Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from Suffering

Scott gets down and dirty about his own rage and how not speaking up directly in relationship produces suffering in the lives of rage holders. To start this work for Free, visit repressiontest.com.

In this podcast episode, Scott discusses the anxious attachment style and unmet needs that go with it. Transformation happens when we find safety and love within. The anxious attachment style sabotages itself by looking outside of itself. The process of self compassion and skillfulness ends the suffering for the anxiously attached. But there are a lot of bumps and hurdles along the way. Only the earnest end up truly discovering authentic love. Start this work for free at repressiontest.com.

Scott and Dan, the co-developers of KI Emotional Repression Inquiry, are reuniting for an electrifying and groundbreaking podcast episode that you won't want to miss! This time, they're tackling the provocative topic of dying paradigms, diving deep into how traditional structures are crumbling as individuals engage in transformative somatic work. The concept of existence independent of us is being annihilated from every angle, and KI is at the forefront with one of the most powerful somatic processes available.In this episode, Dan and Scott will share their compelling history and the paradigms they've witnessed falling away, all while highlighting how embracing KI can lead to true freedom and healing. This is a unique opportunity to explore the dying recovery paradigm—something they've never approached quite like this before!If you're interested in diving into the experiential aspect of this work, join Scott and Dan for a FREE Q&A on authentic recovery, Sunday October 5th. https://repression.as.me/freeQAwithScottandDan

Join my friend ​and co-developer ​⁠​⁠@danmclintock and I for our second podcast on the oversights and dangers of conflation in both the mental health and political paradigms. Join us for our Addiction & Authentic Recovery Workshop Oct 18th at link in bio.

In this episode, Scott explores Barbara Oakley's concept of Pathological Altruism and dives deep into the world of repression inquiry. Scott explains how many acts of service, often perceived as altruistic, are actually driven by a hidden need to feel safe and gain love or approval. By burying these unconscious motivations along with difficult emotions, we create false identities based on being “good” or “altruistic.” However, once we process these buried emotions through repression inquiry, true authenticity emerges. No longer needing to maintain a facade of goodness, we find that our authentic selves are enough. If helping others is part of our calling, it can now come from a place of genuine connection, rather than from the drive to uphold a false identity.If you are a coach, teacher, therapist, or other helper, join Scott's FREE Webinar Saturday, September 20th on Zoom. Scott will give instructions on first or next steps on your path towards learning to bring KI into your practice for your clients or students. Link to Webinar: https://repression.as.me/freewebinar4beginners-meta.

Join ​⁠Dan Mclintock and myself as we define, point to and deconstruct our tendency as human beings to conflate! Learn more at repressiontest.com (free test for buried emotions)

Scott is taking a break from podcasting for a while as he feels called to explore other endeavors. The work is now accessible for everyone to start for FREE at repressiontest.com. He is focusing on one-on-one mentorship and is in the process of developing a new six-month course titled "Becoming Unbound," which will be released soon.In the future, you might hear a short episode announcing his return to podcasting, but for now, Scott encourages you to dive into the world of KI for free and discover the true offerings surrounding this work. To enter that portal, visit repressiontest.com. If you feel drawn to work with Scott one-on-one, simply reach out to him on social media and type the word "love" to learn more about available options.

In this episode, Scott delves deeper into his Tik Tok series growing in popularity called, "The Insiders' View of an Avoidant." He reflects on his lifelong tendencies to avoid emotional intimacy and how his most recent relationship transformed his perspective. Through this partnership, he discovered the value of secure connections and experienced firsthand what it means to be with someone who also engages in avoidance. This experience served as a profound wake-up call, allowing him to confront his own patterns and ultimately inspired the development of his work. To begin exploring this transformative journey for FREE, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Is “super empath” a heightened state of consciousness or just another identity that keeps people safe and gets them love? Scott explores this question. Start this work for free at repressiontest.com. Join Scott's News Channel for Helpers: https://www.messenger.com/channel/kiloby/AbYi5fJHbUQXx31t/

Scott explains how KI specializes in dissolving self-sabotage. The secret is revealed. Start the work for free: https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott focuses on the richest treasures of deeply transformative work and the indispensable aspects of the path. He also answers criticisms and questions about the work. To join his jumpstart group starting May 18, visit https://kiloby.com/jumpstart

In this episode, Scott and Toshi talk about how emotional repression can cause you to see, hear, and believe only what feels safe—protecting you from feeling or expressing certain emotions. This can make it difficult to hear or understand work that addresses emotional repression, as the mind filters out anything that might threaten the protective barrier against those emotions.To work with Toshi, book a clarity call:https://kiloby.com/toshiMonthly Nonduality & KI Meeting with Toshi:https://kiloby.com/nonduality-ki

