to people who doesn't want to stay, the tighter you hold the more painful it gets. ·    Walk away little by little and start choosing yourself a day at a time, talk and hype yourself up. Do constant reflection and remind yourself of the best things you want for yourself whether it's with them or not. YOU are the main character.    ★ Support this podcast ★

What's wrong with me?   Objective:  As we go through the journey of life we'd encounter people and situations that would make us doubt who we are and what we're worth. These will lead us to question all the things we've done and makes us think that it's all because of us why things didn't go the way we expect it to. This episode seeks to dig deep with these thoughts and to see if it's really just on us. Are we the only ones who were at fault?  Flow:Why do we always think It's us who's not enough?  ·    Self-Blaming a survival response when a negative experience happens like when someone stops talking to us or something doesn't go our way, we always look inwards and ask what went wrong.  ·    As humans we always would like to have the reason as to why things happen that way. ·    A part of us thinks maybe it was something that we could have done because those are the only things we have an idea of and power over. ·    By blaming ourselves, we maintain the perception that we're still in control of the situation and ultimately safe -even when we're not.   Why do we blame ourselves for the things we can't control?  ·    There are various reasons why we do this because at this point it's a learned behavior. Meaning that the people around us may have something to do with it and how we grew up in our household. ·    We may have been surrounded by people who don't take accountability for their actions and puts the blame on people who doesn't have anything to do with it. Usually happens with parents and kids who have dysfunctional relationships or being with a toxic partner.  ·    Because we want to have a sense of control, being able to know figure out what went wrong on our end to be able to avoid these negative experiences in the future. ·    Let's remember that blaming ourselves is a survival response and when triggered it causes us to be hyper vigilant and fixated on the things that could have been rather than the truth of what happened.   How do we free ourselves from self-blame?   ·    TAKE A STEP BACK. Whenever you experience a negative experience, try to step back and not go into problem solving mode so quickly. Feel first the pain, the guilt and question it.  ·    Question the experience on the way it made you feel, asking the true story of what happened, understand what are you telling yourself and compare it to the actual story of what happened. Reframe your thoughts and look at things in a less biased perspective. You can process this with a friend if you can.  ·    Decide how you want to deal with that place of hurt, shame and guilt. See how it really makes you feel and try to see it as it is instead of judging yourself harshly and all the could have been. ·    Be compassionate to yourself, a negative experience is bound to happen in our lives and most of the time it's not in our control, all we could do is experience and learn from it.  ·    Take responsibility not blame, if you have a part in how this all happens make peace with it and accept what has happened and learn from it. Blaming yourself forever won't solve anything and will just lead you to doubt yourself.    ★ Support this podcast ★

fear/ˈfir/ nounan unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat."he is prey to irrational fears"   Objective:  This episode will tackle all the ways we could use fear into our advantage. A more personal approach in acknowledging all our fears and allowing it to just pass us by. Fear is just our thoughts of how things could all go wrong and at different parts of our lives fear has also helped us to move forward and keep on surviving. So being honest and vulnerable about fear is one way I could share with you how I deal with them as well.      Flow:What is Fear? Why is fear important? ·    Fear is an emotion and that at various points in our lives it has helped us to survive. It tells our body on how to react to certain things and it helped us make decisions that saves our butts from further trouble. ·    When people think of Fear the first things that come up is the idea of being scared. Of being scared of certain things and situations. Which somehow leaves a bad notion that fear is negative. That we should not fear anything at all. That's a lie okay. ·    Fear is a part of our life and has always been an essential part of our survival. It has taught us to not repeat certain things we've done before, it has alerted us to stay away from people that may cause us harm. The right dose of fear will help keep us on our toes and live a life that's full.    What do I fear? Why do I need to know what I fear?  ·    My fears: o  Failing in lifeo  Not achieving my dreamso  Not being happy and fulfilledo  Lizardso  I'm not doing enougho  Death of loved ones o  The future ·    We need to understand what we fear to know how we could deal with it. To know where we could grasp the courage and the heart to face all these. ·    To ground ourselves and not let these fears take over and immobilize us and keep us stuck.     Let's welcome Fear: The benefits of fear  ·    Fear help keeps us alive. Fear in the right dose makes us feel most alive and excited. This is evident in extreme sports or moments where we overcome something we've always fear we couldn't. ·    Fear makes us work harder, because we fear failure, we fear humiliation and we fear not making it. ·    Fear makes us live in the moment, that at any given time we may not have what we have anymore, so it teaches to stay grounded and make the most of our NOW.  ·    Fear also allows us to become open and vulnerable to people. It allows us to seek help when needed and at the right moments.  ·    Fear also gives us clarity in life, when your dreams and big moves in life scares you it points a mirror to what really matters to you and how far are you willing to go for those things that matter.   Taking back our power ·    I will start with courage isn't the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear. A quote by Franklin Roosevelt and was also explained in several movies like LOTR and Lion King and etc. ·    That the brave fears things but does it anyway. How do we get over the fear? Do we truly get over the fear? ·    The big fears are valid and we can use it to our advantage to avoid doing reckless things and take precautions that could help us avoid these life threatening fears. Like illnesses, accidents and the likes. Being vigilant enough to be cautious in these respective areas. ·    But those small doses and non-life threatening we should push ourselves and go above and beyond it. ·    To be brave we first have to admit that we fear something. Acknowledgement of what we fear is key. ·    Face those fears as much as you can and admit when you need help in dealing with these fears. ·    Dig deep and assess why these fears have much power on you and take action to train and empower yourself to keep moving forward.   ★ Support this podcast ★

lost/lôst,läst/ adjective1.   1. unable to find one's way; not knowing one's whereabouts.   Objective:  We all feel lost sometimes and how do we get back on track when we feel like we don't even know where to start. As nightbirde said it's okay to be lost sometimes. In this episode we'll talk about how can we stay grounded even if we're lost and how to find our way back to who we are and our goals.    Flow: Why do we feel lost sometimes?  ·    One of the reasons we feel lost in life is that growing up we're so used to having things set up for us. We went through school with people telling us what to learn, who to be and what to do. ·    Now when finish school and we're left with who we are, do we really know “Ourselves”. Are we equipped to know what we want to be and who we choose to be. ·    It's a constant struggle to shred off the expectations of people around us of who we are and who we're supposed to be in their eyes. But what really matters is that who are you to yourself? It's you who'll live your life not them so these are the questions you have to ask yourself.   Being lost is a part of life    ·    With a chapter closing in our lives, doing  and experiencing new things we often really don't get to know where to pick it up and go from there. Just like every new endeavor we go through we'll have to adjust and assess the situations we're in.·    We have to accept that we won't always know what's going on and sometimes all we could do is have faith in the things we're doing and maybe someday it will all make sense.·    Sadly there isn't a curriculum and a blueprint that we could follow for our lives, because whatever we goal and set it to be it's not always going to go the way we expect and want it to be. The unpredictability of life is too great for us to have a straight path to our goals.  How can we find our way back?   ·    In times that we feel lost, we feel like we don't even know where to begin. It feels like the world isn't making enough sense for us to understand why we are in this certain situation. It also makes us feel anxious of where we're headed because we're not entirely sure of what is to become of us. ·    We question if we're on the right path, are we going to make it? Will everything fall and crumble beneath our feet. How do we survive from this? These questions will arise but you have to hang on and have faith. ·    When we feel lost the best thing to do is take a step back, realign and recenter your life. You have to go back to who you are. That's why it's important to know the “self” so that you can reassess your life and the paths your taking to the bigger picture and also to the values that you deem important in your life. ·    If you don't know who you are yet you have to ask yourself the hard questions and know the ways you want to live your life for you.  Focus on what you can control ·    Now that we're on the same page and understand how we could work on the things we need to do while we're lost. Work on the things you can control, build habits, create your lifestyle because the things you do and value will transcend on how you live your life.  ★ Support this podcast ★

suc·cess/səkˈses/ noun1.                  1. the accomplishment of an aim or purpose."there is a thin line between success and failure"  Objective:  This episode aims to break myths on success being a one shoe fits all and to talk about moments when we feel like giving up and how we could bounce back from it. How do we get out of that pit of self-doubt and feeling like we are not enough because we don't have the success that this world has taught us .            Flow: What were the reasons that made you want to give up the things you're doing?   ·    I felt like giving on everything that I do just because I don't see external changes that I expected to see. ·    I tried so hard to conform with what society deems as successful, this in turn put so much pressure on me and didn't get to enjoy the fullness of life around me.    What does it mean to be successful?    ·    Successful in its sense of the word finishing something you aimed for.·    It's not a one shoe fits all approach, but success if relative to the person defining it due to the differences in perspectives, opinions and values. You find someone successful if they are aligned with the values you deem that a successful person should have.  How do we push thru the idea of giving up?   ·    Think before giving up, see and assess yourself if this situation you're in is aligned with who YOU are and the life you choose to have. What will you do with immense success if it's not something you enjoy doing. That it causes you to question your very existence in this world. ·    Dig deeper are you giving up or feeling like you've lost the fight because of other people's definition of success. Have you always compared yourself to how other people expect you to become. Their opinions may sting but yours is the one that matters most. Look back and see how far you've come from 5 years or even 3 years ago, you'll be surprised at how much you've grown. That in itself is success. TO GROW AND STILL BE ALIVE TODAY. ·    Don't give up just because you're failing in the eyes of others. Besides when you admit that you can't handle things now doesn't mean you can't handle it next time. We never actually give up we just say not now and come better prepared the next.  It's okay to not be ready, it's okay to say not now.  ·    In our lives we will have countless moments where we'd feel overwhelmed and unprepared for situations and tasks. Not because we're weak but it's just not the time for us there yet. ·    The reason for that is because of our constant rushing of things, now when things get overwhelming you have the right to say I'm not in the right state of mind to deal with this. (Simone Biles Reference) ·    Not now doesn't mean you're giving up, you simply know your capacity. (Explain quitting your job) ★ Support this podcast ★

This is the end. I would be talking about endings and why it's important for us to understand what it all means for us. Listen through this episode to grasp how we could look at endings in a new light and work our way through accepting that endings are inevitable and a part of our life.

mis·take /məˈstāk/Learn to pronounce nounan action or judgment that is misguided or wrong."coming here was a mistake"  Objective:  This episode would like to help us deal with mistakes outwardly and especially to those people who have wronged us. It doesn't mean that it's normal to make mistakes is that we'd tolerate it and allow people to keep repeating it to us. This will help us voice out our grievances and educate people and their actions and hold them accountable, but still with a kind and compassionate heart because we know how it's like.  Flow:-      All about intention! Was it deliberate or not?  ·    For people who hurt is we have to figure out if it's on purpose and deliberate, were they really out to hurt us or was it an unprecedented or isolated case. ·    Now try to gauge the relationship is it worth your energy in dealing and saving. Do we have to be bothered? Because sometimes we don't maybe they're just passing and the best way to deal with it is cut them off. ·    If it's worth saving air out what you felt while asking for an explanation if this relationship is dear to you. Ask for their side and try to know how they see the situation.   -An honest mistake done by people you love.  ·    Now if it wasn't on purpose and comes from a place of concern and love·    You have to see if the damage done is something you could forgive and work around. ·    Lead them to the right path, forgiving them doesn't necessarily mean allowing them back in the same space so quickly you can allow them to earn it again especially if trust was broken. ·    Keep an open mind and heal on your own pace and see if you could muster up the strength to bury the hatchet.  -Set your boundaries and limits ·    Keep your space sacred, allow people to have enough space to learn from their mistakes but don't let them take over your space. Deal with it with an open mind but stern approach. ★ Support this podcast ★

