Defy the Norm Podcast

Are you stuck in a cycle of work, responsibilities, and endless routine? Join Victor and Robyn as they challenge everything you thought you knew about living a fulfilling life. In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into why fun isn't just a luxury—it's a necessity for personal growth, happiness, and true wellness. Discover: - Why your "someday" might never come - How adventure sports can transform your mindset - The truth about health, wellness, and living with purpose - Practical strategies to break free from comfort zone limitations - Personal stories of overcoming fear and embracing excitement Whether you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just curious about injecting more joy into your life, this episode is your wake-up call. Learn how to redefine your perfect day, challenge your limiting beliefs, and create a life that makes you jump out of bed with enthusiasm. Warning: This episode may cause spontaneous adventure planning, sudden bursts of excitement, and a complete reimagining of what's possible in your life.

In this raw and vulnerable episode, Robyn & Victor explore the complex emotion of shame, diving deep into its origins, impacts, and strategies for overcoming it.   Drawing from personal experiences and insights from Enneagram theory, they discuss how shame can manifest in different personality types, affect relationships, and limit personal growth.   They share their own journeys of confronting shame, offering practical advice on developing self-awareness, building capability, and creating a life of purpose and authenticity.   Listeners will gain valuable insights into recognizing shame triggers, breaking free from self-limiting beliefs, and stepping into their true potential.   Key Topics: - Understanding shame across different Enneagram types - Personal stories of overcoming shame - Practical strategies for self-discovery - The importance of developing personal desires and goals - Navigating shame in relationships and personal growth   Resources mentioned in this podcast   Marriage Course: https://bit.ly/betheheromarriagecourse   1:1 Coaching Consult: https://calendly.com/robyn-nomadswithapurpose/30minconsult https://calendly.com/theworkoutwarrior/30minconsult   Adventure Retreat: https://www.nomadswithapurpose.com/adventures-retreats/  

In this week's episode, we are covering: Communication: More Than Just Talking One of our biggest struggles has been truly understanding each other. Robyn would talk for hours, feeling unheard, while Victor would listen intently but miss the emotional core of what I was saying. It wasn't about the words, but about the feeling behind them. Victor's perspective was different. He was trying to find the core message, the one sentence that would validate my feelings. But our communication styles were fundamentally misaligned. The Power of Understanding Personal Growth We discovered that our individual growth paths were crucial to our relationship. Victor, for instance, requires extensive self-care – sometimes up to 4-5 hours daily. This isn't indulgence, but a necessary process of emotional and physical reset. For Robyn, growth meant learning to trust the universe, to understand that I couldn't force change in Victor, but could only transform myself.   Breaking Down Our Communication Differences Our Myers-Briggs types play a significant role in how we communicate: - Victor is more focused on feelings, memories, and past experiences - Robyn is driven by future goals, efficiency, and forward momentum. This fundamental difference used to create conflict, but now we've learned to see it as a strength. The Turning Point: Rediscovering Connection We started spending time together in our hot tub, reconnecting and trying to understand each other's perspectives. We realized that: 1. Individual growth is crucial 2. Communication is about understanding, not just talking 3. Relationships require constant intentional effort Our Relationship Toolkit We've developed strategies that have helped us: - Practice radical open-mindedness - Communicate honestly - Respect individual journeys - Create shared goals - Maintain personal growth A Message of Hope To couples struggling in long-term relationships, we want to say: Don't give up. Relationships are not about perfection, but about continuous growth and commitment. Key Takeaways: - Prioritize your partnership - Communicate openly - Maintain individual growth - Be patient with yourself and your partner - Regularly reassess and realign your relationship Our Relationship Course We've created a relationship course that breaks down our journey into four key elements: 1. Understanding personal wounds 2. Effective communication 3. Shadow work 4. Contract renegotiation The Secret Sauce: Manifestation and Trust Perhaps our most powerful tool has been manifestation. By consistently visualizing and believing in our desired outcome, we've been able to create remarkable experiences – from world travel to deepening our connection. Final Thoughts Marriage is not a destination. It's a continuous journey of growth, understanding, and recommitment. Some days are harder than others, but the key is to keep showing up, keep loving, and keep believing in each other. Resources: Our Relationship Course https://bit.ly/betheheromarriagecourse  Recommended Reading: Gene Keys https://a.co/d/3xgXEPx Enneagram Book https://a.co/d/gINIsS2 Enneagram Cheatsheets https://bit.ly/enneagramcheatsheets   Coaching Services Available Free Consult with Robyn https://calendly.com/robyn-nomadswithapurpose/30minconsult Free Consult with Victor https://calendly.com/theworkoutwarrior/30minconsult

