SWOON: Love Lessons with Julie and Gina

On this episode of Swoon Gina and Julie talk about closure, endings, break-ups and saying goodbye. They talk about how to know when it's time to say goodbye and how even when it's right to end something, it can still be really sad. We are so incredibly grateful for your love and support the last four years! Thank you for sharing this experience with us and for making this podcast such a powerful and loving part of our work and our lives. Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies).  Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. https://www.swoonpodcast.comhttps://www.swoonpodcast.com/https://www.swoonpodcast.comFind Gina on Instagram.

Lots of people struggle to stay fully present during sexual connections with partners.  In this week's episode, Julie and Gina discuss how to stay in the moment amid a life filled with distraction.     JOIN OUR MEMBERSHIP: Want a place to cultivate relationship skills with advice and coaching from two intimacy experts? Join Gina and Julie weekly at www.swoonwithus.com for the tips, tricks, and tools your mama didn't teach you.   ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Dr. Gina Senarighi, Ph.D. CPC is a sexuality educator, author, and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. Her most recent work has focused on helping entrepreneur couples and co-founders create healthy relationships at work. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and award-winning certified relationship coach. Connect with Gina: www.heygina.com or on Instagram at @heyginasena   Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality. Connect with Julie: ww.juliejeske.com or on Instagram at @julie_jeske ACTION STEPS: Join our patreon community patreon.com/swoonwithus.com  for our bonus episode on this topic AND all the handouts and episode notes we mention in the podcast. BUY THE BOOK Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi https://amzn.to/3oeKTS

Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies).  Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.

Are you ready to break free from monotonous, predictable sex and spice it up?  This is the episode for you.  In today's podcast, Julie and Gina focus on the ways couples end up in a sexually stuck place and a few ways you can break out of routines that no longer serve you.   JOIN OUR MEMBERSHIP: Want a place to cultivate relationship skills with advice and coaching from two intimacy experts? Join Gina and Julie weekly at www.swoonwithus.com for the tips, tricks, and tools your mama didn't teach you.   ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Dr. Gina Senarighi, Ph.D. CPC is a sexuality educator, author, and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. Her most recent work has focused on helping entrepreneur couples and co-founders create healthy relationships at work. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and award-winning certified relationship coach. Connect with Gina: www.heygina.com or on Instagram at @heyginasena   Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality. Connect with Julie: ww.juliejeske.com or on Instagram at @julie_jeske ACTION STEPS: Join our patreon community patreon.com/swoonwithus.com  for our bonus episode on this topic AND all the handouts and episode notes we mention in the podcast. BUY THE BOOK Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi https://amzn.to/3oeKTS

Are you setting new year resolutions and intentions? What about in your relationship? Gina and Julie have created a framework to make your relationship better this year than it was the year before. We are going to look at your relationship strengths, the lessons you learned last year and create a relationship vision and action plan. Ready for a relationship that sparkles? Join us for Sparkle: A Relationship Refresh. Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies).  Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.  

This week on Swoon, Gina and Julie created a special Q&A episode for our supporters on Patreon. If you didn't know this already, Swoon is completely funded by your support on Patreon. And one of the perks of joining us on Patreon is a bonus episode each month. This month we asked our patrons to send us their questions and we chose 2 for a bonus episode. We had so much fun answering these questions that we wanted to share one of the questions with our regular listeners too. This listener shared that he realizes he was apathetic in his last relationship and wants to let his ex know that he changed. Julie and Gina talked about different things to think about when contacting someone from your past. They also talked about how trust is built and demonstrated in relationships. They also answered a listener question from a parent who wants to know about conflict and repair in front of kids. You can find the answer to that question and the full episode on Patreon. Thank you so much for your support! Want more Julie and Gina?  Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.

Disappointment happens (even in really good relationships). This week Julie and Gina are talking about tolerating disappointment and handling rejection (especially in the sexual realm). They explain the sexual avoidance cycle, managing reactivity and interrupting shame spirals. They also talk about the importance of honesty and naming your wants and needs because sometimes when people try to avoid disappointing their partner they actually create disconnection or even resentment. Finally, they will give you tips to help you build resiliency so you can experience more connection and enjoyment (in and out of the bedroom). Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies).  Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.

