Therapist Tierra

I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy. by ⁠TierraW. Ruffin⁠  (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therapisttierra/message

I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy. by ⁠TierraW. Ruffin⁠  (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therapisttierra/message

I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy. by ⁠TierraW. Ruffin⁠  (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therapisttierra/message

I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy. by ⁠TierraW. Ruffin⁠  (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therapisttierra/message

I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy. by ⁠TierraW. Ruffin⁠  (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therapisttierra/message

I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy. by ⁠TierraW. Ruffin⁠  (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therapisttierra/message

I mentioned this interview in this episode: 6 Types of People Who Do Not Deserve to Hear Your Shame Story | SuperSoul Sunday | OWN https://youtu.be/s8Pp7QB6GrE New Book: I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy Paperback – August 8, 2021 by Tierra W. Ruffin (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Want to book Tierra? https://www.therapisttierra.com/ Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

New Book: I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy Paperback – August 8, 2021 by Tierra W. Ruffin (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Want to book Tierra? https://www.therapisttierra.com/ Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

New Book: I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy Paperback – August 8, 2021 by Tierra W. Ruffin (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Want to book Tierra? https://www.therapisttierra.com/ Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

New Book: I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy Paperback – August 8, 2021 by Tierra W. Ruffin (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Want to book Tierra? https://www.therapisttierra.com/ Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

New Book: I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy Paperback – August 8, 2021 by Tierra W. Ruffin (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

New Book: I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy Paperback – August 8, 2021 by Tierra W. Ruffin (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

New Book: I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy Paperback – August 8, 2021 by Tierra W. Ruffin (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

New Book: I Need to Talk, but NOT to a Therapist: A User Guide for People on the Fence About Starting Therapy Paperback – August 8, 2021 by Tierra W. Ruffin (Author) - AMAZON https://www.amazon.com/Need-Talk-but-NOT-Therapist/dp/B09BYNZLCR/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Therapist+Tierra&qid=1628774615&sr=8-2 Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

Oftentimes our anger is directed towards God, but our true anger is towards the representative. Let’s agree to get refocused. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

Hey There! It’s Therapist Tierra, and guess what? This week I’m out of the office. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

Therapist Tierra Disclaimer: This is a personal podcast. Any views or opinions expressed in the Therapist Tierra Podcast, YouTube Channel, or on any other social media platforms are solely the views of the individuals involved and do not represent the views of any third party. Although this podcast references episodes as “Sessions,” y'all these are NOT sessions. Therapist Tierra is not your personal therapist. Please acquire a personal therapist and work towards healing with your Therapist. Therapist Tierra, or this podcast is not responsible for your actions. Any actions you take based on the information continued in this podcast, YouTube Channel or from this or any social media platform is strictly at your own risk, and Therapist Tierra will not be liable for any losses or damages in connection with the use of the podcast, YouTube Channel or any social media platform. YOU should take all steps necessary to ascertain the information you receive from the podcast, YouTube channel or social media platform is correct and has been verified. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

Do you want to know someone who got mad about God’s perspective not lining up with theirs? Jonah! Most people think they know the story of Jonah. He’s the prophet who was swallowed by a Big Fish and was in there for 3 days and 3 nights because he decided to run away from God, because God told him to go to a city named: Nineveh, and warn the people of their sins. Let’s fast forward to the end of this short 4-Chapter book. Jonah was perplexed and angry that God would save a people from whom his perspective didn’t deserve to be saved. Jonah expressed his frustrations to God in Jonah 4:2. Then God responded from a tangible perspective by using a plant and a worm to try to help Jonah to see God’s reasons for saving the people from a different perspective. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

RECAP: Cain’s secondary emotion was anger...Because God wouldn’t accept his offering...his anger was directed towards the individual that he COULD put his hands on, which was his brother. Remember, God warned Cain that sin was outside his door. Cain proceeded to succumb to the knock. This week's encouragement: “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,” - James‬ ‭1:19‬ ‭NIV Homework: Read Jeremiah...And have a WHOLE conversation *smile... --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

