Doing Divorce Different A Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce Differently

In this episode, Lesa Koski is joined by Dr. Becky, a family and marriage therapist with personal experience in divorce and co-parenting. They discuss the adversarial nature of the family law process and the importance of pursuing amicable divorces for the well-being of children. Becky shares insights on how to manage co-parenting post-divorce, the psychological effects of divorce on children, and the complexities of blended families. The conversation emphasizes putting children's needs first and avoiding negative influences from friends and family. Dr. Becky also presents her approach of therapists managing amicable divorce processes to help families navigate this challenging time more smoothly.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:38 Discussing Divorce and Parenting01:19 Challenges in the Family Law Process02:24 The Importance of Amicable Divorce03:36 Personal Experiences and Advice14:39 Impact of Divorce on Children16:12 Blended Families and Stepparent Dynamics21:16 Concluding Thoughts and AdviceMentioned in this episode:Saddle Up Live Podcast AdDo you love Doing Divorce Different and want to hear more from Lesa Koski and her amazing guests? Tune in to the Saddle Up Live Podcast, a transformative podcast tailored for women aged 40 and beyond, where courage, God's grace, and a touch of sass are the driving forces behind conquering life's challenges. Whether you're looking for practical advice, heartfelt stories, or simply a supportive community of like-minded women, saddle up and join us on this exhilarating ride. Saddle Up Live Podcast

✨ Episode Summary:In this insightful two-part episode of Doing Divorce Different, I sit down with the incredible Dr. Becky Whetstone—a licensed marriage and family therapist with both professional expertise and personal experience in navigating the emotional terrain of marriage, divorce, and everything in between.Together, we explore the often-unspoken stages of a dying marriage, what those red flags look and feel like, and how to move from heartbreak to healing through intentional self-growth.Whether you're working to rebuild your marriage or learning to let go with grace, this conversation will leave you with practical wisdom, hope, and a fresh perspective on your journey.

Divorce after 50—often called gray divorce—comes with its own unique challenges and hidden truths. In this eye-opening episode of Doing Divorce Different, I sit down with seasoned attorney Michelle to dive deep into the emotional, financial, and relational complexities of gray divorce.Whether you're an empty nester questioning your future, someone who's felt controlled or stuck in a long-term marriage, or a woman wondering if there's still time to rebuild her life—this episode is for you.We're talking real talk:

In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different,' the host discusses the complexities and emotional aspects of contemplating and going through a divorce. Emphasizing the preference for amicable divorces, the host provides insights on when it might be time to divorce, the importance of personal growth within a marriage, and how to effectively prepare for the divorce process. Key points include the value of coaching, therapy, and building a support team, understanding legal and financial aspects, and the significance of a well-planned parenting strategy for those with children. The host also stresses the importance of being informed and prepared to ensure a smoother transition and a better post-divorce life.00:00 Introduction and Purpose00:36 Understanding Amicable Divorce01:43 Efforts to Save Your Marriage03:41 The Importance of Self-Improvement05:46 Navigating Divorce Mediation07:30 Making the Decision to Divorce07:57 Gathering Information and Building a Support Team09:52 Financial Considerations During Divorce15:49 Focusing on Children and Parenting Plans16:38 Handling Property and Housing Concerns18:26 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsBook Your Name is DaughterDIY Parenting Plan CourseFind More From Lesa Here!Marrie Simpson's Metabolic Resetjjflizanes.com/lesaFrowniesBiology of Belief by Bruce Lipton

In this heartfelt episode, the host welcomes her dear friend and divorce real estate expert, Tami Wollensak, to discuss the complexities of divorce. They explore Tami's personal and professional journey through a challenging divorce, highlighting the importance of mediation and mindful decision-making. Tami shares invaluable tips on maintaining mental health during stressful transitions, including meditation and lifestyle changes. The episode emphasizes empowering women, especially those over 40, to navigate divorce with clarity, focusing on the well-being of children and future financial stability. Listeners are encouraged to educate themselves and form support teams to ensure a smoother, more informed divorce process.00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement00:35 Tami's Personal Journey Through Divorce00:54 Empowering Women Through Transitions05:31 The Importance of Self-Care During Divorce12:27 Tami's Divorce Story17:07 Navigating Divorce Mediation24:10 Reflecting on the End of a Marriage26:30 Navigating Financial Challenges Post-DivorceDIY Parenting Plan CourseFind More From Lesa Here!Marrie Simpson's Metabolic Resetjjflizanes.com/lesaFind Tami Here! https://calendly.com/tamiwollensak/30-minute-meeting-divorce?hsLang=en&month=2025-01

In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different,' Lesa welcomes financial expert Victoria Kirilloff, who shares her personal journey of escaping an abusive relationship and provides in-depth advice on maximizing spousal support during divorce. The discussion aims to empower women by addressing the importance of financial independence, understanding trauma bonds, and the value of proper financial planning during significant life transitions. Victoria also touches on the use of unique techniques like isochronic tones for personal healing and the critical role of building a supportive network.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:18 Victoria's Personal Journey06:31 Understanding Trauma Bonds11:07 Breaking Free and Seeking Help21:56 Maximizing Spousal Support33:05 Services and Closing RemarksVictoria Kirilloff, CDFA®, NCPM®, CDS®, was at a crossroads in a decade-long, financially entangled relationship that had turned toxic. To find her way out, she leveraged her background in financial analysis, creating the first Global Settlement Proposal and divorce report. This helped her and her partner reach a peaceful separation, sparking an idea: she could help others navigate divorce with financial clarity and empowerment.Victoria went on to found Divorce Analytics, a firm dedicated to making the financial side of divorce transparent and productive. By focusing on financial facts, she transforms divorce from a destructive process into one of empowerment.Victoria has also released a 9-part Divorce Planning Kit, available at DivorceAnalytics.com/shop. Along with her many financial licenses, she's a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and Nationally Certified Professional Mediator®.DIY Parenting Plan Coursehttps://linktr.ee/LesaKoskiMarrie Simpson's Metabolic Reset Functional Assessment Practitionerjjflizanes.com/lesa Core Wounds and Mindset CourseShark HP302 NeverChange Air PurifierShark Air PurifierFrowniesBiology of Belief by Bruce Lipton

In this week's episode of 'Doing Divorce Different,' we revisit a transformative conversation with JJ Flizanes, an expert in emotional healing. The host reflects on the profound impact JJ's courses have had on her life and discusses core emotional wounds. JJ elaborates on her 'Roadmap to Emotional Healing' course and the importance of understanding and processing one's emotions. They also explore the topics of self-empowerment, the mind-body connection, and overcoming fears related to health and disease. The host shares personal stories of emotional challenges and healing, highlighting the benefits of JJ's teachings.00:00 Introduction and Special Episode Announcement00:55 Welcoming JJ Flizanes01:23 Discussing JJ's Courses and Emotional Healing02:04 Understanding and Managing Unwanted Feelings04:35 Exploring the Concept of Core Wounds06:52 The Power of Belief and Epigenetics09:02 Personal Stories and Medical Experiences14:15 The Importance of Self-Trust and Intuition23:15 Understanding the Core Wound Map23:35 The Roadmap Course: A Self-Study Journey24:10 The Power of Recognizing Patterns25:02 The Importance of Changing Habits25:25 Critique of Traditional Talk Therapy25:49 The Role of Different Healing Modalities26:42 Identifying and Addressing Core Wounds29:58 Personal Stories and Core Wounds33:15 The Impact of Emotional Processing37:41 Reflecting on Childhood Memories41:26 Final Thoughts and Course InformationDIY Parenting Plan Coursehttps://linktr.ee/LesaKoskijjflizanes.com/lesa

