Coach Brad Podcast

On today's podcast we talk about the Action Diagnosis Call & how it will work for you!In all divorces, there are blocks that 99% of Men are unaware of that make it a near certainty that your wife wont come back.In this diagnosis session, we discover your blocks and clear them with a simple yet highly effective technique that allows the right energy to flow between you both.Get FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Check out the Coach Brad Bloghttps://coach-brad.com/blog/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast, we talk about the Status Control Call that is apart of the 12 Week Program & how it will work for you. Your “partnership status” is low in your wife's eyes, that's why she left. That's about to change in week 2 because we're going to take you through the 5-point status upgrade habits that dramatically increase your Wife's positive perception of you.Get FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Check out the Coach Brad Blog https://coach-brad.com/blog/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast, we are talking about what you'll get in Week #1 of the 12 Week Program. The undesirable actions and negative perceptions from your wife of you that built up over time are the bleeding veins of your marriage.In this first 30-minute session we very quickly dissect and diagnose those leaks and 100% prevent any further damage.Get FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Check out the Coach Brad Blog https://coach-brad.com/blog/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast, we talk about what you need to know in order to save your marriage. It's really important for Coach Brad to identify:1.  What went wrong, 2.  Our client's needs & 3.  Whether or not they are fit and able to go through such transformation in order to get results.Get FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Check out the Coach Brad Blog https://coach-brad.com/blog/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast we talk about "The Art Of Soppy Pussy Syndrome & what you should do to fix it" which is in conjunction with the blog we posted earlier. I just wanted to cover it to help co-dependant men find some sort of reasoning or grounds to be able to stand up for themselves.Get FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Check out the Coach Brad Blog https://coach-brad.com/blog/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast, we talk about "Verbal Agreements About Your Divorce Never Work". Here's why you need to get yourself into a lawyer to write up an agreement as soon as possible so you can protect yourself! Always Remember, Nothing is fair in love & warGet FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Check out the Coach Brad Blog https://coach-brad.com/blog/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast we talk about "Maximize Your Daily Schedule - Secrets to Manifestation"When I was going through my breakup, I went from a structured environment back to my own sporadic schedule that I had all this time on my hands and no clue how to edge my way to what I wanted.Get FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Check out the Coach Brad Blog https://coach-brad.com/blog/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast we talk about "Financial Things That Will Catch You Off Guard - Most people overlook this" This will help those who haven't had to think about the harsh reality of losing money on things like:Child support, Refinancing homes, Loss of savings & moreGet FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Check out the Coach Brad Blog https://coach-brad.com/blog/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast, we talk about "Your Ex is Sleeping With Your Best Friend — here's what you should do" In conjunction with the blog, we wrote this morning I wanted to go in-depth about your role as the judge and jury of your own situation.Check out the Coach Brad Blog Article https://coach-brad.com/2022/04/08/your-ex-is-sleeping-with-your-best-friend-heres-what-you-should-do/Get FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast we talk about the acceptance phase & how you know you are there. When reaching this phase you will feel a weight off your shoulders from moving through the depression, but you will have certain triggers or things you haven't correctly worked through come back up. We talk about the breakup hangover & more!Get FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Check out the Coach Brad Blog https://coach-brad.com/blog/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast we talk about The Depression Phase. When going through depression,It can become difficult to get out of bed in the mornings or to have the drive to do anything so we decided to give you a couple of tips & tricks to counter this & more!Get FREE Solutions That Will Save Your Marriage Today!https://coach-brad.com/Check out the Coach Brad Blog https://coach-brad.com/blog/Click here for the 12 Week Programhttps://coach-brad.com/courses-program

On today's podcast we talk about The Begging Phase & everything you need to know in order to get through it, if you are following the Coach Brad community then you will know the importance of going through the 5 Phases - if you are struggling with any phase then this is for you!

On today's podcast, we talk about the Anger Phase & everything you need to know in order to combat this emotionally destructive phase. If you are familiar with Coach Brad & what we teach you will know that there are 5 phases to deal with, If you are struggling with Anger then this is for you

On today's podcast we talk about "The Best Investment You Can Make". When people think of investment they always think of return on financial investment but there are somethings money just can't save and that is health & relationships. If you are uncertain about what you should be doing when it comes to getting over a breakup, divorce or saving your marriage then this podcast is for you.

