Yinka'sMuse

''Know your worth." "Don't settle." We hear these all the time. But what if they've gone too far? What if we've built walls so high that no one can get in?This episode asks: How do you know when staying single is self-love versus self-sabotage?Both look similar. Both involve standards. Both involve staying single. But the motivations are different.I explore healthy self-love (protecting peace, real standards, dating from wholeness) versus self-sabotage (impossible checklists, disqualifying everyone, only liking unavailable people).We discuss: the checklist trap, "if they wanted to they would," fear behind walls, non-negotiables versus preferences, and self-reflection questions.This isn't about lowering standards. It's about honesty: Are you protecting yourself or hiding from love?

Let's talk about something we don't discuss enough: friendship breakups. Specifically, female friendship breakups.Because losing a close female friend can feel just as devastating as a romantic breakup, maybe even more so. She's the person who knows everything. The person you call when something happens. The person who's been there through it all. And when that relationship ends, there's this massive void.But here's the question: do you have the hard conversation, or do you just let it fade?In this episode, I'm exploring the complexity of friendship endings, using Issa and Molly from Insecure as a case study. Their friendship breakup and eventual reconciliation are one of the most realistic portrayals of what happens when a deep female friendship falls apart. The slow build of resentment, the explosive fight, the painful distance, and the hard work it took to find their way back to each other.But not all friendship breakups end in reconciliation, and that's okay, too.I'm getting real about why we ghost instead of having the conversation (sometimes having the talk is actually more hurtful than just letting it die naturally), when the conversation might be necessary, and when the slow fade is absolutely the right choice. Because here's the truth: there's no rulebook for this. Every friendship is different, every situation is different, and you have to choose what makes sense for your specific relationship.We'll talk about the grief of losing a female friend (because people don't always understand how deep that loss can be), the importance of being careful with your words because you can't take them back, and the possibility that sometimes friendships end for a season, not forever.I'm not going to give you a script or a step-by-step guide, because there isn't one perfect way to do this. It's going to be hard. It's going to be messy. And that's okay.What matters most is that you do what feels right for you, that you speak with integrity if you do have the conversation, and that you're mindful of the words you use, because even if the friendship is ending, those words stay with someone forever.If you've ever lost a close friend, if you're navigating a friendship breakup right now, or if you've been on the receiving end of the slow fade, this episode is for you.Female friendships are deep, complicated, and precious. And when they end, it's okay to grieve. It's okay to be messy. And it's okay to choose what's right for you.

Should you date when you're still processing past trauma, or do you wait until you're "whole"?It's a question so many of us wrestle with, especially after heartbreak, disappointment, or any season that's left us with wounds we're still working through. And the advice we usually hear is: "Don't date until you're healed. Work on yourself first. You can't love someone else if you don't love yourself."I get it. I understand the heart behind that advice. But I also think it's more complicated than that.In this solo episode, I'm challenging the idea that you need to be "fully healed" before you can date. Because here's what I've come to believe: healing is a lifelong journey. If we wait until we're perfectly healed, perfectly whole, perfectly put together, we might be waiting forever. And in the process, we might miss out on beautiful connections and relationships that could actually support our healing journey.I'm making a critical distinction between dating to avoid healing (using someone as a distraction or Band-Aid) and dating while actively healing (doing the work while inviting someone to walk alongside you). We'll explore what it means to be "ready enough," how to know if you're dating from wholeness-in-progress or from emptiness looking to be filled, and why the right person won't need you to be perfect; they'll love you in process.We're also diving into what the Bible says about loving people who are still broken and flawed, exploring biblical examples of imperfect people who loved and were loved, and discussing how God demonstrates love for us "while we were still sinners", not after we got it all together.I'll share practical questions to ask yourself to know if you're ready to date while healing, red flags that indicate you need more time alone, and how to choose someone who will support your growth rather than hinder it.This episode isn't about rushing into relationships before you're ready. It's about releasing the pressure to be perfect before you're worthy of love. It's about understanding that dating and healing can go hand in hand if you're doing it with intention, honesty, and self-awareness.If you've been told you need to wait until you're "fixed" to date, if you're wondering whether it's selfish to pursue connection while you're still healing, or if you're navigating what it means to love someone (or be loved) while you're both works in progress, this conversation is for you.

