Podcasts about Hold Me Tight

Learn about the transformative power of Hold Me Tight Workshops based on Sue Johnson's work and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) from licensed counselor and couples therapist, Mark Beck. Mark dives into attachment science in nurturing healthy relationships and addressing conflict. 04:12 The Power of Couples Workshops07:48 Understanding Attachment Science and EFT11:07 The Impact of Safe Connections in Relationships and Navigating Relationship Conflicts14:14 The Hold Me Tight Workshops: A Deeper Dive17:21 Experiential Learning in Couples Workshops24:09 Therapy vs. Workshops31:14 Transformative Conversations37:40 Boosting Therapy with WorkshopsMark Beck has been a licensed counselor since 2001 and is also an ordained Protestant minister. Mark's private practice is based in Inverness, FL and his passion lies in working with couples. He also co-facilitate couples weekend workshops four times a year in Orlando with his colleague and fellow counselor, Vicki Kennedy.Connect with Mark Beckwww.PairsCare.comHMT workshops: www.couplesworkshopsofflorida.com Connect with Paige BondInstagram: @paigebondcoachingFacebook: @paigebondcoachingTikTok: @paigebondcoachingWebsite: https://paigebond.comPaige Bond is an open relationship coach who specializes in helping individuals, couples, and intentionally non-monogamous relationships with feeling insecure in their relationships. She is also the founder of ⁠Sweet Love Counseling⁠ providing therapy in CO, FL, SC, and VT. Paige loves educating people about relationships through being the host of ⁠the Stubborn Love podcast, ⁠hosting workshops, and speaking at conferences.Free Jealousy Workbook: ⁠⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠⁠ Free People Pleasing Workbook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠⁠ Attachment Dynamics Workshop:⁠https://www.paigebond.com/attachment-dynamics-workshop-sign-up⁠Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA's National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.Intro music by Coma-Media on ⁠⁠pixabay.com⁠

In this powerful follow-up to our discussion on big “T” trauma, we dive deeper into how all trauma—big and small—shapes the automatic behaviors that can strain your marriage. From lying to stonewalling, these “stances” stem from your adaptive child, a part of you formed in childhood. Through heartfelt stories and practical steps, we explore how to identify these patterns, heal your inner child, and choose wiser responses to reclaim your relationship. Join Robert and Sharla for an honest, hope-filled conversation about breaking free from the past.SummaryRelationships aren't just about communication or date nights—the real work is growing beyond your automatic reactions. In this episode, we unpack how childhood trauma creates your relational “stance,” an instinctive response like fighting, fleeing, or fixing that shows up when stress hits. We share the story of Dan, whose evasiveness nearly cost him his marriage, and Jessica, whose stonewalling left her husband feeling disconnected. Drawing on insights from therapists like Terry Real and Pia Mellody, we explain how the “adaptive child” forms and how to spot it in yourself. Most importantly, we offer a compassionate, practical path to pause, reflect, and choose responses that prioritize love over survival. If you missed Part 1, go back and listen to our discussion on big “T” trauma—it sets the stage for this episode!Key TakeawaysYour Stance is Your Adaptive Child: Your knee-jerk reactions in marriage—like lying, shutting down, or people-pleasing—are coping strategies from childhood trauma, big or small. They helped you survive then but can hurt your relationship now.Trauma Isn't Always Big: “Little t” traumas, like being told your emotions were too much or lacking emotional guidance, wire your nervous system and show up as automatic behaviors in adulthood.Spot the Signs: You're in your adaptive child when you get rigid, harsh, or lose empathy. In your wise mind, you're curious, flexible, and compassionate—qualities that strengthen your marriage.Heal with Compassion: Don't indulge or shame your inner child. Instead, have a loving conversation: forgive them, apologize for their pain, and commit to protecting your partner.Choose Wisely: Pause before reacting. Wait for your “second consciousness” to choose a response that puts your relationship first, like Dan's honest “I forgot” moment.It's a Daily Practice: Reclaiming your marriage means identifying your stance, pausing, and choosing love moment by moment. With practice, you can shift from “me” to “we.”Dive DeeperResources Mentioned:Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real – The book featuring Dan and Julia's story, offering insights on relational healing.Pia Mellody's work on the “adaptive child” – Explore her books like Facing Codependence for a deeper understanding of how childhood shapes adult behaviors.Suggested Resources:The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – A must-read for understanding how trauma affects the nervous system and relationships.Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson – A practical guide to building emotional connection in your marriage.Journal Prompt: Reflect on your relational stance. Ask honestly, “What do I do when I'm triggered? What is my relational stance?”Get Coaching: Consider working with coach or therapist with experience dealing with trauma, or reach out to us for personalized coaching (see Connect with Us below).Connect with UsWe're here to support you in building a stronger, healthier marriage. If this episode resonated and you'd like help breaking free from old...

Welcome to a special installment of the Lectern Q&A! This month's theme is Love as a Virtue and Existential Stance. This session dives into the nature of love—not just as a feeling, but as a participatory, person-making virtue that binds us to reality and each other. Joining John and Ethan is Ellie, who brings both a deeply reflective presence and insightful contributions to this exploration. Lectern Q&As are a monthly gathering where John and Ethan take questions from The Lectern's members, threading through important themes that are most pertinent and perplexing to the collective. Pre-submitted questions form the bulk of the discussion with a Live Q&A segment toward the end. These conversations are particularly important for generating knowledge that is relevant both to John and The Lectern's broader audience. To participate in these discussions live, submit questions ahead of time and gain access to previous Q&As by signing up at the Alpha Tier (and above) on The Lectern: https://lectern.teachable.com/p/lectern-lounge If you would like to donate purely out of goodwill to support John's work, please consider joining our Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/johnvervaeke The Vervaeke Foundation is committed to advancing the scientific pursuit of wisdom and creating a significant impact on the world. https://vervaekefoundation.org/ If you would like to learn and engage regularly in practices that are informed, developed, and endorsed by John and his work, visit Awaken to Meaning's calendar to explore practices that enhance your virtues and foster deeper connections with reality and relationships. https://awakentomeaning.com/join-practice/ Chapter Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and Opening Reflections on Love 02:45 Love as an Existential Stance 05:00 Love, Participatory Knowing, and Binding Identity 08:45 Eros, Philia, and Agape: The Three Movements of Love 13:00 The Person-Making Nature of Love 17:00 Love as a Doorway to the Sacred 20:30 The Transformation of Self Through Love 23:45 Somatic and Embodied Knowing of Love 28:00 Trauma, Attachment, and the Challenge of Loving Well 32:10 Secure Attachment and Love as Practice 37:40 Circling, Dialectic, and Learning to Love Wisely 40:15 The Role of Worldview in Love and Meaning 46:50 A GI, the Sacred, and What We Truly Love About Humanity 54:20 The Ecology of Religions and Participatory Pluralism 59:30 Final Reflections from John, Ethan, and Ellie Biographical Sentences John Vervaeke is a cognitive scientist, philosopher, and the creator of the YouTube series Awakening from the Meaning Crisis. His work focuses on wisdom cultivation, consciousness, and the scientific pursuit of meaning. Ethan is a co-host and facilitator of the Lectern Q&A sessions. He curates conversations that illuminate existential, psychological, and philosophical insights emerging from the community and John's teachings. Ellie is a scholar and practitioner deeply engaged in environmental science, interpersonal growth, and attachment theory. She brings a reflective, embodied perspective to the conversation on love. Ideas, People, and Works Mentioned in this Episode Søren Kierkegaard John Bowlby, Attachment Theory Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight, Attachment Theory in Practice Eric Fromm, The Art of Loving Thomas Kuhn, Paradigms and Worldview Albert Camus, The Stranger Martin Buber, I and Thou Taoism and the concept of the Dao as Mother Mahayana Buddhism, Bodhisattva path Sufism and Divine Love Socratic Knowledge and Dialogos Circling & Dialectic into Dialogos Lauren Barrett, Emotionally Focused Therapy Halcyon Guild Pluralism in religion and spiritual practice Connect with John Vervaeke Website: https://johnvervaeke.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/vervaeke_john YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@johnvervaeke Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/johnvervaeke Thank you for Listening!

