Podcasts about prudie

Today, we're revisiting one of our favorite episodes from October 2023 with Ashley C. Ford, author of the bestselling memoir Somebody's Daughter, and one of our guest Prudies, while our regular Prudie, Jenée Desmond-Harris, will be on parental leave. In this episode, Ashley C. Ford joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether conflicting ideas about children should end a relationship between two twenty-somethings, what to do when a friend is obsessed with her husband's band, and if it's acceptable to leave your partner behind and vacation without them if they're running late and miss the flight. Want more Dear Prudence? Subscribe to Slate Plus to immediately unlock weekly bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of our show page. Or, visit slate.com/prudie-plus to get access wherever you listen. This podcast is produced by Se'era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're revisiting one of our favorite episodes from October 2023 with Ashley C. Ford, author of the bestselling memoir Somebody's Daughter, and one of our guest Prudies, while our regular Prudie, Jenée Desmond-Harris, will be on parental leave. In this episode, Ashley C. Ford joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether conflicting ideas about children should end a relationship between two twenty-somethings, what to do when a friend is obsessed with her husband's band, and if it's acceptable to leave your partner behind and vacation without them if they're running late and miss the flight. Want more Dear Prudence? Subscribe to Slate Plus to immediately unlock weekly bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of our show page. Or, visit slate.com/prudie-plus to get access wherever you listen. This podcast is produced by Se'era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're revisiting one of our favorite episodes from October 2023 with Ashley C. Ford, author of the bestselling memoir Somebody's Daughter, and one of our guest Prudies, while our regular Prudie, Jenée Desmond-Harris, will be on parental leave. In this episode, Ashley C. Ford joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether conflicting ideas about children should end a relationship between two twenty-somethings, what to do when a friend is obsessed with her husband's band, and if it's acceptable to leave your partner behind and vacation without them if they're running late and miss the flight. Want more Dear Prudence? Subscribe to Slate Plus to immediately unlock weekly bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of our show page. Or, visit slate.com/prudie-plus to get access wherever you listen. This podcast is produced by Se'era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're revisiting one of our favorite episodes from October 2023 with Ashley C. Ford, author of the bestselling memoir Somebody's Daughter, and one of our guest Prudies, while our regular Prudie, Jenée Desmond-Harris, will be on parental leave. In this episode, Ashley C. Ford joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether conflicting ideas about children should end a relationship between two twenty-somethings, what to do when a friend is obsessed with her husband's band, and if it's acceptable to leave your partner behind and vacation without them if they're running late and miss the flight. Want more Dear Prudence? Subscribe to Slate Plus to immediately unlock weekly bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of our show page. Or, visit slate.com/prudie-plus to get access wherever you listen. This podcast is produced by Se'era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're revisiting one of our favorite episodes from October 2023 with Ashley C. Ford, author of the bestselling memoir Somebody's Daughter, and one of our guest Prudies, while our regular Prudie, Jenée Desmond-Harris, will be on parental leave. In this episode, Ashley C. Ford joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer letters from readers about whether conflicting ideas about children should end a relationship between two twenty-somethings, what to do when a friend is obsessed with her husband's band, and if it's acceptable to leave your partner behind and vacation without them if they're running late and miss the flight. Want more Dear Prudence? Subscribe to Slate Plus to immediately unlock weekly bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of our show page. Or, visit slate.com/prudie-plus to get access wherever you listen. This podcast is produced by Se'era Spragley Ricks, Daisy Rosario, and Jenée Desmond-Harris, with help from Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

February is Black History Month. We're dedicating it to Black voices who inspire excellence. In this four-part series, you're going to hear honest stories and guidance from four women who advocate for chasing your own version of excellence. The series kicks off with Jenee Desmond-Harris, the current Prudie and writer behind Slate's beloved Dear Prudence advice column. She joins Leah Smart to share her story and insights on the importance of self-discovery, navigating obstacles, and the significance of taking risks. From her initial doubts about her role to becoming a prominent advice columnist, Jenee's journey exemplifies the power of surrounding oneself with the right people and making choices aligned with personal fulfillment, defining your desires and pursuing your passions. Follow Leah Smart on LinkedIn Follow Jenee Desmond-Harris

In episode 66 of the Podcast for Social Research, recorded live at BISR Central, Daniel M. Lavery, erstwhile “Prudence” of Slate's popular advice column, dropped by to discuss his latest book—a collection of “greatest hits” from his tenure as “Prudie,” interspersed with reflections on the uses and affordances of the advice column, the role and persona of the advice-giver, and the varieties of human experience, from the sacred to the profane, that the advice column offers up to view. Danny sat down with BISR's Kali Handelman, Abby Kluchin, and Rebecca Ariel Porte for a truly wide-ranging discussion of the history, ethics, and gnarly practicalities of advice-giving—from Greek oracles to the micro-targeting of micro-identities in the internet age, from Aristotelian “practical wisdom” to the psychoanalytic scene of transference, from “agony aunties” to Miss Lonelyhearts. What is it we're actually asking for, or about, when we ask for advice? Stay tuned as the podcast wraps with the panel providing extemporaneous advice in real time to thorny questions from the audience!

