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Hospitality can be defined in so many different ways which makes it a very broad topic, but author Shannan Martin joins me today to talk about it and what it means to be a good neighbor. Her book Start with Hello covers how to create a sense of community with our neighbors, even if we are introverted. Shannan argues that we are all hungry for community even if we don't quite realize it, and she offers great advice on how to start creating that sense of community. Shannan offers ways to carve out space in our lives to create connections. I, for example, try to keep Fridays open for social gatherings, and Shannan offers examples from her own life as well. She defines hospitality as the door being easy on its hinges and explains what she means by that. Shannan also reveals what her favorite simple step is to build connection, and I really appreciate what Shannan is doing and really appreciate her time. Be sure to check out Shannan's book for more information! In This Episode [00:35] – Shannan Martin is today's guest![01:52] – Shannan introduces herself and gives some background information.[04:24] – How can we create community if we are introverted?[06:29] – Shannan argues that everyone is looking for community even if we don't realize.[08:09] – How can people put themselves out there if they've gotten hurt doing so before?[10:13] – Shannan gives an example of a friend even though they had a lot of differences.[12:50] – What is a good first baby step?[15:28] – I have been keeping Fridays open lately.[18:38] – Shannan points out that we don't have to have it all together when being hospitable.[21:44] – Shannan believes in her book but still has some anxiety.[24:42] – What does hospitality look like for Shannan now that her kids are teenagers?[27:05] – Shannan defines hospitality as keeping the door easy on its hinges.[30:16] – Shannan emphasizes the importance of asking for help. Links & Resources Crystal Paine Books Start with Hello by Shannan MartinThe Ministry of Ordinary Places Social Media Crystal Paine on InstagramCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.com

Jesse and I have been frequently asked what Kathrynne is doing after she graduates from high school, so we decided to do a podcast episode about it! It got us thinking about how so many of us spend so much time thinking about and worrying about the future that we are missing out on the present. Kathrynne started being asked what her plans were post-graduation at the beginning of her junior year, and constantly being asked began to take a heavy toll on her. People who were asking didn't have ill intent, but it put pressure on her because it made her feel like she was supposed to have an answer even though, as only a junior, she didn't yet. What then would be a better question? We explore that question and offer alternatives, questions that are still well-meaning and don't put as much pressure on youth to have their entire future figured out, questions that focus on the present rather than the future. While we are by no means saying that it's not essential to have long-term goals, what we are saying is that we don't need to be pressuring kids to have a concrete answer, especially not prematurely. We are never even promised tomorrow, so savor today! In This Episode [00:35] – We are talking about after high school today![03:08] – Hear about the trip we went on recently.[05:40] – I reveal what has been saving my life.[08:03] – Has anything been saving Jesse's life lately?[09:51] – I am almost finished listening to Count the Nights by Stars by Michelle Shocklee.[12:48] – Hear how the book I've been reading is relevant to our recent trip.[14:15] – We have been watching Five Days at Memorial.[17:01] – We dive into the topic of what Kathrynne is doing after high school.[19:49] – Most people don't work in what they majored in at college.[21:49] – I pose a question to ask rather than what you're going to do after high school.[23:25] – Jesse touches upon how the question can also lead to guilt.[26:30] – Hear a story that emphasizes the importance of being grounded in the present.[28:12] – We would love to hear more alternate questions from you! Links & Resources Crystal PaineVIDS for KIDS in 3d (HD) - Relaxing Bouncing Balls Sleep Music for Children and BabiesFive Days at Memorial on Apple TV Spectra - S1 Plus Electric Breast Milk Pump for Baby Feeding Books Count the Nights by Stars by Michelle ShockleeUnder the Tulip Tree by Michelle Shocklee Five Days at Memorial: Life and Death in a Storm-Ravaged Hospital by Sheri Fink Social Media Crystal Paine on InstagramCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.com

Today's topic is one that is very close to my heart because when I was a child, my mom read so many books to me, and to this day, I still remember so many of the stories that she read aloud. Joining me is Jennifer Pepito, author of Mothering by the Book: The Power of Reading Aloud to Overcome Fear and Recapture Joy, and we are chatting about just that – the positive effects of reading aloud to your children. Jennifer is the mother of seven children whom she has been homeschooling for twenty-five years. She enthusiastically describes her homeschooling routine and whether or not there were any surprises along the way, how to respond to children who are having difficulty settling down, and more. She also goes into detail about her book and what it's about, the thought process that went into reading it, and how to overcome the fears that accompany motherhood. She is such a seasoned mother and homeschooler and has such a wealth of knowledge and wisdom to share, and I hope that you find her words helpful. If so, be sure to check out her book! In This Episode [01:11] – We are talking about the book Mothering by the Book today![01:54] – Jennifer shares some background information with us.[02:27] – Did Jennifer always intend to homeschool her children?[03:03] – Jennifer reveals whether or not homeschooling went according to plan.[05:14] – Jennifer explains how she found time in her day to read aloud to her children.[06:50] – Jennifer continued reading aloud with her children even when they got older.[08:20] – Jennifer shares where we can find time for homeschooling and reading aloud.[11:05] – How do we get children to sit still to listen to a book?[12:57] – Jennifer reflects on times when there are interruptions.[13:49] – Get some more information about the thought process behind Jennifer's book.[16:43] – I highly recommend the book Evidence Not Seen.[18:19] – Jennifer offers insightful advice to new mothers.[21:36] – Jennifer advises us on how to let go of children entering adulthood.[23:44] – How can we get started making reading aloud a practice in our homes?[24:55] – What are some of Jennifer's favorite read-aloud titles?[27:41] – Thank you for joining me, Jennifer! Links & Resources Crystal Paine Books Mothering by the Book by Jennifer Pepito A Charlotte Mason Companion by Karen Andreola The Hiding Place by Corrie Ten Boom Evidence Not Seen by Darlene Deibler Rose Atomic Habits by James Clear The Little Britches by Ralph Moody Endurance by Alfred Lansing Little House on the Prairie by Laura Ingalls Wilder The Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis Miracles on Maple Hill by Virginia Sorensen Social Media Crystal Paine on InstagramCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.com

I thought that it would be fun to sort of turn the tables around a little bit and interview Jesse, who just recently had his forty-second birthday! Jesse has a lot of wisdom to share. Having endured a lot such as his parents getting divorced and losing his mother, he shares some of the biggest life lessons he has learned over the course of his life, lessons that he hopes to impart to our children. We also talk about how important it is to take risks and face fears. Jesse had to do that when he went to law school and started his own firm, and we both had to face fears when we went into fostering. All in all, you never know where a leap of faith or even just a baby step will take you! In This Episode [01:13] – Jesse had a big birthday recently. [01:39] – I am interviewing Jesse in this episode! [03:01] – Jesse recently finished reading Fortitude by Dan Crenshaw. [04:28] – Jesse also started reading People Are the Mission by Danny Franks. [04:58] – I am reading Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt. [07:48] – Hear what I have been learning from the book! [09:20] – What has been saving my life this week? [12:47] – Jesse shares what has been saving his life. [15:16] – I remind you of Jesse's recent birthday. [17:24] – What are a couple of life lessons that Jesse wants to teach our kids? [18:13] – Jesse reveals some fears that he has faced throughout his life. [21:49] – Jesse is about halfway through life. [23:45] – Discover Jesse's hopes for the next forty years or so. [26:35] – I talk about how foster care can be scary for some people. [28:35] – Jesse argues that skills build on each other. [30:30] – Jesse and I have known each other since we were 9 and 10. Links & Resources Crystal PaineBooks Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage by Dan Crenshaw People Are the Mission: How Churches Can Welcome Guests Without Compromising the Gospel by Danny Franks Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt Social Media Crystal Paine on InstagramCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.com

Today's guest has such an inspirational story to share, and I strongly encourage you to read his book Now I Am Known. Peter Mutabazi is not only a published author but is also a foster dad and has a passion for foster care which is something that I am of course drawn to. Without giving too much away (because you really do need to read his book!), Peter reflects on his abusive, traumatic childhood and how he escaped it. He also explains what led him to where he is today, including how and why he decided to become a foster parent, and he gives advice to people who have considered becoming foster parents but are, for various reasons, afraid to pursue it. Peter wraps up by discussing forgiveness and moving on from trauma. He also reflects on how he reconciles all of the pain and brokenness in the world with the existence of God. I, again, cannot recommend his book enough! In This Episode [00:35] – I announce today's guest, Peter Mutabazi.[01:04] – Peter gives us some background information about himself.[01:42] – Learn a little bit about Peter's childhood.[03:30] – Peter discusses his reasons for running away from home when he was ten.[04:41] – When was Peter finally able to escape survival mode?[06:18] – Peter reveals when he was finally able to get an education.[08:32] – I discuss the title of Peter's book.[10:37] – What can a parent do to foster worth and value in God within children?[13:36] – Peter touches upon how to get where he is today.[15:23] – How did Peter decide to start fostering children?[18:24] – Peter has fostered 27 children in five years![19:45] – Peter gives advice to prospective foster parents who are scared to pursue it.[23:08] – I love how Peter says that the mother is my ally, not my enemy.[24:12] – How does Peter reconcile the brokenness in the world with God? Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine BooksNow I Am Known: How a Street Kid Turned Foster Dad Found Acceptance and True Worth by Peter Mutabazi Social MediaCrystal Paine on InstagramCrystal Paine on TwitterCrystal Paine on GoodreadsMoney Saving MomMoney Saving Mom on FacebookMoney Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook groupcrystal@moneysavingmom.com

Are you tired, overwhelmed, and don't know how to keep going? I encourage you to listen to this episode.  We have Rachel Norman in the studio with a conversation many women have shared with me.  She is a mom of five and the author of If Mama Ain't Happy: Why Minding Healthy Boundaries Is Good for Your Whole Family. Rachel and I talk about how we have to take care of ourselves before we can take care of our others. We talk about how it isn't selfish to set boundaries and to give yourself permission to be like, "I'm not doing this. We're not doing that. We're going to have a little bit of space in life".  We need to check in with ourselves and figure out what the problems are so that we can be present. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [01:36] - I ask Rachel to introduce herself. [04:08] - When you were going through this transformation, what were their ages? [05:09] - I share something that I loved that Rachel says in the introduction. [08:13] - What did it look like for you to uproot that system that was propelling you in a dysfunctional way? [11:55] - Rachel reflects that when you start to realize some things that are not good for us are also not good for them. [13:15] - How did you break free from when you had set up this system? How did your family react? [16:11] - Remember to check in with yourself. [19:20] - Talk to us about boundaries and how you would define them. [23:02] - Where would a person start setting up boundaries? [24:34] - We're talking about boundaries, does that mean that before that shift, you didn't have any boundaries? [27:00] - Boundaries are the foundation for what is going to allow me to live life at my best. [29:23] - Talk to us about how long it took to have this switch. [32:06] - I love that you are taking the word boundaries and making it something different than I've thought of it before. [33:29] - What happens when you set a boundary and then realize that it isn't working? [37:31] - Thank you and closing remarks.   Links & Resources  Crystal Paine   Books If Mama Ain't Happy: Why Minding Healthy Boundaries Is Good for Your Whole Family by Rachel Norman   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com

We received an email from a listener asking for resources to set goals for specific personality types. She is having a difficult time setting goals.  What is a goal? How can you select a goal that you are excited about? How can you break it down to make it more manageable? We also have an update on the kids starting school, Baby D's TPR trial, and some movies we watched recently. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [00:58] - Jesse and I had a big week. Our kids started school this week. [02:02] - I didn't think it would hit me so hard. [04:27] - We had so many big feelings for a Monday.  [08:09] - From the first time we met Baby D's mom, she was constantly telling us thank you. [09:57] - Jesse and I watched an interesting movie. [14:14] - We welcome movie suggestions based on real-life events or documentaries. [15:50] - We got an email recently regarding an interesting response about REM sleep and sleepwalking. [18:07] - We got another email from our listeners about our podcast regarding helping kids set goals and the advice for parents to model goal setting for their kids. [19:54] - Jesse wonders what she sees when she's looking at her goal. [21:44] - I sometimes think we look at what someone else has set as a goal and we think that's the only way that goal setting works. [22:25] - I suggest starting with a simple goal. And I would say pick one. [23:52] - I suggest picking a goal that excites you. Not only what motivates you, but what excites you. If you're not excited about it, it just feels overwhelming, and you're probably not going to follow through with it. [26:56] - It's not enough to just set a goal.  [28:52] - Make sure you are celebrating the mile markers. [31:04] - One good habit can breed into another good one. [31:43] - Thank you and closing remarks. Links & Resources Crystal Paine Books Jon Acuff The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Teaching Your Kids to Set Goals Ep 174 Special Mentions Cave Rescue, a movie Thirteen Lives, a movie The Rescue, documentary Pomodor App

"It's never too late. You can pick up right where you are". Great advice from today's guest. I am so excited to be interviewing David Thomas, the author of Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son Can Build On for Life. There is no greater time to start than right now. Make sure the males in your life are being given the tools they need to understand what strength looks like. It is okay to narrate your experiences as a parent, an adult, and even as a human to your children. We cover a lot in such a short time, so make sure you are ready to take down some notes. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [01:24] - I ask David to introduce himself to you. [03:15] - Is this something that you always saw yourself doing? Was this your dream job? [05:34] - Since you've been doing this for a long time, have you seen a shift in what parents are struggling with and what teens are struggling with? [06:38] - Do you feel like there is a reason for that? What's at the root of that? [08:52] - A while back, you were asked to write about raising worry-free boys. And you chose not to do it. I'd love for you to explain why. [11:31] - When boys come up against the discomfort of life that you and I know is just a part of being a human. [13:09] - I'd love for you to define "emotionally strong". [15:43] - We want to raise emotionally strong boys. How do we go about that? [19:42] - I share a quote from the book. [20:09] - How do we, as parents, set that example for our kids when we're just feeling so frustrated? [23:46] - Moms often feel like "if I admit to my child that I don't have it all figured out, I'm somehow failing them". I share a story from my childhood. [27:42] - I would love for you to speak to that mom right now. She is feeling like it's too much, it's too overwhelming. She feels she doesn't have what it takes. She doesn't know what to do with her child. [31:36] - There are so many tools in this book, not just tools for your son, tools for you as well. [33:10] - Thank you, and I would encourage everyone listening, to get a copy of Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineDavid Thomas, https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/ Books Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas Strong and Smart: A Boy's Guide to Building Healthy Emotions by David Thomas Raising Worry-Free Girls: Helping Your Daughter Feel Braver, Stronger, and Smarter in an Anxious World by Sissy Goff   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com  

