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------------------------------------------------- RSVP for Dr. Vic's FREE Online Workshop on Aug. 17th Optimizing Your Performance Through Spirituality www.EmpowerYourReality.com/webinar ---------------------------------------------------- In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Nischa Phair as we discussed various topics.  The biggest ones were talking about having authentic sex, the complexity of relationships, how to have your autonomy in a digital world, what the Fawn is and how it is it higher hierarchy, learning how to accept our biology, and the element of how important of the feeling of safe is for a woman.   This indeed was an episode I truly enjoyed and appreciated, and I know you will also.   Who is Nischa Phair? Nischa Phair is an author, researcher, trauma- informed sex educator and the founder of SomaBody Trauma Informed Pleasure Work®.   She has been a trauma-informed teacher, facilitator and embodiment coach for 14 years working with thousands of clients in that time. Nischa initially began studying the connections between fawning and sex in 2016 to better understand her own experiences.    She now works almost exclusively with female survivors and those recovering from toxic relationships to help them address fawning during intimacy and heal their relationships to pleasure. “Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes” is the first book to ever be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million-dollar question: “how can sex and intimacy thrive in a post #metoo, post- pandemic reality?”    Part exposé, part self-study guide, part memoir, “Fawn” is a rousing call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and to invite more intention and integrity into our sex lives and relationships, whether they be casual or long-term.   How to Connect with Nischa? Website: https://www.nischaheronphair.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nischaheronphair/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenischaphair/ Nischa's Book: https://amzn.to/3A1ThfV   ---------------------------------------------------   Connect with Dr. Vic... Website: www.EmpowerYourReality.com   Facebook: www.Facebook.com/drvicmanzo Instagram: www.Instagram.com/drvicmanzo LinkedIn: www.LinkedIn.com/in/drmanzo TikTok: www.TikTok.com/@drvicmanzo   To visit Dr. Vic's Book on Amazon, check out the link below: https://www.amazon.com/Dr.-Victor-Manzo-Jr./e/B09MKZTYHZ   About Dr. Vic... I'm Dr. Vic Manzo Jr., a Business Mindset Coach, Self-Mastery Expert, Influential Author, Inspirational Speaker, and the host and creator of The Mindful Experiment Podcast and The Mindful Chiropractor Podcast.   I help business owners shift their mindsets to unleash their potential and manifest their dream life.   I uncover their beliefs, blocks, behaviors, habits, and thinking patterns that prevent them from living the life or creating the business they like to experience.    From there, I use a box of tools to help reprogram the mind, reshift focus, teach spiritual truths, and bring quantum physics into the mix to unveil their true potential and make that a reality.   Ready to change your life? www.CallWithDrVic.com

She's the founder of SomaBody Trauma Informed Pleasure Work® and was a trauma-informed embodiment coach for 14 years. “Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes” is the first book to ever be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. Please help me welcome Nischa Heron Phair to Untamed & Unashamed!  We discuss:  -How she started working in this niche -What fawning is and why its a problem in relationships -Why its so hard to see red flags when they're happening -What is authentic sexuality -“It's really hard to be your authentic self in bed if you don't feel safe & supported to be your authentic self in life”  -“We don't have a sexual repression problem we have a death aversion problem”  -The difference between experiencing pleasure & doing pleasure work  -Retraumatized by a sacred sex course, (what are some things to look for in a course, or to watch out for…) -There's more safety on the other side of fear  Affiliates: Gene keys Courses: https://genekeys.com/the-dream-arc/ref/1707/ Dame Sex Toys Dame Products • Get In Touch With Yourself CODE: “JADE” Pleasure Wands & Yoni eggs: https://waands.com/?ref=MvvfOgLGokjDQQ CODE “JADE” for a discount  CBD DirectHemp.com - A Better Way to CBD CODE “JADE” for a discount HigherDOSE Infrared products:  CODE “JADE75” for $75 off  Intro music:   Milckmusic.com @milckmusic on TikTok, ig, fb, Twitter  Somebodysbeloved.com Production: Reel In Motion  https://instagram.com/untamedandunashamedpodcast?utm_medium=copy_link See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sex, trauma, and self love- oh my!   Tationa and Brittanie interview Nischa Heron Phair writer of the book Fawn: when no looks like yes. She brings us into her journey and how her own relationship trauma and experience within women-centered spaces formed her into the woman she is today. She celebrates how her success has come from her ability to let pleasure in her own life in day-to-day mundane activities and ultimately into her work with folks looking to rediscover their deeper selves. Enjoy our conversation with this amazing pleasure educator! You can get her book on the fawn response here: Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes https://a.co/d/6P14cvF Or reach her for more information on somatic pleasure coaching: https://linktr.ee/nischaheronphair

