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Podcast Summary: "Unseeing Sobriety"Show/Segment: Coffee with Paige CalentinoHosts: Mike & Glenn (sober.coffee)Guest: Paige Calentino – Sober Curious Coach and TikTok CreatorEpisode OverviewPaige Calentino rejoins Mike and Glenn in the sober.coffee shop to dive deep into what has evolved from a personal recovery path into a shared life mission. For all three, sobriety required a total shift—a mandated "psychic change" and a 180-degree identity transformation. Today, they view their work not just as a job, but as life-saving service.Key Discussion Points1. The Coaching Framework & "Identity Expansion"Paige utilizes a structured approach to help clients rewrite their relationship with alcohol, focusing heavily on shifting how they view themselves.The Entry Point: A 3-month coaching container designed as the foundation for a long-term relationship.The Process: Rewiring the brain through structured modules, education, journaling, self-discovery, real-world experiences, and targeted homework.The Goal: Moving from restriction to identity expansion—evolving into someone who simply does not want to drink, rather than someone who is fighting the urge.The Result: Discovering that we are capable, competent, and fully able to connect and survive without a substance.2. Handling Slips and RelapsesInstead of viewing relapses or slips as absolute failures, the team reframes them as valuable data.Slips provide direct insight into specific triggers and highlight the exact areas that still need emotional or behavioral work.A major focus of coaching is navigating changing social dynamics to protect and sustain sobriety.3. Pathways to Sobriety: Modern Coaching vs. Traditional AAPaige's coaching is presented as another vital option alongside programs like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA).The hosts note that while all programs have a process and many work, finding highly qualified coaches in a crowded marketplace is key.Mindful Drinking vs. Abstinence: While Paige works with clients who wish to explore mindful, moderate drinking, she and the hosts candidly share that they did not succeed at it personally. Total abstinence remains their chosen path.4. Vulnerability and GrowthPaige opens up about using her business growth to continue building her own identity.Putting herself out there publicly (including on TikTok) requires intense vulnerability. While it can be rough, she notes it is incredibly rewarding.Final Thoughts & Core Takeaways"Alcohol is the one thing that, if you take it away from your life, will transform that same life in positive ways."Sobriety Wins: Taking alcohol away delivers a bigger, more positive life transformation than most people realize, opening the door to living life to the fullest.Start Small: Sobriety starts with simple awareness. You don't have to commit to "forever" right away—though many choose to stay sober because of the gifts it brings.The "Unseeing" Effect: Once you become aware of what life looks like through the lens of sobriety, you can't unsee it. Just give yourself the space to explore and take the first step.Additional Resources MentionedFree Online Community: Available through Paige's website for anyone looking for peer support on their sober-curious journey. (www.paigecalentino.com)

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In this special live edition of Believe in People, we're celebrating a podcast first.For the very first time, we took the podcast to the stage, recording live in front of more than 500 audience members at the DDN Conference, one of the UK's largest events dedicated to drugs, alcohol and recovery.Joining us for her third appearance on Believe in People, Michelle Heaton reflects on more than five years of recovery from alcohol and cocaine addiction. She speaks openly about the progression of addiction, the impact of early surgical menopause, motherhood, shame, treatment, fellowship, and rebuilding life in recovery. Michelle also shares the moment that changed everything, how peer support helped save her life, and why recovery is about far more than simply stopping drinking or using drugs.Following the live interview, we've also included the audience Q&A, where audience members put their own questions to Michelle, leading to honest, emotional and thought-provoking discussions about recovery, stigma, parenting, menopause and hope.Whether you're in recovery yourself, supporting a loved one, working in health and social care, or simply interested in real stories of change, we hope you enjoy this special live episode.Topics that Matt and Michelle discuss incldue:pop fame versus what addiction looks like in real life “food noise”, dieting, stimulants and the long build-up of addictive behaviour early surgical menopause, health scares and the slide into alcohol dependence and cocaine addiction why hospital stays and getting caught do not stop compulsive use punishment, self-hate and feeling at peace with dying the moment visible recovery makes help feel possible letting go of the fantasy of drinking normally recovery friendships, separating your life from your fellowship, learning to say no women's stigma, motherhood shame and fear of losing children rehab and detox versus long-term support in AA and CA menopause, hormones, HRT access and being misdiagnosed triggers and finding joy without substances Search terms: addiction recovery podcast UK, Michelle Heaton podcast, alcohol addiction recovery, cocaine addiction recovery, women in recovery, lived experience stories, peer support, trauma and recovery, recovery community, substance misuse.Click here to text our host, Matt, directly!