This episode is a celebration. A love letter to the friends who have shown us what it means to be truly loved, truly seen, and truly valued.After talking about choosing yourself and letting go of people who aren't meant for your season, I wanted to flip the script and celebrate the people who ARE meant to stay. The friends who don't just tolerate your growth but celebrate it. The relationships that don't drain you, they fill you up. The people who reflect back your worth when you forget it yourself.In this solo episode, I'm getting personal and sharing real stories about the friends who have taught me what love looks like. From Wuraola, who followed me to the paper room when I was searching for my Physics 101 result in a sea of posted grades (we didn't find it, but she was there with me). To Winnie, who taught me that the way I love myself will determine how other people love me, especially in romantic relationships. To Bisola, who has shown up time and time again, no matter what. To Hallelujah, whose constant strength and presence are like cold water to a weary soul.Time and space would fail me to mention all the incredible friends who have continued to show me what love looks like, and how I've been privileged to show up for them, too.We're diving into what "loving right" actually looks like in friendship, how the right people become mirrors that help us see our own worth, and why the friends we choose teach us what to accept in all our relationships. We'll explore the biblical model of friendship through David and Jonathan, Proverbs 27:17's "iron sharpens iron," and how Jesus modeled sacrificial love for friends.This episode isn't just about finding good friends; it's about recognising the sacred work that healthy friendships do in our lives. They don't just make life more fun; they actually shape how we see ourselves, what we believe we deserve, and how we learn to love.If you've ever had a friend who saw you when you couldn't see yourself, who celebrated you without competition, who showed up in the mundane moments that actually meant everything, this episode is for you. And it's also for the friends who have loved you right, because they deserve to be celebrated.

This is the conversation nobody warns you about when you start your growth journey: choosing yourself will cost you some people. And that's one of the hardest truths to navigate.In this vulnerable solo episode, I'm getting real about what happens when you start setting boundaries, prioritising your wellbeing, and making choices that honour who you're becoming. Not everyone will celebrate that. Some people will resist it. Some will pull away. And some relationships simply won't survive your growth.I'm sharing a personal story about a friendship I had to step back from, not because of drama or a big blow-up, but because I realised it was costing me my peace. I talk about the guilt that comes with choosing yourself, the grief of outgrowing relationships, and how to know when it's time to let go.If you've ever felt guilty for setting boundaries, if you've outgrown friendships but don't know how to navigate that, or if you're realising that your growth is threatening to some people in your life, this episode is for you.Because the truth is: not everyone is meant for every season. And the people who are meant to stay will celebrate your growth, not resent it.Choosing yourself isn't easy. But it's necessary. And you deserve relationships that honour who you're becoming, not who you used to be.

Let's talk about the thing nobody wants to admit: money stress is real, and it's affecting more of us than we think.In this honest solo episode, we're breaking the silence around financial anxiety as a young adult. I'm getting vulnerable about my own money struggles, from sitting at dinners where I couldn't afford to keep up, to the 2 AM panic about making rent, to the shame of feeling like everyone else had it figured out except me.We're diving into the comparison trap of looking at other people's bank accounts and wondering why you're not there yet. We're talking about the exhaustion of declining invitations because you can't afford it, but don't want to say why. And we're exploring how to separate your self-worth from your wallet, because your bank account balance is not a measure of your value.This episode is packed with practical steps for managing financial anxiety, not just tips for building wealth, but actual tools for handling the stress, the shame, and the mental load that comes with navigating money in your twenties and thirties.If you've ever felt behind financially, if you've ever compared your financial situation to someone else's, or if money keeps you up at night, this conversation is for you. Because you're not alone, you're not failing, and there is a path forward.It's time to build wealth without carrying the weight of shame.