Content warning: The Wheeler Centre wishes to advise this recording includes occasional coarse language.“I want to be responsible towards the person asking the question to the best of my ability, but the good news is I have no real power over them. And so, when we separate, I don't feel like, 'Oh man, I might have just ruined someone's life' or decided whether or not they're going to have a child. Ultimately the decision is very much theirs” – Daniel M Lavery. Every week, millions of people visit Slate to read ‘Dear Prudence,' an advice column offering indispensable life lessons with equal doses of humour and practicality. For five years, American writer Daniel M Lavery provided guidance as the titular Prudence, helping thousands of readers navigate tricky social situations and modern etiquette dilemmas. After developing a loyal readership with his books Texts From Jane Eyre, The Merry Spinster and Something That May Shock and Discredit You, Lavery's latest work recounts his time at ‘Dear Prudence', collecting some of the most illuminating and provocative questions and their answers during his tenure. In this episode recorded as part of the Wheeler Centre's World of Words, Lavery brings his much-loved, and often much-needed, advice down under for a conversation with writer and broadcaster Jess McGuire. He speaks about his era as ‘Prudie', revisiting and revising guidance over time, and some of the life lessons he has learnt in the process. He also doles out advice to members of the audience who were given the chance to ask about their own sticky questions. This event was supported by the Melbourne City Revitalisation Fund, a Victorian Government and City of Melbourne partnership.It was recorded on Tuesday 23 May at the Wheeler Centre as part of World of Words. Featured music is Golden Hour by Sarah, the Illstrumentalist.Support the Wheeler Centre: https://www.wheelercentre.com/support-us/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Danny Lavery (a former Prudie and host of Slate's Big Mood, Little Mood) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to recount his time as Prudie and answer questions from people dealing with unwanted crochet gifts, wedding dilemmas, and parents who think they are potential school shooters. If you want more Dear Prudence, you should join Slate Plus, Slate's membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members. Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It's just $15 for your first three months.  Podcast production by Se'era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Danny Lavery (a former Prudie and host of Slate's Big Mood, Little Mood) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to recount his time as Prudie and answer questions from people dealing with unwanted crochet gifts, wedding dilemmas, and parents who think they are potential school shooters. If you want more Dear Prudence, you should join Slate Plus, Slate's membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members. Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It's just $15 for your first three months.  Podcast production by Se'era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Danny M. Lavery (former Prudie and host of Slate's Big Mood, Little Mood) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to recount his time answering your questions and take on new ones from people dealing with unwanted gifts, wedding dilemmas, and a parent refusing to let their college-aged daughter get a gun. If you want more Dear Prudence, you should join Slate Plus, Slate's membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members. Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It's just $15 for your first three months.  Podcast production by Se'era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Danny M. Lavery (former Prudie and host of Slate's Big Mood, Little Mood) joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to recount his time answering your questions and take on new ones from people dealing with unwanted gifts, wedding dilemmas, and a parent refusing to let their college-aged daughter get a gun. If you want more Dear Prudence, you should join Slate Plus, Slate's membership program. Jenée answers an extra question every week, just for members. Go to Slate.com/prudieplus to sign up. It's just $15 for your first three months.  Podcast production by Se'era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dear Prudence is Slate's advice podcast, where Prudie responds to your questions about relationships at home, work, and beyond. Join “Prudie” Jenee Desmond Harris and a guest each week as they offer helpful answers to your problems. Need help? Ask Prudie.  Jenée Desmond-Harris is a Slate staff writer and editor. She writes the Dear Prudence advice column and previously worked at the New York Times, Vox.com and the Root. The series premieres on February 17. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dear Prudence is Slate's advice podcast, where Prudie responds to your questions about relationships at home, work, and beyond. Join “Prudie” Jenee Desmond Harris and a guest each week as they offer helpful answers to your problems. Need help? Ask Prudie.  Jenée Desmond-Harris is a Slate staff writer and editor. She writes the Dear Prudence advice column and previously worked at the New York Times, Vox.com and the Root. The series premieres on February 17. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back, fupas!! In this week's ep, the fatties battle it out over favorite cereals and milk substitutes. Then we pivot to a column from Dear Prudence that opens up conversation into changes in relationships over time, desirability politics, and friendship. This episode's advice column: "Prudie advises a man who lost all feelings for his wife after she gained 50 pounds." Find us on social media! Unsolicited on Twitter Unsolicited on Instagram Find Da'Shaun: Twitter/Insta: @DaShaunLH Find Mikey: Twitter: @marquisele Insta: @fatmarquisele Find Jordan: Twitter/Insta: @jordallenhall Find Caleb: Twitter/Insta: @dr_chairbreaker Find Bryan:  Twitter/Insta: @blackqueeriroh Transcript available soon!

In today's episode we will be talking to my good friend Prudie Woods, whose incredibly strong daughter Rosie went to school with my own daughter.As a part of her story Prudie will be sharing how everything changed 6 weeks after the birth of her daughter when they started to realise Rosie had Achondroplasia. This is a genetic condition affecting a protein in the body called the fibroblast growth factor receptor. In achondroplasia, this protein begins to function abnormally, slowing down the growth of bone in the cartilage of the growth plate.What followed was a big life lesson for their entire family on helping someone of short stature live in our world.In today's episode Pru shares:- The moment a nurse first told her she thought her daughter was disproportioned- What it has been like for their whole family as they help Rosie- How she has had to change how she helps Rosie as she becomes more independent and aware of how she fits into the world.Key Quotes“Be kind. That is all you have to do as human being. Be kind.“People are gonna be mean, disability or no disability.”‘If there's someone in your workplace who has a child with a condition. They may be being a duck on the water, but their little legs may be paddling really hard underneath.”If you want to support Prue and Rosie you can check out their children's book, ‘Rosie-May Blue: Mayhem at the pet show” via the website: https://www.rosiemayblue.comFor my other businesses you can find them through the websites:www.altitudefitnessarmidale.com.auwww.trialtitudeperformance.com.auOr you can follow them on Instagram:@Veravidyayoga@Altitudefitnessarmidale@trialtitudeperformance Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jesse vents about some super serious drama going on with his dad, who doesn't respect his career choices, Katie talks about a delightful Gawker article about a Dear Prudence fakester, some personals go down (from about 29:30 - 36:15), and Jesse runs down his interview with a gleefully unapologetic troll whose chaos-generating online forum seized control of the Texas abortion conversation. Show notes/Links: The Prudie fakester: https://www.gawker.com/media/dear-prudie-it-was-me-all-along (https://www.gawker.com/media/dear-prudie-it-was-me-all-along) Help! My Friend Thinks I Am Stealing Vaccines From African-American Grandmothers To Attend Sex Resorts: https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/03/dear-prudence-daughter-girlfriend-armed-robbery-murder.