Hey There! It’s Therapist Tierra, come on in and have a seat!! The year 2020 hit the coast of many peoples lives like a hurricane. Whether it was a good year or bad year, everyone’s life was impacted in some way. Some people were left with feelings of hurt, numbness or anger. Some people were downright ANGRY with God. Ok, being frustrated with God doesn’t always look like “God I’m not talking to you.” It can look like irritability towards the ones you love, depressed symptoms such as tearfulness, poor hygiene, or even skipping meals, Oh and numbness can also manifest into abusing substances or lacking self-control.. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therapisttierra/message

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255 What can cause the holiday blues? Do you experience anxiety that’s connected to social pressure during the holidays? Do you feel overwhelmed by the expectations associated with the holidays? Do you find yourself stressed or exhausted around the holidays? Do you notice an Inability to be with loved ones? Or are you unable to cope with life’s demands primarily around the holidays? Things that increase the potential of the holiday blues are: When we overextend ourselves financially for family members and friends. Missing your family and friends Poor Social Support, isolation and loneliness Stress The strain of having to share oxygen or space with extended family members that get on your last ever-loving nerve. Setting your sights too high…

Cultivating our own peace in our pastures could mean that you’re increasing your own self-care routine. It can also mean that you’re implementing strategies Slow breathing. When you're anxious, your breathing becomes faster and shallower. ... Progressive muscle relaxation. Find a quiet location. ... Stay in the present moment. ... Healthy lifestyle. ... Take small acts of bravery. ... Challenge your self-talk. ... Plan worry time. ... Get to know your anxiety.

The thing about hope is that it’s not defined as  an unreachable goal...It’s reality. Hope is good because it gives us something to look forward to! Hope is a building block for how we as individuals are able to evolve. According to Snyder’s Hope Theory (Snyder, 1991), hopefulness is a life-sustaining human strength comprised of three distinct but related components: Goals Thinking – the clear conceptualization of valuable goals. Pathways Thinking – the capacity to develop specific strategies to reach those goals. Agency Thinking – the ability to initiate and sustain the motivation for using those strategies. Referenced Article: Mission impossible Being hopeful is good for you — and psychologists’ research is pinpointing ways to foster the feeling. By Kirsten Weir October 2013, Vol 44, No. 9 What is Hope? https://positivepsychology.com/hope-therapy/#hope

THE MARSHMALLOW experiment proved that the ability to delay gratification was critical for success in life. Schedule Update: Hey There! It’s Therapist Tierra Listen up: I have a schedule update….And I wanted to give you a heads up that November 23 (That’s the week of Thanksgiving) I’ll be taking a holiday break, and will return on January 4th.

Let your Yes be Yes and your No be No, anything more comes from the evil one

Did you know that we have to teach people how to love us. We have to teach people how to like us, engage with us or to do business with us? One of the godmothers of understanding vulnerability: Brene Brown says, “When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.” *Note: The Boundaries Books are sooo GOOD! Simply search: Boundaries by Townsend and Cloud

Teaching others how to treat you well begins with self-awareness. If you’ve never tried being a group member, I NEED YOU to test drive it! You will gain so much insight about yourself and will more than likely feel encouraged about this level of support from others. One of my favorite things to do in a group is to teach strategies, transform mindsets annnnd to bring in speakers so that they can share insight especially if they’ve already traveled along the terrain that my group members are hoping to accomplish. Ecclesiastes says, 'Two Are Better Than One, For If Either Of Them Falls, One Can Help The Other Up. Ok, group therapy is more than two people. It’s not outside of the norm for people to couple up after a group. Group Therapy provides an opportunity to connect with people who have similar wounds, under the guidance of a licensed professional. Think of the therapist leading the group, as a tour guide. Everyone should have the opportunity to check-in and share. This season’s group therapy will prepare you for what I like to call, Holiday Hurts.

Consider using this week to review some of the past episodes, and if you’re new to these sessions; use this time to check out season one: The paradigm shift. Believe me when I tell you, it’s a game changer. Alright, i’ll see you in session next week bye!!

Listen, there are people all over whose perspective of God is negatively impacted because of a cognitive distortion. If you’re feeling convicted, come on link arms with me; and get in alignment.

Laughter Improves your immune system. An evidence of this is seen as Negative thoughts manifest into chemical reactions that can affect your body by bringing more stress into your system and decreasing your immunity.

Please search Darkness to light on face book or check out their website: d2l.org if you, your community, your ministry or even your church is in need of the tools necessary to stop child sexual abuse. *Note: No podcast next week...It's Labor Day! *wink

Ok, Trauma from the perspective of the abused child is so complex.

Let’s pause for a minute. I need you to know that if you are a child listening to this podcast and you’re being abused I’d like for you to contact the child abuse hotline at 1-800-422-4453. They’re open 24/7 and they’re always available to assist you. If you’re an adult and you have experienced a rape, or domestic violence contact the domestic violence hotline 1−800−799−7233. There are people ready and available to listen to you, link arms with you or provide services to you. Need help? Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area. How does it work? When you call 800.656.HOPE (4673), you’ll be routed to a local RAINN affiliate organization based on the first six digits of your phone number. Cell phone callers have the option to enter the ZIP code of their current location to more accurately locate the nearest sexual assault service provider.

Y’all!! We are talking about the grave consequences of untreated trauma.

You know one of the toughest things to see is a child that has been traumatized, especially when their response is laced in anger. I’ve worked with adolescents who were traumatized and their response to that hurt was to display aggression towards anyone that was weaker than them. You’ve more than likely heard it before that “Hurt People, Hurt People,” and that’s a fact!

Do you remember the 2004 biographical film “Ray,” In the movie, Jamie Foxx portrayed the life of THE rhythm and blues musician Ray Charles. Raised on a sharecropping plantation in Northern Florida, Ray Charles Robinson went blind at the age of seven, shortly after witnessing his younger brother drown. Let’s pause for a minute, can you imagine what that must have felt like to not only lose your sight; but to have a memory of your younger brother drowning as the lasting memory when you had sight. That’s traumatic.

What does it mean to be "triggered?" According to Verywell mind, this term has been casually used to refer to the experience of having an emotional reaction, usually to some type of disturbing content  in the media or in another social setting. Triggers vary  from person to person and can be either internal or external. An internal trigger comes from within. It can be a memory, a physical sensation, or an emotion. For example, say you're in a friend’s home and you smell a fragrance that is reminiscent on a time in your life when you witnessed your Mom being abused. Your heart starts pounding. You could have feelings such as Pain Muscle tension Memories tied to a traumatic event Anger Sadness Loneliness Anxiety Feeling overwhelmed, vulnerable, abandoned, or out of control External triggers come from the environment. They can be a person, place, or a specific situation. Think about September 11th 2001. The anniversary of that date could trigger individuals who were personally impacted by that event. Things like The specific time of day The specific location of the twin towers or the pentagon The smell of the jet fuel

Now trauma is a BIG ole’ UGLY animal...and it’s going to take a few segments for us to open the box. if you are a child listening to this podcast and you’re being abused I’d like for you to contact the child abuse hotline at 1-800-422-4453. They’re open 24/7 and they’re  always available to assist you. If you’re an adult and you have experienced a rape, or domestic violence contact 1−800−799−7233. There are people ready and available to listen to you, link arms with you or provide services to you. All you have to do is call. If you don’t feel comfortable calling either of these numbers then I strongly encourage you to contact a Therapist. One of the good things about COVID-19 is that you won’t even have to leave home. You could literally complete a session on a platform that is similar to zoom or facetime. If you’re having a hard time finding a therapist in your area simply log on to Psychology Today, type in your zip code and you’ll be provided a list of therapists that are in your local area.

