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Well for those of you that are joining us, we are here in the warrior divas real talk for real women Facebook group and we are doing our show we're adapting to our ever changing society. We are being emotionally connected in a social distancing world so Today, I am excited about the show we have for you We but before we get started, I wanted to let you know that if you're watching this in the group, you can invite other people to join us in the group to watch it. comment in the comment section, give a little like a little love. Leave one of the emoticons if we make it happy, sad or mad, any of that in the in the group. And I want to welcome our guests today and just a few moments, they're gonna let us know a little bit about themselves. And then as we go through the show, you'll get to learn a little bit more about them. As I said, I'm Angie Monroe, I am the host of the show. This show airs every Tuesday from 11am to 1pm Central Standard Time on fishbowl radio network and then you can find it starting at 3pm on all the podcast social networking sites. So if you hear something you like today or or you really want somebody else listen to that's the great way to share it. Plus, it'll be here in the group as well. So We're going to start off we've got Stacey up in the top we've got Janet Stacey wave. Janet under Stacey. We've got misty right next to Stacey to Janet and then we got cam. I don't know how it's showing up on everybody. thing. I guess mine's a little bit different. So getting yelled away. So I want y'all to we're gonna start with Stacey and kind of go in that order. So Stacy if you will, kind of give us a who you are, what your occupation is, where you're located and what you're passionate about. My name is Stacey Penny when I am the owner of Alexander medical Spa in Hurst, Texas. I'm also very involved in the Chamber of Commerce. I'm on the board of directors. I'm also on the board of directors for central arts of Bedford and Hearst. I like being involved in the community. That's one of my passions. I love helping other people. I like to be involved in charities. I also am passionate about learning. And I like to learn from other people. I like to learn from books. And I like to learn from doing. And this is my first podcast so I'm learning right now. Awesome. All right, we have Janet Janet, tell us a little bit Hey, Shay break out and dance or when I was live that and you did that sway app yesterday, didn't you? Yes, I had 500 views as people actually think I can dance that good which is really awesome. Yeah, I can't really dance that good y'all. Okay, my name is Janet Manor and I live in the middle of nowhere Kansas. I used to live in Texas and I miss you guys miss all the Texas hair and all the beauty of Texas women. And not that I don't love my Kansas ladies, but I do miss Texas and and I am retired but I still passionate about helping People, I I take a lot of phone calls and do a lot of praying for people still people call me for that a lot. And I teach a Bible study class of about 25 women every Monday night. So that's I'm really passionate about studying the Bible. I have the time, most of the time now to do it. And so a very busy life up until this point. So it's been, it's a blessing to be able to sit and sit in word and he's, we just did James Bible study. And so he's prepared us for a time as this to consider it all joy to be in this trial. That's where we are. And as women and all the people that we love and care for are going to follow our lead. You're just really that's the truth and our families. So trying to keep it all joyful here, and it's not being unrealistic, but now's the time to shine. Ladies, now's the time to shine. So absolutely, absolutely. Misty, how about you? Hi, I missed you. I'm the owner of picture perfect brows and beauty and co founder of expanded woman. And you know, I, I'm located but for Texas By the way, and I'm super passionate about people, connecting others and also just empowering other women building confidence. Those are the things and I'm very woman centric as well. So I definitely think we aligned in that way, Angie. Absolutely. So Kim, Kim get started. Marcel reviver talk about her so much, but many of y'all have not ever really officially met her. So this is Kim. Hi, Kim. I'm Kim. And I'm in Grapevine, Texas. And um, I, for a long time have been a small business owner had a graphic design business out of my house. Really Long time since 2015, I've been doing ministry and biblical counseling with women and I graduated last November with my certification to be a biblical counselor. And so, out of that, hopefully a ministry is being birthed. But, you know, God had different plans for how 2020 is gonna go so I'm just my word for the year was restart. Um, I know that I'm still very passionate about women seeing women healed, broken hearts restored, just walking in freedom and and the path that God has for them. So that's my true passion and how that shows up and what that looks like kind of ebbs and flows. As I think I'm growing and maturing in the Lord, so we'll see what he has for next. Yeah, it's interesting because without planning it tonight, we ended up with two of the ladies on the show that have helped me with my external beauty. We got misty and Stacy that have helped me with the external beauty. And then Janet and Kim have helped me with my spiritual beauty over the last several years of my life, and I tell the story about mending the soul all the time and how much I hated that class but loved that class. And Janet's the one that kind of I brought it up to her one day and she goes you're in my class period, you know it's done now I was like, Okay, what did I get myself into? So and then all that you've seen growing with divas impact the magazine The the beautiful flyers and all the thing, the logo for warrior divas all of that has been done by Kim. So pm is the previous creative genius behind all of that. So Mary, and I just get to come up with great, crazy ideas and go, Hey, friends, let's have some fun. But so, you know, Kim has been on isolation a little bit longer than the rest of us. And I'll let her share a little bit about that as we go on. But we were just talking about what is the purpose of the show? What are we wanting to do with the show? And yes, I'm not touching my face. I'm touching my hair. So don't anybody freak out about Corona on me because I'm putting my hair in my house. But, you know, our biggest thing is we want to be somebody that shines a light. So we realized that when you are socially isolated, you don't need to be emotionally isolated. And so we're going to start doing more and more things like this inside the group. Just to have a fun way Friday night, we're going to have a pajama party inside the group everybody show up, we're going to open up the zoom live thing. Let everybody jump on, we'll have a little dance party on there, we'll do a whole bunch of fun stuff inside the group. With that, just because moms and women married single with kids without kids, we all just need to blow off steam at some point, right? Ah. So part of what we're wanting to be is shine that light, we're going to do that and a lot of spiritual ways. We're going to do that in a lot of emotional ways. We're going to do that in a lot of fun ways. So Friday night will be instead of a divas night out it will be a divas night in so you will start seeing us talking about that later on this week. And we'll do one of those each week until we're set free and then we'll start having divas nights out because we'll be building relationships behind the scenes. So somebody somebody had a post up the other day, one of the single people I know was talking said, Wait a minute, you mean I actually got to talk to somebody and get to know them first before I go on a real date. So we're going to take the opportunity to get to know you and we want to talk with, you know, the girls here, I want you to realize that it's not just me in this group. There's other amazing women in this group that can leave things up and talk with you and encourage you and inspire you. And that's what we're all here to do. So this morning, I shared in the group, the john Maxwell video about leadership, and I was live streaming watch parties in this group and another group and trying to leave the notes in there and I do have the notes I'll put them in the notes in a file here inside the group from that section once I get them cleaned up to where other people can kind of interpret my notes as I typed them up, but they're still a little wonky and You know, it was great because he was speaking to leaders. Now tomorrow, he's going to be talking and tomorrow and to say he's going to be talking, turning adversity into advantage. And we're going to kind of kick that off tonight talking about what we as women are thinking and doing and feeling, and, and all of that. So what I want you to know is, we're women here, we may be sitting in a somewhat good situation. I don't know everybody's situation here. But I do know all these women, I don't know all their stories. But I do know all these women. And I do know that they are women that lead with love, they leave with graciousness, they don't lead with fear, they lead with joy. And that's why I was so excited that they joined us on the show today. So as we get going, we're going to start off with emotional health. So first off, we're going to do a temperature check of everybody on the call. So how are you Feeling what's going on? For some of us, it's day one for some of us. What, 90 Kim? Boy? So, um, you know, let's start. Let's start with Kim. Since she's been the longest Kim, how are you feeling? I you know, I'm actually feeling really good. I think that, you know, my journey started on January 2 with my quadruple bypass. So, I think I went through some emotional shock that kind of first month, like, I came home from the hospital on the fifth. And physically, I did great. But emotionally there were some really tough days. The it's not fair. This shouldn't have happened to me, like, you know, this was just completely out of nowhere and I didn't fit the profile and you Still, so, for me, it was sort of having to deal with a lot of the I'm having to come to acceptance with what is my new normal, I had to come to the fact that, you know, I don't know what my future is gonna look like and I gotta be okay with that now, you know, I don't know how this is, is gonna go it's a progressive disease. So new normal looks totally different. And then just even changing everyday habits I have to work out I have to eat completely different. And so there was a lot of that morning I can't eat a cheeseburger and my pepperoni pizza with extra cheese anymore. Took me a month and you know, but then I started discovering new foods, and I learned that I kind of did like working out and You know, you start to accept some stuff and roll your eyes when you said that can you rolled your eyes? here's the here's the funny truth is, it is like ripping teeth out to get me to start working out like getting on the treadmill. But I can tell about eight minutes in. Like, I don't know if it's the dopa mean or what happens chemically but then I start liking it and my 20 minute workout I'm noticing is going 3035 40 minutes like I'm, I actually feel good I feel better. I it's, it really is starting to shift and that was something I didn't expect at all. And then I even started lifting weights this week. And that was completely something I never thought I would be here year was restart and so in every way I've had to restart So it is kind of neat that here God sort of prepared me because I haven't been leaving the house that much I was social isolating already cuz you know you're immunocompromised and healing and and really restricted on what you can do for a while so, you know, I think the Lord was like No Let's prepare her for the corona virus apocalypse just a few months so you know that's where where I'm at I think my husband thinks I'm insane cuz I