The Unmentionables

As we approach Veteran's Day, we have a guest (who just happens to be Maeve's dad) who had a impressive military career of his own. He's also an accomplished writer, speaker and storyteller and he shares the experiences that he had and other veterans have personally opened up to him about - an army nurse, a POW in Germany, a prisoner of the Hanoi Hilton and the story of the day small, elderly Japanese man, who was on one of the enemy aircraft carriers, visited the Pearl Harbor Memorial. Thank you to all of our country's veterans. To those that served in peacetime and in war - thank you for your service. You do a job that not many of us are willing to do. You and all of your families have our deepest gratitude. Check our social media for pictures of the men and women we discussed on today's episode. Closing music by the United States Army Band and Chorus.

We're going back to hit some dating topics again. This is good advice for everyone but we hear the most despair and confusion from men on this topic so it's angled a bit more in their direction.

Just in time for Halloween! We talk ghost, ghost hunters, a crime that resulted in a "haunting" and REAL ghosts. Plus our own personal stories to keep things interesting.

Here at The Unmentionables, we love all things Halloween! Why do we have some of our traditions? Why did people used to carve turnips into freaky looking heads? What do bats have to do with any of this anyway? Why isn't it a night for breaking windows and arson anymore? Come in... find out... we have candy...

Part 2 of our paranormal October. Crytozoology!  When Cryptids Attack! Or not. Is there any truth in any cryptid story? Maybe. There might even be a reasonable explanation for the jackalope. Bigfoot? Nessie? Hmmm....

Part one of our Halloween and paranormal themed October. Psychics! The people who will give you the truthiest truth to ever go in your earholes.

But do we actually know what we saw? We've all heard that eye-witness testimony is unreliable but we still think OUR memories are accurate. How does this breakdown happen and how would we ever know if we're carrying around a false memory?

For years Abstinence Only Until Marriage was the very controversial - and objectively unsuccessful - sexual education standard in the US. Jeremy and Maeve tried to figure out what the standard is now and found some very eye-opening information.

Why are we so fascinated by hearing grisly stories of murder and mayhem? Maeve is a huge fan of true crime and shares with Jeremy some of the appeal of listening and watching stories of the worst of human nature.

Justin Evans from The Generation Why and The Peripheral Podcasts join Jeremy and Maeve for a really funny conversation (rant?) about why people believe in conspiracy theories. 

"I'm not in denial. I'm just selective about the reality I accept" - Bill Watterson Jeremy and Maeve have a discussion about skepticism, denial, and maddening head-up-the-posterior behavior.

Hey! Its a special occasion! Its our first show as The Unmentionables (we were formerly SexLand Podcast). Its all very special... 

Listen in for firm plans on our upcoming exciting changes! This will be our last show under the SexLand Podcast name.  We play a game of "Would You Rather" that'll have you scratching your head.

Truth truly can be stranger than fiction. Here are some interesting facts, oddities and unusual practices that might freak you out a bit.

We've all had friends who's significant other is THE WORST. Is there anything you can do other than grit your teeth and smile? More importantly - SHOULD you do anything? Is that sticking your nose where it doesn't belong or having your friend's back?

Jeremy and Maeve do the big reveal on SexLand's upcoming name change! For the topic - Possibly the most misunderstood and wrongly maligned subculture we know - FURRIES! 

We've all done some pretty stupid things right after a breakup. Jeremy and Maeve share some of their not-so-proud moments, discuss some common post-breakup tactics that really never work and try to help you toward a path where you can make positive change and not continue to set yourself up for the same problems time and again.

Maeve and Jeremy discuss some exciting changes coming up. This episode is about exactly what you think its about, judging by the name. Can you believe it took 54 episodes to get this? Its a super-size epi to say "thanks for your patience!" to all the loyal listeners out there!

Mistress Elliot returns to discuss what the heck is kink exactly, how she discovered she was kinky and what its like now to live the lifestyle 24/7 as part of one of the most recognized power-exchange couples in the country. It'll seem pretty foreign to a lot of people but its also, in some ways, far more boring than you may be picturing.

Have you ever had a Friend with Benefits? Did it work? Did it implode? this week Jeremy and Maeve discuss how to have an FWB without ruining a friendship.

SexLand Podcast's 1st Anniversary Episode! After a year, your sex life can get a little boring so let's GET SPICY!

While romance scams aren't new, the scammers certainly seem to be cooking up new ways to get your money every day. Maeve discusses how cons work and historical examples of how criminals have played their marks to part them from their money and sometimes their lives. In the second half of the show, Jeremy fills us in on how current romance scammers are find their victims, common tactics to be aware of and how to keep yourself safe from these types of fraud.

What's it like for a straight, attractive white guy in the dating pool when he's HIV positive? Maeve and Jeremy talk to Gustavo about his life and dating experiences. 

What is emotional labor anyway? And why do we keep seeing the internet use that term when they mean "mental load"?

Carrying more than one's fair share of the mental load is the silent killer of otherwise good relationships. Often you feel overwhelmed and like something is out of whack but you just can't quite put your finger on what the actual problem is. Jeremy and Maeve discuss how to know if you need to discuss this with your partner and what to do about it.