In a raw and vulnerable podcast episode, Victor and Robyn share their journey of navigating marriage, parenthood, and personal growth. Their story reveals a common relationship challenge: The delicate balance between prioritizing your spouse and your children. The Roots of Disconnection: Robyn candidly admits that for years, she chose her children over her husband. This wasn't a deliberate decision, but a gradual process rooted in several factors: 1. Changing Dynamics: As their family grew and children became more involved in activities, their relationship shifted from being couple-centered to child-centered. 2. Unaddressed Expectations: Small feelings of betrayal and unmet expectations began to create distance between them. 3. Individual Pursuits: Victor's jujitsu and Robyn's yoga and surfing became separate activities that further pulled them apart. The Self-Care Connection: A key insight from their conversation is the critical role of self-care. Victor, in particular, requires extensive daily self-care - sometimes up to 4-5 hours - to feel grounded and balanced. This includes: - Listening to educational content - Stretching and mobility work - Breathwork - Workouts - Running - Mobility Therapy What Keeps Them Together Despite their challenges? Two things have sustained their relationship: 1. Open-mindedness: Both are willing to listen and explore new ideas. 2. Self-discipline: Each are commitment to physical health and self-improvement The Missing Piece: Shared Vision Currently, they're working to develop a shared vision for their future. Robyn emphasizes the importance of not just existing, but actively creating something meaningful together. Key Takeaways: - Relationships require constant communication and realignment - Self-care is crucial, but shouldn't come at the expense of connection - Maintaining individual growth while nurturing the relationship is challenging but possible Recommended Resources: - "The Gene Keys" by Richard Rudd - Beatrice Chestnut's Enneagram book on 27 types Their story is a testament to the complexity of long-term relationships and the ongoing work required to maintain them.

Welcome to the Defy the Norm podcast. In this solo cast, host Victor Robledo shares his deeply transformative experience from a recent ayahuasca retreat. Victor and his wife, Robin, have been living a life of adventure with their five children for the past 10 years, and this retreat marks a significant milestone in his spiritual journey. Victor candidly discusses his initial trepidations, the build-up to the retreat, and the powerful self-love he discovered. He reflects on his struggles with ADD, anxiety, and past traumas, and how the retreat helped him confront and heal these issues. Through vivid storytelling, he recounts his interactions with the ayahuasca entity, the intense emotional purging, and the overwhelming feeling of peace and clarity that followed. This episode is a raw and honest account of personal growth and the profound impact of ayahuasca. Whether you're considering a retreat yourself or simply curious about the experience, Victor's journey offers valuable insights and inspiration. Tune in to learn more about his path to self-discovery and the power of this sacred medicine.

Tired of the constant battles with your spouse? In this video, we explore game-changing strategies that have helped us turn conflict into connection within our relationship. 

This is the MINDSET PROGRAM to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body?  In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing. Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free. Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts. Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.  

This is the WORKOUT PROGRAM to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body?  In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing. Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free. Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts. Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.  

This is the NUTRITION PROGRAM to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body?  In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing. Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free. Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts. Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.  

Dream it, Live it.  This is the introduction chapter to Robyn's book, A Playful Life: Think, Move, & Eat Your Way to More Fun Are you an adventure-seeking woman who would love to have more energy and a strong, capable body?  In this book, Robyn shares her mindset, workout, and nutrition plan, allowing her to spend her days chasing outdoor adventures like rock climbing, surfing, mountain biking, and skiing. Click here to access the ebook version of A Playful Life for free. Click here to order the paperback copy of A Playful Life, which is filled with delicious recipes and all the workouts. Click here to sign up for coaching with Robyn or Victor.  