have bought enough food for the apocalypse and then even like ordering online the dog snacks and dog food so he called it the dog Apocalypse Now as they are delivering that but we're good over here in grapevine. Good Yeah, yeah. So So misty. What about you what's going on in your world I know there's you. You've been doing a lot inside our community as well to take care of the emotional health of some of our community. Yes, there's there's an organization that our chamber has called leadership hgb. And you're a part of the class this year and y'all had a big event planned. The next one, I had to get scrapped because of everything that's going on. But your group in your class just pivoted so beautifully to really attend to what's going on in our community. So I want you to talk a little bit about how it affects you, but what you've been doing to help those around us. Sure, sure. So um, yesterday, you know, worse I'm a salon and permanent makeup company. So yesterday we find out that we had to close the shut down, so Okay, no more livelihood. Don't have the option of unemployment. So, you know, there's a little bit of that fear factor, but I've really been through this whole thing kind of tapped into books and motivational podcasts and things to just kind of get my mindset, right, because you know how that goes. But I refuse to let the devil get me and let him fill me the women are so I honestly feel way more calm than I thought I would, knowing, knowing what's going on. And it helps me to help other people during this time too. So our group has put together another group that basically, we currently call it Corona virus. Press help us here AGV. So for this whole ATV area, and let me tell you a little bit about the project that we started off with. There was a mirror a wall that was painted on next to a company where some Hispanic people owned it and somebody graffiti I hate Mexicans on the wall. So our proud our program was to create a mural, which we did. And it looks amazing. The mural is the map of the HTV area. And we painted over the I hate Mexican. And it just turned out to be so beautiful. Unfortunately, we don't get to show it off yet, but we will eventually. But it is a great reminder of all the community resources that are available in the area. So our secondary thing was to have community resource fair at the same time for the mural unveiling. So instead of doing that, and on this coronavirus, hgb we took it virtual since we cannot really be together. Um, and basically we set out you know, different resources for people what's available, we set up you know, grocery updates and activity websites and all the different things that our community could come together and we made it a needs profile, so we can help those and there's another side project to where we set up little news people Paper stands and put products in there like toilet paper and toothpaste and and just some resources for people to just grab if they need it and also where people can donate goods as well. So it's been really good to help kind of take my mind off that of what's going on around me and helping others. Well, let me see what what's the HTV stand for? GPS you list Bedford? Okay. I thought much better the three cities. Yeah. So it's kind of like our little suburb area. Yeah. Yep. I just want to make sure I knew that was Sam. Yeah. And one of the one of the beautiful parts of it is if you're talking and somebody asked a question about the corona virus or different things like that, they don't want a lot of speculation in the group. One of the rules is the group is to cite your cite your source. So we just we want to make sure that we're citing our sources at all times. So that right there is huge for turning that to for what they're doing, because, you know, everybody can go out there and speculate and do random what is a conspiracy theorist? A lot of that there there is a lot of that so and I think john even said it today he goes first off if the media is your source you need to get a different source World Health Organization to you know, CDC go to places and get get it straight, quote unquote, from the horse's mouth so yeah, so Janet, what about your world? How is things going in your world? I know you've got a little space between the all the normal most of the time Yeah, well, there's still lines that are Sam's and there's still lines in our stores and people are still hoarding the toilet paper. And so I our little group, we we set up in the basement and we social distance to each other enough, but we're making masks You know, the ladies can so I can't so but we're cutting. We're doing okay. I mean, I'm so grateful for the you know, we have our phones and we can still talk and have this group and zoom and Facebook each other and FaceTime each other. I mean, what, what would we you know, I'm so grateful. I'm so grateful for that because emotionally and you know, if it all goes down, we're all gonna, it's gonna be a little more difficult, but this way we can stay connected and so I'm grateful that we have that, you know, that's really good. As far as I can see, we're a bunch of can i say i'm not going to use curse words but really a bunch of really tough American women. And that's starting to come out we have this Christian toughness I don't even know the warrior divas perfect because I just see a bunch of Lady she's got it together. You know, they, you know, people are sick people are isolated, you know, but they're still just kind of keeping it together and I'm just really proud of the people that I know in my life. I know there's other people who are struggling financially lost jobs, and they're still, you know, just carrying on helping their neighbor. It's just incredible, really incredible to watch. So I'm blessed in that regard because all I see is good stuff. That's all I see. I don't see any nonsense yet. So I'm grateful I got tickled watching the Facebook means or something the other day one of the guys goes I don't even know why we still have farmers and all that stuff. Why don't they just go to the store and buy this stuff that they want from the store? And then somebody else's if we have to, if we have to hunt for our food, I don't even know where Doritos lives. And you know, I love the tongue and cheek of it, but it's because of that tongue in cheek. I've had people reach out to me and going Hey, could you tell me how do I make mac and cheese with ah crap. You know, they need to know how to make their Is what mac and cheese they know they've got the ingredients for it they just don't know how to put it all together so you know trying to be some of those women that has some of these answers together not just mean not just you yeah but you know how to be creative and like my guests on my leading moment show on Thursday said he goes Guess what? He goes the store still have plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables on the shelves, because everybody's buying all the junk food all the company. Now don't eat junk food. You can. Yeah, and then another thing he brought up that misty I was going to tell you might be I'll send you a picture for it. That might be a good thing to post in your group was if it's got the wick symbol on it, that the women and children that are eating off of that wick that's only the only cheese and milk and eggs and things that they can buy cereal that they can buy. So if you have a choice, choose something other than that, but don't wipe Yeah, the witnesses are limited. That sounds like that is just huge. So I've been repeating that and shouting that as often as I can. So I just I took a picture of one of the wick signs the other day and said we need to post about this and I have it That's good. So I'll send you the picture lets you post about it and then I'll share it in post about it too. So all right, Stacy. So you're kind of in the same boat that misty is in yesterday, six o'clock and a face to face interaction. And then you know, what, what are you going to be doing? How are you emotionally handling this pivot? Well, I had already made the decision on Thursday or Friday that I was going to close before before we were closed. Because I have employees that have children. I'm all of them. But most of my people because I'm an anti aging are older. They shouldn't be coming to see me. Some of them are secret still mentioned He's messaging me, Hey, I'm working from home, can you can you get that treatment done to my eyes and we won't tell anybody, you know, just show up at the office. I still have that going on, because people want still want to get their stuff done. But I mean, I'm a mom and I have four children, I really don't need to get sick, what are they gonna do without me. And in the grand scheme of things, I have a roof over my head, I have food, even if my my business falls apart, which it won't. And I need to be here for my kids and my family. They're the most important thing. So I had already chosen, but I have gone through many different emotions throughout the last couple of weeks. I was kind of in the know about certain things beforehand because my brother works for a city and he's in a director position. So he was telling me about closed downs before they were starting to be announced. And so I was wearing before everybody else and I feel good right now I feel the things that I feel are like, I'm excited that I'm going to get to see my kids. I'm a working mom. I'm a mom that has owned a business for almost 20 years. So I have been busy. This whole time. My kids don't see me as much as some other moms get to get to see their kids. My kids are very what they were asking yesterday, where are you home so early? You know, why did you What's going on? Why is mom here? And so I'm anxious to see what it's going to be like when I'm here the entire week with him because, you know, they, they don't they only have that when I'm on vacation. I'm anxious to see I'm anxious to cook food. You know, I because I own a spa. I come home later. So sometimes a lot of times our food is you know what Costco made that my husband gets put in the oven before I got here. So I'm excited about getting to make some things and getting to do some art projects. That's what I'm Putting my focus in. Now I know, I have a list of things that I can get done remotely, to move my business forward. But every time I think about my list, I also think about, I know that I'm going to be okay. What can I do to help people that are probably not going to be okay? Yeah, that's good. There's so many people that work in a restaurant that are paycheck to paycheck. You know, I have a business savings account. I can cover my bills for a while. at my office. My husband works from home. He we're not going to lose any income from him at all. So what can I do to help other people? That's what I've been thinking about. Yeah. But I, I mean, I'm my, my biggest fear is, I don't know how to not be busy. I know I was thinking the same thing. I think how do I think that problem So maybe I can figure out how to be busy doing more things that are fun. The other thing that I think all of us are going to figure out how to be busy at home organizing and whatever else we can think of. We should people like me and Missy who take care of people all day long. We don't take care of ourselves as much. Right? So we should probably think about doing some self care. Mm hmm. Already on that? Yeah. Are you? Mm hmm. No, I watched your list. I can say I can tell you that. I used to be super busy. And I'm not super busy. Now. As much as I was when I lived in Texas. Also, I've had six months of my husband being retired at home. How's that? Because I'm worried about two weeks in with my husband. And there is an adjustment and he's a I'm married to a really nice man. It's still an adjustment. So you will have those moments, right, honestly. And I just say, I'm gonna go in my room and be by myself, you know, I just take that time, but you learn to do other things when you're not busy working or taking care of kids, like, I still help with my grandkids too. So, you