Get Out of Bed, Out of Your Head

If you know my story you know one thing has especially been true, I have felt more passion and excitement for my business than practically anything else out there. I'm hoping you get inspired today and find the way to inspire yourself through those things that make you feel anxious on your own journey to peace. This can be difficult if you don't do this simple trick: remember your WHY. I talk a lot in today's episode about the struggles I have on a daily basis but the one thing that gets me through them is my own motivation and WHY.

Kinsey Machos at 22 had a job, a baby, and a husband (all in that order). One day while she was waiting tables she realized something. She realized she didn't want the life she saw herself starting to head down that direction. It was a long journey from there to where she is now but everyday she has to make the decision of finding things that will push her or pull her to success. She has helped untold amounts of women not only find direction in their lives but also other entrepreneurs like her do the same. Life is all about finding those who will help you come closer to changing lives, who will help you break free from your internal anxieties to do the same?? Make sure to join Ayelet and Kinsey for a FREE masterclass to help you STOP relying on the things that society says will make you happy but leave you unfulfilled. If you're ready to stop leaving yourself restless and drained at the end of the day come join them at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1313121308861771/?ref=share

My desire to share with others my own struggles with anxiety and depression all came from one conversation I had with a 12 year old girl. This podcast which has helped thousands of people find joy in being honest with themselves and those around them if Parker Woodward hadn't shared with me his experiences with anxiety and depression. Look, you've been put through hell because of your mental illness. Isn't it time you helped other people make sure they didn't have to go through the same pains alone? It is crucial for you and me to dare to share our stories and daily battles so one day others won't be able to feel so alone like you and I have.

We all tell ourselves we aren't "worthy" of living a certain life. It's immensely difficult to improve ourselves though when WE are the ones who are holding ourselves back. This is one of THE most important lessons in taking your life back from the anxiety and depression that we feel keeps us in such pain. We need to improve the relationship and understanding we have between the guilt and the shame we experience in our lives.

We all have rituals and habits that help us stay above water for our depression and anxiety. They're all useless though. That is, unless we actually do the things that get us out of our anxiety and depression. The key to doing all of this is trust in not only that they'll get you out of your depression and anxiety but also that it's worth it to get out of your own depression and anxiety. What's waiting for you on the other side of getting out of your head?

I can tell you that one of the biggest struggles I've had with my anxiety and depression is that once I get over them and I have a great day...it scares me. Questions like "What if I feel depressed and anxious again?" and "How do I make sure I don't fall back into being riddled with anxiety?" often fill my heart as well as other people like you and me. There's a lot that each and every one of us struggle with depression and anxiety. The hardest part though is NOT falling back into those old habits by having something AHEAD of you that excites you. You've struggled to get out of your anxiety so you're no longer in pain...now it's time to find what brings you joy.

How often have you felt stuck in life? I know for me anxiety and depression have crippled me and kept me from getting to the amazing point I am capable of getting. How do you make sure that, though we all get stuck, you don't get stuck in a rut for too long? Focus on WHERE you're going and HOW you'll get there then when that doesn't work you can rely on WHY it's important

There's a LOT that comes from moving around a lot growing up, for some people it's a lot of anxiety. Now I of course did feel immensely anxious throughout the entire process but I definitely adapted more than suffered through it all regardless of how it affected me in college. I learned how to have thick skin and also how to blend in throughout a lot of different social interactions. While on a road trip though, Brene Brown helped me learn the importance of letting that armor off in a lot of different situations to allow yourself to unwind and rest. If you don't know how to let your guard down and show up authentically then you will not allow others to do the same. Brene really helped me learn this crucial lesson in giving yourself the permission to be authentic so our stress and anxiety can finally go away.

It's not about the size of the dog in the fight but the size of the dog in the fight...a pretty cliche, motivational quote in the world of football. What it means is that we don't need to be afraid of the appearance of something or someone when we have that stronger desire and fuel on the inside of each of us. The problem is though when that "fire" on the inside gets snuffed out by the overwhelming anxiety that comes from on and off where we fulfill our calling. As a professional football coach and former college football player, Sam knows all about it. It's impossibly difficult to fight what you can't see and from middle school to even as he grew up, that is until you know where to fight it...

I don't do well with change. Change creates a lot of anxiety for me and a lot of other people as well. The hardest part about these periods of changes in all of our lives is that the amount of overwhelm they induce can feel debilitating. How you and I make sure we are constantly there, in our roles to help others is that we take care of ourselves first. What is it you can do today to take care of yourself so you can help others??

Do you know the worst part about loving someone? Not getting them to love you back, this comes especially when you "love yourself" but don't ACTUALLY get anything back from it. The symptoms are all really the same, lots of energy put in but nothing reciprocated on the back end. To make sure that you get that love then it is going to be crucial to helping yourself to understand the true accomplishments that LOVE can help you to obtain.

