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Why We Self-Sabotage After Betrayal: The Hidden Fear Blocking Your Healing "The only way to show someone your emotional wound is to act wounded." Why do we sabotage our own healing after betrayal? In this episode, Lora Cheadle unpacks the deep fears that keep us stuck in suffering, even when we desperately want to move on. From punishing our partners to protecting ourselves from hope, success, or vulnerability, Lora walks listeners through the unconscious ways we stay small—and how to stop. With raw honesty, personal stories, and expert insight, this episode is your invitation to finally show your healing instead of your pain.   TOP 3 TAKEAWAYS: Self-sabotage after betrayal is a subconscious attempt to stay safe, avoid disappointment, and keep the emotional spotlight off ourselves. Many betrayed partners resist healing to "prove a point" or to punish their partner—unconsciously hurting themselves in the process. Healing becomes possible when you commit to feeling good, receiving love, and breaking your own patterns of isolation and protection. LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

If you've ever asked yourself, “Why can't I walk away even after everything they did?” — this episode is for you. Lora Cheadle breaks down the truth about trauma bonds: what they are, how they form, and why they make it so hard to leave someone who has betrayed you. You'll learn the neuroscience behind trauma bonding, how ancestral patterns may be keeping you stuck, and the legal and somatic reasons why this type of bond feels like life or death. Through heartfelt insights, somatic tools, and practical steps for reclaiming your power, you'll walk away with more clarity—and a plan to finally break free. Whether you're just starting your healing journey or feeling stuck in the cycle of apology and hope, this episode delivers the aha moments you've been waiting for.   TOP 3 TAKEAWAYS: Trauma Bonds Are Biological, Not Weakness: You're not crazy for still feeling attached to someone who hurt you. Trauma bonding is a survival-based, chemical loop created by cycles of betrayal and apology—and it's completely normal (but breakable). Your History Could Be Keeping You Hooked: Ancestral patterns and family modeling may be wiring you to stay stuck in trauma bonds. Lora explains how generational trauma gets passed down—and how to be the one who ends the cycle. You Can Break the Bond Through Body and Soul: From breathwork and somatic anchors to legal awareness and agency-building micro-acts, Lora outlines four powerful steps to reclaim your autonomy and start healing your nervous system for real.  

What's the real difference between a serial cheater and a one-time “mistake”? And more importantly… was it your fault? In this episode, betrayal recovery coach Lora Cheadle breaks down the psychology behind repeat cheating, the myth of the accidental affair, and why even “good men” cheat. She also dismantles the biggest lie betrayed women believe: that they caused it. You'll learn how to spot the red flags of serial cheating, understand how partners justify their behavior, and reclaim your sanity, self-worth, and personal power—starting now. Top Three Takeaways: What really motivates serial vs. one-time cheaters The link between shame, trauma responses, and “fixing” behaviors How to release self-blame and recognize emotional manipulation Practical ways to rebuild trust with yourself (and maybe your partner) This episode is your permission slip to stop carrying the weight of someone else's choices. Truth Bombs to Remember: Cheating is Never a Mistake—It's a Series of Choices Whether your partner cheated once or many times, it wasn't an accident. Cheating is made up of thousands of small justifications before the big betrayal. Understanding that helps you release the illusion of control and start healing. You Are Not to Blame—Even If the Relationship Had Problems Having issues in a relationship does not justify betrayal. Blame-shifting (“you pushed me to cheat”) is manipulation. Even if you weren't perfect, you didn't cause the affair. The Best Defense is No Defense When your partner blames you, the most powerful response is: “You and I both know that's not true.” Engaging with lies makes them feel real. Refusing to engage is your power move. Ready to create your own Hot Girl Summer? Join us at SparkleAllSeason.com for a soulful, sexy, and supportive summer of confidence, connection, and comeback. It's your time to glow—inside and out! Link https://lora-cheadle.kit.com/347883581d Subscribe, Rate & Review: If this episode spoke to you, share it with a friend and leave a review—it helps other women find the support they need! Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit Find Relief, Reclaim Yourself, and Rewrite Your Story Download your Betrayal Recovery Roadmap & Tool Kit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Special Announcement!  Book Release Don't miss the release of Lora Cheadle's new book, “It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive,”. This essential guide differentiates between burnout and betrayal, offering five transformative steps to recovery. Available on Amazon. https://workplace-burnout.com/its-not-burnout-its-betrayal-5-tools-to-fuel-up-thrive/ Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. About Lora: Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, emotional, and ancestral level—while also providing legal guidance to help them navigate the practical complexities of infidelity and relationship transitions. She empowers women to rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity and self-worth, break free from repeating patterns, and step into their power with confidence, clarity, and grace. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand what it takes to transform devastation into an invitation for healing, freedom, and joy. Her unique approach blends deep emotional healing with tangible legal and life strategies, guiding women beyond betrayal into lives of unapologetic confidence and purpose. As the founder of Life Choreography Coaching & Advocacy, Lora provides comprehensive legal, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual support on demand. She believes that infidelity doesn't have to be the end of the dream you poured your heart and soul into—it can be the beginning of a life filled with sovereignty, connection, and joy. Licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, Lora is also a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, and advanced integrated energy practitioner. She is certified in yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal training, bringing a holistic perspective to healing. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Based in Colorado, Lora is an adventure-seeker who loves travel, a great book, and saying yes to life's magic. Let's connect! Share your thoughts or questions from this episode with Lora at loracheadle.com. New episodes every week. Subscribe, like, share, and join Lora Cheadle on your journey to reclaim your sparkle and create a life you love. Special Offers from Our Sponsors!   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Are you ready to Rise, Reclaim, and Reign as the Queen of Your Life? Infidelity may have shaken your world, but it does not define you. You are powerful. You are worthy. And you are more than capable of creating a future filled with confidence, clarity, and joy. I'm here to walk beside you, giving you the perspective, permission, and proven tools to transform betrayal into your greatest awakening. Whether through one-on-one coaching or my on-demand Affair Recovery Programs, you'll gain the guidance and support to untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and step boldly into your next chapter. Your transformation starts now! Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com and visit www.LoraCheadle.com for even more resources and inspiration.   READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door!  Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA30 for 30% off your order!   International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help, 2021 Tattered Cover Bestseller, 2019 Have you spent your life playing by the rules, only to realize those rules weren't made for you? What if you could break free—from expectations, from betrayal, from the roles you were taught to play—and reclaim your true self? FLAUNT! is your guide to stripping away societal conditioning, healing from the heartbreak of betrayal, and rediscovering the fierce, confident woman you were born to be. With humor, wisdom, and powerful, actionable steps, Lora Cheadle empowers you to rise above the narratives that have confined you and boldly choreograph a life that is smart, sexy, spiritual, and uniquely your own. It's time to stop living for others and start living for you. Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.   It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive  Burnout isn't just exhaustion—it's a betrayal of your time, energy, and trust. This essential guide redefines burnout, exposing its hidden roots and equipping individuals, teams, and leaders with five powerful tools to reclaim their passion, purpose, and well-being. If you're ready to break free from burnout and step into a life of clarity, confidence, and fulfillment, this book is your roadmap. Available now on Amazon. Download your free guide, BURNOUT UNCOVERED: Fostering Candid Conversations for Teams at www.ItsNotBurnoutItsBetrayal.com.  

