Podcasts about fawning

In dieser Folge gehen wir einen Schritt weiter: Wenn du dich im Fawning wiedererkennst – wie kannst du damit umgehen? Du erfährst, wie diese Reaktion mit deinem Nervensystem zusammenhängt und warum Veränderung nicht über Druck, sondern über Sicherheit entsteht. Diese Folge lädt dich ein, dich selbst wieder mehr zu spüren – und erste kleine Schritte zurück zu dir zu gehen. In dieser Folge erfährst du: Warum Fawning eine automatische Reaktion deines Nervensystems ist Wieso Veränderung im Körper beginnt – nicht nur im Kopf Wie du erste kleine Schritte aus dem Anpassungsmuster machen kannst Warum es nicht um „hart werden", sondern um echtes Bei-dir-Sein geht Eine kleine Geschichte aus dem Café zeigt, wie schnell wir „Ja" sagen, obwohl wir eigentlich erschöpft sind – und wie sich das im Körper anfühlt. Die Erkenntnis: Du musst nicht sofort alles verändern. Oft reicht ein kleiner Moment mehr Bewusstsein – und ein ehrlicher Satz. Wichtiger Gedanke aus der Folge: Du reagierst nicht falsch. Dein Nervensystem versucht, dich zu schützen. Und genau deshalb darf Veränderung sanft sein. Reflexionsfragen für dich: Wo passe ich mich an, obwohl ich es nicht möchte? Was würde ich sagen, wenn ich mich sicher fühlen würde? Welche kleinen Grenzen fühlen sich heute möglich an? Wie fühlt sich „bei mir sein" körperlich an? Du darfst langsam gehen. Du darfst üben. Und du darfst dich immer wieder neu entscheiden. Grenzen sind nichts, was du gegen andere setzt. Sie sind etwas, das dich für dich selbst schützt. Wenn dich diese Folge berührt hat, abonniere den Podcast oder teile ihn mit jemandem, dem er guttun könnte. Meine Einladung an dich: Der Nervensystem Reset 6 somatische Übungen, die deinem Körper helfen, den Alarmzustand zu verlassen und in Ruhe zu kommen. Zum Kurs: https://www.karlajohannaschaeffer.com/6-tage-nervensystem-reset

Emotional loneliness is one of the most common and least talked about experiences in complex trauma recovery. It's not about the number of people in your life. It's about whether your nervous system has learned to let them in. And for a lot of survivors, it hasn't. Not because something is permanently wrong with you, but because your nervous system learned some very specific things about connection a long time ago.In this episode, I break down some of the neuroscience and nervous system mechanics behind emotional loneliness in CPTSD, why it runs so much deeper than social isolation, and what actually helps.In this episode:Why emotional loneliness and social isolation are not the same thing, and why adding more people to your life won't fix the second oneThe push-pull cycle so many survivors live in, desperately wanting connection and pulling back the moment someone gets closeHow emotional neglect specifically creates a loneliness that's hard to name because the wound is in what didn't happen, not what didWhy hyperindependence is often a nervous system adaptation, not a personality traitThe role of the HPA axis and oxytocin in why connection can feel physically threatening even when you want itHow shame creates concealment, and how concealment sustains loneliness in a cycle that's hard to breakWhat dissociation and hypervigilance have to do with why connection doesn't land even when it's right in front of youWhy healing often makes loneliness feel worse before it gets better, and what that actually meansWhat capacity building looks like when the goal is learning to receive connection, not just find itResources that might support you:Episode 126: The Inner Critic with Emily PagoneEpisode 127: Attunement and Rupture in the Clinical Relationship with Katie FriesEpisode 128: Fawning as a Trauma ResponseThanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast!Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform.Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Follow on TikTok: @sarahherstichlcswLearn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim TherapyThis podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment.Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER.The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.

The system failed her. She told the truth anyway.Part II picks up with Emma making the drive back to his house — not for reconciliation, but for answers she was never going to get. She arrived to find a man who looked like a total mess, said nothing about her new car, and within minutes set a large knife in front of her on the bed.What followed was assault. Coercion under the guise of reconnection, with a loaded gun and that knife within arm's reach. Completely restrained, face down, staring at red velvet curtains while Stranger Things played in the background. A phone appeared. A photo she never consented to. A chuckle.She got out the only way she knew how. Fawning. Years of trauma had taught her body exactly what to do to avoid things turning violent. When she got home and finally looked at her phone, she found two photos and a four-second video of herself — taken without her knowledge or consent. Both illegal. A week later, a lawyer by her side, she filed a police report.The DA picked up the case the same day. A felony warrant was issued the next morning. He spent two weeks on the run — attending the concert they were supposed to go to together, posting on social media, and quietly soliciting Mad Libs-style fake witness statements from strangers. Emma sent everything to the DA. They did nothing.The grand jury disposed the case. No forensic phone examination. No follow-up interview. The victim advocate stopped returning her calls. The restraining order was denied. He still has the material. He always will. Her healing journey can be interrupted any day by whatever he decides to do with it next.She is learning to live with that. And she came on this podcast anyway — because people like him thrive on secrecy, and she promised herself she would never be quiet.

Chantel Chapman, CEO and founder of the Trauma of Money Institute, reveals the surprising and deeply personal ways that past trauma, including generational scarcity, relational wounds, and systemic stress, shows up in our financial behaviour. She introduces the concept of "financial fawning" (using money to seek approval and avoid abandonment), explains why scarcity triggers the same brain response as trauma, and shares why naming what's happening in a client relationship can be the single most powerful thing a financial professional can do. Find out more at thetraumaofmoney.com and connect on Instagram with @chantelchapman, and @traumaofmoney.

In deze aflevering duiken we in een stressrespons waar steeds vaker over wordt gesproken: fawning.Waarom zeg je ja terwijl je eigenlijk nee voelt? Waarom ben je zo bezig met de behoeften van anderen, terwijl je eigen behoeften steeds verder naar de achtergrond verdwijnen?Je ontdekt:Wat fawning precies isHoe het verschilt van 'gewoon' pleasenWat de polyvagaal theorie hierover zegtWaarom zoveel mensen met burn-out dit patroon herkennenOf fawning iets is wat je kunt aflerenEn hoe meer begrip voor je zenuwstelsel kan zorgen voor minder zelfkritiekWe starten 19 juni weer met een nieuwe burnout buddies groep. Kijk voor meer informatie op www.evelienaarten.nl