Ever feel like everyone around you is checking off major life milestones while you're still figuring things out? You're not alone.In this heartfelt solo episode, we're diving into what it really feels like when your timeline doesn't match everyone else's, when friends are getting married, buying houses, landing dream jobs, or moving to new countries, and you're wondering, "When is it my turn?"I'm getting personal and sharing my own journey of moving from comparison and quiet sadness to genuine celebration and peace. We'll talk about how I learned to cheer for my friends' successes without feeling like I was falling behind, and how shifting my perspective changed everything.We'll also explore the wisdom in 2 Corinthians 10:12 about comparison, why your chapter three doesn't need to look like someone else's chapter seven, and how to find freedom in trusting your own unique timing.If you've ever felt behind or struggled to celebrate others while dealing with your own "not yet" season, this episode is for you. Your timeline isn't wrong, it's just yours. And that's more than enough.

Forget the perfectly polished New Year's resolutions and colour-coded planners. In this solo episode, we're giving ourselves permission to start the year exactly as we are, messy, imperfect, and beautifully human.If you've been waiting for everything to be "just right" before taking that first step, this conversation is for you. We dive into why the pressure to have it all figured out before you begin is actually holding you back, and how embracing the mess can be the most liberating thing you do this year.Whether you're launching a new project, building a habit, or simply trying to show up for yourself, this episode will remind you that messy beginnings are not just okay, they're often where the magic happens.So take a deep breath, let go of the stress, and let's start messy together.

Friendships as adults can feel complicated.Life gets busy, priorities shift, and sometimes... the people we once spoke to daily become names we whisper in prayer instead of texts we send.In this heartfelt episode of Yinka'sMuse, I open up about the challenges and the quiet joys of forming and maintaining friendships as we grow older.We talk about the drifting, the growing pains, the beauty of intentional bonds, and how to hold space for change without bitterness.If you've ever grieved a friendship that faded, struggled to find your people, or simply wondered why friendships feel so different now... this conversation is for you.✨ Come with an open heart. Leave with a little more peace.

When life feels overwhelming, it's tempting to withdraw — to disappear into the background and hope no one notices your struggle. But what if showing up, even in small ways, is the most powerful thing you can do? In this honest and tender episode, I share my own experience navigating a tough season — the emotional rollercoaster of job applications and rejection emails — and how I'm learning to keep showing up through it all. This isn't about pretending to be okay; it's about making space for honesty, gentleness, and hope. If you've been feeling invisible, discouraged, or tempted to go into hiding — this episode is for you. You're not alone, and you're not behind. Let's walk this road together.

Have you ever caught yourself wondering how different your life would be if a certain opportunity had worked out? A job offer that fell through, a relationship that didn't last, a path you didn't take? It's easy to get lost in the “what could have been,” but the truth is, that kind of thinking can keep us stuck.In this episode, we explore the emotional weight of dwelling on missed opportunities and why constantly looking back can prevent us from fully embracing the present. I also share a personal story about a job that didn't come through and how, in hindsight, it turned out to be a blessing in disguise.We'll discuss how to shift from “what if” to “what now,” how to trust the bigger picture, and practical ways to let go of regrets so you can focus on the life that's unfolding in front of you.Listen in, and remember: what's ahead is always greater than what's behind.

Relationships should be built on mutual respect and appreciation—not obligation. But sometimes, we find ourselves around people who act like they're doing us a favour by being in our lives. Whether in friendships, relationships, or even work dynamics, this toxic mindset can slowly wear down our confidence and self-worth.In this episode, we unpack the signs of these one-sided relationships, why they're harmful, and most importantly, how to step away and choose better connections. If someone makes you feel like you have to constantly prove your worth just to keep them around, this episode is for you.Tune in and remember: You are valuable. The right people will never make you feel like a burden.

