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Gabriel Roth, Rebecca Lavoie, and Carvell Wallace share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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    The “Stop Telling Me to Workout” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2022 29:21

    On this episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak answer a question from a listener who is in her second trimester and throughout her pregnancy she's been sick and tired. This is her first pregnancy, and she and her husband agreed that they should try to stay in shape during it in order to help them be active parents. But despite her tiredness, her husband has been relentlessly pushing her to workout. She swears that he has good intentions. But is there a way to get him to back off?  Recommendations Jamilah recommends Hacks on HBO. Elizabeth recommends the Every Kid Outdoors program. Zak recommends checking out Stephen Root's acting. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The "Pooping Problem" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2022 27:36

    On this episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak talk about the baby formula shortage. Then they are joined by Dr. Christine Stephenson, pediatric physical therapist and author of The Constipation Game Plan, to help a four year old who refuses to use the restroom when he's not at home.  On Slate Plus, Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak talk about the highly annoying time gap between school pickup and work ending. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Recommendations:  The Constipation Game Plan The Poo in You  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Place to Belong” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2022 36:21

    On this episode: Elizabeth and Zak are joined by Amber O'Neal Johnston. She's the author of A Place to Belong: Celebrating Diversity and Kinship in the Home and Beyond and has a blog called Heritage Mom. They talk about how families can celebrate their own identities while learning about and appreciating other people's races and cultural differences. What does it mean to teach kids about “hard history,” but also celebrate cultural heritage? And, why do so many parents find it difficult to talk about culture and race?  Recommendations Elizabeth recommends: Read Aloud Those Kids from Fawn Creek by Erin Entrada Kelly  Zak recommends: Make your own pesto Amber recommends: Get a good knife Resources A Place to Belong: Celebrating Diversity and Kinship in the Home and Beyond by Amber O'Neal Johnston Amber's blog: Heritage Mom Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    What Next: The Future of IVF Post-Roe

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2022 27:12

    On this bonus episode from our friends at Slate's What Next podcast: As the country awaits a final decision on whether the Supreme Court will overturn Roe. v Wade, fertility doctors are sounding the alarm about what that could mean for the future procedures like IVF. Guests: Dr. Natalie Crawford, OBGYN and reproductive endocrinologist at Fora Fertility in Austin, Texas. Emily, an IVF patient in West Virginia. Emily asked Slate to withhold her last name so she could speak freely about her fertility treatments. If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get benefits like zero ads on any Slate podcast, bonus episodes of shows like Slow Burn and Dear Prudence—and you'll be supporting the work we do here on What Next. Sign up now at slate.com/whatnextplus to help support our work. Podcast production by Mary Wilson, Elena Schwartz, Carmel Delshad, Anna Rubanova, and Sam Kim. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “How Rude!" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2022 32:00

    On this episode: Elizabeth and Zak are joined by Amber O'Neal Johnston, author of A Place to Belong and she blogs at heritagemom.com. Together they tackle a question from a nanny who is fed up with preteen attitude. The boy she looks after takes his bad moods out on everyone around him, including her. She's wondering if she can help him change his behavior or if she should find another place to work.   On Slate Plus, Elizabeth, Zak, and Amber start strategizing their summer plans. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Protecting Trans Kids” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2022 40:00

    On this episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak talk about the wave of anti-trans legislation, the role of misinformation in this movement, and how to protect trans kids. They are joined by Jules Gill-Peterson. She is a trans historian and author of Histories of the Transgender Child, and co-host of Slate's very own Outward podcast.  Recommendations Jamilah recommends: NYT Spelling Bee  Elizabeth recommends: PILOT FriXion Clicker Erasable, Refillable & Retractable Gel Ink Pens Zak recommends: This tweet Resources Histories of the Transgender Child by Jules Gill-Peterson Slate's Outward podcast Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Just Trash It All" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2022 36:11

    On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth help a listener who feels like she's constantly walking through a maze of toys and the piles of stuff just keep growing. Both her and her partner work a ton, which leaves little time to actually clean the house. But she's the only one pitching in… Her partner and her two kids are “incapable of cleaning up after themselves.” She's at her wits end and seriously contemplating pitching everything.  On Slate Plus, Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth discuss the Netflix show, Old Enough! Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Other recommendations:  Sister Song  Emily Ley's Simplified Ruthless Declutter Challenge Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “This Bedtime Is Bananas” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2022 34:56

    On this episode: Zak and Elizabeth debate what to do about a bedtime battle. Our listener's toddler is generally a great sleeper, but now her bedtime routine isn't working anymore. If a kid is going to sleep early, does it mean they'll be early to rise? How early is too early to put your toddler to bed?  Recommendations Elizabeth: Metaphor Dice  Zak: Takeya Cold Brew Maker Bonus Recommendations: Summer Brain Quest Books Run Towards the Danger: Confrontations with a Body of Memory by Sarah Polley Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “I *Swear* It's a Problem" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2022 36:32