Do you feel like you are on a self-growth journey but your partner is reluctant to change or even delve deeper into the self? In this episode, Robyn and Victor are sharing insights into why men tend to be reluctant to do the deeper shadow work and simple strategies they can use to start peeling back the layers of stress, overwhelm, trauma, or programming that keep them asleep to their emotions. Join Be The Hero for Free and start uncovering your authentic self so that you can form deeper, more passionate relationships with your spouse or partner. https://bethehero.academy

Do you ever find it hard to be a man these days? You are supposed to be confident and display leadership qualities, but the harder you try, the more you feel like you are letting people down? You love your life and your relationships but feel like you're coming up short most days. Do you want to achieve your dreams and pursue more self growth but your body can't get on the same page, your stress level never seems to decrease, and you keep hitting the same road blocks? You're trying to stay calm and focused but you often want to just scream, hit something, or jump on a plane to the Bahamas. In this episode, Victor takes you through a coaching call with his friend and client Justin to see how the mind, body, and spirit are all linked and provide tangible steps to help you become more self aware, break emotional patterns, and reprogram your mind for health and happiness. Initially, when working with Justin, Victor noticed that his low back was a major issue despite doing everything right in the gym and being healthy and fit. Victor sheds light into the root causes of Justin‘s back pain is linked to his childhood trauma, a scarcity mindset, and an uninvolved father. This is an intriguing conversation that starts off with a initial desire to improve longevity. Victor begins to evaluate energetic blockages that could be leading to disease and how early programming could be impacting Justin‘s overall well-being.  If you need help balancing your health, healing, and self growth, set up a Discover Call with Victor by going to https://robynandvictor.com

If you are anxious, depressed, stressed out, can't lose weight, or have low energy, this podcast episode will help you understand what is happening in your body and provides you with a clear path to get healthy and happy again. For more help with your health, go to robynandvictor.com.

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True wealth isn't about money. There are 3 components to a wealthy life: Time, Options, and Connection. Gabi and Robyn are back on the podcast to share 3 steps to gain freedom without working harder.   Are you ready to build true wealth? Join us now at ≫ https://bethehero.academy/signature-program/     Follow us on Social✨ ✺ Be The Hero Academy: https://instagram.com/bethehero.academy ✺ Nomads With A Purpose: https://instagram.com/nomadswithapurpose 

In this episode Victor shares some great tips if you are dealing with a loved one who doesn't seem to want to help themselves. One of the most frustrating things to deal with is someone struggling with health issues and not being able to help. The issues that arise from this can create a ton of confusion. In this podcast Victor shares some tips on how to help yourself during these frustrating times and give you a likely origin to why it hurts so bad. Need some help? Reach out https://www.nomadswithapurpose.com Or On social media https://instagram.com/nomadswithapurpose?igshid=MzMyNGUyNmU2YQ==

Breathwork is one of the biggest trends in health and wellness. It has the power to help you lose weight, heal trauma and help you defy the norm. We have been using breathwork for ourselves and our clients for almost 4 years. In this episode Victor goes over some breathwork basics and outlines how to start. Victor also gives you a deeper glimpse into how it can help you gain greater clarity or offload energy trapped in your body. For more information about us, our travels or coaching opportunities check us out at https://nomadswithapurpose.com

In this episode of the podcast Victor goes into the concept of a parasite cleanse. Parasites can impact your health and affect your mental well-being. The health of your gi tract is essential to having good intuition, hormones and mental clarity. He will give you some easy tips to help you detox the body and regain autonomy over your thoughts. We have an amazing parasite cleanse and would love to help you defy the norm. Reach out we will be happy to share with you. For more about what we are up to check us out at nomadswithapurpose.com https://youtube.com/@nomadswithapurpose?si=G922DU8NKOyqzQmU https://instagram.com/nomadswithapurpose?igshid=MzMyNGUyNmU2YQ==

In this episode Victor talks about how a scarcity mindset can permeate into all parts of life. If the mind perceives lack it will run a program that can really impact how you work, love and live. He will share some stories about he uncovered the issues he had and how he dealt and deal with them. For more info visit is at nomadswithapurpose.com Or message us about coaching

This podcast was inspired by a conversation with a client who thought “Can I really eat steak for breakfast” Victor goes into understanding that we are constantly being programmed to believe certain things. But is it truth?! Success leaves clues when I'm doubt search what success people do. Victor asks shares some of the programs he's worked hard to let go in hopes of helping you understand some of yours. Message us about one on one coaching Or check out our blog nomadswithapurpose.com

In this episode Victor share a few stories about the challenges he's faced full timing and going digital. The universe conspires to help you and lessons will be related until learned.