If you are a child listening to this podcast and you’re being abused I’d like for you to contact the child abuse hotline at 1-800-422-4453. They’re open 24/7 and they’re  always available to assist you. If you’re an adult and you have experienced a rape, or domestic violence contact the domestic violence hotline 1−800−799−7233. There are people ready and available to listen to you, link arms with you or provide services to you. I want to take this time to give you permission to call either of these numbers. If you’re having a hard time finding a therapist in your area simply log on to Psychology Today.com, type in your zip code and you’ll be provided a list of therapists that are in your local area. You can also find a therapist by checking with your insurance company.  You can find this podcast and others by searching @TherapistTierra on apple, spotify and just about any other podcast platform. Let’s agree to break these generational patterns together!

My years of being a Therapist has given me a leg up on practicing empathy. You see, in order to practice empathy, you must listen, you must acknowledge hurt and you must extend GRACE.

Did you know that poor physical health can lead to an increase in  mental health problems? Similar to that, poor mental health can also lead to individual’s physical health being negatively impacted.

Do you remember the movie "Deliver Us from Eva?" Well....There are quite a few Evas' walking around. Now don't get me wrong...Eva can be a MAN or a WOMAN. Let's learn a coping skill that will help us to restructure negative thoughts and behaviors.

Yikes! Church hurts can cause a generational impact when we only focus on the spiritual and not our mental health. Balance is KEY! Homework: Check out this article - The Generational Effects of Codependency https://livewellwithsharonmartin.com/generational-effects-of-codependency/

Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. Are YOU co-dependent... Check out this assessment: Google - "Am I co-dependent" and then take an assessment. I found an assessment here: https://family-intervention.com/resources/codependency-checklist/

Homework Time: I’d like you to at-least replace (1) television show that is not pouring into your legacy with (1) television show that WILL move you into the vein of what you desire your legacy to look like.

References: Emotional Memories: When People and Events Remain With You Recalling the Past Can Awaken An Emotional Response https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intense-emotions-and-strong-feelings/201203/emotional-memories-when-people-and-events-remain Google the story of David and Goliath *wink.. YOUR HOMEWORK after you get a journal *wink: 1. What emotional memories do you need to heal? 2. What relationships in your life require healing? 3. Do you use your emotional wounds to control people or situations? If so, describe them. 4. Have you allowed yourself to be controlled by the wounds of another? 5. What steps are you prepared to take to prevent yourself from being controlled that way again? *Schedule a one-on-one session with a therapist....It's a part of the process *wink

Breaking Generational Relationship Patterns: How has music impacted your thoughts or behaviors? Listen up! *wink. Homework Assignment: Make a list of the top 3 songs you’ve listened to on today over the course of today. What’s the recurrent message of the songs Create a playlist of 10 songs encouraging and motivating songs and listen to it throughout the week. Questions Posed in this segment: What are you listening to in the shower? Or overall within your home. What are you listening to in your car? What are you listening to in your freetime, or when you’re working out? Episode References: Brain, Volume 129, Issue 10, October 2006, Pages 2528–2532, https://doi.org/10.1093/brain/awl234 The Influence of Music, You Are What You Listen to Part II By Cary Schmidt http://ministry127.com/music-ministry/the-influence-of-music The Neuroscience of Music, Mindset, and Motivation Simple ways you can use music to create changes in mindset and behavior. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-athletes-way/201212/the-neuroscience-music-mindset-and-motivation Biblical Story Mentioned: 1 Samuel 16:14-23 Song Mentioned: Song by Toto: https://youtu.be/FTQbiNvZqaY Song by Bill Withers: https://youtu.be/bEeaS6fuUoA

Books discussed in this segment: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People  by Stephen R. Covey YOUR HOMEWORK after you get a journal *wink:  1. What emotional memories do you need to heal? 2. What relationships in your life require healing?  3. Do you use your emotional wounds to control people or situations? If so, describe them. 4. Have you allowed yourself to be controlled by the wounds of another? 5. What steps are you prepared to take to prevent yourself from being controlled that way again?  *Schedule a one-on-one session with a therapist....It's a part of the process *wink.