In this episode Cath talks about her concept 'Giving Up on Being Good' and the 'Good Girl Grid'. The experience of emotional neglect produces a set of coping strategies based on our stress responses and unwinding these as we grow and develop as adults is really important so that we can live our own TRUE lives.This work happens on multiple levels - cognitive, emotional, somatic, spiritual and we have to tolerate the discomfort of practising new ways of being in order that we live for ourselves, not to demonstrate goodness (for an imaginary audience!!)Cath shares ways she is 'not good' based on what society might expect and how she frees herself to live within the context of her life, so that you can figure out how you can 'give up on being good' in your own life.This will be the last episode now as we take a short break for summer.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Covert narcissistic abuse doesn't just hurt you — it rewires you. In this episode, Renee breaks down why your fight/flight response gradually turned into fawning, and why that isn't a character flaw — it's survival. You'll learn why fight, flight, freeze, and fawn aren't random reactions. They're a hierarchy based on how much self-advocacy you feel you have. And in a covert narcissistic relationship, that self-advocacy gets quietly, systematically dismantled — until fawning becomes your automatic default. In this episode: Why the four trauma responses are actually a hierarchy of self-advocacy How covert narcissists punish fight, flight, and freeze — and reward fawning Why so many survivors grew up already partway down this hierarchy How a controlling or narcissistic parent trained you for this dynamic long before you met your partner Why religious upbringings can add a powerful layer of conditioning — and why this topic is getting its own full episode Why you keep ending up in narcissistic relationships — and why it has nothing to do with bad luck Why healthy relationships can actually feel uncomfortable to a nervous system wired for chaos This is episode one of a three-part series. Episode two will look at what this hierarchy looks like in your day-to-day life. Episode three will explore what it actually means to start rebuilding your self-advocacy. If you've ever asked yourself "why do I keep ending up here?" — this episode is for you. Learn more about Renee's coaching program at covertnarcissism.com. The information provided by Renee Swanson, Covert Narcissism Podcast, and CNG Life Coaching is for educational purposes only and is not to be used for diagnosis purposes, and is not intended to be a substitute for clinical care. Please consult a healthcare provider for guidance specific to your case. This material discusses narcissism in general. Renee shares stories from her personal experiences as well as from those she has talked with for several years. Her material does not claim that any specific person has narcissism and should not be used to refer to any specific person as having narcissism. Permission is not granted to link to or repost this material to support an allegation or claim that any specific person is a narcissist. That would be an unauthorized misuse of the material and information provided. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Do you constantly over-do, over-give, and over-perform to "earn your keep" in your relationships? On this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton transitions to an all-new, single-topic format to take a deep, evidence-based dive into the world of over-functioning. Through real community stories and personal reflections, Kati maps out the 6-stage cycle that leads from automatic over-giving straight into quiet resentment, eventual blowups, and toxic guilt. But this isn't just an emotional burden. Kati shares fascinating, decades-spanning clinical research—including the concept of "unmitigated communion," a 7-year study following 1,340 couples, and a chilling 2022 medical study linking "self-silencing" directly to physical cardiovascular risks like carotid plaque. If your body is carrying what your mouth refuses to say, it is time to break the loop. Tune in to get a clear, 4-step actionable framework to practice "deliberate under-functioning," express specific needs, and tolerate the discomfort of choosing growth over chronic exhaustion. Chapters: 00:00 - A New Format for Ask Kati Anything 02:00 - What is Over-Functioning? Community Stories 04:00 - Fawning, People-Pleasing, and the Need to Feel Safe 07:40 - Earning Love: Kati's Personal Story with Perfectionism 11:50 - The 6 Rungs of the Over-Functioning Cycle 22:02 - Episode sponsor message: BiOptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough - go to https://bioptimizers.com/kati and use code KATI for 15% off your entire order Plus a Free bottle of Masszymes 23:34 - Unmitigated Communion: When the Self Disappears 30:23 - The Relationship Trap: 7-Year Study of 1,340 Couples 35:36 - The Cardiovascular Cost of Self-Silencing 38:27 - Step 1: Identify Your Current Rung 40:34 - Step 2: Deliberate Under-Functioning 45:30 - Step 3: Make a Single, Specific Ask 49:15 - Step 4: Tolerate the Discomfort (Data vs. Danger) 52:43 - Next Week's Preview: Understanding Health Insurance Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it, leave your questions for next week's topic in the comments, and don't forget to subscribe! Books Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In dieser Folge sprechen wir über eine oft übersehene Stressreaktion: Fawning. Dabei geht es um das starke Bedürfnis, Konflikte zu vermeiden und die eigenen Bedürfnisse zugunsten anderer zurückzustellen. Vielleicht kennst du das Gefühl, immer „Ja" zu sagen, obwohl du eigentlich „Nein" meinst. Oder die Angst, andere zu enttäuschen. Diese Folge hilft dir, Fawning besser zu verstehen – und dich selbst darin liebevoll zu erkennen. In dieser Folge erfährst du: Was Fawning überhaupt ist – und warum es eine natürliche Stressreaktion ist Wie sich Fawning im Alltag zeigt Welche typischen Gedanken und Verhaltensmuster dahinterstecken Warum diese Reaktion oft in der Kindheit entsteht Weshalb dein Verhalten Sinn macht (auch wenn es sich heute belastend anfühlt) Typische Anzeichen von Fawning: Du sagst „Ja", obwohl du innerlich „Nein" fühlst Du passt dich stark an andere an Du vermeidest Konflikte um jeden Preis Du fühlst dich verantwortlich für die Gefühle anderer Deine eigenen Bedürfnisse treten in den Hintergrund Wichtiger Gedanke aus der Folge: Fawning ist kein Fehler. Es ist eine gelernte Schutzstrategie deines Nervensystems. Reflexionsfragen für dich: Wann sage ich „Ja", obwohl ich „Nein" fühle? Was glaube ich, passiert, wenn ich mich abgrenze? In welchen Situationen verliere ich mich selbst ein Stück? Welche Bedürfnisse von mir bleiben oft ungehört? In der nächsten Folge, Teil 2: Wie du mit Fawning umgehen kannst Was dein Nervensystem damit zu tun hat Praktische Wege, um wieder mehr bei dir anzukommen Meine Links: Kostenloser Nervensystem Guide als Download auf meiner Webseite www.karlajohannaschaeffer.com   TRE (Tension &Trauma Releasing Exercises) lernen: https://www.karlajohannaschaeffer.com/gruppenkurs-masterclass  

Autorin Daniela Dröscher spricht mit Host Julia Schmidt-Jortzig über das Finden der eigenen Sprechstimme in der Lebensmitte und ihren langen Weg dorthin – über familiären Prägungen, Tabus und den Performance-Druck sozialer Aufsteiger:innen, der sie jahrelang verstummen ließ. Über achtsames Zuhören, das Gute an Missverständnissen – und ihre Erkenntnis, dass Sprechen vor allem dazu da ist Verbindung zu schaffen - auch in der Gesellschaft. Ein Plädoyer sich, seine Herkunft und Klasse zu zeigen und die politische Kraft des Sprechens in der Lebensmitte endlich nutzen.

Send us Fan MailMegan and Michelle revisit lessons about conditioning, enthusiastic consent, trauma, chosen families, defluffing, sensitive rubble, entitlement, monsters of art, intuition, and broken baby birds.****************Want to support Prosecco Theory?Check out our merch, available on teepublic.com!Follow/Subscribe wherever you listen!Rate, review, and tell your friends!Follow us on Instagram!****************Ever thought about starting your own podcast? From day one, Buzzsprout gave us all the tools we needed get Prosecco Theory off the ground. What are you waiting for? Follow this link to get started. Cheers!!Support the show

I sat down with Wren Farris (Season 6, Episode 2) to talk about money mistakes.  Money mistakes can mean LOTS of things, like not separating your personal and business expenses, underpricing your services, not setting aside money for taxes.  I thought that was the conversation we're having, but something completely unexpected came up, and you can detect the exact moment it occurred. When we actually dropped in and started talking, we landed on a HUGE money leak for women, especially. This cost of this mistake is so much more than money, so do your heart a favor and tune in. Follow Wren to her website: https://wrenfarris.com/   Listen to the Art of Feminine Entrepreneurship on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-feminine-entrepreneurship/id1839028770   Get the transcripts and learn more on my website: www.ishavela.com/podcast   Download SOVEREIGN WEALTH, my complete matriarchal guide to build an indigenous matriarchal money system in intentional community: https://alchemy.ishavela.com/sovereign_wealth   Download ROOTED TO RISE, my step-by-step matriarchal blueprint on how to structure your business finances to support lineage level wealth: https://info.ishavela.com/rooted-to-rise   Apply to book your customized, complimentary financial strategy session: https://www.vortex-collective.com/client-intake   Apply to join my coven of financial revolutionaries on a mission to create lineage-worthy wealth: https://www.vortex-collective.com/expansion-intake   Access free content on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@wakingup_wealthy

(00:00-33:02) Look at the fade on Papers. Leavin' notes for Marshy. What's going on over there by Niagra Falls? Let's just get to Lambert. An Eric LIndross take in the text inbox. Martin likes an open ear. Listen to this email I got last night. The Claude Report. Why do we want or care about the data? Ass kissing try hard. Doug's winning the horniest contest. Guy trying to jump from the second level at Busch? Twitter accounts for sale. Anger meter for the YouTube chat.(33:10-1:09:07) Audio of Oli Marmol on Andre Pallante's start yesterday in the 6-2 loss. Cubs walk off again. Save A Horse, Ride A Cowboy PTSD. A Family Law booth in the concourse. How can you tell if there's extracurriculars going on? Proclivity for married women. A field mic hates to see Masyn Winn coming. Doug wanted to quit after getting hit with a 96 MPH fastball. If they look happy, they're cheating. Stop it guy, and shave.(1:09:17-1:35:24) Fawning over Jackson's new fade. Perimenopause talk. Friends and Neighbors Season 2. Audio of former Blue Tyson Nash and Eddie Olczyk lobbying for Keith Tkachuk to be in the Hockey Hall of Fame and explains how he got the name “Big Walt." Big Walt's resume. Doug's birthday is coming up. What's the oldest cumulative age of a threesome? Terminator 2. Class and zip code warfare breaking out.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Look at the fade on Papers. Leavin' notes for Marshy. What's going on over there by Niagra Falls? Let's just get to Lambert. An Eric LIndross take in the text inbox. Martin likes an open ear. Listen to this email I got last night. The Claude Report. Why do we want or care about the data? Ass kissing try hard. Doug's winning the horniest contest. Guy trying to jump from the second level at Busch? Twitter accounts for sale. Anger meter for the YouTube chat.Audio of Oli Marmol on Andre Pallante's start yesterday in the 6-2 loss. Cubs walk off again. Save A Horse, Ride A Cowboy PTSD. A Family Law booth in the concourse. How can you tell if there's extracurriculars going on? Proclivity for married women. A field mic hates to see Masyn Winn coming. Doug wanted to quit after getting hit with a 96 MPH fastball. If they look happy, they're cheating. Stop it guy, and shave.Fawning over Jackson's new fade. Perimenopause talk. Friends and Neighbors Season 2. Audio of former Blue Tyson Nash and Eddie Olczyk lobbying for Keith Tkachuk to be in the Hockey Hall of Fame and explains how he got the name “Big Walt." Big Walt's resume. Doug's birthday is coming up. What's the oldest cumulative age of a threesome? Terminator 2. Class and zip code warfare breaking out.Rainy weekend? Extended forecast looks good for The Dotem Week. Blaze Jordan another homerun. Did Iggy watch Heated Rivalry? Iggy wanted to find a way to freeze the weather. Old People's Facebook Updates. Tim's eight year old is on a mission to win The Dotem. -29 might get it done. Doug likes the golf ball bazooka. Mr. Beast.People LOVE when you talk about your fantasy team. Fernando Tatis Jr. still without a homerun this year. TALK WIVES YOU COWARDS!! Myrtle Beach vs. Hilton HeadA big Prince Thursday here on TMA. Alec Burleson on MLB Central talking about the team's recent performance and the early success of the young ball club. The Crestwood Coyote is on the line and has some questions for the dais. Is Jackson working on a neck beard? Curious about his GnR tickets. Audio of Jon Rahm when asked if he could get out of his LIV contract early or if he has to wait until it expires. Bryson wants to expand his YouTube. Sweating like a bullet. Jackson's stretching and that means we need to take a break.Doug had to go move his car so cement didn't fall on it.Doug is back and his vehicle seems just fine. Time for the Design Aire Heating & Cooling EMOTD.Maybe we should extend this show until 1 or 2.Joined by Cardinal broadcaster, Brad Thompson, who didn't make the trip to San Diego and is still in good ol' St. Louis. He'll meet the team in Sacramento. Who's the best golfer among the broadcast team. Brad's index says he's a man of the people. The factors that go into the fans being more into this team this year. Ugly loss yesterday on getaway day but optimistic on the body of work this year. When will the Cardinals dip into Memphis? Weird injuries. The Rick Ankiel journey. Brad's days as a third baseman. Youth baseball.Time for Market Moves. Tottenham HotSpur finna be relegated? A potential billion dollar loss? The Big Six. Bring relegation to the US.And the winner of the Design Aire Heating & Cooling EMOTD is...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why Being the “Good Girl” Keeps You Stuck After Betrayal (The Hidden Cost No One Talks About) If you've been trying to handle betrayal “the right way”—staying calm, being understanding, holding everything together—this episode will change how you see your healing. Because the truth is, the women who stay stuck the longest after infidelity aren't the ones who fall apart… They're the ones who stay kind, capable, and in control. In this powerful episode, Lora Cheadle breaks down the hidden cost of being the “good girl” after betrayal—and how empathy, emotional intelligence, and over-functioning can quietly lead to self-abandonment. You'll learn how fawning shows up as a nervous system response, why the “assumption trap” keeps you focused on fixing your partner or your marriage, and how to reclaim your clarity, voice, and power—without losing your softness. Top 3 Takeaways Being “good” can keep you stuck Your kindness, patience, and ability to hold everything together are strengths—but when they override your truth, they lead to confusion, indecision, and self-abandonment. Fawning is not love—it's a survival response Smoothing things over, managing emotions, and avoiding conflict may feel like care, but they're often rooted in conditioning and nervous system patterns that keep you disconnected from yourself. You're not the problem—but you are the point of power You didn't cause the betrayal. But your clarity, boundaries, and self-trust determine what happens next. Pull Quotes “Fawning looks like kindness… but it's actually self-abandonment.” Who This Episode Is For This episode is for you if: You've been trying to “handle this well” instead of expressing how you really feel You tend to over-function, over-give, or take responsibility for others' emotions You feel stuck in indecision after betrayal You're not sure whether to stay or leave—but you know something has to change LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways.  Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT  READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!