APPLE | SPOTIFY In this insightful episode of Psychotherapy Central, host Jennifer Nurick interviews Dr. Clare Rosoman, clinical psychologist, international Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) trainer, and author of three powerful books on attachment and relationship healing. With over 25 years of clinical experience, Clare brings profound wisdom and practical insights into healing attachment injuries—those painful breaches of trust, betrayal, or abandonment in relationships. In this conversation, Clare and Jennifer explore: Clare's personal and professional journey into Emotionally Focused Therapy. Why vulnerability is the "magic juice" of relationship healing and attachment security. The hidden personal benefits therapists experience when working deeply with EFT. The wide-ranging impact of attachment injuries, beyond just infidelity. How attachment injuries disrupt fundamental questions of emotional safety and trust. The Attachment Injury Resolution Model—an evidence-based framework to repair relational ruptures. Why creating safety and stability is essential before healing attachment wounds. Key Resources Mentioned: Clare's Books: Repairing Attachment Injuries in Close Relationships: An Emotionally Focused Guide to Moving Beyond Betrayal An Emotionally Focused Guide to Relationship Loss: Life After Love An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Relationship Loss: Healing Heartbreak Session by Session Dr. Sue Johnson's foundational EFT book: Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson Related Episodes: Episode 43: What Avoidants Really Need (But Struggle to Ask For) Episode 40: Why We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective Episode 2: Avoidant Attachment Explained Connect with Dr. Clare Rosoman: Dr. Clare Rosoman's Website Instagram: @clarerosoman Connect with Jennifer Nurick and Psychotherapy Central: Website: psychotherapycentral.health Instagram: @psychotherapy.central Facebook: Psychotherapy Central YouTube: Psychotherapy Central Explore more resources, insights, and support for secure and fulfilling relationships at Psychotherapy Central. #AttachmentInjuries #EmotionallyFocusedTherapy #EFTtherapy #RelationshipHealing #AttachmentTheory #TrustRepair #CouplesTherapy #SecureAttachment #AttachmentHealing #TherapyInsights #DrClareRosoman #PsychotherapyCentral #HealYourRelationships #AttachmentTrauma #MentalHealthPodcast #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipAdvice #HealingFromBetrayal

Епізод, де ми говоримо про метод емоційно-фокусованої терапії відомої канадської психотерапевтки Сью Джонсон та про її книгу “Пригорни мене міцніше” (Hold Me Tight), яка вже давно стала світовим бестселером. Багато про еволюцію, зрілі стосунки та визначення справжньої любові. Анонси книжкового клубу за посиланням https://t.me/+0LhAbSNcqnBmMGYy Приєднатися до комʼюніті Zadovolena: olkate.com/zadovolena-ua/

En este episodio me senté con la terapeuta de ansiedad, MT Baldrich para hablar sobre los 4 estilos de apegos y cómo estos influyen cuando estamos dating y en nuestras relaciones amorosas.Redes sociales de MT: https://www.instagram.com/mtbaldrich/https://www.instagram.com/bloom.comm/Libros recomendados:Hold Me Tight - https://amzn.to/3Y3OIhUThe Defining Decade - https://amzn.to/3DUi37OAttached - https://amzn.to/42h8qt7Maiden in Captivity: https://amzn.to/3DPiUGXPodcast recomendado: Where Should We BeginCONECTA CONMIGO ❤️INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/laucabral/INSTRAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thewellnesstribepr/INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/dosisdejuguito/TIKTOK: / @laucabraluWEBSITE: https://www.laucabral.com/

This is a republishing of an archived episode with Dr. Sue Johnson, who sadly passed in April 2024.Dr. Sue Johnson was a leading innovator in the fields of couple therapy and adult attachment. She was the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. Sue was the author of numerous books including, Hold Me Tight, the Hold Me Tight Workbook, and Love Sense.Sue received numerous awards acknowledging her development of EFT, including the APA's “Family Psychologist of the Year” in 2016 and the Order of Canada in 2017.In This EpisodeDr. Sue Johnson's WebsiteThe International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)---What's new with The Trauma Therapist Project!The Trauma 5: gold nuggets from my 700+ interviewsThe Trauma Therapist Newsletter: a monthly resource of information and inspiration dedicated to trauma therapists.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.

Why do some people navigate the social world with such ease while others feel like they're swimming upstream? In this special episode of Being Well, Forrest is joined by four leading experts for a masterclass on the science of attachment. Featuring conversations with Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Rick Hanson, Julie Mennano, and Elizabeth Ferreira, this carefully curated episode gives you a map to becoming more socially confident, emotionally intelligent, and authentically connected.  Topics include: The four fundamental patterns that influence how we show up in every social interaction. Dr. Sue Johnson's guide to having deeper, more meaningful "hold me tight" conversations. Dr. Rick Hanson's approach to working with self-abandonment. Julie Mennano on working with the anxious-avoidant dance that brings so many couples to therapy. Elizabeth Ferreira's somatic and trauma-informed perspective on healing attachment wounds. Rick's Yearly Program: Rick's Foundations of Well-Being 2.0 is a year-long, science-backed journey through developing 12 key inner strengths like mindfulness, motivation, and confidence. It's currently on sale, and if you like Being Well we think you'll love it. Follow the link here and use coupon code beingwell20 for an additional 20% off: RickHanson.com/FWB You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 3:35: Rick Hanson: How to become securely attached 31:20: Working with common attachment wounds 47:35: Sue Johnson: How to have a bonding conversation 1:09:35: Julie Mennano: The attachment mistakes that bring people to therapy, and how secure couples relate differently 1:22:25: Rick Hanson: Self-abandonment, anxious attachment, and how to build up a greater sense of self-worth and self-trust 1:40:30: Elizabeth Ferreira: Creating a secure relationship 1:56:50: Recap and outro About our Guests: Dr. Sue Johnson is a clinical psychologist, researcher, professor, and the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a widely used and respected approach to couples therapy. She is considered one of the foremost experts in the field of attachment, and has received numerous awards for her contributions to the field of psychotherapy. Dr. Johnson is also the author of seven books, including the best-selling Hold Me Tight. Elizabeth Ferreira is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist working in California. She specializes in somatic approaches to trauma work.  Julie Menanno a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, and Relationship Coach. She is the founder of The Secure Relationship coaching method, and maintains an instagram of the same name with over 1M followers. She is also the author of Secure Love. I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Use promo code hanson at the link below to get an exclusive 60% off an annual plan at incogni.com/hanson. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Get 15% off OneSkin with the code BEINGWELL at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod  Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textEPISODE 50: December 12th + Meditation + New Song: Hold Me TightThis is the last monthly episode of 2024 and then we are in a totally new year, a clean slate in 2025! This episode has a Christmas Calendar opening, the episode which is about Christ second coming and a meditation and a new song!  Hope you listen to the relaxing and uplifting music from Music That Makes You Wanna Shine Radio! https://linktr.ee/musicthatmakesyouwannashineTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@musictmywshineTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melodies4tmessiahOur next episode will be on the  2025-01-01. Be the Light. Share the Light. Spread the Light. Shine!LDS AND MEDIUM PODCAST BACKGROUND:I was born into the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, or LDS for short. All my life I felt awkward and out of place, not because of my religion, but because of my spiritual gifts. It was hard to combine the idea of what first seemed like two separate worlds. So my whole life I have tried. I have learnt more about my gifts, and stayed faithful to my faith. But then I heard people left the church because it seems impossible to combine the two. So I am here, to try and mend the rift. To show that it is possible to be both LDS and to have, and use, our spiritual gifts. I am not alone on this journey, but my sister, who just is waking up to her spiritual gifts is by my side and she will also share her story.Jesus Christ, our older brother, was a healer. He asked us to love one another. So let´s follow in his footsteps. Please join me on this journey, let´s make a community of strong spiritual LDS, or whatever religion you belong to, and all work together to make this world a better place.If you like what I do, then you can find me here:https://linktr.ee/ldsandmediumIf you have words of support or stories that you anonymously want me to share please write me at ldsandmedium@gmail.com. I will try and answer all your emails BUT I am very busy with my life and I hope you can have some patience with me.If you would like access to the Podcast before it is released, all the bonuses and extra trainings and the meditation prayers as an mp3 you can support me on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/ldsandmedium or send a Donation through Paypal. It will also be available as an archive that you can subscribe to on https://payhip.com/LDSandMediumDISCLAIMER: This Podcast is not official LDS doctrine, nor is it in any way financially supported by the LDS church. All the content is either our own personal thoughts and reflections or stories from our lives or the lives of others. Any quotes included will come from the Bible, The Book of Mormon or other scriptures, Church publications, hymns, General Conference or spiritual sites.LINKS:The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints: www.lds.orgGet your free copy of the Book of Mormon: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/uk/forms/order-book-of-mormonLight the World https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochristSupport the show

In this episode, we explore the challenges couples face when gaps form in their relationship—gaps in intimacy, communication, interaction, and connection. We share our personal experiences navigating these gaps and the unique complexities added by cultural differences and societal pressures. We discuss how these disconnects can strain relationships and provide practical strategies to bridge the gaps before they grow too wide.   We chat about:  How to recognize and address gaps in communication and intimacy.   The impact of differences on relationship dynamics.   Practical tools to reconnect emotionally, physically, and mentally.   The long-term consequences of unresolved gaps.   Real-life stories and actionable advice to help you strengthen your partnership.   Tune in and learn how to close the gaps in your relationship and build stronger connections. Don't miss this heartfelt and relatable conversation!   Thank you all and don't forget to check us out wherever you get your podcast fix!  Follow us ⁠⁠⁠⁠@TruthandCoffeetime⁠⁠⁠⁠  and ⁠⁠⁠⁠@DiverseLuv⁠⁠⁠⁠ on your social media platforms.  Remember - please Subscribe, Review, Like, Share & Comment - engage with us!  Keep hanging with us - we got you! Support this podcast: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/truthandcoffeetime/support⁠⁠⁠⁠ #couplegoals #relationship #bettertogether #interracialrelationships #mixedcouple #pregame #askquestions  #truthandcoffeetime  --- Support this podcast: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/truthandcoffeetime/support⁠⁠⁠ In the meantime, check out a few of our resources and mentions below: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman (https://www.5lovelanguages.com)   Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson (https://drsuejohnson.com)   National Council on Family Relations  (NCFR) (https://www.ncfr.org)  ************************** Purchase the “Giving Yourself Grace Daily” Ebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Podcast Hosts - Brian & Denise of DiverseLuv  Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ @DiverseLuv⁠⁠⁠⁠ Linktree:⁠⁠⁠⁠  DiverseLuv⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe to our Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up here!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Check out our latest blogs⁠⁠⁠⁠Sharing our thoughts⁠⁠⁠⁠ Be the first to grab merch from our platform. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop at our SHOP⁠⁠⁠⁠ We would love to hear from you!Emails: ⁠⁠⁠⁠truthandcoffeetime@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@diverseluv.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Websites: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.DiverseLuv.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.TruthandCoffeeTime.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Advertising inquiries: Email us ⁠⁠⁠⁠truthandcoffeetime@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ --------------------- NOTE: I am a Brand Ambassador and affiliate for certain businesses, products and services that I believe in. I may have referenced these and included links in this video, audio, description or someplace else on this site or within these show notes. If purchases are made through any links within these show notes, we may receive a small commission. Keep hanging with us - we got you! Copyright, Liability Waiver and Disclaimers. All rights reserved. Podcast Credits: Engineering & Editing by Brigz Crawford | Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ @brigzcrawford⁠⁠⁠⁠ Truth & Coffee Time Theme Song by Brigz Crawford |  Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Brigz Crawford⁠⁠⁠⁠ Truth & Coffee Time Tag - Mink Productions Podcast Contributors: ORG5 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/truthandcoffeetime/support

