Identity - winging it

Alright, be honest—how many unfinished projects do you have lying around right now?The book you swore you'd finish? Still sitting on the shelf.The laundry you folded? Now part of the furniture.That hobby you definitely thought would be your new personality? Yeah, that lasted a week.If this sounds painfully relatable, welcome to the ADHD Half-Finished Club.In this episode, we're calling ourselves out for starting things with full enthusiasm… and then immediately losing interest.• Why do we do this?• What's actually happening in our brains?• And can we actually trick ourselves into finishing things without hating life?Grab a drink, settle in, and let's laugh through the chaos together.What You'll Hear in This Episode:✔ The ADHD “Half-Finished” Hall of Fame – Books, hobbies, laundry… we're exposing ourselves.✔ Why Our Brains Do This – The science behind our shiny new project syndrome.✔ How to Actually Finish Things – Simple ADHD-friendly hacks that actually work.✔ The Big Takeaway – You're not lazy. You're not failing. You just need a different approach.Key Takeaways✨ Your ADHD brain isn't broken—it just needs dopamine, urgency, and a little trickery to get things done.✨ Not everything needs to be finished immediately. Some things can wait. Some things don't actually need finishing at all.✨ You're not alone in this. If you have a house full of half-done tasks, welcome to the club.Let's Keep the Conversation Going!

If you have ADHD and feel like your symptoms have gotten 10 times worse lately—more brain fog, emotional chaos, exhaustion, forgetfulness—you're not imagining it. Perimenopause is here to mess things up.This episode dives deep into why perimenopause makes ADHD so much harder, what's actually happening in the brain, and what you can do to manage it.

This episode is real, raw, and deeply personal. Today, I sit down with Olivia (@mynewnnormal_), who is currently navigating the Right to Choose (RTC) pathway as she seeks an ADHD diagnosis.She isn't officially diagnosed yet—she's on the waitlist—but in this conversation, Olivia opens up about exactly what that experience feels like. The doubts, the emotional highs and lows, and the relief of finally feeling like things are making sense.What makes her journey even more layered? She's also a mum to an autistic child, balancing her own struggles while advocating for him at the same time.This isn't a clinical, polished discussion. It's real life. It's messy, unfiltered, and deeply relatable. If you're on your own path to an ADHD diagnosis—or raising a neurodivergent child while figuring out your own neurodivergence—you'll feel right at home in this conversation.What We Cover in This Episode:✔ Olivia's journey to self-discovery – When did she first start suspecting she had ADHD?✔ The emotional rollercoaster of waiting for an assessment – The self-doubt, the validation, and everything in between.✔ The Right to Choose (RTC) pathway – How she accessed it and what the process has been like so far.✔ Parenting an autistic child while seeking your own diagnosis – The balancing act, the guilt, and the moments of clarity.✔ How she's finding life right now – The struggles, the wins, and what's helping her get through it all.✔ Advice for others in the same boat – What she wishes she knew before starting this process.Key Takeaways:✨ Getting diagnosed as an adult is a process—emotionally and practically.✨ The waiting can feel like limbo, but knowing yourself better is powerful.✨ Parenting a neurodivergent child while questioning your own neurodivergence is A LOT—but you're not alone.✨ There's no ‘right way' to navigate this—what matters is that you're taking steps that feel right for you.Let's Keep the Conversation Going!

Friendship isn't always sunshine and laughter—it's also miscommunications, mistakes, and those oh sht* moments when you realise you might have messed up. In this episode, we're diving into the reality of friendships, the struggles of navigating misunderstandings, and how neurodivergent traits like autism and ADHD can make relationships extra complicated.We're talking about the guilt of saying the wrong thing, the awkwardness of overthinking every interaction, and the painful moments of being misunderstood or feeling like ‘too much.' But we're also talking about growth—how we learn from our mistakes, how we forgive (ourselves and others), and how we figure out which friendships are truly worth holding onto.