How do you keep the romance, intimacy and passion alive in your relationship? This week, Gina and Julie are talking tending your erotic fire. Understanding your erotic fire will help you feel more connected to yourself and your partner. Listen to the episode for tips and tools to help you keep the sexual spark going in your relationship no matter how long you've been together. Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies).  Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.

With so many obligations and so much stress during this time of year, it can be easy to feel disconnected in your relationship. People often take their partner's for granted this time of year. This week, Gina and Julie and giving you tips and tools to help you prioritize your partnership even during the busy Holiday season Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies).  We've also got a new Swoon Shop filled with Swoon Merchandise for all of your holiday shopping! Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.

Many people struggle when it comes to talking about sex. This week Gina and Julie are going to give you tips and tools to make sexual communication easier! They explore the stigma and challenges around talking about sex. They'll help you find the language that makes you feel most connected to your body and your desire. They explain the difference between sexual feedback and criticism They're sharing the importance of finding your yes and getting clear about what you want. Julie and Gina also teaching you about 3 sexual conversations to start having today. Communication is an important part of a healthy and satisfactory sex; this extended episode is a must listen!   Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies). Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.

It's the most wonderful time of the year! Or is it? We know the holidays can be very stressful for a lot of people. Are feeling a little nervous about spending time with your family? Do you need some help getting clear about what you want during this busy time? Listen as Gina and Julie give you tips and tools to help you set healthy boundaries this holiday season. Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies). Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.

This week on Swoon, Gina and Julie created a special Q&A episode for our supporters on Patreon. If you didn't know this already, Swoon is completely funded by your support on Patreon. And one of the perks of joining us on Patreon is a bonus episode each month. This month we asked our patrons to send us their questions and we chose 2 for a bonus episode. We had so much fun answering these questions that we wanted to share one of the questions with our regular listeners too. The listener asked about wanting a weekly sleep-over with the person they are dating. We talk about different desires around closeness and space and how to ask for the things you want/need. You can hear the full episode on Patreon. Thank you so much for your support! Want more Julie and Gina?  Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.

This week Gina and Julie are talking about “mommy issues”! “Mommy Issues” is a label that is thrown around (usually in a negative way). Julie and Gina are sharing what it means and some of the things that contribute to mommy issues (or daddy issues). They also share examples of different ways mommy issues show up in relationships, tips for exploring and talking about mommy issues; and things that can help heal parenting wounds. Give it a listen and if you have more questions about mommy issues, daddy issues or parenting wounds you can submit your questions via Patreon. Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies). Want more Julie and Gina? Join Gina and Julie for a special Relationship Maintenance Pre-Holiday Call on November 12. Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.

This week Gina and Julie are talking about the balance of power in your relationship They are tackling division of labor, the invisible load, how you make decisions, who has power and who wants it. On this episode they share signs that your power is getting out of balance. They also give you ideas about how to talk about power in your relationship to make sure you are on the same page and no one is developing resentment. They are also hosting a Relationship Maintenance Pre-Holiday Call on November 12 that will explore the balance of power and getting on the same page as we head into the holiday season. Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies). Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Julie on Instagram. Find Gina on Instagram.

This week Julie and Gina are talking about romance! They are feeling extra swoony as they chat about what makes romance so delightful. They both hear from a lot of people who want more romance in their relationships and feel like things aren't quite as sparkly as they were in the beginning of their relationships. On this episode they talk about what makes it so hard to embrace romance and why so many people wish their partner could read their mind. They also explore different flavors of romance and give you tangible ideas about how you can add more romance to your life whether you are in a relationship or single. Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies). Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Gina on Instagram. Find Julie

This week Gina and Julie are talking about betrayal! If you've experienced betrayal, you know how painful it can be. It can make you question your reality. On this episode they explore different kinds of betrayal and what makes betrayal so brutal. They also talk about different emotions associated with betrayal, how it affects us and our ability to trust, and how to heal and move forward (whether you've been the betrayer or the betrayed). Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies). Register for our live online event! Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Gina on Instagram. Find Julie on Instagram.