    On this episode: Elizabeth and Zak tackle a tricky question about a kid who has recently harnessed the power of swear words. He is weaponizing his words with an intent to hurt those around him and our listener has no idea what to do. Elizabeth and Zak offer up some practical advice for dealing with the in-the-moment anger, curbing the foul language, and ultimately making amends.  On Slate Plus, Elizabeth and Zak discuss hobbies that help them relax and rejuvenate. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Changing The Children's Music Game” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2022 39:16

    On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak expose the mini-monsters that parents accidentally create. They have some very fun—very scary—listener submissions. But honestly, who doesn't need a snack for every car ride? Then Zak interviews comedian, dad, and podcaster Chris Garcia about his new show Finding Raffi. They talk about how Raffi captured kids' ears and hearts, his lasting legacy, and how he's changing parenting philosophies.  Recommendations Zak recommends finding little moments of joy like making a game out of chucking garbage into the can.  Jamilah recommends The Prophets by Robert Jones Jr. Elizabeth recommends the Ologies podcast  And, a bonus recommendation from Zak: His conversation with Rebecca Lavoie on The Best Advice Show podcast about knowing and communicating your weaknesses at work  Resources Finding Raffi by Chris Garcia Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The "I Actually Have a Favorite Kid…" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2022 27:31

    On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak take on a really difficult question from a mother who realized she has a favorite child. She loves her baby but doesn't actually like her that much and she's worried that her feelings toward her child are calcifying. What can she do to bond with her baby?  On Slate Plus, how to deal with picky eaters. Is it okay to eat the same meal day after day? What can you do to make new scary foods more palatable? What are your favorite ‘Trojan horse' meals that allow you to sneak in nutrients without your kid knowing?  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Wondering About Work” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2022 31:10

    On this episode: Elizabeth and Zak tackle a question from a listener who is stretched thin between work and her kids. She'd love to be a full-time parent but she's worried she'll not be as interesting if she does transition. What should she do? They also have some fun listener updates, including one who had a very unexpected and very funny confrontation about porn.  The hosts give recommendations that will help your kids have a memorable summer. But they're not the only ones who deserve some fun. Grab your headphones because the podcast that Zak recommends will take you on an adventure.  Recommendations Elizabeth recommends the Best Summer Ever Camp Journal  Zak recommends the article, Finding Raffi by Sheila Heti, and the podcast, Finding Raffi by Chris Garcia.  Resources My First Book of Feminism (for Boys) by Julie Merberg Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The "College Indecision" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2022 32:01

    On this episode: If you've noticed high school seniors stressing a little more lately, it may be because college decision deadlines are just around the corner. Zak and Elizabeth are joined by Slate's Heidi Strom Moon to discuss how to support teens in their decision without overstepping. They answer a question from a dad who is currently trying to walk that line as his son is caught between his dream school and the school he can actually afford.  Resources:  Debt Nation: The faces and lives behind America's student loan crisis by Rachelle Hampton.  The Price You Pay for College by Ron Lieber.  Paying for College by The Princeton Review and Kalman Chany.  On Slate Plus, Zak and Elizabeth dive into their Passover and Easter plans and discuss how to make religious-based holidays fun for kids.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “ADHD Accommodations” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2022 25:38

    On this week's episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak tackle a question from a listener whose child was recently diagnosed with ADHD. The letter writer's husband, who also has ADHD, lacked support in school and it had a lasting impact on his education. They want to avoid history repeating itself for their daughter. How can they ensure she is properly supported and that she feels empowered by all the strengths that come along with ADHD.  The hosts also set intentions for the week and give recommendations that will make everyone happy. Who knew that a little water and soap could bring so much joy? Recommendations: Jamilah recommends Cheez-It Puff'd.  Elizabeth recommends the car wash.  Zak recommends C'mon C'mon.  Resources: What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew by Dr. Sharon Saline.  ADHD 2.0 by Edward M. Hallowell M.D. and John J. Ratey M.D.  Completely Matt: An ADHD Story by Justine Green.  My Whirling, Twirling Motor by Merriam Sarcia Saunders.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The ‘Mind Your ‘P's and ‘V's' Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2022 29:24

    On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth tackle body boundaries. Our listener has two little kids who are pretty comfortable doing things like sharing a bath or getting changed in the same vicinity. But something happened the other morning that has her worried. How can she teach consent and autonomy without creating any body shame?  On Slate Plus, they debate if parenting actually makes them happy. The article they discussed is called What Becoming a Parent Really Does to Your Happiness by Paul Bloom.  Resources:  HealthyChildren.org Sex Positive Families SexEdTalk's Vaginas and Periods 101 Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Jasmine Ellis.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The ‘Cherishing Your Childless Friends' Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2022 29:04