Today, we're going to talk about goal setting for children. We will share some ways that we've encouraged our kids to set goals and the thoughts behind how we approach goal setting for our kids. It's all about the example that you set, how you approach it, and making sure that you're helping them take ownership of it. Then it's just continuing to encourage, cheer, and lead again and again and again. We'd love to hear from you. What advice, ideas, practical tips, and suggestions do you have for helping kids? When it comes to goal setting, send us an email we'd love to read your responses. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [01:14] I taught Jesse something new this week. [02:28] - You tape your mouth at night before you go to bed so that you don't breathe out of your mouth. You only breathe out of your nose because there are a lot of health benefits. [05:00] - I have been having some skin issues and I think a lot of it has to do with me nursing exclusively and not taking my prenatal vitamins, which you're supposed to do after you have a baby. [06:05] - I explained all the health benefits and what this mouth-taping thing was to Jesse and he suggested we try it during the day. [08:12] Blistex's medicated bomb has saved my life this week and I would highly recommend it. [08:22] Jesse has a book update for us. [10:50] I also have a book update and have been reading a few different books right now. [14:08] - One thing we've talked so much about this past year is what can you control. [15:33] - Today's podcast inspiration comes from a listener. [16:19] - I think that the first step to helping your children set goals is to model it for them. [19:56] - We had lots of conversations involving them and talking about it conceptually. [21:44] - Recognizing their interest, their personality type, and what is going to motivate them. [25:41] - Sometimes it's just like a little bit of challenging them and providing encouragement that you think they can do more. [26:51] - And finally, just being their cheerleaders. [27:30] - Let's focus on celebrating the progress that they make. This can fuel their desire to do even more. [30:13] Thank you and closing remarks. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books Rising Tiger by Brad Thor Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com

It's the perfect time to tweak some of the goals you set at the beginning of this year, or maybe revisit ones that you forgot about. Do you need to make some changes or add new ones? I'm excited to add some extra goals, but we'd love to hear from you. What are your goals? What are your priorities for the next five months? We'd love to hear from you! With these questions in mind, join Jesse and I as we share some of our goals for the second half of this year. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [01:56] - We are very much in back-to-school mode here. [02:39] - My reading update, the best book that I finished, it actually was the second five-star book of this year. [03:05] - I love spending time with life-giving people, but I had to dial back and focus on the essentials a lot of days. [04:53] - None other than my water bottle that I have right now is currently saving my life. [06:43] - Are you ready to talk about goals? [07:09] - I think when you set a goal, it needs to be something you can measure. So, it's not a goal if there's not a finish line. [07:29] - We're going to start out with health and fitness goals. [10:04] - Most of Jesse's goals could be considered workout goals in some way. [12:04] - I'm cracking up because mine and Jesse's goals are the complete opposite. [15:10] - The body and hormones do weird things. So I'm going to be taking good care of myself. [17:09] - I talked about giving myself grace. A healthy baby and a healthy mom is what's most important for me. [18:13] - Prioritizing relationships and community. We are actively working towards building more community. [18:54] - Moving on to family goals. [20:46] - Community is a priority for this next season. Consistency with meals and family meals. [22:34] - For the business goal, I have a book that's coming out and it's a book on time management. [24:20] - I have five specific goals and two specific priorities for fall. [25:20] - Thank you and closing remarks.   Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World by Jennie Allen Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Special Mentions My Goals for 2022 Simple Modern Water Bottle My Father's World preschool 30-day postpartum workout plan

Welcome to the family, our son Micah. Today's episode is dedicated to Micah's birth story. This was my easiest birth by far. The time leading up to the birth and afterward was pretty eventful. Jesse and I walk you through the birth of our son Micah, giving you a rundown leading up to birth, the events taking place during the birth, and the wonderful feeling of a successful delivery.  I touch on the good moments and some moments that were intense with the contractions. At one point I was pushing really hard and kind of feeling like I just would rather give up right now. There had been so much activity, and then he was born and it was just like quiet. Then he cried. He was healthy, he was good, and I was good. I thought at one point, 'how did I push that baby out?'. Micah has been such a gift and we are so happy to share our story with you. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [00:57] We are going to share Micah's birth story today. [02:43] - I had multiple sonograms, leading up to the birth and we made the decision for me to be induced. [04:47] - Jesse and I both prayed a lot in the two weeks leading up to my induction date that I would naturally go into labor. [04:54] A week before the induction, baby D got really sick. [09:22] Another reason we prayed I would go early was because of an upcoming tournament. [11:16] I have a highlight on my Instagram profile about the whole experience before and during called “My Birth”. [13:54] My hope was for it to be as natural as possible and to be fully present. [16:36] Always advocate for what you need at the hospital. [18:40] - I was present, aware of everything that was going on, talking in between contractions. [19:29] - It felt like natural contractions versus Pitocin contractions. And that was such a gift because in between contractions, there was almost zero pain. [21:51] I was trying to focus and rely upon the Lord through some intense contractions. [22:20] Jesse and I joke about the men's perspective of birth. [23:27] I still didn't feel ready to push. [25:04] My preferred birthing method is always on hands and knees. [27:20] - It was this surreal moment when he came out because I was thinking, I didn't feel like he was ready to come out and there he is. [29:59] - So instead of us admiring our beautiful brand-new baby, we're trying to figure out what to do about this poop explosion. [31:20] It was such a wonderful birth experience, especially after a rough pregnancy. [33:13] - We are grateful to be on the other side of Micah's birth. Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineKierstyn's Birth Story Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com  

This is going to be our last episode before I take maternity leave for June and July. Today we are going to talk about my unexpected hospital stay. I went in for a routine ultrasound, never expecting to be admitted into the hospital, thinking I might be having an emergency c-section. We have been quiet about this pregnancy, not sharing too much. We have done a lot of research on the possibilities of what this pregnancy could mean. We kept running into new things, starting with some issues at 11 weeks. The issues continued off and on, very consistently. In the process of checking things out, there was a lot the doctors found out. We have also learned so much about so many different things because of these near-complications. I have learned that I can't control everything and I am so grateful for seeing God's hand in this pregnancy. Jesse and I also share our reading update and what has been saving my life. Make sure to follow me on Instagram if you would like any updates and can't wait until I return from my maternity leave in August. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [01:19] – Jesse has a new book that he is reading. [03:33] – What's saving my life and my reading update is actually rolled up in one. [05:33] – Let's talk about my unexpected hospital stay. [07:05] – I have never had a transverse baby. [09:51] – There is a cause for concern when you are still bleeding in your second and third trimester. [12:36] – It took over forty-five minutes to try and get the baby to move. [15:21] – My Doctor told me at 33 weeks & 5 days, that there was a chance I was having my baby that day. [18:17] –I called Jesse to let him know we might be having a baby and he needed to get to the hospital. [21:50] – I was admitted to the hospital, where they kept monitoring me for an entire 24 hours. [23:47] – The baby must have been in a super-deep, sleep cycle. [24:58] – We didn't have a baby at 33 weeks & 5 days. [25:37] – I struggled with fear when I came home. [27:42] – Another little tidbit that shows God's sovereignty, because I was supposed to be in Vermont. [29:50] - This pregnancy has been such an opportunity to trust God. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books In the Blood by Jack Carr Adventures in Odyssey and Imagination Station book series Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com

“Start where you are.” Such a short statement but has such a huge impact. I have Bob and Linda Lotich on the show today, authors of their new book Simple Money, Rich Life: Achieve True Financial Freedom and Design a Life of Eternal Impact. I am thrilled about today's discussion, it's something that I am personally passionate about.  We are talking about something that we have never talked about before. And no, we are not talking about money, we are going to talk about Sabbath, an essential practice that could make a huge difference in your life. When I think of the Sabbath, I believe it is an invitation to rest but it is something we take for granted and that I feel is missing in our culture. Bob and Linda share their expertise, the good times, and some struggles they went through to find the balance that works for them. Bob, Linda, and I talk about how intention is important. We address what steps and actions to make the most of your time for you and your family. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [01:28] - I would love for y'all to introduce yourself to my audience. [04:57] – How did you recognize there was a need for this? [05:57] – Bob talks about how hard it was to take a break for a week. [07:05] – Did it shift something in your soul when you took time off? [09:20] – Bob and Linda explain how they set up and delegate when taking off time. [10:45] – What can someone do if they don't have the luxury of taking a full month off? [12:00] – Bob's view is there is no downside to asking. [13:05] – Linda shares that what you can do is make your time count and be intentional. [14:28] – I read a snippet from Simple Money, Rich Life. [16:42] – What does it look like to take a break from work but still have to take care of kids? [18:20] – Bob and Linda share what Sunday Family Day looks like. [20:12] – We talk about the advice they would share with a couple who may not be on the same page. [23:40] – The question to ask is, “what does this look like for each person?”. [24:12] – How have you invited and talked to your kids about Sabbath? [26:12] - Linda and Bob unpack what it means to live the lifestyle of the Sabbath. [29:19] – We discuss one practical step that you can take, to help you rest in Jesus. Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineBob & Linda Lotich, Seedtime Books Simple Money, Rich Life: Achieve True Financial Freedom and Design a Life of Eternal Impact by Bob Lotich Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com  

I hear from so many moms about today's topic. And joining me in the studio for this conversation I have Angela Perritt, who has just released a beautiful new bible called, Young Women Love God Greatly Bible. We are going to dive into the topic of how we help teen girls or teenagers in general, build their relationship with Jesus.  I hear from a lot of women, that they read the Bible but they don't know what steps to take next. Angela and I talk about what those steps could be and how to go beyond just reading the scripture. Angela wants women and moms out there to give themselves grace and know that it's okay to have questions and have doubts. We go over the wisdom and lessons we want the young women or any teenager that are under our guidance, to have in their lives when walking with God and to know it is okay to not understand the first time or to make mistakes – each experience is going to be a new meaning. You don't have to know everything, every time.  You need to do what is best by asking and praying because this is your relationship that you are building with the Lord, so it will not look like everyone else's. We would love to hear from you and what steps you are taking to enrich this connection and share any experiences you have with today's topic. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [01:12] – Angela, I am just thrilled that you are here to share from your wisdom to what God has just put in your heart and your passions. I would love for you to start by introducing yourself to my audience. [02:50] – Angela goes over the process behind creating a Bible. [05:46] – I think there are so many teens right now who are really questioning the existence of God and also the goodness of God. [06:35] – How do you wrestle with this, with your girls? [07:41] – Angela talks about her ideal audience for the Bible she created. [09:06] – Could a girl who has no exposure to the Bible pick this one up and understand it? [13:16] – Have you always known how to study scripture?  [15:37] – Angela shares how she is installing the love of God in her home and with her family. [17:31] - Angela gives advice on taking the time to reading God's word. [21:00] – What encouragement do you have for a mom, who is seeing her teenager struggle? [24:40] – How do you cultivate that safe space? [26:30] – What is the one thing you would want to tell the mom who has heart for God?  [29:40] – You can connect with Angela on her website, https://lovegodgreatly.com/ [31:05] – Today's sponsor is Codespark Academy. Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineAngela Perritt, https://lovegodgreatly.com/ Books Young Women Love God Greatly Bible by Angela Perritt & Thomas Nelson Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Sponsor Codespark Academy (Use the code MSM30 at checkout for a free 30-day trial!)

Last week we mentioned our daughters going to prom together. We talked about how their relationship has developed and some of the different seasons they have walked through. We got a lot of questions from people asking, how did our daughters developed a relationship to where they call each other their best friends, when before it wasn't always like that.  So, we asked Kathrynne and Kaitlynn for their insights and input on their relationship and both Jesse and I also add some of our thoughts and things from our perspective on this. Kathrynne has three points we go over: don't force it, learning emotional language, and time. A few thoughts I have had is loving your kids right where they are at. Our kids pick up so much from us, not just our words but our actions and emotions. Talking positively to them, about them to each other, and about them to others. Time has helped them get a different perceptive, allowing them to walk through different seasons and just a part of growing up and being a teenager.  We can give our kids a lot of things, guiding and helping but ultimately, they have to make their own choices and actions. I also give a book update and share the fun thing that is saving our lives this week, we are playing Wordle. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [01:45] – I asked for the girls input on being together and being friends. [02:22] – I have a reading update to share with you. [05:35] – What's saving our life this week? This week is something fun.  [09:35] - Today's sponsor is Codespark Academy [11:38] – How did our daughters, Kathrynne and Kaitlynn, become best friends? [12:08] – Kathrynne gives us three points stating they are very instrumental regarding her relationship with her sister. [12:24] – Kathrynne's first point: don't force it. [14:44] – Kathrynne's second point: learning emotional language. [17:29] – When the girls started to learn, “when you did that, it made me feel like this”, it changed the barriers of their relationship. [21:21] – Jesse brings the aspect that may encourage your kids to be friends, if they see that in your marriage. [21:55] – Kathrynne's third point: giving it time. [25:57] – Fostering a sense of family togetherness. [28:25] – It is not your responsibility to make your kids be friends. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books Gentle and Lowly: The Heart of Christ for Sinners and Sufferers by Dane C. Ortlund Love Center Parenting by Crystal Paine Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Special Mentions Wordle Game Sponsor Codespark Academy (Use the code MSM30 at checkout for a free 30-day trial!)

Today's topic is fresh on my mind because I just turned in the second draft of the manuscript for my new book! The book won't be out until next year, but I am so excited about it! It will be my fifth book, and since many people don't realize how much actually goes into writing and publishing a book, I am using this episode to share the process with you! What I share in this episode should be helpful to just about any large, time-consuming project, not just writing and publishing a book. There was a time when writing books was incredibly stressful and was affecting the family and the business, and I had therefore decided not to write anymore. I touch upon what changed my mind and why it's no longer as stressful, which, again, I am hoping is going to be helpful to you when it comes to tackling large projects! I discuss how I outline and have to map out the book in advance and how and why I plan out one chapter at a time. I talk about the collaboration process - people whose help I enlisted - and how it is important for me to read the book out loud because it's easier for me to catch things like mistakes. You ideally want to write something that you are excited about and passionate about, and that's true of any big project, such as starting a business or writing a book. Consistency is so important, especially if you commit a block of time to it every day! I can't wait to share this book with you all! As of now, it is expected to be out in March of 2023, and we will of course be talking more about it as that gets closer! We really appreciate you tuning in again this week and hope that this insight has been helpful to you! If you have any further questions about writing a book and/or tackling a big project, feel free to email me at crystal@moneysavingmom.com! We would love to hear from you! In This Episode [0:35] - I announce that I just turned in the second draft of my new book![1:16] - Today's tips can be applied to any large project, not just a book. [2:39] - Our girls had prom last night![5:33] - We agree that it was enjoyable to see the girls collaborate for prom.[8:19] - I just finished reading Fostered by Tori Hope Petersen.[11:20] - I recently got a body pillow and totally understand why people love them![14:40] - Today's episode is sponsored by CodeSpark Academy. [16:44] - I dive into how I found time to write a book.[19:38] - How a book about time management came to be.[21:50] - One of my biggest time management secrets is streaming and simplifying.[23:54] - I was my own case study about time management while writing this book.[25:52] - Google Calendar is very helpful for me![27:34] - Reading my book out loud is helpful for me.[29:27] - I describe the challenge of writing a book while pregnant. [30:57] - Jesse touches upon why it was easier for me to make changes to this book.[33:26] - I can't write well for longer than 45 minutes.[35:45] - Jesse offers insight into why my time block method is better than a word count method.[38:19] - I am so excited to share this book! Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books Love-Centered Parenting by Crystal PaineFostered by Tori Hope PetersenAtomic Habits by James Clear Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Sponsor Codespark Academy (Use the code MSM30 at checkout for a free 30-day trial!)

We have a big topic to tackle today and we are devoted to the whole episode about your burning questions on raising teenagers. One of the big things about this topic is that we want to respect our children's privacy. We aren't thinking about how this may affect them today, we are considering the rimifacions of how it will affect them years down the road. Jesse and I know that we can't be perfect and that mistakes will be made, from past experiences and in the future. Trust and truth are the basic foundation we have built with our kids and it is something that we keep on building in our relationship with them. Everything we try to do now is to help make sure they know how to be independent adults.  This talk is filled with our experience and how we raise our children. Some of the answers and situations may not fit your style and that is okay. We can all be different but still listen and take away what works best for your family. We would love to hear from you, how you handle some of this scenario, or if you have a question we didn't get to answer. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [00:55] - I was inspired by this topic from a follower on Instagram. [03:15] - In this episode Jesse and I are going to tackle the questions we received from my instagram poll. [04:01] - How do you decide when to push your kids versus letting them fail? [05:24] - letting our kids fail in small ways in a safe space, to prevent larger failures in the future. [07:22] - As much as possible, we try to say yes and we try to keep our no's to a minimum. [10:48] - There is a fine line between helping and enabling. You don't stand in the way of lessons that need to be learned. [11:57] - At what age did they get a first job for real money, and how to help them do that? [14:23] - Encourage them as soon as they are able too, just a gentle nudging. [17:04] - They have just a lot of little, personal responsibilities. [17:45] - Today's sponsor is CodeSpark Academy [19:49] - There were a lot of questions about technology and social media, see show notes for previous podcast episodes. [20:47] - How do you talk to your kids about the birds and the bees? [23:40] - We talk about being honest. [25:00] - Prepping them for the possibility that it is going to happen and giving them the tools on how to respond in an uncomfortable/awkward situation. [25:46] - how to deal with teens who don't want to share with their dad? And I think it could also be with their mom. [26:45] - One of the best things that we did years ago was asking our kids flat out, “what do we do that makes you feel loved? And what do we do that makes you feel unloved?”. [28:22] - Parents, pay attention to how much time we are correcting and how much time we are connecting. [31:10] - Just be in their world and just let them see that you care about them. [34:10]- Being truthful with them about our struggles, and asking for their forgiveness. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books Love Center Parenting by Crystal Paine Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   An Interview with Kathrynne Our Rules for Kids and Phones, episode 95 Sponsor Codespark Academy 

“Home is for learning and not for perfection and while we're learning we are loved” are some powerful words that Nicole Homan shares with us. I am very honored to have Nicole on today's show. She is the author of They Call Me Mama where she shares her story of raising 14 kids. We walk through her experiences of adopting her children, sitting within the mess and learning how to give yourself grace. That it's okay to not give up or give in and to embrace the pain because it is all worth it.  Join me as I talk with Nicole Homan and look over the journey that God has led her on. How she said yes to one moment and suddenly had ten children. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [02:01] - I ask Nicole to introduce herself. [03:39] - When you first got married, were you planning on having kids right away? [05:50] - Nicole finds out she was pregnant right before their first adoption. [09:00] - What advice, what encouragement would you have for someone who, they want to step out but fear is holding them back? [11:11] - Were there moments when you were thinking, “what did we say yes too”? [13:13] - I share what I heard from a mom who is overwhelmed by the mess and the noise, what do you do in those moments? [15:08] - You must be doing something to cultivate that stillness in your heart, I don't think that just happens. [16:48] - How do you actually get your kids to allow you to have this quiet time? [19:23] - Nicole shares the story of how they went from 10 children to 14. [22:49] - Did you know, “okay 14 is the number, we're done”? [23:10] - We talk a little bit more about the failed adoption. [25:05] - What have been some of your biggest lessons? What would you say to the women before you had any kids? What do you wish you would have known? Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Nicole Homan, Planted Books They Call Me Mama by Nicole Homan Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com  

I found Nicole Zasowski through her book, What If It's Wonderful? Release Your Fears, Choose Joy, and Find Courage to Celebrate and it hit me in some really deep places. Nicole and I talk about some of those hard conversations and seasons we sometimes find ourselves in on today's podcast.  I never would have thought that a book about celebration would also have me working on and uncovering some things that I need to process through in my life. It has helped me and I know it can help you too. This is a great place to start, on discovering who you are and where you can grow as a person. I am super thrilled to have this conversation with Nicole and I hope you all are too. We would love to hear your thoughts on today's topic. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [01:28] - I'm just getting to know Nicole Zasowski and I ask her to introduce herself to our audience. [02:03] - I ask Nicole what inspired her to write this book. [04:24] - How did you go about recognizing that you were not allowing yourself to experience joy. [06:00] - I ask Nicole to speak to the woman who is going through a miscarriage and without hope. [08:48] - How did you handle the, “everyone else is getting what I want” season? [11:34] - I read a passage from Nicole's book. [12:13] - What does it look like, practically, to delight in the present moment? [16:10] - There is a statement from the book that I would like to unpack with you. [19:18] - How do you know if a feeling is true or not? [20:31] - I read another passage from What If It's Wonderful. [21:29] - How do you live in that moment and see the beauty, when it just feels like you're in the fog and it's dark? [24:49] - I would love for you to share what has changed in your life, since this perspective shift. [28:28] - I have Nicole close us out by encouraging the woman, who needs to enjoy the here and now. [30:48] - I encourage those to read this book, What If It's Wonderful? Release Your Fears, Choose Joy, and Find Courage to Celebrate by Nicole Zasowski Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Nicole Zasowski Books What If It's Wonderful? Release Your Fears, Choose Joy, and Find Courage to Celebrate by Nicole Zasowski From Lost to Found: Giving Up What You Think You Want for What Will Set You Free by Nicole Zasowski Programs Libby/Overdrive, free public library app Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Nicole Zasowski on Instagram Nicole Zasowski on Facebook

Today's topic was recommended by a listener and I am excited to have this discussion. We go over a few things that we wish we knew from our oldest child to how we parent with our youngest child. We learn, adapt and not everything is the same with each kid.  We dive into perspective and it is very important going into parenting. How our level of confidence was misleading and that the relationship that we built is what is going to bind us together with our children. We have learned that parenting with the end in mind, instead of the here and now and stressing over getting it perfect. I give an update on what is saving my life, and it just happens to be a special moment with one of the kiddos. I also give an update on the book  I am currently listening to. Jesse and I discuss how different it must be to live in certain situations and how to function during stressful times. Let us know what you wish you had known before having kids and send us an email and we love hearing your thoughts. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [01:10] - I share what has been saving my life for the last few weeks. [03:48] - I am also listening to a really fantasnating book right now. [05:47] - It is a quiet unfolding of the story that is really important. [08:53] - Jesse reads the temporary rules in 1941 for the Richmond Golf Club in London England. [11:12] - Sometimes the best thing is, instead of living in fear, put your head down and do the next best thing. [11:55] - What we wish we knew, before having kids; this was a request that came in from someone and she asked if we would talk about it. [13:00] - The biggest thing for me, I wish that I knew ahead of time that I couldn't control them. [14:58] - As parents we would take the responsibility of those bad decisions, when that is not our responsibility to bear as well. [16:04] - I think there's a fine line balance between recognizing our responsibility but also God's sovereignty. [16:30] - Loving them is more important than lecturing them. [18:06] - The relationship is so much more important than the end result. [20:55] - I wish I had known how much fun they would be and to just enjoy them. [22:18] - Choose your perspective and choose your mindset. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books The Last Bookshop in London by Madeline Martin Programs Libby/Overdrive, free public library app Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com

I asked instagram if they had any suggestions for podcast topics and by popular demand, this subject kept coming up. So here we are today to talk about how to make time for romance when you have kids. Jesse and I both share what we feel works best for us, how knowing our love languages helps in certain situations. But we are also willing to meet each other in a certain space when one of us needs it. This could be helping with kids or giving me the 5 minutes I need. It's about being creative, working with what you have, but also being open to communication, with ourselves and with each other. Jesse and I are on the same page this week with what has been saving our lives, it involves exercise. And we have updates on what we are currently reading. I share an experience I had and the outcome by using the tools I learned from a previous book we discussed on the podcast. We love hearing from you guys, if you have any suggestions send us an email and look forward to hearing your thoughts. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [02:00] - Jesse tells us what is saving his life and explains some of the exercises. [05:50] - The mystery is solved as to why the treadmill has been moved in some odd way. [06:50] - The weather has been really nice and I have been itching to be outside. [07:55] - I share an update on what I am reading. [09:35] - I received an upset message on instagram from a follower and I shared my honest response. [11:30] - I think so often that people just want to be heard. [12:20] - Jesse has an update on a book that he has been listening to. [14:47] - Jesse and I have different viewpoints on conspiracy theories.  [15:39] - Making time for romance when you have kids. [16:25] - The number one key to making time for romance is prioritizing it. [17:04] - One of the greatest gifts I can give my kids is a strong marriage. [18:45] - You do have to be intentional, you can't just let something happen. [21:22] - Getting creative with what you have. [24:15] - The glue that holds our marriage together is laughter. [26:22] - We love to exercise PDA in front of our kids. [27:20] - We talk a lot. Or maybe Jesse listens and I talk! [30:25] - Learning to communicate about communication has been helpful. [32:27] - Having things that we do, with just the two of us. Links & Resources Crystal Paine Books Come Sit With Me: How to Delight in Differences, Love Through Disagreements, and Live with Discomfort  edited by Becky Keife Unoffendable by Brant Hansen The First Conspiracy by Brad Meltzer Programs Libby/Overdrive, free public library app Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   A Love Languages Quiz   Special Mentions Knees Over Toes

It has been a year that we have had Baby D in our home and we have just been reflecting a lot on how we started out to where we are now. To be able to see the faithfulness and the goodness of God; and what we have learned from this experience. We live with joy and enjoy the moment but to also slow down and stay within the moment and small milestones.  This is a gift and has changed us in so many profound ways. It has not only changed our perspectives and our kids perspective, it's totally changed our kids friends perspective too. We have learned so much from this experience. Jesse and I also share how he saved my life and what has been saving. We have a little update on what has been happening in our kids' lives at school. I also update you on what audiobook I am currently listening to from the library. We hope you enjoy this topic and as always, look forward to hearing your thoughts. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [01:40] - We just want to talk about some of the things we have learned, lessons, and things that have changed our perspective. [03:04] - Jesse sort of saved my life this week. [06:50] - It was an interesting week at our kids school, they have “week without walls” once a year. [08:18] - I do have something that's saving my life. [11:12] - Get dressed, it makes such a difference. [12:31] - I have been listening to the new book by Katherine Reay. [13:51] - Sponsor Ad: Twigby [15:45] - The one year anniversary of saying yes to Baby D. [18:16] - It was just this realization that he had a lot of urgent medical needs and things that we needed to figure out right away. And I don't even know where to start and I don't even know who to call. [20:45] - We know that there are delays, but how much of a delay is there? [21:08] - This is the weight of responsibility that we don't take this lightly but it felt so overwhelming. [22:04] - It's made me have so much more compassion and empathy for families who have a child or caring for an adult with special needs. [25:22] - Just show value because I think that's the thing, when it's awkward we avoid. [26:39] - When you haven't gotten to know someone and spent time with someone who is different, has a disability, who has down syndrome - you don't understand. [29:10] - Give your kids opportunities to interact with people who are different than them. [32:13] - In those first few weeks, there were a lot of times that we wrestled with, should we have said yes. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books The London House by Katherine Reay Dear Mr.Knightley by Katherine Reay Programs Libby/Overdrive, free public library app Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Special Mentions Get Upside Sponsored Ad Twigby