Getting an ADHD diagnosis in the UK isn't easy. The waitlists are long, the process is confusing, and it's frustrating as hell. In this episode, I'm sharing my full journey through the Right to Choose pathway—how I went from an 18-month wait to getting diagnosed in just four months.In this episode, I talk about:✨ How Right to Choose actually works✨ Why I switched from Psychiatry UK to A Problem Shared✨ Exactly what happens in an ADHD assessment✨ The emotional rollercoaster after getting diagnosed

For 41 years, I had no idea I was autistic. I just thought life was harder for me than it was for everyone else. I didn't see myself in my son's autism diagnosis. But when my daughter's school told me she was showing autistic traits, I had a moment that changed everything—she's just like me.And suddenly, my entire life made sense.This episode is for every late-diagnosed parent who only started questioning their own neurodivergence because of their child. It's for those of us parenting kids who are wired like us—the ones who see our struggles mirrored back in them, the ones trying to break cycles while still figuring ourselves out.In this episode, I talk about:✨ The moment I realized I was autistic because of my daughter✨ The struggles of parenting when you are also neurodivergent✨ The absolute chaos of ADHD x ADHD executive dysfunction✨ Why, despite the challenges, raising neurodivergent kids as a neurodivergent parent is actually kind of beautifulIf you've ever thought “I see myself in my child”—this one's for you.

Ever felt completely stuck, even though you want to get things done? You're staring at the task, fully aware it needs doing, but your brain just says, “Nope.” Yeah, same.In this episode, I'm sharing five simple ways to trick your brain into moving—without it feeling like a chore. Whether it's ADHD, PDA, executive dysfunction, or just pure overwhelm, these hacks will help you break through that mental brick wall and actually get started.No pressure, no guilt—just small, doable steps that make starting feel possible.In this episode, you'll learn:• How to move without overthinking (goodbye, decision paralysis)• Why tiny actions can trick your brain into momentum• How to change your environment to stop feeling stuck• The power of speaking tasks out loud to make them easier• And my personal tricks that help me get sh*t done when my brain says “nah”If you've been stuck lately, this one's for you. Let's get moving—literally!

Ever felt completely stuck, even though you want to get things done? You're staring at the task, fully aware it needs doing, but your brain just says, “Nope.” Yeah, same.In this episode, I'm sharing five simple ways to trick your brain into moving—without it feeling like a chore. Whether it's ADHD, PDA, executive dysfunction, or just pure overwhelm, these hacks will help you break through that mental brick wall and actually get started.No pressure, no guilt—just small, doable steps that make starting feel possible.In this episode, you'll learn:• How to move without overthinking (goodbye, decision paralysis)• Why tiny actions can trick your brain into momentum• How to change your environment to stop feeling stuck• The power of speaking tasks out loud to make them easier• And my personal tricks that help me get sh*t done when my brain says “nah”If you've been stuck lately, this one's for you. Let's get moving—literally!