    On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak, and Jamilah answer a question from a listener who is feeling left behind by her friends who are parents. She says she's really tried to be supportive and isn't receiving support in return, especially when she's celebrating accomplishments like earning a PhD and publishing her first album. All of this has left her feeling that she's worth less if she doesn't have a kid. Is there a way to rekindle the relationships?  Recommendations:  Zak recommends watching The Lost Daughter.  Jamilah recommends picking up The Emergency: A Year of Healing and Heartbreak in a Chicago ER by Thomas Fisher.  Elizabeth recommends planting a window box with Back to the Roots or Kiwico.   Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The ‘Great Chore Divide' Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2022 33:43

    On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak tackle a classic dilemma. Should you pay your kids to help around the house? What chores are age appropriate and how can you tailor your expectations to different children? They also do a round of Triumphs and Fails and announce that Mom and Dad are Fighting is moving to a twice a week schedule. Episodes will come out on Mondays and Thursdays. On Slate Plus, they discuss whether or not you should pull elementary school students out of state-wide testing.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The "Childcare Crisis" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2022 54:46

    On this week's episode: Jamilah and Zak are joined by Julie Kohler, a writer, gender justice advocate, and host of the podcast, White Picket Fence. First they tackle a question from a listener who is trying to figure out how to connect with her partner's kid. Then they talk with Julie about the childcare crisis, which she focused on for the latest season of her show. She explains why the US is still so far behind in terms of implementing care economy policies and what supports should be in place to make parenting more manageable. On Slate Plus, they discuss the viral “husbands in training” TikTok.  Recommendations: Julie recommends Turning Red.  Zak recommends Chili Onion Crunch.  Jamilah recommends SpoiledChild's S24 Rapid Recovery Hair Mask  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Estranged Grandparent” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2022 49:17

    On this week's episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a tricky question from a parent who doesn't have a relationship with her father for a good reason. But now that his health is failing, she's wondering if she should introduce him to her daughter. Then, they tackle how to make school drop-off smoother. On Slate Plus, they discuss Jessica Grose's piece, I'll Say It Again: There's More Than One Way to Raise Kids Who Thrive, and dish on what philosophies they use in their own parenting.  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Making a Great Exhibition by Doro Globus  Jamilah recommends filling out your manufacturer's warranty.  Zak recommends Life on Earth by Hurray for the Riff Raff.  Bonus recommendation: Pregnant Pause.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Russian Roots Conundrum” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2022 47:50

    On this week's episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a complicated question about a listener with family ties to Russia who is seeking advice on how to explain to her young children the invasion of Ukraine and how to help them handle the schoolyard teasing. Then, how to keep your toddler entertained in the stroller on the way to school. This family is looking to up their game on the 25 min walk to school. And on Slate Plus, what's one silly, or serious thing that we should implement to make parents' lives better. The hosts weigh in with our ideas.  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Melon's House Party Jamilah recommends The new Saved By The Bell Zak recommends Better Things Listener-recommended Resources: How To Hug a Porcupine Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Zak Rosen. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The Waves: What I Wish I Knew Before I Started IVF

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2022 46:15

    On this bonus episode from our friends at Slate's The Waves podcast: We're talking about infertility treatments–and what happens when they don't work. The Waves producer Cheyna Roth shares her personal struggles and talks about going through IVF with Slate's Dear Prudence columnist, Jenée Desmond Harris. They talk about what they wished they had known before starting IVF, how to be a good friend of someone experiencing infertility, and Jenée offers advice on how to cope with IVF. Later in the show, Cheyna talks to author Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos about the ethics of the infertility industry, what to say to a loved one who is going through treatments, and what it means to be an “IVF survivor,”  In Slate Plus, Cheyna and Jenée talk about the slippery slope to IVF and its high price tag. And Slate's Lili Loofbourow shares what happened when she tried to get insurance to cover IVF. Additional Reading:  “An IVF Survivor Unravels ‘Fertility' Industry Narratives,” by Pamela Tsigdinos  “Would You Tell Someone You Were Infertile?” by Pamela Tsigdinos  “As The Dark Side of IVF Slowly Comes Into Focus, EvenMore Transparency Is Needed,” by Pamela Tsigdinos  Podcast production by Cheyna Roth with editorial oversight by Shannon Palus and June Thomas.  Send your comments and recommendations on what to cover to thewaves@slate.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    How To!: Stop ‘Having It All' (Before You End Up With Nothing)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2022 38:18