On today's podcast, we talk about how to handle resentment towards your ex-partner. When it comes to the final outcome of acceptance, we aim to become clear of any emotions that our body has when we have a thought about our ex-partner. So basically today I talk about removing that emotional trigger that is sitting inside your subconscious - every time you have a thought your subconscious and nervous system talk and create that pain that you feel or emotion that you feel.

On today's episode, we talk about Battling The Fear Of Moving On - What will your life look like after your divorce. This is kind of like that grey area that you are in where you have the death of your reality, you no longer know what direction you are heading in and this could possibly cause some concern.

On today's podcast we talk about Comfort Eating - Weight gain & weight loss tips for your situation. What is means to comfort eat during your divorce or breakup & ways around it. 

On todays podcast we talk about "My Advice To Will Smith - Sub-conscious manipulation & being triggered". In any relationship there is an alpha and a beta - if you are in a relationship where the roles consist of you being the beta to your spouse who is the alpha then you could possibly see a sense of co-dependency or two sets of rules, one for you and one for them. In that case, the only way to reverse the roles is to stand up, leave & remove their power

On today's podcast we talk about standing up for yourself when your ex has moved on but still keeps lingering in your life. Learning how to say no and setting boundaries are extremely powerful & I strongly believe this podcast will help with that!

On today's podcast we talk about "Shiny Object Syndrome" & why people fail when going through their breakup or divorce. When it comes to sustaining the duration of their endeavors there are a certain number of things they need to know in order to be successful.

On today's podcast we talk about the impact of the divorce on your children, how it will be both a good & bad thing for them. Being so young - they will need reassurance, stability & more

On today's podcast we talk about healthy habits that help your new situation flourish. It is super important to have small things that you can manifest easily on a weekly basis that you look forward to and that you can do to pick you up when you are feeling low

On today's podcast we talking about sleeping arrangements when it comes to breaking up with someone you live with. In the early days of any breakup, you need to create some space that you can start to build an entity around, once you do that then the rest is history.

On today's podcast we talk about Independent vs Co-dependent - The dirty dynamic you never knew about. The idea for this came about when I was talking to my clients and I saw a common theme about why things work, why they don't & what follows after.

On today's podcast, we talk about breakup fatigue and how you can work through it. When going through the 5 phases of your breakup, things will start to get tiring around the begging phase which leads to withdrawals and broken no contact rules. 

On today's podcast we talk about ways to win your discussions & the power of your answer.No means NoDon't agree to things you don't agree toStop apologizing"I'll think about it" tactic

On today's podcast, we are going to talk about the difference between legally separating & emotionally separating. If you think that once your divorce is final that then you will be emotionally over it then this is for you

In today's podcast we talk about the collaborative law approach which help's couples divorce effectively. 