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The Atlantic Group Tuesday Night Speaker Meeting June 30, 2026 1st 10-minute speaker: Tom K. 7th Tradition 2nd 10-minute speaker: Kathryn S. Main speaker: Tiffany K.  Welcome to the Atlantic Group Podcast. Our 7th  tradition states, “Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting declining outside contributions.” Your contribution covers the expenses of our group, this podcast, and also that of our AA service structure. If you are an AA member who finds this podcast helpful, you can contribute using Venmo @AGTradition7 or Zelle at AGNYCINFO@gmail.com. Under what's it for, please write AG Podcast. Thank you for your support. For any questions, please e-mail: TuesdayAGNYC@gmail.com

Episode Title:From Blackout to Belief: Unlocking the worlds best kept secret with Paige CalentinoHost / Guest Lineup:Hosts: Mike & GlennSpecial Guest: Paige Calentino – Sober Curious Life CoachEpisode Summary:Welcome back into the coffee shop! In this powerful episode, Mike and Glenn sit down with Paige Calentino, a sober curious life coach who shares her deeply relatable journey from a "work hard, play hard" weekend binge drinker to finding her true purpose in sobriety.For years, Paige lived the fast-paced party lifestyle, but underneath the surface, a profound disconnect was growing. Her reality simply didn't match the vision she had for her life. Feeling sick and tired, she initially tried righting the ship with 30-day and 90-day sober challenges. While these breaks made her feel better and helped her pick up the pieces through relational devastations, she found herself trapped in a cycle of trying to moderate or save drinking for "special occasions." She quickly realized a frustrating truth: the more she tried to stop, the more she drank.Everything changed on Christmas Day 2022. After drinking to a total blackout, Paige woke up overwhelmed by shame, remorse, and defeat. It was her turning point. Recognizing that moderation was an illusion, she chose a hard line of total abstinence and committed to an alcohol-free existence. Paige opens up about the grit it took to survive that tough first year, including how she intentionally secluded herself to protect her peace until she built up the confidence to navigate social settings.Today, Paige has discovered what she calls "the world's best-kept secret"—sobriety. By removing alcohol, her physical and mental health thrived, she rebuilt internal self-trust, formed healthier relationships, and unlocked the time to pursue her true passions.Now, Paige is giving back. She shares how she guides other women through her highly successful, women-only coaching containers. Her 3-month program utilizes weekly one-on-one sessions, education, visualization, hypnosis, and daily journaling to externalize the "head stuff," smash limiting beliefs, and get to the root "why" behind drinking.Mike, Glenn, and Paige conclude the episode with a powerful reminder: who we do life with is just as important as doing life itself, and sometimes changing your people, places, and even your profession is exactly what is needed to change your life's possibilities.Key Takeaways & Highlights:The Trap of Moderation: How attempting to limit alcohol to special occasions often fuels the desire to drink more.Protecting Your Peace: The necessity of temporary seclusion in early sobriety to build social confidence.The Ultimate Secret: Sobriety isn't about losing something; it's about gaining internal self-trust, joy, and purpose.The Power of Coaching: Inside Paige's women-only coaching framework, combining hypnosis, visualization, and journaling to overcome limiting beliefs.To connect with Paige or learn more about her 3-month coaching programs, check out  paigecalentino.com . Keep coming back to the coffee shop!

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The Atlantic Group Tuesday Night Speaker Meeting June 16, 2026 First 10-minute speaker: Ro M. Second 10-minute speaker: Mark K. Main Speaker: D M.  Welcome to the Atlantic Group Podcast. Our 7th  tradition states, “Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting declining outside contributions.” Your contribution covers the expenses of our group, this podcast, and also that of our AA service structure. If you are an AA member who finds this podcast helpful, you can contribute using Venmo @AGTradition7 or Zelle at AGNYCINFO@gmail.com. Under what's it for, please write AG Podcast. Thank you for your support. For any questions, please e-mail: TuesdayAGNYC@gmail.com

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"From Chaos to Calm" is a rapid-fire Q&A episode of the Sober.Coffee Podcast, where hosts Mike and Glenn break down seven foundational recovery phrases that help transition a life from a state of exhausting chaos into true calmness. [1, 2]Below is a structured summary of their discussion, detailing the definitions, core mindsets, and key action steps for each recovery phrase.☕ Episode OverviewHosts: Mike and Glenn.Setting: The Sober.Coffee shop.Format: Rapid-fire Q&A.Core Theme: Using traditional recovery wisdom as tools to move from chaos to calm. [1, 2]

The Atlantic Group Tuesday Night Speaker Meeting June 23, 2026 Main Speaker: Sharon S.  Welcome to the Atlantic Group Podcast. Our 7th  tradition states, “Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting declining outside contributions.” Your contribution covers the expenses of our group, this podcast, and also that of our AA service structure. If you are an AA member who finds this podcast helpful, you can contribute using Venmo @AGTradition7 or Zelle at AGNYCINFO@gmail.com. Under what's it for, please write AG Podcast. Thank you for your support. For any questions, please e-mail: TuesdayAGNYC@gmail.com

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YOU GOT QUESTIONS? WE GOT ANSWERS. The Montyman and Roger open the Take 12 Recovery Mailbag and answer some tough questions that listeners have sent in.  Key Topics: ·         Small groups foster personal sharing and deep healing in recovery retreats·         Diverse recovery approaches can be effective; no one-size-fits-all solution·         Jim Baker's humility exemplifies the power of grace and accountability·         Bill Wilson's personal life does not diminish his contributions to AA·         Secular programs like Rational Recovery emphasize personal responsibility over higher power·         Harm reduction strategies focus on safety and health, but may conflict with abstinence goals·         Transparency and integrity are vital in recovery leadership and legacy·         Faith and forgiveness are central to long-term recovery and healing·         Great disappointment in Dave Ramsey and his staff. #recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

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We explore the importance and power of positive self-talk to help people in recovery from addiction, including how it can help family members in their own recovery.

Episode OverviewHosts Mike and Glenn return to the coffee shop to discuss the concept of "living weed-free" and the shifting landscape of modern sobriety. They voice concern that while the younger generation is moving away from alcohol, many are replacing it with marijuana, leaving a whole new demographic hurting and in need of support. [1, 2]The Validity and Mechanics of AAStrength in Numbers: The hosts emphasize that finding strength requires community, which is achieved through consistent attendance at meetings. [1]Proof It Works: Countering critics who claim Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is ineffective, the hosts argue they see living proof of its success every single day through the lives of countless meeting attendees. [1]The Turning Point: AA works for those who approach it correctly. The program truly begins to function at the exact point of complete surrender.Expectation Management: Setting proper expectations is the ultimate secret to finding success within the program.Redefining True SobrietyThe "Weed-Free" Rule: The hosts firmly agree that using marijuana contradicts the true definition of sobriety. You are not practicing authentic AA if you still use weed.Mind-Altering Substances: Sobriety requires saying no to all mind-altering drugs, with strict exceptions only for legitimate pain management.The Reward of Clarity: Mental clarity is the ultimate benefit of a sober life. Where they once begged for pain medications, they now restrict them exclusively to necessary, true pain relief.Societal Value: Prioritizing personal sobriety and spirituality creates a default benefit for everyone around the addict, improving society as a whole.Mission Over NumbersFocus on the Individual: Unlike ego-driven podcasts or "mega-churches" that obsess over metrics, Mike and Glenn focus strictly on their mission. [1]The "One Person" Rule: The show's purpose is not high download numbers; it is about helping the single, individual person who might find healing through their conversation.Actionable Advice & WarningsTry Abstinence: If you find yourself "dangling in the weeds" or struggling with dependency, the hosts recommend attempting complete abstinence.New Drug Hazards: Beware of the emergence of dangerous, heavily marketed "sexy" new drugs.Medical Transparency: When seeking medical pain relief, always consult a healthcare professional. Crucially, always tell your doctor that you are an addict so they can treat you safely. [1]Closing Thought: Mike and Glenn choose to protect their peace by living in a strict weed-free zone and challenge listeners to consider doing the same.