    On this bonus episode from our friends at Slate's How To! podcast: Janey is the very definition of a woman trying to “have it all.” She's an occupational therapist by day, a ghost writer for influencers by night and in between co-hosts a podcast. On top of that, she has two sons who play travel sports and a husband who works long hours. It's left Janey wondering if she'll ever catch her breath. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Amy Westervelt, who's no slouch herself. She's a journalist, host of the award-winning podcast Drilled, a busy mom and author of the book Forget “Having It All”: How America Messed Up Motherhood, and How to Fix It. She shares with Janey how trying to “have it all” almost left her with nothing. It's advice that all of us can use to rebalance our lives and reprioritize what's important.  Check out Amy's invisible labor calculator.  If you liked this episode, check out “How To Advance Your Career By Quitting Your Job.”  Do you have a question with no easy answers? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Vanilla Sex” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2022 63:52

    On this week's episode: Dan is back from book leave and has an announcement. Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a wild question about a teen asking if her mom has “vanilla sex.” How should the parent respond to an intensely personal question like that? Then Elizabeth and Jamilah pepper Dan with questions about his time on the show, including his biggest regret. On Slate Plus, if you could swap bodies w/ your kid for a day—Freaky Friday style—would you?  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends When Stars are Scattered by Omar Mohamed and Victoria Jamieson.  Dan recommends Turning Red.  Jamilah recommends season two of Love Is Blind.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Turning Into a Math Monster

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2022 52:44

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth, Zak, and Jamilah tackle a question from a parent worried that tense homework sessions are fracturing her relationship with her daughter. When should you keep pushing your kid so they succeed and when should you back off? Then, they're advising a parent who is simply burned out. It's something a lot of parents are feeling and they've got some tips to make life a little more manageable. On Slate Plus, they're juggling stressful sports schedules.  Recommendations: Jamilah recommends Abbott Elementary.  Zak recommends making your own everything seasoning.  Elizabeth recommends a visual timer.  Extra Credit!:  Boom Goes the Dynamite Prodigy Education Game  Math Rush Waldock Way's best math games  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “I Love You, Even When You're Mad” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2022 54:01

    On this week's episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a complicated question about navigating unwanted attention—especially if the attention may be chalked up to a child's appearance. Then they are joined by Deborah Farmer Kris, parent educator, education journalist, children's book author, and founder of Parenthood365. They talk about how to help kids identify and manage their emotions—and what parents can learn themselves in the process. Check out Deborah's new book I Love You All the Time. On Slate Plus, they discuss Just How Helpful Is Childhood Therapy? by Melinda Wenner Moyer.  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Night Zookeeper. Jamilah recommends Hey Girl! empowerment journal. Zak recommends Teen Lives, Interrupted by COVID.  Listener-recommended Resources: Judi's House resources When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death When Someone Very Special Dies Help Me Say Goodbye Love is Forever Lifetimes The Invisible String  Finding the Words If you want to listen to the original question, here's the episode: The “Taking a Toddler to a Funeral” Edition. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Cotillion Conundrum” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2022 50:29

    On this week's episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth dive into the complicated world of cotillions. A listener is wondering if she should enroll her biracial daughter if all of her friends are participating. Kristen Richardson, author of The Season: A Social History of the Debutante, joins to give some wonderful context and advice. They then tackle a question about sending a toddler to summer camp. On Slate Plus, they're daydreaming about family vacations. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Zak recommends one piece SORRY! Elizabeth recommends the L.L.Bean Sonic Snow Tube.   Jamilah recommends Tinder Swindler.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The "Taking a Toddler to a Funeral" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2022 48:24

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth, Zak, and Aymann aren't shying away from the difficult conversations. First, they answer a listener question about how to handle death with a toddler. Should you take a toddler to their grandparent's funeral? Should you explain death? Should you let them see you cry? Then, Zak is talking with comedian Chris Gethard about his new essay Dad on Pills. They get candid about parenting, mental health, and a rather upsetting joke. On Slate Plus, Elizabeth is panicking about school valentines. Are you too? Luckily, Zak and Aymann give us a reality check.  Recommendations: Zak recommends finding bridge songs to sneakily swap out kid music. Aymann recommends Halal Hot Dogs by Susannah Aziz and A Moon for Moe and Mo by Jane Breskin Zalben.  Elizabeth recommends Don't Forget to Write. If you, or anyone you know, are in crisis, having thoughts of suicide, or need help immediately, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, anytime, at 1-800-273-8255, or you can find help at suicidepreventionlifeline.org.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The "Playdate Vaccination Card" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2022 38:38

    On this week's episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth debate if there's proper etiquette when asking if a kid is vaccinated. Plus, they have some ideas for how to smoothly handle the interaction if the answer is no. Then, they take on the case of the annoying neighbor. Should you tell the kid to buzz off if he can't play nice? On Slate Plus, secrets, secrets are no fun… but are they outright bad?  Recommendations: Jamilah recommends Budsies. Elizabeth recommends the Buddha Board. Zak recommends creating photo albums. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The "Family History Fiasco" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2022 52:57