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/03/dear-prudence-daughter-girlfriend-armed-robbery-murder.html) Help! My Husband and I Can't Agree On What To Name the Baby We Might Get!: https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/11/having-sex-with-nephew-advice.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/11/having-sex-with-nephew-advice.html) My Daughter Is Pretending to Be Demonically Possessed… and I Can't Take It Anymore!: https://slate.com/podcasts/dear-prudence/2020/07/is-it-weird-to-love-giving-gifts-all-the-time-dear-prudence-podcast (https://slate.com/podcasts/dear-prudence/2020/07/is-it-weird-to-love-giving-gifts-all-the-time-dear-prudence-podcast) Previous BARPod coverage of Prudie: https://barpodcast.fireside.fm/71 (https://barpodcast.fireside.fm/71) The Goose Post: https://www.thechatner.com/p/i-am-the-horrible-goose-that-lives (https://www.thechatner.com/p/i-am-the-horrible-goose-that-lives) Fox News on the sex-masking study: https://www.foxnews.com/health/couples-face-masks-sex-study (https://www.foxnews.com/health/couples-face-masks-sex-study) Texas's insane new abortion law: https://legiscan.com/TX/text/SB8/id/2395961 (https://legiscan.com/TX/text/SB8/id/2395961) After our show went up, our tipster pointed out that he had already done a post about this -- we would have credited him had we known at the time!: https://tracingwoodgrains.medium.com/how-one-tight-knit-circle-of-internet-troublemakers-convinced-professional-journalists-they-were-ac05459aa4c5 (https://tracingwoodgrains.medium.com/how-one-tight-knit-circle-of-internet-troublemakers-convinced-professional-journalists-they-were-ac05459aa4c5) “Random strangers can sue any 'abettor' to an abortion anywhere in Texas and collect a minimum of $10,000, plus attorneys' fees”: https://slate.com/podcasts/dear-prudence/2020/07/is-it-weird-to-love-giving-gifts-all-the-time-dear-prudence-podcast (https://slate.com/podcasts/dear-prudence/2020/07/is-it-weird-to-love-giving-gifts-all-the-time-dear-prudence-podcast) "Reddit Bans Abortion Bounty Hunter Forum": https://www.vice.com/en/article/jg83bg/reddit-bans-abortion-bounty-hunter-forum (https://www.vice.com/en/article/jg83bg/reddit-bans-abortion-bounty-hunter-forum) And Insider: https://www.businessinsider.com/reddit-shuts-down-forum-for-texas-abortion-bounty-hunters-2021-9 (https://www.businessinsider.com/reddit-shuts-down-forum-for-texas-abortion-bounty-hunters-2021-9) Kendall Brown tweet: https://twitter.com/kendallybrown/status/1433588701385400327 (https://twitter.com/kendallybrown/status/1433588701385400327) Steve Silberman: https://twitter.com/stevesilberman/status/1434223870035169282 (https://twitter.com/stevesilberman/status/1434223870035169282) "Hey Gunslingers come join us on /TXBountyHunters, a new community dedicated to fighting, and profiting from, those who would break the law of our beautiful state": https://rdrama.net/post/12798/hey-gunslingers-come-join-us-on (https://rdrama.net/post/12798/hey-gunslingers-come-join-us-on) The subreddit was here -- quickly banned and we can't find an archived version: https://www.reddit.com/r/TXBountyHunters (https://www.reddit.com/r/TXBountyHunters) Celebration: https://rdrama.net/post/13597/vice-gets-bounty-hunted (https://rdrama.net/post/13597/vice-gets-bounty-hunted) "I think the key takeaway here is when these journos and abortion enthusiasts see a 'Christian' their brains malfunction and they lose what little ability they had to think rationally": https://taytay.life/post/13597/vice-gets-bounty-hunted/272219//?context=5#contex (https://taytay.life/post/13597/vice-gets-bounty-hunted/272219//?context=5#contex)

The Prudie fakester: https://www.gawker.com/media/dear-prudie-it-was-me-all-alongHelp! My Friend Thinks I Am Stealing Vaccines From African-American Grandmothers To Attend Sex Resorts: https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/03/dear-prudence-daughter-girlfriend-armed-robbery-murder.html Help! My Husband and I Can’t Agree On What To Name the Baby We Might Get!: https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/11/having-sex-with-nephew-advice.html My Daughter Is Pretending to Be Demonically Possessed… and I Can’t Take It Anymore!: https://slate.com/podcasts/dear-prudence/2020/07/is-it-weird-to-love-giving-gifts-all-the-time-dear-prudence-podcast Previous BARPod coverage of Prudie: https://barpodcast.fireside.fm/71The Goose Post: https://www.thechatner.com/p/i-am-the-horrible-goose-that-lives Fox News on the sex-masking study: https://www.foxnews.com/health/couples-face-masks-sex-study Texas's insane new abortion law: https://legiscan.com/TX/text/SB8/id/2395961After our show went up, our tipster pointed out that he had already done a post about this -- we would have credited him had we known at the time!: https://tracingwoodgrains.medium.com/how-one-tight-knit-circle-of-internet-troublemakers-convinced-professional-journalists-they-were-ac05459aa4c5 “Random strangers can sue any 'abettor' to an abortion anywhere in Texas and collect a minimum of $10,000, plus attorneys’ fees”: https://slate.com/podcasts/dear-prudence/2020/07/is-it-weird-to-love-giving-gifts-all-the-time-dear-prudence-podcast "Reddit Bans Abortion Bounty Hunter Forum": https://www.vice.com/en/article/jg83bg/reddit-bans-abortion-bounty-hunter-forum And Insider: https://www.businessinsider.com/reddit-shuts-down-forum-for-texas-abortion-bounty-hunters-2021-9 Kendall Brown tweet: https://twitter.com/kendallybrown/status/1433588701385400327 Steve Silberman: https://twitter.com/stevesilberman/status/1434223870035169282"Hey Gunslingers come join us on /TXBountyHunters, a new community dedicated to fighting, and profiting from, those who would break the law of our beautiful state": https://rdrama.net/post/12798/hey-gunslingers-come-join-us-onThe subreddit was here -- quickly banned and we can't find an archived version: https://www.reddit.com/r/TXBountyHunters  Celebration: https://rdrama.net/post/13597/vice-gets-bounty-hunted"I think the key takeaway here is when these journos and abortion enthusiasts see a 'Christian' their brains malfunction and they lose what little ability they had to think rationally": https://taytay.life/post/13597/vice-gets-bounty-hunted/272219//?context=5#contexMostly complete transcript, with some minor spelling/other issues cleaned up here and there:Jesse: Hey -- I'm a journalist who cohosts a podcast about internet b******t. We were tipped off to this whole Bounty Hunters thing. I'd love to send you a few questions about it -- particularly about what it's been like to watch this blow up in the way it has, and to see so many people taking it seriously. Any interest? -Jesse https://jessesingal.substack.com/aboutSCD: Text or call?Jesse: Your call. I can send you a URL to the thing we use to record the podcast -- that way we could talk by voice but keep you anonymous if you wanted.SCD: I’m at work and won’t be free until Sunday really, if you wanna shoot some questions here on drama I’ll answer, but tbh I don’t know if I have anything that interesting to add.Jesse: All right let's maybe chat Sunday. In the meantime, just send me anything you're cool sharing about why you did the original post and what it's been like watching it blow up. Thanks.SCD: [I did it] [f]or laughs, that’s literally it. I don’t believe in taking the internet seriously, never have. I grew up using 4chan, where nothing was off limits, nothing was sacred, and the only real rule was “the first to take it seriously loses.” I guess I never really grew out of that mindset. I’m older now, have a career, a fiancé, and a life, but I still like to view the internet as the Wild West it once was. A place where you could say anything, be anyone and act as retarded as you like. Many who saw the post probably assume I’m pro-life, I’m not. The truth is my online positions and my real life ones rarely line up. In real life I’m pro-choice, vote Democrat, vaccinated, and a loving partner. Online I’m often pro-life, avid Trump supporter, and a misogynist, because these are the positions most likely to cause drama in today’s zeitgeist.Jesse: What was your reaction to it blowing up?SCD: Surprise. I made the sub one day before work in about 12 minutes before work, posted the thread, and only had time to check it once or twice before it got banned six hours later. It really just speaks to the current state of the culture war that this thing was ever taken seriously by anyone. So many people on both sides are searching for that next 5-minute hate so hard that whether