Victoria's Thoughts

In this episode, I speak about how to leave a toxic man. I hope you guys enjoy :)

in this episode, I speak on faking orgasms and what that says about our connection to ourselves. in my experience, faking orgasms made it easier for me to stay in unhealthy relationships/situations because I was able to hide. faking orgasms, in my opinion, is another way we enable ourselves out of our true embodiment. I'll explain more in the episode, hope you enjoy :)

in this podcast, I delve into loving yourself fully- which means sitting with all of the parts of yourself that you have shamed, labelled unpresentable, denied, or been embarrassed of. I delve into being ashamed of past sexual experiences, having an anxious attachment style, and how I move through feelings of unworthiness when they arise. owning all of you- the parts you are ashamed of, too- is true embodiment. That being said, loving all parts of ourselves does not necessarily mean indulging in behaviors or past versions of ourselves that we don't feel are aligned with the lives we are looking to build- however, the key is loving and UNDERSTANDING these parts of you- deeply- and then letting them go, if you are no longer interesting in feeding them. hope you guys enjoy and if you do, leave me a review! :)

In this podcast, I wanted to speak on the phenomenon of "saving people." In my life, I've experienced this in 2 main forms- 1. where someone WANTS to be "saved" and is encouraging you to act in a codependent manner, and 2. where someone doesn't want to be "saved" and you are projecting and interjecting into their life. Either way, these ways of acting are not authentic. When my father went to prison last year, I hit rock bottom with this "savior" dynamic. I was miserable, coming from a complete place of illusion, and wasn't able to clearly validate his situation as it was, because I believed I needed to save him from it. Through hitting rock bottom, I was able to liberate myself from all the ways I had been engaging in this "saving" dynamic- with family, friends, and romantic relationships. This is my experience and my insight into "saving." Hope you enjoy, and if you do, leave me a review :)

Lately I've been thinking a lot about this masculine shield I have that I accepted for a lot of my life as just part of my personality. As I get more honest with myself, I realize that it is a shield I've put up for 10+ years because I felt threatened and perpetually unsafe. As an adult, this protective, trauma induced armor that I've held for so long is something I no longer want to carry, and something I feel blocks myself and all women from experiencing the safety that we truly crave and deserve. These are my thoughts, hope you enjoy :)

in today's episode, i speak on how to set boundaries, how to not abandon yourself, and how to allow someone else's reaction to your boundary. hope you guys enjoy :* to book me for coaching: victoriadevall.comto subscribe to my YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yu2O-SD9Gqg&t=1sSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

hi girlies. hope you enjoy today's episode!!you can subscribe to my YouTube channel and listen to my video on my 2 years of celibacy here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yu2O-SD9GqgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

hi girls. this episode is all about releasing shame from your past sexual experiences; experiences where you may have been disrespected, treated poorly, touched by hands that didn't cherish you, or sexually violated. i love you all so much and i hope this episode helps you remember that there is nothing you have ever done sexually that could make you less valuable, less worthy, less divine, less holy. enjoy :)if you like this pod episode and want to support me, you can tip me in the link below!you can book 1:1 coaching with me here: victoriadevall.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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hi guys :) today, we are talking about the whole "liking other girls pictures" phenomenon. what I say in this podcast is also applicable to complimenting other women and watching p*rn. men of value do not do any of these things. their main priority is protecting your heart and making you feel safe. if the container he provides has all these holes with space for his attention on other women, he has not provided anything, and he has no idea what it means to be a man.stop trying to change your low quality man, and love yourself instead. :*love you guys !!!!!! also subscribe to my YouTubeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hi girlies. I did a little special on all things healthy relationships for valentines day! I went into detail on the difference between healthy and toxic relationships, how to get into healthy relationships, how to see more healthy men in the world, and what my relationship looks like hehe. love you guys so much!!book me for coaching: https://victoriadevall.com/collections/coaching-sessionsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

in this episode, i speak on the idea that we want others to wake up from their toxic cycles because we truly care about them - however, this is not true. in truth, we want others to do this because we do not want to sit with the discomfort that comes with the other person being right where they are, and the boundaries we might have to enforce as a result. If we can sit and accept them right where they are without trying to change them, we can be objective, place boundaries, and remove ourselves from the enmeshment that comes with the desire for anyone else to be anywhere other than right where they are.If you want to send me a tip and support my podcast, the link to support me and send me a tip is right here :) : https://app.redcircle.com/shows/b619aa43-6dfe-4a93-83ce-7883c9a52506/donationsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