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth, Zak, and guest co-host Jaime Green attempt to fix a communication disaster. Our listener received some long-awaited genetic testing results and she was crushed when her partner seemingly couldn't care less. Can she make him care? Then Elizabeth talks with Larissa Maloney of Active Kids 2.0 about how parents and kids can stay active at home. On Slate Plus, Jaime's extremely relatable article about how hard it is to be a parent of a kid under five inspired a cathartic round of screaming into the void.  Recommendations: Zak recommends Le Petit Chef by Opinel.  Jaime recommends Mommastrong.  Elizabeth recommends A Year of Wonder: Classical Music For Everyday by Clemency Burton-Hill.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The "Is Elmo Petty?" Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2022 56:11

    On this week's episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak open up their cookbooks and share their favorite kid-friendly vegetarian recipes. They also debate how to help kids form sibling bonds that will last long after childhood. Then, we are joined by Rachelle Hampton and Madison Malone Kircher, hosts of ICYMI, Slate's podcast about internet culture. They explain Elmo's viral feud with a pet rock. If you want to hear even more, check out their episode. Elmo also joined our show if you want to take a listen.  In Slate Plus, the hosts are revealing what games and books they can't live without right now.  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends writing and submitting poetry. There are additional resources on Poetry Teatime.  Zak recommends using musicals to transition your kids to more grown-up music.  Jamilah recommends checking out her Instagram or Twitter to read her big story that's being published today! Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Hey… How Are You?” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2022 44:56

    On this week's episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth help a mom understand her new step-daughter's personal boundaries and love language.  Then they have some wonderful tips for a mom of twins who has quite the conundrum. One of her daughters has needed a lot of medical care and procedures, including brain surgery. Now her other daughter, who is non-medically complex, is jealous of all the attention her sister is receiving and asking to go to the doctor daily. How can she make sure the needs of both of her daughters are met?  In Slate Plus, the hosts are spiraling about the future—and those summer camp applications that are starting to pop up certainly aren't helping.  Recommendations: Jamilah recommends Trader Joe's Southern Greens Blend and Fermented Garlic.  Elizabeth recommends the podcasts How to Be an Earthling and Who, When, Wow!  Zak recommends taking yourself on a solo date!  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Don't miss the member-exclusive segment on MADAF every week. Sign up for Slate Plus now at slate.com/momanddadplus and you'll also get to skip the ads, read everything on Slate.com, and support this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The Best of 2021 Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2021 65:43

    On this week's episode: Our favorite Plus segments of 2021. We revisit one of the funniest—yet most horrifying—bathroom discoveries. We uncover the soundtracks to our parenting and brainstorm the School House Rock songs we need right now. We also gripe about Yes Day and hide from our kids.  Don't miss the member-exclusive segment on MADAF every week. Sign up for Slate Plus now at slate.com/momanddadplus and you'll also get to skip the ads, read everything on Slate.com, and support this show. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Stay in Your Own Candy Cane Lane” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2021 45:48

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak advise a mom who is feeling hurt that her mother-in-law has swooped in and taken over traditional “mom moments” behind her back. Is there a way to politely tell her that she needs to stay in her own lane? Then the hosts share the most useful piece of advice they received this year. In Slate Plus, they play a round of holiday hot takes which includes the classic conundrum: should you just tell your kids Santa's a myth?  Recommendations: Naima recommends Roc, which you can watch on Pluto.  Henry recommends Nocs Provisions Zoom Tube.  Oliver recommends the app hoopla.  Teddy recommends Story Time Chess.  Noa recommends peeling grapes to make them juicer.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Bah Humbug” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2021 51:01

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak help a parent who feels conflicted about traveling to see family during the holidays. They love their relatives and rarely see them, but they are exhausted and not so excited to make the trek this year. Should they still go? Then, a listener's toddler is afraid of everything. How can they validate their child's experience while helping them navigate a sometimes scary world?   On Slate Plus, the hosts talk about Zak's quarantine ennui. He's been marooned at home for days and days. Will this pandemic ever end? Commiseration ensues.  Recommendations: Zak recommends playing catch with balloons (rather than heavier balls) with your littles Jamilah recommends buying a synthetic Christmas tree Elizabeth recommends Tiny Schoolhouse Calendars  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Zak Rosen.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Snoopy Phone” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2021 39:56

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak help a parent who has been monitoring their teenage daughter's text messages. Have they crossed a line, or are they doing their due diligence to ensure their child is safe? Then they answer a question from a parent whose 2 year-old daughter wants her ears pierced. How early is too early, and who should be making this kind of decision?  On Slate Plus, the hosts talk about how one Black mother's video about her night doula went viral, sparking a debate about privilege, luxury, and the expectation that mothers, particularly Black mothers, must be suffering to succeed at motherhood.  Recommendations: Zak recommends calling your kids' creative hobbies an art practice. Jamilah recommends Passing on Netflix Elizabeth recommends the book Letters From Father Christmas Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Zak Rosen.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Toys or Trash” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2021 45:55