it’s even real or not is often an afterthought. I’ve lost a lot of respect for journalists, even 2 minutes of digging through my post history would have revealed that it was an obvious troll.Jesse: So your thought process is simply “This would be a funny thing to seed”? I feel like folks who are less online have trouble understanding that someone might say something online they don't agree with in real life, and that this leads to a lot of bad coverage of internet controversies. Any thoughts on this side of stuff? I feel like trolling is just generally misunderstood, sometimes willfully.SCD: I don’t really know man, I’m not some internet trolling mastermind, just another dude with a childish sense of humor and a Reddit account. If I had to guess it would probably be something to do with how the internet has evolved. Today’s internet is largely sterile, commercialized, and in my opinion boring. People don’t see the internet as a place where you can be anybody anymore, but instead as a direct extension of who you already are. Thanks to social media most people’s online presence is the same as their offline, whereas before almost everything was anonymous, and you were conditioned to take everything written online with a grain of salt, because you never really knew who you were talking to.Jesse: Do you think part of it is a reaction against piousness and censoriousness? Even as a grown adult there's some part of me that responds to being told I'm not allowed to say something by just wanting to scream it. It feels like the most intense and creative trolling centers on the most hot-button issues, and I feel like that could help explain why.SCD: Oh that's a huge part of it, there's actually a huge overlap between rdrama and r/stupidpol users ( a subreddit dedicated to critiquing identity politics and wokeness as a whole). Sanctimonious, moral busy bodies are a favorite trolling target, because they’re literally everywhere online these days and take themselves very seriously. This website itself is a product of our original subreddit getting censored.Jesse: Last question, I think: What about someone who says, “Look, it's fine to be trollish but people are gullible -- this did scare folks and spread misinformation”?SCD: The sub was up for six hours and had only 63 members before it was banned. The vast majority of people who were potentially misinformed from it stemmed from the journalists who decided to run a story on an obvious troll attempt. I mean yeah obviously I share some blame for making it in the first place, but I’m not gonna lose any sleep over it. This is a public episode. Get access to private episodes at www.blockedandreported.org/subscribe

The LoG are back for Season 1 Episode 2 of Poldark! It's Leisure time as Ross wants to reopen the family mine. Gossip is afoot with Ross and Elizabeth as well as Verity and a nefarious Sea Captain. And what's going on with Rud and Prudie? To support the LoG on Patreon visit: https://www.patreon.com/lordsofgrantham To buy LoG Merchandise visit: https://www.teepublic.com/user/lords-of-grantham-podcast

After Katie and Jesse discuss their July 4th plans, the hosts talk about Nikole Hannah-Jones winning her tenure battle, Barclays' cringeworthy contribution to Pride discourse, and the complicated tale of the publishing and unpublishing and re-publishing of "I Sexually Identify as an Attack Helicopter," aka "Helicopter Story." Make sure to check out our sponsor, Ground News, at https://ground.news/blockedandreported (https://ground.news/blockedandreported) Show notes/Links: Nikole Hannah-Jones stuff: https://www.dailytarheel.com/article/2021/06/university-nhj-tenure-decision (https://www.dailytarheel.com/article/2021/06/university-nhj-tenure-decision) https://www.dailytarheel.com/article/2021/06/nikole-hannah-jones-will-not-accept-position-without-tenure (https://www.dailytarheel.com/article/2021/06/nikole-hannah-jones-will-not-accept-position-without-tenure) https://www.npr.org/2021/06/30/1011880598/after-contentious-debate-unc-grants-tenure-to-nikole-hannah-jones (https://www.npr.org/2021/06/30/1011880598/after-contentious-debate-unc-grants-tenure-to-nikole-hannah-jones) https://www.naacpldf.org/press-release/nikole-hannah-jones-issues-statement-on-unc-board-of-trustees-vote/ (https://www.naacpldf.org/press-release/nikole-hannah-jones-issues-statement-on-unc-board-of-trustees-vote/) https://twitter.com/nhannahjones/status/1410326615876378626?s=20 (https://twitter.com/nhannahjones/status/1410326615876378626?s=20) Slate advice columns: -Racist white son wants to learn Spanish: https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/06/maximizing-sleep-with-infants-parenting-advice-from-care-and-feeding.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/06/maximizing-sleep-with-infants-parenting-advice-from-care-and-feeding.html) Straight woman in a Classic Millennial Sex Pickle: https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/01/straight-woman-dating-on-grindr.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/01/straight-woman-dating-on-grindr.html) Katie's response: https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2020/01/30/42716089/do-straight-women-belong-on-gay-datings-apps-no (https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2020/01/30/42716089/do-straight-women-belong-on-gay-datings-apps-no) Note back to Katie: “Hey! I'm the odious Slate letter writer you covered in this piece - https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2020/01/30/42716089/do-straight-women-belong-on-gay-datings-apps-no (https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2020/01/30/42716089/do-straight-women-belong-on-gay-datings-apps-no). Just wanted to say that your take was 100% accurate--I was being very shitty and very dumb. Should have accepted being straight and worked on my own gender-role-angst instead of trying to drag queer people into my bullshit a LOT earlier in my life, good lord. Anyway! Belated thanks for the wakeup call, and sorry I'm opting for the anonymous-reddit means of contacting you, like a coward - just going this route because I am, in fact, a coward.” More classic Slate advice columns: https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/09/child-sociopath-counseling-care-and-feeding.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/09/child-sociopath-counseling-care-and-feeding.html) “We live in a very multicultural and socioeconomically diverse area in South Florida. We are white, and both my husband and I are well-off professionals. Our 4½-year-old daughter has grown up socializing with all types of children and has a close friend who is black and one who is Brazilian. …” https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/06/colorblind-parenting-race-care-and-feeding.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/06/colorblind-parenting-race-care-and-feeding.html) My family is white, and we live in a predominately white neighborhood. However, our kids (twin boys) went to a local public charter elementary and middle school that was very diverse. When it was time for high school, our twins were lucky enough to have their closest friends from elementary and middle school attend the same school. Each of the boys had a diverse group of friends, and they were taken aback, as freshmen in high school, by the way other kids sat at tables in same-race clusters. The kids who'd gone to our (small) middle school, where tables were assigned by grade, continued to hang out at lunch together as a mixed group. https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/10/kid-police-obsession-care-and-feeding.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/10/kid-police-obsession-care-and-feeding.html) “My lovely, outgoing son is 5 years old. For the past year or so, he has been absolutely obsessed with police officers. He loves their uniforms, cars, and dogs. He tells everyone he wants to be a policeman when he grows up, and whenever he sees a police officer, he runs up to them and says hi. In our overwhelmingly white suburb, this is always well received; cops are usually idle and don't mind letting him touch their cars or look at their outfits…” https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/01/cop-brother-friends-harass-about-police-brutality-dear-prudence-advice.