Lyrics in Versified Entertainment Featuring Bruno Rocca "Hold me Tight" L.I.V.E is a network connecting a diverse range of talented individuals such as music artist, dancers and music producers  into one community, one  organization. This platform is a branch of Word of Mouthz, which was established in 2012 by founder April Crenshaw. Word of Mouthz is a networking chain that connects  talented artist and entrepreneurs through networking, advertising, and promotions. This organization is for individuals that are serious about the Arts including the art of music, writing and dance. We want to support you and your talent, we expect the same support to be given to everyone that is apart of this network. L.I.V.E is all about showcasing your gift to the world and accepting that we all can grow and support each other in this organization. We recruiting for more individuals to join this organization. If you would like to join us, contact us through email or direct message.   #live3152k #lyricsinversifiedentertainment #indieartist

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the books, podcasts, and resources that have most deeply affected their marriages. With a lot of great resources out there, we want to help you to be thoughtful about the resources that impact your marriage.  Scriptures:Proverbs 11:2Job 12:12Proverbs 13:20Resources Mentioned:The Glorious Pursuit, by Gary ThomasThe Meaning of Marriage, by Tim and Kathy KellerCherish, by Gary ThomasMarried Sex, by Gary Thomas and Debra FiletaThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John GottmanReady or Knot?, by Scott KedershaThe Ready or Knot Prayer Guide, by Scott KedershaOutdated, by Jonathan PokludaFriends, Partner, and Lovers, by Kevin ThompsonMarried Into the Family, by Dave & Ashley WillisHold Me Tight, and Created For Connection by Sue JohnsonA Lasting Promise, by Scott StanleyUs In Mind, by Ted LoweGreater Joy Twogether, by Ted CunninghamMore Than Roommates, Episode 35 – How to Identify the Four Negative Horsemen of Communication and ConflictMore Than Roommates, Episodes 53 – Friends, Partners, and Lovers in Marriage feat. Kevin ThompsonMore Than Roommates, Episode 58 – How to Thrive in a Blended Family feat. Ron DealMore Than Roommates, Episode 43 – The Not-So-Secret Guide to In-Law Relationships, feat. Dave WillisMore Than Roommates, Episode 12 – Identifying Negative Communication PatternsWebsite & Podcast - Authentic Intimacy, Juli SlatteryWebsite & Podcast - Fierce MarriageWebsite & Podcast – Family Life TodayQuestions to Discuss:1. If you were on a deserted, and could only bring 1-2 books (besides the Bible), what book(s) would you bring with you?2. What marriage book has been most helpful for you and your spouse?3. Out of all the resources mentioned, which one will you and your spouse read and/or listen to?

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2239: Navigating life transitions can be challenging for any relationship. David and Constantino Khalaf share practical strategies such as scheduling couple time, taking turns giving and receiving love, creating rituals, and forgiving quickly to maintain connection and intimacy even during stressful changes. Their experiences and insights offer valuable guidance for sustaining strong, resilient partnerships through life's inevitable shifts. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/4-ways-to-stay-connected-during-life-transitions/ Quotes to ponder: "We've had to be intentional about meeting each other's needs and creating space for affection and intimacy." "Scheduling couple time outside of your normal routine is an opportunity to connect with each other." "A willingness to forgive quickly is a repair attempt that helps to avoid the petty conflicts that might further distance us from each other during stressful times." Episode references: Hold Me Tight: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X The Relationship Cure: https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Cure-Strengthening-Marriage-Friendships/dp/0609809539 The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr Sue Johnson is the developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and a pioneer in adult attachment and couples therapy. With over 30 years of peer reviewed clinical research demonstrating its effectiveness, Dr Johnson has received several awards for her contribution to the development of EFT, including the Order of Canada and the Family Psychologist of the Year from the American Psychological Association. She is the best selling author of several books, including “Hold Me Tight”, which has sold over one million copies worldwide and helped countless couples improve their relationships. You can learn more about Dr Johnson's pioneering work by visiting: https://drsuejohnson.com and EFT training at https://iceeft.com. --- Dr. Sue Johnson is a leading innovator in the fields of couple therapy and adult attachment. She is the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. Sue's received numerous awards acknowledging her development of EFT, including the APA's “Family Psychologist of the Year” in 2016 and the Order of Canada in 2017. Her best-selling 2008 book Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love has taught countless couples how to enhance and repair their love relationships. It remains one of the best-selling relationship help books on the market today. It has since been adapted into a workshop format. Sue's 2014 book, Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science in Romantic Relationships, outlines the latest understanding of why and how we love, based on scientific evidence and cutting-edge research. You can learn more about Dr Johnson's pioneering work by visiting: https://drsuejohnson.com and EFT training at https://iceeft.com. --- 3 Books Dr Johnson Recommends Every Therapist Should Read: Attachment in Adulthood, First Edition: Structure, Dynamics, and Change - https://amzn.to/42xt6LU A Secure Base - https://amzn.to/497ax3W Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships - https://amzn.to/4bwCJ1C Interview Links: — Dr Johnson's website - http://drsuejohnson.com — EFT training - https://iceeft.com

Welcome back for the next journey of The Family Express Podcast with Kathryn de Bruin and Ronda Evans where our destination is resilient and connected families. Today's guest is Dr. Katherine Stavrianopoulos.All Aboard !1:39  Dr. Stavros tells us where she starts with families who are launching a teen.2:33  Dr. Stavros frames the parent's concerns as wanting to help their teen.4:20  Dr. Stavros leans into psychoeducation about the developing teenage brain6:55  Kathryn turns this psychoeducation into an entryway to empathizing with the parent's frustration, and their meaning-making that comes from these repeat interactions.9:37  Kathryn then moves from meaning-making to the parent's fears about losing their impact and influence on their teens, and their fears of "am I doing a good enough job?" (indicative of parental shame).11:55 Dr. Stavros explains her own experience of navigating the teen years and how that definitely increases her empathy for parents going through this developmental stage. Dr. Stavos tells us a story of a time when she faced her own fears of losing control – of losing influence on her son.17:10 Ronda and Dr. Stavros talk about the seismic shift in the agenda going from the parent's agenda to a co-created "our" agenda and relationship between parent and teen.19:00 Dr. Stavros says that a "successful" teen launch centers around the teen knowing that they will be loved and understood with their mistakes and through their mistakes, and the security in knowing they can reach for their parents when a mistake has happened.22:25 Dr. Stavros describes the importance of parent's having self-compassion for their efforts to prepare teens for launching.23:43 Kathryn emphasizes the role of therapists in supporting parents and validating the challenges of parenting, and helping parents to emotionally regulate so that parents can have balanced responses to their teens.25:43 To launch a teen well, Dr. Stavros describes a teen will have an internalized embodiment of "knowing': that when the teen turns to their parent, the teen knows their parent will respond. 27:00 Kathryn comments that family therapists can facilitate this process through explicit, intentional conversations in our offices. Kathryn and Dr. Stavros describe that EFFT therapists can facilitate these conversations between parents and children – feedback conversations.27:30 Dr. Stavros reflects on her experience of this conversation when she and her sons participated in the "Hold Me Tight, Let Me Go" program.34:10 Dr Stavros returns to the notion of the developmental scaffolding of “co-creating” a parent-child relationship.Thank you for listening! Kathryn is an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer. Kathryn and Ronda are both licensed marriage and family therapists, EFT supervisors and therapists, and AAMFT Approved Supervisors.You can follow Kathryn de BruinFacebook  YouTube   IG   Yelp   Google +   Twitter   WebsiteYou can follow Ronda EvansFacebook   Facebook   IG  LinkedIn   Website You can follow Dr. Katherine StavrianaopolousEmail: kathstav@gmail.comIG: @kathrystavros

We say, "I do" with the best of intentions. And then... LIFE. In this episode Julie Baumgardner, Senior Director of WinShape Marriage, is here to provide us with the tools to do marriage well, and if needed, really turn things around.   Resources mentioned in this episode: - First Things First - WinShape Marriage o   Visioning For Your Marriage o   Marriage Intensives - The WinShape Foundation - WinShape Camps - WinShape Homes -  WinShape Teams - Get your own FREE RightNow Media account compliments of Rock Harbor Church FL - Created for Connection: The "Hold Me Tight" Guide for Christian Couples By Dr. Sue Johnson - Talking Marriage with Gary Thomas – The Intertwined Life Podcast, Ep: 58 - Follow WinShape Marriage on IG   Find all Scripture references from this episode at ⁠http://jennyzentz.com/podcast-winshape-marriage⁠ Enter to Win a FREE BOOK! Each month, take a screen shot of you reviewing or sharing the show, and email it to me at Jenny@jennyzentz.com. Each month on the 1st I will draw a name, and the winner will get to pick any book you like from "Jenny's Recommended Reads for Christian Women" list as a FREE gift from me to you!   Printable Scripture Memorization Cards – NOW ON SALE!   The Bible tells us the Word of God is our weapon. Are you ready to take on whatever life brings your way?   Perhaps nothing has strengthened my walk with the Lord more than memorizing scripture. When we have spent time meditating on His Word, these verses will rise up in our spirits when we need them most.   With these printable scripture cards (one for each week of the year) you can begin truly hiding His Word in your heart and taking practical steps to a powerful life and a more grounded faith. Get Yours Today! And please don't forget to subscribe, share, rate, and review. Together we can help more women discover practical ways to apply the power of God's Word to our everyday stuff!   *Please note resource links may be affiliate links. I will receive a small percentage from purchases made through them to help compensate for content creation time, effort, and cost. Happy Shopping!