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The Atlantic Group Tuesday Night Speaker Meeting May 12, 2026 First 10-minute Speaker: Patty M. 2nd 10-minute Speaker: Raul S. Main Speaker: Amanda H.  Welcome to the Atlantic Group Podcast. Our 7th  tradition states, “Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting declining outside contributions.” Your contribution covers the expenses of our group, this podcast, and also that of our AA service structure. If you are an AA member who finds this podcast helpful, you can contribute using Venmo @AGTradition7 or Zelle at AGNYCINFO@gmail.com. Under what's it for, please write AG Podcast. Thank you for your support. For any questions, please e-mail: TuesdayAGNYC@gmail.com

Episode is from 2022The Big Book says we are powerless over one thing - alcohol.Yet it goes on and on about our ability to impact those around us, in both helpful and in unhelpful ways. Powerless means having "an inability to influence". And the definition of influence: the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something, or the effect itself.In this episode I talk about this and I answer some of your questions.email: sarcasticbigbook@gmail.com

The Atlantic Group Tuesday Night Speaker Meeting May 5, 2026 10 Minute Speaker on 5th Tradition: Nick D. Main Speaker: Grant S.  Welcome to the Atlantic Group Podcast. Our 7th  tradition states, “Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting declining outside contributions.” Your contribution covers the expenses of our group, this podcast, and also that of our AA service structure. If you are an AA member who finds this podcast helpful, you can contribute using Venmo @AGTradition7 or Zelle at AGNYCINFO@gmail.com. Under what's it for, please write AG Podcast. Thank you for your support. For any questions, please e-mail: TuesdayAGNYC@gmail.com

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Podcast Summary: Out of gas? Now what?Mike and Glenn are back in the coffee shop, bringing you another real, raw, and unfiltered conversation.Seemingly, they have it all together—especially when you consider that between them, they share 18 1/2 years of continuous sobriety (Mike with 7 1/2 years and Glenn with 11). But they don't buy into "Facebook sobriety." The reality is that life still happens, challenges arise, and sometimes the tank just runs completely empty.This episode dives deep into what happens when you feel like you're running on fumes, how to recognize the red flags of a mental relapse, and why we simply cannot do sobriety or life solo.The Reality of an Empty TankWhen you are constantly digging, giving, and taking care of business—balancing work, personal projects, and sobriety (our number one priority)—the pressure adds up. It's an exhausting, hard-to-define stress.The Give and Get Balance: When we give, we empty the tank. When we get, we fill it. Too much give and not enough get will slow us down.The "Jar" Analogy: We all need a trusted advisor or accountability partner. They can read the label on our jar when we are too blinded by stress to see it ourselves. It doesn't matter how "qualified" they are; it matters how invested they are in you.Feelings Are Not Facts: Like a Ferris wheel, sometimes we are on top of the world, and sometimes we are at the bottom.Action Plans: What to Do When the Fuel Gauge Hits EAwareness is the first and most important step, but awareness must be followed by action. When you feel empty, sometimes the "next right thing" isn't found on your standard to-do list—it's self-care.If you are going through a hard season, try throwing these tools at the problem until something fills you back up:Find a Meeting: Go to connect with others and realize you aren't alone. Compare your problems with others to gain perspective; everyone is carrying stress.Take Time for Self-Reflection: Know where your fuel gauge is.Connect with a Trusted Advisor: Lean on your accountability partners.Practice Gratitude: Find the things you are thankful for.Do the Next Right Thing: Fix the immediate problem in front of us.Prioritize Sleep: Sleep drives clarity. If you need to punch out and go to bed at 5:00 PM to take care of yourself, do it (while still honoring your core responsibilities).Pray and Meditate: Turn inward and upward.Absorb the Shock: Learn to suffer better. You don't have to like the situation, just understand where you are.Focus on Serving: Shifting your focus to helping others causes self-pity to pass.Use Audio and Environment: Listen to good music or go to church.The Mikey Special (The Hard Reset): Unplug, take a respite, and tell the world you are temporarily unavailable so you can rebuild your foundation and bounce back.Key Takeaways & SummaryYour sobriety length is not a shield. As Glenn notes, 11 years doesn't automatically guarantee year number 12. To protect your recovery, watch out for old alcoholic behaviors and compulsions, and find healthy ways to relieve stress."If you think like you used to think, then you will drink like you used to drink."Analyze: Take time to figure out where you are.Plan: Put together a proactive plan to de-stress.Pivot: Move from reactive to proactive.Connect: Have conversations with others. Getting help is what fills the tank.STAY AWARE.Enjoying the show? Drop us a line or share your thoughts with Mike and Glenn at www.sober.coffee.