know, I'm trying to do art projects and find things. I mean, I've already raised my kids and I'm having to rethink how do I do all this care at home for these kids. And so, but the business that you have when you're outside working versus coming home, I will say it's an adjustment but you're you guys are creative women, and you're hard working and so you're going to find things to fill your time you think, Oh, I'm gonna retired and I'm not gonna be as busy. That's not true. You just find different things to do because you're productive and because you like helping and because you like doing, you will find other things to do. I mean, that's just, it's God's good that way. He does give us other things and God help us all might instead of hit water, you might have to have some wine and let's be honest Vodka, I'm just kidding. Really. wine, take yourself, take your bath. But you know, God's gonna give you what you need when you need it. I mean, it's amazing. So you think I'm gonna have all this free time no other people are gonna come and look to you for things they're gonna call you. They call you and come to you because they know they can't. And they know you're going to answer they know you're going to cry with them when they cry, and you're gonna laugh when they laugh. And they know that if they call you you'll answer Now, I'm not saying being emotionally available for everybody all the time, but you find new things to do is I guess the point, you know, and and what you said God will find what you need when you need it. So the past probably three or four months, I've been training a new employee and then my employee of nine or 10 years is moving on and it's been really difficult. I've been working six, seven days a week, so maybe this is what I needed. Trying to stay home a little. I think the Lord, the Lord's just sending an adjustment, you know, we've been prepared for this time, as a time we're all prepared for this time we've been placed here. It's not a coincidence that we're all women and Esther's at this time. And you know, you'll find your inner Esther, and you'll, you know, God's gonna put people in front of us, and he's going to give us what we need when we need it. And even if you're a single mom, and you ask for help, just ask for help, because this older ladies are willing to, you know, even if, you know, we, we can watch them on a park bench. We don't have to, we don't have to be in the same room with them. But we can actually watch a kid for an hour or whatever. I mean, you can do that outside. We don't you can, you know, you can do that. So that'll work. Well. And I think another thing that a lot of people don't think about is because we have had this happen in the middle of all the social technology we have you're really not as alone as you could have been. So we have a lot of resources to reach out to talk to ask questions. And you can do it in private message, you can do it over email, you can do it on a Facebook post, whatever it is. And we met I went to a event last fall, where they talked about it was last fall last summer sometime where they were talking about abusive relationships. And I'm going to bring it up during this part because we're about shifting to family dynamics. And, you know, I'm married to a great guy. We've been in business together for seven years. I had my own business before that, but he's had his plumbing business for seven years. So we've worked together. So being home alone together hasn't really sunk into us. And he's part of the essential forces so it he probably won't be home as much as some of the other ones. But on the other side of it, there are women that are trapped at home. home with their monster, there are children that are trapped at home with their monster. So my my point to all this is, is if you're a woman, and you're listening to this, and you're trapped in a situation like that, we are the women that are saying, you can reach out to us, we are the Oregon, saying you can reach out to us. We want you to get stronger. We want to help you get a plan together, we want to get you out of that situation. We will pull all of our resources together to help with that. But we have to know that's what you're involved in and what's what's going on. And we don't want to put you in a date a more dangerous situation while you're trying to get out of that situation. So we will help find ways to do that safely for you and everyone involved. So, again, that's a little side note, but I feel it's important because when we start talking a lot down, you know, that's, I mean holidays is when domestic violence calls go up. It's just Police statistics statistics see YouTube can be a professional speaker. It is a real life statistic that that's when they go up. So it's it's something that I'm not hearing any of the media talk about or any of the police departments talk about. I'm hearing about the police departments being exposed to things and police forces dwindling because of all this. So therefore, it behooves us as warrior divas to do what we can and do our part and be that resource for women. So Alright, so we're going to talk about families you know, we're kind of almost empty nesters. Now, every time we think we're empty nester, one bounce back. I don't know what it is for Allie and cannon and the twins live a little bit down the road but they were here yesterday and they and today doing laundry because their washer and dryers best. It's so kicked them all out of the house before we got on the call tonight and then set myself to a shop to do some what we call arts and crafts time. So mainly I just need a girl time. We all need Girl. Girl time we all get it. How are you? How are you planning to balance the family time with your work time or with your own? Your own sanity? Like Janet hiding in a closet. No, no. So who wants to go first on that one? Don't everybody speak it? Well, I will. And I don't really have I decided since today was my first like real day off in the quarantine and that I was gonna relax today and just enjoy the day with my family. And you know, we ran real quick to the salon. I grabbed all the essentials that I could do self care on myself. So when it's not podcasting I'm gonna do some micro needling and you know things to make myself feel better and look better to, why not? before you make before you make decisions, make sure we talk about the other procedures that we need to do because we need to put them in. Okay? Put them in the calendar. That's where I was going with this is I'm going to kind of create, you know, a plan each day, I'm like, we're gonna work out we're gonna, all those things I'm not doing right now. That's what we're getting. And I would really like to take the time, like even a family workout and you know, spend some more time doing yoga, which I haven't done in a really long time, but I enjoy. So and I get to do more cooking because I'd actually like cooking for my family and things like that. So all of those are, I'm kind of excited. I told my my kids yesterday, I was like, Hey, guys, I'm gonna be home for like, at least three weeks, you know, probably. And my younger son was like, yeah, you know, he really misses me but my older one is He's like, he could care less to be honest. He's like, I'm in my room playing video games with everyone else. So it's pretty much the same dynamic. I have a feeling that my, my spouse will be probably quarantined as of Monday I'm thinking because he works in Dallas County. And they've, you know, done the whole, what is it, um, shelter you have to stay in your, in your house, basically. So, um, I have a feeling they'll be closed on Monday. So then he'll be home and we're not used to seeing each other all the time, even though I love him and adore him. And we're probably gonna have to keep our space social distancing to know. Like you do your thing and go play watch your car shows and I'll go do my thing and work for a little bit. Because I plan on not stop working. I do have things in place for that. So maybe spend a few times a few hours a day working and a few few hours a day spending extra time with my family. The new normal right the new normal Yeah. Yeah. Well Scott actually started working from home last week. So with me being immunocompromised he had got special permission to already work from home once this kind of started blowing up the week before so um, we've had a week now to adjust and so I have you know, my office downstairs, we set him up, his office is upstairs and with the door he can shut and it's gone real well except, you know, the 10 year old who doesn't understand that you know, she's used to when Daddy's home he's played ad so he's fun dad. So he getting her to understand that daddy's actually working eight to five, Monday through Friday and and what those boundaries are kinda look at I think it's been a harder adjustment on Avery than it actually has. Me and Scott to be honest with you, um, one thing I thought was funny in our world is trying to leave God outside if it's sunny we we've gone for walks, we walked three days last week, we went outside and walked, walked to the park, trying to let her play and be a kid. You know, everyone's gone home school crazy. And we just decided, you know, she's gonna learn if she's not missing anything. You know, we did a couple of things, but we just sort of let her be at home and learn how to FaceTime friends like this, this whole environments different for her and I think it's harder on a nine year old, who's used to that consistent schedule. If I get up I go to school. I'm at school till this time and then I have my activities and then boom, it's like spring break, and then everything she does got canceled. So for us, I think it was just letting her have a week to just downshift and deal with that emotional impact without dumping. Now learn. Honor, you know, so I think this week will be an interesting week and how do we now sort of bring in to all this mix the homeschool thing and make sure she doesn't fall too behind? And I just don't intend on being too overbearing about it. And maybe I'm maybe I'm weird that way, but I figured she's ahead. She's smart. Let her just kind of enjoy what she can and do. I mean, do the things they're going to ask you to do but i'm not i'm just not I always said I was arts and crafts. Mom, not school mom. So, you know, like who which one of us can even teach Common Core math. Let's just be honest about that. Like, I can't. So there's only gonna be so much as a mom, I can do anyway because I know. I'm not trained as an educator. So I feel like you guys need to quit coughing I'm getting nervous now. Far away. We're social distance. We're good. All right. Yeah. Well, well, Stacy, what about your kids? You've got school aged kids as well. How are they have they hasn't even hit them yet that they don't have school. And yes, let me talk. You know, I have two sets of kids. So I have a kid that's 29 and 19. And then I have kids that are nine and eight. So and I'm still a mom to both sets. It's a kind of separate though, because the two the 29 and the 19 year old just moved in together in a tent. To an apartment in Bedford, they really like it. And so like I've been helping them I was there yesterday still unboxing stuff. They've been there a month but they have some boxes that they still haven't unlocked. And one of them I will not say which one was waiting for mommy to come by and not the younger one to help him get his stuff on. I mean I'm still momming them I'm still I'm telling them to stay home I brought some masks and some gloves and some Lysol to their apartment yesterday. It's two boys. So having to be mom still mom them even though they're older without being overbearing, and they have been staying home though I'm so excited for them. Because usually they don't listen. And I I kind of taught them the things that they need to do for cleaning. And if they do have to go somewhere like you're not supposed, like even touching the thing when you're done. Getting gas, you really shouldn't be touching that you need to put so