In this deeply insightful episode of Stay Grounded, Raj sits down with the remarkable Anna-Lisa Adelberg, a teacher, guide, and co-founder of the Luminous Awareness Institute that offers students an awakening and healing path synthesized from Tibetan Buddhism, developmental psychology, neurophysiology, and subtle energy. With over 30 years of experience in supporting individuals on their paths of healing and awakening, Anna-Lisa shares her wisdom on the power of relational healing, the importance of belonging, and the transformative potential of integrating the masculine and feminine energies within us. Through their heartfelt conversation, Raj and Anna-Lisa explore the inner workings of the mind, the impact of early childhood experiences, and the role of community in accelerating our growth and evolution.Key Takeaways:The power of being seen, recognized, and validated in our wholeness, both as our infinite divine nature and as our unique human expressionUnderstanding the biological imperative of attachment and the impact of early childhood experiences on our adult relationshipsThe importance of healing in community and how we can become "medicine" for each other in a group settingNavigating the balance between the masculine qualities of structure, direction, and leadership, and the feminine qualities of unconditional love, emotional attunement, and intuitive wisdomThe role of self-awareness in disidentifying from our conditioned patterns and connecting to our true essence as an infinite source of intelligence and loveThrough their discussion, Raj and Anna-Lisa remind us of the power of surrendering to a greater intelligence, one that is always guiding us towards healing, wholeness, and true fulfillment. They invite us to embrace both the light and shadow aspects of our being, and to find the courage to show up authentically in our relationships and communities.Whether you're just starting out on your healing journey or you're a seasoned seeker looking to deepen your practice, this episode is a must-listen. Get ready to be inspired, uplifted, and reminded of your own innate wisdom and capacity for transformation. Tune in now and join the conversation!Books mentioned in this episode: "Hold Me Tight", Dr. Sue Johnson - Attachment TheoryConnect with Anna-Lisa:The Luminous Awareness Institute: https://www.luminousawareness.com/Instagram: @luminous_awareness_instituteConnect with Raj:Instagram: @raj_janaiTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/rs/podcast/stay-grounded-with-raj-jana/id1318038490Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/22Hrw6VWfnUSI45lw8LJBPLegal Disclaimer: The information and opinions discussed in this podcast are for educational and entertainment purposes only. The host and guests are not medical or mental health professionals, and their advice should not be a substitute for seeking professional help. Any action taken based on the information presented is strictly at your own risk. The podcast host and their guests shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss, damage, or injury caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly by information shared in this podcast. Consult your physician before making any changes to your mental health treatment or lifestyle. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I welcome Dr. Sue Johnson, a pioneering figure in couples therapy and adult attachment, renowned for her role in developing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Together, we explore the profound impact of relationships and attachment in the human experience. Dr. Sue discusses the role of emotions in therapy, emphasizing the significance of understanding and validating emotions to establish secure attachments. Throughout the episode, she shares insights on how she's helped her clients navigate challenging emotions for authentic change through EFT. Dr. Sue also dives into topics such as the transformative power of emotional epiphanies, the creation of safe spaces in therapy, the societal shift towards digital connections, and the importance of understanding attachment needs in the digital age. Join us in this impactful conversation to explore the pursuit of authentic, face-to-face connections and their fundamental role in enhancing your emotional well-being. Dr. Sue Johnson has received numerous awards including Psychotherapy Networker's Lifetime Achievement Award, the APA's Family Psychologist of the Year, and the Order of Canada. Her best-selling book Hold Me Tight (2008) has sold over one million copies and was developed into a relationship education program. As founding director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), Dr. Sue trains counselors in EFT worldwide, providing guidance to over 90 affiliated organizations. —Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsuejohnson/ —Website: https://drsuejohnson.com/ —Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drsuejohnson/ —Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dr_SueJohnson —YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DoctorSueJohnson?themeRefresh=1 —Website: International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) www.iceeft.com —Books: https://drsuejohnson.com/books/ If you want to dive deeper into Mark's content, search through every episode, find specific topics we've covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/markgroves Themes: Authenticity, Belonging, Breakups, Relationships, Boundaries, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Health, Codependency, Infidelity, Dating, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict, Mental Health, Grief, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Emotions This episode is sponsored by Organifi: Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at http://www.organifi.com/createthelove Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen in as we explore the essence of secure attachment, discussing how it transcends mere communication skills and reduces defensiveness during conflicts. Our dialogue also touches on the societal pressures that shape men's fear of failure and women's fear of isolation, illuminating the strength that comes from sharing our innermost fears and embracing the universality of our emotional needs. With perspectives from tech leaders to Gandhi, we question the cost of our dependence on technology and stress the importance of prioritizing human connections to nurture the very fabric of our society. While our time is limited, the insights gained from our discussion are vast, offering listeners a path to deeper self-discovery and the assertion of personal beliefs and values. Join us as we navigate these complex yet essential facets of our lives, fostering environments that promote self-trust and validation. Buy Sue's book Hold Me Tight. Visit Sue's website. Follow her on Instagram, and YouTube. Join my weekly newsletter. Learn more about my books and courses. Join The Essentialism Academy. Follow me on LinkedIn, Instagram, X, Facebook, and YouTube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join us as we unravel the mysteries of love and attachment with the extraordinary Dr. Sue Johnson, a beacon in the field of psychology and the architect of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). In our enlightening conversation, Dr. Johnson shares her insights on the crucial role of emotional connections and secure attachments for our well-being, taking us on a journey through the pivotal ideas of Dr. John Bowlby and the evolution of the science of love. Dr. Johnson's work shines a light on the misconception that attachment is a weakness, revealing it as the essence of our strength and resilience. We tackle the often misunderstood nature of relationship conflicts, revealing that the heart of many disputes is not the disagreement itself but the underlying emotional disconnection between partners. This episode promises to offer profound insights into how we can enhance our personal health, fortify our relationships, and embrace the untapped potential within our most cherished connections. Buy Sue's book Hold Me Tight. Visit Sue's website. Follow her on Instagram, and YouTube. Join my weekly newsletter. Learn more about my books and courses. Join The Essentialism Academy. Follow me on LinkedIn, Instagram, X, Facebook, and YouTube. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional abandonment in a relationship refers to a situation where one partner feels neglected, unsupported, or disconnected from the other partner on an emotional level. It occurs when one partner fails to provide the emotional support, understanding, and validation that the other partner needs. This can manifest in various ways. Discover three ways they have manifested in my life. Share your feedback in the comments. Don't hesitate to send me a question at: CreatingBalanceWithCamalla@Gmail.com I hope all is well. Sending you all peace and love.

Join New York Times bestselling author Skye Warren each week as she crafts a new story with one of her author guests!USA Today bestselling author Shanae Johnson gives us a military hero with a cause... He's determined to build out a ranch to help other wounded warriors recover. It all starts with a wrong number.... with a phone sex operator.Find out what happens on the inside!And if you enjoy this episode, you'll love the Purple Heart Ranch books by Shanae Johnson.About Ines Johnson:Lover of fairytales, folklore, and mythology, Ines Johnson spends her days reimagining the stories of old in a modern world. She writes books where damsels cause the distress, princesses wield swords, and moms save the world.Ines writes books for strong women who suck at love. If you rocked out to the twisted triangle of Jem, Jericha, and Rio as a girl; if you were slayed by vampires with souls alongside Buffy; if you need your scandalous fix from Olivia Pope each week, then you'll love her books!Aside from being a writer, professional reader, and teacher, Ines is a very bad Buddhist. She sits in sangha each week, and while others are meditating and getting their zen on, she's contemplating how to use the teachings to strengthen her plots and character motivations.Ines lives outside Washington, DC with her two little sidekicks who are growing up way too fast.You can also find Ines Johnson's website here.These are some of the books and shows referenced inside...Hold Me Tight by Serena BellYou get to help us pick our story prompts inside the Storytime with Skye Podcast Facebook group. Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1030813154714760

Dr. Sue Johnson is a leading innovator in the fields of couple therapy and adult attachment. She is the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. Sue is the author of numerous books including, Hold Me Tight, the Hold Me Tight Workbook, and Love Sense.Sue's received numerous awards acknowledging her development of EFT, including the APA's “Family Psychologist of the Year” in 2016 and the Order of Canada in 2017.In This EpisodeDr. Sue Johnson's WebsiteThe International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)---What's new with The Trauma Therapist Project!The Trauma 5: gold nuggets from my 700+ interviewsThe Trauma Therapist Newsletter: a monthly resource of information and inspiration dedicated to trauma therapists.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5739761/advertisement

Dean Pitchford joins the show to talk about writing the Oscar-nominated title song from the 1980 movie Fame. In addition to his recollections of the process he and composer Michael Gore took to arrive at the global hit song, Pitchford talks about the future recording star who helped add a "hook" to the song, and why Dolly Parton was his song's biggest competition.

