Relationship Helpers

Tired of doing what everyone else is doing?  Dissatisfied with doing what you are told you "should" do? Laura and Vincent discuss going counter-culture, breaking the mold of conventional education and career paths while honoring your unique skills and abilities. 

What is healthy sex? How does your sex life correspond to your marriage? In this 2nd episode of a 2 part series, Laura and Vincent discuss healthy sex. They talk about how it is healthy to be selfish and unselfish in the sexual relationship as well as 6 traits of a great lover.

What is healthy sex? How does your sex life correspond to your marriage? In this first episode of a 2 part series, Laura and Vincent discuss healthy sex. They talk about how it can be distorted and how that distortion affects your marriage.

Our society is inundated with computer screens. Though these screens have many advantages, they also have disadvantages. Vincent and Laura talk about how devices like smart phones, I-pads, and Kindles are re-wiring our youth's brains and disabling them in the areas of emotional and social health. 

In December 2018, the US Surgeon General Jerome Adams issued this statement, “I am officially declaring e-cigarette use [vaping] among youth an epidemic in the United States.” In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss the health risks of vaping and how to talk to your children about it.

Are you wanting to have some deeper conversations with your spouse? In this 3 part series, Laura and Vincent give suggestions to six romantic movies that have strong relationship themes. Laura and Vincent give synopses of each movie, discuss the themes, and give suggestions for questions to ask your spouse. The goal is to get your spouse to discuss your relationship on a deeper level. In this third episode, they discuss the movies 27 Dresses and How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days. 

Are you wanting to have some deeper conversations with your spouse? In this 3 part series, Laura and Vincent give suggestions to six romantic movies that have strong relationship themes. Laura and Vincent give synopses of each movie, discuss the themes, and give suggestions for questions to ask your spouse. The goal is to get your spouse to discuss your relationship on a deeper level. In this second episode, they discuss the movies Sleepless in Seattle and Hope Floats. 

Are you wanting to have some deeper conversations with your spouse? In this 3 part series, Laura and Vincent give suggestions to six romantic movies that have strong relationship themes. Laura and Vincent give synopses of each movie, discuss the themes, and give suggestions for questions to ask your spouse. The goal is to get your spouse to discuss your relationship on a deeper level. In this first episode, they discuss the movies Sense and Sensibility and Long Hot Summer. 

Has your spouse lost a loved one recently? Has your spouse had some major life changes like losing a job or moving? This is the last episode in our 8 part series "How To Support Your Spouse...". In this episode, Laura and Vincent discuss grief and how to help your spouse work through the grieving process.

Does your spouse spend too much time at work? Or do they shop all of the time? In this episode, Laura and Vincent discuss how you can approach these subjects to begin to help your spouse lessen these addictions.

Does your spouse explode on you or your children? Are you at a loss with how to deal with their anger? In this 6th episode in the series "How To Support Your Spouse...", Laura and Vincent examine different ways you can help your spouse who struggles with anger issues.

Is your spouse depressed and you don't know how to help them? In this 5th episode in the series "How To Support Your Spouse...", Laura and Vincent describe ways to encourage your depressed spouse.

Is your spouse struggling with alcoholism or substance abuse? Are you at your wit's end and not sure what to do? In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss ways to support your spouse as they struggle with alcoholism and substance abuse. They give practical advice to create a healthy relationship.

Are your in-laws intrusive or overly dependent? If so, your spouse may have a toxic family. In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss how you can be a positive support for your spouse and help them to establish healthy boundaries. This is the 3rd episode in the series "How To Support Your Spouse..."

Does your spouse obsess over having things just so or are they always second-guessing themselves? If so, your spouse may be struggling with anxiety. In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss how you can be a positive support for your spouse in practical ways. This is the 2nd episode in the series "How To Support Your Spouse..."

This is the first in a series "How To Support Your Spouse". Laura and Vincent discuss how to support a spouse who has post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They share their experience and give practical advice on how to help your spouse to recover.

Have you felt groggy or irritable or in a bad mood, but you are not exactly sure why? Do you become depressed or avoidant at times without no apparent reason? Maybe you are being triggered by some some past trauma, hurt, or loss. Laura and Vincent discuss the many ways that we may be triggered to help you get a better understanding of yourself and others.