Navigating Life After Divorce: Expert Tips from Laurie GerberWe are so pleased to welcome back life coach Laurie Gerber, who shares invaluable insights about dating after divorce and finding love later in life. With over 20 years of experience in life coaching, Laurie discusses the importance of understanding one's history and making intentional dating choices. We delve into identifying personal patterns, addressing past mistakes, and re-evaluating what one truly wants in a partner. Laurie also emphasizes the significance of not rushing into new relationships and provides practical tips to date effectively. The conversation highlights the broader applicability of these principles to various aspects of life, aiming to help listeners build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:09 Lauriei's Background and Experience02:21 Finding Love After Divorce04:01 Steps to Successful Dating04:49 Understanding Personal History07:17 The Three H's Method09:39 Knowing What You Want13:59 Assets and Liabilities in Dating18:57 Conclusion and Upcoming WebinarLaurie GerberFounder, Laurie Gerber Coaching, Inc.Laurie Gerber is one of the most engaging and effective life coaches and presenters in the country. After holding several positions at Handel Group® over the last 20 years, including President of HG Life, Laurie is currently licensing The Handel Method® and running Laurie Gerber Coaching, Inc. focusing on LOVE coaching. Laurie has appeared on the Today Show, Dr, Phil, MTV and A & E and been the resident love expert at Match, Zoosk, Jdate, and many more. She has been presenting to and coaching individuals, couples, and groups, with a wide range of partners including: the dating sites above, General Assembly, She Tribe, BeSocialChange, IvyConnect, Ellevate, and many more. She has appeared on television shows, podcasts, radio shows, and all over the internet. Check out “The Secret-Free Diet”, her TedX talk on the power of truth telling.When not working from her NYC townhouse, she's meditating, jogging, or attempting to get cuddles from her 10, 20 and 22-year old kids and husband of 26 years.GIVE AWAY:For more of Laurie's dating resources check out her FREE webinar: "3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments"Learn:✅The biggest mistake women make that prevents them from finding their happily ever after ✅The 3 Essential Ingredients to finding a suitable companion for long-term commitment ✅Why you need to implement the 3-date strategy to find your soulmate in WAY less dates.REGISTER HERE: www.lauriegerber.com/webinarOrVisit lauriegerber.comFree Facebook group: Relationship Tips: Love as a Verb: Dating for Women over 50https://www.facebook.com/groups/loveasaverbInsta: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/Youtube:

In this heartfelt episode, Lesa is joined by Michelle Leisen, a mediator, financial planner, and attorney, who supported Lesa through a personal breast cancer diagnosis and professional challenges. Michelle shares her professional journey, from attending law school to becoming a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and mediator after experiencing her own contentious divorce. The discussion focuses on Michelle's 'Power of Three' approach to divorce, highlighting the importance of understanding legal options, financial implications, and emotional well-being. Listeners are encouraged to be informed about their choices, consider the financial costs, and prioritize emotional health for themselves and their children. Michelle emphasizes the value of assembling a supportive team, including attorneys, mediators, financial analysts, and therapists, to navigate the complexities of divorce effectively.00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement01:44 Michelle's Background and Journey01:58 The Power of Three in Divorce02:26 Michelle's Personal Divorce Experience06:03 Understanding Divorce Options08:56 The Financial Costs of Divorce11:13 Putting Kids First in Divorce16:19 The Emotional Side of Divorce19:18 Building Your Support Team21:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, Lesa discusses the challenges that children of divorced parents face during the holiday season and offers practical advice for co-parents. Taking inspiration from an Instagram account 'A Kid with Two Homes,' the episode highlights the feelings of stress and guilt that children often experience. The host emphasizes the importance of planning and communication to alleviate children's worries and reminds parents to focus on the joy and support their children. Additionally, suggestions are given for preparing for the holidays, ensuring the children's emotional well-being, and balancing holiday logistics.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:47 Understanding Kids' Feelings During the Holidays01:44 Tips for Parents to Support Their Kids03:05 Preparing for the Holidays03:38 Casual Conversation and Personal AnecdotesDIY Parenting Plan Course

No better time to think through your finances than before the holiday season. In this episode, Lesa welcomes certified financial planner James Alexander, who shares his expertise on creating a financial plan after a divorce. They discuss how to manage changes in income, expenses, and updating financial accounts. James also outlines the importance of addressing emotional well-being before tackling financial challenges and offers practical advice on finding a trustworthy financial advisor. Furthermore, he shares insights into how he successfully grew his financial planning business in just five years. Listeners will gain valuable tips on overcoming financial fears and the steps to take to ensure financial security post-divorce.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction01:10 James Alexander's Background and Career Path05:17 Creating a Financial Plan Post-Divorce11:30 Finding a Trustworthy Financial Advisor17:54 Growing a Financial Planning Business21:07 Conclusion and Contact Information

In this special Saturday episode, recorded at the barn, Lesa Koski discusses the importance of mindset, especially through challenging times like divorce, cancer, or general difficulties. Lesa shares her journey of using mindset-shifting tools to manage anxiety, and her commitment to relying on God to improve her emotional wellbeing. She introduces JJ Flizanes, an expert whose courses on emotions and core childhood experiences have profoundly impacted her. Lesa emphasizes the need to understand and fulfill personal needs, identifying feelings and practicing self-responsibility. She also introduces the Hawaiian practice of Ho'oponopono for emotional healing. Tune in to learn how you can navigate your feelings, meet your needs, and cultivate more joy in life.00:00 Welcome and Introduction00:24 Mindset Shifting Tools01:35 Personal Journey and Expert Insights04:34 Morning Routine and Emotional Awareness06:02 Identifying and Meeting Basic Human Needs11:49 Finding Peace and Surrendering to God12:24 Ho'oponopono and Present Moment Practices16:11 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, the Lesa welcomes Rachel King, an attorney and podcast host, to discuss strategies for navigating divorce with controlling personalities, focusing on children's well-being, and effective co-parenting. Rachel shares her journey to becoming an attorney, including her experience in the military, and her approach to family law. The discussion includes the importance of setting boundaries, keeping communication simple, and allowing children to form independent relationships with both parents. Rachel emphasizes the need for therapy, knowing one's legal rights, and having a support system during divorce proceedings. The importance of validating children's feelings while maintaining parental decision-making is highlighted, aimed at ensuring a positive outcome for the family. Rachel's book, 'Getting Divorced, Now What', is also mentioned as a resource for those undergoing divorce.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction01:08 Rachel King's Journey to Law04:20 Choosing Family Law and Probate07:35 Dealing with Controlling Personalities11:38 Do's and Don'ts of Divorce with Children17:58 Co-Parenting and Honoring Children's Feelings23:21 Conclusion and Contact Information

In this podcast episode, Lesa Koski interviews Laurie Gerber, a renowned relationship coach who has appeared on shows like Dr. Phil and MTV. Laurie shares her personal journey overcoming marital challenges using the Handel Method, which she now teaches. The discussion delves into vital topics such as dating after divorce, the importance of self-work, and maintaining a healthy relationship. Laurie outlines a detailed 'Divorce Detox' with six crucial steps to regain emotional and spiritual health post-divorce before diving back into the dating scene. She also introduces her Head-Heart-Hoo Ha (3H) framework for finding the right partner and emphasizes the importance of mindful and efficient dating practices. Laurie offers resources and strategies for those eager to start their journey toward a fulfilling and healthy love life. For more insights, listeners are encouraged to join Lori on the Saddle Up Live podcast for a deeper dive into maintaining long-term relationships.00:00 Welcome and Introduction01:10 Meet Lori Gerber: A Journey in Coaching03:52 The Importance of Self-Work Before Dating08:19 The Divorce Detox: Steps to Emotional Healing14:04 Phases of Post-Divorce Dating17:11 Determining and Changing Your Type18:50 Efficient and Purposeful Dating20:37 Conclusion and Next StepsFor more of Laurie's dating resources check out her FREE webinar: "3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments"Learn:✓How to be Ready to Date Like You Mean It in 30 Days or Less✓The #1 Ingredient to Finding A Suitable Companion without Repeated Disappointment✓Essential Elements to Effective Communication even about the Most Awkward Topics✓PLUS: The Key to Finding Your Soulmate in Way Less Dates!REGISTER HERE: www.lauriegerber.com/webinarlauriegerbercoach@gmail.com www.lauriegerber.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber/https://www.facebook.com/groups/loveasaverbhttps://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/?hl=enFind Lesa at Lesakoski.com@lesakoski