Trigger Warning:This episode includes a brief mention of sexual abuse. Listener discretion is advised.Episode Title: Labels, Lies, and Living Your TruthIn this raw, hilarious, and deeply relatable episode, we're diving headfirst into the exhausting world of labels. If you've ever been called lazy, too much, blunt, or been told you're overreacting, this one's for you. Aimee shares the absurdity of being judged for punctuation (yes, punctuation), the frustration of being invalidated, and the emotional toll of constantly trying to prove your worth as a person with autism and ADHD.We'll unpack how these labels stick, how they create endless cycles of self-doubt, and why they're more about other people's discomfort than your truth. But it's not all doom and gloom—Aimee uses her signature dark humour to turn the tables, challenge the labels, and remind you to throw them in the bin where they belong.By the end of this episode, you'll feel seen, empowered, and ready to own who you are—bluntness, passion, and all.What You'll Hear in This Episode:• The emotional weight of labels like “lazy” and “too much”• Aimee's group chat story—when punctuation became a crime• The frustration of invalidation and how it impacts self-worth• Why labels often say more about others than about you• Strategies to break free from labels and reclaim your narrativeConnect with Aimee:Follow Aimee on Instagram @whenlifebeginsat40 for more insights, laughs, and neurodivergent realness.Don't forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this short and sweet episode, I'm diving into the chaos of packing while navigating the constant battle between my autism and ADHD. From half-finished tasks to a house that looks like a tornado hit it, I'm sharing the reality of trying to stay on track when my brain is pulling me in a million directions.I'll talk about:• The challenges of executive dysfunction during big tasks• How I'm using lists, timers, and rewards to keep myself moving• The balance between wanting perfect organization (hello, autism!) and the chaos of ADHDIf you're neurodivergent and have ever felt like your brain is working against you, this one's for you. Remember, progress doesn't have to be perfect, and you're not alone in the mess.Join the Conversation:Have tips or stories about managing big tasks with a neurodivergent brain? Drop me a message or tag me on Instagram at @whenlifebeginsat40—I'd love to hear from you!Listen, Subscribe, and Share:If this episode resonates with you, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who could use a little encouragement. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let's get real—neurodivergence isn't always a superpower. Sure, there are moments of hyperfocus and creativity, but most of the time? It's bloody hard work. And while ADHD is becoming easier to talk about these days, autism is still met with stigma and silence. Why is that?In this episode, I'm breaking down the pressure to see neurodivergence as a gift, the exhausting stigma around being autistic, and why it's okay to admit you're struggling—no matter how old you are or how ‘together' people think you should be.Whether you're navigating ADHD, autism, or both, this is your reminder that you don't owe anyone a polished, perfect version of yourself. You're enough, exactly as you are.What We Cover:• The reality of living with ADHD and autism—beyond the ‘superpower' narrative.• Why autism is still seen as taboo compared to ADHD.• The emotional toll of stigma and masking.• Owning your neurodivergent identity without apology.Join the Conversation:Have thoughts or a story to share? I'd love to hear from you. Drop me a message or tag me on Instagram at @whenlifebeginsat40.Listen, Subscribe, and Share:If this episode resonates with you, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Let's break the stigma—together. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this raw and unfiltered episode, we're diving headfirst into the stereotypes around autism and ADHD that have screwed so many of us over. From the outdated image of ADHD as just ‘hyperactive boys' to the rigid, emotionless caricature of autism, we're unpacking how these myths lead to overdiagnosis for some and devastating underdiagnosis for others—especially women, girls, and marginalized groups.I'm sharing my own experiences, the emotional toll of being overlooked for years, and the identity shift that comes with a late diagnosis. If you've ever felt angry, relieved, or just plain exhausted by the system, this one's for you.Let's break the mold, challenge the narrative, and start owning our neurodivergent brilliance.What We Cover:• The harmful stereotypes that delay diagnoses.• Why underdiagnosis in women and marginalized communities is rampant.• The emotional fallout of being ignored or misdiagnosed.• How to embrace your identity and rewrite your story post-diagnosis.Join the Conversation:Have a story to share? Thoughts on the episode? Drop me a message or tag me on Instagram at @whenlifebeginsat40. I'd love to hear from you!Listen, Subscribe, and Share:If this episode hit home, don't forget to follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Let's keep breaking down the bullshit—together. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we're diving deep into the exhausting, emotional, and often overwhelming reality of masking as a neurodivergent person. From the constant effort of hiding your true self to the inevitable crash that follows, I'm sharing the raw truth about why we mask, the toll it takes, and how to start unmasking—little by little.You'll hear about:• What masking really is (and why we do it).• The emotional and physical toll of trying to “fit in.”• Personal stories about the messy, beautiful process of unmasking.• Tips and encouragement for embracing your authentic self.If you've ever felt like you're performing just to survive in a world that wasn't built for you, this episode is for you. Let's laugh, cry, and navigate the chaos together.Don't forget to share your thoughts or your own unmasking story with me on Instagram at @whenlifebeginsat40. And if this episode made you feel seen or heard, I'd love for you to leave a review—it truly helps more people find the podcast.Resources for Unmasking:Here are some helpful resources and tools for anyone wanting to learn more about unmasking or take steps toward embracing their authentic self:1. Books:• Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity by Devon Price, PhD• Divergent Mind: Thriving in a World That Wasn't Designed for You by Jenara Nerenberg2. Articles:• “What Is Masking in Autism and ADHD?” (Healthline)• “The Emotional Cost of Masking” (Neuroclastic) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I dive into the beautifully messy world of decision-making when you're navigating life with ADHD and autism. From analysis paralysis to impulsive “screw it” moments, we're tackling all the relatable struggles—and sharing plenty of laughs along the way.You'll hear about:• How overthinking turns even simple decisions into a mental marathon.• The emotional toll of trying to make the “perfect” choice.• Hilarious stories of overthinking gone wrong (because sometimes, laughter is the only option).• Practical tips to survive the chaos—and permission to embrace the mess when things don't go to plan.If this episode resonates with you, I'd love to hear your thoughts! Share your favourite moments or your funniest decision-making stories with me on Instagram at @whenlifebeginsat40. Don't forget to follow me for more relatable content and behind-the-scenes updates!If you enjoy the show, it would mean the world if you could leave a review wherever you're listening. Reviews help more amazing people like you find the podcast—and I truly appreciate your support. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Sh*t They Never Told You About Being NeurodivergentIn this raw and real episode, I'm diving into all the stuff they never tell you about being neurodivergent. From the messy aftermath of diagnosis to the unexpected struggles, this isn't your typical “embrace your uniqueness” chat. We're talking about the exhausting truths, the emotional rollercoaster, and the parts of the journey no one warns you about.If you've ever felt overwhelmed or misunderstood, this one's for you. Grab a coffee (or something stronger) and let's get into it.I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

All the Sh*t I Told Myself Before My DiagnosisIn this episode, I'm diving headfirst into all the crap I believed about myself before I found out I'm autistic and have ADHD. From thinking I was lazy, unmotivated, or just plain broken, to internalizing the world's bullsht about how I should be “normal.” Spoiler: I wasn't lazy—I was overwhelmed. I wasn't too sensitive—I was fcking human.This is a no-holds-barred chat about the lies we tell ourselves, the expectations we can never meet, and the relief (and rage) that comes when you finally get answers. If you've ever felt like you're constantly failing at life, this one's for you.TW: Brief mentions of mental health struggles and self-doubt.I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why are so many women diagnosed with autism and ADHD later in life? In this episode, we dive into the hidden world of late diagnoses, exploring how societal expectations and masking can obscure neurodivergence for years. We'll discuss the missed signs, the emotional impact of finally connecting the dots, and how traditional gender norms contribute to this phenomenon. Whether you're navigating your own diagnosis or supporting someone who is, this conversation sheds light on the unique experiences of neurodivergent women—and offers hope, validation, and practical tips for the journey ahead.I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we dive into the complex experience of chronic overwhelm faced by people with both autism and ADHD. We'll explore how heightened sensory sensitivity, executive dysfunction, and emotional regulation challenges create unique layers of stress for neurodivergent individuals. From managing sensory overload to building supportive routines, we'll cover practical strategies that can help reduce daily overwhelm. Listeners will learn about tools like sensory toolkits, task chunking, body doubling, and mindfulness techniques, plus discover the importance of self-compassion and connecting with others who understand. Whether you're looking for ways to manage your own overwhelm or want to support a neurodivergent friend or loved one, this episode offers insight, resources, and real-life solutions for navigating life with autism and ADHD. Tune in to uncover strategies that make a difference and ways to build a more balanced, manageable day-to-day life.I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I share my personal journey of discovering, questioning, and ultimately receiving an autism and ADHD diagnosis at 41. For years, I navigated life with a lingering sense of “something doesn't quite fit.” It wasn't until I reached a breaking point—after years of masking, self-doubt, and missed signs—that I began to consider the possibility of being neurodivergent. Join me as I unpack the subtle signs I overlooked in childhood, the unique challenges I faced as a woman masking neurodivergent traits, and the life events that finally led me to seek answers. I'll talk about the self-doubt, stigma, and validation that came with a late diagnosis, along with the journey of relearning who I am now through the lens of autism and ADHD. This episode isn't just about finding a label; it's about embracing a new understanding of myself and learning to thrive with it. If you've ever wondered about late diagnosis, or if you feel like you're still searching for that missing piece, this episode might just resonate with you. I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Coping with Transitions and Task ParalysisIn this episode, we dive into the challenges of navigating transitions and the strategies I've developed to make them a little easier. I share my personal experiences dealing with task paralysis—how it can feel overwhelming to even begin tasks, and how that often leads to me feeling stuck. We'll explore practical steps I've put in place to ease into tasks, breaking down overwhelming projects into manageable pieces.I also discuss the unique struggle of “waiting mode,” where having an afternoon appointment disrupts my day, making it difficult to focus or start anything beforehand. We'll talk about ways I try to manage this waiting period and tips for staying productive and grounded, even when distractions or anxiety arise.Whether you're someone who faces similar struggles or just want to learn more about managing transitions and staying on track, this episode offers relatable insights and helpful strategies.I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wow I am so sorry for the huge break but I am back this is an absolutely random brain dump episode and it's great to see you guys again Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