What is the appropriate amount of self-care? How should you take care of your self or should you do it at all? Laura and Vincent discuss these issues and give practical advice on how to be your best.

The first few years of a child's life are extremely important, thus called the formative years. Vincent and Laura interview psychologist Dr. Jesse Gill. In this second part of a two part interview, Dr. Gill discusses how this early attachment affects your marriage.

The first few years of a child's life are extremely important, thus called the formative years. Vincent and Laura interview psychologist Dr. Jesse Gill. In this first part of a two part interview, Dr. Gill discusses healthy and unhealthy attachment that a child learns in those formative years.

What does a New Year's resolution mean to you? Are they empty promises that you make to yourself about the way you look or are they about something deeper? This is the 8th and final episode in an 8 part series entitled "A Better New Year's Resolution." In each episode, Vincent and Laura discuss a character trait that we would like to improve upon. This week's episode is "Peacemaking."

What does a New Year's resolution mean to you? Are they empty promises that you make to yourself about the way you look or are they about something deeper? This is the 7th episode in an 8 part series entitled "A Better New Year's Resolution." In each episode, Vincent and Laura discuss a character trait that we would like to improve upon. This week's episode is "Genuineness."

What does a New Year's resolution mean to you? Are they empty promises that you make to yourself about the way you look or are they about something deeper? This is the 6th episode in an 8 part series entitled "A Better New Year's Resolution." In each episode, Vincent and Laura discuss a character trait that we would like to improve upon. This week's episode is "Patience."

What does a New Year's resolution mean to you? Are they empty promises that you make to yourself about the way you look or are they about something deeper? This is the 5th episode in an 8 part series entitled "A Better New Year's Resolution." In each episode, Vincent and Laura discuss a character trait that we would like to improve upon. This week's episode is "Generosity."

What does a New Year's resolution mean to you? Are they empty promises that you make to yourself about the way you look or are they about something deeper? This is the 4th episode in an 8 part series entitled "A Better New Year's Resolution." In each episode, Vincent and Laura discuss a character trait that we would like to improve upon. This week's episode is "Bravery."

What does a New Year's resolution mean to you? Are they empty promises that you make to yourself about the way you look or are they about something deeper? This is the 3rd episode in an 8 part series entitled "A Better New Year's Resolution." In each episode, Vincent and Laura discuss a character trait that we would like to improve upon. This week's episode is "Cheerfulness."

What does a New Year's resolution mean to you? Are they empty promises that you make to yourself about the way you look or are they about something deeper? This is the 2nd episode in an 8 part series entitled "A Better New Year's Resolution." In each episode, Vincent and Laura discuss a character trait that we would like to improve upon. This week's episode is "Friendliness."

What does a New Year's resolution mean to you? Are they empty promises that you make to yourself about the way you look or are they about something deeper? This is the 1st episode in an 8 part series entitled "A Better New Year's Resolution." In each episode, Vincent and Laura discuss a character trait that we would like to improve upon. This week's episode is "Gentleness."

This is the final episode in the 8 part series, "8 Warning Signs You May Need To Break Up." Is your boyfriend or girlfriend always making statements like "You're too good for me," or "I'll never live up to you"? Whoa, take a step back! Vincent and Laura discuss how this can be unhealthy and how to address it.

This is the 7th episode in the 8 part series "8 Warning Signs That You May Need To Break Up." Does your boyfriend or girlfriend check in with too much or want to be with you too much? Vincent and Laura discuss this unhealthy insecurity in your partner and how to address it.

This is the 6th episode in the 8 part series "8 Warning Signs That You Might Need To Break Up." Is your boyfriend or girlfriend able to take a step back and admit that they are wrong and then learn from their mistake? Vincent and Laura discuss this key trait of "being teachable."

What kind of friendships does your significant other have? Are they positive? This is the 5th episode in the 8 part series, "8 Warning Signs You Might Need To Break-Up." Vincent and Laura discuss how unhealthy friendships may affect your relationship and how to prevent that from happening.

What is the relationship like between your boyfriend or girlfriend with their parents? Is it healthy? This is the 4th episode in the 8 part series, "8 Warning Signs You Might Need To Break-Up." Vincent and Laura explore these relationships and talk about questions that you need to be discussing with your significant other. They give helpful tips to avoid future heartbreak and anguish.