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/01/cop-brother-friends-harass-about-police-brutality-dear-prudence-advice.html) Q. My brother, a police officer, is getting blacklisted by my friends: My brother (he's older by two years) is a police officer. This was his childhood dream, and he's dedicated his entire life to making it happen. Prudie, he's wonderful. He leads his department's restorative justice seminars, he was fighting for anti-bias training three years ago before it was widespread, and he spends much of his free time at the local rec center mentoring at-risk youth. https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/06/kimono-cultural-appropriation-care-and-feeding.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/06/kimono-cultural-appropriation-care-and-feeding.html) “My husband's closest friend from childhood is Japanese American, and although he moved back to Japan after college, they are still very close. He's our daughters' godfather, and they think of him and his wife as another uncle and aunt (we're also called “Uncle” and “Auntie” by his kids). For our daughter's fifth birthday, they sent her a sweet gift of a box full of Japanese candies, a stuffed toy, and a kimono in her size. It's absolutely gorgeous, but I'm hesitant to let her wear it, as much as she's begged us to let her dress up and show it to her friends. I know how big of an issue cultural appropriation is, and I don't want to let her think that somebody else's culture is a costume. She has a lot of anti-racist children's books, and books about kids from other cultures celebrating holidays and traditions, and this could be a great way for us to talk about the problem of white people appropriating other cultures and using them as costumes—but also, our friends have been asking us if she liked her kimono, and I don't know what to tell them! I will confess: I don't want to be thought of as another insensitive white lady who lets her kids “dress up” as stereotypes of other cultures, and that may be part of what's holding me back from letting her wear it, so I think an outside perspective might help. What should I do—let her wear it, or talk to her about why she can't?” https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/05/masculinity-incel-crisis-care-and-feeding.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/05/masculinity-incel-crisis-care-and-feeding.html) My son is 14, and he's coping with identity issues that I could really use some advice about. Last night, he was complaining about English class. “All we talk about is stuff like, I dunno. How women are so great and can defend themselves and shit.” Alarm bells, right? I probed a little, and he started getting upset. He talked about the girls in his class being aggressive towards the boys, accusing them of … he wasn't sure what. Mumbled a few things about sexism, the patriarchy. “You know, this whole ‘kill all men' thing.'” And with that, he burst into tears. “I'm white—I'm male—and I'm probably straight!” he sobbed (at 14, he maintains that the jury is still out on that last one). “It's like, I can't say anything! And the girls, they can say anything they like!” Of course, we talked about those girls being out of line, but also about how real sexism is—that he can be proud of who he is and support feminism (and Black Lives Matter, and LGBTQ rights, etc.) at the same time. And ignore purposefully provocative stuff like #killallmen. Still, I'm concerned. My feeling is that he's pretty well inoculated against racist and homophobic propaganda. But clearly, he's struggling with his masculinity. I really worry that he might stumble across a few clever Jordan Peterson videos and end up falling down some nasty male-power incel rabbit hole … Do you have any advice as to how to deal with this? In particular, do you know of any good age-appropriate books or podcasts or shows or whatever that deal with these topics—especially the “crisis of masculinity”—in a sensitive way? A way that's in sync with feminist values?” When Savage love and Dear Prudie got the same question and gave opposite advice: https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/03/husband-sexting-cousin-dear-prudence-advice.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/03/husband-sexting-cousin-dear-prudence-advice.html) https://www.metrotimes.com/detroit/savage-love-devastation/Content?oid=26562553 (https://www.metrotimes.com/detroit/savage-love-devastation/Content?oid=26562553) Back when Prudie was good: https://slate.com/human-interest/2012/07/dear-prudie-is-drunken-sex-with-my-husband-a-form-of-abuse.html (https://slate.com/human-interest/2012/07/dear-prudie-is-drunken-sex-with-my-husband-a-form-of-abuse.html) Barclays: https://www.barclays.co.uk/diversity/?linkId=100000052339480 (https://www.barclays.co.uk/diversity/?linkId=100000052339480) -“Barclays agreed Thursday to pay the United States $2 billion for allegedly deceiving investors about the quality of mortgage deals that fueled the 2008 financial crisis.”: https://money.cnn.com/2018/03/29/investing/barclays-mortgage-settlement/index.html (https://money.cnn.com/2018/03/29/investing/barclays-mortgage-settlement/index.html) -A thread from the BARPod subreddit supporting Katie's Lesbian Extinction Theory (LET): https://np.reddit.com/r/BlockedAndReported/comments/ob7ckj/imalesbianandjustfoundoutyetanother_one (https://np.reddit.com/r/BlockedAndReported/comments/ob7ckj/im_a_lesbian_and_just_found_out_yet_another_one) Isabel Fall / “I Sexually Identify As An Attack Helicopter”: -The story itself: https://archive.is/oXDEt#selection-483.0-483.43 (https://archive.is/oXDEt#selection-483.0-483.43) -Jesse's rundown: https://jessesingal.substack.com/p/the-deeply-depressing-unpublishing (https://jessesingal.substack.com/p/the-deeply-depressing-unpublishing) -Vox: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/22543858/isabel-fall-attack-helicopter (https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/22543858/isabel-fall-attack-helicopter) -N.K. Jemison was glad that the harmful story she didn't read was taken down: https://twitter.com/jessesingal/status/1410589280033021956 (https://twitter.com/jessesingal/status/1410589280033021956) -Contrapoints: “Just because you were hurt by content I made doesn't mean that that content is bad, or that I'm victimizing you in some way.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjMPJVmXxV8&ab_channel=ContraPoints (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjMPJVmXxV8&ab_channel=ContraPoints)

After Katie and Jesse discuss their July 4th plans, the hosts talk about Nikole Hannah-Jones winning her tenure battle, Barclays' cringeworthy contribution to Pride discourse, and the complicated tale of the publishing and unpublishing and re-publishing of "I Sexually Identify as an Attack Helicopter," aka "Helicopter Story."Show notes/Links:Nikole Hannah-Jones stuff:https://www.dailytarheel.com/article/2021/06/university-nhj-tenure-decisionhttps://www.dailytarheel.com/article/2021/06/nikole-hannah-jones-will-not-accept-position-without-tenurehttps://www.npr.org/2021/06/30/1011880598/after-contentious-debate-unc-grants-tenure-to-nikole-hannah-joneshttps://www.naacpldf.org/press-release/nikole-hannah-jones-issues-statement-on-unc-board-of-trustees-vote/https://twitter.com/nhannahjones/status/1410326615876378626?s=20Slate advice columns:-Racist white son wants to learn Spanish: https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/06/maximizing-sleep-with-infants-parenting-advice-from-care-and-feeding.htmlStraight woman in a Classic Millennial Sex Pickle: https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/01/straight-woman-dating-on-grindr.htmlKatie's response: https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2020/01/30/42716089/do-straight-women-belong-on-gay-datings-apps-no Note back to Katie: “Hey! I'm the odious Slate letter writer you covered in this piece - https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2020/01/30/42716089/do-straight-women-belong-on-gay-datings-apps-no. Just wanted to say that your take was 100% accurate--I was being very shitty and very dumb. Should have accepted being straight and worked on my own gender-role-angst instead of trying to drag queer people into my b******t a LOT earlier in my life, good lord. Anyway! Belated thanks for the wakeup call, and sorry I'm opting for the anonymous-reddit means of contacting you, like a coward - just going this route because I am, in fact, a coward.”More classic Slate advice columns:https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/09/child-sociopath-counseling-care-and-feeding.html“We live in a very multicultural and socioeconomically diverse area in South Florida. We are white, and both my husband and I are well-off professionals. Our 4½-year-old daughter has grown up socializing with all