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The Atlantic Group Tuesday Night Speaker Meeting June 2, 2026 First 10-minute Speaker: Billy L. Tradition 6 2nd 10-minute Speaker: Rachel T. Main Speaker: Mary.  Welcome to the Atlantic Group Podcast. Our 7th  tradition states, “Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting declining outside contributions.” Your contribution covers the expenses of our group, this podcast, and also that of our AA service structure. If you are an AA member who finds this podcast helpful, you can contribute using Venmo @AGTradition7 or Zelle at AGNYCINFO@gmail.com. Under what's it for, please write AG Podcast. Thank you for your support. For any questions, please e-mail: TuesdayAGNYC@gmail.com

The Atlantic Group Tuesday Night Speaker Meeting June. 8, 2026 First 10-minute Speaker: Roberto. 2nd 10-minute Speaker: Ruth. Main Speaker: Jay.  Welcome to the Atlantic Group Podcast. Our 7th  tradition states, “Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting declining outside contributions.” Your contribution covers the expenses of our group, this podcast, and also that of our AA service structure. If you are an AA member who finds this podcast helpful, you can contribute using Venmo @AGTradition7 or Zelle at AGNYCINFO@gmail.com. Under what's it for, please write AG Podcast. Thank you for your support. For any questions, please e-mail: TuesdayAGNYC@gmail.com

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The Atlantic Group Tuesday Night Speaker Meeting May 26, 2026 Main Speaker: Spike.  Welcome to the Atlantic Group Podcast. Our 7th  tradition states, “Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting declining outside contributions.” Your contribution covers the expenses of our group, this podcast, and also that of our AA service structure. If you are an AA member who finds this podcast helpful, you can contribute using Venmo @AGTradition7 or Zelle at AGNYCINFO@gmail.com. Under what's it for, please write AG Podcast. Thank you for your support. For any questions, please e-mail: TuesdayAGNYC@gmail.com