In this episode, we meet Catherine Collins, a financial expert and author who shares her journey from a graduate history student to a leading financial writer and podcaster. Catherine discusses her accidental path to entrepreneurship, starting with her blog Budget Blonde. She highlights the importance of financial independence, especially during and after a divorce, offering advice on budget management, asset awareness, and emotional strength. Catherine also introduces the concept of 'five year you,' focusing on self-improvement and financial independence, while providing a realistic approach to personal growth post-divorce. Tune in for actionable insights and inspiring stories that make financial management accessible and empowering for everyone.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:09 Catherine's Journey to Financial Writing04:23 The Five Year You Project06:02 Navigating Divorce and Finances08:05 Building Financial Confidence Post-Divorce11:24 Practical Steps for Financial Stability18:49 Embracing a New Beginning21:18 Final Thoughts and EncouragementBy way of background, Catherine Collins is a nationally recognized entrepreneur and author of the book “Mom's Got Money: A millennial mom's guide to managing money like a boss”. Over the past decade, her writing and expertise have been featured in dozens of media outlets, including Good Morning America, Yahoo Finance, Forbes, U.S. News and World Report, Real Simple, The Huffington Post, Kiplinger, Investopedia, Business Insider, and many more. Websites: Five Year You and Micro Morning Magic - Free DownloadLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/catherine-collins-8b983049/Find Lesa at Saddleuplive.comhttps://linktr.ee/LesaKoskiand @saddleuplive

In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different, Lesa interviews David Pisarra, an attorney, founder of Dad's Law School, and podcast host. David shares his unique journey into family law and provides crucial insights for dads navigating the family court system. He emphasizes the importance of preparation, documentation, and mindset for fathers fighting for custody. The discussion also touches on the significant role dads play in their children's lives and the common mistakes they make in court. Lisa and David conclude by highlighting resources available through Dad's Law School to help dads present their best case in court.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:23 David Pizarra's Background and Journey03:45 Challenges Dads Face in Family Court08:23 Mindset and Preparation for Dads13:38 Common Mistakes Dads Make19:02 Final Thoughts and ResourcesFind David atghil@dadslawschool.comAnd Lesa @saddleuplive

In this episode, we welcome Junie Moon, CEO of Midlife Love Out Loud, to discuss empowering women through self-love and breaking self-sabotage patterns, especially post-divorce. Junie shares her personal journey and professional insights into shadow work and how women can overcome fears and limiting beliefs to fulfill their desires for a better second half of life. Listeners will learn about four specific archetypes—magician, sovereign, lover, and warrior—and how to recognize and heal their shadows. Tune in for practical advice, empowering stories, and a chance to start a transformational journey.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:04 Junie Moon's Background and Journey02:54 Understanding Self-Sabotage05:07 Exploring Love Shadows14:41 The Four Archetypes21:31 Conclusion and Next StepsFind Junie here! Teamjuniemoon@gmail.comTeamjuniemoon@gmail.comhttps://www.facebook.com/midlifeloveoutloudhttps://www.instagram.com/midlifeloveoutloud/

In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different,' we sit down with Lora Cheadle, an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal specialist, to discuss her personal journey through betrayal and healing. Lora shares her compelling story of overcoming the devastation of discovering her husband's infidelity over 15 years and how they both worked individually and together to rebuild their relationship. She introduces her five-step healing process encapsulated in the acronym 'FLAUNT,' emphasizing self-love, laughter, unconditional acceptance, and navigating negativity. Laura's insights provide valuable tips for anyone dealing with betrayal, whether they choose to stay in the relationship or move on. Tune in for an inspiring conversation on resilience, self-discovery, and unconditional acceptance.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome01:22 Lora Cheadle's Betrayal Story02:41 Healing and Rebuilding After Betrayal08:03 Five Steps to Heal from Betrayal11:50 Navigating Negative Emotions17:11 Unconditional Acceptance and Trust22:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

In this episode, Lesa Koski interviews Ron Deal, a world-renowned expert on blending families. The discussion covers Ron's background and the journey that led him to his current role, including his professional experiences and personal challenges. Ron shares practical advice for single parents considering dating, the role of a stepparent, and handling complex family dynamics. He emphasizes the importance of managing fears to build successful blended families and touches on crucial topics such as co-parenting and involving children in the dating process. The episode also highlights Ron's various resources, including books, podcasts, and online courses, aimed at supporting blended families.00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement01:37 Ron's Journey to Becoming a Blended Family Expert04:57 Personal Challenges and Triumphs07:15 Dating and the Single Parent10:26 Red Flags and Yellow Lights in Relationships15:29 The Role of a Stepparent20:54 Navigating Grief in Blended Families22:40 The Importance of Intentionality in Blended Families24:01 Single Parenting vs. Blended Families26:17 Co-Parenting and Conflict Resolution28:13 Managing Fear in New Relationships31:30 Involving Kids in the Dating Process34:57 Guidelines for Introducing a New Partner37:11 Resources for Blended Families Resources by Ron Deal ----------------------------------- Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC President, As For Me and My House MinistriesDirector, FamilyLife Blended®, a ministry of FamilyLife®10201 W. Markham, Ste 105, Little Rock, AR 72205www.RonDeal.org | SmartStepfamilies.com www.FamilyLife.com/blended Listen or Subscribe to my FamilyLife Blended podcast hereSample media interviews and presentations Facebook: @SmartStepfamiliesFacebook: @FamilyLifeBlendedTwitter: @RonLDealInstagram: @FamilyLifeBlended

In this heartfelt episode, the host combines content from both 'Doing Divorce Different' and 'Saddle Up Live' podcasts to share a personal journey through a recent breast cancer diagnosis and ongoing treatments. The host explores themes of resilience, reliance on faith, community support, and mindful health practices that have helped through chemotherapy. Valuable advice is shared on maintaining a healthy lifestyle and mindset during challenging times, emphasizing the importance of self-care, gratitude, and flexibility. Addressing both cancer and divorce, the host aims to provide hope and practical guidance for listeners going through tough personal battles.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Update01:36 Personal Health Journey: Overcoming Cancer04:15 Faith and Community Support05:52 Managing Anxiety During Treatment07:32 Healthy Eating and Lifestyle Changes11:44 Physical Activity and Flexibility15:50 Gratitude and Positive Mindset18:54 Final Thoughts and Future Plans

A New Journey: From Doing Divorce Different to Saddle Up LiveLesa Koski, a family law attorney turned mediator and host of Doing Divorce Different, shares news of ending the podcast to embark on a new project, 'Saddle Up Live,' influenced by her recent breast cancer diagnosis with a 98% positive outcome. She expresses gratitude for early detection, discusses the impact of the diagnosis on her life, including the emotional journey. Lesa reflects on the support from her faith, the learning experience from hosting her podcast, and her excitement for the new direction with Saddle Up Live. She mentions her desire to continue helping people, especially women, through their challenges and encourages listeners to embrace every moment with strength and resilience. The announcement includes details about her divorce mediation resources still being available and ends with an expression of gratitude for her listeners and the encouragement to stay positive and tuned in for her next venture.00:00 Welcome and a Big Announcement01:01 Sharing Personal News: A Journey of Health and Faith03:52 Introducing Saddle Up Live: A New Beginning05:56 Reflections on Doing Divorce Different and Future Plans12:07 Empowerment Through Divorce and Beyond14:02 Gratitude and Looking Forward

Across all the mediation meetings I have had, there seem to be seven common dilemmas that come up. I have teamed up with my coach, Tracy Pleschourt, to put together a half-day workshop to empower women to suffer less while going through divorce. During this episode, Tracy and I give a sneak peak into the seven dilemmas, and what we will cover regarding each one during the workshop. If you are local to the Minnesota area and looking for support, tune in to hear about this wonderful opportunity to not only work through common roadblocks, but also meet other incredible women who are on the same journey as you. In this episode:[3:58] What is one of the top stories that Lesa's clients face?[7:28] Lesa discusses working through parenting concerns.[9:44] Lesa shares about emotional impact and how it can impact your divorce journey.[12:09] How can people handle the social stigma or the judgment around divorce?[14:10] Lesa talks about how she will give legal information in the upcoming workshop. [15:08] A huge dilemma that comes up is loneliness in divorce, how do you manage it? [18:52] Tracy describes her program, Self Made U.Key Takeaways: [10:18] When you leave your feelings in the dark, you can't heal. Acknowledging those feelings and bringing them to the light is the first step to being able to heal and find clarity and opportunities for what you are experiencing.[11:00] When you are operating from your prodigy brain, you are more likely to be able to look through the lens or find the perspective around gifts and opportunities. [17:00] Join Lesa and Tracy's master class on April 25th from 9am-1pm in Minnesota to learn how to navigate the 7 most common dilemmas that Lesa has seen while being a divorce mediator. Learn strategies from both Lesa's experience and Tracy's coaching so you can better navigate the circumstances you are going through. Quotes: [10:13] “Teaching the people at the workshop how to really feel them (feelings), because coach Tracy, you taught me that anything in the dark can't heal. So when we try to fight those feelings or pretend we don't have them or ignore them, they're in the dark when we go “hello there fear, or anxiety, or whatever you are,” it comes to the light and that's the first step in being able to heal.” - Lesa Koski[12:52] “I think when you find yourself swimming in judgment, you have to decide to prioritize your well-being over societal opinions and stigma. You have to challenge the stigma by refusing to internalize those judgements. You have to be able to separate the fact from the fiction of how society views divorce, like leveraging empathy for yourself.” - Tracy Pleschourt[15:42] “If loneliness is getting in the way of you being able to get through your day, then therapy is definitely the path that you want to pursue. If it's just something that you're starting to recognize, but you're still able to get through your day, you're still able to manage your day, then coaching is probably the right path for you to take.” - Tracy Pleschourt Guest Bio: Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes.Just a few years ago, Tracy was a successful, advertising executive. Stifled by the rigorous, time-consuming demands of the corporate world, she traded in her 20 years of advertising to pursue her real passion: life & weight loss coaching.Tracy is a student of her own work and has stopped overeating, overdrinking, and created a

This episode of 'Doing Divorce Different' features a continuation of a discussion with coach Tracy about the transformative power of a specific planner available on Amazon. The conversation delves into the planner's structure, emphasizing the 'S E L F' acronym to guide daily introspection and intention-setting. Highlighting the necessity of confronting self-saboteur behaviors and leveraging personal strengths, this segment also introduces a free saboteur assessment available at selfmadeu.com. Beyond personal organization, the planner serves as a tool for self-discovery and empowerment, proving beneficial in various life scenarios including personal growth, business, and navigating divorce. The episode concludes with invitations to explore further resources for divorce support and personal empowerment.00:00 Introduction to the Show00:21 The Saddle Up Segment with Coach Tracy00:30 The Power of a Planner01:20 Understanding the SELF Method02:13 Exploring the 'E' in SELF03:14 Identifying Saboteur Narratives14:49 Leveraging Your Strengths19:17 Finishing with a Decision21:22 Closing Remarks and ResourcesFind the Planner Here!Connect with Lesa!

Hacking Happiness through Divorce with Penny LacasoIn this episode of we welcome Penny Lacaso from Melbourne, Australia, to discuss how individuals facing or going through divorce can find happiness and empowerment. Penny, a happiness hacker and author of 'Hacking Happiness,' shares her personal journey, including her childhood experience with her parents' divorce and her own divorce after a long-term marriage. She emphasizes the significance of defining happiness on one's own terms and provides techniques for cultivating joy and self-compassion during challenging times like divorce. The conversation covers the importance of allowing oneself to feel a range of emotions, the power of small acts of kindness, and practical exercises to foster happiness, including the 'Three Good Things' practice recommended by positive psychology. Penny and Lesa also discuss the value of self-compassion and using challenging life events as opportunities for growth and self-discovery.00:00 Introduction to the Show and Guest01:45 Getting to Know Penny Lacaso03:29 Penny's Personal Journey and the Concept of Happiness06:55 Understanding Self and Discovering Personal Happiness08:51 The Power of Self-Compassion and Overcoming Judgement11:49 The Role of Choice in Happiness and Dealing with Negative Emotions15:51 Practical Tips for Finding Joy and Happiness31:14 Final Thoughts and Contact Information32:18 Show ClosingBio: Penny Lacaso is the first hapiness hacker on a quest to teach 10 million humans by 2025, how to flourish in life! Find Penny here! FacebookInstagramLinkedinResources!Lesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's Masterclass

In this episode of Doing Divorce Different Lesa Koski invites her favorite coach, Tracy, to talk about self-empowerment and self-coaching. They discuss the benefits of asking yourself the right questions for personal growth, tools for assessing individual feelings, and learning how to show up in situations. Their focus lies in maximizing life and recognizing the value in every experience. Tracy's book is highlighted, a day planner offering tools and daily self-coaching questions for self-improvement. Their conversation also dives deep into the importance of creating self-reliance, self-confidence, and self-trust, all through the way of practicing self-coaching daily.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:25 Reintroducing the Favorite Coach00:36 The Impact of Tracy's Tips01:04 Introduction to the Self-Made Day Planner01:30 How to Purchase and Use the Planner01:52 Tracy's Input on the Planner02:33 The Planner as a Self-Coaching Tool05:21 The Importance of Self-Reflection05:46 The Impact of the Planner on Daily Life06:14 The Science of Learning and Self-Reflection08:15 The Planner as a Tool for Self-Awareness08:45 The Planner's Structure and Methodology09:20 The Planner's Impact on Positive Thinking11:49 The Planner's Role in Eliminating Self-Sabotage17:42 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsBuy your planner here!Learn about our Workshop!

Doing Divorce Different: A Candid Conversation with Laila Aitken In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', host Lesa Koski, a family law attorney turned mediator, engages in a conversational interview with guest Laila Aitken Ali, a divorce coach and founder of Split FYI. They discuss overcoming the fear and emotional challenges of divorce, the importance of self-empowerment and self-care, and ways to effectively compartmentalize problems during difficult times. Laila shares her personal journey of divorce and how it led her to mentor and help others going through similar experiences. She emphasizes on viewing divorce as a journey of self-discovery and clarity, and offers advice on maintaining a positive mindset and seeking support through community-based resources like Split FYI.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:25 Meet the Guest: Laila Aitken Ali01:57 The Journey to Becoming a Divorce Coach02:46 The Impact of Divorce on Self-Trust03:46 The Role of a Divorce Coach04:20 The Importance of Self-Care During Divorce05:40 The Power of Mindset in Navigating Divorce06:12 Steps to Alleviate Overwhelm During Divorce07:17 The Power of Compartmentalizing During Divorce09:51 The Importance of Self-Talk and Embracing Feelings12:09 The Power of Positive Mindset and Self-Acknowledgement22:04 The Role of a Love Book in Nurturing Self-Love26:40 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsBio. Struck by her own 10-year-long experience with divorce, Laila was exhausted and thrown by the complexities and lack of consolidated information to help her close that chapter. She longed for a safe place to access emotional and organizational help, with professionals, resources, tools, and a warm community of those who already understand the situation. Over time, this sparked Laila to create Split.fyi to propel more people in her situation forward. Laila focuses on being a positive thinking partner to help educate and support others to create their own personal roadmap, navigate the tides, and reclaim their confidence and inner balance.Laila is a mom, accredited mediator, certified CDC Certified Divorce Coach® and in the Better Apart Method, a global citizen, and hopes to inspire everyone to take agency over their lives by educating and supporting as many people as she can to rest, reclaim and rebirth before, during and after divorce, breakup or a major transition in their life.For Divorce Support go to Lesakoski.comFind Laila: https://splitfyi.com/about-us/https://www.instagram.com/splitfyi/?hl=enhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/splitfyi

In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', host Lesa Koski shares insights from her recent conversation with Jennifer Lee on how to manage finances amidst life transitions such as divorce. Lisa emphasizes the importance of understanding what really matters when it comes to spending and saving. Jennifer Lee provided important tools and posed thought-provoking scenarios to help listeners identify what they truly value and what they desire to achieve financially. This episode aims to alleviate anxieties surrounding financial issues and encourage listeners to envision their lives beyond monetary constraints.00:01 Introduction to the Show00:38 A Candid Conversation with Jennifer Lee00:51 Understanding Your Finances01:52 The Lottery Scenario02:40 Three Deep Questions to Understand Your Values04:27 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