Take this test and listen to this full podcast episode so that you can remove all doubt as to the question of whether you're a narcissist. Join my Jumpstart group starting May 18th: https://kiloby.com/jumpstart

In this podcast episode, Scott explores the common experience of oscillating between “I've got it” and “I've lost it” on the healing journey. He discusses how seeking intense experiences can trigger survival mechanisms due to unresolved emotions, leading to a cycle of temporary relief followed by suffering. This cycle is a natural part of our evolution for survival. Scott emphasizes that transformative practices, such as pursuing non-duality or using plant medicine, can perpetuate this "I've got it, I've lost it" phenomenon. The key to breaking this cycle lies in bringing awareness to the underlying conditioning that drives this suffering cycle, a process that is central to the work done in KI. This episode provides a clear pathway to understanding and consciously addressing these mechanisms. To join Scott's May 18th jumpstart Group, visit https://get.kiloby.com/jumpstart/.To start this work for free (a prerequisite to Jumpstart), visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott shares about the cycles of suffering that come from hurt and sadness repression with a special focus on the shame/rage response. The key to ending suffering for hurt and sadness repressor is hidden in plain view. To start this work for free, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/

In this episode, Scott uncovers the often-overlooked self-sabotage associated with the anxious attachment style. He discusses how individuals with this attachment style struggle to process their emotions independently, which hinders their personal growth. People report having difficulty doing this work on their own when they have this attachment style. This emotional repression not only affects their self-awareness in a path or healing process but also interferes with their relationships, as their need for reassurance and safety can undermine their quest for true intimacy and genuine connection. To begin this work for free, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott tells the story of the positive people around him who are suffering. To start this work for free, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

In this episode, Scott explores the profound connection between unmet needs and buried emotions. He reveals how our lifelong defenses shield us from confronting core suffering, leading us to seek fulfillment through false means. This compulsion to gain validation from others stems from holding back our authentic selves since childhood. Drawing on powerful insights from spiritual traditions, Scott invites listeners to discover the treasure that lies within: the understanding that everything we seek is already part of us, waiting to be unveiled. Embark on this transformative journey to unlock your true potential and reclaim your emotional well-being.Start your emotional repression inquiry for free by visiting https:// repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website.

Scott weaves together personal, political, spiritual, and other themes relevant to emotional repression for a raw and personal episode. To begin emotional repression Inquiry for free, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott and Toshi talk about their experiences with mindfulness and how it can serve as a form of bypassing. They discuss the pitfalls and limitations of mindfulness, particularly when it is used to avoid emotional repression.Mindfulness is explored as a practice that can be beneficial, but also potentially limiting if not approached with an awareness of its shortcomings.Practiced alone, mindfulness can lead to the avoidance of buried emotions, reinforcing a cycle of spiritual bypassing. While it may provide a sense of safety, it often overlooks the deeper emotional work necessary for true healing and freedom. Scott and Toshi advocate for combining mindfulness with emotional inquiry practices, such as the KI to help address and integrate suppressed emotions, leading to more authentic recovery and lasting freedom. Order the book: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick

Join Scott for a fun exploration of how his life was split for many years due to repression. In an open relationship, Scott found himself grappling with a BDSM addiction, which served as a means to explore unconscious, buried anger in the submissive role. This journey was driven by a fear of intimacy, which Scott later recognized as directly connected to his personal relationships.Come and listen to this insightful and unique exploration of how some of our darkest energies are intertwined with love and light. To start this work for free, click on this free course that shows you how to do KI Emotional Repression Inquiry: https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/

Scott invites anyone who even tangentially thinks that they may repress anger to listen to this important episode. This episode comes directly after the release of his free course showing people how to do emotional repression Inquiry (link below). Here, Scott weaves his personal stories with a series of somatic tests, revealing how surface-level suffering—like anxiety, people-pleasing, chronic pain, and relationship issues—are directly connected to buried anger. By sharing his own experiences, Scott helps listeners uncover the root of their own people-pleasing, relationship issues, or addictions, verifying that the same anger repression may be driving similar patterns in their lives.This podcast empowers you to break free from trauma bonds and avoidant practices and discover your true emotional landscape. To start your journey with KI Emotional Repression Inquiry for FREE, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott shares some somatic tests for helpers that have never been shared publicly. The somatic tests are being released in conjunction with the free course teaching you how to do KI emotional repression Inquiry. Scott has been training teachers, therapists, coaches, sponsors and other helpers for almost 15 years in formal training programs. The current iteration of his training program allows for only high caliber candidates with a high degree of earnestness. These test show helpers the extent to which they are still driven by unmet needs and emotional wounding from childhood. Scott's training program focuses on unresolved issues that are motivating inauthentic helping and bypassing. To begin to do KI emotional repression inquiry for FREE, visit https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/.