I had some feedback and questions from 5 Things I do Every Morning that we published earlier this year and so I wanted to go answer and share exactly what our morning routine looks like in our current season. It really helps that Jesse and I both work together to make sure we have the time that we need to get our days started. But our best advice is to tailor your needs to your season and to just be creative about it. You may not be able to do everything in the first hour and that's okay. Take the time to figure out, reach out to people in your community and set the path that works for you. Also on today's episode, I share a book update on a book I recently finished that I had mentioned in another podcast episode. Jesse and I both share what has been saving our lives recently. We hope you enjoy this topic and as always, look forward to hearing your thoughts. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [01:25] - Jesse and I got to have a date. [02:54] - Today we are talking about mornings and some follow up questions from a previous podcast episode. [03:33] - I just finished a book that kind of goes along with today's topic. [06:09] - I don't need the motivation to get more done, I need the reminders to slow down. [07:02] - Jesse finished a very big accomplishment that saved my life. [09:44] - It just reminds you of how much we have to be grateful for. [10:38] - I share what has been saving my life. [12:27] - Little things sometimes, that can make a big difference. [13:50] - Sponsor Ad: Twigby [15:45] - Let's talk about what our mornings look like. [16:50] - We have had many different renditions, and just get creative every season. [18:18] - Jesse suggests habit stacking to help set up your routine. [21:46] - But what does it actually look like? [23:42] - It helps that we do this divide and conquer thing. [24:38] - Your nights can set your days up for so much success. A successful day begins the night  before. [25:20] - Jesse shares explains why I consider sleeping in until about 6:45 in the morning. [28:20] - This is an easy season for us, but you have to make it work for whatever season you are in. [29:00] - Words of encouragement and closing remarks. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books Win The Day by Mark Batterson Beneath the Scarlet Sky by Mark Sullivan Programs Libby/Overdrive, free public library app Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com 5 Things I Do Every Morning Special Mentions Pre-Spoon: NumNum or Nuk Sponsored Ad Twigby

Don't let comparison bring you down. Remember your success will be different from someone else and the way to measure success comes from faithfulness. I am sharing my recent experience of going down this rabbit hole, the truths that I had to face, and what I learned from this and how I processed it. Jesse and I also give you an update on our books.. I am currently reading The Woman They Could Not Silence by Kate Moore and I am struggling with the outcome of what is taking place in the book but then I have to remember that this story took place in a different time and era then we are currently living. We also share what's been saving our lives and we have a special little cameo. We hope you enjoy this topic and as always, look forward to hearing your thoughts. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [01:15] - I share my book update and book goal. [03:17] - It reminds me how many freedoms we have as women, that we just completely take for granted. [06:03] - I ask Jesse if he has a book update. [06:44] - What's saving my life is a Spotify playlist I shared on Instagram. [09:30] - Switching to Spotify & listening to podcasts has freed up a ton of Jesse's phone space. [10:17] - Jesse shares which meal plan is saving his life. [14:18] - Sponsored Ad from Twigby [16:13] - So let's talk about my experience with comparison. [17:58] - I should have been excited and celebrating them, instead I went to a negative space. [20:43] - It was just such a reminder to me that no matter what we're doing, or not doing, it's easy to look around and compare our lives to others. [22:30] - What is seemingly a small thing. Done in love, and faithfulness, and in consistency; that could be so much more. [24:25] - As always, I want to encourage you in whatever season you are in. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books The Woman They Could Not Silence: One Woman, Her Incredible Fight For Freedom, and the Men Who Tried to Make Her Disappear by Kate Moore The Radium Girls: The Dark Story of America's Shining Women by Kate Moore Total Power by Vince Flynn Programs Libby/Overdrive, free public library app Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Special Mentions Truths to Remember, Spotify Playlist Eat to Evolve, meal plans Sponsored Ad Twigby

We get to choose how we respond. I recently shared a video on completing a task in just 15 minutes and the responses I got about rinsing my dishes before putting them in the dishwasher, was a little shocking. I opened up the digaloe but was surprised by how many people were offended by my actions.   I am currently reading Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better by Brant Hansen. I am not finished but I knew that I had so much to say about this book that instead of a reading update, we are focusing on this topic: how we respond, if we should respond at all, and why we might get some of our emotions mixed up We also update you on what's happening with our kids: we had our smoothest science fair,besides the outfit andI am starting some preschool prep and crafts. We also share what's saving our lives and it might surprise you. Or it might not if you have kids too. We hope you enjoy this topic and as always, look forward to hearing your thoughts. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [01:03] - Our first podcast episode we have recorded in our pjs. [05:58] - The first time in two years, we have been sleeping through the night [08:07] - I share my crazy dream from a few nights ago. [10:11] - Another thing that has been saving my life. [11:31] - Yesterday we made Oobleck, if you haven't done that with your kids it is so much fun. [12:28] - We have been getting a lot of kind feedback from our audience. [12:54] - I read a couple of notes from our audience. [15:50] - There are no perfect families, no perfect parents, and no perfect children. [16:29] - Sponsored Ad: Twigby [18:23] - I did not introduce what our main theme is today. [18:46] - Today's topic is inspired by Brant Hansen's book. [20:47] - Years and years of being on the internet, it's like you cannot say anything without offending someone.  [22:41] - I feel like there is some much that we can learn from people on the internet. But it's so easy for a little thing to turn into a really big thing. [24:23] - I read a quote from Brant Hansen. [25:43] - When I receive a message, and how I process their words. I get to choose how I respond. [26:27] - This book has challenged me and I read from the back of the book. [27:58] - It's okay to acknowledge anger, but it's what we do with it. [28:08] - “How do I respond” and I think we would all do well, I know for me, before we react: stop … take a breath, and really ask God to help us love others well. [31:31] - Jesse shares a concept about backing away from an issue when you have an immediate emotional response. [34:09] - There is so much I could say on this but I would just encourage everyone to go get a copy of this book. [34:43] - I want to close by reading a passage from page 77. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better by Brant Hansen Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   4 Weeks of Frugal Family Fun: Homemade Oobleck (Day 14) Special Mentions My Father's World, homeschool curriculum. Sponsored Ad Twigby  

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There are many sides to foster care that people don't see or understand. Today with Jamie Finn we talk about the good and bad sides of foster care. We talk about viewing foster care from a gospel centered perspective. If your heart is calling out to be involved and help with your community, Jamie provides ways for you to be able to support. She also shares that if you don't feel like foster care is the right place for you, there are other ways of helping out through your church and community. Either route you want to explore, one of the best ways to determine if it is for you and your  family is intentional proximity. Start with your church, look at organizations in your community. A little support can go a long way. Jamie explains that you have to get out of the savior mindset and understand that these kids do have families and with their current situation they just need some help. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. I am honored to have Jamie Finn in the studio today. [02:37] - Before we get started, I'd love for you to just take a minute to introduce yourself to my audience. [04:13] - I really appreciate that you don't sugar coat things. You share the beautiful and the brutal. [05:35] - Do you feel like you have had a shift in your viewpoint of what foster care is? [07:54] - I hear from many people, “well we're interested in foster care but we're afraid of how it will affect our family.” Have you ever had those feelings? [09:39] - How do you respond when someone's like, “I can never do this but that's amazing what you're doing”? [12:08] - How do you even know when to take that first step? [14:28] - What can we practically do? Where do we start? [16:07] - Jamie found opportunities in her community to support. [19:47] - Could you talk about just some of the really hard things that you have walked through? [22:56] - If you could go back 8+ years as a brand new foster parent and talk to that woman, what would you say to her? [25:41] - What is foster care from a gospel center perspective? [26:41] - I share what I love and recommend Jamie Finn's new book, Foster the Family. [28:56] - What do you say to that person who feels like, “is God still good, even when this feels so hard”? Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books Foster the Family by Jamie Finn Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Foster the Family Blog Foster the Family on Instagram Foster the Family on Facebook

As a parent, as a mom, you set the tone in your home. So today we are going to talk about ways to eliminate the stress for when you are dealing with a frustrated kid. Here are three questions you can ask your child, for in the moment: What's wrong? How can I help? What can be done about it right now? Also on today's episode I share my latest travel story, Jesse and I also give you a reading update. I read a letter from one of our listeners, and I touched a little bit from my book, Love-Centered Parenting, about my flare prayer technique.  Besides these three questions, please remember to take the time to take a breath. Try listening, pointing them to Jesus, letting them know that we are with them, and helping them to come up with some creative solutions. And sometimes that will involve just asking them more questions. If you have any techniques, please feel free to share. We love hearing from our listeners. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [01:15] - What to do when your child is frustrated. [02:00] - I have a travel horror story to share today. [04:02] - While I was stuck in Charlotte for four hours, my phone was starting to run out of battery. [07:46] - Word to the wise: if there is wet carpet in the airport don't assume that it's water spilled. [08:41] - I do have a book update.  [09:57] - We share a letter from a listener about Jesse's advice on reading. [12:05] - Are you making progress over who you were yesterday? [12:35] - Jesse shares his book update. [13:49] - Okay, how to help a child who is frustrated. [16:02] - I also have been very guilty of getting frustrated at a child for being frustrated. [17:52] - Instead, stepping back and asking for God's help [19:13] - First question is to simply ask, “what is wrong?”. [21:23] - And then asking, “how can I help you?”. [22:39] - Finally, just saying, “what can you do about it?”. [23:53] - Instead of you suggesting things, ask questions and kind of lead them to some solutions, so that they are learning. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books The Masterpiece by Francine Rivers Love-Centered Parenting by Crystal Paine Programs Libby/Overdrive, free public library app Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com

Ever wonder how I set up my day and what helps me succeed. Today I am sharing my morning routine that will hopefully help to set your morning up for success every day. I thought about what I do every morning without fail and now I am sharing these 5 things I do each morning, 365 days a year. It is the best plan to start your day well and to maintain positive habits. Jesse and I also talk about what is saving our lives, giving you an update on our reading and sharing an email from one of our listeners. Please join us as I go talk about the 5 strategies to set your morning up for success In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. Today's topic is about mornings. [01:26] - Let's talk about what is saving our life: hot water. [03:20] - There's nothing like ice cold water.  [05:25] - I share something that has been really helpful for me, especially with pregnancy. [07:58] - Jesse has been reading 20 minutes everyday. [09:54] - I date myself as we reminisce when I listened to cassette tapes books when I mowed the lawn. [11:08] - I share the book that I finished reading. [14:24] - I read an email from one of our listeners, Tiffany. [17:07] - So let's talk about mornings, here are the five things I do  [17:23] - First, I create a simple plan. [19:50] - Number two, write down your blessings. [21:48] - Number three, get your heart pumping. [25:05] - Number four, pray over your day. [27:00] - Jesse talks about how little things can be big wins and shares one of his accomplishments. [28:24] - Dress for the day you want to have. [30:45] - Recap of my morning routine and we would love to hear what your routine is if you have one. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books They Call me Mama by Nicole M. Homan Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Special Mentions The Amazing Race

It's so easy to over-complicate life. To completely miss simple solutions because they are, well, just too easy! Now, hear me out: I'm not saying you should be lazy or lax. What I am saying is that there's no point in wasting a lot of time and energy on making life more complicated or difficult than it needs to be. The more we pare down to what matters most, the more time we have to intentionally invest in what's important. Two questions I ask regularly as I come up against a problem or just go throughout normal life are: 1. How can I make this easier? 2. What can I do to simplify this? I firmly believe that simplicity is a superpower. And while I have always focused on keeping things simple, the last three years of two pregnancies and fostering two other babies has caused me to simplify even more! In this episode, I share 8 ways I simplify my life. Jesse and I also talk about a favorite TV show, a documentary we're watching, what we're reading, and what's saving our lives. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [01:45] - It has been an eventful week, with a pretty significant amount of snow. [02:45] - One of our favorite shows on TV has returned. [03:43] - We talk about a documentary that Jesse and I are watching. [06:54] - What has been saving my life for some time now. [08:00] - Jesse jokes about what is saving his life. [09:21] - I finished an audible book that was recommended by a listener. [13:15] - Let's talk about simplifying our lives instead of over-complicating them. Here are 8 ways I do this... [13:24] - I wear the same outfit over and over again. [14:09] - My make-up and hair routine. [16:00] - We keep meals really simple. [16:42] - We don't have many toys. [17:55] - We have the older kids be in charge of many aspects of their lives. [20:33] - We have a donation bin. [21:18] - I avoid work related meetings and phone calls. [22:37] - Systems for organizing emails and piles of paper. [23:40] - Some of these may not work for you but I want to challenge you: how can you simplify? Links & Resources Books The Way It Should Be by Christina Suzann Nelson Special Mentions The Amazing Race Meddling documentary Four Little Sparrows Links for Simplifying Your Life My System for Staying on Top of Emails Less Paper Clutter, More Filing How to Eliminate 99% of the Paper Piles in Your Home My Simple System to Eliminate 99% of the Paper Piles Other Links Love-Centered Parenting 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I'd love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I'm pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com

It seems like we have a new tradition, starting off the new year with colds. We go over our crazy holiday travel schedule and how we, from Tennessee, view cold weather differently than other states. The crazy weather that took place near us and the kids snow day. Plus the great things that are saving our lives, and I update you about my reading and my trying something new for my 2022 reading goals Jesse and I go over intentional proximity. I give details on what it means to me and what it is all about. It was all about showing up and being faithful. It was about showing up and being there, in person. I share some examples on how it works, even though sometimes it was awkward and I thought to myself, “this is crazy”. We want to encourage everyone to take actual steps to be a part of your community and remember that people just need to feel connected and it comes with such fulfillment to keep showing up. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. Starting the year off with colds. [02:09] - Finally finding our groove while traveling to Kansas. [06:00] - How cold is cold weather to us? [08:36] - Jesse shares what is saving his life. [10:10]  - The lotion that is saving my life. [13:11] - My book update and my new monthly reading goals. [14:35] - The last book I finished in 2021.  [15:55] - We share a running inside joke about our marriage. [17:05] - I explain and give details about Intentional Proximity and how I wanted to apply it. [20:00] - It is all about actually showing up, following through, and here is how I can actually help. [22:15] - There were some awkward situations but God put this in my heart and it worked out. [25:35] - It was a great reminder that it wasn't about me but what Jesus was showing me, how I can help someone else. [28:11] - We want to encourage you to be more a part of your community and pursue intentional proximity to always show up. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Book Pray Confidently and Consistently: Finally Let Go of the Things Holding You Back from Your Most Important Conversation by Valerie Woerner GoalsMy Goals for 2022 My Reading Goals for January Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com Special MentionsFood Saver Magnesium Lotion Shop

We've been keeping a secret for 11 weeks — I'm 15 weeks pregnant!!!! Yes, this news was possibly even more shocking than when we found out I was pregnant with Kierstyn after 10 years of infertility! In fact, we were so surprised, we waited a full week to tell our kids — which, if you know Jesse and me well, you know we can't keep secrets from our kids! We found out I was pregnant right after saying yes to adopting Baby D... who we thought was going to our family's caboose! But God definitely had different plans and we just had laugh at the timing of it all! We also have to marvel at how we went from grieving the loss of being told that we'd never be able to have more kids a few years ago (not even through IVF) to now prepping for having 3 littles with the oldest being barely 2 years old! Oh and at 40 and 41 years old! Only God! We are all thrilled and excited with this very unexpected news and how God is writing a story here that is so different than what we could have ever dreamed or imagined! I'm slowly coming back to life after 9 weeks or so of the usual morning-noon-and-night sickness and extreme exhaustion. If you've noticed I've not been sharing as much here and not sharing food/cooking/recipes or videos with my face much on Instagram stories, now you know why! For all the details on how we found out, how we told our kids, and more, be sure to listen to today's podcast episode. Want more details on my pregnancy? I'm sharing more and answering your questions over on Instagram today. Note: I know that this news will be really hard for some of you to hear. You'd give anything to be pregnant and hearing another pregnancy announcement feels like a gut-punch. I want you to know you've been heavy on my heart and I've been praying specifically for you. I also want you to know that you have my full permission to unfollow or mute my social media accounts for awhile — whatever you need to do, please do it and know I will fully support you in that. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. [01:28] - Our infertility journey. [05:06] - The surprise of saying yes to adopting Baby D. [06:54] - After saying yes to Baby D, we felt done and complete. [09:27] - My reaction to the pregnancy test results. [12:00] - Jesse explains how we shared the news with the kids. [15:50] - We didn't really tell any of our other close friends or our family for a while. Here's why... [20:40] - My heart has been heavy for those experiencing infertility and loss.

Wow, it's the end of the year already. This was a big year for us and so we decided to reflect back on 2021. This is our last podcast of 2021, we are going to be taking two weeks off. Be sure and check back in with us in January, you are not going to want to miss it. We have some great news to share with all of you. We catch you up on what's been saving our lives and what we have been reading. I finally finished a book I was actually reading. We talk about decisions and goals from this last year. We look back on how a confident yes can have great impacts in our lives but also listening to His voice and understanding that He has called us to this. We know that it won't always be easy but that He will give us what we need. In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [02:13] - Just thinking of putting things into perspective and just what really matters, is kind of a good foundation of what we're going to be talking about today. [02:35] - Today we are going to be talking about what we learned in 2021.  [03:05] - Let's talk about what's saving our life. [06:00] - Nuts and vegetables, how can you go wrong? [06:42] - Books this week! Jesse does not have a book update, but I do. [09:16] - So let's talk about what we learned in 2021. [12:04] - It's okay to have seasons where you're not really goal driven and goal orientated.  [14:19] - Part of me is wondering if for 2022, a smarter thing might be more like quarterly goals. [14:55] - 2020 kind of taught us all that, what we think life is going to look like can be completely upended. [15:32] - Jesse shares his two takeaways from 2021. [17:54] - Big part of our story this year was saying yes to Baby D. [22:16] - I think it was just such a faith building experience for both of us. [24:29] - Not only has Baby D's face and conditions been repaired but our hearts have been repaired as well. [26:04] - Thank you so much for joining us this year! Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books The Mystery of Providence by John Flavel Don't Miss Out: Daring to Believe Life is Better with the Holy Spirit by Jeannie Cunnion   Definitions Cleft Palate, Kids Health Down Syndrome, National Down Syndrome society G-tube (gastrostomy tube), Kids Health   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Special Mentions Storm Shield, weather app Skinny Dipped Cashews

Welcome back! We unplugged for a few weeks; visiting family and friends in Kansas for Thanksgiving but we are excited for today's episode. We share details about our Thanksgiving and the magic pull of the hotel breakfast has on our daughter. It was a great time to travel and be with family, it was good food and good weather for Kansas at the end of November.  We also have exciting news about Baby D and how amazing he is responding to all the glorious changes that have been happening in his life. We can't express how happy we are with his progress. Jesse and I also update you on our reading, what is saving our lives, the difference between self care vs self comfort and a visit from a squirrel. One of our family traditions is our December bucket list, where at the end of November we ask the kids what activities they want to do. It is never what you think they want and it changes every year. But we do this so that we are creating fun memories as a family and being intentional, without adding additional holiday stress. We share this with you, with the hope that you try it out or make your own traditions. We would love to hear from you if you have done the bucket list, what is on it, or something similar.  In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show.  [03:24] - We also have a big Baby D update. And that is he got completely cleared at his post-op appointment. [08:00] - I forgot to tell y'all what we're going to talk about today, and that was our Christmas Bucket List. [08:13] - Jesse I believe that you might have a book update for us, do you? [09:53] - Well I finished a book and it actually wasn't an audio book, whad'ya know. It was a pre-released copy. [11:51] - What would be selfcare for men? [12:25] - Jesse shares his definition of self care. [14:39] - I was almost thinking, like maybe there's self care, self comfort, and almost like self coping. [15:38] - Okay so let's talk about what is saving our life. Jesse, you got a new gadget recently. [19:39] - And what's saving my life this week is kind of silly but I handed off the advent calendar duties to Silas. [21:49] - Okay, so our Christmas Bucket List [23:28] - We started asking the kids at the end of the november, what are 1 to 2 activities you'd really like to do in December.  [26:09] - It changes every year and so here's what's on our list. [29:32] - If you have tried the December bucket list idea, we'd love to hear from you. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Books Pike Logan Series by Brad Taylor Mom Than a Mom: How Prioritizing Your Wellness Helps You (and Your Family) Thrive by Kari Kampakis Programs/Events Libby/Overdrive Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Special Mentions Garmin Instinct Watch Die Hard Advent Calendar Read-Aloud Revival  Stocking Stuffer Ideas from Dollar Tree All Day Christmas Family Celebration 2020

In last week's episode we kind of alluded to today's topic a little bit when we were talking about marriage, and learning to communicate better. How sometimes you have pre-decided a lie about yourself and that is how you will view it, this negative narrative. So today we want to talk about replacing the lies with truth and how “only Jesus gets to tell you who you are”. This quote came from a book I was reading by Charles Martin. We break down that by believing lies, it can impact your whole life with negative consequences and learning to know that you don't have to live that narrative. When you are a child of God, you are enough. Not based on your self worth but based on your faith. You must define what is enough for you and know that you are enough when you accept Jesus Christ.  But before we get into the topic of today, we give you an update on Baby D. We share what happens and that out of all the outcomes we thought we would receive from his survey the one we didn't think to count on was Baby D's hearing. Jesse and I also share with you what has been saving our lives this week. And what a great idea they are and that maybe you might pay it forward with this same option to help others who may need a helping hand. I also talk about the book I just finished by Charles Martin. It was book two in a series and I discuss how the topic of the story is really difficult but Martin has a way of giving it the dues and respect it deserves.  We leave you with words of encouragement to know that you can gain confidence when you step out to what God is calling you towards and his faithfulness.    In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. We have lots to share with you today. [01:23] - Today we want to talk about replacing the lies with truth and how only Jesus gets to tell you who you are. [01:29] - But before we get into that. Jesse, it was a big week for Baby D. [03:57] - ABR stands for Auditory Brainstem Response. Okay, so I've seen them do this before. Because when Champ was in the nicu they actually came in and did this to him. [06:43] - Okay. But we had kind of prepared ourselves that he was going to have severe hearing loss for all his life. [09:04] - For the first time in his life, he is able to hear things. Which I, I think is the case and just recognizing he didn't know our voices, he doesn't know his name. [11:28] - I mentioned that I'd just finished reading a book by Charles Martin. I should say listening to a book by Charles Martin. It was on Hoopla and it was called The Letter Keeper. It was part 2 in a series. [12:56] - What's saving my life this week is Aldi's grocery delivery. [14:20] - Jesse, you bought something recently that has been saving our life. [17:00] - I thought it was a brilliant idea because it also encourages them to bring their phones down there and charge their phones there at night. And so, I think like you can make it like a family charging station if you want to have, where, no phones in the room at night. [17:39] - Alright so let's talk about this, lies versus truth and how this can impact your life. [18:44] - Jesse, are there lies that you have believed, that you have seen how it's just had such a negative impact on your life. [21:06] - But in Christ, we can do all things. And so we're enough for what God has called us too. [23:41] - You know I think it's important to learn from, if there's criticism, constructive criticism. All that we want to learn from that but if we let that be who we are. If we let that be where our worth and value is, it's never going to be enough. [25:42] - We can let the words of other people or what we tell ourselves in our head, like you talked about Jesse, that be the narrative that we basically live under. And it becomes our label that we lead with and live out of. [27:59] - I don't know what you have believed for so long, that you're like “that's not a lie that's actually true”. Hold it up to the word of God, what does Jesus say about you?  Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine   Books The Letter Keeper (A Murphy Shepherd Novel Book 2) by Charles Martin   Definitions ABR test, American Speech-Language-Hearing Association (ASHA)   Programs/Events Hoopla Aldi Groceries Charging Base, Amazon   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Special Mentions Charles Martin

Are you fighting in your relationship? Or even arguing all the time? In today's episode Jesse and I share some of the tips and tricks we have developed over our 19 years of marriage. These  pointers have allowed us to bring our fights and arguments to a minimum. There are always going to be struggles in a relationship and you are going to have to learn how both of you see and process the world differently. We acknowledge and understand that we are not always going to see everything eye to eye but it's how we approach the situation that can turn the tide. It's about not putting your significant other on the defensive but explaining your perspective of the current circumstances. Jesse and I can laugh about how different we are and appreciate those differences and what both of our differences can bring to the relationship. We have learned to prioritize time for us. We understand that each season is always going to be different and maybe even a little bit difficult for our family as a whole but we know that we have to actually make the effort to carve out time just for us. It is very critical to make sure you maintain your relationship with just the two of you, and to not forget what drew you together in the first place. We also have some updates on the family, what we are reading and what's been saving our lives recently. Baby D has a surgery scheduled soon and we talk about our hopes and prayers of the outcome.Jesse shares what is saving his life this week, a new program that will help him focus and set goals. I also share something that has changed my life, teeth whitening strips. Jesse and I also talk about our current reading status and how I feel so much better being in the mindset to actually be finishing a book.   In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show. Jesse, today's topic is one that we haven't tackled before on the podcast. Which is actually surprising because I feel like it's something that we have a lot of experience with. [02:45] - But before we get to that we're going to start the show like we always do with giving you a little personal family update. This is a big week for us. [05:28] - We are really hopeful that the survey is going to go well. [07:48] - From many mothers who have children with down syndrome, I have heard it's actually a very common thing with down syndrome. Down syndrome and anesthesia just do not play well. [09:06] - Jesse, what's saving your life this week? [11:50] - It's great to set goals, that I think that this will push you a little bit but it's not pushing you too hard. [13:32] - There are seasons for really big audacious goals. And there are seasons for just, well those little nudge goals. So figuring out which season you are in and what's going to be best for you. [14:57] - I had just noticed that my teeth were not looking white. In fact, I had someone on the podcast and we'd taken a picture next to one another and the first thing that I noticed in the picture was, her teeth look so white and mine look so yellow. [17:21] - Do you have any books that you've been reading Jesse? [19:44] - Alright, let's talk about how we've stopped arguing, I should say, very often.  [21:50] - I think it's our change in perspective of God and His love for us. Cause I think there was some of, going into marriage, almost expecting from each other - only God can give. [23:55] - I think if you don't believe that you are fully loved by God. Then I think you're going to have a hard time believing that you are fully loved by others. [25:28] - If you've pre decided what your spouse, what your kids, what your co-workers, what your community, everyone in your life, your friends, what they think about you. Then you're going to be really hard to love. It's going to be really hard to give and receive love. [26:24] - We come from very different perspectives and we process the world very differently. [27:47] - Really it's, it's understanding how both of you operate and owning it. And understanding and working with that, with each other. [30:57] - Then we can have a conversation, where is that coming from? And it helps us both learn and grow and get better. And to communicate. [32:23] - I think another thing that's been really, really helpful for us, is just prioritizing romance and fun. [35:14] - Don't forget what drew you together in the first place.    Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine   Books Finish by John AcuffA Surrendered Yes: 52 Devotions to Let Go and Live Free by Rebekah LyonsImagination Station, Series   DefinitationsCleft Palate, Kids Health G-tube (gastrostomy tube), Kids Health   Programs/Events 75 Hard SugarWOD, fitness app   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Special Mentions Lumineux, Oral Essentials

Having open hands and an open heart is one part of A Surrendered Yes: 52 Devotions to Let Go and Live Free, the new book by Rebekah Lyons. A Surrendered Yes is also about living in the now. On today's episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Rebekah and I talk about what it was like for her to have a child diagnosed with Down syndrome, what living a surrendered life looks like, and how God doesn't call you to anything that He won't also give you the strength for. Rebekah and her family have been a huge inspiration to our family as we have stepped out in faith and said yes to adopting Baby D. Watching their family and the journey they have been on and how they have trusted the Lord and lived in surrender to His calling has been such an encouragement to us. If you are struggling to say yes and step out in faith, Rebekah's raw honesty on this episode will infuse you with courage. Don't miss it! In This Episode [00:37] - Welcome to The Crystal Paine Show today we are honored to have a repeat guest, Rebekah Lyons. [03:32] - The great joy in life is to lose your life so that you can find it again. [04:19] - I ask Rebekah what it was like to receive the diagnosis that her firstborn had Down syndrome. [09:44] - "If you could go back to your 26-year-old self when you were walking through this, knowing what you know now, what would you say to yourself?" [12:47] - Rebekah talks directly to the woman who's listening who wants to have that courage but is scared. [15:24] - If you are feeling a nudge or a whisper or something that kind of continues to surface, don't close your hands to it. [17:34] - We talk about what it was like to say yes to adopting Joy. [19:20] - Pay attention to your tears. [23:49] - We segue into talking about answering those people saying "How do you do it?" [28:28] - I ask Rebekah to close by sharing what "letting go and living free" looks like in her life right now.  [31:50] - It's not living in tomorrow, it's not living in yesterday. It's living today. Links & Resources Books Rhythms of Renewal: Trading Stress and Anxiety for a Life of Peace and Purpose by Rebekah LyonsA Surrendered Yes: 52 Devotions to Let Go and Live Free by Rebekah LyonsFreefall to Fly: A Breathtaking Journey Toward a Life of Meaning by Rebekah Lyons Special Mentions The Crystal Paine Show, Ep 50 Rebekah Lyons Rebekah Lyons on Facebook Rebekah Lyons on Instagram Rebekah Lyons on Twitter Other Links Love-Centered Parenting 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I'd love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I'm pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal @ moneysavingmom.com

Surprise! If you follow me on Instagram, or Facebook, or Money Saving Mom - you already got the inside scoop. We already announced the big news, but on the podcast, we get to tell the story behind the news. On today's episode we are sharing what is saving our lives, what books we are reading, and the story behind our big news. I always feel like we have had a few full weeks, especially when we have guests on the show. I did another Fresh Ground of Faith event. I went to Illinois with Jennifer Rothchild. Jesse kept multiple children alive but he didn't get very much sleep in the process. We may decide that we are going to hold off on doing this type of thing in the near future because it was disrupt for the kids' habits and routines. Plus Baby D has a new surgery coming up but we are going to have Jesse stay overnight with him and I will come back home. We get a lot of books in the mail, probably because of our podcast, that they want us to read and talk about it. But this book Friendship, It's Complicated: Avoid the Drama, Create Authentic Connection, and Fulfil Your Purpose Together by Andi Andrew caught my eye. I am liking the book so far and working on some areas of my life that I have been making progress in the last few years. But I have only just begun and I may not agree with everything that is still to come. While Jesse is still listening to the Pike Logan Series by Brad Taylor.. Jesse makes reference to a book that we read a long time ago about layering habits and applying reading to this lesson. If you think you don't have habits or time to read a book, maybe try listening to a book as you are doing some of your other habits/routines. We are working towards adopting Baby D.So some months back, we were preparing our hearts to say goodbye to him. And the family that was going to adopt him, was everything we could have hoped for in a family that would be perfect. But they started having doubts and we could see God's hand in this change. The transition for him and for our family was just a lot of mixed emotions.But we know this is the right decision and we will keep you posted. It may be about 6 months but this is foster care and anything can happen.    In This Episode [00:37] - Welcome to The Crystal Paine Show today we are sharing some pretty big news. [01:21] - So if you haven't guessed, Jesse you want to share our big news. [02:05] - Jesse, you had an eventful 24 hours. [04:27] - Well I have a book that I've been reading. It's called Friendship, It's Complicated: Avoid the Drama, Create Authentic Connection, and Fulfil Your Purpose Together. It's by Andi Andrew. [06:36] - She (Andi) talks about your relationship with your mom and how that can affect your relationship with other women. And it's made me think a lot of how I'm interacting with our girls.  [07:16] - I (Jesse) am continuing on listening to the audiobook series from Brad Taylor. [08:39] - Look for those little pockets of time and check out Libby and Hoopla. [10:53] - I have no segway for this. [11:01] - What's saving our life this week and that's Yum Earth Suckers. [12:59] - We want to share this story, unexpected story, of us pursuing adoption. Obviously it is foster care and things can always change.  [14:22] - I felt us falling so in love with him and yet I saw it as such an honor to get to serve as the in-between. [16:59] - Adoption wasn't on the table for us. [19:03] - Whereas down syndrome, there are some many question marks and some many unknowns. [20:10] - We had been preparing our hearts for goodbye and what the next step, the next chapter of our foster care journey was going to be. And so then, it was this mental and emotional whiplash. [22:12] - I sat down with her (Katie Reid) and I asked her because she is an adoptive mama, and I asked her a few questions but I remember that she looked at me and she said, “does he feel like your son?”.   Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine   Books Friendship, It's Complicated: Avoid the Drama, Create Authentic Connection, and Fulfil Your Purpose Together by Andi Andrew Pike Logan Series by Brad Taylor   Definitations Down Syndrome, National Down Syndrome society   Programs/Events Libby/Overdrive Hoopla Fresh Ground of Faith   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Special Mentions Jennifer Rothchild Yum Earth Suckers Katie Reid, episode 142

Are you looking for your moment? I am really honored that we have in the studio today, Max Lucado. I shared with him early on that I only have people on the show, whose work, or life, or what they share has deeply impacted my life. Max Lucado is from Texas. He is an author, father, grandfather, husband, and minister. Max tells us about how he got started in the church and Max acknowledges his struggles and what he overcame when he pivoted towards the Lord and reflecting on what he cherishes now are some of things that he overlooked when he was younger. We talk about one of the only books I have ever read by him, a children's book about Punchinello called You Are Special and besides his newest book release, You Were Made For This Moment: Courage for Today and Hope for Tomorrow. This story comes from the book of Esther from the bible and talks about experiences of overcoming challenges. Max also gives us examples of different Mordecai moments. I share with Max how Punchinello has deeply, deeply impacted my life, even for a little children's book. The concept that our Maker, what he says and what he thinks about us is what sticks. It is a very powerful message. It goes to show us how the story impacts us in a deep way. Max shares the story behind the creation of Punchinello and we dive into how something that can come from an assignment instead of inspiration and shows that God blesses those who keep their promise. We talk about showing up and how God uses that moment of showing up, even when you don't recognize it. That you never know when your moment will make a difference and if you are looking for encouragement, this is a great book to check out.   In This Episode [00:37] - Welcome to The Crystal Paine Show today we have in the studio is Max Lucado. [01:01] - I am probably one of the few people in all the world that has only read one and the one that I read was a children's book.   [04:54] - Everyone listening, how God can use those things that he is calling you to do even though it might feel like, “I got to get this done because this is an assignment” but you never know how he is going to use that for His Glory. [05:10] - I'd love for you, for the few people who maybe don't know the whole host of things you have done and who you are, just introduce yourself to us. [07:15] - You met the Lord and then you kind of immediately signed up to be a missionary, talk to us about that. [09:24] - And then when you were in Brazil, is when you started writing, how did that come to be? [12:19] - How can a good God be allowing all the things that have happened in the world in the last 18 months, talk to us about that. [15:14] - What is it about the Esther story that you see that is going to infuse people with hope? [16:13] - It reveals to us truly the, also kinda the quiet providence of God, because it's famous for being one of the two books in the bible where the name of God does not appear and yet the fingerprints of God are on every paragraph. [19:03] - The story is not really positive about them in the beginning because they don't, they have blended into the culture. They are so Persian in identity, in language, in dress, in style, and culture that he can work for the king and she can sleep with the king and they never - no one knows they are Jewish. [22:20] - What does that look like practically, for people who they're saying “I want to do something with my life, I feel like there's more than just what I am living for right now but I don't even know how to take the first step. [26:07] - But they are scared; it's hard; what encouragement would you have for someone who is feeling that way?   Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Max Lucado   Books You Are Special (Punchinello) by Max LucadoYou Were Made For This Moment: Courage for Today and Hope for Tomorrow by Max Lucado Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Max Lucado on Facebook Max Lucado on Instagram Max Lucado on Twitter   The Max Lucado Encouraging Word Podcast

Ready to catch up on what has been happening in our lives? We have so much to share with you and a lot has happened in the last few weeks. We'd had so many different guests, meaning Jesse and I have not had a chance to have a conversation so we have a lot of updates. Our biggest update is the toilet situation. Jesse and I recap what happened with our toilet and now we have a new toilet. We banter about our ages a few times. I had my first in-person speaker event after two years of being online, which had some obstacles but God was so faithful and lots of people were praying for me and it was really amazing. Did you know that potato chips help your throat when you lose your voice? Me either. I had an accidental exposure to an allergy but everything turned out well. Jesse and I talk about what we have been reading, or in my case not reading.  I don't know what you call: book-whiplash or something because I keep starting books and then not finishing them. We also talk about a few different kinds of apps to use for listening to books.  Our main topic for today is, love languages. Jesse and I picked up a Date Night in a Box to reconnect and have some quality time together. This particle box was about love languages. They provide a quiz for each person to fill out and it is really great for conversations in and about your relationship.   It can be a refresher for you and your partner and what made it really great, is that it provided practical ways to apply each love language. You always need to keep the spark going in your relationship, it is never ending and ever evolving but you must put the work into, otherwise you may lose that connection.   In This Episode [00:34] - Welcome to The Crystal Paine Show. [03:26] - We have discovered the price tag of toilets. [04:41] - I got a really special birthday gift. [05:37] - I went to Chino, California and spoke at the Fresh Ground of Faith event. [08:01] - It was my first night in over 18 months that I didn't have a baby in the room. [08:40] - I am speaking at the same type of conference, Fresh Ground of Faith with Jennifer Rothchild   [09:10] - Also, I got to do axe throwing. Which I had never done before. [10:26] - Jesse do you have any updates for us, on anything, any books you are reading or listening too? [13:30] - I do have something that is saving my life. [14:27] - Okay so we are going to talk about love languages today. [16:10] - This was a hard quiz because it wasn't multiple choice, it was two options. And you chose which one you related to more. [17:26] - ‘Cause I think it's so easy for us to assume that other people feel loved in the same way we do. [18:41] - So your (Jesse) love language, is the ones you relate to the most are physical touch and gifts. [19:18] - For me it is acts of service and words of affirmation. [21:59] - I think that for sure what has changed is your (Jesse) understanding of how to show me love. [23:18] - I think it is really really important, if you are in a relationship; a close relationship with someone that you understand their love language. [24:41] - Well and each of those areas is a way of connection and what you want to make sure is that you have a really good connection established. [25:18] - It's like lighting a match, it's just like igniting a little spark.   Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine   Books Brad Taylor, author Brad Thor, author Programs/Events Fresh Ground of Faith Libby, free public library app   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Special Mentions Jennifer Rothchild Jack Carr, podcast Scribed, reading app Dove: Midnight Fudge Cookie 5 Love Languages Quiz Date Night in a Box

Should you be napping? I resonate so deeply with today's topic and I brought my friend Katie Reid, who brings so much wisdom, experience, and encouragement to today's discussion. Katie wrote the book, Made Like Martha: Good News for the Woman Who Gets Things Done, and we just want to speak to you if you are feeling overwhelmed with life, if you struggle with worry and like me, are a problem solver and a fixer and just struggle. There is nothing wrong with being a do-er but if you are looking on how to find the balance of being and going - resting in the lord but also being productive, today's topic is for you. Katie Reid is an author, speaker, podcast host, and worship leader. Katie has been married for 20 years and has 5 kids. The girls are the bookends with the oldest being 17 and the youngest is a kindergarten and three boys in the middle. Katie is not bored Katie shares some insight on what worship and worrying look like to her. Worry was a default emotion for so long, for Katie. There are so many things to worry about, especially being moms but Katie explains that worry makes us promises and makes us feel like we are feeling productive. When really, the more we feed it the more it grows. We look at the differences between Mary and Martha and share some stories from the bible. Both Kaite and I are do-ers, we like to have plans and have things to do. We are planners,  problem solvers, and we like lists and checking things off the list. But as people with all these plans and things to do, this could be something that leads to a path of worrying. We discuss that sometimes as women, we struggle with rest. Katie tells us that we believe that if we rest everything will fall apart but we forgot that resting is a gift.   In This Episode [00:37] - Welcome to The Crystal Paine Show and for today's topic I brought my friend Katie Reid. [01:33] - Katie I am so glad that you are here and for people who might not know who you are, if you'd just take a few minutes to introduce yourself. [03:22] - Where you're driven to the point of ,that it can be an unhealthy thing and I really feel like that's probably where this book, Made Like Martha, came out of. And some people may be saying, hold up, who is Martha. So let's start there. [05:05] - Katie quotes Luke chapter 10 verse 41 and 42. [05:12] - Katie did not like this passage because she wanted the story to go differently. [07:37] - I read a quote from Made Like Martha. [07:51] - Talk to us about what it looks like to worship instead of worry, and why worship suffocates worry. [10:55] - Katie shares the phrase that God gave her, “We can starve worry, when we feast on worship”. [12:49] - Do you feel like there are a lot of times when we're worrying and we just don't even realize that we are worrying? [15:26] - For someone who is listening, who, the concept of worship they don't even know where to start with that or what that even means or what that can practically look like. Can you just flush that out a little bit more? [17:33] - How have you let go of that burden and that weight of feeling like it's all on you, to carry everyone else and to make sure it all works out? [20:05] - We learn that “degalation is not weak, it's actually wise” from Katie. [22:04] - How do I know what to say yes to because I feel like I have way too many things that I need to say yes to? [26:36] -  Oftentimes when I will feel the most anxiety or that I'm just not being able to focus and be calm, it's just that I'm tired. [28:53] - Katie believes that generosity is “just God winks,”. [30:15] - In Katie's mindseye she sees Jesus sitting on a la-z-boy reading a newspaper and thinking “great he's not helping me”. [32:31] - Of any of this that Katie has shared, resonates with you. You need to go get a copy of Made Like Martha: Good News for the Woman Who Gets Things Done. Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Katie Reid   BooksMade Like Martha: Good News for the Woman Who Gets Things Done by Katie Reid   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Katie Reid on Facebook Katie Reid on Instagram Katie Reid on LinkedIn Katie Reid on Pinterest Katie Reid on Twitter   Special Mentions Nicole (Niki) Homan Jennifer Dukes Lee Jami Amerine   Verses Luke 10:38-42, bible.com