This week Gina and Julie are talking about taking a break in relationships. They discuss why you might do it, when NOT to do it and what needs to happen for it to be intentional and effective. Are you curious about taking a pause in your relationship? Make sure you listen to this episode first! Love Swoon? Support us on Patreon (and get extra goodies). Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Gina on Instagram. Find Julie on Instagram.

This week on Swoon, Gina and Julie created a special Q&A episode for our supporters on Patreon. If you didn't know this already, Swoon is completely funded by your support on Patreon. And one of the perks of joining us on Patreon is a bonus episode each month. This month we asked our patrons to send us their quesitons and we chose 3 for a bonus epissode. We had so much fun answering these quesitons that we wanted to share one of the questions with our regular listeners too. You can hear the full episode on Patreon. Thank you so much for your support! Want more Julie and Gina? Join our monthly membership group or take our classes. Find Gina on Instagram. Find Julie on Instagram.

This week on Swoon, Gina and Julie are talking about how to repair when ruptures happen in your relationships. Mistakes happen. Conflict happens. Disconnection happens. And because of that, knowing how to intiate and be receptive to repair is essential. Often people wait for things to blow over. Or they build resentment until things finally erupt. Join Julie and Gina and they share the steps you can take to see   Join us on Patreon for more resources for relationship repair and connection. Take a class with us or join us for Love Lessons.

Join Gina and Julie as they talk about erotic pain. They share what it is (and what it isn't), when to explore pain and when to keep it in your fantasies, how to talk with your partner about your interests and how to get started if you want to experience more pain in your erotic life. For more on this topic join us on Patreon where we have the notes for this episode and bonus handouts.   

Gina and Julie are back from their hiatus and excited to share some changes with you. On this episode they are talk about friendship break-ups and transitions. What do you do when part of your relationship needs to change but you aren't ready to give the whole thing up? They also explore endings, grief and attachment. For more about this episode (and more Julie and Gina) join them on Patreon -https://www.patreon.com/swoonwithus.

We're not really talking about how to cheat on your partner! We're joking peopel!  Join Gina, Jeff and and Julie as they talk about the damage that can be done when someone decides to engage in infidelity.

Jeff, Gina and Julie tell you everything you need to know when it comes to communicating with your partner effectively! And also everything that gets in the way of communicating. It's the communication episode! You're gonna love it! 

Gina, Jeff and Julie give you all the tips and tricks when it comes to dating in your 40's. And they should know because they're all dating in their 40's! Can you believe it??

Julie, Gina and Jeff do their best at explaining the difference between anxiety and intuition. They talk about why it's important to tell the difference and also how normal it is to not be able to discern between the two. But when it all comes down to it, you shouldn't disregard any message your body is trying to communicate no matter where it may be originating.  Get more from Julie and Gina at https://www.swoonwithus.com Get more from Jeff at https://www.patreon.com/therapyjeff

Julie, Gina and Jeff dive into managing your jealously when you invite someone new into your relationship. The episode is filled with useful and interesting information about how to ethically open things up. A must listen for anyone who's curious about being more adventures with multiple partners!

Julie and Gina welcome author and financial therapist, Bari Tessler!  Questions and topics addressed in the episode: What are some of the most common struggles with money couples face? Why can it be so hard to get on the same page about finances when you align on everything else? What do you wish more couples knew about facing money stresses? How can a couple begin to make money conversations fun? What is a "money date" and how would a couple apply it at home?

But seriously whyyyyyyy??? Julie, Gina and Jeff get into the weeds of why you might be falling for unavailable people so you can at least gain some awareness. If you listen to the entire episode we promise you'll only fall in love with people that are available and ready to meet all your emotional needs! jk!

We are joined by our biggest guest ever, Terry Real, who is releasing his book, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship Terry is a renowned family therapist and bestselling author of The New Rules of Marriage. Terry says that the way to save your relationship is not by working on yourself, but instead by working together. He talks about what he calls “toxic individualism” and how it gets in the way of healthy relationships. He offers skills that you can start integrating into your relationships right now and stories that explain all the concepts he details in his new book.  Find out more about Terry Real at his website: https://terryreal.com/

Julie, Gina and Jeff talk about how to let go of a past relationship that you're still feeling attached to. They detail practical steps you can take in order to get the closure you're looking for. Now you can finally move on! You're welcome! ;)

Julie and Gina give great advice and practical tips about surviving and thriving in a long distance relationship while Jeff basically offers nothing in this episode and turns out to be a real downer about long distance love. Maybe just skip over the parts where he talks?