in today's episode, we discuss why women try to control men, and my case for why we should stop. we dive into how this behavior enables us to not take accountability for our lives, feeds our trauma responses, and disrespects our inner child.love you guys so much,xoxo,VictoriaSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

when you crave the validation of weak men so deeply that you will cheer as your innocent sisters burn, you forget that what they are burning is you.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

every woman, deep in her heart, requires emotional and physical safety to feel truly relaxed in the journey of pregnancy and motherhood. throughout the centuries, we have conditioned ourselves to forget that we have requirements for motherhood: having a safe, dedicated, and loving partner, being materially provided for so you can rest during pregnancy and postpartum, having your emotional needs met by your partner, having your unique requirements specific to you stated and met, etc. however, in this day and age now, women have no semblance of understanding that they should have their requirements met to have a child. because of this, mothers live miserable and unfulfilling lives. furthermore, women tend to use motherhood to avoid their lives and themselves. for example, a woman might be unhappy with the level of love she has received in her life, and because of this, she decides to have a child in hopes of receiving unconditional love (manipulative & abusive); or, she might not like the dating prospects she sees or she may not actually like or love her husbands husband or partner, and so she has a child to distract herself. what women are forgetting here, and what this episode aims to remind us, is that children are a small phase of your life: they will leave, you will not be their priority, they will start their own families and have their own spouses, and you will be stuck with the same unfulfilling life and partner, right where you started. don't avoid your life through motherhood. instead, cultivate a life you are excited about and fulfilled in. and when you are ready- if you desire- when you feel safe and secure and supported, choose to be a servant of a child by serving their soul's evolution through their childhood and adolescence. anything less than this is asking for struggle motherhood, and we're not doing that anymore.xoxoVictoriaSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

in today's episode, we talk about the deep healing that occurs when we choose a man who we can truly trust, a man who we can put our guard down 100% with and know we are safer with it down than we ever were with it up. we also discuss why we choose men we cannot trust, and how that strengthens our wounds. if you'd like to dive further, you can book coaching with me at victoriadevall.comfollow my instagram: victoriadevallSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

love you guys so muchsubscribe to my YouTube!!!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBNPCXo4vyWG-MhYLY4Y4mgxoxoxoxo,Victoria de VallSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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today's episode is all about how to receive from a man and from life. we talk about being provided for by a man, genuine vulnerability, and having standards. there is a certain level of vulnerability that comes with receiving from a man you RESPECT. deeply. and that's what we are discussing today :) love you guys and hope you enjoyxoxoxox,VictoriaSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

hi girlies ily.comment on my most recent insta any pod ideas, ily.my collaboration with Zahav Jewelry is still going on!!!!! use code VIC30TO TWIN WITH ME:my gold belly ring: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1112954402/10k-solid-gold-solid-gold-belly-rings?ref=listings_manager_gridmy gold hoops (they're so lightweight so they don't drag your ear down at all which is so imp to me): https://www.etsy.com/listing/1189337828/10k-solid-gold-30mm-hoops-gold-hoops?click_key=cfac4b434ea3b568dfdd93869558e5a838cfbe3e%3A1189337828&click_sum=f9f86b79&ref=shop_home_active_73&pro=1&frs=1&sts=1my cartilage piercing: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1104281674/14kt-solid-gold-cbr-ring-body-jewelry?click_key=85e2e26ce979b0bd877f4f1a323c726d59b5f60e%3A1104281674&click_sum=e6cedea6&ref=shop_home_active_166&pro=1&frs=1&sts=1my other cartilage piercing: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1234329741/14kt-solid-gold-hoop-belly-ring-belly?ref=listings_manager_gridSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

hello my girlies, today's episode is sponsored by Zahav Jewelry, a family run and sustainable gold jewelry business in Brooklyn NYC. use my code VIC30 for 30% off!!!!!!!! literally all their jewelry is amazing and is around $100. you deserve to be draped in gold!TO TWIN WITH ME:my gold belly ring: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1112954402/10k-solid-gold-solid-gold-belly-rings?ref=listings_manager_gridmy gold hoops (they're so lightweight so they don't drag your ear down at all which is so imp to me): https://www.etsy.com/listing/1189337828/10k-solid-gold-30mm-hoops-gold-hoops?click_key=cfac4b434ea3b568dfdd93869558e5a838cfbe3e%3A1189337828&click_sum=f9f86b79&ref=shop_home_active_73&pro=1&frs=1&sts=1my cartilage piercing: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1104281674/14kt-solid-gold-cbr-ring-body-jewelry?click_key=85e2e26ce979b0bd877f4f1a323c726d59b5f60e%3A1104281674&click_sum=e6cedea6&ref=shop_home_active_166&pro=1&frs=1&sts=1my other cartilage piercing: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1234329741/14kt-solid-gold-hoop-belly-ring-belly?ref=listings_manager_gridSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