Are you interested in improving your relationship?  Have you been worried about your past trauma? In this episode, I talk with Nischa Heron Phair. She is a somatics researcher, pleasure activist and the author of Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes; a rousing call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and invite more integrity into our bedrooms and pleasure into our lives. A trauma-informed embodiment coach for 14 years, Nischa first began studying the role of fawning and intimacy in 2016 to better understand her own experiences and soon after started sharing her findings and recovery practices with her clients to great acclaim. We discuss the struggles of freezing and fawning. She shares the practice to help set better boundaries in relationships and where we may need boundaries in our lives. This is a deep topic on abuse, trauma, and how to please yourself instead of everyone else. Questions I asked: How's the weather where you are? Can you tell us about yourself and your book? Can you tell us what fawning is? How can we focus on pleasing ourselves? How can we get people to stop freezing in situations? How can we build firmer boundaries with people? Why do people need to learn to say no? Why is it important to switch from people-pleasing to pleasing ourselves? What would you like to leave with people today? Where can people find you and get your book? Topics Discussed: Freezing & Fawning. Trauma response. Domestic violence. People Pleasing Relationships. Abuse. Quotes from the show: “The book emerges after I got out of my abusive marriage.” @nischaphair @SisterhoodSweat “I was just doing whatever I needed to, in order to satisfy him.” @nischaphair @SisterhoodSweat “I didn't know how to say NO to him.” @nischaphair @SisterhoodSweat How you can stay in touch with Nischa: Website Facebook Instagram Get her book   How you can stay in touch with Linda: Website Facebook Twitter Instagram Pinterest YouTube SoundCloud   "Proud Sponsors of the Sisterhood of S.W.E.A.T"   Essential Formulas   My daily energy stems from mushrooms... mushroom coffee that is! Have you checked out Four Sigmatic yet? If you want a coffee that contains superfoods and adaptogens like rhodiola, eleuthero, and schisandra to help you live a healthier, more enhanced life, then you need Four Sigmatic mushroom coffee in your daily routine! Check out their products here and be sure to let me know what you think of it!

      BIOGRAPHY Researcher, founder of SomaBody Trauma-Informed Pleasure Work, and author of the book Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes, Nischa Phair is educating us on fawning – when we sacrifice our authenticity to gain affection – and its detriment to our relationships. As an abusive relationship survivor, Nischa dives into the influence of stress triggers on the body, plus the impacts of toxic dating culture, and how we can learn to take back control of our power.  SHOWNOTES Nischa has been in tune with her body since early childhood development and how stress responses and triggers feel in her tissues on a cellular level within her body Nischa started as a yoga teacher after a corporate career in fashion and started to learn how she turned up in her body and feel movement with dance and how this was a reflection of her life Every behaviour on the outside has a corresponding nervous tissue state for example can be seen as fight or flight and fawned responses are how our body is expressing on the outside Nischa talks about fawning in short-term and long-term relationships Consent is discussed under the fawning microscope Somatic comfort and reorienting this and being comfortable in your own skin is Nischa's definition of happiness Nischa's morning routine is drinking water, grounding and centering exercises The top three things that bring Nischa joy is being alive, dancing, and orgasms Her one meal left to eat would be veggies and dark chocolate Her top books are Bone, Breath and Gesture by Don Hanlon Johnson, and To Kill A Mockingbird Her fantasy dinner dates would be Jeff Goldblum and Maya Angelou Laughter is important to regulate the nervous system and her dog makes her laugh along with the laugh off challenge that she does with Carla Nischa's gratitude practice is getting in tune with her body and feeling into the gratitude in a somatic way

