Podcast appearances and mentions of stacy a cross

Stacy A. Cross from TheComfortKillers.com, and Stacyacross.com, helps me deliver the BEST ways to promote your podcast! These creative ways will help you grow your audience, and get you message out to more people! You do NOT want to skip over a single second of this episode! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross, from thecomfortkillers.com, shares the difference between purpose and passion.   Check out the full episode on iTunes, Stacy A. Cross Show.  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross delivers the message each Wednesday, to help you get your mind, and your hustle ready for the rest of the week. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross and Wendy Y. Bailey My guest today, Wendy Y. Bailey is a BEAST at showing her clients how to double, triple, quadruple and quintuple their profits. Sometimes it means making little tweaks in language or strategy. Or, she may work on developing and implementing an income acceleration plan. Either way, it's her greatest joy coaching clients to create extraordinary results in their businesses.   I Charge for That™ are the four most powerful words in selling. These words involve beliefs about yourself and money, your limiting beliefs about selling and how you show up in selling conversations. The I Charge for That™ mindset means you have a profound belief in yourself and the value you bring to the marketplace. The words, “I Charge for That™” embody the spirit of your beliefs and flow effortlessly from the tongue. These words demonstrate your high self-esteem and establishes success on your own terms. The I Charge for That™ mindset means you also have dogged determination in setting and achieving your goals. You’re able to excel by setting clear boundaries that safeguard your professionalism and expertise. The I Charge for That™ mindset means that you have crazy faith in your selling conversations, knowing your most ideal clients ALWAYS recognize how you can help them, they WILL say “Yes!” and they will readily make the investment in your programs, services and products. Learn more and buy her book: http://www.IChargeForThat.com Learn more about Coaching, Income Acceleration, and WendyY    Like Share | Download(8) --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross talks with Lucas Rubix about loving what you do, but making sure you are making money in your business.   ----- Lucas Rubix is The Coaches Coach - his company helps passionate coaches get more clients, make more money and book themselves solid. Lucas believes that you cant make money by just simply doing what you love. You have to build an actual, real life business around your passion, you need to know know your numbers AND you need to build a solid sales funnel / marketing plan so you can get your message no only out there but get it heard! This episode will blow your mind after you realize that there are somethings that you SHOULD be focusing on in your business.  Website / Academy: http://lucasrubix.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/lucasrubix Links:  Sponsorship / Questions Email: hello@thecomfortkillers.com  Subscribe: www.stacyacross.com Join The Comfort Killers : www.thecomfortkillers.com Be My Guest: www.thecomfortkillers.com/podcast-guest Books Mentioned: The Comfort Killers Book : www.thecomfortkillerbook.com The 4-Hour Work Week: Chapter 3 https://tim.blog/2017/05/15/fear-setting/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

I was featured on the Stacy A. Cross Show podcast, where we talked about working a 9-5 job, and working a side hustle. You gotta catch the the full podcast, http://bit.ly/2C4tML0   --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross from, thecomfortkillers.com, bringing another fire episode on Patience & Hustle Daily today. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Trust is one of the most important pieces of a business. Stacy A. Cross brings the message today, talking about the importance of trust. thecomfortkillers.com patienceandhustle.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross & Dr. Kim D'Eramo My guest today, Dr. Kim D'Eramo is a physician, bestselling author of the MindBody Toolkit, and Founder of the American Institute of MindBody Medicine. During medical school, she developed a strange illness with joint pain, bloating, headaches, weight gain, aching and chills all over, and severely low energy. After seeing doctor after doctor… dozens of them over an almost 2-year period, most could find nothing wrong and told her to come back if things got worse… She knew about “mind over body,” and that she was somehow creating this pattern, so she tried to heal herself… but failed miserably. Until she realized the solution existed in a new relationship between her and her body.  She quickly learned how to work with her body, opening up to what it needed, and allowing herself to receive it. It felt harmonious when she did this, and instantly lifted her energy, so she kept going. Within 10 days, her body was completely healed. Many doctors, even integrative ones, are trying to “fix the problem” rather than release it at its root. That requires more and more complexity of medications, diet, supplements, or testing. Since you’re not addressing the root cause at the deepest level, the problems get worse and worse as you continue searching. To learn more about Dr. Kim's MindBody approach to healing visit: https://drkimderamo.com/ To learn about the 3 Ways to Start Living Your Soul Purpose watch her webinar REPLAY by visiting: https://drkimderamo.com/purpose   Email hello@thecomfortkillers.com if you are interested in a follow up show!    Remain uncomfortable,  Stacy A. Cross --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

If you want to step out and do something amazing with your life, you're going to have to have faith, and be a little crazy. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Another clip from Stacy A. Cross, on her incredible podcast, the Stacy A. Cross Show! The full episode can be listened to here: https://www.podbean.com/site/EpisodeDownload/PB95962FWYBAY   SHOW NOTES Erica Glessing believes that when you tell your story, you change the world. She is an international bestselling author 18+ times over, an expert on happiness and creativity, and is the CEO of Happy Publishing. Listen to The Erica Glessing Show, on itunes or at www.TheEricaGlessingShow.com, an 8-minute daily inspirational podcast for entrepreneurs and lightworkers.   Visit World Class Celebrity Medium to claim your gift: http://worldclasscelebritymedium.com/gifts/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Having solid relationships is so important in life. Over the past couple of years, I have been fortunate to connect with some amazing people. Social media has made it so easy to connect, and network with like minded people. What’s amazing, is how though these social media sites you end up getting connected with other people, through someone. There’s now a group of us that stay connected, share each other’s content, and collaborate on ideas. One of the best parts is that you start working together on projects. I started this podcast, with just myself in mind, but what I figured out is that it is difficult to create a podcast, even a short one, every day of the week. That’s where the #DontGetWeakWednesday with Stacy A. Cross, and #BulletProofFriday with Jason Howland came in. These are just two great people I’ve connected with, and they graciously let me curate their content into my daily show on a weekly basis. There are other people I’m connected with that we bounce ideas off of each other, give real honest feedback, and help connect to others. This is the kind of stuff you can do when you have solid connections with people. You can get value, as you give value, and everyone is looking to help each other grow. It’s a winning community, start building yours today.   patienceandhustle.com     --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross brings on guest, Dionna Walker, founder of Business Mom Inc. She shares her mindset on some of the struggles, and how it's levels to getting what you want in life. You have to go through the levels, and Dionna shares that insight on how to handle it.     Dionna Walker is From Dayton Ohio, she is the Founder of DIONNA HELPING HANDS, a non-profit that help low income families in my city with clothes, food, furniture and more! Dionna is also a mother 6 kids and married. She is the founder of BUSINESS MOM INC, a Business Management Firm for Mothers looking to start a business! Dionna has 3 published books and her most recent book is called THE MOMMY HUSTLE, a book that will inspire and uplift women and business women in all areas of life.   Website: https://www.businessmominc.com/ Dionna Helping Hands Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/DionnaHelpingHandsInc/ Links:  Sponsorship / Questions Email: hello@thecomfortkillers.com  Subscribe: www.stacyacross.com Join The Comfort Killers : www.thecomfortkillers.com Be My Guest: www.thecomfortkillers.com/podcast-guest Books Mentioned: The Comfort Killers Book : www.thecomfortkillerbook.com Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz: https://amzn.to/2MsrRpS --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross brings another incredible edition of Don't Get Weak Wednesday. You will not want to miss the full episode, where Stacy goes through the entire list of 13 Virtues.     Personal Growth.  Spiritual Growth. Entrepreneurial Growth. Grab your free book: http://www.thecomfortkillers.com/secrets Buy my new book: https://goo.gl/HAHVmy   Email: hello@thecomfortkillers.com Twitter: twitter.com/stacyacross Instagram: instagram.com/stacyacross Web: thecomfortkillers.com   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross talks about starting at your own pace when it comes to healthy personal development. You do not need to listen to people who tell you that you need to do cross fit, or some other exercise program. You just need to start, jump in for the sake of jumping in.   Personal Growth.  Spiritual Growth. Entrepreneurial Growth. Grab your free book: http://www.thecomfortkillers.com/secrets Buy my new book: https://goo.gl/HAHVmy   Email: hello@thecomfortkillers.com Twitter: twitter.com/stacyacross Instagram: instagram.com/stacyacross Web: thecomfortkillers.com   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