It's our 26th Wedding Anniversary!! and in this episode Victor is sharing his reflections on the past 26 years of marriage but more specifically how travel has made our marriage stronger and created a life that is more passionate and fulfilling. If you are or someone you love wants more in life but just can't pull the trigger on living your dreams, this episode will help you understand why you feel stuck in the past and can't create the future you truly want and deserve. GRAB OUR FREE COUPLES CLARITY WORKBOOK https://bit.ly/couplesclarityworkbook TAKE OUR FREE RELATIONSHIP QUIZ https://bit.ly/reignitethepassionquiz JOIN OUR FREE 5 DAY BEST LIFE BLUEPRINT WORKSHOP https://bit.ly/activateyoursoulspurpose  

We couldn't stay away! In this solo cast, Victor shares how he came to love adventure and simple steps that you can do to add more adventure to your life.

In this final episode, Victor and Robyn go into a synopsis of the last few years of their journey of healing & self growth and where their next evolution will take them. We have enjoyed our podcast journey and hope to see you on all our other platforms helping you to “Defy the Norm” You can find continue to connect with us at: https://nomadswithapurpose.com for Adventure Travel https://bethehero.academy for personal growth and development https://robynandvictor.com for heath, fitness, wellness, breathwork, and NOW couples coaching and couples retreats!! https://instagram.com/nomadswithapurpose  

In this episode you get a recap of our last road trip. Skiing, Rock climbing and the lessons learned along the way. Victor shares his experience of the trip and how he screwed up again. Join us at bethehero.academy to go deeper into health, wellness, and helping you live your best life.

Join us at bethehero.academy In this episode Robyn and Victor talk about parenting. They have 5 kids ranging from 23-12 and have worked with kids for 30 years. Parenting isn't easy but after this episode you'll have some easy steps on becoming more emotionally available for your kids.

Robyn and Victor jump in how to script out your vision of the future. They both share their personal journeys and moments that they became aware of the stories they were telling themselves. You are going to laugh and cry during this episode. Bring some Kleenex and a notebook for this one. Join us at Bethehero.academy Or Step up a discovery call!

This travel stuff hasn't always been easy for Victor, but this week something shifted. In this video we are sharing 3 big wins Victor had in adventure travel as well as some inspiring stories and motivation to help you live your life to the fullest.    https://nomadswithapurpose.com https://robynandvictor.com https://robynrobledo.com https://bethehero.academy  

It this episode, Victor shares information about being addicted to stress. He has a trauma that caused him to constantly be “on alert” and it impacted how he was able to function. He gives a few simple ways to start re-training your brain to help you live the life you are born to live.

In this episode Victor talks about clues that it is time for change. He shares stories that led him to evolve and grow as a person and coach. This episode is filled with personal transparency about his struggles and simple steps you can use to defy the norm.

In this episode, Victor shares some stories about his healing journey. How his “zoning out” was affecting his life and what steps he took to become more present. If you are struggling with being more present for yourself and others this episode will help you understand some simple steps you can take and why it may be happening. Check out our group site https://bethehero-academy.mn.co/share/Wl7dTc4tmF0-dRIl Or Message me about coaching options

In this episode, Victor shares some personal tools that he used to help himself become more mindful. He shares some personal struggles with becoming a more mindful husband and father and how he used his talents to help him develop tools to improve his well being. Going us on our groups site or message US from 1on1 coaching opportunities https://bethehero-academy.mn.co/share/Wl7dTc4tmF0-dRIl

In this episode Victor hijacks the podcast to shed some light on health and wellness. Victor revisits some simple neuroscience to help you infest and why you or someone you love is sick.

Do you catch yourself saying that you are so busy? Do you wish you had more time for the things you love? Do you want to feel more connection with yourself and others? This podcast episode will help you with all of that and more. Bethehero.academy

In this episode, we are talking about how emotions are making people sick & what you can do to change your health & happiness.