that's why I bought brought them some gloves, throw the gloves away after you get your gas before you get in your car. So I have that situation. And then here at my house I have my two girls that are nine, about to be nine and eight and set I'm sorry, eight and seven right now. They have for the entire week. They have been doing homeschool. But kind of haphazardly, you know. They've been doing prodigy and Adventure Time and ABC mouse. But starting tomorrow, they go to a charter school international leadership of Texas. They're actually going to be doing the zoom meetings and they're with their teachers. And we had to do all the technology today. They both they both their school was giving out Chromebooks to the students that don't already have them. We have Chromebooks. They we got them for cursive missed last year. My husband's in it. He thought they needed to learn how to use a mouse. So he bought them Chromebooks. And so they're going to start their zoom meetings. I'm worried about my eight year old because she's dyslexic. And she really needs some extra care. But her dyslexic teacher is going to be on zoom meetings with her too. So I'm excited to see how it's gonna happen because I know it's a new normal for them, too. They have this charter school has 20 schools throughout Texas. So they're doing the zoom meetings with all the schools at the same time. I'm wondering how smooth it's going to do the first day we'll see. And I'm still going to be doing some work also. I'm still going to be on my computer. I have an internship program that I'm working on for the Chamber of Commerce. And then recently, we still have right you can we have time to work on that missing. And then Angie and I are also we are on the leadership Alumni Association, the same leadership class that misty is currently in. Angie and I have already been through the leadership program. And we are on this leadership, steering leadership alumni steering committee. So we're going to try to help put social media together helps steer our alumni helps steer our alumni, we can make sure that our alumni stay still engaged in the chamber after they've gone through leadership. We want our alumni to be leaders in the community. We want our alumni to be part of boards, board of directors in hcb area, and we want them to be the leader. So Angie and I are trying to figure out how to still work on that. A little foreign to them and and challenge them both a little bit. And so I'm going to be working on that and then I like I said, I don't know what I'm going to be doing here. busy. I don't I'm going to keep myself busy doing things I'm not sure how it's gonna go. It's It's my mind is like, do I set up a whole plan of all of these art projects that we're going to get done? Do I cook like so many meals? I haven't decided which things I want to be busy doing. I know. I'm going to figure out how to be busy though. Oh, yeah, yeah, I think we all figure that out really easily, don't we? Yeah, yes. What about you, Misty? Oh, how to how to figure out how to not be busy. Well, what about the kids? What are they doing and shifting through right now? How are they? How are they still on spring break. So they really are, and Burnsville has not figured out what they're doing yet. They're trying Monday, we're supposed to pick up Chromebooks for those who don't have access to social media or like tablets or internet and that type of thing. So we're we're just waiting for them to give us more direction. Right now they're just having a free for all to be honest with you. They're playing video games are eating all the snacks you know that a house in the home that have a 12 year old and a 17 year old boy and then a seven year old stepdaughter so she's here this weekend hanging out with us and that's really cool because normally we don't get to have her all weekend we only get to have our own Sundays and one one night during the week so this will be some extra time we can all spend with her too. Also, I just signed up enough to do the snap ology Lego daily challenge. You seen those but so he made the pirate ship today with his Lego so those are things trying to keep him busy, but they're bored already. I think. Yeah. Well Janet, you're kind of like me, you you've kind of moved on from the little kids at home but you also have grandkids that are around and I know I know Alyssa was doing homeschooling so but Alyssa is also expecting to So that's how I'm a baby in about eight weeks. Yeah, so you're gonna be probably doing some pitch hitting won't Yeah. So yeah, it's it's that new that grandma role which I have adult children, that's still the mean, which I can totally relate to. which is way, way more than I thought it would ever be. It's kind of interesting, but I will say it's just a blessing to have grandkids and we're expecting a new baby boy and I've been able to hear somebody come in here now that I'm talking about these grandkids. And I'm surprised they haven't come in yet. Honestly, I am too hot. And so I don't know. We're finding new things to do. I'm, I'm stealing all the ideas on Facebook and people are putting so many amazing ideas out there. We're doing all that we're just praying for some warm weather. So we can kind of get outside here in Kansas. It's still really cold. We have one nice day and then we have three or four bad days. So I'm waiting for that. But I think getting outside helps you guys. We're not we can get outside, we're allowed to go outside. It's like you can't get outside. I think sort of everybody doing the electronics, take a walk, do something get outside, it's healthy and mentally. And I know one of the small towns here, they were putting the bear the stuffed bears in the windows so that people could go around and find the bears the little kids, find the bears. But find something to do, you know, go on a scavenger hunt, and give them a list of things to go outside. outside. Is that your best bet for a while even if it's cold go outside. I mean, that's, we've missed having our kids outside, they're in school all day. You know, they go do things all day. Now you have an opportunity to kind of reset, like kimsey word, you know, reset, it was a reset, that we use that restart. We said, yeah. Yeah, we had to reset after 911 and we survived all that economically. And we you know, we lost a A lot of stuff after 911 My husband was a pilot that got, you know, furloughed and, you know, this too will all pass but go outside. I mean, family wise, mentally wise, you know, do something outside and you know, the sunshine is good for you the virus dies at 180 degrees I don't know. Right? It's vitamin D and vitamin C are anti viral and so mentally get out some put it on your list to go outside every day and take a walk, do what you have to do, but get them outside. I think it's important. Well, part of the arts and crafts Mike's doing is I bought a boat last summer that's my boat. It's not his boat. It's my boat. It's it can be ours but it's my boat. And so he was just doing some of the last minute touches to make sure it was boat ready because that's one thing we can do. We can go out on the lake we can go in that's socially distances you from quite a few people just being out on the lake. One of the other things that I'm glad you brought up the 911 thing because I've been thinking a lot about that this week. You know, there's a our kids Janet's and my kids and they see you've got one up there too. They were born. And they were in school when 911 happened, you know, so they, Janet and I have children that serve in our country and And me too. I'm a part of a military moms group that has paratroopers that are coming back to the states that are going straight into quarantine. They're not getting the big welcome home. They're not getting all of the pomp and circumstance that goes on with that they're going here's a tent and they're like, I just came from a tent. So the ones that go through the tent, they they're, they're putting them into isolation, barracks and things like that. But you know, Cody, my son is supposed To be leaving the country at some point this week, I was supposed to be in Orlando from Friday until this following this coming Friday, from last Friday till this coming Friday. And then I was going over to spend time with Cody at his duty station before he left the country for six months. And so I had to change tickets. And as I'm changing the tickets, I'm already having the emotions well up about 911. I came out of nowhere. And when the when the planes stopped flying, I didn't sleep for those three days. Because I was I've grown up in ulis. I'm so used to hearing the planes fly, that when the planes weren't flying, it was eerily deafening to me. Yeah, so when the first pilot took off from DFW Airport, I was one of them out there with the guy that had the big American flag and we were listening to the air traffic controllers, talk to the pilots and send them off. And, and so we knew when that happened that our world was forever changed. And we're already we've we immediately saw changes in how security was done and how things were handled security on the cockpit doors, TSA, all of that immediately changed. And one of my friends that's a writer and manages a lot of freelance writers for Thomas Nelson publishing, put out a suggestion the other day to start making notes of the things that you see that may be changing. And I thought that was a really good thing. So in the industry, you're in, in the in your child's life, what was something that was so normal, a week, a month last year, that is either not going to be around or something abnormal. Moving forward, we've been talking about putting Chromebooks and students hands in every student having a laptop or a tablet for years. And it takes a crisis like this to realize that we should have stopped talking about it and just done it. You know, so what does that look like? What are some of the things? I'm going to throw out? One of the things that I thought that I've already thought of with universal pushing movies straight to DVD, I mean, not DVD but DVR, straight to the streaming services, there may not be a major need for theaters anymore. Big Box theaters, wow. At least a drastically reduced number of them. So what's something that you can look at that you're looking at now and you can start thinking maybe it's going to shift medical supplies. Right now China makes most of our medical supplies and I was told by someone who their company, she's a salesperson for the company that that supplies hospitals. And before like, she was telling me Probably, I don't know, a month and a half two months ago. Make sure you buy all the needles that you're going to need for the next year by all the gloves you're going to need for the next year. She said, we're not even telling our hospitals this yet. But there's one ship coming from China right now full of medical supplies, and that's the last one for a while. She said it, it's going to be changed for an entire year. And because they're not working, they're not able to work. They're not making medical supplies. And so now we see here, we are incredibly dependent on China. medical supplies also they they do a lot of our medication too. They do a lot of our What is it called? The one that is not the brand name. Generic Jay did a lot of our generics. And we might run out of certain medications because they do a lot of our generics. They make most of our Tylenol Not the time, like the generic Tylenol, they make most of our generic generic Tylenol. So what I see 85% of her antibiotics, right? So like, we change that, hopefully we change it, we learned the hard lesson and we change it now, well, then I was thinking ramp up, you know, we just ramp up and we do what we do. You know, hopefully that's gonna happen. Well, and we the, the other issue is, are we willing to pay more for it, because the labor in China is much cheaper. And if we make it here, we're going to have to pay our workers enough. So that we can, it will have to pay a little bit more for it because we have to pay our workers