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This week, Lola and Meagan are joined by comic, actor, and author of Sure I’ll Join Your Cult, Maria Bamford. The girls discuss Maria’s childhood OCD, intrusive thoughts, and the ways those experiences primed her to seek support, structure, and belonging through a variety of groups later in life. They explore culty (but helpful!) aspects of 12 step programs like Debtors Anonymous and Al-Anon, along with the many other communities she’s loved and joined along the way.Maria also shares her experience with eating disorders, going to treatment in her twenties, and the controversial Suzuki Method through which she learned violin as a child.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Podcast Episode OverviewIn this episode, Mike and Glenn are joined by returning guest Doctor John at a local coffee shop to dive deep into the realities of alcoholism. The conversation provides fantastic advice and information, highlighting John's inspirational passion for both newcomers and old-timers.Core Themes & Discussion PointsThe "ISM" is the Core Issue: John emphasizes that the problem is not alcoholism (the substance), but the ISM (the human condition). It is about the "void" or "hole in the soul" rather than the booze itself.A Spiritual Dis-Ease: John argues this is not a chemical imbalance or a disease in the traditional medical sense, but rather a "thirst for God"—a human yearning for wholeness, centeredness, and peace.Hypersensitivity: Alcoholics are described as "pain augmenters" who are highly sensitive. Alcohol initially served as an effective coping mechanism and brought ease, until it eventually stopped working.Character Defects: These defects were essentially coping skills utilized when the disease was active and untreated.Powerlessness & Affinity: An essential foundation of recovery is accepting one's powerlessness over the condition. It functions less like a physical allergy and more like a profound mental dis-ease and affinity.Actionable Takeaways & PreventionRemoving the Alcohol Isn't Enough: Eliminating booze removes the symptom, but the underlying "ISM" remains. It is a lifelong condition that persists regardless of external life circumstances.Stay Connected: Because the condition is always present, isolation is dangerous. John stresses that while you can be drunk or dry alone, achieving true sobriety requires the support of a community.Active Maintenance: Simple prevention relies on continuous action: staying engaged, attending meetings, and actively focusing on recovery steps.

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Podcast Summary: The Inside Out of the "ISM"Hosts: Mike & GlennGuest: Dr. JohnIn this episode, Dr. John rejoins Mike and Glenn at the coffee shop to continue their deep dive into alcoholism, sharing pivotal moments from his journey and breaking down the true nature of addiction, connection, and relapse.Redefining the "ISM"Dr. John challenges the traditional view of alcoholism, stating that he was "born scared" and that alcohol itself didn't cause his disease. Instead, he describes alcoholism as an "ISM"—a universal, internal yearning to fill an emotional void.The Universal Void: Humans are the only creatures on Earth who torment themselves trying to fill this emptiness.The Admission Tickets: The "ISM" manifests differently for everyone. There are hundreds of 12-step programs identical to AA; they simply have different "admission tickets" (e.g., alcohol, shopping, eating).Religion vs. Spirituality:"Religion fills the void. Spirituality teaches us to embrace the void." While religion relies on a set of rules, spirituality is about building a strong relationship with something greater. Dr. John doesn't label himself as "happy, joyous, and free"—rather, he views his ISM as God continuously poking his void, reminding him it is a never-ending process.The Power of ConnectionThe core message of the episode is that intellect alone cannot cure addiction. True transformation happens through human-to-human interaction.Wounded Healers: Healing occurs when the wounded heal the wounded. As the famous quote goes: “The opposite of addiction is connection.”The Ultimate Need: Dr. John shares a powerful story about his dog, Samantha, who taught him how to give unconditional love. He concludes that giving love is our only true need, summarizing it as: “You can't keep it if you don't give it away.”Heaven on Earth: For Dr. John, heaven is pouring yourself into someone else. “I don't know what heaven is, but the closest I've come to is when I lose myself in another.”The "We" of AA: Glenn and Dr. John agree that Alcoholics Anonymous works strictly because of the "We." We cannot see our own blind spots without others.The Reality of RelapseThe conversation shifts to a cautionary tale from John, who shared his experience with relapse, proving that "every bottom has a trap door."Dr. John emphasizes that triggers are just excuses—relapse is a calculated choice where a person thinks through the action and does it anyway. He breaks down relapse into three distinct stages: Emotional, Mental, and Physical.The 5 Steps to John's Relapse:Complacency: Becoming bored and complacent.Distraction: Losing focus on recovery.Skipping Meetings: Halting attendance.Loss of Mentorship: His sponsor moved away.Isolation: He stopped connecting with his own sponsees as they drifted.Ultimately, it was his gradual movement away from the program that caused the relapse. Despite this, the hosts emphasize a philosophy of grace: hate the sin, love the sinner.Advice for the Newcomer: The "Karate Kid" MetaphorDr. John offers a grounded, realistic perspective for anyone new to recovery. He reminds them that "AA is not a feel-good program; it is a get-well program." Life is still going to be life, and while medical schools don't teach spirituality, it is readily available in AA as the best therapy on the planet.To close, Dr. John shares a "must-listen" metaphor inspired by The Karate Kid. Just like Daniel Larusso learning martial arts from Mr. Miyagi, a newcomer in recovery must possess three essential qualities:OpennessWillingnessHonestyFinal TakeawayGlenn notes that through this program, there is no situation in life he cannot get through sober. Because alcohol remains "cunning, baffling, and powerful," the episode concludes with a call to move forward into today with confidence, balanced by cautiousness.