Scott shares about the pattern of procrastination among other patterns in the days approaching the release of KI emotional repression inquiry for FREE. Follow Scott on social media to receive the free course. Until then, order his new book, “Awake But Sick”: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick

In preparation for the release of free emotional repression Inquiry, Scott is explaining several key topics to help people with the skills of KI, including the mind-body connection and the pain pleasure cycle. Stay tuned for more on both! This episode goes deeply into the mind-body connection and how it applies to both suffering and our desire to end suffering. Follow Scott on social media to receive the free inquiry soon. For now, Scott invites you to order his new book on the exact nature of spiritual bypassing called, "Awake But Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding" at https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

At the time of recording this podcast episode, the free repression inquiry was not available. It now is. Try KI for free here: https://repressiontest-meta.lpages.co/repression-test-opt-in-page-website/Scott invites you to order his new book on the exact nature of spiritual bypassing called, "Awake But Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding" at https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

Scott shares a message for the diehard KI practitioners listening. Visit repressiontest.com to take Scott's free test for buried emotions and be added to his newsletter. Emotional repression inquiry is coming to you FREE very soon. Stay tuned and follow Scott on social media.

KI co-developers Scott and Dan McLintock come together to say, “Don't get any big ideas and then see how that is actually the path to the biggest transformation.” Listen for a radical but super compassionate and mature approach to freedom. If you would like to meet or work with Dan, visit https://kiloby.com/dan.

The line between the physical and mental isn't truly there. We believe we have physical diseases in some cases because it keeps us safe from buried emotions. Listen as Scott shares about the science and the findings in our bodies in KI—which mirror each other. Read Scott's new book about how buried emotions create both our suffering and our spiritual bypassing and avoidance patterns: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

After the podcast episode titled “Authentic v 12 Step Recovery” with codeveloper, Dan McLintock, Scott wanted to come and speak to everyone on a personal level about the set of circumstances and transformation which led to him to leaving 12 step and eventually developing KI with Dan. Join Scott's April 1st Jumpstart Group or come speak to him for free about his one-on-one programs by visiting: https://kiloby.com/jumpstart

Scott praises attachment theory for its contribution to KI and also criticizes it for its disconnection from buried emotions. To work directly with Scott in one on one or group, visit https://kiloby.com/jumpstart.

Scott began using the term the Great Non-Bypass when he first began introducing emotional repression inquiry to people to denote how widespread spiritual bypassing really is in eastern practices and teachings. That phrase takes note of how systematically avoidant these teachings and practices can be, sometimes not even mentioning or pointing to or helping people process buried emotions even though science has shown that buried emotions are the root of most of our suffering. Now that Scott has co-authored the book *Awake but Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding* with Toshi Matsunaga, Scott is ready to teach in a different way, which includes awareness as the ground of our experience, along with the processing of buried emotions for genuine transformation. To order Scott's book, visit https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

In this podcast, Scott shares a poignant story about the intricate dance between addiction and codependency, drawing from his extensive personal experience as the owner of addiction treatment centers and someone from a family deeply affected by addiction. He guides us through the mindset of individuals who suppress their anger and seek love and validation by helping others facing addiction. Scott emphasizes that the true addiction often lies in the craving for love and safety from others. Both the addict and the codependent must take responsibility for their buried emotions to heal this dynamic. If you're interested in learning more about Scott's group jumpstart or his one-on-one 90-day intensive program, visit: https://kiloby.com/jumpstart.

Join Scott and Toshi, co-authors of Awake But Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding, as they explore the relationship between hyper-independence and the no-self concept in spirituality. In this insightful discussion, they delve into how these ideas are often linked to emotional repression and the unintended challenges that can arise on the spiritual path.Order the book now: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick

Listen to Scott take you behind the scenes of being a Nonduality teacher with emotional repression from the perfect stillness to the sex bathhouses. This episode marks the release of Scott's new book, “Awake But Sick, the Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding.” Order the book now: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

Scott tells the story of Pauly whose people pleasing and peacemaking led to more suffering despite what his spiritual ego told him. To join Scott April 1st KI jumpstart Group or speak to him for free about his One On One programs, visit https://kiloby.com/jumpstart.