In this episode, Cindy Esliger explores why fawning in the workplace impacts your career. Fawning is that automatic “yes” that shows up before there's even time to think. She explains how fawning is not just people pleasing, but a nervous system response that activates when fight, flight, or freeze aren't adequate options. In professional environments, this often looks like overcommitting and constantly scanning for how everyone around us might be feeling. While it can feel like being a good team player, Cindy highlights that fawning is actually rooted in a need to feel safe and how external validation becomes addictive. Cindy breaks down how fawning shows up day to day, from softening every message with apologies to avoiding conflict, and even shape-shifting to match other people's expectations. She points out that this pulls attention away from internal understanding, leaving no room to access personal opinions or instincts. Over time, this leads to taking on disproportionate emotional labor and low-visibility work while others focus on projects that lead to advancement. Cindy details rooted in a need to feel safe and that external validation can become, or not others are mad at us, 3. We don't share technical opinions or expertise out of fear of being disliked, and 4. We take on a disproportionate amount of administrative and emotional work that doesn't lead to advancement. The long-term impact is significant. Fawning erodes credibility, contributes to burnout and resentment, and can stall career growth despite strong performance. More deeply, Cindy explains, it disconnects us from our own sense of self and reinforces the belief that validation comes from others. She reframes this pattern as an adaptive response rather than a flaw, and encourages building internal validation and the capacity to tolerate discomfort. The goal isn't to stop being collaborative, but to recognize when our responses are driven by fear instead of choice, so we can show up with more agency. Resources discussed in this episode: Guide to Recognizing Your Fawn Response Astronomic Audio Confidence Collective — Contact Cindy Esliger  Career Confidence Coaching: website | instagram | facebook | linkedin | email Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You didn't stay stuck because you were weak. You stayed stuck because you were good.   If you've been trying to handle betrayal “the right way”—staying calm, being understanding, holding everything together—this episode will change how you see your healing. Because the truth is, the women who stay stuck the longest after infidelity aren't the ones who fall apart… They're the ones who stay kind, capable, and in control. In this powerful episode, Lora Cheadle breaks down the hidden cost of being the “good girl” after betrayal—and how empathy, emotional intelligence, and over-functioning can quietly lead to self-abandonment. You'll learn how fawning shows up as a nervous system response, why the “assumption trap” keeps you focused on fixing your partner or your marriage, and how to reclaim your clarity, voice, and power—without losing your softness.   Top 3 Takeaways Being “good” can keep you stuck Your kindness, patience, and ability to hold everything together are strengths—but when they override your truth, they lead to confusion, indecision, and self-abandonment. Fawning is not love—it's a survival response Smoothing things over, managing emotions, and avoiding conflict may feel like care, but they're often rooted in conditioning and nervous system patterns that keep you disconnected from yourself. You're not the problem—but you are the point of power You didn't cause the betrayal. But your clarity, boundaries, and self-trust determine what happens next. Pull Quotes “Fawning looks like kindness… but it's actually self-abandonment.”   Who This Episode Is For This episode is for you if: You've been trying to “handle this well” instead of expressing how you really feel You tend to over-function, over-give, or take responsibility for others' emotions You feel stuck in indecision after betrayal You're not sure whether to stay or leave—but you know something has to change   Hashtags #BetrayalRecovery #InfidelityHealing #GoodGirlSyndrome #FawningResponse #EmotionalHealing #RelationshipRecovery #SelfTrust #Boundaries #LifeAfterInfidelity #WomensHealing   About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.     Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Introductory Session: https://introductorysession.com Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle   LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing.   Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

If you've spent your life being told you're "too nice," "a people-pleaser," or that you just need to "set better boundaries," this episode is for you. Fawning is the fourth trauma response, and for most folks with complex PTSD, it's been... a thing... for decades. In this episode, Sarah unpacks what fawning actually is (hint: it's not a personality flaw), how it gets built in childhood, what it can feel like in the body, and three small experiments to begin the work of coming home to yourself.This is one of the most requested topics on The Complex Trauma Podcast. Sarah brings together the foundational work of Pete Walker, current research on complex trauma and emotional neglect, parts work and structural dissociation from Janina Fisher, polyvagal theory, and somatic experiencing into one  conversation about why so many of us learned to disappear into other people, and how we begin to find our way back.In this episode, you'll learn:The difference between fawning and people-pleasing, and why the distinction matters for healingHow fawning develops as a brilliant survival adaptation in childhood, often before you have language to remember itWhy the latest research shows emotional neglect is the strongest predictor of complex PTSDSeven somatic markers of fawning, including the rehearsing, the scanning, the voice change, and the disappearanceHow blended states (sympathetic activation plus dorsal shutdown) explain why fawning leaves you exhausted and wired at the same timeThe reframe that changes everything: you are not a fawner. You have parts of you that fawn.Three small, sticky experiments you can try this week: The Body Audit, The 1% Honest Answer, and The Tiny NoWhy titration (slow, tiny, repeated) is the only way trauma responses actually unwindMentioned in this episode:Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete WalkerFawning by Dr. Ingrid ClaytonEmbracing our Fragmented Selves by Janina FisherWaking the Tiger and In an Unspoken Voice by Peter LevineThe CDC-Kaiser ACE StudyWhy Regulation Feels So Hard with CPTSD (previous episode)Sarah's conversation with Janina Fisher (previous episode)Thanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast!Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform.Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Follow on TikTok: @sarahherstichlcswLearn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim TherapyThis podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment.Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER.The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.