types of children and has a close friend who is black and one who is Brazilian. …”https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/06/colorblind-parenting-race-care-and-feeding.htmlMy family is white, and we live in a predominately white neighborhood. However, our kids (twin boys) went to a local public charter elementary and middle school that was very diverse. When it was time for high school, our twins were lucky enough to have their closest friends from elementary and middle school attend the same school. Each of the boys had a diverse group of friends, and they were taken aback, as freshmen in high school, by the way other kids sat at tables in same-race clusters. The kids who’d gone to our (small) middle school, where tables were assigned by grade, continued to hang out at lunch together as a mixed group.https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/10/kid-police-obsession-care-and-feeding.html“My lovely, outgoing son is 5 years old. For the past year or so, he has been absolutely obsessed with police officers. He loves their uniforms, cars, and dogs. He tells everyone he wants to be a policeman when he grows up, and whenever he sees a police officer, he runs up to them and says hi. In our overwhelmingly white suburb, this is always well received; cops are usually idle and don’t mind letting him touch their cars or look at their outfits…”https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/01/cop-brother-friends-harass-about-police-brutality-dear-prudence-advice.htmlQ. My brother, a police officer, is getting blacklisted by my friends: My brother (he’s older by two years) is a police officer. This was his childhood dream, and he’s dedicated his entire life to making it happen. Prudie, he’s wonderful. He leads his department’s restorative justice seminars, he was fighting for anti-bias training three years ago before it was widespread, and he spends much of his free time at the local rec center mentoring at-risk youth.https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/06/kimono-cultural-appropriation-care-and-feeding.html“My husband’s closest friend from childhood is Japanese American, and although he moved back to Japan after college, they are still very close. He’s our daughters’ godfather, and they think of him and his wife as another uncle and aunt (we’re also called “Uncle” and “Auntie” by his kids). For our daughter’s fifth birthday, they sent her a sweet gift of a box full of Japanese candies, a stuffed toy, and a kimono in her size. It’s absolutely gorgeous, but I’m hesitant to let her wear it, as much as she’s begged us to let her dress up and show it to her friends. I know how big of an issue cultural appropriation is, and I don’t want to let her think that somebody else’s culture is a costume. She has a lot of anti-racist children’s books, and books about kids from other cultures celebrating holidays and traditions, and this could be a great way for us to talk about the problem of white people appropriating other cultures and using them as costumes—but also, our friends have been asking us if she liked her kimono, and I don’t know what to tell them! I will confess: I don’t want to be thought of as another insensitive white lady who lets her kids “dress up” as stereotypes of other cultures, and that may be part of what’s holding me back from letting her wear it, so I think an outside perspective might help. What should I do—let her wear it, or talk to her about why she can’t?”https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/05/masculinity-incel-crisis-care-and-feeding.htmlMy son is 14, and he’s coping with identity issues that I could really use some advice about. Last night, he was complaining about English class. “All we talk about is stuff like, I dunno. How women are so great and can defend themselves and s**t.” Alarm bells, right? I probed a little, and he started getting upset. He talked about the girls in his class being aggressive towards the boys, accusing them of … he wasn’t sure what. Mumbled a few things about sexism, the patriarchy. “You know, this whole ‘kill all men’ thing.’” And with that, he burst into tears. “I’m white—I’m male—and I’m probably straight!” he sobbed (at 14, he maintains that the jury is still out on that last one). “It’s like, I can’t say anything! And the girls, they can say anything they like!” Of course, we talked about those girls being out of line, but also about how real sexism is—that he can be proud of who he is and support feminism (and Black Lives Matter, and LGBTQ rights, etc.) at the same time. And ignore purposefully provocative stuff like #killallmen.Still, I’m concerned. My feeling is that he’s pretty well inoculated against racist and homophobic propaganda. But clearly, he’s struggling with his masculinity. I really worry that he might stumble across a few clever Jordan Peterson videos and end up falling down some nasty male-power incel rabbit hole … Do you have any advice as to how to deal with this? In particular, do you know of any good age-appropriate books or podcasts or shows or whatever that deal with these topics—especially the “crisis of masculinity”—in a sensitive way? A way that’s in sync with feminist values?”When Savage love and Dear Prudie got the same question and gave opposite advice:https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/03/husband-sexting-cousin-dear-prudence-advice.htmlhttps://www.metrotimes.com/detroit/savage-love-devastation/Content?oid=26562553Back when Prudie was good:https://slate.com/human-interest/2012/07/dear-prudie-is-drunken-sex-with-my-husband-a-form-of-abuse.htmlBarclays:https://www.barclays.co.uk/diversity/?linkId=100000052339480-“Barclays agreed Thursday to pay the United States $2 billion for allegedly deceiving investors about the quality of mortgage deals that fueled the 2008 financial crisis.”: https://money.cnn.com/2018/03/29/investing/barclays-mortgage-settlement/index.html -A thread from the BARPod subreddit supporting Katie's Lesbian Extinction Theory (LET): https://np.reddit.com/r/BlockedAndReported/comments/ob7ckj/im_a_lesbian_and_just_found_out_yet_another_one Isabel Fall / “I Sexually Identify As An Attack Helicopter”:-The story itself: https://archive.is/oXDEt#selection-483.0-483.43 -Jesse's rundown: https://jessesingal.substack.com/p/the-deeply-depressing-unpublishing -Vox: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/22543858/isabel-fall-attack-helicopter-N.K. Jemison was glad that the harmful story she didn't read was taken down: https://twitter.com/jessesingal/status/1410589280033021956 -Contrapoints: “Just because you were hurt by content I made doesn't mean that that content is bad, or that I’m victimizing you in some way.”https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjMPJVmXxV8&ab_channel=ContraPoints This is a public episode. Get access to private episodes at www.blockedandreported.org/subscribe

Prudence is joined this week by Maddy Court, a writer and zinemaker. Her first book, The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend is My Girlfriend, an almanac of relationship advice for queer women with art and comics by Kelsey Wroten, is forthcoming from Chronicle Books. Prudie and Court tackle letters about how to protect your daughter from sexual harassment in her first restaurant job, should you tell your mom to stop talking about how much she regrets her past, what actions to take when you find out that your ex-husband cheated with your now deceased mother, what to do when you and your husband don’t agree on how to handle an your increasingly aggressive dog.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Maddy Court, a writer and zinemaker. Her first book, The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend is My Girlfriend, an almanac of relationship advice for queer women with art and comics by Kelsey Wroten, is forthcoming from Chronicle Books. Prudie and Court tackle letters about how to protect your daughter from sexual harassment in her first restaurant job, should you tell your mom to stop talking about how much she regrets her past, what actions to take when you find out that your ex-husband cheated with your now deceased mother, what to do when you and your husband don’t agree on how to handle an your increasingly aggressive dog.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Anna Sale, the creator and host of Death, Sex & Money, the podcast from WNYC Studios. Her new book, Let’s Talk About Hard Things, will be published on May 4th. Prudie and Sale dig into letters about whether you should join a lawsuit against an academic advisor who was both harmful and helpful, what to consider when your wife donates money to strangers on Instagram, how to handle a sister that needs to share every little detail about her life with you. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Anna Sale, the creator and host of Death, Sex & Money, the podcast from WNYC Studios. Her new book, Let’s Talk About Hard Things, will be published on May 4th. Prudie and Sale dig into letters about whether you should join a lawsuit against an academic advisor who was both harmful and helpful, what to consider when your wife donates money to strangers on Instagram, how to handle a sister that needs to share every little detail about her life with you. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Harry Eskin, a moving-image archivist based in Los Angeles. Prudie and Eskin dig into letters about if you should apologize for past conversations where you claim a heritage that you truly don’t identify as, how to talk to your mother about the way she neglected your sibling when you were children, should you preemptively write an apology on Linkedin for a racist costume you wore for your employer 10 years ago. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Charlie Jane Anders, the author of Victories Greater Than Death, the first book in a new young-adult trilogy coming in April 2021, along with the forthcoming short story collection Even Greater Mistakes. She’s also the co-host of the podcast, Our Opinions Are Correct, along with Annalee Newitz. Prudie and Anders tackle letters about how to support your brother in his new relationship when you’re uncomfortable with their age gap, what actions to take when you’re living with family who neglect the needs of their toddler, what to consider when your teenager prefers the pronoun “it”. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Charlie Jane Anders, the author of Victories Greater Than Death, the first book in a new young-adult trilogy coming in April 2021, along with the forthcoming short story collection Even Greater Mistakes. She’s also the co-host of the podcast, Our Opinions Are Correct, along with Annalee Newitz. Prudie and Anders tackle letters about how to support your brother in his new relationship when you’re uncomfortable with their age gap, what actions to take when you’re living with family who neglect the needs of their toddler, what to consider when your teenager prefers the pronoun “it”. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Leigh Bardugo, the New York Times-bestselling author of Ninth House and the creator of the Grishaverse (coming soon to Netflix). Her short stories can be found in multiple anthologies, including Best American Science Fiction & Fantasy. Prudie and Bardugo dig into letters about how to support your non-binary child while avoiding their abusive father, how to handle your boss’s wife who’s always sharing hateful gossip with you, what to consider when you miss a relative that may not like you, what to consider when intellectual debates with your husband always turn into arguments. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Leigh Bardugo, the New York Times-bestselling author of Ninth House and the creator of the Grishaverse (coming soon to Netflix). Her short stories can be found in multiple anthologies, including Best American Science Fiction & Fantasy. Prudie and Bardugo dig into letters about how to support your non-binary child while avoiding their abusive father, how to handle your boss’s wife who’s always sharing hateful gossip with you, what to consider when you miss a relative that may not like you, what to consider when intellectual debates with your husband always turn into arguments. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Sarah Jaffe, the author of Work Won’t Love You Back: How Devotion to Our Jobs Keeps Us Exploited, Exhausted and Alone, and Necessary Trouble: Americans in Revolt, both from Bold Type Books. She’s also the co-host, with Michelle Chen, of Dissent magazine’s Belabored podcast. Prudie and Jaffe tackle letters about how to support your undocumented partner through their job search, what to consider when your partner stays in touch with her past abusive partners, what to do when your childhood fib about having hearing loss follows you into adulthood. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Sarah Jaffe, the author of Work Won’t Love You Back: How Devotion to Our Jobs Keeps Us Exploited, Exhausted and Alone, and Necessary Trouble: Americans in Revolt, both from Bold Type Books. She’s also the co-host, with Michelle Chen, of Dissent magazine’s Belabored podcast. Prudie and Jaffe tackle letters about how to support your undocumented partner through their job search, what to consider when your partner stays in touch with her past abusive partners, what to do when your childhood fib about having hearing loss follows you into adulthood. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Jaya Saxena, a staff writer at Eater. Her latest book, Crystal Clear, an essay collection about how humans assign meaning and power to objects, was published in December with Quirk Books.  Prudie and Saxena tackle letters about how to handle a sister who’s adamant that you change to a vegan diet, how to tell your husband that you will file for divorce if he gets a pet, what actions to take when your sister-in-law is neglecting her baby, how to handle a family that is prematurely planning your wedding just because you’re dating someone nice. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Uma Kondabolu, the mother of comedian and prior Prudie guest, Hari Kondabolu.  Prudie and Kondabolu tackle letters about how to hold boundaries with a daughter who keeps begging for money, how to handle parents who won’t eat at your home because you allow cats in the kitchen, what to do when you’re put off by your family’s love of owning firearms, what to consider when your husband’s will leaves everything to his elderly parents and not your own children, what to consider when your boyfriend gets his ex-wife pregnant at the same time time you’re carrying his baby, what actions to take when you discover that your wife is a functioning alcoholic. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Uma Kondabolu, the mother of comedian and prior Prudie guest, Hari Kondabolu.  Prudie and Kondabolu tackle letters about how to hold boundaries with a daughter who keeps begging for money, how to handle parents who won’t eat at your home because you allow cats in the kitchen, what to do when you’re put off by your family’s love of owning firearms, what to consider when your husband’s will leaves everything to his elderly parents and not your own children, what to consider when your boyfriend gets his ex-wife pregnant at the same time time you’re carrying his baby, what actions to take when you discover that your wife is a functioning alcoholic. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matt and Liz Bruenig stop by to talk KIDS. First, Matt walks us through what’s going on with the stimulus package, AEI’s insistence that mothers must never stop working, and why liberals are addicted to tax credits. Then we get mad at the damn crotchspawn with r/childfree, read some dear Prudie letters, and finally hold children accountable for long history of abusive behavior. Check out the Bruenigs podcast here: https://www.patreon.com/thebruenigs And People’s Policy Project here: https://www.peoplespolicyproject.org/ Shoutout to twitter's @demswatchdog for the $2000 check supercut. Our 500th episode is coming up and we’re putting together some best-of lists. Take a minute to vote for your favorite eps on this google poll. We’ll be collecting them into a top list and...I don’t know, doing something with them next week. Probably putting into a youtube radio stream. I’m just having fun here: https://forms.gle/4uouQHSY9vV3fo5JA