talking about masking and living with imposter syndrome I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journeyresources from the pod Introducing autistic impostor syndrome | Embrace Autism (embrace-autism.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

today I talk about RSD. what it is and how it affects me please find some affirmations to get you startedMy personal boundaries are important, and I'm allowed to express my needs to others“No” is a complete sentence, and I don't have to explain or justify my boundariesI am a strong, capable personI am worthy of receiving good things and of accomplishing my goals in lifeI know my worthI deserve to be loved and to love othersHealing is within reach for meI love my body, my mind, my dreams, and my goalsNegative thoughts do not serve me anymoreI will surround myself with people who love and support me unconditionallyI accept myself for who I amWith positive thoughts and self-confidence, I will be unstoppableI am proud of myself and will continue to strive to do wellThe past is the past, and my past doesn't predict my futureToday, I will do my bestI hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journeyresources used in todays podInsights of a Neurodivergent Clinician (neurodivergentinsights.com)ADDitude - ADD & ADHD Symptom Tests, Signs, Treatment, Support (additudemag.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

this week we talk about executive functioning, what it is, how it can impact daily living and what steps can you take to help I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

today i talk about how ADHD has affected me financially whilst i was chasing dopamine highs I hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journeyDebt Consolidation Loans To Consolidate Debt. StepChange - Free Debt Consolidation. Debt Advice. StepChangeDebt solutions - Citizens Advice - Debt solutions - Citizens Advice Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

sharing my own past experiences from childhood and early adulthood that at the time made no sense, when looking back now I realise that it was to do with being neurodiverse, I also share my followers realisationsI hope you manage to find something that resonates with youYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's episode, I discuss my personal journey and reasons for seeking a diagnosis for autism and ADHD. I delve into the internal labels I've carried since childhood due to others' comments. Additionally, I explain the process of obtaining a diagnosis, including options through private healthcare, the NHS, and the NHS Right to Choose program.NHS right to choose reel - https://www.instagram.com/reel/C6BFjFpsiGg/?igsh=MnZzMDdybWxrZWJxYou can find me over on my socialswww.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 -inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour-family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

welcome to my first episode, this is a little chat about why I have started this podcast, who I am and why I believe I'm Autistic with ADHD.A little background info, who I am, a little incite to my brainYou can find me over on my socials www.instagram.com/whenlifebeginsat40 - inside my Autistic ADHD headwww.instagram.com/dream1ncolour - family and children's diagnoses and journey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

first of episode of many - a little incite of what to expect Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.