You need a game plan.   The month of June for me is about Health. This health, Wealth, and Happiness challenge came about from a friends of mines podcast, The Stacy A. Cross Show. She talks about health, wealth, and happiness in her shows, and really got me to thinking that I need to work on this myself.  So I’m challenging myself to make a change in June, to improve my health by eating better, exercising more, and growing in knowledge. Growing in knowledge, I’m doing fine with. Reading books, doing training daily. The eating healthy, and exercise part has been a bit more of a struggle. The first 3 days, I didn’t really eat healthy. I was getting away from junk food, and eating out, but I did both of those things. The big problem is that I did not have a game plan. I have no direction, no clear goals, and those are vital to making a change, and setting new habits. You need a game plan. Here is how you build a game plan. You first need an overall goal. You need to define very clearly, and precisely what you want to achieve. Then you need to break that overall goal, into weekly, and daily goals. This makes it more consumable. Every single day, you have a clear vision of your plan, you write down your goals for the day, your game plan, and work to accomplish it. The small victories will amount to big wins. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

How To Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Go After What You Want With Stacy A. Cross

Stacy talks with Delto Eli Alcantara about how his military experience has helped him in his civilian life.   Subscribe on: Website: www.stacyacross.com Itunes (Apple): https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/stacy-cross-show-motivation-self-improvement-entrepreneurship/id1281308515?mt=2 Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/stacy-cross/the-stacy-a-cross-show Google Play (Android): https://play.google.com/music/m/Iphveprcydjvhnxcebyb7efalsq?t=The_Stacy_A_Cross_Show__Motivation__Self_Improvement__Entrepreneurship ------ Main Content:  Delto Eli Alcantara is an U.S army veteran who founded Elite Credit Consultants, a credit repair and consultant agency (https://www.elitecreditllc.com). Elite Credit not only repairs your credit but builds financial freedom. Contact them today for a free consultation. Links:  Sponsorship / Questions Email: hello@thecomfortkillers.com  Subscribe: www.stacyacross.com Join The Comfort Killers : www.thecomfortkillers.com Be My Guest: www.thecomfortkillers.com/podcast Books Mentioned: Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks : https://amzn.to/2IMqHnd The Comfort Killers Book : www.thecomfortkillerbook.com< --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Are you taking care of yourself? My good friend Stacy A. Cross, talks about Health, Wealth, and Happiness in her podcast “The Stacy A. Cross Show.” And this inspired me to do something. I’ve been working on improving my health, but have struggled to really focus on that. I eat healthy for a few days, then fall back into the junk. I’m trying to exercise more, but not having healthy eating habits in a way reverses the work you do. It’ll keep you from really progressing. So I’m challenging myself over the next 3 months to focus on Health, Wealth, and Happiness. Starting in June, I’ll be focusing primarily on eating healthier, and exercising more. If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing every day. To build up that habit When you take care of your body physically, you in turn are taking care of yourself mentally as well. If you eat right, and exercise, you’re going to sleep better, you’re going to have more energy, and you’re going to feel better overall. My challenge to you, is to look at what you are eating, and how you feel daily, and realize there’s a correlation. If you’re body and mind are feeling drained, if you’re suffering from allergies even more than usual, it’s more than likely a result of your diet. Improve your physical health, which will help improve your mental health.   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross is back, and is on fire! Raw, no fluff, pure energy, is what she is now bringing. Bringing it on her terms, and no one else's. In today's episode of #DontGetWeakWednesday, Stacy talks about running your business, and life on your terms, and not being controlled by the outside world.     Personal Growth.  Spiritual Growth. Entrepreneurial Growth. Grab your free book: http://www.thecomfortkillers.com/secrets Buy my new book: https://goo.gl/HAHVmy   Email: hello@thecomfortkillers.com Twitter: twitter.com/stacyacross Instagram: instagram.com/stacyacross Web: thecomfortkillers.com   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

The Attitude of 'Stop Trying & Just Start Doing'   Stacy A. Cross talks about setting goals bigger, better, higher, pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Stop trying, and start doing.   Email: hello@thecomfortkillers.com Twitter: twitter.com/stacyacross Instagram: instagram.com/stacyacross Web: thecomfortkillers.com   Grant Cardone: Twitter: twitter.com/grantcardone Instagram: instagram.com/grantcardone Web: http://bit.ly/2reAQlM --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross from The Comfort Killers speaks with Grant Cardone on his book, Be Obsessed or Be Average. This is an incredible episode with the legend himself, Uncle G.   Full Podcast Episode: https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-gb4a4-900d4f Email: hello@thecomfortkillers.com Twitter: twitter.com/stacyacross Instagram: instagram.com/stacyacross Web: thecomfortkillers.com   Grant Cardone: Twitter: twitter.com/grantcardone Instagram: instagram.com/grantcardone Web: http://bit.ly/2reAQlM --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

From the 9-5, to full time entrepreneurship, Stacy A. Cross of the Comfort Killers talks about why you need self control and discipline. You have to respect, and honor your time to get things done. When you no longer have that comfortable paycheck rolling into your bank account every two weeks, you have to stay focused on your time, and working your revenue streams.    Get the book: http://www.TheComfortKillerBook.com on Amazon: https://goo.gl/HAHVmy Email: hello@thecomfortkillers.com Twitter: twitter.com/stacyacross Instagram: instagram.com/stacyacross Web: thecomfortkillers.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

On this week's episode of #DontGetWeekWednesday, Stacy A. Cross reads an excerpt from her new book "Your Journey To Success: How To Change Your Life Using Tools You Already have."   Get the book: http://www.TheComfortKillerBook.com on Amazon: https://goo.gl/HAHVmy Email: hello@thecomfortkillers.com Twitter: twitter.com/stacyacross Instagram: instagram.com/stacyacross Web: thecomfortkillers.com   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

I just got my copy of Stacy A. Cross’s book “The Comfort Killers – Your journey to success: How to change your life using tools you already have.” It’s about 91 pages of pure value. I cannot wait to really deep dive into this thing, but the book is not necessarily what I want to talk about today. What I want to talk to you about, is the importance of supporting those in your circle. The people in your circle should be supporting one another. Sharing content, engaging, collaborating, pushing one another, encouraging. There should be a trust built up, to where each person can call each other out on their BS when needed. If you don’t have that, find it! Seek out people who are on the same mindset, reach out to them, and start conversation. Find ways to bring value. So support those in your circle, every day!!   Get the Book: Thecomfortkillersbook.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

#DontGetWeakWednesday TRUST THE PROCESS I would have I could have I should have You need to trust the process! The world needs someone like YOU to solve it's problems. Be that someone!   FREE 30 Day Online Coaching : http://www.HowToGetUncomfortable.com Signed Copy The Comfort Killers Book: http://www.TheComfortKillersBook.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Read the First Step: Mindset HERE This is the 2nd part of this mini-series on some foundational elements for success. Today, it is about Self-Improvement. I will consume information that challenges me, and helps me grow. You have to invest your time, money, and energy, every single day to improve yourself. I take self-improvement seriously, and work on it every single day. Make time for this. The old excuses of “I don’t have time” are gone, and spent up. Make time. I see the investments in myself, as the greatest investments I can make. The investments in yourself, will always have the highest ROI (return on investment). Why? By improving yourself, your skills, your mindset, you start leveling up. Gaining access to new money, and new opportunities. I will never lose sight of my potential, and will see to it that It is constantly growing. As you’re improving, you have to push the ceiling up, and push the walls out. Always be pushing yourself further. That potential of yours will always, should always, be just slightly out of reach. So keep pushing! I do not worry about the opinions of other as I am improving myself. People will scoff, tell you to slow down, tell you that you work too hard, question your motives, you’ll have some haters along the way. While you are moving forward, just keep in mind that they are just standing still. Self-improvement can come in the form of books, new challenges, training programs, webinars, seminars, conferences, promotions, anything that pushes you to improve. You should be looking for those kinds of things every day. Do not sit back and wait for someone to bring along a book, or program, to help you improve. There are tons of materials out on the web, start searching. Here are some key to listen to. Grant Cardone, Gary Vaynerchuck, Hank Norman, Sales – Marketing – Branding. If you're scared to get out of your comfort zone, then I recommend Stacy A. Cross from The Comfort Killers. She will push you, motivation, you and get you out of that comfort zone of yours. There you go. No more excuses, start your journey on self-improvement. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross dropping some amazing information once again for #DontGetWeakWednesday!   The BE DO HAVE Approach to Changing Your Reality Building Blocks to Success 30 Day Program: http://www.HowToGetUncomfortable.com Register For The Power Talk: https://goo.gl/2SD75m Buy My Book: http://www.TheComfortKillerBook.com FREE T-shirt: https://academy.thecomfortkillers.com/tshirt --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