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak help a parent who is sick of their generous neighbors constantly sending over hand-me-down toys. The letter writer is already running out of space in their house. Is it OK to simply refuse? Can they donate the toys? Would tossing the toys crush the neighbors' generous spirit? Then they answer a question from a dad whose daughter needs surgery. How can he explain the procedure without frightening her? On Slate Plus, the hosts talk about how this time of year forces families to really figure out how they're celebrating the holidays and, in turn, how religion operates within their family. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Zak recommends @MenWithThePot on Instagram Jamilah recommends Love Life on HBO Elizabeth recommends a printable Christmas reading calendar.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Real Thanksgiving” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2021 48:36

    On this week's episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Amber Smith advise a listener who wants to provide their preschooler with a less whitewashed history of Thanksgiving. They have some helpful tips for explaining the real thanksgiving in a more realistic, age-appropriate manner. Zak then sits down with Jenny Rosenstrach, bestselling author and creator of Dinner: A Love Story, to strategize how to include your child in holiday cooking and avoid Empty Celebration Syndrome. If you want to hear more of Zak's conversation with Jenny, check out The Best Advice Show. On Slate Plus, Zak, Jamilah, and Amber recount some Turkey nightmares and share their attempts at tricky new dishes. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends taking time to pause and play with your child this holiday season. Amber recommends baby sock-shoes, Grookz. Zak recommends bringing your child to the bookstore and supporting your local book sellers. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Kevin Bendis and Rosemary Belson. Don't miss the member-exclusive segment on MADAF every week. Sign up for Slate Plus now at slate.com/momanddadplus and you'll also get to skip the ads, read everything on Slate.com, and support this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Vaccinated For the Holidays” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2021 44:18

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak help a parent who is in over her head when it comes to bath time. Her little one used to love taking baths but has since changed her mind. Now bath time is a nightmare for both of them. Then they're joined by Dr. Syra Madad, an infectious disease epidemiologist with New York City Health + Hospitals and Harvard's Belfer Center for Science and International Affairs. She shares how parents can keep their family, especially kids who are still too young to be vaccinated, safe during the holiday season. On Slate Plus, the hosts talk about how they're approaching the holidays this year.  Recommendations: Jamilah recommends Root Magic by Eden Royce.  Zak recommends unsubscribing to EVERYTHING!  Elizabeth recommends the Back to the Roots Organic Mushroom Grow Kit.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Screen Time Semantics” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2021 46:10

    On this week's episode: Zak, Elizabeth, and Greg Lavallee advise a listener whose rambunctious little one is on his third visit to the emergency room. How can our listener teach him that he can get hurt if he keeps up with the daredevil antics? They also debate how to talk to kids about screen time and how to set up healthy boundaries with devices. On Slate Plus, they lament the impending winter clothes chaos.  Recommendations: Greg recommends asking your cool adult friends to give your kids compliments.  Elizabeth recommends Aaron Slater, Illustrator by Andrea Beaty.  Zak recommends taking yourself to the movies. The new Wes Anderson film, The French Dispatch, is a great pick-me-up.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Don't miss the member-exclusive segment on MADAF every week. Sign up for Slate Plus now at slate.com/momanddadplus and you'll also get to skip the ads, read everything on Slate.com, and support this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Out the Door or Bust” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2021 54:19

    On this week's episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Zak help a listener whose kid just will not get out the door in the mornings. Next, they dive into a debate about the purpose of homework and who gets to decide how much homework a child is required to do. On Slate Plus, they discuss an interesting package from Romper called Parenting at the End Of the World.  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends the card game Boom Goes the Dynamite. Zak recommends the musician Caspar Babypants.  Jamilah recommends the show Wu-Tang: An American Saga.  Additional reading: The History Of Homework: Why Was It Invented and Who Was Behind It?  Never Mind the Students; Homework Divides Parents Ask a Teacher: Slacker or Genius? Ask a Teacher: Homework: Who Needs It? Ask a Teacher: Homework Is a Constant Battle in Our House Care and Feeding Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Temperamental Toddler” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2021 44:07

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak debate if a distracted toddler deserves to be pulled out of their gymnastics class. Next, they advise a mother who is nervous about a long flight with her toddler. From getting a toddler to wear a mask to entertaining snacks, the hosts have tips for all aspects of the flight. We're playing a round of hot takes in Slate Plus. So stick around for some spicy parenting opinions.  Recommendations: Jamilah recommends Popeyes' hottie sauce collab with Megan Thee Stallion.  Zak recommends making or buying a fire pit to polong the outdoor season.  Elizabeth recommends the DragonBox Elements: Geometry App Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Don't miss the member-exclusive segment on MADAF every week. Sign up for Slate Plus now at slate.com/momanddadplus and you'll also get to skip the ads, read everything on Slate.com, and support this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “All Things Green” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2021 63:04