Love isn't just about grand gestures or big, romantic moments—it's about the little things that happen every day. From remembering how someone takes their coffee to sending a simple “thinking of you” text, love ripples down to the quiet, consistent actions that show we care.In this episode, I explore the small yet powerful ways love is expressed and how these everyday moments strengthen our relationships. Whether it's a warm hug, a shared laugh, or simply listening without judgment, these little things make all the difference.Tune in to discover why the smallest acts of love often leave the biggest impact.

ove should feel like effort, commitment, and care—not emotional scraps. In this episode, we're diving into nonchalant love—what it looks like, why it's harmful, and why you need to walk away from emotionally unavailable partners. If you've ever felt like you're the only one trying in a relationship, constantly questioning where you stand, or making excuses for someone's lack of effort, this conversation is for you. We'll break down the signs of nonchalant love, why you deserve better, and how to confidently step away and heal. It's time to stop settling for indifference and start demanding the love you truly deserve. Tune in now and take your power back! #SelfWorth #NonchalantLove #WalkAway #RelationshipAdvice #KnowYourValue #PodcastEpisode #LoveYourself

Friendships are one of life's most rewarding connections, but they're not always easy—especially during moments of loss, failure, or setbacks. In this episode, we explore how tough times can test friendships and share practical tips for navigating these challenges with grace and understanding.

Have you ever wondered why some of your fondest memories are from the simplest moments? In this episode, I explore the beauty of small, everyday moments and how they often leave the biggest imprints on our hearts. From quiet conversations to fleeting gestures, these seemingly insignificant events shape our lives in profound ways. Tune in to discover the magic of being present, celebrating the ordinary, and creating meaningful connections in the little things.

Feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to have everything figured out at the start of the year? You're not alone. In this episode, I explore why it's perfectly okay to ease into the year without a solid plan or a long list of goals. Join me as I break down the myth of “having it all together,” embrace the beauty of taking things slow, and discover how uncertainty can lead to unexpected opportunities. Whether you're still figuring things out or simply need a reminder to breathe, this episode is for you. Tune in for practical tips and a fresh perspective on starting the year at your own pace.

What does it mean to be truly vulnerable? In this episode of Yinka'sMuse, I explore the beauty and strength of embracing your imperfections and sharing your authentic self with the world. Vulnerability often feels like a weakness, but it's the foundation of meaningful relationships and personal growth. From the fear of judgment to the courage to open up, we'll uncover why letting down your guard can be the most empowering thing you ever do. Join me as I share real-life stories, practical insights, and reflective questions that will inspire you to lean into vulnerability and experience deeper connections in every aspect of life.

On this episode of the podcast, I talk about how asking for help should never be seen through the lens of shame.

In this episode, I discuss "Something I Wished I Knew Earlier: The Feeling That Comes with Handling Failure." Join me as I talk about the feelings that come with handling or dealing with failure. I discuss personal experiences, not letting failure define you, and how trusting God is one of the important ways of dealing with the feelings that come with failure. Tune in for an honest and reflective conversation that will inspire you to view failure through a new, empowering lens.

In this episode of "Yinka'sMuse," titled "Living in the Now: Valuing People for Who They Are Today," I explore the importance of relating to people based on their current selves rather than the potential we see in them. I discuss how focusing on potential can lead to unrealistic expectations and disappointments. Tune in to learn how to cherish the present moment and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

In this episode, I explore the concept of true luxury—beyond the flashy and superficial. True luxury starts from within, focusing on the things that bring genuine comfort and joy, even if they're unseen by others. Join me as I uncover how these hidden elements can transform your daily routine into a series of small, yet profound, luxuries. Whether it is finding little happiness in Afrobeats like me or just enjoying the little things of life, whatever true luxury means to you I hope you go after it with the whole of your heart.

In this episode of "Yinka'sMuse," join Yinka and her good friend Yomi as they dive into the complex world of expectations. From unspoken assumptions to unrealistic hopes, expectations can shape our interactions and influence our emotions in ways we might not realize. Together, they explore how expectations are formed, the impact they have on friendships, family dynamics, and professional relationships, and the importance of clear communication. Through personal anecdotes and thoughtful reflections, they uncover practical strategies for managing expectations to foster healthier, more empathetic connections with others. Whether you're struggling with unmet expectations or simply curious about improving your relationships, this episode offers valuable insights and relatable stories that will resonate with everyone. Grab your favourite cup of coffee and tune in for an honest, heartfelt conversation about the weight of expectations and how to navigate them. Key Takeaways: Understanding the roots and impact of expectations Recognizing unrealistic or uncommunicated expectations The importance of self-awareness and clear communication Balancing personal needs with empathy for others' perspectives Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with friends to keep the conversation going. Stay curious, stay kind, and keep those conversations flowing.

On this episode of the podcast, I talk about how we're all hoping and praying someone takes a chance with us.

One popular saying that's making the round is “nobody is going or coming to save you. You're the only person that can save yourself”. While there's some truth to this statement as it helps to take responsibility for our lives, it also perpetuates the myth that we're self sufficient of ourselves.

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where a friend opens up about their struggles, and instead of listening and showing support you let them know that your problems are bigger than theirs. On today's episode of the podcast, I talk about how to be a safe space for the people in our lives, how no one's problem is bigger than the other.

Evaluating our love lives starts by reflecting on past relationships, when you look back on your past or present relationships, what are some key lessons you've learned about yourself and your preferences in a partner? And how are you taking those lessons or evaluations to better improve yourself? On today's episode of the podcast, I talk about evaluating your love life by taking time to see what works, what can be improved and what should be removed. Listen with a Friend.

Starting the year on your terms means starting the year, however, you like. #startingtheyear #yinkasmuse #yinkasmusepodcast #resolutions #newterms

On this episode of the podcast, I talk about making moves, taking steps towards a particular goal or something and leaving everything that no longer serves you. As you proceed into the new year, make a decision to keep on positively towards your goals and leave behind everything holding you back.

When you thank God this year just thank God.Don't thank him because calamity affected others and didn't affect you. #yinkasmuse  #thanksgiving  #gratitude  #yinkasmusepodcast

Have you been asking the question, when will things change for me? When will this happen for me like I want it to? Then I want you to know that you're in a waiting season but it gets better.Hang in there.#waitingseason #waiting #faith #trustingGod #yinkasmuse #yinkasmusepodcast #christian #christianpodcast

There's no better time to start something than now, there's never a right time or wrong time, so start today.#startnow #startingnew #anewstart #business #idea #creative  #newgoal #newjob #creator #yinkasmuse #yinkasmusepodcast  #yinkasmuseblogger

Have you ever had to postpone your happiness? I think its a disservice when we do so no matter how valid your reasons are.#yinkasmuse #yinkasmusepodcast #happiness #postponehappiness #stopit #youdeservetobehappy #choosehappiness #CapCut

Extend grace to yourself… This a gentle reminder to always extend grace to myself, particularly on hard days.#grace #yinkasmuse #yinkasmusepodcast #itgetsbetter #motivation #faith #selfreminder #reminder

Beware of the little foxes that spoil the vine.Songs of Solomon 2: 15.#yinkasmuse #yinkasmusepodcast #yinkasmusevlog #beware #bewareofthelittlefoxes #foxes #scripture

Not everyone will support you and that's okay.#yinkasmuse #yinkasmusepodcast #podcast #vlog #noteveryone #support #art #creative

There's a kind of pressure that comes from the inside, it's a different kind of pressure.#yinkasmuse #yinkamusepodcast #vlog #pressure #adifferentkindofpressure #podcast #podcastshow

Surround yourself with good stories.☘️

On this episode of the podcast, my friend surprises me with a bunch of questions from my friends to ask me as I celebrate a new age.

Join me for an eye-opening episode as I explore the art of living a shameless life. From living your truths, acknowledging one's inadequacies, shortcomings, failures & successes to sharing empowering stories and offering practical examples on how to live authentically and fearlessly. Get ready to unleash your inner confidence and join me on this inspiring journey towards shameless living.