Be straight to the point - I have a rule that if it can't fit on one line then it must happen at a mutual meeting point such as a coffee shop (keep them away from your personal space). Don't send double messages - yes, they got your message & the truth is of course they are avoiding it whether they have seen it or not. They will often lie once they get back in touch and tell you it went to their spam folder but in reality, everyone knows what emails they get & when they get them. Their birthday is this month, should I say happy birthday? - enabling yourself to double message or break no contact for an occasion is not recommended at all. When the shoe is on the other foot - the chances of them contacting you on your birthday will be extremely low so please don't expect anything. I have their mail - Leave it in your mailbox or put it in theirs but don't inform them they have mail until after the 30 days no contact. When an ex shows up at your place - have them leave immediately, even if they say they want to work on things I want you to either not answer the door or tell them that you will meet with them for coffee in three days. This will give you a chance to cool off and perfect the message you are going to portray to them about the overall situation. Just remember that we are working on the overall situation here and not buying the small pieces of information they are trying to use to throw you off guard. Can we talk about custody? - "sure" - but do not message over text about legal actions as this could or would be used against you if taken to family court. Less is more when it comes to messaging. I miss you - when receiving a message like this, do not respond as this will enable you to reply, your ex is baiting you for their own attention or testing where you are at with them. Answering this is like opening up an old wound that is trying to heal – you have broken up and neither side is making moves to getting back together. Listen to the moves they make and not the words they say – words are easy but actions are what counts 100%. Arguments or Disagreements surrounding a pet - by law there will be an owner & that is the tough reality - if this isn't you and you have paid all medical bills from day one then you will need to follow this through with a lawyer so don't mention this with them until you are 100% about your movements on it. If you are the legal owner and have paid all medical bills then do not let your ex see the pet, not once. "Hey, I am much happier with new my partner" - If you receive this message then don't reply, anybody who is happy will see little sense in reminding someone they weren't happy with that they are now over the moon. Don't take that bait - happiness doesn't lie within a relationship and that should never be your responsibility, someone's depth for happiness lies within their own relationship to how grateful they are for what they have on multiple levels including money, love, self-love, job, family life and more. If you have mutual friends with this ex then you need you be careful with these friends - you never know who their trust lies with and for that reason I wouldn't mention your ex or current situation to these people. There will be people in this situation who will need to be put on the “back burner” for the time being and that is fine but any news that will be relayed back to your ex needs to be mitigated. A simple reply of "I'm doing great" is all that needs to be said.

Join me today as we talk about my experience with depression & how I was able to get over it using my 4 step system: StopRefreshRethinkRestartHere are some other useful tips and techniques that we cover in today's podcast,Morning routineEvening Meditation The difference between the "being" & the "doing"

Here's a few things that will change about your situation after your divorce. For those of you that are asking, I hope this clears things up and gives you some sort of hope.

Dealing with jealousy after you see your ex moving onIt's perfectly normal (and expected) to feel jealous when you see your ex moving on in life after a breakup. That said, there's nothing quite as destructive and toxic as jealousy that is not handled correctly. While it can be hard, try your best not to let your insecurities get in the way of making good decisions for yourself. If you find yourself obsessing over what your ex is doing instead of working on bettering yourself and/or staying true to who you are, it's time for a reality check. Evaluate how jealous you are being versus how reasonable your concerns are; do they actually line up?Jealousy can be an ugly emotion, so what do you do when it strikes? How do you deal with jealousy, especially when you're concerned that your ex may be moving on? Dealing with jealousy isn't easy, but these steps can help.Dealing with jealousy after the breakupIt's normal to be jealous when your ex moves on, but that doesn't mean you have to get caught up in unnecessary drama. Try some of these strategies and tips for dealing with your feelings of jealousy while they're still fresh. If you have any other suggestions or tips, we'd love to hear from you. Let us know what works for you in the comments below!Dealing with jealousy because you feel left outIf you're dealing with jealousy because you feel left out or overlooked, there are some important things you should remember. First of all, if your ex has moved on, it's natural for that to cause some jealousy. And it's totally normal—but only up to a point. If your jealousy is eating away at your self-esteem and making it difficult for you to function normally in everyday life, then you might need help getting through it. Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what's going on and take care of yourself before reaching out again (and causing more conflict) by taking things slow and giving your ex space as well.What makes you jealousIt's natural to be curious about your ex after a breakup. You want to know what they're doing, who they're doing it with, and how often. Why? Because you're still interested in them and see them as an option for your future happiness. This can quickly turn into an obsession where you spend more time trying to figure out who their new partner is than you do focusing on your own life (which doesn't seem like such a bad idea at first). It's important that you understand why it's so important for them to move on if you don't want to feel jealous. It all boils down our primal desire for survival – both as individuals and species.Dealing with feelings of insecurityIt can be tough to deal with feelings of jealousy when you see your ex moving on. You may feel angry or disrespected, or have trouble understanding why they need space or time away from you. All of these are normal feelings, but it's important not to let them get in your way. In fact, trying to over-compensate for those feelings might cause you more harm than good—so it's best if you just let things happen as they do.