so that they can live in the United States. So that's an issue. But I think that we were as a country, we're going to have to look at all the things that were dependent on other countries, and we're going to have to see what we can do to not have this happen to us again. Yeah, Misty Kim. What do y'all have to say? Something that Scott and I were talking about is how, like we had never done online grocery shopping. Like you know, I buy stuff from Amazon but I'm talking about like, ordering your food from like imperfect foods calm or like ordering all your meat from Purdue farms.com like changing the way you grocery shop like we have had, cuz I'm immunocompromised and it's not good for us to get out at all. I'm in that super, super crazy high risk group. So we've been having delivery, delivering all our groceries and like today, we got an email from one service saying that they've had to suspend new members because they're so overloaded right now with new people and I'm thinking wow, this this could come pletely change the grocery store industry because we're so used to going out to the grocery store to get stuff and how many of us will come to realize that we like having stuff delivered on Friday because I go so far, I think it's great. It's not much more money than you know, going to the grocery store. And it's super convenient to order your groceries over three days, and then wham, it shows up at your door. So that was one thing we really thought about how this could really just be a societal change of just like people ordering groceries online, and then maybe there won't be a storefront on every corner the way you see now. Yeah, I think Walmart pickup is the best thing ever invented. Yeah, I love it. Well, like even before, if you haven't done that you need to start. No way. Don't Well in our neighborhood, we live in a older established neighborhood. And it was built when the in the 60s when people were coming in building the airport here, so a lot of pilots and air traffic controllers and things live in our neighborhood. And on our street. There's like three of us that are new newly to the neighborhood. The rest are all original homeowners. So it's it's an older generation and older demographic. And they've kind of gotten into the Facebook group and mastered that Facebook group but some of them are starting to get out there and master that online ordering. It's challenging them to be technology savvy right now. But the beautiful part is is those that are younger in the neighborhood that are going to the stores will say, I'm going to go to the store on Friday. If you have a pickup, put my name down, I'll pick it up for you still keeping some of our older neighborhood neighbors from going out into getting getting out and Not being where they don't need to be so it's really interesting then you talked about the bear thing the other day while ago we did the Shamrock challenge in our neighborhood for a scavenger hunt. And then we we started seeing the kids doing the chalk art out on the on the driveways sending positive messages to people. So you know, it's it's finding different things. Missy What do you think about you anything you can think of that shifting or changing that? Well, I see to like two sides of it, you know, you see the people that are kind of going crazy and taking advantage of the situation but then I also see more people being kind and you know, thinking of others before themselves and like the you know, compromised or the older people that they can they can help them you know, and even yesterday I had made a video on Facebook just letting everybody know I had to close down and you know that we'll be back and and you know Kind of reassuring them, but I got more reassurance for myself is like yes, you will be back and you're going to be stronger than ever. So just that support of people is just pretty amazing. I really have found that and I think it was always there but people are so busy. Yeah, that we don't take the time to share that stuff. So good, positive, that's a good positive thing. You know, if we just come back together, we were divided in a nation, maybe we'll come back together a little bit more. Seems like in times of crisis, that's what we do. Right? And I'm just do you remember after 911? After how, one day, the next day everyone had a flag out? Right? Everyone had a flag out, come together. Everyone was coming together. And maybe that's what is gonna happen right now. Because I'm seeing a lot of people want to do things for others more than ever. Well, and we're seeing we're seeing bipartisanship. up like we've never seen since 99. I mean, we're seeing a lot of things. They may not agree on a lot of the other things still, but they're putting that to the side, they're pushing all that to the side to be able to take care of a nation right now. And the the beautiful part is what I'm seeing on social media is, like you said, people are sharing positive encouraging messages to people. Especially when they see that they've got the resiliency to come back. You know, there's, there's, there's a few people that I know of that have gotten on Facebook and light of messages of what's happening in their area and stuff. And they're blasting you know, and you can tell they're angry and they're bitter and they're in there getting all it'll be okay or it's happening to everybody. You know, you're not in this alone and they're they're getting better back. It's, I guess the beauty thing I want to remind people is in times of crisis is when your squeeze I can't remember if john said or one of the other people said that the virtual thing that I shared with you all today, those sessions with john, he allowed us to share publicly. But behind that we've got all the other trainers that are part of the organization doing live videos with us all day long for the next three days. So I've been watching a bunch of videos live this week. But one of the things I said is when you're squeezed in a time of crisis, what's inside of you is going to come out and so you're getting on and good or bad. Yeah, good or bad. It's coming out. And the What are you made of? Are you made of a I'm defeated? This happened to me mentality Are you made of a you know, pull your bootstraps up Rosie the Riveter we can do it type mentality. And, you know, I'm a Rosie the Riveter lover. So yeah. You know, I'm one of those that I don't think this happens to us. I think we find ways to reinvent ourselves in and reestablish ourselves and we find times during this time to, to be leaders in that dark world we shine that light, we say, you know, you may not feel like you've got a safe place to go. I've got a wing right here. You can take shelter here and bit here a little bit. I'm going to push you out of this nest because you are going to fly even if you have to grow your wings on the way down. You are going to fly you know. And that's, that's what I get from the strong women. I surround myself and all four of you are the strong women I've surrounded myself. Janet has said it to me before there was tell somebody, what was it a while back. The when the twins were born, they just turned what six, so six years ago, I was kinda in the middle of it. I was Sleepless in Seattle or Bedford or her Wherever I was, I was, you know, brain numb. And I think Kim might be able to relate to this a little bit to it. I didn't know enough to reach out and ask for help at that time, because I was just doing what was in front of me. Yeah. And Janet said, you know, I've told she told me flat, because I've told you before, and I'll tell you again, all you have to do is ask for help, and help will be there. But I was still in my own mind of will these people relying on me, so I have to be the stopping point. I'm not the stopping point. I'm a flow through point. Yeah, that's good. We have to be reminded that we are a flow through point of the Holy Spirit of our love of what we fill ourselves with so that we can flow out to those that we are feeding and and loving and nurturing. And we can't nurture something if we are not in a nurturing mindset. It's so I used to imagine that A bunch of people that walk around those little squeezy stress balls, eyes and the ears pop. Like everybody is this Yeah. Yeah, you know, even me, I know I I've touched him with cam quite a bit right when she first got home I went and spent days there and stuff like that. But then even this week I went, Oh my god, it's been a week since we've texted What is going on? Why has she not reached out to me? Is everything okay? And her well, why haven't we gone to? Lee? I'm like, Okay, first off, am I being a bad friend? Am I this? Yeah. But I have to put all those negative things are behind and not say Well, I didn't talk to her this past week. She's probably mad at me because then those mental games will play and then you won't reach out and then you're emotionally distancing and isolating. And they're over there. Just going. No, thanks. It's been good. I was wondering where you're at. I just knew you'd circle around when you weren't busy again. And I was here like, Oh, well. How many I know I'm not the only one that has ever done this? Because I have heard other women tell me this. So, um, you know, as we're talking through some of the some of these, you know, I want to start looking at what are some of the best you have seen in people through this. This scenario, we talked a little bit about how our jobs are changing through all of this already. But you know, what, what are some of the best the most positive things that you've seen in people? Through this? We were What was it? Stacy, we were on a call the other day for the leadership alumni. And, you know, we've got some people on our steering committee who were on the front lines of this and they're just exhausted, right? When they're being told and I'm not saying who they are, where they're from, but when they're being told to pack a bag to bring to work because they don't know if they'll be able to go home. Right. You know, And this is just the beginning of what we're expecting to be a bigger surge and you know, so you know, what are some ways that you could you see positive coming out of it? I know there's other people that are what is it one groups donating every you can go on and put your beer order in. But if you put throw in an extra beer, a four pack or a six pack to your order and donate it to the Fort Bragg soldiers that are coming. That's hilarious. I'm like, okay, that's funny. But you know, what, what are some? What are some of the other things that you you're seeing and hearing? One of the one of the things that I thought was awesome, is we talked about it earlier is when our leadership htb, pivoted, and decided that they wanted to start a group to help the HIV community by posting the things that are most needed. And nobody told them they had to do that. Nobody told them that since their event was called closed down that they had to pivot, they just made a choice. And that's what happens whenever you start building leaders is they lead and that's what they did. So the first thing that I did when I was probably the seventh person invited in the group, and if you guys don't know, I am the, the sponsor of that group. So yes, I am the sponsor of leadership. So she's, she's a black, so I'm like, no, no. So I'm like, when I when I look at it, when I see them doing such great things, I get very excited because I'm invested into it right now. I get so excited about creating leaders and when whenever I get to help, and this is what they decide to do, I'm excited. So I was like, almost in tears, like, Oh, my God, look what, look what they're doing. And I immediately started texting. Rochelle Ross, who is the steering committee leader and said, Oh my god, do you see what they're doing? Like, this is great. Do you see What your Do you see what your what your teaching is making happen in our community? So that that's one of the biggest things that I've seen. And, you know, the last time I looked, I don't know how many people you have in the group now, but