This is the 3rd episode in the 8 part series, "8 Warning Signs You Might Need To Break-Up." Vincent and Laura discuss how the behavior your partner has toward wait staff may determine their future behavior toward you.

Do you really know the person you are dating? This is the 2nd episode in the 8 part series "8 Warning Signs You Might Need To Break Up." Vincent and Laura discuss values and beliefs that your future spouse has and how tantamount to a healthy relationship that they are. They discuss practical ways to really understand what they value and believe.

This is the first in an eight part series entitled, "8 Warning Signs You Might Need To Break Up". Vincent and Laura explore how responsible a dating partner should be before you consider marriage. They give practical advice to determining if this person is right for you.

Everybody wants to know the definition of love. In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss romantic love. They describe the elements of the Eros theory, the Biology/Chemistry theory, the Imago theory, and the Projection theory. They give practical advice for those who are wondering if they are in love.

In order to help others effectively, you must take your mind off yourself. Your attention is diverted toward the other person and their needs. Not only is your mind off of your worries, but also you feel good when you are able to help someone. In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss "helping" - giving specific tips and talking about studies that echo the suggestions.

Touch and smell are two of the five senses. They are a great way to ground your mind and body so that you are "in the moment." Being "in the moment" requires your mind and body to slow down thus reducing your anxiety response. In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss ways that you can use touch and smell to restore your mental health.

Creating and learning are some of the best activities to keep your mind sharp. When you learn, you are creating new neural connections in the brain that helps to reduce memory loss as you age. In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss ways that you can create and learn to help overcome your anxiety and depression.

Appreciating things of beauty or experiencing aesthetically pleasing activities help you to get in touch with your senses and use them. By using your senses, you are better able to ground yourself and be in the "present." In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss aesthetics (or appreciating beauty) and give helpful suggestions to help overcome anxiety and depression.

The more people that you are connected to, the less likely you are to become depressed. If you suffer from depression, joining a group or participating in the community could help you recover and prevent relapse. In today's episode, Vincent and Laura talk about socializing and the benefits of it.

Much like we discussed last week about babies, animals, especially pets, can provide wonderful opportunities to laugh and brighten our spirits. Enjoying scenes from nature also helps us to see outside of ourselves and to feel like a part of something “bigger.”  In today's episode, Vincent and Laura will look at some activities that you can do to get you amongst God’s great, creative world! 

If your struggling with depression or have anxiety, the chances are that you rarely allow yourself to enjoy life. In this episode, Vincent and Laura talk about how having fun can be a great coping skill for anxiety and depression. They give practical advice and tips.

Anyone with anxiety is ramped up or at least it feels like it. You feel like things are out of control. When you think, you think in one mode and that mode is fast. Thoughts are racing. In this episode, Laura and Vincent discuss ways for you to slow down. They give practical, specific advice and tips. 

This is the second episode in a 10 part series about ways to reduce anxiety and depression. Vincent and Laura discuss healthy coping skills that relate to exercise. They discuss psychological studies that validate these methods and give helpful tips.

This is the first episode in a 10 part series about ways to reduce anxiety and depression. Vincent and Laura discuss healthy coping skills that relate to God. They discuss psychological studies that validate these methods and give helpful tips. 

All of us have had discouragement. How we handle it is one of the keys to good mental health. In today's episode, Laura and Vincent discuss how discouragement can lead to anxiety and depression. This is the introduction to their 10 week series on "How To Reduce Anxiety and Depression."

Jill Martin is the mother of thirteen children with many of them with special circumstances. In this episode, Jill discusses how she manages so many responsibilities. Jill gives advice on discipline. Jill describes how she discusses the hard issues with her kids and gives encouragement and tips on how to do it.

We all have people in our lives that make us feel guilty. Sometimes, it's your mother, a friend, or a spouse. In today's episode, Laura and Vincent discuss guilt trips and how to handle them in a healthy way. They provide examples and role play ways to appropriately address the guilt-tripper.

A never-ending to-do list.  Hair that hasn't been washed in days.  Jeans that don't fit. Kids who misbehave in public.  No matter how hard you try, it's never "good enough."  Our guest, Jill McCormick, the self-described "try-hard girl", shares her insights and encouragement for the mom who feels that she does not measure up.