Maeve and Jeremy give you some insight into just what an Incel is and why they feel so aggrieved that they believe an institutionalized program of state sponsored rape is the solution to their problems. Oh and also - some of  them kill people. All in the name of not being able to get laid. What the hell is going on here?

A brief run down of the lexicon - or as Jeremy insists, Sexicon - of the language we use to talk about identity, gender and lifestyles. 

It's hard to feel confident when there are messages everywhere that you're not pretty or thin enough. Jeremy was surprised and unsettled when he read the book Beauty Sick by Renee Engeln. Maeve joins him for a discussion about his male perspective on American beauty standards and how our cultural obsession with perfection makes for an impossible standard for women.

Maddie is making the transition to being the woman she has always known she is. Grab your tissues, you'll be crying by end (Maeve and Jeremy were too). Her story is one of strength through adversity and shes a truly inspiring woman.

Continuing from last week, Maeve and Jeremy try to help listeners answer the question "I feel like I'm doing everything right, why am I still single?" This week, Jeremy gives his answer that maybe you aren't finding the right people. 

This week, Jeremy and Maeve tackle the most commonly asked listener question. "I feel like I'm doing everything right, why am I still single?" This week, Maeve shares her answer to this question by giving you some guided introspection.  Next week, Jeremy will share his answer and help you figure out if your dating the right people.

Jeremy and Maeve almost called this one "SexLand Podcast - True Crime Edition" because they walk you through two cases where people showed up for an internet date and became victims of crime. Its not pretty and there's some disturbing content. Then they give you best practices that you can use today to help keep yourself safe on dates.

Maeve and Jeremy have a very down-to-earth conversation with Mistress Elliot, a kink-aware therapist, professional dominatrix and proprietress of a dungeon. We take some listener questions and find out what its like to live her lifestyle and what you could expect if you visit a Pro Domme.

Ahh... another trending dating/relationship word. Does this one have anything of value to offer us? Maybe, sometimes. Maeve and Jeremy don't totally agree.

We all feel like we just can't get this dating thing right sometimes. How are you presenting yourself and how are you being perceived? You may be doing things that are turning dates off and you don't even know it.

Have you ever wondered what its like to work doing online camming?  Sayumi from sexysayumi.com tells Jeremy and Maeve what her job is, what her clients are like, some crazy stories about callers and how she feels about her work. She's not just sexy, shes smart as hell and has insights you'll be mulling over for days!  

Ahh Valentine's Day. Love it or hate it, you can't avoid the hoopla every year. Do you enjoy flowers, candy and cards? Would you rather celebrate SAD (Single Awareness Day)? Maeve and Jeremy share their thoughts on making the high-expectation holiday a day where you actually have a good time and don't ultimately wind up disappointed.

Do you want to listen to the one about pornography? Heck yeah you do! Maeve and Jeremy talk a little about the history of porn, benefits, dangers and the insights of statistics provided by the internet's biggest providers.

Jeremy and Maeve talk to Rose and Star, two college freshmen to hear what dating is like for young people today. Some of it never changes but so much is so different!

All technology is constantly changing and online dating apps are no exception. Jeremy and Maeve give you updates you need to know.

It's that time again. Time to make resolutions, break them and then forget all about them once the weather stops sucking. 

Holiday Special: This is a remastered edition of our "Me Likey! You Talky?" episode. It's the second show in our series about getting started in online dating. This one focuses on good messaging practices and techniques to get the attention you want and convert that into an actual date.

Maeve and Jeremy are taking a holiday break so for now, enjoy this rebroadcast of their very first episode about how to make a dating profile that won't be embarrassingly bad and will attract dates. ***Please note: the episode HAS been re-edited and remastered to fix sound quality issues.

Jeremy and Maeve talk to Katy Zvolerin, the marketing director of Adamandeve.com! Katy talks about sex education, clinical sexology, what its like to work at the nation's largest purveyor of adult items and... of course... TOYS!!! Whats new and hot right now, how you can dip your toe into new things and a holiday gift guide for anyone wanting to spice up their Christmas! PLUS a promo code for 50% off and free shipping!

Everybody thinks they have it the worst and the grass is always greener on the other side. Dating in your 40's is weird but so is dating any other time in your life.  In this episode, Maeve and Jeremy discuss the particular advantages and challenges of being a more experienced dater.

Well-meaning people leave a trail of destruction in their wake when they make some of the most common mistakes newly open couples make.  An ETHICAL open marriage where everyone feels heard and respected is a lovely thing, but you've got to do it RIGHT!  

Need we say more?  Probably not, but whatever. Benefits, side-effects, questions and even some sciency sounding statistics about everyone's favorite subject.

Its our next potpourri episode! We answer some listener questions and discuss some smaller topics we just think are interesting. 

Socially awkward people - we see you, we love you, sometimes we ARE you. Dating can be especially challenging when you feel like your general social skills could use some improvement. Here's a step by step guide to meeting people, having a successful date and even getting a second (or third! or more!) date.

Everywhere you turn these days, you can't get away from stories about men acting like (at best) entitled jerks. And then those stories make men feel defensive or like they can't figure out how to act right. Then everyone is mad. What the hell is going on here? Is there ANYTHING we can do about it???

For their spooky Halloween episode, Jeremy and Maeve discuss the scariest relationship problem they could think of - cheating.