This episode delves into Scott's personal approach to living, as well as his insights on personal and business relationships, illustrating how the personal, impersonal, and interpersonal are interconnected through the shared root of suffering. Scott shares his journey on the spiritual path, emphasizing the importance of connecting with both the body and others from the start. He discusses how buried anger and disconnection from his body led him initially to an ascending path that offered a sense of presence but ultimately resulted in more suffering, including two chronic diseases.Scott also explains how this avoidant path later informed him about how to teach a more embodied approach. This more body-focused approach has personally given him a greater depth of freedom both in his body and in his relationships. Shifting his focus, Scott moved away from simply pointing to presence, as many teachers do, and instead collaborated with Dan McLintock to develop practical tools (KI emotional repression inquiry) designed to help individuals experience true embodied freedom. If you're interested in joining Scott's jumpstart group or working directly with him in his 90-day intensive, visit [https://kiloby.com/jumpstart](https://kiloby.com/jumpstart).

Scott's new book on the myth of immediate freedom and the dangers of spiritual seeking and finding is out March 14th. Pre-order now: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

Scott goes into depth around how his previous shadow modalities and other such modalities do not get to the very root of the shadows, which is emotional repression. He breaks apart the entire process of how we miss it in our direct experience. We miss for example that we create the sense of separation for safety from the emotional repression, and that our resistance to doing skillful shadow work that gets to the repression is a natural extension of this conditioning with us, the demands separation and suffering over freedom and authenticity. There is a way out and Scott explains it. To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.

In this episode, Scott delves into the complexities of emotional repression and its impact on our relationships. He explores how unmet needs for love, safety, and approval often lie beneath the surface, driving our behavior in unconscious ways. When we enter relationships, we may not even realize that we're seeking to fulfill these unmet needs, leading to suffering and conflict. As individuals begin to process their buried emotions, they uncover a love rooted in authenticity—one that allows for the full spectrum of feelings to be expressed. This authentic love shifts the dynamics of relationships, transforming them into spaces characterized by peace, wholeness, and flow that arises naturally from the emotional honesty that comes from processing buried emotions. By approaching relationships from this place of authenticity, suffering can give way to genuine connection and fulfillment. If you're interested in working with Scott and want to talk to him for free about his 90-day intensive program, visit https://kiloby.com/scott.

Scott Kiloby & Dan McLintock, the co-founders / developers of the KI, sit down for a podcast discussion about their experience of authentic recovery from addiction (aka resolving their emotional repression) vs what they experienced in 12 Step programs - and their critique of the latter. Come speak to Dan about working with him one on one: https://kiloby.com/dan

In this episode, Scott explores the origins of relationship triggers and the complex interplay between buried emotions and various trauma responses—such as fight, flight, freeze, or fawn—or self-limiting beliefs that arise when we are triggered. These reactions are often protective mechanisms designed to keep us safe from the buried emotions we have yet to confront. However, these very buried emotions also create the triggers that impact our relationships and overall well-being.On a spiritual or healing path, we may mistakenly engage in awareness-based or inquiry processes aiming to avoid these buried feelings, which can unintentionally perpetuate our suffering rather than alleviate it. In this podcast, Scott unpacks the true source of our triggers and illustrates how an overemphasis on these responses can blind us to the deeper issues at play—specifically, the unmet needs from our childhood that connect to these buried emotions.Listeners will gain a greater understanding of how addressing our triggers is essential, yet not sufficient on its own, to truly heal and break free from the patterns that drive our suffering. If you're ready to delve deeper into the roots of your reactions and emotional experiences, this episode offers critical insights for your journey toward authentic healing.To work directly with Scott, visit https://kiloby.com/scott

In this episode, Scott explores the question: Is it safe to care and love deeply? He distinguishes between genuine care and the superficial empathy often confused with it. Genuine care is embodied, arising from the processing of buried emotions and unmet childhood needs. Scott emphasizes that true safety and love are achieved when we confront our trauma and emotional repression. Many struggle with apathy, stemming from unresolved anger, hurt, or sadness, unknowingly fearing the depth of true love. By recognizing this source, we can break free from apathy and embrace our natural state of caring deeply. To work with Scott, come speak to him for a free consultation about his programs by visiting https://kiloby.com/scott.

Scott has an important announcement you won't want to miss. Sign up for his KI Jumpstart Group here: https://kiloby.com/jumpstart.