My good friend Stacy A. Cross from The Comfort Killers taught me a word for how I've approached my "9-5." It's a resource center. I've always approached it as a place where I learn, and skill up, but never had a name for it. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross, founder and CEO of The Comfort Killers, bring us the #DontGetWeakWednesday. It's time to change your mindset, and you have the control.   Full Podcast: https://stacyacross.podbean.com/e/push-buttons-like-henry-ford-unlearn-these-3-things-and-watch-the-magic-happens/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross is bring you the #DontGetWeakWednesday message, on what to do when people doubt you.     Full episode: Stacy A. Cross Show - What to do when people doubt you?   Music Credit: https://soundcloud.com/sappheirosmusic/embrace --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A Cross from, The Comfort Killers, shares a quick fire statement to keep you pushing forward on #DontGetWeakWednesday. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A. Cross, from The Comfort Killers, shares some thoughts from her new book "The Comfort Killers, YOUR JOURNEY TO SUCCESS: How To Change Your Life Using The Tools You Already Have," https://academy.thecomfortkillers.com/book/ When you start taking action, things start changing. It's not a quick fix, or a instant gratification thing. It takes work, it takes effort, and it takes actions! soundcloud.com/10xmillennial thecomfortkillers.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

You can change your position in life, By first changing your perception. I share a little bit about my good friend, Stacy A. Cross from TheComfortKillers.com, who shared a powerful story at the same time I was writing the mock up of this podcast. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Shivhon Adkins interviews Stacy A. Cross to introduce the first episode and discuss experiences working in a healthcare environment with medical receptionist and billing duties.   Have you ordered your Medical Receptionist Handbook yet? Now available on Amazon http://amzn.to/2EXsvbQ.   

I bring on Stacy A. Cross, from thecomfortkillers.com, to bring to us the #DontGetWeakWednesday briefing.   To hear the full podcast episode checking out this link, https://stacyacross.podbean.com/e/the-trick-to-money-is-having-some-part-2-rate-your-money-consciousness-today/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Stacy A Cross, thecomfortkillers.com, brings some fire to the show today! Wednesday is not the day to let up, let loose, and relax. It's the time to push harder, further, and keep going the course.     To hear Stacy's full podcast episode, check out https://www.podbean.com/site/EpisodeDownload/PB7E7FAAHY7ZJ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Why Are You In Business? : How The Top 20% Answer That Question   "Why Are You In Business?" There's guilt and shame around being politically, socially and spiritually correct. We tend to err on the side of comfort and acceptance when we are starting a business. We need to be crystal clear on why we are in business first so that you can enhance your offerings and provide better products to your customers. It begins with a simply question. Why are you in business? I used to answer round about... not really trying to offend anyone. That was the problem. It wasn't until I allowed myself to get uncomfortable and remained there that I learned the value of creating for results not for show!   www.thecomfortkillers.com hello@thecomfortkillers https://www.facebook.com/groups/thecomfortkillers/   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patienceandhustledaily/support

Whoa… Episode 100, can you believe that?  It seems like yesterday I sat down in front of my MacBook, plugged in a couple of microphones and “poof” I had a podcast. On that first day, I had no idea what the future would hold for me and the Cash Flow Guys brand.  Little did I know I would reach people from around the world and spread my message about getting out of the rat race. Many of you have expressed that one of the main reasons you listen to this podcast is because I am just a regular guy, who keeps it genuine and simple.  Even though this show has grown quite a bit since day one, I am still that same guy who was kinda terrified when I first pressed record and spoke into the microphone.  Over the last 100 episodes I have met many great people and learned quite a bit at the same time.  Part of the reason I decided to launch this podcast was because I needed to learn more myself..MUCH more, I needed to sharpen my sword and this experience has accomplished that and far more. Thank you to all who have carved 30 minutes or so out of their week for the last 100 weeks to listen to me get uncomfortable.  Speaking of getting uncomfortable.. In this episode, I interview Stacy A Cross CEO, Founder and Chief Ass Kicker at TheComfortKillers.com The “Comfort Killers” platform is for entrepreneurs and individuals who refuse to settle in life and business. Comfort Killers ARE: Highly motivated, goal driven, action-oriented individuals who believe that true happiness derives from constant self improvement and personal development, which is achieved by getting uncomfortable! Stacy was feature on Grant Cardone’s network because of her dedication to motivation and hard work.  Earlier this year, she interviewed me for her podcast, which you can listen to HERE. http://thecomfortkillers.com/2017/04/wont-teach-webinars-negotiation-investing-tyler-sheff/ Much of what I have learned comes directly from my observation of others by watching videos on YouTube, podcasts, in person meetings, and reading books. Believe it or not, I have learned MUCH MORE simply by “getting uncomfortable” and taking action. Below are a few Stacy quotes that warrant further discussion:   “Giving and receiving has the same energy: focus on income” Stacy got to the point in her business where she realized she could not continue to provide value unless she sought value from the marketplace at the same time.  Stacy provides TONS of value to her comfort killers members, she puts forth the energy to help you get out of your own way, for that I applaude her. Admittedly, (for me) this was a problem early on; I did not want to be grouped into the “guru” category.  Before I knew it, I was inundated with requests from people to teach them what I did to escape the rat race.  Although I was honored to be sought after to teach others, I was also overwhelmed by requests. I literally ran out of hours of the day and hit a crossroad:  I needed to either scale back and be ok with saying no and helping less people, or scale up and educate more people. I could not keep up the pace and continue to provide value without receiving value from the universe. I needed to hire a team to keep up with the requests for help and to help me produce quality content that truly helps people succeed and accomplish their dreams. If I was to continue, I needed to monetize what I am doing in order to continue to be able to bring value.  As an investor, we need to bring value, yet we also need to be okay with insisting on value in return. It’s great to help people, but if you go broke in the process, you can’t really help anyone can you?   “There is no other reason for being in business other than to count the money.” When I first read this, I most likely had the same reaction you did! Then, I let it sink in a little.  Ask yourself, “Why am I in business?” Is it just because you have nothing else to do? Are you just trying to be cool? Or are you actually wanting to make a profit and scale your business?  Stacy never loses site of the fact that for her to continue on her mission of helping others, she can’t replace them in the quicksand.  As a new investor, you should be cautious about jumping in the quicksand to save a seller in financial distress.  You deserve to make a profit and you can make a profit while still helping others.   What do you deserve? People are often afraid to ask what they feel they deserve; others really have no idea what they deserve. Investors must have a plan and know what their time is worth in order to ever become financially free. Without establishing a baseline, you will be working to no end. For example, Stacy does NOT believe in discounts of her product or service; instead she believes in value and stands firm in order to receive it. Pay attention to this, ladies and gentlemen! Stacy believes that a race to the bottom in regard to price leaves you at the bottom.  Don’t put yourself in a position to be a slave to your investments.  This is why it is so important for you to do ALL the math before pulling the trigger on a property, not just the math that “makes” the deal work. In a motivational video I saw on YouTube, Stacy gave a story about being in a plane and the oxygen mask falling down. Some passengers helped a child first, others did not. Stacy explains that in order for us to help or save anyone, we first help ourselves to be whole, be focused, be healthy, and be rich. If we cannot take care of ourselves, we will likely perish before being able to legitimately help anyone else. Some may call this ideology selfish, others brilliant… you decide. I pondered for many weeks on who I would have as my special guest for episode 100, it was a landmark event for me.  Frankly, sometimes I am shocked I made it thus far, but you, my loyal listeners kept me focused on this podcast when I sometimes ran out of steam.  I was unclear on what I wanted episode 100 to be about, or who I should have as a guest.  In the middle of recording this very episode it hit me, thus Stacy’s episode felt perfect to be featured as episode 100. Special thanks to Stacy A Cross (no “e” in Stacy) for taking time out of her busy day to join me for this very special episode.  I hope you enjoy this and ask you to rate and review the show on iTunes / Google Play or whatever other pod catcher you use to listen.

#96: Kicking Ass & Taking Names With Stacy A. Cross Jenn T Grace:              You are listening to the Personal Branding for the LGBTQ Professional Podcast, episode 96.   Introduction:              Welcome to the Personal Branding for the LGBTQ Professional Podcast; the podcast dedicated to helping LGBTQ professionals and business owners grow their business and careers through the power of leveraging their LGBTQ identities in their personal brand. You'll learn how to market your products and services both broadly, and within the LGBTQ community. You'll hear from incredible guests who are leveraging the power of their identity for good, as well as those who haven't yet started, and everyone in between. And now your host. She teaches straight people how to market to gay people, and gay people how to market themselves. Your professional lesbian, Jenn - with two N's - T Grace.   Jenn T Grace:              Hello and welcome to episode number 96 of the podcast. I am your host, Jenn T Grace, and as we near the end of October, as I promised I have another interview for you. Today's interview is with Stacy Cross, she is the founder of Comfort Killers, and this was probably one of the most high energy interviews that I have done in a very long time. So Stacy really got into a lot of mindset conversation, we talked a lot about personal branding, and how she has developed and created her personal brand over the last six months. You will walk away from this I believe inspired, but then also perhaps equally as exhausted because it was a really high energy conversation. So I really hope that you enjoy this. If you would like to see a transcript, or you would like links directly to anything that Stacy and I discussed, you can go to the blog at www.JennTGrace.com/96 for episode number 96. And if you would like to get in touch with Stacy or you have any n that you would like for me to hear, you can do so at pretty much Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn; all of those places I'm at Jenn T. Grace. Or if you'd like you can send me an email at Jenn@jenntgrace.com. Regardless of how you'd like to get in touch with me, please, please do. I’m happy to make an introduction to Stacy I'm happy to make, or if you just have general comments or feedback I always want to hear from you. It is never a wrong time to reach out so please, please do. And with that being said I'm going to cut the introduction short and get right into this conversation with Stacy.                                     So let's just start from the top, and let everyone know who you are, where you're located, what you do, and how you got to this place in time.   Stacy A Cross:             What, where, when, and how.   Jenn T Grace:              You name it, all of it.   Stacy A Cross:             Well thank you so much for having me on your podcast. I appreciate it greatly. I am Stacy A. Cross, and there is no E in my name, and I am currently living in Philadelphia, moved here roughly about three and a half years ago, been here since, ready to be nimble again and move on. I move with opportunity. I am the owner and founder of the company The Comfort Killers, and I know it sounds negative Jenn, but in this case two negatives does equal a positive. The comfort- to me being comfortable is such a negative word, and of course killers is a negative word. But the comfort killers is what we do, and we provide products, and solution, and content, and services to those seeking success through personal development, and I've been living it so the value is in my experience. And that's who I am, my mission is huge, my mission in life is to teach millions how to get uncomfortable, to think better, to live better, and to act better. And that's who I am in just a nutshell.   Jenn T Grace:              I love it. So how did you get to the place where you decided that you were going to go with Comfort Killers? All possible negativity aside, what was the impetus to say it's comfort that really is what's getting in people's way? What was your kind of revelation around that word specifically?   Stacy A Cross:             Definitely, because I believe that tradition and conventional wisdom led us to this comfortable life, right? We want to go to high school, get that great diploma, then take that diploma, go to college, get another diploma, then go off into the workforce, then of course get the picket fence with the home, get the kids, get the dog, get the car, and go to a couple baby showers in between, and be happy with a few vacations. That's a comfortable life. I wasn't even at that comfort level, but the revelation, the 'aha' moment in my life was realizing that I want so much more, but I don't know how to attain it because going through this comfortable path, I've been just getting this same type of result, these same outcomes. So what is it going to take? So I look for inspiration and motivation outside of me at one time, this external. So I was going to a seminar and on Valentine's Day in 2016 I went to one seminar, pumped everyone else up, and for me I just wasn't getting pumped up. I wasn't feeling it. And I was like, 'But I'm a motivated person already.' And then I realized you know what? I'm going to walk out of this seminar. I'm going to take a step back and walk out and I'm not going to feel guilty about it. I remember the day clearly because I did feel guilty about it, but I said, 'What can I do differently that I haven't been doing,' and that was one answer was get uncomfortable. Do what people won't do. Do the dirt, and that's what I've done, and I've built a company. So upon coming home from the seminar that day, I wrote so many articles, I created the company in one day. I started writing a Comfort Killers handbook which I finished in 24 hours, and then things just started happening, result-based things. And I realized, 'Wow doing the opposite of comfort really allowed me to grow in my space,' and I think more people should apply their lives to living an uncomfortable lifestyle.   Jenn T Grace:              Wow, I feel like you are saying so much with the time already, so we've been recording for like four minutes at this point. I feel like people can immediately get a sense of your energy level which is through the roof, and you're really motivated, and you're out to like kick ass and take names. Where do you see the direction and your ability to kind of be branding yourself with this? Because Comfort Killers is a really kind of perhaps polarizing type of statement for people who are stuck in their comfort zones. How are you finding other people who really just need maybe that kick in the ass to kind of get them going, or really have you be their personal motivator? Where are you finding those people? Are they reluctant to hear the phrase of 'Comfort Killer'? Do you find that you have to explain what comfort killing is? I know that's a lot of questions in one shot, but hit me.   Stacy A Cross:             I understand where you're going with this, and yes, in the beginning it was like, 'Okay well how am I going to explain this?' It's easy to naturally just say The Comfort Killers, I am Stacy Cross, and there is no 'E' in my name, but then there's got to be some explaining. Okay what is it that I really do? I want to motivate people, I want to teach people how to get uncomfortable. It's been a blessing so far where people are naturally drawn to this idea of change. They want to change, they're in a place that I could easily explain to them that I was in the same place, so it comes from my story, and what my story relates to is a sense of addiction. I was a gambler, I didn't even know it. Right? So I had to overcome that but thought I didn't want to go to an AA meeting, right? So- and I came from a place of procrastination. I've started and stopped so much times that it became known that if Stacy says something it's probably not going to be done. It takes a while to reverse that aspect. So when people arrive at my domain, when people arrive at my face, when people come to me or essentially I go to them, I have this big humongous story, this personal story that I've written that I believe is so relatable to any facet of anyone's life that's willing to change. But here's the deal, change doesn't come easily, right? The seeds have to be planted. So I only work with people that have planted these seeds and that are willing to take the next steps, because the next course of action definitely is an accountability action; you have to want it, you have to go for it. So how do I purposely drive myself to these people? I put it in my articles, my website, all that jazz. Or really when you're talking to me face-to-face, I don't give you back pats. I'm not in the game to make you feel good. Tony Robbins even turned me down from going to Business Mastery. He said I needed more credit. I understand it, here's the deal, I am not here to say everything that everyone already said, it's been said. If you could motivate yourself from that, that's fine, but the reason you came to me is because none of it worked.   Jenn T Grace:              I love all of that, and so I feel like it takes a really strong personality to be able to say, "Listen this is where I'm sharing my story, and it's not all roses. I was known for not actually following through with whatever it is." How are you leveraging that aspect in terms of maybe relating with the people that you're working with to say, "Listen you're coming from the same place that I came from, and now I'm going to be able to navigate you through this because I personally went through it." Because I think a lot of coaches out there, and strategists, and people who are counseling, and motivating; they don't have that real credible story behind them.   Stacy A Cross:             Right and I think it also goes with the niche. The people that I'm focused on are the people that- my story, right? So I say, okay if I had some addiction problem, I could probably help people overcome addiction let's say without taking more pills, without doing this, without going to AA meetings. I'm not giving health advice, I'm not trying to say, "Do this instead of doing this," I don't know their level of problems, but my goal is to leverage the motivation and the power within. I want to spark something inside that's already been there, but people- it's so filtered, the veil is over their face, they can't see. So when they come to me what I say is just the value is in my experience. And that hurt me for a while because you know I have friends that I've grown up with and I'm trying to tell them something, and I know that if Tony Robbins or Zig Zig or Jim Rohn, they tell them that same thing, they jump up. But since they know me, and since I'm their friend, they don't have that same type of action. And what I've done with that is just cut them off. So I'm known to cut people off, right if they're not on my same path. But in business when someone comes to me and they're not ready, I kind of cut them off. But here's the deal, I give them so much content, Jenn. I give so much free content through all my channels, and online, and I actually have my open calendar where people could click it and then call me for thirty minutes of call. So I'm willing to listen, I'm willing to see if the seeds are planted, and that's what's different than anyone else, where you could go to anyone else and they don't have that type of story. They're only really listening to your call and asking you for money at the end of it.   