We just had such an amazing weekend boondocking at Schweitzer Mountain in Sandpoint, Idaho and in this episode, we are sharing what made it so great. If you are ready to create your own version of an epic life, join us at https://bethhero.academy and learn more about how special you are, step into your purpose, and chase your passions.

In 18 months of having a home base we accumulated stuff. In this episode we share our most recent experience downsizing again. The emotions, stress and solutions we used to get rid of “things”, why we are full timing again, and why Victor is actually excited this time around (7 years later!)   If you like this podcast and want to connect with us more, join our membership site, BeTheHero.Academy, where we are helping individuals step into their own personal power and model what it takes to be leaders of the New Earth.

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In this episode learn how we adapted to a stressful situation with our Airbnb and how stress can be good for you or bad for you. Join our group and learn how feel better today ! Bethehero.academy

This episode is all about relationship struggles. Expectations and happiness are common points of conflict in all relationships. Robyn and Victor get transparent about some of the issues they have and how they navigate those challenges. Join bethehero.academy

Do you struggle with fear? Unworthiness? Anger? This episode is a must listen for anyone wanting to live a more joyful and fulfilling life. in this episode, Robyn & Victor go deep down the rabbit hole of why programming keeps you addicted to negative emotions and limits your enjoyment of life. “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, but only saps today of its strength” -A.J. Cronin

It's a beautiful time to be alive, isn't it? Never before have we been so empowered to find the answers to our biggest struggles within ourselves. Today, I'm rambling about how I went from feeling unworthy to creating a life driven from internal values and stepping outside my comfort zone. Hope you enjoy the pep talk & wake up excited to start each day!

There are 2 types of self, the self that looks within for guidance & approval and the one that attaches to labels and identity for worth & love. Moving to the latter from the former is a journey all of us are on and it ain't easy. Today, I'm sharing where I am on this journey and the obstacles my ego is facing in the attempt to stay aligned to my inner voice and not let the ego hijack my purpose here.

In this podcast, Robyn shares how hard it's been to let go and redefine her relationship with her daughters & her self, and reflecting on if she's ready to travel less and grow some roots here in Wyoming. Join her and Gabi's Be The Hero membership here: https://www.makingmindfulnessfun.com/product/be-the-hero-membership/

Here's the secret to a purposeful life... Knowing your expectations.   We often don't realize how much our expectations of people hold us in fear instead of purpose. Therefore, relationships are one of the easiest ways to live in purpose. In fact, by working on healing expectations in our relationships, we can become magnets for the love we desire and in essence, the purpose we desire.   ⚡️ Try Week 1 of our Be the Hero Mastermind group for FREE! ≫ https://www.makingmindfulnessfun.com/product/be-the-hero-membership/

Ignorance is what spirals you, it sends you down into lower consciousness frequencies that keep you victimized. Robyn was recently listening to George Gammon describe the effects of ignorance on economic freedom and it made us think about recent interaction with friends and acquaintances. It's interesting to see how people can stay victimized quite simply because they don't question, don't wish to learn, and don't want to be curious...hence, ignorance. How has ignorance become such a default for most of the world? And how can we actively seek to find clarity over ignorance? Robyn and I are breaking it down in this video and share how to choose purpose over ignorance!

In this episode Robyn and Victor talk about failure. We are trained to play to our strengths and failure is seen negatively. Victor share his fears which have led him to overcome failure and have given him more self growth.

In one of our recent videos, Robyn and I discussed the generational sacral chakra trauma we're dealing with and living your hero's journey through the 7 chakras. While chakra healing is great, in this video we're sharing an alternative path to growth. Here, we're sharing a 3-step path to live your hero's journey by taking action aligned with your North Node, Lilith point, and Numerology Life Path number. When you start practicing these 3 steps consistently, you will become magnetic and begin to attract the money, the life, and the relationships that you dream of!

We are living in an epidemic of blocked sacral chakras passed down from generations of self-abandonment and outsourced values. Every parent that has passed down expectations and beliefs on to their children has also created what we call generational sacral chakra trauma. Robyn and Gabi believe this is one of the key roots of our disempowerment and feelings of unworthiness. When we clear our karmically blocked sacral chakra, we can shift from Victim to Creator and manifest our best life. Watch this video to discover how to heal generational sacral chakra trauma and why it is so important you do so to be the hero of your story. Be sure to check out past videos on YouTube in this series

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