hi girlies, this was just a quick episode i took when Jeremie went to the store real quick :) i hope you all enjoy, love you!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

if you'd like to go deeper 1:1 with me on any of these topics, i offer women's coaching on my website :) love you guys!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

hi guys, i'm back :)forgive me for not posting last weekend, i was vacationing in atlanta :)the quick answer to today's episode is: it can be. it all depends on the space you are coming from within.love you guys so muchxo,VictoriaSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

my beloved girls, i hope you enjoy this episode! and ps- subscribe to my YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBNPCXo4vyWG-MhYLY4Y4mgmy Chakrubs Collab is still happening, go to Chakrubs.com and use code VICTORIADEVALL10 ilove you

today's episode is all about how I healed my period and my own personal journey with going from extremely painful periods to painless periods. I understand that everyone's experience is different and unique, but I share the way I healed my period in hopes that it gives direction and guidance to others who resonate and are looking to do the same!I also understand that trans-people have their own unique experience with periods and did not touch on this as much in this episode but it is still valid and important. love you guys :* Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

he doesn't need to be a narcissist to be an abuser. intro calls are now available for august! book your free 1:1 introduction call starting in august at victoriadevall.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

hi girls, today is the best episode ever on how to heal your inner child. hope you enjoy :') if you'd like to embark on a 3 month coaching journey with me, go to victoriadevall.com to book your free intro call love you all :*Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

today's episode is sponsored by Chakrubs (!!!!! I'm so happy) https://chakrubs.com and you can use my code VICTORIADEVALL10 for 10% off!if you'd like to twin hehe, here are some of the products i have from them:https://chakrubs.com/products/the-xaga-yoni-egghttps://chakrubs.com/products/the-heart-curvehttps://chakrubs.com/products/the-sacral-slimhttps://chakrubs.com/products/the-prism-yoni-egghttps://chakrubs.com/products/the-xaga-roothttps://chakrubs.com/products/the-chakrubs-method-workbook-for-yoni-eggs (if you get a yoni egg, get this too!!!)Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

in today's episode, i speak on some tips for women looking to receive a truly safe and masculine king: from not pedestaling him to deciding when to sleep with him, i dive into it all! of course, for any of this to work, you must be at a truly embodied and safe space within yourself.to learn how to do this, you can apply for my 3 month coaching program, and schedule your FREE intro call with me on my website: victoriadevall.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

in today's episode, we discuss practical ways you can create healthy sexuality with your partner as you are unlearning your patriarchal conditioning that has previously coerced you into disconnecting from your body, ignoring your pain, desires, and authenticity, and performing instead of connecting.today's episode is sponsored by Chakrubs (!!!!! I'm so happy) https://chakrubs.com and you can use my code VICTORIADEVALL10 for 10% off!if you'd like to twin hehe, here are some of the products i have from them:https://chakrubs.com/products/the-xaga-yoni-egghttps://chakrubs.com/products/the-heart-curvehttps://chakrubs.com/products/the-sacral-slimhttps://chakrubs.com/products/the-prism-yoni-egghttps://chakrubs.com/products/the-xaga-roothttps://chakrubs.com/products/the-chakrubs-method-workbook-for-yoni-eggs (if you get a yoni egg, get this too!!!)Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

in this episode, i tell you everything you need to know about how to heal your anxious attachment. it all comes down to building trust with yourself by feeling your feelings and holding yourself through the emotions that arise. doing this over and over until you have created a new, healthy baseline. another thing i did not mention is that especially right when you meet a possible romantic love interest, it is sooo important to be securely attached. if you are not, you will bypass your own feelings or emotions all because you don't want them to abandon you. when you are unafraid of being abandoned, when you are unafraid of feeling your "uncomfortable" emotions, you can show up to them fully embodied, and fully able to sit in a seat of power that asks "do I like them? do they meet my needs? is anything they are doing making me feel uncomfortable?" you will be willing to look at them evenly, because you are okay if they do not like you or want you. from that space, you can ask yourself if you even like them, or if they are meeting all your standards/boundaries. book coaching with me at: victoriadevall.comsubscribe to my YouTube: victoriadevall Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