Jenn T Grace:              So how are you building your personal brand? Because like I said you already have such a distinctive personality, and a very motivating personality, you have a very kind of strong drawing the line in the sand way in which you communicate, which is 'I'm not pussyfooting around, I'm not going to deal with your bullshit. You're hiring me to help fix what hasn't worked for you.' And I know that you're saying that you're putting out a lot of content, so from a personal branding side of things, how has that process worked for you, and were you always kind of the- to some degree I guess in your face like no bullshit type of person? Or have you had to evolve that as you've been evolving kind of your personal brand?   Stacy A Cross:             The latter, I had to evolve that because I realized that time is limited, and I have to get a short sweet concise story. So what do I do to build my personal brand? In each of the avenues where you contact me in Twitter, in whatever the case may be, wherever you know about Stacy A. Cross, it's always Stacy A. Cross but there's no 'E' in my name. It's always that story that's driven behind it. So my idea is continue sharing the story but change the people, don't change the story. So it's cementing that story and confronting the realities of my story, which was the biggest part for me. Do I want to tell people I was addicted to gambling? Probably not, but it helps and it's a major part of my quest and my story. So with defining who I am, the brand Stacy A. Cross, and evolving into that, and it has taken awhile and it's shaped itself, and now I could say, 'Okay I'm ready to move to the next step as this brand, Stacy A. Cross.' Versus just as a company and the person behind the brand.   Jenn T Grace:              So now when you think about the long term- so you are Stacy A. Cross, with no 'E,' in addition to the found of Comfort Killers. Are you thinking long-term that it's important to you from a personal branding standpoint to really be focusing on building your name as a thought leader, as a content creator, as a content curator, and where does that leave Comfort Killers kind of in the wake of how quickly you're kind of moving through things right now?   Stacy A Cross:             That's a great question because sometimes I have to take a minute to strategize again, right? Because I want both to move simultaneously in the same direction, because without me there is no Comfort Killer. So how do I interject both the personal brand as well as that main scope of the company? And I believe that that's been the struggle, right? So I strategize probably once or twice a day if what I'm doing will outlive the Comfort Killers or will it move together symbiotically? And what I've found out is the easiest way for me to attack that is to keep tying in the value which is the experience within the company. So all my products, they range from me, they stem from me. I wish I had www.StacyACross.com and thought of that the minute I walked out of the seminar but I don't. I have The Comfort Killers because I had to get uncomfortable. So that- The Comfort Killers is Stacy essentially, and what I'm trying to do is move both together in alignment.   Jenn T Grace:              Interesting. Yeah I feel like there's all kinds of challenges- benefits and challenges that kind of come with all of what you're saying.   Stacy A Cross:             Yeah.   Jenn T Grace:              So as a just kind of side note, when I first was setting out to really actually define my personal brand, kind of put the stake in the ground of this is what I stand for, I was already doing what I was doing for years and years, and then finally I was like, well I just need to like really morph this into focusing on me as that personal brand and as that central point, regardless of what company, or contract, or wherever I'm working, and who I'm working for, or who's working with me, et cetera. When I decided that I was going to go for my name, the domain www.JennGrace.com just didn't exist which is why I ended up doing www.JennTGrace.com. It was not because I have any love for putting the T in, it was literally that the URL was not available.   Stacy A Cross:             Someone got uncomfortable before you did with www.JennGrace.com, they took it.   Jenn T Grace:              Yeah which is a bunch of bull. But so when you were looking for yours, was it because Stacy A. Cross didn't exist, or Stacy Cross, or some variation didn't exist that you just decided, 'I'm going to go with Comfort Killers.' Or was there some other factor that was involved in that decision?   Stacy A Cross:             And you know that's a good question. I did try to obtain Stacy Cross because that's my name, and of course that was gone to a photographer, which she's amazing, she does great work. And then but I always say she got uncomfortable before I did, and by the time I came around and got uncomfortable and said, 'You know what? I've got to build me up now,' Stacy A. Cross was available and I do own that domain. But here's the thing with The Comfort Killers, I always was kind of like I want this movement to take shape, but I want to be the leader of it, and I want to lead leaders, and I want to create more leaders. I don't need any followers. And so The Comfort Killers is such a tagline that will punch you in the face that says, 'Okay I want to be a comfort killer, how can I be down?' But now just transitioning into the Stacy A. Cross because people like my page more than they like The Comfort Killers' page, they identify with the person more than they identify with an entity. So now it's my calling to say how do I either tie the two in front, or just keep going with the tagline, but me being the first stop? And I understand that pivotal point that's going to come where it says Stacy A. Cross is bigger than The Comfort Killers.   Jenn T Grace:              Absolutely, that's kind of why I was asking thinking because you have a magnetic personality that people are going to be drawn to that, and it doesn't require explanation when someone’s introducing you, or you're being referred to somebody, or somehow there's a third party conversation happening about you. There's no explanation, it's just Stacy A. Cross, and then whatever number of descriptors might be included, versus Comfort Killers which does require a little explanation, but to the same point I still think that the name is really strong and I know when we were being introduced to each other I was like, 'What the hell is going on?' Like I have not met somebody that is so blunt, so kind of in your face, but in a down to earth type of way. Because I feel like there's a lot of people out there who are kind of screaming from the stage, and they're blunt, and this, that and the other, but yet they're not relatable, and I feel like you have a good way of blending both of those balances.   Stacy A Cross:             Thank you, thank you very much.   Jenn T Grace:              So thinking about personal branding, and somebody who might be listening to this, and we're talking about your brand is Stacy A. Cross, mine's Jenn T. Grace, like there's obviously the commonality there in and of itself. What would you say is like the number one- maybe the first step that somebody might be thinking like, 'Okay I have a business right now, I'm known for being the founder of this business, or the CEO of this business, but I really need to start making that pivotal change into really focusing on me as a personal brand.' In your experience, what would you say is that first kind of- maybe even just a baby step that people need to take to start figuring out what that might look like?   Stacy A Cross:             That's a great question. What I've done, and just to even get me to this point, is open conversation more about yourself, and kind of key in your actual things that tie your story together. And there could be four or five things because every one is important, and I think really over the three or four things, you have to know that you're important, that you have something to say. And the confidence that comes with that when you are the authority in your domain, in your space, then you are confident to project your story. So the first things that I've done is start opening my opinion about things. And not in a mean way, or not in anything, I just stood firm with who I was, and opened my opinion. So I just really opened the channels and started being me 100% of the time. What I've done to identify or what someone could do to identify their personal brand and to kind of have that stake in the ground that says, 'Okay this is me,' the first thing to do is get your domain- I mean tangible things, is get a domain name and come across as an authority in whatever field, or whatever industry, or whatever niche that you are a part of. Right? So what I've done is started talking about things that haven't been working in this personal development space, in self-improvement space, and I was very serious about it. I wasn't there to converse, I was there to tell and to show who I was through my arguments, or through my opinions, and that's really all it took. Now I'm the industry leader in that space of if you're talking about uncomfortable, if you're talking about discomfort, if you're talking about growth, you have Stacy A. Cross and her name, she'll know what to talk about.   Jenn T Grace:              What was your process for really just identifying like, 'this is my niche'? Like how did you really- like I know that we talked about how you came up with Comfort Killers and how you defined that, but like to come to the place to recognize like, 'this is my niche, this is my calling,' I feel like it's a process for a lot of people and there's an evolution for how to kind of come to terms with like, 'okay this is what I stand for.' Did you have any exercise that you went through? Did you have a coach who navigated you? Or did it just kind of- I don't know, hit you one day of, 'this is it.'   Stacy A Cross:             I think I am the outlier, okay? I used to be a rapper and so I was always good with words, and I never found out until now that I was this good with words. And I kind of put my path, and I looked into my path and what leading up to this, and I kind of noted some very pivotal times in my growing up, in my formative years, where people would say certain things and I never thought of it of nothing. But here's the deal, I didn't get a coach, I just believed in myself, and I know it's cliché but I did, and I said, 'You know what? I don't care. I really don't. I don't care who likes me, I don't care who loves me-' I do care who loves me but I don't care what anyone has to say about who this person is. So the process of me building that confidence up was really being serious in my art and my craft and who I was, and understanding that the level of criticism that you're going to get in any area is going to come because first they criticize you, and then they admire you. And I live to that, and I said, 'You know what? I'm willing to get criticized. I'm willing to put it all out on the line for who I am and what's discussed and anything I say.' So what I did, I had to step away from being an amateur, and I had to step away from being a guest here. No, I'm supposed to be here, and it was really a mindset change more than anything because we all have the words inside of us, we could really start talking right now, but it's that mindset switch to let you know that you are the authority, and not an amateur, and not a novice. Even if you're doing novice things at the same time. Because I came out of the struggle, I came out of the dirt, I believe that that's the time that we need to grow because we have the most to say at that time. But really when I stepped out as Stacy A. Cross, not just Stacy Cross, but Stacy A. Cross, I stepped out with authority because I believed I had authority to be here, because I believed that I'm important, and I just walked out. No coach, no navigation, but I did read a lot of books. I did have some mentors that they don't even know me, right? Because I feel like personal development is key because you need to take heed to the clues that was already left. So how does this speaker- let's say, I love The Rock, right? How come he jumps on live, or Facebook live, or any Twitter channel. What's his brand? The Rock, right? How come he has that authority when he speaks? What was the first authority? I started going back, I watched Oprah's first video. I watched Gary V's first video. These guys didn't have anyone cheering them on when their first thing- they were probably scared as hell but they knew they needed to do it, and they knew they needed to be there. So I watched people, I started minding the clues, and believing in myself, and coming out with authority when I spoke about any subject, not just personal growth.   Jenn T Grace:              Everything that you just- the way in which you said it, and what you just said is exactly like blowing up the idea of comfort. Literally everything that just came out of your mouth. So you're obviously very much on brand with what you're talking about. So what were the most pivotal books that you read, if you want to give me two, that really helped you kind of define and further refine your personal brand? Like what were the top two that you can think of.   Stacy A Cross:             Okay the first one would be Jack Canfield's 'The Success Principles because that one straight up had- because there's so many examples given in that book of being comfortable, and I was like, 'Oh my God that was me. That was me. Oh wow, okay people know about you.' And so the Jack Canfield's 'The Success Principles' I always talk about. Love the idea of the inner guidance system which I renamed- because I could do that, the Biological GPS. So I love that, and I love understanding more of it, so I go back to that book multiple times. And the second is 'The Master Key System.' And that has been- it's free on my website, The Comfort Killers, you could just type up. The only book you will ever need because I believe really that's it, and that taught me about the inner world, right? And that the within world defines the world without, and it taught me about the universal principles, and how things need to just work, and things are going to be working without you or not, you could just slide right in there and be a part of the universal laws. And I love that because it's more on the spiritual side and then Jack Canfield was more the hard cold truth about yeah, you bought the dog- you bought the dog, now you complain about the dog. So it's more that tangible practical 3D life. And then of course the Master Key to Success- the Master Key System was more that whole broad spiritual aspect of it, and that balance, and that love, you know? So those are my top two.   Jenn T Grace:              I love that you brought up both of those because I have had guests separately both mention- and it's driving me crazy actually trying to figure out who also recommended 'The Master Key System,' it's going to make me insane until I think of it, but I will. But I like the balance because you're talking in one direction of like tactics and the cold hard truth facts, and then on the other side you're talking about kind of the universe and how- and I have a quote on my wall that says, 'The universe conspires in your favor,' because it absolutely does. And so what degree do you think in your day-to-day that you're applying both kind of sides of this? Kind of the hard fact versus the softer spiritual. Are you- is there a balance daily? Does it kind of fluctuate? Does it depend on your mood? What does that look like for you?   Stacy A Cross:             Well you know in Delaware- I used to live in Delaware and the question will get answered. But I was living in Delaware and I was a heavy meditator, I was meditating, I was trying to do things to help me understand who I was, my higher self, and I was in it. I was in it all the way. And one day I think I meditated a little bit too much because I think I connected to the source, right? The motherland ship. I was there. So it scared the shit out of me. Goosebumps even to this day when I tell that story, and I only tell it in bits and pieces because I believe that that's the best way it can be shared. Just like Twitter. So here's the deal, I'm sitting in there thinking I'm meditating, kind of dozing off but I'm really not, I just went into a deep state of awareness and I couldn't open my eyes, and it was this whole big thing, and my ear was beeping, and it was these tones, and I couldn't- and I said, 'Get me out of here because I'm not ready,' and of course I did, I got out. But after that what happened in Delaware, was I looked up the word Delaware, and I realized there are two words, del and aware. Del of- and then aware. Of awareness. I got my peak state of awareness in Delaware. I will never shun that as a part of my growth because it made me so aware. Everything was beautiful at that point. I could look out and see a leaf, and the leaf would smile, and I was just so far gone. People were like, 'You are now gone,' and I was like, 'But no I'm really ready to start a business. I need to come back.' So what I do now is to keep both sides- because I'm very spiritual, so I muscle tense probably every day. In the shower, out the shower, upon waking, and I say thank you. And it's these little bit size piece of gratitude, bite size piece of awareness, bit size piece of consciousness, and appreciation of who I am and my higher self. And then you get the majority of the beast, right? Because all I have to do is that, give that bite size awareness, bit size love, and I'm already in motion. And then my rest of my day is this whole beautiful thing called business. But throughout the day it's all bite sized consciousness.   Jenn T Grace:              So number one, I feel like there are probably people who routinely meditate and practice mindfulness, and don't ever find that Holy Grail that you found. What would you say to the novice person who is listening to this, and not to say that the universe and kind of spirituality hasn't come up in the podcast before, but it's certainly not like a dominant theme in the podcast. So what would you say to somebody who's listening to this and they're thinking, 'This sounds interesting but I don't necessarily know where to start or what to do,' or they're absolutely petrified based on what you just said. So like what would you say?   Stacy A Cross:             Here's the deal- I was, but there's a sense of calm and love and unconditional love with you in everything, and connectivity knowing that you are everyone. There's a sense of that and I would never give that up. But if you're a novice just like I was, we all once were babies and we needed to crawl, so the deal is what I've done is I just jumped on YouTube- I jumped on YouTube and did guided meditations because I didn't really like that binaural sound coming in, it was too much too fast. So what I did was I just did a morning meditation which was ten minutes, and I started being more interested in it, and I started doing a guided meditation. I think if we force things it doesn't come. Like on that day where I didn't want to just go into a deep meditation, it just happened. It was at that perfect time. And I think everyone has that perfect time, but you have to plant the seeds now because you can't get to that point of awareness (Delaware) sitting in the couch petrified. You can't get to that one but you have to start somewhere. Open up YouTube, learn about your chakras. Learn about what the universe is trying to tell you because I think your personal story comes from your insight, comes from spiritual awareness. Because you have to be aware of who you are, and I think spirituality and going into that deep mindfulness of having those thoughts. You know how hard it is to not think, and that's what I was trying to overcome. I was like, 'You know what? I'm going to do it because I want to just master this thing.' And it was a game to me, and the universe loves playing games with you. So just be prepared to plant seeds now, take it one day at a time. It doesn't have to be three hours like my crazy ass was doing, but it could be five minutes of just total gratitude and just saying thanks, and just saying, 'I am aware, and I am here,' and start with some affirmations and make them real.   Jenn T Grace:              I love all of that. And so I am part of a Mastermind group, and I have a couple of them that I'm actually part of. Some are far more hardcore like the Jack Canfield, like we were saying just very much like hard fact. And then the one that I'm most active in now, there's ten of us, and it's very spiritually centric, and I had a really hard time acclimating to being in this room with these women. There's only one other woman out of the ten of us who was also on like the outside kind of looking in. And not to say that I have not been spiritual, because I have always been a very kind of inner reflective, very deep, very conscious of everything around me, but I would never have thought of it as being like spiritual. Although now of course, it makes far more sense. I'm just very nature centric I guess is the best way of phrasing it. And I go outside and I run almost every day, and I've been training for a marathon which my podcast listeners are all aware of because it's been such a struggle, but I find that I can find that clarity when I'm just outside running, and I'm kind of ignoring everything around me. I recently found a- actually I was introduced to a gentleman named Casey Carter, and his website I believe is called This Epic Life and he has a thirty day meditation- it's not called meditation for dummies, but that's basically how I'm interpreting it. Of here's just this meditation for the lay person, and I just recently started going through it just to like see, and see if I could calm my mind, and it is really, really hard. And I'm only on- I don't know, I might be like day six, and yet I can find that I can calm my mind when I'm moving, but there's something about stillness that I think is what scares the shit out of most people. I think it's the stillness that scares people, and I'm just still trying to figure out how to do it, it's not that it scares me at this point because I'm perfectly fine being alone with my thoughts, which I think a lot of people have a hard time just being alone with their thoughts. I think that's another one of the big things, but I feel like there's so much benefit to business as it relates to all this. So my question to you would be what do you think the biggest benefit that you gained as a result of just being more mindful, and kind of in tune with yourself and your surroundings?   Stacy A Cross:             I believe it's the decision making because I think that the right things always come to me, right? It's for me, it's understanding who I am to a level where if I know my decision making- that was a piece for me that was hard, right? I was always looking to someone else to decide something for me without knowing what I want. But it was just a struggle for me growing up, right? So I think now at the level where I am, knowing that everything for me is for me, and it wouldn't even come to my plate if it's not for me, but understanding what my needs are. Okay? The needs of the business, and being able to decide based on those needs, not this reactional traditional conventional way to decide things. But I mean I'm talking as little as should I have coffee, or should I have tea? Because I had a headache for the past two days, and I know you wanted more business minded, but this is how on a micro scale that I think of things now. I had a headache for the past two days in the morning, I drank coffee, now my body is telling me it doesn't like it, something is going on. Should I drink tea for a week just to test that out? Yes. And those level- and it goes from the micro just of doing those kinds of decision making all the way to should I invest in this- should I invest in this marketing strategy, this person, this coach for business because this A, B and C was the outcome, now my business mind is telling me that something either needs to be changed, what should it be? And it's because of this mindfulness knowing that I'm taking in key factors from who I am, and how I feel, that biological GPS that allows me to make better decisions- business decisions, personal decisions, life decisions much quicker than I used to make crazy 'rational' decisions.   Jenn T Grace:              So how do you think people go from whatever their status quo is in their comfort zone to understanding that you can rely on your gut or your intuition to guide you to a better, more rational decision, even though to some degree in people's minds that might be like a counterintuitive thought.   Stacy A Cross:             Yeah you know what, I always say listen- that's why I said 'rational' because I like irrational. I'm illogical, I shouldn't be here right now, Jenn. Okay? I started this business six months ago and I'm on Grant Cardone TV, they reached out to me, there's so much things happening. If was rational all I would say was, 'Okay I just want to start a business and that's all I'll still be doing.' But irrational thinking, and understanding that it takes some work- it definitely takes some work. Time is of the essence, time is our friend, and the reason why people don't get things done, or they say they don't have no time is because they don't know math, right? Because time is of the essence, truth. So I know I went a little off topic. You're going to have to guide me back because I totally forgot the question.   Jenn T Grace:              You know, I went off the rails with you and I don't remember what the question was.   Stacy A Cross:             I love it! That's what the universe does for us, because whatever it was, that's what needed to be said and we don't have to force anything. And I love that, and I love that this came up because whatever needs to happen always happens, and I believe this to be true.   Jenn T Grace:              I feel that way about people that I come across, introductions that I make, and I feel like I have had a road led with adversity in many, many, many ways, and LGBT is not even one of those factors of kind of the chaos of my past. And I feel like the only thing that gets you to the other side of that chaos is just saying to yourself, 'This is happening for a reason. I don't necessarily need to know what that reason is that this moment, but there is a reason why this is occurring to me right now.' And that I think to some degree can get you through a lot of personal hurdles, but I also think for business because there's a lot to be said about shifting, and adapting, and going in the direction that naturally feels like the best direction for you to go in, even if for all intents and purposes like on the surface, it does not make any sense to the outside.   Stacy A Cross:             Right, I agree. I agree with that 100%. When I first started business'ing I was like- okay I was getting tons of information, and how do I scan that information quickly and make a decision? Or how do I start a business- like how do I do this thing? Friends were saying, 'Do this, it's the marketing. It's this, you've got to get funnels, you've got to click them, you've got to do this,' and I was getting bombarded and it didn't feel right. And it wasn't until I just kind of looked outside and just allowed myself to identify where the needs were in business was when I really started moving, and aligning, and getting results. That's the biggest piece. But I do go through life wondering, asking, 'Okay I know that this is here for a purpose, don't know what the purpose is, but I'm ready for the lesson.' And that's really- and that's really it, and it guides me, and I trust myself. And I mean I think we should trust ourselves a little bit more in business too. Like make a mistake, it's okay. Like I think I did a tweet the other day, the entire sentence was fucked up- the grammar was bad. It's okay. Like it's okay to have a typo. I wrote a book in 24 hours, my eBook in 24 hours- which we don't count, right? I wrote it in 24 hours and there were so many typos in it. I didn't care, I did it and it felt right, and it felt good. And I think sometimes we just have to go, and when we feel that fear and everything inside of us telling us, 'Don't do it, don't go for it,' and that happens in a lot of conventional wisdom and tradition. That's why more people, they don't start businesses because it's so hard to think about it that they don't even actually do it. So my thing is just go for it, feel it, go for it, if it's right, do it.   Jenn T Grace:              And I think that the second piece of that is making it attainable. So if you have some crazy goal, or new business that you're about to start, or kind of a new evolution of your existing business, it's a matter of breaking it down into some kind of tangible baby steps that make it feel less overwhelming so you don't get caught in that frozen place of being paralyzed because you don't know the next step to take, because everything just seems so overwhelming and so daunting.   Stacy A Cross:             It does get that way. And my goal is big, I have big goals, scary goals, unattainable goals, I can't get to them and they scare me, they're monsters. It's on my shoulder, I wake up, I can't even breathe, it's holding me down, these goals are scary. I love big goals because I'd rather fail at a big goal than fail at a tiny puny ass goal, and not even change. Right? So my goal- I'm looking at the book and when you said marathon, I was like, 'Oh shit she just reminded me I've got to go too to run a marathon, and I just ran this morning.' And I'm doing it, and I've got to train for a whole year, and it's crazy, right? And I feel your pain, Jenn. But you already are a runner, I'm coming from just like- I don't even put the ink line up on the damn [Inaudible 00:41:53].   Jenn T Grace:              But guess what? If we go back- and my loyal listeners of this podcast I think have a good sense of the evolution, but if we go back to 2012 and 2013 when I just had- it was like a personal crisis I would call it. Like just a crisis of like what am I doing with my life? And I said, 'Screw this. Ef this, I am not taking anyone's shit anymore, and this is the new me.' And I started when I was running, and I couldn't run for like five seconds without wanting to die. Like it truly was that bad, I could not run for five seconds without feeling like death was setting in. And not to say that that doesn't happen now because it still does, but I think it's the process and the journey. So there's the whole cliché of like enjoy the journey, not the destination, or it's all about the journey and this, that and the other. And to a large degree that is totally the case because I look- my goal was first to be able to run a 5K which is 3.1 miles, and once I was able to do that which took me a while to get to, I was like, 'Alright now I'll do the 10K, and now I'll do the half marathon, and now I'm doing a marathon.' But it requires every single day to be doing something to further you toward that goal that people do not see. So every single day my ass is outside running whether it's inclement weather or not. So yesterday it was freezing, the day before it was raining, like there's always something, it's never just like nice weather, and you have to be out there every day. Nobody knows you're doing it, it's only you who knows that you're doing it because you have the end goal of- like for me the marathon is in January. This weekend I have to run seventeen miles which I have been dreading for the last two weeks. But it is what it is, I have no choice. And in January, on January 8th when I can post my accomplishment of like I finally did it, I ran this 26.2 mile race that I literally couldn't run more than five seconds without wanting to die a couple years ago, that is like the- finally the pinnacle of accomplishment because now people can see that that has happened. But they do not see the two or three years of training daily in the making that actually led to that. So if we apply that to a business lens, it's those day-to-day consistent actions that people are taking that they're not getting credit for, no one's seeing, no one's congratulating them on, that actually gets them to that place of having a successful business. But it takes forever to actually get to, so people have to be patient to some degree to recognize that it isn't an overnight success, and there is no such thing as an overnight success because every single person you ask who has had 'overnight success' will tell you that it took them ten years to get to.   Stacy A Cross:             Love that. I love it because yes, it's the dirt. Yes it's the work that no one shows on their Snapchat or on their videos or their documentary films about entrepreneurs. It is the work that comes in between. But here's the deal, just as you were saying that and I'm reading this book 'The Marathon' by Hal Higdon. 88 marathons, some crazy numbers, and he says more people- he took a survey. More people appreciate and respect the training versus the one day of accomplishment because the deal is- and that's the process, and that's what I'm trying to give out, the values and my experience. It's in this day-to-day action. We're going to get the value from what we're doing and what we're talking about even right now because ten years from now, this day, I'll be like, 'Holy shit, I did all of that that one day?' I already had three calls, Jenn, and I know you did too. Three calls. I went out this morning to run. I already read a piece of a book that I'm reading right now, 'Story Selling,' by Nick Nanton and J. W. Dicks. I've already written an article ready to go. I've already- you see it's all of these things but it's tomorrow, it starts it over with a reset button that you press.   