Julie, Gina and Jeff dish on their favorite love reality shows. Which ones needs fixing, which ones they'd be on and which ones they dream about working for as the resident therapist. Oh, and also how incredibly problematic those shows can be.

Jeff, Gina and Julie try their very best to answer a listener's question about when they should move in with their partner. As always, Julie and Gina shine while Jeff makes the entire episode about himself. It's a funny episode about a serious question. What else could you ask for?

Julie, Gina and Jeff talk about all the different ways you can be a better lover. They skip over the clichés and pop psychology tips to get down and dirty about what really matters. It's a must listen for anyone who wants to improve their skills in the bedroom. 

Gina, Julie and Jeff talk about why it's perfectly normal to be attracted to people outside of your relationship and why it's so upsetting and triggering for some folks to accept this.

In today's episode of Swoon, Jeff, Gina and Julie will tell you how to find an orgy near you! They talk everything from orgy safety to getting out of awkward orgy situations. And most importantly, they talk about what to wear when you go to your first orgy! Tune into one of our most imortant episodes yet!

Jeff, Gina and Julie do their very best to answer the age old question, “When the heck should you break up with your partner if they just aren't doing it for you anymore?” As always Jeff thinks he's hilarious, Julie is incredibly charming and Gina gives the best advice.  Leave us a review and tell us how wonderful we are! We'll probably end up talking about you at the start of an episode! 

Julie, Gina and Jeff talk about pegging and how we should really just call it what it is, anal sex. They discuss where the word “pegging” comes from, how to safely do it, why straight cis men are so weird about it and so much more. Join them on a wild journey about butt stuff. 

This week on the pod Julie and Gina dive into what inner child work is. They discuss why it's important to be aware of your inner child and how to start healing it in your relationship. A must listen for anyone that wants to dive deeper into their psyche. 

Julie, Gina and Jeff talk about what ghosting is, when it's appropriate, why it happens, how to cope if you get ghosted, who they've ghosted in the past and so much more in this week's very fun and very educational episode.  Check out swoonwithus.com for more content from Swoon hosts, Julie and Gina!

Have you ever just wanted a therapist to tell you exactly what to ask your partner when a problem arises? Well, this episode is for you! Julie and Gina get really specific and tell these callers exactly what they should ask their partner in order to get clarity and make a decision. 

Julie and Gina discuss what "love bombing" is and why it can be problematic. Find out if you're love bombing your new crushes and get some tips on how to ease into a healthier dynamic. 

Julie, Gina and Jeff answer a listener's question about what to do if you're dating someone who's great on paper but lacks physical chemistry. It's a classic questions and we think that we're able to get to the bottom of it!  Join Julie and Gina at swoonwithus.com to sign up for their membership course. 

Julie, Gina and Jeff take a stab at answering a listener question about what to do if your partner doesn't want to talk about emotions and thinks they're dumb. They go all over the place with this question. There's something for everyone in this episode!

Julie, Jeff and Gina talk about ten questions everyone should consider asking themselves before having sex with someone. 

Julie and Gina answer a listener's question about how to get through the intense grief and loss after initiating a break up. 

Julie and Gina answer a listener's question about how to enter into a new polyamorous relationship while being anxiously attached. 

Julie, Gina and Jeff tackle a listener question about how to stop coming off as really intense while dating. The crew talks about how to be more grounded, thoughtful and deliberate while allowing love to naturally unfold instead of anxiously forcing it to happen.

Julie and Gina answer a listener question about not desiring sex after giving birth. The caller wants their husband to feel wanted but the desire to be intimate hasn't been present for over a year. 

Julie, Gina and Jeff tackle the age old question of how to feel confident on dating apps. While putting yourself out there online can be nerve-racking and vulnerable, there are some practical ways you can feel better about the whole experience.

Julie and Gina answer a listener question asking them to breakdown the different between a "want" and "need." They'll help you figure out the difference and give you tips and resources on how you can ask for your needs to be met in your relationships.