    On this week's episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Aymann hotly debate a question about a kid who is vegan but decides to eat meat at their friend's house. Is 13 mature enough to make their own dietary decisions or should the kid's parents be told? Then, Jamilah talks with Lauren Linder, mom and attorney for a cannabis company, about how they incorporate cannabis into their parenting. In Slate Plus: Aymann talks about the effect of toxic masculinity on paternity leave. If you want to hear more from Aymann on masculinity, check out his podcast Man Up.  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Simple Modern insulated cups with straws.  Aymann recommends starting a garden.  Jamilah recommends the Instant Pot Duo. Additional Links:  Check out Elizabeth's great tips for finding (and keeping friends) on Slate's How To! podcast: How To Make Friends as an Adult.  It's Just a Plant: A Children's Story about Marijuana by Ricardo Cortés.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Don't miss the member-exclusive segment on MADAF every week. Sign up for Slate Plus now at slate.com/momanddadplus and you'll also get to skip the ads, read everything on Slate.com, and support this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The “Poopin' In the Closet” Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2021 49:34

    On this week's episode: Aymann, Jamilah, and Elizabeth tackle a desperate dispatch from a parent who just wants their kid to go to bed. Instead he is pooping in the closet. Then they take on the case of the threenage temper tantrums. How can you calm a kid who is being completely irrational? In Slate Plus: They're talkin' tech. Specifically, the gadgets that have transformed their parenting. If you love recommendations, you'll definitely want to stick around for that discussion.  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Sharice's Big Voice by Sharice Davids and Nancy K. Mays. Plus, check out Erika McLemore's Instagram for more great book recommendations.  Jamilah recommends Believing: Our Thirty-Year Journey to End Gender Violence by Anita Hill. Aymann recommends Elif by G. Willow Wilson and buying a new case for your old phone, especially if you're itching to get your hands on a new phone.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Don't miss the member-exclusive segment on MADAF every week. Sign up for Slate Plus now at slate.com/momanddadplus and you'll also get to skip the ads, read everything on Slate.com, and support this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Bad Behavior Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2021 60:15

    On this week's episode: Aymann, Elizabeth, and Jamilah discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 5 year old has been acting out at school recently. How can she encourage her child to change his behavior? Later, they share some advice with a listener whose 16 year old has not taken kindly to her mother's boyfriend of 3 years. What can she do to bridge the divide between her partner and her daughter? In Slate Plus: We're discussing movies and TV shows we've been enjoying with our families lately.  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends finding a race series through your local track club for your kids to run a race! Some races even have baby races. So cute and fun! Aymann recommends potato chip bags for babies -- wash it out first and you get an amazing toy for a baby! Jamilah recommends Blazy Susan Pre Rolled Cones for the cannabis-enthusiastic parents out there. They're slow-burning, vegan, GMO-free and PINK! Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery.  Hosts  Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose. Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion.  Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York. Social @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/ @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Disaster at the Dentist Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2021 45:23

    On this week's episode: Aymann, Elizabeth, and guest-host Amber Smith discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose child has become deeply afraid of the dentist and other medical procedures. How can she help prevent her daughter's fears from becoming phobias? Later, they share some advice on how to politely deter other parents' from making comparisons of your children.  In Slate Plus: Hiding from your kids. Because sometimes, parents just need a break! The tricky part can be in explaining this to your kids.   Recommendations: Jamilah recommends the incredibly precious book, Ways to Make Sunshine by Renée Watson for your child. Amber recommends 2Harts24 Baby Bottom Cream to help rescue your baby from diaper rash.  Aymann recommends The Wonder Weeks App to help you keep track of your baby's major milestones! Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery.  Hosts  Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York. Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion.  Amber Smith is Slate's senior audience development manager and mama to sweet baby Marley.  Social @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/ @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Baby Bank Account Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2021 50:20

    On this week's episode: Aymann, Elizabeth and Jamilah discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose baby has received a lot of monetary gifts. At 5 months old, does her baby need a bank account? Later, they share some tips to help you evaluate schools. Beyond testing scores, how do you determine which school you should send your child to?  In Slate Plus: When to take a hands off approach vs. a hands on approach with your kids when you see them making a mistake.  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends listening to the Greeking Out podcast with your family. It's a fun, kid-friendly podcast about Greek mythology! Aymann recommends taking a break now and then to go stay with your relatives. Especially to those who have very young kids.   Jamilah recommends making your own bone broth. All you need are chicken bones, water, some veggies, add a few spices and let it simmer. It's easy, healthy and delicious!  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery.  Hosts  Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose. Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion.  Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York. Social @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/ @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Makeup-Obsessed Toddler Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2021 59:46