in today's episode, we delve into what the dark feminine is, how needed it is in today's society, the reclamation of it, and how our fear and disconnection from the dark feminine shapes the way we speak about abortion, and our needs/desires in general.if you'd like to do 1:1 coaching with me, you can learn more at my website victoriadevall.comxox,VictoriaSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

in this episode, my love (@byermeas) & i discuss how being in a nourishing and healthy relationship changed us both. i discuss relaxing into my femininity (& relaxing in general), feeling safe with other women, and coming into my purpose while he discusses his service to the world and breaking down the barriers to trust another fully.love you guys so much,xoxo,VictoriaSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

today's episode is about women's fear of our own femininity, a fear that has been conditioned into us for thousands of years. xoxo,Victoria de VallSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

welcome to my birthday special :') where we delve into some more personal questions about my life and experiences! hope you guys enjoy, i love you! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

hey girlies, I know everyone has been waiting on this episode and it's finally here- all things femininity; the playful, sensual, feeling side, the chaotic, destructive, ferocious side, the necessity for a healthy relationship with your own masculine if you ever want a full relationship with your feminine, the repression of full femininity in your sexuality...all of that and more is discussed ! i love you guys so much, leave me a review if you liked this episode, become one of my coaching clients through my website, and/or leave me a tip if you liked this episode and want to continue supporting me!tip link :) : https://app.redcircle.com/shows/b619aa43-6dfe-4a93-83ce-7883c9a52506/donationsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

in this episode, I speak about the eroticization of our pain, trauma, and wounds, and how it keeps us locked in a cage that we then identify with and believe is our sexual identity. this podcast is an offering so that we may all sit with our pain and release it and discover the fullness of the true embodiment of our sexuality on the other side and not stay trapped in its distortions.if you'd like to talk more about this or receive direct advice or coaching, you can find booking in my website.you can also tip me here :) : https://app.redcircle.com/shows/b619aa43-6dfe-4a93-83ce-7883c9a52506/donationshappy 2022!p.s I actually did get to my podcast rebrand heheSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

hello girlies, today I talk about why alignment is better than manifestation, and how all things flow from alignment. I love you guys and also I'm holding a zoom session this friday 1/28 where I'm holding a healing girls session !!! you can join through my website under the tab: "healing session 1/28". I hope to see you all there :)also, if you enjoyed this episode, you can tip me here hehe : https://app.redcircle.com/shows/b619aa43-6dfe-4a93-83ce-7883c9a52506/donationsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

soooo we have the most wise, masculine man on the podcast today- my MANNNNNNNN. we spoke about his experience coming into his masculinity, his connection with his feminine (you can't be masculine if you don't have a connection with your feminine), feminine rage and the masculine's role in this. hope you guys enjoy! his instagram: @byermeas , @jeremielouis and his poetry book is called Memories of a Love Never Born by Ermeas on Amazon. my instagram & tiktok : @victoriadevall , coaching sessions on my website!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I delve into what REAL masculinity looks like in a man. I hope you all enjoy :)if you like this episode and would like to support me and this podcast through a donation/tip, here is the link: https://app.redcircle.com/shows/b619aa43-6dfe-4a93-83ce-7883c9a52506/donationsYou can also now book a coaching session with me through my website if you would like one on one support and would like to commit to yourself in this way!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations

in this episode, i deep dive into everything you need to know about how to heal your relationship with your womb: yoni massage, yoni mapping, vaginal dearmoring, radical reclamation, why we are disempowered, healing sexual trauma, coming into union with your womb, ancestral work...EVERYTHING.another big thing is you cannot eat animals or animal products !!! if you'd like to dive deeper into 1:1 coaching and get to the next level of your life and become the embodied woman your heart yearns to be, you can book coaching with me at : victoriadevall.comif you liked this episode, you can also tip me at the link below!book I referenced: Yoni Massage by Michaela Riedllove you guys! :*Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

hi you guys, this is a comprehensive podcast about veganism: why to go vegan, how to go vegan, the animal environmental and human rights injustices that surround animal agriculture. comment on my last insta any questions you still have about veganism :)Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy