Sex Talk with Erika Miley

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Let's talk about how money impacts your sex life, relationships, and power dynamics. Featuring the awesome Kate Dorman. | Join Patreon  

Erika and Erica talk about how things seen as “woo woo” can really help you have a better sex life. Help support this podcast by joining my Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley 

Bisexuality, what is it and what are the myths around it. Featuring Dr. Lindsey Brooks, a licensed sex therapist. Want more content? Join me on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley 

Masturbation is a healthy activity and the data just shows that there's no benefit to stopping. Do you help with sexual compulsion (addiction)? : https://mentalandsexualhealth.com    Don't forget the lube: https://amzn.to/3AeuB4U Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley 

Let's talk about Sex Talk: The Next Generation. Join me on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sextalkwitherikamiley 

Episode 155: Kenneth joins us today to give us a deeper understanding of sexual pleasure and take us through some parts of his book, Beyond Satisfied: A Sex Hackers Guide to Endless Orgasms, Mind-blowing Connection, and Lasting Confidence, with his unique way of using highly directive images in his course. Click here for full show notes.

Episode 154: We have Merely Ashley with us, a cybersecurity advocate for women in the cybersecurity industry. Ashley joins us today to share her journey as a cybersecurity advocate for women and also more about the concept of cybersecurity in general. Tune in for this and many other exciting topics. Click here for full show notes.

Episode 153: How do you get into, or even survive the emotional rollercoasters associated with polyamorous relationships? In this episode, we speak to Keera Joel, a kinky author, and a narrator who has been supporting the BDSM group for some time. Click here for full show notes.

Dr. Rachel Allyn joins us to expound on the disconnection within our bodies and how to overcome it through body activities such as yoga, breathing exercises, and dynamic body movements. Click here for full show notes.

In this episode, we talk to Searah Deysach, a sex educator and the owner of the Early To Bed sex toys shop. With a mission to create a space where people could freely walk into the store, confidently get information, and purchase sex toys, Searah decided to launch her shop, which now celebrates it's 20-year anniversary. Click here for full show notes.  

In this episode, co-authors of Women and Kink, Jennifer Rehor and Julia Schiffman join us to talk about their book. Click here for full show notes.

Janel Vitale joins Erika to share about the different desire archetypes, how to know your category, and how it can help you fulfil your desires by finding the compatible match. Click here for full show notes.

Mistress Natalie King reveals to Erika how BDSM is one of the greatest life hacks to help with mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Click here for full show notes.

Erika wraps up this season and this year, 2021. Click here for full show notes 

On this episode, Erika Miley talks to De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar; she is a sex therapist, artist, and published author. De-Andrea is excited to be included as an author of the chapter of a fantastic book to be published in December 2021 with the title “An intersectional approach to sex therapy - Centering the lives of indigenous racialized people of color”. Click here for full show notes 

Erika welcomes to the show Holly Hartman, life & transformation and trauma & recovery coach, domestic violence advocate, international best selling author of How To Release The Shame Of Narcissistic Abuse, and the founder of Solo Date Challenge. Trigger Warning: Discussions of sexual trauma and narcissistic abuse. Click here for full show notes. 

Erika welcomes back to the show, Vanessa Carlisle! They're discussing Vanessa's new book, Take Me with You, and sex work in fiction. They also touch on Vanessa's venture into the world of being a death doula and what that means. Click here for full show notes. 

In this episode, Erika chats with award-winning feminist author, certified sex coach, sexologist and sex educator, Gigi Engle. They're exploring what it means to be a "big sister" to women, helping them understand their bodies, love, sex, and life. Click here for full show notes. 

In this episode, Erika introduces the next, incredible mental health therapist at The Center for Mental and Sexual Health, Dr. Sohna Shook! The conversation is all about the varied issues that Sohna sees in her office and the people that she loves to help. Click here for full show notes.

Erika talks to listeners "1-on-1" in this episode about her ongoing PhD research, which focuses on how ADHD specifically impacts the sex lives of vulva owners. Click here for full show notes.

In this episode, Erika is joined by Cassie Willnauer, licensed therapist that works in the Kansas City area, host of the podcast Sex At Every Size. The ladies are discussing the impact of diet culture on people's minds, bodies, and intimacy. Click here for full show notes

In this episode, Erika introduces Jennifer Adair from the Center for Mental and Sexual Health (Erika's own practice). They talk about how therapy works and working with clients who question their own worth. Click here for full show notes.

Erika has Heather McPherson from Practice Outside the Lines on the show to talk all about vulvas and desire discrepancies. As professionals, they go over the patterns they hear about vulvas on a regular basis. What is typical? How do we tease apart the why of arousal? Does culture influence the disconnection women (vulva owners) have with their bodies? Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/138

A lot of us don't realize that we even have bodies, we don't pay attention to feeling them and being aware of them. Practice being in your body by consciously making a mental connection to one random and particular part of your body, then moving to another part, and another. This same notion of awareness is also important to our sexual experiences.   Somatics is a different way of addressing the client's needs. We're not necessarily looking for what's “wrong”, as in some traditional forms of therapy, but just assessing what's “present”.   Perhaps, we need to rethink our culture around viewing bodies with a lens of shame and incorporate somatics into clinical practice alongside intellectual/ cognitive methods.

I have the wonderful Teena Love on my show today. Teena is a media personality and Podcast Host of “The Lovers' Lounge“. Teena Love is extremely passionate about educating singles and couples regardless of sexuality, racial and ethnic backgrounds and or socioeconomic status about topics related to love, relationships and sex!     We're talking about how an abusive relationship can alter your entire life.  We're talking about co-dependency, your sexual self, your mental health, and recovery. 