This question comes in many forms. "Do I have anxiety or am I just feeling anxious??" or even "Do I need to be on medication or do I just need to relax??" All of these questions are very reasonable inquiries to have. The only thing that really matters though is what is holding you back from living the life you want? Mental illness is real, it's also heavily impacted by our lifestyle though. There's something each and every one of us can do to reduce the anxieties we each have in our day to day lives. What are you choosing??

There's nothing worse than when an anxiety attack happens. It's inconvenient. It's painful. It's even a very lonely feeling. Lucky for you today though Parker Woodward and I wanted to come on and talk about the amazing feelings we can still have even when anxiety hits! Whether you have struggled with suicidal ideation, depressive episodes, or just feeling numb from an overwhelming state of anxiety Parker and I have experiences that will undoubtedly relate back to you. Why? Because both of us have needlessly suffered through all of this for a long time.

Okay, she's the most adorable little girl you've ever met AND the owner of two businesses. Kiana Lee is one of my personal favorite people on this world not simply because of how much she's accomplished at her young age but also just from what she's accomplished in general. She's helped kids not only become better babysitters but also get through their own depressions and anxieties. Mental health doesn't just affect those of us with jobs and loans but also for those of us who are still not grown.

Our bodies are constantly keeping the score. If you are not releasing tension after you go through a negative failure then you are not only letting things hold you back from where you could be but also limiting where you CAN be. Your mental health will hold you back the more you practice toxic behaviors. Let's make sure today you and I both aren't letting the anxiety of future failures hold us back.

The journey to get what we want is often through the rough times. It's hard to be able to say that we have to go through anxiety and depression to be able to truly find not only happiness but also the purpose for that journey we are really going on. On my way to accomplish my goal of entrepreneurship I've had to accept that it's not going to be the easiest thing in the world. That being said, every time I slip up on that way to embrace my vulnerability and help others do the same I am finding more fuel to help others follow my lead. What do your stumblings help you achieve?

The title of my podcast stems from an actual experience I had myself, I was trapped in my bed because I was trapped in my head. Anxiety is one of the most debilitating mental illnesses out there because you feel everything at a much higher intensity. While we feel the great at an intense level...we also feel the painful at that same level. It's all elivated.

Vince was in a driveby, something he had no control over from being in the wrong place at the wrong time. There was dark days being in that hospital recovering, but there was a day he chose that he was going to live by a new montra, "Tell me I can't and I will." This slogan allowed him to not only recover himself but to also find a way of helping even more people. He found that the best therapy for him was talking to people about his story and helping them to share their own stories. His best advice for those who are struggling to share their own life experience: go through therapy to become comfortable with it yourself first! Want Vincent's book, Left For Dead: A Story of Redemption? Get it HERE https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578586088/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=left+for+dead+vincent+lanci&qid=1571407375&sr=8-1&fbclid=IwAR2SxodLuGiJeAt4iGK7SHg9B2ulrwKMMTMMosJwFLW2WgKpKY_8CJGyfic

I don't want to become someone I'm not. Authenticity isn't something I just want to say I have, it helps me to reduce the amount of anxiety I have to the world around me. The worst distraction I have from being authentic, and the same one you will suffer from as well, is definitely denial. Once we get over our own denial though, all 5 stages of it, we are able to live life as we want to and also stop our pointless suffering.

Gratitude can be immensely contagious, just like the terrible epidemic that has filled us all with fear lately. While the spread of COVID-19 is something we can't control...we can control the outbreak of our own gratitude. We can choose the ones we love how we actually feel about them. Why? Simply because our own gratitude helps us to each release the built up tensions, anxieties, and even depression. If we care about ourselves, we should care enough to be grateful to others.

There's a lot of sad stuff that happens in this world. Some serious trauma you and I have experienced though doesn't quite get described by "sad stuff". You and I suffer sometimes at a lot more severe levels than we really want to, this episode is for helping those who know that life has the capacity of being amazing yet it hasn't made sense in a while.

As I sit looking over New York, a city shutdown by the corona virus, I miss it. Even though this city brings me tremendous pain both emotionally and mentally. Why? Because where we feel immense amount pain we often find the most source of happiness. Also with that though, you and I feel more than most people. We're full of empathy because we are such sensitive beings. We feel the most out of anybody around us, that's for the good and the bad. When we allow ourselves to feel that tremendous peace though, the pains we feel will not disappear but will be masked by the small moments

Do you know how unlikely this podcast was from happening...I am surprised it got past 20 episodes. I am NOT a public speaker, if you relate to that then you can understand what that means. How I got here though was because of a conversation I had with a good friend who shares my pain and understanding of mental health. They helped me understand that I have an opportunity, like all of us do, to not only get through our anxiety but to THRIVE through it all. How?? By helping others along the way and most importantly by answering one question, "What's waiting for me on the other side of this anxiety attack??" I can guarantee that there is always more than you even think or can understand waiting for you on the other side of it. That's what this podcast is about after all, helping people live through their anxieties and live life on their own terms.