What are you doing to improve your life? We are going to dive into what it looks like to replace the gospel of self improvement with the gospel of life transforming grace and our special guest is Ruth Chou Simons. Everything that Ruth does has this aroma of beauty which is the opposite of me. Where I am a cut and dry minimalist. Ruth Chou Simons is a best selling author and founder of GraceLaced. She has been married to her husband Troy for 23 years and they have been involved in the local ministry most of their lives. Ruth and Troy have 6 sons, yes you heard correctly. Ruth is in multiple stages of parenting with her oldest being 19 and her youngest is 8. We talk about dating ourselves by being bloggers and on the internet since the beginning, and how Ruth's blogging has evolved into more of a community effort and being more active on Instagram. GraceLaced started out as the name of Ruth's blog and is now the name of her current business. We talk about why Grace matters and why it is the cornerstone of Ruth's ministry, her life, her work, and why she talks about it all the time. Ruth and I discuss how she is currently walking out the message of her new book, When Strivings Cease: Replacing the Gospel of Self-Improvement with the Gospel of Life-Transforming Grace, as she's launching it. Ruth wants the readers to marinate with the message and to experience the journey with art. Ruth shares some personal stories and that she wants to reach women with beauty and truth. And to show that women out there are not alone when feeling vulnerable. You are not alone, and you are not meant to do this alone. You have to do the soul work to improve yourself and stop striving and start looking to Jesus and relying upon him and finding fullness of life in him.   In This Episode [00:42] - Welcome to The Crystal Paine Show and for today's topic I have none other than Ruth Chou Simons. [01:23] - I just love what you bring to the world with the gifts that God has given you. [01:48] - For the few people who maybe aren't totally familiar with you, I would love for you to introduce yourself to our audience. [03:21] - We are kinda the grandma bloggers, we have been on the internet for a long time.  [06:03] - And now When Strivings Cease, is your new book and this is your first trade book. [06:19] - The artwork that Ruth does isn't meant to just be like, it's not like clipart on the corners, it is that the art is symbolic of what you are reading. [06:51] -There are some drawings in there because Ruth wants us to linger long on each page. [07:50] - The effort of writing a book, that's a lot but to then have this whole artistic journey. I have so much respect for you. [08:20] - Ruth states we were created to be image bearers.  [08:46] - What kind of inspired you to make this pivot from doing these beautiful full colorful devotionals to then a trade book? [10:51] - I read quotes from the beginning of When Strivings Cease. [11:39] - I feel like the “worn out, fearful, and anxiously striving” those are words that describe so many women. And I know I have been there, so many times. [12:42] - Ruth tells us that we are not alone, yes it is a red flag but it's a red flag for all of us. We are wired to carry everything on our own. We're wired to think that we're the saviors of our own lives. [13:21] - The title of your book is When Strivings Cease and then the subtitle is Replacing the Gospel of Self-Improvement with the Gospel of Life-Transforming Grace. I would love for you to kinda unpack that for us a little bit, of what is the gospel of self-improvement? [14:24] - So the gospel of life-transforming grace, so tell us what that is? [15:48] - So how do we get from, the woman that's listening and she's saying “Oh, I'm just, I'm tired and I've been just trying so hard”. [18:43] - I read another statement from When Strivings Cease. [19:55] - Ruth shares a story that is her understanding of God. [22:14] - Ruth hopes the book helps you have like, a quick way to process this but I hope it drives you to the truth that's been left for us in the word of God that tells us what God really desires, from you and for you and how he's provided for that in Christ. [25:20] - How are you practically walking this out in your life? [28:41] - Would you be willing to kinda get vulnerable and talk about how you're processing this in your own life? [31:50] - Ruth is saying, “hey friend, I'm still struggling too”. [33:11] - I think so many women can relate to that feeling of, “you know, God, I don't have what it takes” -  I feel like that's multiple times a day for me, and, and yet God is so faithful when we look to him.   Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine   BooksGraceLaced: Discovering Timeless Truths Through Seasons of the Heart by Ruth Chou Simons Beyonding and Beloving: The Art of Everyday Worship by Ruth Chou Simons Garden of Truth by Ruth Chou Simons Field of Joy by Ruth Chou Simons Foundations: 12 Biblical Truths to Shape a Family by Ruth Chou Simons & Troy Simonns When Strivings Cease: Replacing the Gospel of Self-Improvement with the Gospel of Life-Transforming Grace by Ruth Chou Simons   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Ruth Chou Simons GraceLaced Co.   Ruth Chou Simmons in Facebook Ruth Chou Simmons on Instagram GraceLaced on Instagram

Do you feel like your prayers are being ignored? This is something that has been on our hearts to share and a story that God is currently writing for us. Of believing that for over a decade, our prayers were not being answered. But in hindsight, God was answering just not in the way we thought. We are saying that our prayers weren't being answered because it was not a “yes”. But there are lots of other answers besides yes. God taught us so many lessons on faith, and resting in him, and contentment, and just opening our hearts to stepping into things that were scary and hard and took us way outside our comfort zone. Want a glimpse into what has been happening in our lives recently? Jesse had a birthday. We talk about our difference in age and how we celebrated Jesse's birthday. We discuss some of the books we have recently been reading and what we look for in good books. Jesse talks about the books he has finished, one non-fiction and one fiction. I talk about a fiction author that was recommended to me and the last book I just finished. Word to the wise, don't do things one-handed if you are trying to fix a toilet. We chat about everyday items that are positively affecting our family. The flex seal glue that Jesse had to purchase to fix the toilet mishap. How the invention of the two way zipper onesie is helping keep baby D's g-tube safe. This is real life. I reflect on our last ten years and during all that time, it felt like our prayers weren't being answered and asking God why. I close out the podcast, giving words to encourage others who may be struggling, who may not fully recognize that God is answering you, it just might not be with a yes.   In This Episode   [00:37] - Welcome to The Crystal Paine Show. today's topic is When your prayers aren't answered [01:13] - Jesse just talked a little bit, um, can anyone tell a difference in his voice? Does he sound a little bit more mature? A little bit older? [02:44] - I just discovered, in the last month, that teens love cake. [04:10] - Jesse is older, that is the big news to report & also, you also finished more than one book. [06:01] - Tell us about The President's Daughter book. [07:08] - I finished a book by Charles Martin. I have been listening to a lot of his books recently. At the beginning of the year, I asked on my blog, Money Saving Mom.com, for book recommendations especially for fiction. [08:37] - This one that I just finished, it was A Life Intercepted.  [11:00] - Jesse you have something that's saving your life? Actually, our whole families life. [13:09] - Growing up, I was the toilet fixer. [16:36] - Well what is saving my life this week, it has actually been saving my life for a very long time. [19:21] - Alright Jesse, I told you that I have an email that I have been very excited to read to you.  [21:15] -  So let's talk about when your prayers aren't answered. [23:14] - We wanted to have more kids and God wasn't answering that prayer with yes. [24:28] - We can both look back over those ten years of waiting and just really see how God changed our hearts in big ways.  [25:55] - I wrote this on Instagram and I just wanna close with reading this and I just hope that it encourages someone today who needs this reminder.  [28:26] - I wrote this on Instagram that I also just want to read to you, just to encourage you that you never know what God is up to.    Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine   BooksWarrior Diplomat: A Green Beret's Battles from Washington to Afghanistan by Mike Waltz The President's Daughter by James Patterson & Bill Clinton The President is Missing  by James Patterson & Bill Clinton A Life Intercepted: A Novel by Charles Martin   Definitions Allegory (allegorical), Literary Terms G-tube (gastrostomy tube), Kids Health Programs/Events Libby, free public library app   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on Goodreads   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com   Special Mentions 52 Book I Plan to Read in 2021, blog post Photo, Instagram Video, Instagram

Are you a fashionista? Do you love or hate clothes? I am thrilled to have Alison Lumbatis in the studio with us today to talk about her new book, The Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas: A Stylish Solution to What Should I Wear?, and realizing how much of an impact she has had on my life. Especially when it comes to clothes. Imagine how your day and mood will be different, just by getting dressed. No matter how you feel in the morning and no matter if you are leaving your home or staying in, getting dressed is a type of selfcare. This one action has the power to change the outcome of how you feel and how you present yourself. Alison gives us the history on how she stopped getting dressed and she noticed her loss of motivation after working from home after six months. In hindsight, she recognized there were signs of depression by being in her yoga pants rut. One day she asked herself, “what is one tangle thing I can do to make myself feel better today?” Alison tells us the answer was easy, the first step was putting on real clothes. This not only made her feel better but it allowed her to also set an example. Alison explains to us that we only wear 20% of the clothes we have in our closets. She states that cleaning out your closet is an emotional process and that we are holding on to articles of the past. In order to effectively clean it out, we need to take everything out and go through each piece individually, in order to know what to put back in your closet. We ask the tough questions: does the thought of changing out of your yoga pants or throwing out your workout clothes sound difficult? Clothes shouldn't take an emotional toll but allow you to be the best version of yourself. Getting dressed can change your emotions and energy levels, making you more motivated. It is as simple as getting dressed everyday. It doesn't matter what time, whether it be 3pm or 5 pm. The mood boost from getting dressed is so simple, yet the outcome is so powerful. In This Episode [00:39] - Welcome Alison Lumbatis to The Crystal Paine Show [02:14] - I had never really worked hard to put together outfits because I had always kind of told myself I am not a fashionista. [03:35] - Sometimes I feel like people might think clothes aren't that big of a deal but it is a big deal and makes a big difference. [04:10] - I have Alison tell us about herself and explain what she does. [04:33] - My goal is really to empower women to be able to shop on their own and to be able to see their closets in a different light. [05:03] - Number one, I didn't have accountability for getting dressed in the morning anymore [06:51] - Blogging is a great creative outlet. [07:22] - I really just asked my readers and followers at that point, “what can I do for you that is going to make your life easier?” [08:09] - I inadvertently created a capsule wardrobe. [08:50] - No matter your style, you can make it work for you. [10:05] - I love how you just kind of gently encourage people to push outside their comfort zones. [10:58] - I read a favorite section from The Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas: A Stylish Solution to What Should I Wear? [11:28] - “You don't have to feel like doing something, in order to do it.” [11:48] - What could happen if you did put a little effort into it? [12:04] - I like to say, “get dressed with the day you want to have.” [13:58] -  We take the action and the feeling comes after. [15:33] - For the woman who is feeling, “I don't even know where to start. Like I look at my closet and all there is, is yoga pants and sweatshirts and this feels daunting to me”, is there kind of one small step that you would encourage them to take. [17:40] - When you find that outfit formula, that uniform that works for your life.Take a picture of it. [19:56] -  I'd love for you to just kind of walk through, how do you go through your closet, for someone who feels overwhelmed with all the clothes they have, but yet feel like they don't have anything to wear. [22:22] - I developed this acronym swap, “shop with a purpose”. [23:43] - One of the things I love about your book, The Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas, is how practical it is and visual. [24:40] - I ask Alison to tell us more about her program and how you can get signed up. [27:45] - I love, also just the spirit of what you're doing, and that it's just encouraging women. [29:03] - Give feedback, but deliver it with love.   Links & ResourcesCrystal PaineAlison Lumbatis BooksThe Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas: A Stylish Solution to What Should I Wear? By Alison Lumbatis Definitions Capsule Wardrobe; Cambridge Dictionary PodcastsThe Crystal Paine Show Episode 16 Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter   Alison Lumbatis on Instagram Alison Lumbatis on LinkedIn Alison Lumbatis on Twitter   Outfit Formulas Get Your Pretty OnGetYourPrettyOn on Instagram   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com

Are you struggling? I have been hearing from so many people who are tired, weary and are just done. And these same people just want to shut down. So today we are honored to have Lisa Whittle in the studio to talk about her new book, The Hard Good: Showing Up for God to Work in You When You Want to Shut Down. Lisa Whittle is here to share her wisdom, experiences, and on what God has taught her. Lisa explains how she views the difference between hard and good and why she wants to redefine these terms. It doesn't end with just the hard, it ends with the good. Lisa speaks about so many of her experiences of hard times during this conversation. She talks about her father and how she shares his same habits and responses, which guided her in writing her new book. How faith is a key part of Lisa's life, and she talks about how to work through the hard things but also how to walk through those hard times with God by her side. How she needs more than just believing in herself and in this world, and to hold on to that belief that there is more. We continue with our conversation, acknowledging that we all struggle and not everyone's journey is the same. Even if some struggles may be universal, each person handles it differently. How to see and recognize the signs that are different for everyone and to pay attention. We speak to those out there who are struggling and give guidance, and steps to working through their difficult time, because we come from a place of understanding. That working through the hard is not perfect and it doesn't mean that you cant see the good in the hard. But most importantly that you can come out the other side.   In This Episode [00:39] - Welcome Lisa Whittle to The Crystal Paine Show [01:15] - So many people who don't want to show up. [01:45] - I have Lisa introduce herself for our audience. [02:43] - Tell us where this book came from. [04:15] - I love, kind of, this conflict or tension just in the title of your book.  [05:15] - We don't have to define hard. [08:06] - When you know what you believe and when your firm in your faith, I don't think there should be anything, any conversation we're afraid of [09:27] - How do you know that you're shutting down? [12:20] -  How do we reverse course and not just get stuck in that rut of shutting down? [14:00] - “I am here.” [14:52] -  A lot of us are alive but we are not living. [16:53] - When we are really vulnerable with a friend, our relationship deepens because we've shared our hearts, and I think it is the same in our relationship with the Lord. [18:15] - I loved what you had to say about cheering for someone, when they get what you want. [18:30] - I read a passage from The Hard Good [20:49] - Women are amazing, we, we have the ability to be so for each other. [23:36] - She is not the opponent, jealousy is. [25:48] - I would just love for you to speak to that woman who is in the hard right now, and there is, and it doesn't feel like there's any good. What would you say to her? [28:00] - We need more than just believing in ourselves.   Links & ResourcesCrystal Paine Lisa Whittle BooksThe Hard Good: Showing Up for God to Work in You When You Want to Shut Down by Lisa Whittle   Social Media Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter   Lisa Whittle Facebook Lisa Whittle Instagram Lisa Whitte Twitter   Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group crystal@moneysavingmom.com