mis·take /məˈstāk/Learn to pronounce nounan action or judgment that is misguided or wrong."coming here was a mistake"  Objective:  Lessons and mistakes are part of our lives and now that we've accepted this and understood how integral it is in our lives. How making mistakes, learning from them helps in our transformation and our becoming. In this episode we'd learn what mindset to have when we deal with future mistakes.  Flow:-      Relapsing is part, repeating mistakes may happen and it's okay ·    Learning is a process so when we make mistakes and we try to learn from it there would be mishaps. The only thing bad about is when we continue on doing it without changing anything. ·    So be kinder to yourself and take a few steps back to find what works best for you in dealing with this mistake.  -Remember you've made mistakes and learned from it  ·    I have learned from my past mistakes and it allowed me to grow doesn't mean you can't do it again with new mistakes ·    The world is ever changing there would be things out of reach for you but you shouldn't fear anything especially making mistakes because we continually learn. ·    You've made mistakes and continually got back up and changed your ways and understood it the best way you can.  -Kindness and compassion above all ·    It's easy to forget all these truths about mistakes and how we all can bounce back from it. But here I am to remind you again that your mistakes don't define you. How you deal with them reveals your character. Give yourself the chance to be kind and compassionate to yourself. ★ Support this podcast ★

mis·take /məˈstāk/ nounan action or judgment that is misguided or wrong."coming here was a mistake"  Objective:  After having a mindset of looking for the ways we went wrong and doing better! Now we have to realize that yes some of the best lessons in life we've had come from these mistakes. Because these have changed us and has forced us to open our hearts and eyes to growth.  Flow:-      Acknowledging the emotions and lessons ·    Since have learned from our mistakes we have to acknowledge emotions that came along after committing these and so do the lessons. ·    Understanding the idea that all though we have to learn from it we have to take in and ponder the lessons it provides us. ·    What are the key changes in our lives we have to make and what are the biggest takeaways from that mistake.  -Some of my biggest mistakes made the biggest impacts an changes in my life ·    I won't always be right in any aspect of my life. There will be people that would know better and things are always going to change so I will be making mistakes. ·    The thing I realized the biggest mistakes I've made gave me the lessons and urged me to become better. ·    Not being able to keep my mouth shut cost me a friend and now I hold secrets with utmost care void of what I think is right. ·    I have always been comparing myself to the life of others that I was freaking miserable and that was on me so now I do my best to redirect myself away from comparing. -Write these lessons down and share it   ·    Now you know more and know where you've made some changes share it out to the world so that they also could learn and avoid some of the mistakes you made.  ★ Support this podcast ★

mis·take /məˈstāk/ nounan action or judgment that is misguided or wrong."coming here was a mistake"  Objective:  Knowing fully well that mistakes are a part of our lives we must learn from it. These mistakes that we commit are things we have to reflect on to prevent us from making the same mistakes again. To not let ourselves be consumed by just the idea that these mistakes are all that we're made of.  Flow:-      Mistakes are usually honest mistakes  ·    We call them mistakes because these are unintentional, because we didn't know better ·    We always would have that we could have and should have at this moment. ·    If you deliberately make these mistakes without making any changes and learning from this, is it even still a mistake?  -We don't only learn from mistakes, we have to reflect upon it. ·    Now that you're aware of your mistakes, to learn from it you have to ponder upon it. ·    What lead you to making those mistakes, what caused it and how you can do better to avoid it. ·    If you don't learn from it we waste the opportunity to better and improve ourselves. -If you keep making the same mistakes you gotta dig deeper.   ·    At some point making the same mistakes over and over again is exhausting and it may be rooted in something deeper that you have to understand and see through. ·    Sometimes it would take us a longer time to unpack and unlearn but be patient with yourself on that. ★ Support this podcast ★

We'd like to dive deeper into the lives of people in the community and what it means for us to have our voices heard in this society! The hardships we had growing up and all the things we had to learn the tough way. Sharing with you our vulnerable parts being a member of this community.

This episode aims to educate and help people be aware of the reasons and need for pride month and that it's not all just rainbow flags and parades. Pride is a movement that seeks to uplift voices from the community! To fend off hate and further casualties in our community.