❤️ IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN  2:25 What Dr. Sue witnessed wasn't working in people's relationships and how that inspired her to dive into more research around attachment and develop Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples 11:42 Why it's not enough to be a great communicator and why emotional connection is paramount 21:05 The impact of feeling safe and secure with your partner 23:51 Dr. Sue's favorite part of couples counseling 25:25 How we are not wired to be emotionally alone and need community and the science that backs it up 32:39 The #1 indicator of resilience and happiness 34:55 How to be there for your partner by talking to their amygdala (emotional part of the brain) vs their prefrontal cortex 40:36 What not to do when someone has experienced trauma 44:27 How to crack the code of love so you can heal and build a loving and passionate relationship that lasts 50:10 Dr. Sue's take on the role of boundaries and the dance between closeness and space 56:02 What a Thriving Relationship is to Dr. Sue Johnson   ❤️ MORE INFO ABOUT OUR GUEST  Dr. Sue Johnson is a renowned and pioneering researcher, clinical Psychologist, and developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy, a tested, proven, and evidence-based intervention for couples. She has received many awards for her research and was named "Psychologist of the Year” by the American Psychological Association. She is the bestselling author of Hold Me Tight and Love Sense: the Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships. https://drsuejohnson.com/   ❤️ THE THRIVING RELATIONSHIPS SHOW  Join Christine Eartheart, Founder of the Center for Thriving Relationships, as she interviews some of the most inspiring luminaries, thought leaders, and researchers of our time to gain their unique insights on every imaginable aspect of how to experience more love, healing, and understanding in all our relationships.   ❤️ THE CENTER FOR THRIVING RELATIONSHIPS https://centerforthrivingrelationships.com/ https://www.instagram.com/centerforthrivingrelationships/ https://www.facebook.com/ThrivingRelationships  

In today's episode of the podcast, I interview Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy, an intervention for relationships aimed at resolving distress by helping clients become attuned within a secure attachment bond. She has also written countless books and articles, a personal favorite being Hold Me Tight. She was the first person to teach me about the still face experiment in 2013. I, myself, have had the personal benefit of being in EFT with my wife for the past year. I remember watching a video of Sue doing therapy, and I thought, there is some sort of symphony happening here, and I really want to learn how to play the notes. I wanted this session to pull out as many practical pearls as possible from Dr. Johnson, more of the “how” of the process of helping people reconnect.

You don't want to leave your marriage to chance. You want to design an intentional marriage, but how? Listen to Kevin Thompson in today's episode My marriage isn't perfect. Ryan and I aren't perfect. We struggle and get frustrated with each other. AND ALSO, we work on the relationship that we have. We are bound and determined to remember that before we were mom and dad, we were Ryan and Jill, two fun, Jesus-loving people who thought the other person was too awesome to get away. As much as we've messed up, we are also devoted to being intentional with each other and our relationship. Intentional about chatting about our days and stressors after the girls have gone to bed. Intentional about hanging out together doing something fun. Intentional about dreaming about the future when we are empty nesters. I can think of no one better to speak about being intentional and designing your marriage on purpose than today's guest, Kevin A. Thompson.  In today's episode, you'll receive practical strategies and anchoring truths for receiving grace by learning how to design an intentional marriage. You'll learn: How to create the marriage you want, Three questions to help you figure out how healthy your marriage is, And how to move toward a healthy marriage. Mentioned in the podcast The FCC requires that I tell you that I'm an Amazon Affiliate, which means I earn a bit of commission on each sale. But don't worry there's no added cost to you! Subscribe to Jill's weekly “the good + the grace” email  #69: How to lead your family with love, not fear with Kevin A. Thompson [Grace in Parenting series] Stay in Your Lane by Kevin A. Thompson Friends, Partners, and Lovers by Kevin A. Thompson ChangeTheOdds.com Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman Here's how to connect with Kevin A. Thompson Website  Instagram   Here's how to connect with Jill Website  GraceInRealLifePodcast.com  Instagram  Subscribe to Jill's weekly “the good + the grace” email   

Hey everyone! Today's episode is all about Tess talking about her diagnosis of epilepsy. She talks about her experience with seizures before she knew what they were and remembers the day she was diagnosed. She also discusses how she has learned to navigate through life with her diagnosis and how much her family has given her the courage to open up and share her experience. Remember that November is epilepsy awareness month! We love you all!!! XOXO Tess & Mel

Today's K-Pop Musician is "로꼬(Loco)" As the first winner of "Show Me The Money", a survival program that aired in 2012, he debuted in the music industry with the release of "See The Light", the final song he sang at the show. He started with the title of "Season 1 Winner". In season 4, he participated as a producer. He is a talented artist who changed his title in three years. He topped the chart for the first time with "Spring is gone by Chance(우연히봄)". It was the OST of drama ‘A girl who sees smells(냄새를 보는 소녀)' which Loco sang with GFRIEND Yuju(여자친구 유주) in 2015. After that, the title song of the first full-length album ‘Too much(지나쳐)' released in May 2017 has topped the real-time music charts. He became a popular artist. He also showed various collaborations with various musicians like Jay Park(박재범), Simon Dominic, GRAY, BAEKHYUN(백현) of EXO, WOO WONJAE(우원재), etc. He is a musician who made our hearts flutter with various music. He has a trendy rap style with his unique flow. The public loves Loco's music! Let's see it now~ * Today's playlist 1. INEEDYOURLOVE - 로꼬(Loco) 2. 감아 (Hold Me Tight) (feat. Crush) - 로꼬(Loco) 3. Say Yes - 로꼬(Loco), 펀치 (Punch) 4. 잠이 들어야(Can't Sleep) (Feat. 헤이즈) - 로꼬(Loco) 5. 시간이 들겠지(It Takes Time) - 로꼬(Loco) (Nive's Pick) 6. 다시 앞으로(Rewind) (Feat. SUMIN) - 로꼬(Loco) (Sam's Pick)

Health:"The Blue Zones" by Dan Buettner"How Not to Die" by Michael Greger"The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle"Mindset: The New Psychology of Success" by Carol S. Dweck"Atomic Habits" by James Clear"Eat to Live" by Joel Fuhrman"The Whole30" by Melissa Hartwig Urban and Dallas Hartwig"The Happiness Project" by Gretchen Rubin"Born to Run" by Christopher McDougall"You Are a Badass" by Jen SinceroWealth: 11. "Rich Dad Poor Dad" by Robert T. Kiyosaki 12. "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill 13. "The Millionaire Next Door" by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko 14. "The Intelligent Investor" by Benjamin Graham 15. "The Richest Man in Babylon" by George S. Clason 16. "The Total Money Makeover" by Dave Ramsey 17. "I Will Teach You to Be Rich" by Ramit Sethi 18. "The 4-Hour Workweek" by Timothy Ferriss 19. "The Automatic Millionaire" by David Bach 20. "Your Money or Your Life" by Vicki Robin and Joe DominguezRelationships: 21. "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman 22. "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" by John Gray 23. "Hold Me Tight" by Dr. Sue Johnson 24. "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" by John Gottman and Nan Silver 25. "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller 26. "Crucial Conversations" by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler 27. "Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall B. Rosenberg 28. "Getting the Love You Want" by Harville Hendrix 29. "The Relationship Cure" by John Gottman 30. "Daring Greatly" by Brené Brown --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/booksintamil/support