Our topic today – our takes on courtship and dating - might be considered a bit controversial by some! You may recall an early episode of the podcast in which we talked about our own history involving this topic, and if you did hear that episode, then you may also remember that we have a pretty unique story of how Jesse and I ended up in a relationship together and how we had strict courtship rules set by our parents. We are going to dive into this in this episode and reveal how we plan to approach this with our own kids. We received a question from a listener recently asking us if we allow our older kids to date, which is what inspired us to do a podcast episode focused on this topic, and as Jesse puts it, we prefer to see ourselves as sources of guidance for our kids rather than as dictators, and with that being said, while we realize that this may come as a surprise to some of you, we actually do not have rules about dating. What we instead do is have conversations with our kids rather than lay down hard and fast rules. Children need to learn how to make good decisions for themselves, and as I discuss in my book Love-Centered Parenting, it's so important to love our kids in such a way that we are leaning into them and listening to them, doing our best to understand their emotions and their struggles. We should, after all, be raising kids so that they can become adults as opposed to perpetually dependent children. I hope that this episode was helpful for you in one way or another! Please reach out to me as I love hearing from you, and be sure to tune in next time!   In This Episode: [0:32] – Today's topic is courtship and dating! [2:20] – We learn what's saving Jesse's life this week. [5:42] – I reveal that we recently got a new stroller which has been saving my life lately! [8:28] – You can get the double stroller that we bought for a relatively low price on Amazon! [9:48] – Jesse just finished Black Ice by Brad Thor. [10:58] – I just finished re-reading Wonder by R.J. Palacio. [12:55] – I share an email and an iTunes review sent in by listeners. [15:40] – Jesse offers a funny tip about listening to podcasts at a certain speed. [17:32] – We dive into the main topic – courtship vs. dating. [19:58] – I argue that teenagers are more apt to listen if parents have conversations with them as opposed to just laying down rules. [22:45] – Teenagers, I point out, tend to live in the moment and not look to the future. [25:22] – I point out that each and every child is different and cannot be placed into molds. [27:40] – We have tried to perfect the art of stoicism as parents.   Links and Resources: Crystal Paine Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter crystal@moneysavingmom.com Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group Love-Centered Parenting The Crystal Paine Show – Episode 5: Courtship Rules and Our First Kiss The Crystal Paine Show - Episode 129: My System for Keeping on Top of Emails The Crystal Paine Show - Episode 136: Don't Miss Out on This Superpower! (with Jeannie Cunnion) Graco Ready2Grow LX 2.0 Double Stroller, Clark Brad Thor – Black Ice R.J. Palacio - Wonder

Longtime listeners or new listeners who have gone back and listened to our older episodes may recall one of our early episodes in which we had Jeannie Cunnion on the show as a special guest to talk about how to be a happier mom! Well, Jeannie is back again this week to discuss her new book and how it came to be and what it means to be in touch with and rely on the Holy Spirit! Jeannie makes so many great points during our conversation such as how the Holy Spirit is available in all of us but is not necessarily active in all of us. We can get in the way of the Holy Spirit and impede Him, so we must cooperate with Him and follow up on His nudges, even if it feels like we have to go outside of our comfort zones to do so. Jeannie refers to this as His conviction and offers insight as to what that word means to her, emphasizing that it's not as scary as it sounds. We also talk about how to go about determining whether or not a calling is truly coming from the Holy Spirit or if it's coming from our own agendas. I give an example from my own life about a time when that wasn't apparent, and Jeannie offers some advice on how to make that determination. She closes by explaining how she acknowledges the Holy Spirit's presence on a daily basis, insight that I hope that you will find helpful so that you, too, can do the same! I really hope that this episode inspires you to truly take a step back and ask yourself if you are pursuing your own agenda or if you are recognizing the Holy Spirit's presence and listening to Him. Please reach out to me as I love hearing from you, and be sure to tune in next time!   In This Episode: [0:33] – We have a special guest today – returning guest Jeannie Cunnion! [2:43] – Jeannie shares some background information about herself with us. [5:18] – Jeannie reflects on what it means to rely on the Holy Spirit. [8:24] – One of the Holy Spirit's roles in our lives, Jeannie asserts, is as a map and a compass. [10:48] – Jeannie compares the Holy Spirit to being a close friend. [12:41] – I reflect on when I realized that the Holy Spirit was in me. [15:23] – Jeannie gives an example from scripture of the Holy Spirit being at work. [16:34] – Jeannie explains the difference between the Holy Spirit being available and being active. [19:25] – Jeannie expounds upon the word conviction and what it means to her. [21:38] – Jeannie gives some insight regarding how to determine whether or not a calling is coming from the Holy Spirit. [24:20] – The Trinity, Jeannie argues, is community. [27:33] – We learn how Jeannie acknowledges the Holy Spirit's presence every day. [30:10] – I summarize what I hope listeners will take away from this episode.   Links and Resources: Crystal Paine Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter crystal@moneysavingmom.com Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group Love-Centered Parenting The Crystal Paine Show – Episode 3: The Secret to Being a Happier Mom Jeannie Cunnion - Parenting the Wholehearted Child: Captivating Your Child's Heart with God's Extravagant Grace Jeannie Cunnion - Mom Set Free: Find Relief from the Pressure to Get It All Right Jeannie Cunnion – Don't Miss Out: Daring to Believe Life Is Better with the Holy Spirit  

It has been a while since we have done this, but we are bringing it back – that is, answering your burning questions! We tackle a variety of your questions today including how Jesse felt leaving his job as an attorney, which of us handles the bills and budgeting, how arguing between us pretty much always indicates a deeper issue, and our personalities. We also reflect on how our personalities and interests are different and similar and how this has changed in 18 years of being married.   In addition, we talk about what our dream vacation looks like and how having foster children has affected not only the children in our family but also our marriage. Like most things, it has had its ups and downs, but we feel blessed as we remind ourselves of our why. We hope you enjoy another episode answering your burning questions. As always, if you have other questions or input after listening to a podcast episode, we'd love to hear from you! In This Episode: [0:35] – We are answering your burning questions today! [1:29] – Jesse answers a question on whether or not it was difficult for him to stop working as an attorney. [4:00] – I argue why someone in a marriage considering income my income can be dangerous to the marriage. [5:43] – Jesse shares which one of us takes care of bills getting paid. [8:38] – Figuring out each spouse's strengths in a marriage is important. [9:08] – We talk about how we decide on budgeting and spending. [11:15] – I make the case that arguments – even silly arguments – usually point to something deeper going on. [14:38] – We tackle a question about whether or not our personalities are more similar or opposite. [16:40] – What is our dream vacation? [18:57] – How fostering can impact the children in a family. [21:20] – We reflect on how fostering has affected our marriage. [24:33] – What is our greatest weakness is in our communication with each other? Links and Resources: Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith - Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity Love-Centered Parenting 10 Days to Be a Happier Mom Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I'd love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I'm pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: crystal@moneysavingmom.com

You may have noticed that we haven't been around the last couple of weeks! One of those weeks was planned, but the other wasn't, and that's because we had a very upsetting but also unique experience with COVID-19, and we figured that we would spend our time in this episode sharing that experience with you. Our experience was probably different from most people's experience with COVID, mainly because we realized that we had had it several weeks ago without having realized it. Our daughter Kierstyn got very, very sick, probably sicker than any of our children have ever been. She had hives and a rash that were discolored and covered most of her body, and she was extremely itchy. She also had a pretty high fever of 104, and she was just miserable. We knew that something was very wrong, but not once did we suspect that she had COVID, especially since none of the rest of us were sick. Much to our surprise, however, she did, in fact, have COVID. Tune in to hear the details of our story and how we not only worried about Kierstyn and prayed for her recovery but also how the COVID diagnosis put a hitch in so many of our plans. As previously teased, we also reveal how Kirsten got COVID in the first place, and we share what the moral of the story is, to (a) get tested for COVID if you're feeling ill, even if you don't think that you have it, and (b) trust your instincts, and get second opinions. We're so grateful that God protected Kierstyn and that she has recovered, and we are grateful that we still got to go on a planned trip with my family recently. Do you have a unique COVID experience that you would like to share or just a similar experience in general? I would love to hear from you!   In This Episode: [0:35] – We explain why we took the last two weeks off. [2:00] – We also went on our annual trip recently with my extended family. [2:55] – I recently finished listening to The President Is Missing! [5:05] – Learn what I didn't like about The President Is Missing. [8:06] – Learn what has been saving my life lately! [10:30] – Hear a funny story about my recent trip to the dentist. [12:57] – I share some listener feedback. [15:36] – A listener thanks us for our recent episode about raising twins. [18:16] – We start sharing our recent story involving our experience with COVID-19. [20:45] – Learn about what happened a couple weeks ago on the weekend of a baseball tournament. [23:11] – We reveal what our daughter was initially diagnosed with. [26:06] – Our daughter's fever was 104, and medical personnel knew something was wrong. [28:48] – I reveal that our daughter tested positive for COVID. [31:26] – We had so much planned that the COVID diagnosis impacted. [34:09] – The new hospital where Kirsten was transferred didn't seem as concerned. [36:02] – We suspected soon after that we had already had COVID and hadn't realized it. [38:02] – Learn about how Jesse had the idea to get tested for antibodies to confirm that we had had COVID. [40:42] – Kierstyn recovered after a week or so. [41:42] – I reveal what the moral of the story is.   Links and Resources: Crystal Paine Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter crystal@moneysavingmom.com Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group Love-Centered Parenting The Crystal Paine Show - Episode 133: Our Best Strategies for Raising “Twins” James Patterson & Bill Clinton - The President Is Missing Libby

Although we've never actually had twins – neither biologically nor via fostering – we do have two very little ones who are pretty close in age, so we thought that we would share some of our best advice and tips on either having twins or fostering twins! While it obviously doesn't come with a manual and the experience is different for everyone, we do think that there are a few basic tips that you can put into place to ease the experience a bit! Remember that it takes time (we say 4-6 weeks) to establish a comfortable rhythm and routine, so be patient, and give yourself (and those around you) a lot of grace. We also recommend finding creative ways of keeping track of things. Setting up different stations around your house (such as a feeding station and a diaper-changing station) and keeping track of when each baby is fed, sleeps, has their diaper changed, is administered medicine, and so forth are both excellent ways to help keep yourself organized and establish a routine! On a somewhat related note, we also share a story of a recent trip that we took to Colorado Springs and how we encountered some unexpected obstacles due to having two little ones, so yes, even traveling via plane is going to be different if you have twins! Having twins is a new and therefore scary experience at first, but we promise that you will get into a comfortable groove! It will get so much easier over time, and it will even become natural to you. If you yourself have experience raising twins, then feel free to reach out to me! Any suggestions, tips, or advice that we didn't cover here would be so appreciated! I would love to hear from you!   In This Episode: [0:35] – Today's topic is advice for having twins. [2:39] – We just got back from a quick trip to Colorado Springs! [4:00] – Learn why we couldn't sit together on the plane. [5:35] – Jesse shares what he learned from our recent trip. [7:50] – Discover why you should try to do your bathroom breaks on layovers. [10:04] – Jesse has a book update! [12:28] – I have been reading Faith to Foster by T.J. and Jenn Menn. [13:55] – I share some mail from readers! [16:13] – We answer a question sent in by a listener about why we don't book Airbnbs when we travel. [19:26] – We start talking about our best advice for having twins. [21:03] – Expect it to take at least a month to establish a comfortable rhythm. [23:11] – It was helpful for us to set up different stations around the house. [24:56] – I recommend keeping a log of when each baby eats, sleeps, has their diaper changed, has medicine, and so forth. [27:25] – Give yourself and others grace! [30:18] – You will eventually get into a groove. [31:04] – The most important thing for us is relying on God.   Links and Resources: Crystal Paine Crystal Paine on Twitter Crystal Paine on LinkedIn crystal@moneysavingmom.com Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group Love-Centered Parenting James Patterson & Bill Clinton - The President Is Missing James Patterson & Bill Clinton - The President's Daughter T.J. Menn & Jenn Menn - Faith to Foster: An All-American Story of Loving the Least of These Hoopla - Website Libby Huckleberry: Baby & Child

We are switching things up and doing things just a little bit differently today, as we are pretty much focusing almost this entire episode on something that has been saving our lives recently – family breakfast! We first got the idea of doing family breakfasts several years ago because our kids had various activities going on in the evenings, so it was hard for us to eat dinners together. Since we still wanted to eat a meal together, we decided that it was easier to do it in the mornings! Family breakfast is something that we have really been committing to lately, and because good habits build good habits, it has been starting our days off on the right foot. We have found that our mornings have been more structured and organized, with a lot more getting done. It has also been so nice having that time together as a family at the very beginning of the day. It's worth noting, however, that when we first put family breakfast into place, we did so by calling a family meeting. Our plan was to ask our kids what they thought of the idea of family breakfast, but they beat us to the chase and suggested it before we did! We have found that family meetings can be a very helpful thing if there is a problem that needs to be addressed. It allows for open discussion and for different solutions to be offered, and it's definitely something that we suggest to you if you're finding that there is something that isn't working in your home. Is there anything creative like family breakfast that you do with your family? Do you have any tips or strategies of your own that you would like to share? How do you start your day off on the right foot? I would love to hear from you!   In This Episode: [0:33] – The topic of this entire episode is what has been saving our lives, namely family breakfast! [1:15] – I recently discovered how to easily get the pit out of an avocado! [3:50] – One of our kids got a job, so we now have two high schoolers who have jobs! [5:43] – I have been listening to The Warsaw Orphan by Kelly Rimmer. [7:38] – The Warsaw Orphan is the second book that I have listened to on Hoopla, which I have been using lately. [8:57] – I share my thoughts on how The Woman with the Blue Star ends. [11:40] – I share some listener mail. [14:35] – We love getting feedback from listeners! [15:10] - Today's sponsor is Annie's Kit Clubs! [17:48] – We dive into talking about family breakfast! [19:40] – We were going to suggest family meetings to our kids before putting them into place, but they had the same idea! [21:24] – Our mornings have been so much more productive and structured. [22:32] – Hear my advice on what you can do if there is something in your home that isn't working.   Links and Resources: Crystal Paine Crystal Paine on Instagram Crystal Paine on Twitter crystal@moneysavingmom.com Money Saving Mom Money Saving Mom on Facebook Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group Love-Centered Parenting Kelly Rimmer – The Warsaw Orphan: A WWII Novel Kelly Rimmer – The Things We Cannot Say: A Novel Pam Jenoff – The Woman with the Blue Star: A Novel Hoopla - Website Libby Annie's Kit Clubs - Website How to Remove Avocado Pits