Ready to rise from the ashes of betrayal and reclaim your sparkle? This summer, it's not about revenge—it's about radiance. In this empowering episode, Lora Cheadle shares how to get your groove back after infidelity through confidence, embodiment, hormone health, nutrition, and joyful self-expression. Because healing isn't just emotional—it's physical, energetic, and spiritual too. From navigating menopause and libido shifts to eating for hormone balance, moving to feel strong and sensual, and finally ditching shame for good, you'll learn how wellness is the foundation for lasting recovery. Whether you're fresh in the fallout of betrayal or simply longing to feel sexy in your own skin again, this is your invitation to glow, heal, and rise—surrounded by a sacred community of women who get it. You don't have to do this alone. Let's make this your most liberated summer yet. Want the full roadmap to your comeback? This episode is just the beginning! We can't cover it all in one show—which is exactly why I created the 90-day Hot Girl Summer program. If you're ready for deeper support around hormone health, nutrition, movement, and healing in community with other amazing women, join us at SparkleAllSeason.com. Your most radiant, confident self is waiting. Top Three Takeaways: Healing is a full-body experience – Learn how somatic movement, hormone balance, nourishing food, and mindful self-care create the foundation for physical and emotional recovery. You're not broken—you're becoming – Infidelity may crack your identity, but it also opens the door to your next, most radiant self. Community is the container for transformation – Authentic connection with other women in a safe, sacred space is one of the fastest ways to reclaim your joy, beauty, and freedom.       This Episode Is For: Women who have been betrayed by an intimate partner and are ready to reclaim their confidence, reconnect with their body, and feel sexy, strong, and spiritually alive again—on their own terms. Especially helpful for women in perimenopause or menopause who are looking to transform their pain into power, in the company of other powerful women.   Ready to create your own Hot Girl Summer? Join us at SparkleAllSeason.com for a soulful, sexy, and supportive summer of confidence, connection, and comeback. It's your time to glow—inside and out!   Subscribe, Rate & Review: If this episode spoke to you, share it with a friend and leave a review—it helps other women find the support they need!   Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit Find Relief, Reclaim Yourself, and Rewrite Your Story Download your Betrayal Recovery Roadmap & Tool Kit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!   About Lora: Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, emotional, and ancestral level—while also providing legal guidance to help them navigate the practical complexities of infidelity and relationship transitions. She empowers women to rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity and self-worth, break free from repeating patterns, and step into their power with confidence, clarity, and grace. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand what it takes to transform devastation into an invitation for healing, freedom, and joy. Her unique approach blends deep emotional healing with tangible legal and life strategies, guiding women beyond betrayal into lives of unapologetic confidence and purpose. As the founder of Life Choreography Coaching & Advocacy, Lora provides comprehensive legal, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual support on demand. She believes that infidelity doesn't have to be the end of the dream you poured your heart and soul into—it can be the beginning of a life filled with sovereignty, connection, and joy. Licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, Lora is also a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, and advanced integrated energy practitioner. She is certified in yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal training, bringing a holistic perspective to healing. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Based in Colorado, Lora is an adventure-seeker who loves travel, a great book, and saying yes to life's magic. Let's connect! Share your thoughts or questions from this episode with Lora at loracheadle.com. New episodes every week. Subscribe, like, share, and join Lora Cheadle on your journey to reclaim your sparkle and create a life you love.   Special Offers from Our Sponsors! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Are you ready to Rise, Reclaim, and Reign as the Queen of Your Life? Infidelity may have shaken your world, but it does not define you. You are powerful. You are worthy. And you are more than capable of creating a future filled with confidence, clarity, and joy. I'm here to walk beside you, giving you the perspective, permission, and proven tools to transform betrayal into your greatest awakening. Whether through one-on-one coaching or my on-demand Affair Recovery Programs, you'll gain the guidance and support to untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and step boldly into your next chapter. Your transformation starts now! Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com and visit www.LoraCheadle.com for even more resources and inspiration.   READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door!  Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA30 for 30% off your order!   International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help, 2021 Tattered Cover Bestseller, 2019 Have you spent your life playing by the rules, only to realize those rules weren't made for you? What if you could break free—from expectations, from betrayal, from the roles you were taught to play—and reclaim your true self? FLAUNT! is your guide to stripping away societal conditioning, healing from the heartbreak of betrayal, and rediscovering the fierce, confident woman you were born to be. With humor, wisdom, and powerful, actionable steps, Lora Cheadle empowers you to rise above the narratives that have confined you and boldly choreograph a life that is smart, sexy, spiritual, and uniquely your own. It's time to stop living for others and start living for you. Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.   It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive  Burnout isn't just exhaustion—it's a betrayal of your time, energy, and trust. This essential guide redefines burnout, exposing its hidden roots and equipping individuals, teams, and leaders with five powerful tools to reclaim their passion, purpose, and well-being. If you're ready to break free from burnout and step into a life of clarity, confidence, and fulfillment, this book is your roadmap. Available now on Amazon. Download your free guide, BURNOUT UNCOVERED: Fostering Candid Conversations for Teams at www.ItsNotBurnoutItsBetrayal.com.         Transcript Lora Cheadle [00:00:01]: You're listening to Flaunt, find your sparkle and create a life you love after infidelity or betrayal, a podcast for women who've been betrayed by their intimate partner and want to turn their devastation into an invitation to reclaim them selves and their worth. Tune in weekly so you can start making sense of it all and learn how to be okay on the inside no matter what goes on on the outside. Download your free betrayal recovery toolkit at betrayalrecoveryguide.com. Lora Cheadle [00:00:35]: Who wants to get their groove back? Who wants to feel really good and sexy and strong and powerful and happy again after infidelity or betrayal. Who here was totally rocked by their partner's infidelity? And not only by their partner's infidelity and all that meant, but who here also feels old, feels ugly, feels like aging is really hard? Who here is going through perimenopause or menopause and is struggling to put it all together again because suddenly their body is changing? Yes. All of the above. And that's what this show is about. We are going to address all of that. We are going to address all the ways we feel bad. And let me just be clear. Infidelity is a huge emotional impact, but I also wanna talk about the it's not really the physical impact, but the psychological impact, which is different than emotional. Lora Cheadle [00:01:39]: The psychological impact of not feeling pretty enough or sexy enough or hot enough, it's really devastating. And I talk to all of you during our one on one sessions or in the Facebook group, and everybody talks about comparing themselves to the affair partner. And either way, if the affair partner is younger, thinner, hotter, it's devastating. And if the affair partner is older, heavier, frumpy, or uglier, it's devastating. It's devastating no matter what because of that psychological impact of it disrupts how we see ourselves and our belief of if we're the pretty one or we're the chosen one or we're the loved one. And it impacts our confidence in ways that are not superficial. And I think that's what I really wanna communicate to you in this show is wanting to feel pretty is not superficial. Wanting to age well is not superficial. Lora Cheadle [00:02:44]: Wanting to feel sexy is not trivial. We all want that. We want to look good. It feels good when you look in the mirror and you like what you see. It feels good when somebody smiles at you and says, hey, great shoes. I love that hair color. It feels good. That's this human connection thing, and that's something that we all want. Lora Cheadle [00:03:09]: And quite frankly, that's something that we deserve too. And that's what I really want to lean into in this episode. I wanna talk about health. I wanna talk about hormones. Perimenopause, menopause, the trauma that infidelity puts you through. I'll share my story a little bit later in the show, but it put this trauma put me into early menopause. Not sleeping messes with your hormones. Not being able to eat messes with your hormones. Lora Cheadle [00:03:40]: When your hormones are out of whack, your thinking is out of whack. You feel crazy because it's normal to feel crazy, but also you feel crazy probably because your body is not running in optimal condition because you are incredibly stressed. And when the body is in the state of incredible stress, it's not being vibrant and healthy and joyful. So many of you that I talk to talk about feeling old and ugly. And I know that after this happened, I was like, there's trauma in my face. I didn't used to have this droopy face. And now I have jowls, and now I have wrinkles and bags around my eyes because it was like I cried too much for too long, and then the the puffiness never went away. And then I was aging, and I was getting belly fat, and I was getting all these things that I never had before. Lora Cheadle [00:04:37]: And it just exacerbated everything that I was already feeling, and it just made everything so much worse. So that's what we're gonna talk about today. I wanna get really honest. I want you to reach out to me. I want you to share your story. I want you to just be like, amen, sister. You hear me? But I really want to talk about how it feels to be a woman, how it feels to be an aging woman, how it feels to be a menopausal woman, how it feels to be a betrayed woman, and how it feels to have your identity ruptured as well. My identity, I was always one of the pretty girls. Lora Cheadle [00:05:25]: That was my identity. I was always one of the chosen ones. I owned that as a piece of my identity for good or for bad, for right or for wrong. So when I found out that my husband cheated, it rocked my identity. Wait. I'm not one of the pretty girls? Wait. I wasn't one of the ones who was chosen? He chose somebody else and not me. What does that say about me? If if I'm not the vivacious one, if I'm not that then who am I? Because how could my own love, my own partner not choose me? And that's a lot. Lora Cheadle [00:06:08]: And I know that who ever you feel like you were as a piece of your identity, your partner's betrayal ruptured that as well. And for that, I am so sorry. I am so sorry. But I also want to say that this truly is a great opportunity to rebuild, to rebuild that identity. Yes. Maybe you can go back to the being the chosen one, being the pretty one, being the smart one, being whatever it is. But the way you're rebuilding yourself is with such authenticity because it's not reliant upon external validation. You're rebuilding yourself from the inside out. Lora Cheadle [00:06:48]: You are owning and claiming yourself and your identity. And if you wanna switch, if you wanna suddenly because become the wise one, you can do that too. But, again, you're rebuilding yourself from the inside out. As part of this I mean, this episode is gonna be powerful, but we can't change the world in fifty minutes, unfortunately. But as part of that, I have created a summer program for all of us. It's just a ninety day program. It's gonna be a lot of group work. I'm lovingly calling it, like, hot girl summer just because that's the silly, fun, fresh vibe I want us to move into. Lora Cheadle [00:07:30]: You know, at first, I thought about, like, I'm gonna do betrayal recovery, and I thought, no. There's such heaviness to that. This is hot girl summer, man. We're getting our groove back. I know we're not girls. I know we're women, but it's this is hot girl summer. We're gonna play. We're gonna put on our self tanner. Lora Cheadle [00:07:49]: We're gonna get a new haircut maybe. We're gonna find an outfit that feels good. We're gonna go socialize and connect and learn new things. We're gonna get into our bodies. We're gonna dance. Oh, are we gonna dance this summer, ladies? We are gonna dance, dance, dance. We're gonna take care of our spirits. We are going to heal the collective feminine. Lora Cheadle [00:08:15]: We are going to create such a strong, powerful, sacred sisterhood that whatever happens in your future, in your daughter's future, in your aunt's future, in your mother's future, in your grandmother's future, in your sister's futures cannot be denied. Because the strength of our shared bond, the strength of our joy, the strength of our power in reclaiming our joy, our fun, our vivacious energy is just gonna send ripples to the world, and that is my intention. I'm working on the details now, but it's ninety days, And you'll be able to sign up at sparkleallseason.com. So you can reach out to me if you have any questions, but otherwise, sparkleallseason.com, and we are gonna get our groove back. We're gonna be hot, sexy, fun, loving girls this summer, and we're gonna slip right into our joy. Now I am not talking about bypassing. I am talking about doing the work. I'm talking about staying connected to our heart, staying presence. Lora Cheadle [00:09:23]: If we need to grieve, grieve. But I'm also talking about allowing ourselves to come back online, taking care of ourselves, nurturing our wellness, our health, figuring it out so we can figure it out. And isn't that funny? In order to figure out this whole trauma infidelity, in order to figure it out, we have to figure ourselves out. Because the truth of the matter is we need to feel optimal. We need to be in an optimal state in order to have the resources, the capacity to do the deep soul work to heal the wound of betrayal. And that's what we're gonna do. We're gonna hold the work on both sides, the high joy and the deep pain, and we're gonna go there. We're gonna go there on both ends, merge them in the center, which is the heart, with each other, and bring it forward, birth it into the world. Lora Cheadle [00:10:31]: So enough about that sparkleallseason.com. You're going to love it, and let's get on with the show for the day. Okay. I'm gonna start by telling you a little story. When I found out about my husband's betrayal, life, I thought, was really on the precipice of being really good. My youngest was about to go away to college. I was dancing some burlesque. I was feeling so good. Lora Cheadle [00:11:04]: It was like, I finally have time to get in shape, to cook meals that I want to cook, to sleep in and not always have to be rushed, you know, to get my kids up and worry about things like that. I can start traveling with my husband. I'm gonna do all these wonderful things. I'm gonna start taking care of me. And then I found out. And this trauma was so severe that it sent me into early menopause, which I didn't really know was a thing. But here's how that happened. Trauma puts us in a state of fight, flight, or freeze. Lora Cheadle [00:11:51]: It hijacks our nervous system. We start pumping out cortisol. I was not feeling good, as I'm sure you know. It does not feel good at all. I couldn't sleep. I absolutely could not sleep to save my life. So many of you tell me the exact same thing too. Like, you just can't sleep, which also wreaks havoc on your body, on your hormones. Lora Cheadle [00:12:21]: Eating was awful. I I couldn't digest. I wasn't hungry, but then I would just start eating, and nothing tasted good. I got no joy out of the food. And sometimes I would just overeat because I was sitting there eating, and then sometimes I would forget to eat. And then sometimes I would try to eat, and I was nauseous. And I couldn't eat. I did not drink my water. Lora Cheadle [00:12:52]: During the struggle with my husband for his phone, when I found out all the texts and everything, my toe broke. So I couldn't even walk. So the normal working out and dancing that I had done, I could no longer do. And the combination of all of that stress, all of that trauma, no sleeping, inadequate nutrition, no working out, all of that, sent my body into early menopause. I mean, my periods just stopped. And And it was one of those things that sometimes you don't know that you don't know. It just stopped. And I wasn't really too much aware of it. Lora Cheadle [00:13:40]: It just stopped and other things I was thinking about. So it's not like I went to my doctor. I'm not sure if my doctor would have said or known what to do anyway, and I just moved on. But here's the thing. When you're going through perimenopause, your emotion your emotions, your hormones are up and down, and your emotions are up and down, and the the level of brain fog is up and down. And it's normal. Perimenopause is a roller coaster ride, and there's no medical test for perimenopause because the hormones peak and valley. So it would depend on where you test. Lora Cheadle [00:14:26]: You would need to, like, test every single day to find out where your hormones are. Oh, estrogen's up today. Oh, progesterone's down today. Oh, there's no test for perimenopause. The test for perimenopause is do you feel a little bit scattered and chaotic and out of control? Are your periods sporadic? That is something that happens to some people, but not everybody. So how much of what you're feeling is anxiety due to the affair, and how much of what you're feeling might be perimenopause or menopause? How much of it is your hormones? And it's really hard to differentiate and to tell. And to some degree, it doesn't really matter. You just know it feels awful, but to some degree, it does matter because you can be supported for your hormones. Lora Cheadle [00:15:20]: And if you're going to a psychiatrist and you're having problems with your mental health and sleeping, they might be giving you medication and rightfully so because if you're having some psychotic breaks if you can't sleep, having medication, having that support in the short term is definitely helpful. But what about hormonal support too? What would it be like also to maybe have an estrogen patch or to take progesterone? What might it be like to have your hormones balanced? Last week, I went to Chalene Johnson's camp b more, and it was amazing. It was a ton of fun. It was in Vegas. And the founder of MidiHealth was there as well as many other physicians who specialize in menopause. And it was shocking to me how simple and how accessible hormone replacement is and what a big impact it can have on the way we feel. I had heard, like, probably so many of us, that, oh, you gotta be careful with hormones. Oh, you gotta be careful. Lora Cheadle [00:16:31]: It can cause cancer. In fact, a new study came out two weeks ago that kind of debunks a lot of the old research that was done because the old research was done on, like, synthetic estrogens, not some of these bioidenticals. It was done some were done on rats, not even on women. And there are so many different factors that were not taken into consideration. So I've kinda had this belief, like, oh, you really have to be careful with that. And it doesn't really matter. Why would we wanna extend our childbearing years anyway? Well, here's what I learned at that conference from many of these physicians. Estrogen in our body helps with cognitive function. Lora Cheadle [00:17:18]: It helps with our cardiovascular health. It helps with bone density. It helps us age well, and it helps us think clearly. And most importantly, it makes us feel good. It can get rid of that brain fog. It can make us feel more alert. Progesterone. I started taking progesterone. Lora Cheadle [00:17:44]: It makes you sleep at night. It is better than I've ever had with anything with magnesium or melatonin or any of those other sleep aids. Progesterone is amazing. My body was craving progesterone. I didn't even realize that I had some brain fog going on. I didn't realize some of the, you know, the achiness, the heaviness, the weight gain, things like that. They were hormonal. When I feel better in my body, I feel more more like I can take on the world. Lora Cheadle [00:18:21]: When you feel better in your body, you are going to feel more confident, more secure. When you are able to think clearly, when you were able to sleep at night, you're gonna have far more capacity. Now I'm not saying everybody has to do hormone replacement. There are contraindications, and if you just don't want to, you just don't have to. But what I am saying is there's a lot of really good education out there, who I started using was MidiHealth, m I d I, Health. They are they're like online physicians. It's a real physician. They're covered by insurance, but they're all specialists in women's health. Lora Cheadle [00:19:08]: They're all specialists in hormone replacement. They're all specialists in everything that's going on. So even if you have no interest in hormone replacement, see a women's health physician, see a women's health specialist so you can start taking care of your body, sleeping better, regulating yourself better, and feeling better. So that was the first thing that I learned, and that was the first thing that I wanted to talk to you about because I wish somebody would have talked to me about that. I wish somebody would have asked. You know? Did you know that trauma can kick you into early menopause? No. I did not know that. Did you know that being kicked into early menopause can have devastating effects on long term bone density? No. Lora Cheadle [00:19:57]: I didn't know that. Did you know there's cardiovascular implications for menopause? No. I didn't know that. So these are some of the things. There's an impact. It's not just that you don't have your period anymore. It impacts everything. And for me, I'm definitely interested in cognitive decline. Lora Cheadle [00:20:19]: I don't want cognitive decline. I'm interested in bone health. I'm interested in longevity. I'm interested in feeling and looking good for as long as I can. Yes. It's part of the aging gracefully, but it's also aging healthily. And I don't want to be the frail old lady who can't get out of bed. So what I wanna move into next, because I feel like hormones are kind of that basic foundation, but that next level up, that next layer is the health, the nutrition. Lora Cheadle [00:20:55]: And I don't know about you, but nutrition was really hard during the betrayal recovery process. I mean, early on, you can't eat. The things that sound good are not necessarily healthy. And I just kind of lost all of that. Adequate nutrition is essential for our brains, for our bodies. And I'm not gonna spend a ton of time about talking about this because we all know it. We all know it. But what I am gonna talk about is that accountability and the reminders of how do I nurture and nourish myself. Lora Cheadle [00:21:37]: I'm not just cramming in food to get to my next meeting. This is feeding my soul. This is feeling my body. This is fueling what I'm going to look and feel like in ten years, in twenty years. And what I do now has a direct impact on how I will feel then. And that's this part of my hot girl summer is I want us to remember that and to start developing some habits around drinking healthy waters, taking if you wanna take your vitamins, your minerals. I have some thoughts on different supplements. I have some thoughts on different vitamins, but, obviously, you do you because I don't know your medical history. Lora Cheadle [00:22:27]: But things like taking a really good multivitamin, taking vitamin d. Vitamin d is something that's essential, and so many of us are deficient in vitamin d. And when you are low in vitamin d, it can lead to depression. Well, again, hello. Going through infidelity is very depressing. I need all the support. I need all the help that I can get. So, yeah, let me supplement my vitamin d. Lora Cheadle [00:22:57]: If it's gonna help, it needs help. It can help. The other thing is b vitamins. We burn a lot of b vitamins when we're under stress. Burn, burn, burn, burn, burn. Supplementing with your b vitamins can help give you that energy to help keep you online so you can manage the stress. Magnesium. There's seven forms of magnesium, which I didn't know, but they're all seven forms are utilized in our bodies differently and they can help us relax. Lora Cheadle [00:23:27]: Well, do you need some sleep support? Maybe magnesium can help. Maybe vitamin d for the depression. Maybe vitamin b, the b complex for your stress. Like, there's some simple things that we can do. And no. I'm not talking about, like, pedaling high end vitamins. I I know I know there's some high end things out there that are really, really great and really, really effective and things like that. But by the same token, there are so many things you can just go to Costco and pick up a big old bottom of bottle of b complex, and it's gonna help. Lora Cheadle [00:23:59]: And it's in service of not only getting you through this present moment, but in building the body that you want ten years from now, twenty years from now. Whether you're with this partner or with a new partner or you're gloriously on your own, don't you wanna be vibrant and strong and healthy and happy? Yeah. I don't wanna look like the haggard woman who has been through hell and back. I wanna look through look like the strong, powerful woman I feel like inside. And to me, it's really that blend of that inside, I want to feel strong. Outside, I want to look strong. Inside, I want to feel beautiful. Outside, I wanna look beautiful. Lora Cheadle [00:24:43]: I want congruence between how I look and how I feel. It's not that I'm decorating this body to impress other people or attract a new partner or impress my, you know, my husband. I want to look how I feel and I want to feel good. And I wanna look like I feel good. And I wanna look at myself in the mirror and smile and be like, yeah. And I wanna look down at my body, and I wanna like what I see, and I want to hike, and I want to run around, and I want to break out into a dance break when a song comes on that I really like and not be like, oh, ow. I can't do it. Oh, oh, oh. Lora Cheadle [00:25:25]: I want to take on the world, and I wanna look like I wanna take on the world. So that's why I mentioned nutrition. And then closely following nutrition is fitness. And again, I'm not preaching that you need to go change your life and have a fitness routine. Although I think you know this about me, maybe not. I've taught fitness since 1988. '19 '80 '8. I graduated from high school in '87. Lora Cheadle [00:25:56]: I started teaching aerobics in 1988, and I have pretty much taught nonstop since then. All forms of group exercise. I love group exercise. Not only do you get a fun, good workout, but you have a fun community. You've got a schedule. You go to the club at a certain time. You've got your class. You've got your regulars. Lora Cheadle [00:26:18]: You've got the music. You're moving. Whether it's, like, the hardest workout or the easiest workout or somewhere in between doesn't sometimes matter. It just matters that you're out there and you're moving and you're grooving and you're connected and people notice when you're gone. And that's nice. It's nice to be in a community of other people doing healthy things and to have people notice when you're gone. And in my community, we do, like, these little group happy hours about twice a year. We'll just meet at a restaurant or go see a movie, and we'll just connect because we're supporting each other and it's fun. Lora Cheadle [00:26:56]: And and in my case, I teach up at the rec center now, and most of the women in my class are in their seventies. But it's a beautiful connection, And we all care about each other and being fit feels good. Now here's the psychological component of fitness beyond all of the regular components. Like you will live longer. You will have a better quality of life. You will look better. You, like, you will have less aches, pains, ailments, all of that. There is no downside to having a fitness program. Lora Cheadle [00:27:35]: But I think what I really want to talk about is the somatic piece of fitness that I think gets overlooked a lot of times. Somatics is just another word for using the body, and we can use our body to make us feel a certain way. So I wish you could just talk back to me here. What are some of the words that you think about about how infidelity made you feel? It made me feel weak. It made me feel stupid. It made me feel ugly. It made me feel worthless. It made me feel broken. Lora Cheadle [00:28:11]: It made me feel all of those things. Think about all of those things that infidelity made you feel. K. Got your list? Now here's what's magic about that. What kind of exercise is the opposite of that? Take the word that you feel. I felt crushed. I felt broken. What is the opposite of crushed and broken? Maybe it's expanded. Lora Cheadle [00:28:47]: Instead of crushed, I'm expanded. That's where flaunt comes from. Instead of crumpled, we are flaunting. We are expanded. Instead of broken, we are whole. Instead of weak and stupid, we are strong and powerful. First step is taking the word that you feel. Second step is finding the word that is on the opposite side of that, and the third step is doing that thing physically. Lora Cheadle [00:29:22]: When you feel weak and broken, get to the gym and lift some weight. Show your strength. Move that body. I am broken, and I am weak, and I'm pumping this iron, and I'm doing squats. And you don't even really need to know what what to do. You can just go to the weight room and read the directions on the weights. If you were feeling agitated, you know that feeling where you're like, I can't settle down. I can't settle down. Lora Cheadle [00:29:52]: I can't settle down. And you're twitchy. That's adrenaline pumping through your body. Get it out. Don't let it twitch. It's trying to get out. Shake. Dance. Lora Cheadle [00:30:03]: A lot of my somatic processing songs in my program, we do shaking and we do dancing, move it out. That could be a great Zumba class, a great dance class. Shake it, move it, twist it, twirl it, aerobics. Move it. If you were like, I'm so trapped, run. Get on the treadmill, walk, run, sprint, do something. But instead of being trapped, set yourself free. Do you need flexibility and flow? Maybe you need yoga because you feel stuck. Lora Cheadle [00:30:43]: How many of you raise your hand? Raise your hand. How many of you have said I feel so stuck? Let's try some breathing yoga and stretch. Let's get you unstuck physically. Let's get into those hip flexors. Let's get into the hamstrings. Let's stretch the waist and the back. Let's stretch the heart and get you unstuck. When you do physically that thing, it helps bring online what you want to feel because we can feel and sense our bodies. Lora Cheadle [00:31:18]: And it's hard. It's really, really hard to have an amazing workout where you've lifted some weights and you feel powerful and strong and you've pushed through and you've done something difficult. And maybe you've spent some time on a stair master or in a class, and you're you're sweaty and you're wrung out, but you're strong and powerful, it's hard to go around feeling sorry for yourself when you've worked out. When you have done something that builds your body and you have constructed yourself, it's really hard to feel broken because you were providing yourself with evidence that you were not broken. The evidence is look who I am. The evidence is look at what this body can do. The evidence is feeling yourself differently. So that's that fitness piece. Lora Cheadle [00:32:12]: Yes. Fitness is important. There's nothing I can tell you knew about that probably, but let's talk about the psychological impact of fitness, and that's where I want you to focus. And that's where we're gonna be focusing during our ninety days together in our little hot girl summer. We're going to start proving to ourselves. I still got it. Or maybe I got it for the first time, but we're going to be using our bodies, not in a punishing way. Like I gotta do 12 more reps, but in a flowy, dancy, sexy way. Lora Cheadle [00:32:48]: And one of the things that I'm gonna bring in is a lot of the sexy dance. I think, you know, I dance burlesque. I've I've got many different yoga less burlesque classes, and we're gonna do that together. We're gonna do that together live on Zoom, or you can watch the replay just in short chunks, just in, like, thirty minute, quote, exercise chunks. But we're gonna learn some of the moves. We're gonna learn how to flow. We're gonna learn how to embody and hold that energy because that was taken from you. Your sensuality, your sexuality, your feeling of being chosen and desired was taken from you when your partner cheated. Lora Cheadle [00:33:33]: And it is time to take that back. Your joy, your pleasure for you, not for anybody else. So I'm gonna teach you how to get in your body, how to move in a way that feels sensuous to you. You're gonna learn the moves and it's gonna be fun. And here's what I wanna say about that. Can this be triggering? Oh, yes. It can be triggering. And if you're sitting here thinking, I love hate this, Lora. Lora Cheadle [00:34:04]: I hear you. I love hate it too. Because there's so much societal conditioning about what it means when a woman is sexy. Ah, that's scary. Scary, scary, scary. It's not scary. It's who you are. You have been conditioned to not be fully expressed in your body. Lora Cheadle [00:34:24]: You have been told, oh my God, what will people think? There's a lot of layers of conditioning. And no, we can't really undo it all in ninety days, but you know what? We're gonna take a really good start. We're going to get you into your body. We are going to get you flowing freely. You can have your camera off. You can be alone at home and nobody's gonna know. And this is what I want you to know. Most people cry. Lora Cheadle [00:34:50]: Most people cry at some point during my sexy dance classes because we're out of our heads and we're into our bodies and we are loving ourselves. We're not talking anything over the top here. We're talking shoulder rolls. We're talking hips circles. We're talking peeling the glove off and twinkling our fingers up our leg. We're talking flirty, sexy, fun moves, but it can be so triggering. So triggering. And my ask for you is to let those tears flow. Lora Cheadle [00:35:23]: Let your heart open. Notice where you feel uncomfortable and just love yourself through that. And then at the end of the day, at the end of the class, at the end of the summer, you're just gonna be laughing and feeling so much more confident and free and expressed in who you are. So these are those pieces. Let's talk about hormones. Talk to your doctor, go to Mini Health. Send me a message. I can talk to you about some stuff. Lora Cheadle [00:35:59]: I'm clear on the other side, but get yourself feeling better. Hormones are powerful. And if they're out of whack, everything is gonna be out of whack. And this is not about a hormonal woman. No. No. No. No. Lora Cheadle [00:36:13]: No. This is about how can I support myself so I can be in my right mind and I can feel competent and confident again? Nutrition, fitness, wellness, sensuality, expression. The other thing that I think is really important and often gets downplayed, but just this whole concept of beauty and aging. And we talked about this a lot at, Shailene Johnson's Can't Be More last week. They had some plastic surgeons there, and they talked about all the different procedures that were available from nose jobs to, like, the eyelid lifts to face lifts and deep plane lifts and the different kinds of lasers. And there's so much out there. And I think my biggest takeaway from that was it doesn't matter what you do or what you don't do. But what does matter is that you feel comfortable and confident in your own skin. Lora Cheadle [00:37:12]: And, yeah, we're all gonna age. And, yeah, things are gonna shift and change, but are you happy? And it's that again, it's that inward and that outward. What can I do to build myself up inside, and what can I do to make the outsides match my big beautiful inside? And a couple weeks ago, I went and had IPL. That's the pulse laser on my face for dark spots. I even had it done on the back of my hands. And it was one of those things that I'm cut not really disappointed, but not thrilled with the results on my face. But, oh my god, so thrilled with my hands. I didn't realize how the dark spots on my hands really made me feel. Lora Cheadle [00:37:57]: And now I look down and I have these, like, beautiful white hands. And I'm like, oh, this is amazing. It makes me feel really good. And my commitment to myself is that I'm gonna start leaning in more. I have an appointment for Botox tomorrow. Again, I'm not talking full level face lift. If you wanna have a full level face lift, do it. But I'm gonna start exploring some things. Lora Cheadle [00:38:25]: I've had Botox in the past, and it was fine. But I'm like, now I'm just gonna go. Before I was, like, very conservative. Oh, let's do a little bit around my eyes before my TEDx because I I just don't want these smile lines. And let's just do some in my forehead, but let's go light. And I feel like the energy I'm going in with tomorrow is more like, hey. What can you do? What do you see? What what might make me a little bit happier here? And, again, not for the sake of just being beautiful from all of this stuff. But you know what? How can I support me? And even if it was superficial, I mean, let's just call that out. Lora Cheadle [00:39:02]: Even if it's just total superficial and I wanna be hot, who cares? It's my life. Right? I gotta do me. I wanna look good. I don't care when I look bad, but I like to look good too. Because I have built my confidence to that level that it doesn't matter, and I'm okay because I'm doing this for me. I'm not doing this for somebody else. This takes me back. If you have read my book, Flaunt, drop your cover, and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self, one of the terms that I coined was the term naked self worth. Lora Cheadle [00:39:40]: And same thing, I know some people are triggered by that. They're like, naked, infidelity. Oh, we can't talk about sex. We can't talk about sex because this was a sexual injury. Okay. Hang with me. Yes. Can that be triggering? Yes. Lora Cheadle [00:39:52]: Hearing about sex, is that triggering? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Becoming intimate again with your partner. Difficult. Lora Cheadle [00:39:58]: Yes. Triggering. Yes. But here's the thing. Ignoring it doesn't make it go away. Ignoring your own sensuality, sexuality, beauty, fun, joy, it's not about them. It's about you. It's not about, I wanna look so good that I'm going to that it's like a revenge makeover. Lora Cheadle [00:40:23]: Even if it is, let it be. It's about you. If you want to look good at whatever level, look good. But the concept of naked self worth is that you are just as comfortable in your own skin with yourself fully propped up, makeup, hair, filter on the phone, 10 pounds gone, that your level of confidence and self awareness as as your perfect ideal self is the same level as your confidence if you were woken up out of a deep sleep, had to put your 20 year old glasses on, your holy sweats, and run to the grocery store and you just ran into somebody? That, yes, you can acknowledge not looking my best now, but my level of self worth is the same. I have naked self worth, meaning I don't need anything else to make me worthy. I know that I am worthy for who I am. I know that flawed, broken, messy, whatever is a part of who I am, and I accept that. And that's what I want us to build this summer, but forever. Lora Cheadle [00:41:42]: I want us to build that level of self worth, that level of naked self worth that no matter what happens, I'm on it. I've got this. I am worthy. I am connected. I honor myself. And it's a lot about that sovereignty and that self honoring. How much are you respecting and honoring and loving yourself day in and day out? For me, this is for me. That does include doing some beauty rituals. Lora Cheadle [00:42:16]: That does include doing my little, you know, face lift not face lift, face facial patches. What are those little things? Like, you do a facial and you lay there and you put a little mask on your face. I've got so many of the little fun beauty things. I have, like, the Nura laser. I have, the Ferrero bear. I do fun things on my face. I just got my haircut today. I do my own color. Lora Cheadle [00:42:45]: I hate getting my nails done, but I do that periodically. But I want to feel good. So what are the things that I'm doing to care for myself because I want to feel good? I want my body to be in good shape. I want to learn new makeup tricks for women with older skin. My eyes are starting to sag. What can I do differently? I've recently changed my eye shadow because it didn't work the same way that it used to work. I've experimented with facial exercises. Like, I'm doing all of these things because it's fun, because I want to feel good. Lora Cheadle [00:43:25]: And when I do things that make me feel good, then I feel better. I still have that self worth and that self confidence, but it gives me a lift. And what I want for you is that lift too. What I want for you is permission to go do whatever the heck you need to do. I want you to have permission to buy the new clothes or get the makeover or go see the hair specialist or go to a med spa and see see what it would take. See what somebody recommends, whether it's fillers or Botox or a facial or whatever. Go check it out. You have my permission. Lora Cheadle [00:44:09]: You have my permission to make yourself feel as beautiful and as worthy and as sacred and as adored and as pampered as you want. And if you're like, Ick, I don't want any of it. Perfect. Know what makes you happy and lean into that. Do what makes you happy. This is all about flaunt. That first step of flaunt is f, find your fetish. I want to be girly. Lora Cheadle [00:44:40]: I want to have fun. I want to be beautiful. I want to feel sexy and powerful and strong in my own skin. I don't wanna feel frumpy. I don't wanna feel out of shape. I don't wanna feel embarrassed. I don't wanna feel like I hate my body. I hate my clothes. Lora Cheadle [00:44:56]: I hate my hair. I hate my face. I don't want to look at my summer vacation photos and be like, oh God, I don't want that experience. So I'm going to lean in to changing it. This is that sovereign peace. This is that power peace. We are not victims of life. We are not victims of aging, victims of circumstance, or even victims of infidelity. Lora Cheadle [00:45:23]: What are the things that you can do to get your groove back, to take your groove back? What are the things that you can do to take back control of your life, of yourself, of your mental well-being, and to start having fun again? Friendship is hugely important. Connection is hugely important. As you know, if you're in my Facebook group, so many of the infidelity and betrayal recovery, like Facebook and support groups, are bitch sessions. We do not need another bitch session. I do not need another bitch session. It does not help. What we need is connection, community, support. What we need is to be able to have deep conversations, real conversations, meaningful conversations. Lora Cheadle [00:46:05]: What we need to be able to say is, this is what I'm struggling with with intimacy. How did you get through it? Is this an aging thing? Maybe this is a hormonal thing. Maybe this has nothing to do with my relationship. Maybe this is my hormones. And to have somebody say, yes. Did you know estradiol vaginal cream can really help with vaginal dryness? I mean, sometimes it is that simple. Sometimes we get we waste. We waste so much time in our heads feeling like we're broken. Lora Cheadle [00:46:37]: Oh my god. What's wrong? I will never be able to enjoy sex again. I'll never be able to love my partner again. I'm never gonna be able to love myself again. I'm broken. I'm there's solutions out there. Let me tell you. There are solutions for everything. Lora Cheadle [00:46:55]: We just need to be vulnerable enough to ask, and we need to create that safe space. And that is my intention is I want to create this safe space for all of us so we can talk and we can share. I'm I'm feeling crazy about this. I'm feeling stressed about that. I don't know what to do here. Let's try this. Ask your doctor that. Have you tried this? Let's do this workout together. Lora Cheadle [00:47:21]: Tell me about those tears. Because that is the only way we are going to get ourselves back. The more we hide, it's so valid if you don't wanna tell everybody in your world about the infidelity. So valid. I get that. But it's also hiding a lot that you're going through, and we can't heal when we're in hiding. We have to heal with each other. So many of the women that I coach, they want weekly sessions because it's a place to talk. Lora Cheadle [00:47:52]: It's a place where they can show up and share, and they can ask hard questions because they have nobody else to talk to, because they're tired of being judged. And it's just so refreshing to be able to talk and connect. And that's what we're gonna create here. We're gonna create this community where you can talk to people, where you can say this is what's going on so you can get the help. Because like I said, there's solutions out there. It's just that sometimes we even have a hard time describing what the problem is. And that was something that the director of MidiHealth talked a lot about. She said that so often women don't they don't know what their symptoms are because the symptoms change. Lora Cheadle [00:48:35]: Because like in perimenopause, when I said earlier, the hormones go up and down and up and down. For a week, you might have a hard time sleeping. For another week, it might be joint pain. For another week, it might be irritability. For another week, it might be night sweats. For another week, it might be a random hot flashes. Things happen and then women are like, I don't even know. I have all of these random little symptoms, and they don't make any sense, and they're not consistent. Lora Cheadle [00:49:02]: And a lot of the medical providers have not been trained to recognize and realize when hormones are fluctuating, your symptoms will fluctuate. You're not crazy. You do not need a pat on the knee. You do not need to be told to deal with it. You need to talk to other people who are like, oh my god. Let me tell you. I feel crazy too. Let me tell you my symptoms are up and down or all over the place, but this is what balanced them out. Lora Cheadle [00:49:29]: Let me tell you. This is how I felt. Let me tell you. This is what I was afraid of. This is what I was so afraid of, getting intimate with my partner again. And I had all these insecurities about my body and my performance and if I was good enough. So let's talk about that, shall we? Okay. Let's talk about that. Lora Cheadle [00:49:46]: Who talks about that? Don't you wish everybody just talked about that? And then we all knew what each other knows. Because when we all share with each other about what we all know, pretty soon we're getting a more and more complete picture of what it really is rather than staying stuck in our head or reading random articles articles online. And, yes, there can be some amazing stuff online, but there can also be a lot of harmful stuff online and a lot of stuff written from a man's perspective or a woman who has not been through what you've been through's perspective. So come together, whether it's this ninety day program with me and all of us, or whether it's with somebody else, make sure it's a healthy community. Make sure the focus is acceptance, is curiosity, is being vulnerable, being authentic, and asking the hard questions. Make sure it's on solutions that make you feel better, that you're not shamed for or shut down for. Give yourself everything that you need and ultimately know that you deserve to feel really good. You deserve to feel really strong, free, healthy, vibrant, and joyful, and that you can. Lora Cheadle [00:51:10]: Infidelity is not a death sentence. It does not mean the whole rest of your life is ruined. It just means that you need to integrate this thing, this awful thing into your heart, into your life in a new and powerful way. One of the stories that I have shared in the past, and I'll share it again real quick here, is when I was in Peru, I did a plant medicine journey, and I never thought I would have done something like that. The long and the short was it was about integration of the ugly into what I had thought was my perfect, beautiful, amazing life. I mean, after all, I had worked fifty some years on creating perfection. Right? I had done it all right, and all of a sudden, I'm given this. And how do I integrate this? And what I learned is some things can't be beautifully integrated. Lora Cheadle [00:52:17]: They just can't. Some things just are, and they are ugly, and they are a part of it. And we can't dress things up, and we can't love it away. We just have to deal with it. We just have to let it be there, and we have to let it be ugly. And, you know, I'll share the full story again next week because we're we're getting close on time here. But it's a powerful story about integrating that ugliness in our life and just accepting it, that it is what it is. We can't sugarcoat. Lora Cheadle [00:53:00]: We can't pretend. We just have to be with what is. So I really hope you join me this summer. I hope you join me for ninety days of connection and fun and adventure and friendship and ritual and dance and beauty and joy and strength and power and all of that. I really hope you join me. Sparkleallseason.com for more information and to sign up. And you know me, I'm always available. If you wanna reach out, reach out. Lora Cheadle [00:53:33]: We can Zoom. You can send me an email, and I can answer all of your questions. But what I want you to know more than anything is you can get your groove back. You can get your groove back and then some. You can move into midlife, second chapter, third act, whatever it is, with so much passion and joy and freedom, and you could be the fullest, most vibrant version of yourself, maybe that you have ever been. So thank you for listening. As usual, always remember to flaunt exactly who you are because who you are is always more than enough. Lora Cheadle [00:54:20]: Tune in next time to flaunt, find your sparkle, and create a life you love after infidelity or betrayal with Lora Cheadle every Wednesday at 7AM and 7PM Eastern Standard Time on syndicated DreamVision seven radio network. Uncover the truth of what's possible for you on the other side of betrayal and develop the skills and strategies necessary to embrace the future and flourish today. Download your free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit at betrayalrecoveryguide.com.

This is part two of the Why Did They Cheat? series—a four-part journey to help you decode betrayal, find your footing, and reclaim your power.   Is an emotional affair really “just” a friendship? Is a one-night stand easier to forgive than a years-long emotional betrayal? In this revealing episode, betrayal recovery coach and attorney Lora Cheadle breaks down the core differences between emotional and physical affairs—and why each one requires a different healing process. Learn how each type of betrayal impacts your identity, body, and soul—and how to start rebuilding yourself from the inside out. Top 3 Takeaways: Emotional Affairs Cut Deeper Than We Realize Emotional betrayals often feel more painful because they involve secrets, emotional intimacy, and being shut out of your partner's inner world. They strike at your identity and your sense of worth. Physical Affairs Activate Shame and Insecurity Physical infidelity can trigger body shame, fears about sexual adequacy, and deep questions around desirability—especially in a culture that already pressures women to look and perform a certain way. Healing Requires the Right Tool for the Right Wound Emotional betrayal heals best through somatic (body-based) practices, while physical betrayal often needs emotional and spiritual processing. True healing includes repairing your relationship with yourself before your partner.

  This is part one of the Why Did They Cheat? series—a four-part journey to help you decode betrayal, find your footing, and reclaim your power. Think cheating is about sex, lack of love, or unmet needs at home? Think again. In this powerful episode, betrayal recovery coach and attorney Lora Cheadle uncovers the deeper psychological reasons behind infidelity—including avoidance of self, unhealed trauma, and a desperate search for validation. Whether you're staying or leaving, understanding why they cheated has nothing to do with you—and everything to do with them. This is part one in a four-part series on decoding betrayal. Top 3 Takeaways: Cheating is a Maladaptive Coping Strategy Infidelity is often driven by unresolved emotional pain and a lack of healthy coping skills—not by dissatisfaction in the relationship or lack of love. They Didn't Cheat Because of You The betrayal is not about your worth or actions. It's about their inability to face themselves, process their emotions, and validate their own identity. Understanding is Not Excusing Gaining insight into your partner's behavior helps you reclaim your peace and stop blaming yourself. But understanding is not the same as letting them off the hook—accountability and healing must still happen. Who This Is For: Women recovering from infidelity who want clarity and calm Anyone struggling with self-blame after betrayal Listeners curious about the deeper emotional roots of cheating

In this soul-stirring episode, Lora Cheadle reframes the pain of infidelity through the lens of one of the most iconic betrayal stories of all time: Jesus and Judas. Whether your betrayal came from a partner, your body, or society, this episode will show you how to transform it from tragedy into a catalyst for growth. Top Take-a-ways: Why betrayal is only the beginning of your story, not the end How revenge keeps you stuck—and how grace sets you free What crucifixion, resurrection, and spring rebirth all have in common with your healing A guided journaling practice to clarify who you are, what you deserve, and what you're here to create Free Resource: ✨ Download the Betrayal Recovery Guide – your first step to reclaiming your sparkle and re-choreographing your life.   About Lora: Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, emotional, and ancestral level—while also providing legal guidance to help them navigate the practical complexities of infidelity and relationship transitions. She empowers women to rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity and self-worth, break free from repeating patterns, and step into their power with confidence, clarity, and grace. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand what it takes to transform devastation into an invitation for healing, freedom, and joy. Her unique approach blends deep emotional healing with tangible legal and life strategies, guiding women beyond betrayal into lives of unapologetic confidence and purpose. As the founder of Life Choreography Coaching & Advocacy, Lora provides comprehensive legal, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual support on demand. She believes that infidelity doesn't have to be the end of the dream you poured your heart and soul into—it can be the beginning of a life filled with sovereignty, connection, and joy. Licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, Lora is also a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, and advanced integrated energy practitioner. She is certified in yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal training, bringing a holistic perspective to healing. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Based in Colorado, Lora is an adventure-seeker who loves travel, a great book, and saying yes to life's magic.   Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit: Find Relief, Reclaim Yourself, and Rewrite Your Story Download your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!    

Do you feel like you're losing your mind after discovering your partner's infidelity? Obsessive thoughts, emotional spirals, feeling unhinged—it's not you being “crazy,” it's your nervous system in trauma response. In this powerful episode, Lora Cheadle unpacks why betrayal scrambles your brain, body, and spirit—and how to ground yourself again emotionally, somatically, spiritually, and legally. Through proven trauma recovery tools and her signature blend of deep wisdom and practical guidance, Lora shares how to interrupt obsessive thought loops, reclaim your clarity, and move from chaos to calm. Whether you're stuck in fix-it mode, frozen in fear, or spiraling into worthlessness, this episode is your step-by-step guide back to sanity and sovereignty. This isn't just about healing—it's about becoming the woman you were always meant to be. Top 3 Takeaways: You're Not Crazy—You're in Trauma. Betrayal activates your nervous system's survival mode: fight, flight, freeze, or fix. Your emotional overload is normal, but healing requires more than time—it requires intentional tools and support. Sanity Starts With Self-Connection. Use the 5-4-3-2-1 sensory method, deep pressure somatic grounding, and key journaling prompts to return to your body and truth. Ask yourself: What am I feeling? Whose voice is in my head? What do I know to be true? Legal & Spiritual Clarity Create Emotional Freedom. Practical steps like documenting information, understanding your legal rights, and avoiding reactionary decisions restore control. Spiritually, betrayal is an initiation—an invitation to rise, reclaim your worth, and live from your soul's truth. This is the last episode in a 4-part series on betrayal recovery—be sure to subscribe so you can catch up on past episodes!   Check out this FREE workshop on Overcoming Obsessive Thoughts: https://youtu.be/MwUjcDidWOU?feature=shared  

Feeling lost after infidelity? In this powerful episode, betrayal recovery coach and attorney Lora Cheadle outlines a five-step roadmap to help women move from chaos to clarity after partner betrayal. Lora breaks down exactly why traditional healing methods often fail and shows you how to rebuild your life—your way. Learn to create a personalized healing plan that actually works, reclaim your identity, and ignite a future filled with joy, purpose, and power.

Betrayal Recovery 101: What Every Woman Needs to Know – Part 2 You've heard the saying, time heals all wounds—but when it comes to betrayal trauma, that couldn't be further from the truth. If you're waiting for time to magically fix the devastation, the triggers, and the self-doubt, you'll stay stuck. In this eye-opening episode, betrayal recovery coach Lora Cheadle exposes the myths about healing after infidelity and explains why waiting, numbing out, or ignoring the pain won't work. Instead, she shares the exact tools and strategies to take control of your recovery, rebuild your confidence, and step into your power NOW. Top Takeaways: Why betrayal is NOT a relationship crisis—it's a full-body trauma The biggest mistake most betrayed women make (and how to avoid it) Why traditional therapy often fails in betrayal recovery—and what to do instead The difference between coping and true healing (Hint: Most women get stuck in coping!) How to break the toxic cycle of waiting—for closure, for change, for him to wake up The 4 long-term recovery strategies to reclaim your identity and rebuild your self-worth This is the second episode in a 4-part series on betrayal recovery—be sure to subscribe so you don't miss Part 3!

The first 30 days after discovering infidelity feel like an emotional tsunami—shock, rage, grief, and an overwhelming sense of uncertainty. But what you do (and don't do) during this time can set the foundation for your healing journey. In this power-packed episode, betrayal recovery coach and advocate Lora Cheadle walks you through the critical dos and don'ts of the first-month post-discovery. Learn how to stabilize your emotions, avoid common mistakes that keep women stuck, and reclaim your personal power—without waiting for closure, clarity, or your partner to change. Top Takeaways: What NOT to do in the first 30 days (including the #1 mistake most women make!) How to regulate your nervous system using somatic healing and hypnotic meditation Why legal and financial clarity is crucial—even if you don't plan on leaving How to reclaim your agency, set healthy boundaries, and start healing on your terms The powerful FLAUNT! framework to rediscover yourself beyond betrayal This episode is the first in a 4-part series on betrayal recovery—so be sure to subscribe and tune in next week for Part 2! Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit Find Relief, Reclaim Yourself, and Rewrite Your Story Download your Betrayal Recovery Roadmap & Tool Kit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!   Special Announcement!  Book Release Don't miss the release of Lora Cheadle's new book, “It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive,”. This essential guide differentiates between burnout and betrayal, offering five transformative steps to recovery. Available on Amazon. https://workplace-burnout.com/its-not-burnout-its-betrayal-5-tools-to-fuel-up-thrive/ Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com.   About Lora: Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, emotional, and ancestral level—while also providing legal guidance to help them navigate the practical complexities of infidelity and relationship transitions. She empowers women to rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity and self-worth, break free from repeating patterns, and step into their power with confidence, clarity, and grace. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand what it takes to transform devastation into an invitation for healing, freedom, and joy. Her unique approach blends deep emotional healing with tangible legal and life strategies, guiding women beyond betrayal into lives of unapologetic confidence and purpose. As the founder of Life Choreography Coaching & Advocacy, Lora provides comprehensive legal, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual support on demand. She believes that infidelity doesn't have to be the end of the dream you poured your heart and soul into—it can be the beginning of a life filled with sovereignty, connection, and joy. Licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, Lora is also a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, and advanced integrated energy practitioner. She is certified in yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal training, bringing a holistic perspective to healing. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Based in Colorado, Lora is an adventure-seeker who loves travel, a great book, and saying yes to life's magic. Let's connect! Share your thoughts or questions from this episode with Lora at loracheadle.com. New episodes every week. Subscribe, like, share, and join Lora Cheadle on your journey to reclaim your sparkle and create a life you love.   Special Offers from Our Sponsors! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Are you ready to Rise, Reclaim, and Reign as the Queen of Your Life? Infidelity may have shaken your world, but it does not define you. You are powerful. You are worthy. And you are more than capable of creating a future filled with confidence, clarity, and joy.   I'm here to walk beside you, giving you the perspective, permission, and proven tools to transform betrayal into your greatest awakening. Whether through one-on-one coaching or my on-demand Affair Recovery Programs, you'll gain the guidance and support to untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and step boldly into your next chapter.   Your transformation starts now! Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com and visit www.LoraCheadle.com for even more resources and inspiration.   READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door!  Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA30 for 30% off your order!   International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help, 2021 Tattered Cover Bestseller, 2019 Have you spent your life playing by the rules, only to realize those rules weren't made for you? What if you could break free—from expectations, from betrayal, from the roles you were taught to play—and reclaim your true self? FLAUNT! is your guide to stripping away societal conditioning, healing from the heartbreak of betrayal, and rediscovering the fierce, confident woman you were born to be. With humor, wisdom, and powerful, actionable steps, Lora Cheadle empowers you to rise above the narratives that have confined you and boldly choreograph a life that is smart, sexy, spiritual, and uniquely your own. It's time to stop living for others and start living for you. Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold.   It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive  Burnout isn't just exhaustion—it's a betrayal of your time, energy, and trust. This essential guide redefines burnout, exposing its hidden roots and equipping individuals, teams, and leaders with five powerful tools to reclaim their passion, purpose, and well-being. If you're ready to break free from burnout and step into a life of clarity, confidence, and fulfillment, this book is your roadmap. Available now on Amazon. Download your free guide, BURNOUT UNCOVERED: Fostering Candid Conversations for Teams at www.ItsNotBurnoutItsBetrayal.com.   Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!  

In this episode of Flaunt! Find Your Sparkle After Infidelity or Betrayal, Lora Cheadle interviews Emmy award-winning journalist and podcast host Natalie Tysdal about navigating life's biggest challenges, including career burnout, betrayal, and personal transformation. Natalie shares her journey of leaving a toxic career in television news to pursue meaningful work that aligns with her values. She discusses the importance of health—physical, emotional, and relational—and how women can prioritize their well-being while balancing life's demands. The conversation touches on the power of stillness, habits, and surrounding yourself with supportive, trustworthy people. Top 3 Takeaways: The Three-Question Test for Change If you're questioning whether to stay in a job, relationship, or situation, ask yourself: Am I happy? (Do I feel joy and fulfillment?) Am I proud of what I'm doing? (Does it align with my values?) Am I challenged in a healthy way? (Is it helping me grow?) If the answer to any of these is “no,” it may be time for a change. Reframe Your Perspective with “I Get To” Instead of “I Have To” Shifting from “I have to exercise” to “I get to move my body” transforms obligations into privileges. This mindset shift fosters gratitude, joy, and motivation for self-care and personal growth. Create Stillness & Build Healthy Habits Through Habit Stacking Finding moments of stillness is essential for clarity and well-being, but it's challenging in a busy life. Use habit stacking to build new positive habits by pairing them with existing ones (e.g., stretch while waiting for coffee to brew, meditate while brushing your teeth). Small, consistent changes lead to transformation over time. Tune in weekly for insights, expert interviews, and real-world tools to help you rise, reign, and reclaim your worth. Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit Find Relief, Reclaim Yourself, and Rewrite Your Story Download your Betrayal Recovery Roadmap & Tool Kit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! About Natalie Tysdal: Natalie Tysdal loves helping people find ways to improve their lives. Shew is an expert in getting to the truth and finding the right resources to help people become all they are meant to be. She is an Emmy Award-winning news anchor, producer, and reporter with a 28-year legacy in broadcast journalism. Known for her journalistic integrity and engaging storytelling, Natalie has built a trusted reputation as a dynamic voice in media. As a mom of three, Natalie blends her professional expertise with personal experience, making her relatable and inspiring to audiences. She is the host of The Natalie Tysdal Podcast, where she explores topics at the heart of everyday life—health, family, and faith. Through her media company, Natalie extends her passion for communication to support businesses with marketing strategies, crisis communications, and podcast coaching and development. Whether on-screen, behind the scenes, or working with brands, Natalie's mission is to create impactful connections and meaningful conversation. Special Announcement!  Book Release Don't miss the release of Lora Cheadle's new book, “It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive,”. This essential guide differentiates between burnout and betrayal, offering five transformative steps to recovery. Available on Amazon. https://workplace-burnout.com/its-not-burnout-its-betrayal-5-tools-to-fuel-up-thrive/ Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. About Lora: Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, emotional, and ancestral level—while also providing legal guidance to help them navigate the practical complexities of infidelity and relationship transitions. She empowers women to rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity and self-worth, break free from repeating patterns, and step into their power with confidence, clarity, and grace. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand what it takes to transform devastation into an invitation for healing, freedom, and joy. Her unique approach blends deep emotional healing with tangible legal and life strategies, guiding women beyond betrayal into lives of unapologetic confidence and purpose. As the founder of Life Choreography Coaching & Advocacy, Lora provides comprehensive legal, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual support on demand. She believes that infidelity doesn't have to be the end of the dream you poured your heart and soul into—it can be the beginning of a life filled with sovereignty, connection, and joy. Licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, Lora is also a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, and advanced integrated energy practitioner. She is certified in yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal training, bringing a holistic perspective to healing. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Based in Colorado, Lora is an adventure-seeker who loves travel, a great book, and saying yes to life's magic. Let's connect! Share your thoughts or questions from this episode with Lora at loracheadle.com. New episodes every week. Subscribe, like, share, and join Lora Cheadle on your journey to reclaim your sparkle and create a life you love. Special Offers from Our Sponsors! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT Are you ready to Rise, Reclaim, and Reign as the Queen of Your Life? Infidelity may have shaken your world, but it does not define you. You are powerful. You are worthy. And you are more than capable of creating a future filled with confidence, clarity, and joy. I'm here to walk beside you, giving you the perspective, permission, and proven tools to transform betrayal into your greatest awakening. Whether through one-on-one coaching or my on-demand Affair Recovery Programs, you'll gain the guidance and support to untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and step boldly into your next chapter. Your transformation starts now! Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com and visit www.LoraCheadle.com for even more resources and inspiration. READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door!  Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA30 for 30% off your order!  

Women often put everyone else first—until betrayal forces them to rethink everything. In this powerful episode, Lora Cheadle and forensic accountant Tracy Coenen break down why investing in yourself isn't just necessary—it's critical for financial security, emotional well-being, and reclaiming your power after infidelity or divorce. From finding hidden assets to making empowered financial choices, this episode is packed with insights to help you confidently navigate this transition. Top 3 Takeaways: You only get one shot at a fair divorce settlement – learn how to advocate for yourself and make informed decisions. Most women feel financially overwhelmed – but simple steps (like getting account statements) can empower you. Investing in expert support saves money & stress – discover why strategic financial and emotional investments pay off big time. Tune in weekly for insights, expert interviews, and real-world tools to help you rise, reign, and reclaim your worth.  

After infidelity, you don't just want to survive—you want to reclaim yourself, maybe your relationship, and thrive. Join Lora Cheadle, infidelity recovery advocate, and believer that women do not need to stuck in the devastation of betrayal forever, alongside renowned relationship therapist Terry Real, as they challenge misconceptions, cut through the noise, and help you take back your power. In this episode, Terry Real breaks down why traditional therapy often fails betrayed partners, the difference between individual and relational empowerment, and how to advocate for yourself without getting stuck in blame or resentment. Whether you're staying or leaving, you'll learn to transform your pain into a catalyst for joy, confidence, and the life you truly deserve. Top 3 Takeaways: Infidelity is a trauma, not a failure. Your pain is real, and healing starts with acknowledging the depth of your experience. Healing is about transformation, not just survival. The goal isn't returning to what was—it's creating something better, whether with or without your partner. Empowerment is relational, not individual. True healing comes when you reclaim your voice, set boundaries, and cultivate relationships that support your growth. Tune in weekly for insights, expert interviews, and real-world tools to help you rise, reign, and reclaim your worth.  

Can science explain the breakdown of relationships after betrayal—and the path to rebuilding love? In this powerful episode, Lora Cheadle sits down with Dr. John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, to uncover the biological and emotional dynamics that shape relationships. Dr. Gray reveals the hidden role of hormones in attraction, trust, and intimacy, explaining why betrayal impacts men and women differently. He shares actionable biohacks to restore connection, reignite passion, and help couples move from survival to sovereignty in their relationships. Whether you're recovering from infidelity or simply looking to strengthen your partnership, this episode is packed with science-backed strategies to create lasting love. Top 3 Takeaways:   Why men and women experience betrayal differently – and how hormonal imbalances fuel emotional disconnection. The surprising power of small acts – how daily, five-minute gestures can rebuild trust and intimacy. How to ‘biohack' your relationship – simple techniques to increase testosterone in men and estrogen in women for greater love and desire.  

In this episode, Lora Cheadle welcomes Dr. Ray Doktor, a life and relationship coach, to explore the deep emotional work required to heal from betrayal. Together, they unpack why men often struggle to express emotions, how women can stop waiting for a partner's “potential,” and the self-sabotaging patterns that keep people stuck. Top 3 Takeaways: Healing Starts with You – Infidelity shakes your sense of self, but recovery begins by turning inward and rebuilding your relationship with yourself. Wishful Thinking vs. Reality – Many women hold onto their partner's “potential,” but true healing comes from accepting who they really are, not who you wish they could be. Men and Emotional Avoidance – Many men avoid deep emotional work, opting for quick-fix pleasure (cheating, drinking, distractions) over true healing. A thriving relationship requires both partners to grow together.  

In this episode, Lora Cheadle dives deep into the emotional and physical complexities of intimacy after betrayal. Whether you're feeling completely turned off or caught in the cycle of hyperbonding, this episode will help you stop judging yourself, understand your emotional triggers, and shift your mindset around sex and self-worth. Learn how to reconnect with your body, reclaim your power, and move toward intimacy on your terms. Plus, Lora shares a three-week plan to help you navigate your emotions and rediscover desire in a way that feels safe, authentic, and freeing. Top 3 Takeaways: Where You Are is Normal – Whether you feel disgusted, avoidant, or desperate to reconnect, your reaction to infidelity is a normal response to an abnormal situation. Healing starts with accepting where you are without judgment. Rebuilding Desire is About You, Not Your Partner – The key to getting the spark back isn't forcing yourself into intimacy—it's about reconnecting with your own pleasure, confidence, and body. Flirting, movement, and self-care are for you, not to "win" your partner's attention. You Deserve Joy, Love, and Pleasure – Infidelity doesn't define you. You have the right to set boundaries, to enjoy intimacy when it feels right, and to explore new, healthier dynamics in your relationship—on your terms.

Infidelity doesn't just affect your heart—it impacts your body, mind, and energy in profound ways. In this episode, betrayal recovery coach and somatic attachment therapist Lora Cheadle sits down with functional medicine expert Filipa Bellette to explore the connection between burnout, betrayal trauma, and body-based healing. Learn why chronic stress, exhaustion, and even autoimmune issues often accompany betrayal—and discover practical, science-backed tools to help you reclaim your health, energy, and emotional stability.   Top 3 Takeaways: Betrayal Trauma & Burnout Are Linked – Many women mistake betrayal trauma for burnout, but the emotional devastation of infidelity triggers deep physiological responses that deplete your energy, gut health, and mental clarity. Your Body Holds the Key to Healing – If you feel exhausted, anxious, or stuck in obsessive thought loops, your dopamine levels and nervous system regulation may be the root cause. Learn how nutrition, functional medicine, and somatic healing can restore balance. You Can't Heal in a Toxic Environment – Whether staying or leaving, true recovery requires a supportive environment. Learn how to identify hidden stressors, rebuild your nervous system, and protect your health as you navigate infidelity recovery.  

Explore the intersection of betrayal recovery, inherited family trauma, and self-discovery in this powerful conversation with Lora Cheadle and Johanna Lynn. Together, they unpack how understanding the roots of inherited patterns can guide you toward freedom, healing, and thriving relationships. Top Three Takeaways: Inherited Trauma: Learn how epigenetics influences behavior and how family patterns are unconsciously passed down through generations—and how to break free. Healing Narcissistic Dynamics: Understand the roots of narcissistic tendencies and discover how compassion and boundaries can coexist in relationships. Somatic Awareness: Discover the importance of staying embodied, how your body holds wisdom beyond your mind, and how tuning into sensations can transform emotional healing. Resources Mentioned: Johanna Lynn's Website: Learn more about her work and epigenetics. It Didn't Start With You by Mark Wolynn: Essential reading on inherited family trauma. Free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit: Download at betrayalrecoveryguide.com. About Johanna: Johanna Lynn, founder of The Family Imprint Institute supports you to break free from the invisible patterns holding you back in love. With 18 years of diving deep into family dynamics, she reveals why we repeat painful relationship cycles and how to finally heal. Johanna's unique approach reveals the deeper “why” behind recurring challenges and transforms betrayal into an opportunity for profound personal growth.   About Lora: Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, emotional, and ancestral level—while also providing legal guidance to help them navigate the practical complexities of infidelity and relationship transitions. She empowers women to rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity and self-worth, break free from repeating patterns, and step into their power with confidence, clarity, and grace. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand what it takes to transform devastation into an invitation for healing, freedom, and joy. Her unique approach blends deep emotional healing with tangible legal and life strategies, guiding women beyond betrayal into lives of unapologetic confidence and purpose. As the founder of Life Choreography Coaching & Advocacy, Lora provides comprehensive legal, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual support on demand. She believes that infidelity doesn't have to be the end of the dream you poured your heart and soul into—it can be the beginning of a life filled with sovereignty, connection, and joy. Licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, Lora is also a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, and advanced integrated energy practitioner. She is certified in yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal training, bringing a holistic perspective to healing. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Based in Colorado, Lora is an adventure-seeker who loves travel, a great book, and saying yes to life's magic.   Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit: Find Relief, Reclaim Yourself, and Rewrite Your Story Download your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!    

What is "Trickle Truth," and why does it often make the pain of infidelity worse? In this powerful episode, Lora Cheadle is joined by her husband, Shawn, to dive into the gradual, often reluctant disclosure of details about an affair. While trickle truth may stem from fear, shame, or the misguided belief that withholding details will minimize harm, it frequently prolongs pain, erodes trust, and re-traumatizes the betrayed partner. Together, Lora and Shawn unpack the difficult yet essential process of uncovering the full truth after infidelity. They share actionable strategies to help couples move beyond betrayal and rebuild their relationship on a foundation of honesty, authenticity, and mutual growth. Top Takeaways Creating Sacred Spaces for Difficult Conversations: Lora and Shawn stress the importance of "sacred conversations"—safe, dedicated environments where couples can openly and vulnerably discuss tough truths without distractions. These intentional spaces foster clarity, compassion, and deeper understanding. The Journey Towards Authenticity and Healing: Lora and Shawn stress the importance of "sacred conversations"—safe, dedicated environments where couples can openly and vulnerably discuss tough truths without distractions. These intentional spaces foster clarity, compassion, and deeper understanding. Sound Insight and Guidance for both the Betrayer and the Betrayed: Whether you are the betrayed or the betrayer, this episode offers practical tools and emotional guidance to help you heal and rebuild. Lora and Shawn's heartfelt discussion provides hope, clarity, and strategies to turn pain into purpose and restore trust. Infidelity recovery is a difficult journey, but with the right tools and mindset, it can lead to personal transformation and a stronger, more authentic relationship. Tune in to this episode for real-life insights and actionable advice that will empower you to move forward with courage, honesty, and hope. Tune in and take the first step toward healing and creating a life you love after infidelity or betrayal. Let's get started! Tags: Infidelity Recovery, Trickle Truth, Betrayal Healing, Relationship Advice, Vulnerability, Rebuilding Trust, Marriage After Betrayal, Authentic Relationships, Podcast for Betrayal Recovery, Lora Cheadle  

Rethinking Infidelity: Recovery for Those Who Never Thought This Would Happen to Them Your Love Story Was Different. So Is Your Healing   Infidelity shatters not just trust, but identity—especially for those who never thought it would happen to them. In this episode, Lora Cheadle unpacks the biggest myths about betrayal, validates why your story is unique, and shows you how to find true relief on your path to healing. If you've been stuck in pain, comparison, or disbelief, this episode is your invitation to shift from heartbreak to empowerment. Top 3 Takeaways: The Myth of Infidelity Recovery – Society tells us betrayal happens for predictable reasons, but in reality, cheating is rarely about you or your relationship. Understanding this is the first step to reclaiming your power. Why Your Healing Will Be Different – Your relationship was special—but not because betrayal shouldn't have happened. It's special because your healing journey is uniquely yours, and comparison only holds you back. The Power of Relief – Before deep healing begins, your body and energy must feel safe. Relief isn't weakness; it's the first energetic shift that moves you from survival mode into possibility.

Do you know the difference between resolutions and goals? Make 2025 the year that everything shifts for you. Discover how to set meaningful intentions, show up differently, and break down goals into manageable steps that lead to real transformation. Top Takeaways: Resolutions What they are, how to set them, and why they're especially powerful after experiencing infidelity and betrayal. Explore the importance of aligning your resolutions with your deeper intentions. Ask yourself: What is my intention for 2025? Goal Setting Learn how to break your resolutions into specific, actionable steps that are measurable and achievable. Uncover strategies to stay consistent and create lasting change through the synergy of goals and resolutions. Who Do You Want to Become in 2025? The way you spend your days is the way you spend your life. Envision the person you want to be and consciously design your daily habits, mindset, and choices to reflect that vision. Want More? Join Lora for a FREE Vision Board Workshop in late January! This workshop is free when you purchase and review a copy of her upcoming book, It's Not Burnout; It's Betrayal: 5 Steps to FUEL UP and Thrive, Available for Pre-Order on Amazon..  

Are you burned out after the holidays? Is your relationship feeling strained rather than renewed? In this episode we will take a deep dive into holiday and relationship burnout, giving you strategies and techniques to manage stress and strain and come back home to yourself. Top Takeaways: Expression & Release through Somatic Movement: Learn the profound importance of physically expressing and releasing pent-up emotions, just like a toddler's tantrum, to maintain emotional balance. Use somatic practices like rolling on the floor, running, or engaging in vigorous physical exercises to release trapped energy. Stress Relief Tools: Explore a variety of tools including journaling, mindfulness, and meditation to alleviate stress and enhance resilience during stressful times. Managing Relationship Burnout: Uncover strategies to tackle both holiday and relationship burnout by understanding emotional states, setting boundaries, and avoiding codependency.  

How Your Cheating Partner Really Changed? Here are some key indicators of growth: How do you know your partner won't cheat again? In this episode, we dive into what causes infidelity, and how to determine if your partner has changed. Next, we take some time for a little coaching and self-reflection, moving into what's possible for you after infidelity. Through personal growth, embodying the best version of yourself, and recognizing your partner's strides in emotional maturity and self-awareness, together, you can navigate the tumultuous path of healing. Remember, it's about consistent, observable changes and supporting each other's self-care and emotional expressions. Top Three Takeaways: How to Identify Genuine Change in a Partner: Growth is seen in consistent, small shifts—like improved emotional regulation, self-reflection, and the adoption of healthier coping mechanisms. Keeping track of past behaviors versus current progress is vital. Preventing Repeat Betrayal: While there are no guarantees, fostering emotional awareness and equipping partners with effective tools like therapy, communication, and mindfulness reduces the likelihood of relapse into maladaptive behaviors. Empowering Personal Transformation: Healing from betrayal is not about blame but about leveraging the experience as a catalyst for personal growth. Reflecting on what you want to stop, start, and become helps you rise into the highest version of yourself, reclaiming your life with strength and clarity. Four Coaching Questions to Ask Yourself: (You must listen for more details on these questions!) What do I want to stop? What do I want to start? Who do I want to become? How do I want to feel and show up? This podcast explores the complex journey of healing and transformation following betrayal, focusing on both partners' roles in rebuilding trust and evolving into their best selves. #FLAUNT #BetrayalRecovery #HealingAfterInfidelity #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalAwareness #HealthyRelationships #SelfCare #AuthenticLiving   Don't forget to subscribe and share "FLAUNT!" so we can continue empowering each other to build lives we love.   Lora's mission is to facilitate deep healing on energetic, soul, and ancestral levels, enabling women to restore their sense of self-worth and sovereignty. She offers numerous methods for support, including guided meditation, past life regression, and personal sessions. You can work with her individually or through a variety of online programs. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com     About Lora Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, soul, and ancestral level so they can rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity, self-trust, and self-worth, and reign as the sovereign queens of their own life. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to turn devastation into a powerful invitation and initiation for healing, freedom, and joy. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book.  

How often have you wondered why you aren't getting over the infidelity or worried that you are “taking too long” to feel better? You are not alone if you have; contrary to what you might think, you are exactly where you are supposed to be!   The Four Reasons Why You Aren't Over the Infidelity Yet: You don't have a new narrative that makes sense of it all: Humans are meaning-making machines. Until we make sense of what happened and create a narrative that makes sense, we will stay stuck in the trauma and drama of the situation. Worse, we live in a society that doesn't talk about infidelities, and the narratives that are out there don't usually fit our situation, leaving us feeling lost and confused. You haven't decided what you want yet: Making decisions is scary! Whether it's fear of judgment, fear of failure, or fear of success, making decisions requires us to publicly put our stake in the ground and claim what we want for all to see. It makes us vulnerable. It exposes us to others. But unless we decide what we want, we keep ourselves in a state of indecision where we can't heal, we can't move on, and we can't get over it. Ironically, this sometimes feels safer than making a decision and moving on. You are unwilling to let it go: What if you let it go? What happens then? Does it mean the marriage didn't mean as much as you wanted it to? Does it mean you made a mistake? Does it mean you have to grow up/shift/change in a way that you aren't quite ready to do? Does it mean you have to take responsibility for something you're not ready to own or to see? Maybe you don't want to let HIM off the hook and move on “too quickly” because you don't want to make things too “easy” for him, and you'd rather punish him by showing him how miserable you are. Greif takes time. Rebuilding yourself, you life, your identity, and grieving the loss of who you thought your partner was, takes time. We all grieve on our own schedules. New grief has a tendency to open old wounds that perhaps, weren't completely healed. Infidelity raises mother wounds, father wounds, abandonment wounds, safety wounds, fears of being alone, or too old or too ugly, wounds of not being enough, wounds of insecurity, self-worth, you name it. You aren't over it, because you aren't over it, because there is a lot to move through and process. Give yourself grace and space and time. How to Come to Terms with What Happened: Plan your work and work your plan: Recovery doesn't just happen. Time heals a lot, but it won't heal this. Infidelity is too big and impacts you on too many levels. Make a list of the things you need help with, whether it's legal, financial, educational, or spiritual. What are the steps you need to do to make progress in each of those areas? Using the 4 areas above, what are the steps you need to do to get through each area? Where do you need support? Who can you ask for help? What else do you need? Own your strengths and focus on you: You are the only person you can control. When you stop focusing on others, stop wishing things were different, and start owning and using your strengths, you feel stronger and “get better” fast! Remember to FLAUNT! Facing any kind of trauma or upset causes us to shrink to protect ourselves. That's fine for the short-run, but don't let this new, compressed state become your new normal. Remember, you deserve to open back up again, to connect to your heart, your beauty, and your divine soul. FLAUNT! in an acronym that reminds you of what to do. So, always remember to FLAUNT! Join us as we uncover the profound journey of forgiveness, offering tools and insights to create a life filled with love and authenticity after betrayal. Don't forget to subscribe and share "FLAUNT!" so we can continue empowering each other to build lives we love.   Lora's mission is to facilitate deep healing on energetic, soul, and ancestral levels, enabling women to restore their sense of self-worth and sovereignty. She offers numerous methods for support, including guided meditation, past life regression, and personal sessions. You can work with her individually or through a variety of online programs. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com     About Lora Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, soul, and ancestral level so they can rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity, self-trust, and self-worth, and reign as the sovereign queens of their own life. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to turn devastation into a powerful invitation and initiation for healing, freedom, and joy. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book.  

What role does forgiveness play in healing from infidelity and betrayal? Today's guest, Dara McKinley, sheds light on the dynamic and multifaceted process of forgiveness. Dara differentiates between pardoning and true forgiveness, describing forgiveness as the ability to enlist unconditional love amidst life's most trying moments. She emphasizes that forgiveness is the concluding step in a deep emotional journey, rather than an immediate solution to betrayal. Through practical and empathetic approaches, Dara helps us understand how feeling seen and acknowledging our emotions can facilitate genuine healing. Join us as we delve into the essence of forgiveness and the power of unconditional love, offering profound insights for moving forward after betrayal.   Top Takeaways: Forgiveness Isn't Instant: Forgiveness is a multi-layered process that unfolds over time, particularly in long-term relationships or enduring challenges. It's not about a quick fix but a gradual journey of emotional and spiritual work. Emotions Need Movement: To maintain emotional health, feelings need to circulate like any system in our body. Recognizing and releasing emotions helps prevent emotional congestion and allows us to experience unconditional love. Practical Spirituality: Dara emphasizes that spirituality should be practical and beneficial, reducing suffering and enhancing life. Her structured approach to forgiveness begins with an embodied experience of unconditional love and involves using the right brain to prioritize and apply it effectively. Join us as we uncover the profound journey of forgiveness, offering tools and insights to create a life filled with love and authenticity after betrayal. Don't forget to subscribe and share “FLAUNT!” so we can continue empowering each other to build lives we love. Are you ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com   About Dara Dara McKinley has studied and worked in the realm of spirituality and health for over three decades. In 2012, difficult life circumstances pointed her to forgiveness where she realized that many spoke prolifically about why one should forgive but no one spoke of how. Her background enabled her to successfully create and follow a forgiveness path that worked, but in the years that followed, the experience made her see some significant themes. In particular, she saw how mainstream forgiveness understanding (pardoning, ceasing anger, having compassion, and letting go) was obscuring the forgiveness path. She also saw that people who identified as spiritual-but-not-religious required a forgiveness path that was clear, and logical. This inspired Dara to devote her professional life to understanding forgiveness' infrastructure and to making forgiveness the practical healing modality it was always meant to be.   About Lora: Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women turn their devastation into an invitation to rise up and reign. Whether reclaiming what they let go of along the way, rebuilding their identity, or stepping into a stronger sense of self-trust and self-worth, Lora's expert guidance empowers women to uncover the truth™ of what they are capable of and deserve. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to stop feeling broken and start living fully and freely. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com   Get Relief Now! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door!  Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA30 for 30% off your order!       Purchase Lora's book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self on Amazon, IndieBound or wherever books are sold. Take the Lead in the Dance of Life, Strip out of the Past, and Choreograph Your Future Today!      

Post-infidelity, both you and your partner are on heightened alert. You feel threatened and insecure, but so does he. After all, the house of cards he built has come crashing down around him too. Egypt with you. Here's how to use the medicine of ancient wisdom to move safely yet powerfully into a state of vulnerability with our without your partner, so you can heal fully after your partner's affair. Top Three Takeaways: The Power of Vulnerability: Visiting the Dendera Temple, often called the temple of vulnerability, opened my heart to the power of softness and release in transformation. While we often want to “dig in” and “work harder” to transform, sometimes it's by softening and embracing our vulnerability that we become stronger and more resilient, shedding our layers of defense and stepping into new, empowered versions of ourselves. Mystery Enhances Understanding: Egypt is filled with mysteries, from the underground tunnels of the Serapum to the enigmatic Sphinx, with rain erosion that suggests it may be older than believed. But not knowing or understanding everything about these ancient monuments only enhances our enjoyment of them! Just as in life, we don't always need to understand everything. Imperfection and unknowing add richness to life and embracing the unknown can lead to greater self-acceptance and joy. Unity and Connection With All: Inside the King's Chamber of the Giza Pyramid, I was reminded that unity with self, others, and the universe, is what matters most. The past is in the past, and the life of the eternal soul is what matters most. No matter what hardships you face, let the idea of unity be a powerful reminder that you are never alone on your journey. Join me as I recount these experiences and invite you to reflect on your own journey of healing and personal transformation after betrayal. Don't forget to subscribe and share FLAUNT! with your friends, so we can continue to empower each other to create lives filled with love, connection, and self-embrace. Until next time, always remember to FLAUNT! exactly who you are, because who you are is always more than enough!   Lora's mission is to facilitate deep healing on energetic, soul, and ancestral levels, enabling women to restore their sense of self-worth and sovereignty. She offers numerous methods for support, including guided meditation, past life regression, and personal sessions. You can work with her individually or through a variety of online programs. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com     About Lora Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, soul, and ancestral level so they can rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity, self-trust, and self-worth, and reign as the sovereign queens of their own life. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to turn devastation into a powerful invitation and initiation for healing, freedom, and joy. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book.  

In this third episode based on Lora's journey through Ancient Egypt, we'll explore the profound wisdom unearthed through the ancient temples and myths of Egyptian lore. Be prepared for a journey that intertwines personal growth, spiritual awakening, and the deep-seated power of choosing your personal resurrection and joy over the burden of betrayal. Top Three Takeaways from Today's Episode: Choosing Joy and Play: Discover how to choose joy and lean into playfulness even when you're being faced with life's greatest hardships, such as recovering from infidelity. Cultivating Personal Resurrection: Learn to cocreating your own resurrection and come back to life again after betrayal, inspired by my powerful experiences in the Luxor and Abydos Temples, facilitated by the energy of the goddess Sekhmet. Unlocking Your Potential: Dive into the rituals and meditations centered around seven keys and doorways within an ancient temple in Karnak. Be inspired to unlock your own potential and consciousness, despite life's most challenging circumstances. Lora's mission is to facilitate deep healing on energetic, soul, and ancestral levels, enabling women to restore their sense of self-worth and sovereignty. She offers numerous methods for support, including guided meditation, past life regression, and personal sessions. You can work with her individually or through a variety of online programs. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com     About Lora Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, soul, and ancestral level so they can rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity, self-trust, and self-worth, and reign as the sovereign queens of their own life. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to turn devastation into a powerful invitation and initiation for healing, freedom, and joy. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book.  

In this episode, we unpack the beauty within, that oftentimes gets covered up and hidden. From the Valley of the Kings to Queen Hatshepsut's temple, Egypt's vast landscape was a reminder that what we see on the surface does not represent what's underneath, and what we are experiencing in our life at the moment, does not represent who we are or what our life can become. Top Takeaways: Healing From Within: Discover how historical sites like the Valley of the Kings can teach us that wisdom and treasure lies just below the surface. Healing after betrayal is often about reclaiming and uncovering what's already within us. Feminine & Masculine Balance: Learn from Queen Hatshepsut's remarkable reign about integrating both masculine and feminine strengths to become whole, with our without a partner. Spiritual Reflections: Healing isn't just a mental journey. Trusting the body's innate ability to process and release emotions is paramount. Whether through intuitive movement, singing, or dancing, integrating these practices can be powerful. Self-Advocacy: The journey to reclaiming self-worth includes asking for what you need—whether it's emotional support, therapy, or personal time. Join Lora for an Energetic Healing Session on November 15th at 11 AM PST, noon MST, 1 PM CST, 2:00PM EST designed specifically to explore and heal the roots of betrayal via Zoom for only $7! Learn more and sign up at www.stopselfbetrayal.com Are you ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com About Lora: Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women turn their devastation into an invitation to rise up and reign. Whether reclaiming what they let go of along the way, rebuilding their identity, or stepping into a stronger sense of self-trust and self-worth, Lora's expert guidance empowers women to uncover the truth™ of what they are capable of and deserve. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to stop feeling broken and start living fully and freely. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com Get Relief Now! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door!  Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA30 for 30% off your order!       Purchase Lora's book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self on Amazon, IndieBound or wherever books are sold. Take the Lead in the Dance of Life, Strip out of the Past, and Choreograph Your Future Today!

Lora's recent trip to Egypt serves as the backdrop for this episode, where she delves into the spiritual and energetic dimensions of healing. The journey was not only a physical expedition but also an inward voyage, as Lora explored sacred sites and sought to reconnect with ancestral wisdom. The dual-purpose trip aimed at both personal transformation and the creation of a documentary, promising to share these powerful experiences with a broader audience. A pivotal part of Lora's journey involved the exploration of ZepTepi, a concept signifying the origin point. By reflecting on ZepTepi, she encourages listeners to consider their own origin points in life and betrayal. This reflective practice allows for a deeper understanding of personal histories and the steps needed for healing. Top Takeaways The Temple of Isis: Unveiling the Feminine Archetypes A visit to the Temple of Isis provided rich reflections on womanhood and the Divine Feminine. Lora described the roles of maiden, mother, and crone, underscoring how societal pressures often confine women to nurturing roles. Such roles, while valuable, can become limiting if women are prevented from evolving into their full potential. Emphasizing the crone phase, Lora encourages women to step into their wisdom and power, breaking free from the confines of perpetual service. This transition marks a reclamation of sovereignty, allowing women to embody their full, multifaceted selves. A Newborn Puppy: A Reflection on Life and Death, Trust and Betrayal One of the most poignant segments in this episode is Lora's recounting of an experience involving a newborn puppy. Initially thought to be dead, the puppy was revived, prompting reflections on the balance of life and death. This incident served as a metaphor for the delicate negotiations of trust and betrayal. Rediscovering Trust and Healing Past Wounds During meditation, Lora revisited a past life memory or allegorical story, where betrayal played a central role. She envisioned herself as a young healer, entrusted with a precious vial containing life force. A man from her village, under the guise of assistance, betrayed her by taking the vial for personal gain. This experience of trust and subsequent betrayal mirrors many of the listeners' experiences and serves as a powerful illustration of vulnerability. Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies: Imbalances and Integration Lora's exploration of the temples in Egypt also brought forward the theme of balancing masculine and feminine energies. At the Kombo temple, known for its dual-sided design, she delved into the importance of integrating these energies for holistic healing. The interplay of divine masculine and feminine, as experienced in the symbology of the temples underscores the necessity for both balance and harmony in personal growth. Lora's reflections at Abu Simbel further highlight her observations of divine masculine energy characterized by compassion and support. By recognizing these qualities within herself, she underlines the significance of embracing both strength and nurturance. Embracing Authenticity and Self-Compassion Beyond the spiritual and symbolic, Lora shares personal insights on authenticity and acceptance. She reveals moments of vulnerability and the realization that appearance is not crucial for meaningful connection. This message resonates deeply with many women who may feel pressured to uphold certain facades. The Edfu Temple: Symbol of Balance and Immediate Healing Lora discusses her visit to the Edfu Temple, a symbol of complete balance and healing. Although time-constrained, the experience reinforced her realization that understanding and reclaiming one's power can propel immediate healing and harmony without dwelling in the past. This serves as a metaphor for listeners to cherish the present moment while embracing their deep-seated power. Conclusion: A Call to Rediscover and Heal Lora Cheadle's powerful recount of her Egyptian odyssey invites listeners to reflect on their personal journeys of healing, encouraging them to reclaim their power through self-awareness and energy work. By drawing from ancient wisdom and personal reflection, she provides a roadmap for women to reclaim their power and rediscover their sovereignty. Whether through guided meditations, energy healing sessions, or personal contemplations, Lora's insights offer valuable tools for transformation and growth. Join Lora for an Energetic Healing Session on November 15th at 11 AM PST, noon MST, 1 PM CST, 2:00PM EST designed specifically to explore and heal the roots of betrayal via Zoom for only $7! Learn more and sign up at www.stopselfbetrayal.com Are you ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com About Lora: Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women turn their devastation into an invitation to rise up and reign. Whether reclaiming what they let go of along the way, rebuilding their identity, or stepping into a stronger sense of self-trust and self-worth, Lora's expert guidance empowers women to uncover the truth™ of what they are capable of and deserve. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to stop feeling broken and start living fully and freely. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com Get Relief Now! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door!  Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA30 for 30% off your order!       Purchase Lora's book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self on Amazon, IndieBound or wherever books are sold.  

Infidelity and betrayal can shatter the foundations of one's life, but these experiences also offer profound opportunities for growth and transformation. Erica Bennett, founder of the Crazy Ex Wives Club shares her journey from heartbreak to empowerment. Her insights provide powerful tools for anyone navigating the painful aftermath of betrayal, guiding listeners towards reclaiming their worth, happiness, and independence.   Top Takeaways: Visualizing Positive Outcomes Erica emphasizes the practice of visualizing positive outcomes, regardless of a relationship's fate. Instead of focusing on potential negative scenarios, Erica suggests imagining happiness and fulfillment for oneself and one's partner. This mental shift fosters a healthier headspace and progressively pulls one's reality towards positivity. Whether you choose to stay in the relationship or move on, holding a vision of a happy future helps pave the path to a truly fulfilling life. Embracing Self-Sufficiency in Relationships Relying solely on a partner for happiness is a recipe for exhaustion and disappointment. Erica underlines the importance of self-sufficiency, advocating for individuals to meet their own emotional and psychological needs. The key to a strong, healthy relationship lies in two whole individuals coming together, each bringing their best selves. By focusing on personal well-being and independence, both partners can contribute positively to the relationship without depleting each other's energy. Grounding Techniques to Combat Fear and Anxiety Confronting fear and anxiety is crucial in the healing process. Erica shares practical grounding techniques, including sensory exercises and deep belly breaths, that can help shift focus and calm the nervous system. Identifying five things you can see, hear, smell, taste, and touch activates a different part of the brain, breaking the cycle of anxiety and grounding you in the present moment. Combining these with deep, intentional breaths and tapping methods can reduce the power of fear-based thoughts, helping you regain control and peace. Conquering the Fear Monster Fear often thrives when left unchecked, growing into what Erica describes as a "fear monster." By consciously questioning and countering fear-based beliefs, you can 'shrink' this monster. Erica uses intentional practices to strip away layers of vulnerability, much like a burlesque dancer revealing their true self. Embracing fears and confronting them head-on empowers you to find safety and happiness amidst the chaos. Setting and Enforcing Healthy Boundaries Understanding and establishing boundaries is essential for personal well-being and healthy relationships. Erica highlights the difference between boundaries and ultimatums, explaining that true boundaries revolve around actions within your control. Personal boundaries should focus on self-care practices that maintain your well-being, such as needing alone time or engaging in activities that rejuvenate you. Clear, realistic boundaries help in avoiding self-abandonment and maintaining a balanced, fulfilling life. Rediscovering Identity and Joy Post-Divorce Erica's post-divorce journey involved rediscovering her identity and passions. By trying new activities she previously avoided, such as camping and different foods, she unraveled layers of societal expectations to find what truly fulfilled her. Breaking free from norms, and even simple acts like choosing not to wear a bra, contributed to her profound sense of self-discovery and joy. Her story highlights that divorce, while painful, also opens doors to immense personal growth and exploration. Balancing Personal Space in New Relationships In new relationships, maintaining boundaries and personal space is crucial to prevent self-abandonment. Erica prioritizes her rituals and self-care practices, ensuring she remains true to herself while supporting her partner's fulfillment. This balance allows for a healthy, supportive relationship where both individuals can pursue their passions independently without feeling threatened. Continuous personal growth and respecting each other's need for independence form the foundation of a strong, lasting bond. Grieving and Moving Forward Grief is an intense and convoluted emotion, especially when grieving the unexpected aspects of a marriage. Erica stresses the importance of processing these feelings and understanding that sadness is a natural part of the healing journey, not an indicator of failure. Reflecting on love and loss allows one to make significant decisions from a place of clarity and love rather than emotional turmoil. Embracing these experiences as lessons rather than mistakes fosters resilience and growth. Erica's insights illuminate the path from betrayal to empowerment. By focusing on personal happiness, grounding techniques, healthy boundaries, and continuous growth, individuals can transform their pain into profound personal development. Embracing fear, setting personal goals, and maintaining independence pave the way for a fulfilling and joyful life after betrayal. About Erica Meet Erica, a global training guru and coach, whose unwavering passion lies in helping you break free from the chains of fear that are holding you back. With over two decades of experience in training and coaching, Erica has honed her unique “woo and do” approach, blending the mystical with the practical, to empower you to align with your deepest desires and take confident strides towards success. As the host of The Crazy Ex Wife's Club podcast, she shares her own divorce journey, offering hope and support to those facing similar challenges. With expertise in behavior training, healing, and personal growth, Erica guides you through separation or divorce, empowering you to transform pain into purpose. Learn more about Erica, The Crazy Ex Wives Club, and the Crazy Ex Wives Club Podcast here: https://www.thecrazyexwivesclub.com/   Join Lora for an Energetic Healing Session on November 15th at 11 AM PST, noon MST, 1 PM CST, 2:00PM EST designed specifically to explore and heal the roots of betrayal. Via Zoom for only $7! Learn more and sign up at stopselfbetrayal.com. Lora's mission is to facilitate deep healing on energetic, soul, and ancestral levels, enabling women to restore their sense of self-worth and sovereignty. She offers numerous methods for support, including guided meditation, past life regression, and personal sessions. You can work with her individually or through a variety of online programs. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com     About Lora Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, soul, and ancestral level so they can rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity, self-trust, and self-worth, and reign as the sovereign queens of their own life. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to turn devastation into a powerful invitation and initiation for healing, freedom, and joy. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book.    

You've listened to all the podcasts and read all the books. You understand, on an intellectual level, what happened, and you've worked to both forgive and accept what happened. But you don't feel healed. Most affair recovery programs address betrayal on an intellectual or spiritual level, but they don't address healing on an energetic level. Unless you heal the betrayal wound energetically, you will continue to attract betrayal. You will continue to feel in pain. Let me show you how to heal betrayal on an energetic and soul level. Top Takeaways Identify and Reset the Frequency of Betrayal: How you feel about yourself, what you expect out of life, and what you are and are not willing to tolerate matters. More than just mindset, your beliefs about yourself can attract or repel betrayal experiences. Release Betrayal at an Ancestral Level: For eons women have experienced betrayal. Women have been subjugated, oppressed, and suppressed, being forced to live lives untrue to who they were. This created an imprint of betrayal in our DNA that needs to be healed. Reclaim Divine Sovereignty: Realizing who you are on a soul level, reclaiming your divine sovereignty, and learning to reign as the queen of your life is what allows your energy field to heal, reset, and empower you through the rest of your life. Are you ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com About Lora: Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women turn their devastation into an invitation to rise up and reign. Whether reclaiming what they let go of along the way, rebuilding their identity, or stepping into a stronger sense of self-trust and self-worth, Lora's expert guidance empowers women to uncover the truth™ of what they are capable of and deserve. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to stop feeling broken and start living fully and freely. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com Get Relief Now! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door!  Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA30 for 30% off your order!       Purchase Lora's book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self on Amazon, IndieBound or wherever books are sold. Take the Lead in the Dance of Life, Strip out of the Past, and Choreograph Your Future Today!  

Infidelity and betrayal leave a wake of emotional upheaval, sadness, and pain. Here's how to transcend the situation's intensity, reclaim inner peace, and perhaps even find spiritual healing. Join me in an engaging conversation with John Burgos, as we delve deeply into the journey of self-discovery, spiritual growth, and the pursuit of inner peace after betrayal. Top Takeaways Prioritize Self-Care and Self-Love: When we set high standards for how we treat ourselves and others, we reinforce self-love as the cornerstone of who we are and what we deserve, and we attract positive experiences into our lives. Embrace Vulnerability and Honesty: Accepting that not everyone can meet us with honesty and vulnerability is the first step to finding peace. John shares how his journey helped open his heart to love, transparency, and facing discomfort head-on. Navigate Emotional Expression and Healing: From gaslighting to suppressed emotions, today's discussion highlights the impact of unexpressed feelings and societal norms on relationships.   Join in today's conversation and learn how to cultivate an open, honest approach to emotional expression, and the ability to recognize and process your emotions so you can live truthfully.   Are you ready to Rise Up & Reign as the Divine Queen of your Life? Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life you love on the other side of betrayal. Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com     About John Burgos John, the founder and host of the Beyond The Ordinary Show, has committed his life to improving and enriching the lives of others. He created the Beyond The Ordinary Show to unite and lead the next generation of transformation through providing a stage for emerging and provocative spiritual leaders, exposing and bringing light to the shared power of collective consciousness. Moved by the profound, shamanic experiences that ignited his trust in his innate intuitive abilities, John has dedicated his passions to bringing this truth of inherent intuition to the masses. He soon emerged as a leader in the field and finds his truest excellence in working with esoteric and spiritual teachers. He believes that his work, in conjunction with the luminous souls he works intimately with, can be the catalyst for global change. John's greatest passion and purpose is celebrated by providing a platform, holding space and expertly directing new thought patterns to assist in the growth, evolution and empowerment in shaping a new, more soulfully connected generation. Learn more at https://beyondtheordinaryshow.com/ About Lora Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women turn their devastation into an invitation to rise up and reign. Whether reclaiming what they let go of along the way, rebuilding their identity, or stepping into a stronger sense of self-trust and self-worth, Lora's expert guidance empowers women to uncover the truth™ of what they are capable of and deserve. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to stop feeling broken and start living fully and freely. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book.  

In this episode, Lora's client Leigh bravely shares her betrayal recovery journey. Get a new perspective on infidelity, find out what you can expect ten months out, and get tips for healing your heart, strengthening your relationship, and bravely looking within. Top Takeaways Healing and Personal Growth: Leigh emphasizes the importance of confronting trauma and emotional pain to heal and grow personally. Both she and her husband experienced significant personal growth and relationship improvements through the healing process. Dealing with Patterns and Trauma: Leigh's journey involved recognizing repeated patterns from her past, such as taking on too much responsibility and losing herself, and addressing these with the help of therapy. This included dealing with childhood memories and repressed trauma, which contributed to her healing process. Support and Forgiveness: Leigh underscores the necessity of seeking support and being selective about confiding in others to ensure the healing process isn't complicated. She also shares insights on forgiveness, noting that it involves letting go of anger and requiring continued effort from the repentant partner, as well as self-forgiveness through understanding past actions and moving forward. Are you ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways. Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com About Lora: Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women turn their devastation into an invitation to rise up and reign. Whether reclaiming what they let go of along the way, rebuilding their identity, or stepping into a stronger sense of self-trust and self-worth, Lora's expert guidance empowers women to uncover the truth™ of what they are capable of and deserve. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to stop feeling broken and start living fully and freely. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com Get Relief Now! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!  

Whether you stay or go, knowing your rights is important. There is much misinformation about the divorce process, what happens to your assets, what you are and are not entitled to, and how parenting time or custody is established. Although every state has different laws and everyone's circumstances are unique, this show will give you a broad understanding of everything you need to know.   Top Takeaways Property, Assets, & Debts: Can you afford to keep the house? What does it mean to buy out the other person? Separate property, individual property, and what you might be entitled to if you divorce. Maintenance (formerly known as alimony): What is it, how is it calculated, and how long will it last? Child Support, Custody, Parenting Time & Decision Making: What to know about protecting your children during this stressful moment in everyone's life. Do you want to watch the video of this presentation and get a free copy of a Marital Balance Sheet, as well as Maintenance and Child Support Guidelines in Colorado? Get Instant Access Here: https://lora-cheadle.ck.page/5461728b8e Are you in Colorado and want to learn more about mediating your divorce? Learn more about Garske Divorce Mediation at https://www.garskemediation.com/ Does this make you realize that a divorce is not what you want, but you are unsure of how to reconcile with your partner? Let's sit down together, you, me, and your partner, and figure things out during a Couple's Strategy Session! Book Here: https://lora-cheadle.ck.page/3a0fad2078   Are you ready to Rise Up & Reign as the Divine Queen of your Life? Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life you love on the other side of betrayal. Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com   About Garske Divorce Mediation Welcome to Garske Mediation We know that divorce is more than just a legal process—it's also an unknown journey that can leave you feeling overwhelmed,  making it hard to see the path ahead. That's why we're committed to providing the clarity you need to feel grounded and in control.   Your decisions now will shape your future, and that's why we categorize our services to meet the specific needs of your unique situation. Each stage of the divorce journey requires a focused approach, and our goal is to provide you with the right support when you need it most. Learn More at www.GarskeMediation.com   About Lora Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women turn their devastation into an invitation to rise up and reign. Whether reclaiming what they let go of along the way, rebuilding their identity, or stepping into a stronger sense of self-trust and self-worth, Lora's expert guidance empowers women to uncover the truth™ of what they are capable of and deserve. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to stop feeling broken and start living fully and freely. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book.  

Dr. Robert Weiss, the founding director of Seeking Integrity LLC, dedicated his career to understanding and treating sex addiction. If your partner struggles with any addiction, or you are concerned they might, this show provides vital guidance that will benefit you both. After all, whether or not infidelity is involved, addiction is still a betrayal.   Top Takeaways Idleness of Threats: Dr. Weiss underscores the importance of following through on ultimatums, especially when dealing with addiction. Empty threats can undermine your stance and lead to being taken for granted. If you promise to take action in response to a relapse or deceit, you must follow through to establish firm boundaries. Boundary Setting Over Immediate Departure: Instead of immediately leaving a partner who has relapsed or lied, Dr. Weiss suggests starting with practical boundary-setting measures. These can include ending sexual relations and relocating the addict's sleeping arrangements, which helps in reclaiming your space and self-respect without uprooting your life all at once. Honesty and Communication as Cornerstones for Recovery: Both Dr. Weiss and Lora Cheadle stress the significance of honesty and small acts of truthfulness in rebuilding trust. It's not just about major confessions but also about owning up to everyday actions and lies, which collectively help in restoring faith and intimacy in the relationship. For those looking to delve deeper into the topic, Dr. Weiss offers additional resources, such as his 11 books, podcasts with over 1.6 million downloads, and online presence, making extensive information accessible for continued support and learning. Listen now to uncover how you can foster a positive, trusting, and compassionate relationship after betrayal. Continue this empowering journey by tuning in to our future episodes and letting us guide you towards a life you truly love.   Are you ready to Rise Up & Reign as the Divine Queen of your Life? Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life you love on the other side of betrayal. Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com     About Dr. Robert Weiss Dr. Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT is Founding Director of Seeking Integrity LLC, which provides residential and online treatment, education, and support for male sexual addicts and their families. Seeking Integrity also offers specialized residential treatment for men with co-occurring sexual and substance abuse disorders. An educator, author, and licensed clinician for nearly 30 years, Dr. Rob has created six residential intimacy and addiction treatment programs in the US, Southeast Asia, and the US military. He has served as a subject-matter expert for numerous major media outlets, including CNN, NPR, and The New York Times, among others. Dr. Rob is the author of eleven books, including Prodependence, Sex Addiction 101, and Out of the Doghouse. His Psychology Today blog, “Love and Sex in the Digital Age,” has over 22 million reads, while his podcast, “Sex, Love, & Addiction,” has over 1.2 million downloads. Learn more at www.seekingintegrity.com   About Lora Lora Cheadle is an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal recovery coach who helps women turn their devastation into an invitation to rise up and reign. Whether reclaiming what they let go of along the way, rebuilding their identity, or stepping into a stronger sense of self-trust and self-worth, Lora's expert guidance empowers women to uncover the truth™ of what they are capable of and deserve. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand the skills and strategies necessary to stop feeling broken and start living fully and freely. She is licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, is a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, advanced integrated energy practitioner, and is certified to teach yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal train. She is the author of the International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self and host of the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. She lives in Colorado and loves travel, adventure, and a good book.  

Infidelity is a situation that rocks your world and changes the way you see your partner, your life, and yourself. In other words, it changed your perspective. While you might feel broken and afraid right now, the truth is your perspective will change again. One day, you will see things differently, one day, you will understand, and one day, you will be happy. In this episode, we dive deep into the power of changing perspectives and enlisting expert advice to help you do so to heal and thrive after infidelity. Top Takeaways:

Most people get it wrong when they talk about the betrayal recovery journey. In this episode, we zoom out and take a high-level view of the affair-recovery journey, filling you in on everything you need to know. Recovering from infidelity and affairs is tough. But it's not just a catastrophe. It's an initiation. An initiation by fire that burns away all illusions and leaves you with a choice. To step into your power, come back home to yourself, and reclaim everything you let go of along the way, or bury your head back in the sand and either cut and run or move ahead, pretending that things are fine. Using the story of The Matrix as a guide, Lora walks you through your initiation into reality, making the choice between the red pill and the blue pill, overcoming defeat and frustration along the way, and stepping fully and proudly into yourself and your truth as The One who has the power to create herself and her life anew. Top Takeaways: The power and process of Initiation, whether or not that initiation is desired, and how to rise to the occasion, see the truth, and wake to a new reality. Why divorce, leaving the cheater, or moving back into a state of “pretend normal” doesn't heal the betrayal wound and leads to long-term consequences. Combatting feelings of frustration and defeat so you can continue to learn and grow in confidence and skill. The difference between internal and external validation, claiming yourself as The One versus having someone tell you that you are The One and stepping fully into your greatness. Are you ready to Rise Up & Reign as the Divine Queen of your Life? Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com   About Lora Attorney, speaker, and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. Get the high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly works. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!    Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity, I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session   #surviveinfidelity #healingjourney #thematrix #redpillbluepill #InfidelityRecovery  #RelationshipHealing #SelfWorth #BetrayalRecovery  #HealthyRelationships #PersonalGrowth  #lifecoaching #Relationships #initiation #invitationtothrive #illusionshattered #UnderstandingInfidelity  #BetrayalSupport  #PodcastCommunity  #CheatingRecovery  #cheating #infidelity #affairrecovery #saveyourmarriage #savingyourmarriage #relationshipadvice  

In this deeply personal show, I share the astounding revelation that Shawn and I had about being done. Our work together is complete and now is the time to relax, play, and enjoy each other.   Do you want to know more about Soul Contracts and what might be coming up for you? Let's have a session and figure it out. Book and Pay for your session Here: https://buy.stripe.com/3csg205Fu8pQ1RSdQT    Top Takeaways: What are Soul Contracts and Karmic Relationships, what does in mean to be in one, and what happens when one is over? Lora and Shawn's new journey and what it means for their marriage and relationship. No, they are not getting divorced! How to distinguish between fear of the unknown and honoring what your soul knows it needs to do. Releasing judgment and embracing your most authentic life.   Tired of Feeling Broken? Get Relief Now! Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com   About Lora Attorney, speaker, and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT    Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session    SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792    The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt    #leeharris #soulmagic #santafe #divorce #soucontract #karmicrelationships #endofsoulcontract #twinflames #soulmate #surviveinfidelity #healingplan #healingstrategy #InfidelityRecovery  #RelationshipHealing  #SelfLove #SelfWorth  #EmotionalWellbeing  #BetrayalRecovery  #HealthyRelationships #businessandlove #PersonalGrowth  #lifecoaching #Relationships #mentalrehearsal #communication #woundology #RelationshipAdvice  #UnderstandingInfidelity  #HealingJourney  #BoundariesInRelationships  #BetrayalSupport  #PodcastCommunity  #CheatingRecovery  #HealthyConversations #cheating #infidelity #affairrecovery #saveyourmarriage #savingyourmarriage #relationshipadvice

Have you been so focused on one thing that everything else falls apart? If so, you are not alone. Instead of either/or thinking (scarcity), this episode focuses on both/and thinking, and the power of making a choice. Life, health, and business coach Sara Allen sits down with Lora for a practical and inspiring discussion on how to create the next chapter of your life with intention and calm. BONUS! Join Lora and Sara for the free Unite to Ignite Summit at https://link.unite2ignite.com/Cheadle Use Code 5OFF for $5 the lifetime VIP upgrade!   Top Takeaways: The Awareness Wheel, a healthy communication framework that keeps you and the person you are communicating with grounded, centered, and able to hear and receive what's being said. A Mental Rehearsal meditation and how preparing for your future by visualizing yourself in that future creates calm and acceptance so you can release resistance, get unstuck and move forward. Woundology, and why your biography creates your biology. and the body is a mirror of your thoughts and beliefs.   Tired of Feeling Broken? Get Relief Now! Work individually with Lora or complete her online Rise Up & Reign Affair Recovery Program in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com About Sara Sara is the creator of Believable Coaching and Love Life Again, programs designed to get you in touch with your purpose and give you the mentorship, community and tools to bring it to life. She holds a master's degree in public communication with a public health focus from American University, a bachelor's degree in religion and women's studies from Duke University, and a dual health and life coaching certification from the Health Coach Institute. Learn more and download your free gift at www.believablecoaching.com   About Lora Attorney, speaker, and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT    Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session    SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792    The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   #surviveinfidelity #healingplan #healingstrategy #InfidelityRecovery  #RelationshipHealing  #SelfLove #SelfWorth  #EmotionalWellbeing  #BetrayalRecovery  #HealthyRelationships #businessandlove #PersonalGrowth  #lifecoaching #Relationships #mentalrehearsal #communication #woundology #RelationshipAdvice  #UnderstandingInfidelity  #HealingJourney  #BoundariesInRelationships  #BetrayalSupport  #PodcastCommunity  #CheatingRecovery  #HealthyConversations #cheating #infidelity #affairrecovery #saveyourmarriage #savingyourmarriage #relationshipadvice

Do you sometimes feel like you won't survive the pain of being cheated on? Healing takes more than tactics, it takes a solid strategy. In today's episode, we will break down the five key steps in the healing process: falling apart, seeking help, prioritizing self-care, moving the body, and connecting with others to nurture a sense of belonging. I'll also open up about my personal experience with infidelity and the challenges I faced in seeking help, emphasizing the relief and growth that came from admitting the truth and asking for support. You'll walk away with tactics that support your healing, including counseling, therapy, and even my 90-day program specifically designed for women recovering from infidelity. Five Steps to Surviving Infidelity: Fall apart: Give yourself permission to feel your feelings Get Help! Asking for help is hard, but it's the most important thing you can do. Learn the difference between strategy and tactics so you can create a healing strategy that works. Focus on Taking care of yourself, and refuse to disturb your own peace of mind. Move your Body! Connect with others! Belonging is a strong human drive. Embrace connection. Tired of the Heartbreak & Pain? Find Relief Now! Work individually with Lora or complete her online Affair Recovery course in the privacy of your own home. Learn more at www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com About Lora Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.     Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792         #surviveinfidelity #healingplan #healingstrategy #InfidelityRecovery  #RelationshipHealing  #SelfLove #SelfWorth  #EmotionalWellbeing  #BetrayalRecovery  #HealthyRelationships #CompassionateHealing #PersonalGrowth  #TherapyJourney  #ReclaimYourself  #EmotionalIntelligence  #RelationshipAdvice  #UnderstandingInfidelity  #HealingJourney  #BoundariesInRelationships  #BetrayalSupport  #PodcastCommunity  #CheatingRecovery  #HealthyConversations #cheating #infidelity #affairrecovery #saveyourmarriage #savingyourmarriage #relationshipadvice

S Saving your marriage after an affair is possible. After 23 years together, I was devastated by my husband's infidelity, yet seven years later, we are happier and more connected than ever. Here are the five steps I recommend to my clients, and the five rules of engagement that will help you and your partner find peace and happiness again, or maybe for the first time. Five Steps to Save your Marriage after Infidelity: Ask yourself why, Prepare for all possibilities, Hold up a mirror and adore yourself, Do your work, Connect with your partner Five Rules of Engagement: Be kind to everyone (including yourself) Go slowly, Take care of yourself, Remember to receive, Feel into being About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after. Get Relief Now! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn More & Apply Here! www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792       Purchase Lora's book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self on Amazon, IndieBound or wherever books are sold. Take the Lead in the Dance of Life, Strip out of the Past, and Choreograph Your Future Today!           #InfidelityRecovery  #RelationshipHealing  #SelfLove #SelfWorth  #EmotionalWellbeing  #BetrayalRecovery  #HealthyRelationships #CompassionateHealing #PersonalGrowth  #ManageConflict  #TherapyJourney  #ReclaimYourself  #EmotionalIntelligence  #RelationshipAdvice  #UnderstandingInfidelity  #HealingJourney  #BoundariesInRelationships  #BetrayalSupport  #PodcastCommunity  #CheatingRecovery  #HealthyConversations #cheating #infidelity #affairrecovery #saveyourmarriage #marriageadvice #savingyourmarriage #healyourrelationship #relationshipadvice #marriagerules #loveafterbetrayal

Free Workshop & Webinar Betrayal hurts. But you don't have to stay in pain. Somatic processing is using the body to process emotions. Whether you are aware of it or not, the body sends and receives energy. Like a wire, when too much energy builds up, it either needs to discharge (in the form of an emotional outburst) or it short circuits and blows out the system (in the form of disease or pain) Somatic processing is a tool you can use to dissipate that build up in energy and emotion healthfully so you don't do something you regret and hurt other people, or internalize you pain and hurt yourself. Top Take-a-Ways: What is Somatic Processing and how it helps alleviate uncomfortable sensations in the body, both old and new. How to tune into the wisdom of your body and feel better fast, no matter what you are going through. Exercises and processes you can use now, and every day going forward, to keep yourself more balanced, healthy, and free. About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after. Get Relief Now! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn More & Apply Here! www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!  

Are you suffering from intrusive or obsessive thoughts? This free workshop and webinar will help. Learn the tools and strategies necessary to break free from intrusive thoughts after experiencing infidelity and betrayal. During our time together you will receive support, learn coping strategies, connect with others who understand your struggles, and begin your journey towards inner peace and freedom. You will also get a FREE downloadable hypnotic meditation that you can use any time to Delete the Drama and Pain and Feel Better FAST. Let's navigate through this together so you can reclaim your mental well-being. Register now and take the first step towards liberation. Hypnosis file: Save the link or download it to your phone or laptop: https://loracheadle.com/wp-content/uploads/PTSD-1.mp3  Email lora@loracheadle.com for your free cognitive reprocessing worksheet Top Take-a-Ways: Understand the difference between helpful or habitual thoughts. Learn the basics of cognitive reprocessing so you can create healthier thinking patterns. Receive a free hypnosis to stop obsessive thoughts in their tracks as well as a script for self-hypnosis. About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after. Get Relief Now! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn More & Apply Here! www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792       Purchase Lora's book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self on Amazon, IndieBound or wherever books are sold. Take the Lead in the Dance of Life, Strip out of the Past, and Choreograph Your Future Today!        

Throughout today's episode, we'll explore the root causes behind infidelity, not to excuse or justify the cheater's actions but to better understand the true causes. It is through this understanding that we can start to heal, transform, and ultimately create lives filled with more self-love, authenticity, and genuine connection. Top Take-a-Ways: Understanding the Link Between Infidelity and Self-Worth: Infidelity often stems from low self-esteem, fear of abandonment, and personal pain. It's less about the betrayed partner and more about the cheater's internal struggles and emotional disconnection. The Power of Compassion and Empathy: While infidelity is painful and trust-shattering, approaching the situation with compassion and empathy for both oneself and one's partner can pave the way for healing. This doesn't mean excusing the cheating partner's behavior but rather understanding its root causes to address and resolve personal wounds. Owning Your Journey, Not Their Problems: Healing from betrayal involves significant personal growth and the realization you can't control your partner's actions or recovery. Healing means focusing on your self-worth, setting healthy boundaries, and embarking on your journey of self-love and empowerment. Join us as we navigate the complexities of infidelity, challenge the stigma around it, and work towards reclaiming our worth with strength and authenticity. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast to help us reach more women who need to hear this message. FREE Workshop! Freedom From Intrusive Thoughts After Infidelity or Betrayal July 3rd 8 AM PST / 9 AM MST/ 10 AM CST / 11 AM EST Sign up for FREE on Eventbrite: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/934742619337?aff=oddtdtcreator   About Lora Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT    Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session    SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792    The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   #workshop #freeworkshop #InfidelityRecovery  #RelationshipHealing  #SelfLove #SelfWorth  #EmotionalWellbeing  #ConflictResolution #SelfEsteem  #FearOfAbandonment  #BetrayalRecovery  #HealthyRelationships #CompassionateHealing #PersonalGrowth  #ManageConflict  #TherapyJourney  #ReclaimYourself  #EmotionalIntelligence  #RelationshipAdvice  #SurvivalInstincts  #UnderstandingInfidelity  #HealingJourney  #BoundariesInRelationships  #BetrayalSupport  #PodcastCommunity  #CheatingRecovery  #HealthyConversations #cheating #infidelity #affairrecovery

Have you ever wondered if you were being patient or a pushover who was settling for less than deserved? If you have, you are not alone! In today's episode, we'll delve into the importance of setting clear and specific boundaries within your relationship, protecting yourself while creating realistic and measurable healing goals, and will discuss the essential steps for both partners to take charge of their healing journey through therapy, coaching, or self-directed resources. Top Take-a-Ways: Healing is a Fluid and Flexible Process: How to create a healing plan that doesn't follow a linear path and adapts and grows with you. Embracing Patience and Compassion without being a pushover: Discover the profound difference between being patient and being a pushover who settles for less. Learn tools to embrace both patience and create accountability, so you and your partner have the grace to grow. Empowered Decisions: What they are and how to know you are making them. BONUS! Here are ten Journal Prompts and questions based on the topics discussed in this episode: **Boundary Setting**: How do you interpret the importance of setting specific boundaries in a relationship after infidelity? Can you share examples of boundaries that might be helpful? **Realistic Healing Goals**: What are some realistic healing goals you can set for yourself after experiencing betrayal? How do you ensure they are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-sensitive (SMART)? **Communication Strategies**: In what ways can clear communication facilitate the healing process for both partners in a relationship affected by infidelity? **Healing Plans**: Lora Cheadle suggests having concrete healing plans for both partners as well as the couple. What steps would you include in such a plan for individual and mutual healing? **Compassion in Healing**: How can having compassion for each other's mistakes and normalizing errors contribute to rebuilding trust and connection in a relationship? **Empowered Decision-Making**: Why is it important to prioritize your own well-being when making decisions in a relationship affected by betrayal, and how can one avoid seeking external validation? **Laughter and Joy**: How can incorporating fun and laughter into your relationship aid in the healing process after experiencing infidelity? **Self-Compassion**: What are some methods you can use to practice self-compassion and send love to your past self as suggested by Lora Cheadle? **Patience vs. Settling**: How do you differentiate between being patient with a partner undergoing personal growth and settling for less than you deserve in a relationship? **Future Self Guidance**: How might seeking wisdom from your future self influence your healing journey and decision-making process in a relationship affected by betrayal? Get Relief Now! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn More & Apply Here! www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792    

In this candid episode, Lora will share her personal story of discovering her husband's 15-years of cheating and the transformative journey that followed. We will discuss the vital importance of confronting and understanding past trauma to heal and foster healthier relationships as well as how to reclaim one's identity and live authentically from a place of love, strength, and unconditional self-worth. Together, let's transform pain into power. ✨ Top Take-a-Ways: Understanding Trauma's Impact: Whether minor or significant, past traumas can profoundly affect your current relationships. Recognizing and addressing these is a pivotal step towards healing. Reclaiming Your Self-Worth: Betrayal can shatter your self-esteem, but it's crucial to remember your intrinsic value and begin the process of reclaiming it. Embracing Personal Empowerment: How to own your power and never settle for less than you deserve so you can create a life that sparks joy and fulfillment, redefining your future on your own terms. Get Relief Now! Download your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, and take the first steps in feeling okay again, despite what's going on around you.   About Lora Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT    Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session    SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792    The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   #InfidelityRecovery #SelfWorth #TraumaHealing #Podcast #PersonalGrowth #flourishafterbetrayal #FlauntPodcast #WomenEmpowerment #HealingJourney #CreateTheLifeYouLove #BetterHelp

While it can be worthwhile to see if your marriage can be saved, sometimes you are better off apart. While the road to dissolving your marriage can be long and challenging, it doesn't have to be terrible. If you have felt shut down because you think your situation is unresolvable, this episode is for you. Today's guest is Gabrielle Hartley, an attorney and mediator who specializes in resolving unresolvable situations. She will share actionable tips to help you productively navigate conflict from her books, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (2019), and The Secret to Getting Along; Three Steps to Life Changing Conflict Resolution. Top Take-a-Ways: Why defensiveness is the enemy of resolution and tools to stay calm in every moment. Deescalating both yourself and others when tensions rise. How to hold yourself up high, respect yourself, and find happiness, which just happens to be the best revenge. Download a copy of your Fetish Finder Worksheet and start scheduling in your self-care, pleasure, and joy today! https://loracheadle.com/freebies/ Get Relief Now! Get the understanding, clarity, & support you deserve today! Schedule your one-hour Zoom session with Lora, and we will figure it all out together. *BONUS!* This session includes 30 minutes of follow-up support. Schedule and pay here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session   About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792  

Whether you've already divorced, are just beginning the process, or have no idea what you want to do, this show will give you the lowdown on all things divorce, and how to divorce with ease, grace, and even joy. With topics ranging from handling anger and fostering forgiveness to navigating the dating world as a fresh start, Jackie Pilossoph, founder of Divorced Girl Smiling shares her wealth of knowledge and personal experiences to help you find joy, positivity, and growth during divorce.   Top Take-a-Ways: Prioritizing your emotional growth and healing during divorce, and why “Divorce is a good time to work on yourself”. Why the only “bad choice” you can make is the choice to stay stuck and unhappy. Patience and positivity when re-entering the dating scene, releasing expectations, and enjoying the process of meeting new people with an open heart. Dating apps vs. more traditional methods of dating, which is better and why.   Get Relief Now! Get the understanding, clarity, & support you deserve today! Schedule your one-hour Zoom session with Lora, and we will figure it all out together. *BONUS!* This session includes 30 minutes of follow-up support. Schedule and pay here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session   About Lora Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after. About Jackie Pilossoph Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and editor-in-chief of the media company, Divorced Girl Smiling, as well as the author of four romantic comedy novels. A former TV news reporter and Huffington Post divorce blogger, Pilossoph also wrote the weekly syndicated column, “Love Essentially” for the Pioneer Press/ the Chicago Tribune for 7 years. The column was syndicated in all Tribune Publishing owned papers across the U.S. Pilossoph holds a masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her family. Oh, and she's divorced. Learn more at www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com   Download your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, and take the first steps in feeling okay again, despite what's going on around you.     Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT    Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session    SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792    The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt

Intrusive thoughts are the number one complaint of those facing infidelity and betrayal. Here's how to prevent intrusive thoughts, manage them in the moment, and prevent them long-term. If you want to learn what your obsessive thoughts are trying to tell you, and reclaim your sanity and peace after betrayal, then listen up, this is the show for you. Top Take-a-Ways: Identifying what intrusive thoughts are, why they happen, and preventing them before they begin. Strategies to prevent intrusive thoughts when they occur, including grounding techniques, visualization, meditation, and breathwork. Managing intrusive thoughts for long-term wellness and health. Join Lora's 90-Day Affair Recovery Program – Clarity, Confidence, & Peace Along the Way and learn to manage your obsessive thoughts. FLAUNT! listeners get a money-back guarantee! Must complete all modules of this 90-day program, within 90 days. https://loracheadle.com/affair-recovery-for-women-programs/ About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792       Purchase Lora's book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy & Spiritual Self on Amazon, IndieBound or wherever books are sold. Take the Lead in the Dance of Life, Strip out of the Past, and Choreograph Your Future Today!        

Betrayal hurts. But what if it was the medicine your heart needed to transform into the fullness and beauty of who you were meant to be? Today's guest is the inspiring and creative Alana Fairchild, who will share her divine wisdom on healing the heart after the storm of betrayal. We'll discuss how to come home to your true self, embrace your divine feminine, and discern between intuition and wishful thinking. Together, we'll explore the importance of forgiveness, not as a means of condoning, but as a pathway to closure and compassion. Alana will share insights on the divine feminine as heart medicine, a transformative force that fuels our rebirth and personal evolution. We'll also tackle the tough emotions—anger, grief, bitterness—and how to use them as stepping stones towards a greater, more authentic version of ourselves. Join us as we unpack the complexities of transformation, self-discovery, and the power of embracing all facets of your identity, reinforced through personal stories and profound truths. Whether you're dealing with the aftermath of infidelity or simply striving for deeper self-awareness, this episode is a guide to fostering patience, self-compassion, and an unshakeable connection with your inner wisdom. Get ready to be inspired, to heal, and to FLAUNT all that you are, because who you are is always more than enough! Top Take-a-Ways: Coming Home to Yourself: Understand the importance of creating spaciousness and introversion as methods of self-nurture. Discover your personal ways to refuel spiritually and emotionally. Navigating Change and Growth: Learn how forgiveness and self-compassion are key in evolving from past betrayals. Alana and Lora discuss the non-linear path of healing, emphasizing the courage needed to embrace authenticity. Harnessing Your Divine Feminine: Alana shares her insights on the transformative power of the divine feminine. Engage with different goddess energies to explore facets of your identity and expand your self-awareness. Special offer from Alana Fairchild! Check out Alana's monthly program, Community of the Sacred, as well as her open enrollment program, Rose of Venus. About Alana Fairchild An artist of a different kind, Alana Fairchild is a visionary powerhouse with a gift for soul-nurturing communication. With a loving sense of humor and open nature, Alana weaves magic into the world to uplift, vitalize and comfort. She is a rare and nourishing channel who stimulates spiritual awakening and healing through her very presence. Her energy is a consciousness catalyst for transformation with a gentleness, purity and potency that sets her apart. Alana's insights promote freedom rather than doctrine in a language of the soul and the heart. Her works are thoughtfully guided for effectiveness and evolution, and are accessible to all individuals, regardless of religious or other beliefs. Alana has devoted her life to creating unique works that deeply heal and encourage wholeness. To explore her special offerings, including online programs, unique in-person experiences and more, you are warmly welcome to visit www.alanafairchild.com Schedule your Couple's Strategy Session Here: www.BetrayalRecoveryCoach.com For only $198 you and your partner can get the roadmap you need to recover more quickly, and with fewer mistakes! Need Help Now? Get the understanding, clarity, & support you deserve today! Schedule your one-hour breakthrough Zoom session with Lora today. Together we will figure out where you are at, what's blocking you from being where you want to be and design a clear strategy for how to get you there. *BONUS!* This session includes 30 minutes of follow-up support. Schedule and pay here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what's possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.   Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT   Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!   The most comfortable shoes you will ever wear! Available in seven heel heights, these shoes will keep you comfortably on your feet for 12 hours. Made with cork, many styles are available including heels, wedges, and boots. www.EuropeanHeels.com $25 off with Discount Code Flaunt   SOLAWAVE Reduce the appearance of wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and dark spots while de-puffing and energizing your skin. This 7x Award-Winning Skincare Wand combines Red Light Therapy, Galvanic Current, Therapeutic Warmth, and Facial Massage for an easy-to-use and effective treatment. https://www.pjtra.com/t/2-574028-273174-269792