In this special episode, the Empowered Relationship Podcast deviates from its usual format of interviewing experts to provide dedicated attention to addressing a listener's thought-provoking questions. The question centers around a familiar dynamic often observed in relationships, where one partner finds themselves leaning away from the relationship while the other remains invested and leaning in. Listener's Questions “How do you come to terms in a marriage of holding true to your commitment of loyalty for life, sticking through the "for worse", and being able to trust your judgment at the time you chose your spouse? Specifically the self-blame of trusting yourself on the decision of who to marry, and/or breaking your own promise of being true to your word at the time.” “Understanding wife say I just want to be roommates, we work great as a team co-parenting kids and taking care of the house, and what this means coming on the heels of an affair?” Quick Story “In the initial wake of the revelation, I thought wow I was an awful person as she brought up things I didn't do or when she felt hurt, but through a year of discussions with a psychologist and an independent therapist I realized a lot of these are coming from her insecurities and anxiety and attempts at justifying her affair. I'm not without fault - I was not emotionally available as much as I needed to be for her and during our marriage she felt like I did things that made her feel like she needed to change things about herself in order to be someone who she thought I wanted her to be. (If that makes sense?). I've learned a lot of tools I can use, but a lot of them seem to work within the confines of making the marriage better, but right now she's not there yet. My wife came clean about an emotional affair she had and exhibited all the traits of limerence by blaming me for it, rewriting our history into a negative sentiment override, "I care for you but not in love with you", and now maintains the position that she felt like we were roommates before the affair,  so she wants to keep living like that now while she works on herself. She's been clear that she doesn't want any deeper emotional discussions (unless it's about the past), zero physical affection in any way, no "I love you's" or pet names, etc. We did 5 sessions of MC and got to the point where the counselor said we have a lot of great things between us but if she's not committed to the marriage,  then it'll be hard to do the work. The most striking line he said to my wife was "The problem isn't with your husband, the problem would be with whoever happened to be sitting in this chair. " She acknowledges she's broken, gave too much of herself, and lost who she was as a person, but she's in a highly stressful job and doesn't want to seek a therapist or help on her own, she has said she just needs the space to figure out who she is and what she wants. She seems to want/expect feelings to come back naturally if it's meant to be while we remain in this "friend" state and doesn't want to force things between us. I appreciate the work you do in helping couples and look forward to your podcasts each week.” Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:40 Listeners's questions on how to come to terms with unrequited love. 13:57 Coping with the pain and uncertainty of a partner pulling away. 17:00 Identifying the relational cycle and understanding the underlying dynamics in your relationship. 22:47 Embracing ambivalence: Discovering new paths through discernment counseling. 32:34 Rediscovering commitments and finding meaning in marriage. 43:18 The importance of developing fresh approaches to relating with your partner. Dr. Jessica Higgins's Recommendations Disclaimer: Please note that the insights and feedback provided by Dr. Jessica Higgins are based solely on the information provided by the listener. Assumptions have been made regarding the listener's willingness to work on the relationship, the duration of their partnership, and the absence of specific clinical diagnoses. As each individual's circumstances are unique, the guidance offered should be considered general and not personalized advice. Dr. Jessica Higgins will do her best to address the listener's question given the available information. Acknowledge the Pain Discovering that your partner has been unfaithful and witnessing their emotional detachment from the relationship can be an incredibly painful and disorienting experience. It's natural to feel a wide range of emotions, including shock, anger, desperation, and sadness. During this time, seeking support from a therapist or counselor can be immensely helpful in processing these emotions and providing stability for both you and your children. Identify the Cycle Together  Understanding the dynamics of your relationship is crucial to finding a way forward. In the aftermath of an affair, it's essential to recognize that there may have been underlying issues and unmet needs that contributed to the breakdown of trust. This might include the experience of limerence, a state of infatuation or fantasy that can cloud judgment and lead to emotional affairs. By exploring these dynamics together, through exercises such as those found in the book "Hold Me Tight," you can gain insight into each other's perspectives and work towards rebuilding trust. Make Room for Ambivalence In situations where one partner expresses a desire to be roommates and wants to focus on personal growth, it's crucial to create space for ambivalence. Discernment counseling, a specialized form of therapy, can be beneficial in helping couples gain clarity and confidence in determining the future of their relationship. This process allows both partners to explore their true desires and intentions while relieving the pressure to make immediate decisions. It also presents an opportunity for individual self-reflection and personal growth. Do Your Work  Throughout this journey, it is vital for both partners to engage in self-reflection and personal growth. This involves examining your own contributions to the relationship dynamics and acknowledging areas where improvement is needed. While it may be tempting to place blame solely on the partner who had the affair, it's important to take responsibility for your own emotional availability and commitment to the relationship. This introspective work can pave the way for creating a healthier and more fulfilling partnership moving forward. Mentioned Hold Me Tight by Dr. Susan Johnson (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) *EFT Therapist Finder Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love ERP 015: Do You Have a “Unity” or “Journey” Mindset in Relationship? ERP 058: Beyond the Wedding. What Is Marriage Really Like? ERP 372: How to Work Together in Relationship for a Strong, Secure Connection — An Interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin ERP 373: How to Embrace Ambivalence When Making Big Relationship Decisions — An Interview with Rachel Zamore Discernment Counseling Identify The Cycle Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. 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Nick Soman is the founder and CEO of Decent, a healthcare company that helps small businesses band together to get more affordable health insurance for their employees. Prior to that he led growth for Gusto, was a product manager on the Kindle at Amazon, and started a company that he sold to Napster! In this episode we discuss: How Nick's parents influenced his own parenting The challenging early times as a Dad and startup leader Discoveries he's had as a Dad The importance of partnership in your marriage and how to navigate conflict His "irrevocable guidelines" around family Silicon Valley hustle culture and incompatibility with family life Bringing his own values into his company Many mistakes he's made as a father and what they've taught him — Where to find Nick Soman: - Twitter: https://twitter.com/nicksoman - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicksoman/   Where to find Adam: - Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/ - Twitter: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf — In this episode, we cover: [1:50] Introductions [2:36] Nick and Decent Health [4:28] Nick's background [7:08] His Parents [8:58] Family life and Starting a family [12:27] Challenging early times as a Dad [16:00] Responsibility cape/choice vs. obligation [17:12] Masculine energy/Nature vs. Nurture [20:44] Dad discoveries/Do as I say, not as I do. [24:41] Dissonance between partners [25:32] Importance of partnership/conflict [28:00] Marriage advice [30:22] How do you and your wife recharge? [32:46] “Irrevocable guidelines” around my family [33:27] Silicon Valley “hustle culture” [34:19] A trap he fell into/a walkabout [37:44] Bringing values into his company [40:46] Mistake he's made as a father [44:28] Rapid fire round — Links we reference: Rivian https://rivian.com/   “Hold Me Tight,” Dr. Sue Johnson  https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/B084G9QFZY/ref=sr_1_2?crid=194BNQXYUKRWA&keywords=hold+me+tight+sue+johnson&qid=1680733560&sprefix=hold+me+tight+sue+%2Caps%2C107&sr=8-2   Nick's company, Decent https://www.decent.com/ Andy Johns - How to Know When to Stop https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/how-to-know-when-to-stop — Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/ Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/  

Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), joins Dr. Rick and Forrest to explore how insights from attachment theory can transform our relationships. They discuss how attachment theory provides a map for understanding relationships, the challenges of making skills learned in therapy stick, and the role of vulnerability in creating authentic and fulfilling relationships. In this episode you'll learn how to use insights from attachment theory and EFT to create secure and emotionally healthy relationships. About our Guest: Dr. Sue Johnson is a clinical psychologist, researcher, professor, and the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a widely used and respected approach to couples therapy. She is considered one of the foremost experts in the field of attachment, and hKey Topics:Key Topics:0:00: Introduction2:00: Why Sue created Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)8:55: Relationships as bonds, not bargains12:20: Attachment theory as a “map,” and getting skills to stick16:50: What it feels like to be in a bonding conversation26:15: Validating vulnerabilities and “finding the raw spot”31:35: Changing the way you relate to yourself36:20: EFT vs. Internal Family Systems38:40: “The Amygdala Whisperer,” and creating a new experience 40:35: Inherent goodness, and naming helplessness45:40: Communicating how much you value others51:50: Individualism, and getting comfortable with vulnerability59:05: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.NEW Offering from Rick! Join Rick and 5 world-renowned teachers – including Dr. Gabor Mate, Tara Brach, and Thupten Jinpa – for The Heart of Compassion, a 5-week online program that will teach you how to access, grow, and apply compassion. Head to rickhanson.net/hoc to learn more, and use code BEINGWELL10 for 10% off. Sponsors:Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today.Finally get that project off the ground with Squarespace! Head to squarespace.com/beingwell for a free trial, and when you're ready to launch use coupon code BEINGWELL to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

Is your relationship with your intimate partner at risk of failing? Whether you're married or not, some practices and professionals can guide you to be open and vulnerable so you can repair your relationship, making it healthy and wholesome. This episode will provide valuable insights and strategies if you struggle with communication, trust, or other issues.   Mark Beck, a licensed therapist, mental health counselor, Pairs Care Counseling founder, and co-founder of Hold Me Tight® workshops, joins us today. He'll talk about what led to him specializing exclusively in couples and marriage counseling and what Emotion-focused therapy (EFT) and the Hold Me Tight® workshops are all about.    Want to start the journey with your partner? Tune in to learn the steps you need to take to develop a lasting connection with each other and overcome hurdles as a power duo.    In this episode, you will hear: Mark's background: Childhood, education, and career 3 reasons behind Mark's career shift One thing that all types of therapies have in common How Mark approaches the intersection of religion and his counsel work Breaking down how Emotion-focused therapy (EFT) works How Hold Me Tight® couple workshops are structured Advice for couples on how to create healthy conversations 3 things that will help you connect with your partner better What couples can do to overcome trials after joining Mark's workshops Resources/Links mentioned Mastering the Five Practices of Resilience with Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal 046: Molding True Masculine Leadership with Sanyika “The Firestarter” Street The 5 Practices of Highly Resilient People by Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal | Hardcover and Kindle Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson | Hardcover and Kindle   Subscribe and Review Have you subscribed to our podcast? We'd love for you to subscribe if you haven't yet.  We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.   CONNECT with Mark Beck, LMHC, LPC Hold Me Tight®: https://couplesworkshopsofflorida.com/  Pairs Care Counseling: https://www.pairscare.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-beck-5b977b28/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarkBeckLPC    CONNECT WITH US Website: https://alexatwood.co/  Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-alchemist-lounge/id1552229674  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexatwood/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/alexatwood/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexatwood_coaching/ Facebook: https://facebook.com/alexatwood.coaching   P.S. Like content like this? Join my newsletter! https://fierce-author-7032.ck.page/a7a68aca9f