there was almost 1000 people in the group when I was blessed. Let me check Where's like under there was like, yeah, there was one I was looking it up 1.4. Okay, so what I mean, that's awesome. All of these people that all live in the HDB area, are able to look and they haven't categorized it into sections. So you can see restaurants you can see this you can see where you can get food, if you don't have food. You can see what food pantries are still are still giving you food. I mean, I just thought that that was so awesome. So that was one of the great things and if you look at the feeds inside the group, people that know nothing of what hcb leadership is are talking discussing. I invited one of my clients to the group who's been living in hers for like 30 years and she was very She posted something and she she got into message. Did you see how great my posts and to see all the people that were? So I mean, it's bringing people together. I thought that that was really awesome. And then and then I also see, like everyone is really trying to go to these mom and pop restaurants and buy food to go local. So I really love that I'm doing it also. But I think that that's great. Those are the things that I've noticed. Yeah. Here's another thing. You know, there's a lot of us who have diabetes, there's a lot of us who have high blood pressure. There's a lot of us who have asthma, those underlying health conditions that make getting the corona virus, you know, more dangerous for, you know, it's going to be more than a cold it could go wonky real quick. So what I've seen is just even after two months of friends and church ladies and just people rallying around my family through the heart stuff you know we didn't want for a meal for about eight weeks. Um we had more food and we knew what to do with we had friends cleaning our house take down our Christmas decorations. I mean you name it it was we had handyman come over and help Scott with cocking a tub. I mean, just you name it, it was done. And those same people now who know that I'm immunocompromised are texting me. Hey, I'm going to Costco. Hey, I have a friend run into Sam's Can I drop food off at your front door. So I just think seeing how humans are so generous. And kind and sweet and people are sending me, you know, we're still sending you extra prayers during this time. Just even that is just so touching and and you know, it just got me thinking, How can I reach out no knowing I'm stuck at home so now I'm with food delivery service. I've texted my neighbors and I'm like, Hey, we're having food delivered on Friday. I'm placing an order this day. Do you guys need me to order you guys anything so trying to help in the way I can. But just if you're able and be mindful of your friends who might be having to isolate more that just even going to a grocery store puts them at risk, right? Because I can't really leave the house at this point then, you know, my husband is stuck and because if he goes out and gets it and brings it in. So being mindful of the immuno compromised and how just if you're going to the store check in, or if a neighbor has run out of toilet paper or needs eggs, be willing to go put it at their front door, just be mindful of that stuff. And I've just seen it in spades more than I can even say, we have felt so blessed and just seeing God's goodness through human beings in such ways I never expected over these last couple of months. Well, and that goes back to those boxes that you're putting out to missing because you know, there's some people that may never ask for help or want to go to a place and get help but that they can go open that box nonchalantly get out what they need are, you know, I had somebody what say, Well, I only had some beans. So I went and put the beans in the box and I grabbed the the whatever Else it was that they needed, you know, and I was like, well, that's awesome that that what you needed was in that box, you know, and maybe somebody else needed those beans, you know. So finding a way to love on people where they're at, you know, with whatever skills or talents you have. Janet, I'm gonna come to you next, but I'm going to preface it with this because on Monday, we were hearing a lot of people, Mike's one of Mike's friends from high school took one of those blue rolls of paper towels, and he is he makes knives, homemade knives. And so he cut one of those rolls in half and he goes, look, I'm making toilet paper, you know? And Mike's like, Yeah, go ahead and do that. Because, you know, once they start flushing that down the drains it's

Fresh out of business college and a yearning desire to be an entrepreneur, Joseph Reyes sought a life of more than being confined to a 9-5 corporate position. He knew from his drive and high ambitions that he wanted to start involving himself in real estate - he just needed to start on the path to get there. From working in the restaurant business and as an Uber driver, Joseph temporarily took unconventional jobs that he knew would work around his schedule to spend his spare time on educating himself in the real estate wholesale business and looking for his first deal. Ultimately, through cold calling, driving for dollars and perseverance, Joseph came across his first deal and with the assistance of Don, was able to drastically change his life. Today, Joseph is one of Don’s most successful students and they have managed to generate over 90k worth of assignments in the past three months together. On this episode of Multifamily Real Estate Investments with Don and Eden, Joseph shares his ability to generate solid leads through driving for dollars, cold calling, Don’s ability to guide him through the steps and use his connections to find cash buyers for his deals. Joseph also discusses with Don, the importance of having a mentor and why you should partner up with local established players when you are at the beginning of anything you're going to do in real estate if it's wholesale or if it's real estate syndication and multi-family. Highlights:  Joseph’s Beginnings in Real Estate Wholesale  How Joseph and Don Crossed Paths Why You Need A Mentor  How to Pick the Right Mentor  Current Projects- 5 Year Outlook    Connect with Joseph #: 954-940-2366 jhreyes1@gmail.com    ---------------------------------------------------------- TRANSCRIPTION: Hello everybody. Welcome to the show. Today's episode is going to be a little bit different. I have Joseph Reyes here with me. Joseph is one of my students in my local market here in South Florida. And I've been teaching him the secrets of real estate wholesale which I'm still very much active in today despite being involved in commercial real estate and syndications. Joseph is one of my most successful students and we have managed to generate over ninety thousand worth of assignments in the past three months together. And the reason we've been successful is Joseph's ability to generate solid leads through driving for dollars and cold calling and our ability to guide him through the steps and use our connections to find cash buyers for his deals. So it's critical to be able to partner up with local established players when you are at the beginning of anything you're going to do in real estate if it's risky at wholesale or if it's real estate syndication and multi-family. So let's welcome Joseph to the show. Welcome to the Real Estate Investing podcast with Don and Eden where we cover all aspects of real estate investing with special attention to multi-family apartment buildings and off-market strategies. Hello, Joseph, I'm so happy to have you here. Welcome to the show. I appreciate you having me on. Thank you. Of course of course. Well, you deserve it. If there's anyone that deserves it, it's probably you. So tell us a little bit about your day and what you've been doing today? Today I have been cold calling driving for dollar leads and doing follow-ups, always grinding - so let me ask you this. We have obviously had a relationship and we know each other very well for our audience. Tell us a little bit about your background and when did you decide to get into real estate. So I was a finance major at the University of Florida. I was doing really well. I had my dreams of working in hedge funds and corporate America and just financial services. And after I graduated I was looking for that nice corporate gig. Kind of gets my foot in the door. Finally got a corporate gig and I was getting paid pretty well for about two years. It was really cool living, but I wasn't satisfied because I was locked into a kind of a 9 am to 7 pm role. And it was just daunting and I had to be somewhere from 9 to 7 Monday to Friday. It really annoyed me. Ultimately that company kind of tanked and I got laid off. So I was in a position where I was thinking of my next step in life and I was kind of assessing where I want to go. And I know I wanted to make a lot of money in my lifetime and I wanted to be an entrepreneur and I didn't really want to work for someone. So with that mindset, I always had in the back of my mind passive income and the concept of passive income really intrigued me and I took out a couple of real estate books to kind of educate myself on what real estate is and the whole business. And it ultimately led me to a different seminars and trainings which taught me the concept of wholesaling and wholesaling really allowed me to kind of say hey I can make money in real estate without utilizing a lot of capital because my previous knowledge which was just ignorance lack of knowledge was only thought you could fix and flip or buy and hold. I don't know about this concept so then I started kind of going on Bigger Pocket forums and doing a lot of researching to understand this process. A lot of YouTube education and then I ultimately got my first deal and then that kind of just enlightened me and opened my eyes to OK this is a thing and then I just did more research on it. And that's pretty much all it is. Ok, so we're going to talk about that first deal soon enough. But first I want to talk about a few things you mentioned. So you had a job in a corporate office and I know you and I know how talented and how motivated you are. And so that is something that I want to talk about with our audience because a lot of people don't understand that you could be the strongest smartest person ever right, but then you could get laid off for whatever reason you know your boss and you don’t get along and you know nobody had faith in you or you maybe you were not doing your job right because you were not satisfied with your position that the amount of money you were making. And so that's exactly the disadvantage of doing the corporate gig which you know is sort of the American dream like you know to go to study, go to college, have a degree, you know to apply for a job, get a job to have a career and so on. But what happens if you get laid off all of a sudden and you have a mortgage and kids and family and people that you've got to support then what happens? And so that is something that you discussed and it's so nice yet sad to hear you know that from somebody like you that I know who you are and the things you know how to do. On one hand, it's amazing to hear that you've got out of it and that now you're doing so well in real estate as a real estate investor. But on the other hand, it's kind of saddens me to know that there are so many people in that position that feel miserable and unhappy about their life and they're not changing it. So I want to ask about that. When was the moment that you decided that you're no longer going to try to get back into the corporate gig and that you know you're going to get into real estate? Tell me more about that moment specifically. I mean so in the back of my mind I just always had the thought process of passive income the ability to sleep at night and still make money always resonated with me and I know I couldn't do that with a corporate job. So I was exploring the financial markets I was exploring real estate different concepts that I can utilize without having so much capital. I explored business ownership, but I had no business ideas and I thought about the unconventional lifestyles like entertainment there's a lot of people that make money on Instagram and on platforms like Snapchat or Vine and stuff like that just unconventional professions in the world. But ultimately when I went to a training seminar like a workshop I would say that introduced the concept of wholesaling no money down, no credit, being able to assign contracts and double close on contracts that really piqued my interest. And the overall concept of it allowed me to say hey let me do a couple of these deals and kind of go into a position where I build capital and I can establish some type of like a rental for. Ok. So you’ve learned that at a seminar. People talked about risk and also that's the first time we heard about this. First time I heard about wholesaling at a seminar I never knew there was okay. And then when you heard about it what was the amount of money you thought an assignment would be? I would say like to build between 3000, 10000 or 15000 if you go to probably on a contract that's typically what the assignment fee is. And that's what was being kind of explained to individuals and that's what they always say see. And so I want to talk about this so I thought when I got into real estate I thought that an assignment fee is 5000 -10000. But we all know that we know better than that right now. I mean I do 5000 and 10000 assignments. And after what you've seen and the deals that we've done together I guess you would also get used to something else. So for me just you know a typical assignment for me is 40,000-50,000 that's what I'm trying to make in a wholesale deal. And it is possible if you do it in the right market and you have the right system and the right technique. So the first thing that I want to ask you about your first deal. Tell us a little bit about how much money you made? How did you find it and what was the assignment over there? So that particular deal was an interesting one. I was driving in the City of Lauderhill and I came across a 15 unit boarded up an abandoned apartment building. I looked up who the owner was on the tax records and the property appraiser and I saw that the owner was a church. So then I looked up the church to see who kind of oversaw like properties that this church owned because they owned several. When I looked them up through the tax records. So I finally got a hold of calling numerous numbers got a hold of somebody that said hey this is the gentleman you speak to about our properties spoke to him and he was like hey we don't want to sell that apartment. We have plans to do something with it but we do want to sell this three unit triplex down the street and then I ultimately got into a conversation with him on what the price he wants, over rental details, what was taken for rent, who pays for what from tenant and landlord. So I got this information now and this is when I'm just really learning the game and I'm googling like a lot of terms that he was utilizing so ultimately I got that property locked up and I found a buyer. I had cold-called landlords to see if they wanted any deals and got the permanent contract for two o’ nine sold it to him twenty-nine and he gave me twenty thousand maybe ninety thousand - wow I could make more than five thousand I got about twenty thousand and one deal and that was their first deal and that's exactly what happened to me in my first deal when I had my first day it was about forty-five thousand and I was shocked. I was like wow that's a life changer. And I bet twenty thousand.  How much time did it take to do that deal specifically? From the time the first contact to closing, I would say 60 days like the first time I saw a gentleman when we closed about 60 so some people don't make twenty thousand in a year. And then you may twenty thousand which just pure profit and sixty days. Yeah, most of the time was because of there's a lot of levels to a church-owned property that I had to find out through a title company. Multiple people needed to sign multiple documents and that was really the main holdup. But getting the prior getting the property and a contract signed by the church and then signing it took like 20 days. It was a process of getting all documents needed to close on it from everybody involved in the church. That's the most time. Ok. So let's talk about that moment. You drove by that 15 unit you said right. Was a 15 Unit and so you say that 15 unit -  what caught your eye? What was the moment you said ‘This is interesting I want to figure that out.’ So it was 3 p.m. It was an empty parking lot the grass was high every single window was boarded up. There were signs of light just wear and tear on their apartment building buildings as I hope this is interesting. So I just took down the address and then as I finished my day just went home and looked up or kind of put everything on an Excel spreadsheet of all the properties I found. And this was the unique one because of its situation and I know properties that had so many units can be such huge deals. And it was owned by a church. So that really sparked my interest I merely used a search engine looked up how can I get in touch with the people that own this and I mean that was a whole mindset. Yeah well, that's amazing because that's really you know thinking outside the box. I mean I have never done a deal like that and I've been doing a lot of deals you know and I've been doing that for a long time but I've never done a deal like that something that's owned by a church. You know I've got to the church and then spoke with the people in charge and then got a different deal from that from the church. That's ridiculous. But it's amazing. So right after that deal, you made 20000 now. When was the time that you decided that you know you want to focus on that only on that? And you know what was the next step for you. So it's crazy I got laid off from my job I was like “Man I hate working for people I don’t want another 9-5.” Even though I was sending in a lot of applications I had work experience and educational background. So I was doing Uber and Lyft for a long time I had to kind of be disciplined and set a schedule. I got kind of annoyed and I did have a restaurant background so the restaurant gave me the flexibility to work there to pay my current expenses. And at the same time allow me to do things like the drive for dollars or find for sale by owner or just learn the business as a whole and really needed to free up my time and if a 9-5 allowed me to do that because at a 9 to 7 I had to do someone else's work. And so once I got to 20000 it was kind of paying off a lot of the loan debt that I had incurred but then I used some of the money to reinvest in the business which to me was cold calling I send a few postcards out but I wasn't really following up doing that. And the postcards like 38 cents a postcard. So I was like let me just cold call people and knock on doors. I did a lot of door knocking in 2018. Got a lot of rejection a lot of the ‘get off my yard get out’ and ‘get off my property’. Yeah - I learned a lot from that. So through the combination of door knocking through a combination of cold calling people sending out a few postcards here and there I was able to do some more deals free up my time and just learn the business overall and kind of put like systems in place to further scale. Ok so then was that the part where you met me. Yeah. And we started doing business together. So I can't remember exactly what happened there but I remember that I was at the gym. I was working out. So you call me when I was at the gym and you talked to me about this deal that you had in Pompano Beach which is an area that I really like. I've done a lot of deals over there and I know this area very well. So you were talking to me about this deal and then what was the case you had it under contract or didn't you. I didn't have it so I felt this seller was an interesting guy. Yeah. So it was interesting I lead, this particular lead had an auction date. So I was like man she must be really motivated. So the house is a vacant property. Then I had to look up I didn't get a hold of this person. So the property address and mailing address were the same on the tax records. So I had no idea how to find her. Got a number of the property owner and she was like literally be at my house in two hours. She spoke a little bit about the situation and got into the condition of the property. Ultimately, we were having issues with price and that was pretty much like a stop right there. So a couple of days I followed up with her against the notion of timeline with an auction date and when did I get into the picture. So I'm thinking this lady is so motivated to sell I eventually got her to a price that was 51 cents on the dollar which I thought was a good deal. I gave her at the time I had a two-page contract that I utilized. She reviewed and she said ok. Give me the weekend to think about it and just follow up with me on Monday because we had a conversation on Saturday when I had finally met up with her at the property. So I gave her a call on Monday. This is all speculation. So through the speculation period, I was looking for a cash buyer. Thinking like Hey she's going to sign in on Monday I'm going to get a contract. I hadn't signed on the cash buyer and I gave him a call. I was like Hey I'm going to sell a property in Pompano Beach. OK, that's all I want to say something about that. So that's why it's always important to tell people that you're doing real estate always on my end. Right. I was always giving out my business card to everybody and I would always say hey I'm a cash buyer. I buy houses. And then one of my business cards. I never remembered even meeting Joseph and one of my business cards got to him. And then he had my number. And then he gave me a call when he had a deal on Pompano Beach and I remember that deal. It did not have it on the contract but I remember that it was interesting to me because it was for the right price. I don't like as a wholesaler. I don't like doing deals that are small. I think it's too much work. I think it's a lot of work to make five thousand dollars. You know I'm not. I'm in the business of making 5000 but I would prefer to make forty thousand on a deal. And I know yeah, of course, I wouldn't. Who wouldn't? But when I looked at a deal and or somebody shows me a deal and it's 60 cents on the dollar then I'm very interested and so I remember with Joseph calling me and I was interested because the deal was it was right at the numbers. They looked right. So I told him I don't know if you have it under contract or not, but let's just meet. So we met what the day after or two days after it was a little both. So we met and then I remember that I've seen this guy that is very motivated and a very young man. How old are you, Joseph? I'm 29. So very young and very motivated and wants to succeed. And you know he's already talking to sellers but he's not really super educated about the business itself. But I did see the potential so we started working together and we started that you know teaching each other thing right of course. I was doing real estate for about five years at the time. And so I had a lot more knowledge but I was learning stuff from Joseph too. He had his own ways of getting leads and doing marketing. And he was driving for dollars which I always appreciate people that drive for dollars because that's not easy but it's very very profitable if you get a good lead because it's going to be a solid lead if you get it. If you're going to drive with that lead then that's to be your lead you're going to have not a whole lot of competition. So the price doesn't go up. And so that's the potential that I saw in the relationship with Joseph. And so we started working out these leads together and so he would drive for dollars and whenever he would need something or you know wanted to figure out how to do comps and this one property what it's worth how to talk to the seller how