What is the begging phase? How can you recognize it? How long does it last? Is it what you think it is? Find out in this article on the begging phase explained and how to overcome it as quickly as possible!What Is The Beg/Bargain Phase?The beg/bargain phase has been frequently misinterpreted. People in a begging/bargaining relationship are not actually trying to resolve conflict. They are looking for someone else to fix it for them and bring the resolution back into their lives. The reality is that you can't always control what your partner does or how they react, but you do have complete control over your reaction. So even if your partner is begging you to stay or offering to change, unless it aligns with what you want, leave them and focus on yourself.What Not To Do During The Begging PhaseThe begging phase is when we often make our biggest mistake. We begin to bargain and compromise. We think that if we can get our husband to give in, then he will feel less guilty about having an affair. The truth is that if your husband has cheated on you, then he probably doesn't care whether or not you suffer as a result of his choices and actions. Don't try to manipulate him into staying with you - it never works. And more importantly, don't give up during the begging phase - it could be your last chance at saving your marriage! Remember, everything is negotiable except for his decision to leave you and move on with another woman!How Can I Help My Child During This Phase?This is often where I see parents get really frustrated. When their child begs for a toy or some food, they give in. They figure that if it makes their child happy and doesn't hurt them (or anyone else), why not? There are two reasons not to do it, and both of them come down to teaching your child what healthy eating looks like. First, by giving in and buying something unhealthy, you're teaching your kid that eating junk will earn him rewards (because you'll buy him whatever he wants). Second, you're showing him that good food isn't valuable enough to fight for; only junk food is worth making a fuss over. This can lead to problems down the road when your kids are faced with either processed junk or fresh vegetables—what will they choose?How Long Does This Phase Last?The begging phase will vary from child to child, family to family, and situation to situation. There is no way for me to tell you how long your begging phase will last because there are so many factors at play. Your job as a parent is to be aware of what's going on around you, and be responsive accordingly. This means stepping in when needed, but it also means allowing children space when they need it too. Be flexible! Learning how long begging phase lasts really depends on your child's individual needs and desires. The most important thing is that you are responsive in meeting your child's needs and you have awareness of those needs.

Be realistic with your expectationsThe first thing you should know about divorce lawyers is that many won't work on contingency. If you're hoping that your lawyer will take care of everything for free if you lose, be realistic with your expectations; it isn't likely, especially for complicated divorces. Your lawyer will charge by his or her billable hours, and he or she may also charge a retainer fee upfront. You will want to consider all these expenses before hiring a divorce lawyer. To help ease some of these costs, try working with a local family law attorney who can give you sound legal advice without expensive court filings required at every step of your divorce process.Consult with more than one lawyerGet referrals from friends and colleagues and narrow down your list of potential divorce lawyers. Then, try to schedule one or two consultations with each of these candidates before making your final choice. During each consultation, you'll likely have an opportunity to learn about the lawyer's background and experience as well as what their legal fees will be. This way, you can make sure that you find a divorce lawyer who is both suitable for your case and within your budget.Understand you will have to pay lawyers feesWhile you can certainly find affordable lawyers, it's important to note that you will have to pay their fees. Depending on your case, these fees can be expensive—but so is divorce. Be sure you know exactly what legal services will cost before hiring an attorney and ask if they offer payment plans.The divorce process can be lengthyit can take anywhere from six months to three years, depending on where you live. As you begin the divorce process, it's a good idea to spend some time talking with a divorce lawyer. A divorce lawyer is an attorney that has experience with negotiating divorce settlements and working through legal issues related to separation and marriage termination. Here are some topics of conversation to consider when meeting with your divorce lawyer:Where the kids go depends on age and circumstanceThe first and most important step in deciding where your children will live after the divorce is figuring out who they'll live with. If you and your spouse can't come to an agreement, you'll need help from your attorney, a judge or mediator to make that decision. Let's look at how it breaks down by age. ... Once you know who's getting legal custody of your kids, then it's time to start thinking about what physical custody arrangement will work best for them. ... After getting joint legal custody, one common option is joint physical custody. What does that mean? It means both parents have equal custodial rights—they share in making major decisions regarding their child's education and general welfare—but spend different amounts of time with them: anywhere from 50/50 on up to 90/10.Get your finances in orderIf you don't know where your money is going, it's nearly impossible to start cutting back. For many of us, finances aren't as simple as spending less than you earn. If you want to dig into your expenses and figure out how—and why—you spend what you do (which is especially helpful in business situations), apps like Mint can help; over time, those regular expense reports can really give you a better idea of where your money goes. But if your finances are particularly complex (i.e., an extra house), that's where speaking with someone else comes in handy.