This episode aims to have a mindset that allows ourselves to make mistakes. To leave a space for us to be vulnerable and take advantage of the resources you have to make mistakes. At a certain point we were all given an opportunity to learn and actually expected to make mistakes.   Flow:-      You can feel bad about your mistakes  ·    Making mistakes suck, especially those honest mistakes where you really was so oblivious to it. ·    Feel bad about it because it does take a blow to your ego and self-esteem but be reminded it does not define who you are. ·    These mistakes no matter how big become a part of who you are and who you wish or avoid to become.  -Making space for your mistakes ·    With the truths that you know now about making mistakes. It's time that you create a space for yourself. ·    A space to reflect on mistakes and see what it has brought you. Don't be anxious of what it will reveal because it will only reveal a part of you that you may have neglected or something that doesn't work for you. ·    Giving yourself this space will allow a much kinder inner voice that may help guide you to the path you must be in.    -Finding yourself in your mistakes.   ·    The growth you'd experience after making a mistake will be good or bad which is based on your own actions and decisions on how to deal with it. ·    Now that you have your space and time to see how this mistake has affected you, you will find pieces of yourself hidden in these mistakes that would in turn make you strive to be a better person than yesterday. ·    Sometimes it allows you to see the things that doesn't serve you anymore as well.   Don't be afraid to make mistakes.   ·    Making mistakes mean you took a shot at your life. It means you tried as much as you wanted and took a chance. ·    You were courageous enough to see what worked for you and what doesn't ·    For all we know you are who you are today because your mistakes have taught you lessons that only the universe could teach you. ★ Support this podcast ★

mis·take /məˈstāk/nounan action or judgment that is misguided or wrong."coming here was a mistake"  Objective:  Understanding that as humans we are allowed to make mistakes and it is inevitable. We go hard on ourselves to make sure not to make a mistake but it is essentially what makes us human, our imperfections and the likes. With mistakes we grow and learn to become the ones we're meant to be each day.     Flow: -What will this season by about? Why choose to talk about mistakes?  ·    It is part of the journey, mistakes is a very personal experience and processing them is quite exquisite and unique for everybody.    -If you think you're good at what you do and won't commit any mistakes think again.   ·    Even if you've been doing something for years like in sports, in your career and all the likes, the probability of making a mistake is less but is still possible. Our conditions and surroundings may affect our abilities to make a decision. ·    One slip up, one moment of inattentiveness can cause us to make a mistake. Sometimes these mistakes would make us think we're loser, and will make us doubt our abilities as a person.   -      Don't be harsh on yourself   ·    Remember that your mistakes does not define you, it is a specific moment in time that shows you a piece of your humanity. ·    You are allowed to make mistakes, it means you are growing and changing in a world that keeps turning.   The truth is we will never be perfect.   ·    It's in our humanness that we learn through a hit and miss process.·    We make sense out of the things in this world, we do something and we eventually find out what works for us in both mistakes and success. ·    No matter how hard we work we will never be safe from making mistakes because things change and the concept of right and wrong also evolves with time. ·    These mistakes will make up who you've become and becoming, doesn't mean it's bad it just sheds a light on the things you may have slipped up on.  ★ Support this podcast ★

Just another bonus episode of a raw and vulnerable me explaining that loving yourself is a never ending process. That feeling bad about certain situations are a part of life and its okay to have your reaction!

This is a bonus episode I did with my tiktok followers on a live stream! I had this silly thought in the car and I wanted to share it. How sometimes in our lives we are given multiple chances to blame our circumstances for who we've become but we have to realize that at a point in we also have a choice for the person we are becoming. Hope you enjoy this bonus episode!