Jenn T Grace:              Absolutely, and I think that that is what- it's like every day is truly a marathon of the amount of things that you have to get done, and there are people that don't want to put in that amount of legwork, and that's okay. So not everyone has to own a business, not everyone needs to be developing and growing their personal brand, and that's just a life decision that some people just aren't meant for it, and others are. And no matter where you fall on that spectrum- so if someone is listening to this and they're like, 'Oh hell no, I don't want to have to have made three phone calls, recorded two podcasts, meditated, gone for a run, had lunch with somebody all before like 1:00 in the afternoon,' then that's fine. There's no judgment in that and I think that that's probably the most important word here, is that there's no judgment in any person's decisions to go in any direction that they choose.   Stacy A Cross:             And I love that, but I'm going to just add the caveat. That same person that doesn't want to do that better not complain about their situation later on down the line.   Jenn T Grace:              Agreed. Totally agree, could not agree more with that.   Stacy A Cross:             Don't complain about not having, or not being able to get this, or the world's against you, or not having- I'm not saying your listeners, your listeners are probably wonderful, I believe they are, and they're loyal listeners. I'm talking about the- that's that polarized thing that I don't get, and that's what I give no back pass for, is saying that you have zero time because you have to take the kids to school, you have to walk the dog, and you don't want to do this stuff, but you're watching eighteen hours of the Walking Dead the entire weekend. Don't complain on Monday, don't complain on Monday that you don't have any time. That is all I'm saying.   Jenn T Grace:              I could not agree more, and I will comment on a good example of this, is that this past weekend- so I'm on a very strict training plan to get this marathon done, like there is no room for error at this given juncture in time. And there are plenty of times in the past where it's like, 'Yeah if I move this run it's not a big deal, I can switch this around.' Like right now there's literally no margin of error available. So this past weekend I was only supposed to do four miles which is very kind of simple at this point compared to what I have to be doing of like the seventeen on Saturday. But I checked in with my running buddy and said, "Hey how did your four miles go?" Because on Saturday morning my ass was up and out of my house by 7:30. Mind you I do have a wife, and we do have two children, both of which are very challenging due to mental health related issues, and I'm also running a business, I have something that I'm starting up, I have a ton of shit going on, and I was still able to get the four miles in, I just got up early, went out, did it, came back, and I felt amazing. I checked in with my running partner later that night and she had like fifteen excuses for why she wasn't able to get out and do it. And I'm like, 'Okay one major difference is that I have children and you don't.' That in and of itself makes it somewhat miraculous to get out of the house on a weekend morning without having like some kind of trouble. So I feel like- and there's not judgment to be had in that, but when you're not prepared for whatever it is that is coming. So whether we're talking about something like a physical marathon, or whether we're talking about the success of your business, or whether or not you win an award, or don't win an award, or get some kind of accolade that you've been waiting or; it's those very small decisions on a day-to-day basis that to me are the ones that have the most impact. So if you're making excuses for whatever reason, the excuses are going to be the reasons why you didn't get it done, because you're only making the excuse to yourself because no one else really cares generally speaking around you what your reason for not doing something is, they just see that you didn't do it and they don't really care why. It's you that you're fooling in the grand scheme of things.   Stacy A Cross:             If you want so much as one excuse and think about it, you've got a million, and they're plentiful. So yeah, I agree with that whole concept and I've trained- you don't even know what it's like to live in the house with me because it's brutal in the morning. I'm loud, I want everyone up, we're up and Adam, and you know what? It's changed everyone here, and I like to say that I was influential in that, and what business mind, and our decisions are better now, you know? So yeah, I love that, I appreciate that, and that's what I'm trying to bring value to. It's days like this, it's the training dates that you're doing, it's me going out for a marathon- I don't want to publicly say it because if I publicly say it- I'm going to say it right now.   Jenn T Grace:              Say it.   Stacy A Cross:             If I publicly say I'm going to run a marathon in a year from today- don't send this thing to my email in a year, don't do it. No but I will because I have the book, and I've been running, I've been training for it, but I am like where you were 2012, but that's something that I want to do on a personal achievement level but I know that it's an every day thing, it's a strategic thing, it's you've got to do it when you don't want to, when you feel bad, and I get bad cramps. I don't know about you, but my cramps come and I don't know what to do in the world. But I've trained myself to say that I don't have any pain, and I've been tricking my basal ganglia, I've been changing habits, I've been tricking myself when I feel bad to say, 'You know what? I feel the best in the world and I'm going to go out there,' and it's been amazing so far.   Jenn T Grace:              So as we're about to wrap up, number one, I kid you not I will follow up with you to see if you're training. Do not- you said it, it's in the universe, and now I'm on your ass. This is what I do.   Stacy A Cross:             I love it.   Jenn T Grace:              And number two, I feel like to some degree there's a lot of inspiration to be had for the fact that I know- and I know I had a lot of people in my audience reach out to me to say like how shocked in a way of like going from not being able to breathe running five seconds, to running for five and a half hours. And I feel like it's that type of inspiration- because we can look at elites, we can look at elite athletes, we can look at the Gary Vaynerchuks of the world, we can look at Fortune 500 CEO's and be like, 'Oh wow that's awesome that they're doing that,' but they're not relatable, and I think our conversation to some degree brings it down to a relatable level to say, 'If one of these two yahoo's can get this shit done, then I can get this done,' is how I see it. Like I truly am like, 'If Jenn and Stacy can do this, like you can totally do it too.' So I feel like there's a lot of I think inspiration that can be drawn from being able to honestly accomplish anything if you just break it down into manageable chunks.   Stacy A Cross:             Yes.   Jenn T Grace:              So my final I guess parting question would be is if you could tell the listeners one thing that you think would help them, that they might be able to implement today, what would that one thing be? And then as you're kind of wrapping up, feel free please tell people where they can find you, how you like to be contacted, and all that stuff.   Stacy A Cross:             Yeah. I would say get uncomfortable with your friends, family, job, everything. I mean cut people off that need to be cut off. If you really want to go on a path, and you have identified any negative pieces in your way, any negativity, anything that will hold you back, limitations, and I'm talking even within yourself; cut them off and figure out a way around it instantly. Because I had to do it. I had to change friends, change my number, I do not care anymore. You have to be very confident in that and you cannot be flaky because once you cut someone off you can't go back, and if you go back it better be to tell them how to do the same thing. The deal is I want you guys to be great, and I want you guys to get uncomfortable. There is so much importance with you. I want you, my friends, my comfort pillars, to go about the day knowing that you can conquer anything in your world, in your path, and if you can believe it, you can see it. Stop trying to see things before you can believe them. Believe them first and then I guarantee you it's going to be there right in front of your face, you can actually see it because the veil has been lifted. Ladies and gentlemen, you can find me anywhere because you're never there- no you are always there. I am on Twitter, Stacy A. Cross on everything, okay? Twitter, Snapchat. Like I said, www.StacyACross.com, but you know what? It's not updated and just because you told me, I'm going to update. Facebook, find me there, Stacy Annmarie Cross. I can't believe I did it but I'm telling you my entire governance. Stacy Annmarie Cross on Facebook, and of course the website, the headquarters, the foundation is www.TheComfortKillers.com. That's with 'The,' www.TheComfortKillers.com. You can find me everywhere and I am always here to leave my leaders, I do not like followers, so don't try to follow me on any of these social networks. My email is Stacy@thecomfortkillers.com.   Jenn T Grace:              And that is Stacy without an 'E.'   Stacy A Cross:             There is no 'E' in my name.   Jenn T Grace:              I love it. I have the same challenge with people spelling Jenn wrong, or calling me Jean, or I get a whole bunch of variations because I went off the reservation instead of having just one 'N,' so I get it, I totally get it. Anywho, I so appreciate you and so anyone who's listening to this and they want to find out- you know get all the information that you just talked about, it will be on the blog at www.JennTGrace.com/96, that is for episode number 96. So thank you again, I so appreciate your energy, and if anyone wants to connect with Stacy and would like me to be the one who helps make that happen, just please email me and I will help you do that.   Stacy A Cross:             Love that, thank you so much for having me. I appreciate that, and I'll see you in a year.   Jenn T Grace:              Oh you bet, I'm on it and listeners, please help me keep Stacy accountable to this, because I know I will. Don't you worry, I'm going to put a calendar reminder now.   Stacy A Cross:             Beautiful, thank you so much.   Jenn T Grace:              You are welcome, have a great day.   Stacy A Cross:             You too, bye.   Jenn T Grace:  Thank you for listening to today's podcast. If there are any links from today's show that you are interested in finding, save yourself a step and head on over to www.JennTGrace.com/thepodcast. 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