In this episode of the podcast, I talk about dealing with cycles of failures and rejection. I share personal experiences and tips on coping when terrible life situations begin to happen and how it is important not to cave in or give up but to keep pushing till our desired aim is achieved.

In this video, I talk about the exchange program at the university of Gothenburg with an exchange student. I asked her questions about her experiences, and what it was like, particularly in comparison to studying here in Sweden, Nigeria and in the united states.

Success can mean different things to different people. For some, success may be achieving financial wealth or career advancement. For others, success may be found in personal relationships or in the pursuit of a passion or hobby. In this episode of the podcast, we talk about what success means and how different people measure success. I invite my friend and we looked at an ongoing conversation to talk more about it. #success #failure #career #wealth #failure #passion # hubby

In this episode of the podcast, I talk about how tiredness silently cripples us when we focus on all the things we have hoped against all hope to happen but are yet to occur. I talk about the fact that while it's good to have expectations about the future and our goals, It's always best to keep forging ahead irrespective of the failures and disappointments of the past. #newyear #newgoals #tired #startingtheyear #slow #fastpace #motivation #inspirational #goals

On this episode of the podcast, I sit down with an SI Scholar recipient and ask questions about what to look out for when applying for the Swedish institute scholarship, what you need to know, what you need to do and take note of and things you should avoid. email address for the educational consultant:-Damide@energeia.com Link to apply for the SI Scholarship:- www.si.se #study #studyinsweden #studyabroad #students #sweden #admission #autumn #autumn2023 #europe #exchangestudy #exchangestudents #yinkasmuse #yinkasmusepodcast #podcasts #podcast #vlog #sischolarship #sweden #swedenscholarship #scholarship #scholarships #scholar

On this episode of the podcast, I talk about laying 2022 to rest as we welcome the new year. I share some of the challenges I faced and my wins and what I hope to do more of in the new year.   #Wrappinguptheyear #laying2022torest #2022 #goals #livinginsweden #challenges # work #school #life #relationships #love #endoftheyear #workinginsweden   Facebook:-  https://www.facebook.com/Yinkaadeniyi Twitter:-  https://twitter.com/yinkadeniyi Instagram:- https://www.instagram.com/yimimka/ Pinterest:- https://www.pinterest.se/Yimimka/ Anchor Podcast:- https://anchor.fm/yinkasmuse

On this episode of the podcast, I talk about laying 2022 to rest as we welcome the new year. I share some of the challenges I faced and my wins and what I hope to do more of in the new year. #Wrappinguptheyear #laying2022torest #2022 #goals #livinginsweden #challenges # work #school #life #relationships #love #endoftheyear #workinginsweden Facebook:- https://www.facebook.com/Yinkaadeniyi Twitter:- https://twitter.com/yinkadeniyi Instagram:- https://www.instagram.com/yimimka/ Pinterest:- https://www.pinterest.se/Yimimka/ Anchor Podcast:- https://anchor.fm/yinkasmuse

On this episode of the podcast, I ask several questions about the pursuit of love...hoping for answers from you.

On this episode of the podcast I and some of my friends talk about things we are grateful for even as we begin the second year of our master program. We talked about our journey, the waiting period, what we did during those times, how we perceived and how our life is here in sweden. #Journeytosweden #sweden #nigerianinsweden #studyinsweden #liveinsweden #masterstudent #japa

On this episode of the podcast I talk about the entitlement of behaviour that a lot of men have towards their partners. I mention that getting marriage isn't an achievement and shouldn't be considered such, neither should you think you're doing your partner a favour by being with them.

On this episode of the podcast I talk about what's been going on with me lately. I give updates on the different areas of my life and basically catch up with my listeners. #lifestyle #lifeupdate #lifelately #love #relationship #business #job #school #faith #moving #people #landlord #gettingburnt