How to be ready?  Objective:  Now we all know how we could look at setbacks and how we could use it as the platform of our comeback it's time for us to prepare. Let's get ready for the long haul. This is to remind you it won't get easier from here, because working on yourself and your goals will be hard and is going to take a long while before it actualizes. Before results show up in front of your face. (Gym analogy- working out and the pump, the temporary high but results show over time) working out your habits and your being now will show up after constant work on ourselves.    Points: -Life's a marathon not a race. ·    We hear these from people who's been on the marathon of life longer than us. ·    We have to understand and be prepared that the journey of self-improvement doesn't end. That working our own setbacks takes time. ·    There's no rush for us to be at one point in time. What matters is how long can we go from where we are today because these changes you've made will manifest in its own time and it will come with its own rewards. Think of it like training for sports, the universe won't throw you things you can't overcome. The harder it gets it means the work you've put in yourself is being recognized by the universe.    -I don't get ready I stay ready. (Chi Chi Devayne)  ·    When your mindset is like this, if you're ready for what the world throws your way you'll be on your feet quickly and work on the things that you've been manifesting. ·    When we get overwhelmed by the things that's happening think of it as the universe finally granting you all the things that you've been working so hard for, these are the fruits of your hard work.  -Take breaks, take it easy and keep going!  ·    Going through all this would be tough so go easy on yourself. Listen to your body and take care of yourself at every aspect. ·    Take breaks, Schedule them so you won't feel guilty of not being productive. It's called productive rest. ·    Brush yourself off and start again and pick up where you left off!  ★ Support this podcast ★

Accountability  Noun1. 1. the fact or condition of being accountable; responsibility.  Objective:  This episode has the goal to let us know how we could take responsibility for our actions and to follow through. There are many ways we could encounter moments of placing the blame on things we can't control. In this episode we'll talk about why is it important for us to take accountability and how we could ask help from others to keep us on track.     -What does it mean to take responsibility?  ·    We have to understand all the decisions we make have an equivalent effect. If we chose to stay on track then we reap the benefits. But the moment we stray from it, know that there will be some consequences to it. ·    The reason why it's important to take responsibility is because it's also mental practice to keep ourselves in check. ·    We can make the conscious decision of not doing the thing we need to do, and it's okay as long as you're ready to deal with what comes next. ·    Taking responsibility means you are to be held accountable for the decisions you've made and no one is to blame for the effects of it whether it's good or bad.    -Why take responsibility?   ·    With being able to comprehend what's in your control and what you can take the responsibility for makes you a better person. ·    It gives you more confidence in yourself and your abilities, it strengthens your convictions on your own principles, and have better relationships with people around you. ·    People who take responsibility attracts the same people and is found to be less toxic because they are better aware of what's going on within themselves and the world around them. ·    Lastly it improves your decision making, it allows you to weigh things properly and stand up by your decisions.  -How to take responsibility?  ·    When making decisions you have to weigh the pros and cons. Ask yourself are you ready for whatever comes your way when you make this decision? ·    Are you able to say, okay guys this is all on me. I won't blame anyone if this goes south. ·    If you can say that and if you are fully sure you are ready for all of it. Then go and do it!   -Finding accountability buddies?  ·    When dealing with changes and growth like this it's recommended that you find a mentor, a buddy that would help you keep in line with your goals. ·    This could be someone you share the same passions with and the like. ·    Tell them your goals, and your steps! Message them when you're feeling like you're falling off the wagon of your responsibilities. Do that with your buddy vice versa as well.·    Have a check in balance! Know that a lot of the things we do in life can be done alone but always better with somebody who could help you.   Check Us Out on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guerrillasweareTwitter: https://twitter.com/guerrillasweareInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/guerrillasweareTo Launch your Podcast - https://www.kangaroofern.com Thanks for listening!   Thanks so much for listening to our podcast!If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe. So, you'll be notified when a new episode is posted in Apple podcast, Google podcast, Spotify, Stitcher, or via RSS . and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.You can also subscribe to the podcast app on your mobile device. If you found value in this episode, Leave us an Apple Podcast review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review of Apple Podcasts.  Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below!if you have any questions, feel free to reach out to us. And if you want to know more check out www.kangaroofern.com Connect with me on LinkedIn and Facebook. Find me on Instagram .