to work the lead how to follow up and stuff like that the fundamentals of the business. I remember the first thing I told you is that you're very smart you're very motivated, but you're missing the fundamentals of wholesale and lack understanding how to do a contract. And so I think it was about two weeks after that he came over with a contract in his hand and that contract was very interesting it was like a two-page document. Yeah, a two-page document from Google. Completely not an enforceable contract. So if the seller will decide it back out when the deal would be lost. And so the deal is good. What was the number there? It was eighty-eight thousand sixty thousand. Yeah. It was sixty thousand the property was worth we sold it for I think, thirty-five thousand more. So we sold it. The profit there was thirty-seven thousand five hundred. So that was our first deal together. So the deal was good, but the contract wasn't it. So we decided to start working together and teaching Joseph the fundamentals because it was a win-win situation and typically I charge for mentorship, but in this case I realized that the potential was so good and he had a deal in his hand that I decided not to charge him and to just walk on a partnership basis. And this is how I'm going to make money on that relationship which is going to be beneficial for both of us. So now that we've been doing some business in the past few months we've been doing a lot of business together. What would you say that you learned from our relationship? How did our relationship benefit? I mean honestly the structure of the business systems of the business understanding I guess terms of the business, having the opportunity to talk to Sellers and being instructed on what to say to sellers. But overall just what was previously discussed which are like the fundamentals, the techniques, the technical aspect knowing like hey this contract is unenforceable. Hey, this is what you need to do. Hey, this is how you do this. This how you do this is just further increase my knowledge in the overall business. So kind of having somebody to hold your hand to like hey this how you do this is how you do that has been like the most beneficial aspect of the relationship. So what would you suggest for somebody that's trying to get into real estate or real estate wholesale? What would you suggest about a mentor that they should they be looking for?  Definitely. A mentor that's proactive like active in the business versus a mentor that is not doing deals at all. So that they in the business can tell you like a wide range of things and they have the experience to say hey this is going to be an issue or there's going to be a problem or this is going to decide you should work on this particular thing. So the mentor is proactive in the business. That's I guess the most positive benefit from the relationship and just also somebody that can just guide you through various processes because you want to be alone because I mean this is action taking the business. So we are there taking action you are feeling or you're making mistakes and you kind of need to mitigate those mistakes by having somebody say ‘Hey man I've done all these deals I've done all these transactions this is how you should do this to avoid making further mistakes down the road.’ Exactly. I didn't take a mentor when I started and it took me about a year to make my first deal and everything I learned on my own and it was difficult. It wasn't easy and I think looking backward if I took a mentor then I would learn the things that that I've learned so much faster and at this point right now where I am. I would have more money. It's as simple as that. And so I think yeah you're right about finding a mentor that is proactive because a lot of people are trying to mentor other students and they have the knowledge but they're not doing it. And when they're not doing it then even if they have the knowledge of how to do with say wholesale or how to do us and investing then there is still you know at the past because they used to do it but they're not doing it anymore so they don't know about all the things that are new. They don't know about the improvements, the new services, the new ways of marketing, you know, the new regulations everything. They just don't know it. And when you're active then the benefits you get from a mentor is that you could do business together. So, for instance, Joseph's brother he found a dealer in Orlando right. And we are based in South Florida. So Fort Lauderdale - Miami area and so he found a dealer in Orlando and we got a deal because of our connections in Florida. We were able to close on a deal and sell it for 40000 more. That's the benefits of working with somebody who is active because I know investors in different areas of the state because I'm still investing and so any other mentor that you choose to guide you in the process of real estate make sure they're doing business because if they're not doing business and they're just not in the game and I'm making it and they can't overcome struggles when they need to be creative because finding a buyer and a market that's not our market. It's not easy. You know you've got to look carefully you've got to talk to people you know you've got to use your connections to be able to do that. And so we were able to do that because we're so active and that's a great point. I like it a lot. And so what's your plans for the future as far as real estate? Where do you want to be in five years? In five years is just a really build a tremendous rental portfolio. So that's in the residential side of the commercial. That'll be fantastic. Land development is something of curiosity to me as well wholesaling I think a wholesaling business just a fantastic amazing business model to make the amount of money you can make without having so much risk involved and how fast you can do things as compared to a fixed and flip who needs to kind of get a property and then it's a project and timeline involved versus a wholesale so you get a permanent contract today and sell in 10 business days. So I'm just increasing capital to get a rental portfolio and then just retiring. Yeah. You make money out of thin air. You see so in real estate wholesale you make money out of thin air whereas in a flip you have to invest money you have to put money down. You have to buy a house or take a hard money loan. And that is basically assuming the risk and it takes a lot more time. So yeah you can flip a house and you're going to be making a little bit more than what you would if you wholesale the property but you'd be investing more time and your time is so valuable. There’s an old saying “A fast nickel beats a slow dime.” In wholesale, you make fast nickels, but you make a lot of them. You’re not taking a risk. You’re not really putting your money down, you’re only putting a deposit.  If you're doing things right. You have 15 days to go to retrieve if you cannot find a buyer. Right. So, of course, you've got to be able to be on top of things. You can't lose track of your contracts and whatever you've got that's open. But if you do things right you can make money out of thin air. You can make money from nothing from not investing in properties not from putting money down which is terrific. And also the other advantage I was just talking to you about this before when we were at coffee right before this interview. The other advantage of wholesale is that you see Joseph here is of course still at the beginning of his real estate career. You've been doing this for one year? Yeah. So in the first year, you're going through so much adversity and you're just it's like it's you against the whole world. Right. I didn't make any money my first year. So the goal. Ultimately, is what you said to hold a lot of properties. That's the goal you want to make the passive income you want to make money without working so that your time is free and you can be with your family or kids or whatever it is you want to do with your time. So the thing is that when you are in real estate wholesale in residential and in commercial you're getting access to deals all the time. So the deal comes to you. And then if you've made one hundred thousand in real estate wholesale and now you want to buy a house so you could hold it then your hundred thousand that you made in real estate wholesale would buy you much more than somebody that made one hundred thousand in retail. So like if they're let's say somebody is working in the retail industry or somebody is working at something else and or in restaurants and they made one hundred thousand and I made one hundred thousand since I have access to deals that are coming my way at 50, 60, 70 cents on the dollar then my hundred thousand is able to buy two properties that are worth a hundred thousand. So essentially my money buys me more. So I'm getting rich on paper and that's what's so amazing about wholesale the fact that deals are coming your way. You decide what you want to do with them. If you want to hold them then you could. You'd be buying a property that's worth two hundred thousand for one hundred thousand and you'd be fixing it for twenty thousand more. And now you have eighty thousand in equity. Right. So you're 120 in and you own property for two hundred thousand. That's great. That's amazing and it's not even taxable. You don't even have to pay taxes for that money because there was no taxable event until you sell it. Right. And even when you sell it then you've got a lot of depreciation during the year. If you have it for a few years right. So if you want to hold properties you want to. You want to have a portfolio. Best way to start is boosted wholesale because you're gonna have access to all the deals if you want to flip properties you actually want to start as a home seller because you get access to properties at a discounted rate the best rate. Right. Because we wholesalers we get it cheaper than anybody else. We get it cheaper than the flipper we get it cheaper than anybody else essentially. So If you want to flip properties you want to be a wholesaler get properties under contract and then you decide what you want to do with them. Do you want to wholesale them? Do you want to flip them? You could do that. Do you want to hold them? That's great that's terrific. You can do whatever you want. And that is how I have managed to hold properties so I hold out I have a nice portfolio here in South Florida and that is how I did that. I have never bought a deal from somebody else. All the deals that I have bought all the houses that I own are my houses that I got through my deals through my marketing and that's what I teach you right. That's where you're gonna be in the next two-three years and I'm super excited for you. And I'm very happy to see you grow. And hopefully, you know we're going to grow together in the future a lot more. So thank you for coming to the show. Joseph, I really appreciate it. Thank you for having me. Yeah. Do you have anything else you want to add? I would say if you get in the wholesaling business just really take action man like there's a lot of fear involved a lot of like preconceived notions like ‘oh man how does this work?’ I'm not going to make money. The opportunities there are you just have to take action and figure out your niche and how are you going to get a deal on a contract. I mean just get on your neighborhood you can find a rundown property and just knock on some doors look up some phone numbers you get a hold of the property owner and just like that in 30 days or 45 days- you can make 10, 20, 30 thousand dollars. Take a mentor is also a big thing as well because they can just guide you through the process. A mentor is a big asset. You have someone to lean on, someone to give you direction. All right Joseph thank you for coming. Really appreciate it. And you guys have a great day. Thanks for listening to the real estate investing podcast with Don and Eden. Stay tuned for more episodes. Til' next time.  

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