Nischa Phair is a researcher, educator, founder of SomaBody Pleasure Work and author of Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes. Today's episode is eye opening. We talk about people pleasing tendencies that shows up in the body through the nervous system as fawning.  Nischa has been a trauma-informed teacher, facilitator and coach for 14 years, and has held space for the growth of over 2200 students and clients in that time. She is so knowledgeable on topics of trauma, body therapy, and sexual authenticity - which we get into all of these today! I can't wait for you to listen! Episode Topics:Defining Trauma Nervous system regulationWhat is fawningHow does fawning relate to co-dependency and people pleasing Authentic sexuality SIGN UP NEWSLETTER: Join our email list for updates, special offers & freebies: katiekaygraham.com/newsletterSUPPORT US:Rate & Review: (1) Go to Library (2) Go to Show *not episode* (3) Scroll down to "Ratings and Reviews (3) Click "Write a ReviewShare it with a friend! Support by spreading the word!GUEST CONTACT:Website: www.nischaphair.comInstagram:  @nischaphairBook: Fawn: When No Looks Like YesBODY BREAKING FREE LISTEN ON:Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/body-breaking-free-with-katie-graham/id1558936181Spotify Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7sAzGLATt4hiGqe819iH8z?si=-pC8KPimQ269BYjJbUcLOQ&dl_branch=1Audible: https://www.audible.com/pd/ITEM_NAME-Podcast/B08NW3SG87ADD ME ON:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katiekaygraham/Join The Newsletter (email list for updates/freebies/support): katiekaygraham.com/newsletterYoutube (podcast clips): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEd8BCrGWS4s7Cynnd-4iuwEXTRAS & FREEBIES:Free Resources: https://katiekaygraham.com/resourcesFree Morning Mantras for Food & Body PDF: https://katieyoung539.lpages.co/morning-affirmations/Episode Shownotes (more episode details & resources): https://katiekaygraham.com/blog/51

What is fawning? How do we find our authentic sexuality? How does trauma affect our ability to be in our bodies and in turn, experience pleasure? Find out in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the incredible author, researcher, and sex educator, Nischa Heron Phair on Your Guide to Fawning. For more on this episode click here: https://www.the-heart-center.com/ep-99-your-guide-to-fawning-with-nischa-heron-phair/ Learn more about your guest below: Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, traumainformed sex educator and the founder of SomaBody Trauma Informed Pleasure Work®. She has been a trauma-informed teacher, facilitator and embodiment coach for 14 years working with thousands of clients in that time. Nischa initially began studying the connections between fawning and sex in 2016 to better understand her own experiences. She now works almost exclusively with female survivors and those recovering from toxic relationships to help them address fawning during intimacy and heal their relationships to pleasure. “Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes” is the first book to ever be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million-dollar question: “how can sex and intimacy thrive in a post-#metoo, postpandemic reality?” Part exposé, part self-study guide, part memoir, “Fawn” is a rousing call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and to invite more intention and integrity into our sex lives and relationships, whether they be casual or long term. Learn more at - https://www.nischaphair.com/ - https://www.instagram.com/nischaphair/ Learn more about your host and the show at: www.zachbeach.com www.the-heart-center.com Support The Show: If you like the show there are many ways you can support it, such as, - Buy a book from our blossoming professional network: http://www.the-heart-center.com/books/ - Register for Relationship Mastery, a 6-week self-guided course to take your relationship to the next level. https://www.the-heart-center.com/relationship-mastery-landing-page/ - Check out one of our sponsors, Listenable, and use the discount code “zachbeach” for the first seven days on the platform for free. There you can find Zach's How To Be a Better Partner Course: https://frstre.com/go/?a=76205-87a7d9&s=1256514-e13191&p_affiliate.referral_code=zachbeach - Purchase The Seven Lessons of Love: Heart Wisdom for Troubling Times on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Love-Heart-Wisdom-Troubling/dp/1983940704/ - Purchase a love shirt and show the world your love of love https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-heart-center/ - Review, Like, and Subscribe to the show on iTunes. - Like us on Facebook facebook.com/learntolovenow - Join the Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1428012130828678/

Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, trauma-informed pleasure educator. This week she joins the fellas to talk about the fawn response. What is the fawn response you may ask? It's one of your stress responses, silly. You know those types of conversations that sort of blow your mind wide open and fundamentally change the way you see the world? This is one of them! What does it mean to fawn? How does it affect your life? How does it manifest between patient and practitioner? On top of all of that the gang also touches on institutionalized hierarchies, and our unhealthy cultural attitudes around death. Don't worry. We'll have Nischa on again some day soon! Check out Nischa's website and grab yourself a copy of her book Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes - https://www.nischaheronphair.com/ *Join the post-episode conversation over on Discord! https://discord.gg/expeUDN

Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, trauma-informed pleasure educator. This week she joins the fellas to talk about the fawn response. What is the fawn response you may ask? It's one of your stress responses, silly. You know those types of conversations that sort of blow your mind wide open and fundamentally change the way you see the world? This is one of them! What does it mean to fawn? How does it affect your life? How does it manifest between patient and practitioner? On top of all of that the gang also touches on institutionalized hierarchies, and our unhealthy cultural attitudes around death. Don't worry. We'll have Nischa on again some day soon! Check out Nischa's website and grab yourself a copy of her book Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes - https://www.nischaheronphair.com/ *Join the post-episode conversation over on Discord! https://discord.gg/expeUDN