Watching Netflix, going to the spa, hanging out with friends...these are all great things that can still ruin your day. Just because you're doing things that relax doesn't mean that you will feel relaxed at the end of it all if you're constantly worrying throughout your "relaxing". Instead of thinking what you need to do to rest then, make sure you are also taking care of what is stressing you. There's a lot in this world, especially during this Corona Virus that can make us immensely stress us out. Just like there's a lot in this world, even in this highly stressful time we're in, that can make us smile. We just need to optimize our lives to enjoy what will bring that joy into our lives

Being with someone who is constantly anxious is draining, even anxiety inducing sometimes. What do you do then when someone you love is prone to anxiety just like you then? In the perfect world you would simply tell this person to stop or even cut them out of your life for being "toxic". However that's not "perfect" at all. Instead of cutting people who give you anxiety from what they go through out of your lives (like loved ones and family members) we need to help them. Why? Together we rise.

Ayelet is in the city where anxiety thrives, New York. It's the city that never sleeps and now it's being forced to sit still as it gets quarantined and shut down. You will be forced to sit still though sometimes...and that's never easy for the people like you and Ayelet. We are relaxed by releasing emotion through motion and when that's taken away from us we are going to panic, it's almost a no-brainer. 

"How are you moving on like this when your personal life is in so much turmoil?" This was a question that Marley was asked after her and her husband had divorced and she had to be open and vulnerable about it to speed up her grieving process. She had deadlines to meet and grieving didn't have a place in her schedule. Yet, she still knew she needed to grieve if she was going to fulfill the dream she knew she could fulfill. So she took the time she needed by herself to fully grieve and also relied on close friends and family as well. She has helped so many people embrace their own vulnerabilities on her journey solely because she has allowed herself to become comfortable with her scars before she shared them to the world.

While having a conversation with a psychiatrist Ayelet asked how she can get rid of her feeling of being a phony but also balance the vulnerability she feels is essential to helping people unleash themselves. There's going to be a lot of not only pain but also anxiety that comes from being vulnerable and you should never enter into vulnerability without being grounded first. How is it then that you can dare to be vulnerable but also be consistent in the amazing help you provide to others?

We all want to have a better life, that doesn't come from faking positivity. We need to always make sure that when it comes to our time of feeling anxiety and depression that we own it. Our goals will always require us to be at a higher mindset, but to truly become our BEST self it requires us to not only identify our pains but also feel our way through it. It will always be good to smile but sometimes it is best to allow ourselves to take a moment and feel our own pains.

Your willpower will not be enough to get you through the hard times. There will often be times when your effort will have to surpass what you simply have on the inside, that means something that motivates you from the future. Your desire to not have anxiety attacks will push you out from it for sure. However, to have something that will pull you through harder times you will need to have something extra. For Ayelet it's to help you get through your own anxiety attacks and modes of depression. Do you have yours?

Ayelet struggled to be vulnerable for quite some time. When she was finally being vulnerable though, trusting those around here, it almost seemed to blow up in her face. Being vulnerable with those around you is going to be crucial to your own mental health, especially when done right.

There's a lot that goes into unleashing your vulnerability, the main thing being the meaning you give to your identity. Every one of us has failed but that doesn't mean that we are failures. With her close family member attempting suicide Natalie is not unfamiliar with the heart breaks that come from mental illness, especially depression and anxiety in her own life. Through sharing her stories she not only allowed herself to be helped but she also unleashed the movement of other amazing people who struggle with us in battling with our mental health on a daily basis.

It's easy to spend $40 on a dinner or even save up 1,000s of dollars for that beautiful sports car...but how often are you investing in your actual being? When you listen to this podcast you are investing in your mental health. Ayelet is very grateful that you have been tuning in and taking the time to improve yourself. Now, after this how is it you'll be investing in yourself?

What do you want to accomplish? Ayelet craves to help those suffering in their mental illness but of course she can't do that if she's too busy fighting her own. She has personal experiences with all of this but also those close to her help others deal with traumas. When they both finally allowed themselves to acknowledge and recover from their past trauma though they were able to help others in their struggles with domestic abuse, anxiety, and everything else under the sun. We have to love ourselves to truly love others.