Prudence is joined this week by Alexis Coe, a historian and the New York Times bestselling author of You Never Forget Your First: A Biography of George Washington. She was a producer on Doris Kearns Goodwin's Washington series on the History Channel, and is also a producer on the film adaptation of her first book, Alice + Freda Forever: A Murder in Memphis.  Prudie and Coe dig into letters about what to consider when your developmentally delayed daughter now shows interest in sex, should you let your girlfriend’s child know that their mom is a survivor of sexual abuse, what to do when your 35 year old best friend is having an inappropriate friendship with a 17 year old, how to be a support to your partner when you feel you have no bandwidth to be supportive. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Chau Tu, a writer, podcast producer, and the editor of Slate Plus. Prudie and Tu tackle letters about what to do when when your husband wants the two of you to move abroad to care for his mother and you don’t want to go, what to consider when you suspect your sister doesn’t really need the wheelchair she uses, how to meet people after an extended period of social isolation, what to do when you’re estranged from your sister but want to maintain connections to her children. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Chau Tu, a writer, podcast producer, and the editor of Slate Plus. Prudie and Tu tackle letters about what to do when when your husband wants the two of you to move abroad to care for his mother and you don’t want to go, what to consider when you suspect your sister doesn’t really need the wheelchair she uses, how to meet people after an extended period of social isolation, what to do when you’re estranged from your sister but want to maintain connections to her children. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Annalee Newitz, a science journalist, science fiction writer, and contributor to the New York Times opinion section. They are the author of the book Four Lost Cities: A Secret History of the Urban Age, and the novels The Future of Another Timeline, and Autonomous, which won the Lambda Literary Award. Prudie and Newitz dig into letters about what to do when you suspect your daughter’s sudden interest in civil rights issues is only to show off for her new boyfriend, what actions to take when your partner doesn’t respect your safe-word during sex, how to handle feeling “not relevant” and “too old” at the age of 26, what to consider when you are only attracted to your partner on days they present masculine.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Annalee Newitz, a science journalist, science fiction writer, and contributor to the New York Times opinion section. They are the author of the book Four Lost Cities: A Secret History of the Urban Age, and the novels The Future of Another Timeline, and Autonomous, which won the Lambda Literary Award. Prudie and Newitz dig into letters about what to do when you suspect your daughter’s sudden interest in civil rights issues is only to show off for her new boyfriend, what actions to take when your partner doesn’t respect your safe-word during sex, how to handle feeling “not relevant” and “too old” at the age of 26, what to consider when you are only attracted to your partner on days they present masculine.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Noah Kulwin, the co-host of Blowback, a political history podcast. He's also an associate editor at The Drift and a contributing editor at Jewish Currents. Prudie and Kulwin dig into letters about what actions to take with a niece who has been stealing from family and neighbors for years, how to handle a stubborn dad who prioritizes his side hustles over seeing his grandkids, what to do when your husband refuses to stop wearing sacred underclothes despite having left the Mormon church years ago, should you continue to see a guy that your family disapproves of.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Noah Kulwin, the co-host of Blowback, a political history podcast. He's also an associate editor at The Drift and a contributing editor at Jewish Currents. Prudie and Kulwin dig into letters about what actions to take with a niece who has been stealing from family and neighbors for years, how to handle a stubborn dad who prioritizes his side hustles over seeing his grandkids, what to do when your husband refuses to stop wearing sacred underclothes despite having left the Mormon church years ago, should you continue to see a guy that your family disapproves of.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Colby Gordon, an English professor at Bryn Mawr College, where he teaches weird gay poems. Prudie and Gordon tackle letters about what to do when you fear that transitioning would hurt your career, what to consider when your partner leaves you feeling vulnerable about your finances, how to talk to a close friend about her transphobic comments, how to handle regret over not supporting your trans and non-binary friends prior to you coming out as trans, what to consider when you stumble upon your friend’s fanfic Tumblr page. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Colby Gordon, an English professor at Bryn Mawr College, where he teaches weird gay poems. Prudie and Gordon tackle letters about what to do when you fear that transitioning would hurt your career, what to consider when your partner leaves you feeling vulnerable about your finances, how to talk to a close friend about her transphobic comments, how to handle regret over not supporting your trans and non-binary friends prior to you coming out as trans, what to consider when you stumble upon your friend’s fanfic Tumblr page. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Bijan Stephen, a reporter at The Verge, a music critic at The Nation, and a video game columnist at The Believer. He plays T.K. on the actual play podcast Fun City, hosts a couple shows on Twitch, and his writing has appeared in The New Yorker, The New York Times, Esquire, and elsewhere. Prudie and Stephen dig into letters about How to come to terms with a long ago relationship you now realize was inappropriate, what to do when your always negative sister-in-law decides to move to your town, how to decide when or if you’ll tell your parents that you’re legally changing your name, what to consider when you feel like you’re competing for your boyfriend’s attention with his female bestie.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Bijan Stephen, a reporter at The Verge, a music critic at The Nation, and a video game columnist at The Believer. He plays T.K. on the actual play podcast Fun City, hosts a couple shows on Twitch, and his writing has appeared in The New Yorker, The New York Times, Esquire, and elsewhere. Prudie and Stephen dig into letters about How to come to terms with a long ago relationship you now realize was inappropriate, what to do when your always negative sister-in-law decides to move to your town, how to decide when or if you’ll tell your parents that you’re legally changing your name, what to consider when you feel like you’re competing for your boyfriend’s attention with his female bestie.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence takes a look at some of the many memorable letters of 2020 with Grace Lavery, Calvin Kasulke, Toni Golan-Vilella, Lizzy Marmon, Justine D’Souza, and Jack Doyle. Prudie and company tackle letters about how to decide if you should you let your best friend raise your troubled daughter, what to consider about rewarding weight loss by getting a breast lift, how to handle a husband who gets upset when you mention missing the food from a restaurant that conflicts with your politics, what to do with a mother who only became proud of your job in a grocery in light of the pandemic, and should you report a childhood friend who’s now lying about her upbringing to solicit donations. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence takes a look at some of the many memorable letters of 2020 with Grace Lavery, Calvin Kasulke, Toni Golan-Vilella, Lizzy Marmon, Justine D’Souza, and Jack Doyle. Prudie and company tackle letters about how to decide if you should you let your best friend raise your troubled daughter, what to consider about rewarding weight loss by getting a breast lift, how to handle a husband who gets upset when you mention missing the food from a restaurant that conflicts with your politics, what to do with a mother who only became proud of your job in a grocery in light of the pandemic, and should you report a childhood friend who’s now lying about her upbringing to solicit donations. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Harron Walker, an award-winning freelance journalist who lives in Brooklyn. Her work has appeared in GQ, Esquire, and Out, and she is a longtime Jezebel contributor. Prudie and Walker tackle letters about how to handle a mother-in-law who wants to refer to you as an “aunt” rather than admitting your baby has two moms, what to consider when you suspect your partner is transitioning and is reluctant to talk about it, should you let your parents know before you legally change your name.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices