Podcast appearances and mentions of jeff vanvonderen

The spiritual practices of solitude and silence help create opening in us and our lives for God's transformative love. Book references: Invitation to Solitude and Silence by Ruth Haley Barton and Soul Repair by Jeff VanVonderen, Dale & Juanita Ryan --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/radiantlyhealthyfaith/support

We discuss the end results of legalism, as well as whether legalism is really dangerous in isolation. We also discuss the ramifications of legalism, shame, and toxic churches on individual believers. Recommended Resources: 1. Soul Repair by VanVonderen & Ryan: https://amzn.to/2YUy5Vg2. Own Your Life by Sally Clarkson: https://amzn.to/2Wn2pKs3. Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson : https://amzn.to/2M8AFVUOther books referenced in this episode:Toxic Faith by Arterburn & Felton: https://amzn.to/2WvRuxSTired of Trying to Measure Up by Jeff VanVonderen: https://amzn.to/2K8aBrj Families Where Grace is in Place by Jeff VanVonderen: https://amzn.to/2Wn0plq

We examine a specific kind of toxic environment, termed a "shame-based system" by Jeff VanVonderen in his book Tired of Trying to Measure Up.  We talk about how to recognize whether a church, family, or work environment is based on causing shame, and a little bit of how to deal with it.Recommended Resource: Tired of Trying to Measure Up  by Jeff VanVonderen: https://amzn.to/2K8aBrjBook on Anger by Gary Chapman: https://www.amazon.com/Anger-Powerful-Emotion-Gary-Chapman/dp/0802413145/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=anger+chapman&qid=1630271076&sr=8-2

In the fashion of Valentine's Day and love, today I want to dive into loving your kids well. Parents, this is for you! The book I mentioned is "Families Where Grace is in Place," by Jeff VanVonderen. To join the workshop on How and Why to Break Free from the Sugar Habit, join us here.

Kyle J Howard discusses how our ecclesiology can prevent or promote abuse in the church. Recommended reading on the topics discussed in this episode: https://kylejhoward.com/ @KyleJamesHoward on Twitter Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church by Diane Langberg Something's Not Right: Decoding the Hidden Tactics of Abuse--And Freeing Yourself from Its Power By Wade Mullen The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority Within the Church By David Johnson and Jeff Vanvonderen

Kyle J Howard discusses how our ecclesiology can prevent or promote abuse in the church. Recommended reading on the topics discussed in this episode: https://kylejhoward.com/ @KyleJamesHoward on Twitter Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church by Diane Langberg Something's Not Right: Decoding the Hidden Tactics of Abuse--And Freeing Yourself from Its Power By Wade Mullen The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority Within the Church By David Johnson and Jeff Vanvonderen

Jeff Vanvonderen

"When do you start talking to your kids about money and how old should they be before you talk to them about it?" We get this question often and we decided to tackle it head on in today's podcast episode. And by that, I mean we talked about a number of things that might be a little be controversial. :) We approach the conversation of money with our kids much like we approach anything else in our parenting -- with the desire to lead by example and raise future adults. In this episode, we share when we begin talking about money with our kids, why we think it's important to let your kids handle money from a young age, why we involve our kids in financial conversations and decisions, how we offer our kids opportunity to earn money, and why we are okay with letting our kids make mistakes with money. In This Episode:  [01:14] What’s saving our lives? It's all about Christmas decorating,  [06:14] Off the bookshelf: A Cross to Kill by Andrew Huff and Families Where Grace is in Place by Jeff VanVonderen. [13:57] Learn four strategies to help kids learn how to think about and handle money. [14:58] Strategy number 1: Set a Great Example. More is caught than taught. [18:22] The second strategy: Start Teaching From a Young Age. It's never to early to begin! [21:39] Strategy number 3: Involve Your Kids as Much as Possible. Make it a family conversation and work together to achieve your financial goals! [24:42] The fourth strategy: Let your kids make mistakes. Save them the $3000 and $30,000 mistakes later by letting them make $3 and $30 mistakes now. [28:12] Why we let our kids earn and handle money and what this looks like for us. Links and Resources: A Cross to Kill by Andrew Huff Families Where Grace is in Place by Jeff VanVonderen Why We Pay Our Kids For Doing Chores Crystal’s Favorite Things on Amazon CrystalPaine.com MoneySavingMom.com Crystal’s Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

Stuck! For years, I felt that the Joyous Family was stuck. Just stuck in the same rotating issues over and over again. Crisis after crisis just kept banging on our door. Why, even after sobriety, did family life still feel, well, yucky? What keeps codependent families stuck? Then I walked into a Christian seminar by Jeff VanVonderen call Wounded by Shame, Healed by Grace. If you watch just a few of these videos, you will see something eye-opening.  In the podcast this week we share how VanVonderen's work affected the Joyous Family.  

This week's conversation is with someone who not only has his own Eminem lyric, but has also been featured in an episode of Southpark! Author, motivational speaker, former pastor, and interventionist Jeff VanVonderen is best known for his appearances on A&E reality show Intervention. Listen in as he unwraps SO MUCH interesting information, from addictions that are the most challenging to work with, to toxic church situations and spiritual abuse. Van Vonderen has the perfection combination of a kind spirit with strong boundaries. He shares great pearls of wisdom and just as he does on the show ~ will leave you feeling reflective, cared about and hopeful. You can find his work or contact him at: https://www.jeffvanvonderen.com/

Jeff VanVonderen, Guest Speaker | www.thedoor.org

Right click here to download the mp3. Art by Jarosław Kubick In the final segment of our discussion, we talk about ways we hid our depression or magnified our depression (what made things worse) and ways we helped our depression (what made things better).The panelists will be watching the comments to respond to questions. Here is a summary of the resources and other things that helped us.Process:Name the problemIdentify root causes (often things from the past) and work through themFigure out what triggers depressive episodes Remove triggers (get out of situations that make things worse) Build relationship spaces where you can find happiness and peace and emotional strength ("family" by choice)Choose your spirituality and interaction with the churchGet out of overly-stressful or abusive situations and take care of yourselfBecome an advocate, speak upTechniques:Journal writing and bloggingWriting in supportive communities (online forums)Creating: Art, music (eg. playing piano), dance (eg. choreography), crochet, etc. Therapy, working through the pastMovement BreathingFocusing on sensory input from the five senses to come to the present momentYogaEnergy healing: BodyTalkGetting out to the things that are "elementally you" (eg. hike the petroglyphs)Spend time outdoors, get outside when the spiral down starts Using prayer as contemplative reflectionIdentifying the good and the beautifulMassage and chiropractic Hot showersLight therapy and vitamin DReading books on topics that pertain to your hurtFood RelatedGAPS dietCandida CleanseEating potatoes before bed (with no protein) to help to raise serotonin levelsBooks, Audio, and Online Resources"The Soul in Depression" from On Being with Krista Tippett (audio)Prozac Nation by Elizabeth WurtzelAn Unquiet Mind by Kay Redfield JamisonThe Dance of Anger by Harriet LernerThe Dance of Intimacy by Harriet LernerMood Cure by Julia RossThe Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen Come to Your Senses by Stanley Block and Carolyn Block Move Your Body Tone Your Mood by Kate F. HaysEating in the Light of the Moon by Anita JohnstonNoonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression by Andrew SolomonWomen who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés Solace for Mothers online forum