For the first time, RB starts us off before Tommy recounts a harrowing tale of a recent unmitigated disaster.  From there we get right into the important work of discussing bomb pops, boringness (but not in regards to RB), the Ocean State Job Lot, people surprised that Scotty C is the Dancing Blotto, the Beatles gothic phase, if goths can eat ice cream cones, the Ticketmaster debacle and who has the power to change it, a surprise call from Fans on the Run's Ethan Alexanian, a Tommy vs. Ethan head-to-head battle, the Concentration 64 game, octogenarians with jet black hair, Masons, and the clap-infused "Hold Me Tight." As always, you can find Team Blotto Beatles on Instagram (@blottobeatles) and Twitter (@blottobeatles), by emailing us (blottobeatles@gmail.com), or on the web (blottobeatles.com).  We want to hear from you!Please also take the time to rate and review us on Apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.We have a shop!  Grab some merch.  You can always drunk dial us at 1.857.233.9793 to share your thoughts, feedback, confessions, and concerns and to be featured in an upcoming episode. Enjoying the show? Buy us a beer via the tip jar (don't forget to include a message telling us what we should drink with the money).You know we're making a list of it, see the canonical, argument-ending list of Beatles songs we are assembling here: https://www.blottobeatles.com/list & listen to it on Spotify here.Please remember to always enjoy Blotto Beatles responsibly.Peace and Love.Hosts: Becker and TommyExecutive Producer: Scotty C.Additional Musical Supervision: RB (@ryanobrooks)Associate Musical Supervision: Tim Clark (@nodisassemble)#PeteBestGetThatCheck

Hold Me Tight is a two-day workshop based on the emotional focused couples therapy model created by Sue Johnson.  Over 70% of couples who seek marital help using this model report feeling satisfied  and happier than before therapy.  The focus of the workshop is  couples practice doing the 7 conversations for a lifetime of love which comes from the book. Masters level therapist introduce each of the 7 conversations to ensure couples understand the exercise.  Couples go into private rooms to practice the conversation with support of a therapist.   Most couples report in their evaluation that the workshop is effective in identifying habits that get in the way of communication and help develop new habits that foster a more loving and connected marriage.   Listen to this episode to learn more details.  You can contact Shane Adamson to learn when the next Hold Me Tight workshop will be held.   Marriage is an adventure in love.  Hold Me Tight helps couples to renew their love story!

We return to Pandora for Avatar: The Way of Water plus we also discuss The Banshees of Inisherin, Hold Me Tight, Last Chance U: Basketball - Season 2 and Adult Swim Yule Log. 0:00 - Intro: Dax's Colonoscopy 20:35 - Review: Avatar: The Way of Water 1:53:05 - Other Stuff We Watched: Mortal Kombat (2021), Hold Me Tight, The Banshees of Inisherin, Last Chance U: Basketball - Season 2, Vikings: Season 5, Adult Swim Yule Log 2:18:35 - This Week on DVD, Blu-ray and VOD 2:21:08 - Outro 2:24:25 - Spoiler Discussion: Avatar: The Way of Water

Elle discusses her relationship to marriage, and her relationship to her wife of nearly 20 years. In this episode, she explores what it was like before, during, and after transition, including the challenging process of coming out to her partner. Some of the resources she recommends in this conversation include Amanda Jette Knox's book, Love Lives Here and Sue Johnson's Hold Me Tight. Check them out! To contact Elle about the show, send an email to twatpodcasting@gmail.com.

In today's episode of the “Helping Families Be Happy” podcast, host Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing Clinical Psychologist, Wellness Advocate, and Author based in Sonoma County, California talks with guest Matthew Winner, a Head Podcaster for A Kids Book Company where he leads the company in creating a podcast network dedicated to helping kids. They talk about his journey as a kid and what it takes in the circumstance to repair the harm that was caused to him Episode Highlights 01:40 – Matthew says he is a great fan of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - CBT and loves that he can reflect and see where he was in his childhood and applies it to where he is now. 04:00 – Dr. Carla says that they are not blaming or shaming anyone, they are simply saying, there are things that you can do in your life to ensure yourself or your family are happier. 05:15 - The breakthrough for Matthew was a book that his therapist introduced to called Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson. 07:00 - The beauty of attachment is that we can create secure attachment. We can create it no matter how old we are. 10:40 – Matthew mentions that wherever we are, in our life journey, it's liberating to say that the class was doing the best they could, just that they didn't know better.  12:40 – Dr. Carla asks Matthew to explain ‘Restorative Justice' to the listeners. 15:20 -  Restorative Justice work is to repair the harm so that we can look at the action that happened and say that it was wrong, but the individual is not a good or bad person. They are a person who committed this action while being aware of it. 17:10 – Dr. Carla tells Matthew that he mirrors what he said, he looks at the harm done, no blame, no shame but he addresses the person injured so that they can come from a place of empowerment and cure for the long-term. 19:20 – Matthew thinks that there's a lot of value there to healing together for them to say, that both the persons that were harmed and the person that is responsible for the harm can both be hurting and both need to heal. 21:24 - When Matthew takes that thing that he practices with Dr. Cara and applies it to talk to his parents or wife or kids or colleagues. He can start breaking down the fear or resistance around them because he has already got a notch on his belt from doing it in therapy. 22:39 - If we're practicing healthy loving skills in a safe family, then we can go out and practice them, at school, in friendships, or at work too. 25:30 – Matthew thinks that the reason why he has been working with children for so long is that it is incredibly humbling where he just learns and learns. They are exceptional at exposing his insecurities. 27:40 - A way we protect ourselves is by pushing others away, fighting, and by trying to make sure that no one causes us further harm. 29:40 – Matthew reveals that their kids' podcasts have a podcast on emotions in coalition with young children and their grownups in part about destigmatizing therapy but also about allowing ourselves to feel big emotions. 31:00 - The work that they do in their Kids Co. is they say kids are ready and they make things for kids to talk about, says Matthew. 32:00 – Matthew mentions that the fact that he can see adults trying to protect him in his life, is what draws him to different hosts about the different podcasts that we have. 34:10 – Matthew suggests empowering children by giving them the language that they understand. If this is the word for that thing, then explain it to them, but don't call it something else. That is a piece of currency that they'll use to navigate the world, so deny them that tool. 35:55 – Dr. Carla does love all of the principles that Matthew has been bringing about on how to empower children and see them as unique individuals who are innately wise. 36:50 – Matthew says all the adults that maybe weren't there for him, how would they have ever known that 30 years later he would be an adult that could be here for him? 38:30 – Matthew wants to make sure that we all agree to learn together and to take on that position of learner. Three Key Points Matthew says that this indigenous practice of repairing harm, where harm was caused not seeking to punish but seeking to acknowledge that we are part of a community and as a community, we all need to be able to move forward together so being able to ask what it takes in this circumstance to repair the harm that was caused for Matthew. Between that repairing harm and working hard to see the best in people, to be able to love his parents and say, they were doing the best. They could and love them in a different way now and say he needs them to continue to do the best that they can and Matthew also will try to do the best that he can. In the classroom community, they all become much more self-aware, as well as class aware that they are an ecosystem that they are all feeding off one another. Similarly, in the justice system, all of us in this community/society are just part of a fishbowl we're all part of a singular ecosystem that affects everything. We must recognize that we siblings can heal each other and also that it can go upward that my kids can heal me, making sure that I am communicating with them. Dr. Carla says that when we look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs, first and foremost comes Safety. We want to be safe, and we want to be loved because we are truly and deeply loved in the most beautiful sense of the word. We know we are safe because someone who truly loves us might make mistakes, but they won't purposefully harm us. Let's talk about sexual abuse from the age of five because around two to five children by the age of 5 or 10 will have an experience with it and the number is huge. So instead, why wouldn't we talk about this? Matthew states that he was a victim of sexual abuse, and it took him up to the age of 36 to be able to through therapy and notify authorities. It was past time, there was nothing that the state of Pennsylvania could do at that point. Tweetable Quotes “I think that I've really pushed up against this notion that our parents did the best they could.” - Matthew Winner “We didn't have parents who knew anything about attachment. They didn't know how to create secure attachment.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly “I'm not judging any of the pupil's choices, it's just realizing that sometimes in life we don't do our best.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly “You can't change other people; you can only change yourself.” - Matthew Winner “You said one of my favorite words Fishbowl and another favorite, which is Ecosystem, right?” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly “Children are exceptional in exposing our shortcomings, and our sensitivities.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly “We have a kids' podcast about current events and about big topics like school shootings and racism and things like that and all of it.” - Matthew Winner “I have come to understand that there's no way in my childhood that I wasn't communicating to my parents my needs.” - Matthew Winner “Don't talk down to your children, talk up to your children. It is such a beautiful statement.” - Dr. Carla Marie Manly

Episode 10: Attachment Injuries Show Notes   First 5 minutes: Intro- We have to go back, not to say I'm sorry, but to say that I recognize that damage I've caused has left a lasting impact and I hate that impact and want to make up for it.   Still talking about addiction and how it impacts relationships. Trying to provide a framework for understanding addition more and the long term impact it has on both partners. In this episode we'll be discuss the long term damage that the addictive behavior caused and how important it is to go back and repair where there was damage done.   Scenario- year three of sobriety after ten years of not drinking. Things have been going well, but the relationship still doesn't feel as connected it could. On a random day, the addict comes home late and the partner freaks out. The partner is panicking because of the damage done in the ten hard, bad years, even though there has been three good years.   Minutes 5-10: The partner who did the damage has to be able to acknowledge that even though there has been several good years and sobriety, there is still residue from the past that the partners body is holding onto. At the time the damage was being done- in real time- no one had the wherewithal to recognize the damage. Then, there were years working on sobriety and getting healthy, but also no attention was given to the pain caused in the bad years.   At some point, the couple needs to go back and acknowledge the pain that was caused and repairs and amends need to be made, so that the partners body and start to have more assurance in the places of mistrust. It's hard and shaming and embarrassing to go back into the damage, but it is necessary for the attachment to be repaired.   Minutes 10-15: This is a message that says, go through recovery together! It is helpful for the partner to see the work that the addict has been doing. The partner needs assurance that the addict isn't going to make the same choices and being able to acknowledge the damage that was done is a good way to give that assurance.   There are so many things that could have caused some damage, and therefore it's important to make sure that they are acknowledged and repaired. This isn't about blame and ownership out of revenge or anger. This is about the person who caused pain circling back to rebuild trust in places where trust was lost. This is hard.   Minutes 15-20: This is so hard because at this point there is already so much work into healthier living. We are asking the addict to go back into pain that they avoided for good reason. So to have to set aside all the hard work they have been doing and go back into past mistakes and pain, it feels crazy.   It would be easy to feel attacked and criticized when your partner gets triggered, but if you can recognize that it is only their body alarming them and you can help calm them, it changes your ability to respond. This is a complex maneuver that requires awareness and healing. You have be capable of recognizing that something you did in your past is still affecting your partner in their present and you have the opportunity to help them heal.   Minutes 20-25: From Sue Johnson's Hold Me Tight, or the workshops we do, Created for Connection, there is something called a Raw Spot where there is a wound or a painful injury that needs attention.   Connect Point: Can you consider if you've made a choice in your relationship that had consequences that affected your partner and can you acknowledge what the choice was and how it affected them, and then discuss it with your partner.   To read more about Chad and Angela and what they do, check out their website at: www.therealimhoffs.com  