Tony Robbins, the #1 Personal development coach, finally got Ayelet to cry through gratitude. It's at those moments of gratitude where she realized that they came from the release of all the anxieties that she held inside. Gratitude comes from the releasing of pain. What pains do you have inside of you that if released would fill you with a lack of pain.

There's nothing more difficult than putting yourself out there for the world to see. The reason being is because now you'll feel like there's new expectations you have for yourself. After getting a lot of attention on Facebook for a post, Ayelet wants to clear the air on how authenticity is important but also what happens as the after effect.

What happens when we have depression but are not feeling depressed? Ayelet shares her experiences with this. It's sometimes scary to go out of our comfort zone into the unknown, but this is exactly what we need to do. Listen in to be able to move into the future with confidence!

Already in 2020, Ayelet has had a ton of new opportunities and challenges presented to her. She's made it her mission this year to add to the movement of not only normalizing depression and anxiety but also helping people to identify their mental illness as a superpower. She knows that her anxiety and depression can often feel crippling, but they allow her to feel deeper and even have a faster brain. What do your "struggles" help you accomplish?

People have constant mind chatter inside of their heads that never stops. When this mind chatter begins to become negative and doubtful we can get into a negative cycle. Ayelet describes this cycle as the Thought Feeling Action Triangle. She talks about how we can break free of this triangle and get into a positive thought process.

Ayelet shares an experience she had this week with anxiety and how she overcame it. Having someone else to talk you through it is key. The surefire formula for failure is going at it alone. When you have someone else to talk to this person can help shift your own thought process. 

Ayelet interviews Parker Woodward about his struggles with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts. Listen in as Parker shares his story and how he was able to get out of those situations. He teaches how to find and focus on something to get you out of that negative state. It is important to know how to develop the mindset to never do it again. You can share your own stories and experiences to benefit and bless the lives of others. The underlying message of this interview is that it is possible and that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

We have to be able to change and evolve. Sometimes the best thing to do is leave the past in the past and be able to change your identity. If the identity you currently have isn't a positive one that is helping you then a change can benefit your life.

Ayelet shares personal experiences with her own vulnerability. It is so important that we are open with others. We show our weakness when we are vulnerable, but showing our vulnerability is when we find our true strength. Love, growth, and acceptance comes only when we are open with others and ourselves.

During the New Year everyone begins to set goals, but this can often times lead to anxiety and disappointment. You can control this by finding out what triggers your anxiety. Separating the facts from the feelings is a good way to remain in control. You need to remember that the purpose of goals is to learn and grow so as long as that is taking place you are successful. Use the anxiety toolbox to go into the new year confidently with your goals!

No matter how hard we try all of us will have times when we are forced to say no. This last week due to a medical issue Ayelet had to say no to work. As a result she felt anxiety and had negative thoughts. She discuses how to overcome this and change our thoughts and feelings as we habituate to a new routine. Learning how to set boundaries for yourself will positively benefit your life. Staying in control and realizing you can do it will help your mind to accept new situations. 

It is so important to be true to yourself, and when we do this we are able to improve our lives. One of the hardest things to share is our own story. This is an area of vulnerability,  but we should not be ashamed. Outside of our comfort zone is where we grow. Ayelet tells how she first shared her story with others and the positive effect that it had. 

To be able to overcome mental health challenges requires the desire to get better and has to be kindled in a shame free environment. Dr. Adi Jaffe is a nationally recognized expert on mental heath and is working on removing the stigma that surrounds mental disorders. He shares personal life experiences and the effect they had on his life journey in helping people. Instead of just focusing on the symptoms it is important that you deal with the root problem. Today you can learn the daily tips to be able to conquer the day and empower your thoughts and feelings. 

At one time or another someone will come to us who is struggling with depression and we need to know how to react to be able to help them. In this episode Ayelet teaches steps of what to do if someone you love is depressed and how you should approach them. In these situations it is important to learn how to listen without judgement. You need to be firm but not lecture. She discusses how to get a verbal commitment and when a professional should be consulted.  

With the demands of the holiday season it is essential to know the steps to remain calm and relaxed. This is done by knowing how to approach things that cause stress and anxiety in your life. The Thought Feeling and Actions Triangle is the key to being able to recognize and change thoughts and patters that would normally leave you out of control.

The Holiday season is full of excitement, but can also be a very stressful and difficult time. Ayelet talks about her own experiences during this time of year, and how to deal with disappointment and let downs.  She maps out the steps you need to successfully live in the present while also controlling your thoughts. During this episode you will learn how to turn “what if” moments into a positive perspective.

For those with anxiety and depression, gratitude on a daily basis can be really hard to find. Most importantly, it can be hard to feel. This week though there's key things you can do to get in the Spirit of Gratitude and start the cycle of gratitude in your life even more.