This 'Doing Divorce Different' podcast episode features Jennifer Lee, the founder of modern wealth, who joins host Lesa Koski, family law attorney turned mediator, for an enlightening discussion about financial management and empowerment during transitions such as divorce. Jennifer shares her experiences of helping clients manage finances, focusing importantly on what clients value and helping them understand their needs, wants and discretionary amounts. Much time is spent discussing the 'non-money' spouse, particularly in the context of divorce, along with ways to alleviate financial fear and improve personal comfort with financial planning. Jennifer also discusses her book, 'Squeeze the Juice', which aims at helping readers get the best out their experiences and fulfilling their financial goals.00:01 Introduction to Doing Divorce Different00:29 Meet the Guest: Jennifer Lee, Founder of Modern Wealth00:57 Understanding Finances and the Non-Money Spouse01:55 The Importance of Reading and Learning02:17 Jennifer's Approach to Finances and Money Management03:15 The Concept of Financial Planning and Its Simplicity04:05 Jennifer's Personal Journey with Money04:38 Understanding Your Money Story and Its Impact06:21 The Fear of Finances and How to Overcome It07:19 The Importance of Knowing What You Value08:46 The Concept of Discretionary Spending13:18 The Reality of Living Above Your Means18:34 Taking Control of Your Finances27:03 Understanding the Title of Jennifer's Book: Squeeze the Juice29:12 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsBio: Jennifer Lee is the founder of Modern-Wealth (www.Modern-Wealth.com); and has been in the financial services industry for 26 years; 44 years if you count going to the office with her father as a child. She has a relationship with money that is familiar, and she loves engaging people on the subject. Aside from travel, cooking, and hanging out with her family, she is most happy working. She is passionate about educating her clients, the divorcee wanting to get her future lined up, a business client desiring to expand or sell his operation, or a couple wanting to make sure they have provided for their kids and grandkids, about the nuances of planning for their financial future; hoping to change their perspective of the process. For her, it is fulfilling, and fun. Book Website: SqueezeTheJuiceBook.com Facebook: Facebook.com/ModernWealthInvest LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/In/Jennifer-Lee-awma®-aif®-1b5aa56/ Instagram: Instagram.com/modernwealthloveletter/

In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski revisits an enlightening conversation with well-known author and expert, Sharon Pope. Sharon shared significant tools for helping children cope during a divorce, including creating a list of changes and a larger list of things that will stay the same to alleviate fear of the unknown. Lesa expanded on Sharon's insights about the unforeseen lessons children might learn from divorce, such as self-advocacy and setting boundaries. Lesa also highlighted the importance of maintaining a cordial relationship with the co-parent for the sake of children. This episode serves as a resource for those seeking tactful ways to approach their children about divorce.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:21 Recap of Tuesday's Episode with Sharon Pope00:48 Tools for Helping Children Through Divorce01:05 The Importance of a Parenting Plan01:30 How to Communicate Changes to Children02:24 Unexpected Lessons Children Learn from Divorce04:10 The Power of Kindness in Co-Parenting04:36 Conclusion and Invitation to ConnectLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online Courses

This episode of the 'Doing Divorce Different' podcast features an enlightening conversation between the show's host, Lesa Koski, and guest, Sharon Pope, a master life coach and relationship expert. They discuss the various ways to manage the process of divorce and how to make the experience less traumatic through self-empowerment. Sharon offers a unique perspective, given her personal experience with divorce and subsequent transformation into a relationship and life coach. The episode provides helpful advice and tools for listeners who may be contemplating divorce, notably the importance of self-work and setting boundaries. Special attention is given to the impact of divorce on children and how it can be managed positively.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:21 Guest Introduction: Sharon Pope01:45 Sharon's Personal Journey and Expertise12:21 The Importance of Self-Work in Relationships18:52 The Impact of Divorce on Children27:46 Final Thoughts and TakeawaysThis episode of the 'Doing Divorce Different' podcast features an enlightening conversation between the show's host, Lesa Koski, and guest, Sharon Pope, a master life coach and relationship expert. They discuss the various ways to manage the process of divorce and how to make the experience less traumatic through self-empowerment. Sharon offers a unique perspective, given her personal experience with divorce and subsequent transformation into a relationship and life coach. The episode provides helpful advice and tools for listeners who may be contemplating divorce, notably the importance of self-work and setting boundaries. Special attention is given to the impact of divorce on children and how it can be managed positively.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:21 Guest Introduction: Sharon Pope01:45 Sharon's Personal Journey and Expertise12:21 The Importance of Self-Work in Relationships18:52 The Impact of Divorce on Children27:46 Final Thoughts and TakeawaysBio: Sharon Pope is a certified Master Life Coach, relationship expert, and seven-time best-selling author on love and relationships, including "Stay or Go: How to Find the Confidence & Clarity You Need to Either Fix the Struggles in Your Marriage or Move Forward without Regret," which has sold more than 300,000 copies worldwide, and host of the podcast, "The Loving Truth." Sharon's been a guest on many podcasts and is committed to helping women and men get the tools they need to improve, heal, or release their struggling marriages.https://sharonpope.com/Lesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online Courses

Navigating Divorce and Personal GrowthIn this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', Lesa Koski, a family law attorney and mediator, talks about grappling with the idea of ending a marriage. Koski emphasizes the importance of introspection, highlighting her own experience of maintaining a marriage through self-growth. She encourages her listeners to confront their feelings about their marriage and shares strategies for self-improvement. She notes the potential benefits these changes can have on their spouses or their own perception of themselves. Koski also discusses how personal growth can equip individuals to be independent, should they decide to end their marriage. Drawing from her own experience, she underscores that neither decision is easy, and that marriage requires work. She ends by providing support and positivity for those contemplating divorce after Valentine's Day.00:01 Introduction to Doing Divorce Different00:21 Saddle Up Segment: Post-Valentine's Day Reflections01:12 Contemplating the End of Marriage02:48 The Power of Self-Improvement in Marriage03:22 The Impact of Personal Growth on Your Relationship04:41 Making the Tough Decision: Stay or Leave?04:49 The Importance of Communication and Boundaries05:16 Sending Love to Those Contemplating Divorce05:40 Conclusion and Invitation to Connect

In this episode of Doing Divorce Different, host Lesa Koski holds a candid conversation with divorce attorney-turned-mediator Karen Covy. They discuss entrepreneurship, their roles as recovering lawyers, the importance of divorce coaches, and how to navigate the divorce process. Covy shares her journey from being a lawyer to becoming a divorce coach, her commitment to changing the people going into the divorce system, and the importance of self-work in the decision-making process. She also talks about her book, 'When Happily Ever After Ends', which offers resources for people to handle divorce better.00:01 Introduction and Welcome00:18 Getting to Know Karen Covey01:09 The Importance of Divorce Coaches01:56 Karen's Journey to Becoming a Divorce Coach04:59 The Role of a Divorce Coach06:34 The Starfish Story07:32 Karen's Book: When Happily Ever After Ends09:14 How to Know When It's Time to Divorce12:49 The Importance of Self-Work in Decision Making16:48 The Role of Honesty in Decision Making17:53 Making the Decision to Divorce26:16 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationBio: A DIVORCE COACH AND CONSULTANT, MEDIATOR, AUTHOR, SPEAKER, COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE PROFESSIONAL, AND A RECOVERING DIVORCE ATTORNEY.https://karencovy.com/podcast/https://www.facebook.com/KarenCovyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/karencovy/

In this episode, Lesa Koski, a family law attorney and mediator, hosts a conversation about managing divorce effectively. She emphasizes the importance of education about divorce laws and procedures, recommending divorce mediation and collaborative law as potential paths. Lesa warns about situations involving power imbalances or abuse, advising such individuals to consult an attorney. She also highlights the importance of being well-informed and less naive in navigating divorce, especially considering the legal binding nature of marriage. Guest Paulette Rigaud, founder of Better Divorce Academy, shares her challenging divorce experience that lasted eight years. Lisa finishes by encouraging listeners to consider consulting a divorce coach to gain insights into navigating a divorce efficiently.00:01 Introduction to the Show00:24 Saddle Up Segment: Discussing Divorce01:32 Understanding Divorce Laws02:09 Considering Collaborative Divorce03:03 The Importance of Agreement in Divorce03:49 Learning from Past Divorce Experiences04:34 The Legal Implications of Marriage05:24 The Role of a Divorce Coach06:00 Conclusion and FarewellLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online Courses

Lesa Koski and guest Paulette Rigo, founder of Better Divorce Academy, dive deep into the topic of handling divorce in a better way. Paulette explains her personal experience, which led her to the creation of her academy. She emphasizes the importance of being prepared, understanding the daunting divorce process, and breaking it down into manageable steps. Paulette also discusses the impact of divorce on productivity in the workplace, leading her to also work with companies through Divorce Right Inc. to proactively manage this. The conversation concludes with the encouragement to approach problems by looking at the big picture and breaking it down into bite-sized pieces. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation00:19 Getting to Know Paulette Rigo01:36 Paulette's Journey to Divorce Coaching02:23 Paulette's Personal Divorce Story04:47 The Impact of Divorce on Personal Life05:56 The Importance of Divorce Coaching21:10 The Role of Divorce Coaches in the Corporate World24:59 Final Thoughts and Advicehttps://www.facebook.com/betterdivorceacademyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/betterdivorceacademy/https://www.instagram.com/paulettegloriarigo/https://betterdivorceacademy.com/https://betterdivorceacademy.com/podcasts/