If you're a woman over 35 and you've been feeling more triggered, more exhausted, less tolerant of the things you used to just push through — this episode is going to change how you understand yourself.I'm joined by Natasha Zajmalowskii, a naturopathic doctor and Menopause Society certified practitioner with over 24 years of clinical experience, and this conversation genuinely blew my mind. We talk about what's actually happening in your brain and nervous system during perimenopause and menopause — and why it's not falling apart, it's transforming.We go deep on the hormonal roots of emotional dysregulation, why your window of tolerance narrows so dramatically, and what it means that your fawning response is finally breaking down. We talk about familiar safety versus embodied safety, why your old trauma is surfacing so intensely right now, and what "issues in your tissues" actually means at a physiological level.Natasha also shares her framework called Metamorphosis — the idea that perimenopause is the chrysalis stage, where the old structure has to come apart before something new and more powerful can be built. And we talk about puberty 2.0, the nervous system under renovation, entrainment, and why routine might be the most underrated medicine for women in midlife.The Unburdened Heart Program: https://marinayt.com/the-unburdened-heart Connect with Natasha:www.proactive-healthcare.comwww.menomorphosis.cawww.instagram.com/drnatashazndWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinayt.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"A dysregulated nervous system cannot hold health. It affects every system — your gut, your cardiovascular system, your inflammation. All of it." "Fawning isn't a standalone state. It's an adaptive layer that sits on top of fight, flight and freeze. And when the hormones that fuel it start to disappear, what floods in is the truth." "Perimenopause is when the brain is flooded with prediction errors. For three decades it built its model around your hormones — and now those hormones are gone. What feels like brain fog is actually your brain struggling to filter what matters from what doesn't." "In puberty 1.0 we learned who we are by orienting towards others. Puberty 2.0 is when we orient back towards ourselves — towards how we feel, not how we look." "Self-care is the greatest act of love for the people you care about. Because when you don't take care of yourself, the people who love you carry that worry — whether they tell you or not." perimenopause and nervous system, menopause healing, hormones and emotional regulation, somatic healing, nervous system regulation, perimenopause symptoms, fawn response, people pleasing and hormones, trauma and menopause, burnout recovery, window of tolerance, embodied safety, inner child healing, women's health, midlife transformation, attachment healing, emotional regulation, self compassion, deep within podcast, naturopathic medicine

Kampf, Flucht und Erstarren sind bekannte Reaktionen des Nervensystems auf Gefahr oder akuten Stress. Diese drei wurden um eine vierte Reaktion ergänzt: Fawning. Dabei geht es um Anpassung und Unterwerfung. Wir können aber lernen, Grenzen zu setzen.**********An dieser Stelle findet ihr die Übung:00:26:19 - Geleitete Meditation**********Quellen aus der Folge:Bailey, R., Dugard, J., Smith, S. F., & Porges, S. W. (2023). Appeasement: replacing Stockholm syndrome as a definition of a survival strategy. European journal of psychotraumatology, 14(1), 2161038.Schlote, S. (2023). History of the term ‘appeasement': a response to Bailey et al.(2023). European Journal of Psychotraumatology, 14(2), 2183005.**********Dianes und Main Huongs Empfehlungen:Josephson, M. (2025). Bist du sauer auf mich? Wie du aufhörst, anderen gefallen zu wollen, und endlich dein Leben lebst. Dumont. **********Mehr zum Thema bei Deutschlandfunk Nova:Das Gefühl, wichtig zu sein: Mattering ist für unser Wohlbefinden essenziellSustainable Living: Wie Achtsamkeit und Nachhaltigkeit zusammenhängenVergangenheit bewältigen: Mit transgenerationalen Traumata umgehen**********Den Artikel zum Stück findet ihr hier.**********Ihr könnt uns auch auf diesen Kanälen folgen: TikTok und Instagram .**********Ihr habt Anregungen, Ideen, Themenwünsche? Dann schreibt uns gern unter achtsam@deutschlandfunknova.de

Why do so many women leave their birth experience wondering, “Why did I agree to that?”In this episode, we explore a rarely discussed but deeply important aspect of childbirth — the body's survival response, and how it can shape decision-making in labour in ways we don't always recognise at the time.Through a powerful listener story, this conversation gently unpacks what can happen when a woman is in a highly vulnerable, hormonally driven state, and how her nervous system may respond to pressure, authority, or perceived threat. We explore the concept of fawning — a natural, biological response where the body seeks safety through compliance — and how this can lead to saying “yes” in moments where there may not have felt like a real choice.We then move into cognitive dissonance, the psychological process that often follows birth, where the brain works to make sense of decisions that may not have felt fully aligned in the moment. This can leave women feeling confused, questioning themselves, or quietly unsettled — even when everything appeared to go “well” on the surface.This episode is not about blame or criticism. It's about understanding.Understanding the nervous system.Understanding the power dynamics within maternity care.And understanding how true, informed consent relies on more than just the presence of a “yes.”We also explore what this means in the context of autonomy and consent, and why awareness of these responses before birth can be so powerful. When women understand how their body and brain may respond under pressure, they can begin to prepare — not to control birth, but to stay more connected to themselves within it.If you have ever felt unsure about decisions made during your birth, or if you're preparing for birth and want a deeper understanding of how to protect your space, your voice, and your autonomy, this episode will offer a new lens — one rooted in compassion, not judgement.Because this isn't about getting it “right.”It's about understanding what's happening — and giving yourself the support and awareness to stay connected to your choices, even in the most intense moments.Send me a messageIf you love the podcast and would like to support it, then please use the link to 'buy me a coffee' - https://bmc.link/sallyannberesfordIf you would like to buy a copy of either of the books that accompany this podcast please go to your online bookseller or visit Amazon:-Labour of Love - The Ultimate Guide to Being a Birth Partner  - click here:-https://bit.ly/LabourofloveThe Art of Giving Birth - Five Key Physiological Principles - https://amzn.to/3EGh9dfPregnancy Journal for 'The Art of Giving Birth' - Black and White version https://amzn.to/3CvJXmOPregnancy Journal for 'The Art of Giving Birth'- Colour version https://amzn.to/3GknbPFYou can find all my classes and courses on my website - www.sallyannberesford.co.ukFollow me on Instagram @theultimatebirthpartner Book a 1-2-1 session with Sallyann  -  https://linktr.ee/SallyannBeresfordPlease remember that the information shared with you in this episode is solely based on my own personal experiences as a doula and the private opinions of my guests, based on their own experiences.  Any recommendations made may not be suitable fo...

You recognized the fawn response. You understood where it came from. Now it's time to heal. In Part 3 of our fawn response mini-series, we're diving into the real work of recovery: setting boundaries without guilt, trusting your own voice again, and breaking the people-pleasing patterns that have kept you stuck. If you're ready to stop shrinking and start living as your full self, this one's for you.

Considering fascism is quickly taking hold more and more in the U.S. and beyond, I thought it would be a good idea to bring back my friend of the podcast, Beatriz Victoria Albina, to talk about nervous system healing and sexuality, emotional outsourcing and what sexuality has to do with fascism. From the start of the episode, Bea explains what trauma actually is in clear, everyday language without clinical jargon, and then we move into more nuanced topics. Béa is a master certified somatic life coach, UCSF-trained family nurse practitioner, and breath work meditation guide who helps humans socialized as women break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing so they can reclaim their joy. A lot of what we cover in today's episode shows up in her brand new book End Emotional Outsourcing.  Here's what you'll hear in today's episode:  Nervous system dysregulation can show up in our sex lives through anxiety, shutdown, performance pressure, and disconnection, while a regulated state supports safety, presence, and genuine pleasure. Developmental trauma and chronic stress shape how we show up sexually, influencing our capacity for trust, intimacy, and embodiment. Fawning can show up in the bedroom when someone prioritizes their partner's needs, desires, or approval over their own authentic experience. Dissociation and emotional outsourcing can even show up during masturbation, pulling us out of presence with our own bodies and pleasure. Reclaiming sexuality often begins when we stop outsourcing our emotional safety to partners and start building that safety within ourselves. The common advice to “stop worrying about what other people think” oversimplifies the deeper nervous system and relational dynamics that shape our behavior. Emotional safety and connection in a relationship often need to be addressed alongside sexual intimacy rather than waiting for one to be “fixed” before the other. Authoritarian cultural systems can shape our relationship to sexuality by policing bodies, pleasure, and autonomy. Many of us internalize these systems in our own bodies—creating self-policing patterns around desire, pleasure, and expression—and healing involves consciously deconstructing those patterns. As a reminder, please join me on my Substack! I'm writing about topics like this, poetry, and everything in between. Resources from this episode:Get my emails so you won't miss the writing program I'm teaching with Shannon Kaiser Connect with me on my Substack, How Very Human of YouBea's previous interview on Make Some NoiseEnd Emotional Outsourcing book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The left-wing propaganda media provides a non-stop flow of bias or misleading reporting for the Media Research Center and Newsbusters to call out daily. From Iran's foreign minister making unchecked claims on ABC to CNN failing to report over 220 missiles fired from Hezbollah in the last five days, legacy media is just simply untrustworthy. Tim Graham and David Bozell unpack some of the most egregious reporting as of recent, including the New York Time fawning over Iran's former ayatollah Ali Khamenei. As for the most important issue in our nation, the legacy outlets have had zero coverage of the Save America Act, an issue that has almost 80% favorability among Americans. Featuring: Tim Graham Executive Editor | MRC Newsbusters https://x.com/newsbusters David Bozell President | Media Research Center https://x.com/DavidBozell FREE CONTENT: https://www.seanspicer.com/p/trump-attending-white-house-correspondents Today's show is sponsored by: Boll & Branch - bollandbranch.com/SPICER for 20% OFF and FREE SHIPPING The key to wellness starts with a good night's sleep. Making your night's sleep better starts with quality sheets. Boll & Branch sheets start unbelievably soft and get softer over time. Boll & Branch sheets are made with the finest 100% organic cotton in a soft, breathable, durable weave. If you're looking for sheets that last, feel amazing, and help you sleep better, Boll & Branch is where it's at. Upgrade your sleep with Boll & Branch's Annual Spring Event—get 20% off plus free shipping at ⁠https://BollAndBranch.com/spicer⁠ with code SPICER.------------------------------------------------------------- 1️⃣ Subscribe and ring the bell for new videos: https://youtube.com/seanmspicer?sub_confirmation=1 2️⃣ Become a part of The Sean Spicer Show community: https://www.seanspicer.com/ 3️⃣ Listen to the full audio show on all platforms: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-sean-spicer-show/id1701280578 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/32od2cKHBAjhMBd9XntcUd iHeart: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-the-sean-spicer-show-120471641/ 4️⃣ Stay in touch with Sean on social media: Facebook: https://facebook.com/seanmspicer Twitter: https://twitter.com/seanspicer Instagram: https://instagram.com/seanmspicer/ 5️⃣ Follow The Sean Spicer Show on social media: Facebook: https://facebook.com/seanspicershow Twitter: https://twitter.com/seanspicershow Instagram: https://instagram.com/seanspicershow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Amber, Ashley, and Julie spin their recent dookies into pookies and then share another round of interesting mythical creatures. If you followed your longing where would it point you?? Definitely not to the parking garage on Hollywood Blvd.  Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes of The Brighter Side ad-free.Start a free trial now on Apple Podcasts or by visiting siriusxm.com/podcastsplus. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You are not crazy. You are not broken. You survived. ♡In today's episode of Whispers of Hope Invitation to Wisdom, we talk about something that doesn't get said enough:It's ok that you're hypervigilant. Freezing doesn't make you stupid.Fawning doesn't make you weak.Running doesn't make you unhealed. Fighting doesn't make you hopeless. These responses kept you alive. There is no shame in survival. In our trauma-informed segment, we unpack how your body learned to protect you-and how healing doesn't mean pretending those responses never existed. It means gently teaching your nervous system that it's safe now. And in the second half, we lean into wisdom. Scripture tells us that if we ask for wisdom, the Lord gives it generously. He is not irritated by your questions. He is not withholding clarity. He invites you to come close and ask. This episode is an invitation: lay down shame. Receive wisdom. Believe that healing and faith can grow together. If this resonates with you, or a woman you love, share this episode and let her know-there is hope, and she is not alone. ♥