The conversation with Nischa Phair continues to unchartered waters…Reframing pleasure and sexuality. Analyzing the toxic dating culture and how to build healthy relationships. Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, trauma-informed pleasure educator. She works with survivors and those recovering from unhealthy relationships to help them reclaim a nourishing, authentic and soulfully aligned relationship to pleasure that supports them to live more purposefully in every area of their lives. Her book, Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes, is the first book to be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million-dollar question: How can sex and intimacy thrive in a post-#metoo, post-pandemic reality? Part exposé, part self-study guide, part memoir, Fawn is a rousing and heartfelt call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and to invite more integrity and intention into our sex lives and relationships, whether they be casual or long-term. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and of course SHARE! And above all, reflect and enjoy!

Lyn is joined by Nischa Phair, a trauma-informed pleasure educator, and the founder of SomaBody Pleasure Work, to talk about how she helps people rebuild positive connections between their brain and heart, and her incredible book 'Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes', about the ways in which we are sometimes conditioned to go along with things we might not feel comfortable with. KEY TAKEAWAYS Fawning is a relatively new term, and is used to describe a stress response - a thing we do in order to feel comfortable and safe that seeks to limit the amount of conflict or harm we may experience. The health of our relationships is inextricably linked to our ability to become the person we were meant to be when we arrived on the planet. Women often feel the need to go along with something they might not feel comfortable with in order to make a situation acceptable. This can often become apparent in a sexual senario. BEST MOMENTS 'I took it upon myself to create a system that would be supportive for people' 'Fawning is a stress response' 'Expectations are constantly placed upon women to be caring and nurturing'  VALUABLE RESOURCES Hearts Entwined Podcast Apple Podcasts (iTunes) Spotify Stitcher       ABOUT THE GUEST - Nischa Phair Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, trauma-informed pleasure educator and the founder of SomaBody Pleasure Work®. She has been a trauma-informed facilitator and embodiment coach for 14 years, and has held space for thousands of students and clients in that time. Her book - Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes - is the first to ever be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million-dollar question: "how can sex and intimacy thrive in a post #metoo, post-pandemic world?" Part exposé, part memoir, part self-study guide, "Fawn" is a rousing call to celebrate our authentic sexuality, and to invite more integrity into our bedrooms and more pleasure into our lives. Web: www.nischaphair.com Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1777889200 IG: @nischaphair ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn's personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world's leading industry experts. Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life' centres. CONTACT METHOD lyn@hearts-entwined.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Chatting with Nischa Phair brings up a lot of good vibes and commitment to oneself and others. Analyzing how to build healthy relationships. Explaining fawning & performing in relationships. Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, trauma-informed pleasure educator. She works with survivors and those recovering from unhealthy relationships to help them reclaim a nourishing, authentic and soulfully-aligned relationship to pleasure that supports them to live more purposefully in every area of their lives. Her book, Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes is the first book to be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million dollar question: How can sex and intimacy thrive in a post-#metoo, post-pandemic reality? Part exposé, part self-study guide, part memoir, Fawn is a rousing and heartfelt call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and to invite more integrity and intention into our sex lives and relationships, whether they be casual or long-term. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and of course SHARE! And above all, reflect and enjoy!