In this episode of "Doing Divorce Different," Attorney turned Mediator, Lesa Koski, shares her insights and advice on how to alleviate the fear of divorce and heal through empowerment. She emphasizes the importance of working on oneself before making the decision to divorce, and how this can positively impact the relationship dynamics. Lesa also shares personal anecdotes and lessons learned from her own marriage, highlighting the transformative power of self-love and setting boundaries. Tune in to discover valuable tips and resources for navigating the divorce process in a better way.- Episode Highlights: - Introduction to "Doing Divorce Different" and the host, Lisa Kosky. - The significance of working on oneself before contemplating divorce. - How personal growth and self-love can positively impact the marriage. - Personal experiences and lessons learned from Lisa's own marriage. - The transformative power of changing one's mindset and embracing self-care. - Exploring resources like books, podcasts, and coaches to support personal growth. - Practical tips for changing negative thought patterns and beliefs. - Invitation to a workshop on the seven dilemmas women face in divorce, taking place on April 25th and emphasizing self-care and community. - Encouragement to connect with Lesa Koski for further support and sign up for the newsletter.Lesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's Masterclass

In this podcast episode, Lucia Ramirez Levias, a collaborative law attorney, shares her personal journey that led her towards a career of helping people work together instead of fighting it out in court. Graduating with an aim to do immigration law, she found a niche in family law, which she ultimately blended with her experience in youth development work before law school. With collaborative divorce, Lucia discusses how it fosters a peaceful and durable settlement that mitigates the negative impacts on children, unlike traditional litigation. She emphasizes the role of a professional team consisting of collaborative attorneys and a divorce coach. While acknowledging that power dynamics and domestic violence issues can prevent engagement in collaborative law, Lucia still sees potential for its effectiveness in some power imbalance situations. Lucia advises listeners to consider their high-end goals to guide them during the divorce process.00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation00:46 Lucia's Journey to Becoming a Collaborative Law Attorney03:33 The Impact of Traditional Family Law and Transition to Collaborative Divorce05:32 Understanding Collaborative Law09:42 The Role of a Divorce Coach in Collaborative Law11:09 Personal Experiences with Divorce16:15 When Collaborative Law Might Not Be the Best Option20:06 The Difference Between Collaborative Law and Litigation24:36 Final Thoughts and Key TakeawaysLucia's WebsiteLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's Masterclass

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today is all about communication. Lesa is sharing some of her favorite communication tools that she teaches her mediation clients. These tips can help you whether you are working through divorce mediation, navigating collaborative law, or having issues with co-parenting. Tune in to hear Lesa's 5 tips to communicate better. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. ResourcesLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's MasterclassTo receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/differentI am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass

Navigating Loneliness in RelationshipsIn this podcast episode, host Lesa Koski takes on the topic of navigating loneliness with the help of guest and family therapist, Brian Burns. They discuss how loneliness can be a fundamental issue in marriage and relationships, often motivating individuals to avoid divorce out of fear of isolation. Brian offers insights on tackling loneliness by practicing outward-focused interactions, self-awareness, and open communication, emphasizing that individuals should focus on their feelings when attempting to communicate their loneliness to a partner. Brian also advocates for couples to seek therapy and emphasizes that the process is about working on oneself in front of their partner.00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction00:20 Discussing Loneliness and Its Impact00:55 Guest's Podcast and Its Themes01:35 Exploring the Topic of Sex and Communication03:00 Diving into the Feelings of Loneliness03:43 The Fear of Loneliness in Divorce04:39 Loneliness as a State of Mind05:24 The Societal Impact of Loneliness06:14 Strategies to Combat Loneliness07:02 The Role of Communication in Addressing Loneliness07:33 The Power of Small Interactions01:34 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Understanding Loneliness11:25 The Role of Alcohol in Social Interactions11:51 The Power of Texting in Building Connections13:54 The Role of Mindset in Addressing Loneliness18:43 The Importance of Honesty in Relationships24:30 The Role of Marriage Counseling in Addressing Loneliness28:36 Conclusion and Guest's Contact InformationFind Lesa at:Lesakoski.comhttps://linktr.ee/lesakoskiFind Brian at:MN Relationship Repair: HomeMN Relationship Repairhttps://www.mnrelationshiprepair.com

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Do you find yourself getting lost in people pleasing? Traci is back to talk about what people pleasing is and how you can start living for yourself. People pleasing is in the eye of the beholder, and sometimes it may feel good to be available for the people around you, there may also be times when you feel like you are being dragged around to do what everyone else wants. Tune in to learn how to become grounded and confident in what you desire, and how to place boundaries to protect what you want. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. ResourcesTracy Pleschourt InstagramTracy Pleschourt WebsiteTracy Pleschourt FacebookTracy Pleschourt LinkedInLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's MasterclassTo receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/differentI am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass

Across all the mediation meetings I have had, there seem to be seven common dilemmas that come up. I have teamed up with my coach, Tracy Pleschourt, to put together a half-day workshop to empower women to suffer less while going through divorce. During this episode, Tracy and I give a sneak peak into the seven dilemmas, and what we will cover regarding each one during the workshop. If you are local to the Minnesota area and looking for support, tune in to hear about this wonderful opportunity to not only work through common roadblocks, but also meet other incredible women who are on the same journey as you. In this episode:[3:58] What is one of the top stories that Lesa's clients face?[7:28] Lesa discusses working through parenting concerns.[9:44] Lesa shares about emotional impact and how it can impact your divorce journey.[12:09] How can people handle the social stigma or the judgment around divorce?[14:10] Lesa talks about how she will give legal information in the upcoming workshop. [15:08] A huge dilemma that comes up is loneliness in divorce, how do you manage it? [18:52] Tracy describes her program, Self Made U.Key Takeaways: [10:18] When you leave your feelings in the dark, you can't heal. Acknowledging those feelings and bringing them to the light is the first step to being able to heal and find clarity and opportunities for what you are experiencing.[11:00] When you are operating from your prodigy brain, you are more likely to be able to look through the lens or find the perspective around gifts and opportunities. [17:00] Join Lesa and Tracy's master class on April 25th from 9am-1pm in Minnesota to learn how to navigate the 7 most common dilemmas that Lesa has seen while being a divorce mediator. Learn strategies from both Lesa's experience and Tracy's coaching so you can better navigate the circumstances you are going through. Quotes: [10:13] “Teaching the people at the workshop how to really feel them (feelings), because coach Tracy, you taught me that anything in the dark can't heal. So when we try to fight those feelings or pretend we don't have them or ignore them, they're in the dark when we go “hello there fear, or anxiety, or whatever you are,” it comes to the light and that's the first step in being able to heal.” - Lesa Koski[12:52] “I think when you find yourself swimming in judgment, you have to decide to prioritize your well-being over societal opinions and stigma. You have to challenge the stigma by refusing to internalize those judgements. You have to be able to separate the fact from the fiction of how society views divorce, like leveraging empathy for yourself.” - Tracy Pleschourt[15:42] “If loneliness is getting in the way of you being able to get through your day, then therapy is definitely the path that you want to pursue. If it's just something that you're starting to recognize, but you're still able to get through your day, you're still able to manage your day, then coaching is probably the right path for you to take.” - Tracy Pleschourt Guest Bio: Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes.Just a few years ago, Tracy was a successful, advertising executive. Stifled by the rigorous, time-consuming demands of the corporate world, she traded in her 20 years of advertising to pursue her real passion: life & weight loss coaching.Tracy is a student of her own work and has stopped overeating, overdrinking, and created a

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Do you find yourself getting lost in people pleasing? Traci is back to talk about what people pleasing is and how you can start living for yourself. People pleasing is in the eye of the beholder, and sometimes it may feel good to be available for the people around you, there may also be times when you feel like you are being dragged around to do what everyone else wants. Tune in to learn how to become grounded and confident in what you desire, and how to place boundaries to protect what you want. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. ResourcesTracy Pleschourt InstagramTracy Pleschourt WebsiteTracy Pleschourt FacebookTracy Pleschourt LinkedInLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's MasterclassTo receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/differentI am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass

Regulating your nervous system is the number one thing you can do to handle difficult situations. Today, I have Sharri Freedman on who is a divorce, relationship and women's empowerment coach. She talks about regulating your nervous system, and why it is so crucial while going through a difficult time such as divorce. She provides a great breathing exercise and talks about how she helps her clients with visualization so they know what direction they want to work towards. We discuss why it is necessary to be uncomfortable in order to change, and how to really become conscious with your everyday life. Tune in today for her incredible tips, I know you'll learn something new! In this episode:[2:35] Sharri tells her story of what led her to become a coach.[7:54] How do you regulate the nervous system? [13:08] Sharri walks us through a breathing exercise to calm your nervous system. [15:17] How do you work through situations when the fear comes back?[16:13] What is mind magic? [20:53] How can you get comfortable being uncomfortable? [24:40] Sharri shares her key takeaway she'd like listeners to start with. Key Takeaways: [5:33] All the mindset work in the world isn't going to work if your body is not in sync. If you don't feel safe inside your body, change is not going to happen. [12:48] If you can regulate your nervous system by releasing the feelings in a positive and empowering way, you won't erupt like a volcano. You can be in the middle of mediation or the courtroom and talk through issues from a place of calmness and clarity instead of being reactive. [24:47] Divorce is painful and pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. Quotes: [8:15] “If you're in an unhappy marriage, or if you are in the process of divorce, or maybe you're already divorced, you have been living in fight, flight, or freeze for a very, very, very long time. And we're not meant to be in that state for long periods of time. It's meant to be quick, to get you out of danger and then go back to calm and peacefulness. But we're in this jacked up state that becomes our normal and it's not normal. It causes stress and pressure constriction and it leads to disease. You're not an even flow, which then leads to a lot of physical ailments, not just mental ailments, not just stress and depression and sadness, it also actually physically affects your body.” - Sharri Freedman[10:55] “The key to all of it is: you have to learn to love and accept yourself, forgive yourself, and learn to date yourself before you start moving on to other relationships.” - Sharri Freedman[18:47] “You have to love your fear, you have to love it. If you don't love your fear, it's going to sabotage you. It's going to prevent you from doing what you need to do. We don't want to push through it, instead it's acknowledging the fear is there, saying hello fear, I see you there, I know you're there to protect me, and I want to thank you for protecting me all those years when I needed you, but I don't need the protection right now'.” - Sharri Freedman[27:47] “Divorce is painful and pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.” - Sharri FreedmanGuest Bio: Sharri Freedman is a sought after relationship, divorce, and women's empowerment coach liberating women from their old programming, their past wounds & their disempowered limiting beliefs so that they have instant clarity when it comes to marital decisions, parenting decisions, & career decisions. Her signature program LIBERATED featuring the Mind Magic® framework combines her 3 decades of experience as a divorce professional with neuroscience, thought work, somatics, & spirituality...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. As we wrap up our four part series on believing in your future self, I wanted to do a recap of each episode. If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, we want you to know that that suffering is unnecessary, that it does not have to be a part of your life any longer. These episodes will help you to reframe how you look at the circumstances in your life and learn how to create opportunities out of difficulties. Do yourself a favor and go back and listen to the episodes to receive their true value! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. ResourcesBelieving in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 1Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 2Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 3Tracy Pleschourt's InstagramTracy Pleschourt's WebsiteTracy Pleschourt's FacebookTracy Pleschourt's LinkedInLesa Koski's WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's MasterclassTo receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/differentI am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass

Going through a divorce comes with a great mix of emotions, one of which can be grief. It can be an interesting emotion to navigate as you haven't actually lost someone to death, but the feelings feel similar. Today, I am talking with family, marriage, and grief therapist Brittany Squillace about the different types of grief and how to work through them. She discusses ambiguous loss and how it relates to recognizing the obstacles of the loss of a marriage. Brittany talks about the common experiences that people grieving divorce face, and how to support someone going through a divorce if you're not the one in the middle of it. She highlights how to grieve and move on from a divorce when you have to continue to interact with that person. Tune in to better understand what you may be feeling and how to work through those difficult emotions. In this episode:[2:38] Brittany shares the story of how she got into family, marriage and grief therapy. [5:00] How does grief work with a divorce? [7:25] How can you allow yourself to feel safe while dealing with grieving?[8:31] What is the difference between a safe and unsafe place to grieve?[14:09] How is the grieving of a divorce (non death loss) different from a loss from death?[16:20] How do you grieve and move on when you have to continue to interact with the person?[22:46] What is a way to give hope during a really hard time? [27:05] Brittany shares one thing you can do right now to help you. Key Takeaways: [8:32] Creating a safe space to feel your grief is essential for working through it. A safe space means talking with people who support you, who will hold your stuff and not take it on as their own. They won't make you feel bad about it, dismiss or downplay what you are experiencing. [18:42] Grief never really goes away, although it does change. There may be times where it hits you like a ton of bricks and you wonder where in the world that came from. It happens and it's okay. What will change and what won't feel the same over time is the intensity in which that happens and how often that happens. [23:15] Whether you are going through grief or you are trying to help a loved one deal with grief early on, let them know that you will hold the hope for them. It won't be easy navigating grief, and it won't be linear, but being there to listen, support, and hold hope is one of the best things you can do. You can also hold hope for yourself by recognizing what you've accomplished and reminding yourself that you can do that thing again and again. Quotes: [8:06] “There can be some benefit in sitting with the discomfort that comes with grief. The sadness, the anger, the confusion, whatever it might be. There can be a lot of benefits in holding your own space and saying, ‘I'm okay, this is uncomfortable, but I'm okay, and I can sit here and feel these because this is real'.” - Brittany Squillace [24:02] “Let someone hold the hope for you. If you have a good day or you have a moment, like a good moment in your day, highlight that. That's that part of hope. So now you can start holding that hope for yourself because you're like, ‘oh, I did it once before. This was an example where things are starting to shift for me'.” - Brittany Squillace [27:06] “One of the main things I wanted to make sure I touch on is ambiguous loss or divorce or anything that fits within this category falls into a type of grief called disenfranchised grief, which basically means it's a loss and a grief that doesn't get recognized so then therefore we don't grieve it the way that we should.” - Brittany SquillaceGuest Bio: MEET BRITTANY SQUILLACEWhen people learn I guide others through their grief...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today we are talking about connecting with your future self, and how to make that future version of yourself a reality. If you are connected to your painful past, you are feeling the fear of duplicating your past. It keeps you stuck or stunted. Decide who your future self is, so you can use him or her to make decisions about today. The three steps to getting to your future self are to begin seeing who you are in the future, feeling into it, and finding your knowing that it's possible to be that next version of you. Tune in to learn the benefits and exercises to connect with the future version of you! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. ResourcesBe Your Future Self NowTracy Pleschourt InstagramTracy Pleschourt WebsiteTracy Pleschourt FacebookTracy Pleschourt LinkedInLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's MasterclassTo receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/differentI am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass

Are you in the beginning steps of a divorce process and wondering how spousal support or maintenance works? This encore episode walks through everything you need to know from family law attorney, Michelle Kniess. She discusses what information is necessary to determine maintenance support to ensure that both sides are equally represented. Michelle and I also talk about the difference between how I support my clients through mediation and how she helps her clients 1:1. We talk about what it looks like if the person receiving spousal support moves in with someone new and how that can impact the amount they get. Tune in to learn what you need to be aware of while going through a divorce that requires maintenance support and how to know what to ask for. In this episode:[4:05] Michelle shares her story of how she got into her current career.[8:31] What does it look like when Michelle is working with a client and determining what they need for maintenance?[13:57] What is the expectation of how long alimony will last, and what are the expectations for the person getting maintenance? [17:28] When does maintenance end and what factors go into the duration?[19:16] What happens when the person getting maintenance moves in with someone and is sharing expenses? [23:20] Can a couple make the decision to determine their own agreement on maintenance that the court cannot change?Key Takeaways: [7:15] It's so important for you to understand what your expenses are and what they're going to be after divorce so you can understand if spousal support is needed (and if it's available), or if there are things you need to change regarding your lifestyle, home, or job to be able to stay within your budget.[15:48] The person receiving the maintenance can do what they want with their life, if they don't want to work, they don't have to, but at some point the court will assume that there's going to be a level of income earned or that should be earned if the person is fully capable of generating income on their own. [23:23] There are three things that you have to talk about with maintenance, and that is amount, duration and modifiability. If it is ordered by the court then it can be modifiable because the court and the law recognize that there's changes in circumstances that can happen as life moves forward. Quotes: [9:02] “When then your marriage is ending and you're finding yourself in this position where you're going to have to be separate and no longer follow this plan, we have to take a look at what are the resources and what are the needs? I mean, that's about as basic as I can put it. And it's a very emotional topic for parties, whether you're on the receiving side or the paying side.” - Michelle Kniess[21:00] “So you're examining this relationship and trying to make all sorts of crystal ball predictions about it. When you really have no idea what's going to happen there. One thing that's really important about cohabitation is there is no legal obligation attached to that for the person living with the obligee spouse to support that person.” - Michelle Kniess [27:29] “A buyout means perhaps somebody gets more property than they would otherwise get just to pay for perhaps a care on waiver or part of the maintenance award.” - Michelle KniessGuest Bio: Michelle Kniess devotes her entire practice to family law in Minnesota and Wisconsin. Her practice focuses on divorce, custody and parenting time, spousal maintenance, child support, and property valuation and division, including business interests. Michelle practiced as a business litigation attorney prior to pursuing a career in family law. She owned and managed a boutique family law practice for nearly nine years. Michelle...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Instead of just 2x'ing your life, imagine you decided to ask yourself what is currently impossible, and then chase after that ‘impossible' thing, and end up 10x'ing your life? That's the topic Traci Pleschourt of SelfMadeU, and I talk about today: How to dream up a new goal, focus your time on it, and change your life. We typically spend 20% of our time focusing on the changes we really want to make, and 80% of our time being distracted by things that have nothing to do with our big goal. What if instead, you took a chance on yourself, and zeroed in on the 20%. Tune in today for some great tips from my coach Traci on how to accomplish this! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. Resources10x Is Easier Than 2xTracy Pleschourt InstagramTracy Pleschourt WebsiteTracy Pleschourt FacebookTracy Pleschourt LinkedInLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's MasterclassTo receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/differentI am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass

How do you know when it's time to divorce? That's a question I often receive from clients, so I decided to bring on Divorce Coach and Author, Kate Anthony to help answer this question. During this encore episode, we discuss what to look at when you are considering divorce and how to determine if divorce is the right decision for you. We also talk about why many women are unhappy in their marriages, and if that is a reflection of the marriage itself or the life that they are living. We ended the episode with a discussion around how to know if you are in a relationship with a narcissist and if the diagnosis even really matters. Kate is someone that I've looked up to for a long time, I love her podcast and I've even taken some of her courses to help me with mediation. She is such a joy to learn from, I can't wait for you to tune in. In this episode:[4:20] Kate shares what led her to do the work that she's doing now. [8:18] What are the first things to look at when thinking about getting a divorce? [11:25] Why do women get unhappy in their marriage?[18:25] Kate gives her insight on when people are married and there is nothing wrong with their marriage, but that they have fallen out of love. [23:22] How to know if your spouse is a narcissist and what to do about it.[28:24] Kate offers a piece of advice for helping women reach the decision if they are truly wanting a divorce or not. Key Takeaways: [11:33] Women are so over stretched with everything that they have on their plates and are carrying an unequal load compared to their husbands. Society has women working, paying the bills, keeping up the house, being the main caregiver for the children, and managing everything that comes with those tasks such as doctor appointments, extracurricular activities, presents for special occasions, etc. Then they also have to be the ones to care for their husband and understand his flaws and balance those out as well. [16:34] There has been a study done that shows the happiest people in Western culture are married men. The second happiest are single women, the third happiest are single men. Married women are the least happy people in Western culture. [21:57] A loving relationship is when both spouses feed the health, safety, and sanctity of the relationship. When both people are willing to put in the work to help the other be fulfilled and find happiness, while also doing the work on themselves, the marriage is a happier place to be. Quotes: [11:33] “Women are unhappy in their marriages because marriage, the institution as we understand it or as we live it today, benefits men on the backs of women and our labor, whether it's domestic labor, emotional labor, we're carrying an absolutely unequal load.” - Kate Anthony[13:22] We spend so much time going, ‘but he had a really hard childhood and I understand why he is the way that he is and it's really hard for him.' And okay, I can understand the way that he is and have compassion, great compassion. But I'm not going to have more compassion for his childhood wounding than I am for how he's dumping that on me.” - Kate Anthony[16:10] “Feminism means that you believe that women have equal rights to men and should have them under the law and in our culture and in relationships. Like that's, this is not a bad word unless you're in a relationship or a system that very, very, very much depends upon us not having that equality, which most relationships do.” - Kate AnthonyGuest Bio: Kate Anthony is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage, host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast and the creator...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. For the next four weeks, my coach Traci Pleschourt, will be talking about connecting with our future selves. This week we are talking about connecting with your past. We start by encouraging you to look at how far you've come instead of focusing on the past or what you have left to do to reach your goals. We discuss having faith in God and faith in the direction that you are going. Then we talk about how to look backwards from the right perspective. Tune in to learn how to suffer less and feel motivated. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. ResourcesThe Gap and The Gain BookTracy Pleschourt InstagramTracy Pleschourt WebsiteTracy Pleschourt FacebookTracy Pleschourt LinkedInLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's MasterclassTo receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/differentI am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass

Holidays can be tough when you are divorced, but coming up with a strategy to enjoy them is possible! I am discussing 7 things you can do to help your children and yourself navigate the holidays. From creating new traditions, to having expectations around finances, and even dealing with high conflict parenting situations, I have some wonderful ideas throughout this episode. Tune in to learn more ways to make your holiday special after divorce. In this episode:[2:48] How do kids feel during the holidays when their parents are divorced and how can you support them with those feelings?[7:59] 7 things you can do to help your children through the holidays.[14:01] How to manage the holidays if you are in a high-conflict parenting situation.Key Takeaways: [9:02] Discuss the holiday schedule with your children so they are not left wondering what the time out of school might look like. Provide them with clarity of how the schedule will look, and answer any questions they may have. [10:52] Find some new traditions you can start with your children. There may be opportunities to do activities that weren't an option while you were married. Quality time with your kids is what matters most to them. [13:22] Prioritize your own self care. Have empathy with yourself and make sure that you are taking care of yourself so you can take care of your children well. Quotes: “I know there's lots of tricky things involved, but you can set the tone for a positive experience. So the greatest thing that you can do is to be united with the other co-parent and work together and let the kids see that you are working together.” - Lesa Koski“My childhood memories of Christmas, I think the best ones are when we did something. I don't remember the gifts that I got, but I remember the time that we spent together. So remember that your kids just need time with you as simple as going sledding down a hill and getting hot cocoa.” - Lesa Koski“You need to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your children well. They need you more than anything. So make sure that you're in a good spot, you're doing the things to get your mind right so that you don't have to be stressed out and be easy on yourself. If you are struggling to have empathy, it is a tough time of year, but you can help your children thrive through the holidays.” - Lesa KoskiResources: A Kid With Two Homes InstagramLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's MasterclassTo receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/differentI am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. If you've ever been unclear about what a therapist is vs what a coach is, this is a great episode that breaks it down. Lesa talks about her experience working with a coach, and digs in to where a therapist might be able to future help her with other things she is dealing with. You'll also hear about the difference of working with an attorney vs a mediator. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes and new releases every Tuesday. ResourcesJill Barnett Kaufman's Website8 Guidelines for Separated and Divorced ParentsSeparation and Divorce Support Community Facebook PageJill Barnett Kaufman's InstagramLesa Koski WebsiteLesa's Online CoursesLesa's MasterclassTo receive real-time alerts that your child is safe, visit https://www.soberlink.com/partners/differentI am so honored to introduce my FREE Co-Parenting Masterclass. This masterclass shares tools to co-parent well even with a difficult co-parent. You will learn the 5 C's of a Co-Parenting Plan and a free bonus resource with Certified Divorce Lending Specialist, Tami Wollensak, sharing what you want to consider regarding the family home. Sign up to receive a video replay at https://www.lesakoski.com/co-parenting-masterclass