Ren je weg, bevries je of ga je strijdend ten onder wanneer er gevaar dreigt? We leren over een vierde reactie die we in grote mate hebben geïnternaliseerd: fawning. We lezen de ruimte, maken ons onzichtbaar wanneer nodig of passen ons aan in de situatie, zodat we altijd veilig zijn. Fawning – het is een enge sfeerclown die ons ver heeft gebracht. Zo ver dat we soms zijn vergeten wat we eigenlijk zelf willen. Lies werd door de péage gezogen, zo een verrassingsweek in. Ze bestudeerde alle instrumenten die Adolphe Sax ons geschonken heeft en had een behoorlijke boomervakantie. Aaf had een heel fijn omslagmoment dat ze eigenlijk niet had kunnen hebben als ze zich de week daarvoor niet heel erg meh had gevoeld.Onze luisteraar zit met veel ongevraagd advies van mannen waartegen ze zich wil wapenen. En de goeroe is niemand minder dan de persoon die ons wist te vertellen dat iepen zich onder de grond aan elkaar vasthouden. Het is onze eigen bruggenbouwer tussen natuur en mens: Lies Visschedijk.

Most of us know about the “fight, flight, freeze” responses to trauma. But there is another concept that has been steadily gaining awareness over the last several years, in large part due to pop psychology on social media: Fawning.You might have heard it described as akin to extreme people-pleasing, over-accommodating, over-functioning, and fundamentally a problem in the person doing the fawning. But as my guest today illuminates for us, it's not a personal failing, or even always a conscious choice. It is human nature to prioritize safety and connection, and fawning is a means of keeping ourselves safe. But when fawning runs the show, self-leadership diminishes and quietly drifts toward conflict-avoiding, blurred boundaries, and self-abandonment.Waking up to your fawning response takes courage. You will meet resistance from some as you shift the dynamics of your relationships. But it also unlocks deeper intimacy, more honest connection, and the joy that comes from trusting yourself and letting others meet the real you.This conversation invites you to consider where and with whom you fawn, and how you might want to respond in the future. Fawning has a real purpose when safety is on the line, but the more we are aware of it, the more we can be intentional about how we show up in our relationships.Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's degree in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. In her private practice in Los Angeles she supports individuals in healing trauma, reclaiming agency, and reconnecting to their authentic selves.She is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, and her work has been featured in Oprah Daily, The New York Times, Women's Health, Forbes, 10% Happier with Dan Harris, Girls Gotta Eat, and NPR's On Point with Meghna Chakrabarti. Ingrid's latest book, Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back, explores the often-overlooked fawn response to trauma.Listen to the full episode to hear:Why fawning shows up as an unconscious response to ongoing relational traumaHow understanding fawning helped Ingrid understand and heal from her own complex traumaHow our culture demands and reinforces fawning for women and marginalized peopleThe often very real bind of choosing safety over self and the feedback loop it createsAccessible practices to build a sense of internal safety and self-trustHow chronic fawning and self-abandonment contribute to burnoutLearn more about Ingrid Clayton, PhD:WebsiteInstagram: @ingridclaytonphdFacebook: @ingridclaytonphdYouTube: @ingridclaytonphdUnfawning on SubstackFawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves–and How to Find Our Way BackBelieving Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex TraumaLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:What Is the Fawning Trauma Response? | Psychology TodayPeter LevineThe Greatest Showman Cast - This Is MeThe Traitors

The “Perfect” Couple and Infidelity: Why High-Achieving Relationships Break (And What to Do Next) You did everything right. You were the smart couple. The committed couple. The high-achieving, “we've got this” couple. Date nights. Careers. Kids. Goals. You worked hard. You showed up. You performed well. So how did infidelity happen to you? If you've ever thought, “We were the perfect couple. This doesn't make sense,” this episode will open your eyes in the most grounded, compassionate way. In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Rachel Dornianu of Sage Counseling & Wellness to unpack the hidden dynamics behind the “perfect couple” myth — and why high-achieving, Type A, perfectionistic relationships are often more vulnerable than they appear. We explore how perfectionism, people-pleasing, high sensitivity, emotional avoidance, and the Gottman “Four Horsemen” quietly erode intimacy over time — even in relationships that look beautiful on the outside. If you're navigating infidelity, feeling blindsided, or wondering how something could fall apart when you both “did everything right,” this episode will help you understand what really happened — and what healing actually requires. Top 3 Takeaways Perfection Isn't the Same as Connection High achievement, polished date nights, and shared goals can mask roommate syndrome, emotional loneliness, and avoidance. When couples stop pausing, attuning, and truly connecting, resentment and unmet needs quietly build beneath the surface. Performance is not intimacy. Infidelity Is Often a Maladaptive Coping Mechanism While betrayal is devastating, it's frequently rooted in avoidance, trauma, shame, unmet emotional needs, and poor coping skills — not pure moral corruption. Understanding the why doesn't excuse the behavior, but it creates clarity. And clarity is the first step toward healing. Healing Requires Addressing What Was Already There Perfectionism. People-pleasing. High sensitivity. Fawning. Walking on eggshells. Avoidance. Emotional flooding. Infidelity doesn't create these patterns — it exposes them. Whether you choose to stay or separate, the real work is learning how to regulate your nervous system, communicate honestly, and stop performing so you can start being. Favorite Quote “Perfection isn't intimacy. Performance isn't connection. And infidelity doesn't create the cracks — it exposes the ones that were already there.” Loving this show? Ready to go deeper? If this episode hit close to home and you're thinking, “This is exactly what happened in my relationship,” you don't have to figure this out alone. Download your free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and begin making sense of the chaos. If you're ready for personalized support — whether through Voxer coaching, private sessions, or deeper transformational work — visit www.LoraCheadle.com. And if this conversation resonated, make sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear that perfection is not the goal — connection is. Favorite Hash Tags #PerfectCoupleMyth #InfidelityRecovery #BetrayalHealing #PerfectionismInMarriage #HighAchievingWomen #RelationshipAfterInfidelity #EmotionalIntimacy #MarriageAfterAffair #FlauntPodcast--- About Rachel Dorneanu Rachel Dorneanu (she/her) is a licensed therapist, AASECT- certified sex therapist, and board-certified coach specializing in Anxiety, HSPs, People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Sex Therapy, with a passion for helping people reconnect with their bodies, reduce shame, and find freedom in their wellness journey. She holds a Master's in Counseling and brings over 8 years of experience working with millennial women and moms. Through her work as a therapist and coach, Rachel integrates evidence-based approaches with compassionate education to normalize topics often left in the dark—like pelvic pain, pleasure, and embodiment. She is known for her relatable, down-to-earth style and her ability to make complex or uncomfortable topics accessible and affirming. Outside of her professional life, Rachel enjoys practicing yoga, spending time with her husband and 2 children, and traveling. Learn more at: www.sagecounselingtherapyandwellness.com  or www.racheldorneanu.com CBT Workbook for Perfectionism: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07B91P55R?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzrach0e83-20&creativeASIN=B07B91P55R&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.3HY29OX8D6BTK&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ons_d_asin LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways.  Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. 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In this episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton, licensed clinical psychologist, transpersonal psychology specialist, and author of Fawning joins us to discuss her groundbreaking insights into an often-overlooked trauma response: fawning. Most of us are familiar with the three F's of trauma—fight, flight, or freeze—but there's a fourth response, fawning, that's rarely discussed. Unlike codependency or people-pleasing, fawning is a survival strategy that drives us to seek approval, appease, and draw closer to people who may hurt us—even when it's detrimental to our well-being. If you've ever found yourself apologizing to those who hurt you, obsessing over approval, befriending bullies, or suppressing your voice to maintain peace, this episode is for you. Dr. Clayton offers hope, tools, and compassion for anyone ready to break free from the cycle of chronic fawning and step into their authentic life. RESOURCES + BOOKS MENTIONED: Join Michele's Newsletter + Get a List of 52-Selfcare TipsSubscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@herstarringrole Follow + Listen, + Review: APPLE PODCASTS Follow + Listen, + Review: SPOTIFY PODCASTS   GUEST INFORMATION Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/Website/ Book: Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves–and How to Find Our Way Back     If you enjoyed today's show, please share it with a friend. Also, subscribe on Apple Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast player!   *The Good Life with Michele Lamoureux podcast and content provided by Michele Lamoureux is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It does NOT constitute medical, mental health, professional, personal, or any kind of advice or serve as a substitute for such advice. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. Always consult a qualified healthcare or trusted provider for any decisions regarding your health and wellbeing. This episode may contain affiliate links.

You did everything right. You were the smart couple. The committed couple. The high-achieving, “we've got this” couple. Date nights. Careers. Kids. Goals. You worked hard. You showed up. You performed well. So how did infidelity happen to you? If you've ever thought, “We were the perfect couple. This doesn't make sense,” this episode will open your eyes in the most grounded, compassionate way. In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Rachel Dornianu of Sage Counseling & Wellness to unpack the hidden dynamics behind the “perfect couple” myth — and why high-achieving, Type A, perfectionistic relationships are often more vulnerable than they appear. We explore how perfectionism, people-pleasing, high sensitivity, emotional avoidance, and the Gottman “Four Horsemen” quietly erode intimacy over time — even in relationships that look beautiful on the outside. If you're navigating infidelity, feeling blindsided, or wondering how something could fall apart when you both “did everything right,” this episode will help you understand what really happened — and what healing actually requires. Top 3 Takeaways Perfection Isn't the Same as Connection High achievement, polished date nights, and shared goals can mask roommate syndrome, emotional loneliness, and avoidance. When couples stop pausing, attuning, and truly connecting, resentment and unmet needs quietly build beneath the surface. Performance is not intimacy. Infidelity Is Often a Maladaptive Coping Mechanism While betrayal is devastating, it's frequently rooted in avoidance, trauma, shame, unmet emotional needs, and poor coping skills — not pure moral corruption. Understanding the why doesn't excuse the behavior, but it creates clarity. And clarity is the first step toward healing. Healing Requires Addressing What Was Already There Perfectionism. People-pleasing. High sensitivity. Fawning. Walking on eggshells. Avoidance. Emotional flooding. Infidelity doesn't create these patterns — it exposes them. Whether you choose to stay or separate, the real work is learning how to regulate your nervous system, communicate honestly, and stop performing so you can start being. Favorite Quote “Perfection isn't intimacy. Performance isn't connection. And infidelity doesn't create the cracks — it exposes the ones that were already there.” Loving this show? Ready to go deeper? If this episode hit close to home and you're thinking, “This is exactly what happened in my relationship,” you don't have to figure this out alone. Download your free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and begin making sense of the chaos. If you're ready for personalized support — whether through Voxer coaching, private sessions, or deeper transformational work — visit www.LoraCheadle.com. And if this conversation resonated, make sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear that perfection is not the goal — connection is. Favorite Quote #PerfectCoupleMyth #InfidelityRecovery #BetrayalHealing #PerfectionismInMarriage #HighAchievingWomen #RelationshipAfterInfidelity #EmotionalIntimacy #MarriageAfterAffair #FlauntPodcast   About Rachel Dorneanu Rachel Dorneanu (she/her) is a licensed therapist, AASECT- certified sex therapist, and board-certified coach specializing in Anxiety, HSPs, People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Sex Therapy, with a passion for helping people reconnect with their bodies, reduce shame, and find freedom in their wellness journey. She holds a Master's in Counseling and brings over 8 years of experience working with millennial women and moms. Through her work as a therapist and coach, Rachel integrates evidence-based approaches with compassionate education to normalize topics often left in the dark—like pelvic pain, pleasure, and embodiment. She is known for her relatable, down-to-earth style and her ability to make complex or uncomfortable topics accessible and affirming. Outside of her professional life, Rachel enjoys practicing yoga, spending time with her husband and 2 children, and traveling.

We're often taught that when conflict arises, we have two choices:Collapse… or armor up.Fawn or fight. Be porous or pick up the sword.But what if there's a third way?In this episode, I share a recent boundary moment that activated an old pattern in my nervous system — and how instead of over-explaining or hardening, I brought my intensity into the temple of my practice.We explore:Why drama that stays in the head becomes toxicThe difference between fawning and armoringWhy I'm not anti-drama — I'm pro-embodied passionKronos (linear time) vs. Kairos (sacred rhythmic time)Why the problem and the solution don't live on the same frequencyHow nonlinear movement opens nonlinear pathwaysRadiance as protectionAnd the third way beyond collapse or controlYou'll also be guided through a nonlinear sensual movement practice designed to help you metabolize intensity, shift frequency, and return to coherence.Bring your drama to the temple of your practice.Shift the state. Move the energy. Anchor the womb. Radiate the heart.Protection isn't contraction. It's alignment.Let's dive in!* Music credit: DJ Taz Rashid

If you struggle with people-pleasing and losing yourself in relationships, this episode with Ingrid Clayton, a licensed clinical psychologist and expert in relational trauma, about her book Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back, is a conversation that can help you understand and transform patterns holding you back. Exploring fawning, which is a lesser-known trauma response shaped by caretaking, appeasement, and self-abandonment, you'll learn how it often shows up as anxiety and hypervigilance. And, through personal and client stories, you'll gain insights on reclaiming authenticity, navigating backlash, and starting the process of “unfawning.”Listen and Learn:Why do some people cope with relational trauma by becoming overly accommodating or pleasing?How people-pleasing might actually be your nervous system choosing safety in ways that once protected you, but could now be quietly shaping your identity and relationships without you realizing it, and what it actually takes to reconnect with who you areHow chronic fawning can look like emotional strength on the outside while quietly disconnecting you from your own anxiety and bodyHow what looks like dishonesty can actually be a survival response that once kept you safe, and what it takes to notice when it starts keeping you stuckHow tuning into what you notice in your body can be the first uncomfortable but powerful step to breaking people-pleasing patterns and building more authentic relationshipsWhy red flags can feel like home after emotional abuse and how learning to trust your own resentment might be the first step toward building a truly safe relationshipResources:Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9798217045327 Ingrid's Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/ Connect with Ingrid on Social Media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IngridClaytonPhD LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ingridclaytonphd/ Substack: https://substack.com/@ingridclaytonphd YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3PvWTgJMirURfgHWj3h28g About Ingrid ClaytonDr. Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. She's had a thriving private practice for more than sixteen years and is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, where her blog “Emotional Sobriety” has had more than a million views. She lives in Los Angeles, California. Book: Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9798217045327Related Episodes:305. The Power of Saying No with Vanessa Patrick186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 308. Identifying and Surviving Gaslighting with Robin Stern 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 383. What My Bones Know: C-PTSD with Stephanie Foo417. Busting Trauma Treatment Myths with Emi Nietfeld416. Trauma and PTSD Treatment with Robyn WalserSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of The Addicted Mind, Duane speaks with Dr. Nima Rahmani, a former chiropractor turned emotional health educator. Dr. Nima shares his profound journey from "success on paper" to a total relational breakdown that forced him to confront his own deep-seated patterns of anxious attachment and fawning.They dive deep into the concept of becoming "trigger-proof," the hidden cost of people-pleasing, and why "shame alchemization" is the secret to a truly authentic life. Whether you are struggling with addiction, burnout, or toxic relationship cycles, this episode offers a roadmap for moving from unconscious reactivity to conscious leadership.Key Topics & Chapters[01:32] The Wake-Up Call: Dr. Nima discusses how a crisis in his personal life and a brush with the legal system forced him to look past his professional success and address his defensive reactivity.[03:54] The Cost of Fawning: A breakdown of the "Fawn" response—how suppressing your truth to appease others creates a "bottomless pit" of resentment and physical inflammation.[10:14] Defining the Fawn Response: Dr. Nima provides a powerful analogy of how children learn to appease "predators" (caregivers) to survive, and how that evolves into a destructive adult relationship strategy.[14:41] Somatic Impact: Exploring the link between unresolved emotional wounds, fawning, and chronic physical issues like autoimmune diseases and inflammation.[21:00] Loving the Shadow: Why true self-love isn't about liking your "best" parts, but about "unshaming" the parts of yourself you've tried to kill off or hide.[27:12] Success vs. Intimacy: Why high-achieving entrepreneurs often crush it in business but fail in relationships, and how the "push energy" of success can actually block emotional safety.[47:26] The Worthiness Inquiry: Dr. Nima shares a foundational question for listeners: "I am only worthy of love when..."[52:00] The Heartbeat Realization: A moving story about hearing his son's heartbeat and rediscovering the concept of inherent worthiness.Key Quotes"Shame alchemization is the secret to being a human... finding these embarrassing, unacceptable parts of us and really looking to understand them." — Dr. Nima Rahmani"Fawning is when you freeze a part of you in an interaction... you freeze your truth and then you perform niceness." — Dr. Nima Rahmani"One size fits all is not real. It's not real for baseball caps, and it's not real for recovery plans." — Dr. Nima Rahmani (Note: This is a callback to the theme of individualized healing)"The path to self-love is really about loving your shadow." — Dr. Nima RahmaniUnderstanding the Survival ResponsesTo better understand where "Fawning" fits into our biological safety system, it helps to see it alongside the more commonly known stress responses:Fight: Aggression and boundary-setting.Flight: Avoiding or escaping the threat.Freeze: Numbing out or becoming paralyzed.Fawn: Appeasing the threat to ensure safety.Resources MentionedThe Attachment Style Quiz: Discover if you are anxious, avoidant, or disorganized. [Link provided in bio/show notes]Recovery Demystified: Exploring "Quit Lit" and science-based recovery tools."Unshaming": The work of David Bedrick.About Dr. Nima RahmaniDr. Nima Rahmani is the founder of the Trigger-Proof methodology. He helps entrepreneurs and individuals heal attachment wounds to uplevel their capacity for love and leadership.Connect with Dr. Nima:Website:https://becometriggerproof.com/Instagram: @drnimaPrevious Interview With Dr. Nima RahmaniIf you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send a textEver notice how your best boundary script disappears the second your parent's name lights up your phone? We dig into why that happens and what to do next, blending lived experience with clinical insight to make sense of fawning, conditioned guilt, and the body's fierce loyalty to old safety strategies. Our guest, licensed professional counselor Jessica Van der Merwe, specializes in trauma, complex trauma, dissociation, and adult children of dysfunctional families—and she brings both expertise and heart to a topic that feels raw, messy, and very real.Together we unpack the gap between knowing and doing: why cognitive plans crumble under stress, how the nervous system prioritizes survival over scripts, and what it takes to gently retrain your body that choosing yourself is safe. We draw a clear line between true guilt and conditioned guilt, offering simple language and somatic anchors—like labeling sensations and repeating this is not an emergency—to help you keep boundaries without drowning in shame. We also name the grief so many carry: ambiguous loss for the parent you needed but didn't have, and the heavy loop of hope and letdown when change never comes.If “self-care” makes you cringe, you're not alone. We introduce realistic, micro-sized experiments in self-priority that respect your window of tolerance, from delaying a reply to stepping outside for one minute of sun. No ultimatums, no quick fixes—just steady practice that teaches your system a new story about safety and connection. Expect validation, practical tools, and a compassionate reminder that your body isn't broken; it's brilliant at keeping you alive, and it can learn new patterns.Listen now and share your take: what tiny experiment will you try this week—and what better word should replace “self-care”? If this conversation resonates, subscribe, leave a review, and send the episode to someone who needs language for what they've been living.This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcastIf you or someone you know is struggling with mental health concerns, please contact 988 or seek a treatment provider in your area.If you are a therapist or psychologist and want to be a guest on the show, please complete this form to apply: https://forms.gle/ooy8QirpgL2JSLhP6Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at Beth@makewordsmatterforgood.comSupport the showwww.bethtrammell.com