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From 2024 - In this episode, I read an email from a listener, and I talk about how the Big Book does not have us dwell  on our shortcomings.My Instagram.My websites are here and here.

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Jules returns to the podcast to talk about her family's history of unhealthy enabling, how it impacted her addiction and recovery, and then how she is helping to change the pattern in her family and the families of the clients she helps every day at Windmill.Special Guest: Jules Santiago.

Episode Guest: Dr. John – This is a "Get Well" Program, Not a "Feel Good" ProgramHosts Mike and Glenn welcome Dr. John to the sober.coffee shop for a raw, straight-shooting conversation about Alcoholics Anonymous, the reality of working the program, and what it truly takes to get well.The Reality of RecoveryDr. John doesn't sugarcoat it: AA is not about rainbows, unicorns, and puppies. It is about getting well.With sobriety dating back to 1980—including a five-year "research sabbatical" (relapse) before getting sober for good in 2000—John uses his hindsight to fuel his insight. He views alcoholism as an "inside job." Alcohol was his soul food, and removing it leaves a void that must be filled. Even when joy and gratitude are hard to find, John emphasizes that you are still getting better.Key Takeaway: AA is a get well program, not a feel good program. When you are full of doubt and in a dark place, you have to trudge along, plot along, and stick around. It is in these tough times that you spiritually grow.The 3 Basics of Working the Program (In Real Time)When life gets heavy and you aren't "feeling it," John relies on three foundational steps:Be aware. Recognize where you are at.Check in. Talk with your sponsor and/or others in recovery.Pray on it. Seek guidance outside of yourself.The Trap of Self and EgoThe guys agree that when we have a problem with others, the root of the problem usually lies within ourselves. However, self cannot transform self, and ego cannot conquer ego. Because disturbed emotions impair our judgment, we cannot rely solely on our own thinking. God works through people—which is why AA is inherently a "we" program.When you find yourself emotionally disturbed, John offers a 3-step triage plan:Freeze: Stop and do not act.Check in with a sponsor: A pain shared is a pain halved, and an outside perspective is better equipped to take inventory.Pray for willingness: Pray for the willingness to accept and take direction.The 3 Types of Direction You Might Receive:According to Glenn, guidance from a sponsor or the program usually boils down to one of three truths:"It's none of your business.""Live the Serenity Prayer.""That's just what an AA is supposed to do."The Art of Sponsorship & SurrenderSurrender means accepting direction. John notes that a sponsor can only be as effective as the sponsee allows them to be, adding that working with a sponsor is much more of an art than a science.The Power of "I": John's sponsor famously corrected him on using pronouns like "he, she, or they" when pointing fingers. The focus must always be on "I."Humility Check: John's sponsor also gave him a great reality check: "When you think you have God's will figured out, come check with me."The "Broken" Paradox: The more broken we feel on the inside, the more potent we can become on the outside. John reminds listeners: You aren't a jerk/bad person; you are just acting like one.Honesty and EvolutionOnce you are sober, there is no longer a reason to lie. However, John drops a profound truth about the nature of recovery: "You can only be as honest as you are well." Because we grow over time, your truth today will look very different than your truth did five years ago.Final ThoughtWhat is relapse? According to Dr. John, relapse is simply what happens when you turn your back on recovery. Keep doing the basics, stay honest, and stick around.

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