How do you break the trauma bond of a narcissist? If you've been through the hell of living with one, it can seem impossible to rebuild your life once the relationship has ended. You may be feeling confused and even hopeless, but know that it's not too late to create the life you truly want, no matter how deep your trauma bond with your ex may run.Why was I so invested in this relationship?The answer lies in what psychologists call trauma bonding. The original definition was developed by James R. Allen, Christine Courtois, and Jeffrey van der Kolk in 1988. It was defined as a strong emotional attachment between victim and offender that develops from repeated cycles of abuse during which restraint is used to coerce cooperation or compliance (bondage). More recently, it has been reformulated by Sue Johnson (author of Hold Me Tight) to describe how couples become so attached that they cannot effectively separate from each other. This occurs due to anxiety about threats to attachment bonds between two people (often spouses), after divorce for example. In traumatic bonding, there is also an unhealthy cycle where you fear your partner will abandon you, yet hope he or she will return after he or she leaves.The narcissist isn't going to changeIf you're getting divorced or leaving a relationship with someone who has been abusive, you must understand that as long as that person is in your life, your trauma bond will remain. If you're a survivor of abuse or have gone through trauma, it is important to realize that staying in contact with an abusive partner will only prolong your suffering. You may not be able to break away immediately and completely but you can set limits on what you will and won't do. For example, if he refuses counseling then stop talking with him until he agrees to get help; if she continues contacting you despite your request for her not to, stop answering her calls and telling her when she can call again.Why did it take me so long?For many victims, leaving or divorcing an abusive partner is not easy. They're emotionally invested in their partner and find it difficult to separate themselves from him or her. This sense of investment is often compounded by a lack of outside support. Victims may stay in an abusive relationship because they believe it's too risky for them to leave (for example, if their abuser has threatened violence against them if they left). Victims may also feel dependent on their partners for practical reasons—such as help with daily responsibilities or financial issues. Some victims remain with their abusers because they are afraid that no one else will want them—because these partners have abused them so thoroughly and over such an extended period, victims may be convinced that no one else would love them either way.You can heal!And here's another big one: it's all going to be OK. Whatever you're experiencing now is only temporary. All trauma is transitory—it may feel like it will last forever, but it won't. This truth has been hard for me, because I once believed I would never be free from my abusive ex. It was easy for me to forget that we were divorced when every painful detail came flooding back as soon as his name was mentioned (or I heard one of his songs). But like all relationships with narcissists, divorce can also be liberating if you come at it from a healthy place and make conscious decisions about how you want your life to unfold moving forward.

No matter how much you love your job, dealing with the stress of a breakup or divorce can bring about feelings of anxiety and self-doubt that may affect your work performance, or even lead to burnout. Here are some simple tips to help you manage your stress from a breakup or divorce at work.Remember you have choicesAlthough it's easy to lose yourself in your work and your projects when you're going through stress from a breakup or divorce, remember that there are ways to make things easier. Give yourself permission not only to put time aside for grieving, but also for your own health and mental health. For many people, trying new things like hobbies or activities can help alleviate some of that stress. If you aren't sure what might suit you best, go out with friends and try new activities.Let your boss knowYou've had a tough breakup, and you're not really sure how it will affect your work. You may feel uncomfortable sharing too much information with your boss or colleagues, but keep in mind that no matter what happens between you and your ex, you need to maintain professional boundaries. If possible, let your boss know about it before an emergency arises.Take care of yourselfit's easy to neglect your physical and mental health when you're going through a breakup or divorce. It can feel like there's just no time for yoga classes, meditation, walks in nature, eating healthy meals—you know all those things that might actually make you feel better. But working on your self-care is one of the most important things you can do for yourself during such difficult times.Find an outlet - let it outTaking an anger management class can really help, but you don't have to wait for someone else to offer one. Find an outlet that works for you; venting your emotions is cathartic, and physical activity (like running) has been shown to lower stress levels. Figure out what works best for you, then make time in your day for it—just as if it were an important meeting.Give yourself permission to take time off if neededIf you're suffering emotionally and find it difficult to get through your workday, give yourself permission to take time off. Many companies will allow you a certain number of sick days per year for personal emergencies, so use them when necessary. Remember that leaving early one day won't be catastrophic—it's okay if you only go partway toward your goals. You can always make up for lost time later in your career.