In this episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton explains how to start moving from people pleasing to self-trust and breaking the cycle of fawning, which is the compulsion to appease others to stay safe. She shares her personal and clinical insights on how fawning develops, its impact on self-identity, and the challenges of healing. Dr. Clayton also discusses therapy approaches, the importance of self-trust, and practical steps for breaking the fawning pattern, emphasizing the value of curiosity, self-compassion, and gradual, body-based healing in reclaiming one's authentic voice and boundaries. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Discussion of the trauma response known as “fawning” as a coping mechanism. Exploration of the challenges of setting boundaries for individuals who fawn. Examination of the differences between fawning and other trauma responses like fight, flight, and freeze. Personal stories illustrating the impact of fawning in childhood and adulthood. The importance of nervous system regulation in healing from trauma. Clarification of the distinctions between fawning, people pleasing, and codependency. The role of self-awareness and body-based practices in recognizing and addressing fawning. Discussion on the complexities of healing and the individual nature of recovery journeys. Critique of common therapeutic advice and the need for trauma-informed approaches. Emphasis on the importance of self-trust and curiosity in the healing process. For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ingrid Clayton, check out these other episodes: How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle and Set Healthy Boundaries with Terri Cole How to Set Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab Conversations for Radical Alignment with Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠David Protein ⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠.⁠ ⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From Wollongong to London, via Alice Springs, this is writer Nikki Gemmell on her deeply romantic life, and how she defied expectations to become a famous author.Nikki grew up the daughter of a coalminer father who thought writers were a burden on society, while her mum taught Nikki that only success was worthy of love.So Nikki went above and beyond to prove her beloved father wrong, and to get the attention of her mother through her achievements, publishing 20 books in the process, including the wildly successful The Bride Stripped Bare.Now the mother of four children, Nikki has also been determined to live her own life and raise her own children very differently, being generous with her love and pride for her sons and daughter.Content warning: Please take care when listening as this conversation mentions suicide.Help is always available.If you need to talk, 24/7 crisis support is available from Lifeline by calling 13 11 14.You can also text with them and chat online with counsellors hereThis episode of Conversations was produced by Meggie Morris. Executive producer is Nicola Harrison.It explores parenthood, mothers, fathers, attachment, fawning, people pleasing, striving for achievement, accomplishment, writing, books, novelist, coal mining, family separation, divorce, childhood trauma, healing, generational differences, romance, love, mental health, Australian literature.To binge even more great episodes of the Conversations podcast with Richard Fidler and Sarah Kanowski go the ABC listen app (Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts. There you'll find hundreds of the best thought-provoking interviews with authors, writers, artists, politicians, psychologists, musicians, and celebrities.

This episode is brought to you by LMNT, Audible and Strong Coffee Company. You've probably heard of the trauma responses fight, flight, and freeze — but there's a fourth response that may be shaping your life without you even realizing it: fawning. In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Ingrid Clayton, PhD a clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and author of Fawning, to understand why people-pleasing, over-accommodating, and self-abandonment are not personality flaws — they're intelligent survival responses your nervous system learned to keep you safe. You'll learn how fawning develops when fight, flight, or freeze aren't available — especially in childhood, unequal power dynamics, toxic relationships, and work environments where your safety or stability feels at risk. You'll also discover how living in a chronic fawn response can quietly disconnect you from your needs, your voice, your body, and your sense of self. This conversation helps you recognize why "just setting boundaries" often feels impossible, why you may disappear in relationships, and why choosing yourself can feel terrifying even when you know something needs to change. Most importantly, you'll hear why none of this means something is wrong with you — you make sense. If you've been stuck in survival mode, waiting for permission, approval, or safety outside yourself, this episode will help you understand what's been happening beneath the surface — and how you can begin moving forward by reconnecting with who you truly are. Follow Ingrid @ingridclaytonphd Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- 00:00 – Introducing the "Fourth F": What Is Fawning? 02:16 – Why Fawning Is Not a Conscious Choice 03:40 – Power, Safety, and Why Fight or Flight Aren't Always Options 07:43 – Living in Chronic Survival Mode 09:27 – When Fawning Becomes Your "Personality" 12:09 – Empaths, Hypervigilance, and Nervous System Trauma 13:40 – Apologizing to People Who Hurt You 16:22 – Befriending Bullies as De-Escalation 20:29 – Gender, Power, and Why Context Matters 24:03 – Ignoring a Partner's Bad Behavior 26:43 – Toxic Hope vs Reality 28:27 – Presence as a Path Out of Fawning 31:24 – Reality as a Regulating Force 35:02 – Fawning in the Workplace & Overgiving 37:26 – Choosing Yourself for the First Time 40:29 – Becoming Who You Already Are 43:56 – Why "Just Set Boundaries" Fails Trauma Survivors 48:02 – Listening to Yourself as the Path Forward 51:12 – Writing Fawning & Seeing the Bigger System 55:06 – Somatic Tools to Regulate the Nervous System 01:02:27 – Health Costs of Chronic Fawning 01:04:03 – Self-Abandonment Explained 01:06:19 – What "Ever Forward" Means Through Trauma Healing ----- Episode resources: FREE electrolyte sample pack with any purchase at https://www.DrinkLMNT.com/everforward FREE 30-day trial of my favorite audiobook app at https://www.AudibleTrial.com/everforward 15% off organic lattes and coffee with code CHASE at https://www.StrongCoffeeCompany.com Watch and subscribe on YouTube Get Dr. Clayton's book "Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back"