In today's show we sit down with Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Life Coach, Patrick Monette to discuss all things Effective Communication Part 2.    There are tools and strategies to use to communicate better overall.  Patrick counsels so many individuals on an array of issues, he is the perfect person to gain insight from on this tough subject.    Learn how to  Communicate in a relationship Communicate at work Communicate when you feel stuck   Grab your coffee and get ready for some soul food ya'll!  Patrick Monette is a licensed mental health/addiction and certified trauma counselor located in Northern New York. He is also a Certified EMDR therapist and EMDRIA Approved Consultant and trained couples counselor. He has taught at local universities and maintains a private practice focusing on couples work and trauma-informed treatment as well as gender issues, anger management, and co-occurring disorders.   He is actively engaged in the local community drug court systems as a mental health consultant and educator. Patrick is fluent in English and Spanish and offers treatment in both languages. He also stated his bi-weekly video show/podcast Friday Night Feels that focuses on various aspects of wellness and incorporates guests to come and share their experiences and areas of specialty. During the pandemic, Patrick has begun to hold online couples courses/retreats called Hold Me Tight®  to assist couples focus and improve their relationships. Please visit his website for more information www.patrickmonette.com

This week on Find Your Film we review The Justice of Bunny King, Hold Me Tight, the documentary Young Plato and The Enforcer (starring Antonio Banderas).Eric also reviews Barbarian and The Woman King. Bruce recommends Ti West's latest feature Pearl and Bad Boy Bubby.Check out our Find Your Film site for more movie news and reviews: https://findyourfilms.com/Subscribe to our Deepest Dream YouTube Channel for more movie reviews and interviews: https://www.youtube.com/c/DeepestDreamDotComShirts, hoodies, drinking glass, stickers and more FYF merch is up on findyourfilmpodcast.com!Email us at info@findyourfilms.com!Join our CinemAddicts Facebook Group, where we give Blu-rays and DVDs out weekly to our members!Bruce Purkey's YouTube Channel is RustomireFollow Eric Holmes On Twitter.Find Your Film is on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram!Support the show

Hold Me Tight, the latest directorial venture from actor and filmmaker Mathieu Amalric, is a riveting, kaleidoscopic entry to the canon of movies about women on the verge. The film, which opened on September 9, features Vicky Krieps as Clarisse, a young mother on the run who may—or may not, depending on your reading of the story—be going through indescribable grief. The actor turns in a performance of mesmerizing fluidity and mystery, as Amalric's elliptical storytelling keeps the audience guessing about the nature of Clarisse's reality.  Last week, Film Comment Co-Deputy Editors Clinton Krute and Devika Girish welcomed the director and star for a Film Comment Live talk about their new movie, the narrative and cinematic balancing act of depicting a mind in flux, the film's imaginative use of music, and much more.

EPISODE 152 - Dr. Marisa Cohen is a relationship researcher, marriage and family therapist, and teacher of college-level psychology courses.  She is also the author of From First Kiss to Forever: A Scientific Approach to Love, a book that relates relationship scientific research to everyday experiences and real relationship issues confronted by couples. Dr. Cohen is passionate about discovering and sharing important relationship research from the field, and has given guest lectures at locations including the 92nd Street Y, Strand Bookstore, and the New York Hall of Science. She is also a 2021 TEDx Speaker, has appeared in segments for Newsweek, and is the subject of a piece focusing on her work, which aired on BRIC TV. Her work has been quoted in publications such as Bustle, Good Housekeeping, The Cut, InStyle, The Washington Post, Men's Health, and Women's Health. She has also appeared on many podcasts and radio shows to discuss the psychology of love and ways in which we can improve our relationships. In the episode, Dr. Cohen explains common misconceptions couples have about what makes a happy, successful relationship; advice for growing (and changing) with your partner rather than growing apart; tips for being more successful at online dating…and more! EPISODE WEBPAGE: thehealthinvestment.com/152 P.S. – If you're liking The Health Investment Podcast, be sure to hit “subscribe/follow” so that you never miss an episode

The French actor and filmmaker Mathieu Amalric ("The Diving Bell & The Butterfly") has a new dramatic feature opening Friday, September 9th called "Hold Me Tight". Also, documentary filmmaker Kevin Shaw discusses his new film "Let the Little Light Shine".

This week on the Film at Lincoln Center podcast, we're revisiting a conversation from the  27th Rendez-Vous with French Cinema with Hold Me Tight (opens tomorrow!) director Mathieu Amalric and actor Vicky Krieps, moderated by NYFF Artistic Director Dennis Lim. Vicky Krieps (Phantom Thread, Bergman Island) gives another riveting performance as Clarisse, a woman on the run from her family for reasons that aren't immediately clear. Widely renowned as an actor but less well-known here for his equally impressive work behind the camera, Mathieu Amalric's sixth feature directorial outing—his most ambitious to date—is a virtuosic, daringly fluid portrait of one woman's fractured psyche. Alternating between Clarisse's adventures on the road and her abandoned husband Marc (Arieh Worthalter) as he struggles to take care of their children at home, Amalric's film keeps viewers uncertain as to the reality of what they're seeing until the final moments of this richly rewarding, moving, and unpredictable portrait of grief. Get showtimes and tickets to Hold Me Tight at filmlinc.org/holdme

On this episode of CinemAddicts, I interview Nicole Beharie from the film Honk For Jesus. Save Your Soul. Plus, Eric Holmes and Bruce Purkey give a preview of movies that are coming out during the weeks of September 2 and September 9. Films discussed included Saloum, Clerks III, Medieval, Our American Family, Hold Me Tight, Speak No Evil, Peter Von Kant, and Tiny Cinema.Timecodes:(0:00 )- Intro(2:20) - Nicole Beharie Interview (6:27) - CinemAddicts Episode 150Atty's Antiques is on Facebook MarketplaceFor the month of September, Anderson and Greg cover the year 1977. For access to our bonus episode, subscribe to our CinemAddicts Patreon.Anderson's email: anderson@andersoncowan.comGreg's email: editor@deepestdream.com & info@findyourfilms.comFor exclusive movie interviews/reviews, check out Greg's Deepest Dream YouTube Channel Rate/review CinemAddicts on Apple Podcasts!HAVE A CHAT WITH ANDY HERELinks to the promised CCP shorts are below.THE COLD COCKLE SHORTSRULES OF REDUCTIONMORMOANTHE CULT OF CARANOSubscribe to my Andersobn's Channel HereGROUPERS TRAILERPlease Give Groupers a Rotten Tomatoes Audience Score HerePlease Rate It on IMDB HereThe Enthusiasm ProjectDeep dives exploring the world of what it means to be an independent creator.Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

1st Lt. Rodney Walker, 1st Special Forces Command (Airborne) Chaplain Lt. Col. Brandon Moore, and Deputy Command Chaplain Maj. Colt Randles discuss creative ways to strengthen marriages through communication and the seven principles for making marriage work.  This conversation explains that even though marriages may be shaky or successful, it could always grow stronger.Links mentioned in the podcast:Created for Connection: The "Hold Me Tight" Guide for Christian Couples Hardcover - October 4, 2016 by Kenneth Sanderfer and Dr. Sue Johnson EdDHold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Loveby Dr. Sue Johnson EdD, Apr 8, 2008"Growing Through Adversity" premiere - release of the U.S. Army Chaplain Corps' first Strong Bonds film l Article l The United States ArmyLinks to film and road map are in the article.Discover Your Love Language - The 5 Love LanguagesChapman, G. D. (2010). The Five Love Languages. WalkerThe Gottman Institute l A research-based approach to relationshipsGottman, J. (2000). The seven principles for making marriage work. Orion.

FOREPLAY welcomes Emotionally Focused Therapy, founder Dr. Sue Johnson to talk with us about George's driving and the sexual cycle. We laughed together about their early relationship and more seriously about George asking for help after 9/11 with the couples he was seeing and Sue's generous response.  Sue gives us a keen example of a uber sexual pursuer and how his needs for attachment drive him even thought his behavior pushes his partner away. Listen up to our discussing with someone who has changed the world with her theory and life's work! For an EFT Therapist or to purchase her bestselling books LoveSense or Hold Me Tight - contact Sue's organization: ICEEFT.com