Getting your ex back is all about how you approach the situation and how well you prepare yourself to deal with it. If you take the time to analyze what went wrong in your relationship, figure out what actions to take, and go into the whole thing with patience and a positive attitude, there's no reason why you shouldn't be able to convince your ex that you're the right person for them. Here are some of the steps I recommend taking if you want to get your ex back in your life again.Getting Ex Back: A GuideGetting your ex back is difficult. It's not just a matter of saying, hey, I was wrong, you were right. If it were that easy then getting an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend back would be much easier than losing weight. There are many reasons why people want their old partner to return: they loved each other, they had something going on together and they don't want to lose that in their life. Whatever reason you have for wanting your partner back it can be done with some patience and a solid game plan so read on for more information about how you can get an old lover back into your arms again!How To Get Your Ex Back When They Are In A RelationshipBreaking up is a very hard thing for any person, but especially for those who have been in a long-term relationship. It is not easy getting your ex back when they are now in a relationship with someone else, but it can be done if you follow some proven steps. Here are some tips on how to get your ex back even when they are happy with someone else. Learn how to get an ex girlfriend or boyfriend back and make them want you again! Getting my Ex Back Advice In 5 Steps: 1. Start by understanding why they broke up with you in the first place 2. Try not to be too hasty when trying to get her or him back 3. Do not constantly badger them or beg 4. Give them space 5.Attracting Them BackThe best way to get an ex back is to look like you never broke up. The only thing they will remember about breaking up is that you left them, and it had nothing to do with anything they did. So act completely normal around them. And for those of you who feel like crying, don't cry in front of them at all! Don't even talk about it!Steps To Take If they Won't CommitIf you're committed to getting your ex back and willing to do what it takes, one of the most common questions is what should I do if they won't commit? The answer, of course, depends on why he or she doesn't want a commitment. There are four possibilities: 1) He/she isn't sure if he/she wants a relationship with you. 2) He/she doesn't know how important a relationship with you is. 3) He/she doesn't think he/she can be happy in a committed relationship. 4) You don't excite him/her as much as somebody else.Adding DesireIf you want an A student, you have to give him or her homework. If you want a dog that chases tennis balls, you have to toss them. In other words, if you want something done right (or better), do it yourself. Sure, there's always a chance that a friend or acquaintance will be willing and able to help get your ex back; but don't count on it. Instead of handing off control and letting someone else take over, find out how you can best craft an attractive package for re-entry into your former significant other's life. After all, he or she isn't going anywhere -- so get started!