You are a wise woman. You have within you all the knowing you need... we tend to forget this or in some cases have this part of ourselves knocked out of us. Erin, Ellie and I wander through conversation that will wake you up and remind you, it is safe for you to know your true self, show up as that self every day and that the world needs you to show up to and for yourself - for such a time as this.  ** “The value that we have right now is in honoring ourselves, honoring what our souls are telling us is necessary for us to be the change. For us to step up and embrace our feminine power.” -Erin Hodgson  Ellie Bell: Is a certified life coach who uses her intuition to empower and support women to build unshakable confidence in themselves. She works with successful heart-centered women to navigate their journey of self-discovery; her approach incorporates her coachability, shadow work, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and other healing modalities. She believes that in order to find wholeness, there needs to be an acknowledgment of the parts of us that are not deemed acceptable by society; there needs to be a willingness to uncover the wounds and scars we gain during life; to understand the impact they have on our sense of being, and the opportunities that open up when you're ready to up-level your life. Ellie works with clients to help them stop looking for external validation and understand that they have all they need within themselves. Ellie had a successful career in sports administration for over 12 years which included roles such as head of marketing and comms and event director at Cricket World Cup. She's originally from the UK and moved to New Zealand in 2013 for her role with CWC15 where she met her now-husband. Much of the work she does today is inspired by her wish to create a better world for her two daughters. Erin Hodgson: For almost 38 years of my life, I had little awareness of the importance of spirituality, engaging with the natural world, and embracing the feminine and elemental energies inside me.   At 38, my spiritual awakening was long overdue, yet very unexpected. Until that point, I believed that intellect, action, and power were the keys to success. I had spent years striving, failing, pushing for more, and finding myself increasingly unsatisfied by any of it.   When I discovered the power of understanding that I am a spiritual being, having a human experience and that everything is energy, I began to realise just how little I actually knew of myself and who I am at my core. The more I delved into that awareness and started to explore what it looked like for me, the more I felt a growing sense of ease and calm, at a deep soul level. I began to connect with my intuition, with spirit, with the energies that allow me to co-create a different reality for myself.I learned about healing through working with ancestors, past lives, akashic records, body testing, and more. I learned how to expand and grow through embracing my connection to natural cycles, the four elements of fire, earth, air, and water, and the sacred feminine. While learning more about who I am, as a spiritual being, I have spent hours unpacking my belief systems, the learned behaviours and programs that come from generations of women being undervalued and held back, from a society that heavily favours the masculine, from oppressive systems designed by men to ensure a society that thrives upon power, inequality, and competition. As I navigated the necessary healing and releasing of some of those wounds, I found myself in a position of true power, internal power, with the capacity to share my new truth with others and, in turn, encourage them to engage their curiosity and find their own truth. Connect with Erin & Ellie:  https://www.awakeningthewisewoman.com/ https://www.awakeningthewisewoman.com/podcasts/she-is-wise https://www.awakeningthewisewoman.com/blog/ https://www.facebook.com/awakeningthewisewoman https://www.instagram.com/awakeningthewisewoman/ Mentioned in the episode: https://www.awakeningthewisewoman.com/offerings/ https://integrityseminars.com/ https://www.candicesmiley.com/e58-pleasure-trauma-fawning https://www.awakeningthewisewoman.com/she-awakens   We love our collabs!  Check this out!   Rachel Shumway - How to Bad-Ass It By Your Boundaries Starter Kit: https://www.thebadassacademy.com/ Grab your copy of Nischa Phair's book Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes here: https://www.nischaphair.com/fawn-book **   “21 years ago I survived a sexual assault from my boyfriend.  14 years ago I decided not to kill myself.  11 years ago I was left with 350 k worth of bad debt.  9 years ago I walked away rather than endure sexual coercion and harassment from my boss. 7 years ago I welcomed my beautiful daughter into the world.  5 years ago I left my marriage to fall in love with myself. 3 years ago I allowed myself to fully heal and reconnect with my feminine;  2 years ago I rebuilt my life, moved into my own tiny home and found my Lifetime Love.  Last year, I started my podcast and welcomed my baby boy earth side." Candice is a mom, podcaster, social marketer and essentialist who loves to engage in interesting conversations with other influencers and entrepreneurs.  Her favourite conversations are the ones that take courage to engage in.  (Check out her podcast, Create the Ripple Podcast)   She has learned the power of saying no, listening to your own heart and speaks openly about subtle abuse as it occurs in relationships - personally and professionally.   She's become a voice for listening to your own truth and speaking it clearly, powerfully - at home, at work and in your life.  She spends her time living - in a tiny home (250 sq ft), traveling, speaking and sharing candidly with others how to live life after betrayal, to trust themselves, to speak up for themselves and set powerful boundaries.    After a narcissistic partner cheated on her with multiple women, left her (and the country!) With over 350 thousand dollars worth of bad debt, Candice was forced to rebuild her life, her credit and her trust in herself. Coming out of this, she encountered her own “Me Too” moment dealing with sexual coercion and harassment in her professional life; saying no resulted in her being the target of gossip that tarnished her reputation.    Deeply affected by the gaslighting and the experiences, she adopted a minimalist lifestyle, leaned on her personal network and practiced radical personal forgiveness, acceptance and responsibility.  The journey was not without its impact and Candice shares powerfully about dealing with anxiety, depression, shame and learning to let go.   When grief rocked her world a little less than 2 years ago, Candice knew it was time to stop her life, hit the pause button and finally do the deep work to heal her heart, self and mindset.  Emerging from this place, Candice has begun to embrace her fierce and receptive feminine nature.  The journey to be and embrace all the parts of herself has led her to the place to start her wildly successful Create the Ripple Podcast; Trust the Niggle and Tell the Truth - where she features other amazing guests who are not afraid to do the hard work of personal development, listen to their own minds/heart and then speak up and out for those things that matter; to themselves and to make a difference in the world.   Candice loves her essentialist lifestyle for the beauty and freedom it offers her.  She can never resist the urge to take off her boots to walk barefoot into a clear mountain lake or stream. 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Researcher, trauma-informed sex-educator, founder of SomaBody Trauma-Informed Pleasure Work, and author of the book Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes, Nischa Phair is educating us on fawning – when we sacrifice our authenticity to gain affection – and its detriment to our relationships. As an abusive relationship survivor, Nischa dives into the influence of stress triggers on the body, plus the impacts of toxic dating culture, and how we can learn to take back control of our sexuality.

TRIGGER WARNING - We discuss abuse and trauma in this episode, so if that content isn't for you, please exercise your discretion with this episode.   This might have been one of the most important conversations I've had about healing your trauma yet. Learn about fawning as a trauma response.  Why it's likely that you have done this, or might still be; and why it's important to acknowledge the behaviour and stop it.   This is a podcast for anyone who finds themselves dating “down” or who feel unworthy of love - wholly.  ** “Have self-compassion and self trust for all of those voices that are untrue because they are the voices of your wounded child or the wounded part that was injured by abuse. It could be physical, emotional, sexual and even substance abuse.” -Nischa Phair  Nischa Phair is an author, researcher, trauma informed sex educator and the founder of  SomaBody Trauma Informed Pleasure Work®.  She has been a trauma-informed teacher, facilitator and  embodiment coach for 14 years working with thousands  of clients in that time.  Nischa initially began studying the connections  between fawning and sex in 2016 to better understand  her own experiences. She now works almost exclusively  with female survivors and those recovering from toxic  relationships to help them address fawning during  intimacy and heal their relationships to pleasure.  “Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes” is the first book to  ever be written about fawning in the context of sex  and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair  attempts to answer the million-dollar question: “how  can sex and intimacy thrive in a post-#metoo, post pandemic reality?” Part exposé, part self-study guide,  part memoir, “Fawn” is a rousing call to celebrate our  authentic sexuality and to invite more intention and  integrity into our sex lives and relationships, whether  they be casual or long term.  Connect with Nischa Phair: https://www.nischaphair.com/ https://www.instagram.com/nischaphair/   Grab your copy of Nischa Phair's book Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes here: https://www.nischaphair.com/fawn-book We love our collabs!  Check this out! https://www.awakeningthewisewoman.com/a/2147504394/p9ZFkwiZ   Awakening The Wise Woman: https://www.awakeningthewisewoman.com/she-awakens   Rachel Shumway - How to Bad-Ass It By Your Boundaries Starter Kit: https://www.thebadassacademy.com/ Dr. Mikolaj Raszek (Merogenomics Inc.).: https://merogenomics.ca/ https://www.youtube.com/c/Merogenomics **   “21 years ago I survived a sexual assault from my boyfriend.  14 years ago I decided not to kill myself.  11 years ago I was left with 350 k worth of bad debt.  9 years ago I walked away rather than endure sexual coercion and harassment from my boss. 7 years ago I welcomed my beautiful daughter into the world.  5 years ago I left my marriage to fall in love with myself. 3 years ago I allowed myself to fully heal and reconnect with my feminine;  2 years ago I rebuilt my life, moved into my own tiny home and found my Lifetime Love.  Last year, I started my podcast and welcomed my baby boy earth side." Candice is a mom, podcaster, social marketer and essentialist who loves to engage in interesting conversations with other influencers and entrepreneurs.  Her favourite conversations are the ones that take courage to engage in.  (Check out her podcast, Create the Ripple Podcast)   She has learned the power of saying no, listening to your own heart and speaks openly about subtle abuse as it occurs in relationships - personally and professionally.   She's become a voice for listening to your own truth and speaking it clearly, powerfully - at home, at work and in your life.  She spends her time living - in a tiny home (250 sq ft), traveling, speaking and sharing candidly with others how to live life after betrayal, to trust themselves, to speak up for themselves and set powerful boundaries.    After a narcissistic partner cheated on her with multiple women, left her (and the country!) With over 350 thousand dollars worth of bad debt, Candice was forced to rebuild her life, her credit and her trust in herself. Coming out of this, she encountered her own “Me Too” moment dealing with sexual coercion and harassment in her professional life; saying no resulted in her being the target of gossip that tarnished her reputation.    Deeply affected by the gaslighting and the experiences, she adopted a minimalist lifestyle, leaned on her personal network and practiced radical personal forgiveness, acceptance and responsibility.  The journey was not without its impact and Candice shares powerfully about dealing with anxiety, depression, shame and learning to let go.   When grief rocked her world a little less than 2 years ago, Candice knew it was time to stop her life, hit the pause button and finally do the deep work to heal her heart, self and mindset.  Emerging from this place, Candice has begun to embrace her fierce and receptive feminine nature.  The journey to be and embrace all the parts of herself has led her to the place to start her wildly successful Create the Ripple Podcast; Trust the Niggle and Tell the Truth - where she features other amazing guests who are not afraid to do the hard work of personal development, listen to their own minds/heart and then speak up and out for those things that matter; to themselves and to make a difference in the world.   Candice loves her essentialist lifestyle for the beauty and freedom it offers her.  She can never resist the urge to take off her boots to walk barefoot into a clear mountain lake or stream. When she is not connecting or writing, she can be found disappearing into the backcountry trails of Canada with her life-love Mark and losing herself exploring waterfalls and mountain trails. She is a quiet introvert who adores eating clean foods and reading a great book.     For Website and Social Links: https://candicesmiley.carrd.co/       DISCLOSURE: I USE MY WEBSITE  AND SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS TO CREATE THE INCOME THAT SUPPORTS MY LIFESTYLE. WHEN YOU FOLLOW ME POSTS/ARTICLES/PAGES/ESSAYS  MAY CONTAIN AFFILIATE LINKS, MEANING I GET A COMMISSION IF YOU DECIDE TO MAKE A PURCHASE THROUGH MY LINKS, AT NO COST TO YOU. PLEASE READ MY DISCLOSURE FOR MORE INFO   Special thank you to Angel Carrola Hennig for making this podcast happen   @faithinsmallhands @angelcarrolahennig Like what you hear? It would mean so much to me if you would take a minute to rate and review the show! 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You've probably heard of fight, flight, or freeze, but did you know that fawning (going out of your way to please someone) is also a trauma response? While fawning is a common stress response for many women, it's especially prevalent after infidelity or betrayal. Learn how to identify, manage, and stop fawning behaviors so you can create and hold better, more authentic boundaries. Top take-a-ways: Why so many women claim the “don't like sex,” and how to reclaim and reorient to pleasure by understanding the difference between the “stress management mode” and the “pleasure production mode.” Reveling in the pride of surviving your trauma and releasing shame when you wake up one day and wonder, “How did this happen?” by understanding that fawning in a biological stress response (not an emotional defect) that it is trained into us as women, as our instincts are slowly trained out. The reasons why we can't see red flags in relationships until it's too late, and why we explain away unhealthy, toxic masculinity and behaviors. Top tip! The power of the “Somatic Pause” (which is a body-full, instead of mindful break) and how to incorporate little moments of pleasure throughout the day. How pleasure helps us see the truth of who we are and what we need to do to heal ourselves and feel better. Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, trauma-informed sex educator and the founder of SomaBody Trauma-Informed Pleasure Work. She works with survivors and those recovering from unhealthy relationships to help them reclaim a nourishing, authentic and soulfully-aligned relationship to pleasure that supports them to live more purposefully in every area of their lives. Her book, Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes is the first book to be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million-dollar question: How can sex and intimacy thrive in a post-#metoo, post-pandemic reality? Part exposé, part self-study guide, part memoir, Fawn is a rousing and heartfelt call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and to invite more integrity and intention into our sex lives and relationships, whether they be casual or long-term. Learn more at: https://www.nischaphair.com   Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that's been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!