In this episode, Erika talks about how the move to a seasonal format was the best thing and sometimes a little quieting for her mind. She goes over how the season went, and where the podcast goes from here. Hint: It's just going to get better! Click here for full show notes.

In this episode, the ever amazing Jane Boon joins me to talk about her book, Edge Play. Find the full show notes here.

Today we're talking to the wonderful Joan Price all about sex at any age, including seniors! We go over the concerns from folks who are aging and their sexual health. We also touch on the emotional and physical changes that they're usually unprepared for. Check out the full show notes here.

Bianca Laureano joins me in this episode to talk about the trauma going on in the US, especially after an attempted coup by white supremacists. We talk about how power and intersectionality impacts our sex lives. Full show notes here.

In this episode, Ricky Siegel joins me to talk about anxiety and it's impact on sex. We reflect on what anxiety and the state of the world in 2020, cruising into 2021, has done to our sex lives and our bodies generally. This episode was recorded before the 2020 US Election, so you already know the outcome folks. More about Ricky and the full show notes are here.

Happy belated New Year 2021 and this episode means something different doesn't it… I went back and listened to our last episode with Susan Bratton… We were so hopeful, we were excited… Now here we are none of our plans happened! Ugh! That's okay because I brought back the ever wonderful, amazing, trusted hot sex advisor to millions, Susan Bratton. Full show notes here.

Hey folks! Today I interview Ola Midzynska, CEO & Founder of Sx Tech from Berlin, Germany! We chat about the punk rock journey of fighting for pleasure using technology. We also talk about the impact of a pandemic on creativity, entrepreneurialism, and burnout. Find the show notes here.

Today we talk all about the book and history behind The Masculine in Relationship, with our amazing guest GS Youngblood! We talk about the understanding of masculinity and it's impact on the sexual dynamic. Super interesting stuff! Full show notes here.

This week we're talking about the connection between our cultural understanding of masculinity and infidelity. We also take time to dive into her latest book, Chasing Masculinity: Men, Validation, and Infidelity. Find the full show notes here.

Hey folks! I wanted to do a podcast/video series about sex across the world.  Think Rick Steve meets Sex Nerd. This episode is the introduction to this series, and I want to hear from you. I want to hear from folks across the world how they are having sex, what education did they get, and what are your cultural processes that are different? Full show notes here.

Welcome back folks for our second episode of season 4, how exciting! I'm joined by Mistress Harley, a financial dominatrix, in this episode. What is financial domination you ask? Well, you'll just have to listen in! We'll talk about how Mistress Harley became a dominatrix, and how she connected with this particular niche. And if you're not ready to listen yet, let me just say, make sure you listen to hear about her new album, 10 Pimpstress Commandments. Check out the full show note here.

We're back! Season 4 of Sex Talk with Erika Miley! I'm so excited to have the amazing Shawna Potter from the band War on Women, and author of Making Spaces Safer! We're diving into Sex, Drugs, & Rock n' Roll, I think topics near and dear to many of our hearts! War on Women has a new album that debuted October 31, 2020. Check out the full show notes here! 

Erika and Dr. Nazanin Moali decided to do a crossover Halloween episode for you!  They talk about 5 things to spookify your sex life!  You get to hear two very nerdy sex experts spend time talking about every body's favorite thing, sex!  Do not miss this one. For the full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/123 Patreon: www.sextalkwitherika.com/patreon 

In this episode, we get to talk about what it means to try the "butt stuff" or anal play or anal sex. Foreplay, Masturbation, Penetration, Oh my! Consider the following things: Just like your genitals, learn what feels good, what works for you, and use lubricant. Start slowly! Communicate with your partner! I mentioned lubricants (we have no affiliation setup with these companies!): Yes! Yes! Yes! The partner who is being penetrated MUST be in control! Saying STOP is OK! You have to set ground rules for this experience! Here's some tips: No need for waxing, enemas, or pre-maintenance. Porn isn't real! It's a performance and not sex you would normally have with your partner! Small toys are great to start with! Breath! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review us on iTunes.

Erika gets down with Vanessa Carlisle, PhD! They talk about Vanessa's life journey through the world of sex work up to filling additional roles as a writer, educator, and consultant. They chat about the effects of the Covid-19 pandemic on sex workers, and attempt to de-mystify the subjects surrounding sex-work. Full show notes: www.sextalkwitherika.com/115 

Erika and Dr. Rachel Needle, psychologist, certified sex therapist, co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes, and doer of all the things, talk about the importance of being educated about sexual health; especially for those who are in the helping and medical fields. They focus on questions like: What kind of client testimony can give the impression that a therapist wasn’t properly trained in, or hasn’t been exposed to enough, sexual health education? And, what can happen for therapists when they feel inadequate about sex? 

Erika sits down to talk about the state of events in the United States. This is a call to action to stand with our black friends, family, and neighbors. It's time that white people take action to tear down a system of institutionalized racism built by our forefathers, benefited and maintained by white people. Equality has been called for, it's time for us to make it right, fair, and just. Follow black people on socials:  A lot of these are on Instagram but many of these fine folks can be found on all of them.. I prefer IG because Facebook is a crazy ass place right now.  @sexwithashley  @sankofasex  @theminoritysexreport  @heybianyp  @blkwomenshealth  @lexxsexdoc  @theread  @sacinthesheets  @therapyforblackgirls  @akilahh (Akilah Hughes)  @mspackyetti   @sistersofsexuality     Give your money here:  https://blacklivesmatter.com/  https://www.gofundme.com/f/georgefloyd  https://thelovelandfoundation.org/  https://www.joincampaignzero.org/  https://www.cuapb.org/who_we_are  https://fairfight.com/