https://www.coach-brad.com/blog/the-dos-and-don-ts-of-communicating-with-your-exDivorce can be a difficult and trying time, especially if you and your ex still have to communicate about important matters such as child care or property distribution. If you want to make the most of these interactions, here are some dos and don'ts for communicating with your ex.Do communicateFace-to-face, via email, a phone call—communication is key in order to have any kind of relationship with your ex. You don't have to be best friends, but try and communicate. You might be surprised how much it helps you both get on track. If your ex is truly evil (you probably won't know until you go through a divorce), then avoid communicating as much as possible—especially if they want nothing to do with you or vice versa.Do respond positively when they reach out to youAlthough it's natural to be angry when an ex spouse reaches out to you, try not to let that anger out. Respond positively to any overtures from your ex. An unkind response will only serve to put distance between you and your former partner. Think about it from their perspective—if someone was hurtful during a divorce, wouldn't you want them to respond differently?Don't be spitefulIn an ideal world, you'd both be mature adults who can sit down over coffee for an hour or two every few weeks to have a civil conversation about your kids, finances, and property. But let's face it: You likely don't live in an ideal world. It may sound clichéd, but remember that you are divorcing because you no longer love each other.Don't blame themBlaming your ex for mistakes they made during your marriage will only bring you down. Instead, try accepting responsibility for things you may have done wrong or made difficult during your relationship. You'll be able to separate yourself from all the arguments that led to a breakup and accept that people grow apart. Once you do that, it'll become easier to understand why things happened how they did and get on with healing.Use I statements and stick to the presentWhen talking to your ex, always frame your thoughts in I statements. It's easy to say things like You never listen to me! or You never support me! but these statements are blanket statements that aren't conducive to finding a solution. Frame your points in I-statements instead: I feel hurt when you don't listen to my ideas, because I feel like I can't share my thoughts with you.ConclusionUltimately, deciding whether or not to talk to your ex about certain matters is totally up to you. The best thing you can do for yourself (and your relationship) is to remain in contact with one another—but that doesn't mean you need to be in contact all day, every day.

We have outlined a brief below - the plan will be uploaded in the coming days Day 1. Getting through the first 24 hours  Day 2. Hold the No Contact  Day 3. Today will be a mid-week blowout Day 4. Start your planning today  Day 5. Today will either go 1 of 2 ways  Day 6. Today will be a weekend so I can't stress enough you getting out of the house  Day 7. Your Sundays will hurt the most  Day 8. Today will be a day of reflection  Day 9. Maintain no contact  Day 10. Get a haircut  Day 11. Go for a run  Day 12. Pick a new hobby  Day 13. Pick up meditation  Day 14. If you shared a room with this person then it would help if you changed the room around  Day 15. As you come into this week you will be met with breakup fatigue  Day 16. Runner's block  Day 17. At this stage, the best thing you can do is to put your head down and get stuck into your new process  Day 18. The whole purpose of today will be listening to your awareness  Day 19. Make some plans for the weekend surrounding your new hobby  Day 20. Today you will look back on the progress you have made and start to question what they are doing Day 21. Then the following day you will feel fine, you feel like there is a new lifeline and life after your ex starts to look not so bad!  Day 22. This week will be worthy of a medal and you will feel a million bucks as you look over the past 3 weeks and tell  Day 23. It is likely that you will see or hear something from them this week  Day 24. Restarting after the breakup can be scary as this means “okay I now have to find someone as good as her or with the same history and love” but that's not true - You need to become stubbornly awesome at being by yourself  Day 25. You become proud of this entity that you have built  Day 26. You sign up for Dating Apps but be ready to see her on it  Day 27. You speak with a couple of girls on dating apps but the frustration of seeing her starts to get to you  Day 28. You wonder if she will send you a message or should I reach out after no contact - the answer to that is no  Day 29. Final two - be proud & smile Day 30. Congrats - take yourself out for dinner or celebrate to yourself, keep her blocked on all platforms and don't reach out or tiptoe around their social media because chances are they could have moved on with someone else and you will get hurt.  So there you have it Your day-to-day plan for the first 30 days - it will be hard and there is no magic pill but I feel we are pretty darn close! This plan has been put together off the data we have collected from thousands of other men in the exact same position as you! It is common to experience all of these together but it is also not uncommon for you to only experience one or two. My biggest piece of advice and not to sugarcoat anything but, one phase will last around 3-4 weeks. 

Here's what you need to know about detaching; Block on all social Media Platforms.  Begin 1-3 days of getting your house in order to begin 30 days no contact.  Spring Cleaning on your tech devices – remove all photos and reminders.  Don't create stories in your head about who she's with or where she is going.  Put all small belongings in a box and store for return.  You are no longer co – creating your reality with them – death of a reality.  Don't race them to a dating app – seeing them on there will hurt.  Make plans with friends to keep busy.  Block out mutual friends who relay messages between you are your ex.  Have fun! You are now single and are able to make 100% of your own choices now.