Fawn: Why Smart Women Ignore Red Flags with Nischa Phair You've probably heard of fight, flight, or freeze, but did you know that fawning (going out of your way to please someone) is also a trauma response? While fawning is a common stress response for many women, it's especially prevalent after infidelity or betrayal. Learn how to identify, manage, and stop fawning behaviors so you can create and hold better, more authentic boundaries. Top take-a-ways: Why so many women claim the “don't like sex,” and how to reclaim and reorient to pleasure by understanding the difference between the “stress management mode” and the “pleasure production mode.” Reveling in the pride of surviving your trauma and releasing shame when you wake up one day and wonder, “How did this happen?” by understanding that fawning in a biological stress response (not an emotional defect) that it is trained into us as women, as our instincts are slowly trained out. The reasons why we can't see red flags in relationships until it's too late, and why we explain away unhealthy, toxic masculinity and behaviors. Top tip!The power of the “Somatic Pause” (which is a body-full, instead of mindful break) and how to incorporate little moments of pleasure throughout the day. How pleasure helps us see the truth of who we are and what we need to do to heal ourselves and feel better. Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, trauma-informed sex educator and the founder of SomaBody Trauma-Informed Pleasure Work. She works with survivors and those recovering from unhealthy relationships to help them reclaim a nourishing, authentic and soulfully-aligned relationship to pleasure that supports them to live more purposefully in every area of their lives. Her book, Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes is the first book to be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million-dollar question: How can sex and intimacy thrive in a post-#metoo, post-pandemic reality? Part exposé, part self-study guide, part memoir, Fawn is a rousing and heartfelt call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and to invite more integrity and intention into our sex lives and relationships, whether they be casual or long-term. Learn more at: https://www.nischaphair.com Sign up for FREE at www.BurnoutOrBetrayal.com I can't wait for everything this year has in store for you!!! Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that's been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.NakedSelfWorth.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! 

In this episode, I invite Nischa Phair back for a deep dive on receiving pleasure, authentic sexuality and how they are related. Nischa tells us about how pleasure “is relational thing” — it is an outward thing that we share. She talks about how authentic sexuality is a commitment to a process — something we might not always practice well, but try our best next time. She also speaks to some other off-topics like “collapsing the vanilla-kink duality,” “tend and befriend” behavior, and how breath and pleasure work together. All of these topics can be found in her book: FAWN: When No Looks Like Yes, available where books are sold. Don't forget to catch Part 1: #49. "Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes" — Her new book on the nervous system, ignoring red flags, and fawning — where we unpack the definition of fawning. How our nervous system is informed by the outside world. What happens in our body when we fawn — a shut down below the diaphragm. She tells us how this might be the reason women are without libido and disconnected from their pleasure and erotic energy. Nischa tells us her story and direct experiences of fawning. Interested in working with a Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 or couples coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching ____________________ Links we talked about: https://www.nischaphair.com/site/about https://www.instagram.com/nischaphair/ Buy the book: https://www.nischaphair.com/fawn-book ____________________ Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator, Ellen Melon can be found: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________

Nischa Phair has been a trauma-informed teacher, facilitator and embodiment coach for 14 years working with thousands of clients in that time. Nischa initially began studying the connections between fawning and sex in 2016 to better understand her own experiences. She now works almost exclusively with female survivors and those recovering from toxic relationships to help them address fawning during intimacy and heal their relationships to pleasure. “Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes” is the first book to ever be written about fawning in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million-dollar question: “how can sex and intimacy thrive in a post-#metoo, post-pandemic reality?” Part exposé, part self-study guide, part memoir, “Fawn” is a rousing call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and to invite more intention and integrity into our sex lives and relationships, whether they be casual or long term. Stay connected with her! web: www.nischaphair.com book: www.nischaphair.com/fawn-book IG: @nischaphair Pleasure Coaching Freebie: https://nischa-phair.mykajabi.com/pleasure-prompts

Nischa Heron Phair is an author, researcher, and trauma-informed sex educator. She works almost exclusively with female survivors and those recovering from unhealthy relationships to help them reclaim a nourishing, authentic, and soulfully-aligned relationship to pleasure that supports them to live purposefully in every area of their lives.Her book “Fawn: When No Looks Like Yes” is the first book to ever be written in the context of sex and consent. In addition to sounding the alarm, Phair attempts to answer the million-dollar question: “how can sex and intimacy thrive in a post-metoo, post-pandemic reality?”Part exposé, part memoir, part self-study guide, “Fawn” is a rousing call to celebrate our authentic sexuality and invite more intention and integrity into our sex lives and relationships, whether they be casual or long term. Connect with Nischa on her website, check out her book, or follow her on IG! Resources/Links: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp: Get 10% off the first month of online therapy at https://betterhelp.com/carlyThis episode is sponsored by Terraseed: Get 50% off your first month of vegan vitamins at: https://lddy.no/11h0lThis episode is supported by SheThinx: Get $10 off your next order of period underwear at: Shethinx.com/carlypuchCheck out the new Self-Love Reset Course!Thanks for listening to another episode. Follow, review and share to help Consciously Clueless grow! Support Carly on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/consciouslycarlyConnect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/consciously.carly/Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/consciously.carly.blogConnect on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/carlyjean5/Explore the Website: https://www.consciouslycarly.com/Music by Matthew Baxley