Why do people who “try the hardest” in relationships often end up feeling unseen, resentful, or stuck in situationships? In this episode, Sabrina breaks down how people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and anxious attachment patterns quietly sabotage intimacy. Drawing from psychology, attachment theory, and trauma research, she explains why fawning is not love but a nervous-system survival response, and how suppressing your needs leads to emotional disconnection, resentment, and unhealthy power dynamics in dating and relationships. This episode dives deep into boundaries, self-abandonment, and why being willing to walk away is the most underrated relationship skill no one teaches you. Sabrina explores how fear of abandonment, low self-worth, and childhood conditioning keep people stuck accepting breadcrumbs, avoiding conflict, and performing for love. If you're struggling with anxious attachment, people-pleasing, situationships, or feeling lonely inside a relationship, this conversation offers neuroscience-backed insight and practical tools to help you stop losing yourself and start building secure, authentic connection. If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Give your skin a rest with clean, clinically tested skincare from OSEA. Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SABRINA at OSEAMalibu.com For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to Hungryroot.com/SABRINA and use code SABRINA ============================= Chapters 0:00 Why Being “Too Loving” Is Blocking Real Connection 2:10 People-Pleasing Isn't Love, It's a Trauma Response 5:10 Fawning, Anxious Attachment, and Self-Abandonment 8:20 Why the “Cool Girl / Easy Partner” Always Loses 11:30 Conflict Avoidance Is Quietly Killing Your Relationships 15:10 The Psychology of Power: Why Being Willing to Leave Matters 18:40 How Fear of Abandonment Keeps You Accepting Breadcrumbs 22:10 What Secure Relationships Actually Look Like (Repair Over Perfection) 26:00 How to Stop Self-Abandoning and Start Speaking Up 30:10 Tool of the Week: The Self-Abandonment Check-In Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is another F word – no, not that one. It's FAWN, the under-appreciated fourth companion of the well-known coping responses: fight, flight, and freeze. Fawning means people-pleasing, and it can be used for survival – truly! Listen to this fascinating conversation with psychotherapist Meg Josephson on how to recognize fawning, break the cycle, and replace it with other coping strategies. She helps all of us pause before asking the question: Are you mad at me? Show Notes: Watch the full episode on Youtube! Join the LESS AWKWARD MEMBERSHIP HUB Go to Quince.com/AWKWARD for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns.  Download the FREE Playbook for Getting Your Kid to Talk Order our book This Is So Awkward Check out all our speaking and curriculum at www.lessawkward.com and our super comfy products at www.myoomla.com To bring us to your school or community email operations@lessawkward.com To submit listener questions email podcast@lessawkward.com Produced by Peoples Media Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Grab a copy of Dr. Ingrid Clayton's book here — https://amzn.to/48Semw4Want to listen on Audible? Get a free Premium Plus trial here: https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp(As an Amazon associate, I receive a small commission on purchases made through the links on this channel. Thanks for making this show possible!)Ingrid Clayton, PhD, is a writer and clinical psychologist in private practice in Los Angeles, California. She's the author of Fawning: a powerful to the often-overlooked piece of the fight-flight-freeze reaction to trauma, Believing Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma, where she uncovers her personal experience of childhood trauma from a psychologist's perspective, and Recovering Spirituality: Achieving Emotional Sobriety in Your Spiritual Practice. Ingrid is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, where her article “What is Self-Gaslighting?” is considered an essential read!With a Masters in transpersonal psychology and a PhD in clinical psychology, Ingrid has a holistic approach to psychotherapy, incorporating trauma-informed modalities like Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, and other experiential ways of working with the nervous system. Ingrid has been using a relational approach to therapy since 2004, bringing her whole self to the work—including her personal experience, intuition, and education. This enables her to be in real connection and collaboration with her clients.✖️✖️✖️Support the Show: Patreon.com/PreacherBoys✖️✖️✖️If you or someone you know has experienced abuse, visit courage365.org/need-help✖️✖️✖️CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:preacherboyspodcast.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@PreacherBoyshttps://www.facebook.com/preacherboysdoc/https://twitter.com/preacherboysdochttps://www.instagram.com/preacherboyspodhttps://www.tiktok.com/@preacherboyspodTo connect with a community that shares the Preacher Boys Podcast's mission to expose abuse in the IFB, join the OFFICIAL Preacher Boys Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1403898676438188/✖️✖️✖️The content presented in this video is for informational and educational purposes only. All individuals and entities discussed are presumed innocent until proven guilty through due legal process. The views and opinions expressed are those of the speakers.✖️✖️✖️Music by Lou Ridley — “Bible Belt” | Used with permission under license.This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/PreacherBoys and get on your way to being your best self.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/preacher-boys-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this bonus episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton discusses another aspect of everyday life where fawning can show up and take over: sex. Ingrid tells How To!'s Courtney Martin about the ways we lose ourselves during sex—and how we can reconnect with our needs. How To!'s Quick Fix is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. This episode is member-exclusive. Listen to it now by subscribing to Slate Plus. By joining, not only will you unlock this episode—you'll also access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Visit slate.com/howtoplus to get access wherever you listen.

When clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and complex trauma survivor Dr. Ingrid Clayton learned about fawning — the fourth "F" after fight, flight, and freeze — she felt like this was the missing piece that explained her whole life. On this episode of How To!, Ingrid talks to Courtney Martin about what can happen when you find yourself in a chronic fawning response, and how to break free. Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. This episode is for Slate Plus members. Join now to unlock it—plus other exclusive How To! bonus episodes and ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe from the How To! show page on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus for access wherever you listen.

When clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and complex trauma survivor Dr. Ingrid Clayton learned about fawning — the fourth “F” after fight, flight, and freeze — she felt like this was the missing piece that explained her whole life. On this episode of How To!, Ingrid talks to Courtney Martin about what can happen when you find yourself in a chronic fawning response, and how to break free. Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Get more of How To! with Slate Plus! Join for exclusive bonus episodes of How To! and ad-free listening on all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe from the How To! show page on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus for access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and complex trauma survivor Dr. Ingrid Clayton learned about fawning — the fourth “F” after fight, flight, and freeze — she felt like this was the missing piece that explained her whole life. On this episode of How To!, Ingrid talks to Courtney Martin about what can happen when you find yourself in a chronic fawning response, and how to break free. Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Get more of How To! with Slate Plus! Join for exclusive bonus episodes of How To! and ad-free listening on all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe from the How To! show page on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus for access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and complex trauma survivor Dr. Ingrid Clayton learned about fawning — the fourth “F” after fight, flight, and freeze — she felt like this was the missing piece that explained her whole life. On this episode of How To!, Ingrid talks to Courtney Martin about what can happen when you find yourself in a chronic fawning response, and how to break free. Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Sophie Summergrad. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Get more of How To! with Slate Plus! Join for exclusive bonus episodes of How To! and ad-free listening on all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe from the How To! show page on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus for access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Practical tools to turn down the volume on fawning.   Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. Her book is FAWNING: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves—and How to Find our Way Back.   In this episode we talk about: What is fawning, actually  Chronic vs situational fawning The physiological ramifications of fawning How power plays into all of this Ways to get clarity around unseen bruises and wounds that drive your behavior Owning your anger – and how to express it in healthy ways  How to know if you're a fawner  Practical steps to unfawn   Accessible approaches to regulating your nervous system How to set boundaries Fawning and un-fawning in a work context, specifically  And her observation, which I've been thinking about a lot, that wounding happens in relationships… but so does healing   This holiday season, 10% Happier is teaming up with dozens of podcasts for an ambitious goal: to lift three entire villages in Rwanda out of extreme poverty. Join us by visiting GiveDirectly.org/Dan and supporting the #PodsFightPoverty campaign. Related Episodes: How To Regulate Your Nervous System For Stress, Anxiety, And Trauma | Peter Levine How To Handle Your Demons | Richard Schwartz How (and Why) to Hug Your Inner Dragons | Richard Schwartz This Neurobiologist Wants You To Ask One Question To Reframe Anxiety, Depression, And Trauma | Dr. Bruce Perry (Co-Interviewed by Dan's Wife, Bianca!)   Join Dan's online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris  

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Predators identify trauma survivors in seconds flat just by watching how you walk into a room. A hunched posture, downward eyes, constantly saying "I'm sorry"... This is a neon sign that screams easy target. Fawning and tiptoeing around people's moods tells manipulators exactly what they want to know: you won't fight back. Predators smell that shift in the air and know they can rewrite reality on you. Love bombing feels like the meal you've been starving for your whole life, but it's just intermittent reinforcement working you like a casino slot machine. When chaos registers as normal for you, and calm feels dangerously boring, your threat detection system is backwards. Time to rewire from prey to predator-proof. Resources: WORK WITH NIKKI 1:1: EmotionalBadass.com/coaching 30 Days to Peace Course EmotionalBadass.com/peace THE BI-WEEKLY WELLNESS NEWSLETTER EmotionalBadass.com/newsletter SUPPORT US ON PATREON Patreon.com/emotionalbadass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Phil and psychologist Dr. Ingrid Clayton uncover the hidden trauma response that drives people-pleasing and how to stop abandoning yourself to feel safe.   Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist and bestselling author of Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves — and How to Find Our Way Back. Drawing from her own journey through narcissistic abuse and decades of clinical work, Dr. Clayton reveals how chronic people-pleasing is not a personality flaw, it's a survival strategy wired into the nervous system. Together, they unpack why fawning is often rewarded, how it hides in relationships and workplaces, and what it takes to reclaim your voice and your boundaries. Featured in Oprah Daily, Psychology Today, and Women's Health, Dr. Clayton's message is both a warning and a roadmap: healing begins when you stop apologizing for existing. This episode is brought to you by Greenlight: Raise financially smart kids. Start your risk-free trial today! Visit https://Greenlight.com/phil  More About Dr. Clayton: Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ingridclaytonphd FB: https://www.facebook.com/IngridClaytonPhD YT: https://www.youtube.com/@IngridClaytonPhD/ The Dr. Phil Podcast | Subscribe | Rate | Share: YouTube: https://bit.ly/3H3lJ8n Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3W76ihW Spotify: https://spoti.fi/44IhdWV Website: https://www.drphilpodcasts.com #DrPhilPodcast #DrPhil #IngridClayton #Fawning #TraumaHealing #PeoplePleasing #ComplexTrauma #MentalHealthAwareness #Boundaries #EmotionalRecovery #NervousSystemHealing #CPTSD #SelfWorth #PsychologyToday #OprahDaily #WomenEmpowerment