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth, Aymann and guest-host Michaela Smith discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 4 year old daughter has recently become obsessed with wearing makeup. Should her mother be worried about this new development or just let it play out naturally? Later, they have some advice for a parent whose toddler is dealing with some separation anxiety. What can she do to help support her daughter through these difficult feelings? In Slate Plus: It's almost officially fall! So we're discussing what we're most looking forward to and some of our favorite fall activities to do with the family.  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends reading Wet Cement: A Mix of Concrete Poems with your kids.   Aymann recommends giving out compliments more often! It's been a saving grace for him and his wife during the stressful first few months of parenthood.   Michaela recommends getting ahead of your child's anxiety or other big feelings by consulting your pediatrician about counseling. Learning coping skills early on can really help us later in life! Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery.  Hosts  Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose. Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion.  Michaela Smith is the mom to her three littles based out of Colorado Springs, CO.  Social @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/ @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Bored at School Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2021 50:23

    On this week's episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose first grader is bored at school. Should her mother have a talk with her daughter's teacher or wait and see if things change in a few weeks?   Later, they have some advice for a parent whose 11-almost-12-year-old son is campaigning hard for a cell phone. Would a phone serve as a helpful tool or a terrible distraction?  In Slate Plus: We're getting into the “why's” of it all! Why? Because it's the favorite and sometimes very annoying question of many young children. What can parents do to answer their kids' endless “why's” without losing their cool?  Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Wise Owl Hammock & Straps for easy comfort when you're camping with the family.  Aymann recommends the Self Cleaning LARQ Water Bottle for purifying water for you and your baby on the go.  Jamilah recommends making your own bootleg sangria! Using grand marnier and/or rum, wine (red or white), kids fruit cups, fresh fruit, sugar and orange juice. Cheers! Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery.  Hosts  Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose. Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York. Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion.  Social @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/ @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Playdate Etiquette Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2021 47:05

    On this week's episode: Elizabeth and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener who feels she's being borderline ghosted by other parents after their children's playdates.  Later, they have some advice for a parent whose 12 year old son is very set in his views as they pertain to religion but his mom worries that this may cause problems down the line for one of his new friendships. How can she help her son navigate this potential conflict?  In Slate Plus: Free-range parenting: what is it and is it for you? Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Perler Bead Craft Bead Sweeper to help you clean up all of those pesky beads in one quick sweep.  Aymann recommends getting a Kodak Photo Printer so that you can join him in instantly printing out all of those adorable photos of your kids that you have stored on your iPhone.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery.  Hosts  Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose. Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York. Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion.  Social @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/ @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Attention-Seeking Toddler Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2021 47:32

    On this week's episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 4-year-old daughter has developed some attention-seeking behaviors with the arrival of a newborn sibling. Later, they have some advice for someone whose 6-year-old is struggling to learn table manners. How long will mealtimes be a struggle before the constant and repetitive “chew with your mouth shut and sit at the table” bears fruit? In Slate Plus: What to do with keepsakes and mementos that cause physical and emotional clutter? The group discusses their strategies for preserving, or tossing, those letters, drawings, and awards that accumulate over childhood. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Podcast production by Jasmine Ellis and Asha Saluja. Recommendations Aymann recommends  the subreddit for Dads called Daddit. Jamilah recommends Shantrelle P. Lewis' documentary, In Our Mothers' Gardens on Netflix. Elizabeth recommends the book American Born Chinese by Gene Luen Yang. Hosts  Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose. Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York. Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion.  Social @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/ @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Morbidly Curious Edition

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2021 56:45

    On this week's episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Aymann discuss their triumphs and fails for the week. Then they answer a question from a listener whose 6 year old daughter has become fixated on finding a cure for death.  Later, they have some advice for a parent whose own parents are excellent grandparents to her children but who often cross some boundary lines.  In Slate Plus: The latest UN report on climate change. How can we discuss this with our children without scaring the crap out of them?  Recommendations: Jamilah recommends AND8 Fitness for people who love to have fun during their workouts.  Elizabeth recommends Kids Quip -- an electric toothbrush for kids that will help you get them out the door a little faster in the mornings.  Aymann recommends buying an INSTAX Polaroid Camera to hand out polaroid pictures in place of party favors.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today's show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Podcast produced by Morgan Flannery.  Hosts  Elizabeth Newcamp is a co-host of Mom and Dad Are Fighting. She's a traveling mother of three boys who chronicles her misadventures at Dutch, Dutch, Goose. Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in Brooklyn, New York. Aymann Ismail is an award winning staff writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion.  Social @JamilahLemieux on Twitter https://twitter.com/JamilahLemieux @dutchdutchgoose on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dutchdutchgoose/ @aymanndotcom on Twitter https://twitter.com/aymanndotcom Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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