Join Scott in this thought-provoking episode as he tackles the complex question: Are we responsible for the bad in others? Delving into emotional repression, Scott explores how buried anger made him fixate on the bad in others.While acknowledging the real issues and suffering present in the world, Scott aims to help listeners understand how emotional repression contributes to dualities of good and bad. He addresses a listener's question about the listener's sense of responsibility for others' suffering. The sense of responsibility for others' emotional experiences arises from our own unprocessed emotions and codependency.Scott also invites you to join his Jumpstart Group starting March 1st—a one-month program designed to help you process buried emotions safely in present awareness: [https://kiloby.com/jumpstart](https://kiloby.com/jumpstart)

Scott shares his vision for ‘freedom at all costs' without the financial and health costs of spiritual bypassing and for his teaching overall in 2025 and beyond. See the free resources below. Save these resources in your own playlist because more are coming. Watch for new short videos on Scott's social media channels showing you these 1D and 2D tools (explained in this episode) and how to use them. Free inquiry from KI: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_wpNzMrtFSHxgcpmGh-05aX79UYdtbEO&si=GtUdxXXOLPxjT75DFree Nonduality (Watch first four videos at least): https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_wpNzMrtFSE8LVwJ1m0HvczyrphrEM8y&si=GgExcGgBP9Eh-FiL

In this podcast, Scott simplifies seemingly complex topics such as avoidant or anxious attachment styles, unmet needs, and other forms of suffering at the surface, connecting them to some very basic conditioning in the body that can be summed up as "I need your love, but I'm afraid of it." If you resonate with the topic of this episode and are interested in joining Scott's March Jumpstart group to learn about emotional repression inquiry, or if you'd like to talk to Scott for free about potentially working with him in his one-on-one 90-day intensive program, visit [https://kiloby.com/jumpstart](https://kiloby.com/jumpstart).

In preparation for Scott's upcoming podcast with co-developer Dan McLintock on the critique of the 12-step program, Scott explains what authentic recovery means for him. He shares that his journey began only when he started processing the buried emotions that were creating his addictions. The K I Way of recovery is different from many forms of recovery or addiction treatment in the world, but it is supported by a lot of science and leading thinkers, which Scott discusses in this episode. This conversation aims to guide listeners on a different journey into authentic recovery from addiction. If you're interested in joining Scott's March group jumpstart or talking to him about joining his one-on-one 90-day intensive program, visit [https://kiloby.com/jumpstart](https://kiloby.com/jumpstart).

In this exciting episode of the podcast, Scott is thrilled to welcome his co-author and fellow KI co-developer and trainer, Toshi Matsunaga. Scott and Toshi co-authored the book *Awake but Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding.* They've worked closely together for years developing and simplifying KI emotional repression inquiry. Together, they've explored specifically how spiritual bypassing manifests in spiritual practices, pointers, and frameworks. Their book delves into this topic in detail, supported by scientific insights, and now they want to share their knowledge with you on this podcast. Toshi is set to emerge as a non-duality teacher, guiding individuals in recognizing present-moment awareness and processing buried emotions for genuine transformation.To work with Toshi, book a clarity call here: https://kiloby.com/toshi. Sign up for Toshi's monthly non-duality and KI workshop here: https://kiloby.com/nonduality-ki.

Scott was falling asleep one night while listening to something on YouTube when he suddenly woke up to something appalling. He heard a social media influencer, who is very popular but struggles with anger repression, bamboozling her entire audience by not owning her anger repression. Instead, she acted overly empathetic to lure in and maintain her following. Scott, recognizing the profound impact of this behavior, felt compelled to wake up and record this podcast to share the true motivation for his work in KI and explain how it represents a different modality. Listen closely to learn how to dissolve narcissism instead of placing blame on others.To speak with Scott for free about his 90-day intensive, visit Colin [kiloby.com/scott](https://kiloby.com/scott).Please read Scott's blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@skiloby/needism-the-more-unconscious-we-are-the-more-narcissistic-we-behave-dc63b6cbcf6d.

In this episode, Scott dives deep into building trust through authenticity. He addresses a question from an audience member who is considering engaging in KI but feels hesitant about trusting Scott and the method. Scott shares his own experiences with distrust, which stem from buried anger, and emphasizes that self-trust has been a crucial aspect of his personal journey.He explains that all trust issues ultimately relate back to self-trust, highlighting how emotional repression can hinder our ability to express our true feelings and, consequently, trust others. Scott uses the questioner's concerns to explore trust as an internal process, stressing that genuine trust is developed through processing buried emotions. Authentic relationships emerge from this exploration of self.If you're interested in joining Scott's group Jumpstart in March or want to consider working with him one-on-one, visit https://kiloby.com/jumpstart.